Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1328 - Mark’s Wife Is Hotwifing for him Now Solo and he Couldn’t be Happier

Episode Date: January 6, 2026

Mark’s wife is hotwifing for him now and he couldn’t be happier and he called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how and when him and his wife started having issues in the bedroom and how they resolved them, when he shared his hotwifing fantasy with his wife and what she decided to do about it, how role play progressed from them talking about it to doing it in real life, the first time his wife hooked up with a guy solo, what went down and how they both felt about it afterwards, how and why he hasn’t been included in her hook-ups as of yet, her second hook-up and what went down, her many other hookups with other guys and where things typically go down, the demographics of the guys she hooks up with, how and why they might be heading toward polyamory and how he feels about that, how and when he’s felt vulnerable in this whole process and how he’s worked through it plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: ⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off DRIVE Boost by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Use the code STRICTLY at checkout for 20% OFF your entire order⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2540-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠— Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://motorbunny.com/strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Click to get $50 off! Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Okay, today I have on Mark. Oh, my God, I love Mark's story. I don't know what's going on nowadays, but lately I've had so many guys on that are into the hotwifing situation or kink, you know, and of course they have all those great stories about getting their girls to hot wave for them, but they also are really, like, in touch with their emotions

and their feelings regarding the situation. You know, and Mark is another one of those kind of guys. He put into words so many different things that he experienced throughout this process with his wife that I thought was super interesting. And I think other guys might be able to relate his stories. Great. You know, this was a couple that was kind of like in a sexless marriage. They had some issues.

They got into therapy. They did the work. They fixed things up. And, you know, he was always into the hot wiping thing. He talks all about that, how we put it on the table early on. Eventually, they, like, Role played it out. You have to hear the whole story. He explains it way better.

And then she crossed the line. She has only played solo, okay? This is a very interesting part of this episode too, is that she has only played solo. He's never been involved, though he wants to be. He's had time, you know, he gets pictures and, you know, all the details afterwards. She's had weekends. She's had car sacks. She's kind of done it all.

They're having bumps in the roads and that every now and then he doesn't get as much, you know, pictures and videos and intel on what's going on as he wanted. And we talk a lot about that. He talks about the whole journey. It's so super interesting. There's so many layers to the story. I can't give them all up in the intro. So you're going to have to listen to it, but you're going to love it.

So I'm going to be right. So I'm going to get right to be right back out. Mark. Hey, Mark, welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm great. How are you? I'm good.

Listen, this is like a groundhog day here with hot wife stories. Okay. You know what story I want? I want the story where the girl comes to her guy and is like, I want to fuck other guys from you. And he's like, no, I'm so jealous. I don't want to see you. other guys because it turns out every guy wants to see his wife fuck other guys who knew that that was like the biggest effing kink that existed you're another guy that got your wife to hot wife she was

very anti it which i think is normal right for most women and then she did it crossed the line now she loves it so it's a happy ending story but like let's let's get a snapshot of where you're at and then we'll go back like how long have you and your girl your wife been married So we've been married for 10 years now. We've been together for 16. Okay. Is it first marriage for the both of you? Yes.

Okay, cool. And so, and how long ago did you guys start hotwifing? How long into this 10-year marriage? We just started this past summer. Oh, very recently. Okay, so how was your sex life your whole marriage before, up until like before you changed the game? So when we first started dating, it was great. It was very active.

And, you know, I think as probably a lot of relationships go, it sort of slowed down over time. And even before we got married, it had been. Oh, you were together a long time, six years before, right? You know, it wasn't dead, but it certainly wasn't anything like what it was when we first started out. And then, you know, we ended up having some kids and our bedroom was more or less dead. You know, I'd probably count on one hand the number of times we had sex in a year. Oh, my God. Kids are the biggest cock block.

Yeah. Okay. Go on. And then did it read like when the kids got a little older or like, you know, did things rejuvenate or were you guys still not like really having a lot of sex by the time this whole hot wiping thing came up? Still weren't really having a lot. But let me, I guess, go back a little bit.

Sure. So, you know, when we first started talking, we actually, before we ever hung out, she was, you know, we were sort of talking online. This is in the days of AOL instant messenger. And, you know, I was telling her about my. my past, she was telling me about hers, and I'd always been very turned on by promiscuity. And I sort of grew up in the age of girls gone wild. And, you know, this idea of promiscuity was always something that was a big turn on for me. So that was one of the big things that attracted me to her.

She was promiscuous? Yeah, and her knowing that I was turned on by it, I think she had a pretty active past as well. I think it made her feel more comfortable that she didn't have to hide her past or be ashamed of it. And so that was a big part of what helped us get together. And, you know, over the years, like I said, our sex life started to die down. We had kids. And after our second kid, we started to have just, you know, sort of normal marital challenges with, we weren't really on the same page. We were struggling to co-parent together. And really got to the point where we were fighting a lot and ended up going to marriage counseling. This was years ago. And it was through that process of both committing to sort of reinvigorating our relationship and refining our love for each other, that we started to really turn things around.

And it wasn't until about a year ago when our sex life started to rebound and become more normal. We were having sex more regularly. And that was really when we first started talking about this again. But let's just stop right there, because I think what's really super. super important. I love that part of your story where it wasn't like you went straight to the bedroom and fixed it in the bedroom and then, you know, magic happened. It's like you fix the problems in your relationship and then the problems in your bedroom changed because like you went to therapy and everything. Like it wasn't a problem in the bedroom. It was a problem outside

of the bedroom. I mean, and I think that's typically what is really happening most of the time. Yeah, the bedroom was the last thing to come back. And I'll say that's part of why I was interested in coming on this show is because, you know, I think people see porn and they think that it's, you know, this really very easy, simple situation. But I think the reality, at least for me, in this lifestyle and some of the people that I've talked to online who have kind of experienced similar lifestyle changes, there's a lot of ups and downs, but it starts with needing to sort of have a great foundation and strong communication between the couple before you can really explore something like this and have it work. Yeah. And you have to.

to genuinely like each other again. And sometimes, like, in relationships, like what happened to you guys, it's very common. You wind up not so really liking each other because of all these, like, things that could come up. And then that's not going to make anyone want to fuck anyone in the bedroom. But I mean, we were bitter. Yeah, of course. Anything that wasn't easy in our life, we were blaming the other person for instead of really appreciating and wanting to do good things for the other person. Yeah.

Took a lot of work. You obviously got a great therapist. I mean, how long did you see your therapist for? So we actually still see her, although we were going weekly when we started. But now we go every two months or so. Yeah. But when you were doing weekly, like did you go for like a year, two years? Like how long was that work that you did?

Probably three years. Yeah. I just like that kind of information because I think that's like real life. You know what I mean? It's not going to be like, oh, you know, because I think a lot of people don't are like kind of clueless because a lot of people are antitherepy or they don't know how to like where to fucking start to fix their problems. and so many people are, forget about them being where you're at now where your wife is fucking

people for you. They're like, they just want to be having sex again, you know what I mean? And but you guys put in the work and a lot of times it takes real work and it doesn't, you don't go to a therapist three times and everything magically changes, you know, it takes a while. But you guys did the work three years. And, okay, so go back to your story. Yeah, well, and again, I'll sort of start to say, I had shared this fantasy of mine before we even went on our first date.

she was aware of this. Oh, when you were AOL chatting? Wait, when you were, okay. But she made very clear that she wasn't interested in that. And I accepted that. You know, there was always a part of me that wondered, maybe she would change her mind at some point. But over the years, I had lost any indication or, you know,

there was no really hope for me that this would actually ever happen. But it was still part of what turned me on. Like, that doesn't go away or change just because I had accepted that it wouldn't happen. I don't want to say I suppressed it, but, you know, I just, I had accepted it, but I would occasionally make references or jokes related to it. And, you know, when she would go out with her friends, I would let her know that I would sort of, you know, let my imagination take hold and speculate or wonder if she was out, you know, doing things that were behind my back. But again, I knew that it would never actually happen. Yeah.

And, you know, after years of going to marriage counseling and working on ourselves, last year, just over a year ago, she had come back from a trip with some of her friends. And I had, you know, we talked about this again. And, you know, it's starting to frustrate her or annoy her at times when I would make a joke or make a mention about it. And I ended up finally getting to a point where I wrote her a letter. And I had to read it when she got back from this trip. Basically just saying, like, I know you're not going to do this, but it's something that is always going to be a turn on for me. and I don't think it's healthy to suppress it. I understand you're not going to do it,

but this is part of who I am, and I'm okay if it doesn't happen, but you need to accept that this is something that is always going to be a turn on for me, the idea of it. I love that. Did your therapist help you write that letter? No.

I mean, like, that's kind of like very brave of you, but very smart. I mean, that is like the first step in really sort of changing the game. Well, in her response to that was, okay, well, you know, Maybe what I can do is when I go out, knowing that you're going to have your imagination kind of wondering things, maybe I can lean into that a little bit. Exactly. Intentionally not message you back and let you know what's going on. So you kind of wonder, like, what's she up to?

And so she took a big leap forward in sort of engaging me in this fantasy to some extent with her playing along with it. Well, that's the right thing to do, you know, if your partner is coming to. clean and saying, hey, listen, like, I'm okay. Like, it's a total compromise. You're saying, I get that you're never going to do this in real life, but this is a real turn on for me. So why not? You hook you up that way and fantasize and roleplay it out for you, you know? Yeah. And honestly, I don't know what I ever expected, but the idea that I would bring up this idea to my wife and then she would just go out and fuck someone. Like, obviously, there's a long path from here to there. And I never really had a approached it. And again, I wasn't sharing this because I was trying to manipulate or convince her.

I was just being honest with her. Yeah. But in hindsight, now knowing where we are, looking back, it's sort of, you know, obviously it's going to be little steps. And let's try something that we're comfortable with. And if we like it, then maybe we try something else that's a little bit more interesting. And that's sort of what ended up happening. So, you know, she would start to go out with her friends and she knew what I was thinking about. And then, you know, cut to the point where she would maybe drop a, hey, there's a bartender here that's cute. And she, you know, I'd be like, oh, you should flirt with them. She's like, maybe I will.

And so little by little, she would start to do little things like that. And then that eventually turned into her seeing how excited I was when she'd get home. And it started to turn into sort of dirty talk and role play in the bedroom. And, you know, by maybe a month or two into us doing this, she was actually sort of actively engaging me in that dirty talk. And she was talking about what she was going to do when she went away on her next, you know, her next trip with her friends or her next night out.

And little by little, it continued to progress to the point where she actually ended up developing a crush on a guy. And I was encouraging her to go for it. Nothing ever ended up happening with that. But through that process, she actually realized, hey,

I would actually do it with this guy if he was interested. And once she realized, that she actually was capable of it and that she would do it and that I was supportive of it, then she realized, well, if I'd do it with him, I would probably be open maybe to other guys if the right opportunity came up. And so that was sort of a realization. That happened around Valentine's Day of last year, it was in February. And that's what got us to starting to really talk about, hey, this might actually happen. And then it was just sort of a matter of waiting for the right situation to come up. Did she have any reservations? Like,

Why did it not happen with that one guy? A bit of a long story, but he was somewhat of a low-tier celebrity. And so she had somewhat of a friendship with him, but they weren't particularly close, and he was touring around the country, so she didn't get to see him very often. Okay.

It ended up being that he just didn't work out, and he wasn't interested in that way. Oh, okay, okay, cool. So she's getting very close. I mean, that's kind of close to the, right? Between that time and this summer, things, she eventually found a guy? Is that what happened? Yeah, well, so, you know, she continued to be open-minded about it. And once we both entered our 40s, we sort of realized, hey, like, life's not getting any shorter for us.

And we need to really start experiencing and living for ourselves. Our kids are starting to get older. And I need, you know, I started to remind her, you need to be more than just a mom. You need to really be able to go out and your kids need to be able to see that you're more than just a mom, that you're living your life and you're experiencing things. So I was encouraging to her to go on sort of like weekend trips with her friends, things like. like that as well. And so, you know, every time she would go out with friends, it was sort of, hey, I wonder if it's going to happen tonight. And we would kind of play this game and see if the right situation came up. And she ended up being on a girl's trip this past July and was out at a bar with some of her friends. And her friends in this group actually knew about the situation and that she was willing and that I was open to it. And she ended up with a really interesting story. One of her friends was actually live streaming on TikTok while they were at the bar. And it wasn't anything particular, but then one of the guys who worked at this bar is a

bouncer, ended up standing sort of behind their booth. And she sort of made a joke on this live stream like, hey, this guy's pretty cute. And so, you know, again, she was sort of, I think, teasing me with the idea. But I got to watch this in real time as she met this guy. And then the live stream ended in, she ended up saying, Like she started to talk to him and she legitimately was interested. And so I was like, all right, well, this bar closes pretty late. They had a hotel there.

I ended up dozing off and setting my alarm because I figured it was going to be a couple hours before anything would happen. But about a half hour later, I got a notification on my phone that was just her saying, it's happening. And I was like, well, I don't know what that means. You know, is he coming back to your hotel? And she wasn't responding to me. And it wasn't until about 20 minutes later that she responded with.

with a video clip of her in the backseat of his car. Oh, my God. And were you like, where were you at work? Where were you at that time? Oh, this is in the middle of the night. So I'm at home and, you know, she's, she's away with some of her friends. But so it actually happened. My mind's blown.

I couldn't believe she actually did it. And, you know, the night was still, they were still at the bar. It was in the middle of the night. Like I said that they were still out. And an hour later, she wasn't responding to my, messages again, she messaged me that they just went into it again. So she ends up sleeping with him twice in his car that night. Oh my God, but let me ask you this. While you're not, like, is the not knowing driving you fucking crazy like in a good way? Unbelievable. Just the anxiety and tension of

wondering what's happening and waiting to get news and information like that is exciting and nerve-wracking. But that's like the main, I guess, emotion or adrenaline rush that I kind of get out of this. Yeah, obviously. I mean, you know, she was like playing that, you know, you guys were role playing that out from the beginning. I mean, she would go out. I mean, that's like a big part of this king for you. It's not just her being with the other guy. You like that angst and that feeling of not knowing, you know, which is a, it's common with a lot of guys, you know? And it's a fine line to walk because I like it. Yeah. But if it goes too far, then it starts to be frustrating. Yeah, I can imagine.

Because it's sort of like, give me an update. Like, well, you know that I'm here waiting for something like, throw me a phone here. Don't wait too long. Don't know what's going on. Yeah. Okay. So when did you get the four-on-one on what went down that night? So, you know, when she got back to the hotel, she gave me the full detail.

I mean, we were chatting over text message while she was out and she was giving me some information. But when she got back to her hotel, she ended up giving me more info. And her flight to come home was the next more. morning. She actually considered having him come back to the hotel later that night, but she at that point had already had sex with him twice, and she had to get up early. So she decided not to. But yeah, she came home. I picked her up from the airport that night, and we had an incredible night of, you know, sort of me reclaiming her and us reliving everything. And that's when she sort of gained the full detail step by step of everything that happened while her and I were together.

while, what do you mean while you, oh, when you guys were together, while you guys were like reclaiming each other, she's telling you the naughty stuff and everything. Exactly. Right. And that was that just amazing for you, just reliving the details? Unbelievable. And, you know, what's funny is that I always imagined in my head what that would be like. Yeah. And in my head, in my sort of wildest fantasies, it was this very sex, you know, lust-driven encounter. But in reality, it was sort of like two-futable. friends gossiping. Like she was, we were laughing and she was telling me the details of all these little, you know, quirks and nuances of everything that happened. Yeah. And so the reality of what it was was actually beyond, it was, it was, it was so unbelievable. It was such a great connection and experience for us to kind of go through that. I mean, there was plenty of lust as we got into it, but it was so much more than I'd even imagined it would be. That's interesting. I like that, a little out of detail explanation. You know, sometimes people don't put stuff into words. You know,

I wonder if you just put something into words that maybe other people have experience before, you know? Yeah. Yeah, interesting. So, and now how was, like, I get how you're feeling about all of this. I mean, you're finally getting your wish come true. Like, you probably can't fucking believe it.

But like her, this is like the first guy she's been with in so long. This was something that she was very anti. Like, how was that first experience for her? Did she have any reservations or was she just like, I'm fucking down? No, she, so what's funny is she actually, she ended up getting his number. Okay. And the next day, he messaged her again, and they continued to chat.

And they were chatting back and forth, and she loved it. She was super exciting. It was fun. You know, it was sort of everything that she wanted it to be. Yeah. And again, her friends were sort of like playing along. I even have a video of her and him leaving the bar when they went out to do it the first time.

And her friends are like cheering her on. It's beyond anything I ever thought. The fact that they like recorded it for. me because they knew that I was that I wanted this like oh my god so they knew the whole fit like they knew she talked to her friends oh my god that's great it was like their goal for the night was to make it happen for me oh my god so yeah yeah so she continued to message with this guy and they they started talking every day and you know he lived in a completely different state and it got to the point where you know she wanted to do it again and she was still in touch

with them and he ended up agreeing to her flying back out about a month later. And she spent the weekend with him in a hotel room. Oh my goodness. Okay. And now, let me ask you this. Like with like now she's going and she's spending a weekend. Do you guys like after her first experience like to establish any kind of rules or boundaries or anything going into these kinds of situations?

Yeah. We had talked about this even before. Okay. Her going out like all the different possible ways that it could happen. what it would mean. And I had said, even before it ever happened, that I'm open-minded to trying anything. And we were so strong now in our relationship. It's so, you know, it's so funny to think, like, we were in therapy a few years back

because we were starting to flirt with the idea of, like, are we really going to be together? Yeah. And almost like considering divorce. Uh-huh. And now I am so confident in how strong our relationship is. it's stronger than it's ever been. Yeah. And there is no chance, like, we are going to be together for the rest of our lives.

There's no question. So I have no worries about losing her or anything like that. And so when we talked about this, I said, you know, if you end up catching feels, we just need to be honest with each other. And if you tell me that, as long as you and I are together, I'm open-minded to trying. Polly. Whatever it is.

So if you end up, like, having a boyfriend on the side, like, I don't know how I'll feel about it, but as of right now, I'm open-minded to trying it. Wow. And so, yeah, so she was free to sort of do more or less anything she wanted as long as we were open and honest with each other about what was happening. Uh-huh. And if something happened that we didn't like, that we'd share that with each other and we'd learn from it and we'd adjust and kind of go from there, we were free to do whatever we were

comfortable with. Okay, a couple of questions before you move on. I want, I want, like, details on that weekend. But real quick, like, are you like a typical guy who's into hotwifing in that you're not interested in, you know, being with women yourself and you just want to see her with other guys. Is that like the case? Yeah, and she would not have it if I was, but I'm not interested in being at all, right? This is purely something that I want her to do. Yeah. She wouldn't be comfortable with that at all. And that was actually one of, uh, none at all. But go on. Yeah. That was actually.

Yeah. And I think it's probably important. People ask me like, how could you do this and why would you want to do this? And, uh, one of the words that I've sort of learned, uh, more recently in sort of exploring this lifestyle, this term compersion, which is the idea of getting pleasure out of my partner's pleasure, like seeing that she is enjoying it. My favorite thing was always to go down on her. Like, I always want to be a giver and I always like to satisfy. And so the idea of her getting more pleasure is a turn on for me. Right.

And so an example that I sometimes use is if you go to a new restaurant and you have a meal and it's the best meal you've ever had. It doesn't mean that you don't like the other meals that you've had or that you're not going to eat when you go home again. And so, you know, even if she had a great experience that exceeded anything she'd ever have with me, it didn't mean that she didn't still want to have sex with me or that it wasn't still good or any. Like, I had no hang-ups or concerns about jealousy and being feeling inferior or anything like that. I wanted her to have these experiences. If they were bad experiences, they weren't as good as me. Why would she do them? Like, that would take away from the whole idea of it. Yeah. No, my second question is, And we don't need to go there just yet. Maybe it comes up in the story. But I'm wondering at this point, do you have any desire to be included in her, like, hookups with guys? Or do you prefer for her to play solo? And do you have like that, you know, sort of angsting at home, wondering what's going on kind of thing?

Such a great question. I would love to be there. Okay. Hasn't, as I go through and maybe give you some of the more recent things that have happened, there's some movement and some war and. inclusion. But, you know, like what I have asked, and I got this from the very first time it happened, was at the very least, if I can get, you know, like a video or pictures or things like that of what's happening, like that'll help me feel included. That has been, uh, as, as we've had different experiences, that's been really probably the biggest challenge for me is there's been less inclusion than I would like. Uh-huh. But it doesn't mean that I'm not enjoying it. And, You know, again, like, this idea of if I, if I got everything I wanted the first time it happened, there wouldn't be as much to look forward to.

You still have that to look forward to. I got it. Yeah. So it's sort of exciting that anytime she has a new experience, there's an opportunity for something new to happen or for something that we haven't done yet together and sort of like brings everything to a new level where I don't know if it will ever happen where I'm like literally sitting there in the room with her. But I would like that to happen. She still doesn't really. feel comfortable. She's more intimidated by the idea of having to sort of, sort of perform for two guys at the same time. And yeah, I've heard that. The awkwardness of that is a little bit unique. She's never had a threesome in her life despite her promiscuous past. And so, you know, that's still pretty heavy for her. And I understand and appreciate it. Again, it may never happen, but I would love for it to happen. Okay, cool. I got it. Okay. And listen, I've heard that, you know, a lot of women roll different ways, you know, but I have talked to the woman who actually prefers to play solo for those same reasons, you know, whereas some only want their husbands involved.

You know, it could go either way. Everyone's different. Okay, so that weekend, she goes away with the guy. No jealousy, whatever. She's spending the whole weekend. Is she, like, sending you picks throughout the whole thing? Like, you know, what's going, what wound up going down? I didn't get as much as I wanted, but I did get some amazing video clips. And, you know, she got there. She had actually had a little bit of a cold. She got there really, at least. at night. It was a really rough experience for her flying out and getting to the hotel and everything. Everything that could have gone wrong for that trip was going wrong. So she went to the hotel until like 11 o'clock at night almost.

And he ended up coming over shortly after she got there and, you know, I'm kind of worried like, I want this to be a great experience for her because I enjoyed the first time and I wanted to continue. So I want her to keep having great experiences. So I was a little worried. I hope this doesn't. Fuck everything up. Yeah.

Yeah. So they ended up having sex for like five hours. Oh, my God. And he spent the night and, you know, they had sex two more times in the morning. So over the course of, I don't know, 10 hours or something, they had sex like seven times. And again, I'm getting very few updates because they're being active with each other most of the time. And, you know, it wasn't until like two hours into it that she gave me my first update. And I'm like, how are you still going?

Because she has trouble going for a long time. And the fact that she was able to for so long with him was just sort of like blowing my mind. So yeah, it was an amazing experience for her up until the very end of that weekend. He ended up starting to act weird. He was acting kind of weird throughout most of it. And long story, sure, we ended up figuring out he actually had a girlfriend. Oh, my God. So, you know, again, it was sort of like my fear.

of, oh my God, this is going to ruin everything this asshole, you know, by screwing all this up. And it was a tough transition for her to sort of go through. I never thought when I got married that I'd have to help my wife through a breakup before. But, you know, that's ended up being what happened again. Because she was slightly devastated that like that ended with that guy and he wasn't who he was supposed to be because she was enjoying it. Yeah, I wouldn't say devastated, but she started to catch feelings for him. Yeah.

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anxiety or whatnot, I'm going to be honest and tell you about it. I might not even be asking you to do anything about it, but you need to know what I'm going through. And both of us have had to do that, and we've had to be really clear and communicating and supportive of each other. And those things have even further strengthened our ability to work through problems and our ability to work through problems with parenting or with finances at home or things around the house or anything like that. just so much more capable of being open and clear on a different level than we ever had before because we've had to navigate some of these things. Yeah, that makes sense.

And I have a question about your therapist. Don't let me, I'm going to write it down there. I don't forget to ask you later. But, well, let me just ask you now with her. Like, real quick, because I have another question for you. Does your therapist know about all this stuff that you're doing? Like, is she in the know? She does.

Oh, okay. You know, we went for a number of reasons, but this was kind of one of them. And in our first session, sitting with it, she's amazing. Yeah, she sounds amazing. I don't know if we got really lucky or whatnot. Yes, you did. You did. Because half of them, 90% of them are fucking whack jobs.

Yeah, well, you know, when we started to talk about this, I shared this fantasy in sort of like our intake session. When we're just talking about some of the things that we wanted to be able to work through as part of going to therapy together. And I think my wife expected her reaction to be appalled or even just sort of. of like, hey, this is a problem we need to work through. And when I shared that this was a fantasy of mine, her reaction was to look at my wife and ask her, so is this something you're open to, or is this a non-starter? And the fact that she just, it wasn't even a question to consider that this is a legitimate thing and that my wife could potentially be open to it, reaffirmed for me that I could trust her. And it was, it was, it was, it was, you know,

Like an immediate, okay, we can have a real conversation with this lady. She's not just going to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what I need to do differently. Like she's open-minded to anything, really, as long as we're both consenting and we're both comfortable with it. And so that was a, to have that in our first session, completely open the idea of going to therapy as something that was worthwhile. Yeah. And you know, you can be honest and you should be honest and all that kind. And, you know, and it's a safe place. Yeah, that's amazing.

Yeah, that's great. So quick question. because like that three-day weekend ended badly, did you not get, like, and you're consoling her, did you not get any kind of like reclaiming or pleasure from it? Like, were you allowed to enjoy that weekend at all? Interesting. So I mentioned she was kind of sick going out there. She had a bit of a cold. By the time she got home, she was like deathly ill for four or five days. Oh, gosh. In the middle of that, she got a period. So I had to wait a whole week before

I would be able to actually reclaim her. Yeah. But what's funny is we actually had a therapy session that week. And this was the first time we were able to share with our therapist everything that had happened because it had been more than a month since we'd seen her. So we got to tell her about the first and second time. And as we're sitting there, I kind of made a joke. I'm like, I'm not even the last person. My wife has had sex with it.

Oh, my God. You know, it wasn't until the next weekend that we were able to be with each other again. Yeah. Okay. So you did say the last thing I'm going to say this. then we'll move on from that weekend. We'll go to her next experience. You said, I didn't get as much as I wanted.

Was it because she was sick and he took long or like she was just involved with him because he was being weird? Like, why were you not included as much as you wanted to be? Do you think? I had hoped that they would sort of like set up the camera and record it so that I could really see the experience and I could see her reaction and her like her facial expressions. And I even said to her at one point, I would actually rather listen than watch with no sound.

Because I want to, like, I want to hear her pleasure and I want to hear what's happening, seeing like, I don't know, it's just to me, hearing it is so much different. But I only had, you know, a few video clips that they had taken, which, again, were amazing. But they were so focused on experiencing it for themselves that they were caught up in that. They weren't focused. They're thinking about, hey, we got to do this for, you know, for my husband at home and make sure that he's included.

and they wanted to sort of be natural and passionate and lustful. And, you know, the idea of sort of setting up a camera and having to play to the camera, it just wasn't their priority or focus. And so, again, they did a little bit of it, but they were focused more on being with each other. Yeah. That didn't get you mad at all? No, not mad. Again, I would, there's no limit to how much I would enjoy seeing more and more.

The answer is, is there enough? Never. Like, I would always want to see more. But, yeah, I mean, it was, it was something. that I had, it was probably the first and ongoing thing that we've worked through is the situations and feelings that I've had, as she's had different experiences, me wanting to feel more included in sort of sometimes feeling, I don't want to say like an afterthought, but it's sort of a cherry on top. Like if it happens, it happens, but that's not

really her priority. Her priority has been. I know, but the priority should be for the, I know, but don't you feel like that gets you shafted a little bit? but I feel for you. A little bit, yeah. I mean, you know, I just, yeah, I think, listen, you know, you're giving a lot, like, you should, at the end of the day, the reason why, because I've talked to a lot of people, okay, like, you're just very newly into solo play and all this stuff. I don't want you calling me a year from now because your wife left you for a guy.

But, like, what happens sometimes in solo play is, like, what needs to be there, one of the secret ingredients for it to be successful is that experience, even if she's with him needs to be about you and her. She can't forget about you when she's with him. Then it becomes not about you two and it just becomes about that experience with that guy. That's a disconnect you don't want. And it shouldn't be there because you are allowing her to go, but you know, you need to get as much out of it as she is. It needs to be a fair thing.

It should be you or should be included in that situation 100% every single time. there's no time for her to forget about you and your pictures because she's too involved with the other guy. Sorry. That's true. But I will say there's a bit of a wrinkle. Again, we've had to have conversations about this. And again, these are some of the first experiences we've had.

Of course. Yeah. Of course. Yeah. I will say that is true. But I also can't force her to do something she isn't comfortable with. And how is including you and doing what you want, which is just setting the videotapes and remembering to do it.

Like, why is she not comfortable with that? Well, it's also more having to go through, make sure the guy's comfortable, stopping in the middle and asking him to do things. Her experiences have been more with just single guys rather than somebody who is maybe familiar or comfortable with the lifestyle. Yeah. And so this is different and novel unique for them as well. And so, again, it's not like I haven't gotten any.

And there's been some guys where she set up a camera and I've got like hours. a video, right? So, like, there's been some of that as well, and we've had to talk through that, but it hasn't been every time. And, you know, even a couple of weeks ago, the first time ever, she had a guy here late at night and they were in the living room. And I sort of like, she had hooked up with him once before and she wanted me to, like, kind of be sneaky, but I'm like, why didn't you tell me that? So I actually kind of like snuck down and she, she kind of knew I was going to. And I got to watch it sort of from the kitchen. And so I was sort of like right there. And she knew,

I was watching, but it was kind of being sneaky. So, like, we're kind of moving more and more towards you being more included. Doing more things like that. And, you know, she's agreed that she, she knows that it's important to me and she's continuing to get more comfortable with it. Again, we don't have a contract. Like, she's not required to do these things. But it is something that she's aware of and she is continuing to kind of push herself and, and

the explanation of you saying, like, she just doesn't know how to, like, stop the guy and be like, you know, sort of micromanaging the situation all the time because of you and that's a little uncount. Like, I get that. That makes a little bit of sense. You know what I mean? For sure. Like that sort of, you know, I'm just saying that typically, you know, uh, you should be. And listen, it doesn't matter what I think. It matters what you think. If you don't give a shit about these things and you understand it completely, that's all that matters. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And the other thing that I said, and we talked about this even was, if my option, is her do it and I don't get as much as I would, you know, if I could have everything, I would

have everything, but maybe I don't get as much as I want. If the alternative is, this isn't working, let's just not do this anymore. I'm still enjoying this. It's not like I'm not enjoying it or, you know, that I'm getting the shaft in that sense. But I would still rather have what we are doing. And it is still enjoyable. And it's been, every experience has been incredible and exciting and fun. The fact that I'm not getting everything that I want doesn't make it not worth doing.

And it's not even like you're not getting half of what you're doing. You're getting mostly everything. It's just sometimes where you don't feel like you get as much as you want. I personally don't think you're asking for too much, which I get, I also understand when you explained it, because I'm like, why the fuck isn't she doing all that stuff for you?

Like, sorry. Like, you know what I mean? If she was my friend, I'd be like, what the fuck get your guy his shit that he wants? I mean, you know, letting you fuck these guys. But when you explained it, like, you know, she's micromanaging these guys. She feels weird sort of sick. You know, I could understand that, you know.

And so whatever, let's move on. Let's go back to now, she had those two experiences. Give me some of the current stuff that's going down too, because I want to get to all the stuff that you guys have done. Yeah, so after the first guy, you know, there was a question of, you know, we wonder when this is going to, if it's going to happen again, when it's going to happen again, how it would happen. And probably

a month or so, maybe a week or so after she got back from that second trip out. I suggested, hey, there are apps that are specifically for finding partners in non-monogamous relationship lifestyles. And one of them is

field and there's a handful of others and I sort of opened her up to the idea of it. And she was really against that. She thought it felt too transactional and was sort of awkward to me. guys. Again, we grew up, AOL Instant Messenger was the last thing we were using before we got together. So Tinder was after, we never got to experience Tinder or any of these other apps for dating as when we were single. And so it just felt to her in her mind, that seems a

little weird to just sort of swipe on people and not meet them organically. But she ended up deciding, and I was like, well, you know, you don't have to, but it is a way that you can meet guys. and if you install it, you can just see what it's like and see what the experience is. And then if it doesn't work, you kind of window shop and see, hey,

you know, is there anyone out here that's attractive to me? So she ended up installing the app and inside of 20 minutes, she's subscribed to it and she's starting to talk to guys and she's getting interest from them and that sort of validation that so many guys were interested in being with her, even though,

you know, she's older and maybe she doesn't look as good as she used to look. in her mind. She's getting really excited about all the attention she's getting. And then all of a sudden it's like, wow, this is actually, you know, I'm chatting with these people. I'm still talking to them. It was actually a lot more organic than she thought it was going to be.

And so, you know, after that, she ended up meeting a few different guys through that app. And that's actually, so she's to back up a step, we first did this in July. That was the first time this happened. She's been with eight

guys since then. So there's been a lot of activity that's happened since then. Most of them are guys that she's met on this app. And she more or less still talks to almost all of them. She's had two or three experiences with most of them. She doesn't have, she would, you know, ideally we would have one or two, maybe three sort of like steady guys that she sees regularly. The challenge that we've had with the guys she's met so far is she wants sort of like a real friend with benefits type thing where they're talking about more than just sex, not every day, not like a full-blown relationship, but she would like to have sort of real legitimate friends like, hey, what's going on?

What are you doing this weekend and keep up with them? And that hasn't fully developed yet. It's kind of gotten there. But, you know, that is part of what makes her want to do this more. And so we're waiting for finding maybe one or two guys that that does start to develop. and hopefully that will become sort of her like go-to guys. But in the meantime, she's just having fun. She's, she likes the excitement.

Well, what have these other experiences been like? You told me there was a time where you snuck in the kitchen, like explain all of some of the details of those other, all those seven other times. Yeah. So a couple of them, she's gone and they've gotten a hotel together. She's had somewhere she, you know, they've been able to, they've had their own place. So she's gone to their house. One guy, it was actually the third guy she'd been with.

She was actually at his house when at midnight it became our wedding anniversary. So we were saying happy anniversary to each other while she's with another guy at his place. So that was interesting. And then she came back with a long video and we watched it together while we had sex together. And so that was really exciting and fun. One guy came by here and they had sex in our driveway. It's been while she's had car sex a couple of times So you know it's just been

What about the car sex? I'm obsessed with car sex I think it's like fucking hilarious This shit that's going down in parking lots across this nation that I hear What went down in her car sex Situation? So she is actually a couple guys back to back here That this happened with one day after another So the first guy is a guy who lives in our town

But less than 10 minutes away the first time they ever hooked up, he, he's one of the best looking guys that she's met from here. And she really, really wanted him. And so she ended up, again, she was still uncomfortable and nervous about me being there at the time. So she recommended, you know, come over and we'll have sex on the driveway in his truck. So they did that. And she immediately came in from the truck afterwards. And we had sex in the living room right afterwards.

Were you peeking out the window? I wasn't because she made me promise I wouldn't. So I waited in the living. room. And when I got, when she got back in, she asked me, were you peeking? And I was like, no, and she's like, why not? I'm like, you told me not to. She's like, well, once I was out there, I was actually kind of hoping you did. So that guy is actually the guy who, when he came back over about a week a week or two ago, they had sex in the living room. He's the one that I ended up sneaking down, kind of watching from. Did he know? I'm not sure. He may have. He's very aware of the,

situation and knows that I want to. Okay. And knows that she's not quite ready. I think he's kind of suspected maybe I was, but we're not exactly sure. And he knew that I might at some point, but we're not sure if he knows that I actually did. What are the demographics of these guys that she's hooking up with and cars and shit that are your or that are like, you know, signing up for this kind of scenario?

Yeah, she's been leaning more towards younger guys, guys that are in generally pretty good shape, go to the gym regularly. But most of these guys have been in their 20s or early 30s. One of the, actually, the most recent guys she's been with goes to college nearby. And the weekend after Thanksgiving, she had sex in his dorm room with him. He's 20 years old. Oh, my God. How did she meet him? I'd go through that whole story. Through the app. Through the same app. Yeah, she ended up meeting him on the app, saw he was only, you know, a pretty short distance away. And they started talking. And he's easily the best-looking guy she's ever been with.

But, yeah, she was on the younger side. And so he was a little younger. He actually lied about his age. He said he was 21 on the app, probably because he wanted to be able to show that he could drink or something. I don't know. But he ended up coming clean on that. But, yeah, she's mostly been like late 20s, but she ended up, you know, she's a little bit flexible with that. So she goes to the guy's doorroom.

How old is your wife? Early 40s. Okay. So she went to the guy's dorm room. She must have got a clue. Well, I guess he said, how old did he say he was? Because was she like, how old is this like a guy when he says me, me and my dorm room? Oh my God.

Yeah, he's 20, but this is Thanksgiving weekend. So everyone was home traveling. So there wasn't a lot of people still on campus. No, no, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying, didn't she have a clue that maybe he was younger because he's like, she's meeting him at a college dorm? Like, you know, you got to be like how old is. He said he was 21, but he was actually only 20.

Oh, yeah, but not a big difference. We think he just wanted to show like, oh, I'm allowed to drink. So he kind of rounded his age up. Oh my God. Did she enjoy that experience? Yeah, it was fun. I mean, she, and he's actually been over here since then in the living room. But yeah, she's had fun with him.

Have you ever sat there and watched like right in person or no? No, she's not comfortable with that. Like when he's been over to your house, she's like, I don't want you here. I was at work. Most of the time she's had people over. The only time I was actually here when she's had a guy over was the time where I actually came down and watched from the kitchen. Okay. So she does this when you're at work. She does this on the at night. She hasn't found her booty call guy, but that's what she wants. She wants somebody that she has. See, this is like, I'm going to do a whole episode on how to have a successful booty call coming up because I've had them. You know, and the only way to me that you have a successful booty call is you fuck them and you leave. And there's no talking emojis, no kissing faces, no texting. The fact that she wants all that included, oh my God, your guys are going to be polyamorous before you know it. Because that kind of added. staff make somebody like like somebody.

It's so funny. I said that to her last night. I was like, if somebody wants that, they probably just want a relationship. And so, you know, I'm not going to say it's impossible to find that, but it's going to be hard. Well, what happens? Listen, a guy could sign up for a fake relationship like that and not develop feelings. To me, it's more the woman falls for that shit more. And, you know, and that's why, like I said, I've had successful booty calls and nonsense. You want to not like a guy and fuck him all the time?

Fuck him. and that's it. You know, but when you do add in the texting and the talking and now you got a fake boyfriend and that fake doesn't sort of register in your body and it becomes like, oh my God,

you could fall for that guy. So, you know, you might, the fact, listen, the good news is you're okay with that. You guys have already discussed that like the sky's the limit. She could fall for some guy.

I'm just saying that what she's looking for sounds like she's looking for a boyfriend, not just a booty call. He could turn into a boyfriend with all that other nonsense involved, I'm just saying. Yeah, potentially. She would never want it to be public. So even if, even if it, you know,

even the first guy we called boyfriend, but not in the same Polly sense of like, hey, we're in a thruple or anything like that. I got it. But if, listen, if people are having real romantic relationships with other people, whether anyone knows about her or not, that is Polly, you know. And that's okay because you're down.

Like, you really don't have a jealous bone in your body. You want her to be. be pleasured. If her desire, if she starts falling for a guy, like, you're not going to hold her back from that. Like, that's what you already said. So it's really like, I do believe you can wind up being Polly a year or two years from now just because of the, the, the boundaries that you have set, which are there really are none. As far as like, you know, it could, it could go from sex to feelings and that's okay. Correct? Yes, but the only The wrinkle I'll say is you don't know what you don't know.

And so what I've said is I'm open to it. Right. But we're going to be communicating and honest with each other. And if it gets to the point where we realize, hey, this actually isn't, you know, I'm feeling things I didn't expect to feel or this isn't, this isn't really working. It's more complicated. We're going to be for either of us with any of these situations. We're going to be open and honest with it.

Again, there's been times where I've shared things that I didn't want to share because I didn't want her to feel guilty about things that I was feeling. Give me an example. Let me think. Maybe one of the specific times where I didn't get like any video clip or, or she didn't even mention it to one guy for the first, you know, a few days that they were talking, that it was something I was interested in. I was a little frustrated by that.

Again, I didn't want her to feel guilty about it because we've talked about it before, but it did bother me a little bit. And so I was honest with her about it. I told her, you know, I'm not asking to do anything differently, but I just want to know that I'm having, you know, some of the. feelings. Maybe one time she didn't check in after a couple of hours, I was starting to get frustrated. That was another time where I wish she had checked in more, either more regularly or sooner, or at least giving me a heads up of, hey, I don't know when I'm going to be able to check in with you.

So we've had to kind of work through some of those things, and we've learned from them. And, you know, she's changed some of the things that she's doing in response to some of the things that I've felt. Listen, I think it's hard. I love when guys like you come on and like cop to having like vulnerable moments inside of the lifestyle, right? Because just because you're a man doesn't mean you don't have fucking feelings, you know what I mean? But a lot of guys I think sometimes it's hard for them to access them, put them into words,

cop to them, you know, because it's like it's not like very manly, right? Like you've been told since you're little, don't fucking cry. But women are a lot to have all the emotions in the world. So I love when, I love the fact that you've, you know, honest about these feelings and bring them to her. And you know, you're allowed to have feelings too. You know what I mean?

Like that's okay. Yeah, part of what I wanted to come on to speak on the show was, one, I think the more people share this, the less there's a stigmatism around alternative lifestyles like this. But the other is that for people who are interested in are exploring it, it's not like what you're going to see in a porn.

It's not a scripted movie or anything like that. It's not always easy. That doesn't mean that it's not worth it. but you have to put in work to live in a lifestyle like this. It's going to be complicated at times. And if you and your partner talk about that and you know to expect that and you have a good foundation to be able to work through some of those complexities, then again, for us it's worth it.

But I think it's important for people to know if you are considering a lifestyle like this. Everything is not going to go, you know, you're not going to be on the same page with everything at every moment. You're going to have to work through things that maybe you don't agree. and you have to figure, okay, well, what's the compromise that we can both be comfortable with? Yeah, well, listen, you did a lot of right things, plus you also still have a lot of the right things intact to, you know, guarantee your success of doing this. A, you still have your therapist, so you still have someone to talk to. Be, you guys communicate really well together because you did do a lot of therapy with each other, right? You know? And, you know, you built the right

kind of foundation before anything, right? You fixed your relationship and tended to it. And, and, you know, in the ways it needed to way before you started this you know so you guys you know what I always say because there's a I love a gone wrong story I love stories with this kind of real shit in it because it's reality you know I mean it's not like fantasy land where there are no bumps in the roads and stuff you know and it's important to let other people know how you've gotten through it and stuff and I just think the key to success is like a lot of the things that you have together you know and it's important to show but it's also important to show people that it's not always that easy, you know, everyone has feelings, but like I said, I think that you guys are going about it

the right way. And I want to make another point. I don't remember whether it was, so whatever. But, you know, I love this story for all those reasons. And I've had more guys on lately than normal, like really copping to, like I said, their vulnerable feelings that they've had inside their hot wiping experiences. And I love those because I feel like they put things into words that maybe other guys can't, right? And so people learn from them. And other guys will be like, oh, I can relate, you know, because I've had a lot of hot wiping stories on my show. A lot of guys talking about it. A lot of guys don't talk about their feelings regarding the situation, you know. And I don't believe that there are none. I just think sometimes people don't talk about them so many years later. They don't remember them, you know, but I love the newbie stories because you're still in touch with that kind of stuff, you know, and I think it's important to talk about because those are the kinds of things that can come up for other people. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and I guess, you know, I know we're short on time, but I'll leave you with maybe the last, the crown jewel story of hers with the experience she's had. So she's been a fan of a band since she was a teenager and a singer in the band.

They had a couple of, you know, like top ten hits back in the early 2000s. Oh my God, you got to tell me off air who it is. Go on anyway. I can. I'm not allowed to share who it is. Oh, fuck. Okay. But she slipped into the singer's DMs and ended up building friendship with him and then, you know, over time started to get flirty and then he ended up you know she ended up making clear that she was actually she had a hall pass and she was allowed and uh long story short they ended up he ended up

inviting her over to his hotel room and he was nearby after a show and i actually brought her to his hotel and dropped her off there and then we went back to her hotel afterwards and she's been with him again since then when she was uh visiting the state that he lives in he actually spent the night at her hotel room. So she's had a couple of hookups with this sort of celebrity that, again, I can't reveal the name of, but she's had a crush on him for decades from, you know, back when she was a teenager. So that's been, oh my God. Thank God her friends. Thank God her friends know about what she's doing so she could run and tell them who the fuck he is. Somebody knows, sorry, there's no way she's keeping that shit to herself. You won't tell me, but she's

told all her friends who the fuck that guy is. I want to know, but it's fine if I don't know. but that's the kind of shit that as a woman you want to tell your friends about you know what I mean like oh my God I scored that fucking guy that was like on my poster when I was younger

that's great so anyway listen does your wife know you're calling in to the she does oh okay she was considering maybe joining with me

but maybe she could call in separately I'd love to talk to her maybe after she hears she's going to want to clear stuff up because I did kind of say like oh why isn't she sending you you know what I mean so maybe she'll call in separately

I'd love to get the whole story from her angle is always super interesting, you know? And, but if you want to send in picks of hers, anonymous picks for my Patreon, you can. I always say, like, R-rated, not X-rated. And then you will get free access to my Discord, which is super fun and naughty,

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This was great. Such an interesting story. Thanks so much for calling in. Through WhatsApp? No, no, no, no, do me a favor. Send it to my email, strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. Okay. Okay.

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