Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1259 - Vanessa Started Hotwifing for her Husband and She’s Been Hotwifing Ever Since

Episode Date: October 27, 2025

Vanessa started hotwifing for her husband and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she decided to try hotwifing for him in the first place, what made her agree even though she wasn’t into swinging, the app they used to find their first guy and what went down, how her husband got involved during her early hookups and how and why she now plays solo, how her feelings about it evolved over time, the rule they had going in and how it worked, the first guy she met next and what went down there, the firefighter she met and the wild threesome the had, the regular bull she now meets up with solo and what has gone down with him, the guy she hooked up in a car and what went down, why they’re now looking for couples online , how its changed their marriage plus a whole more. **To see anonymous pics VANESSA (she's SUPER HOT) of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed.  Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠https://brooklynbedding.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use my promo code STRICTLY at checkout to get 30% off sitewide ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get 10% off Drive Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use the code “STRICTLY” at checkout for 20% off your entire order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uberlube.com/discount/Strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Use code: STRICTLY for 10% off Uberlube aka the BEST Lube EVER ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get your first month of the new Blewchew Max FREE! use code: STRICTLYANON ⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2532-anonymous⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Use code: ANONYMOUS to get 50% off your yearly pass plus get a 14-day money-back guarantee To get $15 OFF your female oxytocin arousal tablets and more, use code STRICTLY here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/xLQ3Jv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me! Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Okay, today I'm Vanessa. I love Vanessa's story. Her husband signed up, or they both signed up for SEC with my SDC trial. And I always ask people when they sign up, like, hey, if you want to call into my show and you have some stories, send me an email. And this guy did, and he got his wife to call it. And they have a super interesting story. They're kind of newbies. They've been hot wiping for about a year and a half.

We have Vanessa on the call, and she tells the whole story from the beginning. High school sweetheart's been together since the dawn of time and decided to open things up there. are both on the same page in that they really just like the hot wiping scenario. She doesn't want to see him with another girl. He doesn't care about that. They've had a bunch of hot wiping experiences, one solo, like some solo. A lot of them have been MFM threesomes. She talks about how she felt about doing it in the first place, why she decided to open herself up to it and then how she felt after every experience. She goes into details about what went down during her experiences. all of them she like I said she gives details she talks about what she's tried and what she's enjoyed

I think she's super interesting because this is a woman that was like my husband was super kinky but I'm very vanilla and she just decided to like open herself up to trying this stuff out because it's what her husband was into and it turned out she wound up into it too I think more women should roll like Vanessa you're going to hear her whole story she's super interesting she's super hot I have pictures of her over on my Patreon you're going to get like I said lots of details on lots of stories of all the guys that she's met and hooked up with, how her husband gets involved. There's lots of videos being taken and all that kind of good stuff. So anyway, I'm going to get right to be right back on with Vanessa. Hi, Vanessa. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you

today? Hi, I'm good. How are you? Good. I think your husband joined my SDC site. It's not my site. Actually, I just promote it and give everyone a free trial. But I always tell people when I, when they sign up, I always send a nice email, like, thanks for joining. And if you ever want to call in and have stories because I figure people on there do, you know, they could be on the show. And I think your husband's like, oh, well, come on. And he got my favorite person in the couple, which is the chick, right? My listener's favorite person on the show. He knows my show. He knows what my listeners like. So you guys are, you're calling in for you and your husband. I'm excited. Yes, yes. You guys are, Vanessa, you're a hot wife. You would call yourself more so, right? Yes. Correct. Uh-huh. Okay. So let's, I always like to typically, like,

get a snapshot of where you're at. Now, how long you've been married to your husband? And is this your first marriage? Yes, first marriage. We've been married probably about, I think, it's 11 years now. Oh, okay. Great. Don't quote me. Uh-huh. And but we've been together since high school. So, oh, you're one of those. Yeah, high school sweethearts. Okay, I love that. I mean, that's always a great foundation going into anything. You know what I mean? Because you're just like sort of meant to be together forever. Those are the kind of people that are. So, okay, now were you always very Vannell? Did you lose? Well, let me ask you this because you've been together since high school. Did you lose your virginity to each other? Yes. Oh, interesting. Okay. Yeah. And so, okay, so you let's go back. Like, how long have you been hot wiping for out of all this time that you've been with your husband?

Truly, not that long. I would say maybe the last year, year and a half or so. We had one instance, maybe about five years ago. And it wasn't great. I'd like to forget about it. I love a story gone wrong, so we'll talk about that one. We'll work our way up to that one. So I would say more so in the last year and a half or so, we've kind of dabbled a lot more in it. Okay, so let's get to, okay, so now before any of this comes into play, what was your guys' sex life like and what was going on between the two of you? And then tell me how, like how it comes up that you're going to try this out. I guess I'm more vanilla and my husband's more crazy and kinky.

and likes all the things and I'm just like not. But I do totally and have learned through the years that, you know, that sex is important and spicing things up is important and especially being together as long as we have, very important. So I think just kind of trying new things and he's always into trying new things. So I've just kind of been go with the flow type of girly. Well, listen, let me, you should teach some classes or I hope you tell your girlfriends how you feel because it is the right way.

It's like you're coming from the right place, right? Like it's not like your thing, but you know it's your husband's thing. And you're the only girl he gets to fuck. And you're like, okay, even if this is not what I enjoy, it's what he really wants. So I should like go there with them. And I think that that's like super great. And so many women don't see it that way. Nope, they don't.

And I even have girlfriends like that. But I've just kind of learned too that like he does a lot of things to make me happy. And this is like the one and only thing that makes him happy. So I need to do it whether I want. want to or not kind of thing. Yeah, I love that. You know, it's, it's important. Yeah.

And I'm hoping, and don't go there yet, but I'm hoping that at the end of the story, you kind of started out doing it just for him, but it winds up that you actually enjoy it. I don't know. Exactly. See? So, yeah, so it's not like you're doing something just for him, you know, event. It was like you do, but what you did for him is that you were open minded to it and you tried it for him, which I think is so key and killer of you.

your husband's so lucky and you should really, like I said, be speaking to women and more women should be, you know, like you. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So he was always kinky. Obviously, he was the one listening to my podcast. Yes. Okay, cool. So what does he bring up to you? Like, what are the some of the things that you started to do before like, and that worked you up to, you know, kind of you fucking other guys? Yeah. So I, you know, to be honest, I was thinking about that the other day. I don't really remember how it like got brought up. I think we started kind of just role playing in a sense and kind of talking about it in the bedroom and that like turned me on. And then I'll be honest, the first couple of times I was, I mean, terrified and uncomfortable and I was like, this isn't

right. This is so taboo. We shouldn't be doing this. And so like they also weren't great. I think because I had that mindset. Yeah, but that's the actual thing. Let's stay in the part of the story where like you're really just role playing and he's bringing it up. Let me ask you this. As a woman who's like totally vanilla, I mean, before I did my, I'm kind of vanilla, very vanilla compared to my listeners. I'm just a host of a show. I've never been a swing or I've never been a hot wife, any of these things, right? So for me, I was very surprised when I found out, and now I'm not surprised anymore, but I was very surprised when I started my show to find out that so many guys were into seeing their chicks with other guys. You know, I was the regular person that was

like, no guy would ever want that. You know what I mean? Like, it blew my mind. So like when he kind of brings it up to you. Do you remember at least wondering or asking him questions about like what does that mean? Like you actually want to meet a fuck other guys for you? Like it's kind of crazy thing. Yeah. Sure. I was surprised and a little caught off guard. But I think just the more we talked about it and like communicated about it that was really important to kind of get get off our chest like what how we felt about it. Do you remember what he said that made you understand it. Oh my gosh. Sorry I'm putting you on the spot. No, no, that's okay. I just think this stuff is important because it helps other people, you know, because somehow you were a girl that was like very vanilla and not

open, but, and I love to get into your head of how you decided to do this anyway. Like, that's why my questions for you in the beginning were important because it helps other women to be like, oh, maybe I should be more like Vanessa and open up to my guy. And now, you know, here's a guy, your husband, who was able to explain it and communicate it to you in a way that you understood. And I feel like, other guys, you know, that would be valuable information for other guys listening of how they could take it. But like the point is he just explained it to you in a way that made you feel more comfortable with it. Yeah, comfortable and just that like, you know, we were going to set boundaries and that it was going to, we were going to host so it wasn't going to be like a safety

issue and that kind of stuff. I mean, it took a lot of talking. Did you ever ask him if he wanted to be with women? Were you concerned about that? No, because I shut him down right away. because I can't handle that. And what did he say? He said he has no interest in it. Which is very true. That's what I know. Uh-huh.

Yeah. And I mean, I don't want to skip over anything that you want to ask me here, but, you know, we have kind of talked to a couple, a few couples on the app recently, the SDC. And we've kind of learning a lot of that dynamic is the swinger swap dynamic and I am not for it. Yeah. And that's okay. And your guys into you fucking other men.

and you're down with that, but you would never want to see him fuck other girls. And he could care less because what he wants is what you're giving him. And that's the way it works. And so it's perfect. It's the perfect dynamic. Yeah, exactly, because you were very jealous. And the truth is the guys out love the hot wiping thing, they don't need other women. But they're getting from you is the end all, be all.

That's all the variety that they want. Uh-huh. And that's totally what I'm seeing now too, which is awesome. Exactly. All right. So in the beginning, you let him know like no fucking. way, do I want to do anything more than this? What other kinds of boundaries and rules and regulations that you guys discussed before, like your first meeting or before even going online

and looking for guys? You know, obviously having people be tested, that was very important to me. I think I overthink that kind of stuff. And I mean, obviously sex is better without a condom, but, you know, it's just not worth the risk. Yeah, I agree. So now, what were you looking for in the guys? And was it going to be? him vetting the guys? Was it going to be you going online and talking them? Or did you want him to kind of look through and then show you who? Like how did that process work? Yeah. So originally we got on another app. It's like it's called like three fun or something. Yeah, I've heard that one. Uh-huh. And I mean, to be honest, the, the pool of people is not a great selection. Do you find a

better on SDC? Yes and no. Unfortunately, we're just running into a lot of couples on SDC. So. Okay. So that's a good place for couples. Yes. I mean, there's a few men that pop up here and there, single men, but it's not a ton. So it's a lot of couples on STC. Well, you know what? I think STC stands for swingers, something lifestyle, you know, so I think it would probably skew more to there. But it is a great saying. That's why I do recommend it. And if anyone wants a free trial, you do get a 377.1-2. Just click on the link in my description. I just got to put that out there. But so you were on that three-fund app. Is that where you met the first guy? And like I said, what was that process like for you guys? Yes. So, you know, it's kind of like a dating app. You swipe and they, if they swipe and you swipe, then you start chatting. And so anyways, just kind of chatted with someone back and forth. I was doing the chatting and then I would tell him, you know, what was being said. And then, so then we ended up setting up a meet. I'm trying to think if I met him, I think we just had him come over. And why that guy? Do you remember what it was about him? Was it that you like talking to him? Did he have a big dick? Did you think he was hot? Like, why did you choose? the guy that... To be honest. Yeah, to be honest.

He looked respectful and nice and we were just doing a trial. Was it that you like talking to him? Did he have a big dick? Did you think he was hot? Like, why did you choose the guy that... To be honest. Yeah, to be honest. He looked respectful and nice and we were just doing a trial.

Okay, I like that. Turned out he wasn't great. Okay, but that's okay. But that was what, like, for your first thing was important for you. Yes, I wanted someone to be respectful and discreet and nice. And, you know, these people are coming to my home. So it's kind of a big deal to. And I'm sorry, but Vanessa, this is the first time you're, you've only had one guy in your whole life.

Yes. So this is a very big deal. Oh, what does that mean? I mean, we've had a small break here and there. But it's not that many. I don't have a long dirty list. Okay. But this is the first time you're playing out of your marriage.

So it's still a big deal to me. Okay. Yes. So, all right. So walk me through that first experience. I know it's not great, but, you know, tell me what goes down and why it's not great. So to be honest, it was very uncomfortable, you know, having someone come over and like, obviously the end goal is to get to fucking, but you don't just walk in and get to fucking.

So, you know, I believe he came in. We were sitting there watching TV. And I don't remember. I think I was wearing lingerie under my clothes. I'm pretty sure I was. Okay. So then we kind of got to. talking and I think I was so nervous I kind of rushed everything. Like, okay, let's go into the

bedroom. Was this guy, did he have experienced, do you know? No. So this, yeah, this guy, I think I might have taken his virginity. Super nerdy. What an interesting way to lose your virginity. That's a good virginity story. I'm sorry to say for him. Yeah, I mean, I could be wrong, but just everything about him said, virgin. And he came super fast, which sucked ass. But we ended up actually, I think meeting him multiple times. Just again, came down to just being just disrespectful, or excuse me, respectful. I am talking all over the place. Discrete and then clean. That's a huge thing for me. It was being clean. So anyways, we had him come over a few more times. I think

the second time was I was a little more comfortable. I knew him. I think I answered. I answered the door in lingerie. Was your husband watching? Was he getting involved? What went down actually? Did he go down on you? Like, did you do everything? So I recall sitting on his lap and like grinding on him and my husband actually took a

recording of that, which is super sexy. And then we kind of moved things to the bedroom. And I had them both sit on the bench and suck them off and then got to fucking around. And one thing led to the next. Big time threesome. Yeah. And then he came in two minutes and then it was over with him and we kind of sent him on his way. And that happened like three or four times and we were like, okay, we're done with this guy.

But was the sex great? Wonderful. Uh-huh. Wonderful. I actually orgasm twice. I don't, I'm pretty quick as well. So he got me off and then my husband got me up. So I don't know, just super turned on like being touched and kissed and lusted over by two men.

super sexy. So you actually enjoyed it. But you had mixed feelings about it though? I mean, besides it being bad, did you feel like, how did you feel about, you know, fucking another guy while you're married and all that? You said you had some problems at first. Yeah, I think it just, I mean, even still, I'll be honest, I still feel like, man, this isn't right. This is so taboo. But then I'm like, man, I'm only young once. Enjoy my life. You know, like, why not? Just because I have kids doesn't mean shit. Like I, I don't know. So I have two, I feel like have the devil and the angels sitting on my shoulders telling me, you know.

Okay. So that time afterwards, though, it wasn't good because he just came too fast and he was like, yeah. And I wasn't. So I learned too. I wasn't attracted to him. And I am finding that I, I mean, we're not trying to find my next husband here, which my husband always says. But, you know, that for me personally to enjoy this has to be someone attractive. At least, you know, I can't.

I can't fuck ugly people. So it's like, it's got to be someone to par of my husband because it's just not going to be enjoyable for me. How old are you guys? Doesn't matter to me. So that's no big deal. But you got to be cute. How old are you guys? We are 36, 35.

Okay, cool. And are you looking for younger guys, older guys as age not matter to you? We've, it's been younger, probably somewhere in the range of like 28 to 30,000. I would say I haven't really messed with anybody older. I don't know. I feel like I'm kind of scared of intimidated by older men. Yeah, but they know how to fuck sometimes. I know.

And sometimes they're hot. I got to tell you, let me tell you something, Vanessa, that I think. Like, I think men get hotter as they get older. Like a lot of times a guy,

you see them like, you know, when they're 40 or 50, they, their faces look hotter than they had like those roly, pully round faces of like a 20-something-year-old. You know what I mean? Like,

there's some hot older guys. So, But listen, you got to do, I don't know that when I was 30, like when you're in your 30s, because I'm way older than you, like, I get it. Like people in their 40s or it seems so old, you know, so I wasn't, wouldn't probably fuck so in that age either when I was younger. But there's a lot of hot young guys, though, too. You know what I'm saying? Like, there's nothing like a hot 25 year old. For sure.

Yeah. So maybe if you're looking for attractive, like that, you know, that's where you go. Yes. Well, and, you know, older men can be attractive too. It's just finding the right one. And like I said, the pool of people is hard to come by. That's interesting. Okay.

So now, were you kissing these guys? Did you have any other rules besides the like, you know, no, you know, the condom thing? Like, did, was there a kissing rule or no? No, I think kissing is important. It's, you know, it's a way to get things started. Yeah, it's a little intimate. But I, that's a huge shirt on for me. So it had to happen.

Then also I've found, too, that when they're a bad kisser, that makes, I'm like, okay, we don't got a kiss anymore. So I'm just trying to avoid it at all costs. Okay, so that first experience was not great, but you did see him a bunch of times. We did see him a few more times. Yeah, again, you know, just because he was respectful. I mean, when he'd come over, he was super nice, wasn't weird, wasn't going to be like stalking me or anything creepy.

So it was just, and he wasn't trying to be my boyfriend. That's another thing we've noticed with a lot of these single men is they're like trying to hit me up and hey good morning beautiful like no bro i'm married i'm not i'm here you're literally a booty call to me like i'm gonna hit you up on the weekend you want to come over and fuck and then be done like i don't want to talk to you anymore i might midweek me hit you up with some spicy stuff to get us going for you know before the weekend uh but that's it and we have a lot of problems with and my husband's just like block him block i'm like he's just over it no i don't have time for it so your husband doesn't want that shit right no

not at all. He's like, you're not trying to find your next husband. That's what he always says. You know, literally it's a booty call. It's something fun for us in the bedroom and that is it. Well, maybe you should have a three-way, like, you know, it should always be a three-way conversation. And the most successful bulls, I've had a lot of bulls on my show and the guys that really do well with couples understand that they have to be very friendly with the guy. You know what I mean? And talk with the guy and everyone needs to be comfortable in the situation. Absolutely. Yeah. Okay. So after that guy, what happened next? So then we, I think we, if we had found another one that was kind of a similar situation,

he was a little different though. He had a girlfriend who they were in an open relationship. And I don't know how, like, I don't have facts to back all that up. Like, I don't have proof from her saying like, yeah, you can go fuck whoever. So that may, that happened twice. And I kind of was just like, I don't, I don't know how. I don't want to have some wife or girlfriend attacking me on the streets because she found this information out, you know.

So we, we ended that. But again, I'm respectful, discreet. And he was very much just, hey, want to fuck. Okay, cool. Bye. Came over. Same thing. I mean, I guess we kind of like to invite him in.

I answer the door in lingerie because it's sexy and invite him in and grind on him on the couch and get things going. Off him a drink if he wants one and head to the bedroom. And what do you do like spit roasting and stuff like that? Have you ever done anything like DVP, D.P. Like, you know, because you're doing two guys at once. Yeah, I know. And I'm such a vanilla girlie.

So we do, I haven't done any DP, anything like that yet. We have just a lot of, like, swapping. Like, my husband will watch and jerk off while they're fucking me or record. And then, or like, my husband's very dominant. So he'll, you know, take me back and then tell the guy what to do, which is kind of hot. You know, like, oh, slap her ass or kids or whatever. And then just back and forth. And then usually he'll let the guy finish.

And then with this one, we was pretty hot. But we, he, I, he finished and then I was sucking him off while my husband was fucking me. I don't know what it is about that. So hot. Cessie, I didn't know there was a term for it. I'm so lame. I didn't know.

I listened. Like I told you, the only reason why I know those terms is because I started my podcast and I learned all of them. But if you're not in the lifestyle and you're not doing this, like, how would you know? You know what I mean? Because even when it's happening. putting on porn. They're not like, oh, now let's spit roast. So how would you know those terms? Right, right. Yeah, that's spit roasting. And that's hot for you. Oh, yeah. So hot. Even like just

last night, I'm like, give me a dildo so I can pretend like I'm sucking on someone while you're fucking me. It's hot. Oh, my God. So isn't that interesting? Like, did you know that before? Like, would you mock up that scenario when you guys were role playing or did you learn that you like that? No. I kind of learned it. Yeah, as doing it. Mm-hmm. Oh, okay. Interesting. Okay. So go on. So that guy, So the second guy were those great experiences? He was better. I feel like they progressively got better. Okay.

So again, him, he kind of just ended things because the girlfriend. And he also got hard to schedule things with. He was like a middle of the week kind of guy. We're a weekend type people because we got kids. So the next guy was same thing on the app chatting with him. He lived a little bit farther. So planning with him was kind of hard. but he came up from out of town and stayed with a buddy.

And so he met me for a drink. So that was the first time we'd done that. So I told my husband, you know, I think I should start maybe meeting these people, like, vetting them first before they're just coming to our house. So I met him for a drink and he's a firefighter. And I always wanted to fuck a firefighter. Did you? You like a guy in uniform? Oh, yeah.

Okay. Oh, yeah. And so anyways, we met for a drink. And that was a little uncomfortable because that was like my first time doing that too. So I was just like, I don't know. Like, I don't know. It was weird. It was kind of a boyfriend dating type situation.

But then it, I don't know. So anyways. Was your husband into the whole setup? Yes. Okay. So he, but then, so here's where I suck at this. He's like, you know, text me, tell me what's going on. And I felt so uncomfortable.

I don't know why, but I felt so uncomfortable texting my husband the whole time while I'm sitting there with a guy. I felt disrespectful. And I think my husband is actually trying to call it off. He's like, just come home. Like, he was, like, kind of irritated with me that I wasn't keeping up with it. I felt bad. But then I was like, no, he's hot. Like, I'm super turned on.

I'm wet. And then he's like, well, did he touch you? And I feel like, also these guys, like, don't feel comfortable, like in that situation just yet, which I almost wish they would. Like, grab my leg or squeeze my butt or something. Like, I don't know. While we're sitting there at the bar having a drink, like, do something. Make a move, you know. Oh, you want that.

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Like, grab my leg or squeeze my butt or something. Like, I don't know. While we're sitting there at the bar having a drink, like, do something. Make a move, you know. Oh, you want them. Right. You want them to take you like a little. I mean, sure. Yeah, but then I don't, like, I don't know if I just need to say it.

You know, you can touch me. And so I have almost kind of started, like, I remember squeezing his leg, kind of trying to make him more comfortable. Uh-huh. And so actually, I do think this night, my husband was like, just come home, like, tell him goodbye. Like, maybe what, I don't know exactly what transpired there. But so we were walking down from the bar. And then I was like, you know, I'm just, it was nice meeting you. Like, I'm going to go home. He's like, well, can I kiss you? And then I was like, nope, that's. a nope because it's like this isn't a date and then anyway so i'm like texting him on the way i'm texting my husband on the way home you know like oh come on like don't be a debby downer like i'll make you know i'll make it up to you and he have him come over yada yada so then we get home he's already headed

home or he headed to his friend's house which was far away and then i was like hey that you said you can't kiss me the guy that thinks he's he's dead in the water like it's over right okay and i text him i'm like so do you want to come over he's like right he's like right now and then he did he turned around and he came all the way back of course of course he did and then we went i think straight to the bedroom and my husband wasn't in the room like they met they met you know we i mean they he came in the front door they they shook hands or whatever and then i was just like want to go oh my husband's always dealing with the dogs that's so annoying but anyways people come over and he's like i got to put the dogs away so anyways he's doing that i'm like

follow me. And then he's, and I was like, do you want that kiss now? And then just from there, oh my gosh, so spicy, so hot. Like I gave him the kiss. I think you ran that whole thing super hot. You kind of teased him, made him think he wasn't good. And he got him back, brought back the kiss around. I think you're doing good. Yeah. And then that night, he warned me that he could fuck forever. My God. Did he not lie about that? We did every position. I feel like you could think of. besides DP, lots of switching. I mean, he just was going for hours.

And I, it's certain points was just like, okay, I need a break. Like, it was a lot. Now, was your husband just watching or was he involved? Yeah, he watched. He was involved. He was, we swapped where the firefighter was fucking me. And I was sucking my husband off and he was recording it. And I, you know, I will say, too, I love all those recordings because playing them back later is fun and watching that to get us going.

fun too. But I'm trying to think with him was a little nerve-wracking because we fucked so long that the condom broke. Oh my God, and you're young. Yeah, and I was like, oh, fudgesicles. But we just kept going. It was already too late at that point. But unfortunately, he did not come. That was awful. And I felt like unfinished business. And you know what? It was also a late night. I don't know what happened that night, but it was so late. My husband's like, you know, let's tidy this up. So he did not finish, but he said he had a great time. And unfortunately, we have not met back up with him because he lives so far.

But we've talked about it and we've chatted with him here and there like, hey, you're going to come back up? You know, we have unfinished business. So that's hot. We'll see if it happens again. And the videos were good. You enjoyed yourself. That's the best part. Yeah.

I got off. So that's all that matters. And your husband, too? And my husband, of course. Enjoy these experiences? Always. And it's discussed ahead of time that these guys are okay with you filming. Yes.

Yeah. So some of them, the last one I just told you that we had the two occasions with, he wasn't super comfortable with it. We did record, but then kept his face out of it. But he also had tattoos that he was worried about. Of course, yeah. And I think that's also a part of the reason we kind of haven't heard much from him, which is fine.

It's just for us. We're not doing anything with the stuff. But I get it. I wouldn't want to be recorded or on anybody's phone either, so I totally get it. But you do tell these guys this and bring this up ahead of time in your conversations, right? Oh, yes. Yeah. Okay.

Just like, would you be okay with us recording? And most 98% of them are fine with it. Okay. So now, did you set up a similar situation again afterwards, the same way, like that that one ran? Yeah. So we have had just a lot of conversations with people that go nowhere, which is unfortunate, but also like a lot of them, which is nice that just the spicy, sexy talk, you know, talk dirty to me gets me going and that works for us in the bedroom.

So that's been fun. You know, we just, we use, I hate, you know, oh, John wants to, you know, get on his knees and lick me till I'm clean kind of thing. And then we just start talking about that and gets us both going. So even like not seeing the guys just having the scenario. Right. Just talking about it is. hot. And are you exchanging like dirty text with these people, right? Yes. So the dirty text back and

forth and then I'm screenshoting it and sending it to my husband and then he's talking dirty to me. And then we're just, I'm like ready to go and he gets home from work. I'm like, let's do this. And are they always hookups at your house? Have you ever at your house? Is that where it always goes down? Yeah. So that's those, those three occasions were the next one that we had was a guy that we chatted back and forthwith and then he would get off the app and he'd get back on and we just never really planned anything and then we finally planted a drink we went and got i had a drink with him and then he was staying at an air bambi for work and uh we just we just we both had agreed we were just going to meet and then we'll plan something another night but just to meet for drinks and see if we

vibe he was smoking hot and there was no way i was letting him uh get away but i we i we i we We went our separate ways. I was headed home. And then I was texting my husband like, God, he's so hot. Like, I wish I could fuck him. Like, he went home. And he's like, well, see if he'll let you see the Airbnb. And I just happened to text him on the way home.

Like, can I see your Airbnb? And then I was like, and other things. And then I ended up back at his Airbnb. So this was like the first official like not with my husband moment, which was a little nerve nerve-wracking, but also so exciting because I was so turned on. and it was just so fun. Okay, so let me ask you this. Now, in this time, is it like your husband's not going to be there,

but he wants, like, video, like, how is it set up? Yeah, so he was like, go have fun and record it for me because I want to see, you know. And so then I got there and it didn't take long to get to get to things. I started making out on the couch, and then I got on my knees and pulled his clothes off. started sucking him off and he recorded that. And I don't know, oh, I was going to say, I don't know why we didn't fuck. I regret not fucking him. But he fingered me on the couch.

I squirted it everywhere. And I was like, we ran to clean it up. It was a big mess. And then I got on the island and he fingered me some more. And then I got down on my knees and I sucked him off until he came. He recorded all that for my husband. Wow. And it was so hot, so spicy.

Now, were you sending that as it's happening or do you get it, show it? him when you get home? Like how did it well? So I sent it on my way home. It's too hard to be like communicating and then doing that. I got it. Yeah. You know, I'm trying to figure that dynamic out though because I think my husband really enjoy that. Like even just sending him a, you know, a quick clip of it while we're in the middle of it. But yeah, so then I sent it like on the way home and then he's just like, get home. I can't wait to fuck you. So that was hot. How was it for you, though, knowing that like your husband is at home waiting? Like did you prefer it being? Did you miss your husband being there?

Because it's different, like having a threesome with the guy than just having a one-on-one. Yeah, it for sure was different. I don't know if I really knew how to feel, to be honest, because it kind of felt like I was cheating in a way. But then it was all just so hot and turned me on and it turned him on. So it's just like, it didn't bother me in a sense. But I mean, he loved it. So I was just like, all right, I'm going to run with this. Like, we're going to, maybe we'll do this more.

And then, yeah, we came home and fucked and had great sex, and it was awesome. Okay. And then that, so that guy was up, you know, working from out of town. So he, like, comes and goes from another state. And so he was back in town again. And we had another instance where we, he was staying at a hotel this time. And he's like, want to meet me in a hotel? And so I did.

I went straight to his hotel. And I fucked him this time. And it was wonderful. but the only thing so the only thing was he didn't get me off that night which kind of sucked it was kind of all about him which kind of sucked and that's where I'm finding that

I think that the dynamic at my home with my husband like it's more about me rather than just a guy getting his dick wet and so that's a bad guy to hook up with because most bulls like I would say like a really good bull and maybe you know eventually you'll meet one

and this is and that's just like life. Some people are great at what they do and some people are bad, you know, but like the guy should be about pleasing you. You know what I mean? Like most guys, you know, really fucking want to please a woman, you know? I think that guy just was lame. No, I think so too. He was all about himself. Mm-hmm. And then like I asked, I was like, it's important to record it. Like, you need to record it for me. You don't, I mean, he's recording fucking me, so he's not even in it, you know? And he was kind of not, Like, he just wasn't doing it. And so that kind of frustrated me.

I'm just like, you're going to get me in trouble. Like, this is not fun if you're not going to make this fun for all of us. Listen, a lot of people are listening to these episodes and I'm thinking, like, who's listening and what do they need to hear. And a lot of times, like, these episodes are good for people who want to be the type, like, the guy that gets to hook up with the couple. And these are the things that you don't want to do. You know what I mean?

Like, you have to be respectful of the guy and know that the videotaping is very important, you know, and you do want to turn the girl off. on and please her. Like, that's how you're going to become like, you know, get a repeat call. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So that's why that one was bad. Yeah.

I mean, it sucks because he's super, like the hottest guy of fucked doing this process. And I'm like, man, why can't we find more that look like him but are better in the bedroom? They exist. Yeah. And I'm trying to think that. I think the firefighter was really good. it pleasing. The firefighter. Was that your last guy, though, the one that you just spoke about? No, he was the one right before this last one where I went to his hotel. Okay. Yeah. Did you tell me that

story yet? The firefighter or? No, the last story. I mean, I'm working chronologically. I'm assuming you're working chronologically. Yes. Correct. Yeah. So the last one was just the one where we went to his hotel. And then it kind of just, I mean, he got off. I didn't. But it was still fun. Like, I had a good time and I came home and had a great time with my husband. He did record some of it, but unfortunately turned the flash on, and so it was just all bad. I feel like when the flash is right in your face, and it just was too much. But, I mean, we still ran with the spicy aspect of fucking a man in his hotel, you know, that was hot. So then there was another one. We met through the same app, you know, same thing. Hey, let's meet for a drink. Met for a drink. And then the conversation was a little uncomfortable. I felt like,

I don't know. He was just kind of standoffish. But then just like I knew what I was going there to do and want to do. And so like I just was in the mood, I guess. And so then we were leaving, as we were leaving the bar, I kind of parked like back behind the bar in an alleyway. This is horrible. And I kind of, you know, this time I was keeping my husband updated. Like, I don't, this isn't going great. Not sure he's going home with me kind of thing.

but I'm also turned on and this is kind of hot which is so weird but he was an attractive guy so I think that's why what was so weird I don't understand what's weird I just like he was just kind of sitting there like in his hoodie like the conversation was weird like he just the conversation wasn't great compared to what I'm asked. Oh so what's weird is the fact that you were still

turned on even though that was the case is what you're saying okay okay good I get it yeah sorry sorry and then anyways as we were leaving like I don't know why but I like turn to like kiss him And then we like just started kissing and I drove my husband's car down there. And so we were standing there and he's like wearing these gray sweats that were looking all hot and I can see him all hard for me. And I was just like, oh, fuck. And he like pushed me up against the car. Oh, so this guy's good.

This guy's doing what you want him to do. Yeah. And then it was just like, I want to fuck you so bad right now. And then I mean, we were in a public place in a parking lot. So I was just like, oh God. And then you know what was super hot, which I'm not really into, but maybe I am and I just don't know it. But he like put his hands around my neck and wasn't choking me hard, but choking me. And I was like so turned on by that.

Yeah. But just can you, I'm sorry, don't like strangers choke you, even put their hands out. You know what I know? I know. I watch Dateline. I don't want to watch Dateline three years from now. And this woman's hot wiping and they find out and I got to be like, oh my God, was that the girl that called in and let us some guy choke her. out because I know.

I know it's gentle and stuff, but these are strangers. No, for sure. And I have watched some date lines where the guy was very into choking his wife, like, you know, and then he wound up being like fucking girls on the side and killing them that way. Oh, you know, these are people you don't know. I don't care how much you like choking. Don't ever let a guy even slightly choke you. No.

Yeah, I won't do that again because it did make me super nervous. Get your guy. Like tell your. husband that you like it, you know what I mean? But maybe that's what you got turned on by by the fact that it was so dangerous. I think so. Yeah. And so then I was just like, I just told him like, hey, like I'll suck you off in the car.

And so he got in the passenger seat and I gave him a blowjob and he recorded it. And I had him like reach back and was touching me, you know, under my pants. And super hot. Again, I didn't get off, but I was super turned on about all of it and like the hands around my neck, which again, you know, wasn't something I normally love, but I came home and had my husband gently choke me and we had great sex. Oh, okay. So you did tell your husband you liked it when you got home.

I did. Uh-huh. I think he was actually thrown off by it because I didn't tell him that he did that. But then I was like in the middle of our sexy time, I was like, choke me. And it was just so hot. I don't know what did. And then he was like, why did you want me to do that? I was like, well, this is what happened.

Yeah, I mean, the truth is, somebody else turned you on to it. And you could, because you're not cheating on your husband, you could tell him the truth. Yes, of course. Yeah. And so, unfortunately, that's been it so far. I mean, that's a lot. Listen, it's not like you haven't sort of done a lot of guys. I mean, can you count on how many people were those?

How many guys? Yeah, one, two, three that I've actually fucked. Okay. And then the last one was a BJ. It's just because you've had a lot of experiences, it doesn't sound like that little. You know, you've had a lot of experience. You have been doing this for a year and a half. Yeah.

And you have tried different things. You've played solo. What is it your favorite thing to do? I love the dynamic at my home. I feel more comfortable there. And I just, I love, like, having my husband there. I like that he's dominant and we'll kind of speak up and, you know, tell the guys what to do. and that's just my favorite.

That's what I prefer. I mean, of course, the whole, like, hotel thing and the car thing was hot and spicy, but it wouldn't be something I'd want to do on a regular basis. Now, do you like variety? Would you like to have, like, one guy that you see all the time? Do you like having different guys all the time? Like, what do you prefer? To be, yeah, to be honest, for sure, I would love to find, like, a regular booty call

that was just someone we were comfortable with, that we had, you know, a cool thing with. then I think that would be awesome. I personally don't like the whole bed hopping change of pace. Now, of course, if the guy got boring, I would want someone different. Or even if it ended up being a couple of guys that were regular booty calls. But I don't love the constant different man. I would love someone that was regular. I'm like, can I just clone my husband?

Or, I mean, obviously having that different man aspect. But I'm like, if I could just have two of you, that'd be great. Yeah, well, listen, it's no different than dating. It's sometimes it's hard to find the right one. You're not, the one you're looking for, like you said, it's not your husband and it's not a boyfriend, but you are looking for that one great, they call them like a bull. And they're out there. You know, some people have been luckier than others and that they find them on the first time. You know, I think I talked to a couple recently.

I don't know if I've aired them yet, but they did find the best bull ever. First time out, you know, and they're very lucky, but typically I'm talking to couples like you were. It's hard to find the right one. And I think more people should listen to my bull episodes. I have had some episodes on with professional bulls that do this. And they're so good at what they do. And you have to learn like all the do's and the don'ts of being a bull because, look, most hot wives are looking for that one guy. And if you want like, you know, for the guy, it would be great to become your regular.

Right. Here you are. You're going to fuck him any time you want, threesomes, all this kind of stuff. He gets to fuck another guy's life. And you're down for all that. No strings attached. You don't even want to text. You know, it's not a bad setup for the right guy. But the guy has to learn what to do to become that regular, you know. And what is the perfect guy for you? So when that's hot, what else? Yeah, for sure. Someone that's hot and just, you know, respectful and discreet. I mean, we're, again, you know, we're parents and we have a life and a business and we're not trying to, you know, blast our information all over the internet. So. You know, someone that's going to come over, have a good time, and leave. And as simple as that. And the dirty talk here and there is fun.

Let's, you know, we can do that. And I just haven't found him yet, but I'm working on it. Yeah, you eventually will. Do any of your girlfriends know what you're doing? God, no. So that's the worst part about all this is you can't talk to anybody. I feel like why we've kind of dabbled into the SDC thing. Yeah.

Because we'd love to meet couples that are like-minded that we can shoot the shit about. We're not interested in the full swapping thing. We just want to sit down and have dinner with you and be like, oh, yeah, my wife fucked this dude last week. What'd you guys do? Like, we actually did meet a couple that went to Mexico and did some crazy things. And we're like, oh, this is so fun to talk about, you know. Let me ask you this.

Did you ever think to maybe try going to a swingers club or something? Because you can wind up, you know, finding friends in the lifestyle that you don't necessarily have to play with or anything. But you can be, but they can. be exactly what you're looking for, which is just people that are open that you could be open with and they're not going to judge you and they could be friends. Yes. So we have recently been talking more about going to one. It's just a matter of planning it. I think we will attend just to kind of see what goes down and yeah, like you said, meet new people and kind of have that dynamic. Yeah. And once

in a blue moon, okay, I do find that, you know, a couple went to Swingers Club or a party and they found the people to be like really clicky and rude and not friendly at all. But I would say that's rare, but it has happened. And I always think they went to the wrong fucking club because typically what I hear is that people go to their first club or they get into the lifestyle and they meet the fucking coolest people. You know what I mean? So I think that they're out there. So I think that that's a smart move. And I get why you feel that way. Let me ask you this. Would you be open to like, just like doing like parallel play like you fucking your husband while another couple fucks in there or would you fuck at the at a swingers club in front of people so they could watch like are you down for

any of that stuff i'm not i don't i don't know why but none of that turns me on and i'm like if i parallel play like why why wouldn't i just turn on porn on the tv i don't know why because it's real porn right in front of my face i maybe i would nothing better than the real deal that to me what's wrong with porn is you half the time you know these people aren't even fucking into it that's that's so annoying i think i'm going to have to try it to report back on that yeah yeah i don't know everyone keeps asking me that, you know, in this SDC group, and I'm like, I don't know if I would enjoy that. What's cool about you is that you were down to try it. I mean, you were the girl, like, in the beginning that I was so impressed with when you said, like, my husband's super kinky,

and I just knew it was important to him, even though I didn't care. So you were open to it. And I think what, you know, and I'm sorry, I know that you talk a lot about having an angel and a devil. I didn't hear a lot of the angel side of your story. I just heard a lot of the devil's side. You seem to be having fun and enjoying a lot of different things. And you're having a good time. You did find out that this stuff does turn you on and you are kinkier than you thought. So maybe you will wind up liking it. Yeah. I mean, it turns me on and it keeps my husband happy. And at the end of the day, that's all I'm trying to do is keep us both happy and married. Okay? Yeah, yeah. I mean, and has it changed your relationship in any other way? I mean, we, I think we communicate a lot more,

which is good. And just, I mean, we're always just talking about this stuff. And so it just keeps everything spicy and exciting and I don't feel like I'm getting a divorce anytime soon, which is nice. Yeah, because listen, there's something, like you have something totally new to discuss, right? Like even when it's not happening, you're just talking more and you have something in common. It's like why couples watch TV shows together. You know, it's like a bonding experience. So you have this whole new thing that you guys are in together and because you have no one else you could talk about it too, you talk about it with each other. And they're in, that is, that does become a reason why couples do feel closer, you know, and it just goes to show that, listen, you don't

need to fuck other people to have something to talk about, you know what I mean? But you don't need things to talk about, you know? Exactly. Yeah, and this creates it. So you guys are on SDC, right? Now, do you want to, I love your whole story. I think it's super interesting. I'm so glad your guy told you to call in, right? He was the one that got you to call in? Yeah, yeah, he set up an appointment and then I don't know what happened, but anyways, we had to cancel the first one. And then now we got back the schedule with you, which worked out. Yeah, it's perfect. He's the one that, yeah, planned it all and put it in my email and everything.

So sorry for any confusion at the beginning. No, no, no. Well, thank you so much to your husband for getting you on. I love your story. I'm so glad you came on. I think newbie stories are so interesting to hear. You know, I do think you learn so much from them. A lot of people are listening to podcasts nowadays to learn stuff.

And it's a way to get couples talking, you know, and I do think guys out there that are listening that have a girl that would be open to hear. They should hear your episode because I think the way you roll, like I said, is a good way for other women to roll like you. You know, so I think it's interesting from that standpoint, too. Yeah. And my husband actually had me listen to one of your podcasts of a couple that sounded very similar to us. And so it was super intriguing to hear all the things. And I was just like, it was actually kind of turning me on.

I was like, I like all this. We should try it. Yeah. Yeah, see, there you go. So I think your episode's going to do the same for other people. I will give you and your husband, every once use the account. Free access to my Patreon for a month to see the comments,

but also free access to my Discord, where it's very naughty over there. You can post whatever you want. You could put up clips of your videos. You could put up naked pics. Everyone does their own thing over there. Like, I don't post stuff for other people. What I do, though, on my Patreon is I do post like hot R-rated pictures of my guests.

So if you want to submit a hot picture of yourself for this episode, Anonymous Picks. Send me those sooner than later. So this will be up. And you'll get the link to my Discord when we hang up, okay? in the email. Give it to your husband or for you, whoever wants to join.

It's fucking fun over there. There's a lot of channels. And that's it. Thank you so much for calling. And then when you guys do start going to swing your clubs and, you know, you're fucking in front of other people. We'll do a part two because it'll be interesting to see where you go from here. Yeah.

All right, Vanessa. Thanks so much for calling. And this was super fun conversation. It was a pleasure talking to you. You have a great day. You too. Bye, Vanessa. Bye.

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