Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1239 - Valentina is a Gender Fluid Gay Crossdresser

Episode Date: October 3, 2025

Valentina is a young, gender fluid, gay crossdress and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how he identifies and why, how and why he got onto low dose hormones and how they effected him both mentally and physically, the guys that hit on her when he’s dressed up as Valentina, how and when he found out he was HIV positive, how he got it and how he got to the point he was undetectable, what being undetectable means and how that works, the medication he takes and how it helps him, how he revels he is undetectable in all his hook up profiles, how and why he got into fisting, how he’s been to bathhouses and what he enjoys doing there, the most men he’s ever been with at same time experience and exactly what went down, the crazy other stuff he’s into is plus a whole lot more **To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠https://brooklynbedding.com⁠⁠ Use my promo code STRICTLY at checkout to get 30% off sitewide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get 10% off Drive Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2528-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Use code: ANONYMOUS to get 50% off your yearly pass plus get a 14-day money-back guarantee ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uberlube.com/discount/Strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use code: STRICTLY for 10% off Uberlube aka the BEST Lube EVER ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your first month of the new Blewchew Max FREE! use code: STRICTLYANON ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://viia.co/STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Try VIIA and use code STRICTLYANON for great SEX and sleep ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use the code “STRICTLY” at checkout for 20% off your entire order To get $15 OFF your female oxytocin arousal tablets and more, use code STRICTLY here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/xLQ3Jv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me! Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So if you're traveling and you want to meet other cross-chesters like you, maybe you could look for them over at SDC. You get a free trial, click on the link or use my code 37712. Okay, today I have on Valentina. had called into my show to do an exclusive episode for my crossdressing tier on Patreon. I do have a whole tier dedicated to crossdust. I'm a Patreon where people get to get exclusive episodes. If you want to hear just the specific information about how Valentina got into crossdressing, you could sign up for my Patreon and hear that. But on this episode, you're going to hear a lot more from Valentina. And I heard a lot more. I didn't even know there was one part of the story that I had no idea about. I thought she was just going to come on

and talk all about like her, you know, all the sex that she has because she does like really crazy things. But we talked about them a lot more. Valentina is gender fluid, meaning she's both genders. But she sexually identifies as gay as a male. And when she's Valentina, she only likes guys. So we hear about all the kind of crazy sex she has with guys. Then at some point, she talks about how she got diagnosed with HIV when she was young, like only 21. She talks about that experience how it happened and how she's on medication and does totally fine now, how she's very open about that with all the people that she hooks up with and she does hook up with a lot of people. She's into a lot of crazy things. In the beginning, we focus a lot

about like, you know, what the hormones, the low dose hormones do for her both physically and emotionally. Then we get into the HIV stuff and then we get into all the crazy sex that she's had, both as Valentina, like I said, as well as her, male self because as her male self, she has had the most guys at one time. She does go to bathhouses and she loves fisting, threesomes, you name it, she's down for it. So anyway, I do have pictures over my Patreon. We talk about that at the end. The link is in the description. I'm getting it to be right back to it and be right back on with Valentina. Oh, hey Valentina. Welcome back to the Strictly anonymous podcast. I'm glad to be back. Yeah, well, listen, you did a first episode with me,

which is behind the paywall on my Patreon. I do have two fetish. tiers on my Patreon. One is for guys that I call hosers. They're guys that like pantyhose. I call them hosers. And then a tier for cross-dressers, guys who like to cross-dress. And I did your whole cross-dressing story. We just focused on your cross-dressing story for my Patreon. I do one extra episode that no one else gets for them over there. But you had so much going on with you that I was like, oh my God, let's do an episode with you because you're super interesting for my podcast so that everyone could hear it as well. We won't just focus on just the cross-dressing because that's just one part of your story. You're also into drag.

You do low-dose hormones. I don't know. Do you consider yourself trans? We'll talk about that. You also do a lot of crazy sex stuff, right? And you're on my show. So that, like, is very in line. No, I feel honored.

Yeah. I mean, we didn't get into a lot of this stuff. So Valentina is your name. Like, is it your drag name, cross-dressing name, like, cissy name? like zissy name like you tell me like who's like you know how many so valentina is my feminine persona okay you're feminine persona whenever i present as a like when as primarily when when i like when i have when i hook up with people uh through like grinder or through that life i'll present like if they ask me for my name i'll say valentina okay what apart from that if i

for like my like my only fans or oh you have an only fans i don't even think we We talked about that. Okay, we'll talk about that this time. Yeah, go on. Well, that's more of the Nazi side. Yeah. So, uh, for my only fans and for like when I perform in drag, I go by Alexa Verga. Oh, yes. I remember that's like your social media handle. Yeah. It's like, uh, the Spy Kids, Alexa Vega, the character, the actress, Alexa Vega. I think my kid is too, uh, young for Spy Kids. Like, and I was too old for it. So I don't know the fucking Spy Kids, but other people probably know what you're talking about. Are repo the genetic opera. I guess she was also in that. Okay.

All right, cool. So, yeah. All right. So, like, that's who you are. Now, do you consider yourself trans or no? And that's why you're just on low-dose hormones because you just want to become a little bit more feminine, but not feminine like total transition. Yes. Yes.

So I consider myself. So I'm under the trans umbrella. Yeah, it's interesting. Is there a term for you? I consider, yeah, gender. non-conforre like gender queer I would say gender queer gender fluid it's like both okay because I it's not that I'm non-binary would insinuate you're nothing someone who does not feel like male or

female yeah I get that I feel like both right and you don't want to like and what a fully trans per like a trans woman or a trans man is they only feel like they may have been born a girl but they feel like a boy so they become they so they transition you feel very in touch with both sides of yourself and that's why you chose to go on low dose hormone. Is that like a common thing that people do? I had never heard of that. Yeah, a lot of people that I know, especially like I'm living here in Tennessee area. Uh-huh. Yeah, like, I mean, a lot of people that I know actually do this low dose, just as like some, a lot of people, a lot of trans people actually do it as a testing ground to see if their body would acclimate to the hormones or not.

It's all done through like informed consent. Of course. So as long as you do your research and the doctor tells you, hey, like, this is what might happen to you and then no, at least start. Yeah. Interesting. So, and how long ago did you start those? And then I want to just hear, like, how it changed your body, the low dose compared to, you know, if you went fully transitioning. Yeah. So I started about four years ago.

Okay. So I did say my boobs are from my low dose hormone. So you grew a little boobs? Yeah. Actually, I think I have, last time I measured, they're like, B cups. Wow. And you were obviously totally flat. chested. How long did it take? No, actually, actually, actually I did not. I was actually, I was

chubri-year, so I had gynecumastia. Oh, interesting. Isn't that interesting? And yeah, and yeah, it is and so it, they were man boobs and then of course with the hormones, they actually filled out more. The arioles grew larger, the nipples grew larger. When I'm shirtless, like when I mean, obviously like as a guy like in the daytime when I'm in my house and I'm working around shirtless. My roommates are like, man, you got boobs. Yeah. And do they look very feminine?

Yeah. They look like women's B cup boobs and you're walking around like a dude? Yeah, yeah. That's so funny. Do you go outside? Because people would be very curious. Oh, yeah. Sometimes I'll go outside and like when I'm smoking a cigarette I don't want to put the shirt on. I can go outside. I mean,

I'm not in the broad daylight, but like night. But it is kind of interesting because like a woman would never do that. You know what I mean? And she can, I don't even think, to be topless with her female breasts out in public. And like when I go to the beach, I do go, I do go shirtless as well. Mm-hmm. Because I mean like when the, when the water can, like when the, when I touch the water, like that, it looks more feminine. But when I'm, when the, when the water constricts, like, when your, yeah, the nipples get hard and everything, it, my aerials go back to normal size. So.

So you look less feminine, you think, when they're smaller? Yeah. Okay. So you went on the low-dose Homer. Now, let me ask you this, because we're going to be talking a lot about, like, all the SCX that you have. Did it change your sex drive because you were becoming more feminized? Like, did you feel less of a, like, horny? Because now you're, like, a woman and I think we're less horny than men. Sorry to say. So, let me get, let me see. Let me analyze my feelings. So I believe, yeah. So at first, when I first started doing it, I was taking the antineadrogens, the testosterone blockers. And of course, naturally my horniness went down because of it.

Of course. The estrogen itself, I mean, women are horny as well. So it's not like I didn't have no sex drive. Of course. But morning erections started going away. And when that started happening, I was like, half of me was like, oh, yay, I'm happy. I don't have to worry about morning wood. And then it's a problem.

It's a problem. Can you imagine just like, always just like being hard and just like, it's just there. And you're like, I know. Yeah, go on. But, uh, and then so I would lose a morning wood. But then like, but I still had like, I would still like walk by a really hot guy and just be like, ah, I want to be with him. But instead of like, my mental state went from instead of I want to fuck, I want to fuck him to, it went to more like, I want to. I want to just be next to him and smell him and have his arms wrapped around me.

Isn't that interesting? It was more the intimate side that came out more. It's interesting. And let me tell you, apart from the sex drive, like emotions? Yeah. No. There was a point where I stopped HRT just because the emotions, I did not like the mood swings at all. At least you could understand them because, you know, when I was growing up, I think there was a lot more education now that maybe men will.

really understand that when a woman gets her period and she's totally cunty like there's a reason for it okay but in my day it was like you're fucking crazy and no one really understood it and i think that they just thought that women were nuts but it's a hormone thing you know and now i think it's much more obvious because you're on hormones i think older men know because they start to get fucking crabby too when they lose their testosterone i mean it's any kind of hormonal imbalance affects your your moods yeah and like i would say like even with like on the blows of hormone like i I still, like, I get really, really horny as if, like, I was in the, I think it's a follicular stage or the luteal stage of menstruation. I would get really horny once a month.

Yeah, like a woman. Like, now it's like I get really, like, really crazy horny once a month and I just want to go out there and have sex. And I call that my menstruation cycle. Yeah. Well, that's how it works. Obviously, there's no ovulation, but yeah. There is a cycle that it all is hormonal. Do you take the same?

mono hormones like every day or are you like on a weird a different kind of cycle because it's like you're you know you're trans like you're doing it for to be more woman like is do they have you cycle it weird in a way like where you're off at a couple days initially I was I was doing like the the estradiol pill the two milligrams estrogen every day and taking my empty endergens every day just so I can like jumpstart that feminine but once I started getting closer to what the body that I desired with the less hair, the softer skin, the bigger boobs, the wider hips. Once I started to get more into that phase of my, like, quote unquote, transition. Yeah.

I started winging off. And then I actually did go to injectables. So I did estrogen injecting. Yeah. And I was doing it once a week or also if I skipped a week, I would wait until I got really, really horny. And I would use that as my like, quote unquote, woman medicate. I mean, it is my woman medication.

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and use my code strictly for 10% off. And I was doing it once a week or also if I skipped a week, I would wait until I got really, really horny. And I would use that as my like, quote unquote, woman medicate. I mean, it is my woman medication. It's like my medication. But like I would like I would like right before I hooked up with someone, I would do a shot. And it would get me more to that feminine move like, oh, I can just like I would just like I would just imagine me feeling the estrogen flowing to my body. Yeah.

And I would make me more feminine for the hookup or the. the binge hookups that I would have when I'm dressed. Because honestly, like, I'm not going to be dressing up and putting makeup on for every single hookup. No, that's what's so interesting. And I feel like your... Day after day. Yeah, no, and I feel like you're doing the perfect segue into your fucking hookup. Because people are kind of like, get over, get on with it, Kathy.

You know what I mean? Enough of the hormone stuff. This is the stuff I find super interesting. But let's get to the hookups because, you know, that's what we want to talk a lot about. Now, you are, because you said, like, you see guys. I mean, you are Valentina, who. sometimes identifies as a woman, sometimes identifies as a guy, right? And, but you are a gay man. I mean, your sexual identity is a gay man, right? You only like men. Are you like a gold star gay? Like,

have you ever been with a woman or only with guys? No, I have. I have been with women. So, so platinum, platinum star. Oh, platinum. Do you know the different levels? No, no, no, no, tell me. So platinum stars would be men who have not had sex with a woman and had, were born C-section. So they've never touched the vagina. Oh, my God. Hilarious. Dottie. Oh, oh, my God. Hilarious. Oh, not you. Oh, oh, Oh my God. Zero vagina. I can't even count of the mothers. Platinum star gay. And yeah. Gold star gay, of course, would be the ones who were born vaginally, but they, they would have not had sex with a woman. I'm not. So I have had sex with one woman. I've only had sex as one woman in my whole life. Okay. And that was my, that was my girlfriend when I was in high school. I came out with her. I came out to her like a year after her dating. And then I called her up like two months later. I was like, hey.

So I want to make sure I'm gay. Do I have sex? And she's like, sure, let's do it. Well, and so you fucked her and you're like, yeah, I'm definitely gay. Yeah. So, I mean, so I just recently hung out with her like last week. Yeah. Because she's still my best friend.

I love her to death. And I even told her like I'd be honored to have your babies someday. So like, like obviously I wouldn't be like having sex with her. But we would like, I would be honored to like raise a parent, like be able to co-parents with her. Yeah. But I digress. So when we had sex, but I didn't, like, get all the way in her. Like, she, I, like, basically put half of my penis in her, and she was like, oh, it hurts.

It hurts. And I'm like, mine's that big? Are you that big? Or were she just a virgin at the time? No, she actually, it's funny when she is not really about her, but, like, she actually lost her virginity. Not to me, but to the football quarterback. after I broke up with her as like revenge sex I guess yeah for sure girls are like that and then two weeks and then like a month later after that that's when I hooked up with her like I had sex with

her and she was like you're much bigger than him good to know right yeah it's so funny I was like and I like I didn't consider myself like a popular person in high school so I was like wow I'm bigger than the high school quarterback yes yeah score yeah that's that's hilarious okay so Now, you do a lot of hooking up. Now, you hook up, like, as a gay man, but you also hook up as Valentina. And that's what I'm interested in it, because I think a lot of people, unless you don't know unless you know that there are a lot of dudes out there that hit up men who like to cross dress and hook up with guys. Like, that's a big market. I'm assuming you get hit up a lot when you present as Valentina online looking for hookups.

And like what are the guys that are like what are what's like the majority of guys are they gay men? Are they straight men? Are they married men? Are they across the board? Like what's the majority of guys that you see are like hitting you up in your inbox? Even not just the ones you hook up with. Just the ones that are coming after. Yeah. The ones coming after me, the majority of them are married straight men. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. That's what I knew would be the answer. But I wanted you to say. Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh yeah. Absolutely. And like I if I'm really, really horny. I will sometimes a cup of them. But if I'm like in a set, if I have my clear conscience, I'll be like, I don't want to be, I don't want to have you come over.

And then the next day, a woman knocks on my door and says, did you fuck my husband? Oh my God. I don't want that drama. I don't want that drama. I tell them like, hey,

I'm sorry, but I don't, I usually don't tend to hook up with, with married guys because of that reason. I'm not trying to be that other woman. I'm not trying to be, Like, and I mean, and that, all for people that like cheating, like, that's fine, but you're not, you don't want to be involved.

That's your own sort of thing. I get it. And listen, you've got a lot of those female hormones. You have all those female hormones in you. Maybe that's the, that's the difference why you feel that way. Yeah. I'm like, my female hormones are making me a girl's girl, you know? Yeah, totally.

But, but if they're really hot and they're on a business trip. Yeah. And, like, they're visiting Nashville because that, oh, yeah, Nashville has a lot of conferences, right? Yeah. So if they're visiting, I'm okay. Like, I'm like, okay, cool, you're married? Cool. She won't know.

There's no way that you'll know, that she'll know that I'm. And like, I'm very up, I've been, like, I'm very, what is it, up front about my status. Like, I'm HIV positive, but undetectable. Oh, that's interesting. So, but, and you tell people that. Your HIV positive. When did you find out? I found out when I was 21.

Oh, my God. But like at that point. I'm 34 now. At that point, though, was there all that the medicine out that it wasn't like a death sentence anymore? Because there was a time where that could have been the most devastating thing, but it's very different nowadays, right? Like, it's like you just take medication.

You're fine. But in my day, if you had that, it's like, you know, finding out you have cancer. You know, it's like you're not even going to live. So, but how was it for you at 21? Like by that time, I mean, I don't really remember when it changed. Like at that time, was it a lot of medication? So 21, I. sadly, ironically and sadly, I

contracted HIV literally about like six or seven months before prep what's the minute thing. Wow. Oh my God. Yeah. Yeah. It was right on the forefront. Exactly. And I was like, damn it, now I have it. So, but I mean, luckily, one of my friends in the club scene was a lead, the lead HIV doctor in Erlango. Oh, okay. And he got me on treatment as soon as possible pro bono basically because he cared about me as a friend and uh ever i've been on a medication ever since different medications here and there because uh insurance

restrictions and all that kind of stuff but yeah and now i live on detectable so and when i when i first found out i didn't even cry i kind of knew like my body told me how'd you know i i don't know the person i gave it to you and were they honest yes yeah they were were not honest. Oh my God. I handed a condom. I so I was drinking and I was with one of my one of my hookup buddies that we were like ready

to hook up with. I handed him a condom and I was like, hey, I don't really bought him that much. Please use Lou. Please use condom. And I went ahead and knocked back because all the drinking gave me whiskey dick. Okay. And you didn't realize that he didn't use the condom? Yeah. He went in and

rammed his dick inside me just spit on his dick and rammed it inside me and because I was this like I was not really prepared for that like I needed to like get something eased into he assumed that I was a full on bottom arm or whatever I don't know but he just rammed into me

and then I started bleeding and that's the problem yeah and that's the problem it's the open wounds that that's how you get it and that's why even women could get it through anal sex because sometimes that's the way you get tears because it's such a small area, you know, and that's the whole reason why gay men get it, why women can get it if they do

anal, you know, it's, it's, that's, that's what's happening. Oh, so you bled, so that made it, like, that's, like, really bad. But you didn't know at that point, though, that he had it, right? Because he didn't tell you. No. No, he didn't tell me. And, like, even afterwards, I even asked him, like, hey, you're clean, right? I'm clean. I'm clean. And he was like, yeah, I'm clean. And then afterwards, he blocked me on everything on all, on Adam for Adam, on Grindr. Oh, my. And And when I confronted her about it, he blocked you and everything. And I was like, he should be like fucking arrested. People like that.

I'm sorry. I don't even like people that have herpes that don't tell people. Yeah. I try. All I have is his first name. I didn't get a last name. Like, I had the phone number that he gave me. He blocked from me contacting him.

I asked friends around. Wow. And they're like, oh, no, he moved away. So I'm like, whatever. Imagine how many other people he did that too. So how do you feel like you knew? Oh, yeah. There's a whole community called, look.

Bug chasers. What's that? I don't know this. No. Bug chasers are people who actively want to get HIV. What? And or bug transmitters who, or like, I think they call it pausing. There's a whole, like, subsect in the gay community called pausers and bug chasers.

And these are people who actively try to get other people infected with HIV or try to get infected because they see it as a sexual kick. Wow. I just saw an article yesterday. about a guy who was like a, he was a surgeon that like chopped off people's limbs and he like fucked up his limbs on purpose so he could chop off his own because he was into it sexually. It was a whole article. Yeah, that's a amputee that as well. Yeah, that's it. Yeah. What the fuck is. Yeah. What the fuck is. Yeah. But this is like non-consensual stuff. So that's where it's like fucked up. You know what I mean? That's non-consensual. So that should be illegal. No, no. Yeah. Don't even say that word on my show. That's illegal and it's like fucked up. But how. It's like, it's like fucked up. But how. It runs along the same as like bestiality as like. No. No. Yeah. Yeah. It doesn't even say that. That's illegal. But. But it's like. It's like. But. It's like. But it's like. It's like. How did you said, like, oh, my body knew? Like, how did you know? Once I confronted him, I just knew that he knew. Because, like, he must have.

No, no, no. How did you know you got had it? Like, you said I kind of knew. Like, my body knew that you were HIV positive. Did you get sick right after? Like, were there symptoms or you just had a feeling? So two weeks later, I, there's a thing called zero conversion. That's when your body actually gets infected by the HIV virus.

And the typical symptoms are like fever. Like, it's like a 24-hour fever. Yeah. It comes in one day. You're perfectly fine one minute and then you're like fever and sick. And then the next day it's gone. Okay. So that happens to be when it was not.

No throwing up nothing. Yeah, just a fever, nausea, like all the like flu symptoms, but like 24-hour flu. But like, and that's what happens with 24-hour flus in general because like the virus, the flu virus is becoming active in your body. Yeah. So I just knew something was like, okay, that's weird. that I was like in the middle of a hot day in the middle of July out in a flea market with my best friend

of the time and all of a sudden I just got sick out of nowhere. Yeah. And I was like, okay, this is weird. So I didn't think of anything about it because I was like, oh, maybe it's just a 24-hour flu. And then I went ahead and I just like, from that point on, like sort of the next two months, every single like billboard of HIV,

every single ad about HIV, every single like I had dreams about HIV. I was just noticing. Oh, wow. Beforehand, I wouldn't, I wouldn't give it. Yeah, some part of you, maybe even subconsciously was thinking about this somehow. Yep. Yeah.

And then I actually went, and in order to prepare myself for it as well, because I wanted to start to realize in these seconds, I went on Adam for Adam. And, like, I was the kind of person beforehand who would block people who are HIV because I was just so scared of it. Yeah. But then I went to, I went on and unblocked them all. And I reached off and was like, hey. So I don't want to, like, in my mind, I was like, I don't want to read some

pamphlet about what it's like to be a very positive. I wanted to ask from the people themselves. So I mentioned out and reached out. I was like, hey, what was it like when you first found out? What was it like? And so I had all these stories of like people were scared, but then when they got reassured by their family and the medication, now they're living a healthy life. So after like hearing like hundreds of these stories, I was like, you know what? Let me go get tested. Oh, you're so smart. You did that before you even got tested. That was before just preparing yourself. the worst case scenario and you hear all these positive stories with people that got worst case scenario information and now you're prepared for worst case scenario. I think that's actually very smart. Yeah. And I try to be smart. But the big thing about me is like I don't really like to be sad. I don't really like to be depressed, right? I mean, no one likes to be. But I don't let it into my body. Some people I call them like there's problem solvers and problem havers. Okay. The problem Havers like to be fucking miserable.

Okay, I'm sorry. I know tons of people like I'm sorry to say. So I got it. So it's important for you to say like you didn't want like you weren't going to like you're not the type of person that's going to sit there and curl up in a bull and fetus position and give up on life. It's not your style. Exactly.

No, no, no. I'm going to be like, let me look at the bright side of life. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. That's great. And just keep on going. Yeah.

And I try to be smart. But the big thing about me is like I, I, I, I, I, I, I, don't really like to be sad. I don't really like to be depressed, right? I mean, no one likes to be. But I don't let it into my body. Some people, I call them like there's problem solvers and problem havers, okay? Some people, the problem havers like to be fucking miserable.

Okay, I'm sorry. I know tons of people like, sorry to say. So I got it. So it's important for you to say, like you didn't want, like you weren't going to, like you're not the type of person that's going to sit there and curl up in a bull and fetus position and give up on life. It's not your style. Exactly.

No, no, no. I'm going to be like, let me look at the bright side of. line. Yeah. I love that. Mm-hmm. Yeah. That's great. And just keep on going. Cup half full. And if anything, I can be an example and a role model to others. Yeah. And you went immediately on the medication. Your friend hooked you up so you didn't, like, you know, because it was very expensive when I first came out. I don't know if it's any different now, but it really like, you know, I remember Magic Johnson was probably like one of the first celebrities that came out.

And this was so many millions of years ago. And he's still healthy and fine, you know. But like I said, there was a time. time before that that it was just strictly a death sentence. They didn't have anything. Then they came up with these wonderful drugs. And basically they just keep that virus like, it's kind of like if you have like herpes or like cold sore virus, just lays dormant or HSV. It's like just stays dormant in your body. So you get tested and you have zero of it showing, which means you can't give it. I can't give it. I can always give the analogy of like, I can cut myself and do a blood patch with someone and not give them to me. Yeah, because it's literally not there. from the movie it.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's what's so amazing about it. Exactly same thing. Yep. Science has gone so far. And now they have like a shot that you can take once a month.

And actually they actually found a cure over in like Australian Japan where like using CRISPR data DNA editing where like they've eradicated the virus completely. So we're waiting for that to be like available here. And available everywhere. Yeah. I mean last question about that and you probably know this like is there a way because like you're infected with this virus? Like is there a way because you're undetectable that you're. that you, if you were with someone that had it again by accident, could you be reinfected and then it, it like stimulates it and brings it out, or is that not possible because

you already have it? So you have antibodies to get it again. Oh, really? Yeah, they're saying that there's a possibility that because there are different, as there are different strains of flu virus, there are different strains of HIV. So it could be, but the thing is like, depending on the medication you have, you might be at more risk or less risk. Because all the different, the reason, there's like 27.

different medications for HIV. And it's because like not everyone's body's different. There's the same. So there's some that block the receptors of the virus going into your cells. There's some that restrict the proteins. There's all these like different variations. With the one that I take, I take Big Tarvey.

That has never given me an issue. I'm actually I, it actually works against other flu viruses. Like I never got COVID. Oh wow. Interesting. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So it blocks all the other So in my sense, if I hook up with someone who's HIV-posited and had a different strain

on me, I have less of a chance. Yeah. It's not eradicated, but I have a less of a chance of getting infected or boosting my current viral load. Yeah. But other medications might be more risky. Yeah. Interesting.

Okay. Sorry to get off track, but that is a interesting part of your story. And I think it's important. And the whole point in the way we got into this conversation is you said, you actually put that in your profile. Like all these people know this ahead of time. that are hooking up with you, correct? Like, you're not like that other scumbag that you phone.

No. You're letting people know that your HIV positive but undetectable. Is that like the lingo that you use? Yes. There's like a little, little enagram. Like, yeah, the little enneagram that's like a bracket, U plus you bracket. That means undetectable means untransmitable. Oh, interesting.

So that's, that's, yeah. That's what you put on a profile? I will, and then, yeah, I do, I put it on my profile. on like ranger and stuff. Yeah. Fat life, I just put, say that I'm not identical. Yeah, great. Okay.

Now, we'll, and then to segue back into the naughtiness. Yes, let's get back into it. Because I'm into tell you positive. Yeah. I went ahead. That's what got me into kinks. Yeah. Because a lot of kinks and fetishes,

there's barely any fluid exchange. So that, so you like adapted because of that and got into all this other stuff that's like super hot and naughty and everything. But safer. That's kind of smart. That's what a cup half full person would do. That's what a problem solver would do and not a problem haveer. Okay, so tell me, what did you start getting into?

So one of the biggest things that I started getting into was fisting. There you go. Fisting. Yep, yeah. I was like, I still want to get some sort of prostate. Yeah. Like, obviously toy play was the beginning of that. And once I started getting used to the bigger and bigger toys, I was like, you know what?

I kind of want to have a fist in me. Yeah. Or, and like I, like, or I want to fist someone else because the first time I fisted someone else was amazing. Like, I, like, once I got it in, it was such, it's one of the, like, one of the most extreme fetishes out there, most, my, most extreme kinks. Yeah, totally, yeah. Because, like, people always confuse it to kinks and fetishes, and they're different.

Yes. So for the kink, so, it's one of the most intimate out there because when you put your hand in someone, you feel their heartbeat. you feel Yeah Yeah It feels so warm And like

It feels like your hands In the glove Of course Because it's in someone's rectum But like You feel Any little twitch your hand makes Makes the other person twitch

And like It just It feels so It's like If done right If done with the proper loob And the proper care Like you have to have a connection

With the person That you're getting fisted by Unless you're like a pro fister Who can get fissed by anything But like when you're first starting off, you have to have a connection because you want, you're putting total trust in this person that any, any kind of like sharp edge could cause an abrasion and that sucks inside your rectum. Yeah, totally. And it's a big thing going on your rectum. But you love it.

And you like to do it as well as receive. Yes. Okay. Because as when I'm, when I'm, I guess, active, or a top in the, as a top fister. I just love being able to cause a pleasure and cause this immense pleasure because the process right there. Like, if, if, people always say, like, if God didn't want gays, why did he put our most erogenous spot in our asshole? True. True. True story. I like ass play myself. I don't understand why other people don't.

Yeah. Yeah. And it's like, yeah. So, like, I love being in that. I love seeing like the, like, looking into their eyes and just seeing the, the submission and someone else. when I'm fissing them. And then vice versa. I love the sensations of getting fisted. And I consider myself a switch when it comes to a lot of kinks. Because I, because of that, like, I'm a big on energy exchange. Like, I vibe with the energy that's happening. And I'm not, okay, one of my pet peeves is pillow princesses or I'm not missed.

There's Guy pillow princesses? Yeah. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah, you're right. We just call them selfish. We just, women just call them selfish guys. Yeah.

Yeah. And like they'll just like this whole like I've tried it even recently like last year when I was at gay days. I tried like hooking up with someone who literally said, oh, come to my hotel room. I'll be on my knees with my ass out and a jock strap all lubed up for you. And like, okay, cool. And then I get there and I'm like, I can't get hard. He was hot as hell.

But why? Because he was just sitting there? I mean, what's the problem? He was just sitting there. Yeah. That's the pillow princess. I just don't see that. Yeah.

I just don't see that. Like, I need an, I can't be the only one giving energy. You want an active participant. Yeah. Mm-hmm. That makes sense. Yeah. Because if you're into that energy and the energy exchange, someone just sitting there receiving

and doing nothing, you know, isn't going to give you that kind of vibe. Yeah. And like, in fact, when I get fucked, I'm wrapping my legs around you. I'm, my hands are traveling on your back and scratching you back. I'm it. I want to receive your sexual energy and I want I want to give back my sexual energy. Like it's an ebb and flow. Are there different things that Valentina is into compared to when you're with like a guy looking for guys?

Like what is Val is Valentina into being fisted with all these straight guys that are common when you're dressed up? Okay. So is that what you have like on your profile? Internally, it's all the same. Like anything that turns Valentina on turns turns me on and vice versa. And you're always with guys. all these guys, it's like the same thing they're doing to you and you're doing to them because it's always with guys whether you're Valentina.

So like, you know, how do, like what's the difference though between sex for you as Valentina compared to sex for you as a gay man when you're hooking up with a guy? I don't, I haven't seen a difference really. Is it just like apples and oranges? Like it's just as good, but just different. I mean, it's got to be different somehow. I don't know. You tell me.

Because like when I'm, when I'm Valentina, I'm more into the I want to be I'm more submissive My submissive side comes out as Valentina And a lot of guys that I hook up They want me to be like a dominant Trans top right

Yeah They want me to like fuck the hell out of them And I'm like no I don't want that Valentina doesn't want that No So myself Does

Yeah That's a difference I would love to fuck But then they won't want me as myself No, they want Valentina. But in order to get these hot guys who are being curious, I have to dress up. Not that I have to dress up, but I want to dress up for them because as Valentina, I want to be quote unquote worshipped, but not in the sense of a submissive working, worshipping his master. More of like, I want to put on a pedestal and I want them to run their hands along my smooth legs and kiss me up and down and like be infatuated with me.

I want to be lusted at. I want to be lusted for, like, I want them to, like, look at me and be like, oh, I just want to fuck you. And like,

and like, I'll, I'll wear my lingerie. It's not just me naked. Like, I always have to have lingerie on or some sort of silky canny hose or something that to like enhance the finity of me. Mm-hmm.

Must love that, right? I mean, that's what they're coming there for. Yeah. Oh, man. Yeah. They,

they all, they all love it. And especially when I, when I, when I, when I, I want to unleash my breasts to them. They're like, oh, and they go straight for them.

And I'm like, yes. But they like your cock, too, right? Like, I mean, these are guys that like both, right? I mean, that's why they're there. This is, that's what I'm thinking, right? They're guys that like both. And so it's like the best of both worlds. It's funny, like, a lot of trans girls, like,

they don't want their cock to be played with. They don't want. Oh, really? Yeah, they don't want to be touched or anything like that. Like a lot of trans girls. And that's like, I'm like, well, I'm not trans. I'm gender fluid. So I like both of my, I both, I want my tips and my caught grabbed.

Yeah. And, yeah. And so the guys that are showing up, they want to blow you, they want to fist you, like, you know, the ones that are coming to see Valentina. Most of them are into all of the above. You did say something before, and I don't know if I caught it correctly, but you kind of said, like, I got to dress up to get the hot guys. I mean, is that a difference in Valentina and your guys stuff?

Like, you get hotter guys as Valentina or more selection of guys as Valentina? Tina? Absolutely. I mean, I sent you a picture of what I look like as a boy as well. Yeah. I don't know if you remember seeing that. I think I did. Yeah.

Let me look online. Go on. Yeah. So I... You think you're a prettier girl than you were a good looking guy? I think I'm a handsome guy as well as a pretty girl. Mm-hmm. Like, I think I, in my world, in my terms, I love being the best of both worlds.

Right. I'm not a, I wouldn't say I'm a 10. I don't have six-pack abs. I'm not like a muscle builder, like a bodybuilder or anything like that. But I am me. I just, I don't know, like, when it comes to your describing itself, I'd just say, I'm me. I don't have to be anyone else. I'm just, I'm just, I'm just, and that's how, like, how I like to be.

But, like, as a gay man, the gay culture is very, very narcissistic. very, it's very shallow. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's why the gay men look better than straight men. Sorry, but like, in the New York City, the hottest guys are the gay guys. You go to Chelsea, that's what you can see all the fucking hot guys. They stay in shape. Their bodies are fucking perfect.

They're together. They look killer, you know, and because they are very shallow and they know that that's how they're going to get other guys because they're very visual. And they know they got a lot of fucking good. And they have the best asses. I'm an ass girl and I look at everyone's ass when they walk. front of me. I love showing off my ass.

Yeah, gay men have great asses. They know, they do squats. A lot of guys, all they do is pump up their arms. You know what I mean? They don't even do anything to their legs. But not game. Yeah, no, I was a big biker back in high school and I did, I played football, I played basketball. I did all the running soccer.

And I kept my body fit. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not fat per se. but I'm not super fit, but I try to keep my body healthy. Right. So that, I think if I was like into something like really kinky and was putting myself out there, I would probably get a more of a variety and maybe like better, maybe we've better looking guys in that scenario because it's like very specific and it's a kink and it's not readily available.

You know what I mean? So it makes sense that it doesn't have to do with like how bad you look as a guy compared to a woman. But like the fact that you're presenting as Valentina, which is this like specific kink and you're down to be with straight guys on the DL. It's probably not, there's probably not a million of you out there. So, you know, it's these guys, you could get like the hottest guy because he just wants you for one night. Exactly. And I'm perfectly fine with that.

That's what you want, right? Mm-hmm. I just want to, because like I, when I get horny, I see, I'm a problem solver. So I'm like, let me just get this out of the way so I can continue my daily life. Are you positive? You're only a B cup. Your boobs look way bigger than a B cup. Well, when I wear, when I, for pictures, I'll put it.

I don't know. Like, I don't know. Like if you see the naked picture, that's, is that, are they bigger than a B cup? I don't see the naked picture. I'm just looking at the ones I put on Patreon. I don't put naked ones there. So I'm just looking at ones. I guess it's like you're pushing them in for certain ones.

Yeah, I have like little silicone cutlets that. Yeah, I'll go. Just increase of cleavage. That's it. Okay. So, yeah. So technically with it, with it, they're like G-cups. But because as a broad-shouldered man, I will not naturally have cleavage.

Of course, because your boots are far apart. So you push them together. Okay, so you meet up these guys as Valentina. Do you ever have like threesomes or crazy? Like, have you ever had really crazy? Oh, yeah. Like, yeah, tell me some crazy stories or crazy requests. how many guys the most

As Valentina or as myself? As Valentina. Or both. Valentina. Okay. So Valentina, I've been to bathhouses. Like, I remember going to Atlanta's Flex bathhouse. Is that a popular one?

Yeah, that's the popular gay men's bathhouse. I mean, sadly, there's no bathhouse in Nashville. So I'm like, sad day. Yeah. Why did I move here? There's a lot of churches and porn shops, though. Aren't there a lot of churches? Wait, aren't there a lot of churches and

porn shops, though? That's what I remember about Nashville. I'm like, every fucking quarter, there's a church, and then there's an X-rated porn shop right next to it. There's an adult toy store in every little borough. And there's just as many churches. Strippers, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

All right, exactly. Yeah, so go on. Sorry, go on. So as Valentina, I went to Flex over in Atlanta. And I was, and they were like, I went there as in, boy form first, but I brought my clothes to clothes. So when I got inside, I went to the shower, shaved up because it was an open shower.

I made myself all smooth. And then I started like cruising. I didn't really have any makeup on per se, but I was definitely in my lingerie and my, and my fishnet stockings and have my tits out and all that kind of stuff. And there were a lot of guys, I remember being, I just let my door open one time. And I think there were at one point, those were not pretty small. But at one point, I had like three guys, like, wanting to play with me as well as I, they had, like, a sling set up in one of the dark rooms. And I just put up there and then people, people were touching me and all that kind of stuff.

I think it was, like, maybe, I would say that maybe about 10 guys who were, like, fucking me that night. Yeah. And, of course, like, I would, obviously, I would tell them, like, secret, like, hey, like, I'm positive. not unattendedable and they'd be like okay that's fine so yeah it's uh it was definitely like a definitely fun experience not the most men i've ever had like i remember what's the most men you've ever had the most i never had was as myself in boy mode over at the now extinct tampa ebor resort and spa they sadly had a fire so like years ago but before them i remember me and my friends drove from orlando it was me and two others drove from Orlando my hookup friends and we got a big room for ourselves

and we at what I remember counting I think we had a 20 person orgy oh my god two other gay friends of yours yeah so so I compartmentalize right so I have my hookup scene and then I have my social scene yeah I get it they don't mix they don't mix I don't fuck friends because that's causes way too much drama, way too much drama. And I just prefer to, if I'm going to hook up with you, you're not a friend of mine. But if I see, if I see you in the bars and everything like that, like, I'll say hi, but I won't continue. But I'll message you later and be like, hey, I want to fuck you. Yeah.

Yeah, funny. Okay. Yeah, so like I try to keep those lives, not separate, but just like, it's for less drama. Yeah, I get it. So these people were your hookup buddies, obviously. Yes. And how did you get 20 guys over? Grindr?

We just, I remember like. Or it was at the club. There was Park Grinder, but it was also a bathhouse, right? Yeah, it's a bathhouse, right. There's a block away from the gay bars. There's a block away from the gay bars, and we just, like, I remember going into the hot tub and, like, there's this really hot, like, muscle jock couple. I just went out to them and like, hey, you guys are hot.

By the way, we're in the room so-and-so. you guys want to enjoy me? Yeah. And so like, and like I would just tell that to people like around, I'm a very good marketer. Uh-huh. So I don't have shame per se. I got, I'll go up to me and like, hey, do I want to do this? Let's do it. I mean, I always call myself an enabler. Right. If I see you wanting to like try something, I will tell you to do it. Your friends must love you because you're like the Wrangler. Like you're getting everything going. Yeah, exactly. They don't have to worry. And they were older. So they were like. they were attractive, but they were older. So I was a younger kid.

I was a younger one. I was probably like 22 at this point, 23. And I was like, hey, let's do it. Let me get guys for you because, yeah, like, I would just, I would be able to get all the guys in. And I remember counting at one point, 20 guys. Yeah. Wow. Well, I was getting fucked.

So you were bottoming that whole time? I was bottoming. I was talking. I was sucking. There was no real ink. You're open to it all. But yeah. Yeah.

I mean, listen, some people are definitely like one or the other. Your verse, that's what they would call it, right? Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Versatile. Yeah. And I'm a true verse. And people always assume, like, because I say, oh, I'm versed. They're like, oh, you must be a bottom.

And then I'm like, no. Oh, is that what they say? Why do they assume that? Yeah, yeah. Why do they assume that? Yeah. That's the gay culture. Well, let me ask you this.

If you're at top, you're only a top. Right. But let me ask you, you're a bottom. When you're, that's interesting, but when you're Valentina, are you, do you top or do anything?

Or do you just stay away from that because you're Valentina and girls don't do stuff like? Like, you know, I don't know. You tell me. If I'm, so it really depends.

Yeah. On the other guy, especially. Of course. Like, if I sense a dominant energy coming from the other guy, I will be submissive. I will be the bottom.

If I sense that. And, but if I sense a submissive side, because a lot of straight guys who want to play with transsexuals or or anything under the umbrella cross-dressers, they tend to be more submissive. And then, and then I'll be like,

especially, they'll be like, oh, I want you to fuck me. And I'm like, and I try to stop. I try to stop it right then and there. Because, like, I, I, I, there's some nights that I really want to be fucked as Valentina. There's some nights that I'm okay topping. Uh-huh. But in my mind, I'm like, why would I want?

to get into this whole garb and makeup and all that kind of stuff and just top someone when I can just top someone as myself. I got it. What kind of weird request do you get as Valentin? Anything like kind of crazy? Interesting. You could tell me? Anything under the boat, really?

Like, I mean, I've had guys want me to be their mommy and put them in bait in diapers, ABDL and stuff like that. That's something that I'm not into personally. Yeah, I've heard of that stuff. I've had people wanting me to piss on them or get pissed on. I'm not into, I'm not into raunch. So anything that's under raunchy, I don't do. Okay.

So anything that smells like the state over. Oh, that would be considered raunchy? Yeah, to me, that's considered raunchy. I don't like anything like the three, what is it called? So anything blood or anything poop, anything. anything illegal I don't do. Uh-huh. I'm not going to do car play because I would, I get too nervous because if I can see them, I

feel like they can see me. Even if it's a tinted car, I still feel like I can see me. So, and I don't like that. But I do like exhibitionism if it's legal. So like in the bathhouse or something like that? Like that's where you enjoy it. Yeah, exhibition in the bathhouse or like if I'm in my backyard and I'm tanning nude and someone's trying to peep on me, I like that.

But I'm not going to, I'm not about to go into an. alleyway and expose myself or be jacking off in the car while I'm driving. Like, no, that's just, that's just not me. Okay. Last question. This is what I want to know. Yeah. Like, so what, like, are you looking for? I mean, you're still a young guy, right? How old are you, by the way? I forget. 34. 34. Are you looking for a partner? Are you looking to just be single? Like, what do you see in your future? I'm looking for my partner in crime per se. Like, I want someone. I want someone. that I can share all these sensualities and sexualities with someone who does not see me as just Valentina or as just myself, but someone who sees me as both and appreciates both.

So it would need to be a guy who's maybe bisexual. I mean, what would be the perfect partner? Because it has to be someone that digs Valentina as well as your male side. Yeah. And someone, and I'm looking for someone who wants to travel with me and do, crazy wild things and always be open to like an adventure. I'm an Aquarius and for some reason I just gravitate towards me are Scorpios and I cannot date Scorpios. Yeah, but I just want someone who's open-minded. Yeah. Someone who's not set in their ways.

But are you looking for a relationship by the way? Or do you like being single? My male side? Yeah. My male side is looking for a relationship because I've been single for about five or six years. Valentina's side, I would like to, I would love to have a relationship, but I'm enjoying the sexual ride I'm getting right now. And I'm also focusing more on my career right now as a person. Yeah, you're still so, yeah. Yeah, there you got.

Listen, Valentina, I love your story. You know, I didn't even know you had the whole HIV thing too, which I think was super interesting. It's a part of your story. I'm so glad we did a part two. And I'm so glad that this one is airing for everybody because it has a little bit of, like, it has a lot of different things in, in this episode. So, which I think is interesting.

I'm kinky. I'm wholesome. I'm intelligent. Yeah. I'm the perfect catch. Why am I still single? Go on to my Discord. People will be looking for you. I'll send me some more picks. I have some picks over on my Patreon. I'll link to that because you called, you called in already for my crosschester tier, but I'll make those available for my regular tier so everyone could see them. And, uh, and that's signing up for your Discord.

Yeah, it's sign up for my Discord. It's very naughty. I like it. I don't know if you might call it raunchy. I don't know. It's like, you know, it's pretty great. Pretty great. There's thousands of people in there. And like, you know, everyone gets like super naughty. And what's great at there is you could post your own stuff. But, you know, take that link. I sent you the free link for that as well as Patreon if you want to see comments and stuff I gave you. I think a free year for my page.

Yeah, I think so. Yeah, so sign up for that if you want to see the comments. But thanks so much for calling back in and telling me your whole story. It was super interesting. I'm good luck with everything. And if you ever want to call me back, just let me know. All right. Thanks, Valencia.

There's a whole more. Oh, my God. Okay. Thanks, Valentina. Bye. Have a great day. You too. Bye.

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