Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 405 - Jennifer is a Size Queen who Only Dates Guys with Small D****

Episode Date: August 16, 2021

Jennifer is a size queen who only dates guys with small d**** and she call in to talk all about it. Why does she only date guys with small d****? What is a good size for her? Why are all of her boyfriends overweight too? Tune in for all the details which include how her current boyfriend's weight is impacting their sex life and his penis size, tips on how he can lose weight and how losing weight will make his d*** bigger, how she's dying to try sex toys and why she hasn't tried them yet, his premature ejaculation problem and what she should do about it, how she wants him to be freakier in bed and all the kinky things she's dying to do including learning to squirt and a whole lot more. ** Plus she called in with an update which is included at the end of the episode that includes the sex toy she purchased and how her guy felt about it, how she solved his PE problem (hint: Promescent delay spray!) and more.  **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + gain access to my PRIVATE Discord channel where people get super XX naughty + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Strictly Anonymous Podcast. Conversations with online strangers. We place ads online. The Craigslist is definitely like the gift that keeps on giving. Real people respond. You go to Singapore or Thailand. You can't not do it.

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If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. If you want to be on the show, I'm going to start taping people soon again. So send me an email with your story that you want to tell on my show. Everyone remains anonymous. That's why it's called strictly anonymous. I change everyone's voices. Send me an email at Strictly Anonymous Podcast at gmail.com. or go to my website, strictly anonymous, podcast.com and click on Beyond the Show. And so today I'm going to a girl named Jennifer. Now, Jennifer sent me an email, right?

It sent me an email that was like, oh, I'm a size queen and I only date guys with small dicks. And I actually thought it was a joke. I remember posting it on my Insta story. So if you follow me there, you remember this, right? And I didn't think she was going to call him, but she did. And she really is a size queen that has,

it's not just her guy now who she's in a relationship, of all of her guys that she has dated, as they've all been below average. And it doesn't really satisfy her. The other thing that doesn't satisfy her is her guy comes too quickly. He also isn't really into toys and she's dying to use them. She never has. She was always like super vanilla.

But this girl wants to spice things up, right? She wants to use toys. She wants to watch porn with him. She wants to squirt. She wants him to have a bigger dick. She wants them to last a little bit longer. and we talk about all of that. And I actually give her good advice.

Okay, good advice on how to make him last longer. Good advice about how to introduce toys into your relationship. Good advice on how to get his dick to be bigger. Okay, now this is going to be controversial because I had read right before I spoke with her about how if a guy is overweight, he loses like a couple inches of his dick. And that's not because like, oh, it's hiding behind his belly and you got to push it. It's like it actually goes inside the body. So I read this article about how like if you lose weight, there's like inches.

For every like 30 pounds, there's like two inches of dick size that are inside that will pop out. I don't know. So it's a comment below. I know I'm going to get a lot of emails and comments about this. Fact, but we talk about that. I give my opinion about that because I think that that's fascinating and it makes sense. I think it's a medical fact. But I don't quote me on that.

I'm not a professional. I'm not a therapist. I'm not a doctor. I don't know fucking anything. But we do talk about this. I do give some good weight loss advice too. She recently lost a lot of weight and she sent me in a pick. So if you want to see anonymous picks, an anonymous pick, one pick of Jennifer.

Go to my Patreon, patreon.com slash strictly anonymous podcast. You could see her. She lost a lot of weight. She's hoping that he does so he could get that dick back. Also, so he could wait a little bit longer. Also, let me tell you, this girl did all the homework that I gave her. I gave her a lot of good advice on this episode. And she did all the homework and then she emailed me.

He was like, hey, I got an update for you. You know, I got the dildo. She got something to help his lasting longer problem, which happens to be my sponsor permissible lace spray. And let me tell you, when I told her about it and told her to get it, I hadn't even got their products yet. You'll hear all of this go down because what I do on the end of the episode is I include that update show.

I put it in at the end for your guys instant gratification. So make sure, after you hear me saying goodbye to her, that you stay tuned. Because right after that, she calls. back in and she talks all about all the things she did to help their sex life. And all of the things worked. She went out and bought a dildo. She tried to introduce it into the relationship. She talks about how he felt about it. She talks also about the fact that she did go and get promescence to lay spray. Even though they weren't really my sponsor yet, she went and got it and it really made a huge difference. You're going to get like a testimonial that has nothing to do with anything. I mean, she

bought their product. She didn't even use my coupon code, but you're going to hear how it really worked for them and how much her guy liked it, how she brought it up to him, because I think sometimes people are afraid to bring it up to their guy because you think they're going to get insulted. She brought up the fact that she wanted him to lose weight, how he reacted, all that good stuff. So like I said, you get instant gratification at the end of the episode because you hear about all the homework that she did and how it worked out for her. I'm going to be right back on with Jennifer. Hey, Jennifer. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm good. How are you? I'm good. How are you? good. Now, you know, people who follow me on Instagram might remember you. I didn't put your name

in there, but they might remember a post where I sent out something. Someone, you know, someone had wrote in and said that they wanted to be on the show and we booked an appointment. And when you book an appointment with me, I asked for a little description of what you're calling in about. And the description that you wrote was like, I just keep dating guys with really small dicks, right? Like, how else can I say it? I've had a couple of relationships. They're all so small. And I was like, the reason. why I put it on Instagram because it's like this can't be real like it can't be I mean I know that there's some small dicks out there trust me I've slept I've slept with a lot of guys I know most guys

to me are not big every now and then every now and then not like you find a really small one I had a really small one like the size of like a thumb so I don't know what you mean by small like so you're just going to have to like get into it and that's where we're going to start yeah so I would say they're like pretty small like below average for sure and like I feel like the the big ones are rare at this point I'm like do those even exist um but yeah I mean I have description of the length and the width of a small to you so I'm going to give you like three examples of three long-term relationships I had so I'm going to give a name okay it'll be like my baby daddy my ex-boyfriend and then my current boyfriend.

Okay, perfect. The first two, I mean, it's been a long time, so it's kind of hard to remember exactly. But the one that I'm with now, he's pretty freaking small. So when I, like, put my hand around it, it's about, like, my hand basically been holding the whole thing. Okay, well, does it overlap? Okay, yeah.

So maybe, like, if I grip it, like, maybe the head will be, like, out and that's about it. So maybe like four inches. Or smaller, right? I don't know how big your hands are. Right. Three to four inches maybe? Yeah. Yeah, about, I would say about four inches. Okay. And then how thick? Not very thick either. Like I can close my hand around it, basically. So like thin, kind of thickish, average? I would say thin. Not like, thin. Not like. super, super, like, pencil thin, but pretty thin. Oh, God. I definitely wouldn't say thick.

So you have, like, you have both, like, because I always personally as a woman, because, like, we have a cervix. That's what I always say. So I, I don't want anyone nine inches. I don't know why people are always, like, flashing around nine inch cocks. Like, that's just, like, going to, like, it's going to hit a point where it can't go any further, you know, and that, like, hurts. But to me, what would be great is, like, a lot of width, right?

And maybe, like, six inches, right? six inches and like width is really important I think more so right for women than length like if this guy was four inches but he was really thick like that could maybe work right but he's both like short and average maybe at best you'd say with his yeah yeah and there definitely is like such a thing as too big too yeah for sure yeah but um yeah i would say like average width and like just small. I don't know how else to say it, just small. And your first two boyfriends were the same way? I believe, actually, that my baby daddy, he was smaller. I don't remember, like, length, like, exactly. It's been so long. But, yeah, I believe he was actually smaller. And then I have a couple of

theories. No, it's fine. It's funny. Yeah, what are your theories? They are all bigger guys, but then I've also been with bigger guys that aren't small either, so I don't know. But I know that like, you know, because they're fat, if you go a little bit deeper, like you push down in like the fat area right there, you can feel more. Yeah, and let me tell you, I was Googling this because I have a lot of guy friends. And I have a guy friend that was like losing length, like literally. So I was like Googling. Is it an age thing? is it a weight thing.

Do you know that there are two inches of penis inside his belly? It pulls it inside. It's not like, oh, if you move his belly, it's there. It's literally inside that if, I mean, give him a reason to, like, lose some weight. That could be a reason. Like, he will literally be, I think it's like an inch and a half to two inches shorter than if he was skinny. If he lost that weight, that would pop out. Think he would go from four inches.

believe it. Yeah, he would go from four inches to six inches. That's a huge difference. Yeah. I mean, it's very hard to talk about it. But then my son said he wasn't, he wasn't, like, very fat. He was, like, a bigger guy. He was a football player.

Who was this? But my baby daddy. Yeah, go on. So he wasn't, like, a fat guy, like the last two were, like, over 250, like, big guys. He wasn't, like, super fat, but he was just a big built guy. Yeah. And I don't think that there was any excuse for him. No, he might have just been small.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. He might have just been small. But listen, like I said, I kind of slept around when I was younger. I was not in so many long-term relationships. So, like, my numbers are kind of up there as far as like. So I've seen a lot of dicks, right? And I love a lot of guy friends and we talk and whatever. So I, and I have to say that I would say the average.

Like a lot of times they say the average, like penis size is six to eight inches. And like, no way. I would say the average is like four to six, right? And not so thick. That is like the average. So, you know, but to come across three, do you know what I mean? That are all like four and under and not so wide is like either you have like the worst luck or those two that are overweighted are probably much more average than they know. But, you know, their overweightness is, you know, is sucking in two inches of their cocks.

Whereas the first guy, you were just kind of on. lucky, right? He wasn't really that big. But the chances of having three guys, you know, all your long-term relationships, I mean, you are unlucky, A, and B, I think, though, that with your current boyfriend, because he's one of them that's holding that weight, he, you know, he doesn't realize, maybe he doesn't realize, but if he lost the weight, it would pop out. Now, it's very, I mean, men and dick size is a very, you know, serious subject. Like, you can't walk up to a guy.

I once used the word, like, like, little. Like, I used to love, like, I was like, said to a guy like, oh, how was your little vacation? And he was like, he got so mad at me. Like, the word little to a man is horrifying. Even if you're not talking about a dick, do you understand? So to talk about, you know, to really bring up like, hey, like your dick is too small for me.

Like, maybe you should lose some way to get bigger. Is the big fat no-no, right? I mean, but have you guys ever discussed? anything like that at all? I would hope not. That's the thing that I wanted to talk about too. It's like, it's like that awkward. Like I never have actually like talked to them

about it because like how do you tell them? Like that's like everything to a man. Like, yes. How do you tell them like it's really small? And honestly my boyfriend right now he's in denial because he doesn't, he thinks he like has something going on and I'm just like, oh yeah.

You're kidding. What do you mean? you know when he's like talking all sexual or whatever like all my big you know what and stuff like that and I'm just like uh-huh yeah let me ask you this can he see all the way down there you know he might remember what it looked like when his belly wasn't obstructing his view I'm sorry and it was bigger it was he too much is bigger yeah he's proud he'll like wave it around and like just show me him when he's just walking around naked like he's proud he'll wiggle it and everything so he he knows what it looks like wow and that's the thing too standing up like when he's laying so the length that I was explained to that's like laying down

with a heart on yeah but like standing up with a heart on it just it just disappears it's like it gets even smaller yeah yeah but I'm telling you even when he's laying down if he lost weight that would come out like one and a half to two inches. It's not like the belly hides it or there's fat or like it. It literally is pulled in. I forget it. It was actually really interesting when I went Googling about it that it really does. That he needs to lose weight.

Now, have you ever had any discussions about his weight or does he care about his weight at all? Because you could totally just like go there with him, right? About the weight issue. And then it would be like a side effect that he didn't even realize what happened. But you know you would be making. him like, you know, go on a diet so his dick would get bigger. He would be going on it. Yeah, he has no interest in losing weight.

I'm actually, like, in the process of losing weight right now. And he's all like, tell him like, yeah, we should do this. Like, help encourage me. Yeah. He's like, nah, nah, nah, you can do your thing, but I'm fine the way I am. Really? Yeah. How old are you guys?

And I like five guys. I am 26 and he is 32. 26 and 13. So you like bigger guys. Yeah, I do like bigger guys. So I don't have a problem with his weight at all. Yeah. But you have a problem with his dick size. So, you know, which one would you rather give up? True, true. And that's the thing I wanted to talk about also is that like, because the sex isn't bad with all three of them. Yeah. The sex isn't like horrible. I mean, obviously it's not like the. greatest sex ever, but it's not bad. But the problem is like, it depends like if they can last

long, how they are going down, foreplay, stuff like that. Yeah. And so all of that's been good except for the one that I'm with right now. He like, he comes too fast, which is fine. I don't have a problem with that. You know, it happens. A lot of guys have that. But then it's like, it's like if they can go again after. Because if you can go again, we're good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, perfect. But then he can't even go again. And I'm just like, oh, my God, guy, like, get it together.

You can't have a small one and then not come fast and then not be able to go again. Like, pick one. Yeah, and it's funny because I have a sponsor that I'm hoping to be probably working with. And they have a spray, by the way, that it's like a climax control spray for guys. And like they sprayed on it. will literally make them last longer. So he may need to use that. I'll let you know how good it is because I got sent some samples.

But there are, so the good news is, is there are things that could help him last longer, okay? For sure. There is. And like when I was like Googling this company, they have this whole video on there on their website about the orgasm gap. I mean, they're like with a regular guy and a regular girl, there is a gap of a lot of minutes in between like how fast a woman orgasms and how fast a woman orgasms and how fast a guy does, right? It's like 18.

For sure. It's like 8 to 14 or something, whatever it is, but there's the gap, right? Women take longer than men do. So if even with a regular guy, he's like, always trying to hold off, right? And let you come first. But if you have a guy who's even quicker, you really

have a problem, right? Is he good at going down on you? Yes, he is very good at that. So thank God. there's something yeah right he doesn't have a problem with that at all and you orgasm like so i mean for me what i always used to do my move and like i hope none of my exes are listening to this but if i ever said like

fuck me from behind that was because his dick was too small like because so i would feel it more do you know what i mean so that was always my yeah favorite position yeah with a small yeah and we're also limited to with what positions we can do because of his life that's the really frustrating thing because I have been with guys who weren't so small, and so I know what positions I'm capable of, and we can't do, and then ones that I like, and we can't do some of those. Well, what are the ones that you like

and what are the ones that he can't do, and which are the ones that he can do? Can he do it from behind or no? So, yes, we end up doing dog style quite a lot. But if we were to be, like, standing up, like if I was standing up and bent over, he can't do that for some reason. Is it like a high issue? Possibly.

Is he short or tall? He's only very slightly taller than me. Right. So maybe. I don't know. Yeah. So that's an issue. And I don't know if it's like the belly or just he can't reach.

I think he can't reach honestly. Oh, really? And it's just like, it's just like awkward. Like we don't have. even talk about like why it didn't work. We're just like, okay, let's just do something else. Yeah, listen, I think that's smart to not get totally into that stuff. I think sometimes when you really start over talking about sex and like having

conversation, you know, it could ruin it. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Though communication is very important. I think maybe a sex therapist would be like, you're so wrong, Kathy. Like you should be communicating. But you know, you want to communicate in a hot way. Like, hey, you know, and I'm sure you do that.

Like you say like your dirty talk and you're talking while you're having sex and you could be like, oh, do that, you know, move it over a little bit this or something. But you don't want to be like, hey, like, why can't you reach down when I'm standing out, you know? You don't want to make it feeling self-conscious. Sometimes I will get frustrated and like, be like, oh, I give up and then I'll just like turn over and go to bed. Like, I've done that a couple of times when he just was like, it was just not doing it for me. which sucks. I feel bad for him. It's not completely his fault.

But I have like kind of like what you were saying. Like I started to like direct him in certain things so that at least he can like be better at doing other things than what he can't do physically. And now when you say to him like hey like I'm just like if I give up like it does he does it bother him? Do you sense that he gets really affected by it? he's good to go because he came? I don't know. Like, how does that typically work? Yeah, he's totally fine because he came. Right. Okay. That's what I, you know, a lot of guys are kind of selfish, you know, some guys are very like, you know, it's very important for them to make a girl come, right? Like, there's those kind of guys and they don't want to stop and it's very connected to their ego, right? So if you

don't, they would get very super frustrated, right? And then there's some guys that are just, they just give a shit, you know, they're a little bit more selfish. So as long as they come, they're kind of okay. So for him it's a little bit of more so that way? He definitely likes to please. He always like goes down on me first before we do anything. He definitely likes to. But yeah, because he can't go again when he does come, he's done.

Like when he's done, he's done. So he really doesn't like care if I'm like, okay, like let's do something else. Or like we're trying to do something and I get frustrated because he's, just not doing it right or whatever. It doesn't work out. Or his dig is not getting hard because he just can't after he does come. Yeah. So I'll just roll over with a little attitude and he just takes it.

Right. Yeah. I would hate to call him lazy, but he might be a little lazy. Maybe. You know? Because let me ask you this. If you haven't come, like would he go down on you to get you off? Like, would he finger you to get you off?

Like, I mean, he's like, when he's done, when he's done, he's done? Um, no. Yeah, he definitely would, like, go down on me. Yeah. If, yeah, he would. Now, is this, how long you guys been dating? We've been together a little over a year now.

And now is this someone? Because you guys are like, you know, like getting to the age where people start to think, you know, more seriously about, uh, relationship, right? I don't know what people your age are thinking nowadays. But, I mean, is this somebody that you would maybe be thinking about spending, you know, your future together with? I think so. I think it's still too early,

but that's where I want to go, yeah. Right. So now, what would you, like, I mean, to me, you would have to, because, like, what's the solution to a really small dick guy? I mean, there's toys. Do you guys play with toys at all?

No. Why not? Not at all. I brought it up to him, and unfortunately, like, the past two guys that I've been with like relationship-wise they're like those kind of guys that are like it hurts their ego they're like oh why do you need that you have me and I'm like that was that's like the girls who are like why are you watching porn you have me like I mean it's the same shit doesn't one has nothing to do with the other but in this case the sad thing is is it would be because of them you would be like can you get that huge dildo out of the closet and it would be because they're smaller but you know just it's it's I don't know. I think there's a very big difference

between a toy and a person, right? And so, you know, have you ever brought it up to this, to this guy? Yeah, I have and he's just like, no,

why do you need that or no? Like, what do you need that for? So he's not open to it. I do keep bringing it up, though, like, just to see.

Yeah, you need to get it. And I've never like, yeah. And I've never actually like done that. with somebody either like altogether so that would be like new to me. Would that be hot? Also.

Or would it be uncomfortable? Have you used them yourself? I'm not. Yeah, I have. Okay. Yeah, I don't do it a lot. I don't even have one right now. Mm-hmm.

So. Was it a vibrator or a dildo? What do you used to play with? It was, yeah, just a dildo. Right. And did you like it? Like, was it enjoyable? Yeah, I do.

And I've been telling him like, oh, I want to get one. I want to get one. And he's just like, no. So then like, and I think if I had one, he would just be like, okay, just like, keep, do that. Keep it away for me. So, yeah, I think I don't know if I would want to, like, do that with him. Well, listen, there are some guys with, like, a dirtier mom. I don't know.

I've known some guys that are so excited to buy toys and use them. you, you know, like they find it hot. Like he, you know, he might not know. I mean, did you ever ask him, like, has he ever used toys with anybody else? Because, like, you know, he might be surprised that he might actually like watching that, you know, it's like a little voyeuristic, you know, it's not him, it's something else. But, uh, if he could get past, you know, that sort of part of him, if he even has it of like, oh, why do you need this? You know, he might actually think it like is, uh, you know, a turn on. I think some guys are very turned on by watching their girl use choice.

Yeah, I mean, I would just have to ask him. I haven't talked to him too much about that. But didn't you say that? I do think he is like a little on the unexperienced side, definitely. Yeah. So I'm sure he hasn't done anything crazy. Right. So you have to, but that's good.

I have to tell you, that's good. That's better than the guy in your past who was like, what the fuck? You know what I mean? And maybe they, you know, they know for, they're like totally. against it. This guy said to you, you get it, right? Just get it. But I don't want to use it. Right? Is that what he said? He hasn't said that, but that's like the attitude that I get from him. Yeah. So that's what you need to do. Because he knows that he can't stop me from doing what I want to do. So I want to get one. I'm going to get one. So he's kind of just like, well, you do that, but I don't want to be to do with it.

Okay. Well, you need to get one. That's what you need to do. You need to get one. Don't get a giant. Don't get a giant one. Okay, don't scare the shit out of them. You know, I don't know. Let me ask you this first before we go shopping for toys. What is your, like, are you a size queen? Like, do you like them really big? Do you like them regular?

Like, you know, what would your perfect cock size be? Um, I would say, like, I would say big, not like super crazy big. I have been, like, with a guy who's just, like, ginormous, and it's just... Too painful. It's uncomfortable. Like, yeah, like, bends when it goes all the way in and just weird. You mean really long? So, like, yeah, like, really, really big.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Too much. So just, like, average, but maybe, like, slightly above average. Like, just big. Yeah, and they have them online. I'm just saying you don't want to get something, you know, that's so... big compared to him that he's a little intimidated by it, you know. But so start off like maybe a little bit smaller, but I need you, that's what you need to do

the minute we get off the phone. It's just order one, okay? Just order it. And deal with like the conversations and the introducing it to him later, okay? But fucking get it. Because I'm telling you, you said he's inexperienced. So it could literally be that he's. He's just never tried it.

He doesn't know how he feels about it. You might whip that out. He might start putting it in signing you and then realize like, that's fucking hot. Like that, like, you know, guys are very visual. I think, you know, I've been with a lot of guys that really think it's hot to see you play with toys. And he might just not know that it's hot to him because he hasn't seen it yet, you know, but maybe if he does, he'll be into it.

And it could help out because, you know, What is the other solution here? It's him losing some weight so you could get a little bit, like, more length. If he had an inch and a half more, would that help situation a lot, do you think? And he had less of a belly, like he was a little, you know, would that help, do you think? I think so, yeah. Yeah. So the good thing is that I love when you said that you were, like, trying to lose weight now,

and that's what you're doing because I think the best way, to have someone do something is like lead by example, right? And a lot of times, we're not always all there at the same time. You know, a lot of people get there around, you know, January 1st, but it's all bullshit. Half those people come to the gym and they're gone two months later. But, you know, everyone has that moment in their life where they're like, oh, I really want to, you know, take better care of myself and, you know, they're into it, right? That's where you're at, which is great. He's not there yet, right? But you doing it and you being his partner, you know, could really help him get to that place, right?

Because he sees what you're doing. And then he sees you getting fucking hotter, right? And you're getting in shape. And that might be like, oh, I got to like, you know, keep up with this bitch. Because like, I don't want her to go find somebody else. You know, I mean, it's not, it's a, it's great that that's what you're doing now. You know, and you're not even like, if you weren't doing it, that would be one of my tactics. I'd say to you.

Like, why don't you start trying to get on a thing and like, you know, and then get him into it because he sees that you're doing it, you know, so it's not so much about him. Yeah. Yeah, I think it is actually working a little bit. Like, he's, he's happy the way he is, which is fine. Yes. But I, like, I bought a treadmill, so he's like, oh, maybe I'll walk on the treadmill sometimes.

And I've been drinking, like, lemon water with chia seeds in the morning. He's like, oh, make me one too. So he's, yeah, exactly, exactly what you said, yeah. Yeah, that's great. And because, listen, as far as him, like, you're a chubby chaser. You don't have a problem with his weight, right? You like it. I like beefy guys too.

So I totally get it. But in this situation, first of all, it's not good to be like really overweight as far as health reasons, right? It's probably also the reason why he can't go twice, okay? I don't know if he starts sweating and shit, but it takes a lot out of you to have like sex, right? He's pounding away. It's like very physical.

And when you're really overweight, like you can't do. You're not as, you can't do it as good. You know, so if he dropped 20 pounds or. you know, he, it could really change his life for all these other reasons. I mean, I know that, you know, for you, it would be beneficial because he'd get those two inches or whatever it is. But it's also going to benefit him in other ways, you know? For his health, it's not good to be that overweight. And also for his stamina, I think he will be able to go maybe more than once as well.

Like that would probably change too. He doesn't need to lose at all, right? Because you want him to be a little bit bigger, right? Like, you don't want him to be ripped. Yeah. But, you know, how much overweight would you say he is? Do you know? He's probably about, like, 260.

Mm-hmm. So, like, he could lose, like, 30 pounds? 40 pounds? I don't know what that means. I don't even know why I asked. Yeah. Maybe, like, 20, 30 pounds would be okay. Yeah.

I think that that's really good. Now, do you have the treadmill in your house? Does he live with, do you guys live together? Yeah, we live together. Oh, okay, great. So now, how long have you been on your, like, you know, health kick? So it's been a process. I've been trying for a really long time, but I've, like, seriously been losing weight

for the past two months. That's awesome. I lost about 20 pounds. Yeah. That's great. And listen, I think it takes a long, like, it takes a while. when you start to change like your habits for it to kick in and start losing weight, right? Because I, you know, I've been there done that.

We all have, right? And sometimes you're like doing something, whether it's intermittent fasting or you're cutting carbs and nothing's happening for like the first month or something. And then all of a sudden you start to see results, right? So sometimes it takes a little while. But to have lost 20 pounds is like really great. What have you been doing to lose the weight? I've been walking on the treadmill.

I do some like, videos on on YouTube. I just look up some videos, like 20 minute videos. I've been counting my calories. I attempted keto, but it's honestly really, really hard. So I do eat low carbs, but I can't be keto. It's just too hard. Yeah, no, keto is a whole different thing.

But carbs, cutting carbs, you know what's great about cutting carbs? Because I've tried a lot of different things. And the great thing about cutting carbs and like you could eat everything else, right? you eat as much steak, chicken, vegetables, salad, olive oil, all that kind of good stuff. But when you really cut out a lot of carbs, which you probably don't need, but when you really do, though, if you really cut it out, the great thing about cutting carbs is that you do not, after you go through the initial torture of like really craving it and not eating it, after you go through that, like a week of that or a couple of days, you feel like fucking fine.

Like you don't feel like you're denying yourself. Whereas every other diet out there, you just, it just feels like torture, right? there's always like something calling you and you're fighting it and it's like this internal battle of like constantly like you know denying yourself whereas when you cut carbs and you get off of that your blood sugar and everything like levels out so much that you're you're rarely hungry you're never thinking you know you could walk past like a baked bread like baked bread and be like you're not salivating for it you know and it really makes a difference i have to say i highly recommend it if anyone wants to like drastically lose weight. Cut out all carbs. Like seriously. And it, and it's really, I mean,

you really feel like a normal person for the first time in your life. I'm someone that has no portion control. So that kind of thing works for me. Yeah. Yeah. For me, if I have like a bag of pop, like a bag of like I always ate a lot of popcorn because for me, if I had a bag of anything, I'm going to eat the whole thing. So popcorn was like the least, you know, fattening, right? If I'm going to eat a whole bag. So popcorn was always like my favorite snack. And when I was like your age and did the no carb thing, the way I did it. At my age, I do it different. I do it a little bit more hardcore, but I'm older and I'm fighting hormones.

You're not. You're younger. You know, your hormones are fine. If you just, like, cut out carbs and I would still eat popcorn. I still had my bag of popcorn a day. So it wasn't like how much was like cutting out carbs. But I would, and I would order Chinese food. I just wouldn't eat the rice.

You know what I mean? And it was like I ate as much olive oil, chicken, like whatever. And you do that for a while. like for like a year and then I gradually like and I got like I lost so much weight I gradually started putting good you know carbs in like brown rice and stuff and I was like fine I never got back to the weight that I was before so it really is actually beneficial whatever you're doing is actually working right because you lost 20 pounds yeah I am like not eating like the basic carbs like bread yes that's great pasta I'm not eating those and then like repressing like burger buns with lettuce

and stuff like that. That was working. Yeah, that's definitely working. Yeah, just keto. The problem with keto was that I was like eating, I'm like, I'm still counting the calories and I'm like, oh my God, like this is like it can't be true. You can't just eat all this stuff and have all these calories just because you're not having carbs.

And so it wasn't working for me at first. And I'm sure it works. I'm like, I can't be eating this many calories a day. So I just like cut out the carbs, but still. watching the calories. Yeah, both those things work. My sister's done Weight Watchers and like I think that their plan and that's all about calories. You know, you're sort of, you could eat a lot, but you're, and that really does make a big difference for a lot of people. The other thing that I would say that's really, really great and I didn't realize I was doing this all my life and I was

always like really super skinny and all my friends would be like, but I never ate breakfast. Okay, never. I was never a breakfast person and I could go all day without eating and my friends would, and I was always a working out person. My friends would always be like, oh my God, like breakfast is the most important. Like your metabolism is not woken out. Like everyone would get down on me about not eating breakfast. And I'd be like, well, I'm skinny without eating breakfast. So like I'll pull that card out when I need it. It turns out so many years later, what I was doing was intermittent and fasting, right? And it was keeping me fucking lean. Okay. So there really is a thing about going a long period of time. And now my intermittent and fasting has to be at like really boring hours. Like I have to

stop at like six and I don't eat until the next day. But for you, when I was younger and like your age, the way it worked for me is like I'd eat late. I would go to the gym. You know, I'd eat eight, nine, 10, a lot, you know, but I wouldn't eat again the next day until lunch. I just never ate breakfast. And I really believe that that would help you. Are you a breakfast person? No. So that's pretty much what I do right now. That's good. Because of my work schedule, I get off work late. So I end up eating my last meal. pretty late. And then when I wake up in the morning,

I'm not hungry at all because I eat so late at night. Yeah. So I usually don't eat until like one, two. Yeah, that's great. In the afternoon, yeah. And you're not even hungry. So that helps. So what you're doing is really great.

You should try to get him doing all those things too. Yeah. Because that'll help him lose the weight. You know, because let me ask you this. If you got that toy and he played with it, and, you know, he could, like, fuck you for a while and he gets off. And then if you didn't get off, he could take the toy and, like, you could use that. Like, would that really, like, change?

Would that be a game changer for you? I think so. I think, yeah, if we, like, added another element, I think so. Because when I started listening to your show, it kind of, like, gave me the balls to be more, like, straight up with him and open with him. Like, I started just having conversations about sex with him. to get him to do different things because we were basically at a point where it was just like the same thing

you e-k-k yeah five minutes we're done and that was it and I wasn't getting satisfied anymore so I found myself telling him no a lot of the time so then he was getting frustrated that we weren't ever doing it because in my mind I was like oh what's the point like it's not worth it to me so we started doing

different things and that like spice it up some So I think, yeah, I think just spicing up even more would definitely make it longer and better. Yes. And like, you know, listen, you want to do a little kinky things with him. You know what I mean? I feel like, you know, because you said he's an experience, you know, I don't know what that means so much. But what I hear when you say that is probably a guy that, you know, maybe doesn't even know a lot of the things that he's really into.

Like, you know, just bring one toy home. And then he might like if he really, the whole. is it's a 50-50 chance right the hope is he's like one of those guys that's like really into it right and then that leads to you guys like going on the website and like buying all kinds of things like the all kind of stuff is like fucking fun you know and you got to use your imagination and be really open about the stuff that you're into so you could do role playing and like whatever you want to do you know to add to it right especially i think he would be into stuff like that too and i think like if i got him to get into like a sex shop, he would find something in there.

Exactly. We could bring home and have fun with. Exactly. I think though you need to just buy one. Like seriously, like just buy it. Okay. Does he know that you listen to my show at all? Yeah. I think so. Does he? Yeah. Does he know that you listen to my show? No. Oh, okay. No. Yeah. You could pretend that you wanted on my show or something. I'm just like trying to think of a lot.

Oh, well, I have, I have mentioned to him before like, I've talked to him about a little bit. like, oh, I listen to this podcast and I heard this book, crazy story. Yeah. And then, but yeah. So just say, like, oh, I listen to this podcast and they were like giving away free merch, like a sponsor, so I got this. So don't even tell them that you bought it. Like, just say you got it somehow.

You know what I mean if you have to? And then introduce that, you know, and then or also, just get that now, okay? Because I do think you might be surprised. He might be even more surprised, you know, that while, you're like, you know, getting him thin without him realizing it and getting him back his inch and a half. Or could you could even also bring up, you know, that you heard on a pot, like, I don't know if he ever talks about his weight or anything, but like you could also say, like you heard on a podcast that, you know, if, you know, guys that are like whatever size, I don't

know, you think you could bring that up? I don't know. People probably listening right now are like, no, Kathy, don't let her bring it up to him. But like, I wonder. You know, because like my friend that I went Googling about it, like he had noticed that he had lost some size, right? And that's why I went Googling to see what it was. And it turned out that it was, you know, that weight definitely has a thing. So you could maybe also say, oh, I heard this on the podcast. I just don't know. Does he have a like a, does he look in the mirror and see that he's overweight or does he look in the mirror and think he's fucking fine?

Um, so he knows he's overweight. Okay. He was a little bit more overweight before we got together. He had lost some weight, but I don't think he ever did it on purpose. And sometimes, yeah, he'll look in the mirror and say, oh, I think I lost some weight. And I'm like, oh, my God, he's the same. Like, okay. Oh, my God, that's so funny.

So he, like, he is proud whenever he does lose weight. Yeah. But he's definitely, I don't see him saying, like, tomorrow, like, hey, like, I really want get serious. I want to lose a bunch of weight. Right. Like, he's definitely happy the way he is. Mm-hmm. But I think I can find a way to mention it to him.

Like, hey, look, you got some more down there, like, try to lose some weight so we can get it out. So here, this is what it is. For every 30 to 50 pounds of excess weight, you will lose an inch of visible penis. Can you believe? An inch. So if he's 60 pounds overweight,

right? That's two inches. If he's 30 pounds of rate, that's, you know, one inch. If he's in the middle of that, it's an inch and a half. That's a lot. Yeah, he probably has a good two inches thin. Exactly. That's major. So, you know, you could also somehow bring that up as well, you know, and say that you

heard it and then you went Googling and be like, hey, look at this. Like, you could be even two inches bigger. Like, how crazy. Like, you know, without not saying that you're like, you don't like what you have now. You're just like, it's going to be better, not that something's wrong now, you know, because, listen, if you're thinking seriously about this guy, you know, you want to try to work on your sex life. You know, you don't want to be like my other callers, 50 years old, and they're all living double lives because, you know, they're so unsatisfied for so long, but they wound up with somebody, right?

Obviously, you and this guy have a great relationship. Everything's really good. Sex is certainly not all of a relationship, right? But it's a big part of it. And you wanted to be satisfying, especially because you have, like, it mostly is, right? Satisfying. It's just, uh, yeah, right? There's just this couple things.

He's got the, like, not lasting too long. You guys have talked about that, right? He knows you're frustrated at how fast he comes to, he knows. He knows that he has a problem, like, with that himself? Um, yeah, he knows. Right. So there's things. for that, okay? They're sprays. Like literally, they have a spray that literally that they

makes it last, makes it last longer. So you could try that. You should take him to the store either. If you have a store in your neighborhood where you guys live that you could go to. I'm sure I can find one. Yeah. Or you could just, but also what I would do is I would just buy yourself one and have it shipped out to you ASAP. And then, and you know. Yeah, I think I'm going to do that because I've been wanting to for so long. Two years ago I was living with my mom. So I always said, like, as soon as I move out, I'm going to get one. So I would be mortified if she ever found it.

Of course. So, yeah, I've been wanting to for a long, long, long time. Oh, my God, there's nothing more exciting. I just don't go shopping when you're horny because you'll over buy. You know, it's like going shopping to grocery shopping when you're hungry. It's not good. You'll buy like 10 things. Everything will look good, you know.

But it's really exciting. get it. I do believe, you know, that there really is, like I said, to me, it's 50-50, that he will be into it. He might realize, like, oh, that's really hot. Like, there are a lot of guys out there. Yeah, you got the occasional guy that's, like, intimidated by it and everything, whatever. But a lot of guys really like it, you know, like he probably has a little dirty mind in there somewhere, right? But you guys have only been together a year, right? It's not like you've been together forever. Now is the time to start, you know, trying new things and communicating more about, you know, like sexual fantasies that you'd be into. And really, it's good that you're opening up to him and talking about different things because that's going to help.

Yeah. And, you know, he, you don't, you say he's more inexperienced than you, right? I think so. For sure, I think I've been with more people than him. Right. He was in a really long relationship before me, like nine years. Oh, okay. So, yeah, I don't think he's been with a lot of women.

Right. And if that woman was very vanilla, you know, and he's young. I mean, he's only like 32. So, you know, his whole life, it seems like he's been. And like maybe it could be like two long-term relationships. Like, you know, he might have never had. He doesn't know yet. I'm telling you, he just doesn't know yet.

And he could very well be really into it. And then, you know, you say like, look, when I went looking for this, like, there's all this other stuff, right? There's so much stuff out there that he could get into. Do you ever guys ever watch porn together or anything like that? So I did try that just like a month ago. I tried that. He's not into it.

He doesn't want to, but I like, I got him to watch like one video. Right. And then I was like, oh, let's watch another. He's like, no, no, no. And then the next night I was like, okay, so let's watch it again. Yeah. And then he was like, no. So yeah, he's not really into that.

Interesting. Okay. Well, that's okay. I mean, you have to see what works. I think it's great that, like, you know, you've been bringing it up and trying different things, right? Because, you know, maybe he'll be more of like a toy person. You know, maybe he's just not a porn person. That's, that's fine.

You know, you have to see what works. And the only way to know is to continue to have those conversations and get him to try. And the good news is that he did watch the video with you. He wasn't like an asshole. It was like, no way. He wasn't totally closed off, right? He gave it a try. You can't make him like certain things, you know.

But he tried for you, right? And he just wasn't into it. But I think you have to keep trying more. Because a lot of times, too, like, you know, everyone I think personally has a little bit of a freak flag. We don't know where his is or what, you know, but he probably has something in there, right? And you just got to find out what it is, like what gets him off. Like you know yourself, it seems like, you're like, let's try some porn. You're like dying to, you know, order toys to your house, right?

You want to try it all, right? An experiment. You know, what does he want to try and experiment? Like, have you ever asked him? Yeah, I've been trying to talk to him about that lately, too. Like, what do you want to do? What kind of stuff do you like? Yeah, what turns you on?

What does he say? He's very easy to please. He's just like, suck my dick and we're good. He's one of those, right? But he is, he does have like a little freak in him. Yeah. He is very sexual. I just like need to

I feel like I need to introduce him to other things so that we have more options. Right. Like what is he really into? Like how do you know he's really sexual? Is that he talks like really dirty? Like how do you see that part of him? How does it express itself?

He's just like really horny. We actually met at work. Uh-huh. So we did a lot of freaky things at work and we'll sneak away like pretend we're like I'll depend on somewhere, he'll pretend he'll somewhere and meet up in the parking lot across the street and do it in the car and stuff like that.

Yeah, that's fun. Yeah, he likes to do things like that. So he has a good imagination. Yeah. That to me, like that kind of like scenario stuff is like super hot. And yeah, you could do more of that. That's like really good.

And you just need to somehow incorporate the toys there. Like he, you know, I really think he just has never had did you ever ask him if he's ever tried it with anyone ever use any toys no no no I'm gonna ask him back for sure yeah never asked him yeah ask him I just kind of assumed no no because he just was like so like oh no no no no yeah I wonder I like I said I just think he might not he he he just doesn't he probably I would say he probably most likely has no experience with it and doesn't know and he's got to find out you know hopefully that will be a little bit of a game changer for you.

And that'll, because if it is, and it's something he's into, there's so like a whole world that opens up for you. Because like you said, you could take him to a store or you could go on Adameneve.com or some online sex shop and find all kinds of, like, fun things to play with,

you know, to increase your guys like sex life and to make it better. You know, you don't want to dump all this on him at once, but know that that exists in the future if you need to. I do think, though, him with his weight and getting him on board and hopefully him losing weight will not only help

with his penis getting bigger, but it will also help with him. Maybe not, not that it's going to change how fast he comes, but it could help him at least go two times. Do you know what I mean? Mm-hmm. He probably doesn't have the stamina to go a second time because he's overweight. I really think that would make a big difference. Yeah.

Yeah, I think so. Don't you think? Did you say he was thinner when you were with him or he was heavier when you're first with him? So I think he's about the same. But I think he was bigger before, like maybe a couple years ago. Oh, okay. So he had lost some weight. I don't think he like really did it on purpose.

Mm-hmm. He really like, he really doesn't eat, which is the weirdest thing. I'm like, how do you stay so big and you don't eat? He doesn't. Well, that's a problem. You know, it's because what happens when you really don't eat at all is that your body's metabolism like slows down, like for real. So, you know, he needs to do what you're doing exactly. And somehow you need to get him on that board.

You know, like when you make a burger with some lettuce, make it for him. I don't know. Do you cook for him? Yes, I do. He just doesn't eat a lot of what you make. and he's never hungry? Well, like, he won't eat breakfast. He'll eat, like, if I send him to work with food, he'll eat it.

But then most of the time he's like, no, it's okay. I don't want anything today. I'm like, well, what are you going to eat? And then when he does eat, yeah, he ends up eating, like, fast food out in the street. Yeah, that's why. That's, yeah, it's because that's what he likes. And then he eats. He probably eats more because he doesn't eat all day so that he's so hungry.

Well, first of all. Is like all over the place. Have you had any of that garbage recently? I could like the, I know exactly where I was. I don't know the year, but I remember the last time I tried McDonald's. It was like 25 years ago. And I tried it. And I was like, this is like bullshit.

Like you could eat like five Big Macs and for some reason you're not full. Like that like garbage food and unhealthy food, just you don't get full from it. Do you know what I mean? So you wind up overeating. And there's nothing worse than that kind of stuff for you. So if he's rarely. eating but when he does he's eating fast food forget about it you know it's terrible that's going to keep his weight on you know so he has to uh he has to stop that um so you know the good news is you know

that like i said you're on that kick of being healthier and you have seen him be like oh i'll do the treadmill and i'll do that you know but i really think if you could have the conversation somehow and let him know that he could get you know a couple inches back if he loses some weight i would think that would be a motivating factor for a guy you know but like i said don't try every single thing at once don't buy the dick spray and the dildo and the you know the information you know the printout information of you get two inches back all at once it'd be way too much you know start out you're already doing the diet thing you know um buy that toy and then have that conversation with him at some point that you, like, and make it seem like,

oh, you just found this out. And keep doing what you're doing and just, like, really starting to bring more hot scenarios to your relationship and get that, because he has an imagination, you know, get his imagination going even more and adding to that. And, you know, being more open about the stuff that you're into, because that'll only help. You need to just, like, ignite other things. I think he has more in him that he's into more things. he just probably hasn't done them and doesn't know.

Yeah, I agree because everything that I have, like, been, like, talking to him about, he's been open to it, like, the porn, he watched it. He wasn't, like, crazy, but he watched it. Right, which is cool. I was listening to your episodes about, like, the squirting and all that. Yeah. I was telling him, like, hey, like, let's learn how to make me squirt, and he was all into that. Oh, he was?

Yeah, see, that's hard. Yeah. Right, but that's the perfect thing of getting the toy because he could do it. with his finger, but why don't you buy like one of the ones like the G spot finders that's a toy to use that you could get him used to doing that and he could do it for you. You know that there's toys that they're specifically

made for that. Yeah. So that's a good thing. Start trying. I have a woman coming on. I haven't aired it yet, but I talked to her all about how to squirt. She's kind of like a professional that sends out e-books and all that shit, but she's got some good information there, but like that's a good fun thing to do with him. And the fact that he was really

into it is great. And you could, maybe that could even be your first toy before you go for a dildo, like because, you know, he's into that and you could say you'd try with your fingers. If not, we have this thing. You know what I mean? That's like the perfect thing. Because that will help. And he would do it. You know what I mean? You'd need, you would want him to use it, right? So get that too or just start with that. That's a great thing. Imagine you can learn how to do that. Forget about it. I think you'd be so happy. I know I would be. That's on my bucket list. I just can't. I'm sure you're talking about it.

I'm always super jealous. Yeah. Imagine if he could do that with his hands. And, you know, I think that would be really helpful. So I think that that's really good, you know, that you're talking about that stuff. And I think the fact that he was open to watching porn means that he'd be open to trying anything with you. And that makes him cool. You know, it's just a matter of finding what also turns him on.

Like porn wasn't his thing. right but maybe toys will be I promise you let me know I'm dying to know when you get it okay okay and let me know what he you know that how whether he's into it or not you know and then I'll remind you about the other stuff that we talked about but start out with that maybe like the squirting toy like that is a really good thing or buy both a squirting toy and a dildo I don't know yeah

yeah I will definitely look into those okay well good luck let keep me post it let me know when you bring up the the weight loss and the inches thing and when you get your i'm giving you homework so that it forces you to do it okay like you need to tell me in two weeks that you have bought yourself your first toy okay you need to prove it to me that you're going to do it uh hey Jennifer welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast we spoke me and you right spoke people have heard this episode already uh because you're guy okay not only had too small of a dick, but he also had issues about getting you off, right? I mean,

he was just too fast, too selfish. I was like, you know, I'm about to do this sponsorship with Prometoc and they have a delay spray and you should try it, right? Did you use my discount code or did you get it before? You know what? I listened because I was waiting for the episode to come out where you talked about it. Yeah. To find out where to get it. Yeah. And as soon as I heard it, I went straight to the website and I totally forgot. And then I went back to your episode and I heard the code. I was like, shit. Oh, you forgot to put in the code.

Yeah, but you could get it to the next time. You buy it. You know what I mean? It's always for your first time. Yeah. So you used it, right? Or you got it for your guy and it made a really big difference and things. And there have been updates.

So why don't we get into what has gone on since we lost spoke? Yes. So basically, I mean, after our episode, I really took a lot of things you said into consideration. can you give great advice. Thank you. And so I applied a lot of that. So we bought the spray.

Um, and it worked. It worked great. He was like surprisingly all happy about it when I told him it was on its way. He's like, oh my God. That's awesome that you did that. Let me ask you. Yeah, but let me ask you this because I think that it, you know, it could be a very touchy subject, right? You know how guys are.

Even women. Like you're just human nature. We could be really super defensive if we think. that you know somebody's insulting us in some way right and so you know how did you phrase it to him that he was so cool about it like what did you say um do you remember like how you so i guess i should go back to the beginning because the first thing i did yeah you told me go straight away by a dozo i did okay um i was really scared to introduce that to him but i did and he wasn't like crazy about it but he was open okay so we tried that it was a little awkward he's not like

totally into it, but he's like, you know, if this is what you like or this is what you want, yeah, I'll do it. But he wasn't crazy about it. Right. Okay. So I didn't really force him to do it. And then I bought the spray. And he was just, um, so he was already like, you know, aware that I was trying to like improve our sex life. Right. And you were doing, you're buying different things. Yeah, yeah. That's fun. Uh-huh. Like you're doing fun stuff. You made it like a fun thing. Yeah. So he was like, he was happy. he's like, like, you're the best girlfriend ever for like trying to like, you know, help me out and do something for me. Yeah.

And he was totally fine with it. And so he sprayed it on. Because I know that if you spray on too much, it could like totally numb you out, right? Because, I mean, a little bit goes a long way, right? You just spray a little bit on and it really does the trick. How did it work for him? Yeah. So we've used it a bunch of times.

Yeah, we've had different experiences. Yeah. The first time, it was great. He lasted like 45 minutes. It was awesome. Yeah. That was like three sprays. Like I used like the suggested.

Uh-huh. And then one time I'd let him do it himself. Oh, because the first time I did it. And he sprayed too much. And yeah, he was totally numbed out and was like, I'm going to let you do it next time.

Uh, yeah. And there's like a specific place to put it, right? Like underneath. Yes. Right? So, and it doesn't, it didn't transfer to you,

right? You were like totally fine. Yeah. Yeah. So we give it, we like follow the directions exactly. I think we give it like 10, 15 minutes. Yeah.

And then use it. Do that work. Yeah. Yeah, that's great. He did. So you tried the Dildo thing. He'll do it for you, but he's not totally into it. Like he didn't realize that he was into it or anything.

It just wasn't his thing. Mm-hmm. That's okay. Yeah, it was just awkward. He didn't really like know exactly what to do or how to use it or whatever. So it was just a little awkward. Right. Well, have you used it more and did it get less awkward or you have it or do you just

use it by yourself? Yeah, I haven't brought it up to him for a while, like to use it. I just kind of like leave him alone with that. I do use it myself, though. So that's cool. And did you get like a really big one or a regular size one? Because you probably didn't want to freak him out by getting him like a gigantic watch. Yeah, no, I got like a regular size one. It's not nothing crazy. Okay. And you love that. And I would assume that helps with, you know, sort of making up for what he's lacking. Has he lost any weight? No. So I talked to him about. that too and he you know he did realize like okay yeah maybe I can use like 20 pounds and I was like okay maybe more like 40 pounds and he's like okay yeah so he like he agreed he's like yeah I could use

like I could lose 20 pounds or whatever but he's not like actively trying right he's not doing anything about it really yeah but that's okay I'm just curious that you know because the one guy that I talked to about that and the reason why I went Googling about that and found out about that. Like he hasn't lost any weight either. I need somebody to lose the weight and tell me if they get those two inches back. Do you know what I mean? Isn't it an inch every 20 pounds or some shit like that, right?

I forget what the actual exact amount was, but there's like an inch in there somewhere depending on, you know, how much weight you lose. I need to hear from somebody that has lost the weight and had their dick get bigger, right? Yeah. Because I feel like maybe these guys, because listen, I feel like if I was a lot of guy and I had a dick and I realized I could make it two inches bigger by losing pretty fast. I'd be into losing that weight. Like I would be really motivated.

But I think maybe they don't really totally believe it. I don't know. You know, whereas if like some guy, if like their best friend was like, dude, like this happened to me. Like, you know, maybe they, they would be fucking on it. Don't you think? Yeah. Oh, I think that they're like in denial too sometimes about their size.

I don't, from my experience, because I have been with a few guys with small. ones. I don't think that they realize how small there's are. No, I know. That's the problem with you, with your guy. He walks around like he's hung like a horse. Yeah. Yeah, so then try to convince him that he couldn't have more and slash needs more. It's like, it's hard. Right. And you don't want to insult him and let him feel like he's not, you know, pleasing you.

right that's why it's great that you were able to bring in some of the delay spray right permissence delay spray so that without it being like a problem or him thinking that there was some sort of issue between you guys because you guys have a great relationship right it's just you wish he was a little bit bigger and he lasted longer and he was into doing more other things what else have you what other things that i tell you to do that you've done i don't know was there anything else I think that was it, just the way and just we've been a lot more open about like him like trying to last longer. Like he's really into like, oh, like let's try this. Let's see if I can do this.

And then he actually like was kind of forced to make himself like not come because I switched my birth control. So there was a moment there where I was on nothing. So I'm like, you better get your shit together. There's no oopsies here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that helps. And so he was really, yeah, he was really determined to, like, get his shit together. Oh, my God, that's so funny.

No more baby, no babies. That'll motivate a guy, right? Not a girl. The girls all want babies, right? But the guys were like, fuck that. Yeah. So you think. So he was able to control it more then, is what you're saying, even without a spray.

Yeah, he's like, he tries to, like, control it a little bit. more. Yeah, that's amazing. And that's great. And like, listen, I think the whole thing with the buying the dildo and the toys, like some people are into it and some people aren't, you know, and the great thing is, is he knows you have it, right? You could use it by yourself. I get why you wouldn't want to use it with him. Like, I think there's nothing hotter than, you know, if you're with a guy and he's really into it as much as you are, right? But if you're really into it and the guy is, and it takes away from it, right? So I wouldn't be as excited to use a toy with a guy that was just doing it for me, you know, it would be a lot more exciting and hot to do it

with a guy that was really into it, right? So. Yeah. And it was both of our first time. Like, I've never used a toy with that guy ever either. So we were both kind of like losing our virginities together. So it's like that awkward, like learning. And like, I mean, maybe like I'll bring it up more in the future.

Yeah. I just don't want to like force it on him. So I'm like just. And then we're both like learning about it together. too, because I don't know what the hell I'm doing with him. They're with me with that, so. Right, or how it works. And maybe, you know, once you get really used to using it yourself, like someday, maybe

one day you could invite him to just watch you use it on yourself, right? Like a masturbation kind of scenario where he watches you. You know, I don't know how visual he is, but maybe, you know, one day you could do that for fun. Who knows? You know, what's great is that you're talking about sex, you know, not in a negative way, in a positive way and talking about things that you're. you guys would be interested in trying new things right that's what it's all about yeah yeah i'm really

lucky that he doesn't like get insulted by anything and he's so open about it totally like you basically told him he needs to lose a couple pounds and he's like okay and you know first he's like 20 and you're like no 40 i mean there's nothing rude or i think a lot of guys would get this i know a lot of overly not even overly sensitive i mean that's the worst kind but a lot of guys with their big egos that would be so insulted i've told I'm like a very honest person, so I have, you know, whether it's, I don't know that so much I do it with a boyfriend, maybe I'm a little bit less honest with them, but like a lot of my booty call guys or even my guy friends, I'll be like, you're fucking fat.

Like, you need to lose some weight. But I don't feel like it's a rude thing. I feel like it's a helpful thing if you care about somebody. You know, I'm that friend that cares about someone enough to be honest with them. So I do think it's okay to give someone that has about stuff like that. But I do think delivery is very important in the scenario. I think obviously you had good delivery because you brought up two things. One was, you know, that he needed to lose a little weight.

And another was that you wanted him to last longer. And there's nothing wrong with that, you know? And I think it's great that he was cool with it, that you got the spray and you got the good spray. I mean, because there's other sprays out there, right? But they do transfer over to partners. And there's like a lot of other things. So this one is the good one, right? I love premise and I use their warming gel.

You should try that. You should get that for yourself. If you get, when you have to buy the new delay spray, because you get the 15% off your first order, get yourself some warming gel. You'll fucking love it. It'll really increase your orgasms, I swear. And you'll, you could use it by yourself, like I use it by myself. And you could use it when you're with your guy, just because now you guys are like trying fun things, you know? Yeah.

There's so much to try. And I think it's great that he was down to, you know, and you were down to try to use the dildo. But I think you got to be more comfortable. But it's always something you could. whip out in the future. And I think you'll just, you know, playing with it by yourself will get you more comfortable with it too. Yeah. You know, but I think like if he's uncomfortable with it, you know, someone needs to be more comfortable with it and take the reins. And I think because you were both kind of like, what the fuck do we do with this thing, right? Yeah. It was hard. You know, so I think if you

practice and really get into it, maybe a year from now, you could be like, hey, baby, you want to watch me with this, right? And, you know, you put on a nice little show for him. And maybe he's like, that's hot, you know, who knows? Yeah. But at least you're using it on your own because what I remember you saying is that it was like something you always wanted to do and you always wanted one. Yeah. Right?

Yeah. So I think like I would have ended up getting one eventually with or without him. Right. Right. Yeah. So that's great. So I'm glad like, you know, I don't know, like I said, if I'm going to add this on. I think I'm going to add it on to the end of the episode because it's short.

It's interesting because what I love about this. update and it's not so long since we last spoke right it's like a month or two months is that you know it's uh you did everything right away and you got on it and you have the results and it fucking worked and even if like i said the dildo do he wasn't like because i felt like it was a flip of a coin right he was either going to be the type of guy that was like visually very turned on by that because some guys really are or he wasn't going to be right and you had to find that out but maybe there's that third scenario which is you know, he's not really comfortable with it yet. But over time, maybe you both will be comfortable with it and when you know more what to do with it or you could, you know, it could be, you could get into it.

But who cares? The fact that you did it and tried it is fucking cool. The fact that you got yourself some promescent delay spray. I mean, I don't really, you know, listen, I go on and on about them because they're my sponsors. But I actually really like them as a company. You know, I, we're definitely going to buy it again for sure. Yeah. And look at all the other stuff.

They have everything. It's all about like what their whole promote. is like intimacy with between two people. It's not like they're just like a man, a company that sell something to a guys, you know? They really have stuff for women. They have all your needs to have a good night of sex, right? And it's like fun and all that stuff is like fucking fun. And, uh, you guys are on, on, you know, you're now you're talking about having more fun and figuring out different things and there's so much more stuff you could get into as far as toys and as far, you know, so I think it's, uh, it's cool that

you got the conversation going and you guys are trying. And I would assume that that's made you more fulfilled, right? Yeah. With him? Yeah, we've definitely been having like a lot more fun. And before I was like, eh, I don't really feel like it. Right. So yeah, the spray definitely has helped. Because you know that he could get you off. Yeah. Like I feel like, okay, it's worth it. It's going to be more than, you know, a couple minutes for me. So it's worth, you know, doing all that. Yeah, that's great. Well, I'm so glad that you tried everything. I'm so glad that it worked, right? It's like a free PSA for Promets and it didn't. It was funny because when we spoke, I hadn't even, I don't even think I had got my products yet or I had just got them and I hadn't even used them yet, right? It was just

something that I was about to start. But, and then when you wrote me and we're like, hey, I use all this stuff and it was like actually great. It really worked. I was like, oh my God, we have to come back on and do it because it's like a real testimonial. But I'm also, I love to also do updates with people, especially people that like I talk to them and they have an issue and there's no resolution right it's so great to hear a resolution it's like reading a book and it ends before you know the ending you know so I think it's like nice that there has been some resolution in this and that you're a lot happier and a lot more fulfilled even though he doesn't have the biggest dick in the world he still might have two inches in there you know we don't know that's forthcoming but it's it's better you know

and you're happier and I think that that's great and thanks so much for calling back in and giving me this scoepage. I'm going to add it to the end of your episode. Yeah. Thanks so much for talking with me and talking me through all that. Yeah. No, Kimmy posted when he loses the weight. I need to know either from you and your boyfriend that he gets two inches or somebody

else to know that this thing that I read about, you know, on Google. That'll be my next mission. Yes. I need to know if it's actually true. You need to measure before, start the diet and then measure after and let me know. I mean, you'll know because you're like you're hyper fixated on that side. right so you know keep me posted on that but thanks so much for calling in and giving me the update all right thank you thanks Jennifer bye so that was Jennifer I love that update

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