Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1322 - Raven Cuckolds her Husband and is Now in Love with Someone Else
Episode Date: December 31, 2025Raven is a dominatrix who is married to a cuck and now she’s in love with one of her clients and she called in to talk all about it.Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she then sta...rted going to sex clubs and started performing at fetish balls, how she met her husband and when he asked her to start sleeping with other men, how his cuckold fetish evolved over time and became super hardcore, the humiliation he was into and how and why she was so good at it, the pressure that comes with separating the cuck/humiiation fantasy from reality, how communication and checking in kept them successful for so long but how and why things have changed, the client she had intense chemistry with and what went down at their first couple sessions, what is was about him that she liked so much and why she stopped seeing him at first, how they eventually started meeting up again and started breaking all the rules, why she hasn’t told her cuck husband even though they have open relationship, why she’s not into her husband and hotwifing for him anymore and what she plans to do now that she’s in love with a new guy plus a whole lot more. STAY TUNED because her new guy Aries, called in too and his episode will air tomorrow. REPEAT EPISODE, originally aired 04/23 GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To see HOT pics RAVEN plus my father emale guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! https://vb.health — To get 10% off DRIVE Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY https://butterwellness.com/ — Use the code STRICTLY at checkout for 20% OFF your entire order https://beducate.me/pd2540-anonymous— Click here to take the quiz and get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness https://bluechew.com — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON https://motorbunny.com/strictly — Holiday Sale PLUS $50 off! Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ X https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else: https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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So today I'm airing Raven's story.
Raven's story is so interesting and it is paired up with a guy named Aris's story.
And his story is going to come tomorrow because they are like having an affair.
But there's so much more to it.
Now Ravens got a super interesting story.
She is a Dominiquex.
She is also married to a very,
extreme cock.
And she's been cocking him
for a long time. Her guy
is so extreme. He loves nothing more than to
her to go out and fuck other guys
and humiliate him and all that kind of stuff
begs her to cheat. He's that kind
of cock. She is a dominatrix
and eventually at some point
while she was working,
she did meet this guy, Aris.
Now, of course she has a free pass to go out and
fuck him and she did.
But her and Aris are now
really into each
other. Okay. And what's interesting about he
called me up on the DL. He had one of those private calls with me
where he paid for it so it wouldn't be aired. And his thing
that he wanted to talk about was the fact that he was married to a woman and
he went to a dominatrix. He has a free pass from his wife too. He's married to a
cook queen. So you're going to get his whole story too. But I'm just telling you the
backstory of how I knew about Raven because he called me up on the deal and was like,
oh, I'm in love with this dominatrix girl that I met while I was just going to the dungeon
and he met her and he was instantly attracted and he was like kind of in a pickle about it because
he loves his wife, but here he is super attracted to this dominatrix.
They had that kind of connection that just happened sometimes, a very intense chemistry
and now they're kind of having an affair and you're going to hear about it from both sides.
It's super interesting because like I said, she's married to the cuck and he knows and he's married
to a cuck queen and she knows, but there are things that both their cucks don't know. And that's what
you're going to hear on this episode from Raven. Then you're going to get Aries, her guy,
heiress, Aris, or Ares? You're going to get his story tomorrow. And I do have picks of Raven.
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This story happened a while ago. I never got an update so I don't know what wound up happening
to them, but you could use your imagination and we're going to discuss it on my Patreon.
Like, what do people think did happen in this story? That's what's always interesting. Like,
how do these kind of affairs wind up? Who knows? Because I never heard back from them. But it's super
interesting where they're at now. Like I said, I have hot picks of Raven. And then I have
hot picks of ERIS too, because she talks about how hot he is. Those are all on my Patreon. So I'm
going to get right to be right back on with Raven. A hi, Raven. Welcome to the strictly
anonymous podcast. How are you today? Hi, Kathy. Good. I'm excited to talk to Raven because you would think
in the eight years of me doing my show by now, I would have spoken to a dominatrix. I've spoken to a lot of
guys who see dominatrix and I've had tons of experiences that guys have had with dominations, but I never
had one on my show. So I was so excited when one of my listeners emailed me and said that he had a Domitrix,
who wanted to be on.
You're Raven, your dominatrix.
You're not going to give out in this call, like, your exact website and stuff,
but you're going to tell me your whole story.
What I want to know from you is, like, how you, how and, like, why you became a dominatrix.
Okay.
So that is, that's an awesome question.
So it's multifaceted.
I was kind of exposed to, well, actually, when I was really young,
I watched the movie Pulp Fiction and the Gimp in the box just kind of like,
seared that kinky side into my mind and then as I got, I had an experience with a guy who's
16 years older than me and he used a rope and I was just kind of fascinated by that and then fast
forward to being 24 and met my husband and he is into cuckolding and so we kind of walked down
that that path and with the cuckolding I had also, I did some performance.
here locally in my state and I met there was a dominatrix and I met her and she kind of took me
under her wing and my husband was really excited about that because of the fantasy element and so then I just
started learning more about cuckolding and the humiliation aspect and I started taking ropes courses
and I just ran with all that and I learned more and more and then I kind of eventually launched on my own
and started seeing clients, and that's been eight years ago, almost nine years ago now.
Wow, I love your whole story, and that was like a quick way to tell it.
And now let's get into the details.
My first question is, are you still married to your cuck husband?
Are you guys still together?
Yeah, we're still together, yep.
Okay, great.
So now, when you were younger, Pulp Fiction got you going.
What was it about that movie, by the way?
The violence?
Well, it was, so there's a point in the movie or when the character is captured and they're restrained and it's a gay couple and they're kind of having boeristic type sex and they bust out a gimp in the box and the gimp is covered in latex, a hood, in a box that's barely big enough to fit a person and they bring them out on a leash and I just remember, I didn't know it at the time, but I remember being like, wow, like what the hell is that?
And then in my later, once I started to be into hip puberty, I was like, oh, wow, that's, that's sexy.
And then latex and hoods and bondage and all those things were just of interest to me.
So, so anyways, all those things just started to pick my interest.
And there was a place called the crypt that used to be in my state.
And around the time, I was just barely legal.
I would go in there and they had things like anal hooks and hoods.
and all that stuff, and it just was fucking awesome.
And then, like I said, I met the dominatrix through some local fetish balls.
I'd go-go danced, and I met her.
And she was a mutual friend of this older guy who kind of played with ropes.
And yeah, and so it just all kind of meshed.
And then my husband happened to be a cuckold.
I think he was really into the hot past kind of stuff.
And he talked to me about my ex-partners, and one of which included Noddy.
and which was a guy who I initially played with the ropes.
And so I think he saw that as an opportunity to kind of express his kinks.
And yeah, he just started asking me specifically about those sexual experiences.
And then he was like, well, what would happen if you met up with this guy?
And that was super exciting to me because I was like, fuck, yeah, I love that.
I love fucking that guy.
So we revisited that.
Then we basically revisited all of my exes.
and then I kind of got more comfortable, like, thinking about going out into the world.
And the humiliation was something that I really had to wrap my mind around.
And so I just did a lot of educational.
I did seminars with Midori.
Like I said, I took those rope courses.
I read enough to make you blush, which is a book about humiliation.
So I just started educating myself and found the eroticism and all of that.
And that's where the Dom part of me comes in as I like to create that experience for others to find what makes them.
I'm hard or turn them on and then run with that.
I like the control of that.
I stripped too for a little while.
I was able to find a lot of success with that because I was able to get in and get out
and really create a client base and just make it work for me in ways that I saw other girls
were not able to.
I liked that.
I loved to dance.
And then I just added things that were sexually appealing to me.
Like I said, the bondage and put them all together and ended up, you know,
forming at these fetish goals. It's obvious that it's easy for your guy to put on the table about
cuckolding because he met you when you were in that alternative world. You knew that he was.
So was it like right from the get-go that you started hooking up with all your ex-guise and going
home and telling him? So he asked me to have those encounters. Yeah. And we kind of created that
together and set rules and boundaries around it. And it's a, that is, it's an intense fetish. And
And that's something that you really have to communicate clearly about.
But, you know, we're, we've been married now together for almost 12 years.
And we've been married since 2015.
So we've worked out a lot.
And with most fetishes, people eventually varying degrees of intensity usually increases.
So we've, first we played around.
You know, we didn't do full penetrative sex.
And then things have evolved.
So. Yeah.
Well, I think that's what I hear typically, especially.
from the couples that have been doing it for a long time.
A lot of times you do go in with a lot more rules and they fall by the wayside as time goes
on when you trust the process more.
But did it start in the beginning?
And what were those rules and regulations and boundaries that you had?
Yeah, it was pretty soon.
It was just a few months in and he was kind of testing the waters.
And it's really natural for a lot of women to be like, hey, what is this person probing for?
Do they want to sleep with other girls?
Is that the end game?
So I had some, and I've always loved girls.
Sexual experience was with a woman.
My first, the person that I dated was a woman.
So I wasn't necessarily opposed to that if that was the endgame.
But, you know, as we talked about it more, I realized, oh, wow, like that, that's not the goal here.
And then there was a little bit, like, when I had my first sexual experience with another, you know, with one of my exes, I thought maybe is there guilt, you know?
I just wanted to make my husband felt loved.
So we had to talk through all of that.
And then especially with the humiliation component, me telling him, oh, you're not big enough.
You're not good enough.
And then now I just really started to own it.
I can say some pretty mean shit.
And he loves it.
Yeah, I've had a lot of guys that have called in.
There's a lot of guys out there with a lot of fetishes.
And a lot of relationships cannot weather through or a lot of.
of women, they find it very hard to humiliate the guy they love. And I can understand that. Your guy's
super lucky. And maybe it's because you guys did go very slow. But he is lucky to have found you,
a woman who can be able to separate the two. Because I think it might be hard for most women to do
that. Like, how do you look at your guy? And even though he loves it, I can humiliate him. I think
this is like a hard thing. And I have had a lot of guys on my show where that has ruined their
relationship because I think it has created some sort of distance or it's hard for the woman,
but you're able to do that, which is cool.
Your guy's really lucky to have you.
Yeah.
Yeah, that is a dynamic.
There's subreddits for people to share their experiences and a really common theme
is that, yeah, they push really hard or they push with really extreme things and
bulls and pregnantating women and, yeah, their relationships deteriorate.
So I think that there's a, you know, there's a fine line between like fantasy and then things that you execute and it just takes a ton of communication to make that healthy.
But yeah, if there's, I definitely have the dominant, like dominant preferences with my husband.
And so it just kind of worked out.
We have to be honest and transparent.
So we are, yeah, we're good where we're at.
And now, because I always think it's really important when I do have people on who are successful at it.
to tell a lot of that story because it helps other people, right, the way you have done it.
Because I've had a lot of cuck stories gone wrong because what happens sometimes,
especially with people who are very true cucks, the one that really want to get humiliated and
denied that what turns them on is their girl denying them sex and there is no reclaiming
and they're doing it so low.
And a lot of times that could drive a wedge and then what I've heard is that girl winds up
with somebody else.
Now, did you guys have things in place?
that is different than that experience so that it keeps you guys connected or do you play solo?
Do you deny him?
Yeah.
Wow.
You said a lot better.
It's been an evolution and I definitely needed a lot of as a hot wife or a dawn, both of those things at once.
I needed a lot of aftercare, like a lot of affirmation of, yeah, I still love you.
And then as I got more comfortable being like, oh, yeah, he loves me and he loves this.
and I'm like his personal porn star essentially.
And that it's genuine.
When he does masturbate, he's, it's to me, right?
So being up on the pedestal was nice.
There was some pressure too.
And so kind of managing his fantasy versus like reality.
And I think the things that cucks don't realize is oftentimes when a woman is having a consistent
sexual relationship with someone.
And this isn't true for all women.
some women can not develop those attachments, but generally speaking, at least for me, I feel like
if I have a connection, that makes the sex like that much better. I'm like a deep, I'm squirt,
I can fuck forever. I love just diving in 100%. And that makes it feel better for me when I
have some type of connection with a person. And for a cuckold, especially if they've watched a lot
of cuck porn, I don't think that that emotional element is there. So it's something that they can,
it can be a shock to them.
And I think that the people have to be really careful when they are working through that.
And it changes.
It evolves.
And like maybe in the beginning, for both people, it feels like safer to be like, yeah, like no texting outside of out of this, no play.
And then as you progress, you need to check in with one another and be like, hey, do you feel satisfied?
Is this something that you still like?
And if either one of us has a different desire, like, how do we?
compromise and move forward so that we're both getting our needs met. That's a really important
piece to the to the cuckold thing. Yeah, and there's got to be full transparency always there.
Because even if you're copping feelings, you can't be afraid to tell your guy that that's
happening, correct? Oh yeah, correct, for sure. Yeah, it's, I think reclaiming is important.
There is an element that I've found with the humiliation and which a lot of guys crave. I think
think that my husband is, I've crazed this in part, is that when you really are telling them,
you're not good enough and you're not big enough, and then you're having sex with like Aries, right?
If you're having sex with a guy like that, it's just the comparison.
It's very real when you say these humiliating things.
Yes, I still love my husband, but his cock is not the same at all.
I just need to reference at Aries, because we didn't talk about this on air.
is the guy that is my listener that you are really into right now.
We're going to talk about that.
So you have this really intense thing going down with a guy we're going to say his name
Aries, correct?
And so how do you keep those two things going is what you're explaining, right?
Yeah.
How do you feel sexual intimacy with your husband?
And yet, especially at the humiliation, like,
element is present to like I said some of the things that I say oh I mean it. Aries caught compared to my
husband's just fucking otherworldly. So so then there becomes an element like best friend element
with my husband and I think that we love each other and he's a love of my life but Sar's sexual
satisfaction goes he could not do what Aries does. So I think that that's something that
Pucks think that they want and some of them do, but it's something that they actually have to come to terms with if they're going to be like a true puckled.
And if that's something that they want to and really embody and have play out in their life.
Like at this point, that's, I have those feelings and yeah, experiences to back it up.
Is Aries the first guy that is so top of the mountain for you or have they been others before?
No, he's it.
Oh, okay.
So maybe it's the first time you and your cock husband are reaching this.
This is like maybe a milestone in your relationship?
So I had an ex and we fucked for five or six years and he had a big cock and I'm a size queen.
And so, and there is a level of familiarity.
Safety and transparency and we could all hang.
Well, we didn't really hang out a ton.
But anyways, like I said, familiarity and he had the cop for it.
So that was all right.
But I wasn't like overwhelmingly attracted to him.
Like not in a crazy.
So part of what I've been experiencing when I have done the DOM work in the sessions
and created these magical fucking mind-blowing experiences for people,
sometimes it turns me on.
And then there's a part of me that's been like, oh, like I want that.
I want to experience the mind fuck of what this.
person is going through right now.
Oh.
Mm-hmm.
And so I guess I just didn't think that that person existed.
Like I have, there's a quote and it says, I keep waiting to meet a man with bigger
balls than me.
Yeah.
And I really embodied that, like, my whole life.
Yeah, I got it.
Yeah.
Energy is just like a ton.
And he, yeah.
And he is fucking special.
Aries is the guy with the bigger balls.
Oh, my God.
Yes. So it's, it's been pretty mind-glowing. So now, why did he blow your fucking mind? You've been doing this a long time. Like, why does he stand out? I know he's got the biggest dick, but there has to be more. Whoa. So I think that, well, I don't think, but what I'm going to choose to do is keep his initial ink inquiry. Okay. Yeah, private. So there was some pretty standard things. We played a little bit with bondage and, and, you know,
We did, there was like a golden shower element to the first session.
And I was just taken aback.
And that's not something that I thought I did a ton of.
And I was very specific who I did it with.
And he was just such a great communicator.
Prompt left me a tip right away to show that he was serious, just eloquent.
And I really enjoyed speaking to him when I called for that five minute chat.
And so I was excited to see him.
And then when, and I had no idea what he looked like.
And then he walked in and I was just like, Jesus fuck.
Oh, you mean besides a big dick, he's really good looking?
Oh my God.
He's fucking poor.
He is a mountain of a guy.
He's at least six foot.
He's like a cowboy attire.
Just like a man's man.
Like tall, strong, tattooed, sweet, beautiful eyes, great jaw.
Good conversationalness.
Like he's just everything that.
And then he, me in particular, as far as what type of man I'm attracted to looks wise, like he's lighter skinned and he has like blondeish, strawberry blonde kind of reddish hair.
Mm-hmm.
Green up, gorgeous.
Absolutely fucking gorgeous.
So he walks in and I'm like, ooh, surprise beside myself.
And we both talked about this later and it was like a lightning bolt just both of us.
I think we even did just pause a little and look at one another.
And so I was beside myself.
And we did the session.
It was fun.
And I did a lot of planning for that first session.
And so we had a great time.
And then he came back, won a fitness competition the next day,
said he attributed that to me.
So he booked another session with a prize money came back.
I think a month later, a couple months later, I don't remember.
Anyways, that was super.
That was fun.
It was also intense.
There was a moment and this was very, this is probably what switched in my brain.
And I usually never do this.
But I had him in cuffs.
And so I went both on his wrist and his ankles.
And usually I would have them below me and I would have them lift up the arm or the leg and take it off from there.
So I'm standing above them.
And for whatever reason, I,
bent down to take off the cuff around his ankle and I looked up at him and he was just
powering above me and I was like oh my god it was it was crazy so that's how it kind of began
and I actually said I can't see you anymore because I felt this going out of this professional
role and I was like not okay with it and his his wife he's married as well has cut queen
fantasy so his wife has a cut queen fantasy my husband's a cuckold and so
we were happy in our relationships and I felt that there was a boundary.
There was a boundary.
His boxers stayed on through both of the sessions and it was just super intense and I felt
like it was going to go somewhere that was not professional so I said I can't see you anymore.
Yeah, we kind of parted ways and he later mentioned that he thought about once he left about
just basically coming back and walking in the door and just having his way with me then.
but I was like, I'm glad that he didn't do that and the tension that we built up over the next
year. It was almost like a year to the day. And so eventually I kind of caved and we had these
conversations and then he created this experience up in the mountains and my husband was supposed to
come with me. And that was going to be the first time. We didn't think that we would have sex.
But you were allowed to by both your partners, correct? I mean, that was like, that,
It was okay with his wife knew what he was doing and it was okay with your guy as well, correct, at that point?
So she had said that all the, this is my understanding.
So she said everything but the act.
And he went, he was honest with her and they had like a reclaiming and are doing better than ever.
And so she was like less experienced in the cut queen.
Obviously then my husband who'd kind of crossed that threshold and popped his cuck cherry.
Yeah.
So it didn't really matter.
Like he was more used to it than his girl.
But she was okay with it.
Clearly, yeah, because they, like I said, she kind of reclaimed him the next morning.
And he knows that we talk.
And, yeah.
So, and then there's been kind of like continued sexual attention back and forth, more than sexual tension.
We're balls deep right now in this crazy, whatever the fuck this is that we have going between us.
It's interesting because when he called me on the day,
D.L. It was to talk all about this intense attraction. He feels the same way with you, right? And it was like a
dilemma for him when I spoke with him. And now I know, because we talked about this before I got on the
phone with you, that he is willing to come on and not be on the DL. So maybe I should, because I think I need
his whole backstory because this guy has like a wife that he told that he fucked you. He also was like
calling me because he was confused.
It sounds like you guys are in fucking love.
I don't know.
So we're going to have a whole episode with him on.
But what I want to ask you about, because I use the L word, like, are you guys in fucking
love?
Absolutely.
Like 110%.
It's really, it's mind blowing.
And we're just trying to figure out what to do and what it means.
And it's intense.
It's intense.
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It's really, it's mind-blowing and we're just trying to figure out what to do and what,
it means and it's intense, it's intense, but it's great.
Okay, but let me ask you this.
Does your guy know that you're in love with him?
My husband?
Yeah.
So he asked me if I had feelings for him, and that was at least a month or so ago.
And I said no, however, that wasn't the truth, but so I lied, but I have talked to my
has been about when we do these cuckled arrangements that like for me having an attraction to
someone especially when you're intimate over time is going to deepen and emotion especially for
women like emotions are natural right and some woman in the cuckled lifestyle can just like fuck and
not have any emotional attachment and they prefer this connection with their husbands like you said you brought
that up early on in this conversation that that was that that
is a big part of how you roll and that was a big thing that you guys had to really talk about.
But I just have to cut you.
I'm cutting you off because you kind of said two things right there.
And I think you said the second thing to clean up the first thing, which is I fucking lied.
And I think that you're using this excuse, which was kind of the way you guys set it up in
the beginning.
Like I have to have feelings and you did kind of have feelings before, but it wasn't really
anything intense.
But I feel like if it was that scenario and you felt okay about it, you would have never lied in the first place.
Like the reason that you actually lied to this guy that you have been so open with that you guys have done so much,
like that means it's something different.
It's not something you guys have really discussed or else you wouldn't have lied.
The fact that you lied for some reason is because this is.
Beyond that. It's not just what you're saying, that whole speech you were about to give me that I cut you off on. It's not that. Because if it was that, you'd tell him that you guys have already talked about that. You're not telling him because it's separate. I feel like those rules and regulations were a part of your guy's marriage. I feel like this relationship with Aries or these feelings and this situation is living outside of the marriage. And that's why you lied.
It is. And there's a whole component. I'm going to be really honest with you here. As much
my husband and I have evolved this cuckled kink. And I told you, I started educating myself and even worked at a dungeon to just for this. This was really my kink. Some people get together and the girls are all about it and the guy's all about it.
Oftentimes, you read things on Reddit or I have conversations with people in person and the guy pushes it. And the girl is,
is not super into it and they have to make a choice of okay do I set this down do I violate a boundary
and I have governance and over myself an agency but for me it's not something that I was super
crazy about and so something that I had to set myself just intentionally to explore to try to
be in a marriage and to explore your partner and their kinks and I think that that's really important
in any sexually satisfying relationship and so I spend a lot of time
doing that. And then there's some things that Aries does just so naturally that I have been
kind of searching for and asking, wanting my kinks to be fulfilled with my husband. And there's things
he's just not open to. And so it just is kind of like this natural, like he just fits into what I
really want in a person, a partner. And it's, so it's really intense. It's not just,
the sexual compatibility, it's a lot more. And the more we talk and the more we play, the,
the more intense it gets. And I think I'm just trying to figure out what's going on.
Well, what I think is interesting and important to spell out, and I want to say it in a different
way than you just said it, feel like you know now that this wasn't really your thing. But I don't
think you went into it knowing that it wasn't. And I think sometimes that can happen. You can think
that you're cool with something and you can like it for a long time. And then in retrospect,
when something else happens or something, you might then see the whole thing in a different way
and then be like, oh, I don't, I don't like that. I think both things can exist. But that's not the
case. I actually verbalized to my husband all the time. Oh, so.
see, so I feel like, so it's interesting then, the way you were explaining it before.
It was kind of like, he wants me to fuck other people.
And I'm like, oh, yeah, because these people have bigger dicks.
And I like to fuck other people.
So this is like kind of great.
So there was this underlying thing that you were not into it at all.
Yeah.
No, I mean, it's there.
And it's all.
My husband is attractive.
My husband, I feel like sometimes in your typical cuck situation, husbands feel like
they cannot satisfy their wives.
And so this might be like an outlet for that.
Sometimes I've even seen the husband withhold so that the wife wants to go and have other partners.
Yes, I've had that story on my show.
And then they all wind up in love with someone else just like you.
This is why I think it's so important.
This is like the best part of your episode because so many people wanted to hear from his wife.
And so many people trashed his wife.
But I think it's really important to get the females' perspective.
of that situation.
Because it's not one person's the bad person,
the other person's the victim.
I don't believe that.
And that's just why I'm kind of picking it apart
and trying to get clear
on where you were really coming from
and where you're really at.
Because I think you were talking more,
a bigger picture when you were explaining
your relationship with your husband and everything.
And now because we're really putting it on the microscope
because you're in love with another guy,
it sounds like a different story.
Yeah.
As I was an overarching theme versus intimate details.
We asked my history, backstory.
That's a lot to cover over 12 years.
Listen, I'm not saying you lied.
I'm just saying, okay, listen, I'm just saying when you listen to it, okay?
I never really got the idea that you were not into what you had signed up for with your husband.
Because I said it, you write a hard line.
Like, that's a hard line.
I got to tell you, I talk to a lot of cucks.
So a lot of them are on the DL and a lot of guys that are into small penis humiliation.
And most of the time I'm talking to them because they can't keep a girl.
Because, and we talked about this, me and you, like how, like what a hard line to sort of ride.
You want to desire your guy.
You want to, want to fuck him.
You want him to be hot to you.
yet he's telling you to tell him he's not good enough.
Like how do you ride that line?
I don't know.
I think it's impossible.
And you have been doing that.
And you did say, sometimes it is like what I'm saying to him,
the humiliating things that I'm saying to him are true.
So then does that person eventually over time lose respect?
That eventually happens.
And she does wind up with another guy because she wants to be with a guy that she doesn't feel
those feelings for?
Yeah, my husband and Aries actually had a meetup.
I was out of town that I'm Georgia and they had a meet up their first face-to-face interaction.
And because my husband knows that something is up and that I want to basically fuck
Aries more than I've ever wanted to fuck anyone or be around him, he was like, well, I want to meet.
So they meet without me.
goes well. My husband can't deny that, yes, he seems like a good person. And then I talked to him about
wanting to have a connection with us, that it's getting so strong with Aries that I need some connection.
I need some grounding within the marriage. And we agree. And we talk about maybe two weeks on,
talking to Aries and two weeks off. And he was like, okay, I can really work on our sexual connection.
and then during the other two weeks, we can play my kink, my cuckold fantasy where you kind of
humiliate me and degrade me.
And essentially any type of dirty talking or intimacy that we set out to do over the phone or
when I came back into town, it just all led to him being like, tell me how you're not going to
fuck me.
Tell me how you're going to save your pussy for him.
Tell me how he's better.
And it's just so, it's really hard.
That doesn't turn me on at all.
If you really think about it, his biggest fear and the reason why you lied to him is the thing that he wants in one sense to know that you are falling for him.
He gets some sort of pleasure out that, but I'm sure it's also his biggest fear, right?
I need your fucking husband on them too.
So we were actually having a conversation over FaceTime.
Yeah.
And I told him that when he finally sees us fuck on video, that I think it's going to be.
break his heart. And we were having like an emotional serious conversation and he started like jacking off.
And I was this is a compulsion for him. This is the reason why these cucks lose their girls.
I had a guy on this episode, Scott. And he like you said, sometimes they start denying themselves.
That's what happened with him and his wife. And she met somebody who she felt those same things.
And she's still with that guy and left him for it. And I was like, there was like a million rad flags.
that happened before she left you.
And what do you expect is going to happen when you stop connecting and stop being primary?
And you're jerking off and letting your girl just continue on with the guy of her dreams.
What do you expect?
I mean, that's essentially what it is.
And like I said, my husband is handsome and formidable, but he just chooses to disengage.
But can I just ask you a quick question just about your guy again?
So why then did you lie?
and why not really tell him like really straight up?
Is it because you want to wait to see what Aries is going to do in his relationship over there?
Like, why not be honest to your guy and let him really know that you really do have feelings?
Or have you already told him that?
So when we were having the conversation the other day where, you know, it was emotional and over FaceTime.
Yeah.
I started jacking off.
I told him, I started telling him.
I told him, I said, I never wanted this.
And he goes, I know it's my fault.
Right.
And I just, you know, kept reiterating it.
And I was like, you're going to be heartbroken and it's going to be your fault.
Well, listen, you both, it's, there's nobody's fault, okay, first of all.
I mean, if someone has more of a fault in this situation, it's him.
But you both took part in a long-term relationship that for a very very very,
very long time worked for the both of you. You know, even though it wasn't your ideal situation,
you were getting to fuck all these guys and do what you wanted. Like, you guys were well suited for,
I would assume, some time and things were good. But the thing is, Kathy, is that I went into this
and I, if I was anything, I'm more, I'm more monogamous. And I've expressed that. And so it's not
like I, it's not like my goal in the relationship or the perk of the relationship is getting
to fuck all these guys. I do like big dicks and they have some stickers. But, but, but I could.
Yeah. This is going to be such a great episode because there's so much here for people to just go
fucking off on. I just listen. I love conversations about things like this. I love different people
giving their different opinions and people chiming in and some people are going to be like, no, Kathy,
she's fucking right. It is his fault, a totally 100% fault. I always try to see a lot more or both sides of
things. I never like to see things as very black and white. And I think things mostly aren't black and white.
So yes, it's more his fault than yours. But I think fault is like a harsh, well, it's not really a
harsh word. It is the reason why you guys are going separate. His kink is pushing you away and has been since
day one. But if you want to say fault, your fault is that you did stay with him for, what is it,
15 years? Yeah, no, that's absolutely, that is absolutely my role in this. And I thought a lot about
and I've worked, oh, we have great kinkaware therapy and I have, I've been working with a lady,
especially the last few months. And I absolutely, like I said, I have agency and I have, I have
governance over myself and this is something that I chose to stay in, even though maybe a boundary was
being violated. And that's on me. I chose to marry a person and go into a binding legal and
spiritual contact with someone despite knowing that we have these differences. So it is on me as well.
Yeah. But that's okay. Like I've had only bad relationships in my life. Okay. Like I wrote a whole book
on it. Everyone is like a fucking love gone wrong story. Okay. But I believe I could look back at every
single relationship and I'm sure you can too. And just you always know that you're learning about
yourself. Like we draw people into our lives for whatever reason it is. Whatever he's playing out,
it makes sense in his life path. And also for you, the reason why you're with him makes sense for
your life path. And, you know, when people grow and change and move away and divorce, quote
unquote, I always believe it's not necessarily a terrible thing because that just means maybe it's
like that lesson or whatever the reason why you're with that person, you figure it out and it's
time to move on. So it will make sense to you maybe more when you're out of it 10 years from now and
you'll just see like, oh, like, this is why I had to do that and why I went through that and all
the stuff. I think sometimes we do see things different in hindsight. And I, I don't know.
Would you have said all these same things about your relationship 10 years ago? Or did you think
it was a different situation because it was, because you were different. Like, we all grow and change.
And then we're like, oh, what the fuck is this? The thing that I wouldn't know is that I this in hopes that it would be,
the kink exploration would be reciprocal.
So I would be more satisfied if he explored my kinks just as equal.
I could say, okay, spend, like I said, half the time on this,
and then we'll switch modes,
and then we'll go into basically everything that area does.
And I thought it would be a mutual reciprocal relationship.
And it's not that my husband doesn't care about me, but he could be.
You know, when you have a fetish like that, it's like compulsive.
And a lot of times that kind of a thing does ruin.
a relationship. But I had a hot wife on. And when she called in the first time, she was still with
her husband, but they weren't really hot wafing anymore. Now she's with a new guy. She met a new guy
and they're in love and they're like swingers and she's living her best life. And what she said
really was that when she thought back to her hot wafing time, like she felt like she was his
porn star. But after a while, she just felt like all, like she was doing all the work. Like she was just
sick of performing. She wanted to do exactly like what you said. She wanted that person do stuff for her
And there was none of that.
She felt like it was very one-sided.
And now she's with a guy where she could do all her kinky crazy things.
But they're doing it together.
And what's even, it's not just that performance on her side.
When I think what happens is that guy that has that fucking kink, it's compulsive.
And if you're willing to give it to them, they're just going to keep fucking taking.
And they could lose balance very easily.
It's hard to moderate that kind of a thing, a fetish.
And that's the problem with a lot of guys that have a fetish.
because they can't fucking stop.
Yeah, and you see in the forums they talk about
in preg, bulls impregnating hot wives,
and they talk about being pussy-free.
And that's a goal for a lot of guys.
And so when he recently said to me,
because this was about, it's about a month
since the last time we really talked about this
and the time that I'm going to see Aries at the end of April.
And he said, you know, save your pussy for him.
tell me that I don't, and I was just like, wow, that is a long time for me to go without any
physical connection. Yeah. And it's just, it's, it's hard. It's really hard. And I think guys
really do get carried away. And I, I think that relationships, marriages end, you know,
statistically 50 percent. But I definitely think that in the cuckold, you know, in the cuckold
lifestyle, when it gets more extreme, more extreme over time. Yeah. I think that recipe,
and there's no reciprocal. That's just a recipe for, you know,
disaster. Even in your story. You're a size queen. He's not. He's letting you fuck all these guys with bigger
dicks. You're like eventually you're going to meet a guy that not only has a bigger dick,
but also you're going to respect more because you're not humiliating him and having to say all
these things. And I just think that that's human nature, whether you're a man or a woman.
I don't know how you can humiliate your partner over a long span of time and not lose respect for
them. And you know, so enough to make you blush is a great book about humiliation and degradation.
And there's things, and people like to be called cum sluts and horrors and, you know, all types of
things during the act. Yeah. Which is, that's like a theme. And you can set that scene and you can play.
And you come out of that scene, right? So there is that's possible. And then you can still,
from male to female and female to male, and you can still remain very in touch. Totally.
cultivate respect, but when it becomes pervasive throughout your life and everything is about it and you
send your husband a sexy text and he's like, oh, send that to him. And instead of being like,
oh, wow, you're beautiful. I can't wait to taste you or like that that is when it becomes detrimental,
I think. Listen, I think that kind of a guy with that kind of a thing needs help. Because I don't know
how you could, it doesn't even sound like he wants a relationship. You know, it's like he wants a relationship.
You know, it's like he wants to be turned down and what's going on there.
I don't know because it sounds like it just goes past like play and fantasy talk.
And it's just when it's like the reality of your relationship, I don't know how a connection
and intimate connection can last.
Your guy lasted for a lot longer.
And maybe if Aries you had met him eight years ago, that would have been the time.
He just hadn't met anybody.
That was really the right guy for you.
Yeah.
I hadn't.
I've been looking for him this whole time.
Yeah.
So, and he's just, he's fucking incredible and it's not just his body.
If you, if you saw him, like, we have to.
You got to send me pictures for my, well, first of all, you're going to send me like hot pictures for my Patreon.
Of course, they should be anonymous, but you'll give me pictures of Aries too.
And then we're going to have him on.
Okay.
I'm getting his whole backstory.
Wait until you hear because it was so interesting because he called me, like I said,
on the DL and I had a conversation with him for advice.
I'm in love with this dominatrix, but she's married, but she has a cuck husband.
And I don't remember what I told him, but I'm assuming he's going to say I was wrong.
I'm going to rehash all of that with him.
Did he say in love with me on the call?
It was that he didn't want to stop seeing you.
It was like that kind of a thing.
I don't know if the L word was said, but I'm going to get, trust me, I'm going to
have a whole episode with him and I'm going to ask him about the L word with him.
And I'm going to get his whole history and I'm going to get him to put it all out there too.
And then this is the thing, because we're going to wrap this up, but this is like, it's fucking great.
I could have done just the episode, not about the dominatrix.
Just so your cuck husband relationship thing is so interesting because, like I said, I have had on that story about the cuck that lost his wife to one of the bulls.
And I've never heard from the woman in that scenario.
And a lot of times the men on YouTube go after those women.
And I'm like, what the fuck?
like this guy was allowing her to do this. You know, they, the guy has to take accountability too,
as much as I was making you take some accountability for the guy, the cock that lost his fucking mind
and let this all happen, has to take accountability. She's not like a cheating. She's like a woman
that wanted that connection, wasn't having it at home when you're being denied and all that
stuff. So I've had it on and I just love this episode. But what is going to be really great
and it's going to be is I am having your guy on. But this is the deal. Okay. You guys have not seen
each other in how long?
Well.
Because I know you're having a meeting coming up and I want to, I think I want to talk to him after
your meeting.
Okay.
So I debated on whether to be honest with you and I hadn't, I haven't discussed this with
Aries, but we've actually seen each other four times in the last 30 days.
So why the fuck is he making me wait till the 29th?
He's so stupid.
Because listen, he was, we were.
supposed to wait until my husband met him. It was another arbitrary obstacle my husband put to kind of
like keep our connection fizzling. And so they finally met. So now additionally, we're having our first
overnight. So the last four times, once he came over, I was sleeping in a separate bedroom in my
house and he snuck into my house. Oh, so now you're like having an affair. Oh, my God. This is
so fast. This is the best episode ever. Sorry. Some of it.
we filmed and because my husband has always said cheat on me cheat on me do this behind my back
don't tell me you fuck people and so part of it we filmed so that later we can use it as material
and then him and i are really starting to well we tell each other we love each other and we're
really starting to kind of get into this cuckled dynamic like at least conversation like the
dumb sub conversations between the two of us and how he's going to be like oh my
my God, his mind's going to be blown.
And then after they met, my husband was like, yeah, I would basically lay under you guys
what you fucked, which we thought was really hot.
So there is the only time that I've ever really been into the cuckold thing is right now
because Aries is just such a dominant force and energy.
Like it's, I don't know.
I would do anything with him.
So he's kind of turned on thinking about your little cuck husband to be there and get off.
And he doesn't mind keeping him in the fray kind of thing.
Yeah.
And we do about like half of our meetings have been just for us.
And then half we filmed.
Wow.
And so, yeah, so we've seen each other four times.
A lot of those times were before your husband knew about it, right?
Because he didn't want you to meet with him, but you couldn't help it.
Yes.
And yes, exactly.
So there's that.
But this will be our first overnight.
And we talk about wanting to do things together now, wake up together and travel together.
And so it's just snowballing.
And we even talked indirectly and briefly directly about how we would leave together.
How you would what?
Leave together.
Leave each other's part.
Leave partners.
Yeah, I can't wait to get that story on his because I need all that backstory.
Because I can't believe like where this story has gone since I talked to him.
probably about like last year and I have to get his whole backstory to see what's that kind of
damage going to do and what's his relationship. I, okay, so I don't need to wait till the 29 for
Aries to come on. Okay. He could tell me the whole story now. We don't need to know how different it is
after you sleep overnight. The shit has, I think, reached max capacity right now. I don't think there's
any difference. So he has to just call in. So you're going to send me in picks of you, right?
for my Patreon, those I'll need before Friday.
Anonymous picks, but hot picks.
Like, people like to see hot.
Like, the girls always send me in sexy picks, but nothing X-rated.
If you want to do X-rated stuff, you could do that over on my Patreon.
And you could, like, I have a, my Patreon members pay to get in and I have a Discord
channel.
I always, my Discord channel is free for any guest that comes on to go on there if you
want to promote anything and just put yourself out to that community there.
So feel free to go on there.
But if you could just send me like hot picks for my, like, R.
rated stuff for my Patreon so people could see how hot you are. Because Aries is going to be on,
I want some picks of him too. I'm going to air yours first and then his is going to come. I'm going
to get the backstory on him and his little cuck queen wife and how does he feel about her and is he
going to leave her and how did they get in this situation? It is like really fucking interesting.
Thank you so much for calling in and telling your story because it was, I thought at first I was so
excited to have you on because I'm like, oh my God, I'm talking to my first dominatrix, but you're so much
more than that. Like this became, to me, what's the most interesting is like this whole dynamic
that's going on with your very extreme cock husband. And I never heard from a woman involved in this
kind of situation. So it was really super interesting to hear the story from your perspective,
from the woman's perspective, because I've only heard it from the guy, you know?
Well, God, I'm glad.
And then I just texted him and I said she doesn't want to wake till the 29th because I broke and I told you the truth that we've been fucking last month.
I'm not adding any of this out.
It's so good.
I'm so glad you broke and you were honest with me.
All right.
Awesome.
You're the best.
Thank you so much for calling in.
This was fascinating.
And I really do wish you all the best with your relationship with Aries.
I can't wait to see at the end of the year if you guys are like together or not.
You guys will have to keep me posted.
Okay, we will.
Thank you, Kathy.
Thanks so much for calling it and being so honest about everything.
Thank you.
What do we call you Raven?
Thanks, Raven.
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