Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1319 - Do I Get Turned on by my Guests, What I learned About Sex from my Show and More A Q&A w/Kathy

Episode Date: December 28, 2025

This is another new, short Q&A bonus ep where I answer following questions submitted by a listener; which fave guest/guests would I be most interested in getting an update from, which guest's story turned me on the most and what have I learned about sex from my show that I wished I had learned earlier?? Tune in to hear my specific answer plus hear all the details including why many guests leave me wanting to know more and which guests are the ones I'm still thinking about long after we speak, the shame I used to have surrounding specific fantasies, what those are and why I dont have shame about them anymore, the cuckquan episode that changed me and what it made me realize about myself, what I'm really thinking about when I'm talking to my guests and how turned on I am, how and when I come up with the questions I ask my listeners plus a whole lot more.  GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712  Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.  Sponsors: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! ⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠ — To get 10% off DRIVE Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Use the code STRICTLY at checkout for 20% OFF your entire order⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2540-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠— Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://motorbunny.com/strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Holiday Sale PLUS $50 off! Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

that this is a Q&A. This one's going to be just me alone. I'm answering three questions. Shout out to the guy on Insta who sent them to me. Okay, so listen, he wanted to know first question, and I think they're good questions. If you could do a follow-up or where are they now, one that, you know, on one guest only that you think about because his or her story was so unforgettable, who would that be? Now, the fact that you say it has to be one person is like, that's not effing possible. I have like literally 1,300 episodes as of today. So the first one that comes to my mind, and this has been one of probably my first ones for a long time, no one's beat this out yet, is two guests that were on my show that came on separate and then came on together.

They were in a situation ship. It was Aries, A-R-E-S, and Raven. Okay, Aries had a cut queen wife to let him go fuck other girls. And he met this dominatress. And he was calling me like on the DL talking about this sort of situation that he, situation ship that he was in because he was falling for this dominatrix girl. Okay. And that's where we left off on his episode.

And then Raven called me because I'm like, get that dominatrix on my show. And she happened to have such an interesting backstory. She was married to a very true cuck. I mean, this guy loved for her to just like fucking humiliate him, tease it. him, not fuck him, fuck other guys, all that kind of good stuff. And I always honestly say, like, that is a real hard line for a girl to follow and not lose respect for a guy. Sorry, like, if you want your girl to be constantly, like, putting you down and denying and calling you a piece of garbage, like, I don't know how anyone stays hot for that guy long term, right? That was her story.

Now, turns out they were together. Like I said, he was talking to me on the DL. And I'm only cop to this now because the fact is he wound up coming on and talking about. this, not on the DL, but, you know, when he was sort of talking to me about how he was falling for this girl, I was like, these people are going to wind up fucking. And they did, okay, and they came on together. They crossed the line. They started fucking each other. She was, like, madly in love with him. Seemed like she was very much over her guy, even though she wasn't over him when we spoke. And Aries seemed like he was still attached to his wife, and even though he was so down with Raven and in love with her. It didn't seem like he was going to leave her. And that is where we left it off at the

end of their episode. There was three episodes you could listen to. Okay, maybe I'll re-air them over the holidays when I do repeats because you had to hear his episode first and then Raven came on and then they came on together. And then everybody was dying to see like what happened? Did he leave his wife? Did she leave her husband? Did they wind up together like in the movies? And only I know that. the answer because I did reach out to them and I was like, give me an update. And they were like, no, we're not doing an update, but this is the update. Okay. I am not allowed to say what the update is. They didn't want to come up and talk about it. But their update would have been one of the best updates ever to have put on the show, I think personally, because it was such a dramatic

episode of them together. Both of their stories separate of each other, was so fascinating and complex and it was they were just so fucking good so listen aries and raven if you're listening just let me just call in and give us the update you already gave it to me give everybody give the world the update they never wanted to so that would probably be my number one but then there are so many others listen a lot of my stories are like you know swinger stories gone right right cuckled stories gone perfectly well a lot of people my episodes do wind up happy like in the movies because what my show is basically here to say is not that this is what everyone should do.

It's not that this lifestyle is, you know, I'm pushing it on to everyone. And I think non-monogamy is the only way to go. No, what my show is here to say is that not only does it work when people try it out and, you know, it's they're better because of it. Okay. So I have a lot of like successful, happy couples

that have been there, done that. And I love to have those stories on mostly because I think it is important to get the word out there that non-monogamy can work. Because in the vanilla world, what people by far believe and will tell you straight up with conviction that the minute you open up your relationship, it's doom for failure. I hear psychologists. I hear influencers. I hear very big, famous people saying shit like that out of their mouths.

They haven't talked to 1,300 people. I have, okay? There are studies done because I've talked to people who are doing the studies. that non-monogamy does fucking work. I have the library that proves it. I know the people doing the science that also are proving it. And that's what my show is here to say. And that's why I love having these really successful stories on my show that do wind up

living happily ever after, even though they're fucking the world and having gangbanks. But what I also love is sort of the gone wrong stories or the stories that don't really end well. And those are probably the ones that I would want an update more so on, right? I mean, it's great that a couple's living happily ever after, after they wind up hotwifing. But a lot of times it's the people who weren't faring well that called in that I want to know about. And a lot of times those are my episodes that don't have that much to do about sex. Like there was a guy named Rancher who called in who was like a widower who just couldn't get a fucking date online and was trying to date.

And he had kids and, you know, he had a backstory and he was a widower. And if you heard the story about, you know, how he lost his wife. He would like have tears in your eyes. Like it was such a dramatic episode. His story was so sad to listen to. And I was really rooting for him because he wanted nothing more than to get another wife. He was the reason why they called him ranchers because he owned a fucking ranch. He was successful guy.

He had a lot of kids. But he was definitely looking for another relationship with a woman. And I wanted him to find one. That's the kind of story that every now and then I'll think about like, hey, did rancher, find someone. He actually did. Okay, I do wind, I did find up hearing from him a long time after that he found somebody. I wonder if he's still with her. Like, I still think to this day, did that relationship work? He did believe that that girl was the one. I'm hoping that it was. There was Jamal. I just re-aired his episode. He was a guy that had been to prison and just wanted to talk about prison sex.

And his episode wanted to be so fucking killer. And he was doing so well out of prison. And I'd love to know that he's still doing well. So it's, you know, it's a lot of colors like that that I wonder, but I would say my top one that I wonder about would be Aries and Raven. Okay. The next question that he wanted to know. After doing your show for so many years and interviewing so many people, what sexual advice would you give your younger self that would have given you a better sexual experience in life? Well, first of all, my younger self had a lot of sex, okay, and I had a lot of fucking fun. I've been there, done that, okay? But I did act out a lot sexually, like when I was drinking. I mean, you know, people want to know more about me. There's

episode 500. Okay, you could actually see most of me, some of me over on my Patreon. I did video tape with myself doing that. No face, but body shot in that 500th episode. Plus, I talk about a lot of things that went down in my life in, as well as my sex life, in that 500th episode. Plus, I did a whole story about my getting sober and remaining sober. I've been having drink since I'm 34. I'm talking over 20 years, okay? No drinks, nothing. But when I did drink, I was a blackout drinker and I fuck a lot of people. And I always like sex and I couldn't wait to get laid when I was young.

And losing my Virginia Sturias so fucking good. Someone could ask me that question on another one. But like, you know, the minute I started losing it, I tried everything. I was the first one to tell my boyfriend at like 16, like fuck me in the ass. I tried anal. I wanted to do everything. But mostly everything like in the vanilla world. And I think, you know, after doing my show, what I would look back.

at my younger self and say is that like let your freak flag fly i had always like sort of had a fantasy about doing like double penetration which would involve two guys and anytime like two guys situation ever came up in my life there was one boyfriend that would always bring it up and i tell that story i think on my 500th episode i'd be like in no fucking way and i was always like oh it's kind of like something i would always fantasize about but never do in real life but now after talking you so many people in hearing uh from so many people who like sort of just you know followed their fantasy and and live them out and loved it and had so much fun. Now I see it very differently. Like I would totally do be with two guys. I would totally not. I would totally live out my fantasies more than I did

when I was younger. And I think that's all I would do. Like I said, my show has definitely opened my mind up to a lot of things and released some shame about things that I didn't even think I had. I was always very super open minded when it came to sex, even though I had. I had. and done a lot of things that my collars had done. I was never judgmental about anyone who did. But I think that I was a wuss and wouldn't try a lot of things when I was younger because I had the same shit that most women have, like, a shame or, like, repressed feelings about, like, really hardcore things because of what people would think, even though I did

a lot of things that people didn't think were right. I think some things I still was, was, like, kind of uptight about it. And I wouldn't be fucking uptight about it. And that's what I would tell my younger self. Go fuck to you guys if you want to. whatever, what does it matter at the end of the day, really, you know? But I'm still alive and I plan on doing that shit now that I'm older, okay? I still, as I believe like as long as you're alive, you could always change things up. So no reason to think back to what my younger self would do.

Instead, I'm thinking of what my older self is going to do. I want to do it all, okay? So anyway, what's the third question is, has anyone ever told you a story that made you think if only they knew the effect they had on me. Well, I think that, like, the first time a cuck queen girl wrote in, I was like, oh, maybe I'm a cut queen. Like, it made me put things together. I never knew that there was something called being a cuck queen. I never thought of myself as somebody that was interested in seeing my guy with somebody else.

But when I had that girl on, and the first one I had on was Phoebe. Phoebe is a cuck queen. It's such a great episode. It was the first time a cuck queen called in. This is many years ago. now I think the word is getting out. I've had way more cuck queens on my show, but she was the first one,

and she definitely made me think, hmm, you know, I think I'm a fucking cuck queen. I started to remember that I would tell, like my booty call guy, like, why don't you tell me about other girls? Like, did you fuck anyone before you came to see me and blah, blah, blah,

and I would ask questions. And, you know, I just feel like that helped me put things together. Typically, though, you know, and a lot of times on my Patreon, I do Q and A's, and people ask me a lot of questions. questions and I answer them. And a lot of times people are fishing for the like fishing and wondering if

I'm like getting like horny when I'm talking to people. It's like, you know, it's like if you asked a gynecologist if they got horny when they were like looking at their clients. It's kind of like, this is my job. And when I am talking to somebody on the phone and they're telling me their information, their stories, I am like in work mode. I am in curious mode. I am living in my brain. I am not in between my legs. So I never get turned on, though I am a person that totally gets turned on by what I hear, okay, and what I see and all that kind of good stuff. But never with these conversations, because like I said, I'm like in work mode. I'm like in my brain. I am curious. I am analyzing. I am questioning. I am listening. I am not like relaxed enough to just be like letting go of my

brain and living between my legs. And that's what girls need to get turned on. Now, maybe if I was a guy, I'd be getting Woody's all the time. I don't know. I think guys are wired a little bit differently. And I think that's why guys ask me these questions, because there's much more of a connection between their brain and their dicks. You know what I'm saying? Like I just think they're the same thing. Whereas with a woman, if she's in her head, she's not between her legs, okay? You got to remove the head to get horny. And I'm never removing my head from my conversations because I am on a mission to get a story. I'm super curious by nature.

I mean, I remember once when I first started to do my show, and Robert Kelly was the one who helped me, and he listened to a couple episodes to critique them, and he was like, oh, I thought they were really great, and I thought that the questions you had written ahead of time were really good. Like, you asked, you know, you came up with great questions. I was like, I didn't come up with any questions ahead of time.

Like, the less I know, the better. I never have one fucking question ever written in front of me. Like all I know about the person going into the call is their fake name and they're like one sentence life story. Like this guy started hot wiping or this woman got into the lifestyle after her divorce. And then my curiosity leads every call. Like every question I come up comes up from my head. And I am genuinely interested in every fucking conversation I have with everybody regardless of whether I'm into it or not. Somebody recently was like, oh, you're so into the guy and guy thing because you're pushing it so much.

I just don't like unfairness and I can't believe a stigma still exist on it and it fucking pisses me off. So I talk about it a lot. I don't need to be into something to be curious about it. I have a fetish Friday's episode and talk to tons of guys who are cross-dressers and hosers. Those are guys that are pantyhows and I am just as interested in their stories as I am when I'm talking to cuck queens, okay? Because I find people interesting. I'm like psychotic that way. It is my God-given talent because I know that most people are not as interested in other people as I am because nobody ever asks me any fucking questions, okay? Anytime I go to a party or even if I'm at the fucking park, if someone sits next to me, I will get their whole life story and they say one

thing to me and I'll ask like 50,000 more questions, just like I do on my show. I literally do that every day in my life. That's how I've always been. And nobody ever does that to me, okay? I have like a sickness, a curiosity sickness. And that's what leads my call. And because I'm leading with that, you know, sick fucking part of myself that's so curious, I can't be horny on my call. It's never like anybody's affecting me in that way. And I'm just assuming he's saying that they're affecting me in a way that makes me horny. Now, the only other way that they had an effect was that, like I said, Phoebe, who told me that she was a cuck queen and made me realize it. And then I think for sure, probably on a very subconscious level, a lot of talking to a lot of women who have really owned their sexuality and have just allowed themselves to go there and experience everything has helped.

me to be more open-minded with myself. Like I answered that other question about how, you know, my show has changed me. I think my callers have changed me. And that's really how they have affected me. But they don't turn me out. And that's what I'm assuming you ask me the question. Now, listen, I'm going to be doing some short bonus episodes in 2006. So if you have any questions like general questions that you want answered, send them to me at Strict Anonymous podcast at gmail.com, DM me on X. I'm at Strict Anonymous over there. But the wait to get in touch with me is send me an email strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. Anyway, thanks so much for tuning in.

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