Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 127 - Kyle and his Wife Give Each Other a Pass to Have Sex with Someone Else

Episode Date: May 22, 2016

When Kyle and his wife's sex life went stale, they decided to give each other a pass to have sex with someone else and Kyle calls in to explain how it all went down. How did they agree on the "pass" in the first place? What kind of rules did they have going in? Did it wind up helping their sex life? Or did it wind up hurting it?  Tune on to find out plus hear a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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just going to get into the caller today his name is Kyle um Kyle was somebody who was listening to my podcast and he wrote in because him and his girl decided to give each other a past to have sex with other people and he wanted to talk about it and it's actually a really interesting story. Like I was excited when he emailed me because I like I say this on the podcast too. Like so many people I think talk about this and it's like a thing that I think in theory uh seems like it would be a really good idea right like you're with somebody and after a while the sex goes like down the drain. It's not so great anymore and so you decide to like have sex with other people. This isn't like a swinging situation. It's not like they decided to get somebody in

and have a threesome. They decide to give each other a pass to go fuck somebody else. like he gets the fuck another girl and she gets the fuck another guy. And that has gone down in their relationship. And I'm not going to tell you how it goes. You're going to have to listen to the podcast because I want to be more, I want to create suspense. I don't know. Does it matter?

I don't know. Would you still listen if I told you how it went down? I don't know. But anyway, I'm not going to tell you because I think it's more interesting for you to listen to it unfold. But like I said, I think it's a really interesting topic because I think it's something that a lot of people would like to try it. And in theory, think it's like a great thing.

But I don't think many people actually do try it. But this couple did. And they're in the middle of it. And he explains everything that has gone down so far. And it's really interesting. So I'm just going to get right back on or I'm just going to come right back on with Kyle. Do you have a story, lifestyle, or situation you can't talk about to anyone, anyone or do you just want to let your freak flag fly and be on the show well strictly anonymous wants

to hear from you send us an email strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com with your story and your anonymous name and remember everything is strictly anonymous. Strictly anonymous. Hey Kyle, welcome to strictly anonymous podcast. How are you? I'm good. great so you were a listener of the show right or you just found my podcast recently and you wrote in you said that you said that you found my podcast because you were like looking for some sort of podcast and listen to like what was the topic that you were looking for that you found my podcast do you mind sharing um I was yeah I was looking for I mean I was looking for

you know the blog or people who talk about uh people who of, you know, their wives and they kind of had went out and had sex with other people and just kind of talked with people about that. Right. So like swingers, kind of? I don't know if I would call it swingers, maybe more than open relationship type thing. Right, because that's what you wrote in and told me. All I know is this, that you're married, right, and we'll get into like how long and all that

stuff, but you're married and your sex life with your wife sort of went stiff. right and you guys decided to give each other a pass to go have sex with other people right yes right and I feel like that was like that's like some kind of joke that a lot of people have right but a lot of people don't actually go through with it um did you guys eventually I mean I know that you guys got to the point where you gave that pass to each other but have you guys gone through with actually having sex with other people um so far I mean this is kind of recent um and I guess we'll go through the story, but so far she has, she's had sex with a guy. Okay.

So far I haven't. Okay. So now let me get a little backstory on you. First of all, how old are you and how old's your wife? I'm 36 and she's 35. Right. And how long you guys been married for and together for in a relationship? Married six years together eight years.

Right. And so, and do you have kids? Oh, yes. How many? Two girls. And when do you like you said like the sex went stale, right? Like when did you think that like the sex like took a, you know, started to go downhill in your relationship with your wife? Was it after the kids? Was it like in, you know, after you were with her for a couple of years? More after the kids and then more so since we both moved here and our our work life has become much more demanding. And so we're not really home that often or home together that often. So. you know, there's a lot of stress and a lot of, you know, just not seeing each other.

Okay, so now what did you guys do and what I know that? I don't know if you want to say where you move to. I know where you live, but like, I don't know. You don't have to really say, but when you move to the new place, like, did you guys stay within the same industry? Or like, what's your jobs that you guys have that keeps you so busy and away from each other? I'm military and chief. Okay. And so you moved to where you moved for like a, for better jobs and just like, it's just,

You work more hours where you are right now? Yeah, more, her especially. Her, she works a lot, a lot more hours. And I work pretty much this. It did I was before. Right. Okay. And so you guys just don't have, it's not even like, I mean, you said that the sex was

like stale. It's kind of like you guys don't even have the time to have sex at this point. Yeah. Yeah, almost where it was just, it wasn't, we, we, it was almost secondary or third. you know, on the list of what you wanted to do, like sleep came before, doing other things came before. Right, eating.

Yeah, exactly. So it was, you know, so it just was very infrequent. It was very, and then when we did it was pretty much, you know, get it done as fast as possible and then, you know, just kind of move on. Right. And let me ask you this. Was that, like, more on her end than on yours, or did you feel as, like, sort of disinterested in it as well?

Like was she that way because she has kids and she's like taking care of them and she's working a you know really long hours You know what you were still really horny or were you feeling the same sort of way like you'd rather watch TV No, I would I'll be honest I was still very horny and she was Mostly her in that she There is no real interest there You know I think it's like super common that this happens unfortunately between men and women right after kids you know

and so but and that's why I was like curious if it was also you because typically the guy is still horny right because he's not really doing the sort of child care that the woman is and they're just wired differently you know that's the problem but let me ask you this before the kids and like in the beginning

of your relationship like do you guys always have like amazing sex was there always like incredible chemistry between you guys um it was It's times amazing. We did, you know, just, there was a lot of it, obviously. I always happened this evening.

But it was, I mean, it was good. We both enjoyed it. Both did it a lot. And then it just faded off slowly, and then it's a lot here lately. It's what? It just went downhill here, you know, in the last year. Okay, right. So when did you move there?

A year ago? Yeah, about 18 months ago. And how long have your kids been? Like, how old are your kids? Like, I have a six-year-old and a four-year-old. Right. Okay.

So now, has a sex always, like, has she been disinterested in sex, like, for six years? Or did it just start to go down for her? Just, it just started. Well, you got to give her credit. Yeah. I do. Yeah. Maybe it's not the kids.

Maybe she's just, like, you know, it's a same old, same old, or I don't know. You know what I mean? I mean, it's possible. I mean, I'm not blaming it on anything, anyone. Mm-hmm. I think it was just a lot of things involved. Kids probably, you know, sex does get stale after a while, and also, you know, her job is just very intense and stressful.

So. Mm-hmm. Let me ask you this. When you've been with her, right, you've been with her for a while. Have you always been super monogamous with her? Yes. Right. So, she did, and as far as I know, she's never cheated or anything.

Right. And so do you guys get along on every other level? Yeah, pretty much. I mean, we always, everyone has their issues, but generally we get along very well. Right, right. So, so when did it start that you guys, like, I mean, eventually you guys got to the point where you're like, okay, let's grow other people, but like, when did the conversation start like where you guys weren't like interested in sex? Like who started bringing it up and like did someone start complaining or did you sort of, like how did those conversations start between you two? Um, a few, it happened a few months ago and then just, it was more me.

I got kind of tired of, you know, I tried to initiate and she just pushed me off. Uh-huh. And so then, you know, you know, why, you know, why is she, why doesn't she want to do it anymore, you know, what's going on? All that kind of good stuff. So it was me who initiated, you know, you know, what's going on, you know, we need to have more sex because that's what we need to do. but and she would but you would say that and what would she say um just that she was tired

she would you know stressed and you know just different excuses didn't feel good it was more I'd say more of it she was just tired she just wanted to go this week right but how did it eventually get to the point like did she eventually

just say listen just go screw somebody else I mean how did it get to the point where you guys were like decided to give each other a pass because that's like everyone's fantasy, I feel like. Yeah. Eventually, her and I, you know, we sat down and really talked about it and tried to figure out how to get things moving along again. So we, you know, we considered many things other than just the past where it was. Right, but tell me about that conversation specifically.

And like I say, I ask these questions because I feel like there are a lot of people are in your position, right? And a lot of people, I mean, you've always seen it on sitcoms and it's like a big joke like, oh, I give you a pass to fuck some. else like you know a lot of people like bring that up and talk about it but it's very rare that you hear or that I've heard the people actually like moving forward with that right so how did you get to that point like how did that conversation go and what were the other things that you thought about and how did you sort of decide on this um well other things we thought about was you know toys and stuff like that or you know maybe role playing and neither of us are really into that though it's like really didn't interest me at all and

I don't think it interests her at all doing that. And I actually brought it up. I actually suggested that maybe, not necessarily a pass, but maybe each of us should just try something else. Try someone else. And she said no at first. But we talked about it.

And she came around. But you said, when you said somebody else, like were you guys saying bring somebody else into your, you guys like a threesome? Or you said you want to go with somebody else? Like what did, when you said, Because, I mean, that could be like, you know, a lot of women could get kind of upset over that, right?

Like, did you say you wanted to be with someone else or she could be with someone else? I said that we each, she could be with someone else, we used to be someone else. I never went with, let's try a threesome or bring a someone into our bed. Mine, it was always more, you know, go out and do your thing where there wasn't any pressure from either one of us. and then just see what happens and then move from there. And so eventually she, we decided that we would do that. But eventually in that one conversation or you kept just sort of talking about it? Yeah, it was, it took us about, it took us a couple weeks to decide that we, we were okay.

Like, okay, let's try to do this. You know, I think, I don't remember exactly what turned her mind, but I remember we were talking. and she, when I knew she was interested, she came back and said, you know, was I really serious about her and I going and having sex with someone else? Uh-huh. And you said, yeah?

I said, yes, if that's what she needs, and that's what, you know, needs for us to kind of get back on track, then, you know. Did you feel like, I don't know, what I think of when I hear like that, she also agree that she would see somebody else, like, like, because, you know,

For you, you were saying, like, she was just too tired to want to have sex with you and, like, whatever. Like, did it freak you out that, like, she was too tired to have sex with you, but she was interested in having sex with somebody else? Or did you not care because you just wanted, you know, to get some action somehow? No, it's freaking me out just a little bit because, yeah, that was it. But I think, also, she was too tired and stuff. But I think this is something that got her interested again, even though it wasn't me. it was something that, you know, I think she, I don't know how to explain it. Like it revived your sex life, is what you're trying to say?

Yeah, I brought no moment of excitement back to it. If it just makes any sense. Yeah, totally. So you felt like somebody else in a weird way helped you. It didn't take away from you. Yeah, exactly. Right. So you got over the initial kind of feeling like, oh,

that's kind of fucked up that she wanted to fuck someone else. Considering the fact that you already told me that she has had sex with someone else and you haven't. How did that come about? And what were your rules? Let me ask you this because I think people always make rules and regulations as you should. I think when things like this go down, like, did you guys have like parameters or rules or regulation?

Like, how did the discussion go? Like, what was the what were the terms? There were, we've watched rules and we're probably a little bit different. Maybe than others. I really don't know how much. what others have done. But you would think, you know, it wasn't, we both decided it wasn't going to be, you know, we just go pick someone up at some random bar club and take them on that aspect of them. It wasn't going to be that?

It wasn't going to be that. It was going to be something that was a little more planned out, a little more, I don't know if you all want to call it safe or different, where we decided to look for people who we were interested in. who we had, you know, were attracted to, and it wasn't just going to be, it was going to obviously be a one-night stand, but not just go have some drinks, find some guy who looks kind of hot, find some girl who looks kind of hot, take them back to wherever you go and then have such a thing and then you're going to be, just, you're not really know the person, but we've talked to him more than once and then, you know, allow them to, and then decide if that's the type of person. or that person's person when I accept you. But did you decide that it would have to be a one-night stand, and it's not someone that you could see more than once? Well, we decided that that's how we're going to start.

Each of us would do it once, and then we'll see how we feel after that, and then maybe we'll discuss further after we each do it, you know? Right, and you guys are going to do it separate. No one's in the room watching. Yeah, it was going to be separate. different. We decided that her

and her, she wanted to it to be, she wanted me to actually approve of the guy and actually meet the guy before she actually did it. Interesting. Which I thought a little weird and so we decided that's what we would do. We would find someone together

both approve of it and then they would set a time and they meet and have sex. Let me have a lot. Let me have you this because I have a lot of podcasts where guys watch their girls fuck other guys and they're into it and then those are the podcasts that are most listened to so that it means it's obviously a big hot fantasy for a lot of guys did it turn you on at all the thought of like

your girl being with somebody else um yeah I mean I wouldn't say it was exciting I think as we talked about what we were going to do what we wanted um we both were it was it opened our communications line and we were both excited so I I was, there was mixed emotions. There was some jealousy. There was some nervousness and then also some excitement being turned on. Yeah. So all of that going on at the same time.

All of that time at the same time, yeah. But did she want to meet the girl that you're going to sleep with? She does. She actually wants to, you know, both of her and I both have the same exact rules. So nothing different. So that's how we went about. That's one of the rules. The other rule, there was, we had many rules.

Another rule was that we would do it in a hotel room, not at home, not bring someone home or anything like that. In a hotel room, not in the house. Yeah, in a hotel room, you know, in a nice hotel room. We would pay for the hotel room and everything, so, you know, a nice hotel room, not some hotel room. Right, not some dirty hotel room. Yeah, yeah. So we decide on that. And then I brought this up.

I told her that, you know, the guy we find should be, and the girl we find should be someone that were attracted to or maybe meets a fantasy or something like that, you know. So, you know, if you're going to look for, you know, your type, just let's not settle for the first thing that comes along, you know. Mm-hmm. Totally. But how did she meet someone before you did?

well we I think it's easier for a girl to find a guy than the guys would define a girl you know I don't think so how do you think that there's so many more attractive women than there are a hot guys yeah yeah I'm I believe the same thing

but uh we we went about it we didn't we decided we weren't gonna there was gonna be nobody we knew also of course it's smart and so she when we went out we actually run on a few websites. We went on an adult friend finder. A couple things like that looked for people. And we actually didn't find anybody

that met our criteria or we were really interested in. So the way we found, we decided to find people was Craigslist. So we put in two separate ads. One for me, one for her, basically said, you know, we're a married couple, but we're trying to get out of this rut and we're looking for, you know, a person that's going to, you know, that we're going to have sex with and then we don't know what's going to happen after that, but that's what we're looking for. Okay. So, so the responses was pretty crazy.

It was like, I mean, within, I'd say two hours, we probably had 60 or 60 responses for her, right? Right. Right. Totally. Because let me tell you, I talked to a lot of guys on Craigslist. And even though the last guy that I spoke with says he meets a lot of women on Craigslist, most people that I speak with, guys that are on Craigslist.

Can't meet real women on Craigslist for the life of them. So the fact that she was like a real woman that was married that wanted to go on and fuck another guy, no strings attached. That's like hitting the jackpock on Craigslist. You know what I mean? Yeah, no, I agree. And so like me, I had like two. So I actually decide that. Let's let's just focus on what you want, get what you want.

And then after we get to a certain point, then we'll just focus on me. And I think that'll be easier rather than us both trying to figure this out together. But I'm so shocked because, like, weren't you so horny? Or let me ask you this, ever since, like, once this started and you guys started talking about it and she was getting this other guy, did she start having sex with you more anyway? Yes, we actually did. We started, you know, we started being a little more excitement, a little more to, you know, like there's another spark there. But I, I, I, we decided that we would still go through with it because, you know, we don't want to just talk about something. And then it just stops.

So we decided we would pull your through with it. Right. Because eventually if you never did, that spark would die, right? Like this was what was all of a sudden adding to your sex life being good, right? So maybe you're thinking that if you actually cross the line and do it, it's even going to be even better, right, than opposed to just fizzling out. And that's what we were thinking. And so we shifted through a lot of guys. I mean, she had a particular, you know, type that she was looking for.

Let me ask you on a scale of 1 to 10. What do you think you are and what is she? I'm a decent looking. So maybe like a 6 and she's probably an 8. Okay. And so what kind of guy was she looking for? Like who was the lucky guy? Well, the kind of guy she was looking for.

And this surprised me a little bit because she's more into like more mature preppy people. I felt, you know, like professionals. Uh-huh. But when she told me what she wanted, she was looking for a younger guy under 25, you know, tall, in good shape, and, you know, that you can meet. I get that. I get that.

Because maybe, because, listen, she was really just looking for someone to, like, you know, sort of service her, right? So she's not looking for, like, someone that she would, like, date. So, like, if you're really just looking for sex, it's no different than a guy, right? like a guy's not going to look for a 50-year-old woman just to have somebody. Like, you know what I mean?

If you could just have a one-night thing, why not get like the hottest, youngest, in-shaped person, right? Don't you think? Either way, you know, man or a woman. And so, I mean, we gave it. And I actually asked her, and I, I mean, probably every guy asked her if she wanted a guy who was, you know, well-hung. And so she actually said, yes, that she would like to try. She's never had a guy who had a big cock. So she wanted to.

Yeah, she wanted to, you know, I guess give it a try. Okay, but how did that make you feel when she said that? I mean, how well hung or not well hung are you? I'm pretty average, so I can't say I'm big or small. I'm probably like average to average as you can be, you know. Okay, well, to me, let me just tell you. And I don't know who you were, so you could be, you could tell me the truth. But like, so they say average is six to eight, which is total bullshit.

Okay, I think average is four to six. okay for guys. I would have just like five or six inches. And so I'm about, I'll be honest, I'm about six inches. Okay, but are you thin or thick? I would say average. I'm not like pencil or I'm not like real fat either. Okay.

So I said I'm like average that you can get. Okay, that's cool. So that's good. But did that freak you out at all? Because I think guys are really concerned about dick sides. Like, did it freak you out or turn you on that she wanted a guy that was like bigger than you? I don't know if it really freaked me out. I kind of was okay with it because it was something different than me.

You know, and I kind of understand that. Like, guys like big moves and guys like small, you know, nice a half or something. Right, but you weren't concerned that, like, maybe if she got, like, sort of filled up and it was like that maybe she'd like that more, you're pretty secure in your relationship, obviously. Yeah, I'm pretty secure. And I wasn't too worried about it. I was okay with it. I'm just projecting because I think, like, maybe that would,

would freak me out, right? If, like, I was with a guy and, like, I'm super skinny, right? And he was like, oh, I want, like, a really curvacious woman. Like, it might, I might be like, oh, my God, what if he likes that better, you know? But that's me. It's like, obviously, you don't have my hang-ups. So that's just me projecting. Anyway, so you were, you were totally fine with her wanting a well-hung-

Yeah, I was looking with that. And it kind of turned towards us, we got further and further that, you know, she was going to do it. I wanted to have a good time. Yeah, you're a nice guy. I mean, like, I don't know that a lot. Like a lot of people, this is why I find so interesting about this story. A lot of people, like I said, make jokes about this. Like, you know, couples, I think talk about, oh, well, I'll give you a pass.

You can fuck someone else. But I don't know how many people actually go through with it. Like, you guys really did. And you sound really sort of like fair and cool about it. You know, I think a lot of men, listen, a lot of men listen to my podcast about watching their girls with another guy. But a lot of guys could never imagine that, right? And a lot of guys are super possessive over their,

women, even men who cheat. They could cheat and they could be the other women, but God forbid they ever even thought, like, you know, about their white, their girl or their wife with another guy. Like, a lot of guys are pretty freaked out by that. So, like, you have a very secure relationship with your woman as also, like, you're, like, a certain kind of guy that you're secure within yourself in a way that you could handle this. Because I don't know that a lot of guys could handle it, even though they might want it in theory.

Yeah, and, I mean, at the time, you know, I was. I was okay with all that, but we hadn't done it yet either. So I was still, I still adopt myself if I could really go through with it, you know. Right. So when you're in the talking phase, you're all like fine with it. Yeah. Right. The big dick, the meeting the guy, the young guy.

And now you were like, what were you? Could I just go to you because I know you haven't had sex with someone yet, but like what were you looking for? Like what was your criteria? Oh, I'll be honest with you. Nothing really out of the ordinary. just wanted to find someone who was good-looking and just willing to have fun. I wasn't, there wasn't a specific type that I'm, well, that I'm looking for right now. Just, you know.

A willing participant. I find attractive. Right. Yeah, find someone who's attractive. I don't need, you know, throw a huge fits or, you know, or nice ass or something like that. Just someone who's attractive. Age really isn't a big deal. I mean, whatever age.

I just want to, you know, have fun. And so. You just wanted a horny girl that was like into sex. Yeah. Yeah. That's really. That's it. Someone who really wants that sex is, you know,

going to do with it. Did you guys ever think about like you, and this is probably going to like forward. But like did you guys ever think like for your end of the deal? Like you could maybe just hire an escort. I guess possibly. I don't know. We haven't talked about that.

Because let me just tell you this. Okay. This is what I just think about like the difference between. And you said it before and I. was like, what are you kidding? Like, it's way harder to find a guy. But I think you're right in that. I think it might be harder for you to find a woman who's going to be a willing participant in the situation that you're looking for unless you go out and do what you guys don't want to do, which is just meet somebody in a bar that's drunk. Because I just don't know how many women,

unless you get like something on Craigslist where a woman's married and she's just looking for, you know, sort of a kink or a fetish thing on the side. I mean, I just don't know a lot of women. women that are going to be like, oh, that's exactly what I'm looking for, a one-night stand with a guy that's never going to call me again, that has a wife that's not going to like me. I don't, you know what I mean? Like, I just find it, it, but there's a lot of guys that are going to want to fuck a girl. That's, he's never going to have to date. He's never going to have to take out that is taken care of by another man.

You know what I mean? Yeah, so it's going to be a little harder for you to find somebody. So if you could, like, just hire an escort, you, you, you, you, you. you know, that would probably be a good thing for you. Yeah, I guess possibly. I mean, we haven't really thought about it. That's just a little thing for you, considering that you haven't been able to go get any action on the side yet.

So now, how does it all go down with her? So how did she find the guy? Well, we found it through Craigslist. I mean, we had to go through like hundreds and hundreds. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wait, so, like, just like, what were the kinds of picks? Like, did you get, I'm sure you got a lot of dick picks, right? Oh, yeah. I mean, I'd say probably a good, at least 50% was, you know, just cocked.

Right. Just a dick, no face. Yeah, we actually just, like, deleted those. Like, you know, that's not, that's not what we're looking for. If you're going to do that, you just go out to the bar, like you said, and find a guy and fucking. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Also in our ad, we put, you know, this isn't happening tonight. You know, this is going to be a process. Right. So you were weeding out the people. Yeah, we easily could weed it out. out, you know, half the guy the first of all.

Then, you know, the amount of people who were, who literally say, you know, hey, I'm free tonight, well, you obviously didn't read what we were looking for. Uh-huh. So we read the then. And then we did out the guys, which I think this was the funniest of all of them, of their answer was, suck, you know? Like, does that really work at all anywhere? Like at the bar or at the club?

That he's just picking up a chick. Does that really work? Yeah, no. I remember there was a girl. I had a girl on, who was very promiscuous, like, and she was very open about it. And she met a lot of guys online and just to fuck them. And she, you know, and it was like really interesting because she said like that was such a turnoff when guys would sort of like approach her that way. And I was like, you know, it's really good for guys who are listening to like listen up. Like that's not the way to get down a girl's pants. Even a girl who's just looking for sacks. It's still she a girl wants things dished out. a totally different way that a man's going to want it. You know what I mean? Yeah. So, I mean, we knew about the people. A lot of people ages in.

And so we knew we didn't put what age because we were, you know, just in case someone popped up to hit our interest. Right, right, totally. And you knew that she was looking for someone young. Yeah. So any guy, you know, probably, you know, over 25 that's kind of gone away. So, I mean, after all that, we needed down to like, there was probably 15.

black road candidate. Yeah, yeah, I know that's so interesting out of hundreds, right? Yeah. And so we, you know, emailed them back and, you know,

talk to them a little bit more and reading them down to really three guys that she was interested in that met her criteria. Three? One would, yeah, three guys.

One was 24, one was 21 and one was like 19. Okay, and they were good looking? You saw pictures, obviously. What was weird, none of them sent dick pics, but we did ask, you know, what is your endowment? They all were, you know, said that they were big. So, we went in that way.

So we decided that, you know, we talked a little bit more, so we emailed back and forth for a while. And so the one, the 19-year-old, we ended up bleeding out because I'm in the military and he was in the military, but he works at the same type of place that we do. Oh, right. So it's too close to home. That was smart.

You know, that's kind of, you know, we don't want there to be any type of oddness that might possibly happen. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. The other guy was military, but he was a different branch, and he was on a different side of the island. And then the other guy was like a college student. And so we talked more.

Um, she actually, so we decided to set up, we decided that she set up lunch like during the middle, you know, during the day at a public place and we then each individually and talk to them in person. Uh-huh. Separately? Separately? When you say individually, are you both of you together meeting each guy? No, no.

Her by herself meeting one guy and then another day meeting another guy. Okay. Um, so, um, the, the college guy, she set up. up meeting with him first. He was able to, and he actually never showed up. So that kind of when he came out and put up to just one dude. And then

when she had set up the lunch with him, he showed up and they talked for a while, and then they kind of hit it off. So she was pretty you know, he was kind of made, you know, he was the guy who kind of, I guess got a little bit lucky, but, you know, she was attracted to him. Uh-huh.

You know, they hit it off. And so then we decided that her and I would have lunch with them so like a week later we had lunch with him together kind of awkward I can imagine but I wonder how awkward it was for him

yeah I'm sure it was but it was I'm actually glad we did it because you can kind of a way for me to vet it as well you know for all of us us everyone to be okay with it and so was he like nervous around you yeah he was

a little bit nervous, but he's a pretty confident guy. Right. How old was he again? How old's the guy that won't? How old? He was 21. Okay. So, yeah, he was 21. He's also in the military. And like when you're at that lunch with that

guy, like, what do you got, like, does he ask you, like, why are you guys doing this or, like, do you get, like, what do you guys talk about? He didn't really ask, because we kind of discussed it online. We didn't just have a short conversation on. know, you know, a little bit of what we're looking for, you know, laid down a few of the rules.

Like, hey, you know, she, you know, she says no or wants to stop or doesn't want to go any further. You know, we decide not to do it. Then, you know, that's it. You know, there's no, there's nothing after that, stuff like that. You know, I would have loved to have been sitting at the table next to you guys. I mean, like. We have very much on the table, though. we kept that in mind.

Right. So you were like kept yourself. Because this is what's so interesting. This is what I love. I don't know. This is what I'm always thinking about when I'm in places. Like, you know, you guys were in a public place, right? Doing this.

And even though you were far away, like you never know when you're in a public place. And there's like three people sitting at a table, like what they're discussing. Like shit like this could be going down in the same room that you're in, right? Yeah, we're talking to this guy. Yeah, no one can probably look at it at us. and things that we're talking to a guy that, you know, we're interviewing to, you know. Exactly.

No one is looking at, like, two guys and a girl sitting at table thinking they're married and they're interviewing this guy so that he could fuck her wife because she got a pass. Like, you know what I mean? No way would ever think that's going down. Like, your waitress? Like, uh-uh, no way.

Yeah, so. So you chose him? Yeah, so the lunch, it went well as you chose him. And I had, this was going to sound probably pretty on too, but I, I, the one thing I, I, when, if we were going home, her and I were going home was, you know, we seen pictures of them. We had seen pictures and then, you know, him they did, you know, making, you know, recent pictures that and was well end out. But I was like, you know, people can change that. Wait, wait, wait. It's, I'm finding it hard to hear you.

You, you, so at the end of that lunch, you said, okay, now send us a dick, pick? No, no, no, we had seen that before. We had seen that before. So we threw our emails over time. Okay. And so, and so obviously, you know, it was likely him, but, you know, you can easily Photoshop stuff and put things. Right. So we just, I said, we need this, you know, I know you're like to God, but if you really want exactly what you got, let's make sure that he's, you know, big. So we actually, this is probably the weirdest part of everything. We actually, Skype with him later that night and he got naked just to prove that he was, you know.

Where, where? Where did he get naked? I mean, because you weren't going to let him come to your house. No, no, he didn't come to our house. It was on Skype. So, you know, so it was a video. So you made him get undressed and you guys were there watching on Skype. Was he hard? Yeah, he got hard. Yeah, he must have been turned on by this whole situation. I'll be honest. He was very big. so, I mean, he was not lying. Right. And was she, like, super into it? She was. She was, but she was also, you know, a little bit nervous, too.

Right. Yeah, it was really, really big. And big in the sense of, like, long and thick or both or, like... Yeah, both long and thick. So... Was he a black guy or was he a white guy? No, he was a white guy. He was his claim, and there was no measuring, but he was over nine inches.

and he was definitely very sick. Right. So he was big. Uh-huh. So what did you guys decide? How is it going to go down? So we decided to go down. I think we had lunch on like a Monday.

So we decided Friday night we would get, my wife would get a room at a hotel downtown. He would show up and they would have a couple drinks at a hotel bar. And then when she felt comfortable and they would go up. and, you know, do their thing. And then, you know, when they were done, he would, he would leave. He wasn't going to stay the night. And then she would come home the next morning.

She would stay there. She would stay there by herself? Yeah, that night and then come home the next morning. Okay. Okay. Did she call you? Like, was she going to call you when they were done? Yeah, she was.

Oh, my God. Okay, so walk me through how that it actually went down. In the hotel room. and they met down at the hotel bar. But how did you feel when you, like, how did you feel when that day came and that first text came and then the second text? And then you're waiting to,

now you know for sure they're having sex. And then the last text and when they're done, like how do you feel through all of that? Again, mixed emotions, I was probably more jealous than at first. Because it was, you know. Really happening. Yeah.

A little bit nervous. but also there was, I was turned on too. So, which that was probably the biggest surprise. That's the way that I'd be more jealous, you know, and maybe, you know, get mad. But I didn't get mad at all. It was just more jealous, more. Right. And you were surprised that you were actually turned on.

Like, when did you start to get kind of turned on when you found out that they were, like, actually going up to the room and your mind could wander until, like, what was going on? Yeah. So whenever they, I got to text that they were going to go up to the room, but you actually texted, you know, or, you know, or, you know, are you okay with this? And I texted back that I was. And so,

in my mind, wandered obviously what they're doing, you know, what he's doing to her, what she's doing with him. And then, you know, they did their thing.

And then she sent me a text when they were done and when he left. And what did she say in the text? I mean, the text was, I mean, that's more awkward.

She just said that, you know, they had finished and that he had left. Okay. And then you were like, were you, So, and then, did you guys talk on the phone or like you didn't see her till the next day?

We talked on the phone a little bit, and we, I got some, we talked a little bit about what they did, but not real details. How come? Was it because you didn't want the details or she didn't want to tell you them or you guys felt on comfortable? She wasn't really ready to give, like, all the details. Well, what, but what, what did she tell you? Went down. So they both went down on each other and then he had sex with her. Of course, I'm assuming she used a condom, and that was a part of the rules.

Yeah. Okay. And did she say that like it hurt? Or did she like it? Did she give you any kind of details? Well, later on with that details. So, yes. She said the first it hurt.

She liked it. And it was actually a very good experience. So she was into it. Mm-hmm. And she comes home the next day, right? The next morning. And then do you guys have sex and like a great sex? Well, we have kids.

That's after that. She was pretty turned on. Right. And now let me ask you this. Did you ever worry that she would like contact that guy again or want to see him again? No, not really. I was pretty confident and interesting that, you know, that was it. And then we'll figure it out what we're going to do later on.

Right. And so, and then, and so then did, well, how long ago was it that she had sucked with the guy? Tomorrow, actually. Wow. So that was recent. And now, so once that was done, was it like, like, were you guys like, okay, now let's find you a girl? Or like, does she looking for another guy? Is this going to be a one-time thing for her?

And then, or like, does she plan, does she now want to do it with more guys? Like, what has gone on in the past two weeks? So past two weeks, we kind of stayed on. I mean, she liked what she did, that we stayed on our, or, you know, original, you know, a dream of what it was just the one guy, so we haven't looked for another guy or anything. We've been contact with the same guy. We've been kind of, it's been pretty busy, so we haven't had a lot of time to try to find

a girl, but we've been trying to find, you know, someone's, right? Right. Because you definitely want to be with the girl, right? Yeah, I do. And that's going to happen before she's ever with another guy, right? Because she will, do you? Yeah, seven. Yeah, we want that to happen. And then we'll see how, you know, after we go through it, how they, how each of us feel, maybe she gets super jealous, you know?

Yeah. How do you think that she's going to feel about it? Like, because, I mean, you were kind of cool about it, right? Like, I mean, because it went down, right? And you, I think it's interesting because you probably don't know how you're really going to feel, right? Like, how did you know whether, like, when it actually went down and you get super jealous and couldn't, you know, but, like, you kind of got a little jealous, but you also got kind of turned on. And, like, you're okay with it, right? Like, you don't look at her and think she's a whole.

horror, right? Do you worry? Like, how does she think she's going to be? Same way I was. She's been pretty cool about it as well. So, we'll see. I mean, I don't think we really know what to expect people right on. Yeah, you guys are like, I've had like a lot of different couples on my show. Couples that have swing, couples that don't, people that have open relationships.

And like, it takes a certain kind of people that do the open relationship thing well. And it's typically people like you, people that aren't like sort of like dirty perverts. Like you know what I mean? Like just regular monogamous, you know, normal people that like decide to do it. I think that's the way that it's done. That's what I've heard and what I've seen as the trend is the most successful, you know? Because they're very respectful of each other. Like I feel like you guys are super respectful in the same.

situation and you have your boundaries and you set it up and you're very good at communicating with each other and I think all those things are important right you know I mean you guys have like you guys have found a solution to like a very common problem and I think that a lot of people think that this is a solution that would like it's a great solution but like I said a million times in this podcast like nobody I don't think many people wind of doing it because there's so much confliction that could come up with other people you know but like you guys have like so far, I think it's like, you know, you're like halfway there and it's been successful. It rejuvenated your sex life, right? You didn't get jealous. She had a good time. And now it's your

turn to find a girl. I just think it's going to be hard for you to find a girl unless you find, like, it's like, you know, I don't know, to be talking to the girl and go through all that with the guy, I think it's a different story because the guy's just getting like free sex. I don't know. It's going to be harder for the girl. I think you should bring up the thing about getting like a hooker, like an escort, like for real.

Yeah. And let me tell you this. Like, you know, I've thought about this before. Like if I had a guy and like I was with him for a really long time and we just wanted to like, you know, give each other puzzles or like you're like, you know, time to sleep with other people. I think I prefer him to sleep with hookers than some person out there that maybe he could have a relationship because I think, you know, when it's a hooker and escort,

like there's a you know the boundaries are set a little bit more you know with women like that I mean sometimes you hear about people like getting in relations with them but most of the time they're there to do business or they're doing it for whatever you know and I know it's kind of bad for me because the guy last my last podcast was like I would never be with the hooker because she's exploiting it's exploiting women and stuff and I don't know I don't see women as victims like that you know I think you know I don't think it's a bad thing so you know that might be a good way for you to find your girl and she might feel more comfortable with that because then she knows like you know that girl's not interested in you you know she's kind of getting paid

I don't know I don't know if that takes away from for the situation with you I don't know do you care about whether it's a hooker or not I don't know if I really care about it I just I didn't really thought about it to be honest with you so well how many hits has your ad gotten and like what do the girls look like that email you? Not a whole lot. Most of them are, you know, definitely not my type. What types are they?

Like, what kind of women respond to an ad like that on Craigslist? What? Most of them have been married. And most of them aren't very attractive at all. No. In what sense are they like, they're just busted overall? Yeah.

And what do they say in their emails to you? Like we're like I'm married and I'm looking to cheat on my husband or like... Yeah, I'm not getting what I want either. You know, I'm looking, you know, some of the other guy, you know, stuff like that. Uh-huh. And what age range do you find of these women that are on? Most of them are, I'll tell you, late 20s, like early 40s. Interesting.

And not one has been good looking. Not one that, you know, I found attractive. Right. And you don't sound too picky. I mean, before when I asked you your criteria. I mean, you were like, what? I said, I'm not super picky right now. No, you know, you're like any age.

You're not looking for someone that's totally hot. It doesn't have to be like her body doesn't have to be anything specific. Does she have to like, are you into like a girl with a really good, like, are you sort of open? Like, do you like have your girl, skinny girls? Um, I don't know. I think just kind of in between. I don't want a real skinny girl. Hey, did you guys make a rule like no kissing?

No. The rules for that was just she could do whatever she wanted. But, you know, for him, it was just, you know, for him it was no if she didn't want to do something that he wanted to do. Right. And for you... But I figured the first time there wasn't... There likely it wouldn't be anything really kinky going on, you know, so... Uh-huh.

...have soon it would be more normal sex the first time because you got to kind of get through that before you move on to the next level. Right, right. totally so are you so you guys have just been busy for the past two weeks but now like you haven't gotten any like good ads for your girl so yeah you're just is that what you're like where you're right now just kind of waiting for the right girl to email you cool so listen I mean I can't wait to hear I would love for you to call back and I'm sure my listeners would like to hear about like what goes down when you find that girl you know okay that will be our part too because uh okay We need to know if that's successful too, because so far, this has really worked.

And like I said, you have a lot of people's fantasy. You know, so Kyle, thanks so much for calling in. And go get that girl soon so we could hear the update. Okay. All right. All right. All right. All right.

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