Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1353 - How to Last Longer & Maximize Your Pleasure in the Bedroom & More w/Jeff Abraham

Episode Date: January 31, 2026

Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent called in to talk all about premature ejaculation, maximizing pleasure in the bedroom and more. Tune in to hear him discuss how and why guys are embarrassed by premature ejaculation and why they shouldn’t be, the physical reasons for PE vs the mental ones, how long it takes the average male and female to have an orgasm and the gap that exists between the two, the “layering effect” that can happen due to lack of communication about the orgasm gap, how many guys have chronic PE vs. acute PE, the typical age premature ejaculation can show up for a guy, how Promescent delay spray works without transferring to a partner and how and why that’s the sole differentiator from other sprays out there, why guys should be honest about using delay spray and how they can bring it up to their partner, the delay wipes vs the delay spray and who they are both made for, how many men actually suffer from premature ejaculation and how some men have actually wired themselves into it, how and why guys are masturbating more now then ever, their Go Solo product guys can can use while masturbating plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: ⁠https://www.promescent.com/STRICTLY15⁠ For 15% off Promescent's Delay Spray ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://learn.nocd.com/strictly⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started ⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com⁠⁠ Get the Butter massager and get 20% off your whole order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off DRIVE BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠PikaVibe.com/Strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Click to get $15 OFF your purchase Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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All you got to do is use my code three. 1712, that's 37712, or just go to the description and click on the link. Okay, today I have on Jeff, Abraham from Promeson. He's always fun to talk to. Promeson has a couple new products, but on this episode, since I do a sexual health Saturday's episode, I had him on to talk about PE, premature ejaculation. I mean, he knows all about it. We also talk a lot about the orgasm gap. We talk about men and women's pleasure, about, you know, how long it takes women to orgasm, how long it takes women to orgasm, how long it takes men. to orgasm. Why do so many guys come too fast? We talk all about all of that kind of stuff. It's a super fun conversation about men and women's pleasure. And then, you know, later towards the end, we talk about exactly how their delay spray works. Their delay spray definitely works, okay, because they used to sponsor my show and listeners used to always write in that it works and that they love it. I had a whole guest episode once where the girl called in to talk about how

delay spray like it saved her relationship because her boyfriend's, start using it. They also have some new products. There's one called Go Solo, which is like a brilliant genius idea that they had. You're going to have to listen towards the end to hear all about that. There will be a code for progressive products in the description if you want to get some after you hear him talk. But this is a fun conversation. You're going to learn a lot about premature ejaculation, a lot about women and orgasms and men and orgasms and sex and all that kind of good, fun stuff that I typically talk on my show because this is a sexual health Saturday's episode, but you'll also hear some great solutions from Jeff, CEO of Promeson. So anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Jeff.

Hey, Jeff Abraham. Welcome back to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. Yeah, listen, you've been on before, but so long ago, since you were on, by the way, a long time ago, I started a sexual health Saturday's series for my show because I'm very into health and fitness and I love like medical stuff. Like I can talk about it all day long. It's like a thing that I'm into. So, and I know that my audience, especially because I'm a very huge male audience is very interested in getting information on men's health, especially the stuff that, you know, you are the CEO, sorry, of ProMesset, you know.

And I did have, I do have your whole backstory. We taped it already. I'll put the number in the description. But on this episode, since we're doing a sexual health Saturday's episode, I want to get like deep into premature ejaculation, the orgasm gap. You guys have a delay spray that I, you were one of my first sponsors on my show.

I used to sell so much promisant. My listeners loved it. It really effing works. It doesn't numb you out. And it just makes you last a little longer so you could wait for your girl. Because to me, I used to say this in all my ads. Like, you know, when you come at the same time as your partner, that really is like the best sex ever, don't you think? It's the best.

It is the ultimate having that pleasure and arriving at the same time. Yeah. And it doesn't happen all the time. That's why it's so great because you're like, oh, my God. But imagine it can happen more often, right? To be honest with you, it's rare. Yeah, it's very rare. Yeah.

And unfortunately, with the advent of porn being readily available, most people start thinking it's natural and that's their expectation. Anyone who says that they arrive at the same time as their partner on a regular basis isn't just real or they have some magical ability that almost no one else in the world has. I know. Because even as a man, you don't last exactly the same time every single time. It can be factors like when the last time you had sex, all that kind of stuff, just your overall

general wellness. And women don't always climax. It's the exact 14 minute time frame, you know, that kind of stuff. So when you do have simultaneous climax or orgasm, it's something to celebrate and enjoy because it doesn't happen that often. Yeah. And, you know, listen, it doesn't have to happen every single time. But I know that like premature ejaculation is something that, you know, if a guy's having issues

with it or he feels like that happens every now. That's like embarrassing for a guy, correct? Like they don't want to come too fast. It's absolutely embarrassing. And I will tell you something that most people are unaware of. Because of the misinformation out there in the old wives tales and, you know, the way people make light of sexual dysfunction, there's a certain mindset that if a man doesn't last long enough and he prematurely ejaculates, it's because he doesn't care for his partner.

He doesn't have the right mental strength. You know what I mean? He's insensitive. There could be nothing further from the truth. About 20% of premature ejaculation tends to be psychological. It, you know, is anxiety related. But 75% to 80% has physiological reasons. Okay, whether it's hypersensitivity, the penile nerves, whether it's prostititis,

whether it's low testosterone. So it has nothing whatsoever to do with mental strength or, you know, mental acuity. And I think what's unfortunate is that that these old wives tales, these stigmas out there that do exist, they have people to become very ashamed of it. And I always use this analogy. And I tell people, would a diabetic ever be concerned or embarrassed about taking insulin? Of course not. Would somebody with cancer ever be concerned or insecure about taking chemo? Of course not. So why are we so uptight and people are really freaked out about using something to allow men to last longer.

In stepping out of the realm of premature ejaculation, let's talk about the average healthy male and female. Yeah. The average healthy male without any type of aid or whatever lasts five minutes and 42 seconds of penetration and thrusting during intercourse. The average female takes 18 minutes

of penetration and thrusting to achieve climax. That's the gap. So even in healthy couples, without a PE element in there, there is this disparate, you know, gap, the arousal gap and the orgasm gap. So that needs to be addressed. And, you know, you can address it a number of different ways. Sometimes guys are like, I'm the master of cunnallengis or seven trillion vibrators in the world.

Guys stop and start and think about baseball scores. You know what I mean? There's all these coping mechanisms. And sometimes when men find out, I don't need to use a coping mechanism. There's something that, you know, I can use on a regular basis, just like, I do for some of my other health concerns, then they go, wow, this really takes the anxiety out of intimacy. And if there's two emotions that should be separate and distinct, it's intimacy and anxiety. Anxiety ruins intimacy.

If you're uptight, if you're freaked out, then obviously you're not going to have great intimacy. So that's really and truly something that people need to understand and address that, you know, you can use certain things to make your, you know, your intimacy much more pleasurable. Yeah. And the sad thing for guys in this kind of situation when it comes to orgasms or coming to us is like they can't like fake it like a woman can. Do you know what I mean? Like it's all like right in front of your face.

So I think, you know, it's a physical reaction that there is proof that you're climaxing. There's no faking a man's orgasm. Yeah. Number one, there's fluid that, you know, sperm that gets exposed. Number two, unless you're one of those 2% of males that don't go flaccid after you're orgasm. You know what I mean? Yeah. If you climax, then all of a sudden you lose your heart on.

It's pretty obvious that you just climax. So you're right. Women can fake orgasm. Guys can't. I have a good tell, though, for the women faking it. I always say, like, you want to see if your girl's really faking it. Look at her nipples after she comes. If they're not fully erect, she just faked her fucking orgasm.

Oh, absolutely. Yeah, that's a good tell. you know what I'm saying? But for the guy, it is way harder. And like, listen, I have a literally a 10-year-old son that is, like, obsessed with having a big penis and all this stuff. Like, he already knows at that age from watching, like, regular YouTube, nothing terrible, that this is, like, going to determine how good he is as a man. Like, it's sad, but these kinds of things, there's stigma is attached to. E.D., premature ejaculation, coming too fast, not having a big dick, you know, like, this is like a big thing for most guys. Oh, and you, like you said, at 10 years old,

you have somebody that's already fascinated on that. Yeah. I tell people that I'm 68, so I'm way, way past that. I'm glad that when I lost my virginity when I was 15 years old, that I had never watched porn.

You know, I had no idea, you know, about what this was supposed to be like. And I was able to have intimacy, have a partner, and literally get comfortable and go, hey,

I'm pretty good at this. Without going prior to the first time I ever was intimate, going, I need to have a ten, inch dick. I needed to be the circumference of a beer can. I need to last 45 minutes, 12 seconds before I'm ready to climax. I get up, run across the room and shoot my partner in the head, you know, with deadly accuracy with my semen, you know? Yeah. And that I had this

impression that a female orgasm was like Elizabeth Berkeley and showgirls, you know, where you flop around like a fish, you know what I mean? And so I just can't even imagine in this day and age, becoming intimate for the, you know, first time and having those expectations from watching porn to be your definition of what normal sexual activity is. Yeah. And even, you know, I have Susan Bratton on a lot as a sex expert, and she talks about, like, you know, how long it takes a woman to become fully erect, right? Women have erectile tissue inside. Absolutely. And they need time. You know, my booty call guy comes over and thinks, I'm going to be horny in one second. Like, I don't even like him.

Like he's a booty call. You know what I mean? Like I need some fucking time. And I think sometimes a lot of times guys don't get that that all has to happen for a woman too first. And he's like fucking hard and ready in one second. So there's like a lot of gaps going on here. Yeah.

No, you're exactly right. I tell people all the time because I speak to my customers. Yeah, yeah. That's why I'm having you on because you're talking to real guys all the time. I'm talking to real guys having these experiences. And now whether it's at my Homeowner Association gym or play. is like, oh, everyone listens to my podcast. So I've become this de facto sex expert.

You know what I mean? That's fun. People think I'm like a urologist and I laugh. But I tell people all the time, and this is one of the things that tips I give men all the time. Literally start your foreplay the morning of when you're going to be intimate later that day. Whether it's sending a text message, hey, we really can't wait to see you this evening. You know, women take longer than men, okay? there's a certain segment of the female population that really and truly wants to feel this lead-up,

not a guy go, brace yourself. You know what I mean? Like, assume the position, you know? Or just come in with a heart on and think, like, just for your male form, we're going to get horny. You know, yeah. Yeah. Spread them, you know? So start earlier in the day.

Send a couple nice reminders. You know what I mean? Maybe call at lunchtime and say, hey, I'm really looking for, you know? So you're setting the mood from early on in the day. And that's when you're going to get the best response. And I always tell people you're paying it forward because you're going to have someone who's much more responsive. And you're going to have someone who literally has less need once you get together because they've been feeling this all day. You know, they've been feeling this arousal all day.

anyone who tells you they don't want to feel desire is lying to you. Yeah. Okay. Now, listen, anyone that listens to my show knows I'm always talking about anal action, why it's so good, how much I love it, and why I think every guy out there who hasn't tried it should try it. And that's why I'm excited to tell you about the Butter Wellness Paranium Massager, because their Paraniam Massager is only meant to be used on the outside.

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Part of really good intimacy is feeling desired, is feeling like your partner is totally into you. It's feeling like your partner can't wait to please you. That gives you a feeling of being desired. That gives you a feeling of arousal. And arousal is what it's all about. if you have an active libido, if you're anticipating something, then it's like a meal. If all of a sudden out of nowhere, someone just drops this meal in front of you, you're like, oh, that was good.

But part of a meal is during the day going, we're going to, you know, True Foods Kitchen tonight. I can't wait to get, you know, this meal. And you can almost start sensing the aroma, you know? Yeah. You can almost anticipate the taste of it. So by the time you're there, you feel like. it's been this drawn-out experience that you enjoyed every second of it, you know?

Yeah. Sex should be the same way. Yeah. It should be something that you both feel that you're about to sit down later that day in experience, and you can almost sense it, you can taste it, you can smell it, you know what I mean? And it's not just the actual 20 minutes that you're inhaling the meal. It's the anticipation, the lead up. Let's face it, when you go to a really nice restaurant, you're going to have an extraordinary

meal, they generally have, you know, palate cleansers and an appetizer. Sex should be the same way. Yeah, there's nothing worse. I'm a foodie. There's nothing worse than like dating someone or going out to eat with someone that could care less about food and just wants to go in and out. You know what I mean? Isn't there a lot in that analogy about sex? Yeah. Food, it's exactly the same thing. Yeah, I don't like sex that way. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Like you wouldn't believe. I swear to God. I'm like, I intermittent fast. I don't eat breakfast. Yeah, me too.

I eat all my meals between like 11.30 a.m. and like 7.30 p.m. But I'll tell you the two meals I have, lunch and dinner, any of my snacks in between, I literally embrace and literally enjoy every second of it. And I'm already today, I know exactly what I'm having for lunch. Oh, yeah, exactly what I'm having for dinner. Yeah. And all day, I'll be tasting it. I'll be thinking about it.

I'll be visualizing it. And that enhances my experience. Intimacy should be the same thing. Yeah, there's not many things in life that are like very pleasurable, right? Life is difficult. Life is hard. Life has ups and downs, you know. And there's like a couple things that, you know, are just like icing on the cake.

And like sex and food to me are the two of them. The two. They're my two most favorable activities. I'll make no bones about it. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

You need pleasure. It gives you pleasure. You need it with everything else that goes on in your life. That's how you get the seesaw balance. You don't know. You need a balance. Those are the pleasures in life. They shouldn't be denied.

I was actually going to make a T-shirt one time jokingly, of course. And I said, I'm a man. I have two emotions. I'm either horny or I'm hungry. If I don't have a heart on, make me a steak. You know what I mean? Yeah, totally. I love it.

It's funny. And you know what else I was going to? say when you were talking about like guys and stuff it's like you know a lot of times people will be like oh men are so selfish in the bed but i think the opposite is true i think that men are very into pleasing their women they have that on their fucking back when they enter the room right like they really they need to get a woman off and sometimes it does take a woman longer and that's where they need sometimes like a little delay spray because you know some women like you said a healthy woman could take 18 minutes but a woman that's too in her head or for whatever

reason, maybe feel self-conscious that day, you know, she may take even longer. Oh, that's the average. Obviously, there's people that go a lot longer, that take a lot longer. I had an experience when I first moved to Las Vegas. I dated a gal, and she had a bit of a hooded clitoris, and, you know, I feel like I'm an amateur. You're all. Trying to find it.

Yeah. Yeah. And she took literally, whether it's manual stimulation prior or during intercourse, close to 40 to 45 minutes to literally get off. And there were times, I swear, would be going to bed. And I felt like putting in a hard hat and punching a clock like I was going to work. And I was joking. I told people, I said, it's a good thing that I own Promescent. I'd have to take a second job bagging groceries at Whole Foods. You know what I mean? Yeah. Pay for my delay spray. And then after our relationship ended, I was dating someone who was a physician's assistant. And you're going to laugh when I tell you this.

she literally had 10 to 12 orgasms a night. She hiccups in her orgasm. And that just shows you how women are just so different. You know what I mean? Yeah. And the response time and the ability to climax an orgasm is so different. And I literally felt like King Kong. You know what I mean?

It was like, oh, my God, I'm the best lover in the world. My partner can climax, you know, literally every three or four minutes for you know, 30 minutes. And it was just such a different feeling. And as a man, you know, you're obviously wanting to orgasm as well. But anyone who says the majority of men are insensitive. Men love to please their woman. It's good for your own ego. Yeah. Plus, let's be honest with you. And I tell this to men all the time. You're paying it forward. Okay. If you have a reasonable personality and sense of humor, you take care of yourself and you, you know, are a reasonable provider, and you give your partner a lot of high-intense quality orgasms.

You don't think she's going to be going, I'm going to make sure this guy is satisfied because this guy is funny. He's great to be around. He's a good provider. We get along well. And he gives me a ton of orgasms. So I tell people, be sensitive. Focus on your partner.

Because in reality, you're going to be recognized as this great sensitive lover, but at the same time, ensuring your own pleasure. Yeah, no, totally. And I've seen guys, faces change during sex, right? Because you could tell when they're like trying to like you said, like think about the ballgame or something. Like it's painful for our guys to try and like stop.

And I could see it in their face like, oh, they're trying not to come because I'm not there yet. And then, you know, then the woman could get in her head. So like, you know, a little delay spray goes a long way. You're exactly right. I call it layering. Yeah. I've had situations.

There's one couple in particular. Remember I talked about the husband and the wife that are big use of our product. And they were explaining to me. how they almost split up because she took quite a while and he was having trouble finishing. So he was literally going, you know, somewhere else in his mind, whether it was work, whether it was, you know, soccer statistics or baseball batting averages or whatever, but he would disassociate trying not to feel the pleasure because it would send him over the edge and he would ejaculate.

Right. And he was very well aware that his partner hadn't come yet. she started taking that that he wasn't interested in intimacy, that he was distracted. So she started becoming less interested. She started becoming less interested than he was like, oh my God, she's not into me. I call it the layering effect. So without proper communication and without something to change that arousal gap, you can have people that it starts assuming, well, he's not into me.

Look at the fact that he's really not present. meanwhile he's totally present but he's trying to disassociate himself so he doesn't ejaculate too early then she goes off of that and says he's not that into me then he starts reading her body language she's not into it pretty soon you have people ready to separate and it's all based on the fact that he's trying not to ejaculate and they're really into one another and they enjoy one another yeah no totally those kinds of things can like really ruin a relationship for sure you know yes And nobody wants to talk about that kind of stuff, right? It's not easy in the middle of it.

It's very difficult. Yeah. Even in good, healthy couples and good relationships, talking about your sex lives and your needs and your desires is not an easy thing to do. Yeah. For sure. Tell me like with like for premature ejaculation, it's not like, I mean, it can be an actual physical problem for somebody and happens all the time, right?

It could also just happen like in the beginning of a relationship, right? Because the guy's so horny for this new woman, right? it could be something that's like a one-off or every now and then. It could be something that's chronic, correct? There's both. There's chronic P.E. That's generally due to hypersensitive either penal nerves or, you know, just an acute prostateitis infection. When that gets addressed, that'll go away, you know, low testosterone.

But even in men who don't suffer from P.E. on a regular basis, if you haven't been intimate in a while, you might have an early trigger. You know what I mean? Because it's been a while and your body's like, oh, my God. I need to release, you know, that kind of a thing. Yeah. If you're in a new relationship and it's the first or second time, you've been in them with someone, you might have an early release because there's more anxiety. It's not that usual, you know, comfort.

You know what I mean? Yeah. And that could lead to premature ejaculation. There's many different factors. Sometimes if a man has a lot of fatigue, if he's tired, if he's not feeling well, he might have premature ejaculation. So you're exactly right. There are people that have chronic PE where it's a physiological thing that happens every single time they're intimate.

There are also people that just in certain instances are going to have something that's going to trigger that, whether it's fatigue, whether it's a prostate infection, you know, but whether it's something that is just acute, you don't know. But that's why it's always nice to have something if indeed you feel some of those factors are going to be in place, especially the first or second time. you're intimate with someone. There's much higher probability you're going to have a quicker release. Yeah. And let me ask you this about age. Like, is this something that it happens more so to guys who are younger? Could it happen to someone like you at 68? You got this new hot girl you're going to have sex with. Could you premature ejaculate with her? Or does it take longer naturally when guys get older? It takes longer naturally when you get older. Okay. I've had a lot of my friends my age go, do you have something that would actually help me a long quicker? You know what I mean? Like my partner's like what you get off? of me, you know, that kind of a thing. Yeah.

And, you know, when you're younger, especially in the first, you know, three to four years when you're first intimate, you really don't have that feeling of inevitability where you know you're getting close, you know, because sex is still that new to you. Yeah. But just like I said earlier, as you age, sometimes your prostate health can also affect it. So in a normal man who everything is functioning, generally as they get older, they have much more control of the ejaculatory response. But there's exceptions.

Obviously, if your prostate isn't as healthy as it once was, that can trigger premature ejaculation, you can have lower testosterone. So organically, as you get older, you generally have more control of the ejaculatory response, but there are mitigating factors, whether it's testosterone level, whether it's, you know, prostate health, there can still be other issues that come into place that could absolutely trigger, you know. Plus, I'll be quite frank with you. When you're younger, sometimes, even though you have more of an urge or a tendency to premature ejaculate, it's not a big deal, because your refractory period is, you know, two minutes. You're ready to go again. Trust me, it's 68. You know,

you literally, in some cases, need a night's sleep, three meals and workout before you're ready to go again. So I tell people, I use this analogy. When you're, you know, in your teens, early 20s, you're machine gun. You're firing bullets all over the place. Okay, you're like rapid fire. I don't have to hit a target with every single shot. Then you get to your 30s and you're like a semi-automatic rifle, you know, bolt action. You know, you can shoot three or four rounds a minute. Then you get into your 40s, you know, early 50s and you're a rifle. I tell people when you're in your 60s, you're like a busket. Remember during the Revolutionary War where you've got to like take the powder, put it in, take the ball, put it in, take that thing. You know what I mean? And you literally, you literally,

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They just can't go like four times. Like when I was 40, I dated a 25 year old because you could fuck five times a night. You know what I mean? No 49 year old's going to be doing that. I mean, you're always going to find people out of the box, right? But like it typically, that's what I saw most of my guy friends who could do it all night long. Like they just, it wasn't that way anymore. Unfortunately, you know, it just is.

No. Yeah. Let me ask you this because you talk to people on your website, which I think is still cool. You're still doing that, right? I mean, because you guys have gotten so much bigger since I last spoke with you. Now you're in Target. you guys are all over the place. We're everywhere now, yeah.

Yeah, but I mean, you were always, like, I remember one of the big things that you do is you do go on and answer people and talk to people. I mean, this is how and why you have, like, had new products and done different things because you're always have your pulse on, like, what you're- I'm always learning from our customer base. Absolutely.

Yeah. So what are, like, the demographics of the guys who are writing in, you know, and what are the typical things that you're hearing from them? The average demographic of our, you know, age-wise of our customer base is generally the sweet spot is early 30s to early 50s. That's where the majority of our business comes. Because at that point, you have a lot of discretionary income. And you're really at a point where you're trying to maximize every area of your life.

And you don't have the ability to have sex five times a night, just like we talked about earlier. So that is absolutely the sweet spot. Now, that being said, we've sold product to people as showing as 18. and you'll laugh. We had somebody buy our product that we knew he was 93. Wow. Because he called up and said, hey, you know, here's the address, but I need you to put this little. And my son happened to be in college and working for us in our customer support role.

And he called me, said, Dad, what's our mental health policy for our employee? I go, why would you need mental health for 20? He goes, I just answered a guy's question. He called up and said, yeah, just put an order in. And I need you to say, you know, ask, for Betty at the front desk or delivered to Betty at the front desk and she'll forward into room 503 and I said oh are you in a hotel or you're on vacation he said no I'm in an old folks home I'm 93 and my son goes I can't get that image out of my mind you know like and I started

laughing and I was like wow at that age I got to get the guy credit he's still worried about his performance and he must be pretty active you know yeah in his little old folks home so it's Our demographics certainly are early 30s to early 50s, where the sweet spot where we get a ton of business. But we've done business from 18 all the way to 93 that we're aware of. Now, how common is it that these guys are asking questions like? Because I wonder, like, do most guys, if they're using to lace spray, are they hiding in the bathroom and putting it on and not telling their girl?

I mean, you know, like, do they want, like, does it transfer to the partner? I remember, like, talking about this on my ad. You know, I'm assuming a lot of people don't want to pop to. it. Yeah. We're patented. One of the reasons we've grown and we've taken over this market is we have a eutectic formula that changes the crystalline structure of lytocane. All the other ones are transferable. Like a grain of salt. Lytocane in its native form is a solid. It sits on the surface your skin. Yeah. And it will transfer and also numb your partner. We change the melting point of lightacane and it goes from a solid to an oil aqueous form. So it goes below the dermis, below the

stratum corneum into the fatty tissue underneath. So the man maintains a much higher degree of surface sensitivity and it doesn't transfer it his partner. So that is the sole differentiator, but it's a very key differentiator for us. And it makes it a much more pleasurable experience. And I do talk to men, I mean, all day, every day. It's part of my job. That's how we develop new products. That's how we tweak different products. As we know from our customer base, areas that they go, I don't really have a satisfactory product in this particular area. And I will tell you that there's, two separate and distinct different types of men when it comes to intimacy. Some of them, and I happen to follow into this category, if you're with somebody and you're

intimate with them, you don't want to be doing anything they're totally unaware of. Just in case they have an allergy to lytic cane, our products is totally safe. We've sold close to 5 million bottles and we've never had a serious medical issue. Sometimes someone will call our contradications like, hey, can I use this? So I'm trying to get pregnant. You know, can I use this with a condom without a condo, that kind of stuff? never had it's totally safe yeah but from the conversations that I have with men there's a certain type to go I don't want my partner to know I'm using this yeah and there's another type that they

incorporated into their foreplay you know that it's I happen to be of the mind that if you're close enough to be intimate with someone you shouldn't be hiding something just in case they have an aversion to it you know what I mean or you know all of a sudden they're going down on you and go, I feel this slight, like, menthall taste, you know. Yeah. You might have the only menthol tasting penis on planet Earth, you know, and it puts them in an uncomfortable situation and go, did you like scrub your penis? You know, is there something I need to know?

Are you like unclean or unhealthy? And, you know, you have some kind of a medication on your penis, you know, that kind of thing. So I just believe the open kimono, the Japanese theory of those secrets, you know, like, Of course. If you're close enough to be swapping, you know, sexual fluid with one another, you shouldn't have things you're embarrassed of or hiding, you know? And, but there are some that are like, I don't want my partner to know I'm using this. Yeah.

Yeah, it's kind of crazy. And I think it goes both ways. I think, you know, I would say to men like women are a lot more forgiving about stuff than you would ever think. Like, we could care less if you're using a delay spray. Like, we're like happy. You're going to wait longer for us. We don't have to worry about taking longer to come.

Do you know what I mean? I would think that I would want my partner to literally focus on it is look at this guy's goal in the extra mile for my pleasure. Exactly, yeah. Because one of the things I tell people that premature ejaculation has a more pronounced effect on the woman than it does the man. Yep. If a man prematurely ejaculates, he's still ejaculating, okay? And the woman's like, excuse me, I'm over here. What about me?

Yeah, yeah, totally. She's now you got to get her off, you know what I mean? Because she's not finished. Exactly. Yeah, it's terrible. And I think if you freeze it, like, listen, I'm going to do this so that you could take as long as you want to fucking come. That takes the pressure off for the woman. Because for the woman, she doesn't have premature ejaculation.

Her issue is, what if I take too long to come, then she gets in her head. And it's all about not being in a head for the woman. You know what I mean? Let me tell you something. Yeah. This is what I call the layering effect. Yeah. If she starts getting in her head, I'm taking too long.

It's going to take her even longer. Totally for worse. Instead of relaxing and lying back. and focusing on her pleasure, she's got anxiety, and she's focused, if there's anything for a woman that is going to inhibit pleasure, it's trying to rush the pleasure. Totally. And starting to go, oh, my gosh, there's something wrong with me. Please, hurry up, climax, please, you know, that is absolutely counterproductive.

Yeah, a woman has to be, like, between her legs. And that's hard for women. And I think that's one of the reasons why it takes her longer to get into being aroused because she lives so much in her head, right? Like, we have so much stuff going on and everything, like, in order. for us to just relax and get into our body and forget about everything that's going on in our heads and then get between our legs. If we start to worry and I've been there, done that, like, that I'm taking too long and I

could see this guy wants the fucking come and he's holding back really hard. You know what I mean? And then I start to overthink. It's going to take me 10 times longer because now I'm not even feeling between my legs. Now you're not feeling it anymore and you're anxious and you're uptight. An orgasm comes generally when you're totally relaxed and you're totally losing. yourself into the pleasure, you know? Yeah. And not sitting there thinking about, you know, the next day's work assignment. You know, why am I not climaxing? Oh, my God, you know,

he's going to lose his erection unless I hurry up and I climax. Those are all not very, you know, conducive to having good intimacy. Yeah, no. So I don't think any woman's going to give a shit whether you want to put it up, you know what I mean, especially if you put it like, like that to her, that she could take as long as she wants. She's going to be happy. You're going to be happy. Yeah. Yeah. Totally.

You know, and listen, one time a guy, the first time you were with a guy, if he premature ejaculates, you feel like, like you said in the beginning, like a guy feels so bad, but a woman takes it as a compliment. Like I was so, he was so turned hot by me. He couldn't hold it. That's exactly right. I'm so hot. He couldn't hold it.

Yeah, yeah. We don't care, you know? But if it's E.D, that's a different story. But like, you know, over time, though, that's going to be a problem. Why don't you explain to people exactly how it works, how they use it. You know, it comes in a spray and a wipe. I remember the wipes. were a new thing, you know, years ago, but they're, you know, been out and about. So why don't you

explain the difference between the two and how people use it and all that kind of good stuff? The delay spray is always should be used by someone who has chronic or pretty severe PE. It's more effective. The delay wipes are more for the recreational guy who goes, I last 10 minutes, I last 12 minutes. Yeah. Or I last 12 minutes. I want to last 16 minutes because my partner takes a little bit longer. because you can't get as much fluid into a wipe as you do in a spray bottle, and the formula is not quite as eutectic. So there's two distinct different types, and we try to make that really apparent on our website.

If you have PE and you last a minute, you want to last 10 minutes, you don't want to wipe, you want to spray. Right. And also a lot of people love the portability of a wipe. It's literally like, it looks like one of those little things when you get a shot, they open up that little alcohol packet and they take the thing out and wipe it. It's very easy. A lot of times, even though our delay spray bottle fits in the change pocket of your jeans,

a lot of people don't like carrying a little bottle around. A lot of people are much more comfortable with a wipe. If they're going to a club that night or they're out on a date, they're going to their partner's house. They don't want to have to carry around a little bottle. Yeah, no guy is walking around with a pocketbook. I mean, where are they going to put it? You know what I mean?

That's exactly. Yeah. So each one has a different purpose. Yeah. And but if you have severe PE, you might be helped a little bit by a wipe, but you really need a delay spray. The delay spray is used. You, you can put it on flask and you can put it on when you're rock hard, but you generally want to put it on about seven to ten minutes prior to having intercourse or oral sex or whatever type of sex you happen to be having. Yeah.

That's the optimum. for most men it'll work in five minutes, but people's body temperatures are different, and we know everyone will get the desired effect within seven to ten minutes. So we say seven to ten minutes, but I've had people that I talk to who said, hey, why do you say seven to ten minutes? I'm ready to go three to four minutes.

And I say, well, we can't say three to four in case you're one of the people that go seven to ten. But we know that seven to ten minutes, every man will have the maximum effect from. So that's why we say seven to ten. So you apply it and you use it. and it's very effective. So it's one of these things that it's a metered dose spray,

so you get the exact amount of the product each time. So we tell people that's very effective because some people will say, you know, I use three sprays except if the wife, you know, if the in-laws, my wife's parents have the kids and they're out of town. It's a Friday night. We don't have to get up. Then I go to five sprays because, you know, we want a 40, minute to an hour session rather than a 25 minute session. So because it's a meter dose spray,

you get the same amount each time, you can titrate it. You can literally go, I'm going to use the exact amount for the type of intimacy I'm having this evening. And I laugh when I hear that that, you know, sometimes, you know, using something is the best way to determine how it best works for you. Of course. And it's not just some tube where you squirt it out. Sometimes you get more, sometimes you get less. It's a meter dose spray bottle. So you get the exact amount. out each time. So we have people that titrated to literally say, for me, this is how often I need to use it. Or for me, this is how much, you know, I use each particular time. And I find that really intriguing. Let me ask you a question. I'm not a guy, so I don't know what it feels like to fuck a girl,

but like if you spray this on, right, is all sensation totally taken away? Or are you still feeling pleasure? You're just not overly sensitive so you're not going to come? Like, what does a guy feel once he's like slightly numbed out by it? I'm a super. it's not totally numbed out by that. It gives you no, not totally, because if you were totally numbed out, you would not be able to climax. Yeah, yeah. It gives you this really pleasurable feeling of control.

It gives you this feeling of like there's no anxiety. Right. You still feel like I remember when I first invested and I took over the company. I said, hey, for me to properly position this product, I have to use all the competitive products. I have to know how we stack up. Yes. And I remember when I used Stud 100, I use this analogy.

I go, someone could have dropped a cinder block on my penis and I wouldn't have felt it. Okay. Yeah. It was numb. My partner, I remember, she got numb. It was like, oh, my God. When I used Prometothin has no effect on my partner whatsoever because it doesn't transfer. And I just felt this feeling of control.

I felt this feeling like I was still very much feeling, you know, the intimacy and I could feel the penetration. but there wasn't this feeling of like, okay, I'm almost there. Oh my God. It was like I had to concentrate and focus on when I wanted to finish. Right. And I tell you, if there's one thing that guys love, it's control. Believe me when I tell you, you know, if you ever, you know, go over another couple's house and you're like, oh, we're going to watch a movie or we're going to watch TV. Who's got the control on his hand is generally the guy.

I always tell people, if you're going to watch a movie, you're going to watch TV, I always tell people, if you're going out to dinner with another couple, how many times you see the woman drive unless the guy has lost his license and he has a DUI, you almost always see the man driving and the woman in the passenger seat. It's unbelievable.

Guys are insecure, guys love control. Yeah. So I tell a lot of women who call up about, you know, because a lot of times when I'm doing podcasts or serious radio shows, they're interactive, they have calling, you know. And believe it or not, even when we only had delay spray before we had all other products,

50% of the callers would be female. And they always had the same question. How can I bring up such a sensitive topic without hurting my boyfriend or my husband's feelings? Yeah. And I would say, all you have to do is get him to try at one time. Once he tries at one time, you'll never, because guys love that feeling of, oh my God, can I wait? Can I hold off long enough, do you have an orgasm too?

Am I going to give her two or three? You know what I mean? like I'm in total control here. And I tell them, I used to say I used to have this saying because it started back in 2015-16. I said, create 50 shades of gray night. Get him a riding crop and a feather duster and a blindfold and a bottle of delay spray and just couch it like this. We're going to have this fantasy night.

I just want to make sure it lasts as long as possible. Yeah. I said, once he uses it one time, you will never, ever have to tell him to use it again. Yeah. He will absolutely start buying it and use it. using it because he will love that feeling of I am in control. Yeah, and I, or they could use my trick. Like, I always tell girls, like, if you want a guy to go down on you all the time,

be like, oh, my God, no guy has ever gone down on me and made me come. Like, if you tell a guy that he could be like the first one to do something to you, and they will like, well, like, he is going to do it. Yes. If you tell that to a guy, he's going to show up for your next, you know, encounter with a bib on, you know what I mean? Oh, yeah. You know, he's going to be like, I'm going down there for.

Until I achieve. I'm William the Conqueror. Yeah, I can't square it. And every guy has like literally tried to make me squirt. And they will do it for hours because they have to be the one. So that's all you got to do is make the guy feel like they're going to be the one guy that lasts the longest that you need. You know what I mean? And they're going to like fucking jump at the chance.

It's so easy. It's that easy. With the other day, we were doing this evaluation of our company. And I said, you know, it's amazing. you know, about how many repeat customers we have. And we went through, you're going to die when I tell you this. That's interesting, yeah. And we identified, now brace yourself for this.

Yeah. Into the multi-thousands of people that have spent at least $1,000. And this is just our website because that's the only data we have. Of course. People that buy online, on Amazon, people that buy, you know, on, you know, from Target. Right. You don't get that data. CVS.

We don't get that data. Yeah. Just from our website alone, we know that we have thousands of customers that have spent at least $1,000 on PROMESA. This is what I tell people. If you last a minute and all of a sudden you start lasting 10 to 12 minutes, do you really want to get into bed with your partner next time? And she goes, what happened?

How come 32nd man is back here again now? You know, like it's crazy. Yeah, I love data. I love data. It's so interesting. Yeah. And I went through. and I started looking, and there's certain customers we have that have literally gotten into this continuity program,

that they order a large bottle of pro mescent every six weeks, and they've done it for 10, 12 years without fail. Wow, that's crazy. It's nuts. Let me ask you this. And this is just like a weird question that I have because I don't really know. And I'm sure you have these stats too. It's like how common is the chronic P.E. Like how prevalent is that out there?

It's probably about 20% of males have chronic P.E. Right. Interesting. Like they never last more than a minute or never last more than two minutes ever in any kind of sexual, whether it's masturbation, whether it's oral, whether it's, you know, vaginal sex. They just don't, for whatever reason, they have some kind of a chronic condition. Right. And do you know the breakdown, whether that's like physical or mental? Like, is it more mental that this is happening to guys? or is it more physical? Is it equal? Do you know?

We know overall. Yeah. It's about 20 to 25% of PE in general is psychologically induced. Right. And a lot of that can be from the time of a young male sexual awakening. Yeah. You know, when he first starts masturbating, sometimes there's shame involved. I can hurry up and get this over with someone going to walk in the room.

Totally. Yeah. Especially if you don't have your own room, you know. And, you know, and, you know, your parents are going to walk in. And, you know, I can hurry up and get this over with it. You know, my parents ran to the market. I have some privacy. You know what I mean?

Of course. You don't know how long that privacy is going to last. And then you start, you know, dating someone. And generally, obviously, when you first start your sexual journey, even when you're with a partner, you don't have your own home. You still live with your parents, you know? Yeah. And it's like, oh, no one's home.

Let's hurry. I'm get this over with. So there's a school of thought among psychologists and urologists that part of the psychological part is you have men who have literally trained themselves to finish quickly. Yeah. And it's hard once you're trained that your ejaculatory response is based on, let me hurry and get this over with to then somehow recalibrate and untrained that. No, you formed it. You have to like kill that.

You have to kill that. Yeah. Yeah. That's like how you quit addiction and all that kind of stuff. But when you wire, and everyone wires themselves into certain things when they're. Everyone's brain is wired. And after a period of time, it's repetitive. Yeah.

So you start equating ejaculation with let me get this over with. Yeah. And that's the other reason why porn is so dangerous now, right? Because it's wiring people into certain things as well, you know. But anything, and those wires, like you said, can last your whole life. So why not spray a little delay spray, right? I am going to, by the way, and I'm going to put a link in the description to your website. There will be a code to get a discount for permissible spray.

You also have it. Like I said, you've come so far since I last spoke to you. So many different other products. You're all over the place. People could get yourself anywhere. Is there anything else that you want to talk about before we go? Yeah, there's a couple things that I think are really notable. We have a product called Vitaflux.

Right. And Vitiflux, it's an overall wellness supplement, not just a sexual supplement. And what it is, it's L. Cynetriene, L. arginine, zinc, and magnesium. Right. And it works for both men and women. it increases blood flow. So when it increases blood flow, it decreases blood pressure.

And everyone would like the lowest possible blood pressure because it blows black out of your arteries. It just makes you more healthy. Right. But when you have more blood flow, it goes to your entire body. So it increases arousal. It increases libido. Because obviously when you have an engorged, you know, vulva and clitoris or an engorged, you know, penis, you obviously have a higher libido.

You're feeling those thoughts of intimacy. It also decreases, you'll laugh. I'll tell you, it decreases body fat, increases lead muscle. So every vein and artery in our body has an etothelial layer. And that is the layer that is very supple when you're young. And it's used to keep bad stuff out. It keeps out, you know, bacteria, viruses, that kind of stuff. It lets hormones, vitamins, minerals, absorb.

As we age generally late 30s, early 40s, especially women, it's accentuated with menopause. as we get older, that becomes very brittle. When it's brittle, it gets even better at keeping bad stuff out. Unfortunately, it gets good at keeping good stuff out. So even hormones and vitamins and minerals don't absorb as well. That's why the average man, average woman, from the late 30s on, every year loses a half a percent of lean muscle tissue and gains a half a percent of body fat. And women, especially when they have less hormones and then go through menopause, loses. the ability to naturally moisturize. So another things that Vitaflux does, it allows women to

moisturize. You mean, get wet. Even when they start losing, get wet, even when they lose that ability. Yeah. So that's our second highest revenue product now. And it is a world leader. And it's a men and women, right? For both men and women. It's called Vitaflux. Yeah. We also have female arousal gels that are very, very popular. And they bring a warming sensation into the vaginal area, which is associated with libido and obviously, you know, lubrication when you get warm, then you get horny. When you get warm, you get tend to moisturize. So those have been very well.

You're going to laugh. I'll tell you about our newest product. Yeah. It is a men's masturbatory lotion called Go Solo. Oh, I like that. Well, here's the crazy part. Yeah. So one of the fastest growing area in sexual health, and we certainly capitalized up, we have a line

proprietary vibrators and they're really high quality. Yeah. And they're reasonably priced because most vibrator companies, they go, oh, my God, because no one buys a vibrator every month or even every year. Once you have one, you use it until it works. And five or seven years later, you wear it out and you buy another one. So they have these ridiculously high markups. We were different.

We entered the vibrator market and I made these high quality. They're every bit as good as Lilo or we vibe vibrators, but they're half or 40% of the cost. because to me, that's not my main thrust. And what I want to do is most people, when they take out a vibrator, it's quality and it works, and they think it's reasonable, they see that little promessent symbol on there. Plus, it's generally people, you know,

clean their vibrator, put it back in the box, in between usage. It's a constant advertisement for us that we have high quality products and good products. So we start selling all these vibrators, and it went really well. and we noticed this surge in men's vibrators that, you know, men's, you know, masturbatory toys. And I'm like, oh, my God.

So I mentioned a couple of our urologists, like, oh, it's one of the fastest growing areas. And they said, a lot of men, even to this day, even when they masturbate, they still feel shame. And it's like, you know, they try to just get it over with really quickly. It's like, because they're almost embarrassed that they don't have a partner. Right. But they don't use proper lubrication. So we're seeing men that started having irritation and start having desensitation issues because they weren't properly lubricating. So I go, oh, my God, there's a market here for this.

So we developed a lube specifically for men to masturbate that it lasts a long time. You don't have to keep reapplying it. It doesn't gum up, you know, that kind of stuff. And it's really, really effective. And we called it go solo. People thought the name was hilarious, you know, because you are going solo. And it's been a great product. But I'll tell you, I believe it's part of a larger phenomenon.

And it's a dangerous one that I think our whole society is devolving into. I think it started with the pandemic. Everyone started working remote, you know. And now there are certain people that won't even go back to an office complex. They won't even take a job unless they can work remote. Yeah. And then they get lunch delivered from Grubhub. they get dinner delivered by Uber Eats.

They shop on Amazon. They literally never leave the home, okay? And it's generally millennials and younger people that they're conditioned now that they don't need human interaction. And it even comes to sex. It's like, I work remote. I don't interface with my coworkers. There's a lot of younger people I know that they would rather text and have a conversation.

No, it's everything's personal. And it's Uber Eats and it's Grubhub and it's Amazon. on and everyone's dropping everything off on your porch. They've now literally gone to the point. They don't even go out and try to find a partner. They just self-stimulate and masturbate. I'm like, this is insane, okay? It's okay to have conversation.

It's okay to feel human touch. Even if it's not sexual, I think having someone touch you and having human touch is part of being a human being and part of the human experience. But there is a large segment of population, especially among younger people, and sometimes when people get older, you know, they they lose the ability to really want to connect with someone else.

Or their wife isn't banging them for the past 10 years. Or their wife isn't satisfying them anymore. And so masturbation is becoming a real phenomenon. I mean, it's crazy. So why not have the best possible tools, whether it's the best masturbatory device or a proper lotion so you don't. it chafed. You don't start desensitizing yourself where you can't feel pleasure anymore because you have calluses built up on your penis because you're whacking off every day. You know? So, you know, some of our newer products are to enhance pleasures and some of them are with the changing

environment we live in and say, hey, I'm masturbating, you know, at home 10 times a week. I need something specifically for this product. Yeah, I love that. First of all, I love that. You have sex toys for men because I was always very into sex toys and I was like, why don't guys use them? Why aren't there more for them? And I'm fascinated by your lube. It's not lube, right? It's like a lotion.

Other lotion. Listen, I'm not a guy. I've never jerked off like a needed lotion. Like for guys, like what they typically use, like that stuff goes away and they have to like keep reapplying. Is that the difference? They have to keep reapplying it and it falls up and yeah, it chaves. No, this is specifically designed for masturbation.

that it's silky and it doesn't go away. Wow. You know, listen, when I watch Shark Tank, sometimes someone comes on and they have something, they create something that you're like, why didn't anyone else fucking think about this? It's so simple and whatever. There's sometimes where you go,

this is crazy. Yeah, why did it? Yeah, why did it? Yeah, why did it? For guys have been jerking off since the dawn of time, furiously. That's exactly. And for us, it came about because I saw how many male masturbation toys we were selling.

Yeah, I love that. It's what a brilliant idea to come up with. Yeah. then that doesn't exist out there, right? Yes, right. Yeah, there you go. Well, listen, I'm going to put the links to POMS, and people are going to get a discount code to get off on, you know,

whatever they want to get the delay spray. You got so much stuff on your website. I know from listeners, because you guys sponsored my show many years ago for a long time, that my listeners love the delay spray. It works. It's the best thing out there, hands down, without question. Yeah, you wouldn't be in all these stores and you wouldn't have become so big over time. Oh, exactly.

The real deal. You know what I mean? Like you've proved... We're an overnight sensation after 12 years. Yeah. You've proved your products, you know? So I'll put the link in there. Thanks so much for calling in this.

This was a fun chat. You're always good to have it. I really appreciate. I can't thank you enough. Awesome. Thanks, Jeff. Have a nice day. Have a great weekend.

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