Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1230 - Dean had an Affair with a Hot, Bank Teller and It Didn't End Well

Episode Date: September 23, 2025

Dean had an affair with his hot bank teller that didn't end well and he called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including his sex life with his wife and the issues she had, how his wife kind of gave him a free pass and why he had never taken it, how he stated developing a relationship with his bank teller, how they eventually wound up having lunch and how that led to many more lunches, when the convo at lunch became “personal,” the sex contract she proposed and what was in it including her sex fantasies, what exactly what went down the first time they hooked up, what went down the other times that followed including them role playing, a hotel room trysts, tattoo shop sex, him getting her to squirt and more, how he felt about what he was doing, how and when she started to develop feelings and how he felt about it, how she then told him she was leaving her husband and told him everything and how that effected him and for how long, why he's never talked to her again where things stand with his wife and their sex life now plus a whole lot more. **To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get 10% off Drive Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2528-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Use code: ANONYMOUS to get 50% off your yearly pass plus get a 14-day money-back guarantee ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uberlube.com/discount/Strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use code: STRICTLY for 10% off Uberlube aka the BEST Lube EVER ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your first month of the new Blewchew Max FREE! use code: STRICTLYANON ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use the code “STRICTLY” at checkout for 20% off your entire order To get $15 OFF your female oxytocin arousal tablets and more, use code STRICTLY here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/xLQ3Jv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me! Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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And I sure could, okay? Because it's a very fascinating cheating story. Okay, because it's so specific. And he did the bank teller was like a future psychology psychologist. And if you asked me, you could tell she was a psychology, a psychologist by the way she ran their trist. affair, whatever you want to fucking call it, okay? We start out talking all about the reason why he cheated and what was going on in his marriage. It was very specific stuff was going down in his marriage. I'm not going to tell you about.

You got to listen. We talk about that, but he was in love with his wife. He wound up, though, like having this thing with his bank teller. And he explains exactly how it went from him just like talking to her, to him, like, meeting her for lunch, to them, like, doing all these kind of crazy stuff. The situation lasted for almost a year. and he gets very specific of what went down during their hookups because it was very specific and specifically stated between the two of them. You have to hear the whole story of how this whole

sort of thing that they had together was set up. That's what makes this whole cheating story so interesting. And then the way it ends is super interesting. I'm not going to give anything away. I mean, if you don't want any spoiler, don't read the description because you learn the whole thing in the episode. And I think if you don't know, it actually makes it more interesting. Because I didn't know anything. He didn't really give me details. But I got all the details in the episode. It's super interesting. But he's still in his life, so it has a happy ending. But the details in the middle are super interesting. So you're going to have to listen. Anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Dean. Hi, Dean. Welcome to the strictly

anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm great. How are you? I'm good. So listen, Dean, you, you cheated. you were a cheater. You cheated at one time. You're not cheating anymore. You are still married to the woman you cheated with? Yes, I am. Okay, so you're still with her. I do like to have cheating stories on my show

because I think that people could learn from them. I like to know a couple things when it comes to cheating that I like to dig into is like, you know, the reasons why someone cheats, like what's happening in that marriage. Of course, I'm going to get the stories of the sex that went down in your relationship. You did fuck your bank teller. That's who you had the affair with.

I want to know what that was all about because she had some sort of contract and she was very detail-oriented. And then you kind of ended. I wonder why it ended after a year and you're still with your wife. Are you happily married, Dean? Yeah, absolutely. Okay, good. So that's interesting. And she never caught you, right?

No. Okay. So let's get the details. First of all, snapshot of where you're at now. How long you've been married to your wife? 22 years. 22 years. Okay.

So now, like, did you guys get married really young? Like, how old were you guys when you got married? I was 26. She was 24. Okay, now, had you had a lot of sex? Like, it wasn't like she was your first or anything like that, right? You're 26-year-old guy. No, no.

She would have been my eighth person. Okay, so you were with those chicks before. You meet your wife. How was the sex with your wife when you first met? I'm assuming great. Typically, chemistry and relationships in the beginning is always great. That's why you date someone. Right, yeah.

It was great. When it started out, there were, you know, some things that we were doing. And she would like freeze up. She, you, I could definitely tell, like, certain things she wasn't comfortable. And over a period of time, she had told me that she had, you know, some trouble in her childhood. Oh, like trauma. Yeah. It's unfortunate.

A lot of girls have that in their past. And some of them don't even know. Yeah. And I was pretty much her first, like, real boyfriend, you know. When we got together, you know, we're trying to do more things, like more. I would say real not just penetration you know like foreplay and

giving each other head and stuff like that she had never really done that oh really what so people just like put it in and fucked her but they never went down on her or anything like that so when I started to do these things she would get real uncomfortable and that's when you know we talked about it

and she had told me you know some stuff that had happened and she had been molested as a child her and her sister and she told me the things that that person did to her, and when I did it, it made her feel uncomfortable. Yeah, and that's very unfortunate. And I totally got it. Of course.

I fell in love with this woman. But I really enjoy going down on women. And she never, like, let me ask you this, because she tells you this stuff, and, like, one of the things that she feels uncomfortable is you going down there. So she didn't, like, tend to that problem or anything, the way you guys solved that problem was you just never went down on her?

Pretty much, yeah. We actually saw it there. We actually saw a therapist over it to try to overcome it. Okay. And she really tried. She really did. And she, I would, I would not do it occasionally and, you know, most of the time. And she'd be, she would try.

She really would, but you could totally tell she wasn't enjoying it. So anything with basically mouth or fingers, she, you know, like, before play made it hard because we couldn't like play with each other. Wow. Would she give you had? Yes. Okay. So you got blowjobs, but you could never go down on her. So it's like zero pussy for you. And you like it. I love it. I mean, I was kind of, you know, I grew up in a very loving family.

I mean, I watched my dad grow up my mother forever, you know. And they kind of taught me, you know, like you always treat the women. I remember my father having a chat with me, you don't finish until they do. Oh, hilarious. Your dad was like. like making sure you were going to please your girl when you grew up. Oh yeah. And I just, I really enjoy it. Like I watch to try to make them squirm. I like to tease. I like to do those things. And with her, it's more of just a hugging, kissing kind of foreplay. And, and let's just, you know, let's go. Now, the sex is really good. But, you know, I really like for play. Yeah, that's tough. What about her breast?

Did she like you doing stuff there in that area? With my mouth, yes. But my hands, not so much. Because part of what she was going through was basically being groped very badly. Oh, awful. Yeah, that makes sense. Yeah. Okay.

And she was young. Yeah, of course. She was like, this went on for like two years. She was like eight to ten. Yeah, terrible. And her sister was two years older and it happened to her as well. Yeah. Now her sister's really messed up.

I mean, luckily my wife overcame a lot of it. And she used to tease me. She was like, look, if these things are that important to you, if you're discreet and I never find out or you never did it to someone I know, I don't really care what you do. So she was kind of gave me like. Oh, that's interesting. She was realistic. That's a realistic woman you got there right there. Yeah, because she knew like, I really, like, this is weird.

like I could almost don't even need sex. I could just go down on a woman to try to make her come and I'd be fine with that. Yeah, no, I know guys like that. I love guys like that because I love when guys go down on me and it's like you're a pleaser, you know, and there's a lot of guys that love that. And that's, I mean, I, because I know one of my booty calls was like that and I couldn't imagine if he could never eat pussy again like what he would do. I mean, because he loves it as much as you do.

And there's nothing better than that. And your poor wife, I mean, she really did try as hard as she could. could to overcome it, but she never could. And so that just became completely off the table, I'm assuming, at some point, like, 100% never happened. Yeah. We have not even, like, we don't even attempt it. It's been probably three and a half, maybe four years now. We just try to do other things. But I mean, it stopped really early on in your relationship. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So what happened three and a half years ago? It was like her birthday or your birthday, she let you do it or something? No, it just kind of, it just kind of panned out. Like, I just stopped going.

going for it because I knew. But I mean, no, no, no, you don't get where I'm coming from. It sounds like this problem happened very early on in your relationship. So I felt it seemed like the oral sex went out the window. But you're married 22 years and you're telling me now that I didn't, I haven't done it in three and a half years. So before that, all this time, even though you knew she hated it, sometimes you'd do it. Yeah, because she would be like, I know, like I know you want to. Yeah, she'd throw you a bone.

She'd take one for the team. Yep. But she would just stiffen, stiffen as a board. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No fingering either, right? No.

No. You could just fuck her. Did she like anal play? Did you guys try to like, did she ever like think like, I don't know, to try to use toys or anything else? Or it was just, and didn't work? Yeah. Yeah. Before we had kids, we tried.

We tried to do everything. So toys. anal, watching porn together. Obviously, we would fast forward the going down scenes. But yeah, no, and all that stuff was very in normal play. And then when we had children, like the anal stopped, which was fine. She never really cared for that either. It was just, let's try it to see kind of thing.

And other than that, it's just been really intense, great vanilla sex, I guess you would say. But did the toys and everything work for her? Was she able to have, like, use a vibrator on her clit and stuff or like a dildos? Okay. Okay. So did you continue with that at least after the big kids? Yes. Okay.

Yeah. So you worked within your boundaries. And within your boundaries, everything was good. But you were missing that one thing that you really love the most. Yeah. And she did give you a free pass, kind of. Yeah. I just never, I didn't think it was, like, fair because.

like really when you think about it, like how many women are out there that would just, like, let me go down on them and call it a day. You know? Exactly. Yeah. And then when, like, if you get to know somebody, she's probably going to know them as well. And, like, that was part of it. Like, I don't want to find out about it. I don't want it to be anybody I know.

And she had actually had brought up like, well, maybe pay for it. Yeah. Yeah. But is that like the safest thing to do? Like that's what's going in my head. Okay. Now most people who listen to my show knows for some reason. I'm always talking about guys in anal action.

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Like I don't want to find out about it. I don't want it to be anybody I know. Mm-hmm. And she had actually had brought up like, well, maybe pay for it. Yeah. Yeah. But is that like the safest thing to do? Like that's what's going in my head.

Yeah. Obviously, if I got a prostitute or something and that's all I wanted to do, it probably would make her day. But then you got to say, like part of what she said, don't bring anything home, you know? Yeah. That's the last thing. So it kind of just kind of went out the window and I just lived my life and had fantasies, but never had. I guess the pure opportunity to put it on the table. or the desire because if like there was a part of you that really wanted to it you would have figured it out but you obviously were really not like the cheating type you know but and what's so interesting about this because a lot of people like judge cheaters and it's just like you never know sometimes people that would never fucking cheat wind up cheating okay like sorry you know it's not like a lot of cheating is so intentional there are those people on the end of the spectrum like the total philanderers who'll fucking cheat on anybody they don't get they don't give a shit they're the lowest kind of cheaters but there's a lot of people.

that cheat that like if you hear the whole story you're like oh wow you know and you never know if it could happen to you because sometimes it kind of winds up happening and it sounds like it might this might have been the case because like how do you wind up with your fucking bank teller right yeah you know the stars must have lined up that those days well tell me like you're walking and first of all because it's supposed to be with a girl that your wife doesn't know does your wife go to this bank too or is it just your bank no i pretty much handled all the banking like her stuff was like direct deposited, let's say, but mine were still, my company at that time didn't have direct deposit. I go to the bank every Friday on my lunchtime, and I always ended up like every other time.

I would get this moment, and she was very attractive. I could tell that we were close to the same age, and it's kind of like going to get a haircut. Like, even though you're only there for a couple minutes, you're still kind of small talking a little bit. Like, as I'm depositing my check, it's like, she's like, do you have any plans for the weekend or what's this? So over the period of about a year before this happened, I mean, I knew she was married. That she had kids. She knew I was married, had kids. Just through talking and through that small talk?

Yeah. Yeah. It was that four-minute small talk. Yeah. One other thing, like I said, you know, my dad taught me some things. I remember one thing my father had always told me was it's never wrong to compliment a woman. But there's a joke to it, as long as your or their significant. another isn't around.

Your dad is fucking funny. I want more quotes from your dad. Yeah. So my mother also came, before she met my father, she was in a really abusive relationship. So from a small child, I was always like kind of, this is how you treat women and they like to be complimented. So I noticed things like, if she changed her hair, I would notice it. So I'd be like, oh, you change your hair. It looks really good.

Or you look really nice today. or your nails look really nice. And she was always kind of blush, and I could kind of learn over a period of time. She probably didn't get complimented as she deserved. Right. So I just kind of, it kind of made my day. I kind of uplifted. I could tell I uplifted her.

Uh-huh. It was never like recanted, though. She never would be like, oh, thank you. You're so handsome. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I just gave it to her, and I left. And one day I had happened to go in there. and she had given me a card.

And she's like, I want to give you this card. I want to let you know that I'm leaving my, I'm going to my major career, and I knew that she had been studying psychology, so she was leaving the bank to finish school because her kids were old enough to now go to school, and she could do her thing during the day. I opened up this card, like I left, and I opened up the card,

and it was a very nice, like, I appreciate you always, complimenting me and I'm going to miss you and all this stuff. Well, I kind of panicked. I don't know. It was kind of weird. And I ran back, you know, I kind of turned back and I went back in and I asked her to lunch. I said, hey, beings that we're not going to see each other anymore, why don't you, let me take you to lunch. Wow. And she was like, oh, yeah, absolutely. And so the following week, I just took her for lunch, a casual lunch. Nothing really. We just kind of talked about her. future goals and I was very positive about it and yeah we said we would miss each other and seeing each other every Friday I actually thought that was it but we did had exchange numbers okay so a couple

weeks later she had asked me for lunch and now within that time though that you got the number and you had that first lunch no one texted anyone and out of the blue she texted you one day and said hey want to do lunch okay yeah yeah I actually thought that that first lunch was probably it. Okay. And then she had just texted me. I had, we had a great conversation. I'm available this day.

Would you like to have lunch again? Well, sure. It was just casual. And the second lunch again, it was casual. And a couple, it was about a two weeks span. I had done it to her now. I said, hey, I'm available this day. You know, I'm not busy at lunch.

If you'd like to get lunch, I'm okay with it. Well, it was about the third lunch where that's where kind of questions. like came out like, you know, how's your marriage, that kind of stuff. Yeah. Can I just ask you a question, Dean? Because guys are a lot of times are just doing shit without thinking. And that's what I'm assuming is going on here. Like while you're having these, you know, vanilla, let's call them vanilla lunches where

nothing's going on and stuff. Like, are you thinking like you're doing something bad? Are you just like thinking like, oh, this is fine? Is there any part of you that understands where this is going? The first two, absolutely. You know, no guilt. That's what I'm talking about. Like the first two, no guilt, nothing.

Like, you're like a clueless dude that has no idea that you're heading into an affair, right? Yep, yep, yep. I believe it. I believe it. And men are stupid, right? Yeah, yeah, they just don't think as much as women. A woman would see this from a mile away, you know, the first lunch, the first card she would know. But you are really clueless, and I believe that.

But the third lunch is when you start to think, oh, there's something going on here. Yep, yep. As soon as, like, the really, really personal question. came out. That's when I was like, okay, all right. Yeah. Because she kind of blurted out, like, how's your marriage, you know, and, and I said, well, my marriage is great. And, you know, she said, well, I want to ask you a really personal question. And I'm like, okay. And she said, I love my husband. We've been, I think she had only been with three. That's when she told me she, her husband was like her third person.

Yeah. And it was her high school sweetheart, and they married. And she's like, but I love him to death. He's a great father. He's a great husband. But he has to watch porn to make love to me. Is that normal for a man? Oh, that's interesting.

And I said, well, no. I said, I remember my wife and I, you know, doing that. as spice things up kind of thing. And she goes, no, like every single time and it's been that way for about three years. And I'm like, no, I go, I'm sorry. I don't think that's normal. So, you know, more and more kind of just questions. And I kind of felt like I was just consoling her.

I was just someone she could talk to because I don't know. She was keeping all this in, right? So I thought, I thought it was a little weird. Like after that lunch, I thought it was a little weird, but I still didn't think it was going to, like, go anywhere. And then it was just like reverse. Like, the first time I asked her, then she asked me, then I asked her, then she reached out to me again. Would you like to have lunch? And I said, yeah.

And that's when it got a little more in depth, like, where she asked me, like, if you ever, have you ever had an affair? Have you ever done this? or have you ever heard of cheating? This is why she's a psychologist. She's grooming you right here. Yep. Yep. Yep. Oh, my gosh. I told her the truth. I had, I had cheated on a girlfriend in the past. Okay. Once, but I had never cheated on my wife. And that's when she opened up more about her husband. And I opened up about my wife. So I did at that point tell her what had happened to my wife. And I had told her that, you know, that I, miss it and I enjoy going down on a woman and I could see her eyes lighten up, you know,

and I had actually made, I had actually made the joke like, I'd give you head under the table and go back to work, you know. And so at that point, I knew, I felt a little guilty that day going back to work. I'm like, I kind of opened, I kind of opened the door here, I think. Well, I did. And it was about a month later, I didn't hear anything from her. And a month later, she asked to lunch and she was dressed to the gills and everything was going good. She slid me over like a pad of paper. And she's like, she's like, hey, it's taking me some time.

But I came up with this. Tell me what you think about it. Oh, my God. I'm fascinated by this woman. She's a little psychotic, though, I think. Yeah. And I'm reading this thing and it was like a consent contract. And it was very legally done.

done. Like it was typed. It wasn't like handwritten, you know, it was in a folder. And, you know, it was like, we can text these hours of the day, but we can only text like three times a week. There's no phone calls. Phone calls would have to be like planned. And then, I mean, bottom line was basically,

would you be willing to meet me for two hours every month to fulfill any fantasy that either I or her have. So I think this was December. Yeah. So it was starting in like January. January would be her month. She could arrange to do whatever she wanted to do with me.

January. Then February would be my turn. Oh my God. This is so specific. And yeah. And then the very back of it had like kind of like her. ideal things that she wanted to do, kind of like to give me ideas. Name them. Name them.

One was like to have sex in an elevator. Another one, apparently one of her problems with her husband was like he was, he was like a very hands-on construction worker. She could not get this man in a suit at all. So she wanted to do like a role play at a bar where I was in like a really nice suit. and we just went to a room. There was another one where she had said her husband was like totally against tattoos that she always wanted to tattoo. It was just like certain things in her life that she just wanted.

So I thought I have tattoos and she knew that a good friend of mine owned a tattoo. So I just thought maybe that's not a sexual day, but I'm going to take her to get her first tattoo. You know, something like that. She just had like kind of like a bucket list, right? Yeah. And I just, because I listened to her, I think she thought that I would use those to my advantage. Uh-huh. And I kind of did.

I signed my life away pretty much per se. Wait, did you have to sign it? I had to sign it. Oh, my God. This woman's fucking psycho. Wait a second. I wish you still had this. I would make you read every last bit of it.

I'm so, if I'm so curious, I would want to read every word on that document. yeah no it was it was very uh it was very in depth i mean she's not like laughing when she's giving this to you like she's not like okay look i know this is kind of crazy right like she's not like living in the reality of how nuts this is she's like this is serious business for her i would want her to work for me that's like somebody that's like a really fucking a good worker i feel like yeah and it was it was for a year and that at the end of the year we could renew the contract if we What I think she thought it was like a safe haven. I mean, part of the things, maybe she had done this before, I don't know, but like if you are having an affair, I'm thinking of the things like, like I'd be scared of my phone ringing at the wrong time.

And I think that's why she put in there, like, we can only text certain hours of the day. Yeah. The weekends were off. We could not do anything on the weekends. Don't call. Don't. And maybe that was like a safe haven. You want to know how to get back your confidence in bed.

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And I think that's why she put in there, like, we can only text certain hours of the day. Yeah. The weekends were off. We could not do anything on the weekends. Don't call. Don't. And maybe that was like a safe haven. Like, because I think about like if I was to be meeting women.

and out just in the world and given my number out, I would be a nervous wreck all the time. No, no, no, no. Everything on that list was intentional. Everything that she had on that list was for a reason, okay? So, yeah, that was her reason because she didn't want to get busted. She loved her husband, too, like you loved your wife. She just needed better sex because, like, you, she wasn't getting that at home.

And that's kind of like how I thought about it. I was like, you know what? this gives me a year to like do some stuff and I don't think anybody's going to get hurt and that's all it is so my wife back to what she had said like if you wanted to get a prostitute or something my wife always told me that there were two ways of cheating yeah that there was you know sexual cheating and then there's emotional cheating yes and she said that she would be definitely much more hurt if I was emotional cheating now when I look back on it, the first like three lunches were kind of that.

They were emotional cheating. Yeah. Because I was visiting with this woman. I was talking about faults in my life. She was talking about that's exactly what I am portraying as emotional cheating. I agree. And I did feel a little guilty about it. But I wasn't worried that her, I'll use her name was Anne, was ever going to call me or she always

knew that the texts were during when I was working and when her husband was working. So that was that. So came down to the first date of the majority of information, like she didn't really like to text her phone. I guess that can be kind of like tracked through her husband. So a lot of this stuff was done through email after that point. Okay. And where was the first meeting going to be? And what was on the table? Would you discuss, would she discuss it ahead of time or was it a surprise when you got there which part of the, you know, what the person wanted? We would kind of line it up, right? So the first month was my month.

And one of our dates, she had mentioned this place that she really liked to go, that she would go to like, kind of like meditate. And I knew this place. It was close to, it was in a couple towns over, but it was, you know, very doable to get to and very secluded. Yeah. It's kind of like a state park, but not, but during the day, you. nothing happens there.

So I said, okay, my email there. I said, hey, I'm going to be available this day. Meet me at this place at 10 a.m. Wear a sundress and don't wear any underwear. And that's all I put. And I had showed up and she was sitting on the bench and I kind of was just walked up behind her and started like teasing her, kissing her, behind her neck and her ear. and I basically just walked around and lifted up her sundress

and I went down on her for probably 25, 30 minutes and I stood up and I just walked away. Wow. And she had sent me an email like, wow, that was so intense. And remember, you know, next month is my month. All right, you went down on her and she didn't say when you were done, hey, let me blow you or let me jerk you off or anything. It was like that was the end of the scene.

I didn't give her the chance. I stood up, I pulled her dress down, and I walked away. Did you go into your car and jerk off? No. What did you do? You think about it when you were fucking your wife that night? Like when did you pleasure yourself with the thoughts of what you had just done? I had felt like a 15-year-old kid who just like had his first French kiss.

I was floating on air. I went back to work. I had probably the best afternoon of my life. I went home like nothing happened I it no I didn't have to jerk off or nothing I felt

pleased that's kind of interesting that it's like a it's for you it's more than just sex going down on it was like a whole like body experience of pleasure of just being able to finally do what you wanted to do it wasn't just like a horny thing yeah that's super interesting

yeah I'm glad I asked yeah I mean you asked if I got off, yeah. Just not. Yeah, but maybe in a better way, like you said, you were just like so fucking high on adrenaline. I think that's actually super more interesting to me. That's why I say I'm glad I asked because you would just assume that's what happened afterwards.

You know, whatever. Like, whatever. But it's actually more interesting what actually happened. Yeah. Yeah. And I mean, you want to call, I guess, let's say I had a brain orgasm. Yeah. You know what I mean?

Like, no guilt, I'm assuming. What's that? What about guilt? I'm assuming no guilt. How do you feel about what you just did? That's first time, you know, behind your wife's back. Yeah, there was. There was.

Like, even though we supposedly signed this deal, I was still always looking at my phone. It was that kind of guilt. Well, that's not guilt. That's fear of getting caught, okay? Guilt and fear of getting caught are two separate things. Did you feel guilt? That's what I want to know. No.

No. No, you're right. When you put it in a perspective like that, yeah, no, it was more scared. Yeah, you were scared. You were just really, you were having fun and I was all good. You just didn't want to get fucking caught. Yep. Yep.

Okay. That's honest. And what I had done must have opened her eye. So the following month, she reversed it and did the exact same thing to me. Oh. So we met in the same place. She just didn't tell me what to wear. She didn't like say, don't wear underwear.

She just said, hey, are we, are you available this day? Mm-hmm. Let's meet up at the same place, same time. Only she was late. So I was there first. So now I'm the one sitting on the bench, and she basically kind of did the same thing. She kind of straddled me, and we made out for a minute, and she just slid down and did my pants. And of all the blow jobs I'd had, I had never come in a woman's mouth.

I kind of always felt that that was kind of degrading. I don't know why. Like, even watching porn when guys would blow on their face or whatever, I always thought that that was just that's gross it's just degrading like i don't think if i my my inside woman or whatever would ever want that so usually if i got close i would tell the girl like hey i'm getting close and what happened happened but i had told her and she did not let up she kept going and now i'm in another world because i had never really blown in a woman's mouth before you had never had a girl swallow no okay

No. And she did. And she did the same thing. She got done. She kind of wiped her lips. She stood up. She gave me a kiss on the head. And she said, bye, and walked away. Just left me there. Dick out. Pants are still down. And I'm like in another world. I'm like, what the hell just happened? But that was, I mean, it was like one of the best orgasms I have ever had. I couldn't believe that what the talent that that woman had and then I got to thinking like why would her husband need porn like she's super hot and she's if she goes down on him for no reason like that's kind of weird that he would need porn all the time I just didn't get it so well a lot of times if someone has like a problem sexually it's not about the other person it's not because she's lacking it's something's going on with him. Do you understand? Like, it's not, it's not like, and women blame themselves all the time and vice versa. You know, most of the time if someone has issues, whether it's ED or they need, you know, that's like something that's most of the, a lot of times the problem with the person themselves is nothing to do with the person standing across from them. So it had nothing to do with her. He had some sort of weird thing. He maybe got addicted to porn or whatever was going on with him.

Whatever it was, it was your, you benefited from it. Okay, so don't complain. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then so that was two months. The next month was mine. I just read her list. So I was like, okay, she wants to do a little role play.

So, I mean, luckily I've got some friends and some, I guess, good places. A friend of mine was a manager at a hotel. So I reached out to him,

and he's a very close friend of mine. He knows everything. I was like, hey, can I get a, because even though I handle finances, my wife still may see bills, I was like,

hey, can you get me a deal in a room, or can I pay cash, or whatever? And he's like, yeah, man, I got you know, just give me like a week's notice or something. This place had a bar. So I had emailed her and I said, hey, put on your best looking outfit, meet me at this bar. She had no idea that I had rented a room or anything.

And we did the whole roleplay. Like I sat at the other end of the bar and I told the bartender to put a drink in front of her. And then I just kind of went over and played dumb like, hey, I'm so-and-so, nice to meet you. and we just kind of chatted it for a few minutes. And I just slid the room key to her and I walked away. Then I went up to the room. And I guess that's what pushed her buttons because she was right behind me. And that was the first time that we had had sex.

Yeah. How was it? And it was fantastic. She felt extremely embarrassed. She, because, well, she called it gushed. I call it squirted. And apparently that had never happened to her before. So she was actually very embarrassed.

Like, I didn't know what was going on with her because she kind of froze up. And she's like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I was like, why are you sorry? She's like, I gushed on you. And I'm like, it's okay. And I think she kind of felt gross about it. I don't know. But obviously, that's when she kind of came to.

She had, I guess her husband, I'm not, I am not a porn star by any means. I would say I'd probably have an average penis, but she did say that her, her husband was smaller than me, and he could not hit that spot. Wherever I was hitting was working for her. Yeah. And I told her, you know, don't, don't be embarrassed. You know, it's okay. Well, but she, she was off the rest of that time.

She actually felt so uncomfortable after that, that she, She had gotten dressed and left, and she texted me like two other times a day. Like, I'm so sorry I did that to you. And I'm like, it's okay. I actually thought it was probably kind of over because she was really messed up about it a little bit. So I really didn't know if she was going to contact me the next month. Right. But she did.

And who's the time? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. And that time was where you said earlier about, I don't know a whole lot about BDSM and all that stuff. but I didn't know it until I got there, but she asked if there was a way I could get that room again. And I said, yeah, if I've got enough notice.

This time she did want to handcuff me. She did want to like pin me down. Not to anything. She just, she kind of said, I'm going to handcuff you because we're going to do this, but you can't use your hands. And I'm like, oh, well, I thought that was kind of weird because I like to feel and grow, that kind of stuff.

but so she handcuffed me in front of me but the rule was don't touch me i'm just going to have my with you and she tried to do everything she every position she could do with me on the bottom so you know reverse forward sideways and i think she was searching for that gush again yeah and she found another position where it happened again and she like uncuffed me and just left there was no goodbye she got dressed and just walked out the door she just left the room just left me there and i thought i had like the best thing going on at that time like i had laid there in that bed thinking okay i just had sex with this woman again am i emotionally cheating on my wife i said to myself well we're not going

going for dinner afterwards. We're not running off on a weekend getaway. We're not spending the night. So I kind of felt like I was okay. Like I'm not emotionally cheating. We're pleasing each other. And that's it. So the next time was mine.

And I remembered her tattoo fantasy. So I talked to my buddy and I was like, hey, you know, I want to bring this girl in. Obviously, it's not my wife. So keep it, don't say anything. But she wants to get something small. and I say, hey man, why don't you just kind of lock us in here for lunch or something? And he's like, what?

Oh, my God. You're like, I know, I want you to tattoo to her, then I want you to leave so I can fuck her in your tattoo parlor? Yep, yep. And he thought this is, he thought this was hilarious. He goes, yeah, dude. So I took her there. He tattooed her. And it was funny because she had no idea.

She had no idea. And he just kind of, he stood up and he's like, he's like, Scott, you'll, you'll, you'll take care of this later. And I was like, yeah. And he just left us. She's like, where did he go? I go, I don't know. And he had like a little back room and I had a couch and I just kind of took her back there and we had fun on the couch back there. So as far as like wildness, it kind of just kept going. We just kind of played with each other for the next wiles. And, um, right, for the whole year. Like, did you the whole year for like that contract. Did it last the whole year?

No, it didn't go the whole year. This whole thing kind of, I think, kind of backfired on her a little bit. So like I said, she had studied psychology and kind of this thing was like maybe how far we could push limits. Like, like I kind of started to get it at the end. Like, how much can we do without starting to have like real feelings for each other? Correct. Okay. And obviously she was thought of that through when she created that contract.

All these boundaries were in place so that nothing bad would wind up happening. But does she? And I, at first, I'm never going to leave my wife. And she's like, I'm never going to leave my husband. But let's play this game. Well, I never had it in my mind that I was going to leave my wife for her. It just wasn't the case. But I just noticed the more things we had done after that, it got a little more intimate.

Like there wasn't a whole lot of kissing and coddling and things like that. But she was starting to definitely kiss me more. Yeah. It's unfortunate. Do you know that there's this thing that gets like comes out for a woman that doesn't for a man? Like when she orgasms, that she, it's like set in her to become, have feelings for a guy. So she's more fucked in that scenario than you are, unfortunately. Yeah.

Yeah. And I saw it and kind of felt like I thought, man, she was really making out with me that time. And then when it really hit me, this was about the eighth month where she started to say, like, you're such a good dad. Like, my kids would love you. And that kind of scared me a little bit. Like, I was like, ooh, you know, I think maybe she's leading into a lot more than what this is. Yeah. And we had met a couple more times.

So this whole thing went 10 months. and on the 10th month we got done it was like that was her time and she's like can we talk and I'm like yeah yeah what's going on she goes well I want to let you know

I'm leaving my husband and I go oh she said yeah this journey has woken me up and I've found that I've I've wasted some years and I've done this and I've done that And she's like, look, this is, this is no pressure on you.

But I am leaving my husband. Yeah. And I was shocked. I was like, I didn't even know what to say. First, I said, well, you know, I told you, I was never leaving my wife. And she's like, no, I don't want you to unless you want to. I think we could work really good together. and I had just like everything was thrown out the window at that point.

Like I didn't know how to respond. I didn't know what to say. And were you turned off? Extremely. Yeah. Extremely. I didn't even like look at her the same way. Of course.

And it was it was that. And so the next arrangement, I had just said lunch because I was like, whatever, deal or whatever, this is going to be it. Because if we push it any further, you're going to obviously fall more in love with me. And you need to know that I just don't think of you that way. And... But you had the lunch and told her that? What's that?

At that lunch, you told her that? Yeah. Okay. And how did she react? Not really surprised. Like, I think she felt it coming, you know? And I just said, like, this is a different thing now.

Yeah. Like, now you're going through a divorce to me, like in my mind, I'm like, okay, this is now an affair. This is, this is cheating on my wife. Like, it seemed different when you were married and we're just meeting for sex. Now you obviously want more. So now this is more. Yeah, I get it. And I pretty much bowed out.

Like I said, no. Like, we need to stop. it right here, right now. And she was, she was okay with it. You know, it seemed that way. And then the following month, she asked, she had told me that she was leaving, that she was taking her kids and going to another state. So I was like, okay, all right, true. And she's like, let's just meet up one more time. Let's just kind of like say goodbye. And I agreed. And this part kind of blew me away. Like, you know, she again, she thanked me for everything.

She was like, thank you for this and thank you for waking me up. And you're such a great guy. She goes, but I have to tell you something else. She's like, my husband really was pounding me and we got in this big fight. And I told him everything. Oh, God. Are you kidding? And I said, I said, you told him.

I told you she was a psycho. Yeah, she goes, well... That contract just had psycho written all over it. Yeah, and she's like, well, I told him everything. And I'm like... Oh, no. I said, did you tell him who I am? And she said, yeah.

Oh, no. So I'm like, okay, you get to leave the state, but you told this guy who I am. I said, what, like, do I need to worry about this guy? Like, she's like, no, I don't think so. and, you know, if he did approach her, you could take him. He's like, he's kind of a wimp. And I'm like, what? Like, really?

So for like the next four months. Are you some of one eye open? I don't know. At my job, if a different face came in, I'm like, is that him? Yeah, you don't know. Is he going to call your wife? Is he going to knock on your door? I mean, I would have been fucking paranoid.

Yeah, that's scary. Another thing about my father and one of his lifelong things for me was like when it came to fighting, like usually if you're right, you'll win. Yeah. And in my mind, he's right because I was just banging his wife for like almost in here. Yeah, you're going to lose the battle. Yeah, so I guess I just kind of like got to curl up and take an ass kicking for the team. Yeah.

But yeah, that was, it was very strange, very strange. So for like, oh, I'm going to say a year, it pretty much messed me up. Like anywhere I met. Yeah. And I did kind of stalk, because I didn't know anything about this guy. Yeah. But I did know where she lived. Yeah.

And so I kind of like stalk to like find out like what he drives. Yeah. What he looks like. Because like the first three months, I was like in a panic mode. like I was just anxious all the time. Well, didn't your father teach you to keep your enemies close? Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, it was smart of you to do that. You needed to be on alert and know what the fuck was coming your way. And so if you got all that information, it would help you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I probably should have taken at another level, like, seen him at the grocery store and like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

Oh, my God. Are you a bike rider? No. No. You mean to kill them? Throw them in them. No, you did the right thing to just like, you know, cross your fingers and call it a fucking day. Because the fact that she threw that out there, that poor guy, you know what I mean, that she like needed to pull out the file and tell him everything was so, I think that's so terrible.

And then to put you in that position, it just shows that she was like, I don't know what she thought she liked you because she obviously didn't because she could have really fucked up your life. So she was really only thinking about herself the whole fucking time, which is fine, whatever. you know, you guys were just using each other, but there was no love there because why would she do that to you? She could have fucked up your whole life. Oh, yeah. Yeah, not cool. Yeah. Yeah, no. And for

like I said, it messed me up for about a year. Of course. Did your wife like smell your fear? Did she ever say like what's going on with you or anything or did you cover it well with her? So I didn't hear word from her for about a year and a half.

And then all of a sudden, Facebook message. No, no, no. I ask you about your wife. One quick question, but I want to hear about the Facebook message. Your wife, did she ever be like,

during that year that you were all paranoid? Was she ever like, what the fuck's going on with you? Like, are you stressed out about something? Or did she not pick up on it? She, so luckily at this time, I was stressed out about numerous things.

Oh, okay, good, good, okay. So she just assumed it was that. It kind of covered it up because, it came to a point to where I could not perform with my wife because I was so in my head. Yeah, I can imagine. That's why I asked, like, because I would assume that. And girls, like, just like guys are dumb girls are very fucking smart. Like, we know any kind of shift in a guy.

You know what I mean? The slightest thing that's different, we're like, what the fuck's going on? You know what I mean? We're like detectives. Naturally, we can't help it, okay? Don't get mad at your wife. She's not trying to think that much. We can't help it.

Okay. So it would be natural to me for her to be like, what the fuck? And look, it really was permanent, like, it was really obvious. But thank God you had that other shit going down so she could blame on that. Yeah. Yeah, there was a bunch of stuff going on in our life, you know. There was some job trouble, financial trouble. But I had just, like, I wasn't sexual after that with her, like, for a while.

And she noticed that, like, hey, you don't slap my butt anymore every time you walk by me. You're like, what's going on, you know? And she started to actually come on. to me now, like try to initiate sex. And that was when I was like, holy crap, like, what's wrong with me? I can't get a hard on. Yeah. But in the back of my head, all I'm thinking about is this and that, this and that.

Oh, my God. Okay, wait, so get to the Facebook message and we got to, because I got to wrap it up again. Yeah. No, yeah. Yeah, what happens? About a year and a half, just this weird message. And then she wanted to friend me. And I was like, what is this about?

Like, she's like, well, I've got to my new. place and life is really good and we had such this moment together. I thought we should be friends on Facebook. And I'm like, no. Like, no, this is too personal. I don't post anything like I'm, I'm that type of guy, but my wife does, right? That she thinks your wife's not going to be like,

who's this chick in your Facebook profile that you're friending? I mean, this woman is just, she's fucking nuts. Yeah, yeah. So I, no, that was it. That was it. I responded no, and I did block her. Yeah. And it's been years now. I mean, this happened. My wife and I, when this happened, I was married for eight years. Okay. All right. And you're married 22 years. Yeah. Yeah. So you went back to your wife. You still can't go down on her and all that kind of good stuff.

But you are happily married. That's what you said, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And when you look back at that time, Like what, how do you see it? Do you have regrets? Do you not have regrets? How do you feel about when you look back at that time in this story? So, of course, the ending, like a bunch of it is, you know, that it's a typical affair gone bad, kind of like a fatal attraction at the end a little bit. You didn't get caught. You didn't get caught them. But the part of it kind of like woke up something in me as far as just like, I am a pleaser. So yeah, I can't do things with my wife. But there's, a lot more things I can do to her that give her the same type of reaction. You mean because of the stuff that she brought to the table on that contract, like the interesting things she told you to do to her, you thought, oh, I could do those things to my girl too?

Right. Oh, that makes sense. Okay. Yeah. So I just started to be like more spontaneous a little bit, I guess you could say. Like, for instance, my wife had got. not like the kids were gone and my wife wanted to take a shower and I didn't let her dry off and I kind of just grabbed her and I said which is your which is the your favorite lotion and I just like

gave her like a full body massage and I kind of thought like to see her reactions and her moans and her groans kind of gave me the same relief like the mental orgasm that it was when I went down on her like the other girl yeah I got it So I just started to do it that way. Like, I understand you don't like me going down on you and you don't like me playing with you. But, you know, you do like kind of like erotic teasing massages. She's very opened up a lot like she still doesn't like fingers inserted, but she is like starting to open up and squirm a little bit like when I just play with her. Yeah, that's amazing.

Yeah. So it did kind of awaken some other things to, okay, she's. doesn't like this, let's find something else that she likes. Yeah, so I would say that. I am a pleaser. Yeah, no, I love that. So you didn't get caught. Yeah, she turned a little psycho, but there were no ramifications. Your wife had given you a free pass. Let's say that. Okay. You know, you sound like a decent person. You did all, like, you know, listen, you're, you cheat on your wife? No, she, but you were in this position. She did kind of give you a

free pass. You wound up having this thing. But the minute it was, it could have went really south, you backed out, which shows that where your intentions were for this never to be something more than sex. And so there you go. What an interesting story, Dean. Thank you so much for calling. I didn't know if we had a story here. I'm like, oh, you just cheated.

Just a regular affair, but it wasn't. It was the most interesting cheating. It was a very interesting cheating story to me. Okay. Yeah. Like, my good friend, like, he knew this whole thing. Yeah. And he listens to your show too. Yeah. He had told me months ago. Well, he's always said that my sex life could be a novel or a stand-up

comedy act. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, but this is the best part. Yeah, he's like, man, you should probably call, you know, and I was like, yeah, I'll send her an email. We'll see if she wants to hear it. Oh, my God, so he's going to listen to your episode and he knows all about the bank girl. Oh, he'll know. Yeah, he'll know. Did he also call her out on being psychotic when the contract

came out? Because that was like the first clue. I'm sorry. I mean like he he is my best friend. He thought the whole thing was weird. He said, you know, this woman can mess with your mind. Exactly. He thought that, yeah, he thought that it was going to tear it up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She was fucked up.

I mean, listen, she had that psychology background. You always got to be careful. Like I said, she was like grooming you and then the fucking contract. I mean, like she was, you don't want to get close to someone like that. And you got out like, thank God you didn't get caught. But what she did was very fucked up. I love the whole story. I'm glad your friend told you to call in because this was great, Dean.

Thanks so much for calling in and sharing your story. I'll give you free access to my Patreon for months so you can see the comments. And then you'll get into my Discord for free if you want. It's very naughty there. Maybe you don't want to go in there because of your wife. But like, you know, it's a lot of shit going down in there. That's a private Discord. I'll give you a free link.

But thanks so much, Dean. Thanks for calling in this. This was very fun. Thank you very much, Kathy. And I love your show. You keep doing what you're doing. You're the best. Thanks, Dean.

Bye. Bye-bye. Okay. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife

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