Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 117 - Tuna gets Some Online Dating Advice

Episode Date: March 14, 2016

Tuna is back on and he still is having problems picking up girls. Though he wants to date, he doesn't know how to go about meeting women. Should he go online to meet chicks? What is the best free dating site? What should he write in his profile in order to get girl's attention? Tune in to fond out plus learn a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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out that Tuna also had a bigger problem. The foot finish wasn't a problem. That was what he was into, but what he had was a problem with girls. He couldn't get a date. He was really interested in meeting a girl. He felt like a loser because he had never had a relationship and he was in his late 20s and we talked all about that and we've had him on the show actually a couple times. I mean, he was one of the first callers like two years ago when I started my podcast and he's been on numerous times since. And he wrote me recently and he was like, hey, Kathy, I'm still having problems with girls that I really need your advice. So Tuna still can't get a date. He's pretty bad with girls. I didn't want to go into all the other stuff that I've gone into with him in the past because

I've been there done that with him and psychoanalyzed him and went into his past. And I didn't and all that stuff. So on this podcast, really what I do is just give him advice on, like, how to, like, online date. Because personally, I think that that's what he needs to do. And that's about it. And we also talk about his problem and his issues. And, you know, I like tuna.

I hope that he meets a girl eventually. And hopefully this is like, you know, leads to something for him. Okay, anyway, well, I'll be right back on with tuna. Do you have a story? style or situation you can't talk about to anyone, to anyone? Or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show? Well, Strictly Anonymous wants to hear from you. Send us an email, Strictly Anonymous podcast at gmail.com, with your story and your anonymous name.

And remember, everything is strictly anonymous. Strictly anonymous. Hey, Tuna, you're on the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. How are you? I'm doing fine in yourself. I'm good. So listen, we're going to take a podcast. This is like your third or fourth time of my show.

And I'm really on a mission to help you find a girl, right? And that's what you're calling in again. And I think that's initially what you called in for. It was like a foot fetish slash I can't get a date or I don't have a relationship type of call, right? Because you do have this foot fetish thing. But really what you wrote me about and why you want to be in this show again is because you still can't get a date and you need advice. and when you get nervous, right? The truth is you kind of stutter, right?

Sometimes. So to make, so I'm going to do a lot of the talking because A, you need advice, right? And B, sometimes you get a little nervous. But why don't you start off real quick and just explain like why you feel like you can't get a date or what your issue you think is with girls? I think maybe I feel insecure about my stuff. about my weight, which is one of them. And maybe, well, the way of when I think about it, you know, I only have male friends,

but not female friends, like strictly potonic, you know, not, you know, not someone I would sleep, but not with some girl I meet and then you just sleep with. So I'll admit, I don't know how to make friends with girls, which is probably why. I don't know the reason why I don't have a girlfriend. friend, maybe because I don't understand how women think or where to meet them. We are to meet them. So another thing... Hold on.

Another thing what? Say that again? Another thing what? Another thing is because I don't understand how women think or where to meet them. Mm-hmm. Or where to meet them. Another issue is probably because I'm very needy and I don't think my life has. value if I don't have anyone's approval.

You don't have anyone's approval? You mean like not even from your parents or anybody? Do you have any sisters or brothers? I'm an only child. Okay, what about your parents? Do they approve of you? I'm sorry, yeah. I live with my parents, yes.

Yeah, but are they cool with you? Like, do they give you approval? Like, do they, you know, sort of talk you up or think, you know, highly of you? Like, do you have issues with your family, your parents? Um, I, with my family, like my, my uncle and my aunt, they, they think highly of me. My mother thinks highly of me. My dad thinks highly of me. Even though we don't, usually don't have a close relationship.

But not like, not like I'm, I'm not really that close with them because I don't really talk to them. I don't really talk to them as much, if you know what I mean, if you, if you know what I mean. Sure. Yeah. not like your best friends. You're not like really chatty, but they're cool with you. But so, but your issue, we're not getting approval as from women, right? Yeah, it's from mostly women.

Mm-hmm. And other and mostly, yeah, mostly women, yeah. Yeah, I mean, we're going to stick to the topic of women, right? And like your issues with women because it's not like you're alone, tuna, right? There's probably a lot of guys around your age range, even older, okay? Like seriously. Some people, you know, they never change. And there's probably guys like, listen, if you don't, I think that you will change eventually

because you call into my show all the time. Like you're a thinker. You're always trying to fix this problem that you have with women, right? So I think eventually you're going to figure it out because you want to, right? But a lot of people probably have this problem and they don't, they kind of want to figure it, but they don't do anything about it. And so they have it their whole lives, right? So I think that there's a lot of people out there like you, right?

That can't get a date and are looking forward. Now, it's hard to give, like there's so much I could tell you to do. Like there's a lot of things you'd have to do to sort of go out and get a relationship, right? Because really the ultimate thing that you're always looking for when you call in is like a relationship, right? I mean, and to me, what I think you really need first is just, you know, some experience dating women. You know, like you're, before you get into like a full-fledged relationship, right? Have you ever dated a girl for any length of time?

No. Okay. And now have you had sex? I have a feeling that this was a big thing on one of the podcasts. You had lied about the age that you lost your virginity. But you lost your virginity right, but it was like to a hooker, right? Like have you ever had sex with a girl that you actually were like involved with, even like a one night stand, anything?

Or was the only time you had sex with the hooker? I've only had sex with mostly the mostly the mostly hookers not like someone that I met at a bar right and so how many times have you had how many times have you had sex with the hookers probably like

like seven times seven to ten times I don't remember that's not bad listen you should listen to a podcast that I have that I did with a guy and he was like in his 60s okay and this is why I thought before when I was saying some people never changed. Like he was a guy that had like really bad luck with women all his lives. And like seriously, him getting into hookers like late in his life like in his 60s had like

really changed him and gave him confidence because he learned a lot about like just how to like screw girls and how to be with them by being with these hookers. And it gave him like confidence. And it was actually a positive thing. So it's nothing to be ashamed of that you go to hookers, right? And in the meantime, while you're waiting to. to sort of figure out how to get it on with real girls. Like, it's not a big deal to get it on with some escorts on the side, right?

I mean, people would probably say that's really bad to say on air. I don't know because it's illegal, but you could go to Las Vegas and do it legally, right? It's okay. Like, you need to get laid, right? Like, you jerk off, I'm assuming, right? And you like women. And but you have, like, you're a regular guy, right? when it comes to like your sex drive right like you you know so i i don't think it's a bad thing for you

to screw hookers it's just you need to take like your experience with hookers and put it with real girls like you don't go out to bars right or drink or any of that kind of stuff no i do not right so that's where it's always hard and how old are you tuna i am 28 so you're 28 you don't go to bars you don't drink do you where do you work again i don't remember i'm sorry i couldn't I hear you. What did you just, could you repeat that? Sure.

Where do you work? Um, where do I work? Um, yeah, I'm not working at the moment. You go to school, right? Okay,

so you can meet girls in school. Like, that's where a guy like you would be meeting chicks. They'd be meeting them in school, right? It's hard when you don't drink. I'm going to tell you, tuna,

because this goes for me and most people that I know and probably people don't think about it, really. But the truth is, most people, all their action and all their dating

and everything revolves around alcohol. If people really thought about their lives and they thought about all the alcohol and they took it out of their life, they probably would have had like as little experience as you. Okay. That's just the fact. So when you take alcohol out of the picture and you're not going to bars and you're not drinking, you're of course going to be sort of fucked when it comes to women. And probably a lot of people are listening to that. What I just said and think that's fucking nuts too, but it's true. Okay. It's a lot harder to like hook up and to meet people and to do any of that kind of stuff without alcohol.

Most relationships, most sexual experiences, most everything revolves around the drinks. Do you understand? That's where a lot of guys get their courage to go up and pick up girls. Even though they're not going to admit it and they're listening to this podcast and they're like, yeah, whatever. Kathy, like these cocky douchebags think that they do everything without any kind of liquid courage. But it's not true.

A lot of people use alcohol as a way. And so you don't drink at all? No, I do not drink at all. Right. So that's going to hinder you. So everything that you do, like you do completely sober, right? So, you know, at 28 years old, you faced your life always totally like one-on-one, which isn't a bad thing, okay?

Like, that takes a lot of courage, right? So you should give yourself credit for that. So any interaction you've had with girls, you've always been completely sober. And that takes balls, like for real, you know? Have you like, when you, like, when you. you mean, like, how have you ever, have you ever, okay, you never like really dated a girl seriously, but have you gone on dates with women? Okay, see, that's, okay, have you ever done online dating? Okay, so what do you think? Like, girls are just going to come knocking at your

door, Tuna, you have to start. The only way to get practice with women is to, like, actually interact with them. Okay, where have you at? Where do you typically ask girls out? Okay. constantly 100% of the time. How many times can you count on your one hand? How many times you've asked a girl out on a date at school? Or is it numerous, like lots of girls? Yeah, that's not a lot. You're 28 years old.

Five or six. That's not even like one a year since you've like reached puberty. Okay. Like that's not a lot. You should be doing five or six at least. Okay, listen, even if you're slow and you're shy, you should be doing five or six. If you told me five or six a year, I'd still be like that's not enough. But for you, I would say that's enough.

But five or six in your whole lifetime is ridiculous. Okay. That's your problem right there. It's a numbers game for anyone. Do you understand? You have to up your game. And now the five or six, that, like, what that means like every three years, you decide to go up to a girl and ask her out?

It's not, it's not good, Tuna. You have to do it more than that, okay? So that's fine. We're not going to go into your past that much because, like you really need some like stuff to do now, right? Like if you were going to go to therapy, I tell you to go to cognitive therapy because they would give you some like actions to do to change your life.

Like you need to like do things different, right? Than you've done in the past so that your life changes and you get more actual girls. You have to start asking more girls out. And I don't think that you like, most of the time it's hard to meet girls that you like, right? So in school you're there. You've been there probably for a couple of years. it's probably not a lot of girls that you would want to hit up, right?

So I think that you need to start doing some online dating. Is there a reason why you're opposed to online dating? Because that's what everyone does nowadays. Okay, well, let me just tell you. Okay, okay, stop. Right now I'm going to solve your problem and tell you right now that okay cupid, okay, cupid, okay.com, is free. I did some podcast with a guy named Dr. Guy because I dated him and now he's my friend.

and I met him on OKCupid. And it is free, okay? So you need to stop using the excuse that you don't have money for online dating and you could sign up for OKCupid. You're going to do that tonight when we get off the phone, right? And I'm going to give you some tips, totally legit. Totally legit. No, I'm going to tell you, every now and then you're going to get people that aren't

real men, women, everything on any website, okay, but I would say that 95% of the people on OKCupid are real. There's no spam. The only thing they're going to try and upsell you on there, which you don't have to pay for, but it's a one-time fee for $20, where you could make yourself invisible so you could look at people's profile and they don't see you looking. That's the only thing they'll give you an option to actually pay for. And I think a lot of people pay for that and that's where they make their money, right? But it's absolutely free. So if you don't care about looking at people's sort of profiles and having them see you look, then you don't have to pay that $20.

And I think sometimes it's actually better not to pay to make yourself invisible. Because when you look at a girl, right, and she sees that you look at her. Sometimes she'll email you, be like, hey, saw you look at my profile, blah, blah, blah. So it's not so great to make yourself invisible. So you don't want to pay that 20 bucks. But it literally is legitimate. It's free. You could go on there.

It's very easy. It's a lot less intense than all these other ones. Like it's like a couple questions it asks you and you just write one sentence and you throw up like more than one picture and call it a day. And there's a lot of stuff on there that I could give you some good advice for online dating if you promise me that you're going to do it. You need to do it. There's like we could sit here and analyze it.

And we've done this before because you've called them before and analyze all your psychological problems. You think too much. There's a lot of shit going down with you that keeps you from women. But that's not going to change anytime soon. Okay. I think too much. too. I understand. When people tell me like, oh, don't think too much. It's like, why don't you just

tell me to die and come back as somebody else? It's not realistic, right? So you're going to think a lot, and that's just who you're going to be, and you're going to get nervous, and you're going to doubt yourself and everything. But who cares? You have to be you and you have to just continue to date girls, but you have to up your game and you have to date a lot more. You could also do Tinder. That's like on your phone. How about Tinder? Why don't you do Tinder? That's free. Okay, but why not? Like, you're sitting around thinking about the fact that you don't have a girlfriend and it freaks you out like you get very in your head about it right you're a young person everybody now knows and everybody the internet and all the stuff that's available

and that's what everybody uses nowadays to like hook up and meet people you know why have you never thought about it because you know they always thought like people tell me like oh it's for it's for desperate people and it's like oh my god who tells you that yeah one of your 50 year old aunt. Let me tell you, that's like, you know, you're way younger than me. I'm a lot older. I'm going to be 47 soon, okay? And in my lifetime, there was a time where it was for desperate people, losers, people

that couldn't get a date, okay? But that has like gone out in the 80s. Like, that was so long ago. In your lifetime, it's, it's, it, maybe it started in the beginning of your, but like literally it's been cool with everyone across the board for many, many years now. So whatever friend told you that is ridiculous and he doesn't know what he's talking about. It's not true. It's not for desperate people.

Everybody does it. Dr. Guy, go listen to his podcast. He's the least desperate dude I know. He's gorgeous. He's got a lot of cash and every girl in the city wants to date him. Okay. And he was on OkCupid. That's where I met him.

It's totally not for desperate people. It's not for old people. It's not like that stigma that's attached to it. That used to be. I totally get that that was the case at a certain time. But it hasn't been the case for many. many, many years now. So don't worry about that. And just so you know, I hate to say it, but you know, between me and you and all my listeners, you are desperate. Okay. So even it like,

you know, but it's, it doesn't matter. Like, you need to be on one of those websites, because it's not for desperate people. You're the one that is, like, some people stay alone and they don't hook up with girls and they're wait until they meet somebody that they really like. That's right for them. And they're cool with that. But you're not, right? Like, you do feel like you have a problem. And it is something that you want to solve. And you do want to be with a girl, right?

Yes. But yet you can't. You've dated, you've never dated a girl. You've never had sex with a real girl, only hookers. You've asked out five girls in your whole life and you're 28. Okay. So it is a little, you are a little desperate to meet a girl, right? So you should be doing a lot of stuff.

And there's nothing wrong with that. Like, it's just because you're, someone's desperate or they find themselves at a desperate. I think a lot of people find themselves in a desperate point in their life, like, or they're desperate at a certain point in their life. That doesn't mean you're a loser or anything. It just means that at this place and time, because of the how you lived your life, you're kind of desperate. Do you know what I mean? If you don't want to be desperate, you got to up your game and you got to go out and date more girls, despite the fact that you're super nervous, you're super shy. You don't have a like, a,

a good sort of self-image. Like, all that kind of stuff is, like, hard. It's like, you know, you have these deep-seated things in you that we've talked about in different podcasts that you need help from like a therapist, right? You have a therapist, right? Yes, you have a therapist, yes. Right. Now, so she helps with all that stuff.

Now, what does she tell you about girls? Like, I would assume that you discussed your relationship's shit with your therapist, right? Yeah, I told her about my problem. Okay. And, well, she said, like, she told me I'm not a, I told her, she said I'm not, I'm not a loser. You know, it's, I probably don't remember, but she said, I'm not a loser. And, you know, you know, timer, you know, you just have to, you just have to be confident and not stress

myself with these things. Mm-hmm. Because there's every, there's every woman for every man out there, I guess. Right. There's absolutely someone for everyone. I say that on my podcast dead millions of times. You could watch any TV show, reality TV show and see. There's little people that have partners.

There's people with no limbs that have partners. There's deaf people with no partners. There's heavy people with no partners. There's skinny people like there's, I mean, with partners. Sorry. All those people have partners. Okay. The only reason why you don't have a partner, Tuna, is because you don't date enough,

because you keep yourself away from partner. It has nothing to do with you being a loser. And when I say desperate, I don't mean a loser. I'm sure I've been desperate in my life at certain times. Desperate is like you just want something and you feel like you can't get it. Okay. Like you're not a loser in any way, shape, or form, right? You just, you know, like I said, you're like,

you're kind of like your own worst enemy you get in the way of yourself. But obviously your therapist knows that too because she was telling you like you're not a loser and you just have to have more confidence. You just have to start dating girls. You have to go online. It's not going to happen at school, right? Because you've been there for so long. You've already probably asked out girls there.

You don't go to bars. You're not working right now. If you want to get some practice with women, right? You have to go online. It's the best thing for you. It's super easy to type girl. Listen, you write into me. I'm a total stranger, right?

And you have the balls to like write in and call me and to tell me about your problems and stuff. So you should be able to do that shit with people online. It's no different. They're anonymous. Unless you're going to meet one, that's the time to get nervous, right? When you're really going on a date with somebody,

everyone gets a little nervous at that point. But when you're just emailing and hitting these girls up, seeing them on the profile, think about it like when you're writing to me. It's not that big of a deal. Do you understand? It's just like someone that you don't know that you're probably never going to meet because let me tell you online,

you're going to get rejected a lot. Okay? it happens to everybody and people take it personally and you shouldn't I'll tell you what you take personally if you did go on a date with somebody and they never call you back like then maybe you could personalize it like oh they didn't like me and who cares not everyone's going to like everybody everybody gets rejected okay that's normal but that's personal but when somebody that you've never met that read some sentences that you wrote and saw the picture of you from like three years ago doesn't write you back on an online dating website that is not personal do you understand it means

nothing. So you got to like throw that shit out the window because I have had friends who have been so psychotic. Actually, Tommy, remember Tommy he used to host the podcast with me? He made me manage his match.com profile once because he couldn't handle the rejection, which I don't understand because I don't take that shit personally. Like I said, if you go out with the girl or the guy, if I go out with the guy on a date and then I really like it, but he never calls me again. Then I could personalize that. I could say, oh yeah, he met me and he didn't like me, right? Because, you know, I never heard from them again and I sat across from them for two hours, right? But if you never meet them and they're just reading your shit and like, who cares? Like it doesn't mean anything. Do you understand?

People get crazy about that. You can't get crazy about that. You have to go into it knowing that none of that is personal and you need to write as many girls as you can. And it doesn't matter that most of them, the majority of them will not write you back. And that happens to everybody. Okay. I used to hit up the hottest guys in OkCupid and none of them would write me back. And I'd be like, what the fucks are going on, you know what I mean? But I don't take it personally because it's like, who knows and who cares? I don't, you know what I mean? You can't get stuck on it, right? This is the other advice. You're going to do it, right? You're going to go online because I'm going to start giving you advice for what to do online. Because I think that people listening could, you know, take the advice because I'm going to give you

good advice about online dating. But I want to make sure that you're going to actually do it. Will you do it? Yeah, I'll do it. I'll try. No, yeah, try. You'll do it. And then you will call back and you'll give me like a 10 minute update on like what's been going on with your like thing right like that would be interesting you want to do that okay so then you have to do it because you're going to call it and I'm going to give like updates of what's going on your okay cupid profile okay so you're going to go okay cupid this is what I suggest and this is like a lot of people you're going to see girls and guys alike write way too much in their profile and what people don't understand okay and I tell my friends this all the time. The more you write, the more reason you give somebody to not sort of write you

or to like dismiss you, right? Because you could say everything right for one girl and then one sentence. If you say I like donuts, she's like, oh, I don't like donuts. And then she's like, I can't date him because he likes donuts and I don't. Like people are that fucking nuts online. Do you understand? They really think of like really stupid things that are never, never going to matter in real life. But that's, I even do it when I'm reading people. Like one sentence, the guy says like, oh, red flag, forget it, you know. And it's such bullshit. So really the best thing to do is let, like, not write that much, write maybe two sentences for each thing. I wrote one sentence in each part of my, okay, Cuban profile. And Dr. Guy was the same. That's why I wrote him. And he was

super cool. And we actually got along really well and we're friends to this day. So write as little as possible in each section, like literally like maybe two sentences. Okay. They're only, going to ask you like six questions. And some of them that are just so stupid like, what are your hobbies or which restaurants? You're like, don't even write, don't even fill those out. I didn't even write every single one. You know, I didn't even answer every single one. Definitely put more than one picture up. Okay, you cannot only put one. Do you have like your young person? Do you take a lot of pictures of yourself? Like, do you have a lot of pictures of yourself? I have some pictures that other people pick of me. Okay. I don't do selfies. Okay. But you have pictures on hand. So you have to put more than one picture up, okay?

Because when there's one picture, that's always a red flag to people. And then what is your age range for girls that you would date? Because they're going to ask you this. Yeah, and I always look at people's age ranges. What are you going to put as your age range? You're 28. What's your age range for girls that you would date? Perfect.

So you're going to put that up. You're going to put that. You're not going to write a lot. And then after you post your thing, you're going to do it tonight, right? you're going to go online and you're going to like send like you're going to write I I wrote a stock email I think it's fine just don't make it seem so stock you know and just literally cut and paste it and send it to like as many girls as possible that you think are cute no or hold up what do you want me to do right right like hey I looked at this is what you're going to write you're just going to write this

like hey I looked at your profile no I looked at your pics I like your pro. I like your picture and your pictures. Wait, sorry, I'm like getting so confused. Wait, you're going to write like, hey, look at your profile, love your picks. And, you know, want to see if you want to meet up sometime or like, you know, take a look at mine and let me know what you think. You know, and if you're interested, let me know what you think. That's what I think I said. Something around those lines. Something like, hey, what's up. You know what I mean? Like just something very generic, something to the point. but don't go on and on and just cut and paste it and write it to like 50 girls

a day. You sure that will work? Yeah, listen, listen, there's no magical place where life is easy and everything just works perfectly the first time, okay? That's never going to happen. Is it going to work probably 50 out of the first 50 you write? It's not going to work, okay?

You're going to have to do it for a little while before it actually works. But yes, it'll eventually work where you will get girls to write you back and then you'll start engaging with them. And then you got to hit them up and ask them out on a date immediately. None of this back and forth bullshit. Okay. You have to ask them out on a date and take them out like right when you start talking to them. Because what happens online, what people don't understand is people are like talking a lot of people. You're, you know. And so if you like sort of talk to them too long and you don't meet up with them, like you'll lose them because they're just like there's another person and they're in. And box the next day. That's what happens. Do you understand? So even if you get five girls to write you back, the chance of you getting one of them to go on a date with you is kind of still difficult, right? Because those girls are talking to a million guys and then they're busy and then they get like, oh, I don't really want to do this. And so people fall out every step of the way. So to get actually one date off of online dating, you have to, it's like, like I said, it's a numbers game. You have to keep emailing,

keep doing it until it actually works. But expect it not to work a lot of the time. most of the time, do you understand? But don't be deterred by that. Failure is a part of the game, Tuna, okay? You've already hit up six girls in your life and been rejected, okay? Play out on being rejected a lot more because that's just what happens. And it happens to everybody, right? And it's okay. If you could just get past it and not like sort of like feel bad about yourself and pick yourself up and go do it again. Like that's what it's all about. And that's, that's with every area of your life, right? no matter what you want to do, you have to expect that you're going to fail or there's going to be failure involved in it. And what separates the winners from the losers is the winners just keep moving

forward regardless. Do you understand? And I feel like you're that person, right? Like you have this issue. And instead of just like becoming like this recluse and saying giving up on girls, like you keep, it's still in your head and you keep coming back at least to my show and saying like you want, like you still want to figure this out and you want to fix it. Right. So you, have to, so that's a good thing, right? And you have to use that part of your personality that still doesn't want to give up, right, and actually do something about it. But it's action. You have to create action. You're a thinker. You're very in your head, right? All of the stuff that you have to do with girls has to be like outside of your head, right? And outside of your room and like in the real life.

You have to get a date with a girl. I've been telling you this and giving you like advice of how to get a girl and then having you, it's telling you you you have to call back in with the details about your date for a very long time and you still haven't gone on a date, right? And it's been, you know, how long was the first time you called me? Probably about two years, right? A year and a half? Two years? Yeah.

Okay, in that time, like any of the advice that me and Tommy gave you on the first podcast, like did you ever meet a girl, put yourself out there? Like, did you ask a girl out on a day and get rejected? What happened? Um, you know, ever since that, I have been, I've been out to a bar, you know, I've talked to, I talked to girls. I didn't ask people for, do for a drink, but it didn't chat a little bit with a bunch of girls. And, uh, it was, it was okay. But then, you know, over the past few months, you know, you know, it's been, it's been mostly, like, I've been busy with school and I've been, through, I've been through some difficult periods in my life. Let's be completely honest though, Tuna, because we taped a little bit of this podcast a while ago and then my baby woke up. It's a hard for me to tape podcast now because I have a newborn.

But you had told me on that podcast when I talked about your therapist that you had never told your therapist about your girlfriend problems, right? So I'm assuming that because when I just asked you about your therapist recently before on the show, you said that you did mention your problem to her. So did you do that after I trashed you for never talking to her about it? Or were you lying on the first podcast? Like, what's the deal with the therapist in your love life? Yeah, well, it was, I told her, I told her after you trust me about not talking to her about it.

Okay. Was she, like, freaked out because, like, you've been going to her for years, right? I just started. I've had, it was a new therapist. Oh, okay. What about, well, your old therapist, because you've been going to therapy for years, right? Yeah, I told that old therapist about it. I told her that she didn't give me, she didn't, she just listened to me, but the other one,

the other one actually told me, gave me some insight, you know, not to worry about it, you know. People, there's always a, not to worry about it this much, but, and you just have self-esteem problems, and I need to be more confident. And, you know, everybody, there's always a girl for a man. Of course, right. That's what she told me. Right. They both told you that.

That's the same thing that this one told you, right? Yeah. Yeah. And they're right. But you're going to get confidence by actually, like, pushing yourself to do things and, like, sort of conquering your fear. I feel like that will give you confidence. I know that that's what gives me confidence in life, right?

is like when you do things that you're afraid of and you face your fears, that will make you feel better about yourself. Like even if you go out on a date with a girl and you don't like her, the fact that you actually did that will make you feel really good about yourself. Don't you think? Like can't you just like just imagine yourself like going on a date with a girl and leaving? Like won't you feel like wow? Like that's like it would be a major accomplishment for you, right? Yeah. And wouldn't that make you feel great about yourself? Yes. Right. And then with that energy that you feel,

when you feel great about yourself, you're going to have more desire to hit up more girls, right? And then that's how you get more confident, right? Like, so you have to just start putting yourself out there and do everything you can to meet a girl to go out with. And I believe a lot in intention and like energy, right? So if you put that intention out there, like, you know, you might wind up meeting a girl at Starbucks, right? Like just start online and just do like literally like email tons and tons of girls until you get a date. and what might happen, right? Because you're just like putting that energy out there that you really want to meet somebody that you have to meet somebody.

You might wind up meeting a girl walking down the street. Do you understand? Because what happens is like you change your energy and you say I'm available and I'm looking and I'm open and you send that out, those vibes out. And so then you attract people into your life that are looking for the same thing. That's how it works. I swear to you, it really does. Right.

So sometimes just by doing it online, you might not meet a girl online. You might meet somebody someplace else, right? you never know. That's the exciting thing about life. Sometimes you think you could plan things out and you say, I'm going to do this and then this is going to happen. And, you know, life goes its own way. And it's like, shit, it happens in a way that you could never have expected.

And that's like the great part of life. Do you understand? But what you have to do right now is you have to do online dating. I'm not going to go into like a whole analysis for you with your confidence or anything. Because I've done that before with you, right? and that's going to be a lifelong struggle with you. And it, you know, it's stuff that you're going to have to deal with in therapy. You should be talking to your therapist a lot about your issues with women, you know,

so she can help you because that's like really their job. What I'm going to tell you right now is just stuff that you could do in the meantime. And that is online dating. That really is just one thing that you could do that will really help you. And listen, it's like some people probably are like, oh, that won't help him because he'll just be rejected by people online and whatever. You have to be, you still, besides getting the sort of practice of dating girls, you have to get into the practice of being rejected because that's just a part of the fucking game.

Do you understand? Everybody has been rejected. Everybody, the biggest players around, the most attractive people. It just happens. It's a part of it, right? So even if you get rejected, whatever, that will be good for you in a way because what you probably fear the most is rejection, right? And if you go out and you get rejected and you realize you didn't die and you feel okay and everything's fine, life goes on, you'd be less afraid of it.

Like that's what I believe. So it's not so bad. I mean, maybe, well, I mean, maybe like being rejected actually really sucks. Okay, too now. And maybe it's like you never, it never, I mean, I don't think no matter how old you get, no matter how much you've been rejected, does it ever not, like, bother you at all. But over time, like, it will lose its effect on you because eventually, because you're going to therapy and you're getting a little, when you start to get older, you'll feel better about yourself and it won't affect you. Right now it's going to bother you a lot because you don't feel so great about yourself, right? And you do have low self-esteem. But you still got to do it because at the end of the day, you're not going to die from being rejected. So who fucking cares? Do you understand?

Yeah, I understand. Really? So, you know, I know that you have like a weight thing, right? And you always have. And that, like, I think you use that as your, like, that's your thing of how, why you feel like you can't get girls because you're overweight. How are you doing with your weight right now? Because I know that you've had times in your life where you've lost a lot of weight and stuff. Like, are you at, like, a big stage in your life? Are you at one of your skinny stages in your life?

Like, where are you right now? Right now, I actually have been, I'm still in my overweight stages. I've been struggling like here and there, you know, losing weight, you know, with depression. I tend when I get fat, I get to, I really overeat much, but, you know, I'm struggling with that. Yeah, that's a common problem. What is it? That's a common problem that people have. Absolutely.

Everyone does something different, right? You eat when you're not happy or depressed. But listen, they're like just, I mean, you know, probably getting on a diet or maybe like, making yourself sort of cut back on things and like maybe eat a little bit less will help you with your confidence right especially if you want to get out there and date but let me tell you it doesn't really matter your weight when it comes to chicks i've always been a chubby chaser i've dated fat guys skinny guys tall guys i don't really care if i like somebody i like somebody like seriously i and i'm in very good shape for my age so don't worry so much about your weight with girls

girls are very different than guys are not wired like guys where they're like so particular about physical stuff. They're more about personality and stuff. And somebody that's going to like you is going to want like a nice guy. Do you understand? Because that's what you are. That's what you have going for you. You're very thoughtful.

You're very nice. You're not a player, right? You're not the guy that's going to cheat on somebody. You're really looking for a relationship. You know, you're a good guy. And that's the girl that's going to like you is going to like you for that. Right.

So that girl's not looking for the kind of guy that you're not anyway. Do you understand? So don't worry about it. About the weight thing. Do you know what I mean? Like you can work on that in the meantime. But you have to know that women will like you if you're bigger as well. You don't need to be a skinny person to get a girl at all.

You really don't. Yeah. Yeah, I hear you. You know, so you need to do me the favor, like I said, and do your O-Cupid profile tonight. If you want to send me, I know who you, you've sent me, if you want to send me like a, like a screenshot of like, I don't want to see your pictures, but if you want to send me a screenshot of what you wrote and I could help you with it and tell you whether it's good or not. I, because I, listen, I'm like really rooting for you, too, you know, like, I really want you to get out there and push yourself through this problem so you could just like start dating girls and get into the game. And like I said, it's not going to be easy or great. And dating fucking sucks. And, and. it's hard and stuff, but like you got to be, that's what you want to be in it, right?

And I'd love to see you doing more. So if you want to send me what you wrote to look it over, send me a screenshot. I literally, I don't want to read more than two sentences in each section. And it needs to be done by tonight. Or no, tomorrow. I'll give you till tomorrow. Is that cool? Yeah.

I'm going to hold you to it. I can do that. Okay, I'll do that. Like you have to. Yeah, I'll do it. I told you I'll do it. Okay, and I believe that you're going to do it. Sorry, am I yelling at you.

I have a baby, and so I'm like overly stressed as a hard work raising a baby and taping a podcast at the same time. So listen, so you're going to do it. You're going to do it tonight, right? I'm going to help you with that. And then you'll come on every now and then after a month. I want like a month. We'll do like monthly updates of what went down. I want to keep, you're going to need to.

I'm going to ask you questions. of like how many people did you email? How many dates did you go on? Do you understand? You're going to have to have something to show for it at the end of this month. Do you understand? So you're going to have to really be emailing people.

You're ready, right? Okay. You're ready to do it? Yeah, I'll do it. I'm ready. Okay, do you have any other questions about online dating? Because I really feel like this is all we talked about, right? I gave you some tips of what to do on online dating.

I told you put more than one picture to not write a lot on your profile. and create a realistic age range. There's nothing worse than people that put on the most ridiculous age range. At least especially when I'm looking for guys and they're like 50 and they're like age range 22 to 32. And you're like, whatever. You know, the poor guy that was called up my podcast that was into Hookers, he was online and he was like 60 something. And his age range was like 22 to 35 or something. Like, you got to be kidding me.

Like, you have to be realistic, you know. But you're young, and so you should be dating a girl that's 22. And you could get a girl that's 22. Tudah, there's a nice girl out there for you. That's going to totally dig you exactly the way that you are. Do you understand? Yeah, I get it. You get it?

Yeah. So you're going to have some work to do, and you're going to get on it. And then in a month, we'll have you on for a quick update, okay? Okay. All right, Tuna. So listen, good luck. you have some work to do. Send me a picture of what you write and I'll critique it.

And then I don't want to hear from you again for another month. Okay. And then I want you to come back and let me know what happened with all the girls. Okay. Good luck. Okay, good luck to you. We'll talk soon. All right.

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