Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1551 - Patty Got Cheated On, Cheated Herself & Now She’s Going to Sex Clubs & Parties

Episode Date: August 12, 2026

Patty got cheated on, cheated herself and now she’s going to sexclubs and parties and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including her irst boyfriend and why she hated blowing him, her baby daddy and  what he was addicted to and why that relationship ended, the next guy she met and why she started cheating on him and how she found out he was cheating too, the next very abusive guy she dated and the issues he had, how and why she decided to start watching lesbian porn, her first visit to a sex club solo and exactly what she saw and what went down, the sex party she went to and what happened, the party she went to as a unicorn and how she wound up hooking up with the dom host and what went down, their trip to a sex club and how her dom dominated both her and another woman and what went down, plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  or Pre-order audiobook version ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠⁠https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/xLQ3Jv⁠⁠⁠ Get $15 OFF Shameless Desire or any other product at Shameless Care ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beduc.at/pd2630-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized SUMMER roadmap to sexual happiness  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LoadBoost.com⁠⁠⁠⁠- To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health, use code: STRICTLY   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Buy 2 months of Bluechew GOLD and get the third month FREE! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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SDC.com. I do have a free trial for my listeners. SDC is like the world's largest online and dating website and it's not just a place where you could hook up with people. You could learn all about the lifestyle. You could find out about all the lifestyle events and meetups and all kinds of things going on in your neighborhood as well as if you're going to travel and you want to have a little fun. You're going to find it all on SDC.com. Like I said, you get a free trial if you use my code 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link that's 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link. Okay, today I have such a fun guest on Patty. Patty is super cute. I got to change her voice a little bit, but she sounds like a little girl. I was like,

oh my God, you sound like your five. But she's really 36 and she's like, you know, she's got kids of her own and she's got a lot of history with guys. She winds up at the end of the story. Like I said, You get the good, the bad and the ugly on this story, but it ends with the good. And that's what I said at the end. I'm like, you know, we got like, she kind of like dated. Every kind of guy had a lot of experiences. Most of them not good. Every guy was bad in one way or another.

Sometimes she cheated. Sometimes they cheated. Some were addicts. Some were abusive. I mean, we go through all of them. It's super fun hearing those stories because it's interesting and she's very open. And I think what's interesting about her calling in is you really get to listen into the girl's side of things, right?

She's a total girl and you get to really, you know, get a peek inside how a girl's brain thinks. And she does wind up eventually becoming very curious about getting into the lifestyle. And at 35, she's 36 now just recently. She does work up into her story where she does decide to go to like a swingers club. And she went by herself and then she went to a sex party. And she like went to a meetup. And then she met a daddy dom and now they're looking for a fucking threesome. And she said, and then she went to a sex club with him.

And she talks about all those experiences as well. It's like I said, all of her stories and all of her guys up to the last guy and her experiences in the club are super interesting. I know you're going to enjoy it. I had fun talking to her. She's funny to me. She's very open and honest and ballsy and very into sex. you'll hear all about it. You're going to enjoy the conversation.

So I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Patty. This is the strictly anonymous podcast. Strictly anonymous podcast. Hi, Patty. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm pretty well. How about yourself?

Good. I was commenting on your little baby voice. You sound like you're 12 and you said sometimes people are like, oh, could you put your mom on the phone? You're like, I am the fucking mom. You're 36, but you sound like you're 12. That's right. But I'm going to tweak your voice, so I might make you sound a little older because you're so high-pitched.

If I made you higher, like all my guys love, you'd sound like a chipmunks, so I can't do that. But anyway, you're here to talk about a daddy dom that you're seeing and just like have a basic girl talk about all the stuff that you're doing. I don't know. Are you married now or single? Like, what's your deal? I am. I've always been single, but I have two children. And so I have like high school sweetheart.

What lasted with him for nine years and I had my girl's dad. We were together for about four and now I am just single mother. Okay, but are you, did you get into BDSM with this daddy dom guy? Like what are we going to be talking about? Not just regular sex with regular guys, right? Like what is the different stuff that you're talking about that we're going to talk about that you've done that we're going to talk about? Yes. So now I I've gotten into the lifestyle. I want to say since March this year. But I've always been curious. Okay. So because like in my vanilla life, like, it was okay. Like sex was okay. But it was never great.

Right. And was that because you didn't, but you like were secretly wanting it to be better and had all these kind of secret desires, but never brought it up? Yes. So. I didn't know I wasn't to like a BDSM. You look, you don't even know the word for it.

That's how much you don't know. Yeah. I'm talking about the person that I'm with. Yeah. And because it's like, like you say, a lot of the time, you don't know. To the vanilla world, it seems like it's out of the norm. Like we're freaks, but it's a way just like people relieve pressure and stress through drinking or exercise. That's a way to like make yourself feel better.

Not about anything, just like enjoying anything else that you might do. Yeah, I always say it now. Yeah, for sure. I mean, I think that there's very few things in life that bring us joy. And the older you get, your mom, you have kids. you know, life is difficult, right? So you got to have those like really fun, happy, great things in your life. I think food is one of those things. Sex is one of those things. Entertainment. You know, there's these things that do bring you joy. And that's not like something you could do 24-7, right?

Typically, you're dealing with regular life and that's difficult. So it's always great for people to have whatever it is that makes them feel happy and brings them pleasure, right? So you were always, though, this like person who was very vanilla with sex. but never like you didn't know that you were into the lifestyle like how do you go from being very vanilla to getting into the lifestyle okay so let me let me start from the beginning right sure and then i'll work my it'll make sense it's way better if i started like this and then work my way up to how i met this person that i'm seeing now okay uh when i was out of high school right I started having sex just like many other people.

And I mean, my first guy who took my virginity, we were almost 10 years apart. Oh, my God, Kathy, we don't know who was more inexperienced, if it was him or if it was me. Just because he saw, like, witness, oh, my pussy, he thinks that I came. Or maybe it's true, but I didn't know what an orgasm was. until neither did he and I didn't know what we were doing

until I sort of got within my high school sweetheart my second boyfriend and things went from having okay sex to having like a sexless marriage that a lot of people talk about what do you mean wait is this the guy that you had kids with

no no okay so why are you dating someone that you're having no sex with what's the point Oh my gosh, we were in love at first, and we went to prom together and all of these things, right? And as we grew apart, I guess, everything he liked, I hate it, Kathy. I kid you not. Like, he loves getting blow drops. I hate it every time for men.

This is the part the girl talk, we're going to say. Yeah. I hated what his dick smelled like pissed and it tasted like piss. And I'm like, I guess I'm, you know, in my mind I was 18, 19, 20, 21. With my mind, I'm like, I guess all guys are this dirty. Sure, I'll deal with it. And I've never seen a dick like that. Kathy, I've been around the block.

So his only dig was the wanders now like, or maybe it's because I hated him so much. I hated sex. I regretted it. As soon, and I lost it with Batman for. nine years. Why? What kept you together? The first four or five were okay.

But then we had like hopes, you know, like you always, I'm the type of person. If I say I'm going to do something I want to finish. Yeah. And like, I achieve my goal. So maybe that, because we didn't even have kids when I try to have kids with him, I thought I was Daryl or he was Daryl, so we couldn't have kids. And at the end, we just kept reeling each other back. So I guess that was marriage.

But I didn't, I didn't want anything to do with him, not sex, not blow him. I hated when he went down on me, I said, your beer's too fucking scratchy. Oh gosh, it was terrible, Kathy. Yeah, and you spent 10 years of like your. formative, like, best times of your life, like sexless, when you should have, be having, like, the most sex. Yes. Yes.

Yeah. And then I moved away. I moved across states. I moved away far from him, like, to go and achieve one of those goals we both set out. I'm going to, I am too curious. So I moved away. And then that brings me to the father of my girls. Now, sex with him was amazing.

He had, I love blowing him. And I started like dating other guys, right? I would date this one, this month, the next one next month. And everything I hated with this guy, I was okay doing with any other guy. Like he will last for a while. And I mean, like, it's not like I came and we're done. I hate guys like that. It's like, I can and we can keep going and I will go down and give him a blow job

or he would go down on me and everything was great until he became addicted to gambling and we had to cut him off our lives. Oh, God. And you had babies with him. How many kids? Just your daughter? I had just two. Oh, okay.

But you saw all the money flying off the window. I mean, did you, like, was he open about it? Was he trying to hide it? Did you, how did you wind up finding out that this was a big problem for him? Um, it all started with him telling me and we didn't cheat on each other. And I have a cheating gone wrong after this guy. Okay. We didn't have, we didn't never cheated on each other and none of that. But it all started with after the second birth that we had, like, I wasn't working anymore. I just had one kid after another. So he said, stay home. I'll pay the bills. I'm like, okay, I'll take care of the girls. And I was going to school.

And that turned into working longer. And I said, well, okay. And that, he told me at first that he won money on slot machines. And that, and I said, well, that's great. Yeah. But then when the money started, when he became like negative, like negative 500, negative 800 and he will get even and try to like make more money and it will continue to get negative then i started noticing like we don't have enough money to pay the bills and so i eventually i go

back to work and all the money he was making was going towards that so i was just supporting his habit by supporting him you know giving him a place to live a place to yeah you're keeping the lights on right you're paying the bills yeah so i'm kind of like enabling him in a way i'm like you know what when enough was enough that was just the fighting would start before I got home from work and you know one thing led to another and

he we had this big old fight and he left and that's that's how that ended well he did you a favor by leaving right but he did you a favor by leaving right is he I mean he's the father of your children so you must still be in contact with him and like do you know if he got over his gambling

addiction I mean how is he doing now so many years later think, and this happened 2020, we're still think he's in it because he cut off, not just mean, he cut off his family. Oh, yeah, he's deep. Yeah, something's wrong. Yeah, obviously. Yeah, so. He's deep in his addiction. He's got a problem. I,

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No. Well, I don't know if he cheated, but I did cheat. Oh, okay. Okay, you could have left that to the end. That's the good twist. Okay, so I date this next one. And I am not like a racist person, but I'm Hispanic, right? I want to try.

If I have a map, I want to try as many cultures as I can, right? Yeah, okay. So let's say, I don't know if I should say the name. Well, I'll say it, whatever. He's from Pakistan. Okay. At first, he was, I don't know, I am probably a sapiens sexual. While God got me caught into him, he's so smart.

I learned so many things from this guy. He had a very high corporate precision, six-figure salary. what turned me on he just brought a jeep for his parents with me he gave me a tour to the new house he bought to his dad and then he bought one for himself and then he made an investment like things like that about money turns me on we can talk about it all day but then when we start having sex it's like five minutes and we're done

and I thought well maybe it's it's because I am on a time time crunch like I have to get the girls from daycare or whatever but then when I when I spend the weekend

it was the same story I'm like is this normal right and obviously it's normal for him but it's like not normal for me you know and oh my gosh

we met in February by April, I was already looking for a new bed to go. Right. Or a new guide to go. And I did cheat it. Not because, like, a lot of people say, I'm just different, I guess. A lot of people say that women need emotional connection. I need, it's like, I need to release.

It's like when men need to face. finish and finally ejaculate, I need the same. Like, I need to finish myself, you know, and I could never do it with this guy. Two months after, I'm like, I'll just, I'll just deal with it outside of him. And he could be the type that we can go on dates, we can talk about money. So I kept like that for a few months. The worst part was with him is that he's very close-minded when it came to sex. Right. He wasn't open to trying anything. thought. Yes. As soon as we were done, he will go clean himself. And if he's cleaning himself, I'm not, I'm not sitting there, you know, would come up over me. I'm like, I guess I should go

clean myself. And that was, that was it. I'm like, I just, I just left this guy that, yes, he had gambling problems, but he didn't have none of this bullshit. Sorry, I swear, I swear, but, you know, he didn't have none of this crazy stuff. And like, I miss my end going down on me. I'm just thinking of my listeners. Like, what I love about your whole story is like, this is how girls think, okay? Like, this is like just one, like,

and if you're like this, and this is what you think, like this is what some other girls think. I think it's a very fascinating look into a girl's brain. You know what I mean? Just keep going. Yes. And I'm sitting there thinking like,

this, this is really not happening. And then, and then you think, about I for sure cannot be this guy's wife. But how? Right, of course. Thank God you didn't, you don't marry these people before, you know.

And because he's from Pakistan, he's one that he said to me, I am allowed to have four wives. You can even find the first one. That's what you're talking about. Poor guy. Wait, did he ever catch you cheating? You're cheating on him,

constantly? It was maybe it depends on the other person but the worst is like the other guys that I've found that were available maybe lasted longer but they have like too possessive

or too aggressive like this one guy Alex was way too rough way way way too rough. These are the guys you're cheating on him with you're talking about. Yeah, yeah. And then, and then of course, I met one from Europe and this other Europe guy, like, my first sign to get the hell out of there was, and I went to his house. And this one never came to my house after a year dating. How come? But that was, that was his hidden, like, driving.

Oh, okay. Okay. But, and then eventually he started coming home. But so I went to this European guy and Excuse me and He put the condom with one hand And I should have known to get out of there He lasted if the The Pakistani guy lasts five minutes

This guy probably lasted 10 I'm like, why do I have such bad luck? Eventually I caught him off He never caught me cheating but I caught him cheating, but I caught him cheating because he was talking to some like if we're in the car and the phone rings then the car rings right and on the dash it said maria and he picks up the phone and and she's like hey you and this guy keep in mind this is the corporate guy he's the he holds meetings and he fires people and all this

But he got so nervous until he got the phone to his ear. And he's like, I can't talk now. I call you later. I'm like, okay, call her later. When I'm done with you, you could call her all you want. Did he calm to it? When we broke up, I told him. No, no, no.

Did he, though, when he hangs up the phone with Mariah, does he tell you, does he try to lie and say Mariah is my co-worker or Mariah is my sister's friend? No. I mean, what does he try to? He didn't, nothing. What do you mean nothing? He had to explain himself. You must have went off on him.

No, I didn't. I'm like, well, I'm sure you can call her later. Oh, you could talk to her and I'll call her later. We got a few things. And I didn't ask because I already kind of knew. Okay, because you were cheating on him. You didn't care that he was cheating. Yeah.

Yeah. I only thought if you knew all the guys I talked to, you wouldn't. You would flip. At least you're not a hypocrite. I didn't care. No hypocrisy here. But, and then in my mind, like, what can you do to her? You can only last five minutes, man.

So it's okay. He's not giving her what he doesn't give me. Okay, that's a very, listen, you're very reason, like, you really think properly, even in the midst of stuff. So you might have not really even liked him. Did you, when you broke up with him, you told him that you cheated on him? I did it.

Okay, so he never knew. He never found out. No, it was like. There's no reason to. I thought you said, I thought the reason why I bring that up is I thought you said you told him when you broke up. But there would be no reason to tell that guy that you cheated on him. No,

I told him that I find out like long hair in the shower and that I find out like extra toothbrushes that I know I take mine. So who the hell is like where he lived is a brand new house. So it's not all. the left owner left it or the last tenant. Oh, you brought up that you thought you knew he was cheated. Yes. Okay.

Right, right. I'm like, I always knew there's nothing great you have anyway. So I've not heard about it. Oh my God. Okay. Who's next? How do you wind up in the lifestyle? Then I had a very abusive, physically, mentally everything boyfriend, right?

But I did learn a lot of things with him. and then after that was the guy that I'm kind of seeing now. But I did learn with him, but I can't. We took a gummy and he made me squared. Oh my gosh. With his hands or his penis? With his penis.

Okay. So when he was having sex with you, he got you to squirt. Yes. But out of all the guys have dated, or slept with, he's the only one who has a problem with women having toys because I guess he has like a small dick complex. No, but let me, I don't know, like,

there's a lot of guys I've met over the, over the time, like over time who have been intimidated by toys. Like, for sure. I don't know what the complex is, but there are some guys and there, and I've met them too that feel, get really weirded out.

Like they have, like they're competing with toys. they don't understand. Yes. There's nothing like the real thing and a toy doesn't make, it doesn't, doesn't take over for them and it has nothing to do with them. But some got, but there are many guys that feel that way. That's right, because I have my body count, I'm not sure. It's like, it's not that much. It's like around 30.

So it's, I don't, how would I say? He's the only person. So one out of 30 or one out of 29 that ever tells me you shouldn't have, you shouldn't, you should be able to come on yourself. Like people back in the days didn't have toys. That is all this, all this like manipulative stuff. Yeah, that's terrible. I mean, that's going to only just ruin sex.

I mean, that's terrible to say to somebody. Yeah, like, well, it's ruined sex and ruin my mindset. I'm like, he wants to prove that he's a man enough on his own without toys. Like, oh, gosh. Yeah, well, he doesn't understand. It has nothing to do with him. It has to do with the girl and what she needs to get herself off. And what a lot of guys don't understand because they don't have like girl parts and

girls' brains and girls' sex drive. Like, they don't understand how different it is for women and like orgasms are for women. You know, because for guys, it's very. Very easy. There's one fucking like wire from the brain to the dick and it triggers in one second. You know what I mean? visually and their eyes are connected and they're good to go. It's very different for a girl, completely different. And a lot of guys understand that, but some guys have no clue because how would they know? You know what I mean? Unless they're interested in knowing. You know, obviously this guy doesn't give a shit to know about women, but you know, you'd think he fucked a couple of women. He'd realize that they're wired very different and it does take them longer. Maybe sometimes they do need. other things and it has nothing to do with the guy, you know? Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. I agree.

And that's what prompted. That is exactly what prompted, like, I got to call in and, like, talk to Kathy because when I hear these guys, oh, we were at the room and, like, I got nervous and, like, my dick went soft. And I'm waiting, okay, so that's all you do with her. Like, if I was a guy, and I have been in both. like where the guy goes soft. But now I have a dumb,

very dumb guy, right? And even before the other guys who just were drinking and like, you're digging only hold out so much when you're drunk, right? Immediately there's time playing, they start playing with me, like with my

tids, with my pussy, with just making out, pulling my hair, until like the erection eventually comes back. but I hear this guys oh my I went soft and and that was it like play with her like I know but listen now I'm going to explain men to you okay because I just went off on men not understanding women and this is where you don't understand men so much okay a man's fucking whole life their whole ego is

attached to their dick okay you don't have any sons do you friends sons a son you have only daughters right You don't have a little bit. No, I have a little boy. And he has already into his penis, like wants it to be big, no things. It should be big. Like he's already obsessed with it. Okay. It's like a, from the time they come out, they have this sort of thing with their fucking

dicks, okay? And they're very attached to it with their ego. It's a big sense of thing. So if a guy goes soft and he stops tending to you, it's because he is so fucking in his head and insecure and feeling horrible about himself. So it's very easy for you to say, oh, what the fuck's your problem? Just play, blah, blah, blah.

But you have to understand he's so in his head now and he's freaked out and that's a lot of the reason why the guy doesn't. Now, every guy should know that that's what they should do. Yeah, and that girls don't care. But a lot of times the reason why it's not happening, it's not that the guy doesn't care. It's that he's so embarrassed that he can't fucking get it up

because that's like you're not a man. It's like how they view things, whereas they don't understand that girls are very understanding. And a lot of times, by the way, when a guy can't get it up, A girl does get insulted and is like, what's your fucking problem and blah, blah, blah. And that doesn't help. So I think you got to feel for the guy a little bit that can't get it up.

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Just change the game. right just go down on her go do something else until you get back up and that'll take him out of their head and the girl will realize he's still into her and that's what should happen and that's the point of what you're saying i think it's because like because when the more you think oh i'm soft i'm soft the more you think about it there's no way your your dick is going to work no i know but it's a vicious cycle yeah it's a vicious cycle if you take off your mind and but also there's some there has to be some sort of like self self talk I'm like if I go soft then this is going to happen I shouldn't be embarrassed I'm just right but that's about just being

nervous yeah but that's just about being educated and knowing and a lot of guys you know guys don't talk to each other like women do they don't like go looking for information so I think it's just a lot of guys don't understand you know what I mean they and no one's gonna go like talking to the friends like what do I do if my dick doesn't get so hard. No guys ever going to come to that ever happening to them yet. It happens to all guys all the time. Very often. Yeah, but it's the number one biggest thing in a guy's life that could happen. And what's really interesting about in the lifestyle that it happens more than it doesn't. And I've had plenty of lifestyle guys who are professional people when it comes to sex. And those guys know

what the fuck to do because they got to perform, right? They're doing a swap. They set this all up. So they know to play with the girl do other things. Like they realize what they need to do and work it. But, you know, a lot of other guys just don't know. And it's about being uneducated and just not, you know, having no girlfriend that told him or whatever, you know. So I, but every guy should. Yeah. Yeah.

I agree. But like you say, I have to take everything with a grain of salt. And otherwise, when you go off on me or on people, like, tell them, Kathy. That's why we all need to hear and get educated. otherwise we wouldn't be listening. Oh, I know. People have been telling me to shut the fuck up for 12 years and I never will and I never have because that's not my job.

I'm here. I have opinions. I have a voice. We're having a conversation. I'm going to say what the fuck I want and thank God I'm here. Yes. Thank you. You're here.

What? Can I just ask you though real quick because I think this is a little important information. You can't just throw out. that the guy was physical with you and not really explain like how because listen sometimes when there's physical abuse in a relationship you know you could get really twisted and not be able to leave that like how did you get out of that relationship when there were so much abuse um and how physically how was he physically abusive to you said mentally physically yes both um and like my i have a big group of friends because i work out uh like i can't quite say it doesn't matter

But you just have a lot of work, friends. Yeah, go on. Yes, a lot of girls, right? And we all knew. Like, I could only hide it for so long. Well, what was he doing to? Was he leaving marks? It was apparent.

Not visible where I could cover it with, like, my jeans or my shirt. But it was very dark, dark situation for me. And, you know, like, when you see a friend that's going through a heart time they're like um something's different about them then you know they your friends were sensing something wrong was going happening to you very like very very very depressed or not depressed but like I'm usually like happy and shining and yeah singing and yeah and that was I wasn't myself anymore and like my my fake name daddy what did you leave them like I I I've tried How long did you date him for?

A year and a half. Wow. Okay. And when did the abuse start? Because typically it starts like very slowly in the big, you know what I mean? They don't start right from the beginning. They got to get you to like them first. Yeah.

He, of course, if I would have known, I would have never. Of course. Let him meet my mom and my girls, right? It started, I want to say, close to a year. So we started dating in November. started by September. Okay, of the following year, right. So you're with them for a while, everything's fine.

You know, were there red flags to him being, like, physically abusive before that, that led up that you could talk about that maybe would help other people? He was an authoritative guy, but no red flags. Okay, right. And then one day what happened? What was the first thing? I didn't, I always have refused to have illness scale. and he's like, you should have one.

And I'm like, no, I'm not having. That's like it always started like him trying to tell me what to do until sometimes I would agree or sometimes I wouldn't. And I'm like, no, I'm not owning a scale. Like, I would know if I gained or lost weight the way my clothes fit. Period. In my 30-some years, I never have owned a scale. and I'm not starting and he got in the car and he started hitting me there so it all went down from there oh my god and then one day I was drinking wine with my friends and he's accusing me that I'm

sleeping with them that I'm doing all kinds of things with them and once to avoid another he was already abusing me but to avoid another situation when they knew I was home, then they called the cops. Okay. Or they called the cops before I got home. So it'll... Oh, so that you wouldn't go home to it. So I would...

So the cops will be there when he's there. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yes. And that's how he got away. Yeah, they would intervene. Okay. Yes. And that's eventually. And of course he said, I'm sorry a thousand times.

I'm like, it's not going to cut it. I'm done. Yeah. I've been done, but you just had to leave. one way or another and you couldn't leave on your own, well, the cops got to take you. Yeah. And he's been away. Yeah. Yeah. Thank God. Thank God. And you never went back and you got out of that relationship. Thank God. Because a lot of people get trapped in situations like that. And, you know, I watch enough dateline to know that, you know, like that could end very badly, any kind of situation,

you know, can escalate once it goes into that kind of territory, you know. Um, so it's always so important, especially with kids to get the fuck out. So you left that guy. Yeah. How do you wind up the lifestyle. And I'm like, well, Patty, I'm single again. And then after that, when you say, people look at me like I am poorless and defenseless. And I'm the total opposite of that. Yes, I have my flaws. Yes.

But racing two girls on my own by far. Luckily, you know, I make good money that I can support me and them. Mm-hmm. Amazing. But by far, I don't want to go home and take care of a whole person other than the girls. No, I know I'm a single mom. I always make jokes about how, because, you know, all my mom friends had guys. And they'd always be like, oh, I feel so bad, Kathy. Like, it must be so hard.

I'm like, I think it's actually easier. Yes. Yes, it is. People are like, oh, Patty, you need a girl who are, a man who's going to help you raise the girls. You need a man who's going to help you pay the bills. You need, and at the end of the day, there's pros and cons. I don't get to get laid every night, but I do come to home when the girls are not home. They go with their grandma. When the girls are not home, I come to peace and quiet. You know, if I want to make noise and put music and

dance on my own, that's different. But I, excuse me, I don't have to. come home and like service a guy who I made vows to because I get annoyed with, with men. So as much as I love sex, I'm like, okay, wow, bam, thank you, ma'am, we're done. But it sounds like you also like relationships too. I mean, all of these stories are guys that you dated. They weren't just like booty call. So you do like male companionship. Maybe you don't want to like live with them and maybe they'll be a guy eventually that is,

like everything for you. You know, it sounds like all these guys. They had some positive qualities. I mean, the last guy was just all negative, but some of these guys had positive qualities and negative's quality. You know, maybe one day when you meet the right person, you'll feel differently. But it doesn't sound like you just want to be totally solo because you do have relationships with these guys.

So you like to have like companionship. Well, somewhere in between I've had like booty calls. Yeah, because you like sex. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm just saying that, you know, you, you, you know, you, you, you, you, You have been going from like one, one and a half to your relationship. You had a 10-year relationship. I mean, you like relationships.

There's nothing wrong with that. Yeah, but the more I've dated them, I'm like, I can be alone and I think I'll be okay. Yes, you're right. It'll take the right man to, for me to say, okay, let's be committed, let's be a couple. it'll take just their right but I'm not how old are your kids by the way seven and eight yeah see this is another thing that I think a lot of people don't understand about like single moms a lot of the times I at least in this is the case for me maybe it's the same for you like my kids only 10 and I'm always like you know probably in about two years like there is going to be an age where he won't need

me like he needs me but he still does like really need me and I he is like my number one priority and I, you know, because I've always taken care of him and he's been that, like, I can't imagine taking a time away from him to be with somebody else and start a relationship right now. You know what I mean? I just don't feel that need, desire. I don't want to. And, but I will soon. You know what I mean? There will be that time. But I think it's like a lot of times, you know, single moms, we get so into taking care of our kids and it because it's all you, right? I have no one to help me. Like, you know, so. I just, and I'm, and I'm very fulfilled. You know, we're very fulfilled with our babies. You know, I don't feel, you know, you could get fucked and you have all that other stuff. So I got it, you know. So you, you know, your kids are still young. So you might feel differently. But how do you wind up with your daddy, Dom, and in the lifestyle, newbie. Okay. So after, let's call him, that's, that's his name. That's how all my girlfriends know him. So you're actually being very nice. Okay. Go on. Yeah.

I mean, that's not bad of a word. Okay, go on. Well, every now and then, they promote him to bitch by that stuff. Go on. Well, after him, I cheated on him, too. I cheated after he's done all these things. Then yes, the revenge cheating. And just cheating, just to forget that I have, I'm still involved with the A-hole.

I cheated like as much as I could. But anyway, I've cheated for those reasons before. That's a reason why people cheat sometimes, by the way. I did the same thing. Yeah. Just to feel like there's something about it that makes you feel not as stupid. Like, you know, it's like your own thing. It's not like against them.

It's like somehow it's like for your own sort of feeling of like, okay. Yeah, because you never found out. Yeah, yeah. It's like it was like for me, I was doing like the biggest piece of garbage that I shouldn't have been with and me cheating on him made me feel like, okay, I'm not like that much of a loser to be staying with him. Yes, exactly. Even though I was.

Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. It's definitely not the right thing to do. Go on. I started dating or sleeping with this other person. And we've had sex for hours all day. And eventually he's like, hey Patty, I want a threesome.

And I never. had you ever thought of something like that? I've always said yes, but I want two guys. These guys, even the A-hole, he wanted two girls. And I'm like, I am not getting involved with another girl just to pleasure you. It's not like you earn it. It's not like you deserve it. And I would tell him these things and make him feel like crap, which I don't care.

But I'm like, I'm like going to sleep with another girl just for you. Okay, but now this guy's bringing it up. This guy. He says it's a girl too. He wants a girl too? He wants two girls because he's never been with in any kind of three. So neither have I. Every time I bring it up, we always want this opposite.

So at 35 is when I started kind of being curious about women. And I started watching lesbian. being porn, like, oh, if I get with a girl, what, what in the hell am I going to do with her? I started watching, which is not the best educational stuff. I'm like, I'm not just going to look at her, right? Yeah. I have to do stuff to her. And obviously, any, when, at least us women, when we watch porn, we, in our mind, at least in my mind, I am the girl who's being played.

shirt. Right. So that's what I think is happening in my mind. So I'm like, okay, so I got to do this. But then we kind of drifted apart and that never happened. And he would never agree to him and another dude. And we can never, even when I tried to find us a third, their unicorn for a reason. Yeah, hard to find. Until at this time, by the time I started dating him in 2025, last year. I already started listening to your podcast for a while. And until it was January, until February, I'm like, I am going to go. I've been telling him, let's go to a sex club.

Let's go check it out. Wow. And he never wanted to do it until one night, I'm alone. I don't have the girls. And I'm like, you know what? I'm just going to drive to this. next town and I'm going to go on my own. Wow. And I come back. I try to get a room, but it was like after midnight. So the next chicken was not going to be until the next day.

And I'm like, you know what? I saw so much sex that I don't think I can sleep anyway. So I drove home. You need to tell us what the fuck happened. But when you walked into this. sex club by yourself or do you have a lot of experiences with this guy in a sex club and we should just go there I don't know I'm I met him off this happened in March we met the I met the dom in April okay so tell me what happened at that sex club you went by yourself okay so I I went no I went to the sex club February I went to the sex club February and oh my gosh at first I mean you start off oh my gosh and you weren't even going to tell us the deal details. Very. Thank you for asking because it's a lot to like disseminate, right?

I was like like a baby, deer in headlights. Are you new? And I'm like, yes, I am. Have you ever been to a sex club? It's like, no, it's the first time. And then they go over the rules. And then I get a tour. And so there is a dance, dance stage, like a dance area. area and there is a pole and like most sex clubs is bring your own alcohol they only have like juice and red bull and water at the bar and then there is an orgy room or not a room kind of like an orgy area and then there's private rooms and then on another section that was the last section of the tour there's like beds next to each other and you can close everything. That means nobody can come in and you can have them sheer that you can only look or you can have it open and it's like open invitation. You just have to ask for consent. And I went there by myself and I kept walking everywhere, right? Trying to feel the place. But because maybe I was shy or because I don't know anybody or people all.

were also shy and the ones who weren't shy were like not my type. I'm like, uh, nothing, nothing happened. If anything, I just watched, right? Yeah, what did you see? Oh, there were just couples going, having sex. But there was this like champion couple that they would have sex. All kinds of, yeah, all kinds of position. Yeah.

And like there was like the kind of sex I would want to do. Like there was like no inhibitions. Anything goes. No. I don't care if you're watching. I'm going to have fun no matter who's here or who's not. Other than that, they would last the typical 10, 15 minutes and then they will come and they will get dressed and maybe go again in an hour or so. And there was nobody in the orgy.

bed, at least not when I went, and I went on a Saturday. There was nobody in the orchard bed, and there were a few people, like, jerking off in the horn room. Okay. Did you get, like, were you horny for, like, were you visually stimulated? Like, was it hot for you to see people doing it in front of you? Because that's like a very big thing to sort of experience, you know, I wonder how you felt about it. And it was the, what people said, the atmosphere was very sexually charged. Yeah, I could imagine. Yeah.

But I wasn't driven to introduce myself, hey, I'm so-and-so, how are y'all doing tonight? Or are you all down for anything? Where are you looking? I wasn't, I wasn't driven to anybody. But yes, it was if I, and then I came home and I told the guy I was seeing, the time not the dumb like I was saying hey I did this hey what are you doing you're like a single girl you go there another town with no security like I asked you to come with me and you don't want to go so I'm going to go by myself yeah and then because he didn't want me to do this again

our communication was like okay it wasn't the greatest because he didn't I would get mad for things. But I always, eventually we would tell each other everything, right? So I said, I'm going to this party. It's in another town. And you can come with me if you want to or you cannot if you don't want to. It's up to you. So he agreed to come with me.

He said he moisturized twice. I'm assuming it's a sex party, right? Yes. Okay. He said he won't be, he, he, he, no no ashy dick is allowed I'm like okay sure okay

you gotta have a much stressed one and oh my gosh when we get there there's like people naked everywhere because I got there kind of late I was getting there after work and there's people naked everywhere but they weren't our vibes or our type

so nothing happened there okay and he said hey would you ever not bring me to one of these parties again? But I was curious. So in my town, there was a meet and greet, and that's where finally I met the daddy dom.

Oh, okay. So you didn't give up on the lifestyle. You were driven. You kept going in, going back. Because I know, like, I'm not the only person who lives horny 24-7. I can't be. Sexless. Can't we?

That's so sad if I was the only person who is like that 24-7. Wasting it. So I was a unicorn at this party. I think there were two of us. And it was like outdoors party. It was like at a bar. So nothing was happening. So I was a unicorn and the host offered me to get it.

get with them and I and I said sure you know I was already done for anything and I said sure and then I learned that two other couples had me lined up but then this this guy took me and he told me we we hit it off right and he said if you do decide to bottom for me um I would fuck to prove a point and And I'm like, what, what do you mean? Like, I never heard such a statement. And he said, I would fuck until you cannot move until you cannot remember what's your name or none of that. I'm like, oh, okay. And then he told, he explained before anything, he explained to me that he does bankings and he's into BDSM.

And if I was interested. And I said, yes. Because he's like, I need to know your limitations, what you're up to, what you don't like. And I told them, I was very honest, I've never done this, but I can find my limitations with you. And beforehand, he would show me all the tools he will spank me with. And after he would do such spankings, then he told me the things that I liked and the things that I didn't like and the things we would do. do again and the things I couldn't handle. So that's how I met him.

Okay. And you were, I mean, he's telling you these things, but you're agreeing to them, correct? Yes. Everything, he will not do anything if he doesn't hear yes or if the gray area is between now that we have talked about it. It's like, if I haven't done it, we can try it. and I can let you know if I like it or not. Did he wound up fucking you until you couldn't walk like he said he was going to?

There has been one time. The first time he spanked me, he had to carry me because I couldn't walk. Other times. So there you go. He proved himself. That was the first time right out of the game. Other times, other times we're too tired because, you know, we're both work. So we're too tired.

to like just have a long session. But yes, that first banking, I couldn't. I couldn't do. If my life depended on me, we will both die. Right. Oh, my gosh. But you realize once you started doing this kind of stuff with him, that you were very into it.

Yes. And that's also when my other partner, the other guy that went to the party. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. The other guy that went to the party with you. Yes, that's right. When he brought the threesome, I said yes, because let's try it. But that same mindset, if I was the other Patty that I was in the past and I said, no, I'm not into spankings. Don't do that. I would have never experienced what I have.

Right. So it made you realize, oh, maybe I should do the same with the threesome. Yes. Yes. Yes. And that makes sense. that's why I cannot. It's because like growing up, I was always a tomboy and I probably still am. But I was like never into women. And even I've seen women naked and I don't have that desire I should go fucker. Right. But I also have never been with one.

So when when that time comes, I would not be opposed to it as I was in the past. Is your daddy, Dom, open to doing a threesome with a guy, or is he not open to that either? When he has done it, he's told me he was a third. So he didn't have feelings for her. He was just enjoying her. But now, I am his primary, and he needs to, he needs time because he said, I wouldn't know how I feel when I see you with another dude. Yeah, that makes sense.

I guess that's fair. Yeah. Do you want, do you haven't done the three so with the girl, correct? Not yet, right? I haven't. We haven't found the right person. Even when I was with the other dude, the right girls. And I cannot imagine how couples do it because it's always either I'm too short or she's not tall or it's just never.

Yeah, it's hard. Wait, now if you're this guy's prime. Marion, he like really cares about you. Are you still seeing the other guy or are you guys like just together with each other at this point? The other day about two weeks ago, I was, we were always still in contact. But I was going to do him a favor because the girlfriend he has now, she can't, she does, she gets her thing out of him, like she gets her pleasure and she doesn't finish with him.

I'm like, okay, I'll fuck you out of need, but, and I was honest with both of them. You both know that I'm seeing both of you at the same time. And the dog was like, well, do you have feelings for this? Is this a one-off? Because we stopped wearing condoms. Is this a one-off? And I don't know how I feel about it. And I'm like, well, it's not like you never not know.

you knew about him since day one. I just didn't continue to do anything with him because he gets attached easy. So things ended with him then about two weeks ago because he said that the vibe was off. I'm like, you know what? If it's going to end and then let us let it just, let's just end it.

Right. And that other guy is happy about that? Yes. Right. Yes. As long, I think if anything, he doesn't mind so much because it's not like he had to find out. I told him. Right. But as long as our communication is always clear and transparent, I think we're both fine. Right. And so do you really like this guy, this new guy?

Could he maybe be like a one that has it all for you? Again, I don't know if I would consider anything serious at this. this point. Not until I figure out like I'm in school and I think I would like to finish that first and maybe when my girls are I don't know 14 15. Yeah I totally talked about that already. I totally got it. Yeah. It's not the right time for something serious. But you finally met someone fun right. That's like down to take this neck because it feels like you stepped into a whole new world right. You get getting involved in the lifestyle and being curious. and opening your mind up to all these things.

And you found a perfect guy to do it with, right? Yes. And the hour thing or his thing would always be, as long as you're safe, you're always going to be safe with me. So if it's something you want to do, we can try it. Right. Okay, check. That's amazing.

So what's on your list to try? or what have you tried if you haven't brought it up yet? We kind of gave each other a fuck it list and we have yet to fuck outside but it's like all about timing. Yeah. He did take me to the sex club local because he spent another girl in front of me.

How was that for you? it was it was interesting to see because the playlist was he uses playlist like um like kind of slow sensual music with me with her it was like off it was like different music like not sexual for him that was just a job right um when he spanks me he has a kind of long nails not that long but like long enough that when he grabs me I could feel it so he grabs her

like that but he doesn't like nibble like by her he didn't he didn't like that close contact he doesn't do right um he didn't barely if he did it

hold her hair once if he did it. He would pull my hair five times in a spanking. Right. He wasn't like, he was like, this is just like a chore. When it's with me, it's a pleasure, give and take. Mm-hmm. Yeah, it's a totally different thing. Yeah. So it was different to see what he does, like from the third person, but the vibe was not the same. Right. Interesting. So what is the, the craziest thing on your fucket list before we go. The craziest thing on my fucket list. Eventually, if that happens,

I want us, me and him, become part of an orgy. Okay, okay. It's like a free-for-all. Yes, but we all have to know each other. Or maybe if we don't, if we go somewhere else, because there is a trip to Atlanta,

if we don't know people, we just have to make sure we wear condoms. Yeah. And he might be down for it. Wow. Listen, you've come a long way. You kind of had like, you know, each of your guy was different. Very, you've had all kinds of experiences with all kinds of guys. You're definitely a curious person and open to trying all kinds of things because

you have been open to all kinds of guys and experiences. And you've made it through all. all of them, the good, the bad and the ugly, we ended with good, which I like. Okay, the bad and the ugly was before the good, which is good. We didn't want to end on an ugly bad note. You know what I mean? So it's super. I am glad. Yeah, it's super interesting. And I'm so glad that you found my show and called into my show. Now, you do know that if you want to send like hot picks, like rated R picks, though, for Patreon, you can. You're going to get into my Discord. Okay. When we hang up, you'll get the link there. You'll love my Discord. It's a whole community on

there. You might have fun over there if you want. want. It's, uh, it's very open and a lot of people over there. And then, um, I will get you free access to my Patreon when your episode goes up so you could see the comments. Awesome. Thank you. No, thank you. I'm so glad that you called them. We call you Patty or Patricia. What should I call you? Patty or Patricia? Because you kept saying Patty on this call. I'm like, oh. Oh, because I thought I put Patty. Patty's fine. Okay. I like Patty. Okay. I'm going to call you Patty. That'll be in the title, Patty. But thanks for calling in. This was so much, it was super fun. I think it's such a like an interesting sort of insight into a girl's brain. And then you got the lifestyle. We end with all the lifestyle stuff.

That's like typically what we're talking about on my show. So it was like a very well-rounded episode. So thanks so much for calling it and sharing your story. Thank you. And one more thing, guys, talk to your wives. Ask her what makes her happy. And you can tell her what makes you happy. And that will be a good segue to a better relationship. Yeah, guys don't understand how much girls love to talk. We're never going to not be into talking. Do you know what I mean? I think the problem as guys don't want to talk, they don't understand. But girls love it. And it really is the key to completely changing the game as communication and talking, right?

Being open. We're kind of, I know I shied out when it was about six. So just ask her stuff, do you want to do this? Do you want to do that? And make it non-judgmental. And you will have a better girlfriend, wife, whatever. Right, because you never know. Look, half of your guy had no idea you had all this freak inside of you.

Yes. If only they asked. If only they knew what I do now. Yeah, they would have been like, fuck, why didn't I ask her to go to a sex club? Fuck, why didn't I ask her to bite her? Shawl that you're into. They didn't have any idea because they didn't talk. So I love that end note.

I love ending on that. Thanks, you're so fucking funny. Thanks, Patty. Thanks so much for calling in this. This was super fun talking about. Have a good one. You too. Love your show.

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