Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1277 - Sex Book Writing, X Rated Discord Access and More! Bonus ep w/Adam

Episode Date: November 16, 2025

Here's a quick entertaining, bonus episode featuring Adam and Kathy discussing the Strictly Anonymous, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers book pre-orders, X rated Discord access and more. Tune in to hear what's coming up on the remaining Sundays in 2026 and why, sex book writing and how hard it was for Kathy to actually write her book, how annoying Kathy was when writing her book,  how and why she's NOT doing the audio book version that will be coming out, why the book date was pushed out, what you will still get if you pre-order book before 12/3 plus a bit more. PRE-ORDER BOOK Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers here:  ⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠ then email me at [e-mail] for FREE access to my PRIVATE Discord To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed. Sponsors:⁠⁠ https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns !⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2536-anonymous⁠⁠ — Use code ANONYMOUS69 to get 50% off your yearly pass plus a 14-day money-back guarantee ⁠⁠http://loadboost.com⁠⁠ — To get 10% off LOAD Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠https://brooklynbedding.com⁠⁠ — Use my promo code STRICTLY at checkout to get 30% off sitewide⁠⁠ https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠ — Use the code STRICTLY at checkout for 20% off your entire order ⁠⁠https://uberlube.com/discount/Strictly⁠⁠ — Use code STRICTLY for 10% off Uberlube aka the BEST Lube EVER ⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠ — Get your first month of the new Bluechew Max FREE! Use code: STRICTLYANON ⁠⁠https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/xLQ3Jv⁠⁠ — To get $15 OFF your oxytocin products, STI panels and more, use code STRICTLY Follow me! Instagram —  ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠ X — ⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠ Website —  ⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else: https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm like a stone person and I don't even smoke pot. Like, that's why I used to always date weed heads because I'm like a weed head without the weed. I could go on for 20 minutes about the fact that I'm singing this fucking intro for no reason and I can't even sing. But anyway, I'm going to get ready to it. This is a bonus episode. I am kicking off bonus episodes today with just a really short one about my book.

It's about to come out. It's right around the corner. I think it's a great gift idea. It's available very soon. and if you still order it, you're going to get into Discord. I'm kicking off the holiday season with like getting rid of a lot of episodes I have taped. I constantly tape people all year round. And I am going to be releasing an extra episode every Sunday from now until the end of the year.

You'll get some fact and fiction episodes. You'll get some new things I'm going to try out episodes. And you're getting today's episode, which is just a funny convo with the guy. you help me write my book. He does talk about what a bitch I was the whole time. I talk about how hard the process was. We talk about my Discord and how hardcore and great it is. You do get free access to my Discord if you pre-order my book. The e-book is available now too, which is great. So you can read it on your iPhone or whatever if you want to hide it. But that's the today's bonus episode is it's a fun, funny conversation all about my book. And then after this Sunday, we'll do more

fun episodes like factor fictions and stuff like that. So I am going to spare you the rest of the stuff that I normally talk about in my intros on the bonus intros. So that's the other gift I have for you. Bonus intros, no long intros. So anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Adam. He's the guy who helped me write my book. Okay. I'm going to be right back on Adam. Hey, Adam, you're here with me. I'm a little bonus episode. I've dragged you along. Adam. You've been on my show before. He wrote a book. Seek the rest. People love. It's all about jealousy and non-monogamy. So anyone's looking to get their girl to like fuck another guy in there.

Like afraid they might have cop some feelings because Adam did, you know, get his book, seek the rest. But we are going to be told. We're really pitching my book on this show really quick. Yes, we are. Because my book is up for pre-order. Do you know that my, well, you know, like I just want everyone to know that. Actually, Adam did help me write my book.

I did get a book deal. I went out to like publishers and got a book deal and I don't even fucking know how to write. I could talk, but I can't fucking stand right. Okay. You can talk. Yes. I don't like writing. It's the worst thing on the planet.

And I'm like, okay, once I got the book deal, they're like, yeah, this is great. I had another writer writing for me. Literally this book was like hands of 10 people in it because I had like four other writers before I got Adam on board. And this is going to be one of those bonus episodes talking about how annoying I was when I was writing my book. And it's up for free order. Really, I just want to tell people it's up for preorder because my publisher, is all about the pre-orders. They've been making me pre-order my book

and people pre-order my book since February because it was supposed to come out in October. And I did do a whole, like, a detailed episode about it on Patreon about exactly why it didn't go out in October. There was numerous, numerous, numerous problems. I got the big box in my books, like about a week before they were supposed to come out.

And when I opened it, I was, like, fucking horrified. I'm sure, Adam, you got, like, tons of text messages from me. Like, what the fuck's going on here? The picture's like, can you believe this? Oh my God. Look at this. Look what they did.

I'm like, not that I'm into perfection, but like things should just be done properly. It's either done correct or it's not. And there's nothing really in between as far as I'm concerned. And you like, the good news is everyone made mistakes that, that were a part of it. My publisher made a very big mistake. They didn't even put a publisher on the book. And the printer made 18 mistakes. So no one could point fingers at anyone.

and everybody had to redo it. And I was glad for that because I would have been horrified if the book went out. It looks so bad. And so it had to be reprinted. That's what happened. So I'm still asking people to pre-order my book. My book is coming out on December 3rd. It's called Strictly Anonymous Podcast, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers.

I worked my ass off writing this book. I only had six months. Adam, you came in at the last moment, right? Like, what did I have six weeks? What did we have six weeks to write the book? You had six or seven weeks left and then we extended a month because once we started working together I was like, okay, we're actually getting something we've done. Yeah, but we took an extension because we were getting good material out.

Yeah, but I would have needed six more months if you ask me to like do it. It was literally the hardest thing I ever did. It was the most stressed out time of my life. And it got to the point where like, yeah, I can't write, but I also wasn't happy with anybody writing my book for me either. so it's like really what Adam came in and it turned out that like I literally made him stay on the phone with me while he wrote and I helped edit and we went over every line and it was hours and hours and hours and hours and more hours and hours I'm sorry it was a long it was like and you know listen I do I'm a one

woman show I do every single thing on my podcast myself and so I'm doing six episodes a week plus this book. You know, so I had like zero time of my life. It was just a very hard process. And you would be on the phone with me. And what I, putting up with my, I don't know what you call it. Your adjeda, your craziness, your stress. But it was good. We got it done. You know, in the end, the process we did worked. We, you know, we were able to work through it. And the book ended up being in your voice, which was the whole point. And however we settled on what we did, it came out. It came out good.

So as hard as it was. And as annoying as you were, as you were, I'm still feeling good about the book coming out. It was a good process. I'm glad we did it. Yeah. And now, listen, I'm having Layla, who's one of my favorite podcasters on. She's going to interview me on the book and you're going to get like tons of details.

This is just about like, you know, this is just about what I'm doing in December. this is a bonus episode. This is just to kick it all off. And this is just to get people to maybe pre-order because, you know, what I have, listen, I have pre-ordered a lot of books since February because I have been adding like a little promo at the end of my episodes in the beginning. And, uh, and I've been offering people free access to my Discord. And we could talk about my Discord how fucking killer it is. And people have been writing in and like, oh, I got the book for my wife, like as a gift. So I do think it's a fun gift. It is available in an e-book. If you don't want it laying around your house because you have kids. It's available wherever you buy books as of now anyway so you could

get anywhere. It's strictly anonymous podcast. Secret Lives of Total Strangers. It's 17 stories written in the third person. When you say it was written in my voice, like I was very particular in that I didn't want it to be so much erotica like with lots of adjectives and stuff. So I really would make you like cut shit out, you know, and make it a little bit more to the point. So, you know, I hope that the guys' wives like it because I think sometimes girls love just like disagreements there for sure yeah because I think sometimes guys like woman love like erotica I hate that shit I don't like like like a flowery lots of adjectives kind of thing um so I would be like oh I would get the deuce chill sometimes you would like use the world she like you would use phrases like she twirled around and I don't know like stuff

that I never said that yes you definitely didn't like some of my phrases there are some things that are left in the book that I'm like how the fuck did I leave this in but I was so stressed out that I think there were times where I didn't actually fight with you. You were just shocked at the writing. You were shocked at the whole writing process because you've never done it before. No, I did. I wrote a whole fucking book. No, I actually did write it before, but I wrote it myself.

And my cartoon book was like very bare bones. There's no blah, blah, blah at all. I can't stand blah, blah, blah. I've never been somebody that reads like fake stories. It was always like a self-help book reader. So I like, you know, direct no adjectives, like just factual stuff because they're true stories. So I don't know. I just, I think that's just get straight to the cock in the, in the whatever hole it's in.

Yeah, well, some of them are more sexual than others. You wrote the sex scenes. Those were always like, you know, that's where we took creative liberty in that part. People will get a lot more of that kind of insight. You know, all the information on my book like hardcore when it comes out. It's coming at December 3rd. Layla is going to interview me on the book, but I just wanted to,

what is this, the purpose of this, to get people to pre-order it, right? Get people to pre-order and tell them what an incredible process you went through and how hard it was and how it almost killed you. Well, you were like, let's do a whole episode on the writing process. I'm like, oh my God,

are people going to be as stressed out listening to it as I was? I don't think anyone wants to hear it, but I was like, I mean, we were on the phone so much. You were calling me all hours the day and night. Oh my God, what about this? but bye, it was... Yeah, because I do have certain hours of the day where I need to watch my TV.

That is like my fucking checking out at the end of the day. So it was like very late at night or very early in the morning, right? That's when we would do it. It was through the middle of the day too. I mean, sometimes we spent four hours in a row on the phone.

No, it was always at least four hours. It was never 20 minutes because we had to like... And I got to tell you when you write a book, you get so fucking sick of it. I couldn't stand it. Like you just are reading it over and over again. You're so involved in it.

It's the hardest, process. My joke is like if anybody ever asked me to give me in advance to write a book, I'll be like, I will pay you not to have me write a book. I'll pay you the advance. Take your advance and I'll give you more and shove it up your fucking ass and don't ever make me write a book again. It is wild though, right? After you worked on it, it's so long, it starts sucking. I had the same thing with my book. It's after a while, you just, oh my God, this is awful. And then you put it down for a while and you come back to it. You're like, oh, you know, that's actually pretty good. But when we got, you get so close to it, it was just, we got sick of it. We both did. Yeah, it's a hard thing. But it's like, you know, it's a thing and it's done. I got the new books in. They can be preordered. I think it's a fun gift for somebody. It's a good gift for yourself. I think, you know, if you want to get it for your person as a gift, you could get the paperback is available. It's 1895. The e-book is also available. I mean, how do people read books? You know, I actually did a poll on Patreon the other day because I'm like, you know, what are my, what are my, What's my audience going to be most interested in what version of this book?

You know, and most people said the audiobook. Now, this is the deal with the audio book. And you know this, Adam, too. Tell people how great I am at reading the stories. You're terrible at it. You're absolutely awful at reading the story. Like when you would try to read, I'd be like, oh, my God, just stop. No, no, no.

So I, yeah, no, because this is the real truth is that I was like from day one, I have to do the audiobook. Like, it's my fucking book. it's my fucking voice. It's my podcast. Everyone knows my voice. Of course I have to do it. My publisher is like, of course you're going to do it. Like for some people, we don't, we want them to hire a real professional, but for you because it's your podcast, you're definitely going to do it and everything. So I was like, okay, that's great. Like that's one thing that I made. Now, what people don't might not understand is like when your publisher gets your book, like they sell your audiobook to an audio book company, right?

So the publisher really has nothing to do with it. So this audio book company comes in, buys my book, they're going to hire me to do it. And they say to my agent like, okay, let her, because I wanted to tape it from my own podcasting equipment at home. They're like, let her put herself on tape so we could hear if her equipment is good and she can do it or she'll have to come into the studio. So I go and I start reading my book into a microphone like I'm doing right now. It turns out, oh my, I couldn't fucking stand listening to my own self, let alone other

people listening. I was like, I suck at this. But no, I didn't stop there. Like I was just like, okay, I'm really bad. Like this sounds really bad. And this is what I think. I think I'm just going to go to YouTube University. I'm going to watch four or five videos and I'm going to become a professional

audiobook reader, right? Like, how hard can it be? You know what I mean? How hard could it be? Yeah, I'm just going to go on there. I'm going to get some tips and tricks, right? That's what YouTube's for. I love it.

I cut my own hair with YouTube videos. Okay. And people compliment. Yeah, people compliment my hair all the time. Not one person I pay $200 for it for. I could fucking do it. One bitch on YouTube teaches me how to do it myself and it's a killer. So I go to YouTube University to learn how to read an audiobook and make it sound good.

And when I went on there, I have to say, these people that were teaching people how to do it were professionals. And when they were reading it, I was like, oh my God, these people are fucking great. Like, they bring the book to life. Like, these are actors. This is like real professional. Like, I couldn't learn this. I would need eight years. years of practicing to figure out how to be an audiobook reader and why the fuck would I read my book

when this audiobook company they're going to pay good amount of money like for me I was like I don't care I could I'd rather pass on the money and have someone really good read my book so you guys are not going to get my audio and trust me you're going to be happy you don't want it you're going to love the you're going to love the person they chose right I mean they're going to know what they're doing to be some sultry sexy sultry sexy woman reading these stories yeah I told them that it has to be someone that I picked, but I was passing. And I was nervous that they were going to be, like, pissed at me. But they're like, no, listen to it.

And you were even thought you were surprised. And that's when I said, okay, I'm going to read to you. You want to hear how I read? And I started reading. And you were like, oh, my God, that's like the worst thing I ever heard. I was like, just stop. And no offense, I went on to Amazon. Because I thought, okay, like, am I being crazy passing up this opportunity?

Because it is my book and blah, blah, blah, you know. And so I started to listen to some people who had read their own. own audiobooks and oh my God, they did themselves a disservice. You really need a professional person to do it. Anybody has a book. Don't fucking read it yourself and torture people. Get a professional if you can because the professionals are so good. So the whole point of the audiobook is a lot of people said a lot of people would buy the audiobook, but it's not available yet. And it might not be available for five months I just found out. I don't know. But the paperback and e-book is available. A lot of people like to read on their tablet or whatever,

right? How do you read books? I prefer actual paper, but it's so inconvenient. So I have an electronic reader as well. Because when I travel, it's just so much easier to have books on the e-reader. But I prefer paperback if it makes sense. And I know I'm going to be in one place for a while. Really? Yeah.

So you would get my book in a paperback. I'm going to send you a free copy. I will. Listen, I do want to tell everybody, I'm going to send you the bad copy too because I still have the big bad batch of bad books. Don't do that. People are going to see it on my coffee table. No, no, no, you could throw it out, but I want you to see the difference because this is the problem being, no, this is the problem being a woman who has, like, real standards.

Because guys have, like, guys who own companies have good standards, too and expect fucking shit to be done the right way. But when you're a girl and you, like, complain about things, you're, like, called aggressive of a bitch. Like, you seem annoying. You know what I mean? But, like, I just need you to see, like, how right I was. Like, it was, like, very unacceptable how the book came in the first time. time and it's very acceptable now. Thank God I'm me and I complained because it wasn't done right. That doesn't mean you're not annoying. No, I'm not annoying. I just, I'm good at I just like if I'm going to do work,

I'm going to do it the best that I can't. Like it's very important. And that's how everybody should be. I don't care. Like I saw poor Martha Stewart was like she was talking about in her documentary about how one time she is like her own fucking line of shit. She's like telling some guy how to do it right because he wasn't making the cup right and he was like complaining and he called her like a bitch and she's like, why is it wrong for me to want my shit the right way? Like it's like so backwards. It's weird that people think when you want things done properly that you're like a bitch or whatever.

Everyone should want things done properly. Sorry. And everything should be done properly. Okay. If I work for somebody, I do shit. Perfect. Okay. That's the way that I am.

So that's what I expect. And sometimes it's hard to find. But, um, you know, I work. No, you were absolutely right. Tim, you were absolutely right. It was absolutely horrible what they did. Yeah. It was fucking horrible.

Yeah. Yeah. And it was mistakes on all end. I love my publisher, by the way. I really do. And it was Cleas, and they did sell Cleas to Simon & Schuster. They sold the whole backlist to Simon & Schuster. So my book got left there.

And then they created a different company's Smart Romance. And that's where my book went to because Cleas, which was very big in the sexuality and LGBTQ community. That's why I signed on to be their book because this is what they've been doing since the dawn of time. But they sold out. They sold. And I mean, that's just, you know, that just, you know, shit. happens and that I was not upset about. There's nothing I could do about that. But it is that it is. But I will give people, you know, and you could talk to how great my Discord is. Like my Discord's like

pretty amazing. Like I looked recently. There's like over 6,000 people on there. Not that 6,000 people are on there engaging at all times, but 6,000 people have signed up for my Discord. And I do give anyone who buys my book. If you send me a picture or screenshot of your purchase, I will give you free access to my Discord. We have contests there. I've done a, you know, a pussy pick contest, a pick contest. Let me tell you, my listeners have the biggest fucking dicks. I never seen so many big dicks in a, in a one place than on my dick pick contest. And these were real pictures, okay? In my Discord, because it's a not safe for work site, it's totally locked down. I created it a couple years ago, and I was like offering it to people that signed up for Patreon. Now I offer it to everybody

who calls into my show, everyone who buys my book, everyone who signs up for my Patreon. But I vet everybody, because it's not like you could get into my Discord any other way. And I like, doing it that way and I love that it's not public because I really feel like my audience are really fucking cool people and that's why like my people in Discord are all like having fun and there's no nonsense it's very rare there's any drama over there because I get to vet people it's all people who listen to my show and there's so many different channels in there right like and so much content like I mean it's like everybody posts everyone posts their own stuff it's very naughty you could see Erica, who's been on my show a million time, you could see her in action getting like a DP by her guys.

And you get play by play because her guy writes it. Like everybody in there is a bunch of exhibitionists, right? There's literally like a guest channel where you see naked pictures of the guests than a naughty pics channel. There's buy girls, buy guys, BBW, cross-dressers, hoesers. What else do I have? Oh, rate your feet, rate my wife, rate my pussy, dick pics go here channels. I mean, there's everything you can imagine. And you get in for free.

And once you're in, you're in. And so if you buy my book, that is an incentive. Pre-order it. Send it to me. I don't know if I'm going to do it after the pre-orders, you know, but as an incentive to pre-order, besides getting the gift of my book and giving it to someone else, I will give you the gift of Discord. Just send me a screenshot to Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com.

Do you want to see anything else about writing the book? I don't know that anyone, like, you know, do people care about how mean I was? I mean, how many times did we hang up on each other during the process? Oh, did it? Yeah, we did several times. I lost count. Oh, really? We just hung up the phone because we was getting so angry at each other.

It was a process, but, you know, we're both gen X-Exters. We yell. We don't care. And then, you know, 10 minutes later. I love you. Like, you'd hang up on me and I just be fucking pissed. And I get these messages from me. But like, oh, don't be such a fucking baby.

Pick up the phone. Come on. Let's keep working. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm like a very, you have to understand, like in my family, like we were ballbusters. Like, Christmas morning, like everyone would be making fun of everybody's presents. They got them and trashing everybody. Like, I just grew up in that kind of way. So we, I have a very thick skin. And so I give it the way I like to take it. I'm not one of those people like, oh, I could give it and I can't take it. I can't take it. I take it all the time. I get the worst reviews. People are so fucking

rude. You're so aggressive. You interrupt. So mean to me. It's fine. I will fight back and be like, fuck off, but I could handle it, you know, and I could certainly, and that's why I like to have some guy friends. I always need my girlfriends there because I'm a chick, but I need a couple of guy friends because I could be like, shut the fuck up, you fucking asshole and blah, blah, blah, and like, you know, and two seconds later, we're like, what do you want to eat? Like you want the steak or like, well, you know, guys don't care. But some guys are a little bit more sensitive. You're one of them. You're a little bit more sensitive. I would be mean to you. I don't think you grew up like I did where you could have like a full-blown argument in two seconds later.

just be talking. I'm fine. I didn't have any brothers or sisters. My son's an only child. My parents were hippies. You know, they were all sweet and nice. Oh yeah. My son's an only child, but he's got a thick skin because me and him rank on each other. We're like funny, you know, whatever. Yeah. So you would be, yeah, I would do my thing, which is just like go off and then like two seconds later like, oh, we need to like work again. But you're still here. I'm still here. I'm still here. We're still friends. Yeah, it's all good. I'm really. excited for the book to come out. Yeah. Yeah. So everyone go pre-order and I'm going to put the link in the description. You know, this is a little bonus episode and I did want to tell everyone you're going to be getting a lot of extra episodes. So you don't need to listen to them, but they're fun. Fact or Fictions and

any kind of other episodes that I've taped this year that I didn't put out, I'm going to do some extra ones for the holidays. So thanks so much for listening. Thanks, Adam. Thanks for coming on and talking like shit about me. You know, I don't mind. Okay. Thanks. Bye. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback

and ebook, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talked about. on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like

erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories, 17 of them. They're really short. Chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two and then skip around. You could read the whole book. It's available in eback format, paperback format. And finally, the audio book is available coming out August 25th. But you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre-order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint. Okay. There's, No way you get into my Discord any other way than getting the link from me. Okay, I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other.

And that's what you get to do there. You could post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total, strictly anonymous community and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord. It's private, like I said. All you got to do is, is email me a screenshot of your purchase, whether you did the audiobook, the ebook, or the paperback. Send it to me at Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. That's strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com.

And I will send you the link to Discord. So anyway, thanks so much for tuning in. This is the Strictly Anonymous podcast.