Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1298 - Finding Kinky Partners, Role Playing, Confidence in the Bedroom and More w/Luna

Starting point is 00:00:00 quick that this is a Q&A that I had with Luna from Sex Stories Podcast. She got a bunch of questions. We answered them. We did a bunch of them. I'm breaking them up into smaller episodes because it's a Sunday quick hit bonus app. You're going to hear us answer three questions. There's one question is from a guy who wants to find a female who's going to go to

Starting point is 00:00:19 like swingers clubs and sex parties and all that kind of good stuff, wondering how to make that happen. And then from another guy who was in a sexless relationship for a long time. And now he is back in the game and he is worried about whether or not he's going to remember how to do things in bed. Okay, you got to listen to my advice on that one. And then we hear from one of her listeners who had an awkward roleplay scenario with her partner. And she's wondering how to make that better. And we have a lot of advice on good roleplay.

Starting point is 00:00:50 We talk about the role play that we're into and our experiences. You hear us answer the questions. Plus, we talk about so much more. So anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Luna and the first question. Hey, Luna. Luna, Roby. Welcome to the Strictly anonymous podcast. First Q&A.

Starting point is 00:01:10 I'm trying to add another episode to my weekly episodes. I'm like, oh my God, I don't do something on Sunday. Why don't I? So I'm doing it now. And I have you on and me and you are going to answer some questions. Yeah. Do you want to hear my first one? Okay.

Starting point is 00:01:27 Yeah. Okay. this is actually two questions on the same topic though, so I'm going to just read them back to back. And then after the second one, I want to hear your thoughts. So I'm going to read mine and then you give the first answer. And then if I have stuff to add, we'll see how we line up. So this is about dating. I got a question that says, newly single male interested in meeting a woman open to dating and sex clubs help.

Starting point is 00:01:47 That's from C. And then same theme, but slightly different. I'm 36 and newly single after a 12-year relationship where we barely had sex. And I didn't have much experience even before then. I feel so inexperienced and anxious now. How do I start exploring without feeling like everyone knows more than me? Oh my God. Those are two ends of the spectrum.

Starting point is 00:02:07 Is one a woman and one a man? Because I feel like we could put them together and they can help each other out. I know, right? The first one is definitely a dude. The second one, it is unclear. It's a gender neutral name. So I don't know. So one person has zero, like one person wants to like, you know, have an open relationship

Starting point is 00:02:23 and have fun outside of the box with a partner. and the other person is nervous that they don't have enough experience? I mean, the first person didn't give very much detail, just newly single male. They're both newly single, so that's the common thread. Interested in meeting a woman,

Starting point is 00:02:38 open to dating and sex clubs help. I mean, that's pretty broad. I think they've got to get more specific. No, that's easy. No, no, no, it's not a broad one. It's just, you know what his question is? To me, his question is, like, how does he meet somebody

Starting point is 00:02:49 that will enter into the lifestyle? Like, this is his first time being single, this time around, you know, he wants to meet, a woman that's going to go to swingers clubs with him. And like, listen, you're not going to go on match.com or eHarmony or even Raya if you have that in mind. But there are certainly apps out there that you could go on that are specifically geared to that. And I think the smartest thing to do is like put that in your F and bio,

Starting point is 00:03:14 weed out the nonsense and all the girls that are not going to be interested. And, you know, you're going to be left with the ones that are. The other option I would say, this is the other easy answer is go to a sex club solo. Now a lot of times single guys are like a big fat no-no, but a lot of times most places are open to them and they have certain different nights that single guys are allowed. And if you go to a swingers club alone, I know many women that do it. You could do it. I know plenty of guys that do it. Go alone and you're, you know, there's going to be some single women there too. And so you're going to be fishing out of a pond full of people that are into what you're into because you're already there. Yeah, absolutely. That's my two things to do. And I would

Starting point is 00:03:53 say also if this person is in a locale where there are like fet life meetups, oftentimes getting to know people outside of a sexy space before going into a sexy space is good. And also for me with single people at sex parties, it's like have something to offer, you know, go there being of service rather than like having a need to fill because I feel like it gets a little succubis like. And if that's the kink that someone's into, great. But if someone is just trying to be a regular person and there's a dude there being like, can I touch you? I'm usually. I'm usually. like, go visit me at the ranch, you know. Yeah, but this guy sounds like he's looking for a relationship.

Starting point is 00:04:30 So I don't think he's going to, he didn't say like, where do I meet girls that want to have an orgy and gang bang the first time I meet them. He's looking for a partner. But like to me, that's a place where you could become friends and get a number and then start dating somebody, you know, like don't get in on the action right away. But I mean, hopefully. But I do think meetups are great, like you said. And then there's just like so many apps where you could go on.

Starting point is 00:04:52 And I know for a fact that there are single women on those apps because they call into my show. And I have a code for SDC, 37712. You could sign up for free. And I know tons of single women join that app because they're looking to get into the lifestyle and stuff like that. So there's people out there. And I don't know how old this person is, but I think the younger generation are so much more open-minded and are trying these kinds of things out. So you have a good chance of finding someone.

Starting point is 00:05:16 But it doesn't necessarily mean that the old folks aren't. Okay. I know plenty that second, third marriage. they are like having gangbangs and orgies galore until they hit the grave like they're living their life finally well i have no idea how old this person i say just jump in the pond yeah but i mean i think that there's so many options nowadays because there are apps that are you know specific for the lifestyle but i just know a lot of people that went to club solo and met partners okay okay so there's definitely a lot of listeners of kathies on there maybe some of them are in the same city and and open to

Starting point is 00:05:51 I mean, that definitely is a place where people are more likely to mingle and it comes down to picking the right app. And I know apps are not right for everyone. So that's why I'm like, go meet people in person and go meet people doing things that you already like to do. And to the person, the other person that was kind of at the other end of the spectrum, how do I start exploring again without feeling like everyone knows more than me? Well, what if it's okay if other people know more than you?

Starting point is 00:06:12 You know, lots of people like to teach. Yeah. And how are so many people going to know? I mean, like, is this somebody that's like afraid to go to a swim? Wingers Club and people there? Like, or is this person to date? I'll read you there. No, I know.

Starting point is 00:06:26 I know. Yeah, read it again specifically. So the other one, which to me is in the same category, but is a different texture. I'm 36 and newly single after a 12-year relationship where we barely had sex and I didn't have much experience before then. I feel so inexperienced and anxious now. How do I start exploring again without feeling like everyone knows more than me? So I'm like, it's fine if people know.

Starting point is 00:06:46 Right. Well, there's not going to be in everyone. First of all, you're not going to be dating everyone. You're going to be dating one person. So like stop framing it so catastrophically. Okay. There's not going to be a hundred people watching you and realizing you don't know how to give good head, okay?

Starting point is 00:07:01 Like you're going to be dating one person, like most likely, right? That's how you're going to get back in the game or you're going to be dating five people, but it's not going to be at the same time. So you just got to get in the game. And the only way to practice is to just get with it. And I'm sorry, I just did a whole, I just edited in my episode with Susan Bratt. And you know what she's here to say? like if you don't use it, you lose it is total bullshit.

Starting point is 00:07:23 Like you could completely not have sex for five years. A minute you get back on, it's like riding a bike. You're going to know what to do. And if he's very inexperienced now, go for somebody a little bit younger. And there's plenty of inexperienced people out there and you start learning together. But like, you know, I don't know how inexperience this person can be really if they've lost their virginity and they were dating somebody. I mean, they've, even if you've gone down five times on a girl, like, you know what you're basically doing and your next girl is going to help you out.

Starting point is 00:07:53 Well, I don't know if this person identifies as a male or female or something in between, but I will just push back lightly and say, I love it. I love a good debate. I mean, just, I have so much experience with people who have some experience and don't have experience. And I would say more than anything, it is their self-consciousness and their nervousness that gets in the way of them being present enough to have a good time.

Starting point is 00:08:17 you know and so for oftentimes i end up in like a nurturing dominant role even outside of an explicit power dynamic but i'm you know i get a lot of people that come to me that are like i'm nervous i'm divorced i'm this and whatever reason they have for being nervous about their sexual prowess and when i ask them to like settle into their bodies and have them breathe with me you know and create a space where i'm like try this next i want this i want this and i create a framework of communication, which I have a whole episode about how I turn nervous people into sex gods. But that helps people. No, that's what they should listen to.

Starting point is 00:08:52 You're perfect then to help this person out. Really, you have the answer for them. I do. But also that can be created with any human they meet as long as they're willing to be vulnerable and start with, hey, I feel like this. And then that shifts because it's only when we latch onto the feeling and make it bigger that it sticks around. Like the emotional chemical process of a feeling only lasts 90 seconds.

Starting point is 00:09:12 So if you get nervous, presence it, and most partners are down to help. A lot of people have hidden nervousness and they think everyone else is some genius at something, but most people I talk to are all secretly pretty riddled with anxiety right now, is what they share with me. And I also feel like once the touch barrier is broken and two people feel safe and comfortable together, as long as they're not busy judging the shit at each other, you know, as long as they are willing to be open and vulnerable and enjoying, each other, stuff usually goes pretty well. And that's why I also have a lot of communication

Starting point is 00:09:46 frameworks that's like, do you like this? You know, give two options at a time. Do you want it harder or softer? Do you like a circle or a swipe? Like what, what are you, what are you enjoying? So I feel like making it a curious exploration with each person is really fun. Yeah, without having to put it on the table. Like I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. Like, no one knows what the fuck they're doing with each new person because each new person is different. The way I like someone to go down on me is going to be totally different than the way you do. The way I want someone to, you know, bang me out is going to be different than the way you do. So, you know, I don't know how I'd feel if a guy, you know, I'm like making out with a guy and all of a sudden, let's pretend it's a guy, right? And he's

Starting point is 00:10:23 like, I don't know what the fuck I'm doing and I'm really insecure. Like, I don't want that kind of honesty. That might ruin the way. So I feel like there's a, I feel like there's a way of being quote unquote vulnerable without looking like you have low self-esteem in the bedroom, which is not hot. So I think like no one knows what to do with another person. you know what I mean? But like ask questions and communication is key. Like the reason why I always got off with every fucking guy and never not had an orgasm in my whole life is because I tell a guy exactly what the fuck to do for me. You know what I mean? And tons of times a guy is fumbling, but I don't think, oh, he doesn't know what he's doing, right? So like this guy should know

Starting point is 00:11:00 that if you're, even if you're fumbling, I'm just going to think you don't know what I like. You know, that's what a girl's going to think. She's not going to think you don't know what the fuck you're doing. So I think that, you know, just ask like. Does this feel good? Do you want more? Like, and to go by her body and be like super intuitive and in tune. And instead of in your head, worried about, oh my God, I'm not going to do a good job. Just be more into trying to take cues from the girl. Because I think both partners, men and women, give you cues of what they like and what they don't like, you know. And I feel like sex is so animalistic in a way, right? That you almost like if you just like, yeah, but it's a matter

Starting point is 00:11:37 of getting out of your head. So if you're not confident, maybe it is like listening to to Wyo's episode where she talks about the, like the psychology of stuff that you need to go through before you get into the physical stuff. Because if you're in your head about it, like, nothing's going to work. Totally. I mean, it's just not very fun to do a body thing from the place of head, unless you're giving head, and that's a little bit different. I will also say, though, I have met some people, no one's bad at anything, but I certainly have encountered some partners who truly were unskilled, and I had to show them, move your hips like this, match my rhythm with yours, find your own thing, a grip it like this. Instead of like deathy,

Starting point is 00:12:16 pokey hard fingers, follow my body. You know, and so, so it's, it's a matter of being willing to speak the need and receive the message and practice and have fun. You know, it's all an exploration. It's not about like getting an A plus. Yeah. And I think the longer that person sort of stays in their head thinking about it afraid to do it, the only like the worse it gets. You know what I mean? Like you have to put, I think even just a part of being voluble. is putting yourself in the position to be with a partner, really fumble, not know what the fuck you're doing, have them react in whatever way, even worse case scenario. At the end of the day, what's going to happen? You're not going to die. That person's going to forget about you two days

Starting point is 00:12:56 later. They're still not thinking about it. You're going to take five showers because you feel so embarrassed. And then you're going to like move on with your life. So you got to kind of like face your fear. Do you know what I'm saying? Like the worst case scenario. But the more you do it, the better you're going to get and then you're going to push past it. You know, listen, there is beducated. I love, Beducated is one of my sponsors. Bedicated is one of my sponsors too. There you go. Bedicated has real classes and they're really good. My booty call guy that goes down to me, I know for a fact and he'll never admit it. I know for a fact like he took classes or hired or professional or something because the way he goes down on me is like nothing I've ever

Starting point is 00:13:36 experienced before. I was like, you learn this shit. You know what I mean? Like every, move that I never experienced he would do. It was like otherworldly. And you know what? Bejicated has a cuddlingus class. And they show you. And the thing about Pettucated, that's so cool. It's like the cunneliest class there are 10 moves you could do on a girl's pussy with your mouth. And they show you. Like there is a guy going down on a girl's pussy in the video. That's how you learn on Beducated. So take some classes because I know for me like if I'm going to get up and speak in front of a lot of people, if I'm not prepared or I don't feel like I know what I'm going to say like I'm going to fumble and fuck up and I'm going to be really nervous. But if I prepared a lot, the more I prepared, the less

Starting point is 00:14:16 nervous I'm going to be. So take some educated classes. Go take some classes or go see a professional if it's legal where you're at. I don't know if you're allowed to say, yeah, do legal things. And I will say beducated is the reason that I got so good at prostate and butt stuff. Like I watched all of those classes and it upleveled my skills. You know, and of course you do need to exercise. those skills on real humans. And that's where I follow the fun. So learn the skills and then follow the fun, stay present with your partner.

Starting point is 00:14:44 And if you need help, there are ways to get help in all forms. Yeah, and just communicate and ask her girl what she likes. Or if it's a guy, like, you know, do you like this? Do you like your ball? You know, because like some guys like their balls to be touched and licked and whatever. Some guys don't. You know what I mean? Every guy is like different.

Starting point is 00:15:00 And you just got to ask a question. Every single time that I do a dick check at the ranch, you know, because we have to. Touch around for everything, swab, we look for any cuts, nicks, scratch, anything we need to know to play safely. So that's always when I'll, like, tickle the ball and be like, do you have balls like getting played with? And the amount of people whose answer is, I don't know, I don't know, is, it's surprising. I'm like, what? Really?

Starting point is 00:15:22 Yeah, there's a lot of them that are like, I don't know. I'm like, you don't know, like, you don't know, I'm like, you've never had, you've never tried or, or like, if they're like, oh, they're sensitive? I'm like, are they, like, painful sensitive? and sometimes there's painful, sensitive ones, but there are so many people that are just like, oh, I don't know, I've never really had them played with. And so I'm like, well, we'll fix that. So, yeah.

Starting point is 00:15:44 Yeah, I think that's, yeah, I think that a lot of guys surprised. I thought all guys like their balls to be touched and whatever. But it turns out, like, not all them do at all. I love it. Do you like playing with balls? Yeah. Yeah, and I like big, saggy old man balls. Like, you know what I mean?

Starting point is 00:16:01 Like my friends used to always make fun of me. Getting grip. Yeah. Yeah, oh, that's rude. No, I like to be able to, like, grab them or hold them or just, you know, whatever it want. I like to do whatever I want. I like how they feel when they're banging you.

Starting point is 00:16:13 Like when they're fucking you, they flap on you. And that's what I always, that's why I like the long, saggy hanging ones. It's like an extra thing going on down there. That's what I used to like them for. Totally agree. But my booty cool guy, he doesn't have, like, big balls and he doesn't really like them touch. So, you know, it's out.

Starting point is 00:16:28 But I'll always go for the balls. But, and guys will tell you, like, you know, no. Or they're like, uh-uh. you know, or they say, yeah, but you could just like try, you know, and someone's going to let you, most people will let you know either through their words or through their body language, what they have. And it's just a matter of staying present and really sort of focusing on the vibe of the other person, of the other person. Yeah. Do you want to do the next question? No, you could keep going. I like your questions. Oh. This one's fun. I recently discovered I

Starting point is 00:16:57 love role play by accident. I hooked up with someone who jokingly called himself, I hooked up with someone who jokingly called himself Detective Daddy, and my body was like, oh, hello, yes. But when I went to talk, I totally panicked and said, I am also a detective, then immediately apologize and froze. Luckily, he kept gently talking to me in character until I relaxed and I was able to get into it. And now I want to explore this side of myself, costumes, scenarios, everything. But when I try to initiate, I get stage fright and I start laughing.

Starting point is 00:17:29 Any advice for people like me who love the idea of role play, but feel ridiculous actually doing it? From S. Oh my God. I love, first of all, you don't even need to feel ridiculous because you already made an ass out of yourself and your guy could have cared less. You are with the perfect partner. I wish I had a partner like you because I love role play, but I feel like an asshole doing stuff. But like, you know, but because she has this amazing, it's a she, right? because she has this amazing partner that like she said the most ridiculous thing but his dick was hard and he wasn't getting out of character and he didn't give a fuck. He stayed in character, got her on track. He's going to keep doing it and the more you do it with him, you're not going to fuck up anymore. But this guy doesn't care if you make a fool out of yourself. So you're like I don't know if this is your booty call or a one off like that's the guy you need to keep doing it with. I know right. That was my first thought. So you got to keep hooking up with him. Yeah. I'm like I'm like I would just feed this person. Yeah. I'm like I would just feed this person.

Starting point is 00:18:27 all the role plays you're interested in, you know, add some costumes. Yeah. Because it sounds like this person was able to get into it with the right container of a partner who was taking it seriously. Because I've, like, when I counsel couples who've like tried to do role play stuff, they're like, I don't know, it was dumb. I don't know. We were just laughing.

Starting point is 00:18:43 It's like, well, you didn't commit. Of course. You know, have you done ballplay stuff, Kathy? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. No, no, no. I had one guy and he was an actor, comedian guy and he was a long-term beauty call. And we would do like the landlord where I fuck my landlord.

Starting point is 00:18:57 already comes over to fix something and I fuck him like hot stuff like that I like it I like like the motel guy the guy that's running the cheap motel and I fuck him like you know stuff like that we role played that kind of stuff all the time but he was like a good actor and I felt so comfortable with him I can't explain it like you know how some people you just feel comfortable with certain things and other people you don't and because he was so into it I was able to like really get into it but like with my guy now I don't and I think it's because I don't know I don't have that relationship so I can be shy about it but there's nothing better than having to a partner like push you through it. I think sometimes those bad couples are just like two bad

Starting point is 00:19:32 people together because somebody has to be like that her guy in the scenario that doesn't giggle. You know what I mean? Like if one person's giggling that's fine like they need someone to keep him on track. I was with like a full-fledged real actor who was like a really good actor. So there was no way he was going to get out of character either. I was able to do it with him and all that. So I think it's a matter of finding that right person and doing it. And yeah, you have to meet that right concoction because if you're both laughing, that's not good. If you're both nervous, that's not good. Somebody's got to take the lead. Because when you do it, it is fucking fun. But you got to get really into it. Like you really got to commit. I agree. And as a person who facilitates a lot of

Starting point is 00:20:15 sometimes it's not even full role play. However, it's an invitation to playfulness that can then blossom, you know, so even just starting with a simple, like, it's just like a little tone or a like bid for playful connection. And this is where, okay, hear this in a not gross way, hear this in a correct adult way, calling upon the playful parts from childhood where we would play pretend all the time. You know, that's the skill. Like, I'm a trained actor, but it doesn't matter if the other person isn't and won't play with me. And I just noticed that when they're when they're too self-conscious to have fun, it's a bummer. But that doesn't happen with me very much. I think because I am playful by nature and then when I invite someone into it, you know, and I had someone

Starting point is 00:20:58 visit me and they wanted to do a mailman role play and they knocked on my door, you know, this was at the ranch and they knocked on the door and opened it and I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, it's fine. Oh, like, oh, you're delivering the mail directly to me? Oh, you want to come in, you know, and so just, and so it's some, they're different tones, right? They're the people that are like so committed, so in character. Those are the people that if they get to a kinky BDSM power exchange, they never break their role. And then they're the people that like will giggle and go back into it. And there's a whole, you know, and I would say a great entry point that I have heard people do and I haven't yet tried it myself would be, this is one of my fantasies. Like, you know, go to a bar,

Starting point is 00:21:38 sit at the counter, or wherever, I don't drink, but like go to wherever somewhere and then have that person approach you as if they're a stranger, you know, so still being very normal and peopley, but that's kind of like a low barrier to entry, not too silly, you know, you're not being a superhero. My first attempt, when I was 22, I dressed up as a superhero for my boyfriend, and I was so ready to do a roleplay, and I surprised him with it as he came home because he'd like mentioned he wanted that. But we didn't roleplay at all. It was totally normal other than me being like super. What happened? We just went straight to sex. How did it not turn it? You were wearing, oh, you went straight to sex. Well, while you were wearing your outfit? Yeah, he just like loved that

Starting point is 00:22:11 I dressed up. And I like, I was like, I was like, I'm the super, whatever I called myself. And I was like, hello. You know, I've, and he just like got excited. And then we didn't, do any like actual role you know because we hadn't discussed it this was early 22 year old me that didn't know how to communicate at all I was like just so happy to be having sex you know and then I was like why don't role plays work because I didn't understand the other person has to play back with you yeah and that's the whole thing like I think there's just like a compatibility thing that happens in a chemistry thing and sometimes you have it with someone and sometimes you don't you're like my guy that I used to role play with like you're a great

Starting point is 00:22:50 partner to role play with because you have that acting thing and you could totally commit and you're into it. So if you have the giggly person that makes it ass, you're not going to give a shit at all and you're just going to keep going like that guy that she talked about. But I think so many people that are in are hard. And so when you get that, like I said, like those, that couple that you've talked about that are both giggly and both embarrassed and both shy, it's probably not going to work out. But I think role playing is so great. And I always like even recommend it to couples. Like you're talking about like going to a bar and pretending a stranger like a lot of couples like where the guy really wants a hot wife and the girl is not that into it yet because she doesn't want to just go out and fuck a stranger like you know I'm like well go to a bar pretend you met a stranger and then go home and pretend he's there like there's so many things like role play and fantasy talking about fantasies like bring this all in you don't have to like role play a landlord and motel guy that's going to fuck you or like a superhero because that's something. sometimes might be a little uncomfortable for people.

Starting point is 00:23:49 You could just role play another person in your thing because you're really into the hot wiping thing or a threesome or, you know, and that's a matter of just putting your fantasies on the table and using toys and stuff to mock up that somebody else is there and bring in like a, like role play a scenario. Yes. You know. And that works too. And that's like great for couples.

Starting point is 00:24:10 I have talked to so many couples where just role playing has completely changed the game. You don't even need to go fuck the other. people. You can just talk about it. Yeah. But if you do want to fuck the other people, SDC is great. Yeah. We both have affiliate links. Oh. But I get your number. I got your number. The link is in the description below. 7-7-1-2. But the other thing is, like you said, having a scenario can be great. So if you know the shape of the scene, it releases the pressure from needing to improv in a larger way, and then you get to say the words and you kind of know the shape of it. And the other thing is, I don't know if this person is going to be able to connect with this hookup buddy again or not or if they're going to keep dating.

Starting point is 00:24:52 But if that person's not available, you know, say you don't have a partner yet or you're kind of like in this exploratory phase or maybe the hookup buddy is a travel friend. Who knows? But improv classes, finding fun other ways to play, finding fun other ways or even just chatting with strangers in the world. I talk to people at the grocery store all the time. And I am increasingly hearing from other people that they're scared to even like make, you know, small stakes conversation out in the wild. And I would say, especially if you're in a larger city, it's a great, it's a great place to just do humaning. And it's good for you. Releases oxytocin.

Starting point is 00:25:21 It makes you feel purposeful in the world, you know. And then next thing you know, you'll be role playing with that hot stranger you met at the grocery store. My fantasy. Yeah. And listen, you're being a new guy. Tell him you're into roleplay. I would say probably seven out of ten times. The guy's going to be like, oh, that's fucking hot.

Starting point is 00:25:38 Let's roll play. Like, what are you thinking? You know what I mean? I think a lot of guys would be into it. And as long as you roll like your partner, right? when you have a new person, you know, if you're taking the lead and you're the confident one in the role play, you know, make sure you treat your partner the same way. Like, you know, really ease that guy into your role play scenario and don't laugh if he breaks character. Do what this guy did, which was

Starting point is 00:26:02 don't lose that character. Don't start laughing with him. Stay in character so you could get that guy to keep going. Yeah. So just you bring it up to a new partner, you know, and then roll like the guy did for you because that guy was smart. Oftentimes. That's the person you could role play with. Yeah. If someone I'm with starts like giggling and coming out of it, I turn that into the role play.

Starting point is 00:26:24 I'm like, oh my God, your laughter makes me even hornier. Like, whatever it is, I just let it fuel the scene. Like I take that. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Oh my God. You're like. You're like.

Starting point is 00:26:33 You know, or we'll make it something else. I'll make it like, oh, I have something on my shirt. I guess you're right. I should take it off. Like whatever it is. Yeah, I think that, you know, I think you need to get an actor. I think this is like what you're saying. You need an actor because like my favorite role play person was an actor.

Starting point is 00:26:51 You're like professional role play scenario and you're an actress. So I think, you know, that really helps if it's someone creative. You know, some people just don't have a good imagination. I disagree. No offense. I don't know. I don't think most people are. I think some people have zero fucking imagination.

Starting point is 00:27:07 I disagree. And that's a problem. I have asked certain guys like, I will you could do anything you want like let's do something totally crazy and like they can't even think of one thing I have been with people that have zero imagination you know I don't know if that's being uptight or they just don't have any no I think I think that I think that society creative people have all of it no creative people are people who have worked that muscle and allowed it I think every single human is inherently creative sexes are original creativity is my personal thesis and most people are living

Starting point is 00:27:39 lives where their creative proclivities are shut down or they've been laughed at or judged or like, you know, there's a reason everyone's like afraid to show their vulnerable, playful parts because they've been shot upon so often. And so it's like when people don't have ideas, usually I think it's because they have been low-key traumatized or have been in situations where they haven't practiced thinking of ideas and their dopamine systems are a little fucked up because the way that screens work, you know, it messes up our system so we don't have hope. We don't have imagination unless we practice. So I prep because I know that when I give people permission, they meet me. I'm sorry, if somebody started talking to me in the grocery store, like would you just come up

Starting point is 00:28:16 to me? Like, what do you mean you just start talking to people at the grocery store? Usually people talk to me. And it's, and it's usually about, it's usually about like, so I'm like, I'd be a little bit like irritated if someone's trying to talk to me at the grocery store. It's usually in scenarios where it like makes sense, you know, it's like we're like looking at apples together. They complement my gold boots or whatever it is. You know, there's some little bid for human connection or or even just like, oh, you go first. I only have two, you know, like, whatever, whatever it is. But I, people chat with me wherever I go. I don't know, open energy field here. No, no, no. Listen, I could just talk to the person at the deli and get their whole life

Starting point is 00:28:52 story in two seconds, you know, when I do it. But like I, if somebody was approached me, you know, I'd be like, I don't know, at the grocery store. But yeah, okay, do you have any other good, I like your question? I have another good one. Really good mine or like basic. Okay, that was the first three questions. You're going to hear the rest of, you're going to have a few more questions next Sunday. So make sure to tune back in. But anyway, thanks so much for listening. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 20. but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it

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Starting point is 00:30:50 than getting the link from me. Okay. I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other. And that's what you get to do there. You can post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total strictly anonymous community and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord. It's private, like I said. All you got to do is email me a screenshot of your purchase, whether you did the audio book, the ebook or the paperback. Send it to me at strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. That's strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. And I will send you the link.

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Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1298 - Finding Kinky Partners, Role Playing, Confidence in the Bedroom and More w/Luna

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