Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1156 - Candi is a Cuckquean who Swings with her Husband

Episode Date: June 30, 2025

Candi is a cuckquean who swings with her husband and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including their first, spontaneous full swap and exactly what went down, the next couple they hooked up with and how that hook up made her realize she is very into women, their first experience at Trapeze swinger club in Atlanta and what they like t do while there, the type of women they’re both into hooking up and the specific guys she’s really into, how and when and why they eventually started the cuckquean experiences they had with a woman they hooked up with on a cruise, how her husband and the unicorn cucked her while she was there watching and the time they did it without her and exactly what went down both times, how she now enjoys humiliation and degradation while she is being cucked by a cuckcake plus a whole lot more. **To see HOT pics of CANDI plus my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712  Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.  Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get 10% off Drive AND LOAD Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2516-anonymous⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use code: ANONYMOUS to get an 50% off plus a 14 day money-back guarantee Follow me! Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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interesting. She's a cuck queen. She wanted to be called Cadence and I'm like, who the fuck is Cadens? I don't even know if it sounds like a real name. So I made her change it to candy. But she is a, she does write under the name Caden's, uh, Cadence, uh, Caden's reign for like an alternative magazine. She talks about that towards the end. But what she is is a Cuck Queen. She recently realized she's a Cuck Queen. But her and her husbands have been married for a long time. And in the lifestyle for 18 years, they started full swapping as a vanilla couple and then did a lot of swapping with couples and then eventually got into house parties and then swinger clubs. And in the past like few years, they've really been going to a lot of swinger clubs. They started doing solo

play. They had been in a lifestyle for a long time. She started to put together that she was the cuck queen around that same time too. And they went on a cruise. She talks about this like her first cook queen experience that they actually set up once she realized this was something that she was into. She talks about like all the signs of her being a cuck queen. She's also bisoned. She's also bisoned sexual. She very into women. She talks about that, too. She talks about the signs that looking back, she realized, oh, this is what I've always been into. But when they set out to have an experience, they had one, a 10-day cuck queen experience on a cruise. That does not disappoint, okay? They found a unicorn and she fulfilled her fantasies of the cuck queen experience, even when they're

not doing the cuck queen thing, because they do a lot of swapping and solo play with other people. And her husband now always gives her her cuck queen experience even after he's with a woman. She loves watching him with a girl. She also loves when she says she's a cuck queen. She likes to be humiliated. She wants to hear that the other girl is better and all that good stuff. And that girl gave it to her. Her husband gives it her and she talks all about it.

She's super interesting. Like I said, she does write for this magazine because she happens to also be into BDSM and Kink. She writes about that over there. She started a girl's Facebook group. She gives the name. I'll give the name of it in the description. She talks about that, why she started it, what's all about. So if you're a cuck queen, you found this episode and you want to talk to more cuck queens

or just more women like-minded women. I mean, it's not like a cuck queen Facebook group, but she's on there and she's a cuck queen so you could go on there and talk about stuff. Like I said, she gives that information out towards the end. I have pictures of her over my Patreon. They'll be on my Discord. But anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with candy. What do we recall you?

Oh, hi, Cindy. I changed your name. You wanted to be Cadence, but I'm like, no one knows what Cadence is. Is that even a girl's name? You're like, yeah, that's my writer name. You're a writer in the King community for like a Swinger site. And we'll work up to that in the story. Your writer name is Cadence Wayne, but I'm like, no, we need to use like a hotter name.

Not let's use Candy with an I. So you're Candy, actually. Hi, Candy, for my purposes. In my title, you're Candy and you're a Cuck Queen. That's why I wanted to see name. Candy, the Cuck Queen. I love when I have a cuck queen on because I feel like I'm a little bit of a cut queen. And I only learned that by talking to people on my show.

The first time I had one on, I was like, oh, I might have that too. But so you're a cuck queen. And a cuck queen is someone who likes to see their guy like with other women, right? Is that how you describe yourself? Yes, ma'am. Absolutely. Yeah. Okay, so let's go all the way back.

Candy, are you in a relationship now? Are you married or you single? What's your deal? I've been married almost 25 years. Oh, okay. So let's go back. So you're married 25 years. Let me ask you this. Like you and your husband, I mean, because you're for this writer for this swinger website, I would assume that at some point you and your husband decide to open up your marriage and or get into this or become swingers or something like that, get into the lifestyle. Correct. Well, yes and no. There was not an actual decision or discussion that happened in advance of that happening. It was just an organic. situation with some underlying sexual chemistry with some also vanilla friends at the time. And then hot tub plus alcohol plus sexual chemistry means we jumped headfirst into the deep end

of the lifestyle. Okay. So take me back to that time where, you know, you guys have this chemistry with your vanilla friends. Like how long into your marriage and relationship are you guys in? And where are you at in your sex life? Are you very vanilla? or you guys like totally always talking about crazy things but just never acting on them?

So I would say, I wouldn't say that we were very vanilla. I've always been kind of a sexual being in and of it of myself and kind of brought my husband along for that ride just between the two of us. As far as as where we were at in our journey, we were married, we were at that point married seven years. So we always say we scratched our seven year itch with us. other couple. And so that's just kind of where that's where it all began. Okay, but the sex was good with you guys. You were a little bit more sexually adventurous than him, but you guys that like things were like good between you. And then so now who was it, was it a couple friend of yours? Was it a woman that you were attracted to? Like, who was this vanilla couple that there was a sexual attraction going on? And how did that come to be? It was, it was mutual with another couple. And it was actually people that he had gone to high school with. So he had known them for many more years than I had. But, but, I don't even know where the sexual chemistry started because we were all vanilla. Like this was not on any of our radars whatsoever. It was just there.

It was a very organic, very easy kind of undertone to that friendship of flirtation. And then you add alcohol and hot tub and that flirtation just went to straight on full swap. Like you're kidding. That first night? The first night. Straight on full swap. We did all of the things wrong, all of the rules that we have now, which are few. we didn't have in that moment because no we didn't know like like we didn't know we needed to have

conversations about rules and boundaries we just went for it and thankfully it was all good but in hindsight if we are like this is not how you do this this is not how this was supposed to happen but it was a good experience for everybody involved yeah okay so tell me though about that experience so there's this sexual chemistry you guys are getting like a little drunk full swap so like you fuck her husband, he fucks you. The chemistry, was it also between you and the woman, or was it just between the guys and the girls at this point? At this point, I would say, it was mostly, it was mostly between the girls and the guys. There wasn't a lot there. But I've always kind of known that I had an attraction to women, just had never really acted on it at that

point, because I do identify as bisexual as well. Okay, but let's stick at that, let's go through that experience, so you guys get into the hot tub. They're married, right, too? They are married as well. They're actually high school sweethearts. They've been together since high school. Okay. So, like, who makes the first move? Do you remember?

I do. It was actually the husband of the other couple started touching me, you know, under the water, leg rubs and all of that. And at some point, he starts in towards the pussy. And I'm like, oh, this is different. This is not something. This is not my husband's hand, you know? Yeah.

And at that point in time, he looks over it, because he was actually sitting next to me and she was sitting next to my husband. He looks over at my husband and says, go ahead. And my husband's like, go ahead, what? He's like, kiss her. And about the time that he tells her to kiss her, she's like on his lap. And so, like, if you can visualize him putting both of his hands on each side of her face and moving her face to the side to see me. me to see what I'm doing and how I'm feeling about the situation. That's what happens. Like he, he moves her head face and it's like, what has happening? At this point, I'm already all in with

the guy too, like kissing and making it out and stuff like that. So that was that was where it started and it just went hot and heavy from there. And how was it for you to see your guy, fuck another girl? I mean, you're probably not putting it together just yet that you're a cook queen, but obviously you were into it, right, as a cut queen in the making. I was, I was definitely into it. But I was, I was, in those moments, I was focused on what was happening with me more than what was happening with him, if that makes any sense. I was kind of not paying a whole lot of attention. Yeah, of course. I mean, but you were really attracted to this guy and how was that first full swap, like for you and for your husband afterwards when you talked to him?

We had an amazing time. It was, of course, we both identified that there was things really quickly that we probably should have talked about before it happened. But as far as the experience is concerned, it was super hot. It went on forever multiple times. So there was rallies and start again. There were showers involved. There was, I mean, I don't even know how long the experience lasts. But in hindsight, now almost 18 years later, it's still one of our hottest experiences, if not the hottest experience, because it was so, it was so organic.

So, so natural. Like there wasn't any kind of preconceived conversations or anything like that. it just happens. So it's, it's really hard actually to compare experiences now because there's just no way to. Yeah, you'd be chasing the dragon. You're never going to get it to be that as intense as that first time. I think it's so loaded, you know, that first time too, that it's like that rush that you feel. You're never going to get, especially after you do it a lot of times. And you're like 18 years later. Okay, so that's like a great experience. You guys though were like, wait a second. Maybe we should do things different. But like how, what do you decide to do

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There isn't. And so, like, back then, I do the deep dive just into ethical non-monogamy, essentially. Start learning about, you know, typical rules and boundaries and things that consider and things of that nature. So we start kind of applying that to our life as it relates to them. And we have a few more good experiences with them with some rules in place. But then the cardinal, one of the cardinal sins for us is that he's trying to get me to meet him outside of the four of us that the other husband is. Wait a second. But is that on the D.L? Is he saying to all of you guys, hey, listen, I want to meet her? This is a side conversation.

that's not part of it's yeah it's it's a side conversation that is not on the up and up and I give I turn the phone to my husband I said you're gonna need to like we're gonna need to deal with this where's his broco what a douche this is your guys friends from high school friend from high school oh that's not a cool I think I think it's to a certain degree it was a little caught up but I don't but I don't know You know, I'm not in their, I'm not in their relationship. I don't know what kind of behaviors he's had since then or before then, you know, like, I just don't. I don't know. Either way, my husband has a conversation that's like, this is, this is not, this is not how we, this is not how we're operating in the, in this space as it relates to play.

We're a same room, you know, same room couple. So, meeting on the side is just not part of our, our rules and boundaries. So that was the end of them. So now where do you go from there? From there, because of me, you know, kind of digging in and trying to find resources we've found at the time what seemed to be one of the most popular Swingers dating sites, which was SLS or Swing Lifestyle. Get on there, create a profile, of course, start that whole process. Now, as you can imagine, 2007, you know, there's so many more resources now when it comes to

has sites to use and things like that. But that was the only one, even though it was terrible and clunky and still is. But we got on there, set up a profile, started meeting other couples. Because at this point in time, that's what we knew was other couples. And so we go out with a couple meet a couple that lives very nearby and somehow get wound up in a completely different situation that happens a lot to new lifestyle people. and that is an exclusive relationship with another couple and also a no kissing rule. Oh, they had it or you decided to have it? They had it.

We did not. In our entire journey, we've had very few, very few rules and just real basic, you know, using protection is really our primary one. For a long time, we had a same room rule. That doesn't even apply any longer. But at that point in time, we get hooked up with this couple that's a same room, a couple. They wanted to play exclusively. Nobody else. So now we've cut ourselves off from the rest of the community because of this couple.

And, you know, it was, yeah. So again, in hindsight, it was one of those things that's right. We did all of this. That's how you learn. Wrong. Really, really early. Yeah, but I have to say, like, sometimes the only way to figure out, like, what's wrong or what you don't like is. like to actually experience it.

You know what I mean? Like sometimes you can't like anticipate things sometimes ahead of time, you know? So you're learning as you go like most people. That's normally real life, you know? Anyway. Absolutely. Yes. But the good that did come out of that first experience was, is this girl turned me out.

Like I had a feeling that I liked girls. You know, I always had an underlying attraction to girls. And this girl, you know, I started by Curious and I came out of it. I'm full on bisexual. There's no doubt in my mind. And the funniest part about that with her is, is I'm a tall curvy woman. So I'm 5'10 and curvy. And she was probably 5'2 and maybe 90 pounds soaking wet.

And threw me around like a rag doll. It was so much fun. So that was my experience of figuring out that I liked women. Right. Okay. So good comes from even bad. Yeah. And that was the first.

experience, though, for you to be with a woman. Did you go all in? All in. Okay. And that was great for you, obviously, because this girl was your girl. It was. Right. Okay, cool. And, okay, so do you continue to play? Well, obviously, like, how long does that relationship, quote, last? I mean, how long did you buy into the way it was set up? You know, in hindsight, I couldn't, I couldn't tell you an actual timeline. I'd say we were probably in the six to eight month range. So long enough. Yeah, totally.

Long enough to have fun, but also long enough to realize that that wasn't our cup of tea. Right. Okay. So do you go just back on to the Swinger Lifestyle website? Looking for more couples. We did. Okay. We got back into the site and started looking around and meeting other couples.

And now at this point, do you change your profile to be like you're bisexual so that you make sure that you're going to be hooking up with a woman? is that always something that you want on the table when you're meeting other couples? Yes, I immediately changed it from Bicarious because there was no doubt in my mind that I was interested in women. And I've always been one that I want the other woman to know where I stand, even if it's not, there's no interaction, you know? But in those early years, I definitely was interested in seeking couples that also had a bisexual woman. Right. Because that was the new thing for me.

Yeah. Did you find though that's, and because I've heard this sometimes from women who are truly bisexual that sometimes they find that the woman says that she is, but you could kind of tell that maybe she's like sort of just doing it because her husband wants her to or whatever. Was there a lot of that? Or did you find that most of the women that, you know, said that they were like into women were totally into it and it was all good? No, there was a ton of that. Right. Isn't that annoying? They'd say they'd say they were by women they were really, they would be willing to receive. They were. They would be willing to receive. there was living or it would be I call them barsexuals and liquid lesbians they were only like buy from the waist up with alcohol type of thing yeah the woman I'm airing on Monday pit wife jills she was uh she calls a buy for the guy they're just buy for their guy buy for the guy you know what I mean it's so it's so easy to tell right as a woman who's actually really into women right don't you think yeah yes very much so yeah yeah Okay, so you're having a bunch of these couples.

Now, at the same time, are you ever going to any kind of lifestyle events or swing or parties or anything like that, too? Or are you just like hugging up with couples on the side? Early on, it was mostly meeting off of, meeting people off of the internet, grab drinks. There's a connection and then go from there. A few years in, we did start to dabble. We met up with some people that were hosting house parties. And then we did choose to go to our.

local club, which I'm in the Atlanta area, and a trapeze, Atlanta is here. And so we, we started to venture out a little bit. Right. And how was that? How was like, how are Swinger clubs for you? And how is that club? So early on, our approach was a little different because we'd always just go with people, like when we went, we went with couples that we knew. So we were kind of going in and using that as our play space and not necessarily to specifically to meet other people. So we went in and for the most part we're going to have a good time. We knew we were going to have a good time. It was just a relocation, right? There's a dance floor so you can do some dancing, flirting and touching and things of that nature without being, you know, stared down at the bar or whatever

the case may be because there's a bunch of vanilla's around. Yeah, exactly. And you could fuck so there too if you want, so you don't have to get like a hotel room. Correct. And people could watch if you're into that, you know? This is a lot more you could get there. Right. So that's what you did at first as gone, went with other couples. So you weren't. like really picking up other people there? That's correct. We were not. Right.

Okay. Not then. Right. Okay. So, but eventually you do? Eventually we do. So now, like, fast forward to today or actually the last three years or so. Yeah.

We're actually Diamond Club members at Trapeze and you can catch us there on our own without plans with a specific couple on a regular basis. Oh, you're kidding. We may not be people there. More often than not, don't, but we like the environment. We like the club atmosphere. We like being able to dance. We like the potential to meet people there. We like all of the things about the club. Okay, cool. So, you know, what is your guys type? You know, I know that. And let me ask you, first tell me,

like, what your guy's type is when you're looking for couples. I mean, are you typically, like, because a lot of times the problem with hooking up with couples is like to get four people all attracted to each other can be hard. It sounds like you guys have had. a lot of couples, you know, I don't know why I think that, but it's not like, you know, you just told me about a couple, but, you know, you've been doing this for a long time. Is it hard to find those couples that you guys hook up with and find that attraction or are you guys like on the same page of what you're attracted to and it's easy to find? Like, how do you, what's the deal? So it's hit or miss. I feel like for us, the lifestyle has gone in cycles. We call it feast or famine. And so, so there's times where it's, It's just hitting on all cylinders and we're making four-way connections, usually fairly easy, back to back. And then there's times where it's like a desert. Like, what is happening? There is nothing going on.

Now, I will say when you say our type physically, the good news is that he and I are attracted to the same type of woman almost 100% of the time. And what is that? It's pretty rare that we're not on the same page. So the typical, ones that I would not have a doubt saying he's going to be into them without asking him is going to be a curvier, typically dark-headed woman. And he's a, he's a boob guy. He loves boobs. So if they've got, if they've got big boobs, he's going to be about it. Now, my husband is also a little demi.

So a little what? For demi, demi, demi, demi, sexual. Oh, Demi, okay. He likes a connection. He likes the connection. He's more Demi than I am in that regard. And so person, that also personality. Like sometimes I can have a conversation with a girl and she could be a blonde, skinny little thing.

Like, you know, the polar opposite of what I just described. Yeah. But if she brings the right energy to the table personality-wise, he is about it. And I even describe that for myself as well. I'm attracted first to what I'm attracted to in a man. you know physically which typically is a I mean I'm 510 so for the most part my go to is a much taller man I'm like six foot and above is what's going to grab my attention and because I'm a tall and curvy woman I generally want a bigger man like because I want to be made to feel small I don't

want to be the one making a man feel small yeah so that's kind of my my first level of attraction Then for me, the second level of attraction is energy. So if you're bringing alpha energy, but you're not my type, I'm probably, you're probably going to catch my attention. By alpha energy, I just mean not submissive energy, what I would call beta energy. A lot of times, you know, the military guys, the cops, those are the ones that for whatever reason, they don't even have to tell me what they do, but I'm going to find them in the room. Hands down. I don't know why. But we just had dinner recently with a couple and he's a detective.

And as soon as it came out of his mouth, my husband looks at me and he said, you've got to be kidding me right now because it's just, it just happens like back to back to back for me. So alpha energy would be my second draw. Beta energy is getting a turn off for me. Right. If you're a submissive man, which for whatever reason I think it's my height. And I just, like, I've got resting bitch face. Like, I try to fix that all the time, but I have it.

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then you might still have a chance. Right. If he's like super smart or interesting or something like that. Let me ask me this because we know we're going to get into the whole cuck queen thing now. I want to go deeper into that because that's something kind of new for you, right, like that you're exploring. But like let me ask you about your husband with you with guys. Does he have that thing where he's like very into you like seeing you fuck other guys or are you just like, you know, do it because it's like fun and everything. But it's not like he's like that guy that is like has compersion and all that kind of stuff. no no he has none of that actually so so our our journey you know we started as a same as same room yeah it's only been really in the last handful we've had some pretty transformative years in the lifestyle in the last few right one of which being that we opened ourselves up to separate room and when we're playing when we're playing with a couple I feel like that actually works a bit better for him because I he's so in tune with who he's playing with that sometimes I think I can be a distraction.

Not from a performance issue. Like, thankfully, it's not so much show that affects him performance-wise, which is a very common thing in the lifestyle. But he's just not, he's just not, he has no interest in knowing details, and seeing things. Like, he doesn't want to sit and watch if he's finished. That's just not really his jam. But he's also not going to not let me have that experience.

Yeah, of course. Because listen, not ever, like Todd, that's why I asked because just because you guys are full swapping and stuff doesn't mean that he's like into the whole hot wiping thing. But you specifically figured out at some point you're a quote unquote cut queen. Is that like something that happened in the past couple of years too? I would say in the past couple of years I was able to put in name. Yeah, with what I was experiencing. So going going back actually towards the early part of our journey. One of the many experiences actually actually. what you just said about men liking to see their wife play and all of that. That kept happening to us in couple situations. They just weren't being honest about their dynamic and what they were looking for. And so we'd get into a play situation. It was very clear that he was having either performance issues because of the situation

or he wasn't necessarily interested in playing or he just wanted to watch and just, hadn't told us that that's all that he was into, but I had multiple, multiple scenarios early on in our journey where I'm like, what the hell is going on? And then I started to realize that I think that they just, people are afraid to communicate some of their wants and desires. And we were just on the receiving end of somebody who really wanted to be like a hot wife situation or whatever. Yeah. And at that point in time, because I was so into women, I was writing that off to like, okay, that's fine. I just need you to tell me that that's how my energy needs to play because I kept focusing on the man and it's like, no, I can refocus my energy over here

if you don't want or need that. I just need you to tell me you don't want or need that. Yeah. And that's how I'll focus my energy. And for a long time, I kind of wrote that off to my best sexual side because that was so new. Yeah. But the underlying tone, like my internal spank bank material, if you want to call it that, was always him with another woman. So, like, I never, ever replayed in my, in my mind, any of my experiences in the lifestyle. Never. Well, that's kind of telling, right, when you look back. Yeah. Right? Yeah. That's interesting. Correct. That's always been the underlying tone. And I was at least aware of that, you know, but that that's what I was into seeing visually.

But also playing with none of these people were coming forward and being like, I'm, we're a hot wife. I just really want to sit over here and watch. Like nobody was being honest about that. And we hadn't encountered any unicorns at that point in time. Like, unicorns are called a unicorn for a reason. We were struggling at that point in time to find that. And because I was by, it was on the radar.

You know, I definitely wanted to look at playing with just another woman. But things just weren't lining up for that to happen. So fast forward some years. And then we go through a phase of time where the first unicorn we played with, it's kind of funny because I've been reflective recently on this journey, trying to like see the things that happened that I didn't recognize in the moment. Yeah. The first woman we played with, she's a very dominant woman.

And while she did not dominate my husband in our first threesome situation, And there was definitely some leanings there on. She's going to do what she wants to do with him. Yeah. And even like caught me off guard in, in like, swallowing him when he finished one time. And I was like, oh, I would, like, we hadn't even had this conversation. I was not, I wasn't even ready for that.

Like, because we hadn't encountered it or anything like that. Yeah. But then I was also dripping wet from just that experience because I didn't get the opportunity. to have a say-so. I was like, oh, shit. Oh, that was like a part of the turn on. Yeah, I just, I just, I inadvertently. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Not intentionally gave up control. Yeah. And I was like, this was, this is so hot. And then my husband's like, are you sure? Like, because he's now, he's, he's going the opposite direction. Like, oh, that we haven't talked about that. This is going to be a problem. And I'm like, no, that was absolutely not a problem.

Yeah. In the cuck world, everything is backwards. It's like the upside-down world. You know, yeah. And so, you know, fast forward, we started having more, we got lucky. Again, feast or famine, right? Yeah. Then we started getting lucky in finding some single women to play with.

And by single, a lot of our journey, so one thing I haven't mentioned is about the time that we started swinging, we also got into BDSM. Okay. But those worlds ran parallel to one another. They really weren't coexisting. one was a very different environment than the other, you know, in structured, well done, I say well done. That's a real judgmental statement when I finish what I was saying, but the environment that we like for BDSM, it's born out of the leather community. We like a very structured BDSM environment. There's not even normally sex allowed in dungeons. Usually there's not pink parts that can be touched in a dungeon. So we, you know, while we're in a dungeon, that's the space. that we're in. And when we're with non-monogamous people, that's the space we're in. And there wasn't a whole lot of crossover. But I say all that to say, some of our next experiences with women after that very first unicorn were people that we encountered in the kink side of things as well.

Right. So now we've added, now we're having interactions with women that there's some added component of submission typically from that woman. Right. Because I am dominant, I am dominant towards women and my husband is dominant as well. Oh, okay. So, right. Okay. So now we've kind of got this extra, this extra thing playing in because I, I like that as well with women as. And that was, that was really where we were finding people that were interested in playing in that realm. I'm not mad about it, right? So, so now we've got a new source of places to find women that are willing to play. But most of them, I wouldn't call single.

A lot of them were married that they just were ethically nominally. monogamous to a certain degree. Right. And I had the past to do it. Correct. Correct. And so in those, in those early, early situations, it was mostly that I was dominant over them, but again, the internal, the internal reel kept being, playing over and over again of him playing with these other women. And I don't fully know when I, when, when a switch happened for me. me to recognize the cut queen's side. But as I as I developed as a person in the lifestyle and I and I say all that to say when we were early in the lifestyle I had a lot of my own insecurities, a lot of my own lack of self-confidence. And that kind of ruled my brain. So so jealous brain

was there because of internal things that I was working on for me. Now fast forward, I've to work through all my personal stuff because it was never my husband my husband never did anything to to push me in a way that was disrespectful or that I felt like there was a problem and what was going on it was always a me problem right and you were self-aware enough to know that it correct and so as I worked on those things and myself then I really started coming into my own on the on the cut queen side because now I'm I'm not having to having these emotions that are popping off when we're playing with these people. Instead, I'm just, I'm just trying to, like, how can I narrate this? Like, you know, like, I want you to

do this and this, I want him to do that or I want him to just take control of the situation and I don't get a say in this, you know, this situation or whatever. And the ultimate, the ultimate situation that happened was we, we travel a lot. And in our travels, we like to connect with like-minded people. Well, in advance of the cruise, literally just a year ago, I had a conversation with a woman. She was traveling solo, even though she was partner, she was traveling solo and had permission to play and also had her own DS, you know, Dominance, emissive dynamic with her partner at home. He, we have a conversation in advance of the trip. Her partner gives permission for her to play and also essentially submit to my husband. I share some of my interest in him with other women, even to the point of him telling me that her pussy is better, that it's tighter, that she sucks a better dick.

Oh, you really want that cuck experience. I like this. Okay, go on. Yeah, I started owning the humiliation and degradation side of that cuck queen title. But I hadn't experienced it yet. like we were having it from a pillow talk perspective. So we would talk about other women when he were having sex. And he would tell me, like, for instance, it could have been a full swap situation.

And he would be in our reconnection afterwards. So most people are reconnecting so they can reconnect to their partner, right? Yeah. You know, for me, this was the experience continuing because now he's telling me, oh, her pussy was so much tighter than yours. She sucks a better dick. Like all, he's saying all of these things from a pillow talk perspective. well, this woman, we're on a cruise together.

We're in the Mediterranean on a cruise together. And he fucks this woman for 10 days. And she was all about the degradation and humiliation too. She just played right into it. It was a very natural fit for her. And so I went from not really having anything besides pillow talk experiences to a full on Cup Queen Cupcake Humiliation and Degradation. experience. Okay, so walk me through that specifically. So obviously when you're talking to people

online, the first, you know, the first situation is, is this even going to be a connection? Well, leading up to it, there was a whole lot of phone conversations, video conversations, video, like audio recordings of sex talk in advance. Like, it was hot and heavy. And And that was not, that's not typically something we do. It is very, very rare for us to do that. We typically save stuff like that for when we're actually in person and playing with other people. And so that alone was an added component. So the buildup in the few weeks leading up to this was absolutely over the top ridiculous.

But I'm always concerned because we've done enough dating and the lifestyle off of the internet that things are not always as they seem. And so I walked into it with some concern that there might not be a match when we get in person. Yeah. Thankfully, that was, thankfully that was just not the case. It was, she was exactly who she presented herself to be and very respectful of the two of us. Funny enough, she was actually traveling with grown children, not adult children. One was, one's in college and one was in high school. So during the day, we were doing our own thing.

and she'd be like, this is what I'm doing with with my kids and once they head this direction, then I'm available. And so then we were continuously able to meet up, usually typically in the evenings after excursions and things like that and have some drinks and then go back to the room

and play. And most of that trip, I was not playing. I was watching. Now, she did have some girl on girl things that she wanted to experience. So she had not played with a straplon before. So I fucked her while my husband was fucking her throat at one point.

You know, so we were fulfilling some wishes of hers as well. But by and large, that experience every single day of that trip was him and her with me. I wouldn't say that I was in a cup chair because that's what I was going to say. Are you on the side in the room, right? But in a chair on the side? I'm in the room. I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm to the side, you know, but we're on a cruise ship. So those, those spaces can be a little bit small. But I'm, I'm there and, and I'm watching and in some cases participating. But a lot of that trip, I was also being denied. And I was good with that. Like, I wanted that. My husband generally speaking doesn't do anything until I specifically tell him that that's what I, that I'm interested in him doing that for me. denying you. I was being denied.

Yeah. He was denying me and only giving it to her. So she's, so she's shit talking as well, talking about how he only wants to give it to her, that I'm not going to get any. And I explicitly remember there's, there's one moment in time that they're going at it.

And the added, the added piece to this particular occasion was is that we were all out. I want to say we were at the dueling pianos, entertainment area or whatever. And I was like, I want you to take her. So at this point,

we'd only play like this together. I was like, I want you to take her to our room. Like, I'm staying here, you take her. And he's like, how about this?

I'm not going to take her. Because, again, he likes, he likes for me to, to control the situation. Yeah. Without actually being in control, if that makes sense.

And so he was like, how much this? I'm going to go upstairs and you send her up when you're ready to send her up. And I'm like, okay, fair enough. Yeah. And so I send her up and let them have their time by themselves. So that's the first time at any stage that he's played without me present in the room. And then I joined them later.

Well, that added dynamic to the situation intensified everything for me. So at some point, like once I join them, I'm sitting there and I'm literally without stimulation at all squirting all over myself. Where? When you're downstairs waiting or just waiting? No, no. When I joined them. But let me ask you this. Do you walk in on them like in, in action?

Oh, 100%. And my request was is that I want, I want evidence of that later. And so they had actually taken quite a long audio recording of some of that interaction. Right. And then I come in and join them. And it's that added level of him playing on his own, which really is ultimately me giving up control of that situation, right? Just send it over the top.

Yeah. And so, and that girl played in perfectly. Was she just like someone you met on the cruise? Like, when you go back home, is she there around that you could? see her again or did you bring her on with you or does she say there we met her in a lifestyle Facebook page for cruisers I posted where you know I posted the posted what we were going to be where we were going to be on what ship and and she commented as well with and included a unicorn emoji and I was like can I message you right and that's that's kind of where it's that's where

it started. And unfortunately, no, she is not local. Right. So we're, we're Georgia. She's Illinois. And so, you know, by the end of this week, everything, like, there was, there was no moments of, I'm not okay or anything like that. We're trying to figure out how this is going to, this is going to work out in the future because it was so much fun, right? Yeah. She was perfect. It were separate ways at the end of the strip. She was. She absolutely was. And she didn't even know what she was really signing up for, but she played the part really well.

And she got into it. I remember when me and Lila did a whole cuck queen thing together. And she was like, oh, let's find your favorite cuck queen porn scenario. And she brought one to the table. But really what she was hot for was the girl that was fucking the guy. Like, I was like, oh, to me, the cut queen is I'm the person that was sitting on the side. That's why I experienced this whole. seem different. But, you know, I'm sure there are women that want to play that scenario like that

girl was, like sort of the cheating thing, like, I'm with your husband, like whatever. You know what I mean? Living that out as well, too, it's probably hot in a different sense for a different reason. Her experience. I mean, what girl wouldn't want to be told that they're tighter that they such a better dick, right? Like, I don't know. Like, I like the cock thing that Leland was so into her. I was like, oh, now I see, like, that's what you like? You know what I mean? Like, and I get it. It's like a totally, but to me it's like a different person in this scenario. But yeah, I could see like maybe getting into both. Like you could be both is what you're saying.

I mean, I don't know that I could. I mean, maybe I could. I probably could. I could probably be the cut cake for sure. Right. Yeah. But I was like, that is a whole other experience and a whole different thing. She obviously enjoyed being the cockqueak cake and she was the perfect one.

I mean, she was like in character doing it. And I love that you really, because like I've had some cock queens on. just this like the vision of seeing their guy with somebody else, but they don't really want to be denied or talk down to. But you get into all of that, right? Like you weren't the whole cuck experience. I do. But like I say, you know, I've had this underlying tone of being a cut queen for a long time, but I've only really started. It's a little over a year that I've really been owning the humiliation and degradation side of things. And does that add to it for you, it must, right? Like, because like you just allowed it one time and saw that like and realized it's even hotter with that? Is that how that came in to be? Right. Absolutely. Now, I don't get me wrong. If if the other person, this is all about mutual respect and boundaries and things like that. So if the other person is not necessarily into the humiliation and degradation side, well, one, I don't ever expect them to have to say anything. Like that, that's just a lot for anybody unless you've been in that role before. But some people feel.

fit it very easily, like our friend on the boat. Yeah. But I don't go in expecting that at all. So I can watch him play with another woman without that. But I can assure you when we connect afterwards, he's talking shit. So he's the one that gives you it, right. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. So even in the moment, I might not be getting it. And here's the thing, too, like even with full swap situations, don't get me wrong. I like, I like playing with other men. Right. And I don't talk about my cut queen side when we're talking to a full swap couple because it can be such a weird turnoff for other men to even hear that that's a thing. Right. I don't want them to ever shift their energy or experience because they know that I'm into this, you know?

And so we don't even really talk about it. But even in a full swap situation, our pillow talk afterwards is he's still telling me how much better that woman was or whatever. Oh, okay. So you can still have your cut queen moment. It's that just after. I can. I can. Yeah, because it is still fucking somebody else for you.

So, you know, you get a little bit added something extra because you got this little kink in you, don't you feel like all these experiences? Well, and then the fun thing is, so we've got some friends that they're not super close by, but we try to see them as often as we can. It's another full swap couple. They know us well enough to know that I have that kink. And so, like, they took some video because we play some. separate rooms and they took some video, they being my husband and her, and she's shit talking

in the video. That works. And I'm here, like, I'm here for it. I love it. Yeah. You know? And then it's not, but that's not also changing her husband's experience in a full swap situation.

It wasn't in the, we weren't in the room together. So I got my cake and got to eat it too, right? Yeah, yeah, totally. Now, do you go looking for that? Do you have that now in your profile? do you go looking for that separate and have you been successful? I know you had that one major experience with that girl on the cruise, but have you found other cupcakes to play with since?

So it is on our profile, but we start with full swap. Like that's typically what we're seeking first because it's also so hard to find that four-way connection. So like I'm never going to, I'm never going to not look for that. I want to play with other men. I do enjoy that, but it's a different, completely different experience for me. But I also do include very, very vague information about identifying as a cut queen. One, a lot of people don't know what that means or understand it.

I know. And then they just see a word they don't know and don't do the research. And they're like, I had no idea. So I thought that you were into something that I'm not into. You know, it's like, don't, like, don't count me out. Like, but I also want to be honest that that's who I am because I want to draw people in that would be into that as well. Right. And have you met, like, have you been able to mock up the scenario with anybody else since? I know that you do with full swaps today, I think, but have you found any good cook queens, cut cakes since that one killer girl you had for 10 days?

We've, we've played with other women and it's a developing thing. You know, when you're 10 days back to back with somebody, that can develop pretty quickly. But if you're only seeing them once, it takes a bit more time for that to develop. Funny enough, actually, while I'm on this call, we have a friend here this weekend that we've been trying to connect with. She was partnered before, and my husband has played with her at a house party before, but we haven't had a chance to connect. And so she actually came. We're not super close together either. still Metro Atlanta, not close together.

She came over for the entire weekend, but she's now single, and she knows about Mike Kink. And so she's actually been playing into that this weekend as well. So, you know, it develops. It's something that develops over time because people are like, I don't even know what that is, but I mean, who wouldn't want to be told that their pussy is cider, you know?

And I can talk about your husband's dick being good and all of that. Like, that's no problem at all. So, you know, it's possible. it's not something that I walk in expecting them to to be like I refer to our the one from the ship as as our OG cupcake like she's you know nobody's compared to her but nobody's had the same

opportunity yeah listen she set the bar so high but like you said all the stars aligned plus you had all that time so it's hard to do that like it's that's not going to happen again with somebody here that you mean it's different right like you said you're going to have to sort of explain it more

I think that a lot of times, you know, women don't even know that they have this king. Sometimes they realize after. I didn't realize it until somebody sent me a video of them fucking someone else for, they didn't send it to me because they're like, look at me fucking someone else. They're like, look at me. This is for her from behind. It reminds me of you. You know what I mean?

Like it was that kind of thing. But it was him fucking someone else. And I was like, oh, that's fucking hot. And then I sort of look back and realize, oh, maybe I wanted my ex to tell me about other people all the time, but he never would. But like, I would ask him, you know? I put it together. So I think, you know, probably if you're more open about it or what, you know, you might find when you're talking to women in the future moving along that, that you might make them realize they have it too because I think that women don't even put it together.

I didn't. I didn't even know. You know, and I think it's the same for guys too. A lot of people don't understand the whole cuck hot wife thing or cuck queen thing. Before I did my show, I never could imagine that any guy wanted to see their girl, fuck another guy. Like, I didn't realize it was such a thing. Until I started doing my show and I had one caller. And it turned out that he was like full of shit, this guy, John, but he was like my most popular guy that called in and he shared his wife.

And that's when I realized this is like top of the mountain and there's so many guys that are into this. And then now I realize it's like a thing. And I think it is for women too. They just don't know about it. Just like you didn't know and you were in the lifestyle for a really long time and you didn't really put it together. Right. Right. I mean, because in the lifestyle, you hear a lot of, you actually do hear a lot about the men, you know, the company.

holds that women like when I even say the word and I've I've created a lifestyle ladies group just recently in the southeast and and we you know that that group is having random conversations about things that you might not necessarily be having if you're out to dinner with another full swap couple trying to get to know them just you know things that you want to talk about with people that understand what you're talking about and and they'll ask me lots of questions They're like, what is, so tell me more about your kink and what you're into and all of that. And more often than not, I'm finding more women that are like, yeah, I have a little bit of that. I told you.

Most of them are like, most of them are like, I couldn't do, I couldn't do the denial. I couldn't do, you know, the humiliation degradation piece that you have. But they all, most women have recently have said, I do like to watch. Yeah, exactly. So I think it's just that they don't put it together, just like you did and just like I did it. And I think, because there's not a lot of content out there if you go looking for cuck queen porn, they kind of have it, but it's not like a big genre and they don't show it as much. And I don't think that they show it the right way.

I had a woman on who created porn made by women for women. I'm like, you need to do a whole cuck queen thing. If you did, I think, you know, it would blow the fuck up because it's kind of niche, right? And it just hasn't been totally filled yet. But you could share your episode with people so that. they could hear it if you're on that group that you do. How did you wind up being a writer? And if you want to give a shout out to your woman's group, you know, because listen, Cuck queens are going to be finding this episode. So if you want to give a shout out to any of your

stuff, feel free. I have a big audience. So there's a couple of different things. So along our journey, we've hosted meet and greets. And then I also hosted what was called Girls in Court, which was sponsored by Cassidy. You might be familiar with the website. Cassidy. It's not popular in the southeast, but they were trying to kind of make their mark in other areas. And so this was one of their things that they were helping to sponsor, which is basically just a ladies night. It was women only to come together. They built it off of wine, right? So that's why they call it girls in court, you know, come have a glass of wine, chat with some like-minded friends, and then go about your business. It was a weeknight, so it didn't interfere with most other

lifestyle type things that you would be doing as a couple and things of that nature. And I actually have one of my best friends to this day is somebody that I met from when I was hosting Girls on Court. Well, I took a break from that because you can't cross promote another website to other websites without people getting angry about it. And so I was struggling because the Southeast is just not the place for Cassidy is just not entrenched here. Now in the Southeast, SDC is one of the.

main sites. Oh, and that's my site I always promote. And SDC, I just want to give up my code of 3771 too, or people who go in the description. You get a free link. Sorry, I have to add that in. Anyway, go on. Yeah, so I was like, I really don't, this isn't working. I'm not drawing enough

people in because there's not enough traffic on Cassidy in the southeast. But I really enjoyed the camaraderie that came from women, supporting women. I'm very much an empowerment. Like, I want, I want to see you succeed. Let me fix your crown. I'm a girl's girl.

And so I was part of another Ladies of the Lifestyle Facebook page from up north that I got connected to from somebody that had moved south from up there. And I was like, yeah, Adme, I'd love to be part of that. And so I'm watching this whole community of lifestyle women have very real conversations that sometimes you don't hear vanilla women having, even if it's just about hormones. And, you know, the slump that they're in with sex.

Like the reality is, is even when you're in the lifestyle, you go through these same cycles that other people that aren't go through. And I just love that community feel. So I reached out to the admin team. I was like, look, I'm not trying to do, you know, exactly what you're doing. But I do want to very much mirror what you're doing with this Facebook community in the southeast. So it's literally not even a full month old. I created this Facebook page. It's called Dirty South Sisterhood.

and it's mostly Georgia people because that's where I'm located, but we already have some people from Florida, South Carolina, Alabama, and Texas in that group. And I've restarted my ladies' ladies meet. So we're going to be bouncing around the metro Atlanta area on a monthly basis to have this lady's night. I'm calling it lipstick confessions now. And yeah, so that's that's my ladies group.

And then forward from that, you asked about the writing. So I write the kink column, one of the kink columns. There can be multiple authors, but I write one of the kink columns for the swing nation. I guess magazine that's called Altlife Magazine. So it's written for swingers by swingers. But my heart is in bridging the gap between the kink community and the swing community. because there's a lot of misunderstandings between those communities, and I want to try to fix some of that. So that's kind of what drives my writing, and I've been writing with them almost every single month since they started the magazine a couple of years ago.

And it's an ASN-nominated magazine. I love that. And your name is Candace. Cadence, Cadence, Cadence, C-D-R-A-N-E, right? Yep. Okay, cool. That's correct. I will put that stuff.

I mean, people that are driving that here, I will put the names in the description so people don't have to remember, right? It'll be there. I love your story. Cut Queen's stories do very well. I mean, you're pretty well-rounded. I mean, you've kind of been there, done that all. I didn't realize you were in the lifestyle for so long.

So we covered a lot of, we covered 18 years, you know, but I love all your stories. You were a great storyteller. So thank you. What do we call you? I keep wanting to call you Cadence now because that's what is. We called you Canty. It doesn't matter. Candy, listen.

You call me candy. Yeah, if you want to send me in picks for my Patreon, right? You could do that. Sure. Get them to me asap. This will be up very soon because cut queen episodes are in demand. At least for me, I always like to put them up because it's something that I would like to hear, you know? And also I will give you free access to my Patreon so you could see the comments as well as free access to my Discord where you could like totally get involved and feel free to promote anything over there.

Okay. Sounds good. All right. Awesome. Thanks so much for calling in with your story. I love Cuck Queen stories. Thank you, Candy. Bye.

Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audio book. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories. is taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being

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