Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1098 - Domina Sea Aphrodite is a Femdom who Loves Domming Men and Women

Episode Date: April 25, 2025

Domina Sea Aphrodite is hardcore femdom who is married to a daddy Dom and loves domming bothmen and women and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how she met her husband and how and why they’re decided to have an open relationship very early on, how they’re both dominants, how they’re also both into other things and how it still works for them, when she realized she’s very into into guy on guy action even though her guy isn’t into it, how  they got into kink early on and how and when they started running their own events and sex parties, the people they both enjoy playing with, what they both enjoy doing the most and how she differs from her husband, they types of guys she digs the most, the types she typically plays with and the types of fantasies she lives out with them, how she also loves domming women, the criteria she looks for when choosing people to dom, what goes down at the kink parties they throw,  how she gets pleasured during her sessions and what she will do and won’t do and why, the roles both her and her husband take on when they play together, where they do all their scenes and host their parties, the themed parties they have had and what has gone down at them, the big party she has coming up and how she curates the guests she invites, how she pasts all her content to Fetlife and how she has created a huge following over there plus a whole lot more.  You can find her on Fetlife here: https://fetlife.com/SeaAphrodite **To see HOT, anonymous pics of DOMINA SEA APHRODITE plus see pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://butterwellness.com/ For 20% off your Butter Wellness perineum massager use code STRICTLY https://bluechew.com Get your first month of the new Blewchew Max FREE! use code: STRICTLYANON https://beducate.me/pd2508-anonymous Use code anonymous to get an additional 10% off the campaign’s current discount - that’s 60% off Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website: http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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everything that I do worth it. So keep those great reviews coming. It helps the show. But anyway, today I have on Domina C. Aphrodite. She's a third. Fem dom. She's a smart bitch. Let me tell you. And she loves nothing more than doming people. She in every area of her life. Like, I mean, she never switches off even when she's just with her husband who happens to also be a dumb. I find their marriage, you know, them coming together so interesting because they're both very much a dom. He's a daddy dom. She's a femme dom. They do this. They don't do it professionally, but she does have a very big presence on FetLife. And that's where she posts all of her stuff. She does have a lot of content, but she's not charging for it. She's not a

professional. She does this privately. But it is all on FetLife, which is pretty amazing. And she got built up a big following over there, obviously, because, you know, she has all this content over there. So if you want to see her and see all the scenes that she talks about and everything, all those videos are over on her Fet Life. Her Fet Life name is going to be in the description. Now, on this episode, you're going to get her whole backstory. Like I said, I find her relationship with her husband, fascinating because they are both doms in every way she performed. She never switches to be a sub. She loves nothing more than being a femme dom. She loves younger guys and twinks. She loves women. This is a couple, one of those kind of couples, lucky ones that, you know, met in high school and are like so meant to be because they were like instantly open with each other and eventually got into the whole kink world and got into being doms.

She loves guy and guy action. She always has. She knew that early on too. She loves forced by, She talks about all of it. Her whole setup is super interesting. They've been doing this for a long time. So now they throw their own parties and it's all, you know, curated by her. But you could get in on the action. You got to go over to Fat Life and follow her there. Maybe you'll be lucky enough to be picked by her because you're looking for a Femdom. She's the real deal. Okay. And so anyway, her fat life information, like I said, will be in the description. I do have pictures of her anonymous picks on my Patreon. But anyway, I'm going to get right to and be right back on with Domina C. Aphrodite. Hi, Domino C. Aphrodite. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you? Is it Domino or Domina? Domina. Domina. I was going to say, that's not Domino. Yeah, Domina. My husband is Domina. Oh, he is? Oh, I like that. Now listen, Domina, you're a fem dom. And what I know from doing my show for a long time is every guy secretly, I think, is looking for a fendom. I'm sorry. Like, you know, they love nothing more than a woman that's going to come in and fucking boss them around.

I think because it's like, you know, how else would somebody really lose themselves in a situation, right? Exactly. It's like. Yeah. And I think a lot of women like to be submissive. So I think it's like a great power to have that you could do that and and be that person. You know, I know that like you don't do this for money. You're not a professional.

You have no website, no only fans. You did, though, go on to Fat Life like a lot of people do. and you know that and you do have a very big presence over there. No, I don't know if you want to give out your Fet Life profile, but like you're pretty big in that Kink community online in Fet Life, right? Yeah, yes. No, it's fine. I mean, so I see Aphrodite, um, A and then Aphrodite like that, you know, the goddess.

And I went on Fet Life back in 2019. I was kind of a late adopter to the platform. I wasn't aware of it on this slid. Uh-huh. Somebody sort of told me about it. Yeah. And it's grown from nothing to almost 160,000 followers. And I am really active.

I post, I'm so active that I'm actually posting pictures of scenes from November right now. Oh my gosh. I'm six months behind because it takes me a while to edit stuff. But I have a huge network of playmates in New York and then also when I travel for work, you know, other cities. And so people kind of know the deal if you come and play. It's mostly like a group scene. I'm the dom, right?

Obviously, I love male bisexuality, especially kind of forced, in air quotes, forced. Yeah. And so it's a lot of like kind of like hot young. guys and I make them play with each other. And then my husband has grown his presence too. So he has, you know, he's kind of joined with me and he's a Dom as well. And we've been at this for 20 plus years. We just didn't have kind of the platform before. And now we have a great network of sort of female subs and friends as well. And we host some bigger parties every year and some smaller parties. And then, you know, we just sort of do scenes throughout the year. And then as I said,

when I travel for it, I take the opportunity because I'm away from my family anyway. So why not? I've got the hotel, right? And so I've met people kind of around the country and in other parts of the world. And like I said, people kind of know the deal that you sort of come and play and I do completely anonymous sort of video and photo, which I think has gotten me, I feel like it's almost artistic now. Like it's very hot, but it's like art, like erotic art. And then I share that. And then the following just grows and grows because people really like to imagine themselves in that situation. And obviously I hear from hundreds and hundreds of people, but I can only choose a very small number.

based on my own sort of preferences and attraction. But the bigger group people can watch and see it kind of normalized and enjoy it. Yeah, I love that. Like, I have a million questions because you said so much in that summary of your whole fucking life story. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, how does that? Like, because, you know, listen, I've heard, I've talked to other FemDoms before. I've talked to Domitrix.

I've talked to guys on the other side. I've never talked to somebody who's like in a couple. Like, I mean, it's so interesting that you're like, oh, you know, you're talking about yourself. And then you're like, oh, and then you're like, my husband. now does his own thing. I'm like, how did you guys get into this together? You know, like, take me all the way back to the beginning because you said you, you know, been doing this lifestyle for a long time. So our first date, the anniversary just passed the other day, was April 1997. And I went to his junior prom with him. And I was a freshman in high school. So that's

how far back we go. Right. So we basically started dating in high school. And at the time, neither of us had had a proper kiss. I mean, he'd never had a blow job. Like, we were just kids, you know. And so we developed together. We're both very sexual and very creative people. And so for the first couple of years that we were dating when I was sort of 14, 15, 16, he was 16, 17, 18. You know, we were just exploring regular sex. But it took us not that long to kind of get into role play and, you know, lingerie. And we would come into New York City from the suburbs and go to sex shops together and buy, you know, sex toys after he turned 18 and he could get them. And, you know, we just were exploring. And so what, what happened is after a couple of years of that, everybody around us looked like prey because we were so experienced.

I mean, imagine, like, just imagine you, you know, I think I was like 16. We went to a movie theater and I was wearing just a trench coat, you know, just for fun. Like, you know, like, like, this is the theater. So we were just doing things that people around us who were kind of fumbling around trying to get to second base, like couldn't really even imagine. And again, we're very creative. And so we started looking at other people around us. And we kind of like, we were very, it was naturally, at natural inclination that we would open it up. And I said, oh, you know, I kind of, I want to show this friend of mine.

It's just a boy that I'm friends with like what a real blow job is like, you know. And he was like attracted to some girl at work and he wanted to, you know. And so we always like went off like with each other's support to sort of like show other people like how amazing this can be. And that's a very dominant sort of role, right? Where he's kind of leading somebody who's new. And that's how it developed. And then when I went to college, we got married very early. Like, I went to college.

I was, I was feeling kind of my bisexuality. He was obviously very supportive, you know. So we ended up having threesome. But again, like, it was, you know, me being domic. He bought me a strap on so I could use it on other girls. And it was definitely us as kind of a dominant couple with a girl. And then I started, you know, doming males as well. That he's completely straight.

So it just doesn't, he doesn't participate in that part of it. That's a limit for him. But, you know, the kind of development of us is at first just kind of vanilla sex, but very proficient. and then over time that kind of morphing into that dominant role, that was taking place like throughout our relationship. We had a bit of a break when we had very young kids because we're just so overwhelmed as a parent, you know, when they're very small. But then they got older and they sort of have little lives of their own and they go away to summer camp and they do their thing. And so we have time.

You know, we have kind of flexibility. He's also a stay-at-home parent and I have a very flexible sort of job where I can work from home. And so, you know, we have like a lot of control, I guess, over our lives. And then when we sort of pursued fat life and sort of started to see like what could happen from there, we started building this kind of community. As I said, we have like we have a party coming up. We have a dinner coming up this Saturday where we have eight of our female sort of subs, you know, quote friends. They're coming. We've invited some of my favorite like tops like males to do impact.

We've, you know, it's like a nice like we're going to get together. We're going to cook together, eat together, do protocol play, impact play, open play. A couple of my boys are coming. have very cute young sort of submissive boys who come in like, you know, they're mommy's boys. Like, so everybody develops like different dynamics, but he and I are just really supportive of each other because neither one of us has a submissive bone in our bodies. And so if we want to just be together, you know, we're together. But if we want to sort of pursue what is natural to us in terms of dominating others, we have to do that side by side. You know, they do say that

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which he does not participate in sets at the one sort of limit there. Yeah, but like there's so much involved when it comes down to that kind of kink that you're talking about, you know, like, I mean, and first of all, you use the word vanilla. It doesn't sound like you guys were ever vanilla. Like right from the get-go, you guys were doing kind of crazy things when you're 16, you know. For our age. For our age. And for that time, too, okay?

Like nowadays it's a little bit more open, but all the way back then that you were open with your relationship, and neither one, you know, just kind of, it sounds like it was very natural, you know what I mean? Like it was just like the way you guys started out with each other. Very open. I would say I have a very like my family's background is quite sexually progressive. I would say we're not from the U.S. We're from Europe.

Uh-huh. A bit of a different more like more is I guess. Yeah. And then his family, I hate it. I'll say it. But his father was like an old time like 1970s sort of swinger like. Oh, okay. So we have a little bit of that.

His father lived in a nudist community for a while. Like so we have a little bit of like kind of, you know, from our family back. backgrounds. I would say there was definitely more open. My mother would say things like you should talk to your teenagers about sex because you'll learn new and interesting things like that. Like, you know, like a very good attitude about it. And so I think we grew up that way without a lot of shame, with a lot of restriction. People just saying, listen, be safe, be sane, be smart. I grew up on Dan Savage and the Savage Love column in the choice. And it was all about just like being good, giving and game. And I think about that now. Like, you know, and that's what I normalize on

fat life, which is like no matter what kind of kink you're pursuing, even if it's deep kink, right? You're treating the other person with respect. You're trying to leave them better than you found them. You're responsible, like responsible kinkster, right? And as the dominant, you're, I think, the most responsible party because somebody's putting themselves in your hands. And Mr. C, he is a daddy dom. So, I mean, like, very high level of like responsibility and care to people.

And so that's always been kind of our motto, right, is that as long as you're doing it that way, and you're not hurting people either physically, I mean physically hurt them, right? And like we have some girls who love like heavy bruising. But, you know, as long as you're not hurting, damaging people, then like it's all good. There's no, there's no judgment.

There's no, like, negativity. And so that's, like I said, it's how we were brought up. And that's, I think, why we clicked together so well when we were very young. But did you get involved in the King community,

like, early on to learn about it? Because I feel like it's, what I was most surprised about when I started to talk to people that were, like, into BDSM or people who were dominated. There's so much more to it than people really know.

You know, I've heard the word subspace for the first time and learned about that. I mean, I feel like there's a learning curve that needs to happen, right? So, like, when was that time when you, was it when you were younger that you both realized that you were into this? And you, like, did you go to, like, meetups or clubs or parties? Yes, to all of that. So we, like I said, we lived in the suburbs. We moved into the city when I started college. And we had probably, it was 11 years before we had our first child.

So those 11 years, we were living in the city. I was going to college. He was going to college. I was going to graduate school. We were kind of building our lives as young professionals. And we were definitely going to lots of parties and events. And some of those groups don't even exist anymore. And it was definitely like the early, like the early 2000s, you know, sort of version of the community in New York.

And then, as I said, we took a long break. Right. For the kids. It was five or six years, you know, nearly a decade. I think that we had kind of a way. And then when we came back, we found is because we're so much more risk-averse, because of my career, because of our kids, we didn't really want to go back to, like, dungeons or clubs or, like, organized spaces.

I, like, live in fear of being recognized by somebody who knows me in the real world, that kind of thing. So we went with an anonymous approach. And then, like, as that life built up and people approached us, we were able to basically curate, like, hand-curate our own network. We host our own events. We hand-select. we want to have as part of it.

And then, you know, word of mouth spreads. And so we don't do too many events every year because I don't have the kind of mental bandwidth. Yeah. But we've built, I think, a really lovely sort of community that, like I said, we get to choose. And so we're not going into, like, you know, clubs or dungeons or, like, mostly party settings.

We're just doing our own thing. But people are gravitating our way, which is really great. Yeah. No, I mean, that's, like, amazing to get there. But it was a long time. Like, this is a long process, right? like many, many years. In those early days, when you and your guy would go to like a club or a dungeon or a party, I mean, because you're both kind of doms, right? Would you guys go off and do your own thing?

Like, were there any rules? Like, how did you guys roll in the beginning? Yeah. I mean, I think we like to be together. I mean, I actually used to those, there was a 10-year period. I actually had a lover too. And so I would go sometimes with my husband or sometimes with my lover. Those days had kind of passed. It was like a different time for me. But he was like an older lover who was a kind of a mentor as well. less than kink, I would say. He was not a kinky guy per se. Or not that kinky. Yeah, I mean, we like to play together.

So I think kind of my bisexuality was always an anchor for us because it allowed us to sort of share, you know, women. We figured out very early on the kind of swinging or swapping that sort of thing doesn't work for us because I don't like the bottom to anybody. I think the cuck couple concept, right, which maybe didn't even have a name, but sort of like, you know, a male that likes to watch or likes to kind of help or maybe a step. bag, right, rather than a cuck. That dynamic, I think, always worked really well for us and also just like solo women. I think I think there are a lot of women, you know, you call it a unicorn, but there are a lot of women who would like to experience, like their bisexuality, but also with a male,

like with a couple being focused on by two people. But it's hard to find couples who are experienced, not jealous, you know, like don't have all the hangups, right? And so I think people gravitated to us for that reason. I think the missing link for me, we're not missing, but the piece that I really enjoy now, especially, is doming males. And so, you know, like, Mr. C, again, because he's straight, can't really be, I mean, he can take a picture for me. He can sort of cheer me on, but it's not something that he can be like a full participant in. So that's something that, you know, I probably do a lot more of now that we've kind of built the life that we have, right, than I sort of did in the earlier days. Also, by the way, I mean, to your point, I think

you're right, a lot of men want to be domed, but it was a different time. You know, when I out my strap and my first, you know, like strap in 2001 or something. I was using it on women and convincing a male to be pegged. And by the way, the word pegging didn't exist, right? I think, you know, it's not like, I mean, today there's a whole younger generation, especially, that are very, very keen on it. So it's almost like the kink has come to me. You know, like the world has evolved in a way that then kind of really supports what I particularly enjoy. And also male bisexuality. I think again, I was growing up in the late 1990s, I was trying to tell somebody recently a younger person, like women being bisexual, especially for show, like where girls would make

out with each other at a party to turn boys on. That was like the kind of popular thing is like women experiencing bisexuality, but it was still very, very like not okay, not socially acceptable for males. That's obviously turned a huge way, right, like in sort of the current generation. And, you know, I really love like twinks and, you know, femme boys. Yeah. And they're so kind of, but more androgynous. But, you know, like, and people own that now. They, there's a lot more of those types of playmates.

So it's, you know, like I said, it's come my way, basically. Like, everything that I fantasized about back then has almost like manifested. Yeah. Well, you were like ahead of your time. When did you realize that you were into guy and guy action yourself? Yeah, I mean, really early on. I would say, like, when I was watching, I mean, you remember the 90s, but porn was not as accessible.

But, like, early porn. I mean, I think I was always gravitating to that kind of porn. It's really interesting. I think you're right, the generational bit. I mean, so today, I'm a mommy dom. Yeah. I think it's probably more than anything else. And a lot of my kind of boys are probably like, you know, I would say like 18, 19,

very rare. Wow. Sometimes you get a really mature one, right? Yeah. They're very rare. Through to like 26, 27. That's kind of my sweet spot. I really like them, you know, kind of very young, hot college age.

you know? And so there's definitely that, I mean, that's a really different generation. Yeah. I'm very willing. I think older, like I said, it's all these different dynamics, but I think it's, it's super hot. I think men together is like very primal, very raw. There's like, there's no emotion. They're just very physical. Like, that's what I really loved about it in porn. And now I have like, we have different dynamics. So for example, I'll do a scene with two boys, right, where they're just both like super hot and subby and they're kind of playing with each other for me. But I also have some great like daddy types who are like, as I, like, as I'm

Mr. C is not one of them, but people like him, kind of his age and sort of similar dynamic, right, kind of a daddy dom, and then I'll have like, you know, a daddy and a boy, right, in a scene. Or there's obviously a racial component too, if it's okay to say that. There's obviously kind of young, you know, guys who are really into like older men, but like black men, right? So there's like that dynamic. So you explore all these different types of fantasies depending on what the people in the scene are into, right? And I'll ask people kind of like if you were going to try this, right, this sort of forced by concept. Like when you close your eyes, what turns you on?

Is it a boy like you or is it an older guy or like, you know, what are you into? And I love seeing all of that range. And I especially love when people are trying it for the first time and they've just been harboring the fantasy. Also things like pegging, right, like harboring the fantasy, but haven't found anyone to do it with or haven't been comfortable trying it. And then they're trying it kind of with me for the first time. again, one of my favorite things. When I was in high school, I took a variety of, not a variety, a bunch of virginities among my friends. Oh, uh-huh. And so now I do the same thing, but it's like a different kind of virginity. It's like your femdom virginity, you're pegging virginity, you're forced by virginity, your whatever virginity. I love those first-time experiences. And I'll always say, like people ask me, you didn't ask, but it's, I'm sure, a question on the mind. Like, if you do this for many years, what still excites you? Like, what still kind of makes you interested? if you've tried everything.

And I think that's what it is for both Mr. C and me is the kind of excitement of seeing it through the eyes of somebody who's experiencing it kind of new. Yeah. And you're guiding them through it. And so that sort of new experience makes it fresh for you too. Right. Even if it's the same thing that you've done. It's because it's new for them.

I totally get it. Walk me through like you pick a guy, someone on Fet Life or a woman. I mean, you do, you dumb women and men, correct? Yeah. Yeah. You know, walk me through that process because like there's got to be a lot of consent and a lot of discussion ahead of time, right, just to make sure because sometimes there is quote unquote pain, like you said, right, depending on someone, what they're into.

You know, how does that conversation go? Is it, you know, and what is discussed? Yeah. I mean, I definitely encourage people. I've now built up like a library of articles and also podcasts that I've done like shorter ones on specific things. Where somebody interviews me about pegging or somebody interviews me about forced by or impact or, you know, toilet. play or whatever. And so I kind of encourage people to sort of listen to the pot or read the article and, you know, kind of be prepared for a conversation with me because it said I hear from hundreds and hundreds of people. And I can tell who's like, it's a throwaway. It's a one-liner. Hey, Mistress, which is not what I'm called. Please, Domney, I delete that, right? I just delete.

Yeah. But if somebody who says, hi, Dom and I read your stuff, I'm really interested. I want to, like, you know, I think I meet your criteria because I have a lot of criteria that I put down in terms of what I'm interested in, you know? And so you start that conversation, you sort of try to figure out, like, you know, what are your interests? Like, what excites you when you close your eyes? Again, what's the fantasy? What are your limits that you know of, right? Of course, we'll figure it out over time, too. And then especially what is new? Like, what have you never tried before, but you really would like to? And you just haven't found the situation you've been afraid to. And again, like, you know, women approach the two of us sometimes instead I'm interested in a couple or a boy will approach me individually. Women approach Mr. C individually. And so you just sort of figure out, you know, do we, is there an attraction?

You know, our schedule obviously revolves around our work and our kids, you know, so do the schedules align? Can we make this work? I mean, people who are not local, it doesn't work. You know, you don't want somebody traveling to you. So, you know, we look for kind of local. So there's an ease, right, of being able to do this. And I do like long term. I mean, I have boys that I'm with for months, years at a time because we can keep exploring and they're local and our schedules align. And that's really wonderful, right? Or like if I go to a particular city for work and I go over and over and over. again for years, I'll have the same boy that I've seen for five, six years in a row when I visit the city. And that's really great too. You can again develop kind of more long term with somebody. So we start out, I start out that way, kind of what is it that you're trying to create and what's the dynamic in your life that you're sort of trying to, you know, to explore. And again, if there's like a physical attraction, if all those things kind of align. But you're right, it did a lot of negotiation that, you do over time or kind of as you go, right, in the sense of like somebody wants to experience impact,

doesn't mean that Mr. C and I are going to bring her in here and just take out all of our heaviest tools and, like, they beat her to bleeding, right? Like, you start slow, you start gentle, and you figure out Mr. C is actually an amazing impact off. And so he's like, do you like a study? Do you like it when it stings? Like, you know, and then, you know, over time,

again, you develop that relationship with the person, they understand the, some people come to and they already know what kind of pain they like, what kind of tools they like, and then some people you develop over time. some people again like bruising some don't so impact is just like one example right yeah i mean forced by is a very sensitive one right where somebody has this fantasy let's say of something i mean some people are like i really just want to suck cock right i'm really aroused by dick i'm not necessarily aroused by the person attached to it but i'm really aroused by dick itself yeah or some people just want to be topped right they've been playing with dildos but they want to have like what what is a real cocky like right so it's like different again like different dynamics and so i think you work some of that out beforehand and then a lot of

that you work out as you go. They've been playing with dildos, but they want to have like, what is a real cock feel like, right? So it's like different, again, like different dynamics. And so I think you work some of that out beforehand. And then a lot of it you work out as you go. I always say like in a scene, yes, I have a safe word, but we like never even need to get to it because I'm always checking in as I go, right? There's kind of before care and during care and after care. And I'm always sort of like, how are you doing? Like, you know, like, are you okay? like people, people always talk about feeling very cared for by me and actually by us. Like I said, he's very much a daddy dom in that sense too, that you always feel like everything

with the tensions on you, you're exploring your fantasy, and that somebody's there with you the whole time. And when I build a scene with multiple people, which I usually do, a lot of it for me is like, it's like a puzzle in my head. I know that I've got three people and each of them has like these interests and these limits. How do I create almost like a dance, right? that allows each of them to have.

It's like, you know, synchronized and it's like complementary, right? Yeah. What this person fantasizes about and this person fantasizes, they're actually matching. And then we say it's like a team sport, right? So at the end of the scene, you look back and you say there was like moments where each person got to be the center of attention. So like if somebody's fantasy is being spit roasted, right? Like from both ends, there's like that moment for them.

And then for somebody that, you know, fantasy is something, there's a moment for them. And like, so everybody walks out of it having felt that they, had their moment in the spotlight, and then they also contributed to other people's moments. And that's why I talk about it like a community, right? Because it's meant to be like, again, like a team sport. And you're there to feel good, but you're also trying to make other people feel good. And actually, that's one of my first sort of, it's one of the first things that I think about. When a boy reaches out to me, is he just thinking about himself?

Or is he like, how can I serve you, Domina? Like, how can I, you know, do something for you, right? So that idea of coming to kink in a selfless way, like not that all of us are selfish, But I think if you start from this premise that I want to please others, I want to make others happy in a scene, and then you assume that they're going to do the same for you. Like, that's a really great starting point. That's the kind of people we look for for our quote community is people who want to contribute of themselves. And then, of course, they're going to get out of it as well. Yeah, I mean, you mentioned criteria.

You know, what are some of the other things that you look for and the people who reach out to you? Because you said, you get a lot of people. So, you know, and you're vetting them, right? So a lot of people don't meet that criteria. Like I know I'm going to have listeners that are going to reach out to you because there's a lot of guys looking for a force by scenario and all that kind of stuff. So like what are you looking for in the people when you're going through your stuff? Definitely. I mean, so like I said, I think physical attraction is really big for me.

So there's kind of an age and like, you know, kind of body type is that component of it. Right. I mean, I'm not one of the things that we talked about, I think before the show started, right? Like about sort of pro dom services, right? or kind of things that people do for money. Like I think sometimes, not that like, obviously a professional is going to do what she wants to do as well, but I think the criteria could be a bit different in terms of just like raw personal attraction.

Like I just touch the people that I really desire and nobody else, right? And I think if you're looking at it as a business, maybe that's not quite how you do it, right? It's not just, oh, my God, I really want to, I just desire them. It's probably, it would be limiting to a business if you sort of took it that way. So just, yeah, I'm looking for people that I'm really, really attracted to that we are both really attracted to if it's sort of women that we're playing with. And then I said, you know, kind of like age, body type, location, availability, both kind of actual availability, but also

just like mental availability. I think if you find that somebody is hiding everything from their family and it's very kind of wrapped in shame and it's all like, you know, I have to shut off my set for the next two weeks because my girlfriend is going to be looking over my shoulder because I can't do this because, you know, my wife could find out, like don't, don't contact me at this. It's just, it's like, no, I mean, people can do whatever they want, no judgment, but it just makes it harder for us where it feels like it's like sneaky and difficult. I would just, you know, rather it be like people feeling good about what they're doing and exploring, right? And this being a good part of their lives, right? And I do recognize there is going to be some shame associated with, especially things like forced by or kind of submission in general.

Sometimes people need a cool off period, right? And then they sort of decide they're going to come back to it again, right? that actually like, even though they're a little ashamed after it happened is, you know, the fantasy is enough, but they're excited about it to do it again. And we talk about that too. Like, you know, if you, like sometimes I know, for example, I have boys who, the minute they orgasm, it's over for them. And I know that.

And I sort of respect that. Like, I prevent them from coming until the end of the scene. And then I let them sneak out afterwards, right? Yes. To interact with anybody. I mean, you're just, you know, that's a way of just kind of being respectful of somebody's kind of emotions in psychology, but it's very different, I think, than when someone comes to you and the whole thing is, like, just in their minds, like a lot of turmoil, right? I'm not a trained

psychologist. I don't want to sort of be contributing to something negative and not being able to manage that. So I think people coming to us in good terms, so somebody will say, for example, a woman will say, you know, I just got divorced and it was a very sort of repressive, you know, kind of marriage, and now I've really got this opportunity to explore my sexuality. Yes, we want to be part of that. Or, you know, a boy says to me, I've been kind of pushing this to back of my mind for a long time, but it's always been there. I've always wanted to sort of experience submission. I've always felt like I had to take the dom world with all my girlfriends, my same age, but I really just want to submit to an older woman. I really just, you know, like, yes, right?

Like it's like it's aligned with that moment in their life and the fantasy that they want to pursue and it feels healthy. Yeah. And that's where I want to participate. That's kind of it, you know, in terms of, again, like geographic proximity, schedule, where the person is mentally. and then kind of my personal attraction. Yeah, and what is? Like, what is your type when it comes to men and women? I know, you've said twinks a lot.

Like, you like, it sounds like you like, maybe you like the younger guys. Yes, I like, I like an athletic, muscular kind of like, I mean, like, you know, like something, anything from kind of twicky to twonky, right? Twonk, yeah. Twunks. Yeah, so I like young and like very fit, beautiful, beautiful boys. Hung is great. You know, that's fun to play with the big. one, but if they're not that hung, I'll just cage it. I mean, that's like we do lots of different things,

you know, male chastity. People like to explore that. I think with women, we have a broader range. Like, there are definitely some of the younger girls who are in college, post-college, in grad school, again, kind of exploring before they get into that part of our lives that you and I know, right, where you have like a young family. So that's kind of still free. And then there's the women on the other side of that, right, who have kids and, again, maybe are married or kind of are divorced and are kind of experiencing that second wind, right? So we have, I think, women on both sides of that. And then in terms of males, like partners, right,

who are not necessarily my subs, but they're kind of co-tops with me. Yeah. They're good friends. I like, you know, I mean, guys my age, professionals, people who have careers who are highly educated, who have all the same things to lose that I do. And who also come to it from a great, like, mental perspective, too.

I always look for a male dom who's going to, assist me in doming either boys or girls, I'm looking for someone who has that same mentality that I do, right? That I'm here to leave the person better than I found them. I'm here to, you know, be responsible. I'm here to treat them well, right? I'm not selfish as a dominant. I'm always like when I, I think the highest praise is what I sort of say like, that guy is just like me except a male version, right? That's why I love to sort of collaborate with or, you know, become friends with and play with. Right. But when, so during these scenes that you're doing with these people. Is there always sex? Is there sometimes no sex? Is it a mix? Because I know it's

very mental, right? And some people, I know a lot of guys are very into tease in denial. They want to be humiliated. You know, maybe they want to not be able to come at all ever during the whole scene. Is there sometimes, though, I know sometimes you're pegging them or sometimes them like banging, like having sex with you, like, you know, in the scenes when it's actually happening? Is it all of the above considered like just dependent on the person and what they want, right? So I don't really do penetrative play. I don't enjoy it. It's just I'm not, I figure this out very early on that I only come from the clit.

So I would say that everybody goes down on me. I mean, I love that. That's how I come, right? Yeah. And I don't, like, why do a scene if I'm not going to be able to come, right? Yeah, that's how I say it. Yeah. It's definitely sexual.

It's definitely sexual for me. But that receiving oral, right, that's kind of my bag. I would say most people do orgasm. Yes. I think at some point they earn it, right? So even if they're caged for part of it, there's male chastity. Like, you know, like caged, you know, they earn the release. Yeah.

There are absolutely some folks who don't want orgasm. And I respect that. I mean, that's great. They go home afterwards and then they text me, right? And it's like, I came and I thought about it and I came, right? And I'll hear about it afterwards. But I think for the most part, you know, someone was here at a bigger event a couple of months ago and she was talking about she is in a different kind of, I think,

she's a dominant as well and I think a much more formal right with some formal training and some professional experience and where it there is a non-sexual version of kink right yeah we're just doing you know fire play or electro play or wax or obviously impact and she was talking about how our events are which is there's like a friendly element there's like a playful you know kind of you know social element there's a kink right kind of a bdSM or fetish element and then there's a sexual element. So the end of the party, by the end of the party, people are kind of off having sex, right? Where it kind of morphs from the beginning where you might be doing, you know, different forms of sort of kink play.

And then over time it turns into, I don't want to say orgy, but more of like a sex party. And that sort of, you know, that everybody gets to participate in whatever part they want to and but it kind of morphs over the course of the night. And that's what I would say. I would say we are sexual doms. we are pleasure doms, we are, you know, we're not, it's, again, not like a, you come in and this is the service I'm providing to you. But, you know, like, it comes in different forms. Like, somebody may want to orgasm, but they're orgasming in my shower, you know, me using my hand on them, they're covered in my piss, right? Like, that's a very different kind of orgasm than somebody

who's, I'm pegging him and another boy is sucking his dick and that he, you know, he comes that way. So I don't have sex with subs, you know, like I said, by and large, I'm not a big fan of sort of penetrative play. I don't bottom. But people are, people are having orgasms, yes. And they're having orgasms, I would say, like in a variety of ways, depending on kind of what, you know, we've determined in discussion, might be the most hot way for them to sort of finish. And do you have orgasms? Yes. Like I said, people go down on me. Yeah. And you will come, right? I almost say like, you know, you don't get anything until I'm the first one. I'm the last one comes. I'm the one who comes the most, right? Otherwise, why would I be here doing all, making all these

efforts? I mean, that's kind of like it's a joke. But yeah, but I would say yes, I always come. And that's part of the scene for me, for sure. And now, quick question about you and your husband's sex life. Like, when you're in bed with him alone, you know, separate from this, like, who are you in that scenario? Are you more subby when you're with him? Because that's like your release because you're always doming everyone and that's a big part of your life. You know, because you're both doms, right? In this world. So when you guys are together alone, like, what's that dynamically? like it's such an interesting question we like struggle with this a little bit i do not sub ever i don't i don't have i don't have any capacity for it at all okay and so that idea of like where you need a

place of release i don't have that i i thrive on sort of organizing and controlling and leading and dominating and that's actually how i get my release like i would say when a long period goes by where i haven't had a scene i'm like pent up you know and so that's how it like that's how i process right It's my stress release. But I would say it's just very, like not very, but it's very vanilla in the sense that we, you know, he knows better than to try to make me feel it anyway sub. Yeah. I do the same thing for him.

I mean, he likes, I mean, you know, he likes space sitting or kind of sort of those some things that, you know, and he's also very much to me like a service, I want to say service sub, but he definitely might, my love language in a relationship is acts of service. And as I said, he's a stay-at-home parent, right? and I'm the breadwinner. And so by nature, you know, he, like, he knows that, like, the house being really tidy and the laundry being done and everything kind of being, like, that's how I come home and I'm like, oh, everything's so great and I feel really, like, loved and taken care of.

Yeah. So that's a good dynamic for us. And I think physically, I think it's back to, like, when we were in high school. It's the way that we approach each other is I just want to make the person feel good. And at this point, 20, almost 30 years later, like, I know all their buttons, right? So I know exact. I mean, he loves, like, a great, like, extended blow. job we call them blow careers.

Oh, really? It's so good. It's not just the job, it's a career. Oh, my God, hilarious. Yeah. How long did those last? How long do you blow in them for? It could be an hour because you're doing a lot of teasing and a lot of, so, you know,

that's like a big treat. He likes, you know, he likes, like a massage. He likes, like my nails. Like, like, like, like with the tickling. I mean, so he's like, you know, special things you do for each other. Obviously, like, you know, he's amazing at giving oral because, you know, like he's, he's the benchmark against which everybody else is judged for me. Yeah.

Yeah. So we have a great. kind of very loving dynamic, I think, between us, which we are very careful not to ever edge into any kind of like, you know, you're trying to make someone feel like you're doming them. Like even like, like, even little things. Like if you were like smack my ass, I think I would notice. Do you know what I mean? I'd be like, let me smack you back then if that's how it's going to be.

Oh, my God. You're so funny. Yeah. Yeah. So we're kind of like we're very, but we both very sensitive to it. Yeah. And so we just don't. And because we have, you know, the rest of our sort of, you know, lives, our sexual

lines or outlets for that. We don't need to. Yeah, I was going to say, too, like, I mean, is your husband into seeing you, Dom, guys, do you watch these scenes? Is that a part of your guys turn on? Is there some sort of, like, reclaiming going on between the two of you that really makes it super hot as well? I would say reclaiming probably not, like, in the sense of, you know, we don't feel, like,

28 years together. We've built a life. Like, there's, like, never this moment of jealousy or, like, is this person going to take my place? or like, you know, ownership. Like, I would say that we both like to watch each other just because I'm really impressed that his skill and vice versa. Like he thinks that I'm a really great Dom.

And I think he's a really great, like I said, Impact Top. I'm so impressed with, you know, how great he's gotten with impact. He does bondage, rope. I do rope a little bit too. Like, you know, I just, I'm impressed. Like, he posts stuff on, on Fat Life. And I'm always like, if I wasn't there, if it was like a scene that he had with one of the girls and I didn't go see it.

I'm always like the first one who wants to see the pictures and videos. and be like impressed, you know, by what it looks like. And I don't feel jealous of that. I feel excited for him, you know? And I think he, the same. You know, we talk about, like, I recently made a trip. I go every year to London for work. And he knows that I have a great cohort of boys there and some of my favorites.

And like, he's happy for me. Like, I'm like, oh, this worked out. And this one of my favorites is going to stay with me all weekend. And like, he's happy for me, right? But like, it's, you know, I'm going to be over there for a couple weeks working. He knows it's stressful in the office. Like it's a big trip. I'm away from the family.

And so he wants me to have that kind of outlet or release, right? And so I'm going to take care of me because the boys over there are like cooking for me and like, you know, taking care of me when I'm traveling, right? I have an apartment. They come and they kind of, you know, like stay with me and cook for me and everything. So, yeah, again, I don't know if it's like, again, a reclaiming, but it's more of like a support, right? You're watching the other person. You're like, I'm just very impressed. And I'm also really happy.

You're cheering them on. And this was, like I said, we had this dynamic in high school, too, when we sort of opened the relationship up after a couple of years of being, I mean, de facto monogamous because we hadn't quite figured out, like how to include other people. Yeah. But the early part of it was this kind of, I don't want to say contest, because it sounds crass. But it was almost this, like I said, I had a bunch of friends that I took their virginities. And he had a number of girls the same. And we were almost kind of cheering each other on. Yeah.

You know, like, oh, tell me about it. Like, you know, and, you know, it's like a success. And like his success is like my success were a team, right? And then it wasn't until we actually, until I sort of felt like I wanted to explore my bisexuality. And we started playing together with other women or, you know, sometimes with kind of more, you know, cuck or stag-type couples that we actually got to be in the same room together. And then we started going to parties and, you know, kind of seeing each other. And that's always been, like I said, it's a big joy, like to be able to watch someone that you love,

enjoy themselves. And especially in ways that you know. know, like, I don't have a proclivity to, right? So he's, like I said, an amazing impact top. I don't take any impact. I love watching him enjoy that, right? And it's a way that he can experience it, not with me, but I can be super supportive of it.

Yeah, you know, you think on paper, like, how would this work, right? But yet when you hear you talk about, when I hear you talk about your relationship with your guy, I mean, you sound so perfectly suited for each other, right? it's kind of crazy that you met. But you would think maybe if someone just said, oh, like, you know, how's a, you know, two doms going to cohabitate together and be happy and fulfill each other's needs. But, I mean, I guess having that open relationship and be able to go and get

some of those needs met elsewhere and loving the fact that, you know, your partner's doing it and supporting that makes it work. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think we were together before we had language for this. Yeah. And before we could identify as dominance, before we had any real experience to share with anybody, we were just sort of building that experience together.

So, you know, we grew as a unit, I suppose, right? And so you continue that way as a unit, right? Which is not to say that they're having been difficult periods. I mean, any marriage has lasted. We got married in 2000. We started dating in 1987 and got married in 2000. So we're talking about 25 years this year in the fall, be our anniversary. you know, and a couple of kids and dramatic families on both sides and this and that and ups and downs

the economy and careers. And so there's always stuff, right? I mean, it's like never perfect. Of course. But I think the core of the fundamental is that if this is your best friend and someone that you've been with for this long, long time that you've grown with, you know, that's where you keep anchoring too. You know, look, I want my best friend to be happy.

And like I said, we have such a like a life built together and all the memories and all the experiences and our kids. And, you know, because we were together for so many years before we had our kids, we always say this, we were together for, our son was born in 2011. We were together from 1997. So we're talking about 14 years that we had a relationship before we had children in common. Yeah. And so that's not the, like, the core of our lives is not just being parents together, which is for many couples, right, when they have kids quite early on in their relationships. So we can imagine, you know, the kind of next stage, too, where we're like empty nesters, right? is not so soon, but it's coming up sooner than I'd like.

Yeah, yeah. You know, like we can imagine that next phase too. Like, we kind of, we definitely know who we are to each other, right? And I think because we met when we were so young, that kind of who we are to each other, that core is almost like from those days from being 14, 16. It's like, you know, it's friendship and it's sort of exploration together. It's like the way we imprinted on each other, I think, early on. We were not both sort of whole and grown and complete adults.

who had to then come together as adults. Yeah. We were still like, you know, we were like still very bendable, right? Of course. Very malleable and we grew together. And that I think is probably the kind of the core of our strength, you know, because we, you know, like we are, it's impossible to imagine us separately, I guess, to me, right? So that's one I think about like him with one of his female subs or he thinks about me with

someone. It's hard to imagine that somebody would ever displace my role or his role in. my life, right? So that's, I think, where the lack of jealousy, ideally, right, can come from. Yeah, no. I mean, that's the ultimate place to be. I mean, you trust him so much and him with you as well. I mean, you mentioned you had a lover for once for many, many years. That lover, like, you got, you can have lovers. Has he had lovers to? Like for years, right? Like, he has people, his regular relationships. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And now, when you say relationships, is it like, would you consider yourself Polly? Are there emotions involved or is there, they're just sexual

relationships that are long term. There's definitely been periods over the last 25 years where we have been polly because something has risen to the level of relationships. Yeah, interesting. And so forth, not all the time. Like I said, there was that decade when the kids were young, we just neither one of us had the kind of emotional bandwidth for it. Yeah, of course. But we talk about that when that happens when somebody sort of, you know, becomes more ongoing, more special. There's like more of an emotional component. You know, we just, yeah, we just navigate those things as they go. I think the lover back in the day was much older than me. He was probably twice my age. And so, you know, my husband and I at the time were, again, very young college, grad school. And this was

somebody much older. And so again, it wasn't like, you know, I wasn't going to run off with this much older guy who already had a family of his own. I was obviously going to be with my husband and we were going to build our own family together. And now I think we're on the other side of that trade where a lot of the folks that we attract tend to be younger. And, you know, like clearly neither of us is going to run off with a much younger person and start over. You know, we are very committed to our existing family. So that probably helps because it's not necessarily, it hasn't been like a peer, like a one-to-one, somebody at same age, somebody similar. It's been someone in a kind of a different demographic, I would say, with a different dynamic. Yeah. Quick question where I have two quick questions before

we end it. Like you talk about these events, these parties that you take place, like the things that are going down. You mentioned he's in my shower with pee all over him. Like where are these things taking place. Do you have a dungeon in your house somewhere? Do you rent out hotels? Like where, where do all these scenes take place? Yeah, no, it's just here at home. We have a big suburban house, big suburban yard, lots of space. We have a lot of good hiding, hiding places for all of our year. You know, we bought actually special furniture in the bedroom that has lots of drawers and like lots of cabinets, lots of places to hide our stuff. And so it's all, I mean, we don't, so far at all the events and some of the biggest events have been like 60 plus people so far all the events have been at home

oh wow including the use of the backyard so i'll give you an example a couple years ago we did an event we used the yard it was a roman coliseum oh wow so all of the men were gladiators and we created an arena in the middle of the yard and they were competing in gladiatorial games that were obviously some of them sexual in nature and then mr c had a harem of ladies and he was giving the ladies out as prizes to the gladiators Oh, wow. Everybody consenting, all, you know, kind of pre-race. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then last year in the same, we do an annual summer event, we did the backyard.

We created the kama sutra. So we decorated accordingly. We had like lanterns and kind of like, you know, beautiful fabrics and we created like tinted everything and like rugs and so and throw pillows. And so we had kind of like a kama sutra. And basically you would pick a number from a bowl. And the number would correlate to a position. in the Kama Sutra and you had to build that position with your group.

It was like, you know, everybody was assigned to a group. And we would all watch each other create these sort of sexual positions. And then this year, we're all going to be pirates in July on a pirate ship because the derivation of pegging. Sorry. Yeah. The lore, it comes from the pegs on the ship, right, where you would have a peg boy who would be sitting on a peg to be of service, right, to the sailors. And so we're going to build, we have friends who are going to help us build. like kind of an outline of a wooden ship and we're going to have a mask that we're going to

attach people to for flogging. We're going to have a plank that we're going to make people walk the plank, kind of a gauntlet of abuse, right? And then we're going to have pegs for people to sit on so they can be peg boys and peg girls. And so like in the winter we do a smaller party so we try to scale it down, maybe 40 people and it can be indoors. And then in the summer, we use the backyard so we can make it bigger. Well, that all leads to my last question, which is like, do people in your vanilla life or your neighbors or any outside of this world know about Domina? I think very peripherally or very minimally.

Yeah, we do have big high privacy fencing. We also tent the yard, right? So people can't see what's going on underneath when we're playing. So I would say I've never heard a word from the neighbors. It's actually really interesting because I think people see what they want to see and what they're capable of seeing. So sometimes I will kidnap a boy from the train station and I'll put a hood on him and a collar and a leash and everything.

bring him like in the car, sometimes in like the trunk of the car. I know. And then I'll walk into the front door and I'll look around beforehand to make sure there's like no car is driving by, but like no one's ever said a word to me about, hey, I saw you the other day walking like a, you know, like a hooded person on a leash into your house. Like no one's ever said a word, right? I'm very discreet about it. Yeah.

Very discreet. But I do it. And then, you know, in terms of family, I think, yes, a little bit. Like I think on my side of the family, as I said, on his side of the family, there's some folks who are more sexually open. And I think with those folks, we have been a bit more open about kind of we have a non-traditional lifestyle, right? We are not monogamous. We're kind of, you know, we play. And so like my sister, my mom a little bit, like, you know, his father, there's definitely some folks. So again, like, we're not trying to, you know, fill them in on all

the gory details. Of course. But they certainly, like, my mom will take the kids sometimes when we're having one of the events like during the school year. And she'll take the kids for a weekend. And she knows, you know, we're having people over, we're having fun. It's interesting because the kids are getting to be an age, right? Yeah. Kind of like 3-teen and teen where they're sort of, you know, picking things up too. And I think that, you know, it's all kind of age-appropriate, right? Where you sort of say, like, you know, adulthood doesn't have to be the end of fun or the end of play, right?

Or like the adulthood should be this aspirational thing where you work hard and you like earn yourself the opportunity through working hard to make the life that you want. I include travel. It might include whatever luxuries you want to have, but also time with your friends and having a good time in play. And so, you know, I think over time we probably will sort of have to talk to the kids about, like, you know, like some folks are very traditional in their values, let's say, in terms of monogamy. And by the way, they're getting this stuff from social media and from things they watch, right? They obviously see lots of.

And so I think it kind of all builds into that. Like you talked about some of the Disney movies and stuff. My daughter and I watch some of these like shows on Netflix, high school shows. And there's lots of characters who are queer and trans and buy and non-monogamous. And so you're just talking about this kind of spectrum, right? I know that kids don't want to think about their parents that way, but it's just as they get older, right? You just sort of say like, look, we, you know, this is the life that we want. We love each other.

And, you know, like all of, and I think, you know, again, when kids are old enough to sort of talk about this, you say like, it's all about consent, right? It's all about, you know, being, being of one mind about this and not about kind of sneaking around or hurting someone behind their back. But if it's something that, you know, everybody's happy with, then there's no need to be judgmental. And that's how our parents raised us, too. So I think that is the model for how we would do it with our kids. So, yes. And I think I have some friends, like, from graduate school, like some of my female friends who are kind of more aware. And they love it.

They cheer me on. One of them is a swinger herself. She's more like a more vanilla swinger, right? just kind of sex parties. And, you know, I accept them for who they are. They accept me for who I am too. Now, has anyone ever seen you on FetLife or do you have no facepicks on FetLife? I have no face pics on Fet Life whatsoever, but there are at least three people in my network

who I knew before from either graduate school, from work, from kind of vanilla life. And we, like, you know, started talking on Fet Life without knowing that, sent each other photos without knowing that and then figured it out. Oh, my God. I'm really blessed that all three are women and not men. I'm really blessed that they're amazing women. And that in all three cases, we just said, you know what? This is okay.

Like we knew each other before in other contexts. And now we know this about each other. And we actually are really interested in pursuing a, you know, friendship in this way. In one case, she said, man, I wish I knew back then when we were in grad school together 15 years ago. I wish I knew it then because we could have explored it then too. Yeah, of course. You know, she's a submissive, right? So, like, I think we've just had, I've had a really good hit rate where when somebody does find out who's also in the King community, they either, number one, just want to protect me and not sort of make a problem for me. And in these cases, they actually want to continue to participate or they want to play, right? And so we're okay, I'm going to protect you, you, you protect me, I'm going to make sure that, you know, doesn't affect your life and you affect me. And then we're kind of in it together. I talked about the whole team sport thing. So I think about a. in that sense too. But as I said, the ability to kind of hand select people that way is really

valuable versus like going into very public venues where it could be anybody. And you don't know what that person's going to be like or how they're going to respond, you know. Yeah, no. And I mean, these parties that you're having where all these people are showing up, you're curating them too. I mean, I know that listeners are listening and, you know, I don't know, you know, as an opportunist myself, I'm sure some people are like, oh my God, I want to go to that party. Like, how do I get in on this action? Like, why don't you give a shout out to your fat life? And is there a possibility like that somebody, if they get into your scenes, like that's once they're in that world or they've done a scene with you, they do get invited to those parties? Like, how does that work? That's exactly. That's exactly who comes to the party. So, so yes, see Aphrodite, fat life. I post, you know, the parties a couple times a year, the bigger ones. And they're built around women. So what we'll do is we'll say, women raise your hand. How many women want to come to the party and play? And so let's say we have 30 women raise their hand. I want to come and play.

Yeah. Well, who are you? Are you a Dom who wants me to match you up with a couple of subs? Are you a sub who wants me to match you up with a couple of bulls or, you know, tops? Are you bringing your own people or do you want to sort of pick from my network? And then we create, like, a catalog, interested. And they have to be people who have played with me, people that I can vouch for myself. And then the women, let's say those 30 women start looking at this catalog of 100 men.

And they start telling me, like, these are the people that I think I'm interested in. and I can give them some insight because I know these folks, right? So I played with them. I know what they're like. And we match. We basically match. And so when people come to the event, they're not alone. They're pre-matched.

And each group is led by a woman. Yeah. So it'll be like a woman who has chosen herself a dominant male and a submissive male. And it's going to be a bull and cuck dynamic around her. And then when they come to the event, we do the play ahead of time, right? So it's the gladiatorial games or the commissuture or the whatever word. we're doing. And then afterwards, you're obviously free to go off and actually play, like, by which I mean sex, like with your group that you either brought with you because it's your own

partners or that you've selected ahead of time. And then what I say is that the women are very welcome to trade partners or share partners consensually, right? Like whatever the women want to do, the women are in charge. What I don't allow is males like breaking off from the woman they came with and looking for somebody else. Oh, interesting. Right. Right. So that's, you know, you stay with the woman who brought you, basically, unless she is, you know, has negotiated that she's going to share you with someone, trade you, et cetera. And that's how it works. And so the men who are in my scenes, who get to know me, sometimes in other cities, I've had playmates like in Boston or Philly or D.C. who say, you know what, can I come to New York for one of your events? And then

they crash. We've had people like 12 people crash overnight because they came from other cities, right? And I'll say, yeah, you know, you're a great guy. I've played with you. I've enjoyed you. And I'm happy to facilitate this ability for you to have this experience. I can't guarantee it because you have to be chosen by one of the women. But if you're chosen, I'm supportive, right? And so that's how the parties are built. Is basically people who we know, very rarely somebody that we don't know, like, you know, but seems really, really great. But usually I like to know the person so I can vouch for them. And then, yeah, people who have known me, especially for years, get to go to many parties, right? They get to go every year. But the network grows that way. Yeah, and your parties

are probably great because of the way you're putting that together. You sound like a producer of a big event, right? I mean, you're really... It's really fun. I only have, like I said, the kind of capacity to do it a couple of times a year, but it's incredibly fun to plan for a couple of months ahead of time and then kind of really see it come to life. Yeah, no, that's amazing.

I know you're going to get a lot of people going and checking you out on Fat Life. I'm going to put your Fat Life in the description so anyone driving, you know, it's going to be like right there so you could go find her on Fat Life. If you could do me a favor and send me some anonymous picks for my Patreon. that would be great. I have over 2,600 people on there. So, and I'll give you free access to my Patreon for a month so you could see the comments, talk to people. And I'll also give you free access to my Discord. I think I have like 5,000 people on there. So you could go on there as well. And that's where like the X-rated stuff comes in if you want. You know, for me, for my Patreon, I just do R-rated,

like, sexy picks of people, you know, always anonymous. You're anonymous anyway, so that's great. So if you could send me that, that'd be killer. Get me that stuff sooner than later. sure I have neither a discord or a Patreon but I will figure out but I can send you some Oh yeah you don't need to listen Discord is you just go and sign up and you could just like post stuff You don't have to if you don't want to that's just the place where people you know my guess can go in It's a great like if you're looking for more followers. It's a great place to promote I don't mind that at all Or if you want to go talk to people and you like that interaction But if you don't want to you don't have to it'll be a free links

You know other everybody else pays to get in a Patreon is just for you to go and see the comments But if you don't want to you don't have to I mean you know but I'll pull post the picks on my Patreon, you know, so just send me them and I'll post them there for my Patreon members to see over there. So, and like I said, get me them sooner than later because I'm going to definitely post this on Friday and it goes up early on my Patreon. So it'll be up on my Patreon on Thursday. Perfect. But yeah, but like I said, if we can tell folks to like said, like said, kind of go to Fat Life. Fet Life is also free to make. Oh, they're going to go to Fat Life. Trust me. Yeah. I do think of it, like I said, as like the reason I've stayed on the one site is that it's a

community of tinksters. And I want it to be kind of special as like the one place. I'm asked on you some stuff, but generally speaking, it's the kind of the one place where people can go and see it because it's like, you know, it's like our own. It's like your, you kind of your inner community of like Oh, no, listen, your file like, listen, you have 160,000 people on there for a reason because it's kind of like an only fan's, but it's free. I mean, like literally people just go there and you have all this content that you're talking about these scenes, these things, right? Like that's where everything is, right? On my page, and they're just going to see an anonymous aspects. But trust me, my people are going to go see you on Fat Life because that's where

the good stuff is, right? All the videos. And it's all free. Like, I mean, I think that's pretty amazing that you have that all over there. So your name for Fat Life will be over there. There's no link for Fat Life, but people will sign, you know, if they want to find you, they just sign up and go over there. Or if they're on the Fed Life, they'll go, which they are. So anyway, thank you so much for calling in. I love your story. You sound super smart. I know you're going to get a lot of my listeners going over and checking you out. And maybe I'll have your husband on one time. That would be super interesting. He's done his own pods and he definitely can do it.

It was so lovely to meet you in their quotes, but it was great to talk to you. Thank you so much. Yeah. I'll send you, you know, if you still have the link for your husband, give it to him to a book or I'll just text it to you

and have him book whenever he wants, okay? Yeah, we'll do that. All right. Awesome. Thanks so much for calling in. All right. Take care. Have a nice holiday.

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