Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 327 - Nancy Learned to Squirt and Now she Can't Stop

Episode Date: March 16, 2020

Nancy calls in to talk all about how her husband Chuck (episode #325) helped her squirt, how it lessened her inhibitions and how it helped her to become multi-orgasmic. How exactly did her husband get her to squirt? How many times can she orgasm now that she can squirt? And, are her squirting orgasms better? Tune in to find out plus hear all about all the naughty things she's been into since her "flood gates have opened," why she was unable to orgasm before and how that all changed, things you can do to make you or your partner squirt and a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Here is your host, Kathy. Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. So you're, as promised, you're Chuck's wife, right? Chuck episode 225, right? That's his number? No, 325, right?

325 or 225, whatever. I don't know. Yeah, and you wanted to give your side of the story, which I think is the really interesting side of the story. A, because you're a female and my listeners are always dying for more female episodes, right? Because I get a lot more guys calling in. B, because you were someone who couldn't squirt and now you can, and that's like my ultimate fantasy goal, right? I mean, I thought your husband was really funny because one of the first things he said was like, is it a myth or is it even real that people could squirt? Do you know what I mean?

Whereas I think a lot of people think that that can or never have, right? And like, were you that person that thought it was like something that was unattainable? Or did you even care that you couldn't? Was it a goal of yours? And were you freaked out when it happened? So I thought I really wanted to give my side of the story because I thought that was something that could never happen to me. Never in my wildest dreams that I ever think that would happen. But I thought it was real because, you know, I keep porn.

And that, I mean, I don't think you can fake a lot of that. I mean, when you see people like squirting across the room. Right, right. But it was so funny because I remember going to Happy Hour with a group of friends probably two weeks before I squirted for the first time on accident with Chuck. Right. And we were with a group of people that I hung out with a couple of times. but one of the guys was saying he made all of his girlfriend squirt.

And he had dated a lot of guys. And I was at the table with four girls and a couple of guys. And we were like, there's no way. You're full of shit. You're a liar. And we were like, I don't even know if the G spot exists. Right, right. So we were saying, like, I think it's a myth.

And I remember one of our waitress was a female. And so we were like, four out of five girls think it doesn't exist. So we asked the female waitress. And she's like, oh, it does exist. I'm like, bullshit, whatever. I mean, I thought it, I always thought that I had a normal sex drive, I guess, compared to a lot of my busy friends that are moms that work a lot. You know, you just, it's just kind of sex is kind of, it's fun.

But it's just another checklist to go off. Right. It's just another thing to check off the list, which sounds terrible. No, but your mom, right? How long you've been with Chuck again? How long you guys have married? Oh, gosh. We've been married for nine years.

Right. But together for like 14 years. So, yeah, I mean, I felt like our sex life was, it could improve. Yeah. And he was always really frustrated with that. But, you know, I talked to my friends and I'm like, everyone else says they have sex once a week, you know, sometimes a little bit more. but I felt like we were pretty average. But that always really frustrated him.

And I mean, I understand that. And, I mean, sex was enjoyable to me, but I just felt like I wanted to get more pleasure from it. And so I think I'm all over the place here, but... No, it's okay. You know, I didn't have an orgasm with him until we were dating for like five years. Yeah, no, we have to go over that because I'm... I remember some specific things that he says that, you know,

and I know you listened to his episode, right? And so you could probably maybe clear things up, maybe say, oh, yeah, you were totally right or totally wrong because I came to conclusions about you and what was going on with you, right, without having spoken to you. So it's so great to actually be speaking to the other person about to you, right? Because he had said initially that I would be possibly. So it's great to actually have you here to clear some things up. But go back to that time.

that you're in the restaurant, though, right? You're with all your friends. Nobody has. This is two weeks before it even happens to you, right? You think. Yeah, I'm like, there's, I think that guy's full of shit. I think the G-spot doesn't exist. Like most people that I've talked to,

and I think statistically, most women cannot have just a vaginal orgasm with penetration alone. Right. I think it's like 30%ish or something like that. Most women have to have clitorial stimulation along with vaginal stimulation. So I thought, you know, who are these ladies that can just have all these multiple orgasms? Right.

And just get off on penetration alone. Like, who are you people? And that are squirting on top of it. And none of your girlfriends that you were with, like all of your girlfriends that you were with were on the same page, right? I mean, they were in the same boat. So one of the girlfriends, like she said she can have multiple orgasms. She can orgasm with anal sex. And I'm like, God, you lucky thing.

But a lot of the other friends that I'm there with, you know, I think I'm a little more progressive in the bedroom just because I'll use a vibrator. Right. Or a toy. Like, you know, I'm not opposed to any of that. But some people really are. Like, they don't want their partner. They're not comfortable at all. And so I thought, okay, I feel like I'm pretty comfortable.

But, you know, after squirting, my perspective has changed. So anyways. And you said squirting by accident, quote unquote. Yeah. That was exactly what you said, because it wasn't like something that you set out to do, right? No, it wasn't. So we had kind of like, Chuck brushed over this. We had kind of started reconnecting and kind of communicating more.

and I was being more aggressive. Like I had a problem with never initiating things in the bedroom. He always did it. And that was always a frustration. So we started having more sex and just being more open, reconnecting. And so we had gone on a trip, you know, before I squirted. And then we had just been having more sex. And then I remember one morning.

And talking more dirty, right? Like he said like he was. Yeah. You guys, was it an ambient that was like kind of like helping you? guys to lose your inhibitions and talk more dirty to each other, right? Yeah. Plus it's at nighttime and your inhibitions are lowered. Yeah.

I mean, like, when we have time and it's daytime, I mean, the dirty talk, I mean, with the daylight's out. It's just not as erotic. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So we, you know, dropped our kid off at school. I remember this day vividly. Of course. This is the day that you squared it.

better than him. Yeah. So this is the day. We're both off work. We drop our kid off at school. We usually, on that day. Yeah. That was usually a day that we would have sex.

And so I remember we were having sex and I was, we were having sex doggy style. And he like pulled his dick out and then started fingering me like very aggressively while I was doggy style. And I was like, okay. this should hurt, but it feels really good. He kept going, and I was like, oh, my God, this feels really good. And I felt like I kind of had to pee, but he just kept hammering down. And like, it just came out of me. Like, the, like, liquid just fell out of my vagina.

And I was like, what the fuck? Now, let me ask you this. Did you have an, like, do you feel like you also had an orgasm at that same time? or does the orgasm come after? It was at the same time, but it felt completely different than the orgasms that I had had. Oh, interesting. And I don't think I can describe it accurately, but I felt like so other orgasms that I've had, they felt like my body's tingling.

It's more of like a full body sensation. Like it goes up to my head. Yeah. That's the best way I can describe my regular orgasm. Yeah. But the squirting one felt more like it did. My whole body didn't tingle. It was just like.

Like my vagina. I don't know. Like it was more like centrally located in that area maybe. Yeah. Yes. More physical feeling instead of like tingly feeling. Right, right, right. But don't get me wrong, it felt really good.

And it felt kind of like a release, which I guess it was because there's fluid coming out of me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But we had drank a lot the night before, so I was super hungover. So like whenever, you know, when you go pee, it's like very concentrated pee. And like the liquid that came out of me, I mean, it was watery. Like it fell out of me. Right. P comes out in a stream, you feel it, you push it out.

This squirting, the ejaculate is totally different. In what sense? Is it like, it's liquid? It's like clear, liquid, like watery. So I am a firm believer that, you know, obviously squirting exists. Oh, yeah, of course. And so after that happened, I was like, what the fuck? That was awesome.

I was on cloud nine. I was like, I can't believe this happened to me. I was so excited. That's how I was meeting for sure, yeah. I could not believe. Especially because you were just talking about it. Isn't that weird? Like literally, like you said, two weeks before,

you just had this whole conversation about it. We all thought it was maybe a myth, but probably not. But I thought that guy was so full of shit. Were you like texting your girlfriends, like right afterwards? Yes. That's what I would be doing. Right. I go to work the next week and I'm like, oh my God, you guys, I squirt it and then I told some other friends and like, okay, okay.

So then I start like reading about it and, you know, my experience was similar to people that it happens to all the time and they were giving instructions on like how to make yourself squirt. So I'm like copying the link to that website and sending it to my friends. I'm like, you guys got to try it. Nobody's tried it. Or maybe they have it and it hasn't worked. Nobody else has squirted. Maybe it hasn't worked. Right.

Uh-huh. Not that I'm aware of. So I just, after that, I mean, I was just on cloud nine. But then you, were you able to get yourself to squirt? Yes. So I was. And it wasn't very hard. So I think, like, once the floodgates opened, it was easier to do it.

so it's it's like you're where they anything that you read about where the G spot's located like right behind your clit like probably an inch or two up yeah up into the towards your abdomen towards you right like you put it in and then yeah uh-huh that's true um yes um and they say like if you stimulate that spot it kind of feels like an orange peel and it kind of gets a little bit swollen yeah Um, that's true. I mean, but what does it feel like before it's swollen nothing? Like it just feels like the same thing and you just got to keep rubbing.

It feels the same. But I feel like now that I've been able to squirt, it's like that that tissue is more swollen all the time. Or maybe it's bigger or I just noticed it more. I don't know. went looking for your G spot before? Not really. Not really. And I've never, like, if I'm going to masturbate, I've

got a vibrator, and I usually just use it on my clit. Right, right, right. You're just like, don't go extrins. Right. Yeah, because that's, it's quick, it's easy, it works for me. Yeah. So I guess, you know, going back to me not being as sexually open as I thought I was, that's another part of it. You know, I could have explored more if I really wanted to.

Oh, I've explored a ton. I still have never been able to. Let me ask you this. Did you always like, like when he fingered you in the past, like was it always very pleasurable? Do you know if he ever went looking and you never felt anything? It was. But usually his fingers were like straight in. Right, right.

He never went looking for your cheese spot or tried. Maybe so, but nothing that sticks out in my mind. Yeah. I mean, nothing. And maybe when you were like doggy style, it was easier for him to get that spot, do you think? Yes. So that's exactly what it was. Since I was doggy style on the bed, he's standing behind me and the angle of your fingers, like you're not, it's not a natural angle to go horizontal with your hands.

Like you're going to be angled down a little bit with your fingertips. Right. So it's going to hit the G spot. Exactly. and it was pretty aggressive pressure. When he was doing it. Like a surprising amount of fingering, like vigorous fingering.

When your husband did it, right? Because I remember him telling me, he was like really moving his arm around. Like he was really going to town, right? Yeah, he was. So it was surprising, but it felt good. It didn't hurt. And then when you did it for yourself,

It was like the minute you put your fingers in it, like you felt it. It was everything that they said on that link that you were reading. Yeah, it was. It felt kind of more swollen and like orange peel texture. And how long do you take for it to get like swollen? Is it the type of thing where like, oh, you have to get horny beforehand and build up like a normal orgasm? Or is it like the minute you touch it, you know what I mean? Yeah.

So you have to build up to it. It's not just like, oh, I touch my. and I'm squirting. Right. Yeah, you still have to, yeah, so you still have to like, you know, build up to it. But you feel, it feels good while you're doing it? Yes. And now I can have multiple orgasms and, like, squirt each time.

And it's like once I have the first one, I can have, like, multiple ones after that easier and easier and easier. Oh, my God. I'm so jealous. It's insane. I mean, I felt like I was given a gift. Yeah, no, because it's like, listen, if you're having like a, like you, you know, you have a clitoral orgasm, what do they call it? Like a clitoral, right? Your clit is so sensitive after, right?

It's like so hard to have another one. You have to wait like 20 minutes for it to calm down, whatever. So it's very difficult. So I guess the people that are having the multiples, it's like they can't have a multiple orgasm, with their clit, right? And write one out. Like, you could do it right after it now, right? But it's a G spot the whole time.

It's a G spot. Yes. So it is a G spot orgasm that I can have multiple ones with. If just strictly a clitter, one from the clit, it's the same. Yeah, you're right. I can't have multiple ones that way. Maybe some people can. Who knows?

People are going to write into me and be like, oh, they can, you know. Your friend, you said one of your friends that you were talking to you had them, but she wasn't squirting, right? Maybe she was having inside orgasms multiple, right? Yes. Yes. Right. So maybe, yeah, you're right.

I never thought about it that way. Maybe. I don't know. That's what I'm thinking, but like, I don't know. I just know myself, you know. I've gone looking for my G spot. I feel like I've come close. I feel like I've had some stuff come out,

but I don't think I've ever really had a full-on G-spot. G spot thing. I think you know, I mean, you know, right? So once it happened and he, you know, I know what it feels like, like the area. When it happened, when Chuck made it happen. Yeah. I feel like I was able to recreate that sensation on my own. Right.

Of course. I don't know if I, I don't think I would have ever found this out on my own. Even if you followed that. Lincoln did it the same exactly way? You know what? I probably, you know what? I could have, but I'd never tried. Right. See, but that's what I wonder. And I think maybe me and Chuck had discussed this, I don't know, or maybe I've talked about this with, because I've talked to my girlfriends about it and my guy friends about it because it's always been like, oh, like asking people, you know what I mean, or talking about it. People know it's on like my bucket list. This is like

is something I bring up. But I do know that, like, you know, you wonder, if like everyone has it or do some people not you know what I mean is it something that every single person has or some people might not have it or some people's bigger than others you know what I mean I think I have heard that you know everybody has it but maybe some people's are bigger or smaller so maybe yours is really big like maybe that like you because you said like it seems bigger but maybe it was always that big maybe it's for more stimulation well but wait but think okay there was one thing that Chuck talked about that we talked about that we talked about that I thought found interesting and he found interesting was that like you found it very hard to come with him and the only way you could was you had to turn backwards right like it had to be reverse right can we discuss that you could give your version of everything i wanted i really wanted to clarify that one because chuck um his dick is really big oh okay he didn't mention that he's not going to say that right well most guys would he think he had dick dysmorphia he wants it to be longer i'm like dude it's too long like it hits my cervix and it hurts

yeah yeah yeah yeah i hate that i i could like i can in certain positions i can feel him hitting it and it hurts yeah yeah so the the you know the reverse cowgirl thing is just i can angle myself better and i can have control over the speed and what i need to do to come um it's not like i can't at him. It's just doing like missionary. Like it hits my, his dick hits my cervix. So. No, I know. I was going to say. How could you ever have him? No, but how could you ever have him fuck you from behind then? Isn't that worse? So you would think, but it's not. Sometimes I have to like, you know, that if he tries to like go too deep. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't like rotate his hips and do weird stuff, it hurts.

But he just has to make sure he doesn't, like, go all the way in. That's why I don't know, guys. Like, I always think about, like, like, dick size. Like, they think, like, girls just wanted to be, like, 12 inches. I'm like, no, have you ever seen the inside of a girl's vagina, like, in school, like, on a, like, you know what I mean? Just, like, a picture of it. Like, it can't accommodate. It can't, it's, no one, like, nobody wants it that long, you know?

it's more width that women are into, right? But leg, you know, I don't know. How could you physically take it? So I think that the average vaginal length is around five inches. Right. So, I mean, if you've got a seven-inch dick, like, that is, it's a lot for your vagina. And so, you know, what's interesting, we're talking about dick length. So, you know, me and Chuck have been more open about, like, past experiences and, like, talking

on our past like funny sex stories yeah i did before him i had sex with the guy and his i mean he had the smallest dick i had ever seen like a micro i mean it wasn't it wasn't a micro penis but it was probably like three four inches long probably i don't know i don't remember this so long ago but it was shockingly small and i you know joked with my friends about it but so we had sex and i remember he I was on top of him facing him when I was on top of him I remember like his dick was hitting my G spot and it felt so good and I was like oh my god this is great

and he thought I was like faking how into it I was because he was so small yes but it was the perfect size because it was just hitting my G spot and I didn't realize that at the time I never had to think about where you're them with them. Right, but think about where your G spot is. Yeah, but me. Oh, you did have.

See, you always had a big G spot. Come on. I felt like I, thank you. But I remember like I felt like I had to pee and it felt really good. Oh, interesting. You know, I never like. You didn't realize that's what was going on. Yeah, you, you know what?

You are the type of person that just the way your anatomy is, I feel like if you would have tried at any time. you would have been able to squirt. Because look what happened with that guy. With the little ween. Like, you know what I mean? Like that happened with him. So you were like, and you, so, and you know, right?

Because you felt like you had to pee. Like, you know, everyone's heard it. That's definitely the sensation, right? That happens before. Yeah. Yeah. And it feels good. But you're like, oh, shit, I'm going to pee everywhere.

And you don't want to. Like, that's, that's exactly the sensation. but for some reason the first time it happened to me I don't know why like I didn't automatically you know what it's because I was so dehydrated because I was home over I was like no pee's going to come out of me so you relaxed into it instead of like help back right yeah right right right because with that guy when with the small dick you just like let it happen why do you think though like it's interesting and we have to get into the other stuff that like because your husband talked a little bit about towards the end of the conversation when you talked about like all the things you guys now that

you talk so dirty with each other that you are planning I may be doing in the future and um but what do you think uh why were you not able before i mean so i guess you were always able to have orgasms with them because he made it seem like you couldn't orgasm at all except in that one position but you could like and he said it really bothered him right but you could always orgasm on your own right Yes, I could. And honestly, I can't explain why reverse cowgirl is the only position that I could orgasm it. I can't explain it. But do you mean when you say orgasm, are you guys talking about like it was the only way you could have an inside orgasm with him without having your clit stimulated?

No, I had to have my clit stimulated. Like every time I have a vibrator on my clit. So if he was on top of you and even if you had a vibrator, you couldn't have an orgasm. even with the vibrator in him inside? No. Isn't that weird? Yeah, that is. No, I couldn't.

Even doggy style, like love doggy style. Right. I guess I like the positions where you're facing away. Yeah, come on. There's something there. Yes, there might be. There's no psychology behind it except it doesn't. I do like facing him.

I love you. No, but maybe, no, no, no, maybe because you're G spot. Listen, if you're going reverse cowgirl, His dick, just think about it, is rubbing that part of your body a lot more, right? Isn't it? Like, because it's being pushed towards there. And same with doggy style. So I think you were just, you know, it's the feeling you were hitting that area more in those positions.

So I think, you know, you were getting more stimulated inside too. You know what I mean? Whereas maybe when they were on top, he was on top of you or any other way, right? It was just your clip. I wonder why you couldn't just have an orgasm in your clit, like with the vibrator on top when he's on top of you? I don't know. Do you think maybe because women, no, but I think that women could get in their head about

something. And if you get in your head about something and you, like you, you, you know, it stays it is in that same way, right? Like, so if you were self-conscious about it and you were like, and you clicked into this fact that you can't orgasm with him on top. of you. Like you couldn't get out of that. Do you know what I mean? Because you were just, and so then maybe every time you were thinking, I'm not, I can't orgasm this way. You know, you're just in your head about it. And you got, maybe I don't know, because it doesn't make sense physically,

you know. That is true. I mean, I do tend to get in my head. Women in general do. That's what they say, you know. That's why there's a lot of women out there that have never had orgasms. They can't orgasms with men. You know, it's not like that uncommon. I mean, honestly, I've talked to, you know, that group of people that I went to Happy Hour with, you know, with the exception of the one girl who had multiple ones, either the other roles, like, their husbands don't last long enough and then they just have to get themselves off afterwards or they are totally not open to using a toy in the bedroom to stimulate themselves. Or they won't use their hand. they won't do what they have to do. And if the guy can't read their mind,

there's so many reasons why a lot of women are not having orgasms through sex. Or they're not selfish enough to make the guy work until they're done. You know what I mean? They don't speak up, you know. Or not confident, which I think that's my problem. That's always been my problem. But he is very open sexually clearly. And he, you know, makes me feel very comfortable.

And he would do anything within reason that I wanted. like he was talking about licking my ass. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wait, but you, wait, wait, can we discuss the fact that you didn't like him to go down on you? Yes, let's talk about it. I just didn't. I mean, he was good at it. I mean, wait, I just have to cut you off, and you're going to go.

But everyone has to listen to his episode if you haven't left to listen to it yet, okay? Just so you know, it's like two episodes before this one because I'm going to air this one this week. So you have to listen to Chuck's episode to find out like he said like, She did not. You do, you never would let him go down on you. You never even orgasm through that. No, I didn't. Okay, but going back to being in my head, like the first time I had it, that somebody

did that to me. Yeah. It just wasn't, like, it was so uncomfortable. Like, the whole experience was terrible. Were you weirded out that they were there? Was it a guy you didn't like? Like, were self-conscious? All the above.

Yes. I was in high school. And the whole experience was awful. And then like ever since then I just got in my head. I just didn't like having it done. I think a lot of it goes back to me not being confident in my body. Yeah. Just being very super self-conscious.

Right, but that's why I'm sorry. Okay, but I have to say all these things that you're saying ties into my psychological analysis of you liking to turn away from him and think about your fucking doggy style is the same shit you're not facing somebody and you're turned away and that's why you're able to like lose yourself more right some someone like that might be a part of that turning away thing i i said that when me and him spoke and it just sounds like for you maybe though there was something to the position of not facing him that played into it, as well as the physical. I'm just saying.

Yeah. And that totally makes sense, but I don't think that's the case with the not facing him. I mean, I... No, but even doggy style is your face is in the pillow. You're not like really looking at someone. It just feels different. Yeah, no, it does. Right.

Totally. For me, I only liked, I liked it always when a guy had a... small dick because then you know it felt better like if they're on top I could barely feel them but if you turn around right doggy style yeah if I told a guy do me from behind it's because his dick wasn't that big but I mean I like but then it would feel really good like it was much better because then you could feel it more I mean for me that was like my move if someone some guy's dick was small but you know what I think going back to like the anatomy of my vagina I had an OB tell me once like my

vaginal canal is like tilted a little bit to the left and then my uterus is angled is tilted backward so I don't know no is that did that have a

yeah yeah no for sure I think that that might play into things definitely I think that because but listen there is a whole though there is a psychological aspect to like everything that was going on with you and your sex life, right?

I mean, the fact that you couldn't orgasm through oral sex, right, which is basically, because listen, your clit was fine, right? You could put a vibrator there and be fine. So how could you not with a mouth, right? So I felt like I was never comfortable with it. Yeah. And then I would not tell him, oh, I liked it. I wasn't communicating.

Yeah. I wouldn't tell him, I don't like that or do it this way or slower, faster that's too. Yeah, I would never communicate. I would just like let it happen and just tell him to finish up, which is terrible. And then we would have sex. I just thought it was like the beginning of sex for Clay. Like there's no means to an end. And I wasn't open to letting him.

just lick my pussy in a great way. Right. I mean, because listen, that's like a, he's going down on you. He knows after a while, right, you're together for so long. He knows you're not going to come. So, you know, that probably took a little bit of it out for him, right? Like it's not as exciting if he doesn't think that the person's into it, right? I mean, it takes away from it.

If the woman's on it, it's no difference if you're, blowing a guy and he's just like reading the paper, you know, you want to know that you're really turning somebody on, right? So that was a big part of his frustration. It was. And I know that. But I just... You couldn't. I mean, you were... I couldn't. I couldn't. You know. But what's so amazing is that this, though, the squirting has changed it all up, right?

Like now you could get... It's changed everything. Right. So, yeah. I mean, now we, you know, we... We'll communicate more effectively. Well, I'll tell him, yeah, that feels really good. Do it this way. I can come from when he gets me out. Yeah.

And, you know, we've kind of explored like some bondage and tying up. Oh, the gag. You like, the gag ball. Yeah. He bought it. He brings it home. And I just start dying laughing. And he puts it on me.

And I was like, oh, my God. This makes you want to puke. But like it's been fun using using that stuff, but it's kind of like calm down. Yeah, but it was fun for a while, right? It was so fun. Yeah, but it's still fun. But, you know, you start, we started getting into other fantasies like, you know, having a threesome. And like that was a big one.

We're like, yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. But we don't really, I mean, we're not like actively seeking that experience out. Yeah. I don't know. I think I would get in my head and I think it would be totally awkward and I would make it awkward. But what about him when he said he might feel weirded out about it? Yeah. And then we kind of talked about that. Like, what if he liked her more? What if I got jealous that he was spent, you know, having too much attention. He also said he might be jealous. Didn't he say he would be weirded out? I don't know. Like he said, did you hear that on the show?

Like, I mean, I remember, this is what I remember, him saying he might not be okay with it. Like, you know. Yeah, like if me and the girl were too into each other. Yeah. And I've heard that from other guys. Valid fears that, you know, maybe you have to think about if you're in a committed relationship. And you're wanting to try something like that. So, I mean, we definitely talked about that.

But it's not something we're actively. seeking out. Like if the opportunity were to present itself, then that would be great. It would be fun. Of course. Yeah. Because you are looking for the unicorn, that girl that's going to hook up with a couple, right? I mean, I think he brought that up too. It's like it's not something that's easy to find. Right. And it's not like we're going out all the time like we used to before we had a child. So the opportunity, they're not there. We'll be right back after this quick ad for my sponsor.

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and I thank them for sponsoring my podcast. And now back to the show. Yeah, I mean, we're like experimenting with bondage and... And who's the dominant one there, him, I'm assuming? Well, he is, but he says I'm dominant. Really? And I'll start telling him what to do when he has me tied up. So we've only done it a couple of times.

But he says I am I'm more of a dominant personality. And I'm like, that's surprising because I didn't think I was. But it feels fun to like tell him what to do and me not be like an innocent bystander in sex. Like I feel like I have been this whole time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like taking more control. And it's not for his lack of desire or him not wanting to experiment. It's all, like, it's all me.

And I, you know, I always thought I was pretty open person. But like there's a part of me that's very closed off. And like, it's hard to open up with that stuff. Sorry. I don't know why I'm about to cry. Oh, why? That's interesting. Because of being like the closed offness.

Is that what triggered it? Thinking about like how you work. Yeah, I mean, no, but I mean, I've kind of been trying to work on that with myself. Mm-hmm. But think about. It's really hard to do. Yeah. Opening yourself up completely, sexually.

It's so vulnerable. It is very true. I had a girl on recently. She runs like sex classes for women and that didn't, she had a transformation like that happened to her. Now she teaches other women for that. And it's really transformative. in a woman's life. And that's a very intimate way.

And I mean, it's amazing what happened to you. Yeah, and I don't know what I'm crying, but it is, you know, it kind of makes me feel sad. Sorry. In what sense? I feel like I didn't open myself up to my husband for all of those years. And he always was just so willing. and wanted to do everything to please me. And I just felt like I just kept him shut out.

Right. But, you know, he did cop. With that part of me, you know. Yeah, but he copped to being closed off on a certain level himself. So I think you guys, Matt, I think you guys worked and were very similar in certain ways. And that's why you did last through everything. You know what I mean? because I think you guys, and even now when you just opened, both opened up at the same time,

I think you guys have always been very on the same page. So I think he was closed off too. And like I said, he copped to that. He copped to the fact that he didn't understand why, but he never gave you a lot of compliments. And he was very stingy with that part of him. You know, he didn't open up to you of how much he was into you and how beautiful he thought you were and stuff. So that's being closed off for him as well. Yeah, and I kind of don't know why I forgot about that.

But I always knew, you know, if we would go out and, you know, I dressed up and thought I looked nice. Like, I always knew he thought I looked nice. Like, I knew how he felt. Right. And I'm not, I guess my love language is not like words of affirmation or. Right, you don't need that. It's like acts of service, which is. you know everything he does for me yeah um and so i guess that never really bothered me but yeah he

did you know he brushed over taking you know started taking an antidepressant and you know he talked about it though uh-huh yeah and just not being so um volatile emotionally um and being more patient and i think that was right around the time yeah we just start communicating better and I'm trying to work on my communication too like I've realized a lot of stuff about myself with parenting with relationships and setting boundaries and um I you know I feel like I should have learned these life lessons by now no I'm working on it and I guess we both are and it's kind of nice that we're doing that together and unintentionally and you know the scoring thing happened at the perfect time

So. Yeah, I think that, like, I don't think, I mean, I don't think you would have been able to get to that place unless you were really ready. Because aren't you also getting off your antidepressants too, like now? Like, isn't that something that you're, like, letting go of? Yeah. I mean, at the time I wasn't. But that was only a month ago. Yeah.

So I was, like, the time when the squirting thing happened. Yeah. He said that was like a month. ago that it's that I've been squirt but it's been it's been four months okay so um so whenever i first started squirting yeah i was on the antidepressants i i recently like decreased them but i don't know if i'm ready to come off of them but but why did why did you decrease them um i i started working out a lot more and um i just felt like and things had calmed down in my life, like with work and being out of school for a while.

I just felt like I was emotionally getting kind of flat and like I could go down on the antidepressant, like just half the dose. And so I've done that and I don't feel like I'm ready to completely come off of it yet. Right. But I haven't noticed a change, like an increase in my sex drives coming down on them. I mean, I feel like it's the same. My sex drive is similar to when I first started squirting. Which is what would you say?

High or average or not so? I would say it went from low to medium high. By coming off to half, like half of it. No, but I don't feel. So before I squirted, sex drive was low. Yeah. After I squirted, still on the antidepressant, sex drive is medium high. Oh, wow.

And then when I went down on the antidepressant a month ago, since I'm squirting for four months. Yeah. My sex drive is the same. It hasn't increased. Right. I think it would if you got totally off of them because I definitely think it affects them, right?

But you've been on them a really long time, right? I don't know if like after a really long time. Like, how long have you been on them? Um, let's see. Like 10 years? After the, no, God, no. After the miss kids, I was on one for three months. Mm-hmm.

I was on one for three months, and then I had a kid. And then I didn't start on another one until she was a year and a half old. Right. So I think. Yeah, that's when every mom needs a fucking, I know. So you don't throw them out the window. So then I was on something, actually probably two. So then I was on something for a year and a half, two years.

And then I was like, I don't want to be on this anymore. So I was off of it for a couple of months. And then I was so anxious and my brain was on fire. I got to be on something else. So I would say I've been on this medication for about two years. So probably a total of like four and a half years total. But maybe calming that mind down did help your sex drive because your sort of mind was probably getting in the way a lot of the times, right? That's true.

That's true. But, I mean, I think that, you know, you'll know when you're ready if you, you know, you have to go. Maybe, you know, there are people I would assume that maybe you just need to be on something a little bit to help you. I mean, you seem, like, I think the fact that your sex life has changed so dramatically with your husband and it is so great. And you guys have, like, this whole new thing happening between you guys. It's like, and I was saying this to him about, like, the three. Like, don't, like, it's, like, things are so great right now. Just, like, have fun.

Like, don't change anything. Do you know what I mean? Like, like, just keep everything the same and enjoy where you're at because, you know, you're like the miracle couple. Like, first of all, like, as a couple, like so many couples would want to be where you are. But as a woman, like women, that listen, like, there are so many regular girls out there that are you six months ago and 10 years ago. You know what I mean? The woman that can't is too in her head that can't have an orgasm. Yeah.

That husband is frustrated. That can't get off on going down. Like, you know, all those things. And here you are on the other side of it, like having not even just having an orgasm, having multiple. inside orgasms, squirting, like the whole nine yards. You know, it's such a, to me, an inspiring story for other women, you know, that you could totally, because it's like the opposite of where you used to be. It's very dramatic change.

Yeah, and I guess that's why I was so excited to tell my friends and, you know, talk to you and share my story because I never thought I would be a squirter and have this great sex. I just thought I was, you know, just going to have like pretty basic vanilla sex forever and once a week and which sounds awful, but, um, you come to talk with it because that's how it always was. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So I never thought that I'd be able to enjoy myself so much. And I think us really being open with each other and not judging each other at all. Mm-hmm. Um, it, it really helped. And so now it's, you know, we talk about previous sexual experiences and he'll tell me funny stories about, you know, because he was a bachelor for a while.

And had lots of interesting stories, but he'll tell me stuff and I don't get jealous and, you know, the past past. Yeah. But before he never would have wanted to hear any of my stories, um, it would have made him jealous. jealous. Yeah. And now he can laugh about it, talk about it, or he's like, I'm sorry, that happened to you. So I think that was a huge catalyst for the change and for our sex life to be better. And it's interesting because like, you know, and I'm sure a lot of people that are in long-term relationships can relate. It's hard for me to relate because I've never been with someone for 10 years and looking in on it. you're like, how did the, how, why did it take so long to be able to be open with each other?

You know what I mean? You must be so close. You're with each other for so long. But I think there's a lot of people that are with people for a very long time that keep huge parts of themselves or their fantasies or things that they want, you know, sort of secretive or on the down or they're, you know, too uncomfortable to sort of let that stuff show because they're, you know, it's like it makes, it's hard to be vulnerable about that stuff. you don't know what your partner's going to say.

And I think the longer you keep those things under wraps or you don't express them to each other, almost the harder it is, right? Because you're like, after 10 years, you like me, you want me to lick your asshole? Like, I don't understand. You know, like it could. Yeah. Right? It's like, but if you could do that and you could, and like Ambien was the thing that

helped you guys do it, right? But I don't think people should just go take Ambien for that. Don't do it. I mean, but that just shows that other people should start talking about things and you're bringing up some things, right, tiptoeing into it and getting into more dirty talk, talking about your fantasies, because it really does change things and help things. It does, and it's fun. But it is nerve-wracking to share.

I guess for me, like, I've always not consciously, but subconsciously thought, like, sexuality and expressing yourself and masturbation. It just seems thankful. seemed what? Shameful. And I don't know why. Just subconsciously, that's how it felt. And, you know, why do guys always get to have an orgasm?

Now I'm like, you know what? We can have all the fun too. Of course. I just felt like it was more like, beneficial for men. Yeah, but how old are you? I am 36. Right. You're still, you're way younger than me.

But, I mean, I know that, like, I think, like, girls that are 22 feel a lot different about it, but I think even women your age, it still was very different when you were really young around the time that you were coming into the, you know, your sexuality or coming in terms with it. Like, you know, it wasn't, it wasn't okay for girls to be like really sexual and really own their sexuality. Do you know what I mean? No, it wasn't because you were a ho. Exactly. So, and I've talked about this before because I was, I was a hoe, okay? I was a total slut when I was younger. And it wasn't good.

Yeah. And I acted out and there's, you know, whatever. It's a whole other story. But like, but because I was like, like, slutty, I was always like really selfish in bad. Like I just like, yeah, I would not stop until I had an orgasm. Like there would not be able to stop going down on me until I came. Like and I, but guys always thought it was like great and bad. And like I talked about this on a recent podcast.

And I think what a lot of women don't understand is that that's what guys want. girls to be. Like that's, that's like how it should be and that's a good way to be if you're a girl. And I think what happens is a lot of girls take the stance of, you know, they're like sort of thinking about the guy more, you know, but really what is great to do when you're having sex is just think about yourself and get yourself off. You know what I mean? Use that situation to get yourself off and that's the hottest thing, right, so that the other person knows they're turning you on, right? But you have to sort of be selfish and I think that it's not the natural state of being. I was like a rebellious, fucked up, slutty, you know, I was like problem

child, you know, that typical person. So it was easy for me to be like opposite of what I should have been, right, for the time, right? When I was growing up, I was like not the norm. Now I think girls are much more like the way I was, but it's not acting out and it's nothing, there's nothing wrong with it. Do you know what I mean? But I think it's a better way to be as women and you do enjoy yourself more, you know? And I wasn't in my head about anything. I was more, you know, just into myself and having an orgasm and, like I said, very selfish, quote unquote, which is typically not how women are, women are more selfless, right? So I think a little bit of some selfishness goes a long way for women, right, and speaking up for yourself. And, and it's, but that's not

natural for women and not even when you were growing up, you know, it's just, you know, it's just, And it's not for me. Right. It was always in my head, like shy person, ancient person, do-gooder. Right. Not speaking up for myself. Right. Scared of authority.

You know, I'll just do what I'm told. So. Yeah, I was the opposite. You know, I hate that I was that. And I don't hate it, but, you know, I'm trying to grow and learn and, you know, stand up for what I want. But I did have a whole phase in college, and I'm glad I did. And it was fun. Right.

Got it out of my system. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That way I'm not going crazy in my 30s. No, but you have that college experience. But you don't even need it because you're having like the best time now. And you haven't even reached your prime yet. Like your prime is a guy. You get really like even hornyer as a woman like I would say like late 30s, mid 40s.

Like that's like you're like about to hit your prime and you could squirt and have multiple orgasms. Like there is nothing but like fun in your future. It's for real. like seriously. So the Cougar thing is true. For sure. Yeah, for sure. I mean, it's just a physical thing that happens. And I don't know if it's because like your eggs like in nature, it's like your eggs are like the last years you could get pregnant. Like go out and fuck.

You know, I don't know if it's like a nature thing too. But it definitely is like a very, you do have an increase in your sex drive. So it's just going to, it's just starting for you and what's amazing. So like you guys probably will be having three sums. I mean, I've talked to a lot of couples who have opened their relationship up, you know, and it's a couple like you that could be successful at it, right? Because, but, and A, because you're smart that you're talking a lot about it now, and you're not just jumping in and doing it.

Plus, you've been together for a long time. Plus, you've been through a lot of difficult stuff together, right? And you're able to communicate through things. And, you know, the key to being successful. and opening up your relationship and doing those things that you guys are just fantasizing about is all of those things that you already have like you know you're you communicate a lot you talk about things you really know where each other is you have trust with each other you know you're checking in i mean i talk to chuck i i could tell he's crazy about you're you're you know like you say like

you feel so bad like i'm sure when he hears us and he hears you start to cry because you feel so bad what you put him through he's going to be like oh my god like he doesn't see it that way at all. You know what I mean? I know you see it that way, but I'm sure he doesn't. Because I think, I don't remember exactly what he said, but I think I remember him being like the type of person that likes, like a challenge. You know what I mean? Like he obviously liked the fucking challenge. You know what I mean? You were like the ultimate challenge, right? Not being a little. Clearly. Yeah. Clearly. So as frustrated as he was, like it somehow worked for him. Do you know what I mean? Like, Yeah, but the, so love the challenge, but doesn't know when to stop.

So I felt like I finally had an orgasm during sex. Yeah. And after that, it was like, you can have two orgasms. Come on. To me, I felt like it wasn't enough. Right. And then, you know, we'll have really freaky sex. And it's awesome, you know, but then I don't want to do it, you know, have sex again

the next day. And he wants it to be the same experience or better. And it's like, it's not, like, it doesn't have to be this elaborate, like, best sex of your life every single time. Like, there's going to be better times. There's going to be, you know, okay times or, you know, it's going to be quicker. But he, and I tell him that. He's chasing the dragon, right. Chase.

He is chasing the dragon. Yeah. Which is fun, but it's not realistic all the time. And I guess that's what gets me frustrated. Yeah. would be pressure for you. He wants it to be this experience. And I'm like, it can't be an experience every time. Like, I have to leave and be somewhere in 10 minutes. Like, hurry up. So, yeah, that's annoying. Wait till tomorrow night. You know, we can wait until tomorrow night. And it

can be this experience. So, you know, having to plan things. He's not a planner. So that that's been, you know, kind of one of our struggles. But he's getting better at that. Yeah. And listen, I mean, now that you could orgasm so easily, right, and you guys are having so much fun and he could go to the stores. I mean, I feel like there's a lot of new dragons that you go, you won't just be chasing them. Like, he'll be able to catch them.

Like, you will have, like, amazing times every now and, you know, much more frequent than you were before. You know what I mean? A lot more frequently than before. Like, you were never having them. And I think that that, all of that was like the perfect storm for you never to come because that's, like, pressure on somebody that can already, right?

that you want somebody trying so harder than you do once and now they want you to do it 10 times. You know, like that's, that's too much, right? That pressure. So he'll listen to this and know that. I mean, I'm sure he knows that about himself and you brought that up to him. He does, and he made a comment about it in the podcast.

Let me say. I don't remember. He made, I can't remember. Oh, he said something like I tend to, you know, not. what did he say? Not give up, but like not back off. Yeah, that's what I would. I want more or I tend to want more.

Something to that effect. Right, right, right. And I remember at the end, towards the end, he was saying that you guys were doing all these things, but he knows it can't last forever. Like there was a part of him that I could tell was like nervous that he would like loot. You know what I mean?

Like that it was like this place that he was like on top of the mountain and he couldn't stay there and it was never going to get back up. You know, but it's like, it's you'll just keep exploring new things because there is a lot of stuff that you guys can do and I think in a couple years from now you guys might because you're like experimenting and now you're talking about all these fantasies and you're trying different things and there's got to be there's going to you're going to wind up figuring out a lot of other things that you guys like I think so too you know and that'll add to your sex life you know yeah for sure and if you ever come off those antidepressants, you're only going to be even more hornier. And even without that, because you're coming into your prime, you're going to be more. You might wind up having a three-simon vacation. You might wind up with other people at some point.

You wind up in a, like a club one day where people are having sex just because you guys want to see it. Like, who knows, but, you know, because you're so open and you're talking and stuff, you will, you know, there's so much more you could do to keep it interesting. You know, and that's like the takeaway from your story, for so many of the couples that are there, like I said, and they're like you guys. I think it's very normal and not normal, but it's like very common. What was going on with you guys is going on with a lot of people, especially people that have been together for double-digit years, you know? Yeah. Well, I just hope that we can give people some hope. You know, Google it.

Google how to squirt. Try it. I remember when he first sent in an email and he said like his squirting, I think the subject line was like squirting save my marriage and he was like, oh, and I'll tell people how to do it. I was like all excited. And then he was like, I don't know if I'm going to tell people how to do it. And he was just like, oh, I just like shook my hand like, you know, feverishly.

Like, you know, like really like hard back and forth or whatever. But I mean, I think because I know I've tried to squirt and I've done what, you know, I never have, but I've gone online and watched videos. and like really sort of tried. I can't try with my finger because I have this thing of like, I don't even like my belly button to be touched. So I don't like to put my fingers inside and feel around. Like I don't know.

I don't either. Yeah, I call it pokey, I'm not into it. So that's, so I always thought like I think my pokey pokey thing is like stopping me from. And I don't even like a guy to finger me if his fingers are too skinny. Like their fingers have to be like thick or I can't explain it. Like I don't like a little thin thing going inside me.

So I'm like, you know, I don't know. But so you had that pokey, pokey thing, but you were able to get past it once you could squirt and you put it up there? Yeah, but I kind of use a vibrator. Oh, you use a toy, right? So I use a toy. I mean, I've used my fingers and I felt the orange peel. And it feels different from like in the past before I could squirt. Right.

But I don't know if that's because I'm. I was more aroused. Right. But I typically use, yeah, I mean, I typically will use a toy. Now, do you use one? Because that's what I did is I bought some that were like sort of bent in a way to be able to touch the G spot, right? I even had a woman who called into my show who owns like a sex club or some masturbation club. I don't know.

And she sent me like some sort of toy that she believed was like the best one. You know, they're all shaped a certain way. Do you, is that what you got? Yeah, and I've always had those because I prefer, like, more of a wand, not, like, a big silicone dick. Yeah, yeah. But I've always had more of the wand that's got, like, the G-spot stimulator, but I always prefer to use it on my clip. But now I'll, like, use it on my G-spot, and it's super easy. Let me ask you this.

Blood gates have opened. Like, it's easy to make myself do it. But let me ask you this. How do you maneuver it? Like, do you rub it back and forth? Do you, like, shove it in and out? Like, I mean, can you explain? Like, it will wrap it up after this.

But, like, is there anything you could teach, like, if you had to teach a woman how to do it? Okay. So I would take the wand and put it on my clit and then just get around like that arouses me. and then start with that and then when I would feel more aroused I would put it like put it inside and then just go up like using the tip of it like tilt it so I guess you would tilt the wand towards your butt right so it goes forward yeah yeah yeah it would go forward towards your abdomen and then just kind of like rock it back and forth um back and forth back and And then back like, like, like rope.

Up and down or back? Up and down. Okay. Up and down, but keeping it tilted more towards your abdomen. Right. Like on your G spot. Mm-hmm. And then I start to feel like I'm going to have an orgasm and then I can squirt.

Right. And well, you start to feel like you got to pee. And then I take it out. Not anymore. No, I can just feel it coming. It doesn't feel like I have to pee. It feels like. Wait.

You didn't say that before. So now... The first time. So the first time I felt like I had to pee. Right. And now it doesn't. Like I can feel the orgasm coming on. Uh-huh.

And I can feel like I can kind of like I can push it out, which sounds crazy. But I can like kind of control the squirt. It's not just liquid falling out of me. Like I can squirt it out. Right. And you don't pee. You don't feel like the, you don't feel like you have to pee anymore now. No.

That was just the first time. Yeah. And now it's more of an org, like a, a vaginalist having feeling. Right. Uh-huh. I don't know how to describe it. No, I have to experience it myself. But that, but that's how you would do it.

You do that. And then you just start to feel like you're having an orgasm. You start to feel more turned on, right? More turned on. And then you can, like, feel yourself climaxing. and then and then you just push out fluid. Right.

And then you could, how, and then immediately you could go back and do it again? I would have to, you know, wait probably a minute, but yeah. I mean,

I could have them continuously. I mean, how many of the amount of fluid. Really? That is insane. Like to where we put like a towel down and we had some old like puppy pee pads. Yeah,

that's what he said. And it's like, five pounds of food i'm like how the fuck does this much liquid exist in my body and then we have sex i'm so thirsty uh because you're dehydrated i can't even yeah i can't even tell you like like i don't count like i just i can lose count i was going to say how many over and over again right i mean why would you ever stop i haven't even tried counting how about next time i have a bunch i'll count yeah let me know so a minute later and you could do it?

And do they last shorter each time? Or is it the same amount of time? Is it the same amount of intensity? So by myself, if I'm masturbating, I'm not going to usually be like trying to come a million times. Like it's pretty much one time and I'm done. But with Chuck, I mean, depending on a freaky night, like I'll start with one orgasm. And then it just gets better and better and better as we go along. Really?

And he could do it with his hands? He does it with his hands. And he can do it with his dick. So typically, like, how we'll start out is he said you can borrow him, by the way. That's so funny. So, well, like, I guess we're very routine people in a way. But, like, you know, I'll lay on the bed. Yeah.

And he'll be on my, so he'll be on his knees on my right side. Yeah. And so he'll like kiss me. And then he's got his right hand fingering me. And he'll like hook his middle two fingers will be in me and he'll hook them in my vagina. And like his fingers are pointed up towards my abdomen on my G spot. Yeah. And he'll just vigorously rotate or.

move his hand back and forth. And then I'll rub my clit and then probably in five minutes, not five minutes, a couple of minutes. Like I'm having a squirting, like I'm squirting. Right. And then we'll do that a couple of times and then we'll start having sex. And then doggy style, my favorite, he, I like, he'll like pull his dick out halfway and like use his dick to stimulate my G-spot. How does that work? You could just find it now?

He's just like using this dick. Yes, he just uses his dick like he would his fingers. That is so funny. Right. And he makes sure that he gets it right on that same area because now he knows exactly where it is and you know exactly where it is. And so he can now reach it. Yeah. And there's been a couple of times where he's, you know, jabbed me with his dick.

And I'm like, that hurts. Right. But so I mean if it's a like when I'm with him, I can, I just have multiple orgasms and they just get better and better and better. Wow, that's great. It's awesome. I know. Yeah, that is great. What is the toys?

Is there a special toy that you recommend that's like really good at hitting it or no or just anyone you could use anyone now at this point? Just use like anyone. I like the ones that are that are like shorter ones that are probably like three or four inches long and they've got like a curve. tip. Yeah. They're like G-spot. They're just simple. Yeah, G-spot. Right. Bybringers. Those are, I mean, I don't have a ton of them, but those are the ones that I prefer because I don't

typically, like in the past, I don't typically like use them in my vagina. Right. It's just more for clitoral stimulation. Right. But now you can use them. But now I can. Yeah. So I guess I need a search for a new toy.

I know he said that he would you said he had dictus morphia because he did say I think you mentioned that on the show that he said when he went to go buy some toys he always thought oh this one looks really big and then he put it next to his right? Oh yeah so he got he went and bought one of those suction cup dildos. Yeah. And it looks giant. Yeah. And he put it up next to his dick and it's the same size. He might even be a little bit bigger. Yeah.

I think is what he says. But it, I mean, if that helped with his dick dysmorphia, I hope it did. But he, we use that. That thing kind of hurts. It's hard plastic silicone. Yeah, it's different. It feels different. Yeah.

Yeah. But we, you know, we've experimented with toys. Have you had anal with him? Do you guys do that yet? Have you tried? So there was. One night, and I always joked with them, that when we got married, I'd do anal with them. Yeah.

Or dick's too big. I couldn't do. Oh, right. He's got a really big dick. So one night, he got home from work really late, and I, he gets home really late from work. So our kid was gone at grandmas, and he comes home. And we start having sex, and I was like, I just wanted to do anal. And so we did it.

And it was like a fun experience, but it was kind of uncomfortable. But it was fun. So we've tried to do it again, but it just, it didn't work out. That's a process. So, I mean, I think we'll get there. And we've been more into anal play, I guess you could say, more so than in the past. But I think that's another area where we could explore. Yeah, you have so much.

Yeah, now that you guys are so open and you're trying different things and if you, you know, you have like all these things to try, you know what I mean, that I think that you'll stumble. And it might be like the anal thing might be just like the other things that you tried. Like, oh, like you'll have a whole week that you love like something in your ass. And then you'll be like, okay. Yeah. You know, let's try something else, you know. Right.

And that's just how it will go. But, you know, I'm curious to see what kind of things you do. do wind up into. Me too. I mean, it's really exciting and I'm glad to hear that I, you know, haven't even hit my peak. So it's just starting. I mean, you're 37, right? Yeah, 36. Yeah, 36. Oh, so like 37, 38, 39, like towards the end of that, right? And like the beginning of your 40s. So yeah, it's like your prime. So it's all, it's like the perfect time to be finally having orgasms. Seriously. I mean, it's great. And I think. I think I said, there are so many women out there because I know I had friends.

They're like, I've never had an orgasm, right? So I just think that this is like a really interesting episode to list for those women to listen to. And it's really interesting, I think, for guys who have wives like you to listen or get their wives to listen. Because you're a woman who was like, you said really in your head, really self-conscious. And you were able to really push through that. I say, I know you said it happened by accident, but I think on some level, even if it's subconscious, you had to be ready for that change. Something had to really be, like some sort of inhibition in you or some part of you that was really blocked had to be, had to come down for that to happen. I really do think that that was going on. Maybe you don't know it. Maybe it was subconscious, but it was there. It's interesting that you say that because I feel like recently I've been working on myself and trying to grow more as a person. And, you know, especially being a parent, looking at my behaviors and how I act and how that reflects on my kid.

With disciplining my kid, I have to work on my boundaries. Oh, I know. not only with my kid my my boundaries are the way they are with other people in my life like letting people walk all over me or being softy and not sticking up for myself and and that's kind of like what i'm trying to work on right now and i think you're right maybe it's definitely more self subconscious than i've even thought of well i think when you want when when you want something to change like that that that's like not that that's enough but that wanting is a signal that you're too you know what I mean you wouldn't want it if it wasn't time for that to happen in your life and I do think that

you know it there there was something in that desire in you that was allowed all of this to happen I just don't think it would have before I don't think it's an accident or a coincidence that at the same time you wanted to work on yourself like you know that all of this is shifting and changing you know it's that it's what's happening And it's amazing and you are growing and changing and I mean for somebody that says that they want to grow and change as a person This is huge growth for you already. It's already happened, you know, for you to go from that woman that Couldn't even get off on a guy going down on you and felt so uncomfortable to a woman that's orgasming like that is you have already been Successful in Changing a huge part of yourself and a part that really is going to help your marriage, you know? So it's like Like you already did a lot. For real. Well, thank you.

So no, but know that, you know, and know that, you know, it's working, whatever you're doing. And just having that desire as moving you forward. And it helps that he's open about it as well. He's going through the same thing. He is. I think that that's good. And that's the difference between, like, because I, I mean, a lot of times couples like just go, they say, oh, they, we went our separate ways.

You know, and I just think that sometimes it's hard to stay together with somebody for so many years, 30 years, because, you know, you have to sort of be on the same path, right? And the lucky couples and the ones that are successful are the ones I think that are always on the same path together. And because sometimes what happens is, you know, couples are together. They're blocked, whatever, they have their issues. And then one person drastically changes. and the other one doesn't. And then a lot of times those couples wind up ending, right? Or there is a divorce there because that one person changes.

The other person wasn't ready or that wasn't in the cards for them in their life at that time. So it's like a timing thing. What's great about you guys is it's happening at the same time for the both of you. Like I said, I think he had his own blocks too and he's coming into his own and it's happening together. And that's why you guys will stay together. And that's what you want in a couple. You know, it's always a little scary if the, like I said, the one. One person's having the huge transformation, and the other one is just still going to be the same.

And sometimes that doesn't work out, you know, but you guys are having the transformation together. And so, and you guys were good before and solid before. Well, yeah, we were, but, I mean, when I was in school and we had a small child, we had some pretty nasty fights. Like, where we were talking about, you know, we'd throw around, like, getting. a divorce, I'm leaving you. I mean, it got pretty bad. So, I mean,

we're not saying we have a perfect marriage by any means, but I think we're pretty solid and we always have been. He's such a loyal guy. Yeah, when you add a kid to the mix, like, I think a lot of couples, when they look back those early years, it's a very, very difficult time in...

It's hard. Very hard. So stressful. Yeah. I'm a single mom. Well, I'm a single mom. So I didn't have that whole thing. But all my mom friends, I don't know. I have like one single mom friend, but all my mom friends have partners and all they

ever do is complain. And like there are a lot. And now, because my child is four. And I think like once they get like four, like, you know, people are coming out of it a little bit. But those first couple of years are really difficult. And I think that there's always a lot of times that that happens. You know what I mean?

And that's just that's normal. You know, but because you weathered it and you got through it together and now, you know, you're on the other side and you guys are having like all this great sex. Like forget about it. Like you guys like have you have that good foundation of having weathered the bad things and now just fucking enjoy the good shit because you know you guys deserve it and and you're on the same page. So there's only like positive things coming your way. I think it's like a great story. And I think five years from. from now, you guys could be the couple that is like opening, have an open relationship in whatever way you guys want it and be successful at it. So you'll have to keep me posted. We will. And I'll let you know if anyone writes in any girls that were able to squirt by your advice and I'll let you know if it ever happens for me.

Let me know. I will. But thanks so much for calling in and giving your side of the story. It was really interesting for everybody and for me as somebody that wants to be. I want to squirt. So, you know, it has to happen. But anyway, what did we call you again? Nancy.

Nancy. Nancy. All right. Thanks so much for calling in, Nancy. I'm going to air it this weekend. I'm going to air it this week. Okay. I'll listen.

I'm going to hate my voice, but I'll make it sound good. Don't worry. Okay. All right. Bye, Nancy. All right. Bye. Okay.

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