Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1361 - What Women Think About During Sex, How Long Do Women Want to be Pounded, How Can you Tell When She’s Faking it and More w/Adam

Episode Date: February 8, 2026

Adam called in to ask Kathy a few questions including what women are thinking about during sex that might surprise guys, how long is too long when it comes to the actual intercourse part of the act, how do girls typically let you know they’ve had enough, how common is it for women to fake their orgasms, does condom sex feel different then sex without one as well as what some are really looking at when they go to your house first time. Tune in to find out plus hear all about what guys are thinking about sex, how long guys think they should be pounding women, what to dodo if you’re girl is always faking it, Kathy’s body call experiences with two guys who couldn’t get it up and what went down, Kathys booty cal and what they were both thinking during sex, the crazy things women might be looking at in your dating profile plus a whole lot more. You can find Adams book here: https://www.seektherisk.net GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: https://beducate.me/pd2605-anonymous ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://loadboost,com — To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://butterwellness.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get the Butter massager and get 20% off your whole order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcas⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠t Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today is the conclusion of mine and Adam's Q&A. He asked me some more questions like guys want to know. He asked me questions like guys want to know. I answer it from, you know, the woman's standpoint. The first question is, what do women think about during sex? Like, are we thinking about our guy? Are we thinking about something someone else? Like, he tells me what guys are thinking about. And then I talk about, like, what some of my booty calls were thinking about or what I think about sometimes. And we get deep into that conversation. It's super interesting. And then he asked me, like, how long does a girl really like to go for. And we're talking about the pounding phase, right? After all the four plays said and done, how long once you put it in, do girls want to be banged out? And I give my answer and he's

blown away by it. And then I actually did that poll on my Patreon. And a lot of people are disagreeing with me. I wonder what you think. I might do the poll in Spotify too. Like, how long do you think the pounding phase of sex right at the end should take? Okay. I give my answer. Like I said, He's blown away. He has a totally different answer. It becomes a huge debate between us. And then we talk about how common it is for a girl to fake an orgasm. And we go deep into that. I have a great tell. Okay, if you want to know whether your girl is faking her orgasms, I'm going to tell you 100% how to tell. Okay. So listen for that tip. It's on there. Then that goes into us talking about, you know, what to do when a guy can't get it up. I talk about a funny story when there was a guy that couldn't get it up in my life. I also talked about a time when I cured a guy of his getting it up problem. I go through that. story. Then he asked me whether condom sex versus, you know, sex without a condom that feels any different from women. Of course, we talk about that. I talk about the condoms I like the best and all that kind of good stuff. It's a super fun episode. You'll learn a lot. I think it's a great episode. It's fun. It's entertaining. And like I said, you'll learn a lot. So I'm going to get right to it and be right

back on with Adam. And by the way, Adam helped me write my book. But he also wrote a book himself. He was on my show called Seek the Risk. I will put a link to his book in the description. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Adam. Okay, Adam, what's your next question? Okay, so what do you even think during sex that would surprise men? Oh, God. I mean, listen, it depends, well, no, no, no, it depends on, I mean, to be honest, and I've talked about it with my girlfriends, you know, behind my guy's backs. To be honest, it really depends on, like, who the guy is, right? If it's a new guy, we're not thinking anything other than that fucking guy and being present with him. You know what I mean? But sometimes after a while, like with my booty call guy, like, you know, if I've been with it, like, you know, sometimes you get to think of like scenarios, hot fantasies, do naughty things to like get you more in the mood because just thinking about them being there isn't enough. Sorry to say.

So, I mean, it's like during the actual act of fucking, you're kind of, you're imagining different scenarios. Yeah, sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. And other women do it. Don't you? I do it too. Oh, okay. Of course I do. Okay. Absolutely. Yeah. See, I remember the first time I was. like, oh, am I the only one that does this? But like, and I was like trying to tell somebody like, oh my God, I've been fucking the same guy for so long. And it's not like, you know, if you don't like, and I think that this is the same for married people too.

Like even though they love their partners. I mean, I don't love my booty call guys. But I think after banging the same person after a while, you got to get creative. And if you're not really going so creative in the bedroom, which no one could be on top of their game 24-7 at that, right? Like eventually you might have to use your imagination during it, right? To get to where you need to go,

to get more turned on. So I remember the first time saying like, oh, God, I'm getting so bored. Like, I have to just think of this and that just. And my friend was like, oh, my God, I do that too. And I was like, oh, okay. And now you're like, I do that too. It's okay.

Yeah, of course. I knew men did you. Oh, really? What do my... I'm going to tell you my favorite fucking scene. You might have heard this before if you listened to my show. Or I might have told you it because it's like literally something if I was writing a movie, you know, about suburbia.

I would put this in a sex scene. Like it was literally... I would put this. like conversation in the sex scene. So this is my favorite thing. This kind of says it all of what we're talking about. Then we'll go to the next question. So I had a long-term booty call guy. It was Tommy, my old co-host, right? And, you know, our deal in the beginning was like he'd take me out for steak, for steak, and I'd fuck him. You know what I mean? I loved steak and sex and he loves steak and sex, you know? And sometimes, you know, I just wanted the steak and didn't want the

sex. I remember one time I went over his house. I'm just like really dying for dinner. I think I had my period, so I didn't want to fuck him for some reason. So, of course, I'm like, I'll just throw you a blowjob, right? Like, I do that. No big deal. So I go over his house after work, and I'm like, fucking blowing him. And in the middle of the blood job, he's like, taking a long time. So I, like, I get up and I stop and I'm like, excuse me, can you just, like, think about

somebody else so you could come because, like, I'm really fucking starving. And he looks to me straight in the eyes. And he says, Kathy, do you actually think I'm thinking about you? Oh my God, that's fucking awesome. Isn't that such the, isn't that a great scene in a movie? Because everybody would fucking laugh because everyone's been there. I'm sitting there thinking like, think about somebody else. Okay, so we could just go and he's like, did you actually think I was thinking about you to begin with?

Oh my God. I have to use that somehow. Use it in a buck. I give it. I know. I'm funny. I'm writing something that's similar to that. Not nearly like the same, but it's in that vein.

And I'm wondering how I can work it in. And I remember telling someone that's during, they're like, that's so rude. I'm like, I don't think so. I'm a fucking realist. That is real life. I don't feel bad that he said that to me. He didn't feel bad that I said it to him. That's just the reality of ongoing sex with the same person.

Yeah. Do you know what I mean? It doesn't mean that the sex is still good, right? I'm sure he liked the blowjaw, but. Yeah. Some different pictures in your head. Yeah. It's the same thing.

Like I think sometimes people think women think about like Brad Pitt when they're jerking off. It's like now I think of naughty. scenarios, not necessarily people. I don't even know what the guy is like or what the person looks like that I'm thinking about. It's more the naughty scenario. Do you know what I mean? Behind the jerking off. Like do guys, like you as a guy when you're drinking off, are you jerking off to like a picture of a girl? I mean, forget about if it's a girl that you actually like, right? Because sometimes I am jerking up to someone that I actually really like I'm horny for

or whatever. But like when it's not and you don't have that vision of anybody in your life, are you picturing someone visually besides the body? Like, Are you picturing a face? Well, generally, when I'm jacking off now, I just go back to the tapes, and I'll just replay one of like my better sexual experiences with a person. Oh, okay. Yeah, so that's how I do it. I'm such a visual person.

I can call it memories really easily, and that always gets me going. And I do that during sex when I need to come. I'll like, oh, yeah, the bank. Yeah, it's going to the bank. Okay. His bank bank bank. Okay. What's the next question?

I think we brought that up. I should have wrapped it up at the Tommy comment, but anyway, go on. Okay, so how long is too long? I've always wondered of this. Like, I mean, do women want me to fuck them for five minutes or five hours? Like, what's too long? What's the right amount of time? Five minutes, at least.

Five minutes is a long time of fucking straight fucking. Okay, listen, I'm talking about this is the thing. Okay, this is what guys need to know. And I don't think I'm that different, okay? Because I remember one. Five minutes? No, okay. Fucking.

I'm not talking the whole scenario. I'm not talking from making out. Penetration. Okay. Penetration. Five minutes. Five minutes is a long time. Now listen, if you are just sticking it in, it needs to be longer. But I'm talking about if you're having like a long time session, you're making out. And then he's going down on you.

And then you're blowing him. And then that guy gets on top of you and he starts banging you out. You know, maybe seven minutes. But I'm not interested in. I think I'm the norm. maybe seven. I'm the normal. Seven and a half.

I don't think. I don't think no girl, because I call it the show. I know so many guys that want to put on the fucking show. And I think you all think this. This is why you're blown away by this. Because when I kind of gave you a hint

that girls don't like it long, you're like, really? That's a great question. Because I was like, okay. Because like every guy I think thinks that a girl wants him to like fucking stay hard for 27 minutes. And that's just not the case. Okay.

it's too much. At least for me, I'm not multi- I'm not multi-orgasmic. And maybe I would feel differently. But I'm talking about the one and done girl, a really great fucking one-time orgasm girl. You know,

think about, like if we right now put on a timer, okay, and sat there for seven full minutes, that's not that short of a time. Do what I mean? And 20 minutes is a lot longer than that. Okay?

So I think a good five to seven, minutes. Almost three times. Max. So I personally think, I think the best answer, the safest answer is it's a lot less time than a guy thinks it is. I think guys, because they're so ego driven when it comes to this, and I get it, there's a lot of pressure, right, on you guys.

You got to really fucking perform. You're in charge of this scene, right? Here, especially when it comes to the intercourse part, right? You're the one thrusting most of the time. It's all on you. We're doing a lot of work. Yeah, but you're like, but you're also like kind of in charge, right? So, like, I think that guys think they need to do it a lot longer.

And that, like, and what is the exact time frame and something? I don't really know, but I think guys think that they need to go longer than a woman really thinks. You just need to go as long enough for her to fucking come. And if you've done enough for play and make out and all that other stuff, like, you know, seven minutes is a long time. I'm going to time it later and see if I want to change one way. You know, Jane used to say three orgasms.

Like, don't come until I've had three orgasms. Then she says, after my third orgasm, you can. do whatever you want. Well, Jane's not normal. Okay, so we're not including her. Okay, she's off the church. She's not even on one end of the spectrum. She's not even on the spectrum because anyone should want to know about Jane.

Go listen to her episode. She's not a normal person. So she doesn't, I'm not Jane. To me, I think you learn, you learn the woman you're with, right? If she's someone who, you know, she likes to have a number of them, then you wait until she has a number and then you come. If you're in there, she's a one and done, then after she comes. But you think you could literally pound for 20 full minutes?

Oh, God, yeah. I mean, I might shift positions. I don't know why that seems so long to me. I do, by the way, I do for my son one day when he gets older. He better fucking appreciate the fact that all of his life. I give him a four minute. And I don't know where we came up with four minutes. I give him a four minute baby show every night.

Every single night, a four minute baby show. I've made him pee his pants in most of those baby shows because I'm fucking funny. Okay. And I've given him. It's a baby show. I just do a different show every night. He gets four minutes of my time right before he goes to sleep. and I give him the quote unquote baby show.

And it's a long fucking time four minutes. So I'm sort of going by like that baby show. Oh my God. You are dating how much time you should spend fucking, by how much time you spend entertaining your son when he's a baby. My baby show. No, he's not even a baby. He's 10.

I still give him baby shows. They're so fucking funny. I made a piss my pants. Yeah. And they've gone. If I counted up how many minutes I've given him a fucking show, it's like, it's amazing.

And my baby shows are so great. He actually pisses in his pants because I make him laugh so hard. But anyway. I don't know. I'm enjoying it so much. I don't want it to end after five minutes. Like five minutes.

Wow. Okay. So maybe you're wrong. Maybe seven, seven. Maybe seven to ten. I don't know. I think this is a poll.

I think this is a poll. Yes, let's do it. Yes. Let's do it. I don't think. I think you're the outlier here. Yeah. I can't imagine.

I want to hear from guys and girls. No, all right. But no, I'm going to do the poll on Spotify too because this is going on my podcast. This isn't just for my patron. I'm going to do the poll on Spotify. And I want to see the, and I'm going to do the poll on Patreon for sure, because I want to see the difference.

I think I'm going to do the poll before I even air this. I want to see the difference between how long a man thinks he should go and, you know, what's the appropriate time as well as from the women. Right. And you know, it has to be blind. You can't see other people's answers. No, no, no, I have to give the options. You know what I mean? Oh, you're saying just let them answer separate.

I can't do a blind. Is there any way to do it so they can't see each other's answers? No, people just have to check off which one they, you know, I have to. they say so we see what gets the most votes people will be you know people will be honest maybe i'm this boring and you know i am like so tired for my baby show i don't have anything left to give five seven minutes i think that's it you've exhausted yourself in the baby show you're like oh you can't be bothered okay so what's do you have another question for me okay this i guess so we're gonna have to table this answer for the results of the uh of the yeah so yeah i just think that you know and

oh wait wait didn't you have a side you have a side thing this is and how do women signal that they're done they fucking come. When I come, I'm done unless it's a multi-orgasmic person. This is the problem where I can't really speak on most women because there's a lot of women that are multi-orgasmic. Like your Jane girl, right? So like she's not like, she's not done after one orgasm, right? So for me, I signal I'm done because I had such a killer orgasm and I'm sensitive and I'm like, get the fuck off. I mean, that's how I signal what I'm done. How do other girls signal that they're done? Most of them are like, oh, I, guys, I need a break. let me just suck your pack or can we just stop for a minute or stick it in my ass and come.

Is it because they had an orgasm though? Does that always come after an orgasm? No, not always, but majority of the time. Right. But I would say the times where they're saying, like I need a break means that you've gone too long. I mean, it kind of goes into the other. You might be going too long. It's a nice way of saying, you know what? Or sometimes it happens that they're just not going to come that night and they're like, you know what, I'm good. Let's just, let me just get you off. and then we can go to sleep. Yeah, but that's when they should start pulling out spank-bank material.

You don't know what I mean? Yeah. That's what you do at that time. Okay. I'm sure. I would be so offended if they thought of anyone else. Oh, I'm kidding. I'm totally kidding.

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Yeah, but that's when they should start pulling out spank-bank material. You don't know what I mean? That's what you do at that time. Okay. I'm sure. I would be so offended if they thought of anyone else. I'm kidding. I'm totally kidding.

Okay. It's ridiculous if anyone thinks are awesome. Okay. And this is such a cliche, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Okay. How common is it for women to fake orgasms and why? Okay. First of all, a woman fake orgasms.

an orgasm because like when you just said to me before right a second ago when you said oh typically a woman will say I need a break because she knows she's not going to come for the night and she stops now I can never say I'm not going to come for the night like that's just not an option for me ever so I can't believe that a woman would say that I but I've never faked an orgasm ever so what I do is I just make the guy go for you know as long as it takes me to come and I'm thinking about crazy scenarios. But, you know, I will say that that's the reason why a girl would fake it because she did. The last thing a girl wants to be is like, I'm not going to come or maybe she would. I don't know. I would never have those words come out of my mouth. Like I can't come. I'd say there's a percentage. There's a small

of women that sometimes just can't come during. That's a small. And then you know what? There's a big proportion of women that are faking their orgasms. And I'm going to give you the best tell ever. If people didn't listen to my interview with Jeff, Jeff from Promesant, I gave this tell. and someone emailed and said, thanks, I'm going to check it out. Like the way you could tell whether a girl had an orgasm, because it's very easy for a girl

to fake an orgasm. She could even fake the clenching of the inside of her pussy, right? Because that happens, right? You could feel the contractions and stuff, right? Like the only thing she cannot fucking do unless she's using her own fingers right beforehand,

because she heard me telling you the secret is what will happen when a girl comes is her nipples will get as hard as they could ever be. They constrict and contract as hard. They will be as pointy and hard as nipples could ever be if she has a full-fledged orgasm. So that's all you need to do is look at her tits. Okay. If she has flaccid nipples, she, and she was screaming like a fucking banshee, she's lying. Okay. That's the tell. You can't have an orgasm without getting like bumps on your skin and your nipples contract, like contracting and being fully fucking erect.

Okay. How are you not blown away by that answer? I don't know. What do you mean? That's like so brilliant. That's like brilliant advice I have for you. But what? There's a piece of all, first of all, I can think of at least three women that I've had sex with that have just perpetually ridiculously hard nipples.

They're always erect. Yeah, well, that's because they have breast implants. That doesn't count. With those women doesn't work. I'm talking about the regular women without breast implants that don't have rock, hard nipples all the time. That's how you could tell. You cannot tell from somebody with breast implants. Sorry.

And I guess what is this? What do you do with this information? You look. So you know. No, no, no, no. No, no, that's not what I'm asking. What do I do with the information that I just realized the woman faked orgasm? What am I supposed to say?

That's my next question. What am I supposed to say when I think she faked her orgasm? I don't know. What can you say? You know what I mean? She's fucking fake. I could tell you. What do I do with this information?

I don't know why are you asking me it? Because you just, that's how you know. I'm like, well, great. You're asking me why. I am going to have blown away by this. And my reason why I'm not blown away is because I don't know what I would do with the information once I realized it. Well, don't you want to know if she had a real orgas? You know what you would do?

This is what I do. It's like I was just watching the traders recently and this guy had to sort of pick out a lie. And if he picked out the liar, he got the reward. And what he did was he asked every single person a question that he knew was the truth. He saw how they answered the truth. And when he asked him the last question, which he had to see whether there was a liar the truth, he sort of, you know, looked at it in regards to the truthful one that he knew was the truth. So what you could do is, and when I know that someone's fucking lying, and I teach my son this,

I say, look at their fucking face, get their lie face in their head, okay? I have my son's lie face in my head. He's got a lie face, okay? Anytime he lies, I know because he makes the same fucking face. That orgasm that she just did, that her nipples weren't hard, you know, file that. Then you know, she's fucking lying about her orgasms. I mean, you know, what can you do? You could maybe try to do better.

You could maybe have a conversation and be like, don't, you shouldn't have to. Maybe you can try to go longer. Yeah, maybe. Yeah, maybe. Maybe you could tell her to start thinking of things. It's okay. Maybe you could say, hey, do you want to watch a little porn? Maybe you could help her.

Maybe you could say, do you want me to do something else? Maybe you could try to make it better for her because she's not being satisfied and she's just faking it to get you off of her. Or she feels bad because it's pressure for a girl. Sometimes a girl, like when I, because I don't like. I guess I'd be like how do I bro, like that. I think you'd have to broach it. after the sex, like at breakfast the next morning or something like, hey, did you fake that orgasm? Or was it, you know, like, I don't know. It just, it's a, it's a delicate subject, I think, unless

if she does it once fine, she does it a lot. Yeah. Do you guys care whether girls are faking orgasms or not? Well, of course. If it was a one-off, maybe not, but it was someone that I was, you know, seeing that I liked. Of course I care. Well, then you, then it's important, valuable information those nipples are giving you. If you see them never hard, you need to definitely have a conversation because that person that you care about is not really having any fun and they should because there's nothing like I mean if you ever ask a girl or a guy like did you ever have a if you ask a guy did you ever prostate orgasm and he says I think so or a girl did you ever have an orgasm she says I think so she never had one or he never had one like you know when you have an orgasm a guy knows if he has a prostate orgasm like there's no there's no there's no middle ground here right I don't think I mean how do you would know no you don't you never had a prostate orgasm or you know okay So, and that's the same thing with a woman's orgasm. I had a girlfriend named Cunney who never had an, it would be like, I think I had an orgasm. I'm like, you've never had an orgasm.

It's like someone saying, I think I had a panic attack. If you ever had a panic attack, you fucking know, you had a panic attack. There's no kind of panic attack, you know what I'm saying? So, you know, your poor girl, if she's constantly faking her orgasm and you really care about her, life's too short not to sort of figure out how to fucking come and have a real orgasm. So that's what it's for. Then use that information to say, I guess, okay. I guess it's good information if you realize she's doing it all the time.

Yeah, of course. Something's wrong. And if not, that's there it's good information. But if not, and it's that one time, you got her fake orgasm. And then just see what a fucking liar she is. See, you know, to file how good of an actress she is. Did she scream extra loud? What did she fucking do?

How smart does she think she is and how dumb does she think you are to believe all that nonsense? Did she even clench up her pussy to pretend? You know, how far did she go to make you think it was real? I like that kind of information. I like to know if someone's trying to fucking pull the wool over my eyes. I had a woman accused me of faking an orgasm. That was hilarious. Oh, really?

Yeah, well, it was the 10th time we'd had sex in like two days. And there was just no more liquid left when I came. And so she's like, you just faked your guest. She was getting angry at me. I was like, I really didn't. Well, you know what I learned on my show from Susan Bratt and other experts that, you know, ejaculation and orgasm doesn't have to happen at the same time. It just typically does happen at the same time, but it doesn't have to, and it isn't necessarily a thing.

So, yeah, you can have an orgasm without ejaculating. Yeah. That's a true story. But, yeah, no, I mean, I just have to go back to the fact, like, if I was on the phone with any other guy and I gave them my tell for a fake orgasm. The guy would just be like, oh, my God, that's so smart. I can't wait to sort of check it out. You were just like trying to fight me on it instead of realizing. I'm not trying to fight you.

I gave you go. I gave you go. I gave you. gave you goal what I would do with the information. I was putting myself in that moment and going, okay, here I am. I think she just think that do I say something now? Do I say something later? Do I just call?

Or as you say, you catalog it. Yeah, catalog it. Yeah, catalog it. I was actually processing the information. I wasn't even in real life. I have caught so many people in fucking lies. Sometimes I'll say something. But a lot of times I don't even let them know that I know.

What you always have to do is stay five times ahead of everybody, even your partner that you're banging. Okay, it's just information that you now have. She's fucking faking it, you know it. But I think if it becomes a long-term thing, this is your partner for a long time, you know, maybe you would want to have that conversation. But typically a girl isn't faking every fucking orgasm. She fakes it every now and then.

I could probably count on my two fingers having faked an orgasm, I think, in my whole life. Because if I'm like, it's like, I'm not going to go to a restaurant and not eat food. I'm not going to go to the movie theater and not have popcorn. I'm not going to have sex and not come. Okay. And if it takes the guy working going down on me for two hours and 27 minutes, that's what's going to happen because that's what I'm there for us. Okay, so oral sense can go long. It's just a problem.

Oh, yes. Yes. Yeah, absolutely. So I agree. Yeah. So I don't, I don't really, I don't really do it, you know, but I think that there are some women, unfortunately, that have a hard time orgasm. And it's orgasming. And it is very hard to, I mean, nowadays, more so now that I'm.

older. I think it was like bitchier when I was younger. I never cared how long I made a guy go. Sometimes I feel bad for my booty cold guy. It would take me really long and I never felt that kind of pressure. I never gave a shit, you know, and women shouldn't, but they do. And that only makes her, you know, you know, it's so twisted for her girl, you know. So I think a lot of girls fake it and you can tell by their nips and, you know, you're not going to do anything with that information. But now you know. And I think it's a good no. I think it's good to know. It's a good no. It's a good. No. Yeah, I wish I could tell. I mean, guys can fake it. You know what I mean? The only thing that a guy could do that you could see is he can't fucking get hard. That's a problem. You know what I mean? For a guy. Have you ever had that problem? Of course. I'm 56. It happens. You think that happens more when you get older? Oh, God, yeah. Never happened until I was in my late 40s. Listen, the first time, I was just writing a story about this. The first time I was sober, my dick didn't work. That was a shocking moment to me on the order of like somebody dying. It was that kind of thing.

It was just a whole perspective change to my life. Like, what, this is a real thing? This happens? Yeah, it was awful. And can you please explain to the women because a woman will always think it has to do with her. And I know that it has nothing to do with her, but women think that. But I am sure you're with a hot woman at that time that you were totally into and it

had nothing to do with her, correct? No, had nothing to do it. I honestly have no idea why it is like, what's going to know? Right, but I'm just saying women need to know that because the sad thing is, is women take that so personally and it's never personal. Maybe 1% of the time it is. You're so into the girl. You're like so into you want to fuck so bad. I'm like, what the fuck is going on here? It's horrible. I have a fucking funny story. There was this like comedian guy and he wound up becoming very successful. He was on a ton of HBO shows and stuff. I can't say his name. But like, you know, he was way younger than me at the time that

I was working in comedy. And he was like really into me. You could tell you like really old chicks. And I was like, oh, you know, I'd fuck you. And, you know, when, so he was like trying to woo me his way and we're always hanging out. I was always talking about because it was a little bit of a size queen. So I'd be talking about big dick this, big digs that. And, you know, as he's wooing me his way, I'm kind of like throwing it in his face all the time. Like, I bet you have a really big dick. Because he had kind of like that wiry little, you know, body that always has a big fat hog attached to it.

You know, I can't explain it. So I just thought he was like sporting a big dick, you know, for some reason. And I would tell him straight to his face. And I was like setting him up for failure because I would just be like, I know you're so big, you know, you're going to fuck me so good and blah, blah, and then so it comes down to the fact we're finally going to do the deed.

And he could not get it up. He was so, he was so fucking embarrassed. And I knew it was my fault because I had put all this pressure that he's going to have this big dick and he's going to be great and bad and he's going to, you know, and then he could, and then he tried so many more times to get back to prove to me,

you know, and I was like, no thanks. How old is he? He was like in his 20s and I was like in my early 40s. Yeah, he was probably like 20 something and I was like 40 something. No, yeah. For me, it's like the dick function. It's been a slow slide. No, no, no, but can't you see if maybe being insecure as a 20-something girl?

I had another stinky hippie boyfriend. He could never get up. Maybe everybody's just different, you know? Everyone's just different. That's all. For whatever reason. I mean, my cock was hard so much. I was like jacking off five times a day.

when I was in my late teens and early 20s. It was just, right, but listen, this guy didn't have a problem. He only had a problem and that's time because I psyched him out.

It was my issue. It was everything I did. He didn't have a big dick. He didn't have any of that stuff. You know what I mean? I totally, I was like, I cock blocked him.

It was all my fault. Do you know what I mean? And I know that? Actually, you know, the funny, the first time I thought it was going to happen. I was in my late, it was in mid-40s.

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That's that kind of a thing. I was like, that's not the story you tell right before you're going to hook up. Yes. Yeah, you don't tell a guy. Oh, I know your dick is so big and he doesn't have a big dick. Okay. Poor thing. I would like, I swear to you, he tried in tech.

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Yeah, you don't tell a guy. I know your dick is so big and he doesn't have a big dick. Okay. Poor thing. I swear to you, he tried in tech. I have so many. If I had that old phone, I could show you 80 texts from him trying to like seal the deal and prove to me that he could get it up.

Poor thing. You know what I mean? Because like literally, that's who he was always going to be to me, right? And he knows who he has. He's famous now. And here you are still talking about him. Poor guy. But I don't feel, but I'm not putting him down.

I know it was my fault. Like there was nothing wrong with him. It was his fault. I've had guys who couldn't get it up or guys who came too fast, but I never personalize it. And the last thing I'm going to say, because this is really important to, and I'm giving so many great things, information out in this episode. The last thing I'm going to say is like, I had a boyfriend who had a getting at a problem. From the minute I met him, he had to wear cock rings. And I love the cock rings, actually.

They were like hot. And I was so horny from it with such a dysfunctional relationship that I'd be like, put it in soft. I could really literally get off and have an orgasm. With no, with a soft dick because that's how sickly attracted I was. The chemistry was so insane that I was so into him. Never once did I look at his soft dick and say what the fuck is wrong with you because I was so horny for him. So over time of just fucking this guy's crazy without saying one thing about his limp dick, his dick started to just work properly. It was never soft.

He didn't use the stuff anymore. And it just goes to show that like talking about it and everything like is like the worst thing you could do. When I didn't talk about it over time, he lost his problem. And he was the one and I think I've told you this before. He was the one that like looked at me. He was like you made me like sex too much. Like literally that was his big thing of why he dumped me because I got his dick working and he didn't like it. He didn't like it.

He didn't like it. Yeah. He didn't like that his dick was so hard for me. And he didn't want to fuck me, but he couldn't stop because he was so horny all the time. You know what I mean? It was a control thing. So that just shows that that issue wasn't had it nothing to do with me, everything to do with him. But I cured it by just treating him like a sex object and never talking about it.

So women just know that it's never your fault. Don't say what the fuck is wrong. Put it in soft or just, you know, whatever. Because it has, it's not personal, you know. Somehow I always knew that, thank God. But it's a big thing. It's definitely not. Yeah.

I mean, at this point, it's like, it's just, hey, it's just some biology. It had nothing to do. Because it's never, like I wanted to be hard because I'm really into the woman. And it's for whatever reason, that particular. day it isn't. Yeah, but don't you feel terrible about yourself? Isn't that embarrassing for you too? I mean, it's horrifying for the woman because she thinks she doesn't look good enough. That's not embarrassing

for you as a man to not be able to get it up. I mean, it's no fun, but it's not, no, no, it's no fun, but by the time it started happening, it was almost 50 years old, so I was like, yeah, it happens. You know, it's like, yeah, so you just go down a woman for two hours, they don't seem to mind. It's... Yeah, I would think that guys would really feel bad about that. Listen, if it happened to me when I was young, I'd be horrified. It would, it'd be tough, but, you know, you were you with a new girl,

that you had never been with before? Yes. And you didn't care that you couldn't get it up. It wasn't like a big crush to your ego? No, no, no, no, no. Of course I care. But I wasn't like, you know, I wasn't horribly. It was just, it wasn't horrible.

It was devastating. Like, oh my God, my body's changing. That aspect was devastating. But the woman didn't think there was, I mean, she was probably in her 40s. I'm trying to remember how old she was. It wasn't. Listen, it happens. By then, by the time you're of a certain age, you're like, it happens.

The biggest shock to me was. what it indicated about the fact that I'm getting older. That's what the shock was to me. It's like, wow. My, you know, everything else in the body, you use it more. It gets better. The dick, no, as you get older, the function starts going less and less. The good news is those pills exist.

They fucking work. And Blue Choo, who is my sponsor for many years that I fucking love, my brother swears by Blue Choo, he uses it all the time and he has no issues or anything. He just wants to secure, it's like insurance. You know what I mean? Yeah. But they have a new thing.

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I have. I've used, I've used, I've used, Viagran, so is it, Cialis? Yeah, I've definitely used those at times. Yeah, well, blue chew is chewable, so you could just like put in your back pocket, you don't even need water. And it lasts, it starts in 15 minutes. And this isn't even an ad that they're paying me for, okay, but I just think it's great, you know, and I think it's great that they added in those two new products that

people are using now to stimulate their brains, too, you know, for sex. but that's a whole other story. I'll save that for when I'm talking to the experts on my sexual health Saturday. Do you want to get to get to get? You have a couple of kind of basic questions that you want to get. Just off your questions. But wait, no, I have one question for you first. This is a personal question, right?

And I'm always been curious about this. What's a kink that you have that you've rarely admitted? Oh, God. What is, I mean, I feel like I've admitted it at all. Like, what is a kink? Like, I've always wanted to do DP. I never did it in real life. I never thought I would.

but I would mock it up with guys. I do like that kind of porn, but I think actually now in my real life, I would try it, though I never would. So is that kind of like a kink? I'm trying to think, is there something?

I mean, that's a kink. You know what? We were just talking before about when you're trying to orgasm. You're thinking about, you think about crazy shit when you're trying to orgasm. So what's some crazy shit

you think about when you're trying to orgasm. Oh, God. What is the crazy stuff that I orgasm? Like, I'm trying to think. Okay, so my guy recently did. My guy recently. this was in my spank bank with him for like the past couple of weeks because recently he admitted to me that he was into the hot wiping thing and somehow I got like really turned on thinking that I would bang somebody else like

you know and then let him not watch but actually see the video tape whatever he told me he was into that and we were trying to set it up and I couldn't get it done but the thought of like and then I started to think like oh the thought of the one guy coming in first and then him coming in second was like really super hot so I remember the like a bunch of times after that whole When he was with me, I was like thinking that I like this is the second guy I have. You know what I mean? Something like really naughty like that that kind of stuff like oh I just like fucked Tommy because I had tried to get him in and now this guy is here and I'm fucking him and I'm doing two guys in one day. You know that kind of like dirty kind of yeah. Yeah. Okay. Uh huh. So like that was something I used a bunch of times because it really was getting me going for a long time because I couldn't make it happen and I haven't been able to make it happen. But the thought of it and especially because it was on the table and and we had talked about it, it was such a real kind of fantasy that it was really working. Just the thought of it. Do you know what I mean?

Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely. Well, I mean, sex therapists talk about that all the time that when couples are having difficulty, you know, they're trying to spice up the sex life. They say just talking about these adventures without actually doing them can actually really help. So, yes.

But the fact that we'd know, but we were going to do it. I had emailed my old booty call to see if he was on board. Like I tried. So the thought that it wasn't just thinking it was going to happen. It was like, it's going to happen. and just a matter of when, that's what got me hurt. And then when it kind of went away recently

because it was like never going to happen because I can't find somebody, like it started to get not to be as hot. It was really actually hotter when I thought like this is something that could really be done. Do you know what I mean? And that was the perfect to go to in my head.

So stuff like that. I mean, I used to have like a weird fantasy when I was younger that I would like think about. It was like, oh, like I'm on vacation with my friend and I fuck her father. Like stuff like that. stuff like naughty scenarios.

That is naughty. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Like when, you know, on vacation with the whole family, you know, like cheating on the, you know, like shit like that. Yeah. Kind of like makes me sound bad. But, you know, whatever. But it's hot.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah. It needs to be super hot. Super naughty, super hot. You know what I've, this is one, you have a question I've always wondered about how different does condom sex feel than regular sex for a woman? I mean, I know how it feels terribly different for a man, but what about for a woman? it feels very different and it sucks because I'm like into safe sex and like look you know I I learned when I was fucking Tommy that like you know you don't even want your dick without a condom temperature in your outside because you could get an STI even from the dick being on the outside right some things transfer skin to skin some things transfer inside right um I think it there's a very big difference it's like you know night and day but if you find I think that the different types of condoms are

are very different. Like I, a lot of guys like Matt, what are they called? Magnums, right? A lot of guys, most of my booty call guys just have bigger dicks for some reason, not because I prefer that just because I hit the jackpot or something. I don't know. And so they always want to use magnums, but I like lifestyle extra. Like there's something about lifestyle that for me, as someone who's very sensitive to a lot of things, lifestyle is my favorite condom. Like I could totally get off on that. Other ones bother me. They feel too thick. They don't feel the right way. I think there's always nothing better than a sex without a condom. But if you have to use a condom, I really love for some reason.

For me, I like the lifestyle ones because I always use those. Lifestyle. Yeah, for some reason. I don't know what it was about those. But there's a very big difference. I've heard numbers of different condom names from women. I think maybe women, they each have their own condom. 100%.

I am 100% sure of that. I'm very, like, body conscious. So I feel things probably different than everybody else. I think it's probably like you have to find the right condom for the girl and probably girls know theirs too, right? Like you said, you've heard for me, it's like lifestyle. But maybe for other girls prefer Magnum. But there is a very big difference. But people should use condoms. I believe in it. If you're not just like unless until you're in a like a, you know, you're just danging. Fluid bonded relationship. Well, just, you know, it's a whatever kind of relationship

where you know you're just with each other. I don't know. And get tested regularly. Yeah. That's really. I find, I have found that. women really appreciate that. When I can say, oh, when was the last time it's like, here, I was tested three months. I get tested every three months. And I have found women really appreciate that. They see you taking care of yourself and that and therefore taking care of them. So there's my tip to the guys out there.

Well, why are you having to test every three months? You're fucking girls without condoms all the time? No, but I get tested every three months because I ever go to sex. Not anymore. But actually, I like to go to sex parties. and a lot of the good ones don't let you come unless you've been tested within the last three months. Oh, okay. Interesting. Okay. Good. But, and so I used to get tested every six months is what I would just to do because I'm sexually active and I have partners. And it's just good to do. But once I started doing every three

months, I noticed that women responded very well to that. That was an interesting, an interesting thing that I wasn't expecting. They really respond well to it. Yeah, I mean, I would have questions. I'd be like, what, you know, how much sex are you having? How many people are you banging that you have to get but, and are you a swinger? Like it makes me think other things, which is interesting. But, you know, I forget that we're doing this episode for my audience, my audience are swingers. You don't tell them you're getting tested every three months. You say, I was recently tested. Yeah, that's good. Yeah. I've been recently tested. Yeah, that's great. Yeah, that's great. I appreciate that. Yeah. I don't tell them that I just said, yeah, I've been tested a month ago, two months ago. I'm never, I'm never more than three months

out. Okay, cool. And they seem to appreciate that. Okay, cool. Next question. Okay, here we go. Last question, Kathy. And this is always an interesting one for me. You bring a girl over to your house for the first time. What is she going to look at to help make her decision if she's going to get laid that night with you? What do women look at when they walk into a guy's apartment? Everything. Right? Oh my God, I can't even tell you the way, all the things. Do we have another hour? Like a penthouse. No, it's not just that. You don't understand the way girls are. We're like fucking detectives. Well, that's why I'm asking the question.

What are the things you can do? I start with your profile. If you're on apps, let me just tell you. Don't take picture. Look and see what's in the background of your pictures because we're all analyzing that shit when my girlfriends would be on. That's a good tip. Yeah.

Let me just tell you. That's a good tip, guys, right there. Whatever my girlfriends, because I don't date right now, but when I was dating or when my girlfriends are dating and I'll always be like, send me a pick. and they said he picks from his dating app. I'll be like, look at his fucking blinds in the background. They're so ugly. Like, don't date him.

Like, I mean, look at his messy room. He's dirty. He's lazy. Fuck him. Like, we are looking at everything. And it's so stupid. And that's why, like, apps are hard to find people because you're, like, shopping, like you're shopping for a toothpaste.

You're, like, reading into everything that probably wouldn't fucking matter if you met him at Starbucks. But, you know, okay, so a girl walks into your house and she is looking at everything. Like, first of all, clean up your fucking. house before a girl goes over. Okay. Like, do not leave it like it's left where, when you are home alone. I, listen, my house

looks one way when I'm home alone with my son before, you know, but I always like to tidy it up and everything and if people are coming, you know, but it's never like a blazing mess. If your place is a blazing, clean it the fuck up and then keep it clean, okay? Because I don't know, I don't want chaos okay, in a house. I,

you know, so women do look at a lot of things. The other thing, like, listen, women, like, if you have like pictures of your ex or your show, like women want to see that you dated hot girls, not ugly girls. Like, it's a true thing. Like, she'll think you're hotter. If your ex-girlfriends were hotter, it's like, there's really weird things that we think about.

This is why I'm bringing it up because most likely you're not going to have pictures of your ex-girlfriend there. But if you do, I want to see, I personally want to see that they're hot, not that they're not hot because then I feel like, okay, I'm a part of the hot club, right? I don't want to be a part of, like, the ugly club. Oh, my God, that's hilarious. Girls are like an opposite of what you would think. But some girls are also really intimidated.

I've had people, why do you have a picture of your ex around? Not that I have pictures of my answer. But I've had, but I have had people like, why is there a picture of your ex on your phone? I was like, because we're friends. But so I think I can go both ways. No, no, no. I'm not saying you should have the mom. I'm just saying, I'm just talking about how ridiculous girls are.

This is how we think. It's so stupid. Like, you know what I mean? If we see the picture, like that's, if we see you get your house. Like to me, you know, I do listen. I, I do like a guy that's successful in certain ways. like I do like a guy that has like good taste you know but like and has you know I I will judge like bathrooms and stuff you know I can't explain it but I just think if you're

having a regular girl come over to your place and she wants to make sure it's clean and tidied up and I don't just mean tidied up I mean clean like clean your fucking toilet your bathtub like you know we might peek in clean the fucking bathroom I mean as guys the Yeah. Gross. And I just, yeah, it's like, spend an afternoon getting your bathroom clean if you think someone's coming over that night. Why don't people have cleaning ladies over all the time now?

I mean, they're not expensive. It's not a luxury. And why clean yourself? Get your cleaning lady. They're not, they're cheap. How much are they? And you could do it like once a week. Once a week.

And once every other week. It's $200. So, you know, I mean, it's fine for me. But, you know, maybe someone doesn't have that. I don't know. Yeah. I think in the, you're in New York, a city, in other places. it's not that much. I mean like, you know, but it like keep it, clean it. And then if you clean

every day, you know what I mean? Every single day, you just tidy up. It never gets that unclean. So, you know, clean your apartment. I think sheets are very important to be clean. Basters are important. Hold on a second. This is a tip that someone gave me. I always thought of sheets as like utilitarian, right? They're just, okay, I have sheets. I had a girl who carer. I was really trying to impress. And afterwards, we did have sex. But afterwards the next day, she was like, just so you know, you really need to update. You need to upgrade your sheet game. She's like, I mean, I get it.

Your sheets are clean, but they're not really nice sheets. Like I was like, oh, wow, what a blind spot. So that was a great tip a lover gave me once about making sure, you know, spend a little, spend a little money. It goes a long way. And they last longer anyway. Not only that. I'm sorry. You listen to me.

You spend, if you think about it, how much time on your bed a month? Like the fact that some people will sleep on dirty sheets or they put no money into their bed. They're on a hard cheap mattress. I don't understand it. Like your bed and your sleep is extremely important. Plus, it's something that you do, a very large amount of time in your life. Put some fucking money in there. And let me tell you what could change the game.

If you have a bad mattress and it's like hard, you want to spend a couple hundred bucks and get yourself a brandy mattress. Get a temper pedic topper. Just the topper alone will change your life. No, no. I had much. My guy friend bought me the most expensive mattress out there. It's called the heirloom.

And it was like maybe $10,000 mattress. And I got bored of it. And I'm like, oh, you know, I needed a new mattress. And I remember hearing Brad Pitt talk about how he would send temperaedic toppers to every hotel he goes to because he loves his temperateic bed. So I bought the temperatech to put on top of my board mattress that I was bored in. I didn't want to spend another $10,000 on a fucking mattress or $4,000 or $2,000. And let me just tell you, my temporeptic topper, I still have it to this day. I am obsessed with it.

It is like having a temperapeutic bed. The topper is amazing. My son loves nothing more than sleeping in my bed with me because my bed is so comfortable. And you could get one Queen King for a couple hundred bucks. And it is killer and it'll change your life.

It's a game changer for a mattress. It really is. You can take an average mattress and make it spectacular. Yes. And then get yourself some killer sheets. And let me just tell you, when you have an old neck

and you can't, I spend so much money on so many different pillows when I got to that age where you realize that what you put your fucking head on matters or else you're going to have a neckache for the rest of your day. When you get to that age and you're spending so much money on so many different fucking pillows, just buy my pillow. You're going to get it. You're going to be like, oh my God, this feels like the worst pillow in the world.

It's got a bunch of cut pieces of foam in there, like square foams all over. It looks so stupid and ridiculous. And let me tell you, it will cure your neck problems. It is the best pillow to get. It was recommended to me after I bought it a thousand. and pillows to fix my neck after I got to that age. And my pillow is the best pillow. But then have like 10 other pillows on your bed that you don't sleep on that look nice.

Get some nice comforter. Get some nice sheets and get a temperateic thing. A good night's sleep and a good nice bed. Oh my God. Your girl will never want to get out of it. Well, maybe you want her to get out. You know, I don't know. Depends on what you want.

That's the kind of stuff that makes a big difference. I like a guy with a nice apartment and nice stuff. A guy that has like nice taste. in things, you know? I know that that guy's going to like nice. Well, but taste is subjective, right? I mean, everyone's taste is going to be different. I know, but I like so.

I like, to me, good taste is good taste. I don't know. But everyone's different. Taste is subjective, right? But, you know, yeah. So it's hard to, that's hard to answer that question. But anyway, it's a good. Last question.

No, I think, no, I think you nailed it about that clean bathroom and a nice bed. Those are really important. And apparently blinds are really important to you. Listen, I am such an analyzer. I'm like a detective that if I see a picture of something. picture of somebody. I'm not looking at their face. I'm looking at the background. Okay, what is in the back? What is it? And I could make a judgment

on everything just by the littlest things. I could have worked at the CIA. And I think that those things say something. I'm sorry. And yes, when I used to be on dating apps, I used to look at like the person's window treatments in the background. And if they were they look like really outdated and bad, that was a turnoff.

Isn't that stupid? That's why dating apps don't work. No, that's why dating ads don't work for me. Guys can't. It's also such a numbers game for guys. It's like 10 times a number of men to women or even more than that, I think, on the dating apps. You're so much better off meeting people in real life.

Yeah, but let me just tell you, wait, I'm going to tell you my brother's success story and then we're going to end it. Okay, my brother has been married twice. He's on his third. Okay, we're going to have that 10 years from now. But like, let me tell you, he doesn't like to be alone. He's one of those. And that's fine.

I've come to the conclusion that people are just like that. And there's nothing wrong with that. He was like on a mission. The minute he got divorced. to get another bitch in his house, okay? And that's what he did. And he went on to the dating apps, and he was like a maniac.

I never talked more on the phone with my brother in my life than when he was on the dating apps because he'd call me with all his nonsense he was going through. It was so much fun. You know, I love dating drama. It's like fucking hilarious, you know.

But he did it like a fucking mission, and he went after one after the other, and he dealt with all the nonsense that everybody has, but you know what? He eventually met a girl. She lives with him now. He couldn't be happier. the best girl he's ever dated. My family loves her more, and he's only picked garbage in the past.

His ex-wives were horrific, okay? This girl is amazing, and he met her on an app after he just went through failure after failure after failure, failure, failure, failure, so many times, nonsense, garbage, nothing good. But he didn't stop until he got what he wanted and he finally got what he wanted. So, you know, it's not. He's a success story. He seems the exception. I mean, I, I, know, I think if you don't stop, I think if you don't. I think if you Don't stop. He just wouldn't stop. He couldn't stop. And he doesn't listen. A lot of times when you're older, what are you doing? Going out to bars where? What bar are you going to go to and meet someone age appropriate? You know what I mean? It's hard to do. He's a he's a dad. He's a single

dad now. You know what I mean? He's got his kids. Like this was like the, it's like I'll think a lot people do it because of the ease of it. How else are you going to meet that kind of numbers? Because it is a numbers game, whether you're out in the wild or not. To meet that one that all the stars align and that's the one for you. I mean, that's not easy to find. That's why you wind up settling down with the person. My brother didn't settle down with any of the girls up into this girl. And he had, my brother's a very good looking guy for his age and he's got cash and all that shit. He, you know, he had a McLaren. He was driving a McLaren on all this fucking days. It was hilarious. You know, so every girl liked him. He had his pick. But he didn't settle down until the last one. Why? Because even, you know, with all the girls he went with, it's a, you know, you have to go through a lot to find the one. Because the one is like the one. And that doesn't come often. You know what I mean? So it's not, it's not, it works for some people. You know what I mean? Right.

So there you go. That's the success story. Yeah. Okay. So listen Adam. Thanks so much for calling in to the show. You did help me write my book. We'll talk about my book.

It's a strictly anonymous confession. Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. People could go buy it. We wrote 17 stories. We took things from my show. Interviews from my show, wrote them in the third person. Made them like not cheesy erotica stories more like Pennhouse Forum. That's how I pitch it.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Totally. Yeah. You know, stories about. But what's interesting about them, I think, is if they're true. These are true stories. It's not fake erotica. This is real shit.

Yeah. Yeah. Porn is fantasy and these are real. Yeah. Yeah. And that's a quote from a PhD near NYU PhD person that gave me for my book. It's true. Dr. Shanna. Dr. Shana. She's the cover of the book. She gave you that quote. Yeah. There you go. Strictly non-miss confession. Secret sex lives is total strangers. If anyone buys the book, they get a free access to my discord. We just had a boob contest. And Adam, I'm going to bring this up last. And then you could pitch your book. Adam, help me. Help me. Help me. me rate. No, you help me rate the best boob contest. We did a whole, almost two hours. We had to go through that many picks. I have so many people.

There's a lot of boobs. Yeah, I get so many people involved in my contest. So we're doing a next one is going to be either a lingerie shot, a hot wife pick contest or a jizz shot contest. We're doing a poll right now. But we're always running contests over there. It's always super fun.

No one could get into my Discord. It's private. You have to get a link through me. So I always offer it to people. and I vet people so that I get only have cool fucking people in there through. If you buy my book, I throw it in as a complimentary thing. Send me a pick of the screenshot. It's available in e-book and paperback anywhere you find books.

And the link is in the description or if you draw my Patreon. And then you have a book, Seek the Resk. It's for anyone that's... Seek the risk? Yeah, looking for non-monogamy, how to deal with it. You dated Jane. She was her and her. And it's a great book, right?

Give your picture book. Yeah, I mean, I think it's a good. I mean, I get a lot of, your listeners have been great. A lot of them have read it and have sent me really. really nice messages, emails about how certain, the book chronicles quite a thing, but certain aspects of the story speak to different people. And there's something in there for anyone who's been dealing with non-monogamy at some point in their life. And yeah, so there you go. Please, I'd love it. I need all the sport I can get. Okay. And so tell them where they could get that.

Oh, it's at seek the risk.net. Okay. I'll put the link. I'll put the link in the description. Then you can always reach me at Adam at seekthirisk.net as well, if anyone has any questions about it. And I mean, nowadays, because people bought your book and they bought my book, and it will kind of link them together. When you go to my book on Amazon, you see his book right there as like other customers bought blah, blah, blah, right? Because you were on my show. And all the people have been on my show, their books are showing up with my book. So go there and get it. Thanks so much for calling in again. Now go back to your stupid vacation. And tell your listeners that once they buy our books and read them, they should go on Amazon

and rate them. Give them, give them some more. Oh, yeah, do that. Give them. Yeah, please. guys, it makes a huge difference to Kathy's book and my book. Please go there, write a review, tell them how much you love us. Yeah. Go back. Go back to your stupid life. Going back to my stupid, my stupid vacation. Yeah, your stupid vacation life every other day, Groundhog Day. Have fun. Bye. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that I do have a book. The book is called Shickly Non-Mus Confessions, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show.

Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuckold story. There's a gang bang girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person, right? So I took the interview and I rewrote it in the third person.

I wouldn't call it like an erotica book, though there's plenty of sex in there, right? But I didn't write it to sound like erotica because that's like the vibe of my show. You're going to learn a lot. You're probably going to get a little turned on. It's a different way to hear these stories, like I said, because they're written out in third person. There's an e-book available if you don't want your partner to know that you're reading my book.

Get the e-book. It's available. If you buy my book in any format, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint, okay? There's no way you'll get the Discord and go in there and be like, oh, this sucks, okay? It's like pretty amazing. There's tons of people on there and everybody shares content with each other. That's what's great about Discord. You get to post your own videos and pictures, and there's tons of channels and we have contests over there. It's a super fun place to be. I will be giving anyone that buys my book at any time access to my Discord. It is private. It's the only way you could get in is through me giving you the link. And that's why I think my Discord is so great because I have vetted people. It's not like it's just open to the public. So everybody that's in there are people

that listen to my show and people that listen to my show are fucking great. So my Discord is fucking great. My book is great. You're going to love it. If you buy it, all you got to do is send me the receipt or a picture of proof that you bought it and I will give you free access to my Discord send it to Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. You could find my book in the link in the description, okay, or just Google at strictly anonymous confessions, secret sex lives of total strangers. You can find it anywhere. You buy books.

Send me the picture and I'll give you access to my Discord email, strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. Anyway, thanks so much for listening. Okay, I just wanted to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. is now available not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story.

There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories and they're all told in the third person and they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person and I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories. 17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two and then skip around. You could read the whole book. It's available in eback format, paperback format, and finally, the audio book is available coming out August 25th, but you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any

format or pre-order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint, okay? There's no way you get into my Discord any other way than getting the link from me, okay? I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there. Everybody shares content with each other, and that's what you get to do there. You could post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total strictly anonymous community, and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord. It's private, like I said. All you got to do is email me a screenshot of your purchase, whether you did the audiobook, the e-book or the paperback.

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