Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1064 - Nikole Went from Being a Pastor to Porn?!

Episode Date: March 18, 2025

Nikole Mitchell went from being a pastor to porn and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she got married so young, when and why she became a female pastor in her church, how and why, how and when she realized she was queer and how her husband reacted when she came out to him, how she then came out publicly and how everyone else reacted including her family and the public, when she left the church and how and why she started an Onlyfans, how she started very modest and eventually progressed to doing girl own girl explicit content, how doing her first nude photo shoot was very freeing and empowering, how and why she wound up becoming super successful on Onlyfans, how her husband was always very open minded but suddenly changed, how and when they eventually divorced,  when she realized she was non-monogamous, how and when she met her new husband and when they decided to be non-monogamous, how their open marriage works, the threesome they had with another female and exactly what went down, how her family disconnected from her when they found out about Onlyfans and how and why they recently connected again, how she hired a life coach and always used one and how she decided to become one herself, how she made seven figures and now helps others to do all the things she did plus a whole lot more. Website: NikoleMitchell.com Only Fans: https://onlyfans.com/nikolemitchell **To see hot pics of NIKOLE plus see pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://butterwellness.com/ For 20% off your Butter Wellness perineum massager use code STRICTLY https://beducate.me/march2025 Use code anonymous to get an additional 10% off the campaign’s current discount - that’s 60% off Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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person who wrote a nice review since I've been begging for them. You know who you are. They are the nicest. I read them. I love them. Keep doing it if you love my show. There's always going to be a troll or someone that is a hater that's going to drop a rude thing and then move on. But if you do really love my show, write something nice and tell me how you feel about my show because I love hearing from my listeners. Okay, today I have on Nicole Mitchell. She's got a really interesting, crazy story. I mean, this girl went from one thing to another, a lot of things to another. And there were all extreme things. Like she went from being, you know, a conservative religious girl and being and becoming a pastor to being queer, also being an only fan. She went from being monogamous and married with kids to being non-monogamous.

Like I said, and she came out as queer. And so much more. I mean, she's really somebody who changed her whole life at some point in so many different ways. And it wasn't easing. She talks about the whole journey. I mean, she had a lot of pushback, but she never really didn't listen to herself. She was someone that just, you know, went with what she thought was right and followed her own intuition and changed things up drastically. And it all paid off for her. I mean, she's in a new relationship. Now, she, you know, is making seven figures.

She went from being on food stamps to making seven figures with her only fans. She helps people do, you know, make transitions and stuff that like she did. She helps people do that too. She's got life coaching things. She's got her only fans. She is super interesting. She's always had help herself. She has a mentor. She talks about that, how she got through everything. Her whole journey is super interesting from, you know, becoming a pastor to getting on only fans. And even her journey on only fans is interesting because she started out very vanilla and very PG and then went R and went X rated over years and then hit it big. Okay. Her whole story, like I said, is super interesting. You're going to love her. She's the real deal. I feel like anyone that wants

advice or needs a mentor and wants to do any of the things that she has done. She's done a lot of things, even if you just want to do one of those things that she's done, you know, just get fucking divorce and get out of your marriage. She can really help you. I think she would be a great mentor for somebody because she's been there, done that. But anyway, I'm going to get right to and be right back on with Nicole. Hi, Nicole Mitchell. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I am so good. Thank you for having me. Thanks for coming on. Listen, Nicole. You live a life of extreme change in many different ways. You went from one thing to another, a lot of things to another, like a lot of extremes, which I love. I'm like, I don't know if I can remember all of these, but we're going to get like your whole life story on this episode. So we'll talk about it all. But like basically you went from being a pastor to being on only fans. You went from being married to being divorced, from being monogamous to non-monogas, from being straight to being queer. And also from being like, not making a lot of cash to making six figures. So we're going to get to all of it. It's like super

fascinating. I love how you have completely changed your life on so many different levels. And you still look super young to me. How old are you, Nicole? Oh, thank you. I'm 41. You're 41. So you went through a whole transformation already and now and you still have so much to live. Imagine other things that are going to happen to you. Exactly. But let's get to all of this stuff. Okay. Because like you say, you're a pastor. You were married. Like let's go all the way back. Like what came first? Being a pastor? Being a pastor or being married? Yes, I will be married. I was definitely raised in the church to believe that my highest calling in life was to marry a man, have his babies, and stay home full time. And I did all those things and tried so hard to be the good girl, the good wife, the good mother

I was raised to be, and eventually went on to become a pastor, which was actually quite scandalous in my community because women were not allowed to be pastors in the churches I grew up in. So the fact that I was at a church that allowed female pastors was a scandal and people were not happy about it. So you can imagine how my people responded when I decided to go to OnlyFans and not be a pastor anymore. Yeah, because even just like, and what you're trying to say is that like even just you going and being a pastor was scandalous.

Imagine then going and taking your clothes off as the pastor. Oh my God. Exactly. Yeah. It's like, oh, my God. Like you went for one crazy thing that most people would be like big deal, right? but it was a huge deal in that world. I know, you know, and religious, you know, I've had a lot of people who have been very religious

and then gone on to the other side, you know, you were living in that world. Let's just talk, though, real quick about you becoming a pastor. So you were in this, like, community, in this church community with your family, like, that's, they raised you in. But in that community, you were not allowed to be a pastor. So you, like, deflected from the family and went to another church. Is that how you became a pastor in that church? Yeah.

So I went, exactly. to more progressive, inclusive church. And that's where I rose up in leadership there. Yes. And what were you doing? Like, I mean, what does a pastor mean in that? What was the religion? It was non-denominational slash Baptist.

And it was a mega church. So there were multiple pastors. Yes. And I did everything. I loved my community. So I was in the nursery. I was speaking to youth group. I was teaching.

We had two services, the weekend service and then midweek service. So I was speaking at the midweek service every month. And then occasionally the big. big weekend service. So it's kind of every taught classes at our church was super involved, loved it, was totally bought in, and now I don't believe any of it. Yeah, but you know, it was a little tell of like what kind of person you were. You know what I mean? Like it's pretty bold to make that transition. And then, you know, the type of woman that's like, okay, I'm a mom. I'm married. I have all that. But I want to go speak and rule the world and do all these things. I mean, it really

showed that you had all this stuff in you to be your own person, right? And be your entrepreneur and everything, right? Because a lot of women don't take that path, but you did. Like, you had a big voice and you wanted to use it. And you started to in the church. Yep, exactly. And in fact, I'm actually, I'm being flown out and paid us to be the, paid to be the feature speaker at the shameless sexuality conference in Seattle this May. And it's my first speaking gig that is non-religious. And I am so excited because I used to speak all the time. I met churches and religious events. And since I've left that, gosh, eight years ago, I'm so excited to be back in the speaking

circuit in a non-religious manner. Yeah, you come full circle. But that's who you've always been, you know? But now that you're like fully realized and fully actualized, well, who better than to speak on it? You know, I think that that's amazing. So now, when you're a pastor, you're married, you have kids already at that point, right? Yes.

How did your husband feel about you doing all that stuff? Was he real old school or was he progressive? No, he was progressive, very supportive, very open-minded, very much saw like my leadership, my passion for speaking and really encouraged me to like pursue my passions to the full extent in the church. And then even when I left the church, he was always more progressive than me. And he left the church before I did. So when I finally did leave, he was like, thank God. He's like, he's about time. But it's crazy because I, he was liberal and I was becoming more liberal. I was raised very conservative.

And then we flip-flot. He's now hardcore right, conservative, religious, and I'm hardcore, left, liberal, and non-religious. And so that was an unexpected plot twist I did not see coming in our journey. Oh, wow. That's crazy. Now, did that happen before or after you guys separated? Because I'm assuming you separated at some point because you're now a queer, right?

Like you came out, right? So did that happen around that same time, all of that coming out? Yeah. So we ended up becoming one of those 20-20 couples that got divorced. during COVID. And the change started happening before then where I was becoming more progressive. He was becoming more conservative. And like we were clashing more and more. And me realizing I was non-monogamous, he's very much monogamous. There was just like a number of factors. He totally was supportive of only fans. And then he became totally against it. And so at some point we're like, we can try to make this work. And I, but I just don't think we'll be happy. And so yeah, we ended up

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No, and listen, when you get older and the longer you, you sort of been married, been there, done that, you realize looking back. Like, I mean, those are like morals, values, like those are the kind of things that really need to be there to stay compatible with someone, right? The most important things. but people don't think of that when they're getting, they're hooking up and getting married. You know what I mean? Yeah, when you're young, you know, like there's so many things I would do differently now that I know what I know. I was just raised to be so sheltered and ignorant and it had some pretty big costs to it that I'm still making up for today. And it's why I'm very intentional with my children.

Like, I want to be very aware of their options or choices and how to make sure they're setting themselves up for a life that will work for them. Yeah. And not just fit other people's expectations of them. Yeah, I love that. your little kids get to have the total opposite life of you. You're going to give to them what you wish you had. And I think that that's what it's all about, right? So now, when, now, were you like secretly realizing that you were into women?

Did you always know that you were? Like, how did that all come to be? Gosh. Yeah, I've always been super lovy-dovey. I didn't realize how much of that was me being clear. And I'm just a very loving person in general. But I used to think, I just love, yeah, I just love humans. Like, don't we all just love humans?

And I was hanging out more and more in the LGBTQ community as an ally and going to protest with them, going to events they hosted. I became a board member of one of my trans friends theater company and just got really plugged in. And the more exposed I became, the more these feelings I felt in my body. And I was like, wait a second. I don't think I just love humans. I think I'm not straight.

And it was, it felt like exhilarating to finally name something I had always felt. but it was also terrifying because my entire life had been built around my heterosexuality. I was married to a man and I was a mother to these children and my church was progressive for female leaders but not for LGBTQ leaders. So like I knew if I owned this part of myself, I could lose everything my whole life had been built up around. And so I had to sit with that for a minute like, is this something I want to take to the grave with me?

Because I look straight. I sound straight. Everything matches my straightness. or something that's worth embracing and embodying, and I end up deciding it was worth learning to embrace and embody an apublic way. And now, just explain what queer means to you, because it's not that you're just into women, correct? Right. Right. Yeah, queer means different for every person.

It's like an umbrella term. So for me, I identify as pansexual. Also bisexual, but pan fits me better. So I'm into all genders. And I actually, my specialty or my flavor is just. gender benders. I like effeminate men. I like masculine women and I really love trans people. Oh, interesting. And so, yeah, so I always joke. I'm like, you're welcome world. I think us pansexuals are like the biggest gift because we love all people. And I think that's kind of the whole point of

humanity is to learn people who are different from us. Yeah. And I very much feel that way in my sexuality. Okay. So do you, who do you come out to first? So like this is all happening. You're hanging out. You find your people, right? Like while you're hanging out in those communities, but you're still married to your husband and quote unquote straight, you know. So you're open about going on OnlyFans. We're going to talk about that too. That's a whole separate story. But, you know, when it comes to this part of your life, like, at what point do you decide to, like, do you come out to your husband first? Or like, how does that work? Yeah. I was actually the most excited to come out to my husband because I knew he would be totally supportive. Right. Which just shows what kind of person he was back then. I mean, he's changed since then. But

I knew he would be so supportive. So I came out to him one night. We were hanging out in the kitchen. I'm just like, hey, I've learned something new about myself. Can I tell you? And he's like, totally. And I'm like, you know, I realized I'm not straight. I'm not sure what I am yet. I just know, like, I'm queer at some level. And he was like, I think that's awesome. I think that's totally normal. I'm happy for you and I'm here for you. And he just hugged me. And I just cry because it was the most gracious, loving and very true to him, just so open-minded and supportive. And then I came out to a very small select group of friends for about a year. And I slowly grew that circle a little bit bigger and bigger. And then about a year into it, I was like, okay, I'm ready to come out publicly. And then that's when I did a post on my social media. Oh, so you really went out to everybody. Yes. And that's so my personality.

It's like I'm a very public person. Yeah, I like that. I was realizing like I was still going to church. I was still preaching. I was still appearing straight as I was quote unquote supposed to. And then on the weekends and at night, I'd be going to like queer clubs and gay spaces. And I was afraid of, you know, getting caught. Like, what if they see Nicole, the pastor in these spaces?

I'm like, I don't want to live that fear anymore. And I'm old enough to where like, I should be able to be whoever I want to be. And I should not be afraid of people's opinions. I'm just going to own it. And I was terrified. Absolutely terrified. But I just wanted to rip the bandaid off and then kind of be done with it, hopefully. Okay.

So what was the, you know, what kind of playback did you get? or, you know, like, do you have parents? Do you have family members? I do. I have parents. I have three siblings and we've, it's been a rocky, rocky road for them. I've not been easy to have as a family member just because I became everything they don't believe in, right? It became queer. I've divorced, non-religious, then rich and then adult content creator, like all these things. These poor, I do have empathy for them now. I used to really angry at them for not understanding me, but I've done a lot of healing there. But I prepared before I came out, I rallied my troops and I told all of my people.

I was like, hey, on this day, at this time, I'm coming out publicly. Can you please make sure to log on and just love on me like crazy? And I was like, I'm going to come on a Facebook post. Everyone please comment all love and kind of set the tone that all I will accept here is love. And so I posted it. I told everyone, okay, go love on it, that I logged off and then I cried in bed because I was so scared. And my mentor called me and she said, Nicole, I don't think you should unplug. I think you should go read the comments right now.

And she goes, I promise you, it's a beautiful thing. And I opened it up and there was like 50 comments of just total love and acceptance from my close friends, which then inspired other people. So it actually silenced the haters and the naysayers because my troop were so in my corner from that moment. But I've received comments over the years, obviously, and I got DMs eventually. And then you hear all the rumors of the grapevine from family and friends. but publicly, for the most part, things were taken really well. Well, listen, what's so interesting about what was going on with you that and probably even to this day, like, I mean, you really do do everything the very right way. You know, like I feel like listening to you, if you were my kid, I'd be so proud of you, everything that you've done and everything you realize that your parents just weren't able to understand how amazing you are, right?

And what you and how brave, all the stuff that you were doing and all that kind of stuff. So it's like so interesting that at one sense, you're sort of evolving to this amazing level and doing these great things. And like I said, doing it in the very right way. You know what I mean? Very intentional. Very much respecting everybody else. And at the same time, you're getting like really negative stuff from your family and not acceptance, but really great things from the public, you know. So it's like such an interesting space to live in.

Such an interesting duality where there is so much love in some ways and so much anger and confused. and hurt by others. And it was very intense. And then I went viral, which was never, that wasn't my, like, you can't really plan your viral moments. So I went viral as the pastor turned stripper. I was like a summary of my story, which I loved. But all of a sudden, that duality I felt at a very like micro level, just people who knew me now became a macro level of millions of people around the world, flooding my DMs and email saying how much they either love me and have some respect for me or how much they hate me and want me to kill myself. It was such a flood, yeah, a flood of emotions.

And God, the toll it takes on you and as someone is very public, like, I couldn't just like lash out because people are watching how I respond. So I had to do a lot of like emotional intelligence work and a lot of releasing and blessing and blocking for forgiving. So I could just stay in my power and conviction of who I am and what I came here to be. Right. And not go low and get petty and feed into it. I mean, it sounds like you mentioned the word mentor.

You had somebody there that had your back. you had the support of your husband, which I think is super helpful, right? Like, I'm curious about him. Like, why do you think he did the switch? I mean, a lot of times you hear about the switch of people going from being very conservative to becoming much more open-minded, you know, but it's very rare that you hear of someone being so open and getting so much more conservative. What do you think that's all about with him?

I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their own path and I really don't judge, you know, I respect anyone's path. You know what I mean? Even his. I just, what do you think that's about? Yeah, I will probably wonder that to the day I die unless he ever comes clean and tells me, like, the truth, truth is truth. But I always wonder how much of it was in direct response to me becoming more progressive. Like, the more progressive I became, it kind of like, it caused him to feel a certain way.

And his reaction was to go the opposite. Like, so it was weird. Yeah, he was always made the biggest cheerleader. He was like, keep going, keep going. Like, he was always like so open-minded. And then it was like an overnight flip. And I think over those years where he was so supportive. And I do think it was not inauthentic.

But I think something inside of him was like wasn't fully on board. And then I finally, when I went finally, quote unquote, too far for him, it like flipped that switch where he's like, okay, now this is cross a line. A line that I didn't know really where it was, but this feels like it. And he kind of, he turned to his, he had a really core group of really conservative Christian friends. And I think he turned towards them because the words that started coming out of his mouth. I'm like, those aren't my husband's words. Those are somebody else's words coming through you. And I'm like, oh, he must be talking to his people.

Yeah. We're telling him how they should, how he should handle his wife, quote, and it didn't end well for him because I'm like, I'm the kind of person. If you try to, like, put me in a box, I will explode out of it. Like, I can't be confined. Yeah, censored control. And he knew that. But that was kind of his reaction was, I should put her back in a box.

So she'll stay the good wife I need her to be. Yeah. And that had to do with something that was. Yeah, and that had to do with something that he was going through. And, you know, in his life, you know, I wouldn't be surprised if at some point he goes back, you know, whatever. He's working through something with all that and it probably has more to do about himself than you. So now at what point do you wind up getting divorced? Because you get divorced from him, correct? Yeah. And we got divorced pretty quickly because I, I'm, well, that's just Nicole. I move very fast. And once I decide, I'm all in, as we all know, I'm all in. And I just knew of too many friends growing up who was like, God, I wish my parents had divorced earlier or couples who are like, we should have gotten divorced five years ago. And I'm like, I do not want to be that person who tries to hang on to something that I knew died long ago. And so when he kind of reacted in a way where he was like, this isn't going to work for me, I begged and pleaded for like a month,

like, oh my God, because I never wanted divorce to be part of my story. And I loved him and I lived her family and I was terrified. And after a month of begging him to love me, I was like, this isn't love. Yeah. If I have to beg someone, I'd rather be out of that than stay in it. And so then I pushed for a separation within two months of that. And just like, I'm out. Like if, and then it was like, you know, divorce is so messy because then he's like, no, we can make it work.

And I'm like, no, we don't get to play this game. You don't get to say, you don't get to give me an ultimatum. And then I agree. And then you try to back out. Like we're not. I'm done. Like this isn't going to work. And so we divorce pretty quickly from the initial conversation, which I also.

also made my family really concerned because it looked, yes, everything just looked terrible on the outside and it was so scary for me and emotional for me, but I also knew deep in my heart. This was the right move for us. Yeah. Now, you had started, though, OnlyFans way before this even happened. Let's get to that story. So you're a pastor, right? And at some point, you're like, I'm going to go on Onlyfans. I know you were a stripper at some point. Does that come before Onlyfans? And that leads to it? Yeah. So I left the church in 2017. because I was getting pretty disillusioned by the politics of church. I was starting to question more about the beliefs.

My husband at the time was an atheist. Like he totally left the church. And I was just like questioning. And I'm like, who is Nicole apart from all the dogma and indoctrination? Like, I just want to know who I am apart from all the rules. And so I kind of want on this two-year journey of like discovering who I am. And is that two-year journey that I realized I'm a closeted slut. And I'm very sexual.

And I've repressed it my whole life. And that's when I learned about OnlyFans in like, I think 2018. And so for about a year, I sat with the idea. I'm like, oh my gosh, I could tell like I was meant to be on that platform. But I obviously had a lot of self-judgment. I had to work through on that. Fears started it in 2019. And then my husband and I got divorced in 2020.

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Use code strictly to get 20% off your entire order. Yes, I get paid to take off my clothes. I'm like, well, I guess that's technically stripping. Yeah, yeah. You're right. Yes. So that was kind of the timeline of things. wait so okay so when you open your only fans like you were you were with your husband like and he was

totally okay with you going on there like how far did you go on there in the beginning i started very modest and very mild i was really scared and so this part of why such a hardcore following on there because they've seen me have this evolution in real time so i never tried to show any nudity yes the ultimate seduction in real time and so i started with clothing and and like lingerie, but no nudity. Then eventually I moved to implied and then eventually soft, very tame nudity. And then now I make like girl, girl and full on explicit content. But it took years to get there.

And my husband at the time, when he bought the lingerie for me, he was taking the photos for me. Like he was so on board with it, or at least externally. Obviously, we can tell you it's something going on internally. But that's how I started, very mild, very modest. And I didn't know how far I was going to take it. I was like, I'm just going to take this one day at time. That's what I told my fans. And they've stayed along for the ride.

Oh, listen, your guy fans or girlfriends, you know, that were there from the beginning, you like probably turned them the fuck on by that because of like you said, what I mean? Like this girl that they barely got anything they waited and paid off. I mean, it's like that ultimate fantasy of getting the vanilla girl and now all of a sudden, girl on girl action. I was like, great. Yes. And he was like a total freak.

And they got the front row seat to it. And like it's been. amazing that they've been able to bear witness to it. And we celebrate my anniversary every year. And it's, it's become a really beautiful community that I love very dearly. Now, let me ask you this, like in the beginning when you're on there and you're slowly taking things off and everything, does it become empowering for you in some way? Because it is so, you know, so different than where you came from. Oh, my gosh. I remember doing my first nude photo shoot and I bowled afterwards. And I I remember thinking, I've never felt more holy.

I've never felt closer to whatever God universe, whatever it is that maybe is out there. Like, I've never felt more true to who I am. I remember my first boudoir shoot and I was taking off my clothes. And I was like, oh my God, I am meant to take my clothes off. And it sounded so silly, but it was so authentic that like this is part of what I meant to do with my life. So every time I do it, it is such an act of empowerment, self-expression, pleasure, joy. it's everything beautiful to me. What do you think made you go, like hit it so big on there?

A couple things. I think I really trusted my intuition. I think this is huge of just like, you know, I sat up there for a year before I could have joined in 2018. I was just too scared and got support around it for a mentor, working through all my preconceived ideas and judgments and hesitations around it, started it, kept it very authentic to me. Other girls I see will just jump on like,

oh, I have to show my pussy right away to make money, right? I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, let's take a beat. Like, again, this is like, for me, it's the art of seduction. It's not what can I spread right away. It's like, how can I create an experience with they can't get enough of it? And they want to keep coming back for more. So I've been very intentional from the beginning.

I chose the price. I chose a high for me. I was charging 25 a month, which was really high. Most girls are either free to $5 because I'm like, I only want the most enlightened, evolved, educated humans in that space. I don't want me of the weirdos, the cheap free, free riders. Like, I just want like generous, good people in there. And then I was willing to get media exposure because at the end of the day, the only way to grow your following is for people to know you exist.

And so you have to find ways to get people to know that you exist. And I love all media. I love TV, radio, podcast, magazines. And I especially love TV. So I was pitching my story to grow my coaching business. I wanted to support people in their transformation, having no idea that when I went viral that it was going to blow up my only fans. That was not my intention.

It was like, how can I reach more people with my story to help them? Yeah. And then it blew up my only fans, which is obviously one the best things to happen to me. So at that same time, though, you started this coaching thing too as well to help people make that transition that you had made in your life? I actually started a year before my only fans. I started my business, my coaching business in 2018, because we had been on food stamps for almost the entirety of our marriage, which is like we were married for 12 years.

We were on food stamps for 10. And so during the 10 years of food stamps, I'm like, are you kidding me? I'm intelligent. I'm smart. I have a college degree. How on earth are we so freaking poor? And I hired a life coach. It completely changed my life.

And I was like, oh my God, this is who I am. Like I've been a pastor. I was a high school teacher. I've been a bartender. Like all these elements are part of coaching people and mentoring people. So yeah, so I started my coaching business to help. people really become financially empowered, but just overall empowered and been doing that longer than OnlyFans.

And to this day, I still do both of those. Now, when your OnlyFans blew up, were you still with your husband? No, we had, I had been divorced three months when I went viral, which was interesting because I went viral and I made a lot of money right after we got divorced. And to me, again, life is your meaning. Life is what you make of it. It was a sign. of how much I held myself back to be a good wife.

And once I was no longer in a marriage where I had to be good and I could instead be free to do me and trust me, the flow opened up. And it's a flower. And it's made so much money. And to me, I'm like, how did I go from food stamps to multiple seven figures?

And it was putting myself and positioning myself in life. We're like, I'm in my flow. I do me. I lead as me. I trust me. And I'm not running it by anyone else. That has been an absolute game changer for me.

Yes, obsessed with that. I love that story. And it's true. I really believe that. And you better than to coach someone who's been on both sides of things, right? Right. Totally. And your mentor, when you keep saying mentor, that was your life coach, correct? Yes. Yeah, I've had a few over the years. But yes, I've always had a life coach of some kind and some capacity over this entire journey since 2000. Oh, I hired my first one, 2017. So eight years. Right. But I was going to say, like, did you start making more money than your husband? Like, could it have been a thing where he was like, slightly jealous of your success or anything or that came after you were not with him anyway. Yeah, I was making as much money as him pretty quickly. And then I shot past him also pretty quickly. Because I remember within eight months of start my business, I had my first 10K month. That was triple what he was making. Right. Right. So like shot past and it was great because we actually took our first family vacation in eight years and paid off debt. And like I moved us to California. And it was interesting because, like, he, I think part of it maybe was insecurity, just like, he's never figured out what he wants to do with his life. And I've been very, like, once I locked in on this, I'm like, I was so clear and so passionate while he was still trying to figure things out.

And I'm sure that's really hard to be in the space while watching your person crush it in their lane. Yeah. I think a little bit jealousy. And like, listen, jealousy is like, you know, someone has something that you want, right? It's not such a bad thing. It's a human being emotion, right? I think it's always a tell. to, you know, you're jealous.

Someone has a boyfriend. Maybe you need to go find yourself a fucking boyfriend. Right, exactly. It's okay. But when it becomes toxic, it's like the person not really looking at themselves. But I really think, you know, maybe that was hard for him at that time to, you know, have it. Maybe there was some jealousy going on there, you know, and that was part of the disconnect. Because a lot of guys can handle that.

Yeah. And that's why I always tell women, like, especially because I was so poor. And I've seen so many women stuck in marriages, not because they want to be, but because they're the economic arrangement. is in the favor of their husband. Yeah. And so I'm always telling women, especially after I've lived through what I've lived through, I quickly became a single mom. And, you know, my husband at the time or then my ex didn't have a job.

So it's providing for all of us. And I'm like, you need to secure the bag for yourself. I don't care if you're married to a rich man or a poor man. You need to figure out a way to make sure you are financially taking care of. So if anything does happen, you've got you and you've got your kids. And that's part of why I'm so passionate in my coaching work is I help all people, but especially women become richer because life is easier when you have options and freedom that comes with money. Yeah. I mean, how many women are trapped in marriages that they wouldn't be in just strictly for financial reasons?

A lot of times I understand it when people are calling into my show. I have cheater stories on. I have all kinds of real life stories on because I feel like people can't really learn from them. And a lot of times, like you understand why people can't get out of bad marriages. Financially, they just can't fucking do it. You know what I mean? They have there. And like, what do you tell that person? Go live on the street, you know, it's like it's a really bad predicament, but you could tell them, no, go out, make more money, get financially. Yes. Then you have choices, you know, where you don't have those choices if you don't have that freedom, right? Have you had any long-term relationships or are you in a relationship since?

Yes, I am in a relationship, which is so funny. So I go through this whole journey, you know, becoming me, finding me, and I'm now engaged to a man. And I just, like, died laughing. Oh, my God. I'm laughing now. What the heck universe? Like, are you kidding me?

I like that. But I am obsessed with him. He is the most beautiful human I have ever met. And it's a big deal because after I got divorced, I'm sure anyone who's got divorced knows that feeling of like, I'm never getting married again. Like, fuck love. And right now we actually don't have plans on getting married. We just wanted to get engaged.

We wanted to move in together, which we just did in August. And now we feel complete. And I'm really, really happy with my life. Well, how did you meet him? we met through mutual friends. Okay. So he knew your story. Because I wonder how if you're going on date for people, like do you like put it all out

there? You know what I mean? Right. So on my dating apps, I didn't put it out there. I was like at first I didn't even put on that I had only fans. I'm like, I want them to get to know me. Yeah. Then on these dates with different men, when they'd find out having only fans, there'd be

two main reactions. One of like was horror. Like they were so against it. Yeah, of course. And then or they would like fetishize me. Yeah, of course. Like, oh, I've always wanted to screw an only fan's growing. I was like, okay.

this is disgusting both of these responses. So then I did put it in my bio and I was like, please be aware that this is what I do. If this is a problem for you, do not reach out to me. And like if you say you can handle this, please know that you can handle it and do not. Like I've had mandate me like,

oh, I was one day and only fans go on the way date. And they're like, they get super insecure and jealous. And they try to control me or try to make me shut down my page. And I'm like, if this is you, please don't reach out to me. So when I met my partner, my now partner,

I was very upfront. I'm like, this is who I am. This is what I do. And if this is going to mean, and I also said, like, I'm not monogamous. If you're looking for monogamy, this is not going to work. I came out pretty hot and heavy because I just had been burned by so many previous dating experiences. And he was like, totally cool. Like, well, let's get to that non-monogamy part. Like, when did you, like, what made you realize? Because you said it a long time ago in this combo, like, that's a certain part when you were with your husband, you started to realize you were

non-monogamous. And how did that come, like, how did you realize that where you did you find yourself attracted to other people and you wanted to live it out while you were with him? Like, how did you know you were non-monogamous? So when I started spending more time in queer spaces, I would start learning about how they would structure their relationships and how they based it on what works for them and not on society's expectations of them. And so it's being exposed to all these different iterations of relationships. And I like piqued my curiosity.

And I think it spoke to something deep in me. So then I started reading books on it, like ethical slot. Yeah. And there's a, I have a hand. full of like non-monogamous books in my house and I would read it. I'm like, oh my God, like it would like evoke something I had felt for a long time. And then yeah, when I was like, I had, of course, we all have attractions out of people, but I had the desire to take it further, not just be attractive, but to do something about it. And I didn't during our marriage,

because that's not what our marriage was agreed upon at that time. Yeah. So then once I got divorced and I was like, I went through what I call my slut era where I was just like dating and fucking a lot of people at the same time. And I loved it. It was so empowered. It was so empowered. to be like, I call the shots. It's my body, my choice, my pleasure, my decisions. No one is telling me who and how I should be living my life. And so I knew, gosh, moving forward, if I ever get to committed a relationship, I need to have an outlet. Otherwise, I know myself. And like, I will not thrive in monogamy. And it will increase chances of me cheating because I'm not wired to be that way. Yeah, that's pretty major to realize that about yourself. Yeah. And then to own it.

You know what I mean? Yes, totally. So much of my life is like, I didn't see any of this coming. And like, it's pretty trippy. Like, just when I think I'm like, okay, I don't think there's anything else to learn about myself. And then something else comes up. I'm like, are you kidding me? Like, universe, like, let's just take a chill pill. Like, I've done enough evolving. Like, I just want to kind of ride. But it just was a series of like this kind of revealing of who I really am that just got so buried during my upbringing. And what is nominal? mean to you like are you with because like you are you say you're queer and you're you're you're super you know into and attracted to you know butchy women effeminate men trans women and trans men I'm assuming you know anyone and everyone I mean how is it set up your non monogamous relationship with your guy now do you guys do solo play do you hook up with other people together like how does it work for you guys right so the main way it expresses itself I would say it's the girl girl content I make for my only fans. I'm regularly making out making love with women, filming it for

my only fans. Even a version of it is like I do one-on-one video calls with my fans where I'm doing a show for them and I get explicit with them or I'm giving them jerk off instruction. So it's like digital not monogamy where like I'm engaging in very intimate activities with other mostly men online or on video camera. And then we've we've gone to like a handful of like sex parties or sex clubs and like played around together or just watched and so it's kind of different dabbling or experiences and then again like any situation if we have a lot of bandwidth and time we'll do more if we're like really maxed out and we do not have time or energy for anything else we like don't do that for a while right so it kind of ebbs and flows depending on what's going on in life for both of us how long

you've been with this new guy gosh for a few years now which i can't believe what's his backstory. Had he ever been to swinger clubs and all those kinds of things? Or was he the one that got you into that? Because that's something new. I just heard from you. Yeah. So no, he was raised very similar to me, raised very religious and conservative, became an atheist, you know, in his adult years, been very open-minded, very sexual, but very repressed. He was in a marriage that was not good for him and did not support his sexual desires. And so when he got divorced, he was like brand new to like the dating. world just like I was and both kind of also on a discovery. And then when he met me, I'm super open-minded and I was a little bit further along in my journey than him. And so we started, I kind of brought

him along and then we've just been kind of together on that journey. Now, who was like, hey, let's go check out a swingers club. Oh, I think when we both first met, we were both like, I remember telling him, I'm like, I will have a three son before I die. Like this is like a bucketless goal. There are so many sexual experiences I need to have before I pass away. And he's like, he's like, you know, I wouldn't die. It wouldn't be prompt. I died without it. But yes, my preference would be to also experience that. I'm like, okay, good. We should try it. So we start our relationship very open, like dating other people while we're still dating each other and trying to find other and then, I don't know, six months in, we decided we like fell so in love that were like,

let's just build solid roots together and a solid foundation. So we kind of closed for a while to build our foundation. I think that's smart. Yeah, it was really smart. And after a while, we both felt the nudge. We're both like, I think we're ready to open up again.

Yeah. And so that's what's been, sometimes we open, sometimes we closed, depending what's going on in life at that time. But on your only fans, it's just girl on girl content, right? Is that what you prefer?

Is that what you like? Like, how come just the girl on girl content? Is that because that's like your favorite? I would love to do boy girl, but that's just not where our relationship is yet. Because we're both newer. We both have known. ever been in a non-monogamous relationship. So everything I do slash we do is new or always

like kind of processing and integrating, finding out what works, what is triggering, what isn't. And so right now, girl, girl is easy, no problem. And we both are like, he's totally open to me being boys, but we're like working in that direction. And we're the kind of couple that moves really slow because I've seen people in this lifestyle move way too fast. And they do so much damage that some of the couples can't recover. And I'm like, I've told him like, our relationship's the most important. I'd rather move slow and make sure we're doing this as safely and smartly as possible to prevent harm so that when harm does happen, we can handle it and not ruin ourselves in the process of it.

Yeah, that's what it's all about to have that strong enough foundation that, you know, God forbid and most likely feelings will come into play at some point because you're a fucking human being and the wind will blow one way one day and you might be fucking jealous. And, you know, you could stand up and say it and your partner, instead of it's going to be defensive is going to talk you through it and you guys will get through it and it won't be like a total deal breaker. It'll just be a little bump in the road, you know, as opposed to break you up, you know? Yes. Did you ever have that threesome that you guys both wanted and did you have it with a girl or a girl? We did with a girl and even then we've

done it a couple times but we haven't done where he's penetrated her yet. Yeah, I was one. I thought I was going to ask you like what were the kind of constraints around it. Like did you not want to see him with the girl. Is that why he didn't? I think the first time we both didn't know how we would feel. It's one thing to fantasize. It's one thing to then experience it. So we both started the first one was like, let's just have you and the girl, like me and the girl, do it. And then, because he knows, we both know when I get really turned on, I'm like, I kind of become a little bit of a cuck, meaning I actually like to watch him another woman and play with each other a little bit. So being the woman would start and then at some point,

I'm like, let's bring him in. So then I pulled him in and we just like took a really so and we had told her like you're the first time we've ever done this like this is our one boundaries we're not ready to penetrate yet we just want to experience like some basic things and she was so awesome and it was such a great experience and then we've done it again same kind of thing where it started with me and her and then we brought him in and so and then we process it we're like you know what we probably could have gone further but it's actually good that we probably didn't because it was just there wasn't that big of a bump or any harm that we couldn't recover from yeah so I actually like that experiences we've had, we probably could have pushed it more, but we didn't because

we operate from abundance of caution. Right. And now your non-monogamous relationship, like, you know, in this, because you're doing all this girl and girl content, are you allowed to have like feel, like, do you consider yourself Polly or are you just non-monogamous? Because I think that's just non-monogamous. Yes. I do not have, I'm very, very, very, very loyal to one person, like all my heart and affection. And I'm very much, I don't know if it's accurate. But like I feel like a guy in other ways where like I can just fuck a woman and be done. Yeah, yeah. That was great.

That was a great one hit and move on. And like that works so well for me. And it just shows like I'm such a performer. Meaning when they say action, I can turn on and trump the heat. Like you have a mind-blowing experience. And then when I cut, I can turn off and like chat like we're girlfriends having coffee. Like the lifestyle fits me very well.

Right. Like you could separate sex from emotions kind of thing. Totally. What did your parents feel like do your parents, obviously, because you're so out and proud and like you, you know, you sort of, you're in the headlines as only fans girl passed or, you know, turned only fans. You know, how did your family feel about that? Because I know that they, you know, we talked about them just knowing when you came out. Like, how about when you came out about only fans? Yeah, they were really disturbed.

I'm really horrified. I think heartbroken, probably felt, probably felt they failed. Yeah. as parents and like and you know when you're in that situation the more you try to convince someone the more they think you're wrong right like and so i i just like stopped even trying to explain it and i'm like it's fine you can think i'm the worst human because i i just don't have it in me anymore to try to defend my goodness or explain my decisions and so there was about four years we did not talk because it was just so much for them between the divorce non-monogamy

becoming only fans creator deciding to get rich like just all the these things they just have a hard time with, happened in a very close proximity with one another. And it took those four years for me to forgive them and see their humanity and accept them as imperfect humans. Just like, I'm an imperfect human. And it took them

those four years to realize they want a relationship with their daughter even if it's a different daughter than they had expected. And what about their grandkids too? I mean, during that time, did they see your children or did they cut ties off with their grandkids as well? They tried to stay in touch with my kids, I didn't want them to because I was so angry at them. And then my ex would like one time flew my parents up to see the kids and we had a huge fight about it. It was very messy.

Yeah. So I think they saw them one time in four years. And then we just re reconnected about a year and a half ago. And we've seen them twice in a year and a half, which is pretty amazing. I'm very grateful. I did not think I would see my parents for the rest of my life. So the fact that we're on good terms and we've accepted that we're both very different people. And that's just how it is is huge. How did you mend that? Who reached out first? Was it you?

Honestly, it was my grandma passing, and I swear this was her last gift to us because before my grandma ever died or I remember saying, I'll never go to my grandma's funeral, not that she had any, this had nothing to do with her. I was just so mad. I'm like, I don't ever want to see my family and I don't care if my mom dies. I'm not going to her funeral. And then I found my mom emailed me to let me know my grandma had died. And in that moment, even after all those years of anger and hurt,

I was like, this is my mom's mom. Yeah. Like, this is, this has to be devastating for her. And I felt so much empathy. And I felt the instant click in my heart like, Nicole, you have to go. And I was like, fuck. Like, I don't want to see my family. I'm scared.

I'm so scared after all these years of misunderstandings and heartbreak and just so many mean things said over the years. And but I did. I flew back for her funeral. I was in town for 15 hours. I flew in, attended. And I had booked my flight out just in case things. went bad. And at the funeral, like my mom and I just melted. And like, we hugged and cried. And she like asked

her for my forgiveness. And she's like, please, please, please come visit us. I'm so sorry. And like, it was like the words I needed to hear. And like I was crying. I'm sorry for how I've heard you over the years. You know, like there's just so many misunderstandings. And so I do give credit to my grandma. I feel like this was her last gift was in her dying. Our family came back together. Well, thank God both of you guys were open enough to allow for that to happen because I've been in situations where I've seen people, they have had that kind of opportunity with something like that happen, you know, where this is the time to, and they still did it. And you're like, what the fuck? You know what I mean? Like, life's too short. Yes. Like, you know, and it's like a brick wall, even with something like that, you know. And it's like amazing that. And it great, you know, that both, I mean, that was a gift your grandma gave, but you didn't have. have to take it, you know, but you both took it and you were both open at that same moment. And it, it changed your life. That's amazing. It really did change my life. And so I end up taking my kids back to visit. They live in Minnesota. So I've been back the past two summers. And now they're planning

coming out here for the first time this summer to my house in California. So yeah, miracles that I did not think would happen in my lifetime have happened. And I'm very grateful. Now last thing, let's just talk a little bit about like, you know, you talked about going from like having no money and being on food stamps to making, to chichinging it, you know, like a real big fat difference, which is everybody's, you know, fantasy, you know, and you're here to say it can happen. Like, you know, I know that you have a life coaching business and we're going to pitch that at the end, right? So people could like, maybe hire you so you could help them. But what would be your quick way of telling people like how you were able to make that happen for yourself? Yeah. I think, you know, I kept trying to work for,

and this is just for me. I could try to work for other people. Yeah. Because that's what we're taught. get a job and work for someone else. And I tried it and I could do any job really well. That was part of the problem. I was like, I crush any job I have, but I'm not loving it. And I'm not making enough money to provide for my family. And I was like, eventually I was like, well, what if I start my own business and just try it? And so I did, but I also had to do a lot of money mindset work because I had been raised from

such a lack mentality and how the world is against you and money so hard. And I realized when I hired my first life coach that I had to rewire completely the way I think and interact with money. And that mind shift changed everything. And so between me up leveling my mindset with money and me starting my own business and staying committed, so many people come and go when they start their own dreams or pursue their own dreams and they get burned out. I'm like, I'm in it to win it. Like I will not bail until I freaking make it. Like I'm, I was determined to make a million dollars. Like I will make a million.

And I thought that was going to be my lifetime. And I made it in a few years. And I was like, oh, my gosh, I'm on to something here. Yeah. No, I think that that's what it's all about. And like, listen, I think that when, you know, a lot of times, whether it's money or love or anything that you really, really want and you keep trying to get it and you can. I mean, there's probably like a subconscious block, right? A lot of people have these subconscious, like, blocks to all the great things in life for one reason or another, you know. And sometimes, you know, it's all. about removing that subconscious block and it could change your fucking life, you know, because some people just don't feel deserving of certain things. But, you know, if you change that like you did and get the help and rewire yourself and get rid of that block, it changes, like you said, that flow. Because I believe it. I believe that there's enough money out there for everybody. You can have whatever the fuck you want. You know, it's a matter of believing it. And it sounds a lot more simple than it is, you know. And I think when you have subconscious blocks, that's hard shit.

It's not something that you could just think yourself out of it. Like you did have help. You had that mentor. And now you mentor other people, correct? I do. Yep. I still have a mentor and I mentor other people. And, you know, like my evolution has been so significant.

Except first it's like, how do I make money? Yeah. Then today my mentor and I aren't having a conversation like where my clients are at is they're typically the first in their family line to become wealthy. And when they become wealthy, now all their friends and family feel entitled to their money. Like, oh, you'll pay for this because you have money. So now I help my. clients create boundaries around their money and help them work through their guilt. Like,

well, their family and friends are struggling financially, they're taking a luxurification. Yeah. Like, how do you navigate that? And so I love helping people who've become wealthy, like, lock that in because if you don't clean that up and lock in those boundaries, it will continue to cap how much you'll make in the future because you're afraid if you make more, it's going to cause more people to be entitled to your money. And so we have to work through like the nuances of being a wealthy woman. Yeah, and creating boundaries and all that kind of good. stuff. Do you also like talk to people about content creating? Like do you mentor them about, you know, how to become a successful content creator? Because I'm sure there's a need for that nowadays.

Yes. I think my top, I have to look. I think my top program that sells the most is my I've only fans training. That's all about, yeah, creating content, like selling, how to scale to multiple six figures a year. And in a way that is authentic to you, that's like so important to me. Because you can make money doing anything. I want you to make it doing what works for you, turns you on, lights you up and I help you do that in your only fans specifically. I also help that with any business you have. I'm really good at marketing, media and money and scaling to multiple six figures a year. Yeah, well, listen, I got to say, like, I love your story and I love you and I love that you help people and people should fucking hire you because in your space, the space of mentoring people,

life coaching people, self-helping people. I worked in that space and I booked people for a long time in that space. And I would say 90. 8% of them are all fucking bullshit multi-tier marketing garbage. Right. You know what I'm saying? There's a lot of fake shit out there, right? But what, you know, and so it's really hard to find the right person that's not like hawk in a program that, you know, they probably got from chat cheap.

I don't even know because they didn't live it, right? So, but you really come across as the real deal. You know, you're coming from a place of learning it yourself. so who better to teach. So I love that you do it because I think it's hard to find. I always say like that top 10% or 5% you know, most people suck at their job. Sorry.

Yeah. Yeah. There's a reason the one person's the 1%. Yeah. I mean, whether it's my cleaning lady, my nanny, my hairdresser or anyone,

I only fish out of that top 5% of people that are perfect. And I fire anyone until I get to those people. You know, I want the real fucking deal. And most people aren't. So, but you really are. I could tell that just by talking here for this time.

So give us. give a pitch to all your stuff and I'm going to put your website or your link whatever you want on my description and then send me your links for me to or send some like hot picks and stuff and I'll put them on my Patreon and stuff and I'll give you free access to that. I love that. Thank you. Yeah, you can find all my links at my website, Nicole Mitchell.com. Nicole is spelled with a K, N-I-K-O-L-E.

My only fans is Nicole Mitchell. My Instagram is Mitchell Nicole. But come say hi. I have a lot of women and couples who subscribe to my only fans in addition to men. I work with women, men, trans people in my coaching business. I'm all about self-expression, monetization, helping you get richer and hotter because it's what you deserve. Yeah, I love it. You're the best.

I'm really inspired by your story. Do you have your book? What is your book coming out? I know. I'm working on it. I have it in Google. Yes, I have so many books I want to write actually. So I'm working on my first.

But your story, your life story. Yes. Just that story. What you just told me. Yes. That's the first book. I agree. That's what I'm working on right now is my memoir. Yeah, that's amazing.

All right. Listen, Nicole, thanks so much for calling it. I'm so glad you did because I love your fucking story. Like I said, I could tell you're so like the real deal. And I know you're going to get a lot of people signing up for my show because I know my audience is going to love you too. So thanks and get me. Well, thank you. Send me your links and send me some picks for my Patreon ASAP.

Okay. And I'll text you when I'll email you when this airs. Okay. Perfect. All right. Thank you. Bye. Okay.

Bye. Bye. Okay. Okay. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August

25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories. 17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two and then skip around. You could read the whole

book. It's available in eback format, paperback format. And finally, the audio book is available coming out August 25th. But you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre-order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint. Okay. There's no way you get into my Discord any other way than getting the link from me. Okay, I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other. And that's what you get to do there. You could post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total strictly anonymous community and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book

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I do have a book out. book and it's coming out. The book is called trickling on this confessions. Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. What I did was I picked out the 17 best episodes. That was very hard to do. Okay, I picked like one from each category. And I retold the story from the third person. So it's not interview style. It's a little bit more erotica. The only place where I took creative liberty was in the sex scene. So it's even hotter than my episodes. Like I said, it's told in the third person. And they're all true, just like my show. I mean, these are real stories from my show, just written out. Like I said, in the third person, not an interview style, more like a story, but a true story, a true super hot

story. Now, listen, it is available for pre-order now, and it's not coming out until October 14th, and I was like, oh my God, that's a long time away. So I figured I'd incentivize people. If you want to pre-order it now, I will give you free access to my Discord if you pre-order it. now. All you got to do is screenshot a pick of the receipt. Just screenshot it to me. Send it to Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. And then I will send you the link to my Discord. So that's a little incentive to pick it up now. It's on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Simon & Schuster. The link is in the description. So make sure to click on it. And if you get it, send me the pick of you purchasing and I'll give you free access to my private Discord. That is a totally naughty, super hot community with a lot of

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