Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1305 - Booty Calls, Pegging Guys and More w/Luna

Episode Date: December 14, 2025

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Starting point is 00:00:00 This is a Q&A that I had with Luna from Sex Stories Podcast. She got a bunch of questions. We answered them. We did a bunch of them. I'm breaking them up into smaller episodes because this is Sunday Quick Hit bonus app. So this time you're going to hear us answer two questions, but we go on and on about them. One is about pegging. A guy wants his girl to peg him.
Starting point is 00:00:22 Now, even if you don't want your girl to peg him, you should listen to this because I personally think everybody would like a little pegging, okay, if you tried it. And then the second question is somebody's asking about booty calls. Like they want their booty calls to be a little bit more intimate. Now, this is when I had a problem with because I don't know. Should intimate and booty calls exist in the same sentence? I don't know. You got to listen.
Starting point is 00:00:44 So anyway, I'm going to get right to it. I'm not going to drag on these bonus episodes. I'm just going to get right to it and be right back on with Luna and the first question. Well, this one's perfect for us. I'm a straight cat in my 40s who always thought Peggy. was for other people. But after hearing you talk about prostate play, I wonder if you heard our episode.
Starting point is 00:01:05 I haven't stopped thinking about it. My wife is open to trying new things, but I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I'm springing some big new surprise kink on her. What's the smoothest least embarrassing way to bring this up? I have many ideas.
Starting point is 00:01:18 Do you want to start us off, Kathy? You want me to, or do you want to start? You have all the good questions. So you start this one. Okay. Well, I mean, first of all, it sounds like the wife is open to trying new things. So it sounds like maybe they already have some sort of like procedure or dialogue around it,
Starting point is 00:01:34 but it also sounds like this is edging. So it's like I would say share it in a fantasy, share it in a dream, share it in a, I heard this thing on a podcast, you know, take the temperature of what the other person thinks about that activity. I know that oftentimes it's nice to when someone has like a super kinky fantasy, they're like, I had this crazy dream. What do you think? And then I also think that anchoring like, you know, if you want to get straight,
Starting point is 00:01:58 to it and not kind of like dance around. I think it's really hot when people start with like, I want to try this thing and I feel nervous about how you're going to react or like I feel scared to share. Like for me that leading with vulnerability oftentimes creates a space where no matter what I say, even if the other person is not into it per se, they won't laugh at me or give me a yuck response. And so, you know, and I have many people who come to me that are like, I can't say it. And I'm like, I literally have heard so much, like you can say it. And so once that safe container is in place, they can try it. I don't know.
Starting point is 00:02:33 What are your initial thoughts? Listen, it's a hard one. I think what happens a lot of times is like, and I've heard people say this about fetishes, and this is no different because it's kind of loaded and your girl might have a lot of questions, but you have to allow for that. And sometimes people just think, you know, it's the movies.
Starting point is 00:02:50 You're going to say one sentence and they're going to agree, and you're going to live happily ever after, and she's going to be pegging you in two minutes without a question asked. You know, most likely that's not going to be the case, but what you have to understand, and someone said this one's about a fetish, like, you know, you've been sitting there thinking about like being pegged and what it means to you and you've explored yourself and all of these things forever and you're in your own mind so you know what all of this means, but you have to understand that when you put that on the table with her, she has zero clue.
Starting point is 00:03:20 If she's never heard this before, she's most likely going to ask questions. And unfortunately, I don't know why because I'm sorry. Like, you know, my guy I've talked about goes down on me all the time. And that's what lesbians do. But just because I like my guy to go down on me and give me oral sex doesn't mean I'm a lesbian. Okay. Same thing like it doesn't mean like if a lesbian fucks her girlfriend with a strap on that, that means her girlfriend is heterosexual.
Starting point is 00:03:47 Okay. She probably never wants to see a dick, but she still wants to get strapped on fucked by her girlfriend. Okay. It doesn't turn her fucking straight. just like strapping it on and fucking your husband is not going to turn him quote unquote gay. But she might think that like this is unfortunately something that has like this huge stigma attached to it.
Starting point is 00:04:05 And I could go on and on about the stupid stigma on anal and guy on guy action and all this nonsense because it really bothers me. And it's like so I just feel like unfortunately she might be like what does that mean? Do you want a real dick? Like do you like guys like blah blah blah. Like it could, you know, and you're going to have to answer all those questions. because that may come up. And a lot of times, and this is what's great about podcasts.
Starting point is 00:04:30 Like, I don't know about you, but like I'm always getting like emails from people like, oh, thank you so much. I started getting my wife to listen to your podcast and we learned so much and now we're doing all these things. So like, you know, maybe you're going to need to educate her a little bit about it because a lot of women, including me, don't think that they would be into fucking a guy in the ass, right? Like it's like, oh, that's, I don't want to be the dominant one.
Starting point is 00:04:51 I don't want to see you like bent over, you know, like. A lot of women are afraid of that shift in power to see their guy in a different way and they don't know how they feel. But I would say nine out of ten times when I have talked to people and I've talked to a lot of people that have strapped it on and pegged their guy, every girl is like, even the ones that didn't think that they would like it are like, oh my God, like they got really into it. Even if they started just doing it for their guy because they were cool and they're like, my guy likes it. I'm just going to do it, but I'm not that into it. Eventually they got into it. They felt like a whole different thing, even if they didn't realize that they'd wanted to be dominant or get in touch with that side of themselves.
Starting point is 00:05:28 So, you know, you might have to ease her into it. And I think sometimes educating your partner on the fact that not only is this something that you're into, but this is something that a lot of guys are. And listen, maybe it means that you want a real dick one day. Maybe it doesn't. And she needs to know all those things. So whatever it does mean to you, you need to explain it to her. and then go share some podcast episodes
Starting point is 00:05:53 and show her that there's plenty of guys out there, if you're straight, that like to get fucked in the ass by their girls, you know, and it doesn't mean anything. Like I said, it's not going to turn them any which way. And I think that's going to be the biggest problem.
Starting point is 00:06:06 The other thing is maybe she doesn't want to be the dominant one. Most girls have that go-to submissive. This is the third time you should be dominant, and I have to interrupt you to say pegging has nothing to do with dominance or submission. The first time I pegged a guy was as a submissive. Yeah. But that's another incorrect assumption. Yeah, it's literally, it's topping.
Starting point is 00:06:26 But don't you think that that's what his, like, that's what women feel like. If I, if I knew what the average woman thought, I wouldn't be here. I'd probably be married with a white person. Like, I don't know. I'm not good at that. This person is asking you a question. This is the regular person asks you this question. But this person's asking me this question.
Starting point is 00:06:47 Okay. Well, I feel like the wife might see it as being. the more dominant person and like her guys bent over. Because typically like even if like you're talking about like a, it's like a bottoming, you know, you think the bottom is more of a sub and the top is more of the dominant. Not necessarily. I think it's a typical, it might not be right. I'm just saying that I think a lot of women don't think that they're going to enjoy doing the pegging
Starting point is 00:07:09 because that's like more of the power of position. And yet I find that most women say they actually fucking loved it. We both have both sides of ourself, that in ourselves. It's really great to explore both, whether it's right or wrong. So I'm just saying that because I think that way, I think there's tons of people that think that way, and that could be a barrier. But most girls actually, they, by the way, sorry,
Starting point is 00:07:32 the girls that have told me that they loved it have said that they feel very powerful. And they feel like really in control. I'm a woman who loves it. Right. So it is a more powerful position. It's a leading position. It's fun to strap a dick on and to use it on someone, for me, whether they have a pussy or an asshole or both.
Starting point is 00:07:51 You know, like that's just, it's fun to wear a dick. Like that on its own is fun. And also this person said that the wife is open-minded. So maybe she has fantasies of wanting to bring another guy in and have that kind of a threesome. But she's like, oh, I couldn't possibly ask my husband because what if he thinks that I want him to be get? And I think also a great gateway drug to all sorts of anal play is a little finger up the butt when you're fucking. Like, it's hot, you know, either direction talking about it ahead of time. always using lube, always trimming the nails.
Starting point is 00:08:22 But that was the gateway drug for me. Like my first boyfriend, the one that like, you know, skipped the role play and went straight to the sex, that was like the first thing that he was like, I would love to try this. And I was like, I didn't know. That was an option. And when I put that little finger in, just a just a tiny little nub, I got such a like next level zing of curiosity. It was like my gateway to being a butt slut.
Starting point is 00:08:42 And so I definitely think, you know, I think at least talking about the idea in fantasy. See, and like you said, answering all the questions. And a person may not know, like, oh, does this mean I want a real dick? Or they might think they know right now and everything evolves. You know, I think that's what I've learned, you've learned, and we've learned together over all these years. It's like, our desires change depending on the season, depending on the connection, depending on the person, depending on innumerable factors. So I think there's lots of good options. And, yeah, I don't think it's some big new kink surprise.
Starting point is 00:09:17 I think it could be a slow simmer. And I'm open to hearing more specifics because I'm like, it sounds like they have a dialogue, but it also sounds like there's fear. So I'm curious about this specific. Yeah, because he's a question. Yeah, because I think that there is a stigma. And he's worried that she might have
Starting point is 00:09:34 all the things that might feel all the ways that we've talked about. And that's why so many guys, like I'm like my mission in life and everyone that listens to my show knows and I always say this on my butter wellness ads, like is to get guys into anal fucking action with themselves with another guy. I don't care. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:09:52 But like in half and I'm always like half the guys out there have gone to that part of their body at some point and played with it. I mean, come on. And then half the guys that don't, it's because of like the stigma. And then there's like, you know, all the rest of the guys that are like happily admitting to it, you know? But it's like ridiculous that there is this big stigma around it. And it's only because it's like attached to being gay or something.
Starting point is 00:10:15 which is I'm like horrified that that's even still a fucking issue, you know, and I don't understand why anal sex or anything anal for guys get such a bad rap, you know, and it's unfortunately this ridiculous stigma. And some guy on Facebook when I shared an episode about guy and guy action and why it's not available or like allowed in the lifestyle. He's like, he was like, you know, it's not a stigma. It's that we just don't find it hot and it's actually a turnoff and that's why it's not allowed. And I'm just like, that's even worse than a stigma. I don't want, I'm like, forget about getting stuck on words. That's even ruder to say that just because it doesn't turn you on, it shouldn't be allowed in lifestyle clubs. It's like the most ridiculous thing, you know?
Starting point is 00:10:58 And like I said, it's like, check out your asshole, okay? Me and WIO are both three input girls. And you know what I mean? That's one thing we could relate to. We both know what it feels like. It's like and great. So if you haven't gone there, try it. And if you're, you want to tell your wife, you're just going to have to like put it out there. Maybe just start talking about fantasies and maybe bring up like, hey, is there something that you want to try that you never tried before and see if there's stuff that she wants to bring them to the table? And then you could say, hey, like, you know what?
Starting point is 00:11:24 I was like thinking maybe I'd want to like get a toy and like play around with that part of my body. Why not? Yeah. And talk about the health benefits of prostate massage. It's good to have blood flow everywhere. Exactly. But be prepared to share a podcast or two. It's such a, it's such a normal thing.
Starting point is 00:11:43 tons of guys like it. If like I said, if you are straight, I have like 80,000 episodes of straight guys that would completely admit to me if they're not that love to be fucked in the ass by their girls. And that's just what it is. And it doesn't mean anything more than,
Starting point is 00:11:56 you know, it feels really good. Also, as a person who often has friends seek me out for information around this, a lot of the ladies that I personally know have, have some version of like, wait, you do that?
Starting point is 00:12:09 How do I do it? I don't know. So it's almost like, like you said, requires some education if it's new to them. And also, I think... Oh, it's very hard to do, right? No, it's not hard.
Starting point is 00:12:20 No, it just takes a little care. No. Kathy, I look forward to the day. I look forward to the day where you call me. You're not the normal person. Okay, I'm talking about all the girls that have talked to me. They say it's like a little bit weird to maneuver at first and get used to the strap on and moving it and, you know, going back and forth and like everything.
Starting point is 00:12:40 Like, I don't think you're the... norm, okay, but I have heard 99% of the time is that it's not an easy thing to get used to, but once, but then you could get used to it, but any strap-on, you don't, you can't feel the dick. You don't even feel it. It's like not even attached to you. So it's like a little bit weird. I've even heard that for girls. I don't feel the dildo, but I have also shepherded several female partners into their first strap-on experiences. And I think, I don't know, none of them struggled with it. And I also don't think that saying that it's hard is very helpful. They don't know how to, they don't know how to put it on. They don't know how to wear a dick,
Starting point is 00:13:13 you know, and different dicks feel different, right? I have one dick that's a little floppier, so that is, and it's longer, so it's harder for people to control. But then there's one with a wire. Yeah, but it's, but you're making it sound hard. And when people have that story in their head to make odds really hard. No, it's clunky and weird. But I'm just, I'm just letting you know, I'm just letting you know, I have, I'm just, I'm just, I'm just letting you know that I have multiple personal experiences where I put it on them and then they were fucking me and they were great. So, you know, and that's not an asshole. Like with an asshole, you know, you really have to warm it up.
Starting point is 00:13:45 It's not just about sticking it in there. But that's, I think, I think it's also great for guys to get fucked in the ass so that they know how to be gentle if they don't, you know. Like, like warm up the whole. Yeah. And I say, and I'm sorry, my last thing for anal is like, whether you're the man or the woman wanting it, I think the best thing to do is actually, you know, do it with your partner. Because like so many girls are not into anal because some guy just like fuck them in the end. ass in one second, you know, after they made out with them for one minute. You know, and I'm always like, you want to know how to fuck your girl in the ass and get her into anal and make it feel good and have her really enjoy it. Fuck yourself in the ass at home by yourself, okay? And see how you like it to go.
Starting point is 00:14:27 Are you going to sit down, have zero four plate and just shove it in and start pounding? No. You're going to know exactly how to do. So whether your wife wants to do it or you want to do it, like play around on each other so you know because anal sex is not like you can just like start ramming somebody. There's like an art to it. And if you don't have good communication, you know, but I think the people that have gotten fucked and he has to know how to do it because they know what they like. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:14:52 I would always take the dick in my hand and I would control when it went in and when it went and I would say, okay, now harder, faster and then you come in like one second. You know what I mean? But a lot of people don't have a voice like that. So you really have to know. And I think the best way to know is like play with yourself. Like I said, this is one thing that everybody has. I am so looking forward to the day.
Starting point is 00:15:13 I hope it comes soon where you're like... God I fuck. I use straps that. Yeah, where you're like, Luna, I tried it. I know. Well, I am kind of good at everything right from the way to do. I'm very athletic. So I feel like I'd be good, but I think a lot of people aren't good.
Starting point is 00:15:27 A lot of people aren't good at it. And I could see why it would be like clunky and weird. But yeah, I'm one of those people that feels like, oh, I wouldn't want to be in like, oh, that like, oh, that. you know, like the guy in the scenario, the one with the dick and like going inside somebody. So that, you know, like I said, I see it as like the dominant whatever. But I do know because I've talked to so many people and I learn from my listeners. You know, I'm much more open minded and much more open to things now from talking to people because like so many women, like I said, have said, like, oh no, like you feel this thing.
Starting point is 00:16:01 And I was just had a whole kink episode on and somebody was talking about how they were like a sub their whole life. and then they switched to a dominatrix. And she realized like, you know, we all have both sides inside of us. And it's a wonderful thing to sort of explore both. So I think sometimes we just don't get out. I don't think I get out of my comfort zone enough. And I'm just that normal person that hasn't gone to that other place as a woman.
Starting point is 00:16:23 Because I do like to be more subby. But I probably love it too if I gave into that. But I'm like so dom in my regular life that I'm like never want to do that. But I think probably I'd love it. I just really love holes. The other thing I want to say, is it doesn't have to be a strap on. You can fuck someone
Starting point is 00:16:41 with a dildo in your hand. You can fuck someone with finger. You know, with a lot of people, I only get to the knuckle massage, maybe a finger, but that's enough for some people. And so that's, there's infinite exploration of holes to be had.
Starting point is 00:16:55 Oh yeah, the knuckle move. I did that on so many guys and they'd always be jamming their ass into it. Even the ones that are like, no, don't go there. It's a good gateway. Yeah. Don't go there anymore.
Starting point is 00:17:06 Okay. Any other thoughts? Ready for another question? Yeah. You do all your, you do question all the questions this time and then I'll get better ones next time. You go. You have the best questions. Okay. Okay. I travel for work a lot and hookups leave me feeling more lonely than satisfied. Oh, I shouldn't laugh. Let me start this over. Okay. Roll play. Role play. I thought you're a good role player. Okay. Don't edit that out. I travel for work a lot and hookups leave me feeling more lonely. only than satisfied, but I hear you talking about loving variety with people. How do you create intimate but temporary experiences without feeling like a robot cycling through people are?
Starting point is 00:17:48 Oh. Do you have thoughts? Do you want to start? I could start. I mean, like, you know, yeah, you start. I started the last one though. You have to say by that. Okay, listen, I would say like, you know, if you're just that type of person, then you have to, like, I don't know what kind of hookups this person is having when they're traveling. Like, are they just like, calling in a professional or are they just going to a bar and saying, hey, let's go up because, like, listen, I don't like to just like bang someone I don't know or have sex or whatever, but like there is a way to form a kind of connection, even short term if that's what you need, but you just have to like open up and maybe this person isn't doing enough for play before you're a hookup.
Starting point is 00:18:29 So if you see, you know, you're traveling, you only have one day. I feel like you still can build a connection in one day, but maybe you need a little bit more time with that person. You know what I mean? And if you're there only there for two days, take, you know, do a little bit more foreplay with the woman so you feel a little bit more connected. And then your variety hookups or, you know, one-off hookups won't feel so like detached because I get that. I'm that way. I like some sort of connection, but you don't have to be in love with somebody? And I think you, don't you think you could form a connection with somebody? Like in one day, if that's what you got in a way, that's a little bit more.
Starting point is 00:19:05 You know that I, that's literally what I do all the time, especially if I'm at the grocery store. You're doing it at the grocery store. Yeah, wherever I go. No, but I think I think you are absolutely spot on. And I think this question gets to the heart of the matter initially because it's like, yes, well, what do you actually want from the hookup? You know, it sounds like this person has had enough experiences where they're just going through the motions, however that went. And it's yielding these experiences that are not the vibe. And so I would say, look at what you're offering.
Starting point is 00:19:35 Look at what you're asking. I know that for me, the thing that has made casual sex, like, not the vibe is it felt like people were just like putting blinders on, holding their breath and like doing body part motions. And then they wanted to be so hypercontained because of logistics or we wouldn't see each other again or this or that. That it's like, I'm not trying to marry you, but I still want to have an interesting human connection. And it's not very interesting if it's only body parts. Like, I'll stay at home with my toys. that's all I'm looking for is a shape, you know? And so for me, even when I'm at the ranch,
Starting point is 00:20:08 you know, people like, oh, this sucks for money. You just take people's money. And I'm like, no, like each little chat in the bar with a stranger or even if someone makes an appointment with me, those first 10 minutes that we have to be humans together is me screening. Is this person a good fit to have in my energy field. Are we aligned in our values? Like, what do I want? And And this person must be a LR, you got to come forward with what you actually want. So even if you're traveling for business, like it's totally possible to have, you know, an app where it's totally possible on an app to be like, hey, I would love to take you on a great date.
Starting point is 00:20:45 I would love to learn a little bit about your life. And I'm only in town for a few days. But I'd love to have a real human connection and then play. And so for me, what makes that possible is the willingness to connect, my willingness to also share about myself and my genuine. desire and curiosity to get to know the person on the other end of the fucking connection. Because like I, I love having sex with different people because every single human energy is completely unique and different.
Starting point is 00:21:15 So I look at it as like, what will we co-cre? And I learn new stuff about sex all the time. Like, I didn't know I was going to suck on someone's nose and like it and have them suck on my nose. Like, you know what I mean? Like there's all these things that, you know, we don't know could happen. And so I think leading from a place of connection, regardless of the length of time that container will last, you know, and then being willing enough to be vulnerable to be your actual self, that makes sex way more fun. But if you're busy sort of being disassociated from each other, no wonder it feels like sad robots.
Starting point is 00:21:47 Like that's not the vibe. So I would say be genuinely curious both about the human being and their body parts and see what is the most fun and then share about yourself. Yeah, and I'm just going to dig it one step further and psychoanalyze this guy. Like me, it's a guy, right? I think so. I think so. Ray? I mean, like, maybe.
Starting point is 00:22:08 I don't know. Is Ray a girl or a guy? I don't know. Ray could be a girl or a guy. But this is what I'm saying, whether it's a woman or a man, like maybe, like, let's forget about the fact that, like, maybe you're trying to be somebody that you're not. And maybe the feelings that you're having and the emptiness that you're feeling with, you're feeling with this disconnected sex on your trips means that when you're not on your trips,
Starting point is 00:22:33 maybe you should be looking for a partner. Like maybe you're ready for something more. Maybe this isn't the right kind of sex for you anymore. And maybe your variety will be with a partner in a bedroom, like experimenting with that person. Like maybe you're just not just because WIO likes it and everybody else likes it. Like maybe that's not where you're at anymore. Like know thyself.
Starting point is 00:22:57 You know, maybe just because it's great for everybody doesn't mean that it is for you. And, you know, heed your, like, pay attention to your feelings. If it doesn't feel good, like, maybe don't, why do you need to fuck every time you go away on vacation? Like, why don't you go take a walk in the mountain or do something else instead of having, you know, hookups with strangers? And why not start hooking up more and doing the work to maybe find a real partner that you have a real connection with? So when you go on those trips, they go with you, or you don't feel that you need to go out and get the variety just because you think that's what you're supposed to. Totally.
Starting point is 00:23:32 So that's just my psychoanalysis that maybe there's something else going on. That's the other side of the same coin. Absolutely. And I would even say if this person is at a place where they're like, I want connection, but I'm scared of a relationship or they are wherever they are in their journey, that's where it's so great to find a sex positive community. They exist in most major cities, even medium-sized ones. and those are people who have meetups and munches outside of play parties.
Starting point is 00:23:55 And, you know, I feel like for work trips, people are often traveling to the same locales. You know, even if it's for a year or two, say you're never home in your home city. You're probably home a few days a month. Like, even I am home a few days a month now and then. I got almost a week this time. And so it is possible. And I know that it takes effort, especially with transitions coming and going, coming and going. And if you are seeking connection in a casual way, it can be really nice.
Starting point is 00:24:21 to have play friends where you grow a relationship without growing a romantic partnership unless that's what you want. But I agree with you. It sounds like this person is wanting something more. Yeah, even for my booty call guys, I've always have like long-term booty call guys because I don't want to fuck somebody that I don't know and that I'm not friends with. And I have, you know, no feelings other than close friendship with the people that I fuck, but I know them. And to me, the sex is always going to be so much better with that person than a total stranger because they know. know what I like. I know what they like and I like to know that I'm going to be satisfied every time, you know.
Starting point is 00:24:56 And like some people don't roll that way, but it just sounds like this person maybe is a little bit different than they think. And you need to just like maybe try something new. Yeah. Like I said, like why do you need to fuck people every time you go away? Totally. Totally. But I also get it.
Starting point is 00:25:13 I'm like, I was a crazy. I was so disorganized in my brain and my thinking when I didn't know where. sex was going to be coming from next, I would make crazy decisions. So, you know, we're all on our journey. We're all on our journey. Yeah, yeah. See, I'm like, been so, in my life, I've rarely had, like, long-term relationships and in between the short, long-term relationships I did have, I always had a booty call. Like, I've never not had a booty call. There's never been a time in my life that there wasn't one guy that was servicing me, and that person was my friend, and that was somebody that I had spun out emotionally at some point, and like, you know what I mean? Like, I know
Starting point is 00:25:50 how to do a successful booty call. I'll never like the person. I don't feel one feeling for them. It's a service call, but it's completely satisfying. And I always have that. So I don't ever feel the need. I don't have the need for sex, really, because I'm always have it if I want it. That's great. It's hard for me to understand that. Oh, that's great. Yeah. That's great. But I believe in booty calls. You know what I mean? But they have their place. They have their place and they, and I could do a whole episode on how to have a successful booty call that for another time. You should do a whole episode on how to have a successful booty call. Let's do the next one.
Starting point is 00:26:22 Let's the next one. Because I did one. I actually did one with my long-term booty call guy, Tommy, who was my co-host. And, you know, it was a really funny episode many, many years ago. But I know how to, I'm not going to give it away here because my battery is going to go dead any minute. And we might have to end this. But like, I say next time we talk about booty calls and we'll get some questions on that because I know how to have a successful one. and I know why most people
Starting point is 00:26:48 fucking fail at them, okay? Okay. And now I just want to talk about it, but I have to leave. I have to, now I want to go off and tell you everything that I feel,
Starting point is 00:26:56 but I can't. Okay, well, we'll save it for a deep conversation because I feel like, I feel like that's going to be in You can say so much more too, right? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:04 And mine's evolved so much through the years. Okay. There are a few more questions. I'm going to have that in the part three. I'm just doing like 20 minute, 30 minute bonus episodes on Sunday. the month of December to try different things out to figure out what I'm going to do permanently in 2006.
Starting point is 00:27:24 There's a few more questions coming up. So stay tuned for next week's episode with the conclusions of our Q&A. Let me know in the comment section if you enjoy the Q&A's. Maybe I'll do more of those in January. Anyways, thanks so much for tuning in. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, It's called Strictly Anonymous Confession. Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers is now available not only in paperback and e-book, but you can
Starting point is 00:27:54 pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. There's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story.
Starting point is 00:28:17 Like I said, 17 stories, and they're all told in the third person, and they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person, and I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like Penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories, 17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read.
Starting point is 00:28:44 you could read, you know, one or two and then skip around. You could read the whole book. It's available in eback format, paperback format. And finally, the audio book is available coming out August 25th. But you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre-order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint. Okay. There's no way you get into my Discord any other way than getting the link from me. Okay. I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other.
Starting point is 00:29:19 And that's what you get to do there. You can post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total, strictly anonymous community. And you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord.
Starting point is 00:29:36 It's private, like I said. All you got to do is email me a screenshot of your purchase, whether you did the audiobook, the ebook or the paperback. Send it to me at Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. That's Strictly Anonymous Podcasts at gmail.com. And I will send you the link to Discord. So anyway, thanks so much for tuning in.

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