Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 115 - Dave Got Cheated On & Dracul is into Blumpkins

Episode Date: March 1, 2016

First caller Dave got cheated on by his wife a month ago and doesn't know what he's going to do. How did he find out? Who was she cheating on him with? Should he leave her? Tune in to find out plus hear a short call from a guy named Dracul who is very into Blumpkins. Don't know what a blumpkin is? He explains plus gives details about his first sexual experience and more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I don't know who the people are. I never out them. I mean, like I said, I don't even know who they are. So I couldn't out them even if I wanted to. But you get to make up your name and you get to make up where you're from. I just require you to be honest about everything else. And I can even fuck with your voice, by the way. I could change anyone's voice completely.

So write in if you want to be on the show strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. Today I have on the show. Today my podcast is late. And being aired because I was taping a podcast yesterday, which was really good. I just listened to it and edited it. And it's a really good podcast about a guy whose wife cheated on him, like hardcore cheated. And I think it's a great topic. because I think a lot of guys can relate

and I think that I give him a lot of good advice about cheating and we just talk about the subject in a good way but the problem is we were having technical issues which I deleted or like you know I edited it out but towards the end of the conversation we had spoke probably about 40 minutes we had more technical issues

and we got disconnected and then he was never reachable again I tried calling him back I tried emailing him he just fucking disappeared I've been trying everything since yesterday. Email. I called him only once, back once. And he's gone. So I can't, I just got to error the episode because I think it's really good. So what I decided to do was pair it with another hang up. I have like five hangups. Most of them are all guys with really bad accents. Then I met on an adult friend finder like three of those, okay? Three poor guys who called up,

but could barely speak English and then they just hung up. But I also had this one guy who to me was going to be like one of my best podcast ever. He was a guy who was going to who was calling himself Dracula and he I found him on Craigslist and he was into Blumpkins. I didn't know what a fucking Blumkin was. I'm not going to tell you what it is. If you don't know, you're going to have to listen because he explains it. I ask him to explain it to my listeners because I had never heard of it. But he was really interested in a blomkening or getting a blumkin or having an like engaging in a Blumkin with a woman, and that's what we were going to talk about. And we talked about it for a little while. His call is not 30, 40 minutes. His call's like 10 minutes, maybe. I don't know. He could have been

two hours. I know he was going to be super interesting because he sent me like a million emails, but maybe he was just like, I'll talk, no action. I don't know, because this was a guy that had so much shit to say. I could maybe read his emails, but I think that that would be boring. You know, but he just called it and explained what bumpkins were. He talked about some early sexual experiences. And then he was about to reveal what happened to him when he was like younger. And he just like checked out and never to be heard from again, kind of like this guy today. He didn't respond to emails, nothing.

I tried everything I could to get him back on because he was definitely going to be a good guy to talk to. And he sounded funny too and cool. but I don't know he checked out and that was it. So anyway, I paired him up with this guy because it's just like hangups, two hangups, two interesting calls. So if you want to know what a Blumkin is, you'll have to listen to the cheating episode first. And if you're into cheating and maybe you don't care what a Blumkin is, I suggest just waiting to hear the second one because like I said, it's only 10 minutes

and it's kind of entertaining. His name is Dracula. So after that one ends, I'll do a little like something to pair them up together. And that's that's the, that's it. So I'll be right back on with Dave. Do you have a story, lifestyle, or situation you can't talk about to anyone, to anyone? Or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show? Well, Strictly Anonymous wants to hear from you.

Send us an email, Strictly Anonymous podcast at gmail.com with your story and your anonymous name. And remember, everything is strictly anonymous. Strictly anonymous. Hi, this is Dave from Colorado. Yes, it is. Hey, Dave from Colorado. How are you doing? I'm good.

How are you? I'm good. So, I responded to your ad. I just reread your ad on Craigslist that you posted, and it just basically doesn't give a lot of information, and that's the way I like to take my calls anyway. And basically what happened is your wife, you caught your wife cheating on you, and you're looking for a woman's perspective. And I know the emails that we that went back and forth between us,

like you kept essaying to me like it's so odd that somebody's emailing me on Craigslist, you know, to be on a show, which I get. But I would say probably some people would say it's very odd that you posted your ad on Craigslist, right? So I wonder, because I get a lot of people that post out.

I see a lot of guys. I put in a search term. I just put in the word advice and then I get all these email. ads for all over the United States that guys like you are posting and they're looking for advice. Do you think it's because like, I mean, why did you post your ad on Craigslist in the casual encounters

department about your wife cheating? Say that again. Why did you post your ad, right? In that, on Craigslist looking for advice. Is it because like you don't have any female friends or is it because you don't want anyone to know like in your regular life? What

happened with your wife? Like, why would Why does somebody posting out on Craigslist looking for strangers' advice? I know why I do it. And I have a feeling I know why maybe you would do it, but I'm just wondering from you. I did it because I don't like your second way, but it was, I know I kind of want to keep it. No one really knows. So I don't want to keep it, you know, confidential, anonymous, you know. Uh-huh.

I don't want a bunch of people to know my business. Right. And I think it's pretty, like, embarrassing, right? when, I mean, it's the same thing for a woman. I've had guys cheat on me before. I think we've all experienced it. I think women experience it a lot more than men because a lot of men cheat. I think it's a little, I mean, women cheat too all the time, right?

My brother's wife, he caught his first wife cheating on him. So it happens. But I think when it happens to a guy, it's even more sort of horrifying because it's not really common. And I think a lot of guys like to keep that under wraps because it doesn't happen often. and I think it's kind of embarrassing for a guy, right? Like on a certain level. Yeah, I agree.

Yeah. So could you tell me the details? I know you're like, you're 34, right? How long have you and your wife been married for? We've been married just over six years. So you've been together for a long time, right? And now how did you find out that your wife was cheating on you? I found out by actually catching her in the attic.

you're fucking kidding me like you walked in on her with the guy yeah I did I uh so I'm away a good amount on business so I usually if I'm gone I usually leave on like a Sunday night

come back Friday night I don't think I've ever come home early so I came back on a Thursday night I didn't I didn't tell her I was just going to come home figuring you know things would be normal you know not necessarily a surprise but just you know

just come home early and so I walked in the door and they were right there in the living room they were right in the living room yeah and were they actually having sex or were they just like getting and like they were

I mean like how much into the cheating were they involved in when you saw well they were actually having sex like oh my God let me ask you this did you know the guy I did not know the guy

so that was always good okay so what did Oh, my God. They must have flipped out when you walked in. Yeah. I mean, I don't know how much detail you want. All the details. When I walked in, I was totally shocked.

And they both were doing. They both jumped up. You know, she started saying she was sorry. And he didn't say anything. He was just kind of also in full shock. Uh-huh. And then I didn't do what most guys think they would do or what I thought I would do, you know, kick the guy's ass or whatever.

Totally. I just said, I'm going to leave in 10 minutes. You guys go up, it better be gone. And then so I just turn around about that. Let me tell you, that's a much more common reaction. I've been in a situation. I'm like somebody that really knows how to speak up for myself. And I would think, like in certain, so you would think in certain situations, you know,

I'd be the type that would step up and kick someone's ass in the middle of a situation like that too. But I have to say that what happens when you get in most people get like when faced with a situation like that, you do go into shock and you cannot react appropriately. Like there's just a delayed reaction. Like you go over it in your head and you think to yourself like, you know, maybe three days later like, oh my God, I wish I would have done this and that. You know, but it's very common, I think, to just sit there and and sort of. freeze up because it's there it you are in shock for sure you know I think it's much more of a human being reaction is what I'm trying to say even though like in the movies they might play it out like someone beats the shit of it but I think in real life the way it really goes down is a lot

of times it's just so shocking and you're just it's like seeing a car accident you almost you're you're like sort of outside of yourself you know because I think it's our way our brain's way of like sort of being able to process a really horrifying situation that we kind of like get out of of ourselves. Like we check out of it a little bit, you know, because it's almost too much to take that in, right? So you left, right? It's like, I think it's survival and, you know. All right, so you leave, right? You're gone for 10 minutes. You come back and then was that guy, I'm assuming the guy was gone, right? Yeah, actually they were both gone. I told them both up. I mean, he'd leave. Oh, she was gone too.

Yeah. So it was actually a couple days before. I talked to her again. Now, do you guys have kids? No, we don't. So that's always good. Right. You didn't have to figure out what to do with the poor kids

in the middle of the situation. So there was a call, like now, was she trying to reach out to you in those beginning, you know, like in that? Yeah, she was texting me and stuff, you know, saying she was sorry

and she wanted to talk, you know, obviously, I guess, explain yourself, you know? Uh-huh. So. And you're... But I ignored her towards,

you know, a couple of days. Now, let me ask you this. Who did you talk to? Like, you were, like, probably in the worst place of your life. Like, you're so horrified what just happened. Who were you? Did you tell anybody what went down? You know, there's very few people who know,

and that's kind of why I went on to practice. I'm pretty keeping in a lot. Listen, a lot of guys are. Women are much more. That's why I think, you know, guys like calling into my show and why, like, in a weird way, this is like a good thing to do. And I get more men than women because most women are very open about what goes on their life.

They're very open about their feelings and stuff with their friends. You know, that's just like a woman thing. But guys aren't sort of like that. They're not wired that way. So when guys have problems, they don't really have anyone to talk to. You know, guys just don't do that kind of stuff. They don't call up their friend and say, hey, I got a problem. Women do that all the time.

So I get mostly men calling it. But men get, have problems. Like, you know, shit happens. And who do you have to talk to? And I find that across the board. a lot of guys don't have anyone that they could talk to you. So I know that you said you don't have many people that really know. But like in those three days while you're sitting there not talking to her, just taking it all in, like, what are you doing?

Are you just in your head about it? Was there at least one person that you could call and talk to about this? I didn't like to talk to anyone. It was just all in my head. I would try to work through. Now let me ask you this, because this is what I believe about cheating. And, you know, I talk about it with my guy friends a lot. think, and I don't know if I'm just like sort of perpetuating a double standard, but I think a lot of guys cheat because they need variety and they need a different kind of piece of ass, you know, whatever. And they're just wired that way. But I always feel like when a woman cheats, she's either like, I don't know, a lot of times it's because she's unhappy in the relationship. More so then she's just physically turned on by some guy that walked down the street and she's like, oh, I got to fuck him. You know, why girls aren't sort of, women aren't sort of like that, you know, so a lot of times.

by the time a woman cheats in a relationship, what I think is probably that woman was unhappy in that relationship and her needs weren't getting met. And unfortunately, what I think happens in a lot of relationships is a woman speaks up when she's unhappy for a long time. And unfortunately, what happens is most guys don't really listen to women or they don't believe them. Do you know what I mean? They try to like kind of turn it off, you know? And this is like a common problem that happens in relationships because the woman's complaining complaining complaining the guy just thinks she's a fucking nag and then you know after she complains and she speaks up and she really gives you the information that you need to make things better if you don't really listen as a guy and you don't really change like there's

this point of no return that a lot of times by the guy that by the time a guy a woman either leaves a man or she's cheating and she's gone that far a lot of times it's kind of too late like you've let that those problems go, you know, for so long. So do you feel like that's true in your relationship, like you guys were having problems and you were just kind of like sweeping it under the table? I don't, I actually don't think that. I think our relationship is pretty good. I think our biggest issue was me being gone so much.

And she, I've had a little bit of time in turn like this. And she, she liked attention. She liked, you know, and I think. Well, she probably needed it. I mean, the difference is that she didn't like it. She probably needed it. Do you know what I mean? Yeah.

So she kind of needed that attention. That's kind of what I think. Or a relationship, unless I'm totally, totally oblivious, which is possible. Yes, a lot of guys are totally oblivious. It's pretty decent. You know, the biggest thing that we would type out with, you know, or our biggest problems would be me being gone so much and not being able to give her that attention.

with that she needed. Right, but see, that's a big problem. You know, that's a big problem, you know, and that's unfortunate because, like, you say from your perspective, and maybe from hers, that you guys were pretty compatible, right, on every other level. And when you were together, things were pretty okay, right? But you travel from her business so much and you're just not there. And that's really hard on any relationship. Like, it really is, especially, I don't think that there's many women out there that could deal with not having, a guy, you know, being really close with a guy and having that being her only guy and the only person that's applying her with that she needs, you know, and have him sort of gone for more than half of the week, right? Are you a consultant? So you do consulting work? Are you a consultant? Yeah, I do that type of stuff. Yeah. Right. So you're gone into like, you know, the whole week and you really are there. So you're really gone more than you are, you know, at home. And if you really think about it, right? Because once I had a girlfriend who was like, oh, my guy goes down to Florida, two, times, you know, two weeks out of every month. And I'm like, oh, so basically you guys don't

spend six months out of the year together. And she like kind of never looked at it that way. And she was kind of horrified when you put it that way. So if you really think about your situation, you put it in that kind of terms, you know, this woman has to deal with seeing her husband maybe like three months out of the year. If you put it total together, that's really, really difficult. And it puts, it's such a tough situation for you because what can you do? You that's what you do for living. That's how you were supporting her, right? That's how you, you know, and she went into it knowing that that's what you did, right?

I'm assuming you were always a consultant. Yeah, so I've been doing this for a while, so. You what? I've been doing it for a while, so before we met, I was doing this. Right. So the whole time you were married, she was doing that. But, you know, I think it's a really, I think it's really hard. And I think, you know, what happens when you leave a lot of time in between,

being together, people could meet people. Shit could go down. That's what happens when you leave somebody alone for five days out of the week. Okay, people meet people in life, you know? So I just don't think it's really good because shit happens.

You know, maybe, how did you ever get the story of where she met her guy, the guy that she was with? Yeah, I got a few. I mean, you were actually, I'm actually in older co-worker with her. be what won't go well. Yeah, see, that's what happens. Like, you're spending time with people in your life,

and you don't have anything else going on, even though she had that relationship with you, right? And then she establishes like a friendship with somebody, and those things could turn. Like, that happens in real life. Like, so I think it's not good to have so much time apart, but, like, what do you do in your situation when that's just the way that it goes, you know?

You're not going to change your, you can't change your career, right? I mean, I guess I could That depends on to you I don't know how much money it makes You know anything like that But right For right now And you know

I'm kind of in it So Now let me ask you this When you So when you finally talk to her What happened? Like what was that first meeting Like when you finally decided to

Because I'm assuming You guys have had conversations And you eventually Met up with her After you didn't see her For a couple of days Yeah Well it's you know

Obviously her Being sorry me, you know, kind of wondering, you know, why. And she did some of the claims that I wasn't there all the time, and she needed it and it just kind of evolved into, you know, the physical relationship. Yeah, stuff like that just happens, I'm telling you. It's not so, like, she's not this terrible person

that probably set out to have an affair. Like, I'm probably, right? I mean, some people are pretty messed up, and some people are, like, total damage goods, and they'll just cheat on anyone because they're insecure and it comes around. but sometimes regular people that are pretty solid wind up cheating because shit just happens. That's why people should be very non-judgmental to other people that cheat because you never

fucking know if it'll happen to you. Do you know what I mean? Because stuff just goes down, right? She probably did not set out to cheat on you. Even though she didn't like the situation, she probably just became friends with this guy and things sort of evolved and, you know, they crossed the line. that stuff happens even if you don't think it would ever happen to you

yeah and I also believe that she you know once that does happen it gets more intimate than you've got that that newness of a relationship you know oh totally I mean listen I watch a lot I'm like obsessed with date lines in 48 hours and you know everyone's always

killing someone because they fall in love with another person that they're cheating with and I'm always like they're so dumb like of course the cheating person is always going to seem great, you know what I mean? Because you don't even really know them. They're not really a part of your regular real life, right? It's just this sort of illicit scenario

and it's, you know, you're seeing each other with a small amount of time and I mean, listen, some people maybe they could take that kind of situation and turn it into a relationship that last. But most of the time, I think it's, most people are having more fun in there, with the cheating person because they're not really having a

real relationship with that person. And anybody that's stupid enough to leave the real person for the person they're cheating, I think is heading for like, you know, a downfall because I don't think it technically or typically works out, right? I mean, you and her are the ones that are having the real relationship. You and her are the ones that need to work on your relationship. This guy was just sort of there and she was sort of using him for what she wasn't getting in her relationship. But you guys have the history, right? Like you guys have been together for so long. Yeah. But, okay, but let me.

ask you this. So when you finally, what was that first meeting like? She explained to you how she met him, right? And like, and does she, I mean, is she sitting there, listen, there's two ways this could go. You know, some people will be like, you know what? I'm in love with this person and I want to leave you. Like, you see that happen, right? Is she seeing that to you or was she saying this was a mistake and I want to stay with you? Yeah, it was the latter, you know, this is. Right. Uh-huh. And it's hard because like you, I mean, let me ask you this because I had one boyfriend cheat on me once and I totally trusted him. Like I really 100% trusted him. So that whole cheating thing took me like by total shock, right? And I think we've all had moments like that in life. And when you, to me, when something like that happens, when someone looks you in the eye and completely lies and you have no idea and someone you totally, it really fucks with your sense of trust. And it could really ruin you for a while. I mean, it did for me, you know, um, I have. How long ago did this happen?

A little over a month ago. Did you completely trust her? Like you would never have believed that she would do something like that? Like, did you guys have total trust in your relationship? Yeah, I did. I mean, I mean, I, she told me she was gone somewhere.

I was, I believed her. If I, you know, I never would check her phone. I didn't care what was on email. But, you know, I just didn't think she would ever do that. Let me ask you this. Were you ever, did you ever cheat on her? I had not. Right.

So you were totally monogamous, even though you were always on the road. Yes. Right. And let me ask you this, too. Did she cop to, like, seeing this guy for a long time? Is it something that had just started? Were there other people? Like, did she sort of open up and tell you everything?

Or, like, what did she say about the whole situation? The story she told me was about five months ago or so. They started working more together, you know, and involved into having lunches. and it was involved in having dinner. And then I would say about, what she said, two months, about two months ago, she,

it started getting more into physical kissing. It evolved into, you know, fondling and then getting naked, giving each other a role, and having an actual effect. Yeah.

Yeah, okay. And so then they, so after, you know, once they, they started getting in them and how often was it. And so, once they got into a full on sex

she said when I was gone they'd have sex three or four times a week so they were doing it a lot from how long two months? Um for about yeah probably a little over a month right

that must have killed you to hear that yeah that was that was pretty tough I mean she would you know whenever I left she went to his house or he came over and they you know they fucked right and that's really hard too

the fact that, you know, when someone brings somebody into your house, you know, like, that's your house. That's where you guys live. Like, that's your couch. You know what I mean? And that's like really, I think, you know, it's such a betrayal. You know, all that stuff is very hard to get past. Though I'm not somebody. This is the thing. Like, I'm not somebody that thinks just because somebody cheated on you, you have to leave them. Right? I think each situation is very different. And I think depending on how much you have invested in a relationship, it's like that those kind of things like that information changes things. Like listen, if you're dating someone for a year and they cheat on you, I'd say leave that person, you know. But when somebody has kids or they've been together for a long time, like sometimes you're like, you know, shit happens. And sometimes you don't, it's not, you know, it's not the total, like it's not the, like, it's not a. reason to totally let go of everything that you had with the person. But sometimes it is, you know, and that's a situation, you know, you have to take every situation separately. Like I said,

I don't think it's a blanket statement just because someone cheated you, you should leave. It just depends on what's involved and how you feel and whether you think you could ever trust somebody again. I think people do get through that and people can learn to trust again in a relationship, but I think it's really, really hard, you know, and that's, you know, and that's, you know, and that's, what you have to kind of think about. I'm assuming because you're putting this ad out and you're looking for advice, like, you don't know what you want to do, right?

Yeah, I don't. I'm just kind of, you know, torn between, you know, one or the other. Do I stay or do I go, you know? Right, because you obviously said, like, things were good between you and her. But, you know, and so you didn't really have any other issues, and you guys, were you guys planning on

having kids? Yeah, eventually. But, you know, it's gone a lot. So we decided to hold off until either I changed jobs or, you know, something's, you know. So let me ask you this. How far out were you from actually changing jobs? Like, if you could change jobs, you know, to have kids and to start that part of your life. You got, you're 34, right?

So, like, when did you plan on making that move? Well, it's probably been a couple years. Because I would, you know, moved up enough to where I wouldn't have to travel as much, you know. Right, but that's not going to happen anytime soon. no right so and how does she like have you guys discussed like where you go from here like what like what you would do what about getting some sort of therapy between you guys um we we've talked maybe about therapy um we've agreed on that but we i mean really we don't know where we're going to go and i have no clue where to go so that's kind of why my person is maybe not the greatest advice from people but No, no, listen, you know, I don't know. Have you had people respond to you like anybody besides me?

I've had people actually a good amount of people respond. It's, you know, a varied response, you know. But, I mean, have you gotten any, like, advice from people? Yeah, the most normal advice I forget with, you know, go see a therapist. Don't horse right away, you know, make sure that you're, this is, you would be right exactly and I think that that is the best advice you know

seek therapy for sure because to build trust in a relationship is really difficult you're going to need therapy just on your own so that you could have help with that especially also like I remember the boyfriend who totally cheated on me eventually I turned into a crazy distrustful

maniac when I was dating him and I remember I broke up with him finally because I couldn't take it. He was just like, oh, that's fine. Like, you're so psychotic anyway. And I was like, no, like my psychosis ends with you. I didn't trust you. Like, I'll leave you and I'll be fine. And that wasn't true. Actually, unfortunately, what happened was that distrust and what happened with him, you know, stayed with me. And I became a very distrustful person in my relationships after. I thought, oh, once I leave him and, you know, I could just go trust somebody else that was him. That was the problem.

which is true, but it's not just, unfortunately, it's not the way that it works. You know, sometimes like, you know, when you're, someone pulls the rug out from under you like that, your sense of trust goes out the window and it goes out the window for everybody. So you have to really work on that with yourself. So you definitely want to get therapy for that part of you. So that no matter who you're with, whether it's her and you're going to learn how to trust her again, or it's another woman and you have to learn how to trust a woman. As long as you're going to be keeping, you know, you're going to have to,

this job even if you left her tomorrow right you're going to mean another woman you might be afraid most likely that it'll happen again because you're on the road and how do you how do you trust anybody now when you sort of leave and you don't want to become a crazy distrustful person but you're gonna have the you might go down that path because of what happened so you want therapy yourself and then I do believe that you want to have therapy between you and your girl because you guys have been together for a while you only have a couple more years to go before you know, things change and you could be home all the time and maybe you guys were going to have kids and things were really good between you. It's the only problem is that you're not around enough,

right? But what's the solution to that for the next couple of years? How is she going to be able to deal with that if she can't? You know, because you get a hobby or do something like what, you know, what is she going to do that is going to make you feel like, okay, things are different? Because for her to say, oh, let's just go back and be together and you're going to go on the road like you know if something doesn't change what why are you going to believe that she's not going to go do the same thing you know and I think yeah yeah I understand what you're saying totally yeah so it has to be you have to be given some tools and some ideas of how to change the situation with that while you because you can't change your job you know and I

think a good couples counselor marriage therapist whatever would be able to to help. And you guys should probably go down that route first before you divorce because, like I said, you said that you don't have any other problems. Like, you guys are pretty good together. It's just the distance thing. But that's a problem for her, you know? Yes. And that's, how is she going to resolve it? That's what she needs therapy for too, you know? And I get that. I think that that's really hard to spend five days. alone when you have a relationship and you have nobody to go out to dinner with, you know, especially if she's a woman and there's a guy and he could feel that she's starting to like him.

I mean, that guy knew how to get down her pants. Do you know what I'm saying? She was like needy of something and sort of vulnerable. And, you know, I think it's a lot worse when you're dealing with men compared to women because women know how to control their vaginas. Do you know what I mean? The guys is a lot harder to control them. So, you know, this guy went in.

for the kill because they were spending so much time together, what can you do? Yeah. But I think, you know, you have, how long ago did this happen? I know I asked that again. How long ago did this happen? Over a month. So have you guys been living in the same house? Yeah, we have in these different rooms right now.

Right. And like, are you guys communicating with each other? Like, what's the vibe around the house? It's not horrible right now. We do talk and stuff. But again, I'm gone a lot. so it's not really, you know, to each other a whole lot. Right.

So that kind of helps out. And now what are you, like, what has she said about the guy? Like, I mean, how do you know, like, when you leave now for the past couple months, like, how do you know that she's not with that guy? What did she say to you? I mean, there's not much you can tell her when she's not going to do it again. Right. He still works at her job.

They still work together? Yeah, they do still work together. Right. Yeah And so I mean I mean I think it's not a whole lot I hope that doesn't happen again

Until we figure out What's going on You know If it's the size of divorce Then I guess no big deal She can do what she wants But you know

Right But as of right now She says that Her and that guy aren't together anymore Even though But she's still I don't know That would be really hard for me

Like you know For her heart she goes to work And he's there Yeah it's tough, definitely. For you, right? Yes, yeah,

they definitely tell. Let me ask you this. Were they, like, texting and sexting and all that shit, did you ever find out about any of that stuff? Um, not, they didn't text or sex.

They did a lot of, a lot of email. Oh, really? How did you find out that? She showed you or she told you? Um, she told me and she showed me some stuff.

Right. Now, let me ask you this, because I turned into a total snooper maniac when my boyfriend. cheated on me. You know, I couldn't take it. Like, have you had the urge to sort of check her email or her phone?

Like, have you felt yourself getting a little nutty about things? A little bit. Not too much. I mean, I guess I could if I wanted to. No, I think it's good if you don't. I mean, that's why for me it's really hard to be with someone that I don't trust or that because I have the tendency to get, like, crazy about it because I want to know things, you know?

so and then I went and was looking for it and it made me nuts you know and I don't like to know the guy I wanted to know things too like probably different than what a girl would know I would know like how many times did you have sex what did you do with him you know rid of other guys you know things like that right not just are you talking to them you know right right but and you just want to know are you still with them now and if it's not that's like that's cool yeah I guess it's better to be a guy so you're not so nutty about it. And that's a good thing. Because I think when you start to get a little crazy, it's almost, it wouldn't be good, especially for you because you're not around. Like you kind of have to like sort of

trust her now because she still works with the guy and you're not around so much. So I mean, that would make you crazy if you went down that place. So it's good that you're not because, you know, how would you survive? But, you know, I mean, have you guys had any kind of family functions that you've had to go together and sort of make appearances since this has happened? Well, we went to one function, a friend function, and I think we played off. I mean, I guess you probably might have to pull the friends or something like that. But as far as I know, she isn't really cool. And then you're not.

Hello. Okay, so that's when I lost him. But personally, the reason why I'm still airing is because I think it's like a full podcast. Really, I got all the information I needed. He's at a point. I mean, this just happened where he doesn't know what he's going to do about. about it. I'm not going to tell him what to do. I can't do that in that kind of a situation. It's not my place, really. He's got to figure it out on his own. So really, what more did we need

to talk to him about? Now on to Dracool. It's not Dracula. I just relistened. It's Dracul who's into Blumkins. So I'm going to be right on with Dracul. Hey, Dracul. You're on the strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. How are you? I'm doing fantastic. And yourself? I'm doing fantastic too, except I've taped a lot of podcasts today. And I kind of woke up with a like bad like throat pain.

And so you're my last one of the day. And you are probably the most interesting of the ones I've taped today. I had to like literally go back and read all your emails because you threw a lot of stuff out there in the emails. And let's start off with like the first thing. I have replied to a now that

you put out there looking for some advice quote unquote on how you could get your girlfriend to be your blumpkin which i don't know what the fuck that meant i mean to be honest with you i just replied to the ad and like hey you want to call into my show and you're like do you know what that is and then you explained it to me so why don't you explain it to my listeners like is that a term that's like people really know and i'm just like not with it or is it something that you made up or like what's the deal with that word well it's kind of a I guess an oddball thing but um I tend to enjoy those but for everybody I kind of unsure I never heard the term either but I'd always kind of appreciated the act or the uh the closeness that that could bring and uh Blumpkin is uh basically a it's not

necessarily the act it's more of reference to the person but this person would perform oral sex on you while you're taking your morning shit. I just think it's so funny that nobody would have known exactly where you're going with that because you start off by explaining that it's something that would bring you closer to somebody, right? And like create more intimacy. Yeah, it would certainly bring her closer to me.

They'd be closer to your shit, that's for sure. And that's something that you're into. having, like, you're that something that you're into doing, or is that a joke? Like, I want to just know. Like, is that something that you're very seriously interested in doing? Or do you just put it out there to see what kind of like responses you get from people? I know you've had, you have a very interesting life sexually besides this whole thing because you sent me some emails about stuff that you did. But like with this, is this a real thing that you really want to do? Or is it kind of like a joke? well it's uh certainly i would i would enjoy it uh it's uh there's maybe a little bit of both sides of it but um basically i want to the reason for my ad was to more get advice on uh if i can get her to to be that for me then I would also have the amazing superpowers to pretty much convince her to do anything else I would want

because obviously if you can get bad then you can get just about anything that you would like right so maybe that's like your backdoor way of like sort of getting like what you're maybe your ultimate fantasy is is to get a woman to just do whatever the fuck you want and like you say if you put that out there and the girl says hey I'm into that

you're like, oh, that girl's going to be like your slave. She'll do anything for you. I mean, did you ever think of getting into that world, that whole fetish world of like bondage and stuff? Because, you know, people in that world do get slaves and they do get submissive women who will, you know, sort of attach to them, create a very intimate relationship. The man controls that submissive woman. and that woman has to do whatever that guy wants.

Have you ever thought of getting into that world so that you could have that fantasy of having that woman be totally submissive to you? Well, I've been there, done that. I'm 43 years old. So, you know, this is not my first rodeo by any means. No, I know, because I remember, let me just tell you, the one thing that I was really fascinating

is you said, like, when you were 20, you got back, I guess you were like At 20 you just said that you fucked a 68 year old For a while, right? Yeah, I think she was something 65, 68, you know, she was younger than 70, but older 65 so I'm not sure kind of wearing that. Right.

You know, that's a big deal. It was just a curiosity. I didn't even think anything unusual about it at the time until my buddy was like, what's up with fucking grandma? And I was like, I don't know. So basically it's all good. Right. No, but I mean, the whole point I bring it up is because you started, I mean, that's like a 20 years old.

You're sort of doing something that's so out of the box to most people. But for you, that's just like normal. When did you lose your virginity? How old are you? Let's see. I guess I was probably 12 or so. And who was it with? Who did you lose your virginity with at 12?

What grade are you in at 12? Do you know? Is that like sixth grade? I took my buddy's sister, which was awesome. How old was a sister? She was older. I think she was, I think she was 16 or, you know, something like that. I don't know.

Uh-huh. But a couple of us kind of tap it. You know, it's kind of one of those things. It was kind of weird as his brother did too with like, like his own, like his half sister, I guess, you know. They were like genetic. I got, but he got sloppy seconds. I at least got the first shot at it, you know, but, you know, being a 12-year-old, whatever,

you know, a younger kid, it's like, you know, she was cute, too. It's like, okay, you know, sure, you know, and I kind of had to get, like, a little instruction set on, you know, but. So you lost your Virginia at 12 with your friend sister, and after that sister fucked you, she fucked her half-brother. Yeah. Yeah, that's a great story. That's an interesting story.

when you say half-brother what does that mean does that mean that she's like related to that guy through like one of her parents but not the other yeah I think they both had the same dad yeah I think it's both have the same dad if I think I'm right were you got like was she wasted uh I don't know I was 12 years old I don't know I was a long time ago I know how old is 12

I'm trying to figure out what age do you remember what grade 12 12 12 years old is? I don't know, but I don't know, but you know, a lot of kids do, you know, I did some really screwed up stuff when I was a kid. And what trips me out now when I go and I look at kids that are that age

and I go, oh my God. I know. What the hell was I do? That's just, that just weirds me out. Yeah, because you felt like at that age, right? Like, I used to literally, I got thrown out of like a bunch of high schools and I was really bad when I was younger

and I used to smoke pot. So I went to this like high school for people that got thrown out of high school like the wayward kids, right? And we were picked up by like one of those little buses and at your house. Like it was great. Like you just had to walk out. They honked out and he would honk like 10 times until I came out.

And then I'd get on the bus and I'd relate a joint and I would smoke weed with my bus driver every morning on my way to work. And when I think about how when I see kids at that age and they look so little to me, you know what I mean? Like I'm talking like ninth grade, 10th grade. Like I just can't believe the shit that I was doing because I didn't feel so little then, you know, like I thought I was an adult at that point. Yeah, absolutely.

And it, but, you know, it's a different world even for, you know, even for us, I think even just, you know, 20 years ago or, you know, however long ago, it's a different world than it is now. Yeah, totally. So. I had something very traumatic happen when I was a kid. And so I kind of, like, when I think of things that I did when I was a kid, it's either before this happened or after this happened, you know, so far as, you know, like a

time stamp. Right. What happened to you? Do you mind, would you mind bringing up what happened to you? No, not, not at all. I mean, it's, um, I was, I had just turned 13. I mean, I can't. I can't hear you. Hello? I don't hear you at all. Oh, fuck. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lies of total strangers is now available, not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audio book. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story.

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