Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1347 - How to Have a Successful Booty Call, Should Guys Pay, Do Girls Like Men who Chase and More Q&A w/Layla

Starting point is 00:00:00 Today, there are two parts to this episode. The first part, me and Layla tackle a couple more questions from my listeners. And then we were going to talk about booty calls and how to have a successful booty call. But Layla had to tap out. So I went on and gave everybody the advice, my advice, on how to have a successful booty call. Okay. And let me just tell you, I know how to have a successful booty call. So you're going to want to listen.

Starting point is 00:00:28 The beginning half is me and Llelaw. Layla answering more questions. Okay, we answer questions of whether men should pay or not pay on dates. And I have some funny fucking stories about that shit, okay? And we have definite opinions on who should pay on a date to pay or not to pay. We talk about how most women feel about that besides how we feel about it. And we go into depth on that, okay? Like, we talk about how expensive it is to be a woman. And you want to listen up to that, okay? Because I think sometimes guys don't really know. We talk about whether or not women like to be chased or if they want to do the chasing. I think the question was, do women want guys to chase them or they turned off by that? We go into detail on that. And then we talk about

Starting point is 00:01:10 Layla's guy she has right now. And that gets us into talking about booty calls. And then Layla had to jump on the call. So I went into my whole spiel about how to have a successful booty call. And I know the deal, okay, because I've had a lot of booty calls. I've had not successful ones. I've had successful ones. And when I say successful, I mean nobody copps feelings and you get to have just great sex. Okay. That's it. If you want to know how to do that and get sex without any complication, any drama, any nonsense,

Starting point is 00:01:42 whether you're man or a woman, you want to listen to the second half of the episode and hear what I have to say about it. Okay, because I've had a lot of booty calls. I love talking about successful booty calls and what to do and what not to do because there are some rules, I think, that people have to follow that. Most people don't follow. Okay, you're going to want to listen up to that. So like I said, it's me and Layla talking for the first half of the episode and then me

Starting point is 00:02:05 solo talking about booty calls at the end. It's a super fun episode. Layla's always fun to talk to because she's got a killer sense of humor. And then I do believe that I give really great advice on booty call action. And I reveal a lot of my booty calls action situation. So you'll be interested in that too. So anyway, I'm going to get right to and be right back on with Layla and the first question. So listen, this leads into some really like generic.

Starting point is 00:02:27 questions that somebody asked me about like dating and guys like do you like a man that's or let's go to here when a man pays for movie food opens the doors for you is that sexy or old-fashioned i mean come on sexy yes yes i am so mad that the younger generation get out of style like who the fuck sold you that bill of goods that just that says nothing about that manners are out of style it just says you're stupid for believing that Yeah, I just think that men should do all those things. That's the kind of stuff that turns me on. Like when a man treats me that way, it makes me feel feminine.

Starting point is 00:03:06 You know what I mean? When he holds the door open for me, when he, I like a man to pay for everything. And I think the man should, not to say that I won't pull out my cash for a dinner every now and then, but I, you know, I went to have a guy. Oh, my friend. And I was so fucking mad because I had two guys I could have went for at this party. the fucking player that was known to have like the biggest dick and he was the hottest guy or this nice guy that just broke up with a girlfriend and was a relationship guy and I could have had them both and my friend forced me to pick the fucking relationship guy he's like oh go after that nice guy Kathy for once in your life don't go after my other friend go after that guy so I listened to him and I went after fucking Bob okay and now Bob was that had to be a disaster it was you I don't know why Bob I just got it out of five your relationship you probably made Bob cry no it wasn't he made me me, no, he made me go off on him because he emails me one day.

Starting point is 00:03:57 So we decide to have a date and he's like, yeah, we're going to the movies. We're going to see some Woody Allen movie at the time. And he emails me. He sends me an email like, oh, I got my ticket. Ticket. Wait, I got my ticket. And so do you want to meet in the front? And so I start, I'm like, what?

Starting point is 00:04:11 I start sending it to my sister, my besties, you know, like, what does this mean? Do you think that this means he didn't get my ticket? Like I need to find out. It's like $10 at that point to go to a movie theater, right? So I'm like, okay, so I didn't want to, assume, right? Because I'm like, maybe it was a typo or something. So I email him back. Okay, should I get like my ticket and then meet you like, where he's like, yeah, I didn't get your ticket too. I just got mine. I was like, so I wrote him back. I'm sorry. Like, this is what a bitch. I was like,

Starting point is 00:04:38 you know, listen, I will gladly go to the movie with you still because I said that I would, but like, it is not a date. I would never go on a date with a guy that can't invest $10 into a relationship to, you know, date me. And like, I remember my one girlfriend's like, that's so fucking mean. blah, but I'm like, I'm sorry, but like somebody that's a guy that won't do that. It says, it's not about the $10. It says something about you. And you know what I was right? Because after I sent him back that thing, he wrote back to me like, oh, well, I'm not

Starting point is 00:05:06 going to invest in anything. I was just with a girl who treated me like shit and dumped me after five years. And that's when I realized, like, see, a guy that's not going to pay $10 for a movie with a new girl and is not going to treat her well is somebody that has fucking baggage or something because who doesn't have $10? Do you know what I mean? And that's what it is about I think money and girls

Starting point is 00:05:26 And opening the door and paying for things It's about what it says to a girl It's not about the actual money You know what I mean? Guys and girls are so like You know they want your money They want you to pay for everything No it's like it's what it says It says like you're the man

Starting point is 00:05:41 It says like I'm taking care of you It says I'm solid It says I'm available and I'm interested You can invest $10 in me It says that I can't provide and protect and that's the definition of what a man is supposed to do by the way provide and protect and if you can't do that turn in your fucking man card and you should have a you should come with a warning label yeah and and that's fine because maybe some women are looking for that and that

Starting point is 00:06:08 warning label will help them find you I just cannot get down with uh you know men not wanting to be men and and also I don't get down with women not wanting to be women by the way so I'm just as harsh on the women when they're not telling their side of it. But come on. I mean, you don't have to take her to an expensive date. It could be a coffee date, whatever. But it absolutely does say a lot about you and most women, I would think, are going to be turned off by that. Yeah, I remember one of my favorite guys that I used to fuck was this guy, Phil, who was like so gorgeous. And he was so quiet. He barely said two fucking words. And when he fucked you in the bedroom, he was the most violent person I've ever been with and it was like super hot because it was like a total switch but what he this guy had not a

Starting point is 00:06:54 two dimes to rub together okay no money but it didn't fucking matter if we went to the 7-11 after in the morning when he was driving me home like he paid for my gum and my snapel like he wouldn't let me take off that's what I you know what I that's how I roll there's a quote yeah he paid for my gum and my snapple exactly he would have let me fucking pay for anything whether it was my gum or my example, my dinner, my anything. And he had no money. It wasn't about the money. It was about like his own ego. Like, I'm the man. Don't you dare. Like I'm going to do this for you. A man. Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes. I don't. I grew up that way. Like the men paid for stuff. If there were women around, there's no way a woman was paying for stuff. Like when I would go out, the guys that, the crowd that I

Starting point is 00:07:42 ran with, when you showed up with your girl posse, they paid for everything. Yeah. Just because they were, not because they were expecting anything. And nobody was abusing that and taking advantage. It's that they were, they were treating you. They were being gentlemanly. Yeah. That's it. Not only that.

Starting point is 00:07:59 And I used to say this all the time. Like typically I'm sorry. Like guys, like, I did an episode recently with a doctor who literally for $10,000 could make guys dicks thicker. And so many guys were complaining about the cash. And I'm like, are you fucking kidding me? Every girl you see walking down and spent $10,000 already on Botox. It's like $800.

Starting point is 00:08:17 every time they have it. Like when a girl shows up to a date, by the way, she has spent so much fucking money. Especially nowadays, these girls with their lip fillers, it cost me $600 without tip to get my hair highlighted, okay? Like, you know how expensive girls' clothes are? $100 to get your nails done? Like when a girl shows up to a date,

Starting point is 00:08:40 she's already invested like $500, forget about the Botox and all that other stuff. Like if she bought a new outfit, if she got her hair blown out, right? If she got her nails done. Like, it's more expensive to be a girl. Sorry. So she's already putting out some cash for you, too.

Starting point is 00:08:57 It's just in a different way. Do you know what I mean? Right. He may not be appreciating it because he doesn't understand. These guys don't understand. When these guys were complaining about $10,000 to make their dick bigger, I'm like, oh, my God, thank God you're not women. You'd look like shit.

Starting point is 00:09:10 Yeah. Because we spend so much money to look good. Wait, one last question. I want to get a submit before you have to go. Like, do most women like a man to be aggressive in the dating process? The gentleman likes this one lady. He's told her he likes her. He wants to be with her.

Starting point is 00:09:25 Should he make a point, make that a point or back off? And I think what he means is like, do you like a man to like fucking chase after you or do you like him to be cool? I have a very strong opinion about this, but I want to hear what you say first. Oh, I have a very strong opinion about it. Okay. Do you want me to tell you, tell me yours? Either way. Mine's not going to change.

Starting point is 00:09:44 just it's, it's, I'm very staunch on this one. Do you want to go ahead? Yeah, no, you're telling me. Okay. Okay. I think, yes, absolutely. The man is the fucking leader. Are you going to lead or not?

Starting point is 00:09:57 You don't just make a declaration and then not follow through on it. What, it's like, I want to be with you. Okay. And now she's waiting for you to take that next step, take the first step. What does that mean? Which direction are we moving in? That means X, Y, and C. So here's what we're going to do.

Starting point is 00:10:11 I, yeah, I mean, I'm not going to lead you. I will, this happens in the dating process all the time. It's probably one of my biggest frustrations with movie. I will not help a man move it along and be the man that he should be. You're just not going to get it for me. Someone else will teach you that. And honestly, as a girl, I think that that's a smart thing because I was very backwards my whole life in that I was very aggressive in my guys.

Starting point is 00:10:38 I almost not to the point where I'm a stalker, but I would make my mark if I saw a guy at the gym that I wanted to fuck or like. I would get him. Like, and it was all me. You know what I mean? And I would make it happen in any way I could. And I was like the aggressor. That guy, Phil, who fucked me really good and was like violent and quiet and like a,

Starting point is 00:10:54 on a scale of one to ten, he was like a 12 and everyone was intimidated by him. He would have never picked me up. I had to go over to him. Like I was super aggressive with guys. And I would be the picker. And let me tell you what I learned in life is like, girls aren't the pickers. Like, you need to, the great guy that you're going to be with is the guy that chases after you.

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Starting point is 00:13:08 Like this is the guys are the picker. I saw so many of my guy friends. The minute they met a girl they liked and it was the one they knew immediately. They sent her flowers before they even went on a fucking date. They were like they, the minute they made a girl that they really fucking life, they go after her. They fucking know and they go after it. It is in their nature to hunt.

Starting point is 00:13:31 And that's what you need to wait for. So when you don't like move those guys along, all you're doing is weeding out the guys that aren't that into you. Do you know what I'm saying? Because if they were, they'd make it fucking happen. Totally. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You're just separating the wheat from the chaff. You're just finding, just helps you find what you want and need faster. And same for them, you know. Yeah, a guy knows. He knows. I love like stories of people that met the one. Like I remember Johnny Depp talking about one of his wives. He said he saw her from, he fell in love with her back. He was like, who's that? Who's that back? And like, you know. Yeah, but that was Amber Heard. And then she didn't show on his bed. No, it wasn't Amber Heard. It was his real wife. No, it was his real wife that he was with forever and had babies. with. I read the whole article. Yeah. Okay. I thought it was Amber Hurd for some. No, no, no, definitely not. But, you know, and so many, so I just think that, you know, guys are the pickers and it's very good to have the guy be super aggressive and go after you. Like, you know, if he likes you, he's going to lock you down for the weekends the next day. He's going to text you. He's going to blow up your phone. And I fucking like that. I don't want someone that plays it cool. Not anymore. Like I said, I was doing it all wrong when I was, you know,

Starting point is 00:14:43 younger, you know what I mean? I was like just doing what I wanted. But like now in my life, like I would, I will wind up with the guy that like, you know, stalks me. Like not, I'm not going to be chasing after anybody. Right. I mean, it's a, it's a, and it's a fair trade. Like you, you stock me. You keep pursuing me no matter what. And I'll suck your dick, no matter what. I mean, it's like this is, we're trading things. That's the, that's the ability of, you know, a relationship, that's what qualifies is meeting the needs of the two people involved. Hey, stalk me, make me the star of the show. I want to, I need to be pursued and feel wanted. And I will show you how much I want to be your dirty little slut in the bedroom. Boom.

Starting point is 00:15:26 Sounds like a real good deal. I'm glad we came to this agreement. I mean, it's easy. Yeah, and it's not old fashioned. Like the same guy. Don't make me pursue you and be the naughty slut and be the one to come up with creative ideas in the bedroom. What the fuck? Yeah, see, I used to do all that. when I was younger. That's who I was. Oh, God, no. That's exhausting. I could never, you have, then you have a thousand percent more energy than I do. I do. That's why I'm doing seven episodes now. No, I'm sitting up here on my pillow print, you know, I'm a little pillow princess going, no, no, you know, like. Yeah, no. That's why, like I said, now instead of like making my mark on guys, I'm doing all these podcasts because I do have a lot of energy. That's my problem.

Starting point is 00:16:04 You know what I mean? So I would, I would, uh, to go after whatever I wanted. And, but I, do think it's more, most women should be with the guy that chases after her. Most women like that. And if you don't like when a guy is like, like, it feels like they're suffocating you when they're coming after you, it's because you don't like them. Do you know what I mean? Right? Yeah. Oh, yeah. So for sure. Yeah. I mean, it does happen with the wrong guy. It'll be right maneuvers, but wrong guy. Yeah. Just because the girl doesn't like it. Doesn't mean she didn't like the aggressiveness. She just might have not liked that guy. Not everyone is the one. That's why like when you see the one. And it's so special because most people are not going, like the stars are not going to align with them.

Starting point is 00:16:45 That's why you settle down with the person that you feel like whatever with because it's very rare. Yes, very rare. Right? When was the last time you felt a spark with any of these fucking guys? Oh my God. You're going to make me admit that? Yeah. I don't want to.

Starting point is 00:17:00 No, no. 20 years. 10 years? Five years, two years, two months? No, I mean, like the, you know, the largest, hugest fire. you know, was a cowboy inn. Right. Okay. So that was mine was before my son. I haven't really

Starting point is 00:17:16 had any, yeah, I haven't had anything since my son just, it's different when you're a single mom. I think a lot of people, like my son, my brother was dating a lot of women and he met a girl who was a single mom and her kid was like a little bit older and she had said she hadn't been dating for whatever. And he's like, I don't believe that. I'm like, no, you could believe that because she's a single mom. Like a single mom, like for me as a single mom, I work all week, my ass off like my weekend. because my son is still little, he's only 10, like my weekend is to spend with my son. I'm not going to

Starting point is 00:17:45 like give up time to go out on dates with guys. Like maybe if I was 25, I'd feel different. But like, I just haven't, you know, and I have somebody that I have sex with, right? But I haven't had any kind of need or desire or interest in having a relationship with anybody since I've been with my son. But when I was single, you know, the last guy was doctor guy. He was the guy right before my son was born that I dated and had that huge spark for and whatever. And we're still friends at this day. But I have. haven't met any guys or been open to it since for 10 years. So that's why I asked you 20 years, because I'm 10. But, you know, it'll be soon that I will want that again because my son will be a little bit older and he won't, I won't be spending the weekends with him. You know what I mean?

Starting point is 00:18:24 And I do. And my son has taught me that I actually do want a partner now more than I ever did. I never wanted a relationship. I never wanted to live with a guy. I never really cared about having long-term relationships. But I feel very differently about it after having my son and loving that can, like having someone in my space and being with someone all the time and like you know whatever and so when he's not around like i'm not going to want to go back to being single been that done that been there done that like my whole fucking life you know what i mean i prefer to sort of have people with me all the time yeah you know so that's uh so all right you're going to come back and do i will do a whole booty call episode okay i'm going to tell you my rules oh god my rules you're not following them i'm not following them no we'll talk

Starting point is 00:19:08 about it. We'll do it. It'll be another Sunday. I have all like I have every Sunday this year to fill up. So we'll do it a whole other episode on it. Okay. But thanks for calling in Leila. This is our last episode, but we'll do more. Thanks for calling in. All right. Talk to you soon. Bye. Okay. Okay. Listen, Layla had to go, but I'm just going to go on with my booty call rules. Okay. Because I don't need anyone to come in here and tell me that I'm wrong because I know that I am right. I have always been. and was a professional booty call girl. I've done them wrong and I've done them right, okay? But I've always done them.

Starting point is 00:19:46 And I'll tell you the right way. Or wait, should we tell you the wrong way first? First of all, there's a couple things that I think help a booty call. I personally like to have my booty call guy be somebody that I've like spun out emotionally on already, meaning like felt feelings for them, cop them, been there, done that over it completely, 100,000 percent, never going to like them again, no fucking way, but I could still bang them kind of way. Okay, that's my favorite booty call guy. That's typically who I've wound up having the most successful thing.

Starting point is 00:20:26 So maybe that is like the number one rule. I personally think the best person to bang is like I said, for a woman, a guy who she's already spun out on emotionally. Like a guy who you've already liked fell for, for whatever reason, it didn't work, and you pined over them after the breakup for however long you pined over them. And now you were out of jail, scot-free, never to think about them again, okay? That's the perfect guy. And, you know, for me, a lot of those guys in my life, I had like the best sex with them ever. So I was like happy when the feelings went away and I could go back, and just like bang them and not have to give a shit anymore because like to me,

Starting point is 00:21:07 maybe this is why I've been professional booty call more so than been in long-term relationships. Because to me, liking somebody so much and it's not sort of like reciprocated is like fucking torture. It's like the minute you finally get over somebody after you break up with them and you get over them 100%. Isn't it like you've got out of prison? Like the freedom you feel is like nothing.

Starting point is 00:21:31 there's nothing better than it, right? And we all know that, like, as women, okay, women, we could, like, hold on, even if there's, like, a 1% feeling left for somebody. That 1% could last a long time after you end things with a guy that you were pining over. So you got to make sure everything is gone, but once you are 100% over them, that is the perfect guy to go back and just bang all the time. Now, this is the deal. The other most important thing about having a booty call,

Starting point is 00:22:01 and having it be successful. And by successful, what I mean is that nobody winds up copying feelings. I think men are, it's very easy for them to like jizz with a woman, fuck them, even do all kinds of things with them and never have feelings. So these kind of booty call rules are more so for the woman. So if guys are listening, this is what you need to do with a woman and how you should treat her. And this is the things that women should do. Okay, now listen.

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Starting point is 00:25:58 them to like jizz with a woman, fuck them, even do all kinds of things with them and never have feelings. So these kind of booty call rules are more so for the woman. So if guys are listening, this is what you need to do with the woman and how you should treat her. And this is the things that women should do. For the man, I'm just going to tell you, you want to have a girl that you could bang and not have to deal with her fucking liking you or causing problems with you asking you why you haven't texted her and where are you and all that kind of shit you just want all the sex without any kind of drama okay i know there's not many guys out there like that i really believe that so many people dig all the fucking dramatic bullshit that comes with like you know booty calls gone awry guys love

Starting point is 00:26:40 it when a girl goes nuts over them even though they don't even fucking like them there's something about that kind of thing that people's ego gets into but if you have no ego and you just want good sex as you should, okay, in and out, okay? Don't fucking lead your girl on. You want me tell you what leads girls on? Fucking emojis, okay? There are so many guys that are so unavailable out there that are sending so many emojis. I find personally that both men and women, the coldest men and women in my life, the ones who are the most incapable of being nice as someone uses, use emojis more than anyone. Though my mom always used them a lot and she was the nicest person. She put like 10 in every email. I was like it was funny. But I just find out like a lot of people that use them don't mean anything.

Starting point is 00:27:28 And what happens with emojis though is they just like kind of say something. And you know, if you're sending kissy emojis and hard emojis and like romantic emojis to your booty call, that is not good. That's the kind of shit that's going to make a girl start. maybe copping feelings. Because what you're doing at this point is you're treating her like a fake girlfriend. If you never have plans to date her, don't treat her like a girlfriend. Don't say like, oh, you know, I bang her. We text every day. I take her out to dinner and stuff. But I told her, I don't like her and I don't ever want a relationship from her and then expect her not to like you back. Okay. That's the most ridiculous statement. And I've had guys do that to me. Okay. You cannot do your

Starting point is 00:28:14 actions need to match your words. And that's what typically happens. The actions don't meet the words. The guy or the girl says, I'm not going to like you, or the guy says, you know, let's do all this stuff, but I'm not going to, but, you know, we're not going to wind up in a relationship yet. Their actions don't say, I'm not going to get in a relationship with you. Their actions are texting all the fucking time, blowing up each other's phones, going out to dinner, cuddling after sex, having sleepovers, having fake-ass relationships with your booty call is not going to work. That's the kind of stuff that could turn it into a thing where one person cop's feelings and now

Starting point is 00:28:54 this is all going to go bust. I have had a long-term booty call guys and let me just tell you with those guys, it is a wham-bam, thank you ma'am, transactional kind of a thing. Okay, come over, bang me, leave. Come over, go down on me, leave. come over, I'll give you a blowjob, leave. That's it. And, you know, a lot, most of these guys, by the way, are my very good friends. So when we are texting outside of that shit, we are texting as friends, not as lovers. Sometimes sexting is involved, but even when the sexting is involved, it's not romantic sexting. It's dirty sexting, okay, as it should be. So keep your actions, make them like match your words. Now, as a man, I am sorry, Nothing infuriates me more when my guy friends are like, oh, this girl is so crazy. She likes me so much and I've told her.

Starting point is 00:29:48 I didn't. But yet, like I said, they're blowing up her phone. They're taking this girl on vacations or doing all this stuff with her because they love the feeling of having a fake girlfriend. And guys could have a fake girlfriend and not cop feelings. They're more capable of it than a girl. And then they get mad that the girl likes them when they're fucking whining, dining them, sending kissy emojis.

Starting point is 00:30:07 And then they're like, oh, and fucking them. Okay, really good. and making them have released the endorphins in them that makes them like men, and then they complain that the girls like them. And what I believe, unfortunately, is that secretly guys love when they get a girl crazy about them. I really believe that. I believe on some subconscious level, a lot of guys won't even listen to my advice right now

Starting point is 00:30:27 because they kind of like it when the girl goes nuts for them. It's like feeds their ego. But to me, in the long run, what you lose is good sex for way longer, okay? A girl will just bang you if she doesn't like you. There's plenty of girls out there that will. once they start liking you and you start making them feel all kinds of bad feelings because it's like unrequited love, you're there you have one foot out the door and eventually the second foot is going to go out the door and they're going to fucking leave you. So you want constant sex like I have given to

Starting point is 00:30:54 my booty calls seven years, 10 years, that kind of a thing. Don't have fake ass relationships. Just keep the booty call to the sex. You want to you want all the nonsense of having a fake relationship. Go find a real relationship someplace else. And for the girls, You know, you have to roll that way too. You don't want to like a guy. You get home from your booty call. Like, that is it. You go to the guy's house. You have sex with him. You do whatever. You leave. You want to be friends with him. That's fine. Text him as a friend. No texting. No needing him to take you out to the movies and stuff. If you want all that stuff from your booty call, then what's going on is you want a real relationship. And if your, and your booty call most likely is not going to give it to you. Now, listen, sometimes. Sometimes booty calls turn into relationships, right? We hear that all the time. That could totally happen. But I'm just saying if you know for sure and you're being very honest with yourself that you

Starting point is 00:31:50 don't want a relationship right now and you're just looking for some dick, okay, go after a guy that you've spun out on before and don't require anything other than sex. And if you want something more than sex, then go find it from somebody else that is available because I'm talking about like the booty call situation where this guy has told you to your face I just want to fuck you. I don't want anything with you. Okay, so as a girl, like I said, for me, my successful ones have always been what guys I've spun out on before because like Tommy, okay, Tommy was my old co-host and he was a long-term

Starting point is 00:32:25 booty call guy for me. And we did a great episode. I'm going to put the episode number in the description because it was such a great episode. I should probably like re-release it on a Thursday on my repeat Thursdays because we did an episode and it was like how to get a girl who would never ever, want to bang you to bang you because that's what Tommy did like Tommy liked me for so long okay I was like his fucking type when we were younger and I was so not interested in him I didn't like

Starting point is 00:32:53 his face I didn't like his mouth I didn't like anything about him but we became friends and this guy had so much game and patience that he got me into bed like literally I was like never would I ever never ever ever if he paid me a million dollars fuck that guy and boom I like fucked him. And not only did I wind up fucking him, I fucked him for like seven years. And there was a time when me and Tommy in the beginning started to do all the things that I said that I didn't want to do. He took me away on vacations. He was blowing up my phone. The way he got me in bed is he wooed me like a fucking girlfriend. Like he wooed me like he needed me to like him. And that's what got me horny for him. So I did spin out on Tommy for a very short time. I got over him really fast. And I

Starting point is 00:33:42 continued banging him after I spun out. And we wound up being like, you know, long, very long term booty calls. I mean, I would just like leave work and go to his, walk over at his apartment, bang him and leave. I would go to his job and we'd go down to his office. I'd bang him and leave, you know. And that was about it. Once in a while, he'd take me out for steak because I love a good steakhouse. And, you know, he owned one. So, you know, I'd go there, meet him and we'd eat together and shit. But like, besides that, there was no romantic shit going down. In the beginning there was, though, that's how he wooed me his way. And that's how I spun out. But after I got over him, that's the first person I went

Starting point is 00:34:19 to to bang, because I loved banging him. And just so you know, I never wound up liking his face. I'd never kissed him. Do you know that I never kissed him? Like, I hated his mouth. So bad. There was something about his mouth that was so not good to me. And it wasn't like he had rotten teeth or anything. He just had no lips. I'm very into lips. Like I like full lips. I don't like thin lips.

Starting point is 00:34:44 I don't know. There was something about his lip. I mean, and there's plenty of hot people that don't have like big lips, right? But like there was something about his mouth that didn't like. And I never kissed him once in the whole like 10 years of having sex with him. But, you know, he was like some of the best sex I ever had. There was something about his body and his dick, the side.

Starting point is 00:35:03 and the ratio of it and everything that was, and his, and, you know, he had dick fingers. I think me and Layla did a whole episode about his dick fingers. I mean, he was one of the only guys I loved when he fingered me because I don't really tend to like fingers like little skinny, pokey, pokey things up my vatch. I'm not interested in that. It gives me feelings. There's some PTSD involved and that's why I don't like that kind of a thing. But each one of his fingers was as big as a dick. So I would be like, you know, finger me with your dick finger me with your dick fingers. I was like so into him. But like I said, the only reason why I worked for 10 years is because I had spun out on him previously emotionally. Been there, done that, was over him completely, never to date

Starting point is 00:35:45 him again, never even to kiss him. But I banged him for 10 years. He serviced me. I serviced him. It was great and never to have feelings for him again. And we never did anything other than that. Like I said, there was no emojis. There was no kissy huggies in texting. There was no, you know, romantic getaways. There was none of that shit. So that is the ideal way to have a booty call. Now, I'm trying to think if I ever had a booty call with a guy that I never liked, that I didn't spun out on. Yeah, maybe I think I did. I think one of my first booty calls. I just talked to him with Leila, the gorgeous one who was really rough and bad. I banged him a lot and sometimes I'd even sleep over his house. But that was strictly because I was drunk, never because I wanted to cuddle.

Starting point is 00:36:35 And I never fell for him. And I banged him for many, many years. He was gorgeous. And he was like the best lay ever. He actually caught feelings for me. I don't know why, because I would, I never did any of the rules that I'm saying you shouldn't do. I always told him to his face. I was begging other people and I never wanted to. But maybe, you know what? Now that I think about it, maybe because I was sleeping over with him and I would allow him to buy me my snows. apple and all my shit and that I was giving him fake relationship vibes. There you go. So see, you can happen to anybody. Now listen, I do, I do believe in astrology and I do have like a Virgo moon and I think that so makes me a bit like unromantic or like just not so taken by

Starting point is 00:37:20 bullshit. So I don't know, unless I really actually like someone I really care about them. I don't really, not really interested in the fake shit in a relationship. So like, I don't know, you know, unless I really actually like somebody and really care about them, you know, once I do, I would love all that stuff. But I'm not interested in that from someone I don't like. I'm not, I'm not one to get fakingly into something. Like I'm, you know, it's not interesting. But I think a lot of people are into like fake bullshit and they get off on it. I don't know. I, because I see it all the time with my friends, you know, they're like telling me, they're dating and they're telling me like a guy sending them gifts and telling them they love them like two weeks in. And I don't know. I, because I see it all the time with my friends. You know, they're like, they're telling me. They're like, And I'm like, how could you even like feel anything for that? Like it's so obviously not true. Do you know what I mean? I'm not into fake shit. Like don't try to fake emoji me two weeks in and tell me like how much in love you are with

Starting point is 00:38:12 me. I'm just, it's just going to be fucking funny to me. And it's not going to make me feel a thing because I'm not really like wired that way. I don't know what the word is. But it's because it's not like I don't. If I like someone, it's not like I don't like being close and I don't like cuddling and all those kinds of things. but I only could do that or feel that way or want to be that way with someone that I actually

Starting point is 00:38:35 really care about. And that's not going to happen two weeks in. Okay. So I don't know how I got off on a tangent about the booty calls. But first and foremost, try to find someone that you've spun out on before. And second rule is, guys, if you want the girl to stay with you, don't blow up her phone. Don't fucking text her after sex. Don't send her emojis. Don't take her on vacations. Don't take her for long romantic dinners in candlelight or any of that fucking shit, okay? Just bang her and leave. I mean, it's nice for you to say, oh, had a great time, blah, blah, blah. And like for the girls, you know, because a lot of times girls will be like, oh, but it's just

Starting point is 00:39:09 like so respectful, like if they don't text. Like, what does it really fucking matter? Like, I don't care if my buddy call leaves and I don't hear from him for two weeks, like as a friend. You know what I mean? I don't need a text after, you know, I used him for sex. And that's what it needs to be about, right? You don't even need the obligatory tax because it's respect.

Starting point is 00:39:28 If you respect yourself and there's no problem with just like banging someone and having them not text you afterwards, all that kind of shit only matters when you actually like somebody. And if you can't just have a booty call and leave and you need all that other nonsense on top of that, you're not interested in a booty call. And that's fine. And that's great. It's like know thyself is my favorite saying. Know thyself.

Starting point is 00:39:49 Know that you want a boyfriend. You want a real relationship and go look for that and don't waste your time with a booty call because a booty call is going nowhere. And for me, that has been great. And it's been great for my guys. Free sex with no fucking nonsense for many, many, many years. Okay. If you want that, do what I say. If you want anything else, go get yourself a partner.

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Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1347 - How to Have a Successful Booty Call, Should Guys Pay, Do Girls Like Men who Chase and More Q&A w/Layla

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