Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 339 - Meghan is an Ethical Slut who Enjoys Threesomes with her Boyfriend

Episode Date: June 8, 2020

Meghan is an ethical slut, in an open relationship. How "open" is her relationship? When they did they agree to open it? What does "open" mean to them? How successful have they been? Tune in to find out plus hear all about their threesomes with women, their threesomes with men, the time her boyfriend got upset when she slept with his best friend, the bad experience they had with a girl they met on a threesome app, how/where they prefer to meet their "unicorns", whether she thinks she's polyamorous, how she's recently been crushing on the women she has slept with and what that means for their future and a whole lot more.   **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. Remember the girl recently that just came on? Monica? Was that her name, Monica? I'm so bad with names because I'm always dealing with so many fake names. She emailed me a couple, no, Marilyn, sorry. She emailed me two times since we,

we spoke, it was like literally like a week or two weeks ago, about some like really kinky things that she did with that guy. Remember the guy that they were like peeing on each other? Well, I asked her a little bit more about the peeing. She got back to me on that. And then she gave me an update on something really well that they did together. And she sent that in the email and that's like something that I'm going to be posting on the Patreon page as well. That's the kind of stuff that's going to go up there. So if you want extra content, extra videos, interesting stories. Like I said, an update, sign up for my Patreon, become a member, patreon.com slash strictly anonymous podcast. What else?

Today, oh, if you want to be on the show, send me an email, it's strictly anonymous podcast. Atgmal.com, but I have to tell you, I am so backed up with people, meaning not backed up like I haven't been able to tape people, like backed up, meaning I have so many episodes taped and I just can't keep up with actually posting them. I have people that taped three, four months ago, and they haven't been aired yet because I just have so many. Women are always bumped to the front of the line, so I feel bad for some of the guys that I spoke to like weeks ago or months ago, and I still haven't posted them because I just have been taping so many people and so many people want to be on the show. So I might put a break to that soon and just take like maybe a couple weeks off. I don't really know.

But for now, if you want to be on the show, send me an email at Strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com. And I'll have you on. this is a call on a vice show where I talk to people about all kinds of things so look through the titles and like I said if you want to be on the show you might just have a short time to do that like maybe just this month and then I might take July off or something I don't know send me an email it's strictly not missed podcast at gmail.com today I want a girl and she got bumped up right I just spoke with her and she's getting aired because my listeners left to hear from women and I rarely have them on and this girl's name is Megan and she wrote in saying that she was in ethical slut and I didn't even know what that meant really. What she is though is a relationship girl who you know wants to have sex as more than one person right but be the ethical part of it means she's open about that and honest about that and always has been right she's not fucking a bunch of guys behind any of her boyfriend's backs or anything like that she's been into doing like three-sums and stuff within her relationships and has always been very upfront about what she's

to and the fact that she digs open relationships and that's what she has with her boyfriend. They tried it with it. She's done. They've done threesomes with men. They've done threesomes with women. Some of the men's stuff didn't really work out so good. Some of the women's stuff worked out almost too good because she's a little confused. But anyway, she's going to give all the details about that.

She's not that young. I mean, it's not like she's 20 years old and she's having an open relationship. She's in her, I think she just turned like 30. This is what she's always done. She really loves her boy. when she's been with him for, I think, four years or more. And she's got a great open relationship. And so here's somebody that has their cake, is eating it too, has the best of both world.

And she happens to have a really solid relationship as well. So I say, listen and learn. I'll be right back on with Megan. How are you today? I am doing okay, feeling a little cooped up inside still. But other than that, pretty good. I know. I think we're almost out. Like, I mean, you're just, what I'm talking to, towards the end of, right, quarantine.

I remember starting to tape people in the beginning and it was like, what the fuck is going to happen? But yeah, we're like months later. And here you are now. You wrote into the show saying that you recently found my podcast. And it's not like you needed advice for anything, but you thought maybe I'd like to hear your story because you hear that I like to hear. Or my listeners always love to hear from women. And that's true. And especially women like you.

I mean, you taught, well, you told me in your email that you're in a relationship and your relationship is mostly open. You guys have threesomes with men and women and the story goes on from there. So, you know, where do you want to start? What my first question is, how long you've been dating your boyfriend and how long into your relationship did you guys decide to open it? So we've been dating almost four years now. And I think that we, ooh, I want to say it was maybe. a year into things that we, I think we knew definitely that, like, I had had a lot of three-somes before we started dating and I definitely think he was like turned on by that.

And so that was always on the table. And I think that, you know, there were a few like failed attempts to find another woman as there usually are, a few, you know, friends or exes that he asked. And I was like, oh, wait a second. Let's talk about that first. his ex-girlfriends? He asked a few, a few kind of,

I guess ex-hook-ups, maybe not ex-girlfriends, but just more ex-hook-ups. And I think that they, you know, didn't fully realize. There was one situation where she didn't realize that he was with somebody.

And so, like, she and he was, bless his heart, he did not fully explain that he was with somebody. So, you know, she shows up to a bar and we're sitting there and she's like, what's going on.

And then I realized what happened and I was like, oh my God. What happened? He didn't explain it was going to be a threesome or she thought they were going to be together and then find someone else for the threesome. I mean, didn't she show up for a threesome? I think it was a little bit of a casual.

She didn't. It was more of like an unplanned thing where she was in town and he was kind of like, hey, you know, come to this bar, get drinks. But I think that she thought it was just going to be him. So when she sees like us, she's like, oh, anyhow, we had a few blundering moments like that. Right. And then one really successful one that just happened at, gosh, probably at around like 3 a.m. at a bar and a friend of mine who I didn't know that well. But, you know, we were just both kind of like, hey, should we do this?

And we kind of looked at him and we're like, we're going to do this. And it was a really hot thing. And now you said that you had threesomes before you got involved with him. Did you have them with other boyfriends before? Was this the first time you had an open relationship? Or did you have them in the past? I definitely had them in the past. I think I know I think I've always just been a very like sexually driven person for lack of a better way of putting it.

And I think that my first relationship, which went from basically high school and all throughout college, was, you know, my then boyfriend was very controlling and kind of conservative. And it was just an unhealthy thing all the way around. And so I think getting out of that relationship, I was immediately, I was I think maybe 21. at the time and I was just immediately like, I'm going to be a slut, you know, like that's what I want to do. Oh, yeah, you use that. You use that word ethical slut. What's the difference? Yeah, yeah.

What's the difference you folks? Yeah, like what does that term mean? I think it's, I feel like there's a more official. I think there, I could be wrong. I think there's like a book actually written that's using that phrase ethical slut. And I haven't read the book, so I can't speak to that. But I think for me it means just sort of, you know, basically like exploring my sexual desire as an interest, but also, you know, being honest and fair and thoughtful to like, you know, my partner and not trying not to hurt anybody. I think sometimes that happens.

But yeah, I think right now I think that, you know, he and I are both kind of trying to figure out how to like, I don't think we're fully open in the sense that we're not like separately dating other people. But I think we're definitely trying to figure out how. to like still like have threesomes and have those experiences and um you know not not hurt each other which sometimes that'll happen no matter what no matter if you're doing things with the best of intentions but yeah because you had the best friends situation which we're going to talk about and also i think like you said in your email that there was a woman that you recently realized that you're crushing on right so it's more than a sexual relationship and i'm just wondering if that's like gets is that like something that is confusing when you bring that into the mix or is that new for

your guy's relationship? Yeah, it is new and it is a little confusing. I think that in this particular situation, I think that ultimately the girl started dating somebody else. And so I feel like that's probably off the table for the time being. But it definitely like kind of brought these feelings. Like I always knew I was attracted to women, but I've never dated a woman. And so it's not something I'd explored that much.

until meeting this one woman who I was like really attracted to in a way that went on, like just, you know, having a dream. And I definitely realized like, oh, I could, this is somebody I could carry on something, you know, separate with, which I think my boyfriend was, you know, he generally felt okay with that. But I do think that if things would have gotten more serious and I don't think they will with this particular person. But if they had, I think it would have been maybe okay to begin with.

but I don't know what that would have looked like long term. I don't know if ultimately that. I think honestly in his mind he's like, that'd be like hot and fun. But, you know, the real life or the long term implications of that could be maybe a little more uncertain. Right. Because he did get jealous. I'm assuming it was a jealousy issue because you said that you, you're the threesomes you've had involved one of his best friends, right? At one point.

And that did cause some problems. It did. Yeah. I think, you know, I think this was sort of. in the first year two of our relationship when we were definitely like exploring things and kind of about each other and I think he kind of realized like I think he because he wanted to have threesomes with other women you know I think he was like okay I want to be like fair no matter what and I'm just going to be kind of open in general and you know kind of try not to care about these things and so

there were a few situations where like we I did hook up with one of his friends and it was sort of a a prearranged thing, but it did happen after like a few drinks. And so it wasn't like, it was kind of on the table, but we had naturally like planned it out. I think, you know, it happened before he really could like, you know, process his feelings on it. And so I think he was like ultimately hurt by that, which is understandable. I mean, it's his best friend. Well, what had heard him? I mean, was he there?

Like, what was the, like, how did it go down and what happened? So I think, I think he has a very, he's not, I guess I should also say, he is not attracted to men. So that's not something that would like be, you know, like satisfying for him, basically. And then I think he does have a very close relationship with this one guy. And this guy is also kind of like a unique, very open personality. And, you know, the three of us were closed and had just like spent a lot of time together. And I think he was very honest with my boyfriend, just like, hey, like your girlfriend's hot.

And, you know, it's something like this, like a some could happen, that'd be cool. And so I think, and I was like, you know, also turned off by the idea. And so I think the first time it happened was at a party that I threw. And it was like late. And it just sort of like, I think because the three of us that kind of loosely talked about it, you know, we just sort of initiated it. And it happens two more times after that. And then I think we all just realized, or well, rather my boyfriend. and realize, oh, this is actually hurting me.

And I was sort of pretending to be cool about this, but I'm not. Now, let me ask me these couple questions because these are going through my head while you're telling this story. Did that guy, now, was that the first time you were with another guy in a threesome situation? Or was this, was it more so because it was his best friend, do you think? I think it was definitely the first time I was with another guy in a threesome situation. Because it was always girls before that, right? Yeah, girls before that, yeah, I would say I came close to having a few, you know, guy, guy, gal, threesomes before that. But that was a more like kind of, I don't know, nothing official, I guess.

But I think that, you know, that really what her husband said was such a good friend, somebody we see all the time. So I think there were just these lingering feelings of like, how do we, you know, get past this now. I think it affected their friendship. I think they're like doing better now, but it was kind of a messy thing. I feel bad that, yeah, it happened. But also it was hot, so it's, I don't know. Well, yeah, but like, tell me how hot it was. Like, I mean, was your boy, this is what I was wondering.

Like, is your boyfriend in the room watching while you have sex with the guy? Does he leave? And then you go back and tell him. I mean, did he get any enjoyment out of it? Or was he even participating while it was going on? He was the first time. The first time, I think, if I remember correctly, I started blowing his friend. And then after, kind of like a little bit after that, my boyfriend started fucking mean.

And it was so, there was sort of both involved in that way. And I guess that's kind of, I think the only time he wasn't really involved, he was watching was the third. And like last time we did something, which was a messy night. I think we were all like really drunk and not thinking clearly. And, you know, his friend and I sort of started, like, initiating stuff. And that was when he didn't participate and, like, got hurt especially. And, yeah, and usually he would, you know, he would kind of participate. And now, after that situation, have you had other threesome with guys or have you kept the threesome

strictly with women? Strictly with women. There was one, I think, another situation in which I think for a while, while my boyfriend was trying to be very, I don't know what, very kind to his friends or something because I passed you on to another one. Yes. Yeah. There was another friend of his who wanted, or not, sorry, confusing stories.

Another friend of his who he was like, okay, this guy, I won't give away too much information, but this guy has not had sex in a long time. I was with another female friend of mine who was wired very similarly to me, aka she's kind of down for anything. And he was like, what if y'all, you know, and we were like, absolutely. And so that was the only other time that another guy was involved.

But I think all in all, he realized, like, why am I doing this? This doesn't bring me pleasure. I think I'm just trying to be like, like, cool and chill, but for what purpose? We kind of had to talk, talk through that. And I thought, most things are hot. Like, I love those situations.

And I do think that, um, I hope that we can find a way to, like, whether it's maybe like being with couples or something, maybe we can find a way to, like, Because I also love having three different women, too. And I think we've had maybe kind of thing too since, you know, after having those experiences with this friend, I think we had two with two different women after that. Right. And this is in the four years you've had all those threesomes, right?

And with the women, there's never any kind of confliction with him, right? No, no, it's been really pretty smooth. I can definitely see that there'd be guys out there that. you know, would be okay with seeing their girl with another girl, but then would draw the line and be like, but with the dude, that's just not what I'm into. And then there'd be some guys that, like, they'd actually really think that that's hot, right? I mean, I've had a lot of them that's the whole cuckold thing, right? Yeah. A lot of guys dig that, right?

He didn't at all. He didn't. Yeah. I think maybe if we were able to do like a full swap, you know, like, you know, like, you know. And I think that would probably, I feel like. Like, we haven't tested that yet, so I don't know. My feeling is that he'd probably be okay with that, maybe even turned on by it. But I think he would have to be getting something out of it, too.

Right. Now, when you guys do the three sons with the girls, does he go, does he bang them too? Like, or is he just fucking you? Like, I mean, do you have any rules and regulations as far as how far he goes with the other woman? I don't. At least, like, I haven't, you know, and it hasn't really been put to the test yet, so I may learn something. But so far it's been with women who were sort of like not, well, actually, I guess one was with a good friend of mine. And that didn't, I think that could definitely make a lot of people feel weird.

It didn't make me feel weird, I think just because I know that she is like, has a very like platonic friendly relationship with my boyfriend usually. And she has actually, she's also dating somebody. So I didn't really feel threatened by that. No, I was just wondering if he was even with them at all. Like, I mean, I didn't know whether you had any kind of rules. Like, you know, because listen, you hear all kinds of situations where women will have three sons, but they're like, you can't kiss the person or you can't fuck them. You could just fuck me, you know.

You can't. I've heard it all. So I was just wondering with you guys whether it was a free-for-all. And when another woman was involved, he could do whatever he wants with that woman. Or did you have any kind of boundaries? I would say so far I don't have boundaries I mean I'm pretty comfortable

yeah yeah I'm pretty comfortable watching him do whatever I think the only thing that would be an issue for me is if he was like communicating with it separately like after the fact and I didn't know about that that would probably upset me but yeah in the moment I'm pretty down for whatever what about if he was crushing on the other person

like you had that recent crush with that girl Yeah, that's, you know, yeah, I'm curious, because I've always, like, especially with him just because we are usually very like on the same level about things and sexually I think we're wired somewhat similarly. I feel like if there's anybody I could have like an open relationship where it would be him. And we haven't fully tested that yet. But I don't know how I would feel about that. I think in some ways I think it would be hot. I guess I'm like a little bit of a cuck. but also I think I might be, you know, I'd have a hard time with that too.

Yeah, because I think that adds a whole different level to it, right? It's one thing to just, you know, to have threesomes in an open relationship, you know, in the bedroom when no clothes are on. But it's another thing when it becomes like relationship oriented and that person is sweating that person or texting that person or falling for that person and there's romantic feelings coming involved, right? That's a whole different thing. I was assuming that that's kind of where maybe you thought you were going to go with that

girl before she hooked up with someone else. I'm just wondering how it would be if he started to feel that way for someone else. Do you think that you guys would be into having a polyamorous relationship? I guess that's what it would be called. I, you know, I don't know. I think in a way we have a very unofficial, I think maybe a little bit less so in that. in the past the last few years, I think we've had an unofficial kind of polyamorous relationship with his best friend because the three of us are really close.

And in a weird sort of way, it does feel like we're dating him, except, you know, obviously, there's some, there's some, it's not an equal kind of thing. You've only had sex with him a couple times. That's the swine you had sex with, right? Yeah, yes, yeah. So, you know, I think we already kind of, whether we realize it or not, I think we've sort of loosely done that, but as far as maybe more officially doing that, But how, man, I don't know. I don't know. I can never play if I'm, like, down for that or not.

Or if I'm turned on by that or if I could, like, do that in, like, a meaningful way in terms of, like, really having a relationship with multiple people. I feel like I'm a little bit geared towards that already. I think, you know, there's a therapist Esther Perel. And she talks a lot about getting, you know, different, I guess, to put it really simply, just getting different things from different people. and not everything from your partner. And I feel that. I definitely think that's kind of how I am. And not that that's like polyamory per se,

but I think I'm already a little bit wired towards that. I love her. She's so smart, isn't she? Whenever I see a podcast with her on it or something, I always listen to her. I've talked a lot about her on my show. I think she's great. That's Esther Perel, right?

Is that how you say her last name? But people should really look her up. She's really good and has a really, she's really forward thinking, right, with her views on sex and sexuality and super smart. And definitely ahead of her time, right? Because she's older. And how old are you?

I am 30. You're 30. I was thinking in your 30s. And your boyfriend? He is 30. About to be 33. Now when, like, let's go back in your life before you met this guy. Like you said you've been, you know, you're wired to be very open sexually and into a lot of things.

When did you start to get into? to S-E-X. Like, how old were you when you lost your virginity? I was 18, and I really convinced my boyfriend at the time to have sex because he was kind of religious and didn't want to. But after a while, he was like, okay. Uh-huh. That was a controlling one, the one that wasn't so cool, right?

Okay. Yeah, that was a wild experience where I'm sure there's like a term for it that I don't know, but I, you know, he was an emotionally abusive guy, and I've never. experienced anything like this since but like it became like physical painful for me to have sex in a way that like it was just like very like yeah it was like why because he was just shut down oh like you couldn't you couldn't relax into it and it was like because i was thinking oh was he into bdsm or something but it wasn't that it was that you literally couldn't even take him inside without it actually being painful yeah it was really wild i've not experienced anything like that since then but we kind

have stopped. I mean, I would say we pretty much stopped having sex or like if we did, it was like very rarely. And then I left him finally when I was 21. And I guess like a year after that, or four years after that, I kind of went on a few dates. I hooked up with a few guys, not really too much. I don't really know why. I guess I was just sort of like, I don't know, processing things. And then I think when I was 23, I met my second boyfriend, who I was with for a few years. And he was, like, very open, like, immediately, like, you know, our relationship was just, like, very, you know, sexually on the same page. And kind of loosely experimenting with BDS, but not really too much.

I think we're just, like, in words in a way. And, yeah, I think ever since. A lot of words. We were like tying each other up or anything, but it was definitely like he kind of got like my vibe right away, I think. And I had my first three son with him and kind of continued from here. And so that was the first time that you're with a woman when you were with that boyfriend or had you been with a woman before? No, I hadn't. I definitely had a few attractions to women and they, you know, I don't think I really like had process that part of myself.

So it wasn't anything I really pursued. So but those relationships never went anywhere or any with any of those girls. Yeah, no. I think I knew I was attracted to women, but I definitely did not act on it because I just like, I think at the time I just didn't even know how to like actualize that part of myself. And was it because that boyfriend was like was super open with you that you were able to be open with him and let him know that you were into girls or had you explained that to that first boyfriend and he wasn't into it, or was this the first relationship with that guy when you put that out there?

It was definitely my, so I didn't bring it up with my first boyfriend. I don't think it was like enough. It wasn't really like something that was too on my mind. So I don't even think I would have thought to bring it up. But definitely with my second boyfriend, he was very open. And I think that made like, that was pretty, like that shaped my sexuality a lot, I think. And yeah, so it definitely was something I was more comfortable talking. with them about. Right. And when you guys would have threesomes, would you go out and just like meet

random women or did you go, were these your friends that you slept with? Like, how would you get that third person? Because a lot of times they call that girl the unicorn quote unquote, right? A lot of couples are looking for girls to have threesome with. And a lot of times it's hard to find them. Where did you with that first boyfriend get them and where do you get them nowadays? So we only had one threesome together. And that was with a, uh, kind of an acquaintance. I actually don't think either of us really knew her that well. I think she just showed up to a party that he threw and she was sort of like at the end of the night, kind of like hanging out still and things sort of naturally unfolded from there. We put on Magic Mike. I don't

know if that had anything to do with the merch. Oh my gosh. Hilarious. Magic Mike. But yeah, and so we only had that one experience together. Although when we were, we were still actually good friends. And we've, I think, you know, realized we were better friends than lovers. And we did have a threesome together once we were broken up with a new girl that he was seeing. So we did have that second experience. But usually, like now, I would say almost always it has been like an acquaintance, not a good friend usually, although sometimes. But usually it's somebody that maybe is just like happens to like be in a group of friends on a night. out or something like that. Right.

My current boyfriend and I went on one date through one of those like kind of threesome apps and nothing happened. And we sat and talked to this girl for like three hours and bought her a lot of drinks. And then nothing really. We kind of realized we, there just wasn't an attraction. But I guess I'm glad to try. What three-sum apps are there? There's threesome apps out there nowadays?

Yeah, a lot of them, I'm sure that other people have better experience. I just don't find them that. What are their names? There's one called Field, F-E-E-E-L-D. F-E-E-L-D? Yeah, I think they're kind of the best known. They used to be called Thrinder, I think. And that seems to be where most people are

who are looking for any kind of like, you know, not, I don't even know what, but not even just threesomes, but any kind of like maybe not-so-typical relationship arrangement. Right. that's a smart thing that's a smart app to have right because I do have a lot of couples on my show that are always looking like I said that's why they called the unicorn because there's a lot of couples out there that they want to have a threesome only with a woman and it's hard to find a woman that would be down for that absolutely and especially like looking so many places it just makes you feel like the most unattractive person in the world because there's so many women who understandably have in their bios like I'm not going to be part of your threesome and it's just like loud and clear I hear it. you. Wait, what do you mean?

I don't understand. Oh, just like if you, I think especially if for any couple who maybe sets up a profile on like Tinder, a lot of women have in their profiles like absolutely don't message me about, you know, being part of a threesome. Yeah, because a lot of women are not into that. So that's why it is a lot of times difficult to find that third person to bring in, right, while into a relationship. It's one thing if you're a woman and you want to hug up with another woman, right,

and have a buy experience, but it's another thing, I think, when you're a couple and you want to bring another girl in, like you said, a lot of times, and maybe, like, it's going to work for your guy if you did a full swap, and it's another couple, right? But sometimes just bringing just one girl into the mix is difficult. But why do you think it didn't work out with the girl that you met on the app? Like, did you feel attracted to, like, what did you, what was on her profile. Did you see pictures of her ahead of time and she was hot, but she wasn't when she showed up? I mean, why did it go south? I think that she, she was hot and I mean, she, I think she did definitely like accurately represent herself on her profile. Yeah.

I think in person, the vibe wasn't there. I think she was just kind of a, I don't just, don't remember specifically, but she spent a really long time just whining about different things. Oh, God. About like her job and everything. And anytime we would kind of like try to, like, try to, to ask questions, she would just sort of like complain about something. And it just wasn't like a hot vibe. Yeah, that's so weird. I mean, like, you know, I get that some people would want to feel comfortable with somebody at first, right?

I mean, but I don't know. Maybe you want to do that kind of talking before you meet up. And then when you meet up, it's like, you know, the conversations, it would be like for play, right? So what you're going to do later? I mean, what kind of foreplay is like that, you know, whining and complaining about shit. What a copy. block block yeah exactly it was just like we're not turned on after days so we like went

our separate ways assumed that we would never hear from her again because it was like there wasn't a vibe yeah she texted she was like oh my god like can i come over tomorrow to y'all's place it's kind of bad but honestly we just sort of politely were like oh sorry we just like weren't really interacted to her at that point um and so i guess she she was or could have been but i think It's just, I think honestly, we also discovered that I think apps can definitely work for people, especially if that's like very much like a life. I think like I mostly know this couple who is very much into that kind of like, I don't know, sense positive lifestyle. And I think they're able to like meet a lot of similar people. And I think that like me and I think my boyfriend and I together were not really so much like, you know, I think we kind of prefer for these things to happen naturally, which is certainly harder to come by.

but it's kind of, I think, hotter to us than sort of like, you know, spending a lot of time on an app or something. Right. I mean, you guys are younger, though, too, and I think that there's a difference there. I think a lot of times, like, when I'm talking to a couple and they have kids and they're married and they have jobs and they don't have a lot of time, you know, so they're not out at bars or parties, like all the places where you guys are meeting these women. Yeah, right? It's like, where do you meet them if you're older? So I think it's harder. I think what you have going for you is you are at parties where, you know, magic mic shows up on the screen at three o'clock in the morning and everyone's a little drunk or whatever you're doing, right? And then it leads to that kind of shit, right?

That is going to happen. It's harder if like, you know, 10 years down the line when you're married and have kids and you want to keep this kind of, you know, relationship going or you have threesomes, you might have to go back to the whole app thing because that's the way. that's just where you're going to be that's the pond you're going to be fishing in just because you're like yeah totally right absolutely yeah that's i know that's something i'm prepared for or not maybe i'm not prepared for actually but i'm ready to kind of like i've thought like how am i going going to keep this going throughout the years and i don't know what that looks like yet but you're right i think it'll be very much like it'll have to be a much more intentional thing yeah it's because your life just changes but you're super young still and you guys are out and about so

these people show up and it's not like they're strangers and maybe that's why the app thing, like you kind of don't need it or maybe, you know, she didn't really know her because listen that night that she was complaining she could have had her period and just been having like a really bad day and you you know maybe the second time when she called you she would have been ready to show up and you know she wasn't going to complain so much you don't know really because you didn't go there but you don't have to right I mean now you said like in the past four years you've had a couple threesome with women a couple threesomes with those guys do you have any plans to do it with another guy ever have you ever like do you guys have you guys have

conversations about like that doesn't really work for him. Has he said that out loud? I mean, or is it just that you don't think that he's into it? Or have you guys discussed it? Yeah, we have. I think maybe I think we've discussed it more specifically, you know, because of this like his best friend, you know, but I think that in general, he's definitely voiced that it doesn't do anything for him to watch me with another guy. I think maybe the unknown part is like I mentioned earlier. If we did try it with a couple, maybe that would be hotter because he was also getting something out of the experience. But I think I don't get, I don't necessarily think that like a three some with another guy is completely off the table.

But I don't know if there would be a way in which that would like turn him on, basically. And what about seeing people without each other? You've never done that, right? Didn't you say that in the beginning? Yeah, I, we, we haven't, although I guess I, I guess I. kind of have. There was one one girl that we had at threesome with who I went out on a date with after. And then she started seeing a guy not long after that. And then the same thing kind of happened actually with this most recent girl that I was like really crushing on. And we kind of, we didn't really go on an official date, but we sort of, you know, had voiced like our attraction

to each other, I guess. And then she also started dating a guy not long after that. So I'm having bad luck in that regard, I guess. Or maybe I'm getting what I put out. No, but you like to get, you like to keep it going with the woman. Or maybe you're just, maybe once you really commit to knowing that it's, that's really what you want and not just a threesome. That you'll be able to take it further. Right. Like with these two other girls, that's the intention.

I'm going to have a threesome with someone. Right. But maybe the past couple times you started to realize that you want more than that or you, you know, you want a little, right? Because you want to keep that relationship going with that girl. It's not like, you seem to be a relationship. person to begin with. Yeah, definitely. You go from long-term relationship to long-term relationship.

Like, that's who you are. And maybe that's who you want to be with the girl, too, right? It's not just a one-time thing. You wanted to go on. It's just you're wired that way, too, as well. Yeah, definitely. I know. I think that's a realization I've definitely had even just in this last year.

And I don't know what that's going to look like because I guess that is, like, that would make me a polyamorous first. And for some reason, I can't, like, process that. Oh, it's so confusing to me when I think about it because, and I've only had, it's weird. I've been doing my show for like five or six years now. And I haven't had, I've had a couple polyamorous couples on my show. I think I could count them on my one hand. One couple was successful at it.

One couple was not successful at all at it. And it just seems like it's so confusing. There's so many different things that you're adding into the mix, right? that I don't know. I just, it's, it's, but, you know, listen, you're a super open person. You go into your relationships with everyone from the get-go, except that first guy that you just don't even want to count, right? I mean, he doesn't count. Oh, totally. Look, you were so smart and well-adjusted that, like, no, thank you. I mean, you're just like, you know, I mean, you're at that, when I was in my 20s and I met a douchebag, I'd be like fucking him for years and to be, I couldn't,

I'd be so horny for him just because he was a douche. Like, you were, you were, like no thanks like I think that's so healthy of you that it's like your body like responded in line with how you were being treated which I think is great right because I think most women are wired the opposite so but I think that that's like good for you and it shows who you are right and how healthy you are and connected and you're super open in all of your relationships with what you want and what you're looking for and what you need that, you know, did you tell that you would be honest about it, right? And I'm wondering with this girl that you were starting to crush on and you wanted to see more or whatever, did you tell your guy about that? Did you guys talk about it?

We did. He was all for it. I don't know, you know, I do think that there's that kind of, you know, imbalance where just sort of an is what it is kind of thing of like, I guess attraction's complicated because if it would have been another guy, I really don't think would be down. But I think because he's, you know, turned on by the idea of two girls together, he was like, sure. And I think, I don't know if he would have continued to be okay with it, how did things kind of like continued on or if you would have ultimately like maybe not been after all. But I think, you know, we might have to put that to the test sometime because I definitely, like, you know, I've been realizing, I think almost all of the threesome situations I've had

with other girls, I think it's usually felt like I was more into it than they were. Not all the time, but I think I'm more like comfortable with like my attraction to women than they were, basically. And that kind of like that weighed on me after a while. And I told him most recently, like I don't want to have another recent experience where it feels like the girl just sort of is like maybe more into you than me or is just sort of, yeah, I don't know. I kind of doing something because she's drunk or having her first or an only,

experience? Yeah, yeah. I think, you know, there's been a few situations where it's like, like, one of the threesomes we had, she, it was like a very clear, like, no drinking, you know? She was just like, you know, she knew that we were looking for people to have threesomes with, I guess. And so she approached him about it. But then we actually had the experience.

It was just sort of a, she was like really cool. It was just sort of, honestly, I guess in my mind, I just sort of got the sense that she kind of just maybe wanted to sleep with him, which is okay. Oh, really? me feel a little like, yeah, it was nothing like voiced, but it was just sort of a, she didn't really feel too excited to like be doing things with me, even though she had approached us about a threesome. But I kind of think she might have just wanted to like sleep with him. Well, where did you meet her? Was she someone that you guys knew? Like, how did that come about that

she approaches you guys and is like, hey, I want to have a, I hear you guys are down for threesomes? I think he kind of has a wide network of like acquaintances. He like, like, perform. forms and stuff. And so I think, you know, he kind of runs into people. And people know about what he's into and stuff. Is that what it is? Like we're on the street in his community of what he does. People know that he has this kind of relationship. But that's how shit goes down. Right. People just know. Exactly. Right. You don't know how you know, but you're like, I know that I heard that couple over there. They do that kind of thing? Like, yeah. Because you're open about it. I mean, do all your friends know that you do have this kind of relationship? I mean, it seems like you guys are pretty open to

everybody about it. Yeah, I think so. I mean, I'd say the only people who like don't know probably like my parents, which I'm okay with that. And they don't need to know. Exactly. Yeah. And yeah, I think that, you know, pretty much everybody in our life does know. And I think we are pretty open about it, definitely. So that girl, but walk me through that situation again. So that girl, like her knew that that's what you guys into, but she gave some rules about there can't be any alcohol. Is that what? she said like I want to hook up with you guys. Did she, and she approached him

about it? Like, tell me the whole story. Sure, yeah. And actually, just to clarify, she didn't say anything about like no alcohol. Oh, I thought you said that. Yeah. I wanted to, I wanted to paint the picture that it was like something that was predetermined, like not like just a late night out. Right, right, right. So she goes up to your guy.

Yeah. I don't remember exactly how. I think they were just like talking at her show one night and I think maybe I don't remember. Oh, actually, I do remember it. So I think that he kind of knew that there was a little bit of a flirty vibe between them. And then actually it was on, we swipes or we matched with or whatever on Tinder, actually.

That's what it was now that I'm thinking. And she was like, hey, I know you from around. And that's when we made plans to like meet up and grab a drink and then, you know, go from there. Oh, okay. So, yeah. So there she was, like, crushing on your guy. She sees now he's on, and she knows he's in a relationship, so she doesn't do anything about it. But then she sees that he's on Tinder and he's into having a threesome.

So she's like, oh, I can kind of be with this guy. So, yeah, it was probably she was doing it to fuck your boyfriend. Yeah, that's kind of, I mean, she wasn't, like, rude or obvious about it. But I just felt like she, like, wasn't that into, like, doing anything with me. And then once he mentioned. that there was sort of like a vibe between them. I was sort of like, oh, I see what's going on. And, you know, that's okay.

Right. And you were okay with it. I mean, did it bother you that you knew she was crushing on him and she was with him? Or were you totally fine with it because you feel secure in your relationship? I was mostly fine with it. I think initially it made me feel a little weird after the fact because I think that maybe we had texted her like a few weeks after. And we're just like, hey, you don't want to hang out. And she was basically like, you know, I think she might have said something to the effect of like, I'm not really into the threesome thing.

And I think she might have mentioned something about, I don't know why I'm blanking on this, but I think she might have mentioned something about being like attracted to him or something. Something that kind of gave me the impression that like, you know. She was after him solo. Yes, definitely. And she kind of like, you know, followed him on social media after that. She was stealing him out. Yeah, exactly. it kind of felt a little, a little flaky to me.

But your guy was honest about it and stuff, right? So it's like she had no shot. I mean, you guys are open about everything. It's not like this was happening behind your back. You knew about it. He told you that stuff. Oh, yeah. Definitely.

Yeah, that's the thing. I really do. Like, I think he will always, even if it's something that kind of upsets me, and he will always, like, be honest and will tell me about, like, how he's feeling about things or something to happen. He feels like I need to. recently a few weeks ago a girl message him was like, I think you're hot. And he was like, he showed me the message and he was like, you know, where do we go from here?

And you know, so I think even if it's something that kind of is like, upsets me a little in the moment, he's always very honest, which I appreciate, of course. And what was the answer to that question? Where do we go from here? Is that something where you're like, oh, let's have a threesome with her if she's like hot looking? Or would you never have a threesome with a girl that you know is, you know, looking at your guy like that? Or would that be somebody that you might think to do it with? Yeah, we did.

So we looked at her profile together. And we did figure out that she was by. So that's when I was like, okay, I mean, this could work. And, you know, because this was actually like after everything was shut down. And I've normally, I don't know if I should say where I live, but I'm somewhere different from where I normally live. And yeah. And so we were like, okay, we probably won't be able to meet up for a super long time. But she didn't say she was down.

So whenever we can, you know, do that again, then hopefully it'll happen. Yeah, that would work, right? That's kind of a good scenario because it's somebody that is, you know, likes your guy or knows him, thinks he's hot. She happens to be by. Maybe she knows the word on the street about you guys. Do you think there's a chance that she knows about the fact that you, that he has an open relationship too? She might. They definitely are all kind of in the same community.

she might have had some idea. She, because he has your photos of me posted on social media. So we were thinking a few photos of me posted on social media on his Instagram. And so we were thinking either she did not do any research at all or she did know. It was just like, I'm just going to throw this out. Yeah, she might know because most of the time girls do intel on guys that they're into. I mean, come on, you know, that she'd go looking. If he's been with you for four years, you must be, you know, a major presence.

on his social media that it's obvious he has a girlfriend right i would think yeah yeah oh you'd have to just scroll down like a few photos to see so i was thinking like i don't know she must have been one of the rare girls to not do that or she did i don't know yeah that's true i mean did you ever think of getting i don't know like me i don't know if a lesbian is the right word but if you were with a woman but i don't know if lesbians would be a part of a threesome right because a guys involved. Most of the girls that you're with, just fuck your guy at the same time, right?

It's not like you're just with them, right? Yeah, definitely. I've kind of thought about getting on apps for like just me, but I think because everything's so relatively still like kind of shut down, it's something I might try or I might just see if it kind of like happens naturally again. It's not something I feel like too anxious about. Right.

And now while you guys have been in quarantine for the past couple of months. I'm assuming, because it's not like you guys are having three sons every weekend that you guys have been fine, which is with each other. I mean, your sex life with him is, is great. It is definitely. We're actually apart right now. He was, I'm, I happened to be back home with my family before everything shut down, just like visiting. And so I just stayed on here because my parents kind of could also like use my help with the work that they do. And so he actually was here for a while, but then he went back to the city we live in to, you know, just to get back to things. So it was for a while, we were in my parents' very small home.

And that was not the sexiest thing. Let me tell you. Of course not. I don't think quarantine. I mean, when it first started, was anybody horny? I don't know. Like in the beginning, like the first couple weeks? Yeah.

I so wasn't. No, right? And you're a very horny person, right? I think it just was really like the worst cock blocker to right across the board. I just. Yeah. It was a very unhorny time. Yeah.

I don't even know if like, I mean, now I'm sort of like by myself. So I kind of, I mean, sometimes I'm horny and then other times like not. So I think there's just something about being at home like with your family. It's not not already. But also, yeah, I think that in general, even when my boyfriend and I were together, we, we just like, I think we just both acknowledge, like, this is very, it was weird because usually, like, sex is just such a big part of things for us and to both kind of realize, like, we're both just not horny right now. And that was kind of an experience of like, oh, weird. It kind of made me, like, feel a little depressed, but also it's such a part of like just the global or whatever, you know, just a bigger room outside of ourselves. Now, you guys are dating four years. Like, what do you, is this a guy that you think that you would want to marry one day? Like, is he, do you think he's the quote unquote, quote, one or do you have those visions in your head or the yeah I think so I mean you know I think to me right now and for the length of our relationship he has definitely felt like the one I think that it was an

immediate like the first night we met we like zeroed in on each other and it was just a very like instant thing and that's really continued on and I think we both are you know we definitely like have our differences of course and I think we've you know worked through different things but I feel like ultimately like kind of he just feels like you know somebody I could be with for a long time right and now because you told him straight off the bat that you were into girls and had had threthums in the past and then it took you guys like a year to do it together yeah yeah I think about a year it might have happens I think we tried a time or two like I mentioned earlier with this girl where she was like confused about you know why we were meeting up at a bar

And yeah, and so I think that like we tried a time or two. It didn't work out. But I think it was about maybe a little less, but somewhere around a year into things. But I did tell him right off the bat, yeah. That you were. And he was like he probably and he was totally into it, right? Yes, definitely. Right.

And you guys got on it, but it didn't work out for a while. Yeah, a lot of, you know, kind of. And I think we also maybe in some way we were wanting to make sure like we were pretty solid before we were, you know, opening that up to other people. Yeah, I think that that's smart, right? For sure. It sounds like you guys totally are. And so you never have been with other people separately.

Do you, would you be okay with him being with a woman separately? So I think about this so often. And honestly, like, we're, well, obviously, I guess it's not like exactly safe to hook up with random people right now still. But his birthday is coming up. And I do kind of want to. like give him the experience of just like having sex with somebody else and me not being there and we've talked a lot about that i don't know if i have my mind made up about that that idea is like so hot to me but there's also just some jealousy there that i have a hard time with oh you think

so i mean you've seen him screw other women in front of you already yeah i think it's just something about like the i think maybe if it were like a sex worker i think maybe I could handle that a little bit better. If it was somebody who I knew he was going to like still be around or, you know, somebody we were going to encounter that might be a little or I think that would be a little harder for me. I don't mind the idea. I think I'm just still trying to like, I feel like I've thought about it for so long.

I might just have to like take the plunge and give it a try. And if it doesn't work, be like, sorry, I can't do that anymore. No, but maybe your jealousy comes from your, like just a little fear that what if he got, you know, caught feelings for her outside, right? And then your relationship would be over. But I think that your guy, you know, it's going to be really hard to find a woman like you to hook out with. Most of the women that he's going to, that he would be doing that with probably would, you know, they're not you. Like I just think that if you got to the point and you're super turned on by it and if you could realize that you could still trust that he would still be with you, which I'm sure would be the case, you would.

be okay with it. I think it's just more of a fear of the unknown, but I think if, you know, down the line, you might try that out with your guy and realize you're, you know, you're there, you have that security in your relationship because he'd be fucking stupid to, you know, to go think he's going to get like what he has with you with somebody else. It's a hard to find, I think. You know, I mean, it's not only that, it's not just because you have three sons with him, but you have all that other stuff, right, that have kept you guys together. for four years. It's not just the sacks, right?

But then you throw that on top of the thing. You know, he has his cake and eat it too. He gets to be with you. He gets to be with other women. Like he's like, like you seem like a smart girl. He's got to be smart. So I think you would, you don't have to worry that anything would happen in that situation.

I don't think. I get that that you do worry about that, you know. But I don't, I think that your fear is just of the unknown. It's not. so much of fear because I think I would assume that you have that security with your boyfriend after four years or maybe not I don't know yeah I definitely think we do and I think that's exactly it is just fear of the unknown and I think ultimately I you know I'm sort of like too into the idea to not give it a try and I think the fear that I have would kind of be like

mostly like an exciting fear of like you said just sort of the unknown and yeah I think I I think I'm ready to pull a trigger on that. I don't know when, but it feels like something that I'm excited to give a dry. It's definitely a big part of like our fantasy. Yeah, you don't want to do it with any of these girls that are like sending your guy messages. Like, I think you're hot or whatever or somebody that knows him in his community even. I don't think you want to do it anywhere there because that could get messy. And even that, not to say that he's going to wind up copping feelings for that girl.

Well, what happens if the girl does? you know, you, that's the type of situation where you go looking for a girl for him to do that on an app where he's just going to have a one night thing, right? And then he's going to come home and tell you about it. And it's going to add to your guy's relationship and your guy's sex life, right? It's more about what he brings back between you and him, right? So it's like a one-time thing. It could be. Definitely so.

Yeah, I think that would maybe be where an app would for sure come in handy is to have that just like one-time experience. and kind of, you know, not make it like a necessarily a long-term thing. So, yeah, for sure the apps would be good for that. And being the ethical slut that you are, do you, like, say, because your guy does have a feeling that he's not into the guy with you situation. Do you feel like if you were with him for the next 10 years that you could just be with him, if you could also be with women? And are you okay giving up ever being with another guy? or do you feel like you still, you would want to have that in your life at some point or every now and then? I think I would want to have that in my life.

I don't know. I'm sort of like it doesn't feel like by any means an urgent thing. And I think because we had a few sort of like not great experiences where he got hurt. Like I'm okay with sort of putting that on the back burner for a while. But I definitely think that I would want to have some sort of way of having those experiences. in a way that like didn't hurt him I think right you've already thought it out that maybe if you had that full swap he would be okay with it because it was it would be like he would be doing something else at the same time too it's not like him and another guy and his girl

if another guy's girl was there too maybe you know because like you said he's just not turned on by guy or that whole situation I what I think sometimes is maybe people that are into cuckling or buy, right? That's why you like it and that's why the thought of him being with a girl turns you on because you're into girls, right? So there's something about that that you like. And I think I've heard that a lot from guys that call into my show that are into the whole cuckled thing. They tend to be by.

I mean, I don't know if that's the case across the board, right? That is always the case. But I think it is a lot of the time. You know, so probably your guy isn't by at all, right? And not into guys at all. So he doesn't get anything out of it. He doesn't seem to get, I mean, the only time we got jealous really was when you were with his friend. Do you think he'd get jealous if it was a stranger?

I think he would. I think we did sort of have like a small experience at another party where this guy was like, can I make out with your girlfriend? And this was sort of before, this was also very early on. And he was, you know, again, kind of, I think, in this period where he was just like trying to be open mind in general. And that was like one of those experiences where after he was like, I actually like I didn't like that. And yeah, I think he thought he could be into that. And then after a few times, realized that he wasn't.

Right. And so that time, I mean, the guy said I just want to make out with you. But did you go into room and have sex with him with your boyfriend after that? What is it that he didn't like you just made out with the guy? Yeah. I think. And this guy like was wanting to have a threesome. And we are, you know, my boyfriend was like, no, I'm not like into that idea.

I wasn't like that into the guy. So I wasn't also. But yeah, I think that, you know, we just kind of had that like they got on the dance floor sort of moment. And yeah, I think it was like not not that hot for my boyfriend once again. Right. He didn't like it. And he kind of bothered him.

Well, I think that's a little intimate kissing. I don't know. He might need some rules and regulations. Or I think that you're right to keep maybe trying it in a different kind of scenario that would work. Right. I understand why his best friend watching you. with him wouldn't be great.

I understand a guy making out with you on a dance floor. I don't know. It's like. It's kind of intimate. You're right. Yeah. Because I've heard a lot of couples have that rule. Like there's no kissing, you know, so it might be that kind of a situation with him, you

know. So, but maybe you could figure out a way for it to work, considering you're so open-minded and sexually wired to be into non-monogamy more so than a monogamous person you are, right? Is that what you would say about? yourself? Yeah, definitely. And since he knows that and he could roll with it, you guys got to figure out how it would work. Though I don't think it's like you're looking to have a guy all the time, right? If you could just be with another guy eventually every now and then to just get it out of your system, right? Yeah, definitely. Every once in a while, that would be hot. Right. And is that

like two times a year? Yeah, I think I'd say we've probably had some sort of experience with somebody, I would say like about maybe three or four times a year. Right. But you could do one guy, two, and three girls, right? I mean, you know, if you mix it up because he's fine with the girls, right? There's no girl situation that has ever bothered him. No, no, no. I don't think, I can't imagine that it would unless he was like, I think the only tricky thing is just making sure somebody we're both attracted to because I think that, you know, we have, I wouldn't say that, well, I don't know. I feel like maybe we have, we have like I'm usually sort of down to have those experiences even if it's somebody I might not

normal like a girl I might not normally be attracted to what are your guys type what's your type what's his type oh man I don't know actually if I know I don't really know if I know what his type is in terms of like three some sort of experiences like not necessarily more intimate but I I feel like it's it's just a little tricky I think it's like already tricky to get two people who Who vibe and then just by default, the more people you add in, the more it's like you have to make sure everybody kind of meshes. Yeah. I think maybe there's something, you know, when you're so intimate with one person and then to

bring somebody else into that, I think there's something that feels a little, even when it's high, it feels a little invasive in terms of like the intimacy that you and your person already have. If that makes sense, like I think that maybe it's like you already know how you are with each other. and then sort of like bring in a third person sexually. It's like you kind of almost feel like you're having, you have to like perform in a way for them. It doesn't necessarily feel natural to the dynamic,

you know, the dynamic that maybe we already have. So I think that's something we, I don't know if that makes a lot of sense. But I think for us that's something why we don't like use apps that much is because it kind of feels like you're having to like do a whole song and dance when really it's like we could just sort of be with each other because we already know each other. Right.

But no, when I say type, like, physically? Like, is there, do you like blondes with big tits and he's more of an ass man? I mean, do you typically look at these, when you were like doing the app thing or you're at a party, you know, how do you pick out the girls? Like, do you know what you're attracted to and do you know what he's attracted to? Do you typically find the same kind of women attractive? I think so, actually. Yeah, I guess that would have been the easier answer to give earlier. Yeah, I think we definitely like generally have the same physical type in mind. I think like he's definitely into asses.

And I am too. I mean, yeah, I think, yeah, asses are hot. Also, I have really small tits. So I like girls who have bigger tits. That is, like, hot for me for sure. And I think it's, yeah, kind of like, kind of, I think in general, sort of like femme, you know, femme kind of like womanly gal. Right.

Mm-hmm. And your guy isn't to the same thing. Yeah, definitely. Right. So, I mean, that's good. So you're both looking for the same kind of person. Now, I get confused when you say that, like, I guess it's the difference on the app and other people that you say, like, when you bring a third person in, it was very weird and you're, you know, having to perform. Like, when is it not weird?

Is it more or less weird when it happens organically? Is that what you were saying? Yeah, definitely so. I think, do you organic, you know, if you already kind of like, you weren't seeking out that experience. but you just so happen to like hit it off with somebody and it unfolds from there. I think that's definitely, which I think most people maybe feel this way, but it's definitely preferable to like not. I think it's really hard to get the, you know, the vibe of somebody from an app.

And so I think that it's usually kind of hard to tell if there's going to be an attraction there. And I think that's kind of almost a vulnerable experience to go through by yourself. And then it's weirdly for me at least almost more vulnerable to go through. to go through that with my boyfriend because then it's like we're both sort of having to like wade through that together versus like I think when you're by yourself and you go on a date and it's not great you can just

sort of like brush it off or something right but there it is in between you two right and it's exactly it's not just a part of your life now it's also a part of your relationship's life so it's like more invasive into your being I get it yeah yeah that makes sense

so you know I don't know if you're going to be polyamorous in the future but maybe it'll be like you'll have, you know, a woman. But like when you say that you, like, were crushing, did you feel like you could have an emotional relationship with a woman as well? Or do you feel like you just would want to keep that connection going? I mean, do you know yet? Or maybe you just have to meet that you have to be with a girl that allows it to happen for you to see which way it would go?

I don't know. Yeah, I think I feel, I haven't really, like, had the experience. yet. But I do feel like this girl most recently that I had a crush on, like, I really did feel this, like, emotional connection with her. And it was almost hard to tell, like, is this meant to just be a friendship? Or is this something more? And I think that we, you know, we both, like, were attracted to each other. And I did ask her on a date. And I think, like, that's when she sort of expressed some hesitancy. And so I was like, oh, maybe I was misreading things and felt a little embarrassed. But I'm glad I tried. Yeah. Because, you know,

never know and maybe she wasn't ready and like maybe she's going to date this guy and then when things don't work out you know I don't know eight months from now if it happens they break up she'll come back and maybe she'll try that out you don't know you know it might have just freaked her out but it's not because she's not into it but because maybe she wasn't ready or she didn't know if she was you know so you never know with that one she could come back I think I have totally I think I have to remind myself sometimes that I am pretty open about these things and A lot of people I don't think are. And so sometimes I'll get kind of offended if like, you know, maybe something.

You know, in her in that case, like I felt like I, maybe not offended, but just embarrassed that I had like misread things. And but then I think that either she just wasn't into it after all, which is, of course, okay in her prerogative or, you know, she wasn't that comfortable with it. And I think I forget sometimes like, oh, yeah, not everybody's quite as open. Could it be that she had already met that guy too? and she knew that she was liking somebody else and she was already like sweating him. I mean, is that a possibility as well? I think I actually don't know. I do know that she is like very, very sexually inexperienced.

Like recently lost her virginity. So I think that that was, I definitely think like way different wavelengths in that sense. Like I think she's for sure still like learning a lot about herself. Oh, yeah. Was she way younger? week her out. How old was she? She must have been way younger then if she had just lost her virginity.

Was she in her like early 20? Right. Okay. And that's so, yeah, you never know. She's just figuring things out for sure. But maybe you'll meet somebody else in the meet, you know, eventually when this shit goes away, you guys will maybe bump into somebody else or you'll get that girl. When is your, your guy's birthday?

It's coming up that you want to get him, a woman. Coming up in a few days, actually. Oh, so it's coming to. Yeah. Yeah, how are you going to do that? Or can you send somebody by him? But would that make you feel comfortable? No, you'd have to be there, right?

You don't want him to be with a girl by himself. Yeah, I think this might be delayed. That part of things is going to be a delayed birthday present, I think. Because I feel like maybe doing it from a distance might make me feel a little weird. Yeah, for sure. So I might make it something more like when I'm back where we live. I think maybe that's when I'll try to do that. Yeah, for sure.

That, you know, give him a like a. belated birthday present. You know, you could give him maybe like, you know, a TBD, give him something now, but this is what you're really getting when, you know, this shit goes away and you could be with other people. Thank God you're in a relationship and you can have somebody to have sex with eventually when you go back home, right? And do you guys live together? Yeah. We are, well, actually, I would just move out of my place like right before everything hit. And so we actually are about to live together, but we haven't really, well, actually, I guess we were sort of living together. when he was here at my family's place.

Right. That was like a big. That was a good kind of way to sort of see how it was going to be, especially with no sex. I mean, if you could get a, if you could get along at your parents' house without any sex in a tiny little house, like I said, with your parents. And you guys were fine. I mean, I feel like you could make it anywhere. It's a good sign for your relationship. Yeah.

Because I think that's a hard thing to manage because I think a lot of times what people don't understand and you hear this a lot. And I think it happens a lot. is like when you first meet someone, you have all this intense sexual chemistry. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to have all the other things or you're meant to be compatible in every other way, right? But people wind up settling for those people because the sex is so fucking good. But, you know, when life becomes more serious with other things, they realize like they don't have much else in common, you know?

So it's always good to know if like sex wasn't there. Like, do you have those other pieces of the pie, right? I mean, you have to have other things in a relationship because 10, 50, you. 15 years down the line when sex isn't so prevalent, maybe so much, right? What is keeping you together? You know, you have to have that compatibility in other areas. And I think, you guys, it was a good test for you to realize that, you know, because you had such a strong physical relationship and sex, right? Because you guys do all this stuff sexually that, you know, at least you know, it's not just that that's keeping you together.

Yeah. Oh, definitely. Yeah. I think I feel really lucky in the sense that we always had, like, of course, really strong chemistry, but also like we just sort of like get along well and can like be with each other for days on end and kind of know what to give each other's space. And I feel really lucky in that way because I think it's like, you know, kind of hard to come by. But we do really just genuinely enjoy each other's company. Yeah, like friends. I think that's the best kind of

relationship, right? I mean, like you, the way you guys like you could come to you and be like, hey, like this girl just said this to me. And you're like, oh, she looks like she's by. Let's check her out. Maybe we should be together. You know, it's kind of like. you know, like a friendship too. And I think that's what you need in a relationship to have it be in the long haul. So, you know, call me back and give me an update when you do, if you get him that other girl or you guys start seeing each other separately. Or you start dating a girl and you try to figure that shit out because that's what I'm curious about. I don't.

Yeah, me too. Amorous relationships are so confusing. I wonder, though, how it would play out for you, you know. But it's interesting that you're open to it. I'm sure eventually it'll lead to some experiences because it's, you know, why not? And I think because you have had those feelings start off with two women recently. It's bound to happen eventually when you're ready for it with somebody else. And I'm interested in where it goes. Yeah, I hope third times a charm. Yeah, for sure. First you, you know, ended up with them dating other guys, which I mean, I'm dating the guys.

I can't throw stones. But hopefully, yeah, yeah, I will definitely keep you updated. Yeah. Thanks so much. What did we call you again? What was your fake name that we used? Megan. Oh, yeah, Megan. All right. Thanks so much, Megan for calling in.

And like I said, whenever you get that new update for me or something starts to go down, sending email and have you back on. I will, absolutely. And I love the show. I love what you're doing. It's been so cool to listen to you. Oh, good. I'm so happy.

Well, you're going to be listening to your episode this Sunday because I'm going to air it, like right away. Girls always bump everybody. Poor guys that have been calling me from my show. And I'll change your voice. I change everyone's voices. I don't care what anyone says. I just do that anyway.

But you'll love it. And it's always, I think, even more interesting when you hear your story back as a third person. So, you know, let me know what you think after you hear it. But thanks so much for tuning in and now becoming a guest on my show. And thank you so much. I appreciate it. Bye, Megan. Bye.

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