Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 1609 - JW Is a Dominant Sadist, a BBDSM Educator & Bull for Couples

Episode Date: October 2, 2026

JW is a dominant sadist, BDSM educator and bull for couples and he called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including when he realized he was into BDSM, how he was outed to his boss and how his boss reacted, when he started swinging while he was married, the couples he and his wife started swapping with and how one woman helped awaken his dominant side, the married woman he became a bull for and how they would cuck her husband at adult theaters, how that evolved into him controlling things both inside and outside the bedroom, how their BDSM relationship progressed and what would go down during their hookups, how that led to him hooking up with more couples and getting more into domming the wives, how he became big on FetLife and how he meets people there, the couple he randomly met at Planet Fitness and exactly what went down with them, the busty redhead he met on FetLife and what goes down when they hook up, the BDSM parties he attends and what he does while he’s there, the different BDSM toys he uses and how each one feels different, how and why he enjoys educating people about BDSM and where he does it, how he got into doing humiliation customs, the watersports experiences he had with the coworker he was hooking up with, plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠    To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[e-mail]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beduc.at/pd2634-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized SUMMER roadmap to sexual happiness ⁠⁠http://DipseaStories.com/STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Get first week FREE then 25% off ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Loadboost.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- To get 10% off LOAD BOOST by VB Health, use code: STRICTLY   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Buy 2 months of Bluechew GOLD and get the third month FREE! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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or just go to the description and click on the link. Okay, today I have on J.W. J.W.'s hardcore. And, you know, he said that, you know, someplace in the middle of that episode. I've been listening to your show for many years. I'm like, and you had this whole story and you haven't called in.

He's a dominant sadist. He's very into BDSM. He's also a bull for couples. He's been a bull for couples. He was in the lifestyle with his wife, and he talks all about it. I mean, he started off, in the lifestyle with his wife, sort of accidentally.

I actually just started off having three things with women because his wife wanted to, and it kind of led them to doing other things with couples and stuff. And then once he got divorced, he continued on and he wound up in situations where he was a bull for couples. And then, you know, one of the couples was like a hardcore, submissive woman that was married to like a, like a sissy cuckled crossdresser. And he like started doming her. in front of him. And he talks about that whole experience

and how that kind of like evolved over time to that he found out that that's who her husband was and then where he was having sex with her and what she was into. And she was the one that really got him into BDSM. She was the one that wanted to be submissive and for him to be dominant and for him to inflict pain on her.

She was into that. He realized he was into it when he was first started doing that to her. And then, you know, he's never looked back. He's very involved in the, the lifestyle. He went on to Fat Life. He met other couples. He talks about those experiences. He goes to parties. He does roundtables. He's on TikTok educating people about BDSM. He's very into

floggers and all the toys that he uses. He's going to come back on and we're going to talk about the toys. But he's got a super interesting story. All of his links will be in the description. But I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with JW. anonymous podcast. Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Hey, J.W., welcome to the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. How are you today? I'm doing great. Listen, you're J.W. 1, 2,3 on FetLife, your what's your safe word on TikTok? You're a, your heart.

And also, what's your safe word on XM too? Oh, okay, cool. That's good to know. We'll have your links in the description so people good check you have, but we're going to get your story. I mean, you're pretty hardcore, right? But you're also like an educator on the topic. You live a very interesting life yourself, but you also help others, right? You know, and you talk on BDSM and you get specific on like who you are and what you do. And then we're going to go all the way back to your whole story. You do like you educate people on impact play, right? And you also are a content. Yeah. And you're also a bull to couples. Yes, I'm not a content creator yet. Oh, well, you do do some customs, though.

Oh, yes, I do some customs, but that's for personal stuff. Not for... That's just for fun. Yes. Interesting. Okay, we'll get to that because it's like pissing and humiliation stuff. And, you know, you have people contacting you from all over the world for that stuff, right? For those customs, that kind of engagement.

Okay, cool. So listen. I am also, also, I am also now a toy, a BDSM toy influencer, and I will also test those out too. Oh, I love that. For some custom people. Like male toys, male sex toys? No, for BDSM, like floggers. Oh, I love that.

That's even more specific. Nine tails. Oh, okay. Maybe one day we do just a whole episode on BDS, like a toy. review, you know what I mean? You have affiliates and stuff? Yeah, you could do it. Okay, great. But I want to get your story because you're so interesting to me. Let's get it like a snapshot of who you are now and, you know, are you in a relationship? Are you a married guy? Around how old are you? I'm 47 years old, almost 48. Probably when I say I'll be

48. I am not married. I was married at one point. We were swingers from 2010, 2018. Wow. Okay, we'll get that story. And I am a bull for couples. I am, and I have a couple of friends with benefits. So some of them are little, some of them are brats, some of them are impact bottoms. I also go to some parties, and I do BDSM at the parties. And I also go to some dungeons and do BDSM at the dungeons, too. Okay, you are a dominant sadist, and explain exactly what that means.

So that means I actually get turned on by giving pain pleasure to whoever I'm with. Yeah. And just do me a favor for the very vanilla people listening, because a lot of times people jump to conclusions that, oh, my God, somebody that wants to, like, give someone else pain or gets pleasure out of seeing someone else in pain is like a sick, fuck, you know what I mean? But like, explain the difference. You know what I'm saying? Okay. First thing is it's consensual. Right. They ask for it. They want it. They desire it. It's something that helps them reach their orgasm, reach their desire. It makes them feel good. Right. It's their pleasure. It's their pleasure. That's their pleasure. Just like that's your pleasure. pleasure, that's what their pleasure is, and therefore you guys make a perfect match. I mean,

there's someone for everybody, right? Like, that's the whole point. Correct. And for you, this is only like in your, in that part of your life, right? Like there's a distinction. It's just for pleasure, right? It's just when you're a rest. Right. Very correct. I have a normal nine, I have a normal job. Yeah. I'm a blue collar worker. I'm a dad. Yeah. I was married at one point for 17 years. Yeah. So I'm a real person that, regular person that goes to the grocery store, goes to the gym. I deliver construction material to construction sites.

Right. But let me ask you this bit. And then we're going to get back to your story. Like, because you did say, like, I don't need to change my voice. You're all over the internet and stuff. Like, do people in your regular life know who you are? Like, or is this some, is this a secret life? Not exactly.

Yeah. So unfortunately in the past year, somebody on FetLife in the community wanted to be spiteful and actually came out to my boss. They found out who I worked for. Oh, my God. And they actually came to my boss and they out at me. My boss and I had a weird conversation. But he literally said, is this separate? And I said, yes.

Yeah. there you go. You must be a good worker because he was like, he doesn't want to lose you as a person just over this shit. You know what I'm saying? Because like. Correct. And I promised him that I would never use the company. I would never take pictures with a company uniform.

I would not do it on the clock. Yeah. Anything that has anything with the company's logo on it would not be affiliated with me. Okay. That was cool. It's unfortunate when you do get like to be bigger on. line, you know, you are subject to crazy people like that. They call them trolls. And some of them just are actually crazy. You know what I mean? And they do threaten. I've gotten threats like that.

I know other people have. I mean, it's, it's, it's really sex shit, you know? But like you're the did, but so you did swing with your ex-wife. Before her, were you in the lifestyle? Or is that when you entered into the lifestyle when you met her? Basically, when I, when we start swinging. Okay. So we had been married for a while, had a kid, and she had, we had actually met in college. We went to the same college. We never dated in college, but we had met. And she came out while we were having sex, right after we were having sex. She was saying, hey, I would like to continue.

So she's playing with herself while we had just had sex. So we're laying right next to each other naked. she's playing with herself and saying that her deepest want is to be with a woman and she never has. And I said to her, okay, describe the type of woman you want to be with. What would she do to you? And, of course, we had done this for a while for a couple months. Then she had a friend that was bisexual, just got a relationship. And we invited her over and drinking got involved and we ended up having a threesome that night.

And so that started that and we continued on. I told her I would not deny her that type of pleasure. If she wanted to be with a woman, let's do it. Yeah. Okay. So it started with that. Go on. It started with threesome.

And then we had, went on vacation and there was a couple and she was really, really attracted to that woman. And having the guy involved, you know, you would have to have the husband involved. They didn't want to do any cheating or any breaking up. So we decided to invite the guy over. The two, that was I saw, that was the first time we ever soft swapped. Mm-hmm. So we soft-swapped.

and the two women and then the guys joined in, but we didn't trade partners at that time. Right. So we eventually had another, we eventually had another threesome with another woman, and she wanted it rough. Oh, okay, is this going to be where your BDSM king comes in? Yes.

Okay, go on. So she wanted choking, she wanted her ass lap, she wanted hair pulling, and I enjoyed it, she enjoyed it, the ex enjoyed it, and from now on, from there on, every time we had a woman over or a couple over, we would, I would always be rougher, be more aggressive with hand slapping, with choking, hair pulling, that kind of stuff, including, and, being very rough with their nipples, being very rough with their pussy. So it wasn't like I was being gent... I wasn't making love to them. I was only making love to my wife.

When we had other people join us, I was being rough. Did you get rougher because they wanted it? Or because you were like realizing that that's what you wanted and you were like enjoying it? Both. Okay, cool. Right. So they, of course, pushed you. You didn't do it non-consensually.

You became rougher. But once they push you to do it rougher, you realize like, oh, like this is like I dig this. Exactly. The bell went off. Yeah, yeah, interesting. Mm-hmm. Visit BetMDMDM casino and check out the newest exclusive. The Price is Right Fortune Pick.

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who I thought was just hot-wifing. But you knew that term at that point. and you knew about this stuff because you were in the lifestyle, right? And you had been swapping with couples and everything throughout that all time. Okay. And let me back up a little bit. So both of us are Gen Xers, which is obvious. Before the internet, before the like shows like yours and some other things like my TikTok or Fat Life,

we didn't have this education. I know, I know. We had either a love line that came on on Saturday nights. Or we had dad's penthouses that was downstairs in the basement or in the attic or Playboys. And that was 90% of our education. Yeah. So that's a wonderful thing that we have shows like yours or TikTok like mine that actually has some kind of education. So with that being said, I knew what the terms were.

I knew what some things were. But I didn't know all the terms, all the terms. all the stuff that happens. Yeah, of course, right. But you're down, right? Now I know everything. No, no, no. But now I mean in this part of the story

when the couple comes to you and they want you to join them. No, it was a coworker. Oh, right? Right, but she's a part of a couple, right? She was part of a couple, yes. Right, right. And you're thinking she, you know,

she's coming to you proposing like a hot wife scenario. Like my guy likes to see me fuck other guys. Right. Or she actually was I want to do this. Then I want to come home to him. Tell him about it. Right.

And then we'll have hot sex. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. So he's a little bit of a cock, maybe. And no, he was a full-fledged cross-dressing sissy cock. Yeah. So really extreme. He was really extreme.

And I didn't know about this until after we, within a couple months. in. But this was a year-long thing that happened. We had meet up at, there was adult theater that was, that's about 15 minutes away from where we work at. We would hook up there. We would hook up in the theater, in the viewing booths. We have other people watch us in the theater. We would have, sometimes there would be other women in the theater. And we would have, we would, I would join them, the other women, and then she would just press her tits against me or rub my nipples or kiss my neck while this was happening. And eventually there was this cross-stresser that was always in the adult theater at the

same time as us. I found out that eventually became. That wait, so she didn't tell you my husband's back there watching us, right? But it turned out that that person, the cross-dresser guy, was her. her husband there that whole time. Correct. Interesting. Did that freak, like, did that piss you off or did you not give a shit? Like, I wonder.

I didn't give a shit. Yeah. Yeah. It wasn't cheating. No, no, no, no. I mean, like, did you, were you pissed that they didn't put you in the know that he was there watching? That's all I'm saying.

No, because he wasn't touching me. Right. Okay, cool. So you, so the only thing that would have bothered you if, you know, there was like anything non-consensual going, but you didn't care that you were like sort of kept in the dark. Some people might, and I don't know why. I was just wondering.

Correct. That, I knew that I was helping out the relationship. Yeah. And I also was helping her out and doing stuff that because I was the exact opposite of him. So that elevated, that, I mean, that skyrocketed where I was controlling her at points where I was controlling her bathroom. I was controlling. Oh, what does that mean? so I would make her hold her piss so that when she did piss it was she had a rubber pussy while doing it so it was a sexual thing

became more of a sexual thing than actually just going to the bathroom right interesting and did you come up with that or did she come up with that I actually did okay now at this point are you coming up with shit like that because you're like getting like your dee like you're you're doing a deep dive into BDSM and you're into it? Or like, how do you even think of that? I was deep diving into control. Okay, right. So that's, so you were looking into it, right? Yes.

Mm-hmm. Okay, cool. Because there is that whole mental mind fuck part of BDSM, right? If you're really going to dom someone and stuff, it's not just the act itself, right? It's all this other stuff. Right. Mm-hmm. And that's what you learned.

Right. It's like they're asking, hey, I want to have an orgasm, but, you know, I'm not there with you right now. I'm at home. I'm really horny. Is it okay if I play with myself? Yeah. Instead of them saying, instead of them just coming out and just playing with themselves behind closed doors. Yeah.

And sometimes they would videotape themselves on getting advanced into other relationships. but there was times where people would videota themselves and send me the, you know, the video. Right. So at this point, it's more than just her? At that particular year, it was just her. Okay. So let's stick with that. So you start really getting into controlling her even when she's not with you.

Correct. Mm-hmm. Okay. At one point, I was controlling their sex life, too. I would deny him having sex with her till her period was till certain periods of time was over with Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Okay.

So he would go a week without, they would go a week without having sex or two weeks without having sex until I felt like it was their time. It's super interesting because it sounds like this is a couple and they're both kind of sub-y, right? Yes. Yeah. So she needed someone else because her husband was a sub, Benhisa and he wanted someone to dom him and she was like, you know what I mean?

Like it's like they needed a third person. They were both subs. Yeah, totally. Yeah. So they needed to bring someone else in. Right. And I love doing that for other people up to this day. I still do it and I really do enjoy it.

Yeah. Right. And that was your first experience and that's when you realize you really enjoy it. You get off on it yourself. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Interesting.

Right. So you have this whole relationship with them. How does it branch out to so much more? So I was also doing stuff like choking, hair pulling, spanking. I had started picking up, we would have sex in construction sites sometimes with that coworker. And I would pick up a, you know, a board that was just laying around and spank her with it. Mm-hmm. and like almost a paddle.

And I liked it. Or I would take a paintbrushster. And I was used that as a paddle and spank her with it. Mm-hmm. And she had liked it. I was saying, can I have some more? Or please, please. And I'm like, let's go.

Right. Yeah. Yeah, you're right there with her. You guys are on the same page. Yes. So that helped a lot with that coworker. But like I said, the ding went off, the bell went off. And then it branched off to me joining couples or me joining women that was like,

I want to be spanged. I want to be flogged. I had never picked up a flogger before five years ago. I had never picked up a flogger. Oh, so this is kind of recent. Yes. Interesting. Okay.

I never picked up a flogger or nine tail until right before COVID. So that thing stopped where they had moved away. That particular couple had moved away. And I joined another couple. He was into watching his wife, or I think it was his fiancé at the time. with another guy and she had begged him for ever to spank her to do that kind of stuff he would never do it he's like i don't want to hurt you so i ended up joining them and that was another amazing time where i joined this couple and it was I had spanked her.

I had had really rough sex with her. Stuff he would not do because he was more making love to her. Yeah. I know some people like that just can't go there with their, you know, primary partner because they feel bad, right? It's just not in them. Yes. So then it branched off.

And then I had stopped for a while because the ex-wife had developed cancer. So I had stopped. At this point, you're still with her or you were with her, but because she's your children's mother, you're still involved with her. Right. Okay. Correct. And I'm still involved and I share custody with her parents. Right, right.

Okay. Mm-hmm. So, yeah, she had gotten sick. I actually still had feelings for her. Mm-hmm. So, and at one point, I told her if you beat this disease, if you beat cancer, I will remarry you. Oh, wow. So, unfortunately, she had gotten sick.

It was a two-year battle of cancer. Unfortunately, she passed away. Oh, no. Really? That's so sad. Yes. Because she must have been so young. Yes.

She was in her 40s, so yes. Oh, my God. Terrible. Okay. Yes. Okay, so then, of course, I'm on fat life because of you. Oh, my God. Is that a good thing?

Are you thanking me? I have started my pet life account because I was, I'm a listener of your, of your show. Yeah. I also bought your book too. Oh, I love that. You know, when people like you, you know, are finally on my show, you have this whole fucking life. That's so interesting.

What took you so long to come on the show? That's what my first thought is like, oh my God, you've been listening all this time, you know, as such a loyal listener, but oh, my God, listen to your shit. You should have called in two years ago. Yeah, sure. Yeah. Anyway, go on. Okay, so get back to FetLife, because you became big over there.

Yes, I've got, I'm one of the top men that is not married to a mattress actress. Oh, my God, I was, I laughed when I saw that. I'm like, what's a mattress actress, but I think I know. What I'll explain it. Yeah, because they're, they use that term too. Yeah. Only fans, people on who are actually doing full-fledged sex, sex work or whatever. want to call it videotaping themselves and making money monetizing office.

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With that, with that, so yes, I became a listener of viewers, and I actually had joined Fat Life in 2022, and because I heard you talk about it. I learned about it from my show, too. So with that, I have actually hooked up with several, since I've been on Fat Life, almost all of my stuff has been exclusively through Fat Life. Right. Okay, cool. And on there, who do you use? put yourself out as like the sadist a dominant sadist like what's your you know how do you pitch yourself

I'm a dominant sadist and I'm also a hedonness a what a hedonness or whatever you want Oh a heathiness yeah yeah okay okay cool You're down for sex I'm down for sex I'm down for giving me the pleasure you need

Yeah That you desire let's say It might not be spank It might be I just want it rough And hard and fast And I don't want to be made love to. Or I want it hard and rough. Or I want a guy who will do stuff that maybe their partner won't do.

Yeah. So. And did you, when you first got on to Fet Life, like, what happened? Did you immediately get a lot of people contacting you? No. Okay. Interesting. So you grew over time then.

Yes. Mm-hmm. I contacted it. One of, he is a mattress actor and a producer of OnlyFans and some other stuff. And Sergeant, he calls himself Sergeant Miles. Mm-hmm. And he's a porn, he's been in the porn business for a long time. He had contacted me and said, what you need to do is send out all the firm requests you can.

Okay, that's interesting. Just bomb people of firm requests. He said, and then once somebody will say, hey, you're a friend with somebody, you know, we have this many friends in common. Maybe I'll become your friend or maybe I'll talk to you or maybe I'll start seeing your stuff in my feed. Okay. So that's how I grew up really.

That's how I almost blew up. Right. Interesting. I'm assuming because you still sort of say you're a bull to couples, is that still as well? Like is that also on your profile? Or are you just still doing that because of word of mouth? Yes, that is on my profile. Mm-hmm.

Okay, cool. I would say there was one, two times that it wasn't. And the funny part is both of them roll around playing fitness because I do work out playing fitness. Yeah. No way. And two of them were because of it. But yes, it was a couple that was.

a couple that was just visiting relatives and they could feel, I guess they could feel the dominant energy coming off me. Also, I do a ton of cable crossovers in the gym. And that's basically the form

you would use if you're spending somebody. Oh, interesting. So they see you doing that and they come over and talk to you? Yes, it has got me in trouble. Oh my God, that must be insider like information that some people know, like you know if you know, but I would never know. I've seen plenty of people doing that at the gym and never put that together.

Well, I've got dominant energy and then they see me doing that. They're like, oh, crap, they're thinking. How do you wind up in bed with those guys, that couple? Yes. So, most recent couple they were here for, it was last year, right around Thanksgiving, and they were here visiting relatives. And I had actually walked in on him. It was November. And he was adjusting his cage in the fucking locker room. Oh, interesting.

So I went in there to use the bathroom. I really had to use the bathroom. And I walked in there and, and after, I walk out and washing my hands, I see this guy behind me adjusting his cage. He goes, do you know anything about that? I said, I've never won one, but I do know a few people that have, and you might want to use, like, baby powder or a liquid two powder like happy nuts or something of that that would make it a little bit easier. It's interesting, though, that he sort of asked you that question. He must have, you know,

that's like fishing for to see if you're like you know in the lifestyle don't you think yeah but i kind of could tell because they were she was kind of wondering eye and i don't know if it was on purpose or not but she had a pineapple necklace oh that is on purpose come on yeah i don't know if she was upside down on purpose yeah but still yeah that's that yeah i mean but literally Listen, the fact that he's like reaching out to a total stranger and saying that you're, you know, they smelled you from a mile away. They knew you were like they're people. You know what I'm saying? Yes.

Mm-hmm. So we came over. We talked. And she came over while I was doing cable crossovers. And we had flirted back and forth really heavily. Right. And so we're flirting, talking. And she said, hey, would you like to come back?

for drinks. I'm like, well, let me go home. I live five minutes away. Let me go shower. No, you can shower our place. Oh, wow. Yeah. So that story is actually all my fat life. Were they hot? Wait, how hot are they? They were hot. Trust me. Yeah. Yeah. She was good looking. He was, I'm not attracted to guys. Yeah. So he was, to me, he was just, of guys to Jim Rayleigh and that kind of stuff. I don't know how, what Rainey would put him at. But she was good looking.

Right. Okay, cool. So we go back, take a shower. We're making out and doing it, following each other in the shower. And then he's just sitting in the little chair they provide, just saying that the little office chair or whatever. And he's just staying there with a big ass going on his face. and we decided to tie him up.

Oh, wow. With the bed sheet. And we tied him up and we would, we basically had sex on the bed like right up against him, where he was right up against the bed and we were having sex on the bed on the edge of the bed where he could, she at times would touch him. Mm-hmm.

And then we had. actually ended up the second time, the second round, when I bent her over and over his lap and was taking her doggy style. And he's bent over his lap. Yeah. Oh, okay. He's tied to the chair. Yeah, yeah.

He's in the cuck chair. Yeah, so he's tied to it. And he's caged, right? Yes, he's caged. There's no nut in a lumber. Yeah. Oh, my God. And do you get off on the whole fact that, like, you know, this is, you know, there's all these players in this scenario, you know, not just that you're, you know, banging a hot check, but that her husband is there being denied.

Yes. And she won't even have to be hot. Uh-huh. That's very honest of you. She would just be average looking. Uh-huh. And I mean, she was a gym rat. She looked like she spent some good amount of time in the gym.

Yeah. So, but he, it doesn't have to be. I mean, if you're into this and if you're into getting spanked and getting clogged and that kind of bondage, and I find your personality more attractive than you, that even heightens the thing. Yeah, that's interesting. So it's more about the scenario and the, right, than someone's looks that turns you on, right? Like that, you're more turned on by like the act of it and everything that you don't, you're not, you don't care about the body type or the per like how she, what her face looks like. Well, yeah, as long as the woman, yes.

Right. Yeah. Well, yeah, exactly. I'm not into guys. Totally. Okay. So with that being said, there was in 2024, um, after the wife died, the former wife died. I actually joined this woman.

She had just, her husband had just left her for a guy. Mm-hmm. Now, this is a very busty redhead, cute, and she got, her husband got with some other little short, small guy. And if she was looking, she had contacted me on Fet.

She had asked me, I want to be spanked. I want my pussy eight and I want to be fucked and I don't want to be made love to. Right. No problem. When do you want to do this? So we end up actually hooking up at New Year's Eve, 2024. Where was it?

In Columbia, South Carolina. No, but I mean at our house or at a club or at a dungeon? Like, you know, where is this going to take place? No, at a hotel. At a hotel. Okay, cool. and we had met up with the hotel and we still to this day, every couple months, we still hook up. Right. And what is she into?

She is into getting spanked, getting blindfolded. She does want to be pushed up against the wall, choked, hands above her head, made out, giving head, getting her. getting on pussy ate anything but anal basically. Okay. And she was, we hook up to this day, and you had asked me about other relationships. There is currently three relationships going on. Yeah, yeah. Tell me about them.

One is she is a brat or a middle, and she is a heavy impact bottom. Okay, what's a middle and a brat, like explain two? Okay, so a brat in a middle is basically a submissive that likes to talk back and likes to be playful. They want to be spain to manhandle, but don't want to ask for it. Don't want to just fly out ass for it. So they'll push your buttons or play with you. There's a push-pool kind of thing where she's still a submissive. She still wants to be manhand.

and older, Spain for chose, but she won't ask for it. So do the playing with that. And that's how most minerals are too. Right. And she is a heavy impact bottom where she could take uplogging for two hours

and not safe word till she had to use the bathroom. I mean, she, there's pictures and videos on my fat life. Unfortunately, I can't post that stuff. on TikTok, but there's also some other stuff that we do with. We do hook up at parties and at hotels too.

Let's get to like the dungeons and the parties that you go to. So the most recent one was the party I was just at. It was a BDSM party where I was actually going there with my, the brat. it was close by to her house and we were going to go there and I get contacted by the host of the party and got asked if you know are you bringing your implements with you and I said yes yeah so you are bring your toy bring your toy bag with you and come on if you don't mind doing it or being the impact top of this particular party and I said it was the first time I've ever been with this group Yeah.

So I said no problem. So for five hours, I was either talking about it or doing stuff about BDSM. So I was flogging, paddling, nine-tailing, cropping people for almost five hours. Oh, my God. As well as talking about it is what you're saying. Yes. We had talked about it. There was other people that were into white.

watching and they just wanted to watch. They just wanted more information. There was one lady looked off cute and innocent in her early 20s. And I said, I talked, first thing I do is ask her, is this what you want? Yeah. Yes. I'm using a red light system. Do you need me to review it?

No, I know it. Okay. Which one would you like me to use? and of course I had the toys laid out from thumpy or thuddy which would be the paddles to the stingy which would be the belt the nine tails the crop laid out with the floggers in between and she had picked up a mob flogger that had a metal handle and the flogger part was actually attached it's glued and screwed on in the inside so while I was flogging her she kept saying green green green which means keep going more I want more red means stop

yellow means slow down or change okay so that's the red light system when I say that and she kept saying that all of a sudden the foger comes apart oh no broke yeah broke so that I looked at her and said would you like to try something else and she She said yes. So I grabbed the nine tail and 20 times she finally said red. And then she went into, there was a guy doing single tail and whipping in another section. And she looked at them and went, can you go harder? Right.

So it's this, you could be, you know, it doesn't matter what type of body you are. are, what age you are, is what you enjoy. Some people want two spanks with a paddle and they're done. Some like this young lady want it to go forever. And the impact bomb that I have, the brat that I have, she could go on with flogging forever. Right. Visit BetMGM Casino and check out the newest exclusive. The Price is Right Fortune Pick. BetMDM and Game Sense remind you to play responsibly, 19 plus to wager. Ontario only. Please play If you have questions or concerns about your gambling or someone close to you, please contact connects Ontario at 1-866-531-2,600 to speak to an advisor, free of charge.

BetMGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with Eye Gaming, Ontario. Do you have, because they're more on the receiving end, but you as the giver of the, you know, the pain, do you have a preference? I know a lot of times the sub does, right? Like they prefer stinging over thuddy or whatever. Like, do you also have a preference for stuff like that? Or do you just prefer whatever they prefer because your pleasure is kind of their pleasure? My pleasure comes off their pleasure.

Right. So you're like all of it turns you on, right? It's just dependent on what specific thing they enjoy, right? Right. And let me say this out loud. And some people might get upset about what I say saying this. Okay. But the submissive has actually more control than because they're the one who chooses, who does this to them.

They choose how much or the limits are. And they also choose what they want done. So the dominant or the pain pleasure giver or the pleasure dom or the impact top adjust to them. Mm-hmm. And that's how it should be. Yeah. Yeah, and that's so true. I've heard it before.

Right. And like nine and a half, 50 shades of gray. Yeah. Is not the manual. Yeah. But so many people thought it was. Right. There are so many other things.

There is no manual to this. Mm-hmm. Yeah. It is what you enjoy, what you like, and a lot of times the dominant will adjust to them. And that's how it should be. And now, because you're like in, you know, at this place in front of people and you're doing this for five hours and you're talking to people, is that when you start to realize you also like sort of educating people and having people listen to you about it, not just actually, you know, doing, you know, being involved in it physically? Correct. I love hearing from people that talk to me.

I get feedback from TikTok and from Fat Life all the time. Or there was a couple that was just watching. They actually never participated. And they just watched the whole entire time. Right. And we get feedback. That particular couple has contacted both me and her and have said that we are actually starting to use this in our life. Yeah.

Yeah. So it's, I love hearing feedback. I love saying, hey, you helped us out. I just had the, we just had the best sex ever in 10 years of marriage or five years of our relationship. We just had great, incredible sex. And I love hearing that too, because I helped them. Right. So you, and that's why you started like your TikTok and everything after you were on fat life after you were on fat life. And that's what you do over there. Yes. That's what I do. TikTok is purely educational. Right. And you enjoy that too. Yeah. Yes. And in fact, the reason why I started it was I actually had a friend and she had told me you have such an interesting time. Why don't you branch out? Why are you just on fat? Branch out. Yeah. Write a book. And she also said, you help me because she's in a real. relationship, a D.S. relationship, and dominant submission, well, it was dominant brat relationship.

And I'd help her and him out. So she was like, hey, why don't you help out more people branch out into like some of the other social medias? Right. That's why I started the TikTok and that's why I started writing the book. And how did you get into doing customs? A person said that they would pay for my subscription on Fat Life or their support on Fat Life if I send him a video of me peeing on something.

Oh, interesting. Right. So it just was like, yeah. He was into water sports. I peed on stuff and I'm not going to get, I don't get too far into it, but it's basically that if I will find something, let's say they want something

for me to pee on, a picture of an ex-girlfriend, ex-boyfriend, I will pee on it for them. Or let's say they hate a personal music or they hate a certain movie. Yeah. I will take a picture of it and peeing on it. And so that led to more people asking you. Yes.

Was it because you let it be known that you were into this? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I mean, there's pictures of me. peeing on Fet Life and writings about it

and like I said with the co-worker I had we actually had done water sports right because let's okay so where we're at

where the job is the main warehouse slash truck yard slash office is is an essential location of North Charleston so there's

10 minutes one way, there's a adult theater, 10 minutes the other way, there's a truck stop. So we would go to the truck stop and use the showers at the truck stop. Oh, wow, okay. And do water sports in there. I would pee on her a lot.

And there's other people that I have peed on, couples that I have peed on, individuals that have peed on. That is not something that that's again going on their consent on what they want i actually it's because of their pleasure that i get off on it but it's not something that i have to right or something that i right but you will go there yeah spanking you like spanking flogging hearing the yelps here in the oh fuck

after they yeah after they bend over my leg and oh bend over my knee. I do I get off on control. I do get off on feeling. That's why I don't do caning or whipping is because I'm not close enough to the person. I want more intimate closeness to the person that I can feel them. Oh yeah, that makes sense, right. That's a whole other thing. Yeah. Flog caning, whipping, you know, your feet away. Yeah, you're removed. Yes. You're not hearing it. You're two, right, that's the versus, versus, what are you comparing it to?

Verses a flogger. Right, right, right. It's even like that little distinction, you wouldn't think of it, right? But because you say it out loud, it makes sense. You do feel more connected when you have those things in your hand as opposed to being a little bit further out and less connected. There's a difference for you. Correct. And then you can also do other things such as bondage.

You can do you have them close. You can pull their hair. You can choke them. Yeah. You can actually be having sex while you're doing it. I can really have a woman sit on my face or sit on my lap while I am spanking her. Of course, right. Or choking her or pulling her hair or spanking her chest or spanking her pussy.

Mm-hmm. do you have any have you had any other kinds of long-term relationship since you've been into this and like what does a relationship look like to you now like would it have to be somebody in the lifestyle that's into this are you not looking to have that or are you looking for some if you did would it be monogamous like how would you roll it would not be monogamous number one number two I would say they would have to be the lifestyle now Right. Because this is, you're in the lifestyle enough that it would have to, it would be important for them to be as well. Yes. Now, they could be just beginning.

Right. Why not? As long as they're open to it. Right. Because again, this is something that I enjoy doing and they and a lot of people enjoy this, are looking for this. Oh my God. it's even one okay so I was just up in D.C. at the beginning of August. I'm from that area. So I was just up in D.C. and we actually had a round tape, a huge discussion. There was probably 40 or 50 people there. And this is in the middle of a library, of a city library, in one of the conference rooms.

And we're having discussion on Dominant and Bradts. there was people just beginning. Yeah. There was people in their 20s that had just started beginning. Yeah. And where do you find those people? How do you get involved in that? Is that all through FetLife?

Yeah, that was actually a vet. That was actually advertised on Fet Life. Yeah. You need to advertise yourself now. Like give out all your information so people can find you. I'll definitely have you back on to talk bigger picture stuff and everything. Maybe we'll do that flogger, you know, sex toy. episode. I think that would be super

interesting now that we have your whole backstory. Why don't you give a shout out and I'll put like your one link or whatever if you have that on... Okay, so... Yeah, give it all. Right. And I actually have a same part is I just got some floggers and a nine

tail to review yesterday. Oh, awesome. So we'll do that in the future. But give out your stuff now, but we'll do that because I think that'll be super interesting. Right. I'm JW1-2-3. read on that life. What is your safe word, all one word, all lowercase on TikTok? And what's your safe word on X? Right.

What's your safe word? W-A-T-S-U-R safe word. Right. Okay, cool. Now, do you have, what do you want me to put in the description? Like, do you have a one link, like a link tree that has all your links? in it? I do not have that yet.

It's okay because people, I'll put your name for Fat Life. You're, because you can't really link to Fat Life unless someone has to be a member, right? But if they have your name, they find you that way. So I could put your TikTok on, which is perfect, right? Right.

And then I just started the other one because you can't show floggers anymore on TikTok. Oh, wow. I just got it. I just got a straight for it on TikTok. So. Oh my God. It's so hard those kind of platforms with tech stuff.

You know what I mean? And then I have to say spanking. I have to use the app sign instead of the A. Yeah. Oh my God. It's so difficult. Yeah, it's hard. So, all right, but I'll still put your TikTok.

I mean, that's where you're the big. Like, that's where you want people to check you out, correct? That's the educational part. Yeah. Love it. But if people want to hook up with you or see your shit or like talk to you, they could also find you on Fat Life, right? The people that are most of it.

On Fat Life, yes. I have a lot of my writings, writing there. Writings, I have pictures, I have videos. I don't even have some of the toys that I'm going to start demonstrating. It's going to be a reviewing. That's going to be on Fat Life too. Okay, awesome. Now, can you send me like a pick for my Patreon anonymous pick for my Patreon?

That's private. Yeah, I can. Okay, awesome. Nothing X-rated or anything. You know what I mean? for Patreon, I always say R-rated, you know, and it could be just your, you know, your bag of toys.

It could be something, you know what I mean? It doesn't have to be you if you don't want to. Actually, it's on the, my profile picture on my TikTok. You can use. Oh, okay, cool. I'll use that. Perfect. Okay, perfect. It's literally me without, well, this one's without my face, but there is

a, you can see some of the toys laid out. Okay, perfect. That's perfect. So listen, I can't believe it took you so long to call in. we definitely will talk to you again. Let's do a bigger picture episode for like just, you know, the sex toys that you're talking about for my Fetish Friday episode. Send me your, or well, I could just get your pick off of TikTok, right? Send me, you will get a link to my Patreon to see comments and stuff for a month.

You'll get a free access to it. Once your episode airs, it'll be on a Fetish Friday. But thanks so much for calling in. I can't believe it took you so long. And thanks for getting my book and being, you know, a loyal listener of my show. Yes. You're the best. Thanks, J.W.

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