Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 424 - Violet Loves Pegging her Boyfriend

Episode Date: November 18, 2021

Violet loves pegging her boyfriend and she calls in to talk all. about it. When did she start pegging her boyfriend? What does she like so much about it? And, how does he feel about it? Tune in for all the details which include how she got her current boyfriend to agree to letting her peg him, how she felt when her boyfriend told her he had been with guys before and how she moved past it, her fantasy about pegging another woman and why she hasn't done it yet, the strap ons she uses to peg and the positions she prefers, how pegging makes her feel super powerful, her interest in a MMF threesome and how she wants that to go down, how her ex-boyfriend was into bdsm and why she never pegged him, how and why her relationship with her current boyfriend is the most successful and sexually satisfying relationship she's had and a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Hey, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. If you want to follow the Strictly Anonymous podcast on Instagram or Twitter, follow the show at Strict Anonymous. Today I have on a girl named Violet and Violet loves pegging her guy. This is something new that she's into, but she's here to say the minute she started it, she got off on it. She loves doing it. It's something that she's into. It's something that she got her boyfriend into doing. It wasn't like something that he had done before. But what he did do before was hook up with guys. He was straight up honest with her about the fact that he had had a couple experiences with guys. She talks a lot about that, a lot about how she felt when he told her, how it came up, how she got past it, how she got him into pegging. Of course, it started out slug. and then went full on. She talks very explicit about how they peg, what they do, what they use. She talks about how she's looking forward to a threesome with him with another guy, as well as her being with a girl. She's always fantasized about being with a girl. And now that she's into

pegging, she wants to peg a girl. That's like on her bucket list. So we talk all about that. I think she's great. She's, you know, super open. This is something new to her. And I think what's interesting about her story is that it could be your story. If you're someone that maybe is thinking about pegging or you're a guy who wants his girlfriend to peg him. You never know. Your girl could love it like she did. Like I said, this was her first time. And the funny thing about Violet and the interesting thing is she had a boyfriend before this guy who was very into BDSM. She talks about that relationship a little bit and how she wasn't really into the BDSM that he was into. And he coined her as Vanell. And if that boyfriend could see her now.

And we do discuss a little bit about why this guy gets her to be open and into so many different things as opposed to the other guy who pegged her as vanilla. But it pegged her, perfect word, that pegged her as vanilla before because she's not vanilla. And so this episode, I say it in there. Like this is a PSA to, you know, all the things you could do to get your partner to really open up and maybe experience a lot more. than you're experiencing now. Sometimes it's all, it's not about the person and it's about how you are reacting to the person. So sit back, relax,

and I'm going to be right back on with Violet. This is the Strickly Anonymous Podcast. Hey, Violet, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm well. How are you? Good. So Violet, you like to peg your guy, right?

Yeah. Now, did you find my episode because of my, like, recent YouTube video on pegging confessions or my other ones? Or were you just, like, a listener of my show and you're like, oh, I should just call in and talk about the fact that I like to peg my guy? I actually had never heard any of your pegging episodes. And I ran into your podcast. Yeah. Literally just, like, going on to the podcast on my phone and yours was just, like, popped up there as, like, a suggested podcast. Yeah.

And, you know, it caught my attention right away. I was like, strictly anonymous. Okay, let me see what this is about. And I think I started with the first episode where it was like a polypalaumous relationship where they referred to like their pod and stuff like that. So that was my introduction to your show. That's the first episode that I listened to. And that's what kind of drew me in because then I started going through like the list.

And I was like, oh, my God. Like, this is looking and sounding very interesting. thing, you know, and I just kind of dove in, you know, random episodes here and there. But actually, I didn't see any, at first, uh, dot said anything about pegging. So I was like, give her a call, you know, like, I think this would be interested in just to, like, talk to you about it or talk to someone else about it. That's not my boyfriend because I think, like, well, I don't know, like, I've never shared it with anyone.

And I think it's kind of like what I mentioned in my email a little bit. I don't want people to look at me. and my boyfriend differently because of our sexuality, you know? And I think pegging is still like something that isn't out in the open like that. It's still a little bit of taboo for some people. For sure. It's tied with the whole, it's tied into the whole, you know, like, you know, gay thing with guys.

It's still like that stigma attached to it, you know. Definitely. So let's get into the. story about how you got into pegging? Like did it start with this boyfriend or had you done it in the past? Because we'll fast forward and say like, I mean, something else you did tell me in the email we'll eventually get to this is that, you know, you're like pegging so much that now you want to like strap it on and fuck a girl and like do all kinds of things because you like really dig it, right? Did it start with this guy? Had you ever pegged anyone before and whose idea was it to start

to do it? It's kind of funny because my ex-boyfriend, he, used to always call me vanilla. He would be like, oh, no, she's vanilla because he was really into BDSM. Yeah. And that was just not my thing. You know, I kind of tried it. And he wanted me to be the dawn, which is funny because when pegging, like, I feel very dominant, you know, and that's part of the reason why I enjoy it. Yeah. For sure. So, but when it came to the BDSM, I wasn't really into it. So he would always tell me like, oh, you're vanilla. But anytime I mentioned, like, hey, let me put my finger in your butt. He was like, oh, no, no, I don't want to do that. oh, you know, so it kind of like I wasn't, I guess I really wasn't,

I just wasn't able to fully, like, feel comfortable enough to, like, explore my sexuality with him because he wasn't really into it or, you know, so. Did you know that you were into it at that point? No. Excuse me, no, I had no idea that I was into it. Right. I was curious because, like, I would always play around with him and ask him like, oh, you know, let me stick my finger on your butt.

So obviously I was curious. I just never found anyone that would let me do it. Or that was curious or, you know, that was into it or would even bring it up. And when I got with my boyfriend, my current boyfriend, I think it may have came up like what we were like having like talks with like what we've done before. He had mentioned to me that he had been with a guy. And I was like, oh, whoa, okay. like I was kind of taken back.

I was like, oh, really? And he had told me like, yeah, I've experimented with guys before. And not many guys. I think it was just like probably like three different guys. And then so I was like, oh, okay. And I think now that once I had got that knowledge that he was into that, the way it started was one time we were making now, you know, like during four play, I kind of like went on top of him and kind of.

kind of like grabbed his legs and like kind of like started you know like thrusting on him and like slowly with shirley like that doing that motion of like okay like I'm fucking you and he was enjoying it like we were both really enjoying it and that's how it started off like there was like the first couple times where it was just like that you know and then eventually one of those times like I like stuck my finger in there and so that's how it started. We just gradually went to pegging once I had introduced me sticking my finger, you know, me playing with his ass and getting all into it and whatnot. He had actually told me, he had actually asked me if we wanted to go to the sex shop and, you know, see what we found. And

that is where we saw dildos and the straps and all that. And after, First we just got a dildo and we started playing with that. After that, we went back to the sex shop and I had seen a double-sided dildo. And I was like, oh, okay, that's the one. Let's grab it. And that's pretty much the toy that when we do peg, like, that's what I like to use. Because since it's double-sided, I can fuck him and then also get stimulated myself. Oh, interesting.

Yeah. So it's a win-win. And I don't know. We just really both really enjoy it. But what are the mechanics of what's going on at that point? Are you both like laying down or are you like fucking him from behind but it's inside your pussy and you're like, you know, that's inside his ass? Like how, like explain the scenario because I don't know how it's physically happening. You know what I mean? Yeah.

So the way that the double-sided dildo is, one side is a little bit more straight and the other side is kind of curved up. So what I do is I put the little straps like up to my thighs and bring it up towards me. The one that's kind of bend it up, I put that one in myself and then I'll use the other one to penetrate him and kind of thrust. and sometimes the one on my end doesn't really stay it'll like slip out but because it's rubbing against it I still get stimulated like on my clip so it still feels good give it are you standing up and he's on all fours are you both laying down asses against each other like that's what I mean like how is it happening like what position are you guys in that's the right question sorry so we've done it where he's laying down on his back and um on top of him. And then we've also done it where I'm kind of sitting down. And like, yeah, like sitting down and he'll sit on it.

So we're done it like that. So you're sitting facing each other? No. He's like kind of like sits on it like facing like his back towards me. And then we also doggy also like where he's bent down. And yeah. Now have you ever? because I know that you said that you were interested in using the strap on with a girl.

Have you used a strap on with him as well? With my boyfriend? Yeah. Oh yeah. He's the only guy that he's the only person I've ever used this strap with. So I mean you started off with the double-sided dildo and then eventually you went and bought the strap-on? No, so the double-sided dildo is kind of like a strap-on, but yeah, it just straps to your size. It just kind of goes up and straps to your thighs.

So it kind of doesn't fall down or there's some support for it to like stay there. Yeah, I don't actually own like a full on strap. The only strap that I do have is double-sided. Right. So I don't even maybe maybe it's not considered a strap. Maybe I'm using the wrong word. No, I'm probably wrong. I have less experience with us.

I never like strapped. I never had a strap on and I never. ever, you know, had that kind of sex with a guy. So I wouldn't know, you know, I was thinking because you're like, oh, we started with the, you know, the double-sided. I'm like, what happened after that? What did you go to after the double-sided jilt-down? Did you get anything else after that one?

No, that's where we're kind of at right now. Right. We're just, that's where we sit. I don't do it or we don't do it as often as we'd like to because we're not currently living together. So our living situations, it just doesn't really allow us to, you know, because when we do do it, it's the whole process, you know, like, it's not just like, it's not a just like quick little, hey, bam, bam, you know, we get really into it and it's, it's long foreplay. And sometimes it can get messy. There's lube, you know, and so we just prefer when we do do it. It's when we go out of town or, you know, when we have a room, when we know we're, we know we're, you know, we're. alone completely. Right.

And we won't be interrupted or bothered or anything like that. So we haven't done it as often as I've wanted to, but it's definitely something that's progressed from the beginning of our relationship to now. And he always told me because, oh, the reason why the whole hooking up with another, with the guy came up was because I had told him that was one of my fantasies was hooking up. was hooking up with another woman and, you know, but I just, I've had an opportunity, I've had opportunities. I've just, I feel like a little bit more insecure for some reason, like, hugging up with a girl. And so that kind of would stop me from pursuing that.

And he encourages me, you know, because he tells me, like, well, I've already, I've done it, like, I've experimented, and I want you to do the same thing. Like, I don't want you to, like, just put. it in the back burner and then you know and then just forget about it like go and experience it if that's something that you really want to try he kind of gave me the green light to go and do that to go hook up with another girl so when i started when we started pegging my fantasies with a girl kind of evolved too so it went for me just hugging up with a girl to like oh now i want to like actually like fuck a girl you know yeah um

Yeah, and he's still doing the day. He's like, oh, have you found a girl or do you want to, you know, do you want to look? And I'm not really pushing that because, I mean, if it, I guess if it comes, it'll come and, you know, see how I feel. But I don't know. I'm a little nervous. Like, I don't know. It's just. Well, it's because you've never done it before.

That's why. That's it. Yeah. Right? Yeah. I mean, I've hooked up. I've made out with girls and I've, like, stuck on a girl's breast. and I almost fingered a girl, but when it came down to me going down, and I got a little

weirded out and I kind of stopped and didn't go there. So, yeah, so I don't know how it would be, I think I would need to be just in a, I would probably need to be drunk, to be honest. Like, I think it would have to be like on a whim, you know, like, I'm out having a good time, having a couple of drinks. If I see someone or if there's a connection there, then I'd probably be like, okay, yeah, you know, like I'd be more into that than planning something or looking for someone. Right.

That might be too set up for you and that might make you more nervous because you're thinking about it so much. Yeah. When you guys do meet up, because you said you live far away, right? Like, do you guys go out to bars and clubs together? Because that's always like the way, you know, that's a good way to find like, the unicorn. A lot of people who are looking online, like couples that are looking online for a girl, a lot of times it's hard to find that girl online. But like I have a guy on my show, Dr. Guy and his

girl, Victoria, have been on my show. And they have a million threesomes. And they happen to be my friend. So I know them. And they live in New York City. And they are always picking up unicorns. Like there's too many for them to pick up. They're just, they're hugging up where girls left and right. And it's because they're out and about in the bar scene. A lot of times I'm talking to couples who are married. They're in their 50s. They have kids. They're not out in the bars and stuff. So I think it's harder to meet that way, but you sound super young. So that scenario of you guys being out and you being, it's finally being that time where you're a little buzz and you see that girl and something happens

and you guys wind up at home when you get it going is, you know, that could very likely happen. Yeah, I think so. I think that or I mean my boyfriend's also mentioned like bringing someone else in having a threesome he hasn't said like oh let's do it but he's mentioned what you know what were my thoughts on in

and how would I feel about it I didn't realize that you're maybe what you're nervous about is doing it on your own I mean I thought you were talking about a threesome no he had he wanted me to go and well he never really included himself in me going out and exploring with other girls oh okay was like he was if you're pretty much tells me if you're out and you need a girl and

you feel it you're i won't get mad like you can go ahead and and do it you know and so i have that pass he's giving me that you know that you can go out and do that that. But we, he's also mentioned if you do want to bring someone in, you know, like a threesome, then I'd be open to that too. But obviously I would need you to be comfortable and just, you know, stuff like that. Right. Because that's a different, that's a different fantasy, right? Maybe you want to be with a girl, but maybe you don't necessarily want to see your guy with a girl. Yeah, I don't know how it would take that, to be honest with you. I feel like I would get jealous and probably like stop it in the middle of everything like get out or something like that. I don't know.

I don't know how I would react in that situation. So that's why I've never really pushed for that or been like, hey, yeah, let's go do it. Yeah, I don't know. I don't really know our sense with that. I don't know if it's me being scared of doing it alone or. I'm not really sure. The only thing that I can think of that's stopping me is just me being insecure, you know, me feeling like, oh, would it they judge my body?

I don't know. For some reason, I feel like maybe girls would be like, oh, well, more judgmental or, you know, I don't know. Yeah, I understand that. I understand why that would be it, along with the fact that, you know, you've never fooled around with a girl, really. I mean, you had a little makeout session and everything, but... Yeah.

I feel like eventually I will probably get to that point. Okay, let's get back to the pegging. So you, because you're going to eventually do that. But like, did you realize, or how soon after you started to put that strap on on and fuck him? Did you really realize you felt powerful and you were really into it? Probably, to be honest, the first. time. Really? Just me, yeah, just me being on top and even without any penetration, like just me being on top and kind of taking control and being the one that's like resting and, you know, I'd like to grab his ass and like grab him when I'm doing it. Um, so pretty quickly I, that's why I kept continued doing it, you know, from like getting on top of him and, like, essentially like humping him a couple of times to leading up to going down on him and using my

finger and then eventually I don't know there's just something about pegging that is just like so powerful and it feels good and I actually did go back and listen to um your one caller that uh I think her name was April yeah and she mentioned like she mentioned oh now I know my guys enjoy this why they like fucking so much and I totally related when she said that because when I first started doing that with my boyfriend, I felt really powerful and I felt like, wow, this is so hot. I just, I can't really see myself not doing it anymore because I really dig it. And I'm really happy that my boyfriend digs it too because that makes two of us.

And I feel less weird about it too. Yeah, for sure. Now, does he ever talk about, I guess maybe because he has you pegging him, that he has no need to go out and be with guys. I mean, has it ever been discussed whether he could go and hook up with guys as well since he's given you the past to hook up with women? One time he did mention that. He mentioned, like, oh, what if we go out?

You get a girl and I get a guy. I got a little insecure when he said that because that was before. That was when I thought that maybe he was buying or gay or. you know, maybe, because when my boyfriend first told me that he had been with guys, the first thing was in my head that was, oh, like, you know, he's gay. He has to be gay if he's going out and going around with guys. So that was something that always was like in the back of my head. And it did make me a little insecure, but I didn't really let that stop our relationship. And he would always tell me like I'm not gay I just like I enjoy it it's like another tool in the

bedroom you know it's nothing I don't have emotional connection with guys and so I went back and forth with that but later after listening to your episode with um Dr. Court and oh right mm-hmm yeah that really kind of gave me like the reassurance that I needed or you know that it yeah it's it's possible guys can enjoy hooking up with guys and not be gay and not have any emotional connection, you know, it's just strictly sexual. Or even be

by, right? I mean, because those were the two things that you were worried about, but he could be well, Dr. Joe Cort is here to say that he could be straight. I was like a doctor said. Yeah.

Yeah, so then, honestly, that episode really kind of silence those insecurities and I was I just thought to myself well he does love me he always tells me he loves me it's not like I'm feeling insecure in the relationship because he's not doing anything he's doing everything he can you know to make me feel secure in the relationship so I really kind of came to accept that that it was just him having fun and he never had a relationship with a guy or he never had a um anything like that where you know, any emotions were evolved.

So, yeah, so I feel a lot better about that. And that's, yeah, I don't know. I think I would feel better now having a threesome with a guy. Actually, if we do have a threesome, I think I would first want it to be with two guys. And I would think I would enjoy that. And I think he would enjoy it too. And now I can feel comfortable with that as well, you know? Like, I'm, it's not, I don't want to feel insecure about it.

And I think it would allow me to enjoy it more because I wouldn't be in my head about it. And what does that fantasy look like? Are you dominating both guys? Hmm. In my fantasy, actually, I didn't think of it like that. In my fantasies, I'm more of the submissive. With the two guys. Yeah.

Like I would want to be dominated by the two guys. Yeah. So that's, uh-huh. No, you go. No, no, I was just going to say, yeah, that's because I actually never thought about two guys and then me and packing one of them. I thought of it more of, yeah, like me pleasing both guys. Yeah. I want all the attention.

That's a total separate thing. kind of freaky, right, and into a lot of really kinky things. So you like the pegging and then maybe a male, male, female threesome is on your horizon. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I'm not going to tell him that, though. I would probably want to surprise him. Like, hey, I think tonight's the night.

Yeah, I'd be like a good Christmas present. But wait, let me ask you, now, if you have a male-male female threesome with him, does he get to hook up with the guy? too do you think it would turn you on to see him with a guy? I think so. Mm-hmm. I know I didn't sound too confident, but I think I would. Like, I think for me it would be kind of hot to see him or like for us to both be like sucking on a dick or, you know, I think that would be kind of hot.

And now I see it totally different. I see it like how he mentioned is just a tool you know we're both going to get enjoyment out of it so I I would be okay with it I think so he's going to be so happy when you tell him because he doesn't know that you'd be down for this kind of threesome right or does he know no he doesn't from what he from what happened before he thinks I'm totally against it right so um but I also I actually did mention to him your episode with Dr. court and so we did have a discussion about it and he kind of just looked at me and was like you see I told you it's nothing some guys are like that some guys that's just strictly you know um just the

sexual desire I listen to your other episode too but the guy that likes to suck dick I have so many of those which he had a girlfriend he had a girlfriend and he had been having you dream dreams about Oh, yeah. Yeah, and then I guess him, his girlfriend eventually was like, okay, they'll get you a real one, you know, and see if he enjoyed it. And then he ended up liking it.

And I remember him also saying, and actually that's how I got to your episode with Dr. Corp. Yeah. I remember him, I remember you telling him about that episode because I remember the guy telling you, I don't want to be with a guy. Like, I just want to suck dick,

but I don't want to be with a guy. It's just strictly for pleasure. So it was it was really helpful to listen to those episodes, to be honest. And it really did help me and understand a little bit more. And look how far a little understanding can go, right? I mean, this is like a real PSA, public service announcement to people out there. If you just open up and have conversations and be honest about what you're into, you could be doing what you're into.

Like, you know, you guys talked about things. He copped to something that he was into. You felt insecure about it. You went looking for some information. You found information that made you feel better. You know, and three months from now, you're going to be, like, you know, getting double penetrated with him and a guy,

and you guys are going to be like in one of those things called a train. And who would have ever, you probably would have never thought that before that conversation where he told you that he was by. I mean, had you ever experienced anything like that before in your life? No, right? No, never, never. He, yeah, I completely agree with you. You know, communication and understanding, most importantly, can change so much. And I think everything that we've been through and we're going through,

and it's that those two things have only made our relationship a lot better. Yeah, and you've been able to realize things that you're into that maybe wouldn't have been released if you weren't with this guy that was really open. No, exactly. No, yeah, that's right. I don't think I would have discovered that at all. Yeah, and fast forward. after your MMF, you're going to be, you're going to have, you know, you're eventually going to get up the courage to be with a girl.

The only thing that's stopping you, like you said, is your insecurity. Somehow you will be able to get past that eventually, and then you're going to be doing that, and like the sky's the limit. But let's get back a little bit to the pegging. Now, you know, did you ever know that you were a dom before? I mean, you said with your first guy, you know, he wanted you to get into BDSM and he wanted you to be a dom. but you weren't, you weren't into it with him at all,

like any other kind of dominant behavior? I think for the most part, I do kind of have more of a dominant side of me. The reason why I think the BDSM didn't work out for me was because I grew up in a household where we got hit. When we got punished, we got beat. so I always associated even if someone would talk to me really strong or yell at me I always shut down right so for me that wasn't well what that was when he wanted to be a dom to you is is that what your last boyfriend wanted he was like the dom and he wanted you to be the sub no he wanted me to be the dumb he was a sub oh okay but you thought oh doing anything kind of dominant would shut you you down because anytime anyone did that to you, it shut you down. But look how interesting, when it is the opposite and you could be the dominant one, you actually enjoy it. And maybe that is

a part of that growing up because you feel more in control and you didn't feel that when you were younger. Yeah. I think once I kind of grew up a little bit, that's when I asserted my dominance, you know, and when I was with my ex because his roommates were really into BDSM also. So when he introduced it to me, it was at a BDSM party. They would always host like BDSM parties and they would have people in their community come over

and, you know, host a whole gig or whatever. And that's how my ex-boyfriend introduced me to it. And he was just trying to make me feel comfortable. He's like, you know, you can just watch. You don't have to be involved. Um, but he was never a dom. He was always a step. So he was the one always getting hit and stuff. And at first I was a little taking back. I was like, whoa, um, I had never, ever experienced anything like that. I've never seen anything like that. I don't, don't even think I was really too familiar with BBS. Um, so he kind of introduced me into that.

and his roommates would always have BDSM party, so I would go, but I just wouldn't participate. Right, none of it turned you on. Yeah, it was, yeah, it just didn't really turn me on, to be honest. And I have nothing against it. I was around the community for a couple years, and I just didn't partake. And the one time I did, my ex had told me, oh, do you want to try it out?

He'd be the Dom. And of course, I'm going to try it out, but it just didn't feel right for me and it didn't give me any, it didn't turn me on at all. It was just flat. Okay, what do I do? And people are looking, I don't know, it's just, maybe it was in the setting too, I wasn't comfortable. It was something that I wasn't used to. So that was, that's where that stayed. I never went by. to that or but in that scenario they wanted you to be the sub right no they wanted me to be the dom all right I'm confused back sub dumb who the fuck cares you're not into it BDSM

it's a whole other world right it's not related at all I just think it's interesting that you know you did you do enjoy the dominance of pegging and the power that you get in that feeling and that's a real

turn on for you so you do have a little bit of a dominant side in you in that part but yet you like to be you know if the if another guy comes along you're the submissive and you know so it's not really probably a dumb or something at all and I'm just so stupid I'm putting those words to it and people are yelling at their speakers I talk I listen I learn as I go right I like you you know talk to these people for the first time and a lot of times I'm learning things. You know, what I had heard so many guys in my podcast that talked about like sucking a dick, but I don't like guys. And I used to just like laugh in their face, okay.

Like I used to be like, yeah, okay. And then all of a sudden a dick's in your mouth, but like, the dick is a part of a guy. So that means you like guys and they'd be like, no. And I'd be like, whatever. And then eventually I saw Joe Cord's TikTok. And I was like, oh my goodness. Like this guy is speaking for all these guys that have called into my show and we're trying to explain to me something that I had, I couldn't understand.

until he really spelled it out. And then I could understand. And so, like, I think, you know, we're always all learning. And I think it's just important to keep an open mind and be able to admit that you're wrong or that maybe, you know. And I think what's interesting about you is, like, you had that first boyfriend that would want you to do some freaky things. You're, like, not into it. But, you know, that was just because you weren't into BDSM, but you happen to be very open-minded and into a lot of kinky things. Just not that.

Yeah, he just didn't, he couldn't tickle my pickle, I guess. He just didn't find what was intriguing to me. And like I mentioned, when I did try to bring up what I was curious about, he kind of shut it down. So it wasn't, it just, you know, it wasn't meant to be there. And here's the guy having a girlfriend talking about your vanilla and, you know, how vanilla you are. And like anybody listening to this podcast now where you're at now would never call you

vanilla. So he missed out. And that's another like a, you know, learning lesson for people listening that sometimes it's just about, you know, opening up the conversation. Because I think if he really was open to trying the things that you were into, then the floodgates would have been open. But he just shut you down whenever you were, would bring something up. So he never really got to understand all these other things that you were into. Yeah. Yeah, he missed out, huh? He did miss out. And your guy now is like super lucky that he met you because, you know, he was able to be honest with you and you were cool with it.

And now it looks like he's going to be able to be his authentic self too in the relationship. Now, as far as the pegging, you have that, you know, where do you put it when you travel to go? go see him and stuff. I don't know why I'm always interested in those kinds of things because is like, are you driving with it in your car? Do you get on a plane? I mean, how far does he live from you? He lives about an hour away from you. Oh, okay, so you're just driving with that big strap on in your bag next to you? Yeah. I got to put the seatbelt on. I got to secure it. Right. No, but I just put it in its box. I just wrap it in a towel, put it in its box. And when we first got it, my living situation was a little bit more comfortable where I had my own room. I had my own bathroom. So

we were able to fully experiment with it there. Once I moved to a different place, it wasn't, it's just things changed. So then we went on to just bringing it with us whenever we traveled or went to a different city or anything like that. um yeah and i know he would always like the first thing he would say like oh don't forget this job i'm like i already packed it going with us wait are you a three input girl i mean do you like anal play too i do yeah yeah i do i'm not um it's

it's funny because i've only ever had anal once where i actually came from the anal so i know it's possible we just haven't gone to that spot yet but I do enjoy it sometimes I enjoy more doing it to him right that's your thing yeah yeah

yeah everyone's you're a top you'd be what they call a top yeah I'm a top and he enjoys being a bottom I mean does he like to you know when he was hanging out with guys did he ever explain like was he a top was he a bottom was he a switch

Did he ever tell you that information? I think he was A bottom From what he's told me I'm not too sure if he likes sucking dick Or if he did it often I do know that he would

Like get fucked for sure Right And but does he's Is he always like oh he wants to fuck you in the ass Because he enjoys that too Um Sometimes It's not like

the time. But yeah, he'll, he'll, he'll, he'll, like, lead up to that or, you know, warming up to it or ask if it's okay. But it's not, it's not like a main thing of his. Right. I think he, I would probably say he was more of a bottom. I think he just really liked the feeling of it. And, yeah, so I would say he's more of a bottom. My boyfriend, in the relationship, I am more of the dominant one. but I like that we can switch it up you know I like sometimes I like when he puts me in my place I'm like oh okay you know

that's kind of hot so we can switch it up but for the most part I would say I'm the dominant one he's more like the submissive and that and that's what you'd be in that fantasy with the girl as well the dominant yeah I would want to be the dominant and

be the one kind of taking control. And yeah, just going with that and being in charge. But do any of your friends, I mean, you started out saying like you wanted to call in because, you know, you felt like there was no one that you could really tell or talk about this with except your boyfriend. Do any of your girlfriends know and how have they reacted? Or is this like a total secret?

This is a total secret. We do talk about sex. You know, me and my girls, we do have those conversations. And, oh, you know, where's the craziest place you've had sex at or stuff like that? But sometimes I want to get more into it and I just feel like I feel like they wouldn't be as accepting of it. I think they would probably look at me a little weird or probably think that my boyfriend is gay. I can already see the little red flags going off in their head. phone. Because they went off in your head too. I mean, you, you had those same thoughts. But because he was your

boyfriend, you went and found Dr. Joe Courts, you know, episode. You did, probably Googled, whatever. You know, you molded around and focused on it until you got to a place where you were comfortable and really understood it. But since it's not their boyfriend, they're just going to, like, get to the place where they judge you maybe, right? And then that's, they're not going to go looking for more information. I mean, I understand why you would think that. But, you know, and because I think that's what would happen. Just like you thought, oh, my God, you must be gay. You like to get fucked in the ass and you've been with guys.

I mean, because that would open up a whole can of worms if you said, oh, I like to pick my guy. And then your girlfriends are like, oh, like, does that make him gay? Like, would you tell them then also that he's been with guys, you know. And how would they feel about that? Forget about it. I totally understand why you have hesitation. Because it's, you'd have a lot of explanations. you'd have a lot of explaining to do.

Yeah. And it's like you mentioned, I was willing to be open and learn and fully try to understand him for everything, you know. And I don't think my friends would have that need to. They would just go straight based off of them. You only did that because you loved him and you wanted to stay dating him. You know what I mean? Like you wouldn't do that if you didn't. I mean, that was the motivation.

I kind of lightly brushed on the topic with one of my girls the other day because I had mentioned your podcast. And I was telling her, oh, my God, there's this crazy podcast that people call in. And I was pretty much giving her the gist of it. And she was asking me, oh, what type of, you know, what type of calls are there? What have you listened to? and I was giving her some of them. And in those episodes that I was shooting off, I had mentioned, oh, there's also this one where this girl likes to pack her boyfriend.

And her reaction was just like, oh, like, she like, you know, when you shock, you kind of like swing back and you open her eyes really big. Like, what? So I was like, okay, I just went quickly on to the next one. I was like, okay, I tested that. And that's definitely not. we're not going to talk about this at this run. Oh my God, hilarious.

That was a good, listen, that was kind of a smart way of testing the waters. I mean, she let you know that she would be like, what the fuck? Uh-uh. Yeah. And this is like the friend that I think is the most open. So I just, okay, I'm going to talk to Kathy about it and soon anyway. So I'll get my fill there of girl talk. Yeah, exactly. And listen, not everybody needs to know about your sex life. I think the most important person to be open to about the things that you're into is your partner and you guys are. And that's really great.

Yeah, I'm really, really thankful that he's so open-minded and just willing to communicate and understand me too. And also because you're having great sex. Is this like the best sex you? you've had with any boyfriend you've ever dated? Definitely. Right. 100%. 100%.

I was never one to be comfortable really talking about what I liked or, you know, it was my first sexual experience as a guy. He was a lot older than me and he was kind of like my first everything. So he took the role in kind of teaching me and being the dominant one. I was just kind of submissive to him and, you know, take me. So I never, even then, I never really talked about what I liked because I was so, it was the first time of me doing everything. So I didn't really know, you know, at that time.

Yeah. And then fast forward, all the guys that I did it in between him and my current boyfriend, it was just, it wasn't really, there wasn't communication like that, um, about things in the bedrooms. It wasn't bad sex, you know, it was good sex, but it could have been better. And I never really thought to bring up those topics either. And I don't know why, or maybe because of the reason maybe that they weren't so open about it. Maybe that made me feel like, oh, well, text is okay.

Like, why bring it up? You know, we're doing good, whatever. So being with my boyfriend now has definitely opened my eyes and taught me a lot of good things. happen and it's just it's so crazy how much your life can change and how much

you realize what you weren't getting before right you know and so it's just I'm so thankful to him and how did that initial conversation go when he copped to the fact that he had been with guys

how did it come up um do you remember I believe we were this was when we were still kind of hanging out and we were just seeing where things went and I believe the way that conversation came about we were in the car

I think I had mentioned to him the way that came up I think I had mentioned to him my fantasies about being with a girl. Right. And was that, were you comfortable and more comfortable with him than other boyfriends because you guys were friends first? I think so, yeah. And he was just, he has this calmness about him. It's like,

he just he makes me feel listened to and not really judged. Oh. And yeah, listen up guys. Listen to what she just said. He, she felt listened to. Mm-hmm. So the more you I feel like someone's listening to the more you're going to tell.

Yeah. And I just, I felt really comfortable with him. And like I said, I didn't think he would judge me. Yeah. So that's why I confided him and told him those fantasies. Oh, that's what we were talking about. We were talking about our fantasies. I remember now because we, we just, you know, this is the topic that came up.

And he asked me, what was one of my fantasies? And I remember now I told him that my fantasy was to be with a woman. And that sparked my curiosity to ask him. I don't know if maybe I sensed it or what, you know, because I don't usually ask guys, hey, have you ever been with another guy? Yeah. So I asked him and he told me he was like, yeah, I actually have experimented with guys in the past. actually he had

I think through a Craigslist listing or whatever he said he well from when he told me the first experience was a little awkward and I kind of threw him off a little bit and then later he found a guy

who he felt comfortable with and I think that's where his where he kind of discovered those that part of of his sexuality with that one guy who made him feel comfortable. And he was like, okay, well, this is this is the guy that I'm going to explore those

fantasies with, you know. And it wasn't in a relationship. It was just kind of like a hookup thing. But yeah, that's where he... That's where the conversation came from. That's where the conversation started. And how freeing was that for you to just really put your fantasy out there?

and then I would assume you feel, you know, that just leads, like I said, to better sex because now you're really showing somebody who you really are and all your stuff is on the table. And then, I mean, did you guys immediately run out to the sex shop to buy that double-headed dildo that you guys have? It's not a double-headed dildo, but it's a strap-on, right? It's all in one. Yeah, I don't know how to explain it to you, but it's like a strap-year. I don't even know Oh, okay, because you're like, I put it in its box.

It's got its own box. I thought maybe it's got a name too. It probably does, but I'm not even paying attention to it. I just saw the picture and I was like, this is the one. I don't even care of the brand. Is it really big? Or like, what was it about it that you loved? I mean, does your guy like it big?

I mean, are there any kind of preferences that you guys have? Well, what caught my attention was that it was double-sided and that I could be getting pleasure too. Yeah. You know, I was curious to, oh my God, how is this going to work? Yeah. So it's about, I would say it's anywhere from, I think it's like maybe eight inches, I would say.

And it's a good growth to it. It's not, I didn't want to, we didn't want to get anything too girthy because, I know, I didn't want it, I didn't want it to feel, I didn't want to be too painful for my boyfriend, because sometimes I get really into it. And, you know, I become a power top And I just want to fuck him like real good. And but then I also have to remember like, you got to slow him down. You know, like I can just.

Yeah. So, um, so yeah, I didn't want anything too thick. We wanted something that was going to be a nice size, you know, decent size, deepened and girth, um, something he would be able to take. So now when you're like fucking the shit out of him like you said, is it like, Do you do that until he comes and that's like the top of the mountain for you? And then you come from watching him come. I mean, is that the, do you love that?

Is that what goes down? Tell us a hot story before we end the podcast. So for me, that actually gets me really wet. Yeah. It gets me really going. We haven't gone to the point where I can make him come yet while fucking him. Usually that's kind of more in the poor play area where I get the shot. you know i put it in slowly working my way um to get to go faster and then once we've kind of gone

our fill from that um because usually we'll do like two different positions you know i like to do it from the back because i like to like grab his his butt and like i just like to like push it back on the Zildo and really kind of feel like powerful. Like I'm really like really fucking him. And then we'll from there usually like he'll turn around on his back and then I'll

fuck him and then like be jerking him off and that's usually kind of how he comes. Or we'll just you know put it away and then we'll continue fucking ourselves and then get to the point where we both come. Right. But that's your foreplay too because you get really horny from that or wet

like you said. Yeah. So I would say it's more of our foreplace right now. Mm-hmm. But I do want to get to a point where I can make him come while I'm fucking him. I think I need a little bit more, we need to do it a couple more times and I need him to tell me, be a little bit more vocal just to get a little bit more information. It's what feels really good, you know, so I can really focus on making him come because that is one of my goals. I do want to get to that point where I can get him. him to come. Yeah, for sure.

It's just kind of hard because, you know, it's feeling good to me, but sometimes I don't know if it's feeling good to him or if I'm being too rough. Yeah. You know, I need a little bit more communication from him on that, but I'm sure we'll work our way up to it. Oh, you guys are working

your way up to a lot of things, okay? This is just the tip of the iceberg. I think, you know, the fact that, you know, you've introduced the fantasy of what you want to do as far as to be with a woman and your guy is totally down with that and you know like I said I see that

you guys maybe having the threesome altogether with the girl maybe that's what you need the first time but also you know because he feels more comfortable being with a guy because he's done it before I feel like you know you're you guys are going to be doing that too you're going to have to give me a call back

in a part two when you guys are doing all these other things right because like pegging is like your guys gateway drug right that's the thing that's going to be leading to everything else because it's not just you know what do we call you what's your name again what's your fake name violet oh it's not like just violets into pegging like violet's like a kinky girl that likes a lot of different things and is finally able to live those all out because you know you're with the right guy and you've been able to be honest and you feel safe and you feel listen to hear that guys listen to listen to your girl all you guys all you guys

complaining about your vanilla girl. There's a guy out there that thinks that this bitch is vanilla. And you guys have now all heard her talk. And you know she's not vanilla. And that guy's missing out. And, you know, he could have had all these things. And I think that a lot of people, both men and women, miss out on fulfilling their fantasies and really getting down and dirty with their loved one because they're too afraid to

really tell their partner what they're really into. But look what happens when you do. sex just gets better. And like I said, I think that there's something very freeing, right, about letting someone know that you want to be with a girl and not holding that in, right? And doing all the things that you want to do. And the sky's a limit now. And you, you know, you might wind up liking, like you said, you think you're going to really be turned on when you see your guy with another guy. And you never knew that you were into that. So I just think that not only was your story fascinating, I think that people are going to learn a lot, just like you've

learned a lot from my show. You came on and it's like paying it forward and now I think people are going to learn a lot from this episode. So, you know, thanks so much for calling in. Six months from now. If you guys have had all these three things and stuff, you need to call back in and tell me now. Thank you so much for having me though. It was it was nice and spring to be able to kind of almost shout to the world anonymously. Hey, I like to pay my boyfriend and it's okay. You know, and we're not weirdos because we enjoy it. Like, we're just sexually fluid. He's fluid people.

And I really hope that people do listen and that they're able to explore their own fanacies and see where that goes because it's a beautiful thing. Yeah, they will. And make sure to go to YouTube and look at the comments because that's where people will talk. You know, that's where you'll find other people maybe copying to the fact that they do it or they've done it or they want to do it. That's what I love about YouTube, the comments below. So that week that you're... podcast airs and it'll be in the next like couple weeks. Make sure to go to YouTube and look below and read

the comments and you know if you're anonymous and you don't want to respond, I totally get that. But if you have an anonymous account and nobody knows who you are and you can respond, respond, but regardless, just read them because it'll be interesting and you'll love hearing yourself now talking. I mean, as interesting and fun as it is to talk and do this episode, it's always so much more interesting to hear your story as a third person. So let me know what you think after you listen to it. And thank you so much for calling in and telling me your story. Thank you. Thanks, by, Bye. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly

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