Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1057 - Bambi’s a Swinger who had a Threesome w/her Husband and the Guys she's Cheating on him With?!

Episode Date: March 10, 2025

Bambi is a swinger who had a threesome with her husband and the guy she is cheating on him with and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including when she started having threesomes with both men and women early on and what went down, when she met her husband and what prompted them to open up their marriage, their first full swap and what went down and how they both felt about it, how and why it was hard finding couples and how that led them to having threesomes, their first few threesomes with men and women and what went down during them, how and why they preferred going to swinger parties over swinger clubs, how and when she met the guy she’s cheating on her husband with, how the affair started and what went down the first time they hooked up, how she felt about cheating on her husband afterwards, how and why they continued to meet up and where they’d secretly have sex, how cheating on her husband effected their intimate life, the sex with her husband vs. the sex she has with her side guy, how and why she eventually set up a threesome with her husband and her side guy and how she got away with it, exactly what went down during the threesome and how her side guy felt afterwards, why she didn’t continue to allow her husband to hook up with them after that first time, the times she has felt guilty about what she’s doing and what she does about it, how she found out her side guy had lied when she first met him and how and why that upset her, his marriage and how he might be cheating too, how and why she’s ready to stop cheating but can’t plus a whole lot more. **To see hot pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://butterwellness.com/ For 20% off your Butter Wellness perineum massager use code STRICTLY https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://beducate.me/march2025 Use code anonymous to get an additional 10% off the campaign’s current discount - that’s 60% off Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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and you could check out that location as well because they are all over the world. It says cc.com. Use my code 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link and you're going to get a free trial to check it out. Okay. Holy shit. Wait until you hear Bambi's story. Bambi, okay, was like as a husband, she's been married to him for a very long time. Eventually in their marriage, they started swinging, having threesomes with men, women, you know, going a sex party. doing all that kind of fun stuff.

And somehow, some way, and you're going to hear the details of it, she wound up starting to see another guy on the side without him. The details of that is super fascinating. She continued to see that guy. And to this day, it's been five years since she's been seeing this side guy. I always say, like, how the fuck do, like, why the fuck do people cheat who have a free pass to fuck other people? I mean, her husband watches her fuck other guys all the time, yet she's doing this.

And that isn't even the worst part of this story. the most craziest part of the story is at some point her and this guy her side guy decide to invite her husband in for a threesome because at this time like her and her husband are still swinging and seeing other guys but he doesn't know that she's got this side guy so she had to pretend she didn't know him and they all had a threesome and what went down is like fucking crazy like you won't believe a lot of first for her husband for her and he never knew her husband to this day doesn't know she still got her side guy it's a very layered story. She's extremely honest about everything on this call. And I really appreciate that

because you might fucking hate her when you hear her story. Her story, but listen up because I, you know, like I say on this episode, I have cheating stories because I think people could really learn from them. She's very honest about everything that's going on. And it's super interesting. So I'm going to be right back on with Bambi. Hi, Bambi. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm great. Thanks for having me. Well, you kind of should be great because you got two dicks in your life, right? But I think one guy knows about the other guy. And this is like, your story is so salacious to me because I talk about the fact like why do people who could fuck other people still fuck other people behind their partner's backs, right?

Like you and your husband are swingers or you're a swinger, I don't know. Like you seem to have an open marriage for sure. But you do have a side guy. And at some point, I'm going to just tell those short story really fast. then we're going to get all the details. At some point, you literally, like, tricked your husband into, like, having a threesome with him, like brought him over your side guy who you're cheating on your husband with, pretend to know him, got them to suck each other's dicks, fuck them both,

and you're still seeing that guy behind your husband's back to this day. What a fucking cheater story. I think your cheater story tops every cheater story out there. Oh, my God. I don't know if I should be proud. of that or not. I don't know. You're going to get a lot of hate. I'm sure. Oh my God. Because listen, you know, and I'm going to get your whole story about like what I would say like right off the bat, like it like and what I just said in the intro is like what always really surprises me.

Like why would anybody that has basically a free pass? Like your husband allows you to fuck other guys obviously in front of him. Why would you be doing something behind that person's back when you're allowed to fuck other people? Like it's not like you're locked down in a monogamous relationship. In that situation, it's not right either, but it's even more wrong to me. It just doesn't make sense, you know what I mean? But let's get the whole story from you. How long you've been married to your guy? About 17 years. 17 years. Okay. And how long have you guys had an open marriage? Probably about eight years now. Okay. So let's get that story. So you meet your husband seven years ago. Before him, were you like ever freaky or did anything open with anyone else or were you strictly vanilla?

No, I think I've always kind of had this wild side. Okay, did you, like, I probably, the question should be, did you always cheat on boyfriends before you met your husband? No, but I definitely, I'm well-versed in threesomes before I was married. Okay. And were they all kinds of threesomes with men and women or just with guys? Like, you like to have a lot of guys. Oh, okay.

So when did you start having threesome? Like, when did you realize you were, like, open to that kind of stuff? I think I was, like, 18. Oh, okay. And who, what did you do? first, a threesome with a girl or a three-sum with a girl and a guy? It was a threesome with another girl and a guy, yeah. Okay. And how was that for you? It was okay. It was kind of awkward. It was my first time. So it was definitely a learning experience. And then after that, I don't think I had

one for a while. Okay. But did you like being with a girl? I mean, that was your first experience with a female, right? Yeah, for sure don't mind being with a female. Okay, cool. And was that guy your boyfriend or was it just like two people that you knew? No, he was a boyfriend. Okay, so that, so you're, you're kind of used to having threesomes with the guy that you're dating. Okay, so did you start to have three sons with guys with that same guy? No, no, we didn't last much longer after that. Okay. Okay, but you did though date other people like, when did you have your first threesome with a guy? That wasn't actually until my husband. Oh, okay. So let's get to your husband. You meet him. Now, how's your sex from the beginning?

Do you let him know that you've had three sons before, that you've hooked up with chicks and two guys? Yeah, yeah. We're super open with what our past has been. What was his past? His past was pretty similar to mine. He definitely was more not a relationship guy, more play in the field. Oh, okay. Then I was, and I was, like, always pretty well in relationships.

Mm-hmm. So. Did he, did you propose non-monogamous? me to him or even though he was like a non-monogamous kind of not relationship guy, did he lock you down and you had like a monogamous relationship from the get-go? We had a monogamous relationship in the beginning and then I would say probably about five or six years in like we met some friends who were swingers and we were curious. Yeah.

Okay. Let's go to that point. So you meet friends, you and your husband together and they like copped to the fact that they were swingers? Yeah. Okay. And you were both like, oh, like, you know what I mean? Like, what happened then with those couples?

Well, we just kind of talked about it. They let us know about there's like a website that you can join. And you can put your profile out there and you'll like be locals. There's a lot of clubs that you can join to meet people. And we kind of, we dove in slowly, I want to say. Like, we didn't just put notches on our belts. We kind of got the feel for things, like met new people. And then decided maybe what we would like to try first.

And what was that? And that was just like a full swap with another couple. Okay, cool. So now had you gone to any swinger clubs or parties or anything like that? Or was it just like- We've been to parties, but clubs weren't really our thing. Yeah, we've never really tried a club. It's not my scene.

There's too much going on. Yeah, no, everyone's different. I think it's interesting. Yeah, I prefer like a house party where it's more intimate setting, not as many people. You typically know the people before you go. So it's more comfortable. Yeah, I've heard that. I've heard and you know, everyone feels different. You know, that's why I talk to, I talked to so many people with the same kind of story and you hear different details. All right. So the first swapped, what kind of rules did you have, did you guys have going in? So our rules were condoms and we typically spoke to a couple for a while before this happened so that everyone could kind of lay it out on the table like, what's your likes, what's your dislikes. Right. We were same room. There was no like separate rooms. because my husband's thing is he prefers to watch me.

So he knew he had that kick. He knew he had that thing where he wanted to see it with another guy. Yeah, for sure. Okay. What about you? Did you know that you wanted to see your guy with another girl? Because I think that that's like a major thing to happen after you've been with someone for so long monogamous.

I mean, I didn't, I wasn't turned off by it. Okay. So I didn't go into it like, yeah, I'd like to see you. But I was like, okay, I like this. Yeah. And now were you jealous? all or freaked out by it, him or you? No.

Okay. So right from the get-go, you guys were down for it. Yeah. Do you remember that first swap? Was it good? It was good. It was really good. And then, like, we went home and had amazing sex afterwards.

Right, that reclaiming sex. Yeah. Yeah. And then that's how you get hooked, right? Right. For sure. Yeah. Now, were you the type of couple that stick with, like, the same couple because you were

comfortable with them, or did you start going out in a lot? immediately looking for more couples or did you continue with the first one? We didn't continue with the first couple. They had some extending circumstances and like bowed out of the lifestyle for a while. So we just kind of moved on and found new people that we wanted to hang out with. We didn't continue with the first couple. They had some extending circumstances and like bowed out of the lifestyle for a while. So we just kind of moved on and found new people that we wanted to hang out with.

Right. And now what would you guys look for? Like what was your type? What was your husband's type? And was it hard to find, you know, a couple that you both were interested in? It's super hard to find a couple. And then that leads me to where we, where our next step in the lifestyle went. Yeah. It's like I would be attracted to the male. And he's like, no, she's not my type. Like I want nothing to do with her or vice versa. Yeah. So that just kind of led us to threesome. And then that was much easier. Right. Right. It's interesting that you didn't start at threesomes considering you had threesomes before. Now, did you have threesomes with women or men first? I think it was a man first. Okay. And so you're- And that's like my go-to. That would probably be my favorite thing in the lifestyle. Right. An MMF. Now, I know that you told me that like with this guy that you're cheating on your husband with, like they stuck each other's dick. So like at some point does your husband cop to the fact that he's into guys or like he likes to dabble? so no that didn't happen until like that has only happened like that one time oh okay we'll get to that something new and he was just like i kind of want to try it yeah that's weird okay maybe he just like smelled your pussy on that guy's dick he's because it's been there so much perhaps i don't know it was always

like i kind of want to share a cock with you so like we do it together oh my god little did he know you were what you were sharing with him oh my god he was like trying to claim me back Okay, wait, we'll get to that point, which is so fucking scandalous. So you're swapping now. You have your first MMF or MFF, right? That's when the guys don't hook up. Now, do you wind up doing like, you know, how was that first hookup for you? It was great.

Yeah. I mean, I love all the attention in the bedroom and it's a lot of fun. Yeah. Yeah. Did you do all the stuff like spit roasting, DPs, DVP, any of that crazy stuff? So, no, that comes later. like I'm not into anal at all. Okay. So,

but DVP has always been like the biggest thing on my bucket list. Yeah. And that happened with my husband and my side piece. Oh, so on that threesome with him, not only did he have a first, you did too. Yeah. Oh my God. Okay. So

you're doing the threesome with the guys. Your husband likes to watch, but does he also participate when you guys were having those threesomes? I'm assuming because of a threesome. Yeah. Yeah. He tries to watch in the beginning and then it just kind of becomes a free for all after that. Right. And what kind of guys do you like?

Are you like a size queen? Do you like like a specific type? Like what is your type that you look? I don't think I have a size queen, but I definitely do look for something that's like comparable to my husband. Yeah. I don't want anything small. Yeah. I tend to go for girth over like length.

Uh-huh. Yeah. For sure. And now does your husband have any sort of preference when it comes to the women that he looks up with? Because I'm assuming you eventually do. threesones with women too yeah so he prefers someone typically like me like curvy got a little substance to her so yeah not too skinny he doesn't like skinny chicks no not too skinny and so

our first uh three some with another female was actually a surprise to him i brought her to a party and like introduced her as my friend and then yeah we fucked her later that night oh my god well so Where did you meet this girl behind his back? Or like you just were setting it up for him as a friend. I met her through a guy that we had had a threesome with before. Uh-huh. And I met her through that. And then we just kind of chit-chated and talked.

And I set up this plan to like give him a present. Yeah, he must have loved that now. Yeah, he for sure loved it. Right. Because you know his type. Like that girl was his type too, right? Yeah. Absolutely.

And now did you hook up with that? her as well? Yeah, I mean, I didn't go all the way with her, but I definitely went down on her. Oh, okay. Well, what's all the way if you're not going, if not's not going down? I mean, I wasn't like, what's like going all the way with a chick? We weren't like scissering, but, you know, I got her off. You went down on her. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So listen, you go down, you go downtown. I mean, like a lot of women will be like, oh, I'll hook up with a girl, but I won't do that. To me, that's all the way. You know, I didn't. Okay. Yeah, it doesn't bother me. Right. And, and, and, you know, and, you know, and, she went out on you too?

Yeah. Okay, cool. So you guys are having these threesomes now. When do you start going to parties and stuff? That probably came like three or so years in. And I will say most of the parties we went to, we didn't even hook up with people. Like, it was just, it's either like you go and you feel it or you just don't. Oh, interesting. It was still a good time.

Yeah. And there was like making out, but it wasn't like we were in a bedroom with people you're hooking up. That wasn't, that didn't happen. very frequently. That's kind of interesting. And that doesn't happen frequently for the both of you because when you guys go to these parties, is there still no solo play? No, we don't have any solo play at these parties.

Like different room. It's not like if he sees a girl. I mean, because I'm like, oh, how are you both not horny at these parties at the same time? You know what I mean? Like, isn't there ever more time we go to party? Sometimes it just depends on the guest list. Like, we get there and we're like, oh, maybe we're not as interested as we thought. Yeah.

So we always go in with no expectations. it happens, it happens. If not, we can go home and fuck each other. Right, but hasn't it happened going to these parties where your guy is like, oh, like that fucking girl's hot, but you're like, no, and then he's not allowed to, like, you know what I mean? Like, are you both okay with not hooking up? Like, hasn't there ever been a time where you both, like, one wasn't on the page, same page as the other? Like, what happens that? Oh, for sure. Yeah, it did happen. Like, he was, he found a woman at a party and I was like, yeah, that's a negative for me. Yeah. And then And so what happens? And like that's our rule. Like we have to walk away at that point.

Like, there is no like arguing about it because we didn't get into the lifestyle to like argue and break our marriage up out of this. Like it's supposed to enhance it. Yeah. Yeah. Well, people would be buying what you're selling right now if they didn't know the fact that like you are actually cheating on your husband. Yeah. I know. You're like saying that so emphatically even though you're breaking that very rule. I'm trying to make, I'm trying to make myself look really good right now. I give you credit for being honest because we're going to get to your fucking boyfriend. All right. So your rule has always been like no going into other rooms with each other. Like you both have to be doing it together.

Were there any other rules over time or was that basically it? Like were you allowed to kiss and everything? No, that was basically our only rule. Like, you know, I feel like we can look at each other and kind of know like someone's uncomfortable and maybe we should like pull back. So yeah. Yeah. And so you're having a good time.

You guys are going to sex parties together. You're like involved in the lifestyle, right? You consider yourself, you know, how many years in do you meet your side guy? I've probably known him now for five years, maybe four. Okay. So how did you meet him? So we actually, we met him as a couple through a swinger's page. And he had reached out as a couple and they were looking for like a full swap.

Okay. So we talked for several months and it just kind of like the buildup was there, but we never actually met up. Interesting. Was your guy into his girl? Yeah. Yeah. He was. And then at one point we were just like, all right, this guy, he's not going to show up.

Like, we're done. We need to move on. Right. Let me ask you this because, you know, I'm wondering how you got like you wind up with him without your husband. I mean, who's doing the communicating with these couples when you're like talking to them for all this time. beforehand. So we both have access to the website, but it's typically, if you're getting a response from the website, it's typically from my husband. But then after a certain point, then we move to a separate app where like it's almost like a text message app. Okay. And so at that point, like we're not in a

group conversation. Like the guy would be texting me or the female would be texting him or vice versa and like talk at that point and like we both trust each other. And like at that point, we were both looking at each other's messages. Okay. So it wasn't, there wasn't anything to hide. Right. Okay. So how does it go from you guys never meeting this couple as a couple to you meeting him

on the side? Okay. So fast forward a couple months, maybe it's like five or six months and this, my side piece reaches out to me in the separate app, just kind of saying like, hey, how are you? It's been a while, like, I'd really like to start talking again. And so I kind of asked him, like, what was going on? He says that they're not together anymore.

You know, he's, they're getting divorced and whatnot. And he's kind of living on his own. And he's still interested in meeting us. And then that kind of goes to like, hmm, let's pick a day. But it had to be on a certain date for my husband to meet as well. And he was like, what if you and I just meet for lunch? And I was always super interested. by this guy like he's he's a beautiful beautiful human um and when we would talk and like send

pictures back and forth and talk about like the things that we wanted in the bedroom we were just really on the same page okay so i broke and i met him for lunch that easy like him just throwing it out there one time well it was a couple weeks it was a couple weeks that we were yeah because i feel like that's so unrealistic that this woman who's never cheated really before all of a sudden. It's not like he reaches out and says, hey, and I drop my pants and I'm like, let's go. No, but that's what it sounds like. How do you wind up saying, oh, like, because listen, you're trying to set up a threesome. You have threesomes with guys with your guy. This is a guy you like. It was a, you know, a couple that your husband was going to be down for, but you guys are open to threesomes. Like, how do you like decide to,

why do you give up the threesome? Because your husband wasn't available when he was available. So we were kind of talking on the side and I kept it quiet because I wasn't sure if this guy was a flake again. Okay. And I wasn't going to pose it to my husband yet if there was like nothing that was going to come of it. Yeah, I get it. Right. So then I wound up having a day off and I was like, all right, fine, let's meet for lunch. Let's see.

I want to see if like this guy's real, what you're about, whatever. You don't tell your husband? No, I did not tell my husband. Do you feel like what doing that was wrong or was that like something that would have been no big deal? deal if you went back to him afterwards and said, hey. So not at first. I didn't feel like it was wrong because I'm like, there's nothing that's going to come of this.

You know, if I meet him and he's great, I'm just going to say like, hey, let's do with let's set something up. I've got this for you, you know? Yeah. Okay. So we met, we had lunch and walked me to my car. And there was like, there was some really strong chemistry between us. We made out by my car.

And I was just like, the kiss was unbelievable. Okay. And then that led to like, we parted ways. And then 10 minutes later, he messaged me and said, I canceled my meetings. Can we meet up? That same day? Yes. Oh, okay, because I'm like wanting to know, like, how guilty you feel, do you feel guilty?

Like, what's going on in your head? You don't have time to think because already. I don't have any time to think. So I'm like, I'm like, yeah, let's meet up. So we meet up and we had amazing sex. Okay. But like I said before, you're a woman who has never cheated before really, right? You're with this guy for a long time.

Your husband, you and your husband are having no issues or anything like that, right, at this point? So, no, we're not having, like, issues. My husband works a lot and he spends a lot of time out of town. So I am home alone quite a bit. Okay. So maybe, like, on some level, this kind of attention was something that was like something you were missing. For sure.

Okay. No, I mean, that's important to get that information because I always have cheating. stories on because I think that they help other people. So no, we're not having like issues. My husband works a lot and he spends a lot of time out of town. So I am home alone quite a bit. Okay. So maybe like on some level this kind of attention was something that was like something you were missing. For sure. Okay. No, I mean, that's important to get that information because I always have cheating stories on because I think that they help other people. Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah. I was a stay at home mom for a really long time. I didn't get out much.

My body has changed for sure. And like I will, my side piece, like the reassurance that he gives me and like the constant compliments are amazing. They're great. Who wouldn't want to hear all that? Right. And he's like really good looking is what you said. Like here's a really good looking guy out of the blue just like hitting you up.

So you wind up that same day while your husband's at work. You go to the hotel and do you do everything with him? Like you fuck him. Oh yeah. We did everything. How was it? A few times. How was it?

It was mind-blowing. I can't even describe, like, the sexual chemistry. It took my breath away. Right. Well, do you think, like, it being, like, super naughty and forbidden also added to that, right? Like, cheating sex, unfortunately, can be supercharged on top of it all. Yeah, it is. Right.

Because you're doing something very naughty. But what about, like, because, listen, I think women get post-nut clarity, too, right? Like, you're so fucking horny. You know, you're so into. And then you're. come and you're like, oh my God, like, I'm in a hotel room. I just cheated on my husband. I mean, what kind of thoughts do you have like after that first experience, if any? So like honestly, I didn't have that many like guilty thoughts after that. That's interesting. There was periods of

time throughout the course of these past four years that I have had like super guilty thoughts. And I've cut things off quite a few times with him because, you know, I'm like, I need to work on my marriage. We need to get back on track and things like that. So I mean, I am human. I definitely do have guilty thoughts of the things that I've done. But in that immediate instance, no, I did not. Wow. And so was your husband away at that time? Yes.

Okay. So it's not like you came home like reeking of sex and he just didn't know when you ran into the shower. No, no, no. Okay. So your husband's out of town on business. You know, he comes back into town. You don't feel guilty at all. No.

Okay. So what happens with the guy after that? We continue to talk. and like him and I would meet up. I think it's like once a week. He did have an apartment on his own. So it wasn't like hotels or anything like that. I could just go to him.

Yeah. So I would go to him before work. I dropped my kids at school and I'd rush over there and we hang out a little bit and then I'd go right to work. Wow. And it starts to be like even when your husband's home, you're doing this, correct? Because if that's once a week, I mean, it's not like your husband's away every week, is he? Is he like one of those consultants that's away like four days a week every week? He was away almost weekly.

So it wasn't like he was home. Okay. So you're doing this on the days that your husband's not home? Yeah, for sure. I'm not. Yeah. He was gone when this was happening. Okay.

That's in the beginning. I'm sure eventually you're fucking this guy when your husband's around, right? Yeah. All right. So in the beginning you're seeing him like, and so immediately after that the sex is so good, you're like going back to him once a week after you drop off your kids. Yeah, I mean, it was pretty, he felt the same way. He's like, you know, he would message me things like I've never felt this way with someone sexually.

Now, we have had these conversations. This is not like something where I would leave my husband for him. There's no feelings of wanting to be together for him and I. We've had conversations like sexually, we are on the same page. But day to day, the people that we are daily, we are just very polar opposite. Right. So there's no, like, I need to leave my husband and I want to be with you. There's none of that between us.

Right. Well, we're going to work up to the point where you guys have a threesome with your husband and then we're going to take it from there. But real quick now. So, like, you're starting to see him like once a week and stuff. Like, you know, you don't really feel guilty. Like, what's going on with you and your husband at that time? Like, are you thinking of that guy while you're begging your husband and the sex is so good?

Are you, like, on another planet? Does your husband notice anything? Or, like, is it just business as usual? I mean, I think, so it was business as usual at first. And then, like, the sex between my husband and I definitely started to taper off. He's gone a lot. We just, like, weren't very connected. Yeah, you're getting it from somewhere else.

So you don't need it as much. And I, yeah, for sure. And then when we are having sex, I'm definitely in the back of my mind, like, thinking about my side piece, for sure. You're having better sex with him than with your husband? Yes, absolutely. Right. So, like, the sex with my side piece is all about, he's, very open sexually and like he is very willing to push boundaries and try new things. And like with my

husband, he's not vanilla, but he's definitely not like I like rough sex. And my husband has a problem with that with me because, you know, we're married and I'm his wife and he feels some type of way. Yeah, of course. Yeah. I've heard that before. About being overly rough. Yeah. So like I am getting things that I have wanted from my side piece. Yeah. Listen. And I've heard that from couples who have open marriages that allow, like, where this isn't in a cheating way, right? But like a lot of times what the couples who do allow their partners to go play with other people, even the poly people that eventually even have feelings, you know, they talk about the fact that it's like really nice to be able to like get some of the needs met that you can never get from your partner from somebody else. Because most like, I mean, you're not going to meet that one person that does every single thing you want and like in the bed. room, right? I mean, it's just like your husband's

uninterrupt sex, but you really are, you know? Yeah. And, but like the fucked up thing here is that it's just like, you never went did you ever think in the beginning, okay, like when this started to happen, like to bring your husband into it and just make it not a cheating thing because you could have easily

in the beginning been like, wow, that was so fucking good, but I don't want to cheat on my husband. So let's set up a threesome with my husband and get this going so that we could keep hooking up. Like, did that thought ever, did you ever think of that as an option in the beginning? Yeah, for sure, it crossed my mind.

But I was, like, having way too much fun with him. And we were really exploring each other's boundaries. So it wasn't something. I didn't want to let my husband in and then him maybe catch on to, like, how much chemistry there is and then want to cut everything off. No, I get it. You're being very honest. It's a very human being, selfish response.

You know what I mean? Like, it sounds really selfish, right? But it's like, that's what someone might feel. feel in that situation. That's like real life. It's fucked up, but it's real life, right? That's a lot of times what is going on. Like, because you easily could have, I mean, you had a free pass from your husband. Like, you could have brought this guy in, but you didn't want that great sex to stop. And there was a chance that maybe it would. Right. Right. So that was your hesitation. So, okay, now, so you try all these other, like, kinky things with your guy. Do you

when your guy ever wind up doing anything with other people together or do you just stay with each other? No, we did. We had a threesome with another guy together before my, before my, the some with my husband. And who set that up? He did. Okay. And he asked you like, hey, would you be down? Yeah. I mean, he had sent me a picture of the guy and he said, like, he knew him from the Swinger lifestyle. And he said, I sent him a picture of you and, you know, he'd be interested. So what do you thing. And so he set it up and it was fun. Do you use condoms with these people considering you're cheating? Okay. Always. Right. Okay. Yeah. And I get tested frequently as well. Okay. Now during this time, you know, are you still continuing, I would assume, or else it would seem very suss to like have

threesomes and stuff with your husband as well? Yeah. Okay. And you're still looking for them and are Are those satisfying? You're still having fun with your husband? Yeah. I mean, yeah, we for sure are still having a good time and exploring options. We had at that point, I think that we had like a steady third. And by steady, I mean, it was maybe once a month that we were seeing this guy. Yeah.

So, yeah, we were still exploring our options together as swingers. Right. But eventually over time, the sex with your husband did take a hit, right? Is that what you're saying? Yes. Yes. And that's when you thought, oh, maybe you should stop? We were probably at some points, like at our lowest, probably only having sex like once every other week, maybe once a month.

Uh-huh. So it was definitely, it was definitely a point of contention for us. Yeah, I could imagine. Now, did your husband ever almost catch you, catch you, question you, are you cheating? Anything like that? Did he ever sniff anything different about you out? Because I feel like some people have, like, intuition. They might not know exactly what's going on, but they notice a change or a difference, you know?

Not to my knowledge. And if he did, he's never brought it up. And I would think that if he had any kind of inkling suspicion, he would have brought it up. Yeah, yeah, for sure. So never did he. Right? You never got caught and he never questioned you when you were not having that much sex, like, are you doing anything or anything like that? Yeah.

Okay. So how and when and why do you set up a threesome? Because that's so fucking naughty. are you, you know, because this guy's like banging this guy's wife, okay? Like totally like, you know, I'm sure he's like hot for the fact that he's like, you know, fucking another girl's wife. He might have that cheating kink thing going on, you know, but now he's like, who says, like, let's like fuck your husband too.

I'm pretty sure it was me. So, you know, our steady third had kind of dropped off and my husband was like, we kind of need to find someone. So I had talked to my side piece about like, would you be interested? if I set this up, we need to obviously act like we do not know each other. Right. And he's, I mean, I guess he's just as much of a fucked up person as I am. And he's like, yeah, I'm down.

Yeah, well, you said he's like, you guys are on the same page when it comes to all this kind of stuff, right? Yeah. You very much open, kinky. Okay. So do you go back to your guy and say, hey, but remember that guy from a long time ago? Because he might remember him, right, from a long time ago? Yes. Okay.

So I did. So we started, we kind of erased all of our chest. that we had and I started fresh like I had just reached out to him and kind of went on for like a day and a half of this and then I brought it to my husband and was like hey he reached out again and he's single at this point you know what about maybe setting something up and he was like okay yeah I'd be down like let's meet him for lunch and see where it goes okay so we met for lunch you know he walked in shook my hand shook my husband's hand kind of had like a typical first date conversation. Uh-huh. And my husband kind of gave me like the green light from across the table. So I post like where, you know, if you're interested, let's make this happen. Let's go somewhere.

And he said, I have an apartment, which I knew. So we went back to his apartment. That same day. That's how you guys would roll. That same day. Yes. Okay. We probably had lunch, maybe lunch and a drink.

We were probably there for like an hour and a half just chit-chatting. And my husband and him got along really well, talked a little bit about work and things like that nature. And then, yeah. Now let me ask you this because I know you were nervous just talking to me, right? And most people are. Like, were you nervous at all during that thing? Because you got to kind of be like an actress and pretend you don't know. Like were you like, you know, because there's a lot of lying going on in this situation.

I don't know. I was really nervous about the fact that I knew where the apartment was. You know, I wasn't trying to give anything away. I was trying to act like, oh, this is my first time. I'm not sure where the door, the entrance is.

You know what I mean? Yeah, there's a lot of tells. Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot that I could have done to fuck this up. Without realizing, you have to be so thinking 10 steps ahead of yourself this whole time and scary, I would think.

And even when we were like having sex, I'm like, don't be so into it. Like, you know, kind of hold back a little bit. Yeah. I didn't want, I didn't want him to see, like, because our chemistry in the bedroom is like undeniable. We have videotaped ourselves, like we've watched them back.

It is undeniable in the bedroom. Let me ask you this real quick, and then I want details of this threesome. You know, where do you hide all this stuff? Because you told me a long time ago you guys used to look at it. at each other's texts and stuff, but like, you know, you have a lot of stuff going on with this guy, right? You know, he's a consistent person in your wife. Like, where are these videos, all these texts?

Like, where's that shit going down? I mean, the videos of us and like all the pictures and stuff are in a hidden album. Okay. In my phone under, you know, you have to use my like facial recognition to even open it up. Uh-huh. The texts, I kind of keep them in like a side, you know, you can like take your iPhone want to put everything in a side folder. Yeah.

Yeah, that's where those are. And what is that folder called? I, it doesn't have a name. I think that, well, wait, it might be my lifestyle folder. Yeah, I just hide it in there. Okay, so you hide your stuff good? Yeah, I mean, I think so. Okay, let's get to the details of the threesome and then let's talk about the times you got

guilty and stuff we'll take from there. So let, okay, so now you're in this guy's apartment, right? That's where it's going down? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And so, you know, how does your boyfriend, or like, just tell me the whole, like, give me the details of that three. So I'm like, was it really super hot? It was really super hot. And there was like, you know, some firsts for me, some firsts for my husband. Like, we walked in. He made us a drink that, you know, we kind of chit-chat for a moment.

And then there was some hands going on me. And then clothes started to come off. And, you know, my husband, I was very shocked at how quickly he was willing to like go down on this guy with me. Right. You know, we had discussed that it was something he wanted to try and see, you know, how he felt about it. But it was just like, always in the back of his head. So that happened. And then after that, my side piece went down on him. And there was no stopping it like he let it happen.

Now, did your sidepiece talk about the fact that he was in? into that before with you? So I have known that my sidepiece was bisexual the entire time. Okay. So it's nothing that we had ever explored together. I wasn't sure how I felt about it. How was it seeing it? I loved it, actually.

So I thought it was a super turn on. And now you did, I think you said you did the DVP, which you had both their dicks inside your pussy at the same time. Yes. So that was like, it's been on my bucket list for years. So yeah, we tried that and I loved it. It's definitely something I would like to do again and again. Right.

Now, how long ago did that threesome happen with the two of you guys, the three of you? Maybe two years, just under two years ago. So why hasn't it happened again? So we moved. That's been a big thing. We've moved. We're not in that area anymore. But you still see him.

Yeah, I do still see him. So he's close enough for you to see him after work before you drop off the kids or whatever the fuck. No, not anymore. Not anymore. Now we are like a three hour distance. So how the fuck do you see him? Because he travels a lot for work. And he actually has something in my area within a half hour for me.

Your guy. The guy travels a lot for work like your husband. Yeah, he's here once a month for work. Oh, okay. And that's when you see him. Yes. So now I only see him once a month. Where? In a hotel? Yes. Okay. And what time do you go there? Is it a daytime thing? How do you sneak away? So I work part time for this hotel. Oh. Like super part time. Okay. So I just say I'm working. Right. In that hotel. Now don't they see you on camera going into this guy's room? Your co-workers? No. No. So like the hotel itself is huge. And where I'm at, the people in the front of house would not see me. Okay.

And you know that because you work there. Yeah. Oh my God. Okay. So you have that threesome. You don't ever set up another threesome again after that. Do you, is it still a little bit because you don't want this to end with the other guy and you

don't want your husband to be too involved? I mean, because you obviously didn't move away, far away, like the day after. You know what I mean? There was probably time for you to have another threesome, but you did it. Yeah.

The timing for all of us just never worked out. for it to happen again. Okay, but you tried. It wasn't like it was just put on the bat. Like my husband was like, no, no, no, I never want to see that guy again. He was like, oh, I'm super into it. You know, if he wants to meet up again, let's do it. But you do, but no, my question more is like, but did you guys want your husband in on your action more? I mean, I wouldn't have minded it. I think he started to have, like my side piece started to have some like guilt about it and felt terrible. So, and he was like, it was kind of like a really fucked up thing.

So we kind of just put it on the back burner. And, I mean, maybe he was making up excuses to not be able to see the both of us together. No, listen, I think it's a very, I think there's a real thing. Like, I think what he said is, is very possible and most likely the truth. You know, he's banging you all this time. He doesn't know your husband. He was a picture on a website at one time in his life, you know, never put a face or a name, you know, didn't hang out with him, you know, and then after this guy meets him at his

house, you know, there's like a brocode, you know, he probably liked your husband. They probably got along. Like they obviously did. They're all, you're all having a threesome, you know, and he probably did feel bad because he's like, knows what he's doing to that guy. Now, now this person is a real person to him, you know, where sometimes I think when people are cheating, it's not, you know, they could kind of frame it a certain way if they don't know the other person, never met the other person, you know, but now he has met him. I could see how that would be like a weird thing for him. Right.

For sure. Yeah. I get that. So you said that you did have times where you felt guilty. Like what happened during those times and how do you get through them and pass? So like when when my husband and I were going through really great times in our marriage, like I felt terrible. I felt like the world's worst human being. Like, you know, I know that he loves me so much and I truly don't think he would ever cheat on me.

So yeah, that guilt for sure said it. And I there was, I think maybe three times that I did cut it off with my side piece and just say like, I can't do this. Okay. You know, we're really working on us. And he understood. And he said, that's fine. I get it. I'm bowing out.

You know, I wish you the best of luck. And then this would happen and, you know, things would be amazing for a couple months. And then in the back of my head, I was always kind of still like, man, I kind of miss that, that like, that sex. I missed that in the bedroom. And so I would reach back out. You would. I mean, he would come back after you. Like, if you cut it off, he would respect your boundaries. He reached out a few times, and I would just be like, no, you know, not, I'm not interested right now. But then to kick things back up and going, it was probably me who would be like, yeah, like, let's, when are you free, when are you available. Right. So you just would continue to go back to him. And you, once you moved away, there was

no more, you know, setting up a threesome at all. Your guy to this day has not, you know, found out and you continue to see this guy. Yes. Since we have moved, I am still seeing him, and yeah. Now, during all of this time, because it's been five years, right? Mm-hmm. You're fucking him for five years, right? Yeah. Now, has he ever had any relationships that you know of? So he wound up getting back with his wife. And, But she, according to him, she is fully aware. But then when I see him and I'm like, does your wife know here? He says no.

So I'm not sure what all his wife knows. It's not really anything I delve into with him. I don't kind of like out of sight, out of mind. I don't want to know. Right. And right. But most likely she doesn't know. That's what you're thinking.

Most likely I would think that she does not know about me now. And did he continue? Like how long into your affair? because it is an affair. How long into your affair with him did he get back with his wife? He had that apartment for quite some time. And then it was through one of our like off spells where I was like, yeah, you know, I need to take a break. He had gotten back with her. So I think that they've been back together for about a year and a half now. Okay. Maybe no, no, it's been longer than that because it was before, because our threesome was maybe almost two years ago. So maybe they've been back together for a

year now. Okay, right. So it wasn't during that time where he had that apartment, right? Eventually he moved No, they were not together at that point. Right. So now he lives with her. Yes, and they have children. So, has he ever proposed a threesome with her like you proposed a threesome with your husband? No, she is 1,000. So she, she does know that he goes to like lifestyle clubs and things like of that nature. And I think that's more so like maybe to fulfill his by side. I don't, you know, it's not something I really talked to. him in depth about. So she knows about that aspect of his life and that he does some swinging on the side, but I don't, she has no clue about me.

No, there's no way. Because every time I ask him, and he's like, yeah, she has no clue that I'm here. No, I'm not talking about a clue. Your husband had no clue about him and still had a threesome. I'm like, did he ever propose doing the same naughty thing that you did to his fucking wife? So according to him, his wife is super vanilla. Oh, okay. And, like, she has zero interest.

but she was going to do a full swap with you at one time that wasn't actually his wife oh who was that that was someone that was someone he was swinging with so wait a second so at that that's probably why it never wound up because he was like full of shit like he had a wife at that time but he was yeah he had a wife at that time and then he had a girlfriend side that he was swinging with

and in the lifestyle with I have never met this girl in my life. So. Okay. So this doesn't make any sense as far as his life because you said like, oh, you know, he wasn't, he broke up from that person that you were going to hook up with. But like, he broke up with that girl and his wife at the same time because like, yes. Really? He lost both people at once. Yes. I think his wife had ultimately found out about the girl. Oh, he's, yeah, his wife doesn't know about you. So if he was cheating on his wife with that girl, he's cheating with her with you. Right. Okay. So he was cheating. That girl. that he was online with, you know, he was. Yeah, that was a total scam. Like that was not, he was saying,

he proposed her as his wife and yada, yada, yada, but that was not the truth at all. Right. So he and all of this did not come out for a really long time. And then once we started like seeing each other frequently, probably a year into everything, this is when all of that came out. And then I wound up cutting things off with him for obvious reasons. Like I felt like I couldn't trust a word that came out is now. Right. And so I did cut things off for quite some time after all of the whole truth came out. And then ultimately, like, the sex was just amazing and I craved something. Yeah. And I'm sorry, but, like, you would be a kind of a hypocrite if you judged him for cheating and being dishonest when you could understand someone doing that because that's what you're doing now. You know,

I think like a lot of people could like, you know, what is that? Like don't throw stones and glass houses kind of thing. You know, I mean, you're kind of been there done that now too. So eventually you could kind of be like, okay, you know, if you believe me, I should believe you because you're lying to your husband. He lied to his wife. You're kind of like similar in that, right? I mean, what's the difference?

Right. Right. Yeah, for sure. We definitely are the same people. I mean, you had a third, you literally faked a threesome with your husband with a stranger, you know, same sort of lie, you know. It's like very twisted. And okay, so, but when he told you, you got pissed. It's interesting. Yeah, I did. I think like in the beginning, there might have been, like, some feelings on my side for him. And, like, that was something that I did bring up to him. Yeah.

And he reciprocated feelings to an extent. And then that's why he felt the need to, like, come clean about everything and so that's how that whole conversation happened. So not only did I feel like I couldn't trust him, but it was more like I need to kind of take a step back and figure out what the fuck I'm doing. Right. Because here you were falling for a guy. Now you know he's a fucking liar. So you're like, okay, he's not so perfect that way. Right. So it's like complicated. It's a little bit more complicated. But maybe that helped you. But maybe that helps you lose together and figure out what the fuck you want in life. Yeah, but maybe that helps you realize like, you know, you're not going to leave what you got at home for this guy.

You know what I'm saying? Right. Right? Yeah. And I mean, I have no intentions of leaving my husband. So. But during the times when things are really good with your husband, you don't see that guy. Like, you know, do things like, is there a correlation between you seeing that guy and you and your husband not doing well? Or is it always like you and your husband don't do well first and then you start seeing the guy? Like, because, you know, that could be affecting your marriage, your relationship with your husband. Yeah, for sure. I think there is a definite correlation between, like, we're not doing well. So, hey, let me move on over here and get what I need.

What about when you're doing well and you miss the sex? You're doing well with your husband. You miss the sex. You just go back for a quickie. Like, and then does that start not doing so well with your husband because you stop like banging him because you're getting laid over there so good? I mean, I definitely think the sex in my marriage tapers off when we're doing well and I'm still seeing my side. for sure. Yeah. It's something I consciously try to work on because, you know, obviously I don't want my husband's needs to not be met either. And you don't want him to find out. But that definitely plays a part. I don't want him to find out. Right. That definitely plays a part, right? Like when you're not being intimate, like everyone just thinks sex is just sex, but in a committed relationship, sex is more than just sex. It's like, you know, it's that intimacy between each other, that connection, that coming back together is important. After you have sex with, after you have sex with,

your husband, like, or your partner for that matter, you do feel very connected and things like typically go in an upswing for your marriage and your relationship. Yeah, for sure. Right. So you, you do feel like sometimes when your things are great, you have fucked up your marriage because you're running back to this guy and fucking him. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. And I'm, you know, I'm still trying to process like why exactly I'm doing the shit that I'm doing, but like here I am still doing it. So listen, good sex. I mean, I feel like my, my, most worst boyfriends that I stayed with the longest was because it was like the best sex, right? And like the shortest boyfriends were the guys that I had the worst sex with. The good sex is,

you know, I don't know about anyone else, but at least for me. And I think for a lot of people, it could be highly addictive. It's really hard to walk away from something that gives you that kind of fucking charge, you know, but let me ask you this, okay? Like, let's get to like where you're at now. Like, you know, you're here, you're calling in, you're confessing. Is it still businesses as usual, do you, what do you see for your future with your guy and this guy, like in a perfect scenario? Do you ever feel like the need to, like, give him up totally and you wish you could? Do you just want to be able to see him like you're seeing him forever and just never get caught and everything's great? Like, what do you think? I mean, look, in a fairy tale world, of course,

I'd love to keep up this facade and do what I'm doing and keep my merits the way it is. But if I'm being 100% honest, I do need to give up what I'm doing on the side and I really need to focus on my marriage. You know, we do have kids. We've built a beautiful life together and I need to figure this out. Yeah, you just have to stop scrap. Listen, I've quit a lot of things. I quit smoking. I quit drinking. I quit a whole year. I was like, fuck that. I'm just because I was like banging so many guys. I'm like, I'm just going to stop fucking anyone. You know, like I quit a lot of things that I love. I quit meat once for 10 years. It's so stupid. I love steak. Okay. So I know how to quit things and it's hard, right? But it's like you just, when that itch comes and it will,

And you know, you gotta just not go there. If you stop feeding that sort of wiring that you created, like you were wired into this guy. Sorry, there was like this really good movie called the quantum something. It was a quantum physics movie. And it had this whole side story with the deaf woman. I forget what her name was.

But it was really great. It was all about quantum physics. And it showed how like things, wires are sort of made in your brain. And so like every time you get horny for this guy and you run back, that wiring is just empowered. And the only way to get rid of it, like just for the same thing for people that smoke, for that drink that are addicted to anything is like you have to stop doing that thing. You have to stop feeding it. And then eventually that dies and you don't have the urge. But it's hard, right? Because when your brain and that wire is asking for something is very powerful. You know, you've tried it, right? You run back because that it is hard not to scratch. You'd have to just like completely deny yourself. It's like you against you, you know, and you might need some help if you really want it. You know, do you feel? You know, do you feel? feel guilty at all anymore?

Like where are you at right now? Are you in one of the guilty times or are you in one of the times you don't care? I think since we've moved and like there should be a lot more separation between me, I'm starting feel super guilty. Like why am I still seeking this out? And I definitely feel super guilty. Yeah. I'm I am trying to work on my marriage,

you know, so we'll see. We'll see how this goes. Yeah. I mean, working your marriage takes 100%. Do you guys like see counseling or anything like that? No. You and your guy. Maybe you should or maybe you should. Well, we have in the past.

We've had some marriage counseling in the past. Right after kids, kids throw a big wrench into any kind of relationship. Yeah, it's hard. Yeah. But we should probably seek some more counseling. And I have discussed with my husband about, you know, the things that I crave in the bedroom. And, like, that's ultimately what I want. I want for him to open up more in the bedroom and, you know, see where things could go.

And when you tell him that, what does he say? that he'd be willing to try some things and see but you know I just I don't I feel like he'd set that to appease me and I don't want to go into it feeling like I'm making him try something like I want him to do it

just you know because like let's try it let's I don't want to feel like I'm making him try anything yeah but maybe you need to if you really want to stop what you're doing you might need to make it a need not a want and that's okay yeah you know because look the fact that he's not

giving you, you're like what you're doing. Like, it's an emergency situation. Like, if he knew that if he just gave you that shit, you wouldn't be fucking another guy. He'd probably be like tying you up and punching you in the face when he's fucking you. I mean, I wouldn't go that far. You know, I just have to exaggerate. I like to be funny. But like, you know.

Right, right. I get it. Yeah. I just think that you got to stop being so passive, aggressive about it. And tell them what you fucking want and tell them like, this is, this is what's, thing and this is what I fucking need. Not what I want. I don't want to push you.

Like this is what I need fucking now and be done with it. Because this is the last thing I'm going to say. Okay, like I worry for people when they feel guilty, okay? More so than for people that don't feel guilty. People who don't feel guilty when they're cheating rarely get caught. I really believe that the guilty people are the ones that always get caught. Because I think on some subconscious level, they create that bottom for them. Some part of them wants to stop.

And if they don't fucking, it's like the person that hates their job, right? You know that person that hates their job. All they're doing is walk around the office all day long. I fucking hate my job. But they never quit and go look for another job and walk out with their head up high. What always happens is that person winds up getting fucking fired and they leave with their head down like a fucking piece of garbage because they were just fired and can't. You know, and sometimes it's because it's like, watch what you wish for.

You know what I mean? If you keep thinking, I want this to be over. I want this to be over. like, you know, sometimes the universe will provide. And so, you know, to try to like, you do this yourself instead of letting like your subconscious control. You know what I mean? Like consciously make a decision, make some decisions here, get clear about what you want, get

clearer with your husband and try to tend to that because you don't want to get caught and lose what you got. Because if you did, probably that shit is, I mean, that's never going to be enough for you. Look at what you would lose. You know what I mean? Your real relationship with your husband. For sure. Yeah. So, you know, be where like, you know, that guilty thing, pay attention to it, do something about it. Like, you know, heed that part of yourself that feels like, you know, you're doing something wrong and you don't want to do it anymore. Like cater to that part of yourself because that is a part of who you are right now. And like I said, sometimes like that part might wind up sabotaging. And sabotage is like you getting fucking caught and that's not what you want because that will not only hurt you, but it will really hurt your poor husband. imagine he fucking found out

imagine especially because he had a fucking three someone had this guy's cock in his mouth oh my God I'd fucking kill you I know think about how mad you were with him just lying about a stupid girlfriend and he's like you know what I mean like imagine your husband found out

yep no you gotta like fix this shit ASAP okay I love your story though I hope you don't get called but if you do call back But if you don't and you do like kick it too, I'd love to hear that story, you know, six months from now as well. So keep me posted. Thank you so much for calling in and being very honest. Okay.

I think it's hard to be, you know, very honest about stuff like this because people will, going to give you some hate, you know. But I do believe that stories like this do help other people to get into the minds of people that are cheating. You know, tons of people cheat. Okay, sorry. And maybe someone listening to this that never cheated might wind of cheating. I mean, you never know what's going to have.

happen in your life. You probably never would have set out to do this, right? It just kind of happened. Right. Right. Yeah. So, you know, it could happen to anyone, you know, but you got to fix this shit because you are feeling bad about it. He lives so far away. Maybe it's time to really give your marriage more of a chance 100%. Even if it's like give yourself a year, I don't hook up with this guy for a whole fucking year. See what you could do. I don't know. But maybe you'll need a little, you need a little help. But thank you for calling it. If you want to send me some hot picks for my Patreon. You know, you could get some more guys to cheat on your guy with. A lot of people do.

You know, if you want to, I'm going to give you free access to my Patreon for a month so you could see the comments as well as free access to my Discord if you want to have fun on there. But like I'll send you that. And if you want to send me like anonymous picks of yourself, you can. But thank you so much, Bambi, for calling in. This was fascinating to talk to you. And good luck with everything. Thank you. Thanks, Bambi.

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