Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 311 - Jim is into Hardcore Tease and Denial

Episode Date: November 25, 2019

Jim is into hardcore tease and denial and he calls in to talk all about it. When did he fist discover tease and denial? How did he go about practicing it on himself? What are the benefits he experienced since discovering it? Tune in to find out plus hear all about how denying and delaying his orgasms has made sex way more pleasurable, the specific tactics he used at a very early age to deny himself an orgasm, his experience with chastity devices, how it's played into his sex life with his wife and his other lovers, how you can use it to give better blowjobs and to stop yourself from prematurely ejaculating and a whole lot more.  To see anonymous pics of Jim and his wife + pics of other past & future guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Today, I talked to a guy named Jim, just Jim is what I think he said. His name was. And he calls in to talk all about, like, tease and denial. And that's something that he got into when he was super young. young. And the stuff that he did by himself solo to tease and deny himself. So he, and like, he got into chastity belts, like it bleeds into all that kind of stuff too is pretty hardcore and interesting, because I had never really heard about this like practice. But somebody else had emailed me about it to and early on, I asked him, like, is this something that could actually help people like that have

premature, like ejaculating issues? Is that the correct grammar? And he said, Yes. So I feel like, like besides like this episode being interesting because you'll maybe hear about like this whole tease and denial fetish maybe you would say it is, you'll be hearing about it for the first time. I feel like regular people that don't have this fetish could use some of the things that he talks about in this episode to either help themselves or add to their sex life. Because I have to say after talking to him and really realizing what he's. what that whole world is about and what he's into. It's like I have, I realized like I was into that stuff too and have played like sort of dabbled in it.

So we talk a lot about that kind of stuff too. Talking about like how you could use teas and denial to give like great head. He talks all about how it has helped him and his sex life and this and you know and also what he does with his wife and how they incorporate teas and denial in their like I said sex life. But it actually bleeds into conversation about like, you know, how other people and regular people can use it in their life to have really intense orgasms and maybe new orgasms. He makes a distinction between having an orgasm and coming and how those are two different things. And I don't know. You've got to listen to learn to hear all about it. But anyway,

I'm going to be right back on. So you're calling in because you have this thing that you you've been into your whole life, right? That you're like, oh, I've never really seen this on your podcast. Maybe you like this subject. And you're right, I haven't had it on. But I have to say, I had another guy email me recently that I haven't taped yet that might have something similar going on, which is interesting. And I have a question about your thing because of something that he said.

And none of this makes sense to anyone because I haven't even talked about what your thing is. Okay. But tell everybody what you're into. do? Basically, it would be tease in denial, which would translate into not being able to ejaculate when engaged in some type of sexual or masturbatory behavior. Right. And how that maybe leads to more pleasure for you, right? Is that what it's about? It does. And I guess the best way I can describe that is most of us have all taken a trip at some time in our life.

and sometimes the excitement of the trip, you know, we're thinking about the trip. And then all of a sudden we get to where we're going and we're like, oh, shit. So it's the journey, not the destination. And that's the best way I can describe it. Right. So the destination is good, but the journey is phenomenal. Yeah. And I think that, you know, listen, wouldn't everybody, because the journey is with, when it comes to sex, right, all the foreplay and the buildup is so great.

Wouldn't you want to prolong it, right? because once you come, it's over, right? Like you say, once you get to that destination and it's done. So like I do believe in prolonging that journey. I think it's a no-brainer. But let me ask you this only because this is something that somebody brought up in another email, but what he wound up doing what you do because he was a premature ejaculator. And this actually, that kind of a scenario actually helped him to learn how to hold it.

Now, is that how it came up for you? And if not, is this something that's people that have that sort of issue could use, could use to help them? Do you know what I mean? Well, first of all, no, I was not a premature ejaculator. That's not where I started doing it. But everything I've read about premature ejaculation, one of the ways to eliminate it or at least control it is to delay the orgasmic or the ejaculatory response in men. So what you're going to be talking about? could actually also help those people too, right?

So it's not just to get yourself off in a new way if you haven't tried this before. It could actually help you if you're a premature ejaculator. Absolutely. And I think that so many men, especially when they're masturbating, and even women too, you go behind closed door and you have to do it really quickly because you don't want to get discovered. So that kind of almost triggers this, you know, premature ejaculation. And women sometimes don't get, they don't get to come because they're so busy trying to get off really quickly that their bodies just don't respond that way, but they don't want to get discovered.

So, you know, I think it not only helps men, but it can help women too. And it can help the women that are with the men kind of like understand that the end result isn't always the, at least for some of us, is not always the thing that we're shooting for. if that makes any sense with soil around, it does. Yeah, but let me ask you this, just Jim. So if you were in a premature ejaculator, right? Like, when, why did you get into this? And did you stumble across it by accident? Was it something that you would do to yourself while you were home jerking off?

Like, when did it start? And how early did you figure it out? Well, it started probably when I first started masturbating. How old were you? Do you remember? Somewhere between 10 and 12. I might have been younger, but I don't. And then there was masturbation, and then there was masturbation when I finally found out that I could ejaculate, you know.

So because until you hit that special time in your life, you're getting erect and it's pleasurable, but you're not ejaculating. But what I learned at a very young age, and I didn't understand it at the time, was the orgasmic response is totally different than ejaculation because I would, remember shuddering and you know shaking and but nothing was coming out and I kept thinking well these got my friends keep telling me this white stuff supposed to come out when hell is this going to happen you know but wait so you would have an orgasm without any ejaculation oh yeah and and to this day I can have multiple orgasms without ejaculating is that normal what guys I mean I'm not a guy so I just don't know is that like a normal thing quote-un-un-it-it would be if they it would be if they practiced at it, but most guys, most of the time ejaculation and orgasm occur at almost the

exact same time. So it becomes confusing and people think that the ejaculation is the orgasm. But if you really look into the research into it, it really isn't. It's a separate response. And usually the orgasm occurs just maybe a millisecond before the ejaculation. But you can learn to have orgasms without ejaculating. And they're very satisfying. and you can stay erect the whole time and, you know, it's phenomenal. And what I'm thinking about is like the birth control aspect of that. I mean, you know what I'm saying? If guys could just fucking control it, there'd be a lot more unwanted pregnancies now.

I mean, there's another added bonus to it. So you're like 10 or 12, right? And you're doing this. And but how does it come about? Like you said it started when you first. Yeah. So I would start masturbating and then, you know, I would be hiding. in my room or in a tree for it or, you know, someplace where I had some privacy.

And the pleasurable sensation of playing with myself was so great. I didn't want it to end. And I knew that, you know, once I started ejaculating, I knew that, okay, well, this is the end. Now nothing else is going to happen for several minutes to several hours or maybe even a day, depending on how often I had done it. So delaying the ejaculation became the goal because it was so physically pleasurable just to bring myself closer and closer and closer. And so that's basically how it started. And then I would be watching something on TV.

Like I remember Bewitched because I had a crush on Elizabeth Montgomery because she was so damn hot. Yeah. And I would start making rolls up like, okay, if Elizabeth sits on the couch. And she crosses her left leg over her right leg. I'll finish. But if she doesn't, I have to keep playing with it until she does. And then if it happened to, if she, let's say she did put her left leg over the right leg. I'd say, well, that happened too quick.

So I would make up some other rule because there's guys, we can change the rules as we play the game. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you're like, right, and you're mind fucking yourself, right? This is all going on in your own head while you're jerking off. Absolutely. Yes. And it was also, there was a visual stimulation there because I got. to look at her legs and she would have to always be in either a skirt or a dress it couldn't be in

pants if she was in pants that was a no-go you know so i had to see some some of the leg and or you know she'd have to bend over and maybe i'd see that she was wearing a bra or you know some silly thing or like a night counter whatever rule i put on it that day that's what it had to happen and then every once in a while i'd watch a rerun and i know what it happened so i'd have to change the rule oh my god hilarious yeah this is going on when you're like 10 or 12 You got some line there. It continued on until I started dating. And then, you know, during a lot of heavy petting, I mean, my hands were all over hers.

Her hands were all over mine. But there's, you know, I'm getting turned on. But there's no, you know, I'm not fucking her because we're in the car. We're in front of her house and her dad might come out or something. So there's this, there's this real hot erotic making out going on with no I guess no sex, penetration. No big reward at the end, you know. If you want to call it a reward, I don't.

But some people like to call it that. So, you know, and then I found out girls like playing with a guy's dick and not having to get them off all the time. So that that was something I never really quite understood either. But how did you figure that out? Well, actually, I didn't figure that out until I was married for the first time. And I remember my wife was in her playing with my bulls one night. And, of course, I'm thinking, okay, she wants to have sex. Yeah.

And then we got into this. Well, it's not what I wanted. I just wanted to touch you and play with you and have a good time. And at that time, with a girl, I was still kind of like, well, you can't do that. You can't, you know, that's not fair. But I didn't really think that. I guess I was just like it was supposed to be a response that I was supposed to have. Yeah.

But, you know, and I'm saying, wait a second. Then I met another, when I got divorced. from her. I met another girl that she would flat out tell me, I just want to play with you. It doesn't mean I want to have sex, but I want to feel you get hard and everything else. Oh, really? And that was very pleasurable. I enjoyed it.

And towards the end of my first marriage, we got into a little bit of the teasing denial. With her. And what about what girlfriends before you got married? A lot of once I was on a date with a girl and she was playing with me

and I was really getting hard. I remember having on a pair of really tight jeans because we guys wore tight jeans back then. And I started to pull over and she said, what are you doing? I said, well, I'm going to pull over and let you take it out. She said, oh, no, you have to wait. And it's the first time a girl ever actually used those words, you have to wait. Yeah. And what a turn on it was.

Right. And then she, I think I waited probably, that was probably at 8 o'clock at night. And I probably waited until 3 o'clock in the morning. So, you know, it was. So, oh, that was like the perfect girl for you. Did you marry her? Is that the one you married? I would have, but she moved away.

Right. So. That was exactly what you were into. And I do think that, like, listen, that's not something that if you bring it to the table with a woman, right, that you're with, that she's going to, like, freak out or whatever. It's like, why wouldn't she be into that? Especially because sometimes a lot of guys are like, I've been with men that are super selfish. And like, once they come, it's like a done deal. They don't want to do anything more to you.

you and if you haven't had an orgasm yet, like it's a done, you know, they're just not into it, like the minute they have that orgasm. So to prolong it on the guy side only helps the woman. And then there's no rush for her, right, to come really fast because she knows that the guy is going to blow his load. That's the way I feel. One of the first people I started dating, wasn't the first, but it was, you know, soon after I got divorced.

Yeah. I was with this, this really sexy girl. We worked together, which kind of posed. the problem, but at least we worked in different sections. And I was a supervisor there, but I wasn't, she didn't work for me. So I was a little bit reluctant to ask her out because of the whole sexual harassment thing. Yeah, even back then. Yeah, but I finally did. And remember the first night we had sex, I kind of wiggled her pants out and she said, oh, no, no, you don't have to do anything. Because I had to go to work. I was working a very late shift. And I said, look, you don't

have to do anything. I went down on her and got her off. I remember her, she was telling me that her previous guy that she would kiss her pussy a couple of times, then fuck her and then leave, you know, and she would always be left on the edge, you know. Yeah. So I used to love to just spend time, especially giving a warrel and not getting anything in return from her at all. And then I, as our relationship eventually progressed, I found out she really liked to just play with me, keep me hard all night, and then we'd go to sleep and I wouldn't come.

And I'd get to go to sleep with a hard on, wake up with one. What a great feeling, you know. And you like that. You liked not having the finish. Absolutely. Yes. And the funny thing is, sometimes I might even shudder and have an orgasm, but there is no ejaculation.

And until that actual final, I'm going to use the word pop happens. Yeah. Then you can stay. hard all night after that happens, then you've got to go into the refractory period. And let me ask you this, because there's a definite physical thing that happens right after a guy comes, quote unquote. And now normal people, and including me, think like coming means that the guy had an orgasm and he ejaculated, right? Because you say that that happens at the same time. And right after that happens, typically a guy just like they, and I think it's like been, it's like

scientific fact that they want to go like retreat in their cave, right? Like they just, everything is over. It's like as if they were drunk and they became. sober immediately, right? Now, if you don't, like, does that, since you have been able to have these two things happen separately, right? Most people have them happen all the time at the same time, right? Because it's like a millisecond, like you said. But since you've had them happen separately, when does that sobering experience happen?

Does it happen after the ejaculation or after the orgasm? Surprisingly enough. Yeah. Yeah, I do. It can happen after the orgasm. But I don't. There's not. a disconnect with me and the girl.

Like I think a lot of times, I think what you're getting at is when a guy comes, there's a disconnect. He just wants to roll over. I might roll over and go to sleep, but we're snuggling and cuddling as we do it. And then I wake up and she's already been taking

care of so she's satiated. I'm feeling totally satiated because of the closeness and the touch and the intimacy that was going on. I don't feel a bit frustrated at all. But do you feel it after you would jack is what I'm saying. Is there a difference between those two things of what is going on with you as a man afterwards? Well, I don't disconnect from her. Either way. I think I'm a little bit more sensitive.

But once I've had my orgasm, it's almost like a let. I mean, when I say orgasm, I'm really referring to ejaculate it's almost a letdown for me because now I know that I'm not going to have that feeling of being turned on for quite some time. It might be, you know, especially as I'm getting older, that refractory period becomes longer and longer. Yeah. And, you know, where when I was 19, I might have to wait an hour. Today I might have to wait a day and a half, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And older guy's good for maybe one time, you know. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, as I get older, you know, instead of being able to fuck her twice, I'm lucky to finish one time now, you know, so I take what I can get when I can get it. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. You're married now?

I am, yes. Now, you said you had your first marriage. Have you been married twice? I've been married twice this time for about 20, over 25 years. Now, does your wife, did you bring this into your guys sex life? Like, does she know about this and do you guys implement this? Or does she not even know when you just do it? Like, or do you have conversations about it?

Last night she had me hard for well over an hour and I was leaking like a leaking faucet when we went to bed last night. And no ejaculation. No ejaculation, just a lot of pre-com. I mean, literally coming through my underwear. But orgasms? Because it's different for you. No, there was no orgasm last night.

It was just like. Just a journey. It was a journey. It was very good. And we'll do that just about every night. I mean. Really? Oh, yeah.

She'll keep me hard. She'll keep me hard for an hour, sometimes two hours just about every night. She loves playing with my balls and my dick. And I never know how she's going to. to play with it. And sometimes she'll bring me off, but most of the time I never know if she is or she isn't. I mean, mostly I can, some nights that there ain't going to be any any ejaculation tonight. And some nights, I know that's just what she wants to do. She wants to get me to ejaculate. Now, is she coming in this experience or is she just playing with you and getting you to the edge?

She, I, she's just playing with me. And the days that, that, that, we actually engaged in full-blown sex. She's always the one that comes first. And a lot of times, I won't come, you know, I won't, even if I fuck her, I don't ejaculate. And sometimes she'll say, you know, you're not coming today, just me. Okay, that's fine. But that's hot for you, right?

Oh, I love it. Yeah. I really do. Yeah, that's very hot. Right. As far as like someone making you wait, like that, that girl that said, oh, no, you're not going to, you're not allowed, not now, right? Right. Yeah. So when she's playing with me, it's kind of almost like she's using her hand as, like if you had a little stress ball on your hand and you just have squeacy, you know. So it's very soothing for her, even though it's, there might not be a sensual or sexual pleasure that she's getting out of it. She's, she seems to like it. I mean, she doesn't ever. She'll say bring them over here. You know, she always wants to touch them. So. And if she doesn't feel like it, she doesn't.

So, I mean, there's no pressure on her one way or another. Yeah, but exactly. And there's no pressure if she's doing it either because it's not like she has to come. It's not, right? It's if she doesn't want to say she's not in the mood. But what a great thing to have in your marriage because I think sometimes after like 20 years or even when women get older, maybe they're not as interested sometimes, right, into sex. But if like your guy could just love the quote unquote journey and all you had to do is like play

with his balls and keep him hard, right? And there wasn't that big end goal in sight or it wasn't sort of expected or needed. There's a lot of the pressure is is not there for the woman as well, right? And that's like really great. Oh, she loves it. I mean, and I think one of the reasons why she plays with me every night is because she doesn't have to, she doesn't have to finish anything. Right.

She can just play and enjoy what she's doing. And it's like, okay. yeah if you walked in on it you think we were having sex well it is sex you know it's just not intercourse you know there's all kinds of different what the definition is is you know oh yeah and i think when you get older and after you've done been there done everything like i've dry humped as recent as like a couple years ago right and people would be like fucking what are you 13 like why you dry humping it's like because you typically don't sometimes those kinds of things are like hotter, right? Because you've been there, done that with everything else. Like, why not do these other

things? It could be a big turn on, right? Because, and it could really drag things out. I could, and I believe in that kind of stuff. And I think, you know, to go back to that, you know, thing that isn't like you say, full on sex is can be really hot just because you don't do it that much. Everyone, like, you could fuck. You fucked a million times. We'll dry hump to this day. I think it's extraordinarily erotic, especially if you're like in a semi-public place or something. She's got her leg wrapped around me and she's rubbing her pussy up against me or I'm, you know, rubbing my dick up against her when I'm hugging her or something, especially if somebody's like standing close by. They have no idea what you're doing, but they kind of suspect you're doing something,

but they're really not sure. That's just hot as hell. It really is. And, you know, she's got a pair of panties on and I've got some underwear on it. I have a heart on. I have no problem trying to, you know, hump her pussy. I mean,

that's just, that's just really a lot of fun for both of us. What about Chastity belts? I know you mentioned that you got into those. Like, how did those come up? Did that happen when you were way younger? Does it something you started to do by yourself?

Or can you do that by yourself? I don't even know anything about it. Well, that happened because when we were going to get married. You and the second wife, right? Right. We had been together for a year. Actually,

we got married a year after we had our, for a state. And so we were, we were fucking, you know, three, four, five times a week, sometimes three or four or five times a night. We were right. Right. And we weren't, you know, we weren't, we had both been married for several years before that. So I mean, it wasn't like we were in our 20s, you know. Yeah. So anyways, you know, we wanted to have a really sexual, sexy night on our, our wedding. And she said, you know, let's not have sex for a month. I said, okay, you know, we'll, we'll kiss, we'll make out, we'll fondly together, but we just won't have intercourse. Oh, you're going to take it to the edge, but you can't do anything else.

Right. You had a line drawn. That's kind of hot. About that time, you know, the internet was starting to come out, and I just happened to see something about chastity devices on it. And I thought, well, this would be cool. If we could, you know, if I could get one, I could wear it up until the time we, you know, get married. But I couldn't find any place to get one. They weren't selling them like they do today, you know. So I tried to have one made at a leather shop in town. And it turned out to be a disaster. But yeah, actually.

Seriously? Yeah. Oh, my God. Well, it was like, you know, it was a BDSM place, you know. Yeah. They were quite okay with it. Yeah. So I went down to Lowe's and got a, you know, a piece of PVC pipe and we tried to, just, it was terrible.

So in any event. That's hilarious. There was a guy in Hawaii that used to sell. chastity devices. So I ordered one and he sent it. And so I put it on wasn't, wasn't particularly the greatest one in the world, but I wore it not, no, this was after we got married, just, just for the erotic pleasure of it. And for some reason, being in a chastity device, she was and I was. Yeah. I found, instead of like being frustrated, I was fucking turned on 24. I was a day, seven days away. Yeah, I would think that's the point of them, right? Nobody's really doing them to torture them.

Like, they're doing it for the pleasure, right? There's something in that. It is, you know? And then just the other day, I was at the drugstore, and I was standing behind a lady that was in front of me. I was getting my prescription filled. And she turned around, and she had on a necklace, and she had a little key on that necklace. Now, I didn't walk up and say, excuse me, is that the key to your husband's chest that he built? But that's sure what it looked like from all the pictures that I've seen. You know, and you got to start wondering, you know, who's standing next to you that has one on, you know? Well, explain to me, because I just Googled them because I have never seen one before, okay? And people should Google it just so they know what you're talking about.

But like if they're not, if they're listening in their car, explain it because I see ones on here. They do have keys, right? So like you put it on it. How long do you wear it? Did you have the thing that goes into your ass? Some things have like little like butt plugs it looks like, right? No. But they do have those, right?

You can put a little butt plug in. Yes, you can. So what does it do? How does it keep your dick down? Well, there's a, most of the ones are what they call devices. So your penis goes into what looks like a sheath. And there's a ring that goes around the scrotum. And it's pretty tight.

And then the lock goes through. There's like a little, where the ring goes around, you can, there's usually, it's a one piece but it's it's got like kind of a springy feel to it so you put the lock through there's like a little keyhole that you or a little hole that you put the lock through and a lot of them they'll slip off you know unless the guy's got got it on really tight on his balls balls will flip out or you know the penis will slip out so they're not 100% secure and then there's some manufacturers that there was a product called called Tully Boy that came from England and then there's one.

I think there's a steel. I mean, this is a full on steel belt where there's, it's almost like a jock strap. Yeah, I see it. This one's like 280 bucks and it's like a stainless steel chastity belt cage. Yeah, I think that's 280 euros actually, which is a whole lot more. Yeah. Yeah. And that was from Germany.

I'm not going to go be something ridiculous like that. But I guess the most popular ones today are this. They call them the CB6,000s. They're little plastic devices. They don't work real well. And it's kind of, it's kind of frustrating to have one on because you could cheat with them. So, but in any event, I guess the most effective ones, a lot of guys get these Prince Albert piercings. And then they have their penis pierced.

and then they'll put the chest the device on with the piercing, and then their dicks can't come out. Oh, and now how long would you wear one of these? I see the one you're talking about the CB6,000, right? I had, yeah, I wore something very similar to that once for 14 days. And now you could pee out of that, right? I could pee out of it. And I had to sit down to pee, and my wife just thought that was funny as hell,

because I'd have to go in the men's room, you know, sit down to pee, because if you try to stand up and pee, you're going to pee all over your. help. But let me ask you, this is it, like, sanitary? Like, because, like, what if pee gets stuck in there? Like, I mean, or does, like, water when you're taking a shower go through that? So, like, you're keeping yourself clean? You've got to clean it out with, with, with water. And you can go in the shower. And if you, especially if you have one of those removable nozzles, you can squirt water up in there and get it cleaned out. Right. Yeah, that does become an issue, you know, the sanitation of the, the, the, right, but you did it for 14 days and you didn't get any infection. or anything. No, but I got a little chaf from it and then it became very uncomfortable. I've heard, I've seen things on the internet where people say they've worn them for a year, but I kind of really,

I think that's a lot of fantasy nonsense. Right, right, 14 days and you were chafed. Yeah, and I was getting, you know, okay. And then she was getting frustrated because she wants to play with my dick. Well, it's locked up in a piece of plastic and she couldn't play with it. And that's what she liked to do. So, you know, and they're difficult to get, especially if you have an erection you can't get into one. And then you try to put it on and she's trying to help and then you might have get a heart on. And what happens when you get a heart on?

Because they look like they're made for like a flaccid penis size, right? None of them are big enough of rock hard dick. So what happens if you start to get turned on? Well, if you're sleeping at night and you start to get an erection, it will wake you up because of the pressure. Some guys say it hurts. It doesn't hurt. It's just, it's like if you took your hand and wrapped it around the guy's dick and just

squeezed. Right. You know, it's not going to hurt. I mean, he's going to feel the pressure. Right. But guys are a bunch of, you know, part of me for saying is there are a bunch of cissy has pansies and they say, oh, it hurts, it hurts. It doesn't hurt.

Right, right. Do you just feel pressure? You just feel pressure. So, you know. I would think anyone that's trying to wear one of these or that's into it is going to be into that kind of feeling, right? Because that's what it's all about. It's all about the teas.

It's all about like having the pressure of not being able to do. something right so I would think that at those points maybe there's a turn on to that now there is yeah as a matter of fact I had one on and uh my son was going to a university on the other side of the state yeah and I had to go he was he was in a school performance I'll just say that yeah and so I went over to watch the school performance and uh he had a really sexy girlfriend well I had one on that's when I was in the 14 day thing yeah so She and I are sitting in the audience watching, you know, my son in this performance. And she's like fucking smoking hot and a whole lot younger than me.

But, you know, I'm a guy, right? And I'm sitting there. Of course, she has no idea. I've got this chassis device on. And if I wanted to do anything, I couldn't. So, you know, I still have a mouth and a tongue. But what was really erotic was sitting next to this group being contained like that and knowing that there's not a damn thing I can do about it.

know. So it was kind of exciting for me and it was kind of exciting for my wife and she knew when I was on a trip and she wasn't with me on that particular trip because she had to work the next day. I didn't. So. And what was exciting to her about it? Did you tell her, are you guys open enough that you would say to her? Oh my God. Like our son's girlfriend is so fucking hot and whatever. Like did you explain the whole scenario to her? Yeah, we're very open. Let's put it that way. Do you have an open relationship? Yes, we do. Oh, you do? When did that come into play in your relationship. About 10 years after we got married. That's the, that's the time, right? I've always said it. I saw it. I say this a billion times on my show that I saw a documentary once. It said double digits years or like when you should,

you know, when it's sort of safe or like, you know, you could be, I think the odds of being more successful at open relationship come after that, right? Because you have a solid foundation of that relationship. But you guys were very open from day one, right? Because you were doing all that like you were open about your chastity stuff that you were into. Like you, you guys. guys were very communicative when it came to like what you guys were into sexually, right? So it was maybe a natural progression to get to the point 10 years later that you would open up your relationship. Yeah.

Now, we had discussed that from almost day one. It just took, you know, it took her some convincing that I was really going to be okay with it. So. That you were going to be okay with it. Interesting. I was. Yes.

Seeing her fuck other guys. Yes. Because most, most guys don't. want their women any place near another guy. And, you know, I really enjoy watching her with another guy or going off by herself with a guy. I don't even have to be there. Right.

And just hearing about it. I've heard that a million times on my show. And the most interesting thing about that because I, and I think I've said this before, but I mean, when I first had the first couple guests come on that told me about them, you know, these guys that were talking about how turned on they were to see their girls, fuck another guy. All, I went to all my guy friends. And they were all like, oh, my God.

like I would never like that would be so horrifying you know and I but then over time I started to have people come on my show who had that same feeling they were the type of guy that said oh it would I could never it would you know but one thing led to another and they be they were in that situation and it happened and it turned out that they were like really fucking into it you know and so it's like you you just don't know right it is it's hot as a matter of fact if she she's got two guys that she sees on a kind of a regular basis. Not that often, maybe

four or five, six times a year. And so if she knows that she's going to sue one of these guys, one guy I've never met the other guy I have, then I don't get any pussy at all until sometimes well after she's

had the guy. So that's kind of really hot because I'll get teased and played with every night. She'll say, you know, you can't have this pussy. it's unreserved right now. Oh yeah, that's your thing. That's really hot. So it's,

I wonder if there, is there a fetish? Like, what would that, what would the name be, right? Because it seems like it's kind of like a fetish of yours, right? That is there a name for it? Hot wifing, cock holding, I don't know. No, I know. It's more for it because that's, that's another aspect to it. But you also, it's the holding back for you.

That's a fetish, I feel like. Even when there's not another guy involved, you like that. You've been into that. since day one, right? Somebody's sort of denying you and not letting you come for a while, right? Oh, yeah. That's what I mean. Yeah, it's, it's, there's a, there's a, a control aspect of it.

Yeah, for sure. Dynamic, you know, to allow. A little submissive of you. Yeah, to allow you to sit there and control whether I, I have an ejaculation, whether I come, whether on my dick even gets played with us, totally up to the other person, you know. Yeah. And sometimes you don't know if you're going to come. You know, one of the hottest things is say, I'm going to get you off tonight.

No, I changed my mind. You like that. Most guys, that would be like the most frustrating thing, the last thing they'd ever want to hear. That's because they've never tried it. They're too, they're too busy trying to get to the destination. They haven't taken any time to enjoy the scenery on the way there. So let's teach people how to enjoy the scenery. Can you do that?

Like, explain to guys maybe so that, you know, for people, people that have never tried this. Because what I used to do, like as a female, I loved to make to, like say I was blowing a guy, right? I would love to drive him fucking crazy. And how I would do that is once I knew he was about to come, I would totally stop, right? And then I would start again and slow. So it would make it last for a really long time.

And by the time it came, it was like, that was like the hottest thing ever, you know? And so you could do that, right? So I think as a woman, right, you could do that with a guy. And even if a guy has never had that done before, especially if they've never had a done before it will be like the hottest thing for them right and that's like a good way i think for couples to start right if it's two people but like you could explain it all explain how people could try to start if they're just jerking off right as well as maybe how people could do it as a couple yeah you know if somebody wants to try and it's really great to try one of the greatest things to

use is like a timer so okay set the timer and i'll do that sometimes too i'll set the timer for like two minutes. And so it's, you know, beat the buzzer. Well, if the buzzer goes off, you got to stop. Right. And here you are. You got this heart on. It's throbbing like hell. You want to, you want to ejaculate. You want to fill that, you know, but you can't. Now you got to stop. And so set the timer again and say, okay, I'll start another 20 minutes. So you just keep doing that until eventually it doesn't matter what you set that timer for. You're going to come in 10 seconds. anyway. You know, so eventually the feelings are just going to overwhelm you and nobody can control themselves that long and nobody could control the other person for that long.

I mean, some night she has no intention to getting me off, but this might be three weeks and the last time since I ejaculated and she says, oh, he had a mind of his own. He just came, you know? Right. You couldn't have it. But do you think people should work up? Like, should say a guy's trying this at home, right? Let's talk about first the guy at home. you know, figuring this out. Is he going to set the timer for a short amount of time at first, right? And then build up and that you could, right? Yeah.

Absolutely. And, you know, I wouldn't try to go, you know, two hours the first time. You'll drive yourself nuts. What's a realistic goal the first time? You're kind of breaking up right now. Like five minutes. What's the realistic goal for the first time? Like five minutes.

Right. Mm-hmm. So what do they do when they're about to come? They stop? You should, yes. And then there's like exercises that the guys can do. It's like, let's say you're with a guy and he's fucking you. He does eight thrusts and then stops.

And then he counts silently to eight. And he does another eight thrusts, you know? He tries to work himself up to where he gets up to maybe 800. Well, most guys aren't going to last that long. What's the longest the guy ever fucked you? maybe like five minutes before he came. Right, right, right. Most guys, you know, they can have an hour or four play,

but as soon as they put their dick on the pussy and it feels wet and everything else, it's like it just, just come to me, you know? Yeah, yeah. And then the guy comes, and then you're like, is you done? Really? Come on, I'm just getting started, right? Yeah. So it becomes unfair to the girl.

And I think that girls, if they could, your idea of, you know, giving a guy a blowjob and just trying to delay it for as long as possible. When he comes, he's really going to, he's going to probably scream. Because most guys, when they come, they just, they don't even realize that they just had an ejaculation. They probably didn't even have an word got. The ejaculation might feel physically pleasurable, but, you know, where was that intense muscle spasm release, you know? So, you know, from a growth perspective, I don't know.

all I know is that the girls that I've been with seem to like me not coming real quickly. Of course. And I think, listen, as a woman, I don't know, I would think, you know, I'm a girl, right? When I was with a guy, you always want to be like a great lay, right? Like, I don't know. I had that ego part of me. I want this guy, I want to drive this guy crazy. So he thinks I'm like hot of shit, right?

I don't know, right? You would think that a woman. Now, I get if you're with a guy for like 20 years or 10 years, you lose that, right? but, you know, there is, like, there is power in that. And I have to say that if you haven't tried this as a woman, do that to a guy, whether you're giving me a hand job or a blow job, right? And, like, it'll feel great for you because you're turning this guy on in a way that maybe they've never been turned on before, right?

Sure. You know, if you remember the book, and they've had several revisions, it came out in the 70s, it was the joy of sex. Yeah. That was like a very famous book. Yeah. And there was a, even back in the 70s, there was a section in there called slow masturbation. And they had a guy, they would tie his ankles, they tie his hands behind his back.

And the girl, and then they go into elaborate detail how the girl's supposed to masturbating very slowly. And it's supposed to last as long as possible until he just can't take it anymore. And so I tried that back in the 70s. That was hot as hell. That was the first time I'd ever done restraint. And the orgasm I had, I almost had muscle cramp. because I was trying, you know, trying to break through the restraints because I was having such a powerful orgasm. It's really hot.

If you watch a lot of these porn movies when the guy comes, he hardly says anything. I mean, you know, it's like he just, ugh. Right. You know, it's so, that's why I don't watch porn. It's boring and it's stupid, you know. Right. Because it doesn't look like anybody's really having a good time. where you have these mind-blowing orgasms,

and if a guy learns to have an orgasm without ejaculating, he'll want to have them all the time. So how does the guy do it at home masturbating? Like, how did you learn that? Is it like you said, like try to do the timer, right? Like, what else can a guy do? By himself? By himself.

I mean, he can say, okay, I'm going to, excuse me, he can say, I'm going to stroke my dick once every second for three minutes. Right. And just do it really, really slowly. And if he feels like he's getting ready to come, G just stops. And maybe counts to another two minutes or something and then starts over again. So it's a start and stop type of thing.

You know, sometimes my wife has to stop because she can really sense that I'm really close to coming. So she'll, instead of playing with the head of my dick, she might just start playing with my balls a little bit. Or she just might put her hand on my thigh. She might just say, that's all you're getting tonight. Right. Now, that guy that's masturbating at home, should he also try after a while to, like, go to sleep with a heart on and not finish?

Absolutely. Yeah. Because let's say, you know, especially if a guy's by himself. Yeah. It's late at night. He gets into bed. He starts masturbating. You know, if he just pulls the covers over and says,

I'm going to try to go to sleep. Or if he puts on a pair of underwear or puts whatever guy, I sleep naked most of the time. Unless I think I'm really close to coming in. Then I might put on a pair of underwear because I don't want to get it all over the sheets, you know. Yeah. But he can just use something that it's almost like a mental chastity device. Like, you know, a pair of pants or, you know, a pair of underwear, something that you put on. Right. That's going to block it, right?

So that it's not like. Yeah. Yeah. You know, or even slide a condom on, you know. And if he winds up coming, well, he came in the condom, you know. So, but there's all kinds of ways to do that. And a lot of times if I can't sleep at night, I might start to masturbate myself really and get myself close and then just try to drift off to sleep.

And nine out of ten times it works, you know. Really? You find that you could drift off to sleep better with a hard on than without? Oh, yeah. I went to sleep with one pressed right up against her last night. I was probably asleep in 30 seconds, and then I woke up with one this morning. So, you know, that was great. Apparently, it must have gone down during the night because I probably didn't sleep for seven hours or an erection.

But, you know, it feels like you, God, I went to bed with one and I woke up with one. That's really great, you know. Right. And it's fun for her, too, because, you know, she gets to decide when you get to come, when you don't get to come. So it's powerful for her. and it lets you it lets the guy just say okay I don't have to do a thing just a layback and if it happens it happens and if it doesn't well it might happen tomorrow or next week or 200 days from now who knows you know so it just becomes a lot of fun yeah and I think that you know for guys like we we talked about in the beginning two of the podcast that like if a guy has a problem coming too fast right because they've wired themselves that way right like maybe like when they were jerking off when they were younger like you're said it has to happen really quick, right? So you just do it really fast.

And then after over a while, if you're doing that all the time, you become maybe somebody who just comes so very quickly, right? So this could also retrain you to maybe last longer. It will. And if the goal is to last longer during intercourse, you know, because I think there's a different, there's a different sensation if you were to give me a hand job or if I gave myself one, because the way you touch and the way I touch. But if a guy puts his penis in a girl's vagina and he just lays there still for, say, 20 minutes and doesn't move, it's going to feel good.

He'll stay hard, but he hasn't come yet. Oh, yeah. Remind me to tell you about the halfway end game. Uh-huh. Go on. Yeah. And so, you know, if he just tries to slow himself down, most guys just want to get in your pussy pound away, like there are a jackhammer come roll over and go to sleep and I'm gonna talk okay this is I'm gonna tell you about the halfway in game and all my I had this weirdo fucking guy that I dated we call him halfway in guy he had we were like best friends for like he's in my book it's like a really

funny story but this is like a true story we had we started dating and we were friends before that for like 10 years and so once we started dating he had like really major commitment issues and so he had this thing like when we were about to have sex he'd be like oh I can't put it in like because that would mean that it's like really serious now. Like he wanted to like prolong the serious of our, seriousness of our relationship. And he felt like once we had sex, it would be like so official.

I don't know. He was like a fucking psycho. I was a psycho too at that time because I was dating him. So we would do what was called the halfway in game. That's what I wind up calling it. And he would like literally, so we would be making out and it would be so hot because we had so much fucking chemistry,

but he wouldn't fuck me. But we got to the point where he would like put his dick inside halfway and we would just, make out and he wouldn't let me move and he wouldn't fuck me and it was like the hottest thing and people would say to me like why the fuck would you do that and i'd be like i have to tell you it was the hottest thing because if i moved the slightest bit after his dick being just sitting inside of me for like 20 minutes and us making out and i want like the slightest move that he made if he like fucking coughed or i moved a teeny iny bit it felt like so hot because normally when you're fucking right like the reason why

you need it harder and faster is because you get used to whatever the sensation is, right? Right. Whereas if you have no sensation, the slightest bit of movement is like the hottest thing ever. So I actually played the halfway in games with guys that didn't have the halfway in problem. Do you know what I mean? Like I had a guy that I was with and I'm like, let's do the halfway in game. And like, let me tell you, we did the halfway in game. And he was like, that was the fucking hottest thing ever where you just put the dick inside of you.

And there's nothing. You don't move at all for as long as you can. You do other things to each other. You touch and play, like, I have to tell you, every guy I did the halfway in game with would understand why I actually lasted with that guy for so long. I mean, after a while, I was like, okay, this is not going to happen. We broke up.

But the halfway in game is exactly like what you're talking about, right? In a way. Yes. As a matter of fact, there is a. a book that I think it might have even been written in the 60s. I'm not positive about that. But I read it either in high school or college. It was called the Herod experiment.

And it was about, it's a fictional story, but it was about co-eds coming to live together in the same building, sleeping in the same bed on college campuses. And one of the things they wound up doing was they had sex because the guy would put his penis in the gruel, but they would just go to sleep. There would be no, no fucking, you know, you'd try. to do that sometime. It's almost impossible. Yeah. You know, to sit there with your penis

in a vagina, not move and just go to sleep. Right. And just let it stay in there. It's almost and it's so fucking erotic. It's not funny. That's what the halfway in game was. I would let them put it in and we would just sit there and talk about sex, but they weren't allowed to move.

I wasn't allowed. And there's something about that whole scenario that is the hottest thing ever. So I suggest anybody that's listening try that halfway in game with your partner i'm telling you it's like you can do you can do it with your hand too have the guy put his dick in your hand right close your hand and have him fuck your hand and then just keep opening your hand little by little by little so there's absolutely no pressure there at all until his dick is just on the palm of your hand and then try to have him get off that way

he will go nuts because it will take him so long to actually come right so you know and a guy can do that too. If he just opens his hand and just puts his dick in his hand doesn't close it and tries to fuck his own hand that way and get off, he'll be amazed how long it takes him to get off. Right, because there's something about not being allowed to have the sort of

100% feeling that the slightest feeling becomes enough and if so, like more intense, right? In a way. I think so and it's, you know, I've talked to a few guys about this at some venues that we've attended.

and they look at me like a dog staring at a clock, you know? It's like, how can you not come? No, I try. Let me tell you something. I fucked a lot of douchebag guys, like the biggest players on the planet and played the halfway in game with guys that like would or the types that would be like, no way. What are you talking about? And trust me, they were into it.

It was, it's really, really, really good. You have to just try it. It's, uh, there's something to it. I have to say. there is i i totally agree with you on that there's there's my wife and i will do that too i i don't know that we called it the half end game but it's like i did it because we had i you know i have nicknames for all my guys so we would always be like halfway in guy like everyone just thought he was insane and he was insane and people thought i was insane for playing the halfway end game but i was like you don't understand it

was like i was never more turned on in my life like you're sitting there like soaking wet with the dick inside of you, he's rock hard. You're like talking about sex, but you're not allowing each other to do anything. The whole scenario was like really, really great. Like, listen, because I was with the guy that it wasn't, we weren't, we weren't just playing around, right, where I knew that maybe, you know, three weeks later we could actually fuck. Like, this guy was never going to fuck me all the way. So it was like, I got old after a while. But, you know, when I did it with guys that, you know, we were not, you know, they didn't have commitment issues to actually really fucking me. It was, um, it was, um, the journey of that was,

it's like the hottest thing. I literally would tell everyone about it and suggest it that there was, it's the same thing like dry humping. It's like if you're with someone that you always fuck, like try not allow, there's something about not allowing yourself to fuck. That makes that journey so much better. It makes just dry humping and the littlest,

slightest touch be really hot. And I just think some people are too lazy to take the time to go to that place. that it takes, right? Because I think that there's more time involved in that kind of sex, right? But if you have the time or you're with a partner that you've been with for a long time, like, why not try it? Because it does, it's something, if you haven't done it before, you will be pleasantly surprised. Yeah.

And it, you know, it's like the girl can keep her panties on or if she can be totally naked, the guy, if he's gotten on a pair of tight under it, it doesn't work with a pair of really loose boxer shorts. Yeah. But if he's got some tight. underwear, especially if it's not real heavy cotton, it's like more of the micro mesh type of fiber. If he tries to get his dick into her pussy without taking his pants off, that's fucking hot itself. He might get it in, you know, a millimeter in, but it's not going in

very far. Yeah. And it's going to come out and it's going to be soaking wet and might even be soaking wet with both their fluids, you know? So yeah. Listen, I didn't realize when I saw your email that I've done this shit all my life. You know, I'm into it too. I think it could be turned on for a girl. There's, it's the same shit. There's, there are, and it's funny about this, because I think it's great when guys get teased in the night.

I think it's horrible when girls get teased at night, because they get that all the time, you know. And it's not an erotic thing for him. It's just because the guy's a doofus and he doesn't know how to get them off. But if they're doing it on purpose, like if they're doing it in this kind of scenario, it can be hot. I don't know. I like the halfway in game, even with that guy.

and I knew he really wasn't going to get me on. I don't know. It was still hot. Yeah, if the girl wants to be denied, that's just... Yeah, maybe I have that in me, obviously. The guy just getting up and saying, see you later, you know? So it's... But I think that I would like to see more women, you know, talk to their guys about, you know,

this is something I would like to do because it gives them the power and the control. And it becomes a really hot erotic game for it. them and it's something I think they like to do anyways. Yeah. More guys that get touched if the girl didn't feel like she, oh God, we've got to, I've got to let him fuck me. I've got to get him off, you know? Yeah.

And I don't even, don't you think though that like girls don't even have to like, I think if you're, you can have that conversation, but even just try it without having the conversation. Try prolonging his orgasm, stopping. See if like that sort of turns him on, right? See if he has that in him where. And I think most guys do because I used to do that blow job. trick on every fucking guy I blew.

And they would always be like, you give the best head, you know, because it was always like, his orgasm was going to be way better because I made it last longer. I kind of like tortured him, you know, and I was into doing that because as a woman, it made me feel good to see that guy getting like more turned on than he had ever been turned on, right? So like, I think you don't even have to say anything to the guy. Just do it. Whether you're giving a blow job or a hand job, like right when you feel like he's getting

close to coming. Stop and then bring him back down, right? And then do it again until he gets so close and then stop and like do it as much as you can and then let him get off. It's funny because I never thought that women really like giving blowoutes on my wife. I like giving

blowtime. Yeah. No, you don't. You know, I don't believe until I actually watched her give a guy a blowjob one night and I could see how much she really enjoyed it. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, and I said, well, what is it you like about it, she says, I feel so much in control. Yeah, of course.

You know? Listen, I think everybody has that in them, right? That feeling and that ego, like you want to be like, like I said, a great lay or like really good, right? Yeah. And the one guy she sees, he says, oh, my God, you give the best blow jobs. She really likes giving him blow jobs, you know. Yeah, don't you want to be known as a girl, like as like for all the girls, I think,

Don't you want like, I don't know, I was always egotistical that way. Like I wanted to be like the best blowjob giver. You know what I mean? Like the best that every, like that's just me. I'm super competitive. Maybe other people don't have that. But like for me, I wanted to be the person. And guys would always be like, I would see ex-boyfriends of mine like 10 years later.

They'd be like, oh, I remember those blo. You gave the best blow jobs, Kathy. And I know that they mean it because I think a lot of girls don't do those other things. And I feel like if girls knew that that's all it took, like, why? why not? And it will be super hot to them too because you're like turning your guy on. And I think that's a that's a turn on, right? And I think there's nothing like I think a reason why a lot of girls are bad at head is because they're not really enjoying it, right? They're doing it for the guy. But if you do it, if you add that thing where you're doing it for yourself and you feel like you're in control and

you know, getting the guy turned on, it starts to turn you on more and you add this little torture thing to it. And then you're like, holy shit, you give your guy like the best orgasm ever. you realize how good that feels, then you give better head because you're more into it, right? Isn't that what good head is? I think so. And I think if I had any advice for the girls is don't feel like you're being mean if you don't get him off right away.

No, you're being fun. They love that. It's hard to get. That was the only issue my wife had was she thought, well, she was being mean if she didn't get me all. I said, sweetheart, you're not being mean. You're doing exactly what I like. Now she finally understands it and she likes it.

But at first you thought, oh, I'm being mean to him. I'm being mean to him. No, you're not, especially if the guy asked for it. Right. And I think, though, that the girls have to start, like, say you're with a partner and you want to start trying this from the girls aspect, right? You have to see if, like, your guys into where work him towards, like, not getting him off at all, right? By doing that torture scenario that I'm talking about where eventually he does get to come, right? But then you could work up to saying, like, hey, like, maybe you can't come at all, right?

Like, maybe you're not going to jump right. to that, right? Because that's the sort of the extreme. But you could work yourself towards that by doing the sort of delaying his gratification now in the beginning with the things that we're talking about. And for you, like you explained, like guys could do this with themselves, right? To say it's the guy that's jerking off at home that wants to learn how to do this, right? To learn how to enjoy the journey more. They would start jerking themselves off and stopping, right? Like we're explaining for longer, longer. And then eventually work up to like going to sleep with the hard on. I don't think that a guy could go from

calming like a regular guy to going asleep with a hard on right away. I think they've got to work up to that. Right? They're going to definitely have to work up to it, but they shouldn't be, they shouldn't be afraid to try it and they, you know, and they really should. If they really want to give the girl something of pleasure,

then I think that's a good way to do it because I think the girls, once you experience it as a girl, you're going to want it all the time. Yeah, it's always, it was always weird to me the guys, that would like are really selfish in bed and just want to fuck you for one second and they're done and they don't care you know because I'm like they don't have that thing right that I had where I wanted

to get someone else off like and make them you know and be like hot to them right like that person that's so selfish doesn't really care what the other person thinks it's like as a man don't you want to be the guy that really pleases a woman you know I don't understand that mentality of not having that right that's what the guy is it's just like fucking and coming and leaving and doesn't give a shit whether the girl gets off. That's like weird to me. Well, if you're the girl that wants to give the best blowjo, I'm the guy that wants to give the best head to a girl.

You know, I want to lick her pussy and make her think that she had the best pussy licking that she ever got in her life or ever get from that day forward. Because number one, I really enjoy going down on the girl. Right. So it's a lot of fun for me. And there is that power control thing. Are you by at all? Like, is that whole, because I just have to ask that because I've been, like, the more I

talk to people with the whole cuckolding thing and, you know, I, I've been wondering, like, is it sort of tied to being bisexual, right? Because you are seeing your, you know, you like to see that dick inside the pussy as well. Like, so is there a by aspect to it, you know? There could be. I mean, I'm, I, not, not since I, you know, was probably 12 years old, have I ever, you know, played with a, with a, with another guy. I mean, as, as, as, as, you know, as, you know, You know, young kids, Roy's taking your pants off and I'll show you my dick and you show me yours and, you know, concurring size and stuff. But now, if I was with my wife and she said she wanted to see me with a guy, I wouldn't have a problem with that, you know. But you never have in the whole time you guys been together and open?

Never have. Right. You know, I've had been in real close proximity to the enemy, but, you know. Cross swords. Yeah, we've crossed swords in the past accidentally. And it's, but nothing. it's ever been done deliberately. I'm not afraid to be near another erect penis.

Yeah. And if she, you know, she wanted to see it and it turned her on, yeah, I would do it for it. Right. But it's not something that you need to do.

So maybe, right? No. I'm not going to, I'm not going to go out seeking it, but, you know, I'm not going to run away from it.

If it were to happen. And now you, in your open relationship, right, even though this call isn't about that, it's more about the teasing thing. But like, in your open relationship,

because she, I know that she fucks other guys. Do you fuck other girls? I have. It's not something I do on a regular basis. I met a girl. One of my fantasies was always to meet somebody and not know their name or anything. And recently, my wife was quite aware of this.

I met a girl through an online site, and she wanted to get eaten out. And we've chatted. She called me on the phone. We arranged a place to go. she climbed into the backseat of my my SUV I went down on her she left after she came she called me a couple weeks later

asked me to do it again we did and I've never seen her heard from her since right and that was the hot aspect I guess probably for both of you and I got nothing out of it I mean she didn't touch me she didn't try to touch she she wanted her pussy gone down on and that's all that's that it was understood right up front that she was nothing was going to be in return

to me that was to me that was just as hot as this could be. And obviously your wife knew about this, right? Oh, she did, yeah. Of course, right? I came home and went down on her. Yeah, and she liked it, I'm assuming. Very much, yes.

And that was the only time you've been with other women? No, I've been a few other times. We've tried to do some swinging, but it doesn't work for us. And what we find is that if she's interested in another guy, that's the best scenario for us. So, you know, I wouldn't turn down another girl. She wouldn't ask me to, but it's not something I go out and look for. Right. We were to meet a couple, and she hit it off with the guy,

and they want to run off together and do their thing. I'm perfectly okay with that. I can sit there and have a cup of coffee with a guy's wife and not want to fuck her or want to fuck me or anything. That doesn't happen very often. But it happened once, probably. Probably 15 years ago. We met a couple and she and he and my wife were really hot for each other.

And they wound up fucking that he came over and we had a threesome of my wife. And he and I and that was very enjoyable. Right. But the wife wasn't involved. The wife was not involved. She didn't want to be involved in. I absolutely had no chemistry with her whatsoever. So it was fine with me.

That way, I didn't have to feel under any pressure because when a guy thinks he's got to get it up, that's the time he's not going to. Right, right, right. That could ruin the whole thing when it's expected. Yeah, I would never make it as a porn star, you know, I just wouldn't. Right, but like you say, like that kind of porn is so manufactured anyway, right? I think it is, you know. And I don't have a fluffer, so, you know, what the heck?

Yeah, exactly. So what else could you tell people? I mean, like I said, I don't want to go too into that because this podcast was really about, you know, teasing and denial and how that can be super hot for our guy. right and I think a lot of people haven't tried it before right I would think the average person probably hasn't but maybe they'll go

home tonight and try it whether they're alone or with a partner right and I think it's pleasurable for girls too yeah if you don't like the word denial use the word delay instead tease and delay delay some people might think denial's hot some people you just want to tease and delay

whatever is the thing that makes you get turned on try it try the halfway in game try the time Try the rule. Like remember that rule you had with I Dream and Jeannie? Like try the rule. Like get a, if you're going to watch a porn for 10 minutes,

say you right before it ends, you turn it off and you can't and then start another one. Like somehow, you know, create that rule where you can't come and just try it on your own if you, if you got nobody. What do you have to lose, right?

And the only thing you have to gain is like more, a more, a longer journey, which is like that, because there's, to me, it's nothing hotter than to be in that state of like right before you come. Why not try to prolong it?

Oh, when, you know, that's, I mean, most, most young men until they're 16 years old, are in a perpetual state of horniness anyways. They are somehow unable to survive that. Right. You know, that's what it's right, right.

And to be, you know, I feel young again. It makes me feel young. And especially for guys that are getting, say, into their 40s, 50s, 60s, the longer they can delay it, and they'll feel turned on all the time, they'll think they're 16 again. So. And let me ask you this. How old's your, your, your woman? your girl, your wife.

We're in our 60s. And she, no, but so what I'm saying is that there's a lot of women that after they hit menopause, right? Like their sex life goes out the window, right? But it sounds like yours hasn't, right? And I think that use it so you don't lose it thing really is true, right? I mean, she's sort of stayed very active, right? There's probably never been a dip in her sex drive.

And maybe it's because you guys keep things really fucking hot and are always doing all stuff with each other, right? We've slowed down as we've gotten older, but we've never stopped having sex. And I mean, we could have sex three times a week or we could have one really monumental time once a week, you know? So it's, uh, you either use it or lose it. And she hasn't lost it. Yeah.

And let me tell you something. There are guys in their 20s and 30s that find my wife hot. And I mean, because she really is. She does not look her age. She's, their body is still in great shape. She has, you know, she's, you know, she's, doesn't have a humongous breast, but she's got a nice shape to her. But the other thing that makes her hot that people don't even know about it is that she

fucking likes sex. She likes sex. Men can smell that from a mile away, right? That's like what sexiness is. It's like if you fucking like sex, people are going to know it. It comes across, right? And I think that that is like, that's why you can't really fake sexiness. That true sexiness really is.

It's like you really like it and let yourself really. enjoy it, that'll come out. And it's like an unspoken thing, but it definitely sort of comes across to the opposite sex. It oozes out of your poor. Yeah, for sure. That's why guys fucking think she's hot still. I think so. Because she's, look at what she does and what she's into and she's really open.

And that's the energy that they're picking up on. I think that that's what makes people. That's the difference between people that are sexy and maybe not so sexy, right? I think there's something to that. I agree, 100%. For sure. So try it. you'll like it. Give it a shot. Yeah. And so I feel like women

should have got a lot out of this call too because like I said, I didn't realize that I had a little bit of this in me, have done stuff too. So I gave the girls some tools of what they could do. You taught the guys and you know, thanks so much for that because it isn't something that I've had on before. But I think it is an interesting topic. It's the halfway in game. No way in game, whatever you want to fucking call it. Maybe it'll open the floodgates and you'll hear from more people now that it's for sure for sure for sure i hope anyways i do too but i'm sure people will get a lot out of this uh podcast so thanks so much just jim for calling in thanks thanks for having me i appreciate it you have a great day you too bye bye bye okay i just want to tell you before you go that my book

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