Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1400 - Nate on Pegging and Prostate Orgasms

Episode Date: March 18, 2026

Nate is into pegging and prostate orgasms and he called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how and when he brought up pegging to his wife and how she reacted, their very first time and exactly what they bought and what went down, how he gets himself to have a prostate orgasm, the wand he enjoys uses for foreplay, how many prostate orgasms he has had in one sitting via prostate play and what they feel like, the other toy he uses to have more intense orgasms and exactly how he uses it, the myths of pegging and anal play that exist including how and why pegging doesn’t have to be a dom/sub act and instead can be very sensual and intimate plus, the sub Reddits for pegging he uses that are super helpful, how he suggests bringing up pegging or any anal play to your partner, the specific harnesses and toys he recommends, the lube he likes and doesn’t like for pegging plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: ⁠⁠https://inda.shop/STRICTLY!⁠⁠⁠ If you’re 21 or older, get 35% OFF your first order @IndaCloud with code STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2610-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LoadBoost.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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used. He brings up myths and facts and all that kind of good stuff. He's tried every toy out there. He gives specific names and recommendations. He could literally have like multiple, many, many multiple orgasms, prostate orgasms at a time. And I'm just like, oh my God, every guy should want to do this, okay? Because I don't think regular guys that aren't into prostate play could have multiple orgasms. I mean, you too can be multi-orgasmic. If you listen to fucking Nate and his story and do what he does, okay, he does give a tutorial like this is how you do it. This is how you find your prostate.

This is how you know you'll get it. and this is what it feels like. It's a super informative, fun episode. He's super cool. You're going to dig him. So I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Nate. Hi, Nate. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast.

How are you today? I'm good. How are you? I'm happy to be on the show. Finally, I'm one of the thousands, but it's going to be speaking with you. I love that. Why do you wait so long? Have you been waiting long to be on?

Well, honestly, like, compared to most of your people, like, I've been married 30 years. and I've just been with the same woman for 30 years. So we're not in the swinging lifestyle, but we definitely have our fun. And so I thought I'd give it a chance and seems like you're interested in our story. Yeah, well, listen, any, and I say this on my butter ads, like, anyone who listens to my show knows that I am like slightly obsessed with guys, you know, getting into anal action. And so I, and I think that there's a lot of guys out there that do do it or that are curious about it. It's more common than you think. And people want to try it.

So I do like to have on episodes with guys who like to get pegged or into prostate play. Because what I've heard, and I'm sure you're going to explain this to me, because you're not just into pegging, your wife pegs you. That's going to be your story we're going to hear about. But you're also into a lot of prostate play and everything. So I'm assuming you've had a prostate orgasm. And like guys have told me. And this is another thing I say on my ad. Like guys have told me.

Like it is like the most unbelievable sort of orgasm ever. So why not like have guys on that I've had it to teach other guys how to fucking. do it because like wouldn't every guy want to if I was a guy I would want to have a prostate orgasm when I've heard people talk about it for sure you know what I mean so there are so many like there's so many layers to why you know why I enjoy it not just from a physical sensation which is phenomenal and yeah just tell me though there's also like the habit no I know but wait we're gonna you're gonna just talk the rest of this kind but could I just is the prostate orgasm like

an amazing orgasm? Have you had one? I had many, many, many. So I'm one of the lucky guys where I can have multiple dry prostate orgasms, you know, in one session. And are they amazing? It's so, it's such a different feeling. You know, when you have a regular orgasm, right, you get some feeling from your balls. You get some, some feeling in your cock. But like, for me, when I'm really going, when we're really into it and we're really into a scene. My orgasm starts from like mid-chest, like diaphragm area and extends all the way down through like my torso into my upper quads.

It is like half of my body is seizing and clenching and just it's, it's a truly unique sensation that's different from PIV sex. Yeah, that's what I've heard. I remember a girl, I had another woman on who pegs her guy and she said it, she felt like when she saw him orgasm with a prostate orgasm and how he experienced. It's through his whole body. She felt like how it must seem like for a guy to see that kind of orgasm on a woman. Do you know what I mean?

It was like it was a different kind of experience for her. And she like loved seeing her guy sort of get off in that way that she felt was more like a woman. It's like all over body experience. But anyway, let's get your story because you were going to go. What are the layers that you were going to go into? Because I feel like that was going into an interesting sort of space. You said it's not just like physical for you. So, I mean, there's the obvious like tremendous physical sensation.

there's also an element of like the stigma the taboo of it you know dudes are not supposed to like dudes aren't supposed to put stuff in their butts right and uh which is a total bullshit thing so like there's like just that kind of naughtiness of it right we all know like when we're doing something that you know society tells us we're not supposed to enjoy that makes us to enjoy it even more right so that's that's like layer one right that's like the the mind fuck game of it for us, and actually it's ironic that we're talking this weekend, as we're recording it, strictly anonymous family, it is a Valentine's weekend. It is actually our 10-year pegging anniversary this weekend.

Oh, you're kidding. So, and I, my wife is a little under the weather this weekend, so we probably won't be celebrating this weekend, but we'll get to it definitely. So about 10 years ago, I mean, so the kind of sort of short story about us and our, you know, Oh, we don't need a short story. We want the whole story. Oh, that's right. You want all the details.

Yeah. So my life and I have been. But wait, real quick, before you met your wife, I want to go a little bit before that. Like, had you ever played with that part of your body on your own? Yeah, a little bit when I was a late teenager. I certainly didn't get sensations like that. But I definitely, like, did a little bit of experimenting when I was younger. But nothing, you know, I would feel around.

there and insert a finger everyone so long. But, but nothing to where, nothing anywhere close to here. And at that point, you know, I was 18 and I was like, I shouldn't be doing this. So, so, and then I started dating my, you know, now wife. Okay. It just wasn't a thing that I, that I, that I did for, for probably 20 years. So we, we've been married for, it'll be 30, 30 years, uh, this summer. So I have never like done swinging. We've done a little bit of, like, we went to a bondage club once or twice. It wasn't her vibe. She didn't feel comfortable in it. But we've been, we've been together for 30 years. And about 10 years ago, I brought this up to her that I wanted to try it. And for us, my wife has always been the type to where she'll do a thing if I suggest

it for the most part. We'll at least have that conversation. Hey, what do you think about trying this? I don't think that's for me. Hey, what do you think about this? Yeah, I could give that a shot. So 10 years ago, I had been doing research on, you know, Tumblr and Reddit and things like that. and I was like, I think I want to try this. And it happened to be that had been spurred on. A friend of ours had bought like one of those cheap little skinny men's prostate vibrators, you know, the little $12 thing that you get at your local sex shop. And I was like, ha ha, jokes on you.

Like, I'm into this. So that kind of like got it started again. So fast forward to I finally get up the courage to bring this to my life. And for us, when we have conversations like that, You know, a lot of people like to do that face to face. It's awkward for her to like have those like one-on-one look me in the eyes while I tell you these deep dark secrets about our sex life or what I want to try. So for us, I kind of prime the pump by like, hey, I text her, right? Hey, can I tell you a thing?

Can I ask you a thing? Yeah. I was like, it's about a thing that, you know, it's a little different, but I want to discuss it. It's a thing I want to try. She's like, okay. So this is, she gets her, she gets the opportunity to like think out her response, right? When you're doing it via text. So that's what works for us.

That's when we have a lot of these type conversations. So I send her a picture of a strap on and I was like, I'm kind of, I'm kind of interested in trying this with you. I've read up a lot about it. It's supposed to be really intense. You know, it's a 10 times harder orgasm. It's really intense. I'd like to try this.

And she's like, well, you know, she's a little unsure about it, but she was game. She's like, all right, we'll give it a shot. So we purchased all the things and I did all the research and I got like a starter kit in a very beginner harness. What's the starter kit? Like the, like, just explain what was in the starter kit. Well, you know, like, there's a million toys and dildos and plastic and silicone dongs. And ours was a very simple, like, medium-sized, tantus, slightly curved.

You know, I'm very careful about what I put in my body, so I always make sure that it's 100% silicone and all those things. Yeah. And a very, like, simple, $40, like, harness. Okay. which I don't recommend for beginners just because they're not, they don't function as well as some of the better stuff that we've learned now. So like maybe if your equipment is fighting you at the beginning and then you're like,

I hate this, this harness sucks. So if you can splurge, like there's definitely other things that are that are pretty affordable and a lot better product. So we made those purchases and it took us, you know, we had,

you know, young, you know, tweet-aged kids at that point. And I guess they were even younger than that. We had kids that. And so it's, you know, finding a time to get, get around to that.

And finally we found time. It was Valentine's weekend 10 years ago. And we finally, like, settled down to do it. And she was nervous and I was nervous. And I read all about preparing your body and cleaning out and getting plenty of lube and all the things that they tell you about. And, you know, we worked it in and we went slow and we did it together. And, you know, I definitely, it was great.

It was definitely an experience just because it's such an sensation. The curve of the toy that we had was kind of getting right up there. And my prostate likes a lot of direct stimulation. And just, you know, it builds and it builds and it builds to where like, you know, my orgasms when we're doing pegging play and prostate play, it almost like, it feels like it starts from like underneath your belly button. And that's where it kind of starts and kind of and then kind of pushes down and pushes through. Okay, guys, I have good news. Blue Chew. has just raised the bar when it comes to performance in the bedroom. Because let's face it,

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Visit Blu.com for more details and important safety information. And I thank Bluechew for sponsoring the podcast. And, you know, we worked it in and we went slow and we did it together. And, you know, I definitely, it was great. It was definitely an experience just because it's such a sensation. The curve of the toy that we had was kind of getting right up there. And my prostate likes a lot of direct stimulation. And just, you know, it builds and it builds and it builds to where, like, you know,

my orgasms when we're doing pegging play and prostate play, it almost like, it feels like it starts from like underneath your belly button and that's where it kind of starts and kind of and then kind of pushes down and pushes through. So that first time, you know, we certainly were, we're trying to tiptoe in it and be careful, but it definitely was like she could see just how different it was of an experience for me, how much more intense the sensations were, how much harder I definitely came because I'll have multiple like, you know, we call them dry orgasms, right? toward those like they're very little like fluid coming out of my body right you'll get a little prostatic fluid because you're just you're pushing you know the lubricating fluid through your

system but you don't like have a full like ejaculation orgasm until like personally for me I need like a hand on my cock in order for me to finally finish right so that first time was it definitely was you know I I had a few prostate orgasms if I recall correctly and then we finished off and I was like, wow, that was that was really intense. And she was like, yeah, and she was like, yeah, it clearly, she could clearly tell that it was something that gave me a tremendous amount of pleasure. And we, you know, we touched base and did a recap afterwards and kind of, you know, pillow talked. And I was like, I really liked that. Would you be willing to do that again? And she said, yeah, I think I could. So. Well, let me ask you this. Did she, was she, was she at this

point just doing it for you. Was there any turn on for her? I definitely feel at the beginning. In the very beginning, she was like, I'll give it a show. shot, like, if that's what she want me to do. Like, she definitely was much more hesitant about it. And she was not, like, one of those, like, yes, let's do this. I'll strap it on and fucking in the ass. Like, that was not my wife. She's, she's fairly conservative.

You know, she's fairly quiet. She's like the good, you know, suburban housewife mom, right? Who behind the doors with two of us, she feels comfortable enough in our relationship to where she'll try just about anything. That's cool. I don't get to do that. When I say that, when I say that, like, if I were like, hey, we should bring another person.

And she's like, no. That is not. Yeah, I got that. Nobody else is good to see me. Yeah. And I'm cool with that. My wife fulfills me on so many different levels, while it would be great to think about bringing another person or getting a unicorn.

It's not needed. Yeah, that's great. We're great. We're, we're, she's just, she's the best. I cannot heed more praise on my wife.

So, so definitely the first time went and then, you know, we kind of set, I wanted to set a boundary, right? Because another thing I see when I see guys online, when I see my mom,

I want to do this all the time. Why I want my wife to beg me every weekend. I want to do pegging only and da-da-da-da-da-da. Dude, that's not the way, right? You're still in a relationship. You still want to be, you still want to give pleasure to your wife, right? And you still want to give pleasure to your partner. So we very quickly, when we realized it was going to be a thing we were going to do regularly and we kind of had another text message conversation. I would like to do this at least once a month. And maybe if we do a little bit of like toy play, prostate play without like the whole strap-on harness thing, maybe we can do that like once a month

too. So we kind of set like a loose rule of like around the 15th every, every month, because we'd started on Donald Tang's weekend, around the 15th of every month, you know, if the 15th is on a Thursday, we'll do it on Saturday night or whatever. Like, it's just a rough guideline. That works for us because then my anxiety is not when's are going to happen next. Then I'm always, I'm, we're kind of, we kind of loosely schedule our sexy time just because like my anxiety is like, if I'm wondering, when's the next time I'm going to get late? When's the next time? I just, it scrambles my brain, my anxiety, my 80. just takes over. So, you know, we, we set regular dates. So around the 50th generally is like a full

pecking night. And then at the end of the month, like two, two and a half weeks later, we'll do a little prostate play with one of the many, many toys that we've acquired over the last 10 years. Okay. Keep going. Are you, I mean, I'm not trying to interrupt you because you're just doing such a good job. But like, I mean, that can't be the end of the story. We only have 13, we only have 13 minutes. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah, you keep going. So, so yeah. So over the course of over the course of the last 10 years, we've certainly have, we've certainly experimented and learned a lot. You know, we started off with a very cheap harness that wasn't, you know, what I want you, listen, you know where I want you to go now just because, you know, you said so much and he did so well. Like, can you, can we do like, you know, a good 10 minutes or 15 minutes, whatever it takes to like kind of teach someone how to figure out how to find your prostate and how to have a prostate orgasm?

Yeah, sure. I can certainly do my best. And I want to clarify, like, every person's body is different. Some people don't need a lot of direct stimulation. Some people do, you know, everybody's different, right? So this is what works for us. This is what works for me. You know, guys are familiar with how to, you know, put a finger or two inside a woman

and try to find that G spot, right? You put, you place your palm up, you curl your fingers and you're hitting that top, squishy area inside a woman's vagina, right? it's essentially the same process to find your prostate. It might be a little deeper, but, and depending on, you know, if you just want to have your wife stick a finger in there, she's open for that. It's essentially the same thing.

It's essentially the same process. Her fingers might not be long enough to get up in there, but that's kind of the beginning. Stick a finger in there, curl your finger upward, and kind of go in that area. that's the first way to kind of start there. Of course, all the lube and all those things. And so generally that's where your prostate will be.

For me, what works for us, we have the original and actual Enjoy Pure Wand, which I'd spent $90 on many, many years ago. It's expensive. There are definitely knockoffs. I know you're a fan of the knockoffs on Amazon, Kathy. Because you're a very frugal lady. No, I'm not frugal.

I'm just like, I don't like to be ripped off. I just like if someone could sell something for, you know what it was? It was, you bought it for 90. I saw some bitch selling it for $220. And then when I Googled it, I looked on Amazon. I just don't want to be a fucking sucker. Why should I pay $200 for something that's someone's selling on Amazon for 18? You know how many of those I've sold?

I mean, it's ridiculous. I wish I made some good money off of it. I'd be reg right now because I get nothing from those sales, but I sell a lot of them when. ever I air this. So he spent a 90. Go to the link in the description. I'll put it to the one on Amazon. That's literally like 18 to $25 depending on when you go to get it. That's where you need to put your name on it. I know you've been trying to make your own sex. Oh, you're right. Yeah, you're right. You need to make the K-branded and the K-Wan. You need to make that. Oh, okay. You

know what? That's a good idea because I tried to make the clit kisser and it was like a big fat fail. It was too hard to make. But you're right because I do always talk about how this is my mission and it definitely is very branded with my show, right? Because I'm always talking about it. And I'm selling this fucking person's wand online. And I get like 10 cents a sale. Like, you're right. I should be fucking selling it.

And I'm not joking. It's like a serious thing. I'm writing it down. You can put your little logo. Yeah. Put your little lips logo on the thing right there. So it kisses the right spot. Oh, my God.

See, Kathy. I like it. I like it. Multiple marketing opportunities. Oh my God. You're helping me. We're a big fan of the enjoy pure wand. And that is the primary thing.

Explain what it looks like how it is because it's like very basic, but it's key, don't you think? Yeah, it's probably four or five, six inches of medical grade stainless steel. It is heavy and it is almost the shape of a sea. Imagine a crescent moon, right? That's probably the best way to do it. It's a crescent moon shaped, solid stainless steel. There's a smaller ball end on one side and a large crescent moon. your ball end on the other side.

And honestly, for me, even after all 10 years, I'm a small side guy. I struggle to get the larger end of that when I've tried it on my own or things like that. But that smaller side, you put some Louve on your, on your enjoy pure one, you put some on to your rear end, and it slips right in. And I mean, honestly, Kathy, with that thing when we're doing prostate play, or we do honestly, we do that as warm up for me when we do. full pegging play as well. So the Android per one is a really big part of what we do and how we do it. And wait, I just want to tell people real quick, that's the way, the reason why I heard of that first was not for a guy. A woman was on my show. And she talked about how that made her squirt for the first time. And then I realized, oh, they're selling it to women for 200 bucks, but they're selling it as a male prostate toy on Amazon like, you know, for 18. And that, you know, that's typically the way that works. They rip women off and they give everything for $200. But they're selling it.

for men. But like that's, I, so it can work for women, too. I just wanted to let people know that. So anyway, go on. You first squirting. It's, it's almost too intense for my life. Like, she can only take so much of that. Or they have, you know, if you go to your local target, they have kind of a similar thing that vibrates and it's made of silicone instead of stainless steel. Those are pretty good, too. They're not as rigid. They're not as firm. But they've got those. If you can find like the crescent moon-shaped toy of any kind of variety. With a ball on each side. It works. Yeah. go for it. Like you,

you will not regret. So, so for us when we do pegging or prostate play, like we warm up with, with that toy. And honestly, like some days when I'm warmed up and when we're kind of really having a good scene, like,

I mean, it can fire me off in, in a minute or less. Like, it's, and then, and then, you know, like,

you give me a rest and then I came, you know, I'm ready to go again very soon. Or, you know, sometimes she gets a little dea, and she'll just keep going and it's just like one after another after another after another. So I mean, I think my record like, I mean, I can't ever, I couldn't, I mean, there's been times where it's been 10 or more total.

But like just in a warm up, you know, she'll make me fire off four or five, six times before she's like, okay, now I'm going to put my trap on on. And now we're really going to go for it. And you're waiting. You're getting those 10 before with the enjoy. Is that what you're saying? Yeah, I've had four, five, six of them with the, with the one. before there's even a strap on, put on my wife's body. I'm sorry.

If guys are not listening to this and they're not totally jealous, something's wrong with them, okay? Because I've always been jealous of women that could have multiple orgasms. Not one guy out there could have multiple orgasms unless they're having prostate orgasms. Correct. Did you ever, were you ever a multi-orgasmic guy that could have 10 in whatever kind of minutes?

Can you? Could you? Not as far as, not like traditional orgasms. No. Right. Of course not. but you can with that.

That's what's so key about the prostate organs and it's a whole separate experience. Like I don't know why every guy wouldn't be fucking doing this, mastering it. Well, and

you know, there's a couple other things that just make it really intense, special. I don't know. There are times

like Kathy, I know you've been sober for forever, but I'll think like a little weed gummy sometimes, right? Oh yeah. No, I believe in that.

That was the only time I used to smoke weed. I always dated potheads because I'm like a own person naturally. So those are the only kind of guys that get me and I get them. But like, so once in a blue moon, I'd smoke weed just to have sex because it does. I used to promote Vaya and I believe in it. Like it makes sex so fucking good for sure. A little bit. Yeah, Vaya is good. We like that too.

Yeah. I'll take a weed gummy. I'll take a weed gummy and then I get kind of subby sometimes. And it's and gosh, there are times where I'll just get so intense to where like she'll be done. Like we'll do prostate plate with a wand or a toy or fingers or whatever. right yeah and then she's like all right i'm gonna go i'm gonna go put the harness on i'm gonna go put my cock on right and i can just lay there and not being touched at all i can it'll still fire me off like i'll still be having like these rolling like post prostate plate orgasms to where it just it keeps going that's crazy and it holds it holds for 20 30 seconds at a time or if i'm really like into it and still kind of in the mood i think if i like kind of clench my abs my core right right

If I engage all those muscles in there, that can send me off too, right? And then let's say I get kind of a little giggly. I get a little happy. You get a little laughing fit. Well, then I'm like, I'm firing all those muscles in my body again. That'll send me off onto another thing too. So I'm a little high and I'm a little cum drunk. And I'm like just all fired up.

And then like it's just over and over and over. She's like, I'm not even touching you. I was like, I know. I know it's great. And you're not even touching you. I mean, that's kind of crazy. Hands free orgasm for a man? I mean, it's like unheard of.

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So, so usually then, you know, we'll do the, the, the, the wand. to get warmed up. We have introduced, we did try the butter wellness massager. Yeah, I love that. I like to, for people to try it and tell me what they think because I, I mean, listen, I've used it just as a little vibrator because you can and it's powerful and it's great for a woman, you know, but I'm not a guy, so I need my guys to try stuff out and tell me so that I could, you know, I want to promote products to my listeners and let them know

how they work, you know, and I can't speak to them, right? So I love when guys come on my show that have tried it. so I definitely I was a little unsure about it because I need like very direct stimulation for me and wait I just want to preface everybody real quick before you go into what you're going to say

like the thing about butter that I like a lot and you know a lot of the reasons and what I say typically on the ad is what's great about it is it is a very good first toy for not someone like you who's like having 10 orgasms already and is like all the way inside and stuff I don't know you know but it's like for somebody

that might be afraid to go inside because the butter toy is only used on the outside. So I just want to let everyone know that that's the way you use the toy. It is not used for internal stimulation. It's only external. You put on your taint and you press down. So anyway, go on. What were you going to say? So anyhow, I think if you are kind of curious and you can't figure out how to get your partner to even begin this conversation. Yeah. The butter, the butter massager, I think is a great way to kind of get started, get introduced. Yeah.

It's a quality built product. The silicone feels great. What I was concerned about was I didn't know if it was going to be enough stimulation for me to have a proper prostate orgasm. Right, because it's from the outside. You're pushing down on your teeth. At the very, yeah, at the very basic, like, A, it just feels good, like with a little bit of solo play, right?

I'm a fan. I like a little squeeze, a ball squeeze in. I like having my ball. Who doesn't like having their balls played with? You know that. You know that. Yeah. So, you know, if nothing else, like that is a good, you know, you turn it on, you put it on that tank area between your balls and your, and your asshole.

The vibrations alone, it's a really nice sensation. It is strong. It is powerful. It charges quickly. It's discreet. It's quiet. It's a very, like, nice part. I, you know, it's like, this is nice.

Like, I don't know. Taking on my own, if I'm, like, not in the mood, if I'm just, like, you know, having my own private time with it. it's just like a it's a nice little plus one on it so then in the interest of science ma'am we we tried at our last picking session and as it happened to be like in our last picking session I was feeling a little bit savvy so I was like could you you know maybe put a blindfold on me could you restrain my hands and then you are afraid to do whatever you want to end with me on the caveat at some point I need you to do this one for science of course yeah so so we definitely did that and we did we did the wand and we did some hands and squeeze in it and things like that.

And then I, you know, so I definitely, if I recall correctly, because it was just a couple weeks ago, we did, I'd already had a couple of prostate orgasms with the wand. And then she introduced the, the butter wellness thing and pushed it fairly hard. Now, you can keep it light and let it kind of be buzzing and a little tickly and it definitely feels good. And if you're like, guys, if you're trying to go down this path, this is a great way to get started. Incorporate that because it's, even if she's just giving you a.

blow job and she's got the butter wellness on your on your balls it's going to feel so much better she's going to see how much more pleasurable it is for you Kathy I'm a long time listener so I know you like putting little knuckles up in that area yeah it's that area right yeah I'm an I'm an experienced Kathy Kay fan so I know all your stories so anyhow uh you know if you can get her to maybe use a knuckle like that or and then use the better the butter wellness thing she's going to see how much more intense your sensations are. She's going to see how much more pleasure you're going to give. She's going to see

how it accelerates just that kind of sensation. Then I think you can like be like, hey, that felt really good. I've also heard that this toy might work really good. Or hey, if you want to try something else, this might really work. I think the butter the butter massager is a great introduction into like prostate

play. Right. So I definitely recommend it that way. Yeah. I got to tell you, I talked to somebody else and he said that like he had to move it around a lot because like you said too, like everyone's prostate, it's kind of like probably G spots for women, right? They're not like you just know where to go and it's right there. You got to kind of feel around for it, right? Like in and, but somebody said like you'll know when you feel, when you hit it, right? Because they're, right? Is that the key to knowing? When you get it, you're like, oh, yeah, for sure. Like absolutely. So the, with the butter massager, I don't necessarily

think you'll feel that right away. It's not, it's not as direct of stimulation. It's a little more overall massagy thing. I thought it was going to be a nice little thing. At some point, while we were using it, the vibrations torn up, she was pushing on my, you know, pushing it on to me with a little bit of firmness. After a wire, I think it fired me off for one or two. There you go. And even you as a professional, which I think is major because, you know, you, you know,

you're used to the hardcore thing, right? I mean, you're used to like getting fucking pegged, the Enjoy Wand, Direct Stimulation. So it's pretty amazing that it did it, which I think is great. And I do believe it is a very good first toy. And thank you so much for trying it out and letting me know, right? Because I need people to let me know. Like I said, I don't like to hawk stuff to my listeners without knowing it. Like all my products, I really recommend.

And I do hear back from people that they really love it. Or like, recently someone came to me with something. And I was like, no, I just don't believe in that. And I wouldn't sort of do it, you know, so I don't just take on sponsors for no reason. I love the sponsors that I have right now in my life. So thanks for it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I supported a lot of your sponsors over the years.

So I'm a big fan of that. Yeah, you like Vaya, right? They may do a horny? Those are good. Vias are good for both of us. Oh my God, you know what's about, wait, real quick, and then we're going to get back to the best product I have right now that I'm selling out. I mean, I don't sell it.

You know, the company sells it, but the sponsor is load boost. I have been getting so many guys just randomly, because typically I'll ask people, let me know what you think, you know, this is the way I get my information so I could tell guys in my ad. Like, this is the truth, right? and so many guys with unsolicited have been sending me in emails that they are shooting massive loads. It tastes better like blah, blah, blah. Like it really fucking works at load boost.

I can't even tell you. But anyway, go on. I might have to try that one. You should. I've read up on it, but I haven't pulled the trigger on that. I swear to you, I could show you three separate DMs from on Instagram and then emails from real listeners with like I said unsolicited just emailing me how great it is. Like it really fucking works.

It's the real deal. And it works fast. I promise you. Okay. So, and I don't like, you know, me, I'm not a fucking liar.

You know what I mean? I'm not pretending. People said shit. I could show you the actual screenshots. It's going to increase your load. And it has bromoline in it. It's a pineapple shit that like makes women's pussy smell good too. It actually will make your take your calm taste better.

Does your girl swallow? No, she's not that girl. She might after you take load boost. That's the whole, that's the whole picture in my, in my name. Maybe we'd have to do it for science,

Kathy. Do it for science. You could call back in. She could call back it. I went from not swallow it to swallowing with load boost. Anyway, go on with your story. Let's get back to the peg. So I definitely, like, you know,

one of the reasons why I was happy to come on your show is I do want to, like, explain some of the myths and, oh, yeah, perfect way, where to go to the things that, I mean, first of all,

like with us, like, I'm not like a giant doldo dude, right? I'm not one of those guys that has to get like one of those huge bad dragon things and just like blow out my asshole. That's not me, That's intimidating, right?

If you enjoy that, hey, that's great. Enjoy what you enjoy, right? That's not us. So I think when people bring up, like, I want you to fuck me in the ass with the dildo, they're thinking like 13 inch giant coat can black dildo in your ass. No, it does not have to be that way. My favorite toy is made of like dual density silicone. It's very soft.

It's very squishy. It's got just the right kind of angle that kind of, you know, points up and hits me in just the right spot. I don't need to go bigger. Like, it's, it's fine. You can start smaller. I do recommend find something that's maybe a little longer with a little bit of a curve up that's not necessarily thick. Those are a little hard to find. But if you find that right one, we started with one that was like a Tantis medium something or other.

You can find that goes on Amazon. That was a good start going for us. The other kind of myth that I'm happy to dispel is that pegging does not always have to be a fem dom. I'm a big angry bitch and I'm going to fuck you in the ass because you're a little beta cut boy and you just want to get fucking that is not the case, Kathy. If you are trying to convince your partner that you want to try this and she's willing to have this conversation, but she's like, I don't want to see my man in a submissive role. I don't want, I'll think less of my man. If I have to tell him that he's my little bitch boy, da da da da da da that. It does not have to be that way.

you can have lovely, soft, tender, sensual prostate play and pegging. Let me repeat that. That's interesting. Prostate play can be sensual and loving. You can, like, I can fuck my wife and I can fuck the shit out of her and she's down for it. But you know what also she's down for? Nice, sensual, romantic lovemaking. You can do that with a strap on dildo.

It's all about your attitude. The motions are the same, right? it's the emotions that can change right interesting you can do the the actions are the same but it's just the way you handle yourself the way you react I definitely feel like

it's just about the attitude that you can do you can definitely you can have good hard fun sex with your partner and you can have soft and tender sex you can do that with pegging you don't have to be if your wife is

if your partner is unsure about it, you don't have to be, you don't have to be this big bossy boss bitch wearing black leather and whatever. Like you can do a nice, it's no different. It's just another act. It's just another tool that you have in your repertoire. I love a nice sensual pegging with kissing. And, you know, my wife is one of those types where she doesn't necessarily, she won't put on lingerie unless I specifically ask her for it.

She feels a little silly in it, but she also knows that when she does wear it, we leave it on she looks great i have a great time i i hype the shit out of her baby you look so hot you look so sexy you look so beautiful it looks so great when you're fucking my ass you make me feel so good you you you look so great you make me feel so good guys that will my wife i don't know if all women do but kaffy like if you hear that kathy you look so great you're oh you look so hot we love yeah we need we love compliments dude you guys hype the shit out of your partner and she will come back for more. Yeah, you want to know why.

No, I'll tell you a lot of times like guys with fetishes and this is like a kink. Like anything that like is like you, you know, is like kind of like external from your woman that maybe she could say like, oh, you don't like me, you just like this. Like it's not about me. Like when you're making it about her, that's key because sometimes what women will think is like, oh, you don't want to be with me. You just want this thing. Do you know what I'm saying?

Like it's like a and a lot of times that's the kind of pushback. they get when they start pushing for their kink or their fetish. Like the woman says like, oh, you don't like me for me. Like, why do you need this thing? You know, but when you are, what you're doing is like, you're making it about her. And that's important. Yeah, absolutely. Like, yes, this feels great.

I will continue to be with you and have sex with you and explore these things with us together forever. If we don't do this anymore, I'll be a little disappointed. But it's you. It is you partner that I want to do things for. Yes. And a woman needs to know that. Yeah.

that's another thing that I also recommend when I talk to, you know, people that are on Reddit or things like that, that they're like, how do I get a girl to do this for me? How do I find someone? I don't have a partner. How do I find a woman to pay me?

You're not going to, dude, you're not going to find somebody randomly and be like, hi, I just hit you up, Kathy. Would you like to fuck me in the ass? No,

you're going to tell them the fuck right off or just delete it. They have to go to a dungeon for that. If you are looking for that, yeah, that is one. You can pay for it. Oh, yeah. We don't promote that on my show.

It's illegal. Go on. Yeah. That is option one or two. You find a partner, whether it is a dating partner or a life partner, a regular booty call friend. You find a partner. You discover that you vibe together, that you get along, you enjoy each other. You lay your kink cards on the table and you're like, hey, I'm interested in this.

Would you be interested in trying this out with me? Yeah, I think I could try that. Okay. Now let's explore this together. Don't just go randomly up to, guys, don't go up to a woman that you find on Twitter and be like, will you fuck me in the ass, mistress, I'm the subject. No, you guys, that's not the way to do it. Yeah, definitely not.

What about the myth of like, oh, you know, just because you, the minute like you put something in your ass, you're gay, or you're into guys, blah, blah, blah, blah. I mean, that's one of the biggest myths, I think, personally, that people buy into. I, you know, that's just built in and cooked into our society and kind of the way things are. There are big, strong, burly dudes that enjoy taking it in the ass from their wife. There are, you know, it's not, it's just not. You're doing it with a female. If it's doing it with a female, it's not gay. So, you know, yes, oh, this thing kind of looks like a penis.

Yeah, kind of does. But that's the, that's kind of, it's one of the things that you need to have in order to try pegging. In order to get up there in that area inside your ass is, it, you know, to be shaped that way. And there are some things that look super realistic. And there's some things that are just smooth and silicone and pink. And they work just as well, too. So it doesn't have to be a giant dildo. It doesn't have to be degrading. All these things. It doesn't mean you're gay. What I always say is like, think about lesbians. Okay. Lesbians don't like dick. Okay. They're not interested in guys in the slightest. You think when they get their lesbian partner to fuck them

with a strap on that they are going to turn straight and all of a sudden, be into a hairy man fucking them? No, not at all. It doesn't mean anything. It just means they want to fuck that way. You know what I'm saying? It has nothing to do with anything. So why would it mean? You know what I mean? Lesbians don't want guys' dicks, but they like to be fucked with a strap on. Lesbians go down on each other and give each other oral sex all the time. Does that mean when I give oral sex to my life that I'm a lesbian? No, that's what I'm saying. It's not going to turn you gay if someone fucks you in the ass. Just like it doesn't turn a lesbian woman straight when she gets fucked by her partner. Doesn't work. It doesn't It doesn't work. It doesn't work that way.

The other thing that I think people struggle with is it feels very one-sided. How do I get my wife to give pleasure? How do I get my pocket to give pleasure while she's fucking in the ass when she's doing prostate play? Yes, it is kind of on its surface a little one-sided, right? There are double-sided dildos. There are things that you can give women. There's lots of different toys and ways that you can explore giving her sensations while she's, you know, Peggy. you or doing one of these things.

But I will say this, it's okay to be a little one-sided sometimes, right? When I go down on my wife and all I'm doing is going down on her and I'm not touching my own stuff and I'm literally just down there going down on my wife. Am I receiving any really physical sensation pleasure? No. I'm down there. I'm giving my partner pleasure and that makes me feel good. That makes like my, you know, my emotions, my psyche, my libido.

So it stimulates me that way, but it's not touching my cock. It's not, it's not, it's different. It's, it's one-sided when you're, when my, I'm actually very fortunate. My wife loves giving oral pleasure as well. So it's a regular part of our foreplay. So when she goes down on that, it feels great for me, obviously. She gets a little bit of sensation and it's kind of a little bit of a mind fuck when she knows she's doing it and she enjoys that.

But I mean, how much sensual sensation do you get from just having a penis in your mouth when you're giving a blowjob. There's some. Some women get some, but for the most part, it's a very one-sided thing, right? Yeah, I mean, they might get pleasureed because they're

pleasuring someone else, but that's the same thing that could happen when they're doing it. Any, sucks until, unless, until you're like inside and you're fucking someone, then it becomes like one, you know,

together. But most of the time, half of sex is like the other person's getting pleasure and the other person's not. I mean, come on. It's ridiculous. Yeah, and that's a great part about it. That's fun.

I love doing that. Exactly. That's why we do it. Exactly. You want to please your fucking partner. That's it. So, yeah, that, that I, you know, listen, I love what you're going through. Because, listen, you're on this, like, Reddit site is what you're saying, where, like,

a whole bunch of guys congregate and talk about this and there's all these guys on there that wish that they were you. Yeah. I mean, I just kind of try to, I try to guide people that are new on their journeys, right? There's all sorts of subreddits. There's a pegging uncinked subreddit that is very good informationally. there's a straight pegging which is generally pretty not

not kinky necessarily it's a little more just like normal those are two really good resources there if you don't mind me plugging another podcast she doesn't do it as much anymore but if you go through the archives of the Ruby Writer Picking Paradise podcast

and Ruby's on Reddit she is phenomenal she helped us unlock so much of this thing Google Ruby Rider finder. She has a specific episode that really helped us, especially in the beginning. She's an episode, I think it's episode 112, right? Ruby Rider episode 112. If you Google that, you'll find it. That is specifically written, specifically recorded for, hey, you're a woman, your partner has brought this up to you. He would like to try this. Let me explain to you why he would

like to try this and some reasons why you might be hesitant about it. Let me dispel these myths. It doesn't mean he's gay. It's this. It's this. Find that. What I recommend to people is find that episode. Listen to it yourself. It's an hour long. It's easy to listen. Listen to yourself. Then determine if you can send that to your partner. Hey, I've been looking into this thing. Prostate, play and pegging, men report having an orgasm that is 10 times more intense than a regular having sex orgasm. I listen to this podcast, partner, I'd like you to listen to it too,

and then I would like to have this discussion about us, maybe exploring this together. That is a great way to get started to do that. Ruby also has a bunch of podcasts on specific equipment that you could use. She'll do reviews and things like that. It's a great, great resource for people to learn about it if you're just kind of on the discovery path. I feel like you're giving the great,

you're giving the Ruby writer episode on my podcast now with all the information. I'm like a Ruby acolyte. I'm like a disciple of Ruby. I've reached out to her time or two. I'm like, we would not be anywhere along this journey without the things. Oh, that's awesome. I heard of that and it's just strictly for like, I should get her on my show.

She's phenomenal. She's so good. She'd be a great guest for you. Yeah, I'm surprised she's never reached out. I don't really reach out to anybody, you know, typically, but people will reach out to me. she'd be perfect for my show. But anyway, go on. She's a great, or for like a sexual health Sunday or Saturday.

Yeah, for sure. So, yeah, so that's definitely some things that you should look into. Like I said earlier, I don't recommend getting your cheapy equipment. Oh, gosh, what's the name of the harness that we use? Oh, hang on. Let me do some. Let me Google it while I'm in front of my computer. Yeah, sure.

Oh, the Aslan. There's Aslan leather minks or the, or the Aslan. and we use another one of them. It is like 100% like a vegan leather. It holds up. It looks sexy. It comes under different colors. The Aslan harnesses are really good.

They are a little expensive. They get pricey. So that's not like a first purchase. The other one is the the Jacques harness. J-O-Q-E harness. Spare parts, Jacques is a good. It's made out of fabric.

It's washable. It's got Velcro on the sides. It comes in two different. sizes in case you know you're slender or you're a bigger bodied lady the spare parts jocke harness is really good because you just slide it through like the front of the thing it kind of looks kind of like a pair of panties in the front and it's got straps around the side that's a really good one that's a great kind of beginner plus harness for you to use and then like when it comes to what actual toys you want to use that's kind

of super personal how you want to do that but I do recommend 100% silicone because Be careful what you put in your body. If you get a cheapy one, if it smells weird, if it's tacky, if you're a little unsure about it, like a buyer beware. Just be careful what you put in your body. So. Especially because some toys you can't use lube on and stuff. You know, you've got to like look into things and do it properly. Yeah, sure.

The silicone toys can only take water-based lube or water, but it's make sure you use them that. I, you know, I've tried a bunch of different lubs over the course of years. Slickwood silk, Slickwood Sassy is my preferred brand. Sliquid is a very good pegging lube. It's a little thick.

It's got a little viscous to it. It's a little bit thicker than a, um, than the, uh, Uber lube.

So it's a little bit. You do want a little bit of a thicker lube when you're doing it. For something like that. Yeah. Uber Lube was amazing, by the way. They stopped sponsoring my show, but I'm like,

I'm surprised they didn't want to book my show for a whole fucking year. I'm sure I sold the shit out of Uber lube. Because it really was like the best lube ever. I've tried. I had Uber-Lube when we do pegging, it's not thick and viscous. Yeah, no, no, no, it makes sense. When you actually just explained it, it does make sense. Because I used the Uber Lube, okay, when I was like giving my guy a handjob, and it's

very silky and so, but I, and I'm into anal, so I know, like, I could totally see why you mean it's not good for what exactly what we're talking about. You know, you need something a little bit thicker. Makes sense. Yeah, I definitely recommend that product. You're going to want to Google, like, how to clean out my ass, you know, You know, when you're dealing, when you're dealing with stuff like that, shit sometimes happens. You'll get a little bit on your toy.

It's okay. It washes off. In 10 years, we've never had an opportunity. We've made a huge mess on the bed. If you clean out, if you do the work on that way, if you, there's an infographic on the web, how to clean out your ass. Find that. Learn how to do that. You'll be fine.

And if it does happen a little bit, like you're with your partner. You're with a person that you care about. Exactly. Nobody's going to care. Yeah. This is why, like, you don't do pegging with a random one-night stand hook. That's, that's not what I, I don't recommend that. Exactly. Does your wife know you're calling into the shop? Does she even know? Yeah, I actually, I told her about it. I was a little nervous. I honestly, I was a little nervous telling her about that. Yeah.

We've been through the shit. We've been through the shit together. But I was a little nervous. And so I was like, well, I'm going to give this, I'm going to give this review this thing. And I'm going to talk a little bit about what she did. And she's like, whatever. Like, good luck. She's so baller. I love my wife. She's like. She's like. She's like. She's. Like there, you know, there's, it takes very, it takes a lot to get her rattled. She's, she's the coolest. I can't, I can't hype my wife up enough. So she's fine with it. That's cool. Well, listen, you will get free access to my Discord. I don't know if you want to go in there or do anything in there.

It's very X-rated over there in my Discord. There is a pegging channel though, so maybe you want to go and get involved in there. You don't have to. You will get, I mean, my Discord is free, but it's like locked down. You only could get in if you get a link from me. You will get a link from me in the thank you email for calling in after we hang up. after we hang up, and then I'll give you, like, free one month's access to my Patreon so you can see the comments to this episode. But I will email you when it goes up, okay?

Well, Kathy, I've been a Patreon subscriber for two years or more, so I'm well aware of all the things that you offer. Oh, there you go. Oh, and so you know everything already. That's awesome. I'm a super fan, Kathy. That's why I'm so starstruck to speak with the one and only. So I'm just so proud of everything that you've accomplished on your own and just beating through all the shit and finding a way to have your voice come out. I'm so proud of you, Kathy. Oh my God. But listen. I don't hype you up enough. Listen, I would not exist if it weren't for my super fans. Like, I'm obsessed with my listeners. You don't even understand. So I so appreciate the fact that you've been a loyal listener that now you've come on the show, that you're part of

my Patreon, that you know all this shit I talk about. Like literally, like honestly, I would, like I always say and it's really true. And anybody that has listeners or anyone that creates anything, you just love the people that consume it. You know what I mean? Because like if not, if no one consumed, like you'd have nothing. You know what I mean? So I just really love the people that listen to my show, especially someone like you that's loyal and listens all the time and all that kind of good stuff. So, you know, you're the best. All right. And thank you though so much for finally calling in and telling your story because, you know, this is like a big topic on my show. And I really think that you gave such an incredible, like really super informative.

episode on this topic, which I think is very important. And listen, there's a whole subreddit of guys looking for this information. Now I'm going to have a great episode out there on it. You know, and maybe I'll reach out to a Ruby Rider and get around my show. You're phenomenal. I'm so honored to be a part of the podcast. I hope more dudes let their wives put shit in their ass. Exactly. Because of you. You're going to change them, Nate. Okay, we'll see. It's all going to be your fault and your wife's fault. But anyway, listen, Thank you so much for calling in. You're the best. Thanks, Nate. Oh, thanks, Kathy. I appreciate it.

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