Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1386 - Naughty Erotica Orgies, Phone Sex and More w/Nikky

Episode Date: March 4, 2026

Nikky, from Dear Nikky podcast called in to discuss naughty erotica orgies, phone sex and more. Tune in to hear all the details including how and when she started as a phone sex operator, what the guys would call in to talk about most,  the crossdresser who called her often and what they would “discuss,” the swingers who have hired her to read erotic stories during their sex parties, the resort with a few couples she also read erotica for while they were hooking up and what went down, the nudist resort dirty erotica reading she performed to people and got them off and exactly what went down, the mfm threesomes she had in college wit the two guys she was dating at same time and what went down, the groomsman who slept with the bride on the wedding day story she had on her show, the craziest phone sex caller she had and exactly what he was down for,  what having phone sex with lot of married men taught her, how she is as a dirty talker in her private relationships plus a whole lot more.  Listen to her podcast here: Dear Nikky - Hidden Desires GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LoadBoost.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2540-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠— Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠PikaVibe.com/Strictly⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Click to get $15 OFF your purchase ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you want to be on the show, it's called Strictly Anonymous because I change everybody's voices and everyone's name. So if you have an interesting, naughty secret life that you want to talk about while remaining anonymous or not anonymous, you could be on the show. So me an email, Strictly Anonymous Podcast.com, or go to my website, strictly anonymous podcast.com, and click on Beyond the show. If you have a naughty confession that you want to leave on my confessions hotline, you could call 247, the number C-4-7, 4203. 579. 3474-203579.

Call in, leave a message. Some of those confessions, make it on to a confession's episode. And I talk about them. The rest show up on my Patreon. My Patreon is a great place to join. Right now you could get in for just seven bucks a month. And you get for just seven bucks a month early and add free episodes. Every single one of them.

You also get access to every single confession that ever came into my line. plus you get all of the anonymous, super hot R-rated picks of all of my guests, mostly. Every one of my female guests has set me in a hot pick of her. So if you want to put a body to an episode, they're all on my Patreon. You also get Q&As that I do where I answer really personal questions. We do a lot of polls. But I think the best thing about my page on is you get access to my private Discord, which is a super fun community I have built.

there's over 2,500 people on my Discord and everybody gets super naughty over there. You want to see pics and videos of not only my callers, but also of other listeners. Well, that shit is all on my Discord. Like, you will not believe what's going down there. There's tons of stuff. And what's great about my Discord is you get to interact with other like-minded people. So anyway, get all of that when you sign up to my Patreon. It's Patreon.com slash strictly non-me.

Podcast. Now listen, I wrote a book. It's called Strictly Anonymous Confessions, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. It's on Amazon. It's on Simon & Schuster website. The link is in the description that you could get it. And then screenshot your purchase and send it to me at strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. That's strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. And I'm going to hook you up and give you free access to my Discord. I think this is a really great deal. So if you want it, get my book. Send me the screenshot of your purchase to my email strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. So last thing I want to tell you about is if you are into the lifestyle or you want to learn about the lifestyle or you want to learn about all the,

you know, swinger clubs or gangbings or swinger events that are going on in your area or you want to meet other swingers or you want to start having three sons yourself. Well, right now I could give you a free trial to SDC.SDC.com is like the world's largest adult dating website. Now, it's not just a dating site. It's so much more. You can find out about all the events, the gangbings, the meetups, the hotel takeovers going on in your area, as well as anywhere else. This is cc.com. Use my code 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link and you're going to get a free trial to check it out. Okay, today I have on Nikki from the Dear Nicky. podcast. I actually reached out to her because someone told me she'd be great at reading the audiobook

for my show. And then I found her super interesting when I was talking to her just about doing my audiobook because she was like at a big sex, phone sex background. And she knows, she does these like super hot stories on her show and she reads them. So she's got like a, you know, she's, so she's like, you know, talking to guys or like hearing from guys the same way I do. But in a different kind of way, but I felt like she would have some really good stories. And she definitely does. We talk about her background of how she got into phone sex. We talk about some crazy callers she had, what she typically gets on her phone sex line. And then she has some really interesting stories about people hiring her to read them erotica.

I mean, she's had like, she's read for people in Orgy. She's read on a cruise ship for couples. I mean, you won't believe that story as well as at a nudist resort. And that's another interesting story about a girl that was squirting and passed out the whole time while Nikki is talking. her wait to you hear that story. It's super interesting. Like I said, she was a phone sex operator. So I do have a lot of questions about that. She's got a great voice. And so, of course, I talked to her about that. I like the stats, you know, what people are typically calling her for. She talks about how she got into it. And then, of course, I get a little bit of her back

story as far as, like, her relationships. And she did. So when she went exploring in her college year, she explored in a very interesting way, if you ask me, you're going to have to hear her tell that story. But, and then we get back to talking about phone sex and guys. And she talks about the craziest guy back. called in and it's a super interesting story as well. So it's a fun episode. If you listen to her podcast, you know her. If you don't, you're going to want to check it out. She does explain what she does over there. She does kind of the same thing I do here, but she actually gets stories in and then she reads them and she's got like the hottest voice. Okay, so you're going to love it.

I'll put a link to her podcast in the description. But anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Nikki. Hi, Nikki. Welcome to the Strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm very good in you. There you go. Listen to that voice. That's Nikki from Dear Nikki podcast. You've been podcasting a long time, correct? Yeah, six years. Six years. Six years.

Yeah, you're a long one. I mean, that's probably before, is that like before everyone started having a podcast? I mean, I did it. I'm like 11 years ago. So I was really in before anybody started. But, you know, now everybody and their mother has a podcast. But, you know, six years ago, was it like something that everyone was doing? I forget.

I think I popped in right at the time when, well, I started when COVID hit. or as I called chaos. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that seems like it's so long ago. Well, I mean, it seems like yesterday, but it's like six years ago. Okay, so you have, you know, your podcast. I mean, it's literally on every podcast platform.

And like it's erotica, right? Erotic stories, right? It's like that's the kind of thing that you do on your show. It's not erotic stories. Actually, people write to me from around the world. So they're real stories. They're real stories. But they're erotic, right?

I mean, that's right. Yeah. When somebody ask about the difference between you and I, I said, when they listen to your show, they get to hear the live confession where I get the written confession and I read it. Oh, okay. So, yeah, that's interesting. Yeah, we share a lot of the same audience, actually. You do have like a really hot voice, right? And you do, and people, I think, really love that about your show, right?

I mean, that's how I was actually notified recently because I was looking for an audio, a narrator for my audiobook. a couple people like oh my god you gotta use nicky from dear nicky she's super hot but like i mean you know this voice is something that wasn't just used for your podcast you were a phone sex operator like operator when that was like a thing but what i think is super interesting is you definitely i mean you've been you kind of have been out and about with your podcast and done things that are interesting like you performed quote unquote you say like at a nudist resort you've been to swing nation and you know you're like I've done you know performances where people perform in front of me and I'm like do you mean sexually I'm like I don't really you know so I like I love to hear that story and then what I think is super interesting about your background and even your show because you're getting stories there and you also got it like you know a lot when you were doing phone sexes I would love to like rap about like what a lot of those calls were from and what you learned you've talked to so many guys right that's like what do guys jerk off to the most like you know what I mean I feel like you must have a million stories that don't know where to start.

Yeah, everybody asks me what's the craziest one. And I actually have very, very tiny amount of crazy, maybe three that are like. Exactly, yeah. Exactly. So it's not all crazy. It's usually just a man exploring something else. They're not quite wanting to go all the way, so they can still keep the toothpaste in the tube, as I like to say. Meaning they can have a little fun without cheating.

cheating or exploring something like fucking their aunt or their step sister or stepmom or you know mother-in-law anything like that you know or they can experience cut-cultry you know their wife may not be into it so they can explore that you know a lot of them sometimes like to watch porn or live cam shows and you do that with them so it's it's various amongst between but i honestly would have to say a lot of my calls were the cuck-cultry or if they were experimenting in, well, we called them she-mails at the time. And I had a lot of cross-dressers as well. And it was always interesting with the ones that called that would just wear panties. And I always could tell. There was more to the story. And when they would call back, they would add another layer. And I'll never forget this one guy he called.

And first he just wanted me to get him off. And he took, I can't think of the brand name, but it's the vibrator, you know, a remote vibrator that looks like, to me, it looks like a sperm. And he wrapped it around his dick, and he taped it, not with duct tape, but, you know, the skin tape. Taped it around, and he would let me vibe him. And that turned into him confessing he wore panties. Yeah. And for weeks of that went on.

And then he confessed where he liked to actually full dress. And that was all, you know, when you got, when you worked in business as long as I, have you. You always knew when someone had more. They had more to tell you. And I always knew with him, there was more and more and more. And eventually, you know, he would show me all dressed in lingerie. First, he didn't show me like from neck down, but he would lay it across his bed. And he would tell me the panties who like to wear or the stockings. He likes stockings, not full panty hose. He felt constricted in the panios as he would say but he would wear those and he would he was a swimmer as well and he liked to go underneath his speedos he would wear really really tiny you know panties like the

the g-strings and you know little hip hipsters and stuff like that but yeah that was mainly my calls was that well listen I wish that the people who call who email me to be on my show to talk about their quote unquote hot wiping experiences but they're fucking lying to me, they should just write into you and they could just live out their fantasies that way. But I have to say that like typically the thing that you're never going to get someone calling in and saying, oh, you know, a cheating story and they're lying or swingers. A couple's not going to call in and pretend they were swingers and they're lying. But by far, 99.9% of my calls that are made up and obviously made up are the cuckled hot wife fantasy because so many guys are into it and so many guys are

super afraid to tell their wives for, you know, you could understand that, right? A lot of women would be like, what the fuck, you know? I mean, even before I did my show, I didn't know that this was like a big kink for guys. None of my guy friends told me. And I had tons of guy friends that were really open with me. You know, I still, I think that a lot of guys are afraid to kind of say it out loud. So it makes sense that that would be like a hot call for you to get and for them to do it. You know, I wish my guys that are emailing me and telling fake stories on my show, they just call up a phone sex operator and live it out that way. I mean? Yeah, I do.

I get, there's stories that come in, because I'll get letters to them going, you know, or texts going, these are obviously fake. And the way I tell them is like, I have no proof to prove otherwise. So the thing about when you do know you're getting something that's made up or let on or whatever, this is probably the only way they can live out their fantasy. And that's exactly how I treat it. And that's exactly how I reply to anybody that says that is probably the only way. because of whatever they are going on in their life to live this out.

And we all can learn even if it's made up. I mean, Buck's money was made up for goodness sake. We all learn lessons regardless of what material we take in. So what did we learn from this one? Oh, I love your little spin on it, though I would never take it that way. I get really annoyed when these people call up and fucking lie to me. I can see calling it, but a letter is completely different. No, I like that.

And I love the way you look at it. And I think that is very true. And listen, in the beginning, like there was one guy, Steve, he had a bunch of gangbangs on the hill with his wife and her friends and everything. And like, he was like, and, you know, I aired his episode, not as a fact or fiction episode. And a lot of people would be like, why didn't you? I'm like, because he was like the best fucking storyteller. Why would I ruin it?

You know what I mean? Like I appreciate, sometimes I could kind of tell, but they're doing it so well that I just roll with it, you know? Sometimes when they're so bad, I cannot not hold them accountable because my audience would be like, what the fuck's wrong with you, Kathy? because I'm like, I'm a realist and I'm talking to real people and I'm telling a real story. So that's how I have to roll. Very different than you, you know. But I like your approach. In real life, I'm very black and white. But in this area, I do treat it as I have no proof. I go back to my black and white view of, well, you have no proof. You weren't there. Yeah. So you have

nowhere to judge. So let's see where this goes and what we learned from it. And could you, would you do something like this with your real partner. Yes. And it is something that it is another person just talking to a whole bunch of guys out there that are relating because they want, they have the same fucking fantasy, right? Whether it's a fantasy or a reality. There's so many guys want to live it out, right? Exactly. And who are you to burst their bubble when they're writing in or calling in? I mean, you'll still tell that story. I love that. I think that that's a super interesting take. Okay, guys, want to walk into the bedroom and know you're going to be able to perform. But also know you're going to feel more aroused and connected all at the same time. Well, that's where

Blue Chew Gold comes into play. Blue Chew is the revolutionary four and one upgrade that targets both your brain and your body. Here's the deal. Most blue pills only focus on blood flow. Blue Chew gold goes further. It combines two proven ingredients for circulation plus apomorphine and oxytocin, which enhance arousal, desire, and connection from the inside out. Okay, it's not just about function anymore. It is about total performance, physical, and mental. And the good news is blue chew gold dissolves right under your tongue and starts working in as little as 15 minutes. That means no having to take it with water, less waiting, more confidence, and a whole new level of readiness. And it's super easy to get. All you got to do is sign up online. You're going to talk to one of the

their licensed medical professionals, and once you're approved, you're going to get your Blue Chew Gold delivered right to your door. So what are you waiting for? Make life easier by getting harder and discover your options at BluChu.com. And I've got a special deal for my listeners. Get 10% off your first month of Blue Chew Gold with Code Strictly Anon. That's promo code Strictly Anon. Visit Blu.com for more details and important safety information. and I thank Bluchu for sponsoring the podcast. Whether it's a fantasy or a reality. There's so many guys want to live it out, right?

Exactly. And who are you to burst their bubble when they're writing in or calling in? I mean, you'll still tell that story. I love that. I think that that's a super interesting take. And your guys must love it too. Yeah, they do. It's, you know, I had a deal a live show the other day.

And we were talking because I got a lot of, there was this guy that the bride was in the dressing room and he had he was the groom and he came back to check on her because everybody else was in the wedding and stuff like that he ended up fucking her right before she walked down the aisle and wait wait you need to set this up again because we're like out of play or something like I don't understand what's going on here because there's a wedding and there's an audience like what's going on no it's a real wedding so the other night I was on a live show and I was reading one of the confessions that came in oh okay and and and this confession, they were at her wedding, but she was still in the dressing room for whatever reason. I don't remember if it really went into it, but he ended up, they got in there, and she pretty much attacked him. But him is her husband to be? No, this is the groomsman. Oh, okay. See, I'm not following this. Okay, we need to start of it. Okay, so this is, you're reenacting at your live shows. I just want to make everyone clear that this is what you do in your live shows. You literally reenact some of these true stories that come into your show.

So the people that are reenacting the scene are like actors? Oh, no. It's just me. It's my live show is exactly like my Monday or Wednesday and Friday shows. It's just Red Live. So the real confessions. But you did tell me that you have some shows where people are having sex in front of you. Yes.

So if you want to talk about those, we can. Those are just listeners or people that I've met through groups of Swingers groups that have hired me to go. One hired me to go on vacation with them on a cruise. ship and all I was supposed to do is show up at night. They paid for my trip, my flights, everything. And they had a suite. And every night around eight, nine o'clock at night, depending when they wanted it that night, I would go up and I would read erotic stories for them. And they, if they got turned on, sometimes they would just listen. Sometimes they end up fucking in a big pile in front of me or whatever. But yeah, I've done a couple of those shows like

that. I've been to a resort once, and that's, you know, it was four, two couples. And one cup, they did it, it was a whole weekend. It was a Friday, Saturday, Sunday. And one night, they, one couple had me. And then I went a couple hours later to the next couple doing the same thing, but one couple would be like in this sunken, like hot tub kind of thing. It was like a bathtub, but it was sunk into the floor. So they would have sex and do various sexual acts while I was reading to them. And then the other one would go and they would do it in the bed. I've been to another place where up here in Missouri,

and Memphis, Missouri, there's called the Naked Pines. And it was kind of spontaneous kind of put it on me. I was there just to relax and visit, but they were like, hey, this is a latest resort? Yeah. And they had a St. Andrews Cross there. So I was like, okay, how am I going to do this? And I thought of an idea.

I had, I did two people at separate times and I talked to their spouses and I said, this is what I want to do. I want them tied to the cross, blindfolded. I will tell them a story or talk to them erotically in their ear where only they can hear, but I want them to have three people that they would absolutely play with or, you know, that you know, and they have to give you permission. And I want them to sexually please them while they're on the St. Andrews class. and you're doing readings again. Reading or I was basically, I didn't have a book or anything in front of me.

I was just whispering in their ear or talking to them seductively while they were having, you know, their cock sucked or their breasts sucked on or their pussy licked. One of them, she ended up squirting so hard she passed out. And we had to kind of hold her up to take her off the St. Andrews class. What the fuck were you whispering in her ear, Nikki? I knew that she was sexually. I knew that she was sexually attracted to me, so I was lightly touching her. Well, so I was over stimulating her on who it was.

Well, other people were eating her out and fingering her and stuff. And I was telling her, this is actually me doing these things to you. What would you do to me? And think of, you know, just those type of things. I was a couple of years ago. But, yes, I remember we actually had a splash pad underneath her because she squirts heavily. Yeah. And then she's the one that passed out after all of it?

She's passed up. we all had to hold her up to get her off the St. Andrew's Cross. And then we kind of got her awake and she went back to her church. She went back to bed because she came so hard. But listen, I mean, you're kind of like running the event, but like, are you able to like, are you like, are you getting turned on in this scenario or are you like separated from it because this is like what you do? Because I would understand either thing, outcome.

Like, what is going on with you when you're in the middle of this scene where you are touching her and you are whispering and she's attracted to you, you know? Yeah, no, I would say yes, but afterward. I think it was like it all kind of hit me afterward. Yeah. But being there in front of her and just touching, at the point, that point, I was more focused on telling the story, keeping her aroused, getting her off, and grounding her to me. Like, my hands were always on both of them.

They were always on her, on them, one of, you know, in front of me. So they could know that, okay, I know it's her here touching me. Yeah. Yeah, that was the big point for me, because I was asking them to do something they probably have never done before. I mean, I was swinging it. So, you know, I was thinking, let's ground them to me so they know at least they know one person touching them. So it was usually either a touch on the hip or a shoulder, but hers was like light touches also with everything else. But the gentleman, I was just kind of, you know, grounding myself like here, my hands on your shoulder, my hands on your leg kind of thing.

But it didn't hit me that I was so aroused until after everything because I was so professional with it. Of course. That, you know, when you and I do things like this, we have to be professional and take away that and then we could be aroused afterward. But I think it hit me like a Mac truck. I went back to the room I was staying and was with my partner that was there. And yeah, we had a nice evening. I mean, so, yeah, because you are sort of negotiating that whole scene or like, you know, you're producing it, right? you're the leader in that event.

So you go to events and you're like heavily in the world of like swingers and ethical nominally. Yeah. I didn't mean to land into swingers. I landed there. So I would say the majority of the stories or confessions that come through are swingerish. But it was very interesting that when I was talking live the other day and you can only hear me and then everybody just types in and I answer kind of that's how it goes. and one of the participants said he really enjoys the podcast because it's not Swinger heavy. Yeah.

It's more, the people that are writing in are actually just couples. So if you were to label them, they would be in the Swinger community, but most of the people that listen don't like the label. So they just, I call all of us no matter what you do, it's explorative. Yeah, I like that. Yeah. So that's what they were saying. And we don't, since like you, I am, you know, audience-based.

That means I'm not going to have, I'm not going to make up a story just so I hit a community. Oh, yeah, no. And I like the fact that I don't have, I don't, I'm not just a Swinger podcast. I'm not just a Hot Wife podcast. I'm not just the cheating podcast. I'm not just the fetish podcast.

I have it all on. I think like, oh, if maybe there's an umbrella, it's ethically non-monogamous. I don't know, but, and it's sex, but I don't really, I like to talk to anybody that's living like a, like a super interesting behind the bedroom door. life story, regardless of what that is.

Exactly. It goes back to even, you know, the life saying of you never know what goes behind closed doors. Yeah, of course. That's actually it. And so I would say that I do, I wouldn't say that we get a lot of swingers, but we've just landed in that community. So you've been to events. I have been, not a lot, but I have from time to time gone to them just to, so I can dip my toe into it so I can say, I still consider myself very much a newbie when I go to events, but I like bringing that back because a lot of my audience don't there. I do have people that go to clubs and I don't have people that don't go to clubs. Just because of whatever reason, you know, that's not their thing. But I like to bring my eyes to it. You know, I don't go play, but I do watch and observe.

And it's very interesting at clubs. And our clubs are very different here than they are. Where is here? In the United States. I've been to Kentucky and around, yeah, Las Vegas and stuff, but they're very different from the UK. Yeah, yeah, totally. So you've been in it. So sometimes you have been, so the places where people are having sex in front of it, we're going to go back to the wedding scene. I did not forget where I cut you off. Okay. And I'm getting back there. Okay. But like these other stories were kind of interesting when you're like with these couples that hired you to come and read them hot stories and then they're like fucking in front of you. Like that's like super interesting. And sometimes though, go on. Sorry. You know, for the first one I got, I went, wait, what? Yeah. That it becomes like every day because it should be there done that. Yeah, it was a cruise ship thing. Yeah, it was come on a cruise ship with us. We, you know, we'll pay for everything and, you know, you'll have your own room. You know, everything's provided. You know, you have your day to yourself and the evenings with us. And I thought, oh, okay, I guess I can do that, you know. And I, I remember I brought my book and I brought, you know, I always have my last.

laptop where I have things I can load to my phone. So I pick some stories out that had aired or previously aired. And, you know, it was very interesting. It was six or eight people. But what they ended up doing was they had one suite. So we all fit in this one big suite. And they would start just listening to me. They would interact. And eventually, when they got turned on, you know, people would start stroking. There was, you know, women sucking on each other and men, you know, sucking on each other or women sucking on a man and full out sex. And finally, one night that, you know, it just turned into a big orgy in front of me. And here I am, I'm trying. I was so turned on. I remember I was just reading. And I'm like,

I'm trying to tell this story and try not to go, but dead, the dead, dead. Because, you know, when you record live or when you talk live, you can't go back and edit. So it was very, very, very interesting but very sexy as well. And the first time I did it, I went back to my room going, oh my God, they fucked for me. Yeah. I mean, and this is like a whole bunch of people that got together and said, let's bring Dear Nikki into our bedroom. Super interesting. It was, yeah, it was very, very, very, very interesting for sure. I mean, listen, a lot of people do get turned, like, obviously you get turned on by what you see, right? I mean, how could you nod a whole bunch people having an orgy in front of you. A lot of people are very turned on by what they hear,

right? Like, that's a thing. And obviously, these people were wired that way, you know, because why else did they want you there, like, adding into the mix, right? It adds a whole other layer of erotica, I think. It does. I know I can tell you when I get a cold or if I'm getting sick, I have audiophile people. I'm sure you probably have someone like that, too. What do you mean? Well, they know the tones of your voice. voice or and somebody will they'll all I swear to God I'll get an email and say Nikki are you getting cold? No I don't give people like that. Your pitch is off today. Are you okay?

No, I get another rude. I get other rude emails. Oh, so they could just because they're so in tune with your voice. Yeah. Yeah. Well, listen, it sounds like you're turning it on, but you're really not. And maybe you do more so. You just have like a really hot voice. Like you just have that kind of my voice. Yeah, it's my natural voice. And it's good. I talk to these guys from the bowl. Brotherhood podcast. They're all like bulls. There are these black bull guys that are, and every time they get on, they're kind of like you, but the male version. And I'm like, oh my God, I just want to like relax on my couch while I'm talking. You know what I mean? I start. They feel like, I feel like they're putting me to sleep. But in a good way, you know what I mean? You are of a very like erotic sounding voice naturally. Yeah. There's a lot of my listeners that do tell me they're like, I'm sorry, Nikki, but I do listen to you right before I got a bed. They're like, not only for that, but you relax me. It is. That's not a bad. It is. That's not a bad. thing. That's a really nice thing. You know what I mean? Especially for someone I got to take Melatonin to go to sleep. You know, anything that could help, you know, take it down a notch. And I think, like I said, it makes you sort of relax and tired, but in a good way, right? It's not in a, oh, you're so boring. You're putting me to sleep. So, yeah, but you didn't get involved with those people. Like, you didn't hook up with any of those people, right? You just did your job. You went there. Now, in your personal life, we're getting right back to this wedding.

This is my last question. Do you have vanilla relationships? Have you ever had any open relationships yourself? Yes. I wouldn't say open, but I went through college like most people and college is I actually just talked about this

in my show this week, that how leaving after you graduate high school and you become an adult meaning you're in your own space, pay bills or whatever, that's the time to explore. This is the best time to explore. Yeah.

Yeah. And I think this is the two. I dated two older men and they were best friends. And we had a relationship. At the same time is what you're saying. At the same time. Yeah. Okay, guys.

Want to impress your girl the next time you're with her with like a huge load. Listen, I know you do. And that's why I am so excited to tell you about the best supplement out there called load boost. I've never had more listeners who have bought load boost. Email me. Okay, I swear to you, if you want proof, email me. I'll show you the DMs, the emails I'm getting from guys that have tried load boosts that are like, oh my God, it totally works. Load boost is not some sketchy supplement. Okay, it is a doctor formulated supplement that is not only going to increase your load, it's also going to make it taste better, okay? And listen, the good news is besides doing all that

killer stuff for your jizz. It's also great for overall prostate and sperm health with ingredients that promote fertility by improving sperm motility and morphology. There's a reason why over 88% of verified users of loadboots give it four to five stars. And it is also a favorite supplement of not only my listeners, but of adult film stars. They use it to because it works. And let me tell you, it works super fast. Some people see results in just a couple of days of taking it with most people seeing full results after just two to three weeks of daily use. Listen, that is not too long to commit to bigger volume and better tasting jizz. Okay, your girl will thank you and you're going to thank me because I have a special deal for my listeners. All you got to do is visit loadboose.com

and use code strictly for 10% off. That's load boost. use code strictly for 10% off or just go to the description and click on the link. College is, you know, I actually just talked about this on my show this this week, that how leaving after you graduate high school, that's, and you become an adult meaning you're in your own space, pay bills or whatever, that's the time to explore. That's the best time to explore. Yeah. Yeah.

And I think this is the two. I dated two older men and they were best friends and we had a relationship. At the same time is what you're saying. At the same time. Yeah. But we weren't, we got serious eventually where we weren't open to anybody else. So we were,

yeah, it was just us and I would date them separately. It was kind of like a throb ball with two guys. Yes. Yeah, yeah. I mean, it didn't amount to anything because I ended up staying for college and they end up moving

for jobs because they were out of college. they were both successful. How old were they? Do you remember? I was 18, 19. They were easily 30, 35, 40. Oh my God. But wait, would you have sex with both of them at the same time? Yes, but I'm still an anal virgin. So I wasn't ready for that then. But yeah, I would absolutely have sex with them. Oh my God, that's so interesting. That's a really, you know, listen, you typically think like, oh, when someone says, oh, I went exploring as a female in college, it's like you made out with your friend. And maybe you even went down on her, you know, your girlfriend. But it's very rare, especially, you know, especially back of my day that you're like, oh, you had two guys and you were, you know, it's like, it's super interesting kind of. It's not the norm.

But it's not abnormal, you know, but it's interesting. No, it wasn't, and it wasn't explosive as what, you know, when my listeners come listen, they're not your boy. Oh, my God. it wasn't that explosive. It just kind of happened naturally, very laid back as I am. But you know what? When you're in the middle of anything, whether it's a nude beach or I'm sure like when you're in the middle of those orgy piles and you're talking to them like it just feels much more normal than it seems from the outside, right? You know, it still though is like something that most people on their deathbed won't be able to look back and say they did it. Right. So that's where I say it's like, oh, it's kind of a little crate. You know, it's like a little hardcore considering you're 19 years old. You have two guys. You're dating at the. the same time sleeping in bed with having sex with. I'm sure not a lot of your girlfriends did that. No. I mean, I've had girlfriends that have had multiple partners, but not like this. Exactly. That's

what I mean. It's very specific. I mean, listen, if you're making me think it's something kind of like interesting out of the box, that says something because I've talked to a lot of fucking people. You know what I mean? So it's interesting how you explored when you were younger. And, you know, and when you got, so let's go back to the wedding scene. So when you're doing this scene, and people, you're reading it, the story. It's a real story about a woman who fucked her groomsman, right? This is the setup, correct? Right.

It wasn't her husband to be. It was one of his groomsmen. Oh, my God. And from way it read, and he went to go check on her. And one thing led to another, and they end up, I don't really remember why, because it's been a couple weeks since I've read it. And I don't remember why, but they ended up fucking right there. I mean, he just plowed her and went out like nothing happened,

and she walked down the aisle with his cum coming just down her legs. And I'm sitting her going, nope, not me. And I remember asking, and my whole audience, and I'm kind of glancing over at the chat. I try not to, but I did. And they were like, oh, hell no. But we all agreed it was hot. I mean, it was very, very hot even though it's something we wouldn't do. Yeah, well, that might be the stuff that like people would call in for sex, like phone sex, right,

to live out that stuff, but like never in real life. But this bitch was doing it in real life, right? Like this was her real story, right? That was her real. It was, well, it was written from his view, not hers. So this was his story about her. And he asked, he's like, should I say something or maybe she'll come back? And I'm like, well, if the dick was good, of course she's going to come back eventually. It might take years. But I think she will. She's willing to do that on her wedding day. I think she's going to come back. Oh, that naughty bitch is going to be knocking like on her. Like she's got, I think it's like she's one of those people that get charged by the whole naughtiness of it.

You know what I mean? Like next time he's over the house where there's a party in her husband's there. That's when she's going to want to fuck him. Not in a car alone. She sounds like she likes the whole naughty. You know, it's unfortunate but true that sometimes the naughtiness of something

like right under people's nose or right, like on the wedding day while our husband's in the next room. Like that's what makes it so fucking hot. It's not just the person alone. Unfortunately, that's what winds up being the big turn on. And I'm sure you've seen a lot of that in your like, when guys would call in and make up their fantasy,

how did it work like being a phone sex operator? When guys call up and like sort of tell you what they wanted to talk about? Are you just like, how do you get them to like reveal their things? Like you just get them in the mood and get them talking and then they reveal and what they're, where they wanted to go. Like how would you get into their fantasy?

It's funny. It's, it's, you can probably relate to this a little bit. You'll have the type that you kind of have to, you know, just kind of talk and then they'll start, then they'll feel comfortable and then start.

start re-building. And then you'll have the ones that just are right out of the gate. And that's no different than phone sex. You have them right out of the gate. Or you have to kind of, they have to feel safe with you telling you the secrets. And I always feel like the ones that were right out of the gate either are always on phone sex and tell the whole story or it's made up or the ones that, you know, I don't know hopefully either way, but, you know, or they're just neural nervous and they tell you, or the ones that you kind of have to build up, they have to feel, one, they're seeing if there's a connection, and two, they're seeing it, you know, is it okay to tell the story? Right. And are you okay with it? And I mean, it's your job, I mean, to be kind of okay with

anything, right? I mean, that's the whole point of this fantasy. Yeah, like I said, I've only had like three or four, and I did it for like 15 years that are crazy. And I actually like talking to one of them. Because it was so crazy. It was so crazy. He liked to be trust and cooked like a turkey. Oh, and he did. And it was one of those where he called and the first time he, well, he emailed me first. And he said, do you, do you serve people? And I thought, okay. And I wrote back and I took two different scenarios. I'm like, okay, he either wants to be Hansel and Grettled or he wants to be like a serving platter. So I took the easy route and went, so you want to be like cellophane and have like at a dinner party and you're the sex treat. And he goes, no, no, no. I actually want to be trust and

stuffed with the turkey like you're preparing a Thanksgiving dinner. Oh. And I thought, okay, let's take the money. He'll hang up in two minutes. No. Oh, yeah. Listen, the fact that you were down to actually engage this with him? Why would he ever hang out, hang up? This is like he hit fucking gold. Finally. I was like, let's see where this goes. Yeah. So he wrote, he goes, before I call, this is the things I, you know, this is what I want. He email me a list. And still to this day, he emails a list. And I don't have to hit all of it. He never makes it through the whole list. And but he makes it through most. And I remember, I thought, okay, how am I going to spin this into a story to make him see it.

Because I know this guy, if he's this graphically writing in what he wants, he wants to be able to visualize it. So have you ever seen the, it's like an early 80s, the Tales from the Dark Side movie? Of course. Okay. That's how I spun it. Right. Where I came home with groceries.

He was locked in a cage. And he wanted me in heels, apron, and pearls. That's it. So I described how I went and got dressed and came out. And I opened up the doors like she did. to the kid and I started preparing and talking to him, but I wasn't talking to him. I was talking at him like him behind me. And eventually I brought him out and put up a stool set and he stepped up onto the, like a, you know, big,

you know, table in the middle of a, you know, a center thing, a block in the kitchen. And I had him get in this big, magical tray, I guess. And I had to look up before. this call how to trust the turkey. I have never trust a turkey at this point. So I had to look up how to trust and tie up a turkey. So I did all that and I remember getting the olive oil

and butter and I would rub his skin down and I would in his hair and his face and all the way down in his legs and then I went over and I prepared the mipa and the stuffing and I put it in this. I thought, what the hell am I going to get this up there? I was like oh yeah

we'll just make this big industrial and syringe. So I stuffed syringe full of breadcrumbs and whatever else. And I would lean him over. I would, you know, rub the butter and olive oil in his ass and, you know, get it all greased up. But I put the thing and pumped in some, you know, that. And I would go, it would be all graphic about it. And then I remember I went over to the stove and I turned it on and I said, you hear a click. And he went, oh, God, I'm done. I went, I didn't even fucking put you in me home yet. I think it was when you were stuffing his ass with stuffing. Yeah. He goes, you were really good. He goes, no one's this good. He goes,

he goes, I could actually see it. And we ended up having a friendship, found out that he actually had did this except for the, except he did the spit roasting, like the roast a pig. Yeah. And that's the thing. You can go look that up on any platform that has porn. And he did that, But he also paid at the time, paid a madame mistress, like a, you know, hardcore BDSM mistress, a like 500 to a thousand dollars to be a human ashtray. And I got to see videos of both of them. So this is a true story. Wow. And that was the one you've liked kind of talking to because it was kind of interesting. I did like to. Basically he would have to find the email and send it to you. But he sent like what he wanted. It just, you know, pinpoints of what he wanted. Like, I'm calling in an hour.

This is what I want you to hit. Yeah, that's what I was wondering if they do give you sort of something. So you know, like, your role going in, right? That one I did. And that's why I liked it because he let me spin it however I wanted to spin it, which is when you're creative like this and like yourself, you like to be able to do it on your own terms. It's a blessing when you get to.

But most of the time you did, they would call in and they would just, you know, introduce themselves and they actually would eventually once they got comfortable they would say you know there's times i like this and they would always start like kind of like the the guy was telling you about but the that would fully dress and lingerie yeah they would start at the what was the easiest for them to tell me you know you know i like to watch you know um a she mail online will you watch one with me or will you watch a porn with me if i send you the link in your email yeah sure so you do that And then it progressively got to where they wanted. And you could, when they would call back, you knew the picture of where they wanted to go.

So usually your first call is kind of shaky unless you knock it out of the park. But it's kind of like meeting someone for the first time. You know, you feel really good. And then you kind of build upon it. But sometimes they would let you all the way. And then most of the time they didn't. But they would get at least the edge taken off, I would say. And sometimes they would just

And sometimes they would just call and say, you know, I really want you to just tell me how you're going to fuck my ass with the dildo. And you'd run with it. And those are the ones that always were already primed. So they usually lasted less than 10 minutes. And would you just like have them like did you have set times that you took calls and you would just like get in the mood and get like sit down and be in one plate? Like you know, how did you prepare? Would they just be call at any time? Like how did you set this whole thing up?

Yeah, used to in my 20s. used to be available 24-7 and I'd answer my phone late at night. And the older I got it, I was like, fuck this. So, well, because you technically, if you, when you work the lines, the my time, it seemed like it, I would get good sleep from like two to five. Right. Solid sleep. And then, because if you think of the time zones. Yeah, of course. That's when people get up. And then, again, you would be quiet again from about eight, nine, till about noon. You might have somebody calling And then around 11, they would start again to about 2, 2,30. And then some a few in the afternoon, right at pick up time, you know, or going home time.

And then, you know, then again after the evening. And then you think of a 24-hour clock. That's just how it worked. But I know for me, eventually it got to where I logged in at around 5 or 6 a.m. Because you got to catch those early ones. Yeah. And then I would stay until 5. and then I usually was done.

Now, if I was going on vacation, because as you know, like during phone sex, if you didn't work, you didn't get paid. Yeah. So if I'd go on vacation, I would stay available 24-7 just because I knew I would have that extra padding of a week. Right.

And you could because you're just like, really, you just need your phone, right? Yeah, you just need your phone. You could walk around and do whatever. I was very old school once, even as technology caught up, I still stayed with the landline just because nothing,

unless the phone lines get knocked down by ice, wind, snow, or whatever, they're not going down. And it gave you the clearest, you know, connection. Clearest signal, exactly. And that's how I worked. So I didn't, there would be guys that would call, I would never believe this. There are guys that would call and say, you wouldn't believe how many girls try to talk while they're driving their car. And I'm like, I am not multitasking. So I'm getting a wreck trying to get you off.

Absolutely not. Yeah, right. So you would set your time a wet, like, you know, you're not driving or, like, cooking dinner while you're talking to these guys, right? No. No. I always went to my bedroom, shut my door, you know. Listen, I think that those are, the fact that you were, like, known to be really great and guys thought you were like the bat. Like, you know, that means you obviously were doing it in all the right ways and we're very authentic about it. You know what I mean? Like, nobody frying, you know, dinner while they're talking to somebody giving him full sex is ever going to rise to the top. It might be fine. You know what I mean?

but not the best they've ever had. Well, and the thing is, you know, I always looked at it as this, is if someone's going to spend $2.99 a minute on me, and if you figure that, 10 minutes is almost $30. That's not county connection fees or anything else. So, you know, if they're going to spend $30 for $10 minutes on me, I can give them 10 minutes of quiet and absolute focus time. Right. You know, nothing is more bigger than that. Exactly.

And you're handling something that's so precious is not the word I want, but we want them to feel special and comfortable when you're dealing with their fantasies. How did it change your views of guys? Like, did it change your views of men at all and sex and stuff? You're considering, like, what you were, you know, what you learned? No, since I talked to a lot of married men, it actually, it turned my head. I don't want to say against our sex, but, because you don't know. know their story and that's what I always would tell somebody. But I'm always like, what, why wouldn't?

You know, and that's, that's why I always prompt that question. If your partner was to ever come up to you with this fanny, and this is the biggest secret a man could tell. If they're going to say they want to be a cut cold, if they want to cross-dress, if they want to suck a dick or anything like that, or even for you to fuck another man, that is, that is like our wedding. It is like our birth, giving birth. it's all of those things for a man to reveal that side of him that's so precious, I guess. Yeah. But for them to tell us that. And I think as a woman sometimes we can be, or even man, you know, someone that's not maybe into that.

I always say, I tell my listeners, you know, just pause because I'm going to tell you that as amount of time it took them to work up the courage to tell you this. take it, sit with it, you know, tell them you need five minutes. It's not going to hurt. But come back to it and maybe if you can't, you can't. But ask questions. Ask open questions. Don't shut them down. That's the worst thing you could do to somebody that's revealing to you a very personal and private space of them and trusting you with it. Yeah, it's unfortunate. I think, you know, men and the way they are when it comes to sex, they get a really bad rap. But unfortunately, I think a lot of women, women don't understand where their sort of needs and desires are coming from. They just think it's like, they're like, quote unquote, perverts. It's just so horny all the time. But they don't understand it's like so much more for them. That is the way they feel connected. That is the way they feel wanted and needed. Just like women get that through compliments and conversation. You know what I mean? So it's not just as shallow as it seems, you know, but everyone sort of looks down on it like it's just sex. But it's really not to men. And they are wired very different.

And I hear it all the time, especially on my Fettus Fridays episodes or my cuckled episodes, the ones of, you know, they're trying to get their girl into it. Or the newbie stories where, you know, they were shutting them down for a really long time. And all it takes, really, in a relationship to completely change the game is for both partners to really open up and listen to each other and put things on the table and be honest and everything could change. It's just unfortunate that a lot of times, you know, couples, and especially men, a lot of times women just do shut them down, you know, especially when it comes to sex and they don't take it serious. and they don't realize it's not like it's deeper than they think. One thing I always tell somebody when you're revealing this side of you and it's the first time, don't do it in your home, don't do in your bedroom, don't do it in a place where that memory is going to stay, you know, where it's, where it is.

I always think the best place to do it is like in a car because neither one of you is facing each other. So there's no judgment, no reaction. The person that's confessing is possibly driving. or I tell them to drive, the other one can look out the window and just listen because where are they going to go? Right. You know, but it's, I think it's a good way to have that conversation. And then the next person, the person that's listening, if they're not ready to respond, just say, I hear you, but can you give me five minutes? Right.

And it doesn't matter how long, and I tell the person that's told that secret, remember how long you, it took you to reveal it. you need to give them grace on responding. It may take six months, but they've heard you. No, I know. I love that. You said that because I had a fetish guy told me that once, and I've repeated it a thousand times because it's the best advice, and you just made it even more broader to anyone in this situation.

He said, you know, when I told my wife about my fetish, like, how could I expect her to understand it in one conversation when it took me my whole life to understand it? And I was like, oh, my God, that's so brilliant. And you just actually made, you said the same kind of thing, but actually made it even more generalized. And I think that that's like super smart. And it's important for somebody to understand that. So they don't expect.

It's not like the movies, right? You're just going to reveal it and they're going to say, okay, or not or whatever. And that's the end of the story. Yeah, exactly. Or even if they just, listen, how many times I've had stories where the person shut them fucking down immediately? But then over time, if you continue to talk and have conversations and take the time, it can change over time, right? And I always tell the person that's listening, you know, there are, we are in an information world and sometimes too much in information overload. Go read. Go, go use whatever search engine, whatever porn site and watch.

Right. Come back and ask questions. Right. You know, or watch it together. You know, it's communicate, communicate, communicate when it comes to any sexual fantasies. And couplehood and I don't care, you know, what. type of relationship or, you know, what you're calling them, you know, communicate, communicate, communicate.

Yeah, I don't, I mean, I don't know. Yeah, of course. No, but I don't know about you, but like I know when I first started doing my show many, many years ago, 11 years ago, this was like mostly guys listening. And now what I see the trend is so many more women as well as couples. It's so many, I get so many emails from couples and as well as the people who call into my show and they say that they listen to my podcast and then they pause it and then they talk to the person or they sent it to their partner to listen to this and then they have

conversations about it and everyone's like oh my god we're like doing this because of your show kathie i'm like i don't know should i be happy or not i because i'm creating all these like couples to open up their relationship because that's how people are learning and having conversations and it's a great way to break the ice right i also think dirty talk is super fun in the bedroom right and you're like a pro like were you always like good at dirty talk like in your personal life that is that why you became a phone sex operator oh interesting no no no no Not at all. No.

No, I, if you met me in person, I am definitely the dirty girl that you would never know that lives next door to you. Oh, that's the hottest girl, by the way. You know that, right? Yeah, I know. I am the quiet one that you don't do not. And I always tell everybody, it's the, it's not the loud, boisterous ones. It's always the quiet ones.

It is. Always the quiet ones that are kinkier. I mean, you must be professional now. You know, I don't dirty talk a lot during the person. and I'm with sex with. It's not our thing. That's interesting. But you do it and maybe it's been like, you know, the chef when he's working in the restaurant,

he doesn't want to come home and cook for his wife. Like maybe that's what's going on here? You know, because you do it so much you don't want to or your guy just isn't into it. Absolutely not. No, I mean, I absolutely would. I remember, you know, the one time I was with one guy once and I tried it because I was really into it.

I mean, he had a nice big dick and he was fucking me good. And I was like, fuck me hard. And he finally told me it took me longer. to come because you were talking. I was like, okay. Well, we won't be doing that anymore. Yeah, no. Yeah, some people are interested.

Some people aren't. But you must be really good at it if you, if you found a guy that was into it. Like, he'd hit the jackpot with him, right? Oh, yeah. If I'm with, the guy I'm with, yeah, absolutely. And it's not like full on talk. But I'll say little things of like, I really am going to, you know, like, do you like this or like this one time I was riding him.

and reverse cowgirl. And you know how a guy sometimes will tease us with just the tip? I reversed it on him and I'm like, just the tip. Yeah. And I teased him so much. He was like, fucking mother of hell and a British accent on my head. And pulled me back onto him and I finished writing him that way.

But I still really don't. I do remember we were fucking one time. And I said, I thought he said, because I said, fuck me harder. I thought he said fuck me oh gosh what do they call a priest over there? Vicka.

He's like Vicar. I thought he said Vicar. And he said he called me Vicar. Yeah, I thought he said call me Vicar, so I called him Vicar and he was like, he spake my ass and he just came so hard. He goes, that was really hot. So occasionally him and I will do the Vicar thing

or my dad. And that happened by accident. By accident. To me, if it's not, it seems like if it's, unless you know in the mood's there, it doesn't happen, you know. Yeah, it's got to be authentic and it comes up just naturally. It's got to be authentic. I remember when I was a lot younger, there was this guy that was like, oh, you're

pussy. And I was like, I'm drying up here. Right. It was like actually a turnoff. I get that. It could be a turn on or turn off depending. Yeah. would, like I said, I mean, I would think that you're really good. You do have the perfect voice. I think probably a lot of people tune into your show to hear, you know, you talking in the voice that you talk and telling these stories are not just there for the story. They're there for the way you tell them, right? So I want you to get. Yeah. Yeah, right. And that's why I've had to turn away so many people that want to come on my show and interview this person, that person, or whatever. I'm like, you're not going to get any listens from me, period, the end. And that's not good for me. And it's not good for your clients. They're not.

calling to listen to whoever. They're not. I'm sorry. They're just not. I've done this for, you know, going on six years now. I don't have the audience that I have because they want to hear me interview somebody. Right. They want to hear you tell the story though. Exactly. Yeah. So give a shout-out to where people could go see, like listen to you. Hear the same kind of stories that you hear on my show, but in a very different way, right? You're delivering them in a really super hot way. Right. You won't hear it. Without me interrupting. That's what I do on my show. It's like somebody told me once, you've got to get on.

Somebody told me if we should reach out totally like years ago because they said you're the opposite of her, where you guys both do confessions, but you're a storyteller, and she's a conversationalist. Yeah. And but you guys would really work well together. And I thought, you know, okay. And then it just kind of landed in my lap.

I mean, when I got that email, I was like, yeah, sure. There's probably legalese where we can't, but hell, why not? No, I love it because it's like I have an audience that loves these kinds of stories and you do, you're just like, it's literally like what I did with my book, right? It was like a different way of pitching this material, right? You have the same kind of material I have on my show, but you're delivering it in a different way, which I think is like super interesting, you know, I don't feel any competition to anyone else. Even people to do the exact same thing I do in the podcast world because I love like, you know, turning my listeners on to even more content. Like this is what they love. Like they're going to, if they love the stories on my show, they're going to love you telling those kinds of stories on your show and you have other stories there. So I think it's like a perfect fit. Yeah, I don't feel like I have any. I'm not competing with anybody. No, I don't feel that way either.

I always say if I am not for you, you're going to find the positive message you need to hear from wherever else in our little sex bubble here. And if you find it from somewhere else, God, you know, bless you. Absolutely bless you. I just want somebody to be able to get that message and what, that's why we have so many of anything else of multiple, you know, M&Ms and whatever else is we may not like that variety, but this one may speak to us. Of course. And that's what I say about anybody else out there.

You don't go and find your mojo because somebody's out there saying it. And your audience finds you. I mean, my audience is a certain way. They're, you know, and they like me because of me, right? Whereas, like, I have a friend who does a podcast. And I told her, like, when people complain about me being like rude, quote unquote, or direct or whatever. I'm like, I'm going to send them to your show because she's the opposite of me. She's like very nice.

She doesn't know how to like cut people. You know, so and I'm, that's fine for me because I feel like there's enough people out there, right, to get an audience and build it. And you have to be authentic. Like I mean, my people like me. You have to be authentic in a world.

Yeah, that's just what it is. You'll find your tribe, as I say. Yeah, exactly. That's what rises to the top. So I love what you're doing. I think it's great. I think my listeners are going to love it too. So give a shout out to all yourself.

I'll put a link to your podcast in the description. Yes, please. Okay, perfect. So just to give a shout out if you have a website or your Instagram or any of that kind of good stuff before we go. Yeah, you can find me at dear Nikki and I KKY.com. On any other platform that you listen to strictly anonymous, you can also find me on Instagram X, any other various social media. It's D and then the letter D is in David, Nikki, and I KKKY, 162. Oh, okay, cool. And so, and should now, if people want to, now, if people want to, want to submit their stories to you. Do you have that information like on your Instagram? Yeah. You can always email me directly at Nikki and I KKY at dear Nikki.com or on my website,

there is a confessions tab and you can just submit it anonymously there. All names are changed in places. Probably the same thing Kathy does. We change names in places to protect the people in the story. Love it. Yeah, I think that's important. I think a lot of people will be emailing you for that too. So listen, Nikki, Dear Nikki, thanks so much for calling in. You might be reading my audio book. I'm still trying to put that all together. So, you know, people stay tuned. But thank you so much for calling in. This was super fun to talk to you. And I'll let you know when it goes out. Is it either be this on a Sunday or a Wednesday or a Tuesday, maybe or one day? I don't know. You never know. Just email me. I will. I will. Thanks,

Nikki. Thanks so much for calling in. Thank you, Kathy. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, and Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers is now available not only in paperback and e-book but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August

25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story.

There's a gang-bang girl story. Like I said, 17 stories, and they're all told in the third person, and they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person, and I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like Penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories.

17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two, and then skis. around. You could read the whole book. It's available in eback format, paperback format, and finally, the audio book is available coming out August 25th, but you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre-order it, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint, okay? There's no way you get into my Discord any other way than getting the link from me. Okay, I give it to people who buy my book. There's tons of people in there.

Everybody shares content with each other, and that's what you get to do there. You can post your own pictures and videos. There's tons of channels. We have lots of contests where you can win a lot of money. It's a super fun place to be. It's a total, strictly anonymous community, and you will love it. I will be giving anyone who buys my book access to my Discord. It's private, like I said.

All you got to do is email me a screenshot of your purchase, whether you did the audiobook, the ebook, or the paperback. sent it to me at Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. That's Strictly Anonymous Podcasts at Gmail.com. And I will send you the link to Discord. So anyway, thanks so much for tuning in. This is this podcast. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that I do have a book.

The book is called Strictly Anonymous Confessions, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuckold story. There's a gang bang girl story. There's like I said, 17 stories.

And they're all told in the third person, right? So I took the interview and I rewrote it in the third person. I wouldn't call it like an erotica book, though there's plenty of sex in there, right? But I didn't write it to sound like erotica because that's like the vibe of my show. You're going to learn a lot. you're probably going to get a little turned on. It's a different way to hear these stories, like I said, because they're written out in third person. There's an e-book available if you don't want your partner to know that you're reading my book. Get the e-book. It's available. If you buy my book in any format, I will throw in a complimentary link to my Discord. My Discord does not disappoint, okay? There's no way you'll get the Discord and go in there and be like, oh, this sucks, okay? It's like pretty amazing. There's tons of people on there and everybody shares content with each other. That's what's great about Discord. You get to post. You You're on videos and pictures and there's tons of channels. And we have contests over there.

It's a super fun place to be. I will be giving anyone that buys my book at any time access to my Discord. It is private. This is the only way you could get in is through me giving you the link. And that's why I think my Discord is so great because I have vetted people. It's not like it's just open to the public. So everybody that's in there are people that listen to my show and people that listen to my show are fucking great. So my Discord is fucking great.

My book is great. You're going to love it. If you buy it, all you got to do is send me the receipt or a picture of proof that you bought it. and I will give you free access to my Discord. Send it to Strictly Anonymous Podcasts. at Gmail.com. You could find my book in the link in the description, okay? Or just Google at Strictly Anonymous Confessions,

Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. You can find it anywhere. You buy books. Send me the picture and I'll give you access to my Discord email, Strictly anonymous podcast at Gmail.com. Anyway, thanks so much for listening.