Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 325 - Squirting Saved Chuck's Marriage

Episode Date: March 2, 2020

Chuck calls in to talk all about how his wife suddenly squirting completely reinvigorated their unfulfilling sex life. How did he get his wife to squirt when she wasn’t even able to have an orgasm previously? What was going on in their sex life before she squirted and why was it totally not working? And, what exactly was it that helped them to create the massive change? Tune in to find out plus hear all about the kinky things they’ve been doing together since she’s been able to squirt, including anal play, lots dirty talk, gagging, toys, talks of a threesome and a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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you call me up, you talk to me, we go through everything, just like on my podcast, I tape it, I send you the thing. But I never air it. I do that for people now too. That's $200 a pop if you want to call in, but not have it aired. Send me an email at Strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com and tell me you want to set up a consultation. Today I have on a guy named Chuck. Chuck wrote in and was like, his subject line was like squirting, save my marriage. And I was like a little excited because he said in his email like, oh, I'm going to teach everyone how to squirt or he said something like that. Because that's always been like one of my biggest.

I wouldn't say fantasy. It's like my goal. It's like a goal. It's like on my bucket list. Like before I die, I have to figure out how to squirt. And I can't. It's fucking impossible. He even asks in the beginning, which was funny, is like, is it a myth that people can squirt?

but I'm like not to you it's not because he eventually got his wife to squirt after being married for a lot of years them having a pretty vanilla sex life where she could not even orgasm I mean since the day he met her she could never really orgasm except with a vibrator like in a certain position and then fast forward so many years later through a lot of weird interesting things that I'm not going to tell you about you're going to have to listen um they got to a point where he's he was able to get her to squirt. And now that she has, holy shit, they're into all kinds of things. The squirting thing happened to them very recently.

So we talk more about what was going on before, but it's super interesting because I think where they were before she squirted and now they're really open about everything. Where they were before is much more common to where a lot of people, married people are, you know, kind of monotonous, same old, same old, as C-X. kind of thing. And now all of a sudden, they're like having like the best sex ever full of all new interesting things that they never did together. So am I going to use the word interesting again? I don't know. I noticed that I use that word too much. But anyway, it is interesting, I think. And you're going to learn a lot, all you marry people out there. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with chat.

Hello. Thank you for having me. No, thank you for coming on because I know ahead of time what everyone's calling in for. And you're calling in, you have a really interesting story, right? But the end of the story is, like, your wife eventually, you were married for a long time, she eventually learned how to squirt, right? And you're, you're going to tell the whole backstory, because it's really interesting how you got to that point, right, where she could square. Because she was a woman who couldn't have an orgasm for a really long time, right? And then she learned how to squirt, and you want to tell people, like, how they could squirt, right? Like, you're going to give, like, kind of like a tutorial, right? because maybe maybe i thought you said that that's what you wanted to do i think that's really

interesting i think there's more uh to it than the physical aspect oh interesting so we have to get into that because i would tell you and i've said this before my podcast and all my friends know it that i could talk to like this you know with like with all my friends that i could talk to i don't even know that's not proper grammar but like my biggest thing is i can't squirt i'm always jealous when i meet somebody that can and i'm always like what's the trick to sort of going from not being able to to being able to square, right? So I think, you know, I'm looking for some answers here and I'm sure other people will. So if it's like, you know, changing mental blocks or whatever, you're going to get into that, right? Because

I know that you and your wife went through some like bad stuff to get to that point, right? And that's what I think is really interesting. So why don't you start at the beginning of your story? I can, but I'm interested in knowing. Do you think it's a myth? What? The squirting thing. What do you mean a myth? I went for years. Yeah.

Thinking that this was just piss. Oh, right. Why? She was peeing all the time? No, not her, but just like the squirting aspect in general, people talking about this myth of squirting. And I squirted and I did this and watched the videos. and it seems like it's bullshit. No, but what does your wife say?

It's 100% not bullshit. But this is only like a recent realization. I've never thought it was bullshit. I've never, ever. No, listen, I think maybe when you're watching the porn and they're just, you know what I mean? Maybe they're doing stuff to make it seem that way. But no, there are people who could squirt and people that can't squirt. And when they're squirting, those are not girls that just had to pee during sex or in their orgasm when they let it out.

I mean, maybe there's pee in it because it's a physical thing. I don't know. I think that like there might be some pee in it, but I don't think what's happening physically is a woman is peeing and it's making. Because to me, and I'm sure your wife could talk more to it. And I'm going to have her on hopefully separate from you, right? But I think like for a woman that squirts, it's like it's a whole different orgasm, right? it's totally yeah so it's not just like she's peeing it's not a myth no I know that it's that it's not but I just I'm saying like before a couple weeks ago

up until a couple weeks ago I've had many conversations people about squirty I've never met anybody who's told me I squirt and this is a real thing now that may be because I'm not part of that lifestyle actively all the time I don't I don't know but I've taught I had any open conversation with friends and my wife and whatever. Mm-hmm. And here are different theories on it. And I've never, I always thought that it was kind of fake. Well, wait, did your wife just start squirting?

I thought she started. Yes. Oh, she's just like weeks ago? Yes. Oh, interesting. Okay. I thought it was like. But we've been married for a year.

Well, we've been married for eight years. We've been together for 14. Right. And yes, she's always, that's been the number one thing has been her trying to have an orgasm. It's been almost impossible. Yeah, that's crazy. For years. And it was always the vibrator with reverse cowgirl would be how she could have it.

And even then, it took probably like when we first, okay, I'll start being, we started dating, started having sex. It was great. but I realized this was the first girl that I had been with that had never, that had openly told me I have never had an orgasm during sex. How old were you guys when you met and started dating? How old were you looked at you? I mean, I'm 40, so I was probably, I don't know, 25, 26. And how about her? She's around your age?

She was 22. Okay, so even younger. So she at 22 still hadn't had an orgasm, right? even when she was by herself or just not with a guy? No, when she was by herself, she could. Okay. But I worked every angle, like, pretty early on trying to do that because I didn't want her to not have one. Yeah.

Or have fun during sex. So I tried everything, you know. That's like I actually bought a vibrator probably shortly after we start dating. There were certain times where I was like, okay, you can. so you can have an orgasm by yourself. We can't. Well, with me or with anybody, like, why don't you go back and do your own thing for 30 minutes before I come into the room?

Like, I kind of tried, like, everything. Let me ask you this real quick, because, like, women can have two different kinds of orgasms, right? Like, from clitorals, like, right, stimulation? And also, like, an inside orgasm, right? Now, was she able to have orgasms when you went down on her, or she was just not able to have orgasms no matter what you did? I would say

Oh so no matter what No matter what I did She could not have Even if you went down on her She hated it When I went down on her Really interesting Like and

I don't know if it was like a confidence thing Or if she was feeling You know Like she didn't feel confident with it Or she felt like Too exposed or whatever thing right she was definitely in her head about it right because like who who wouldn't like it like you know unless you were really unless you were using your teeth or something i don't know

yeah exactly i hate to say it but you know i can see that i don't understand what was going on i'm not using my teeth you know yeah i i feel like um i tried every aspect of that and i was always amazed that that she couldn't know she could have any work But then she did years later have an orgasm with a vibrator in reverse cowgirl, like sitting on top of me. Mm-hmm. You're fucking her. She's riding you and she's using a vibrator on her clip. Yes.

Mm-hmm. Okay. And I was always under the impression maybe like she could imagine something else or, you know, thinking about whatever, you know. And she would have one. but even then it wasn't like, you know, jaw dropping. Mm-hmm. So I always kind of felt bad for in that respect. And I always was trying to make it better.

Right. Now, were you guys talking a lot about it with each other, like trying to solve the problem? Yeah, we did. Well, kind of, but I think she had given up on that fact. Mm-hmm. Like, you know, this is years go by. And I think that maybe she gave up. on the fact that

she was ever really going to be that sexual or be able to have multiple orgasms. She couldn't even have one. Forget about multiples. Yeah. I mean, come on. Yeah, right.

You talk about this stuff and it seems like, you know, it's a fable or something. But I don't know really where to go from this. So it's kind of like a long, it's a really long road. So there was. But I want to hear the wrong word because I know, like you went through some bullets in your email. And it's really interesting because you guys, you know, reached a point where things were really bad, right?

And you both had to like go on some medication, right? And you were taking it. And what sort of changed things, like through that sort of down part of your life, you guys came out on the other side and then things got better. So I think that that's an interesting story to go through. So if you could go through that, I think that's like. Definitely. Yeah. I also, that's one of the main reasons why I wanted to call because I thought.

like, number one, it was so profound, but, you know, you could maybe shed some light on, you know, what it potentially was.

Yeah. But so, so we, so yeah, so she, she started taking, so it was worse because, like,

it started kind of getting monotonous, because at this point, you know, we're, you know, a few years into it, you know, four,

five years or whatever it was. And it was already kind of vanilla and a little bit monotonous. like you would, you know, think of a married life. Yeah, for sure. Then she had a, so we were trying to have a kid, she had a miscarriage. And she got put on, and she started like, she had more of an reaction to that, and I thought that she would.

Yeah, that's a heavy thing for a woman to go through. Presence, which knocked her libido even more into the dirt. Yep, I've heard of that. It was necessarily in the dirt, but it did. So that went on for quite a while. And so that made orgasms basically non-existent, which increased my frustration. Well, listen, I'm sorry, but you're going on almost six, seven years. And are you a monogamous guy?

I mean, you're with one woman that you can't fully get off. Like the whole, like you've never been able to give her an organization. up to this point, right, that where we're talking. I mean, now I know you can. But I'm saying, like, at this point, you're with one woman since day one, she's never been able to have orgasm with you. So I would assume at some point it's going to get frustrating, if not monotonous. It's kind of strange because I am monogamous and, you know, I get a lot of attention

from girls, which makes it even worse. Right. But it's something that, you know, my dad used to cheat on a woman. mom all the time. And I don't know if that has anything to do with it, you know, from in my subconscious or what, but it's not that I don't feel the normal attraction to women that other men do or feel like there's plenty of opportunities to do those kind of things. But I've never acted on it. And a lot of the times I've always, I've told her about it. Like if a girl hits on me or if there's something to happen.

I'll tell her about it and it kind of like makes it to where if I did want to act on it at any given time like it could never happen because I would expose myself Yeah yeah no that's smart

That's smart that you would do that That's like a mind fuck You know that's like Yeah mind fucking myself Yeah no but that's what you have to do Sometimes to really make sure you stay Doing what you feel is the right thing to do Because you're always going to have pulls

In the wrong direction you know That's true Yeah And I think that that's great. I have to say that I think that when you were sort of dealt certain cards in life, right? Like, and you see your parents do certain things. You know, you have two choices. You know, when certain kids look at that behavior and say, I'm never going to be like that.

You know what I mean? And they never do. And then certain kids become that. And, you know, you have to feel for that person that does cheat massively because their father cheated. You know, because like where did they learn that, right? But it's like, it's really great that you saw that and didn't continue that. pattern, right? Well, he's also told me. Oh, really?

That's one of the few good things he's ever done. But yeah, he said multiple times, like, don't ever think you can get away with that because they'll tell your, you'll tell your wife for sure. And I'm not saying that's the only reason why I haven't done it.

Right, right. Yeah, I just, I remember him saying. Yeah, that's interesting, though. So you never cheated. It wasn't, you know, like you said, it's not like you can, but you just wouldn't. It's not the kind of person that you are. So now here you are. She's on antidepressants.

She had that miscarriage. You're getting slightly frustrated. And then what happens? That's true. Years go by. Right. Literally years just tick by like crazy. She, so we have a five-year-old.

Uh-huh. So she got pregnant. Mm-hmm. And there's that, the pregnancy aspect of it. So there's basically knocks sex out the door. At this point, you know, an infant. And then a year later, she started to go to get her master's degree, which took two and a half years. So that was two and a half years of, you know, basically, you know, I work nights.

And she was going to school and she was also working. And then we had a one year old and we were swapping off care. And that was like two and a half years of misery. She, you know, the whole time I was kind of trying to get her off the antidepressants, but with the increased stresses of school and the kid and whatnot, like it just really wasn't something that she could do. Right. And she probably would throw that kid out of the window if she didn't have those antidepressants.

Yeah, probably. You know what I mean? Probably. Yeah. There's other things about it because like our sex wasn't like completely vanilla. I mean, it was pretty fairly good. But there was this other thing. So we used to take Ambien.

Yes. You mentioned this in your email. Yeah. I was waiting for you to get to that because that. Have you heard about this? I took it only once. And I have to tell you I had like that memory. Like I went home to my apartment after sleeping over my guy's house at the time.

And like I didn't remember which part of my building I walked in through my dormant. the battle like I don't know it fucked me it was weird shit but I don't remember I know you said it was like truth serum for you guys right and a lot of people say that yeah it really was and I'm not saying like you know I'm not trying to condone you're giving somebody hypnotic and sleeping

with them yeah yeah yeah Cosby or whatever but like I think that it did that that actually was a contributing aspect of it as well because we would like when we had sex on envy it was ridiculous well no but that but now

you're changing. See, this is where things start to kind of change, right? Because all this time you're talking about your story is that you guys have this really bad, like vanilla sex, right? That she can't really orgasm unless she's not really even looking at you.

Right? Now she's on antidepressants. And you know, and you're caught up in life. You know, regular life is taking over. And now this Ambien kicks in. And now it's getting... Right. But now this is, The ambience starts something new, though, right?

Between you guys, kind of in a weird way? Yeah, but we've been taking Ambien the whole time. Oh, you were? Yeah, all this kind of stuff that I'm talking about, you know, there was always these good nights when we were taking Ambien and fucked like crazy. Oh, I didn't know that. You didn't, I, oh, okay, interesting. It changed a lot of, I mean, that was always just more fun.

So I guess that made me realize, like, there is a side of her that, does really have a freaky side if that makes any sense. Yeah. But other than that, we did communicate, but we didn't, like, fully communicate. Right. If that makes sense. We weren't, like, fully open. But when we take Ambien, we would talk about everything.

Right. Sexual, like, while you were pulling around, huh? Oh, yeah. Her fantasies, my fantasies, you know, all kinds of stuff. There's insanity. Like, you know, sometimes, you don't always remember it. And that's unfortunate side of it. You don't, right?

That's the weird thing. You do have weird memory loss. I have a weird ability to take it and remember. But she would forget. Yeah, sometimes. Yeah, sometimes. It just depends on like, you know, if you have two glasses of wine or one.

Right. Uh-huh. With it. But she's still not orgasming, right? No. Well, you know, like I said, Like with the, you know, she would get on top and... Do the vibrator.

That was her go-to. That was her go-to. Like, get on top, put the vibrator on, have an orgasm. Sometimes it was weak. Sometimes it was good. Sometimes it was too hard. And, you know, she would tell me that that was it. You know, it always kind of sucked.

So it always made me feel like I was essentially like just... I don't know, I felt like an animal. Like, you know, like she... I felt like I was... I would, I would, I just wanted to fuck and she wanted to get it over with. So like what part of me is like I'm a little bit, I'm a pleaser to a certain extent. So I want her to get off on it as well. Right.

And when she's not into it, like I just can't get into it. Of course. There's nothing worse than that. Yeah. Um, I mean, only a rapist like, I mean, I don't know. I've seen some guys like take home girls that are like so drunk. They're like dead people. It's like what's wrong with you?

Like I mean, don't you want to be with someone that like you're getting something back from? You know what I mean? I think most normal people, right? Do want to see that they're pleasing somebody else, you know? Yeah. For sure. You know what the crazy flip side of this is?

I don't think any of the antidepressant other than the fact that it like suppress her orgasms. Yeah. Even though she's still on. I don't know if that had anything to do with it because I eventually started taking them. You then went on the antidepressants. I did. It's not really because I'm necessarily depressed, but, you know, I have a very high-stress job. And, you know, I'm ex-military serving Iraq, that kind of stuff.

I think there was a lot of, like, underlying. Stuff coming up, like. Coming up with me, like some, you know, some, like. PTSD. anxiety. I would say PTSD. PTSD. I said the wrong thing.

Yeah. I don't have any SDDs. Yeah. It was like kind of something, you know, that I had flirted with before, but I've always been, I have a weird way of being able to suppress it. Mm-hmm. I would be able to suppress everything, you know. So I just kind of.

I know, I know, but I'm one of those types of people. I could really power through things and whatever. but you know they're oh it's like we we tend to think that if you could power through it that they're not that stuff isn't there but it's percolating right and it's working it's it's still there doing something right and it is yeah and i think a lot of that is it manifests itself with um the way that i open up emotionally as well yeah so i think that's a huge aspect of it like i just you know it's weird because like she's very gorgeous and I would never tell her that she's pretty you know really I would no I just didn't like to

say that stuff like I didn't like maybe she would have orgasmed if you did could have been that's what I'm thinking yeah maybe she didn't feel maybe she didn't feel hot in front of like you never made her feel like really hot that's true you know yeah like I always just felt like I don't know but yeah I never I would never say that I didn't even like saying like I love you so much. Right. You're so beautiful. Like I'm saying it to you now, which I can't, which is bizarre.

Right. And you know that about her and you feel that about her, but you couldn't tell her. No, I didn't like saying that. Right. I don't know why. She's going to listen to this, right? Maybe. Yeah.

Yeah, I imagine. Yeah. And I'm not just saying it because she's going to listen to it. No, but it's a good, no, but this is a good way for her. this is a good way for you to tell her. At least this is a step in that. You have told her now? Well, so, you like within the last like few months, there's been like a bunch of changes.

Right. And I think that's a part of it. Sure. Yeah, I got on, I started taking antidepressants and nothing crazy because a lot of people hate this kind of stuff. And it's not really for being depressed, but it was for, you know, just generalize anxiety, I guess you'd say. Yeah. But I felt like of 100,000 pounds was lifted off my shoulders.

Like within two weeks. Right. I just absolutely felt like, and I have zero problems saying these kind of things right now. Yeah. And sharing my emotion, which is part of the reason why I'm calling you. Right. Remember what I've done this. So you feel like it opened you up emotionally as well.

Besides like numbing you out to whatever was going on, it really opened you up. opened me up, made me communicate better. But, you know, so what does, you know, the antidepressant is kind of like the same thing with the libido. It knocks your dick in the dirt. The same reason it would, you know, put her libido down. So what does a middle-aged man go when his dick gets put in the dirt? He goes and gets testosterone replacement therapy. Oh, right.

I remember this. Uh-huh. This was in the email, too. Yeah. Which the combination of those two drugs turned me into a freak of nature. Like I just absolutely became disgustingly horny. Right. With no inhibitions whatsoever and didn't care really.

You know, at this point I just became determined to kind of switch our sex life around. Right. You were holding back anymore, not communicating everything you felt. Uh-huh. No, I started pouring things out. And I think that I could tell this. That's what you guys really needed, right? 100%.

And she, I could tell that she was feeding off of it. Well, yeah, was this when you first started, finally started complimenting her? Yeah, I mean, I guess around that. Yeah, pretty much. I mean, I just didn't really have any kind of problems. I mean, there were some issues. Like there's things like, you know, certain things that you want to do, you know, when you have sex like animalistic type things that you, you know, you're kind of hesitant to do because you're worried about, you know, what this, your significant other is going to think about you. Yeah, for sure.

That stuff is out the window. Right. You just let it all out. Pretty much. And it kind of coincided with us taking a little vacation. So we had gone down to this place where we took a vacation and we were there for a weekend with some friends and stuff staying in a hotel And I just I don't know You know, I think a lot of this sounds crazy, but a lot of it like when I bent her over

And just licked her asshole forever She let me do it and she loved it And I loved it And this is something you had never done. done before. No. Okay. And it was like something about just letting loose and relaxing and being vulnerable or whatever, but she started talking about how much you liked it. I started talking about how much I liked it and it just went crazy from there. Um, started talking about how much more about start changing the words. Like I made sure that we change things like this. We're

going to do it or we're going to, you know, all these little stupid things that you say when you're married. It's like, you know, I'm like, don't say that anymore. Right. It's not that. It's, you know, we're going to fuck. Right. And she was down with it too. Pretty much. Yeah. Talking dirty is a huge part of it. And it's so interesting that, you know, you guys were together for so long, right? On some level, you have to be like super comfortable. with each other, right? You've been married and dating. Yeah, we always were. You weren't. But yet you still

had this little thing where you couldn't really let your freak flag fly with each other. It was just in the bedroom, right, where you had a little bit of some blocks with each other. Pretty much. Right? Yeah. Because we could talk about things. That would say, I would say like that was the only thing

that we ever got into a fight about was sex. Was about how I always want to have sex. She never wanted to. Right. Typical, right. Yeah, it's typical. bullshit. But the profound moment was like shortly after this is when she starts squirting. How did that happen?

You know, it was, I don't know what happened on her part. I've talked to her a little bit about it. And, you know, she said that she was watching some kind of like, when she was on some blog, you know, that was talking about that kind of stuff. So I think, you know, she did a little bit research on her aspect, but I did notice that, you know, we were doing that reverse cowgirl and, you know, she plop, this is another thing. There's certain things that, like mutual masturbation. Yeah. Those kind of things. Like they're a little bit vulnerable.

Yeah. Yeah, for sure. I get a normal relationship. Like, it's kind of like something that she's just, oh, she's just sitting here watching me jerk off. Like, what does she think of it? It's kind of a weird thing. Yeah. But once you start doing it, it changes everything.

Yeah, if you could get comfortable and lose yourself while, you know, right in front of that other person, it is really, but it is really weird if you think about it and you've never done it. But if you get past the weirdness and do it and let yourself go, there's nothing hotter, right? And then once, I think that that kind of stuff is like once you do it once and you're comfortable, it just gets easier after that. It's more like, you know, doing it the first time if you've never done it, it could be a little weird, right? but then once you do it, you realize it's hot, you feel way more comfortable doing it the next time and the next time. And then it's, you're good to go.

Yeah, I noticed that, you know, she would, you know, she plopped off me one time when she was doing reverse cowgirl and kind of bent over in my face like doggy style and I was fingered her from behind.

You know, when I was doing that. And she, you know, the next day, I felt like it was a little bit different, you know? Yeah.

Like she was way more into, it and I noticed, you know, she said something about it the next day being pretty hot. So I tried to, we did it again and more vigorous fingering or whatever. And she started to get more into that. And she mentioned like squirting. I don't know if it was like I felt like I was going to squirt, but I didn't want to pee on you or something like that. Yeah, they said that's how it feels. Yeah.

So I googled it. I started looking at, you know, like a, you know, I never looked at how to squirt a girl. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I watched a porn video of it. And, you know, whatever. I felt like I've done things like that before. But maybe not with that kind of purpose. But yeah, I mean, that's what I did this time.

There was one random day before I went to work. She was laid on her back. Legs open. I had my two middle fingers on my right hand. Yeah. You know, in there. And then kind of vigorously moving my arm.

Uh-huh. As well as kind of moving my fingers a little bit. But I went a little bit crazy with my, with my arm. Mm-hmm. And I could feel, you know, right behind her clip on the backside of her, you know,

the vagina, yeah. Yeah, inside was kind of swelling up. Yeah, that's what they say. This is the quote unquote myth that you think is a myth. It's like you experience it. This is what they say in the myth. You're here to tell us it's true. It's like you saw fucking bigfoot.

It's real, right? It was. And she was like super into it and, you know, going crazy. I was like, what's going to sound completely different? Yeah. And then I kept doing it. It was just like, ups, freaking turn into a damn lake. Really?

Just fucking everywhere. And she was like almost crying and laughing at the same time. Like, she was so profound. I don't know. Anyways, that was it. She went to work and called me like five minutes later talking about it. Like, you could tell, like, when she was talking to me on the, Oh, this was like morning sex?

No, it was like we work nights. Oh, okay. And then then, oh, right, right, right. I forgot you worked nights. Yeah. Go on. Yeah, it was like. So she calls you from work.

Was she like, what the fuck just happened? That was great. Yeah. Yeah. It was insane. She was laughing about it and talking about it. She couldn't get a way to wait to come home and do it again. Basically, yeah.

Mm-hmm. Then, I mean, that's all she wrote. We just went on a fuck fast after that. Right. And it's been crazy, just squirting every single time. And she has multiple orgasms. And it's even weird. It's like if you do the

if she does the squirt. Yeah. If she squirts then then you know she can have both orgasms. You know, she can have that kind of orgasm. She has a clitoral orgasm as well. Oh really? Right. You could do both. now. Easier.

Easier. Yeah. Like if you you know, warm her up. That's another thing. She never liked me eating her pussy. Yeah. You said mentioned that in the beginning. I mean, she loves it. Of course she loves it.

And nothing changed. Right. So now we know it wasn't you, by the way. It wasn't you. It was her. I don't know. Maybe it was. No, it was her. She said, what was I doing different? I'm like, I don't fucking know. It's a rocket science. No, I think she had a mental.

block in her head because sex for women is different than sex for men you know and she must have had something going on with her in her head and if you could get hooked into like a negative thing that way and have a block like it's very hard to break those kind of things sometimes you know because she was so invested in it she had like committed to not having orgasms you know to like sort of break that you know it's she had to maybe she had to squirt right and then next. it's like the floodgates are open. She could do everything. And she loves, of course she loves you going down on her now and everything.

Because I think maybe you having, being really able to like let your freak flag fly and be like that dirty guy in bed, you know, allowed her to be more dirty. And she needed that in her life. You know what I mean? Like maybe it was like she wasn't open up to that part of herself. And she was too, because listen, when a woman is too in her head about sex, like she's never going to be able to come. with a guy and that's a lot of women's problem because she obviously was fine she was having orgasms by herself you know and if she's squirting and having great organs on antidepressants like she's really fine now she's kind of coming off of them uh-huh she's going to be squirting even more probably

because i know i have a friend that told me that like it would like numb it out it was she felt though she had like like fake orgasms you know and she would have to take other things on top of it you know, because that's what they do. So, you know, it's like, it's, and she's getting off of them now, that's great. She probably doesn't need them anymore. I think there's like, there's got to be some kind of subconscious aspect to, too, because I always thought I was that guy in bed. What guy? That's the funny thing.

What guy? Oh, the dirty guy, the dirty guy. But you never even licked your asshole. You never even tried to lick her asshole. You never talk dirty to her. Yeah, not to that, not that kind of dirty. You never said let's fuck. That's terrible.

No, I never did. Yeah. I mean, I definitely, I fingered her asshole. Right. She liked that. I never looked it. Right. Uh-huh.

You said in your email that you've done, like you've done some double penetration with her now, like she likes things up her ass and like, right? You've tried to a certain extent. I think you've kind of hit her wall with that. Like we were breaking down down. Andrew's like crazy. Yeah. But yeah, I think we kind of. And this is all in the past like couple weeks?

Like how long has this been going down? Like a month? Yeah. A month. Yeah. That's another thing. Like I never got a dildo. She always had a vibrator, but I never got a dick dildo.

Right. Because I have like too big of an ego. Mm-hmm. And does she have a dick vibrator? Does she have a dick dildo now? She does. I bought it. Oh, okay.

And you're okay with that? I am and what size would you think I would get? I don't know. Exactly. Huge? No. No, right? Bigger than you?

I thought it was. Yeah. So I went into the store and bought one and I'm like looking at all these dicks. I'm like, well, that one's look pretty fucking big, you know? Yeah. I bought it. And I'm thinking, okay, whatever. It's a little suction cup one or whatever.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I thought it was huge. and then I put it up next to me. Yeah. And I'm bigger. That's like a fucking mind fuck. That's been a good mind fuck though, right? But it's like an optical illusion.

Like I'm like, what the hell? That's how your brain can fuck with you that much. Right. Like these guys, I heard another guy on your podcast talking about the penis pumps or whatever. Yeah. And how you look at your own junk and what you think is average or what you think is not. Yeah. It's insanity.

Right. Meaning that you think you're smaller than you are, right? You're like guys are thinking they're... Yeah, it's like dysmorphia or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. I've never been told that. You know, I'm above average, but I'm not, you know, some giant man. But, yeah, I mean, that's kind of a weird thing. It's just a side note.

Yeah, I noticed that I noticed it when I bought it because I didn't know which one to get her. I thought I was getting a bigger one, but it turns out it wasn't. Right. Yeah, she likes that thing. Yeah, so she'll, it's just crazy. Like, that's another thing I never, like, just like coming on her face. That's such a porn thing, right? Yeah.

Well, I have a whole thing about coming on the face. I don't know. I mean, but let me ask you this. Well, the first time I did it, it went up both nostrils. So. Oh, my God, that's hilarious. It's an amateur mistake. you know i was like okay she's like yeah come on my face you know she's super into it and everything's super

hot and she's sitting on the dildo and everything's awesome and then you know this first time i you know did it it's like the first shot went straight up her fucking nose like it's like in her left nostril right i'm like oh fuck like i saw bloopers yeah and then i'm like oh maybe she you know won't notice or whatever and the second one went up her right one. Like it was uncanny. It was straight up both nostrils and then she went and sneezed all over the fucking peep. Because that's another thing. We have to have sex on pee pads now.

What are the? Oh. Do people have sex with puppy pepads? Oh, because she's squirting so much. She's like saturated mattresses. Oh, my. Now does she say, because she had orgasms by herself, like does she say that the orgasms through what now or like this like you know the squirting orgasms are 10,000 times better I'm assuming

yeah she can do it now yeah she can do it now in her own like I did I didn't never realize that she really I mean she didn't really masturbate that much I don't think you know on her own but but now she got that little dick build that I had and had it in the shower the other day and you know texting me about it but yeah she can squirt on command and I'm like god damn it I felt like it was something that I did. But not if I did with anybody. Well, it was you guys together. You guys figured it out, right?

It was that, I mean, seriously, like, you broke the code. You helped her. I mean, I think it was like a team effort. Yeah. I think you guys both sort of, like, lucky for you guys that you both sort of wound up in the same place of life at the same time. You know what I mean? Because you were both ready.

to sort of remove whatever block. Because it seems like you had some blocks too to yourself. It wasn't just her. Yeah, we had a ton. Yeah. And I think a lot of it was me. Yeah. You know, you weren't able to really express how you felt about her.

So, you know, she had her thing, but like you were sort of feeding into her dysfunction with your dysfunction, right? It's like maybe she didn't feel confident or sexy enough to like really, you know, get into it with you. maybe she had a lack of confidence in bed with you. And then you not, you know, giving her, you know, being sort of stingy with, you know, giving her the compliments and stuff, then was feeding her insecurity. So you guys were never going to get away from that, right?

But then you both change, you know, at the same time, which is good. It completely changed everything. Right. And now it's going a little bit too far. What do you mean? Stop it. well where do I stop like she's I think

you know it's been a couple weeks you know yeah and it's like every single day you know and now it's like okay she wants you to fuck her every single day is that what it is? No it started off that way

but I want to continue it but now it's starting to kind of regress a little bit to okay but the squirting thing is very intriguing because she talks about her friends She talks to her friends about it And they talk about it Like it's a fucking myth

I'm surprised you didn't Well not in your profession You know I'm sure you hear this kind of shit all the time But I just I was amazed And I'm amazed at with her friends She was super excited about I started talking about

But yet I'm rambling But I think that When I'm getting to a point of You know Fantasy stuff You know we talk about the DP And this kind of stuff

And we've been talking about you know, another girl. Yeah. And, um, I just don't think we're going to go. She is into that. Yeah. That's great.

Like this is a girl who went from not being able to orgasm to like she wants to have a threesome. Yeah, probably because she won't be with another girl all the time. But there was, let me ask you this. Does that like, does that create some sort of like, does that bother you or? It used to. Okay. Does it still?

Um, no. So I'm really trying to work. on that kind of aspect of myself. Mm-hmm. But I think that those kind of things do bother me. I don't like, you know, her getting like any kind of pleasure from anyone else. Yeah, of course. I think a lot of people feel that way.

And I think, you know, before you get to the plate, like even a girl, like, right? And I get that because I've heard that before. Like a lot of times people think that that's like every guy's ultimate fantasy. But there are plenty of people. guys that would say like no I don't I would even get jealous for that right like they wouldn't want to see their their partner be with anybody right whether it's a woman or a man maybe I mean I think so there's it's like a the reason I say I'm working on it with myself is because I feel like it's a double-edged sword like part of me really wants to see it okay really wants to be part

of it okay and then another part of me thinks that um you know I would I wouldn't It's not that I wouldn't be able to handle it in the moment. I think everything would be great. Yeah. But it would be like later. Right. You're worried about how you would feel after. Uh-huh.

Well, not me, but like open up a can of worms. Like maybe she starts talking to this girl on the side and they meet up or something like that. Right? I mean, that's like to me in my brain, there's something I don't want to deal with. But, you know, we've looked. at these kind of things. And I just, I don't think,

you know, there's, I don't know how you do it. Do what? I'm 40 years old. Like, get another girl. You know,

you go online. Well, listen, I think before, I don't think you should have another girl yet until you guys have more conversations and figure stuff out.

I think you guys shouldn't, like, listen, you have like this new amazing thing happening between the two of you. You could have, have a lot of like you're just starting to live out your fantasies with each other and role play

DP all this stuff that you could talk about like just use your imagination and have these sort of scenarios as fantasies now with each other and enjoy what is happening that's new with each other before you go and bring a third person in because the last thing you want to do is fuck this all up okay and like you even you know at least you know you have some reservations about it. Slight, you know, even if they're slight, I would heed that warning in yourself. And just like, and because things are new and so great and, you know, I would just like live in that and don't, like, don't break what's not fixed, right?

Or what is that, what's the saying? Don't fix what's broken, not broken. Something like that. Yeah, there's nothing wrong here. You don't, I think you could start fantasizing about all those things and everything. But I think, you know, and you're probably the type of couple that will eventually do those things and be able to get through whatever happens. Yeah, it would be like 60 years old.

No, it could be five, it could be two years from now. But I think because you just got into the place where you're both being so much more open and experiencing your sexuality, you should have just like enjoy it with each other first. And maybe it's six months from now. I don't know. But you're literally like she just started doing all this stuff like a month ago. Didn't you say that's the one that started happening? Yeah, basically.

Yeah. So, I mean, I would enjoy it for a year or. spend this like time just you know talking about your fantasies and talking things through being more communicative with each other because the last thing you want is to open it up and then it be something that she fucking loves and you can't deal with it and then there's like you know it's just it's it could get messy and that's what you do want to avoid I'm I would think that a couple like you who is basically compatible and happy and every and you know communicative in every area of your life it was really only sex that you weren't, right?

And everything's pretty great that you would be able to work through. Any bad things that came up, you know? But I would give it some time before you go and do something like that, only because you might have some problems with it. I understand. Don't you think? Yeah, I think that's very true. You know, I know that, you know, when I called, when I thought about calling up here, like, this wasn't like your typical taboo type. caller or whatever, but I don't need taboo call.

Like, I mean, I just get that because a lot of people call in. I get people with regular problems too. But I mean, listen, I think your story is really interesting because, you know, it's not typical, right? And it's like here you, and you had a big change. Like, you're not someone calling in, like, if you were calling in six months ago, what would be your story? Like, my wife can't have an orgasm. No story. No, no, no.

The story. No, I've had people call up. Like, you know, it would be a good story, too. That would be like my wife can have an orgasm unless she sits on top of me, faced away from me with a vibrator. And she doesn't even like me going down on her. You know, I could have. That's another thing that's so weird. Like now I can look her dead and her eyes.

Yeah, because she didn't feel confident. She didn't feel confident with you. I don't think you made her feel sexy. I don't think she could feel sexy with you. I don't think she, I think it was all of that combined. You know, it wasn't you. It was her, but I don't think you helped it by holding back, like I said, and telling her how beautiful she was and how hot you thought she was and all that stuff, right? Didn't you say you never, like, gave her that?

Yeah, I didn't. No, not to the level I'm doing it now. Right. So, you know, and you didn't really dirty, like, did you tell her, like, how hot her body was, like, while you were having sex with her or how much you want? Like, would you say stuff like that to her when you guys were fooling around? No. Right. Well, so she just probably never felt that you were that into her.

And she, you know, and so maybe she never felt that sexy when she was with you. But when she turned around and she closed her eyes and she didn't see fucking you there, she could like just get into it, you know? Yeah, baby. But so that had nothing to do with you. It had to do with her. But, you know, the more you tell her she's fucking hot and she's sexy and you like every part of her body. and you say those things while you're fling around,

it's just going to make her feel sexier and more open, right? And you're doing that now, right? And it's like totally different now. So, you know, it's all good now. I just say don't ruin it. But that would have been an interesting call because we would have been analyzing your girl and what's her problem.

And then maybe we would have figured out you had problems, right? Because I think people always match up with people that are sort of similar, right? There's never, it's not just like one person has issues and the other person doesn't, right? Like you've admitted to the fact that you were, playing into you had your own issues right and you know and because of your the both of your issues it wasn't working right but you both what's great about this story is fast forward right and like we're

one month in like things have drastically changed and that's like really super interesting I think for other people who are listening and in your same boat that haven't had that change yet you know what mean and what would you say to the person listening that was you you know six months ago like or or a year you know two years ago like what would you say that you think was the catalyst to really changing everything was it making her squirt was it giving her more compliments was it ambient like what the fuck do you think it was like that you could tell other people all of the above i mean i think it was a conglomeration of everything i think that the squirting, I don't know if the squirting aspect can, like you said, can happen with everybody. Right. Or is it possible? So like I was talking my wife about she seems to think that it can happen with anybody. Yeah.

I think you have, I think it's about, I think that you have to be very, very relaxed and very, very comfortable. Like so what made a woman who was very, it was not even relaxed and comfortable enough for, you know, to get an orgasm through oral sex to be able to. to, you know, let that happen. Like, that's pretty amazing. Like, communication, openness, and being able to feel vulnerable and know that, you know, I don't judge her. I don't know. I think you said it.

I think you said it. I think you said that the Ambien started you guys sort of talking and then you started talking more dirty, right? And then, like, is that the stuff that happened? I mean, what do you think? Yeah, definitely. Ambien definitely played into it. But like people don't have to take Ambien to do that, right?

It helped you guys, right? It did. Right, but say people could just start talking more dirty and just letting out their fantasies more right? Or, you know, like maybe that could help people. I would say definitely talking dirty. And one thing, you know, a lot of, like I never realized. I did realize it, but it's just hard to grasp with.

Like a lot of the people that I listen to you on your podcast, like they have got their own little dirty secrets and things like that. And they're sneaking around and stuff like that. But their partners are probably thinking the same thing. Like they're human beings too. Right. You know, and they're capable. If you're capable of doing something like that. What are they doing?

Right. Yeah. They're capable of doing that as well. And they could do anything, you know. And you could make that happen. You know, and I don't talk about your previous people or whatever, but there was that guy that was into BDSM and underground stuff. And he had like two lives. Yeah.

And his wife, you know, it's like he could tie her up. Right. I think she would love it. Yeah, but was that the guy that was afraid because he felt like his woman was submissive or dominant? I don't know. Something like he didn't think that she would get a big black dude that like snuck into somebody's house. Oh, yeah, that guy. Yeah, uh-huh.

And his wife was like a, like a wife. She stayed at home with, yeah, she stayed at home with a couple of kids or whatnot. And, you know, I didn't want to expose you that lifestyle. And then you were asking, you know, how they had sex, how was their sex life? And he was like, it's regular, you know. But I think that she would probably enjoy him, time. her up and fucking the shit out of her. Right.

But remember, but no, but the problem was he didn't think he'd like it. That was his problem. He didn't think that he had this weird thing where he didn't want to see the, he didn't feel like he would be turned on to see his woman as that woman. He needed to be, that woman needed to be a stranger to him.

Do you understand? That was where he had a big issue. And that was why he couldn't bring it into his relationship. And some people have that problem, and that's a whole other story. But the people that, but a lot of people don't have that. It's just a matter of them not feeling confident to sort of, you know, let their partner know like this. I like this, like because they're afraid, like you said, that their partner's going to be like,

why did you just try to lick my ass all, you weirdo? You know what I mean? Like, that's gross, you know, right? Whatever that is that we're all afraid of, right? And it doesn't matter how long you're with somebody. I feel like sometimes if you've gone 10 years with the same person and didn't tell them that you like to lick ass, it's going to be, you know, just as uncomfortable telling a stranger that. And some people would think, like, why?

You know that person for so long. But it's because you didn't tell them for so long, right? So I think it gets hard to really sort of open things up if you haven't been open. And, you know, but that is the key to having better sex between partners. And I think that there's a lot of people out there like you guys who have been together for a long time and are just like thinking about their fantasy secretly, but they don't do it with their partner, you know? when maybe everyone needs to be taking Ambien? I don't know. I should get them as a sponsor for my podcast.

I get a lot of fucking Ambien on this podcast. Oh, they wouldn't remember shit. You know? Because I don't know what is equal to that, but I mean, people just got to be more honest. Quailudes. Yeah, right? Those are the,

it's basically the same shit. Right. So, you know, I don't know what it is that's going to help other people get to that place where they could really sort of open things up. But I think, you know, just somebody has to like, it's like if you're playing a game or you're playing tennis and somebody hits the ball a different way, it's a different game. You know, I don't know if it was you or her, whoever made that first move to just sort of say the first freaky thing that they were into. And then the other person's like, oh, I fight.

You know, when you were, you were, your, your girl responded favorably, right? To you sort of doing that. So it all worked, right? And so it was worth it. Because, like, look at where you're at now. That's true. You know? It's true.

But I think it's, you know, other people could learn from it. It's like about, like you said, it's the communication. It was other subconscious things going on between the two of you, right? Which it seems simple because everybody tells you that. Right. And they all talk about it. And that's the difference is, you know, we always kind of thought we were doing that to a certain extent. Doing what?

But communicating well. No, but you admit it. Right. But now looking back, because you really do communicate now, you know that you weren't really before, right? I mean, you had all these issues, right? Like, you didn't even know why she liked it better sitting, you know, like you guys never talked about that, right? No. Why could you only come when you're faced away from?

No, we were just excited. We were just excited that she could come. Exactly. Right, right. I was like, great. That's awesome. Right. You didn't get past that.

No. This is pretty weak, actually, when you think about it, comparing to what's going on now. Well, let me ask you this, because were you the one that was like, oh, I could bring my wife on the call, too, but I'm like, I like to talk to them separately. Like, would your wife be into calling in separately?

Like, I'd love to hear her side of the story. Yeah, I mean, well, kind of. You know, I talked to her about it. And what did she say? She says, yeah, she'd be open to it, but she says that. I don't know. I mean, I think, like I said, it's been, you know, a couple months or a month or whatever the hell.

And it's like the last couple weeks, I think when I first started emailing it was huge. Now it's kind of becoming regular. So it's not as important. Yeah, yeah. But. Now, do you think you're going to do the threesome thing? I know you're like, oh, we might, where might be swingers. Like, you never, you know, I know you did mention.

and that stuff at the end of your email. Like there's all these things that are opening up to you guys, right? I mean, do you have any plans for everything? I mean, I warn against it right now. I'm not saying that you can't do it. Honestly, like at the time, like I was kind of flirting with the idea of, you know, how far is this going to go. Yeah.

But like you said, I think it kind of naturally reached its point where, you know, it's with us. And of course, we'd like to have another girl or something like that. that'd be cool, but it wouldn't, the act of trying to seek it out and, and find it and actually go meet somebody, I don't think the desire is, it's that great. Right, right now. Uh-huh. No.

But maybe it'll just happen. If it was good to happen. Oh, yeah. If it would just happen, like some girl would walk in right now, like, fuck yeah. Mm-hmm. But I'm not going to go. Like, you have a kid. Like, I have a five-year-old.

Yeah. I have a four and a half year old, so we're in the same place. I got it. Yeah. Yeah, I barely go out very much anymore. I mean, I've got friends that go out all the time, but I don't go out and close out the bars, which is when you would find something like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly.

Well, listen, I think you got, you know, listen, the fact that you guys are open to it and now you're being so much more open and you've been together for so long, right? You're the type of couple that if you did happen, you. And like I said, a year or two years from now, like you'd be down to do it. And even if it brought up stuff for you, you guys would be able to work through it. You know, but for now, things are like really great, you know, for the first time in a long time for you guys. You know, so you have nothing but enjoyment ahead. Things could only get better, right?

I don't think you could click out of that. I think she finally was able to break her door down. and she's good to go. And, you know, now the sky's the limit. It's a matter of just like talking about your fantasies with each other, living them out, role playing, doing whatever you want to do. You said you got into some gag things

and tying each other up, right? You're even doing stuff like that, right? Wasn't that you? I went to the, oh, that's the father-in-law called me. Yeah, I went to the store. Yeah. A sex store where I got that deal to and buy it. Some ropes.

a gag bowl, which I've ever used a gag ball? Yeah. It's extremely gaggy. Well, maybe that's the way they call it. But what do you mean? It's gaggy. That's hilarious. It's too fucking big or something, maybe.

Like, I don't know. I put it in my mouth. I put it in my mouth just to see, like, what it would do. I almost puked, you know. And what about her? Did she like it? Well, when she came home from work, I was like, hey, put this on, you know, she put it on.

And she was like, wretching. And I'm like, oh, God, it's not just me. What the fuck? Like, how do these people do it? Right. Maybe you bought a too big one. Maybe. Yeah. I don't know, but later on, you know, a couple days later or whatever, she was screaming fucking loud.

And, you know, given that we have a kid. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Here, put this fucking gag ball in. Yeah. I threw that thing in And she did not gag whatsoever And she loved every second of it There you go

It was super high There you go But you know That's the thing That's where I need to learn So it's only gagging It's because I want to put that thing in you Every fucking day

Right And that's just being a dude Yeah but maybe she wants it all that time Yeah she doesn't want to be gagged all the time Right Well, you have so many other things that she likes to do that you could switch it up Right? You don't have to gag her all this out.

You'll get you're getting you'll get your needs met. She's just keeping you a little bit in line. I mean, you know, it's a, but it seems like she's down for so much now. I mean, come on. That's true. You're lucky. A lot of guys that have been married for as long as you have like, you know, don't see this kind of change about in their relationship.

So I think it's like a, you know, it's like a lot of guys will be. jealous listening to the story and, you know, would love for this to be what's happening to them. So I would focus on your cup half full instead of on the fact that you can't gag her every day. Be happy that you got to gag her once. And you'll probably get to gag her again. Come on. If she liked it that much, she'll want it again. Oh, yeah.

Right? Right? Awesome. Yeah, except it has a buckle on the back. You have to, like, tie that thing around and buckle it. buckle it like a belt. Right. And that's, you can't get that thing off. You start throwing up.

Like that's so funny. When you're trying to get it off, you mean after your old time? Yeah. Oh my God. Yeah. You wouldn't be able to get it off. It's stuck on there. Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, I just hold her down with it. Right. Instead of buckling it. Yeah. Right. Right. Right. That's smart. It's fucking awesome. Yeah. I mean, like I said,

it sounds like you have like really great things happening. You know, I think it's always going to be like maybe one person wants it all the time and the other person. But I think just tell her you want to fucking gag her all the time. Like, you know, I've been telling her. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Does she get freaked out by that or is she fine with it? No, I mean, well, the other day she was kind of like, okay, chill out. Right. Yeah. Right. Enough. Well, I would love to talk to her about how she learned how to squirp. But if she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to.

I know it's not a myth You know it's not a myth now Her friends are just jealous Because they It doesn't happen to them right Is that what you were saying Like her friends were like? No they don't

I don't know anybody else I can actually do it I know people I know I had a guy friend Whose girlfriend Never could until he was with her I had a friend who never could Until she fucked this one guy

Because his dick was curved So she did with him Like I've heard it And I know it And I believe it happens But you know It's a myth to me because I have never been able to and I'm dying to.

But, you know, it's only certain people can or have. But it's not something that just because you haven't, your whole life doesn't mean that one day it can't happen. Look, it's the same thing with your wife. I've heard it many times the story where a woman can never squirt and she just did the first time at like 45 or 35 or, you know, I had a friend who was, she was in her late 50s and she was banging this guy and she felt like she had to pee.

She kept saying, oh, no, I have to pee. He's like, no, no, no, you're going to squirt. She's like, no, I have to pee. She didn't even know what it was. She was like, I had to pee when I was like, no, you were going to squirt. She's like, that's what he was saying. He kept telling me to keep going, but I was too freaked out. And she was so much older and had never squirted in her life.

And she was ready to, but she like stopped herself. So what could happen at any time, you know, out of nowhere. She was saying the other day, like she was talking about, you know, giving advice to somebody else. And that's one of the things she was saying is you're going to feel like you have to pee, but you set to let it go. Yeah, that's what it is. My friend didn't know about squirting, didn't know that that's what it meant. So she just could not sort of relax into it. And she kept stopping herself.

The guy knew, right, because he had maybe been with other squirters. So he was just like, really like, no, hold out. Like, just go with it. And she couldn't. And I was trying to tell her like, no, that's what it was. You were like ready to squirt. And, you know, because I've read up on it. Like, I'm the type person.

Like if I want something to happen, like I'll go to Google and I'll try. You know, like if I want, you know, I've been like a problem solve. I have a problem. I'm going to fucking solve it. I can't squirt. I'm going to learn how to squirt, you know, and I've tried everything. So I know everything about squirting. Except I can't.

It comes out of the urethra. Right. Right. So it's the same place, right? So. And there might be a little pee in it, but I do. I definitely don't think it's someone's peeing, but it feels like peeing, you know, but it is a real thing.

And it can happen out of it. nowhere and you guys had it happen and I think that that's great. So hopefully your wife, keep me posted about your wife. Let me know and call back in if you guys ever do the threesome thing or, you know, whatever. I'd love to see what your relationship is like, you know, eight months into all this new, new kinky sex that you're having. It's great. And if your wife wants to call in, I'd love to have her on, but if not, no big deal.

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