Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 249 - Pin and his Wife Sext to Keep their Marriage Hot

Episode Date: September 17, 2018

Pin calls in to talk all how sexting with his wife for the past 6 years saved their sex life. What was going on between them before they started sexting? How did he get his wife to start sexting in the first place? How do they keep the sexting interesting after 6 years of doing it? Tune in to find out plus hear about all about how not having sex with his wife was affecting all areas of his life, how he came up with a plan that led to his sexting solution and hear his most recent sexting session between him and his wife that include a major cuckolding fantasy they play out with each other, sexting tips that may help you sext and a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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And he's been doing it for like the past six years. And how he came about or how like they started doing it is like really interesting. He had this very common problem of the fact that he wanted sex way more than his wife did. They've been together a long time. she's got a bunch of kids. She's just not as horny as he is. She's horny maybe two times a month and he's horny every fucking day, right?

I think it's a very common problem. And he came up with a really, like, interesting solution that has worked for him and his wife, and he's been doing it for the past six years, and they're kind of professional sexsters at this point. And there's a lot of interesting things that they do during their sexting and stuff that they've sort of figured out to make it last and to make it still interesting, like I said,

after six years. This is a guy who doesn't cheat. I mean, even though he had this issue with his wife, it's not like there was an option of him going with other women. This is a very faithful guy that really loved his wife, knew that they had this issue and he wanted to push through it because it was affecting him on multiple levels. And we talk all about that stuff.

I think it's super interesting because I think, like, he is like the regular guy. He's like, this is a very common thing. And he has a really interesting solution that I think maybe won't work for everybody, but could work for some people. And it's interesting to hear how it played out in his relationship. And it's still continuing to play out. So I'll be right back on with PIN.

So you are like, I mean, to me, you are like my worst nightmare because I hate to write, especially like long-winded stuff. Like I can't stand, especially like on my phone or like long emails or something. And like what you do with your wife and you've been doing this for like the past six years is you guys sexed like crazy. all the time, right? Like, this is like a thing. And you guys are pretty hardcore into it

because you've been doing it for so long, right? Yeah, it's pretty consistent. It's kind of evolved over the last, you know, six years or so, but it's definitely been far more frequent than actual sex, that's for sure. To me, it's my worst nightmare, right? Because I'm like a weirdo, but I think it's like every guy's fantasy

to have a woman on call that will just completely, like, sex with him all the time, right? And just, like, dish out really hot, sexy fantasy. right and basically that's what you have your wife doing for you all the time right yeah yes and no i mean it's not always you know a thousand word text responses i mean sometimes it can be just a simple q-and-a or truth or dare type of thing but it's more of a i'm always thirsty for the connection to be reminded that she's mine i'm hers vice versa uh-huh and it it kind of started out with the attempt to sex and you know that gets corny after a while yeah and it it kind of gravitated

towards how can I remind her that my sex drive is like 90% more than hers without feeling desperate or being shut down. So, I mean, right around the time that we started doing this, I kind of stopped initiating as much as I normally did because like any guy, I get sick of being turned down all the time. So I turned that energy around and instead of feeling like I'm a desperate pervert, I repeatedly try to bring her into my world, which is, you know, I'm a fan of books. I'm a fan of reading. I'm a fan of, you know, filming the movie in my head, and I'm not opposed to understanding where she's coming from.

She just doesn't have the physical desire as much as I do. And rather than driving myself crazy, I just kind of figured, you know what, I'm not going to, I'm not going to dissociate myself from you. I'm not going to resent you. But this is my reality and your reality, even though it's extremely different than mine. It doesn't hide the fact that I married you for a reason that, you know, it wasn't 100% sexual, but I can admit my wife's fucking fine. Yeah. Um, so it's, it was something that I had to kind of approach her and say, hey, um, I'm lonely. Even though I live with you and, you know, we've got children together and, you know, we've been together for, you know, almost 20 years. I'm physically lonely and it's not the physical that I'm demanding.

I just need some attention. And, uh, right, like the physical. for you isn't just sex like most women think it is for men. It's more than that, right? I have to use this just for one second to give a PSA to this podcast that I listened to recently. It's on the Goop Network, like the Goop podcast. They did an episode where the woman spoke with Estelle Peril, I think is her name. She's like a very famous sex therapist. It was a recent episode.

Did you listen to it? No, I know. You know of her? Okay. She has that one, the podcast where they don't, it's not scripted. It's like a couple's therapy kind of thing. Oh, I don't know. I didn't listen to her podcast.

She was a guest on the Goup podcast, right? Which is like Gwyneth Paltrow's thing that she just started. And they interviewed that Estel Peril woman. And I listened. And it was the most amazing podcast episode I ever heard on the subject of like what exactly what you're talking about. Like the frustration and the stuff that goes down between men and women in their marriages, like in regards to sex, right?

because a lot of people have exactly what's going on with you. I mean, you solve the problem by having this thing that you guys created and we'll talk about that. But she talks about how, like, that triggers, those kind of things trigger each other and what to do about it. And it's like literally, like I said, I'm using this as a PSA for that, but it's so informative what this woman talks about and how men feel and how women feel and how they don't realize that each one is feeling that way and how it makes each other feel. And it's just like really fucking great. So people should listen to it. But people should listen to this podcast because what you're going to do. is explain a way that you kind of like solve that problem because I think it's very common and I think it's like really cool of you to be sort of like so self-aware to sort of understand that that was going on understand that it wasn't just sex that you were lonely being able to really know that about yourself and try to figure it out because I think a lot of guys might feel that same way but they don't know what it's about and then they just like act out right and maybe they go cheat or they do different things or they have an affair and like maybe if they would be more aware of what was going to be more aware of what was going to be about.

going on and they could communicate to their wife what was going on, right? Like they could figure out maybe a solution, right? And you were able to do that. Now, how did you approach her about it? So after the last pregnancy, you know, I'm super patient. I understand that she's got, you know, physically rehabilitation. Yeah, but let me ask you, though, real quick. You have, like, three kids, you said, right?

Yep. Okay, and how old are you guys now? Or, like, how old were you six years ago when this started? 32, 33. And how long had you been together at that point? Since we've been 21. Okay, so, you know, you're talking like over 10 years, you guys together, and now you have a bunch of kids, and she's not as sexually interested anymore, right?

You're still horny as ever. Even more so, yep. Okay, even more so. Okay, so take it from there. So what did kind of happen is that I realized that every time that we were about to have sex, I would build it up in my head that, oh, my God, we're finally having sex, that I would try to drag it out as long as possible because I'm like, oh, shit, when am I going to get late again?

Right. And it ended up, like, it became like a point of contention. Like, I was anti-Quicky. Like, no, I don't want a quickie. I want a longie. Oh, and she must have been like, oh, my God, I'm not interested in this whole show you want to do. Like, right? Too much.

So I had to figure out a way, because my wife is super, like, super fucking intelligent. So I had to find out a way to come at her at her level. Yeah. And explain to her who I am or who I am now. And it was more of a discussion on me observing myself and being honest. And looking at myself like in the proverbial mirror and going, okay, here's how I act the day I have sex. Here's how I act the second day, the third day, the fourth day. here's how I act on day 12 when I haven't been touched sexually or flirted with in almost two weeks.

And I realize that like we've got just two different cycles. So my cycle is about 18 hours. If I have sex in the morning on day one, I really want sex again by the evening on day two. Like that's as far as I can. That's as far as it. That's as much gas as that gives you. It gives you to the next day in the evening. Yeah.

Right. And I guess it's more like 36 hours, I would say. I mean, I'm not like it has to be morning and night, but it's like if it's at night one day and it's not in the afternoon the next, I can physically feel it. Not only like in my groin area, I can, I feel it in my chest. It becomes something that I think about. I don't know if it's, you know, my zodiac sign or my hormones at this age. What is your zone? Are you a Scorpio?

Fuck yeah. Oh, there you. That's why I figured you must think. That's the only reason why you'd say sign. So I had to analyze myself from an educational standpoint. And it sounds stupid, but I had an Excel spreadsheet. And I wrote Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. And I would write X's for when I would have sex.

And then I would document like the brain patterns. Like you looked at it like a graph. Like you looked at the graph of like what was going on. Right. And that's when I found out that like it's not that I was doing this to share it with her. but I had to kind of analyze myself so I can come to her with, hey, this is what I've been doing. And it took me like, you know, and it's, I felt like a

I mean, you have to do it over a time. No, listen, there are two kinds of people on this planet. Okay, there's problem solvers and there's problem havers. I can't fucking stand problem havers. And you know what I'm talking about? They have a problem and they don't want a solution and they just want to complain about it. I don't want an invitation to your pity party. If nobody's going to do it, I'm going to fucking.

Yeah, you're a problem solver. There's nothing better. I didn't want to enter into this relationship going, well, I'm just going to wait for her to come to me. So it took maybe a couple months. I mean, I remember it being cold when I started and relatively warm when I finished and I approached her. But I realized that for her, she's perfectly fine with twice a month. Yeah. And it's like on the, and you know, and her, she's got, you know, physical, not issues, but I mean, she's got heavy periods and a lot of discomfort before.

And then a little bit of discomfort after. But it's like catching her at that right time. So it's like I don't want to download an app that just tells me whatever right to jump my wife's bones. Yeah. I want to. She probably knows because like when a woman ovulates, she just wakes up horny. Like, and that's like, you know, it's like procreation, right? Like your body wants you to go get pregnant, right?

And it's just like nature. You know, there's other times women are horny besides when they're ovulating, right? You can be horny every day as women. But like there is a real feeling that is more powerful. If you're super aware of your body, I think that a lot of women can tell when they are. so I kind of I didn't graph it out, it drew it out. My cycle is, you know, 48 hours. So it's a very, very small circle.

Her cycle is a large her circle. I could fit maybe 10 to 12 of my cycles inside of her before she's, you know, before she's wanting me. I can, and I, and I drew it out for her. And it looked like one of those spirographs where it's like, here's me, I'm this little ball. here's you, you're this big, and I'm not saying you're empty because you're vapid and solace, I'm saying you're empty because I fit inside of you. Yeah. So then I drew, so here's one and here's you.

And then I grafted out where I showed here's day one or day zero where we're actually, you know, what we're fucking. And then here's where my mind goes. And by day three, I get to a point where I have a pit in my stomach where either I feel unattractive. And like, it's funny because I can tell, looking at my gym progress, that I lift a shitload more weights when I feel sexy. I'm fucking strong as shit when I am getting boned on the regular.

You know what I'm saying? So I know that it affects everything in my life. So when I came to her, I said, hey, this affects everything to my business performance, to my performance as a father, to my performance as a friend. I feel more put together after we fuck than the 14 or 15 days when we're not fucking. right so I I approached her via text message and said hey tonight when the kids are done when the kids are down or sleep I would like to have a quick discussion I want to show you something right and it was it was uncomfortable for the first 10 minutes I mean I stammered over my words

I was super fucking nervous I mean you had like you had like a whole spreadsheet of right you did you shower this break anything oh okay I thought there was visual aid no visual aids I had a piece of paper with a pen I mean you told me she's Super smart. I mean, I would actually like the chart. Like I thought maybe she would appreciate the chart. Anyway, go on. But that would have relayed to her that I've been analyzing this for weeks at a time. Right, right, right, smart.

Why didn't you bring this to me before? Yeah. So I had to basically say to her, I've been thinking about this for a while. Yeah. I've been documented, just my feelings. So when I explain that to her, excuse me, number one, she was kind of put off, like saying, well, like, what are you, what are you saying? I'm like, well, what I'm saying is my needs are, statistically speaking, 97% more than your needs. Yeah.

Which means that when I am frustrated or quick to pounce or react to a kid or something like that, I'm not saying that I'm not an asshole. I'll be the first to admit, I'm a dick. But I am less of a dick and I'm less of an asshole when I am sexually satisfied. Right. When you have that release. Right. So I don't want Starfish sex. I don't want, I don't like having sex when she's not into it.

Like it turns me as far as when they're just like laying there with their legs breath. Oh, like, and thankfully she's never like when she gets into it, she's fine. Yeah. But it's like, yeah, the first, you know, five, ten minutes, I feel like I literally, I feel like a rapist. Yeah, I was going to say like she's just letting me. I don't, like, just have my way with her. I mean, of course, we're able to for role playing. That's what we're doing.

That's one thing. But I don't like feeling like she's just. Wait, you're breaking up. I didn't hear a word you said. I don't, you have to repeat that. It just broke up totally. I would much rather. I don't like.

I don't want her to go through the motions. You don't want her to go through the motions. I want her to have just like pity sex with me. So I will have no sex versus pity sex, but that doesn't change my little tiny fucking cycle. And the fact that I go literally insane by like day 11. By day 11, like I have to like remind myself to breathe because I will hold my, like I hold my breath. And next thing I know. I'm on a phone call.

And are you okay? Are you running? I'm like, no, sorry, I just forgot to breathe. And it sounds stupid, but my body is wired in a way where if I'm not connected, and like I said, it doesn't have to be a physical connection. If I'm in a symbolic fashion, I am a different person. Right. So when I approached her about it.

Let me ask you this. Were you, like, were you jerking off during that time? Sure. Okay. But that doesn't matter. It's the connection, right? It's not just about the release or the orgasm. Right.

Right. Okay. That's why I want to make sure. Right. I mean, I had actually considered, you know, not joining the no fat movement, but I'd actually consider, you know, what if I just said, fuck it I'm sell of it? Yeah. And I got about four or five days in and, yeah, I don't want to be that guy. Right.

I was a dick. Like eating apples and then, like, slamming doors and just, yeah, I was a dick. I didn't want to be that guy. Yeah. But when I would get to a point physically, we're like, it hurt my stomach to think about the fact that I'm lonely. I haven't been touched. I've got like meetings up the ass and I won't be able to even get home. Like the distance physically was bothering me, but not as much as like that internal, God, I'm lonely.

You know, and I've got a successful marriage. I mean, my kids are happy. If you ever meet my children, they're happy. Right. And they know that I love their wife a shitload more than I love that. Because exactly, like she's my world. Yes, she is your world. But I would not, I would take her solo versus you over her any day.

And that's not me saying I don't love my children. That's me just saying this marriage is built on us, not the things that are a product of it. Right. So when I explained to her where I was coming from, there was a good 20-minute silence where she was like taking it. Because, I mean, if anybody tells you, hey, I've been thinking about this, and they say, how long? And you say, eight weeks? Why didn't you come tell me? So that conversation started.

So I think if I would have had, like, the graph. Yeah, yeah. She would have really been like, oh, you would have been like, oh, shit. Yeah. Which means, well, if you're hiding that from me, what else are you hiding from me? Yeah, that's the thing. I'm not. I didn't hide it from you.

I prepared the information in such a way where I could explain it to you, and I wouldn't feel like a creek. Yeah. Because the last thing, I'm okay with sharing, you know, fetishes or things that I'm into with her. but not always. I mean, that takes practice. You know, you're developing trust with someone.

And it doesn't come overnight. It doesn't come in five years. Sometimes it doesn't come for a fucking decade. So, I mean, I understand where I'm coming from. But when I finally explained it to her, she's like,

well, what can I change? Like, you can fuck me whenever you want. I'm like, I don't want that. Like, I honestly don't want to fuck you whenever I want.

Because again, that goes back to the fucking, you know, the, the, the whole, yeah that and then I feel like a fucking yeah no all that stuff is like you gotta listen to that

yeah you got a podcast where she talks all about that kind of stuff and like a woman things like I'm gonna see that but a man yeah you when we get off you go listen to that it's like it'll be listen to your ride home it's only like 38 minutes or something it's so fucking good but anyway go on so you didn't want that and she then because she's just trying to also solve the problem right like okay so like what can I do

I'll let you have me every day but like that's not you needed more than that you wanted the real thing in some way even right so you guys had to figure out how could you create a real thing that she's going to be into that isn't going to be actual sex right because she only really wants that like a couple days a week a month right a month right so she rattled off all these different ways that she could you know quote unquote please me I mean hand jobs she doesn't like give him blow jobs yeah the like the the annual blow job which I never turned down but I'm always surprised when it happens annual oh my god oh she she she she did not have

have a good, I'm basing it on the fact that she didn't have a good boyfriend before she met me and he ruined her. Okay. But again, it's never been like, like whatever. It's fine. Yeah, yeah, okay. Like, 99.999% of everything about her is fucking brilliant. So I'm worried about it. Yeah, yeah, of course. But I mean, she listed off all these things that she could do for me. Like, I'll leave you my panties. I can tell you what to do. You can dry hump my ass. They call it hot dogging, whatever. Like all these different, you can titty fuck me. You can do all these different things that don't involve me. you know, penetrating her. And I'm like, yeah, that's fine, but that involves you and it's physical.

And once it's over, it's over. And she had a hard time understanding that when I said, once it's over, it's over. And I explained to her, one of the ways that I got to this point in my life is I analyze the fact that every time we're having sex, I'm going, shit, this might be the only time I have sex this month. So I try to like, you know, not bust out every fucking move, but it's like, I try to relish in it because it's rare to me. and that turned into a, well, it's taking too long, now I'm uncomfortable. You know, so, okay, so I have to hurry up and get it over with unless I can tell that she's reciprocating and things are fucking hot.

Yeah. So I had explained to her. So, like, I guess this kind of goes back to like when I first started masturbating. I mean, the internet was fresh, but it wasn't something with a dial-up connection where you could get, you know, like fucking videos. Yeah. And also I didn't want to leave like a freaking trail of, you know, viruses and shit on my parents' computer. So it came down to how do I assume something that feeds my erotic

energies but doesn't basically leave a residue or potentially fuck up my parents' computer system. So I started reading erotica. So again, I got really interested in the written word because I could read the same paragraph over and over and over again and it would get progressively hotter because I'm the fucking producer, right? So I've known since I first started getting involved in reading that the written word allows me to fucking change everything about what I'm reading without changing what I'm reading if that makes sense. Like I can change the time of day, the fucking weather, the color of the people participating.

I can do all of that without having to, you know, edit the written word. Right. Because I'm an, I'm the producer of my own fucking inner porno in my brain, you know. So I had explained to her. I'm like, well, can we just, I'm not asking for full on, you know, sexting, but, you know, will you. answer questions once in a while? Will you, you know, play, would you rather or truth to dare with me once in a while? And it started off with, you know, her, you know, texting me when she knew that I was masturbating. And then, you know, she's at work, so that's not always freaking

possible. So then, you know, we had to get kind of created with it. And it can last, you know, four or five days where we're having a conversation about, you know, what time to pick up the kids, what time is, you know, hockey practice and all that other shit, you know, what to get at the fucking grocery store, regular mundane shit. But then in the same string, she could also be feeding that erotic part of me that needs that constant connection, that constant sexuality, so that I'm not a fucking asshole.

Right. So it progressed from, you know, sex or she's being relatively graphic about what she's going to do to me or what she did to me, to her and by the person. And once that kind of lost its luster, it turned into, like, truth or dare questions.

or um but give me an example of like give me an example of like both situations so first when you guys first started was she shy at first or did it seem were you like wow like she's actually this is something she's actually like really good at like right off the back or like a little bit of both like at first it was like she was timid and she would have like one or two or three word answers um and then she would give me like simple demands like go masturbate into my panties like okay that's i was going to do that anyway but okay and it it it It went from that stuff to asking, like, my big thing is her asking me questions, drives me fucking crazy.

Like, what are you doing? And I'd say, I'm masturbating. Yeah. And then she's like, are you, like, are you using props? Are you looking at something on the computer? Are you looking at something on your phone? What are you using? And then I would explain what I'm using.

And then she'd have me describe certain things. So she's not really the one sexting, but she's pulling it out of me in some respects. And sometimes, or during some. examples of what I'm explaining to you. Right, right, right. And then other times it's, um, they'll say, do you want a question? Right. Well, that's what evolved into, you said, like after it was just the back

and forward, then it would start with the questions and the truth or dare. Who initiated that? Who thought of that? Me, because I knew that she was uncomfortable constantly, not constantly, but occasionally talking about, you know, using, you know, giving me a blowjob or my rock hard cock. I mean, it just, it got to the point where it almost felt like super forced. And I didn't know.

That's why I remember I said, like, that would be like my worst nightmare, like having to write all that out all the time. You know what I mean? It's a lot of work. But you don't realize that the simple act of asking, what are you thinking about, is fucking hot. Right. I mean, at least it is for me. So she would ask me, you know, what are you thinking about? And I would tell her.

And she would respond with that's fucking hot. Like, what are they wearing? So she's helping me. That's smart. Right. She's not really having to say as much. She makes, she just prompts you to save the stuff and create your own sort of fantasy. but she's just like helping and guiding you to sort of create that.

Right? That's smart. So yeah, and that's easy for her. Yeah, totally. Because all she's doing is letting me lead. Yeah.

She's just asking those little tiny questions that only take four to five words in a question. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's not so bad. I'm going to try that next time someone sex me. I'm just going to like to do the whole question thing and said because sometimes you feel pressure. Yeah.

And like maybe that's what guys just like and need and that could be like, you know, and so I don't know. And I'll report back to my listeners, whether that work with other guys or it's just you. Yeah, I mean, it doesn't have to be everyone who is sexting. It's not script to script. No, I know, but I think that women think that's what guys are like you have to say, all that stuff like you said, the cock and the, you know,

and you have to get so graphic and like, you know, that they want you to say the same stuff back. But like maybe I'm going to try the next time someone's doing it to do the questions and just make it go on like that, right, and see if like that is good for him too. And I have a feeling it might be. Maybe that's like what guys would like. And I think that it's interesting for girls to know that they could do that too,

because I think we just think that we have to give back that same thing. You know what I mean? No, totally. And that's like my, the basis for all of this is that vulnerability is fucking sexy. Right. So when she asked me, what are you thinking about? And I respond with something like, well, it's kind of embarrassing. Right.

And then she says something like, well, embarrassing is fucking sexy. Like the fact that I'm vulnerable in front of her makes her realize that I trust her implicitly, and that trust, that vulnerability is fucking hot. Right. So when she knows that, she's like, you know, she's assisting me in, you know, reaching orgasm or whatever. But those things continue into the bedroom because sometimes while we're fucking, she'll say things in my ear that refer back to things that we had discussed via text message. Right. And it's, it's, like I'm telling you, it's fucking hot. And like she never would do that kind of stuff when you guys were together before, right?

Yeah, because there wasn't, there wasn't that, right? We weren't writing the porno in my head together. Yeah. We didn't have that. It was, hey, are you horny? I am horny. Let's walk. And it was, there was not a lot of communication.

So, excuse me, everything that I was reading about, you know, because I listen to sex podcasts in my car because, like I said, I'm fucking horny all the time. And I want to know better ways to communicate with someone. And when someone is your partner, you don't just go, oh, well, they're perfect in every way, but they're not horny ever. You don't use that as a basis to fucking leave them. I mean, you could if it was like years at a time. I mean, I don't have a dead bedroom. But, I mean, I've read the fucking subreddit because I'm curious. Am I, is there something wrong with me?

Right. Is the fact that I am, you know, healthy, able-bodied, I can lift some fucking cars. Like, I feel strong. Like, why are you not fucking me? Well, it's not me. It's her. So when you get over yourself, and that was the hardest thing, I mean, I have to get over myself, you know, multiple times in months to realize that it's not me, it's her. But she knows that it's her.

So all I really have to do is go, hey, you got a minute for a question. And then, like I was saying before, I basically compiled a list of like 300 or 400 questions. Some of them are corny and stupid, but I just copy and paste it into a freaking no-trap file. Did you do all that at one in one time? or did that happen, did that whole list? Because I think you told me in the email, like, oh, like she'll just pick it off. Or sometimes she'll just send me a number.

And I could refer to a bunch of lists. So I was assuming that that list grew over time just with all the questions. But did you actually, like, sat down one day and, like, wrote out all the questions that you would like and then gave them to her? No. I mean, sometimes they're up top of the head. And sometimes they're actually, like, I'll just find, you know, sexy questions to ask your partner. Yeah. And some of them are just fucking horrible.

But, like, when she gives me a number, I go to that area and if they're all corny, I'll just skip it or make one up. Right. But the number and the reference isn't as important as the fact that we're communicating. Like, she knows that I'm in a frame of mind where even though I got a thousand meetings and a thousand deadlines, she understands that I need that connection and that I'm going to eventually masturbate with that fucking, you know, fab fod or whatever you want to call it. Yeah.

Like she knows that that's what's going to happen and she's okay with it because I'm not fucking somebody else. I'm not cheating on her. I'm not going to go somewhere else. She's my fantasy. She's my porn star. I'm writing the movie in my head. She's just kind of helping me with figuring out what the fucking plotline is for the particular day.

Right. So the questions are kind of like a little anchors to just start a conversation and then kind of go from there. Yeah. And it must be great for her or just like, you know, because I think like even though, I don't know, maybe she gets busy and all her kids and all her stuff too. but I mean on some like level it must have been like a weight on her back feeling like that she wasn't on the same page as you and she wasn't able to say you know what I mean and that she could just do this and know that you're completely taking care of much be a release for her too I think in a big way no absolutely you know and and to know that you know what I'm saying she doesn't have to like you know sort of uh there isn't that sort of unspoken elephant in the room where you're Like, you know, she knows you're not getting it, but she's not into it. You know, that typical thing that I think is just sort of in the middle of a lot of people's long-term relationship.

Yeah. The stuff that's sitting there on that tightrope that could either become petty and resentful or a full-on blowout, like a fight. Yeah, but it's that thing that's in. We haven't had those because we're communicating through me telling her what my needs are. Right. And I'm not, I don't have any expectations for her. Like I said, I mean, you don't have to do anything. Just respond back with, you know, simple five word questions.

I mean, it's, I'm not, I don't need you to write me a graphic sex novel or erotic fiction. Could you do me? Like, I'm dying to just like here. Like, like, I don't know. I was thinking before, like, should I just ask them, like, to read out like a couple of the last kinds of texts like this that you had. Would you be open to that? Or I was thinking when I read your email and your client's show, like, should I ask you to read some of the questions? that you, I think people would like to hear like a real life example.

Like, you know, and I don't know if you'd be open to reading a couple of the texts or telling. And I should have probably told you to have the questions ahead of time. I don't know if you have those questions and you can read us some of them. Like, I'm interested. Let me. All right. Well, you know, I found one because it was just Monday. So it's not like it's.

All right. Good. So this was the last. This is a text message exchange between you guys? Yeah. Okay, cool. So she just wrote, is your dick hard? And this is like it, you know, during the morning when she's at work and I'm about to go.

And does she know, and let me ask you this, does she know that that's the time that you would normally be, like, do it? Like that's, okay, cool. So she sent you that while she's already. So she asks, is your dick hard? And I write, yes. And then she writes back, did I catch you being dirty? And I write back, ha, yeah. And she asks, are you watching a girl suck off a cock?

And I said, I happen to be doing exactly that. She writes back hot. I bet you want to watch a guy fuck me and then help me clean off his cock. And then I just write back hot. And then she writes back, then you can clean up my dirty pussy. And then I write back, fucking hot.

And then she writes back, are you ready to come? And I write close. And she writes back, imagine fucking my ass while I'm sucking off another guy. I have his dick in my mouth and you're dick in my ass. And then I just write back, ah, came.

and then she writes love you have a good day oh my god that's the best thing ever right that she knows it's like she's got a freak flag but she's got a freak flag like look at this shit she says I mean does she is that like did you find out over time like a lot of sort of things that may be like her fantasies like it just doesn't mean that you're going to go out and do it you know what I mean yeah it's interesting the stuff she throws your way right

right and those questions are like super simple have you ever imagine a scenario where there's another, there's a third person in our bedroom and then she'll write yes. And I'm like, all right, in that scenario, do you picture of being a woman or a man? And she writes back, I picture it being a man. Okay, what looked like?

Oh, so, oh, you know what? For some reason, let me just. Wait, but this is the thing. I won't forget to get back to that whole thing, but like I was always thinking when you were talking about the questions that they were ones that she would have you, that she would ask you and then you would

start talking. These are questions that you would ask her and would prompt her to sort of tell you things. Right. And then she'd go, okay, your turn. And then I would answer the same question. Oh. And she would have different follow-up questions. That's good.

That's good. So that really helps. So that someone doesn't have to think of this shit all the time themselves. Do you know what I mean? Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. So when I would, I'd be asking her, like, what does the guy look like?

And she said, well, he's, I don't, he doesn't have a face. He's faceless in my fantasy. Mm-hmm. but he's not too muscular, not flabby. And she just, like, I ask her to describe the guy. Okay, what's he doing? Like, well, he's watching us fuck. Yeah.

Okay. What's he doing while he's watching as fuck? Well, he's also masturbating. Okay. And then you just kind of take the fantasy until that point where either I've got to go for work or she's got to go for work or I come or it's to be continued, whatever. But then I can utilize those text messages the next time I'm masturbating and she's busy. And I can go back to that movie that I was scripting in my head.

Yeah. And next, you know, and it's, it's, I know that it sounds fucking, you know, super high school. But what it does is it allows me to use my imagination and feel connected to her without ever running the risk of her thinking that I'm fucking looking elsewhere. Because I'm not. Yeah. And I don't think it sounds super high school at all. What? The fact that you like to read the text or anything?

And I think like when it comes to like even dating and sex, like, we're all the same age. I don't care how old you are. You know what I mean? It's kind of like always the same thing. Do you know what I mean? Like it's like, so I don't think it's high school at all.

I, you know. And like I said, I think you're like super self-aware and I think like a lot of sort of men listening to this. They might not, they might have never put two and two together to know the things that you do. But, you know,

and but I think the way you're laying it out, they, a lot of guys might be like, huh, like I totally could relate to that. You know what I mean? and maybe they didn't even know, right? Well, it all has to go back to the fact that if you're miserable, who's fault is it? And it's like you said problem solvers or problem havers like, dude,

I got a boner all the time. That's a fucking problem with it. Who's problem with it? Well, it's mine. I own it. It's my fucking cock. And then when I say, well, I've been married for a while and, you know, sex went from every other day to once every week to once every other week.

And I don't want it to go. any less than that. So I need to remind her that I'm still here. I'm still engaged. I'm still committed. But my needs are a lot different than yours are. And as I've, you know, as getting older, my needs are increasing while her not. Hers makeup, but you have to understand.

Let me just tell you, because she's young, too. She's in her early 30s, right? Right? Late 30s, yeah. Late 30s, how old now? Oh, right, because that was six years ago I asked you. hers might like your kids are older now like late 30s to 4 like women's peak goes up then I'm telling you like she might get a wave that comes on you'll see and especially the kid like

the kids are getting older right they were like super young at the time when this started you had just had a baby right so I think uh that kind of stuff you might see a resurgence I'm just wondering does she ever use those like did you find that like doing all this with her like would increase her times of the month or No. She's the kind of person where she kind of takes the weight of the world on her shoulders. So sometimes it takes a while to get her to remember that she's allowed to be a sexual being. Oh, God, you're going to make her listen to that podcast too.

Wait until you hear this podcast. You're going to let her have her listen to it too. Go on. Totally. Yeah, they talk a lot about that with women. She's, you know, I think she's pretty ritualistic and that it's, you know, it's five to ten minutes in bed before she gets out of bed. She's not using,

like she doesn't use porn. Right. She doesn't use erotica. I mean, she just never, but like she's not like, except those times that she's with you. Like this hasn't sort of increased her horniness and like made her sort of a little bit more sexual in order.

Because I would think maybe would maybe bring her closer to that part of herself because she is saying like super hot things to you and really using her imagination too as well. No, absolutely. It's nothing that, I mean, I know that our frequency definitely increased after.

So it did. Yeah, but not where it's like, oh, it's because of this. I mean, it's, I do my best to keep my dick on her mind. Right. Whether or not she's having independent thoughts of my dick or somebody else's dick or just the dick in general. The scenarios, those hot scenarios, you know what I mean, that she's coming up with and maybe it's making her thing, like, you know, and, right?

And she's comfortable saying those things to you and you're accepting of it and stuff. So I would think that would help her get in touch with that side of herself. Right. I mean, the frequency may not increase, but definitely the quality is a lot fucking harder than it was, you know, six years ago. So it helped with that for sure. That's great. Yeah. I mean, like the quantity is something that I think it's always going to be an issue just because physically speaking, she's not, not wired that way.

Yeah, you just don't know, though, if she had that thing that happens to women. They've reached their peak of much later than men. So you might be surprised. I'm looking forward to be surprised. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah. Absolutely. God knows what's going to happen at that time if that happens because, like, you know,

you guys have been discussing all these kinds of things. And I was just wondering, I wish, like, you know, I wonder if, like, you were inside her head. Like, is it, like, do those things, like, really turn her on? Is she just saying it to you for you? Is there something about it that turns her on, too? Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, I think the repeatability of some of the questions.

I mean, I'm pretty sure. sure the idea of somebody watching us fuck is hot to her. Yeah. You know, whether or not we'd ever go through with it, we don't have to go that way because it's a fantasy. Exactly. If you have a good enough imagination,

you could imagine that while it's happening. And then when you're done, you don't have to go take 10 showers to, you know, because you're, because you just, exactly, something like so gross or something.

You know what I mean? Like it's, you can keep it out. We don't have to go get IV antibiotics because we, you know, follow our fucking fantasy. Exactly. No, like I'm, number one,

I want to be committed. Number two, I want to be safe. Number three, want it to be fucking hot. So if it's just words, those words fuel a part of my brain that allow me to utilize that fantasy, not just that first time, but I can refer back to that. You know, any guy who says they don't have a spank bank is fucking lying. Oh, yeah, I don't know that any guy would ever say that. They don't. Right?

Yeah, I've come across the couple, oh, that's why I always look at porn. Like, well, sometimes, like, and that's the other thing, too, is that my wife understands that my drive is a lot higher than hers. So it's not that I have permission, but she knows that I'm usually once she starts snoring, the bed's going to start shaking because I'm going to fucking take care of myself. And that's an understanding that we have. But I mean, that, I always give

her the option of participating. And once in a while, you know, just put her hand on my stomach while I finish. I mean, that's fucking hot. Once in a while she put her hand on my leg. It's like she understands that I'm doing this and I'm also not afraid to let her know that I'm doing this. And sometimes

I have the text messages open because I'm reading what she had said to me that morning. Right. And that's the spake thing. Stuff that you have. What about pictures and stuff? Do you guys do that? Yeah.

Once in a while, she'll send me pictures for sure. I got a vault of awesome fucking pictures of my wife. Absolutely. Right. It's a little bit more dangerous than just the written word. But, I mean, yeah, it's. And also the fact that the kids now have old devices. It's like you've got to be safe with what you do with the picture when and you got to get it off your photo stream and blah, blah, blah.

blah, blah, blah. So, I mean, there's technical issues as to why that's not as common as I would like it to be, but I don't pressure for that shit because the last thing I want to do is get hacked and find a picture of my dick on the Internet somewhere. So, like, you know, we have boundaries that are unspoken, but it's like, let's be realistic here. Like, yeah, you're in the moment. And, like, I always call it drunk on sex or fucking just horny as shit, like where you're not thinking straight. Yeah, that's what I always say.

you're like a drug part. You got to get there. Yeah. You're stoned, your bone stone, whatever the fuck you want to call it. So I know that I don't make decisions in that moment. I might take the things that we talk about in those moments and have a casual conversation about them. But that doesn't mean that I am allowed to make decisions while I'm in that kind of frame

of mind that could negatively impact my wife, me, and my family. Right, right, right, right. So that's the picture taking me and stuff like that? Right. I mean, going a little bit farther than just talking about it can, you know, I don't want to have, like, risk sucks. I mean, risk is sexy when you're both in the same room and you're talking about it, but let's be honest. I mean, what's more important having a super fucking sexy hot night with an orgy room full of people or having good sex and then waking up the next morning and being able to, you know, get back to regular life? Right.

So I think she understands that even though we're, you know, she's, you know, she's. she's she's role playing with me with words she also knows that I respect the absolute shit out of her and my sexual needs to hurt her harm her or you know fuck up her life in any way how long do you feel like it took that once you got into this practice because you had that definite moment where you sat down and said this is the deal I've been thinking about this you had your secret graft right and you knew the way you were feeling and you know in your cycles right so the minute you started this up like how long did it take before you saw the your cycles changing and you didn't feel like shit anymore like you used to feel well I still feel like shit once in a while because I because why

you just cut out because why because I'm human and I I I turn petty I turn resentful and it's not like I treat her different but I'm a I turn into a different person I just have to remind myself you know and that's that's part of being an adult too is remembering that you are capable of fucking up, capable of slipping. It's what I do to get back, not just in like that, but what I do to get back to the fact that everything is fine, I'm just horny. You know, it's like I have to be able to get back to that.

And just to know that it's just a feeling and it's not like anything bigger than that and not to sort of like make it this big emergency thing that happens. Right. Something's like a big problem. Exactly. So if we get like a weekend and haven't had sex, she hasn't given me any orders, she hasn't left out her panties, she hasn't like squeeze my butt or, you know, grab my balls while I'm getting ready. She hasn't done anything playful and I don't turn into a little bitch, which is the resentful husband who goes, ah, my wife thinks I'm fat and ugly and I'm never going to have sex again. As long as I don't turn that corner and I go straight because I made this path, which made it okay to say, hey, wife, husband is fucking horny.

I'm not asking you to open your mouth or your legs. I'm asking you to engage with me so that my imagination will allow me to feel connected to you. But instead of actually saying that, is that when you just like, do you say that with a text with a question? Like, how do you say that? Usually what I'll do is I'll engage you with have time for a question. And then she'll write back yes or hey, I'm going into a meeting or I'm on a conference call. I can't respond right away, but yes. And it's very rare that she ever says no.

but it's like it's not that I just start doing that at one o'clock on a Tuesday it's like you know we both got professional lives to lead yeah it's more of like she knows that certain days of the week my schedule's different than hers so when she sends me a text during one of those moments

when she knows I'm normally doing what I'm doing I can rely on the fact that she knows what I'm doing when she texts me so she's she's engaging with me occasionally during those times and if I need like a reminder minder, I can always reach out. But it's not to be and not be petty or resentful.

And the first one to bring it up because she's the first one to admit it. She's in her life. She's not always paying attention besides her children. And it's like, I don't want to be, you know, another kid of hers. Oh, God. I also don't want to live in a sexist.

Yeah. Everything. You've said like 18 things that you're going to hear her this lady talk about on the podcast. Awesome. So I'm not completely fucking crazy. awesome. No, you're like, I think it's a very common thing. I think you're like, you express it. And like I said, you have like a direct sort of connection to what is going on. Because I think a lot of men don't know why things are happening to them or why they're feeling certain things or why they're acting certain ways. And I read this like amazing book once. And it really, because like as women, we like sometimes like ask guys like, like why do you? And they're like, they're like, I don't know. And you're like, I don't know. And you're like lying. They just seem like to total liars because they're like acting and doing things that women could see the reason why we could see it as women i'm not talking about you because you seem like a different kind of guy but most guys right and i remember reading this book once where this guy talked about how like because like you know listen you've i don't know do

you have boys and girls as kids like i have a son right i mean he is cries as much as any girl kid out there you know what i mean like we all come out the same we have all the range of emotions you know what i mean but somewhere along the line men because of society in the way that is and young boys aren't like taught to sort of talk about their feelings. So they lose that connection to where they're coming from, right? Because they can't talk about it. So they still react to their feelings because they have feelings, right? So they do things, right, because of how they're feeling, but they don't know why they're doing it.

And it really was like a life-changing moment for me to hear that because I was just like, oh my God, it's like guys aren't lying. They're not like morons. You know, they don't have that connection. They lost that when they were little kids. because of society with society says so they don't know and so women always seem like we're crazy because we're accusing guys of doing things but we know where that's coming from because we have that connection to our feelings we know you we know why we're doing things but then there's guys like you

and maybe you were just raised differently or you had that more communication in your life or you're just more communicative as a person you know more intense because you're the scorpio i know that right maybe and you didn't you lose that connection so you have that as a guy right but it's not like you're different, the only difference with you, I think, is that you were able to sort of express it, you know, where it's coming from, and you could just like, and you could literally put it on paper. That's what you did, right? Right.

Where's a lot of guys, like, this is all happening, but they don't fucking know why. What? I didn't attack the issue as if it was somebody else's problem. I just looked at it. All right, this is the issue. It's not hers. It's not mine. Together, it's ours.

Right. But what could I do to change it? I don't want Starfish sex. I don't want her to feel like she's, my, you know, fleshlight. Yeah, I don't think any guy wants that. That's what's so interesting. I do laundry.

I cook. I go shopping. Yeah. I don't, like, I don't want to be the fucking 1950s house husband. Not house husband, but the husband who comes home and the wife's wearing an apron, fuck that. Like, sometimes my cooking is better than hers. Right.

I like the way I do laundry more than she does. It's like that's, but I'm also, I'm a man in 2018. I'm not afraid to admit. I chip in just as much as she does. while some of her responsibilities are different than mine, we are the parents together. She doesn't do anything more than I do. I don't do anything more than she does because we're a fucking team.

And I think when you get past the idea, and it all falls back on, why am I being the little bitch? And that's me using the masculine to kind of pull out the feminine. Why am I acting like a little bitch? Being a little bitch is not a feminine trait. It's when anybody gets so full of being petty. The woe is me,

the problem havers. I'm not a problem haveer. Fuck that guy inside of me. But it doesn't mean it's not a part of me. It doesn't mean that you don't, everyone gets problems and has problems. Problem havers are the people that don't want solutions for the problems. Exactly. Well, I want a solution because I really want to fuck all the time.

Right. But like how much do you think? Because you've been, you're doing, you've been at this for six years with her, right? And this is pretty much the way you guys have dealt with that problem. Like you said, like it's, it has helped a little bit with like when it happens. between you two, but it's like you're still kind of in that place where she's only giving you sex like two times a month and you're doing

all this other stuff. So how much of a solution has it been? Like, you know, like if you're going to recommend it for somebody else, like did it completely change things for you? Really still? I don't, yeah. I mean, I think marriage in and of itself

is not a thing. It's like a, it's a constantly building up and breaking down, building up and tearing down. It's a constant moving thing. No, I know that. But like how much did this sort of, did it just kind of take the edge off and it's still like something that you guys are working on?

Did it completely go from like, oh, being like so sort of pissed off in all those cycles that you were having every, you know, three days to like not having that much at all? Like how much of a solution was it? Because I would think it sounds like it would be a good solution. It's a very good solution. It doesn't fix it every time. Yeah.

You know, sometimes we have to have a fight or, you know, one of those hate fucks. If you were going to have one of those where you're both just so pissed off, but you're both so physically needy that you just end up fucking until you're both raw. Yeah. Then you kind of sit there in your glow and you start talking about shit. Like it's, I think it's another tool to make sure that we don't ever get so far away from each other that we don't remember that we work together for a reason. Right.

And now you do this mostly through text messages. Did you ever just try like when she's like when she's in your room, right, before she goes to sleep like to just to have these, to ask her these questions and have these conversations face to face? No, absolutely. Yeah, we've done that a number of times. Right. Probably the hottest shit I can imagine is when she's asking me questions as I'm drinking off

and it once in a while it'll actually turn into sex. That's what I was going to say because I would wonder if like maybe then. just hearing those things that would get her sort of to a place where she was like interested right yeah no like that that's that's happened a lot yeah yeah so that i think it does sound like it's you know with a house full of kids and it's kind of say well how many like i don't have a a frequency meter and like that but i can definitely tell you that the conversations that we have via text message that keep me you know satiated or placated whatever the fucking word you want to use the conversations we have then when that we have them in in person are way hotter and once in a lot lead to you know

real actual sex right real actual sex right yeah and that's the that's that's that's the top of the mountain for you right fuck yeah you come on but i do think that the sexing and all that stuff that's going on definitely is way better than when you didn't have any of that right totally I was a miserable dick that's what I mean so it has like I said

I'm not making a blanket statement like it's one from black to white but I think it would I think it would go like if you're a guy that was like having sex every two times a month and with a woman you know and I think a lot of people are experiences especially when you put three kids

in the mix right and that both of you have jobs and careers that it would go from you're having just that intimacy and that connection two times a month to having some sort of connection almost daily in some way you know that that would be a big difference yeah that would be a big difference in a relationship totally right I'm just looking for like if people are out there like and it's like to recommend that maybe other people try it you know because I'm always like interested in helping people

right so I always think like oh as I'm listening to you speak I'm like how many people are to this and how many people could benefit from maybe trying this, right? Like, it's not just about what you're doing, but I think when you do something and you talk about it, it could help or maybe spark somebody else to think that, oh, they could try it as well, right? No, absolutely. Like, I would definitely recommend a self-evaluation of what are your needs, what's the person that you turn into after two days, three days, four days, five days, six days, seven days, post-sex. Like, if you are self-aware, at least to realize that you're a different person when you're a different person, you've had it and when you need it, you can kind of determine, all right, well, that's me.

And then you pay attention to her, like, or him. I mean, if it's like, I have a couple of gay friends that have the same thing where one guy's super high libido and the other guy just doesn't give a shit. So it's like everybody has the same ups and downs. It just depends on which character you are at which time. Yeah, I think it's a very common problem. It's a very common problem. But let me ask you for the guy that's, all right, but for the guy that's listening that has a

wife that she feels like oh she would be just way too shy to like sort of talk you know what I mean like how did you like you know sort of get your wife to really open up did it take it was it just like time and just like going with it yeah right that's what you would just work about just like keep doing it and make her feel comfortable yep time and patience and prompting yeah and not getting not getting frustrated when I wasn't not saying not getting what I wanted but I wasn't getting frustrated when it wasn't as hot as I thought it should be or like I'm just like I'm I'm letting her communicate with me in my little you know naughty room without pressuring her to be anything that she doesn't want to be at that moment right yeah it was kind of a way I'm not

pressuring her I'm not shoving my dick in her mouth I'm not trying to like you know shove her hand where she doesn't want it to be. I want to, and I think this is true for most people, like now, is that they want to respect their partner. So I respect that she is the mother of my children, my wife, and she doesn't have to fuck me. No, and nor do you want her to have to do it. You don't want it in that situation.

That's the whole point. I don't want to, you know, oh, I do the dishes. I should get a blow job. No, it's not how it works. Right. So I want to be able to constantly remind her that we're a team. I respect you. My situation is a little different because I do have a very high libido and you have a very low one.

But that doesn't mean that when you are in the mood, you don't satisfy me. So it's like it's just, it's the same shit that I need just in a different fucking dose and a different fucking time. And what I think it's really good about this too is that like, I mean, you know, six years later you're reading, you just read me a text. that your wife's saying all kinds of crazy things, right? Whereas I think, you know, that probably happened over time, right, with all those questions and stuff that. And, I mean, granted, like you said, it didn't sort of up or increase with the quantity of the time that you were.

But I feel like for other people, maybe if they don't have kids or their wife is at a different stage of her life or whatever, you know, I think something like this could really maybe, like, awaken a woman's sexuality backup that wasn't otherwise asleep or not there, you know, if you really just. give it some time and let her sort of feel comfortable to open up and explore her things and maybe help her like with the stuff that you did which was the questions and the prompting and the asking you know um and explaining that this is something that was really helpful give me demands yeah that's i think that's where it where she realized how much power she was holding in her hands it wasn't just about me pulling information out of her if she wasn't in the mood for that she could tell me to do something and i would do it whether it's dictating you know what I'm watching on a computer, what I'm thinking about, what I'm playing with as far as toys or panties or whatever, what have you.

Like, I'm giving her that power because her having that power, like I said, that vulnerability is hot. Yeah. Yeah, no, I think that's great. It's the same as like if we're in the same room and she's not in the mood. it's as long as she is with me whether it's in text or in the same room or actively fucking me I'm fine right it's when it goes days and then a week and then two weeks without

excuse me any connection I mentally have a problem recuperating and not acting like a fucking immature dick and the difference between you is that you use the word connection whereas other guys would just say sex right but basically they're both like it's like the same thing you know and when you listen to the podcast you'll hear her talk about that right and so that's where i think like i said like you say connection where other guys i think would just say sex sex and

but really what they're talking about is exactly what you're talking about which is yeah i'm not worried about how we fuck i'm not worried about if it's a blow job or a hand job or i just jerk off on her tits i'm not worried about if you know she's wearing lingerie or she's wearing fucking sweatpants all of my needs are all psychological emotional right i don't see them as me physically needing to have her you know jerk me off with two hands once in a while or you know lick my i think those i think those physical feelings that you were have what was a little bit of a physical thing that you just needed the physical release of maybe i don't know the jizz build up i don't I think that there's a part of that.

But I think what's cool about you is that you understand that there's other things attached to it as well. You know, it's not just the physical, whereas I think other people would think that's all, you know, guys would think that that's all it is. But there is that other thing going on for sure. Right. But it's also taking the physical responsibility off of her plate all the time. I can handle it. I've been masturbating successfully for a number of decades. I'm really good at it.

But you have one of those really good imaginings. I think some people don't, you know what I mean? That's what, and that's like a really good thing to have because then it could be like, it could be almost like the real deal, right? Like if you really get into it and get to that place with your mind, you know. But I think that some people don't have that good of a, you know what I mean, imagination. It's just different people, you know, it's just this is the way your brain works. So this isn't for everybody, but I think it is like a really interesting solution to a very common, I think,

problem that a lot of couples have. And so people... And it's... Yeah. It's a fix for boredom too. I mean, like sometimes like if I'm waiting for a flight, hey, you got a time for a question. And then I'll literally just spin up on the document, find one, copy it, and paste it. And no matter how corny it is, we're still having a conversation that isn't forced.

We don't have to make up something to fucking turn the other person on because honesty is fucking sexy. Right. So it's like... And it's all that time. be like this. And it's all that time that's sort of allowed when, like, if that isn't going on between the two of you, and this is what happens, I think, in relationship with where people cheat.

So all that time apart, and if there's pent up tension that isn't being released, then that's when people start to get into trouble, right? They may be text message, so I'm not an old friend from Facebook. You know what I mean? And I'm talking about, like, a married person, right? So because you guys are, like, not, there's not that time spent apart emotionally, right? that there's, there isn't room.

Right, there's no room for that, you know, so which I think is really cool. So I think it's a good, a good, it's an interesting sort of a thing for other people to try. I think people should listen

to this podcast, maybe we try with them and then go listen to that other podcast with the lady I'm talking about. That's a powerful thing. You know, because she talks all about this.

You have to listen to it. Your wife has to listen to it. I'm curious what happens like two years from now. How old's your wife now? 38. 38, yeah. Two years. from now. I don't know. I just wonder

what happens with her because she's going to start feeling differently, I think, as a woman. I think that's like a physical thing that happens, you know? And I wonder when that happens, what's going to go on because I don't know. It's like there might be some more, like, you know, these fantasies that she has if she starts to get a little bit

more horny, like, you know, you guys can have even more fun than you're having now, which would be good. I welcome. I welcome said change. Yeah, so keep me posted. And thanks for calling in and talking about this because I think like this is a very common thing, a common

problem, and you have something that you created a solution, and I think maybe other people could take from this and try it as well. So thanks for a... If you stop communicating, you start having a fucking problem, so just keep talking. You're very specific in the way that you sort of set things up with her. I think it's

like very helpful. So maybe guys could get in on the sex and thing, because I like, what guy wouldn't want that with their wife? You know, something added on. So I think it's actually really interesting. And a good... I'm a problem solver. I fucking love solutions to problems. So I think it's a good solution to a very

common problem and people out there should try it and write it and let me know if it works. And I'm going to try it. Remember I said I'm going to try it. I'm going to try it. I'm like I just to ask the questions to prompt and see if that helps. So I'll get back to my listeners about that and then I'll let you know if anyone writes in and tries this out in their marriage. But thanks for calling it and telling me the story because it was very interesting.

Great. Thanks for having me. Thanks, Penn. Bye. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like, there's a

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