Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1404 - Swinger Tips for Solo Men + Women w/ a Female Gangbang Coordinator

Episode Date: March 22, 2026

Gangbang ccordinator Toronto Unicorn calls in to give tips on swinging solo for both women and men. Tune in to hear all the details including the negative side to being a unicorn, how and why she got into the swinging world as a solo female and what she wound up getting out of it, why most women wind up at a swingers club solo, the best and worst nights to go to a swinger club as a single woman, advice for a solo guy going to a swinger club that can help him get chicks as opposed to repelling them, the biggest things guys do wrong, what the women want and need before you hook up with them, how many gangbangs she has set up at swinger clubs including the largest one, how her current bf helps her with the gangbangs, advice she gives solo women regarding their first time at a swinger club, how to become conformable with rejection, the best nights for single men and women to go to a swinger club and why plus a whole lot more. Get 50% off her Swinger Courses use code: strictlyanonymous GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712   Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LoadBoost.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health use code: STRICTLY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2610-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.quince.com/strictlyanon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — For premium quality Quince clothing plus FREE shipping and 365 day returns! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get 10% OFF your first month of Bluechew GOLD! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://inda.shop/STRICTLY!⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you’re 21 or older, get 40% OFF your first order @IndaCloud with code STRICTLY Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Okay, to have a fun episode, fun Sunday episode with Toronto Unicorn. She's another one of my content friends. I know her from YouTube. She has a YouTube channel where she talked about swinging. She was a solo girl who entered into the swinger lifestyle alone solo. And she has her whole origin story on here. It's super interesting. And then she'd turn into a gang bank coordinator.

I had that episode on my show. And I just brought her back on to talk all about like entering into the Swinger World as a solo woman. And we talk a lot about solo guys and single. guys in the lifestyle we also talk about couples she gives so much info that's super helpful that you need to know if you ever want to go to a swing club and never been and want to learn about it she also gives a lot of hot stories i mean she's kind of been there done that she just went to a dtf night okay she is coupled up and she talks about how she met her a boyfriend why they don't fuck other people but they are looking for unicorn she talks about that whole setup she talks about all her gang bang friends and like i said her

dTF night that she'd been to and how her her guy is like when she said some gangbanks you know what his job is there. I mean, she lives a super interesting life, but she's also super smart and is very much an expert in this world. And she's currently, which is kind of crazy because it was like a coincidence, she's currently offering courses now for people like online stuff that is available if you want to know more. But you're going to get so much out of this episode from her because like I said, she's super smart. She knows everything. She's an expert. She gives the best answers to every question I have from her. You're going to learn a lot. So I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Toronto Unicorn. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? Oh, I'm so good, Kathy. I just came back from a DTF night out of

sex cloth, so I'm fresh off that glow. Oh my God. You're still going to DTF, but I don't know. Do you still, like, first of all, welcome to Toronto Unicorn. You're a fellow podcaster, a fellow YouTuber. I met you on when you were on YouTube and I was. I'm not there anymore. I got kicked off. You're still on there. You do really well. I consider you a friend. We've talked off air many times too. You're, you were a single woman. I have your whole solo swing. story on another episode. I'll put your origin story episode in the description. But what's interesting about you is that you started swinging as a solo woman, right? And so you've been there, done that. Now you're in a relationship, but you're still going to DTF nights. But are you fucking other people or are you like monogamous with your guy? Quick question before I get into other questions. Yeah, no, I'm not fucking anyone at those clubs because I go for a totally different purpose. I love that. But that to me is so interesting, like for real. You know what I mean? the fact that you are going there.

I know that you do like, you know, last time you were on, you were like, I think the title was like you're like the orgy director or gangbing coordinator. I mean, you're there to really help other single women out, correct? Yes. And I did that last night with my friend DTF Tanya, who you've also interviewed for your podcast. Oh my God. I love all these fucking girls. We're going to be talking about women in the swinger lifestyle. The crazy thing is, and I didn't even know this.

And this is what's like crazy, right? Like that I reached out to be like, hey, you want to come on my Sunday thing? We'll talk about solo swinging for women because I think it's like a super interesting topic for my fun Sunday episodes. And you're like, oh, I just set up a whole program and you're helping women like bigger picture. I mean, you can help the women in the club directly. But this way now you have an online program that helps women no matter where they are swinging solo, correct? Which is so perfect. Oh, yeah.

So this is literally the same as someone in the club leaning into you and giving you the low down in like 20 minutes so that you walk away better and more prepared. So that's the kind of vibe that I'm like doing in my online academy. And so one of the courses is called How to Be a Single Woman Unicorn. And it is everything I wish I knew. Also like the shit that we have to deal with with the single men and the couples, I literally give them all a heads up. Like you know, watch for this shit.

Be careful of this shit. Oh, no. But you're still going to give me information on this episode, right? Oh, fuck. Yeah. It's just, it's, uh, it's so fun to talk about because there's such a human. humanity on the side of single women and a lot of the couples are the people in the swimmer lifestyle, but they look at the single women as the fantasy fulfiller, not as the person independent, but their own fantasy sometimes. And so that's kind of why I do what I do as well is to like make sure people, people know how to sit in their power and their autonomy and have their own purpose in the clubs. We're not there just a fantasy or be someone else's fantasy. No. And because typically like you're one of the first women I talked to who got into it solo. Then you passed me on some of your girlfriends and I've talked to all. other women since then who have started solo.

And it's never because they're going there to fulfill someone else's fantasy. It's really most of the time, a lot of the time, a very profound moment in their life that they take that step because to me, it's very fucking ballsy. Even at my age where I am completely at peace with who I am. And you know what I mean? I don't think I even have the balls to do it. The fact that any of you guys do it is pretty major. And I feel like a woman has to be like at a certain place at time in her life to do that.

and never is it because they're going there to be someone else's fuck toy or fantasy, right? Yeah, I would say so, but like some of the shit that I have experienced as a single woman would be, like, would shock people. Like, I saw a posting where they advertise for a unicorn,

like opportunity. And it literally wrote, you should show up in your own car, fuck my husband as a surprise, do not speak when it's over and get in your car and then never talk to us again. It was in writing in their post. Like, that's what they're looking for for some,

some women may come in empowered, but I just want to make sure they're on the lookout for the people that might not value them. Yeah, I remember the first time I talked to a very professional unicorn. I forget her. Oh, Lola, Lola, Lola Jean, she's a massive squirder, but she was one of the first women to talk to me about unicorn and talk to me about the problems that come up when you are a quote unquote unicorn. And I never thought of it from like the unicorn perspective of like sort of, like sort of, being there with another couple and being kind of the odd person out and then being like kicked out the door and never thought of again and how that could feel for the unicorn. They have feelings. They're people. And there is a negative side to being a unicorn sometimes because a lot of times couples don't even take that. And I don't even think they do it purposefully. They don't even take it into consideration or really understand that when you as a woman are reading that ad, you hear it's so different probably than the way they think it's coming across. Do you know what I

Absolutely, because all I see is them like a colorful fear written all around. Yeah, interesting. Don't come in and fucking scare and tear up my marriage. But the thing is, like the single women coming in, I don't want them to have that experience and then think that's what it is. Because it isn't. There are so many people out there, especially like you said, I don't think it's intentional by the couples, me either.

I just think they're looking for an escort and not a single woman's finger. You know what I mean? Oh, I love that. Yeah, you always say profound things. Yeah, I think you're fucking right. Yeah, you're just headed on a little. I hate to solve your fucking problem and say to get, if you want to pay to get your husband deep-throated and squirted on and then that girl never talk to you again, there's a different avenue for that.

You know what I mean? Yeah. And you live in Canada where that's legal. I mean, you can do that there, you know? Yeah. I mean, it's just something like people need to think outside the box when it comes to fulfilling a fantasy because there's people who need to be treated humanely and not only just because it makes you a good person, because your reputation could destroy you in this lifestyle.

If you are outed as somebody who is rude, disrespectful to people, it will kind of get around. Like there's such a small sense of community in the sex positive lifestyle that you get a reputation. You get a fucking Yelp review. So be careful. Oh, interesting. Now, when you see the women coming into the club, like you've been there, done that. You were a solo woman that went into that world. Do you remember, like, offhand, like what it was that made you decide to go to a swinger club, you know, the first time?

Oh, I love this story because I had one too many bad fucking dates, Kathy. Because it was just, really? It was literally that same night I had decided by that. I have a whole story because my, as you said, my journey is documented in depth on YouTube as it happened, right? Yeah. This is an unscripted life that happened to be caught on camera. And so I remember telling the universe, it was like a spiritual thing. I was like, look, if I went to go have a threesome, then either there, then this date won't work out.

And I had a date for like 7 p.m. And I said, but if the date works out, then I'm going to take a chance on single men for a while longer. I was 34 years old. This was a fork in the road. And I was making this guy the pivot point. And I show up. He talks over me. He's reeking of cologne.

I'm sensitive. And either is just like that is it. I've had enough. And then I went to the club and it happened to be unicorn night because I had lined up that night to be correct. You know, if I was going to make a jump. Yeah, you had two paths. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. And so I remember walking. in there with so much determination because I'm like, I can't go through one of those Tinder dates again. Like, I need to try something else. And that was the push I needed. But let me ask you this. Were you looking for great sex, like a new sexual experience? Were you looking for a new place to, like, exist and hang your hat? Like, what was it that you were looking for? Oh, that's the crazy thing. I didn't know there was such a place to be a part of. I was looking for a threesome. Right. Just looking for I'm going to go there. I'm going to fuck a girl and a guy because I had never gone down on a

girl at that point. I was like, you know, it's time to see what else is on the menu. And I wanted that sexual buffet feeling of like little from Colome, a little from Columby. So that's what I went for. And that's what I got that say that first night. And when I, when I left, I had made two new friends. They weren't just someone who fucked me. They were people I was laughing with. They were people who we added each other on Instagram and I even ended up fucking her husband one on one for months with her blessing. Like it was just, it was just this beginning of what a single woman's life, sex life could be. And then, you know, they introduce you to other people and, you know, just keep building your social network. So yeah, I walked in looking for a threesome. I didn't know

I'd ever go back after. I thought I'd go get the threesome that's accomplished, you know, goal accomplished, go back to life. But that wasn't it. It turns out to be, I opened the door to, you know, there was a rabbit hole. And I went down the rabbit hole and it became, It's beautiful, non-judgmental, you know, a bunch of people that hang around that all believe sex is okay, you know, in front of people. Like, there's just a culture to it that is the reason I go to a DTF night and not fuck anyone. You know what I mean? There's good vibes. But I didn't fuck anyone.

But I watched and helped my friend Tanya get spit roasted. And it was just the most beautiful night because I helped, you know, these real genuine human male souls have their night fulfillment too. They weren't just like, you know, as I said before. complaining about couples, I wasn't looking at them as, you know, just the human sex toy for my female friend either. And so that's part of why I love DTF night is helping the guys feel just as comfortable and invited and safe. Yeah. Yeah, well, I have so many questions like about the guys in the clubs as well as like the women. What, you know, now that I got your answer of why you sort of went and you went for a good sexual experience, but it turned out to be so much more, what do you

feel like, because you know so many of the women and you get in close with them, like, do you feel like their story is the same? Why do you think a lot of single women, single, I'm talking single, wind up there? Like, what, what have they told you? Like, what was on the menu for them? I think one of the guys last night mentioned it. He's like, you know what I've noticed here? He's like, a lot of middle-aged women are very popular. And I was like, yep, that's why we like it. So attention. Oh, the attention, especially on a single guy night. Now, as a unicorn, one of the lessons I learned was not to go on just couples and single women nights, even though, you know, yeah, you might have success there, but you will simply not get the attention that you would get if men

are also around. And so I still had success hooking up with couples, but on nights that I went when single men were also hanging around. Oh, interesting. So that's, if you're a single woman, that's the night to go. Oh, like, I literally have a YouTube title called, was it Unicorn Night or a third wheel night? Like, I felt like I was just the bystander of a bunch of people's steamy dates. Like, it was just really, I remember saying like I was flapping my tits around in the pool at Oasis Oaxelounge sex club and no one was noticing. Like no one was looking. Everybody was making it with their partner in their own little world. And I felt like left out of the vibe. And I've had that feeling more than a couple times on single women and couples only nights. But then not only that,

I have a lot of single women friends. And what do girls like? They like to get together and go to the club together. So we would travel in packs and we would go as like six of us at a time. to the sex club. And so that was a really fun way to have the single woman experience. Because you don't always have to be single and alone. You could be single with friends, single with fuckmates, single. You could be having a guy who's already in your life that you're coming to then, you know, have an orgy with, with other people.

Like there's just so much room for whatever you want to do and pursue. Okay, guys, let's talk about pleasing your woman. I know that most people think men are selfish in bed. But what I've learned from my show is that men love nothing more. than to please their women. It's actually like the biggest turn on is to see their girl turned on. So why not learn something new

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Go check out beducated and take the beducated quiz to get your very own personalized roadmap to your sexual happiness. All you got to do is go to the description and click on the link and it's going to take you directly to the quiz. That's right. It's that easy. All you got to do is go to the description, click on the link, take the quiz, and you're going to get your own personalized roadmap to your sexual happiness. And then go take some educated courses. Your girl will be happy. And so that was a really fun way to have the single woman experience because you don't always have to be single and alone. You could be single with friends, single with fuckmates, single. You could be having a guy who's already in your life that you're coming to then, you know, have an orgy with with other people. Like, there's just so much room

for whatever you want to do and pursue. And when you see that new woman come in, sometimes they do reach out to you ahead of time. I've heard those stories from you. But like, you know, because you go to this club and you're a regular there and you are the person that's helping these single women come in. Like, you know, how do they come in and how do they walk out typically? Like when you see that first woman, like, what is her vibe beginning of the night compared to the end of the night? Or compared to like, you know, five times later? You know, it's. it's like a really thirsty person who's just been given a big drink of water. Yeah, because the glowing on their face could be calm, but it's also likely just from their soul.

Yeah, interesting. It lights people up. The people who like attention, and when you don't have to feel guilty for liking attention, you just become so free. And so when I used to, I used to also dominate the girls that I would help get gang banged and shit. It was super fun. And I remember one of them, she liked. detention, right? And so all these, she was sucking all these dick and I whisper in her ear and I was like, look around. Everybody's watching you. And she just got so, like, so turned on. And it was just, it was another element of her experience that we elevated just by bringing attention to the fact that people were watching. Yeah. Well, you know, I remember finding out from this woman who started a porn site for women made by women afterglow. And she talked about how like, you know, everyone thinks lesbian porn is like the thing that women download the most. But the other thing was gangbanger.

important and that it tends to be like a lot of women's fantasy to be in a gang bang. Now, you meet the girls that really have that fantasy, right? Like, do you find that a lot of women wind up having that fantasy and, like, reach out to you or have it in the club in front of you? Yeah, I would say the people self-select who show up to a DTF night ready to fuck a bunch of men, though. So those are my sample size. But the people I meet are very comfortable with the choice. They're excited about the choice. They go home happy, fulfilled, you know. So I've not seen a very nervous DTF queen before. I have seen some, some tough stuff on a Bukaki night where I think I mentioned this story before, but there was a girl and they had a brief time where they

would live stream the event on their online platform for the sex club. So anyways, that deterred a lot of participation, but the poor participant on the stage, I don't think realize that. So she's on her knees. She's offered up to suck anyone's dick who comes up and no one's, everyone just stares at her, no one comes up. And I was like, oh my God, if I could just run on stage and whisper in her ear, like, you know, wait until the cameras are off. And then she ran away. Like, she literally left the stage. So you have, like, that's why I make this course. Because yes, you can fucking crash and burn. Yes, you can fuck it up the first night you go to a sex club and break one of the rules, like touching somebody without consent and get banned for life.

Oh, yeah. People don't understand. There are rules and there's the things that are unspoken. I remember the first time I had someone on where I did like a Swingers 101 course. And there were so many things that I learned that are, you know, that are rules. And, you know, that are rules. and the etiquette in a swinger club that I would have had no idea unless I had been to one and talk to someone. And I learned only from talking to people like, yeah. Yeah, it's so true. And that's why you need a little bit of an onboarding in order to feel confident exploring. Because when you come in, it's a bit of a culture shock.

Like last night was DTF night, as I said, gang bang theme night. And I saw a man come up to look around and he put both of his hands on the side of his head and just looked from side to side. So I looked at him and I said, you must be new. That's the tell. Yeah. And he was like, he begged me for some advice. And so he had a seat beside me and I gave him, you know, my five minute, you know, advice pitch. And let's give it.

No, no, give it to. You're going to have to get that to my guys in a second when you're done with this story. Go on. Well, especially because I said to him, don't go off. Don't go asking for someone to suck your dick. Why don't you go offer something? Why don't you go ask what you can do for her? And I'm like, that's going to set you apart from half the guys here.

or more. And so then I saw him go up to a girl who had a lot of guys standing around that would have loved to be chosen and he offered to give her a massage and she agreed. And then he was like putting, he fucking dumped loop on this woman's back, like loop and was giving a massage that was not warmed up. Like he was just not doing a great massage. But but then I saw him and I was like beaming with pride. And then after he comes over, he's like, did you see me? Did you see me? And I was like, Yes, I was so proud of you. So that's the camaraderie that you can also have at a sex love. It's not just about fucking.

It's about cheering for people who are taking a chance on themselves and coming out of their comfort zone. And when I find out at someone's first night, part of me just wants to do something to make it even extra special and make them glow all the way home. Yeah. Now you could do that with your course because it's helping people. But like what would you say, what other tips would you give guys first time going in? like this is the way to, you know, get the girls. Yeah, no, the thing is they think they're just, they're just a bit too thirsty, in my opinion. They come in, yes, it's a sex club, but that doesn't mean that the initial, you know,

attraction and bonding phase does not apply. And so just because you can fuck right away doesn't mean people are ready to fuck right away. And so, you know, getting to know somebody asking a little bit of, you know, interesting questions about themselves, I even teach guys how to compliment people framed as a question so that they usually get a response back. So it's things like being like, oh, you know, you have so much confidence in a place like this. What's your secret? That's just a beautiful question that is strategically loaded with psychological tricks, okay, but not tricks to trick people, but to help you feel like you have something in your pocket to make you feel comfortable. And usually it goes over well. And someone said,

oh, that's really sweet. I've been here a few times. Well, then you ask a follow-up question. So sometimes it's just how to get the conversation started. How does, stare at someone's eyes instead of their tits while you're talking to them, you know, especially right at the beginning. These are the kind of things that I think the guys need to be reminded of because those are the guys that are chosen. And it's a very true fact that my single friends have come to DTF night with me, looked around, had a decent night and never fucked anyone and left even though they would have. And there was a bunch of single men that didn't get picked. Now, you could look at that as a math problem, like what the fuck. Yeah. But it was because

none of the guys showed any appeal other than the fact that they were available for sex. Yeah. And listen, I mean, as a woman, you're a woman, I'm a woman. Like, we need connection. That doesn't mean we need to be in love with you. That doesn't mean we need to know you for six months before we fuck you. A connection is just a connection and it comes through conversation. And we could connect in a great conversation, you know, 20 minutes in, right? But there has to be some sort of connection. And conversation to me is right, the way to get in. Correct? Absolutely. Showcase a bit of your personality. I saw one of the, of the girl, one of the guys Tany to fuck last night, they bonded over liking Bon Jovi. Sometimes it doesn't

take much, you know, it doesn't take much, but you find that bond with someone and suddenly, even the sex is better with them. Instead, like, think about it. If you asked a stranger off the street to go and start inserting things into the holes of their body, how fucking awkward is that? So how about you have a little chit chat? How about you get to know each other before you start participating in something so vulnerable? Yeah, and not only that, like, because I've had some solo guys on my show. Like, there's one guy, Antonio, and he's just, just me talking to him before I even saw pictures of him, even when he see pictures, he just looks like the nicest guy. You could tell he's like the nicest guy. And he does so well. And I'm

like, you know, that's because women could smell a fucking player douchebag from a mile away. You know what I mean? And in that kind of world, I feel like you gotta have to be like kind of like really like like a good guy because women are even more on guard and sniffing around because they're more the most vulnerable. Like that's where they're the most vulnerable. They're half naked. Like you're about to enter them. They're on full alert. And women,

we could like smell through people. And we have choice, right? This is the fact. I mean, we have choice. It's, those single women are, you're right.

The rare, like they're so rare. That's why they're called unicorns, you know? So it's like, do you see what? We get to look around and be like, that's the bull.

We're going to ride. What are the guys called? Single men who are straight are called bulls. And then if they're bisexual, I've heard them called dragons. Now, There's some people who have different terms, but for the most part, that's the term.

And so what's the biggest mistake you think guys typically make is just to come on too strong and just go right to the sacks without any conversation? Yeah, that in too fast. I think and also the lack of foreplay. Like I have to actually, as a court, as an orgy director, I'm usually always reminding them to grab and caress the body. Because every single gangbang queen, I have helped fulfill their gangbang fantasy. Every single one of them had exactly one thing. common. And that was that they all asked for their bodies to be touched, fingers, hands on them, on their thighs, on their legs, on their arms. Exactly. Touch us. But in a good way, like,

appreciate us. And so, yeah, I reminded them. But once they did it, my friends had better sex, because the people were actually, that's part of my job is I know how my friend wants to get fucked so much so that some people are now, like, asking for counterclockwise pussy licking because they know exactly how they want to be touched. Oh my God. Wait, have you ever had a gang bang? No, but I'm not against gangbanks for myself, but I don't personally fuck strangers. So I'm a demisexual.

I like emotional connection before I would even, my pussy would even consider someone. And so that's just how it works for me. But I've also seen a lot of other sex positive swinger people who are also demisexual. And so it's not that uncommon that you meet someone who is less down to fuck, but still open to fuck. You know what I mean? Yeah. Well, how did you then hook up with a couple of your first night? How was the demesexual?

It took all of four hours, but it was still at the end of the four hours. And that's what I finally got to do. Okay, that's good. So four hours in, after four hours, that's how long it took a demisexual to have that connection. Yeah. And that was me living a little, too. But, you know, there's been other stories with advice that I package in my unicorn course about pushy couples because I would have couples that I was like, I tried to make my boundaries clear.

Like, I don't sleep at the same. people the first day I meet them. So I want to meet for coffee. And then if we like each other, then we'll make a playday. That's been my boundary. And then this couple, they're like, okay, well, make sure you get a place, you know, a coffee place close to your house. I was like, okay. And then they're like, well, make sure your pussy's really clean and fresh because we like hygiene. And I was like, okay, I'm like, first of all, we're just meeting for coffee. Not only that, then he follows up 20 minutes later because we were meeting that night. And he's like, just a reminder to wash right before you come. And I was like, okay, fuck off. Like, I was done.

this guy was clearly just saying he was going to respect my boundaries the whole time he was making sure that I was clean for when he went down on me like so it was just you have to be careful of these pushy couples and so I like to give advice on like how to spot the kind of red flags but for me that's a problem for other single women who aren't demisexual they don't need that whole you know upfront vetting as much so there's lots of different types of single women and and just because I'm like that doesn't mean anyone else's what's a difference you feel like between the single woman and the women in couples? Well, the women in couples, it's so different because you are mutually deciding. You're in a democracy of sorts of when you pick somebody to join you usually. And so that's one thing. The single women are so free, right? They're free to do whatever they want. A lot of single women end up even bonding with other single women and having new experiences that way. And so there's just the sky is the limit. And so with a couple you are more restrained, you know, even me right now. I'm not single right now. I'm dating someone and we personally are looking for a unicorn for ourselves but outside of that we don't even have an appetite for me to fuck another guy and it's just not part of our fantasy so these are the kind

of things that like as a single woman I had no limits and now I'm like even if I find a cute guy it's just not on the menu for us did you do all the things like spit roasting or like all that kind of crazy stuff or was it typically like a one-on-one experience or with a woman because you are demisexual. Oh, I definitely got a few good spit roasted and I definitely documented them on YouTube. I even got one on video, by the way, at a hotel. Oh, my God. It's because I knew how rare it was. And I was like, one day, I'm going to look back and be like, that's when I got spit roasted, you know. So you check that off. And yeah, and something else about the single guys that you need to know is that we tell our friends about you. And so if we have a good experience, you're going to get a good review. And if you get a bad experience,

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Like, it is no, like, I'm proud when a guy that fuck me, well, fucks my friend well. Like it's just, how many gang gangs have you set up do you feel like? Oh, at least 20, 25. Yeah. And, you know, I did a poll once on Patreon because I had a girl. She actually made it in my book. It was like Casey who has been in over 50 gangbangs.

And, you know, for her, she was a very quiet girl. Like, if you met Casey on the street, you would just think she's like a quiet girl, you know, and she was so fucking hardcore. I mean, she's the opposite of demisexual. She would just like drive around pickup guys, fuck them, you know what I mean? She could go in a bookstore. She was, she rolled like that. And she loved gangbangs.

And, but, you know, she really felt like empowered, like that she was the one in control. You know, and I remember putting this question out in, on Patreon, like, if you're looking like, you know, because I was curious, like, do people see the woman in a gang bang, like, in the power position or not? Because I know if I'm talking to so many women that are in gangwings, that's how they feel. But I was wondering, I feel like probably a lot of people see it the opposite, but that's not really true. I think if you're organizing a gang bang on like Craigslist, I don't know how that woman's going to get treated. But in a sex club, I have found it to be. women led like that way. And so the women are literally called gangbang queens.

They're given a little, you know, they had a little pre-gangbang women's circle where the girls bond and get to know each other and share their fantasies. And I found out last night from one of the people who works at the sex club that they actually in front of that, the bunch of girls showed one of my videos talking about a DTF night to inspire them. And I was like, this is literally like in the fucking back room. What is it? Like the coach's room.

You're sitting there. You're getting prepped. And then you go, and it's go time. And everyone goes out and gets their spot because now they have assigned spots for gangbanks. It's not this free for all. It's a very organized thing now. How many is the most, like the most amount of men in a gangbag that you've set up or seen? Well, yeah, I think there's so many men that I can't even see who's making the noise in front of me.

Because it's like, you know, there's all these guys in front of me jerking off. So it's hard to even get in front. But I would, I mean, it's, it's for every girl, there was. would be like, I don't know, 20, 20 guys. So it's, but then again, but people fuck each other all over. Like, you don't fuck one and then go home. I saw like the guy who fucked Tanya, fucked two other girls in front of me last night.

He was having a great night. Wow. So how did you bring this, all this, like this whole side of your life up to your guy when you met him? Because you didn't mean him at the Swinger Club, did you? Well, this is the best part is I met my top fan from YouTube. So, he knew everything. Your boyfriend is your YouTube fan?

Yeah. I met him because he wrote a YouTube comment and I responded. And then it turns out that, you know, he's a DJ at another sex club nearby. And so he invited me to do a video tour. And then that's when I met him. And so he's been watching everything I've ever made, listened to every podcast I've ever released. And he's cheered me on, right? We have clear boundaries in our relationship.

He knew last night I wasn't going to fuck anyone and I didn't, you know. So it's just the free, I have a lot of freedom. But that's what this lifestyle gives you. It's this release on the sexual possessiveness that I think is a remnant of the cultural upbringing some of us have. If we suckbox somebody, you know, there's a certain possessiveness we feel over them. And I just, I love that that's a lot more relaxed. And also I wanted to talk about reputation for single women because in the sex positive lifestyle, I have never seen anybody ask somebody their body count.

And even if they answered, I don't think anybody would judge the number. that's very different than mainstream society, what I call vanilla world. And so that's something that women need to realize that when you come and you are pro-slet, slut it up. Like people will shoot you. Oh, I love that. Do you have any other ones like that that you could bring up that I don't know? You don't mean that you think are important.

Also, just don't yuck somebody else's yum. It's so important that just because you're not into something, you don't mention, you don't say something negative about it. You know, you walk around accepting that people are into. different things. And sometimes you'll go to a sex club and it'll be a super kinky theme night or a super dark BDSM theme night and it just might not be your vibe, but you're still expected to be very respectful and to not like put your nose up at other things. Just don't participate and don't show up if it's not your thing. Yeah. Wait, a quick question about your guy. Was he in the lifestyle too

as a solo guy ever? Or was he just a DJ there? Did he never partake? He never partake. He never partake. He's a DJ and he still hasn't had a double girl blowjob. And Kathy, you better believe me. I plan to leave that in my will to him if I don't do it. He needs to know what it's like to have two girls stuck on his dick. And so we are working on it. But he's also demisexual. And so we're really looking for the right vibe with a girl and we're willing to wait it out until we find it. So none of your girlfriends from the club or at. No, no. And we made a deal like it won't be one of them. So sometimes you just don't like it's such a good, we've got such a good thing going. We don't want to just fuck it up because we went one step too far, you know. Yeah. No.

And how long into your relationship did that come into play? Like that, oh, let's go do that now. I think it right at the beginning. Oh, really? Because we wanted to make sure our fantasies were aligned. Because if I wanted to be gang banged once in a while and he wasn't comfortable with that, that could be a relationship deal breaker. So I think it was right from the beginning.

We wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. And you were the one that said, hey, I would just like you to know that I might want a unicorn in our relationship at some point? Yeah. Yeah. like I've always wanted to add that level. And he's really, he's excited. And we even went to a Swinger hotel takeover recently.

And they were doing these fun little sexual game. So it was basically taking a shot off the end of a dick. And I didn't realize until later that only uncircumcised men could participate. That's why he missed out. But basically there was people just filling up the, the hood of, like the part of the dick that can pull over. They were filling it up with alcohol and taking shots. And I tried to get my boyfriend to get someone to take a shot off his dick. So it didn't work out.

But it's also kind of cute that we're like inching our way until the lifestyle too. It's not it's not just big jump in for everything. Sometimes like I just want my boyfriend to know what it's like to touch another woman's body even just for a few minutes. Like let's just work our way into this too. Does he ever come with you to DTF night or anything? Or is that something that you go solo? Oh, he does. Oh, he's been a great assisted because I put him on condom watch.

Yeah. He's on condo. He's on condo. Because that's like the least fun part for me. And so I like it when that responsibility is delegated elsewhere. Oh my God. So what is he like up there looking just to make sure the condom didn't fall off? Oh yeah.

He's bending over making sure he can see inside the tight spaces. And not only that, he also films for me. So he is, I've trained him as a very good cameraman. He knows how to film me outside the club. So he's just a huge asset to the Toronto Unicorn vibe. And I think that, yeah, he's just been a true. And it doesn't even matter where I take it. Like, he's just, yeah, he's really supportive.

And it's, I think that's what I've learned in this lifestyle, too, was I became the most extreme, but also the most natural version of myself. And that's when I fell in love. And that's because someone saw someone not afraid or apologetic about who they were. And it makes people feel that they, they don't have to be apologetic about who they are either. So you changed as a person from getting into the life. style, right? Yeah, I mean, I used to always be the person that would say one too many sex jokes at work or like, in front of the friends. I would push the limit and see how far I could take a joke. But now I straight up tell gaping jokes at dinner with my friends. Like, this is my tribe of people, right? Yeah, because all your people now are lifestyle people is what you're saying. Absolutely. And we all are sex positive. And what that means is like one of our friends is into pain. She likes getting her ass bruised. choose different colors because she calls it bum makeup. So I'm not into that, but like we have nothing

in common that way. We fuck very different people, but we just love hanging out. She's just, you know, we're all just friends. And I think that's the part of the lifestyle that people might under not expect is that the friends and the networking you make is if not as valuable, more valuable in some cases than the sex entirely. So making a fucking friend that you see on Thanksgiving giving every year and, you know, be able to tell sex jokes while you shoot the shit. That's priceless. Yeah, for sure. You know, you gave the five minute talk to the guy that you would give him. What's the five minute talk you would tell a single woman that was like just walked into a club? What would you tell her to give her like a couple tips or whatever to feel more comfortable or know

what to do? So it happened actually. I ran into a female fan walking into the club. She begged me to go in with her and I couldn't do it. And I gave her the best I had in five minutes. And it said, basically, you need to ask for what you want and don't take what you can get you are in a position of power you have choice make sure you actually are getting something you want and not just fulfilling somebody else's fantasy and so i wanted them to also like feel like empowered in their power i would just make sure that they also enforce their own protection like you can't just expect a guy to also have the condom fucking ready and uh and use it like you do need to be responsible for the you know the bottom line is your safety and uh you know i also have to tell you

women, unfortunately it's the case, but you do need to pursue if you want to have good experiences because a lot of people are intimidated. Oh, they're so intimidated by the single women. And I've literally gone home without talking to almost anybody in a single night. And I think it's, it's not because I was antisocial. It's because I think everybody just thought, oh, well, I'm sure someone else will swoop in there. So if you can pursue as a single woman, you're going to be able to learn how to actually go for what you want instead of hoping it just kind of lands on you, you know and makes your life is all easy but if you can pursue you will have way better experiences yeah and now talk a little bit about rejection both rejecting people as well as taking the rejection and being

cool with it well rejection is so not personal when it comes down to it like there's a lot of reasons behind a no if somebody comes for example if a guy asked to fuck me last night the answer would have been no is it because that person wasn't attractive no is it because it wasn't a charming person No, it's because I have a fucking boyfriend and I'm not looking to fuck another man. So, like, the rejection is so not personal. And so if a guy and a girl or whoever can learn to take a rejection as just, you know, that opportunity is closed and move on. Then you're going to be better off.

Yeah, it might hurt your feelings a little bit. Like, I remember as a girl, as the unicorn, one of the last couples I tried to, like, hit on, they weren't, like, I guess, ready to have a threesome and I felt rejected because I put myself out there. And, you know, I had to, like, lick my wounds. a little bit because I was like, you know, it really hurt. But at the end of the day, it was probably more about them not being ready for a threesome than it was about whether, you know, I was good enough or whatever. So I think it's just learning to let it roll off your back and that there's so many reasons for a no. And it's, you know, you just want to find the people that are a yes. And that's the whole point.

But if you had to honestly tell the truth about even your, just your journey to use it as like the example, like, do you feel like, you know, you couldn't help but feel a little bad about being rejected at first, but over time it became much easier and then you saw it for what it was? I think it was, it was just understanding how many people are there for so many different reasons. And so it's just, it's absolutely unpredictable that if you ask somebody to play, that the answer could be yes, because it could be no because they're, they're into a different gender. It could be no because they're on a fucking, you know, time of the month because that's the case for sometimes women who go to the sex clubs.

They're there just to be social. and there's just so many reasons. And so if you decide to internalize it, that's you taking that on yourself. Unless someone says to you, you have a shitty attitude and that's why I'm not fucking you, then you really shouldn't make those inferences. Like you just need to understand that a no is not as personal

and you shouldn't take it as any less of your worth. Yeah, no, totally. And then let me ask you this. Like for girls, you said like a DTF night is like really great. Like what is a great night for guys? And what are the terms to look for in other clubs? Because every club has different names for their night.

DTF night is not for everybody. I would be very overwhelmed in a place like that if I was, you know, a new demisexual single woman exploring. I would probably be more comfortable on a normal social mixer night, which out of the clubs I go to is like a Wednesday or a Thursday or a Sunday. And those are way less intense. The single guys aren't even allowed on the third floor at the club, which is where most of the sex happens.

And so they can only go up there if they're with a woman. And so the vibe is just a lot different. It's a lot more social. It's a lot more laid back. There's a lot more room and space to have that social interaction before the play happens. And I think that is more my style. And the only reason I go to DTF is because I have a girl wanting to fuck a bunch of men. Otherwise, it wouldn't be the night I choose to socialize.

And what do you suggest a guy should, like what nights are good for single men to go? And then tell what the best nights for couples. Is it every night? I don't know. Yeah, well, the thing about single guys is some guys do struggle socially, right? And if you have a challenge in your personality, if you're on the spectrum and you find it hard to effectively, you know, kind of cross the success line, then I think a DTF night is good because you're going there with people who are more down to have sex with people they don't know and don't need that social interaction versus as much, especially the girls already upstairs with their legs open. Those are the ones that don't need to know your name and your story, you know? Yeah. And so I think that if you are nervous or even if you just need a fucking blowjob, then those are the nights you go because that energy will most likely be well received. If you go just looking for a blowjob on any other night and come across that way, you're going to be annoying to people. So yeah, it's just, I think that if you are

looking for a more meaningful, you know, warm and fuzzy feeling at the end of sex, go on a night where it's a social mixer. Now, for couples, every night is good for couples. I think as a couple, I prefer the nights without single men. And I think that is a bit controversial. But the truth is there is a very different vibe when everybody around you is already in a couple. As a single woman, I didn't know who was available, who wasn't or whatever, but couples are couples or couples. And I have to always remember, there is simply no single men walking around. So if I see any cute guy, be careful.

Don't touch them. Like, don't go because they're attached, you know? And so you have to make sure that you respect the fact that every guy there is with someone. But as a couple, I liked the less gawking. I didn't like a bunch of guys jerking off around watching me have sex or whatever. That's not my personal vibe. And so I preferred couples only nights. But yeah, that's just me.

But I think a lot of couples feel the same. Yeah. Do you find a lot of people, I mean, you found love kind of in the world, but sort of indirectly. Have you seen, because I personally think if someone's like really into swinging, like what a great place to meet another person as at a swing or club. Have you seen other love matches that happen inside? So, yeah. So, yeah.

So one of my best friends has fallen in love for somebody they met in the lifestyle. And it's just absolutely possible, especially when these are real humans, just having real experiences. It's not just a bunch of people having, you know, these kind of sexual escapades and then going back to their quote-unquote real life. This is their real life. And so the people, like my best friend fell in love with a great guy who, you know, like goes to the club with her sometimes, things like that. And so I was even in the sauna last night with a bunch of men. And I even gave them the pep talk. I said, don't be closed off to a romantic connection here.

I said, just because you're here to fuck girls doesn't mean you might not meet a super great one that you might want to hang out with later and turn into something. So I said, you know, you might not come here looking for a husband, but you might end up finding one. Yeah, no, totally. Last question. And then we'll give a shout out to your stuff that you have to offer and tell everybody where they could hear you and get more information and stuff because you do offer a lot. I just had you want to have a fun combo, but I've got to promote all your shit. you're great at what you do. You've been doing this for so long. My last question to you, because

I know I have seen things change over time just from talking to people in the lifestyle, but I'm not like specific to Swinger Clubs. Like, have you seen things change at all since the beginning of when you started doing this to now over time? Well, the crazy thing is it's the people who change. It's the people who go through evolutions. So one of the most predictable evolutions for single women that I have seen in the Toronto area when they come to a sex club like a oasis is they come in guns ablazin. They come in getting gangbangs and spit roasts and Bukaki and whatever. And then they tend to hone it in and then they decide, oh, well, they have certain males that they like to play with instead of just anonymous. And then they

usually have preferred sex acts that they want to do instead of, you know, a free for all. And then it gets into, oh, you made a connection one on one with somebody. Well, now you might detour from being that single woman and coming and doing things as a couple, even if you're not, you know, romantically committed. And so there's a lot of evolution. And I think that surprised me the most because my evolution surprised me. I came in as a single woman for Christ sakes, Kathy. I'm trademarking myself as a single woman. And now I'm fucking not single. I know. It's crazy. But wait, do you see the younger people getting into it? Like more couples or more women, solo women feeling? Because I feel like I see in my world, like more couples are listening to my show.

more couples are coming on trying to do things in their relationship and open things up, who never would have before, you know, women to me are going after, you know, sort of living out all their sexual desires. Like, have you seen that change over time or has it always been sort of the same? I don't know if I felt a change lately, but I also haven't been, like, this is my first time going to that sex, 11th, 12 in four months. And I used to go once or twice a week. So, you know, things change, right? So even I'm the one that's pulling back. So I wouldn't necessarily know the same vibe there. But I just know that there is turnover. For whatever reason, there's turnover. Oh, that's interesting. Oh, yeah, there's people who have come and been lively participants,

and then you haven't seen them in a year or two. And you don't know what happened. I know they're still together, but like, did they stop swinging? Did they just take a break? But lots of people take breaks. That's the other unexpected lesson I learned was even for myself, I needed to take a break. Because there is a time when you've seen so many naked people and so many sexual things, that the idea of it doesn't arouse you anymore. You're just desensitized. And it's a very true thing I've had to come to terms with is that I am desensitized as fuck to sex. Like, I have seen so much crazy shit that it doesn't even, like my pulse is exactly the same watching, you know, a friend's episode as it is watching a gang bank.

So I don't know how to get back back. No, I know when that girl Casey was on one time, she heard her and her guy had pushed the limits so far. She's like, I don't know where we go next. And maybe you just have vanilla romantic sex and that's like the fucking craziest thing you do. Do you know what I mean? Because like where do you go from there? And isn't that funny is I landed after six years in this lifestyle with endless possibilities. I land happily in a monogamish dynamic.

Isn't that fucking hilarious? Yeah, I love that. And I feel like when you did talk about that, that change that you saw and that of the woman that comes, it was very opposite of what I would have thought. Like I would have never thought that you said they come in a blazon. I would have thought you said, oh, they come in a blazing. I would have thought you said, oh, they come in like super quiet and shy, not knowing. And then, you know, by the end, they're like whatever.

But it's so interesting that, and I know you know way more than me. I've never even been to a fucking swinger club. Like, this is what you do. That they come in blazing. And then it hones down after they start living everything. They start to really figure out what they like and know. But they get there knowing that they want to fuck. They are DTF.

I think by the time they've walked into a sex club, they're ready to fuck. But I don't know how long it took them to get there. I think that's the secret question is, you know, what, and I ask the question. girl last night, the fan that I met, I said, what was the push? What made you come for the first time? And she said, I just had had enough of not having a fulfilling life. Yeah, well, that's why that was my first question to you, you know, because that is, I think that interesting part of that person's like, that turnaround, like, because that's, you're going from vanilla world into like a totally different world, right? And that's a very big step. And to be taking it on your own, like I said,

I wouldn't even have the balls to do it. I always wonder, what's a psychology, like what's going on in that girl's life or mind, you know, whatever, to make them do that because I think it is a major moment. It was for you. Look, it changed your fucking whole life, not just your sex life. I mean, your career, your everything. I mean, come on. It did. It gave me a career, gave me my husband, hopefully future husband, we'll see. Yeah. I securely that almost came out. Whoops. Yeah. It gave me a group of friends. It gave me body positivity and acceptance of my plus size body that I never knew before. Yeah. And it is just, I even if I go, up and down 10 pounds. I used to panic. Now I just buy a bigger waist size outfit for a few weeks.

Like I just don't care. I'm just living my best life. And I finally not held back by self-shame. And I think it's because when you enter a lifestyle that's not about shame. It's about pleasure and camaraderie and support. You end up internalizing that. And you live a very different experience, even in a body you used to be ashamed of. Yeah, no, that's major. Most people don't have that freedom in life. Yeah. So when especially women, once a single woman goes, goes to a sex club, especially on a DTF night, you walk out of there feeling hotter. Okay? You just do.

No matter what. It's not about what you look like or your size or anything, right? It's a very different world. And it's funny how easily convinced we can be that we are, in fact, queen divas, you know, goddesses. Like my friends even adopted the term for themselves. They had a nickname in the lifestyle goddess, you know, Angie, for example. And it's because that's the vibe that they want to feel and they feel like that with

some of these men. And it's so fucking rewarding. Yeah, obviously. Because like you said, you showed up and your guy sort of got, like the person that was standing in front of him that he fell for and knew that he was into was a very different person than you were before. Maybe that's why you were having those bad dates. Like, you know, it was. And so there you were so many years later, a new person and you attracted someone equally as great as you had become. Well, let's not forget, I went 10 years without sex before I entered the sex clubs. Oh my God, I forgot about that. Yeah, so I was rusty. I was a little jaded.

Were you tight? Oh, I was so tight. The dick couldn't fit. I remember doing a vlog about the first time fucking a guy after I had a 10-year break. And he literally tried to put his dick in, stopped, lubed his fingers, and tried to loosen me up first. And I was like, yep, that's the fits of us. Sorry, that's about right. How long is it take you to loosen up?

Like just two hours? Yeah, it was okay. It wasn't like I was a virgin again. I had used toys. Yeah. But the thing is, I came back from a dark place of, you know, I did not have any romantic vibes for 10 years. And it was, we call it a depression. You could call it a disassociation with, you know, my purpose.

I don't know what it was. But I know that people can come back from absolutely anything. And if this lifestyle has taught me anything, it is that it is absolutely never too late to live the life you want. Yeah, I love that. Mike drop right there. Why don't you give out all of your information? You know, you have this whole YouTube. a channel that has so much information, everything you want to know, right?

So like everything I ask you, like, oh, I have a video on this. You literally have a video on anything so people is very informative, right? You also turn your YouTube channel into a podcast and then you have this great new course. So, you know, give out all your shoutouts and I'll put a link in the description. Perfect. So first of all, I have a lot of videos on YouTube. Just look for Toronto Unicorn. So what I've done is I put them in playlist.

So you can actually go on to the O8 Stock Lounge theme night playlist and every single theme night is covered there. So for example, you want to go to a Bukaki night. You want to see what my experience is going to Bukaki are. You go to watch the Bukaki once. So that's a way for people to be like, oh, I'm going to read a review for someone who's gone on the exact same night as me. So that's the kind of videos that you can find. I have story times. I have interviews with people outside the club talking about their experiences and what they've learned. And I've documented my experience, you know, nervous, shy, naive from the beginning, you know, standing in front of the club not knowing what was on the other side of it. And now, you know, I just, I'm still going. I've logged last

night. I talked about, you know, helping my friend get, get a spit row. So it has been a fun journey and it's all on YouTube. I do have an actual like informative podcast for the Swinger lifestyle, which is much more in depth. And that's called sex and swinging with your uniform. Okay. But what I really love is my new courses. And so, like you said and gave me inspiration, the five minute pep talk is going to be something I put up by tomorrow, I think, because this is what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to capsulize and give the, almost like the leveling up experience to people to be able to have a much more advanced starting off point or jumping off point into the lifestyle. You don't need to fuck it up and fall in your face when you know the rules ahead of time. And so my goal, especially for the single women

course, is to help empower them from the beginning and make them realize that they do not need Tinder to get dick. They can absolutely get a surplus of options. Whether they like Alicart style, which is social nights or buffet, which is gangbank theme nights, they can pick and choose. And so you don't need to go to so much fucking trouble to get late. So these are the kind of things that I'm going to give coursewise. And it's, uh, it's going to be available now.

It is. Yeah. Okay. Where do they go? My website is level up with Toronto unicorn.com. Okay. Level. Wait.

What's the what? It's level. that's the whole, that's the whole URL. It's not just like, yeah. Okay, say that again. And you want me to put that link in the description?

Yeah. Level up with taranocoon.com. Oh, I love it. Yeah. Yeah. That's a landing page for it. Yeah. Yeah.

And I, I fucking hated building that stupid landing page on WordPress. But anyways, but yeah, so it's been up and running now. And I just actually launched last week. So I've already had people run through the courses and test them and everything.

And it's just, it's so passionate. every single day I work more. I'm putting more content out because I have so much to leave behind. And one day I might stop doing, you know, going to the clubs and I might stop having new experiences to share. But, you know, I am going to leave a mark and leave the experience and the lessons and the life hacks behind. Yeah, I love it. I mean, you are an expert at this point, right? So why not do what all the experts do and take your knowledge and help people not just in the club like you do now in person, but now with the internet, you could help people wherever they live. And that's what's

great about these courses. They don't need to come to the club and meet you in person. They could get all that stuff from you from these courses online. Exactly. And the guy last night where I literally gave him the advice to go and offer something. And then when I watched him do it and get success from it, that's why I do this. Because I want that man to be successful too. I want that everybody to have a good experience, but just know how to get it. Listen, I know for sure, because I've known you for a long time. Like I said, we've talked off air too. Like you're the real deal. I mean, you're not obviously, and you have another job and you do

this too. I mean, so this is like your passion or all. You can't keep up with it as long as you have and create as much content as you have and go through all the trauma we go through having sex content, okay, without loving what you do and doing it for the right reason because you would have

given up a long fucking time ago. So you are the real deal. I love that. I called you out of the blue for no reason. I didn't know you had these fucking courses. I mean, that's true. and just asked you to do exactly what you're doing in your courses on my Sunday episode. So it's so perfect. So I hope a lot of people go get your courses. Thanks so much for coming on.

I love that you're still with your guy. I was very excited for you when you told me you had a boyfriend. It's great that you're still with them. And then when you get your unicorn, you'll call and we'll talk all about it. Sounds good. And I wanted to also mention I do have a fan page. That's where you can get literally unfiltered, uncensored blogs.

Like a lot of the girls go blurred on my YouTube channel. That's their comfort level. But a lot of them actually let me put, their faces on my fan page. So you can see the real, like a real. How do people find that? Onlyfans.com slash Toronto Unicorn. Okay.

So you got it all. Oh, yeah. I like to gang bang content creation. That's how you did. That's your gang bang. Oh my God. I love it. You're the best.

Thank you. I know your guys hiding in the other room. He didn't come in. That was good. Anyway, thank you so much for calling in this with super fun. It's going to be up Sunday. Okay. So send me your links.

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