Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 431 - Getting it Up and Keeping it Up with Jeff Abraham

Episode Date: December 10, 2021

Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent calls in to discuss issues on getting it up, keeping it up and more. Tune in to hear him answer questions on premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, low "velocity," phantom orgasms, porn addiction as well gives advice on how to be honest and talk to your partner about everything when it comes to sex, on how kegel exercises are for men too, what toys and products he likes to use when intimate with his partner and a whole lot more. Click here to listen to his first episode: https://apple.co/3EV6PLL **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Let's get back to who I have on today. Jeff, Abraham, CEO of Promeson. Now, he's been on before. I will put a link to his first episode in the description if you want to hear that episode as well, because we get a lot more into how he became the CEO of Promeson. And that story is actually fascinating. It's like a Dateline episode. You need to hear that story. But on this episode, he answers questions that were submitted to me by my listeners. People on YouTube and my Patreon submitted questions. He answers them as the CEO of Promeson. He answers them as a guy

Who's been in there, done that. Okay. He answers questions like how to specifically use promescent products. You know, a lot of people want to know, like if you put delay spray on your dick, is your girl going to get numb if she gives you a blowjobs? Stuff like that. Questions about coming too quickly, erectile dysfunction, aging issues and orgasms, questions about relationship issues,

issues, porn addiction. Did you know that Kegels are for men too? I didn't. We talk all about that. That comes up on this. And then he gets a little personal like what's on his bedside table? What do him and his partner use when it comes to sex? He answers that question too. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Jeff Abraham from Promeson. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. You're Jeff Abram CEO of Promesant. You're on before. I'm going to put a link to to your first episode with me so people could get your backstory and promescence backstory. Why don't you give a little bit of that, though, really quick before we get into our Q&A, which we're going to do this time.

I had such a great time the first time, you know? Yeah, that's awesome. I like your style. I think that it was something that worked out for both of us very quickly. Well, I certainly say quickly. We then merged into a sexual wellness brand with other men's products and now have a full line of women's products, including toys and vibrators. to increase intimacy, whether it's somebody masturbating, hopefully getting better one day to become.

You really focus on making sex, making intimacy, reducing, eliminating the ultimate amount of pleasure, you know, the more orgasm. Right, for sure. And that's why we, I mean, I know that on our first episode, you had explained that even though you're the CEO of Pramasa, when you're home, you talk to your customers. You answer the questions that they have. That's, yeah. First of all, we have an interactive chat feature, and that's me working at one to two hours a week. And I know initially people, after you have to do it, I go, no, we have people that do that. But as a CEO, I need to be in touch with people using our product with it.

Number two, what would you like, what areas would you like to see us enter into next? Then to massage oils. That's how we get into condoms. That's how we're getting into lube. I want to make sure people not only buy our product, right reasons, and they know how to properly use it. it's unlike any other competitor in the sexual wellness space. We sell product through knowledge. We sell product through education.

The more people know, the more information they have, you know, the more up to speed they are on something. And the more that are satisfied. Is that how you came up with the delay wipes? Because now the spray, right, it comes in wipes. You could put those in your bag and take them. Is that, did it come through customers? Yes. Well, that came about, and you'll laugh. We had been working on something like that for literally the last seven or

eight years. And then they launched these, the delivery system is a little bottle. You have just individual, you know, because literally undetectable. And a guy going to a club one night or a guy going just to his girlfriend's house that evening might not want to carry around, even though it's small, a little bottle with him, you know? So that fits in your wallet, it fits in your pocket, it fits anywhere totally undetectable. But I will tell you this, and I want to emphasize this, because full disclosure is very important. You could never get the same amount of efficacy, the promessant because there's not as much liquid. You don't have that same eutectic formula.

So the key is, is what we tell people, promescent. Now, on a scale of one to ten, this is an eight. The wipes are about a six. Now, that's good as opposed to using nothing. The choice between using both of them, I would be single and younger in going, you know, just out to a club or I'm just, you know, going out on a date and we may end up at her place.

I'm not sure when she goes with that. Well, I assume, you know, use the wipe because it still does work. But it's not quite, if you're going on the road, if you're, you know, at a club, you know, whatever, then you use the wipe. So it's not one or the other. It's the same product, different use. It's a combination of two, like I said, home and away.

You're home. You're in the comfort of your own home. You don't need to worry about, oh, I've got to put this in my pocket and walk around with it. Yeah. Let me ask you a quick question because this is one of the questions that somebody wrote in about your spray. They, you know, the guy said, you know, I really want to use the permissible delay spray, but will my partner's mouth go numb if she were to give me oral right after I use it? And I'm sure that's a common question.

You know how common that question is. Now, a lot of people are aware of us and are familiar with us now. We don't get it as much as we did initially. Initially, that was the number one question. Does it transfer to my partner either orally orally or which means you apply it and you wait between seven and ten minutes? Then company's name is absorbed structure of lytocaine from a solid to an oil aqueous form. when we do it penetrates the dermis or stratum you say seven to ten just once you wait that long

all the active ingredient has absorbed and maintains a higher degree and it doesn't transfer to the female partner okay and those instructions are on there so in that and so that's good that's across the board and that's for the wipes too let me get so we're going to do a straight up Q&A here I put a call out on my social media on my YouTube channel and I got a lot of questions some of them are about permissive products some of them are about you know stuff that I think that you have have experience with, you know, being the CEO of ProMass M. But some of them are pretty, I've seen it all. Some of them are pretty general, but I feel like you could answer them as a guy. I mean,

how old are you? You're a 60-something-year-old. You've probably been around the block. 64 years old. Yeah, I know you were banging some older chick when you were like a teenager. We talked about that story the first time we spoke. So it's like, you've been there, done that. So you could, I think, answer some of these questions as well that weren't so specific. Somebody literally sent this in. Now, I'm assuming he's talking about squirting. He was like, what is the best way to make a female ejaculate? Some woman could do it, no problem, but others, it's impossible.

Now, I don't know, is female ejaculate squirting, or is that something different? I'm thinking you might know the answer. No, it's the same thing. It's the same thing. It's the same thing. Yes. As a guy, I will tell you, I've had that experience a couple times in my life where I was with a woman who did squirt, and it's the first time she ever did.

it in her life, and it was after a lot. And it literally, urine, that wasn't urine. I go, no, I know it wasn't, you know. Right. And because, you know, as a female, sometimes, you know, even they're caught off, you know, stimulus of domestic, because probably those are distinct and separate. Yeah. That a lot of stimulation of the G-spot is what is going to stimulate squirting.

Because from what I've heard and what I've experienced personally, a lot of squirting does. doesn't come from, you know, manual, digital, you know, massage of a woman's vagina, specifically the G-spot. And it's an uncontrolled something that's that pleasurable you want. And now, listen, you Promeson also sells sex toys, right? I'm sure you have some G-spot finders in there. We launched a complete line of both vibrant women. And we have a full line for all suckers.

They're gently sucks the clitoris. Yeah. You know, we have ones that, you know, make. full penetration. We have couples vibrators. We have vibrating cock rings. We have a full line of products. And, you know, we need to get to a point with men. And I'm speaking to all the men listening to this. And not so much women, because they seem to be a lot more in tune. But men, please, do you be intimidated in thinking that if, you know, your partner suggests or desires that you incorporate toys into your lovemaking, that it is in place of you. It is in addition to you. Right. Guys need to stop being so focused and so fix it.

Check the ego at the door. Because my experience, oh, my God, you think of my pleasure first. You're such a caring guy, you know. Oh, it's so good of you. But in reality, all your time. So by being a sensitive lover, by being somebody that puts your partner's needs first, you like Gandhi, you know, focused on my pleasure. You're getting, you're just in general about, you know, your female having to even thinking about

your own or it can be digitally it can be orally it can be whatever through toys through did she get off yet you know that is any kind of a lover whatsoever partner have at least one orgasm that way you know pleasurable experience but what about the guy who comes too fast because that's one of the questions a guy wrote in and said sometimes when i'm having sex i finish too quickly what's wrong with me i'm young and otherwise healthy what would you say to that guy you're in the norm that's not unusual You know, guys that never have had any issue whatsoever with satisfied this reason. Let's step out a second. Yeah.

And let's just talk about, you know, the average IELT, which is interjugatory latency time for men and women. The average man, the average female takes 18 minutes to climax during penetration or thrusting. So already we know that without, you know, a lot of four-vellingas, you know, I love to go down on my woman. I love to use. I think the medical community and the therapist community is now, and one of the most important things for me is I'm seeing a lot of young women for the first time in urology. In the thing, they were like, well, that's just part of this idea that existed for many years. These are reasons why physiological reasons why ever look at a diabetic, you know, they ever look down on a diabetes? Obviously, no.

Does anyone ever look for taking chemotherapy for cancer? The answer is obviously no. then why are people so uptight about saying, wow, I need something that lasts a little bit longer, especially because we now know that to a large degree, a lot of that is not in your head. That doesn't mean trying Kegel exercises to strengthen the Kegel muscles, which are the pelvic floor muscles.

Certainly that helps you have more conture ejaculator and to someone help in general. And in reality, even if you don't have an issue with P.E., it's good to strengthen your P.E. muscles because it gives you more control of your urine flow as you age, all those. Wait, guys can do kegles too. There's kegles for guys? Absolutely.

Really? Oh, I never knew that. Yeah, they have the same benefit for guys that they do for women. Oh, no way. Yeah, help control urinary flow, in this case, help control your ejaculatory response. I've even had people that said that when they really strengthened their kegle muscles, that they had more powerful orgasms, which might be. because they're a buildup generally.

So, no, men should be doing Kegels as Eagles. And do they do it the same way, like just like tensing up the muscles down there? Like, you know. Absolutely. If you're not used to it at first, it's kind of really strange. But once you do it enough, and I can tell you this from personal experience, you can begin to feel the muscle actually pulsing. You can feel it.

Or you do it, the more strength you develop, you become much more in touch. And you can control. What's the regimen? Much more control. What would you say to a guy that's like, oh, I need to do that? Is it 20 reps while you're sitting there, you know, on your computer every day? Start with 20 reps. Yeah, okay.

Do it twice a day once in the morning, once in the evening. Then I would say gradually go up to where you do 50, three, four times a day. Because, I mean, you can be sitting at your desk just typing, doing work, answering emails. Driving. So it's not like you go, oh, I got to go to the gym. You know what I mean? There's no machine at the gym. You do your kegles.

You can do it anywhere sitting down. So I think it's. It's extremely important that men get in touch and begin to strengthen the muscle because you start feeling, you know, and tightening, you go, wow. And then the more you do it, obviously, then you really know you're doing it. It begins to strengthen. And then you have more, you know, your flow at the same time, you'll begin to feel much more. In that case, if a man is firing, PC muscle, it'll relax that urge to ejaculate. Is that something that goes, like, you know, as you age that, you know,

becomes weaker like all the rest of your muscles. And so every guy at a certain age should start maybe trying to do it. Your pelvic floor muscles like any other muscles in your body will begin to deteriorate as you age. You won't have the same dexterity. You won't have the same popular, whether it's incontent surgery or just as people age, they begin to have leakage, you know, from urinary symptoms. And there is nothing less appealing to anyone that have to wear an adult.

I'd be worried about leakage of urine. Yeah, that's not hot. I mean, like, I don't know. Am I the, I don't think that I'm the only one. I think that there's a lot of guys out there that don't know that Kegels are for men, too. I mean, how did you point out about Kegels? I wish I could say differently. I didn't know until I took over the company 11 years ago.

And I start talking the therapist and neurologist. I'm like, I have a Kegel muscle? I guess I do. And then because I remember when I first started trying to do it. I'm like, I don't think I feel something. And then I did them again and again. And because I, they were then, you know, oh, my God. Now I definitely feel like, not only do I feel it, I can control.

it, you know? Yeah, that's super interesting. I didn't know about that. Maybe this guy, I had a guy that wrote in. He says, I'm 53. For a few years now, my ejaculations have been a little, have been of little or no velocity, meaning I don't shoot. It just kind of oozes out. Is this normal or is there a way to fix this? I also have low testosterone and ED. I'm on antidepressants and have diabetes. I'll be honest with you. He's got everything in the world working against him, you know? So it's really important for him to get educated. Number one, that guy should start doing Kegels right now if he's listening. As you're sitting there right now, start doing Kegels. Yeah, Kegels, I love it. Because that's, you know, you know, that's something that'll really help with the ejaculatory response. That's something

that will help with urinary continents. And with all he's dealing with there, with E.D. and diabetes all play into erectile dysfunction. Obviously, your penis isn't rock art of it. It's kind of flaccid. Okay, that's just, he should tackle each one of those. Because those, are all individual things. Get your diabetes under control, and I think you'll start having more enthusiastically address the ED. And the low testosterone. Obviously, yeah, the low testosterone.

You address all of those, and then you strengthen your kegel muscles, you might find a better, you know, you know, velocity. I guarantee you that one, the guy jumped off his woman. Runs across the room and shoots her in the forehead from 30 yards away, okay? So get out of that mode in thinking that. that's normal. And by the way, again, I'll speak as Jeff Abraham personally, up and loving it. I have not met very many women in my life that really go, yes, hit me in the face. I have much more read the ones going, what the hell? It's better than using my nutrigena this morning, you know?

Yeah, please come on my face. Please come on my face. It's been 24 hours since someone's done that. I can't live without it. Tackles each one of those individual issues alone, the diabetes, the ED, you know, the low testosterone. then see where that takes and then start doing it. The important thing that I can stress, there are a lot of good gerologists and therapists out there. You know, as a society, we have gone to this point where, oh, telemedicine is a do-all.

Be someone in person first, and then the follow-up should look someone in the eye, and people are more likely to make a connection and open up and tell the truth when you're in person, as opposed to you find you decide what it is you're dealing with. It's never in the middle. Much on one side, but then it doesn't correct to the right side. It goes all the way to the other side. It's overcorrect. Yeah, that's normal, I think.

And this idea of people, well, I'm going to do my own research online. That reminds me of the nonsense about, you know, some guy that in high school was, you know, in auto shop. He didn't even, you know, things better left to people more qualified. Sex therapy, barology, it's trying to diagnose yourself, you know. Go to an expert. Yeah. I had a great guy on who did a whole documentary on ED and what was really interesting about

what he pointed out. And I'll put a link to his episode in. my YouTube video here as well as in the description. He talked about how, you know, ED is most of the time linked to heart disease. So it's really something that you need to get on top of sooner than later. And the right urologist is out there. They have the answers that this guy needs. What about... Well, I'll be honest with you, a lot of these people who start suffering from ED where they used to go to a doctor and get properly diagnosed, all up and they get ED medication.

Yeah. They may be literally putting themselves a risk with issues. You don't take a medicate that you're going to put yourself in a situation that, you know, while it might give you a raging heart on, might endanger your life. Right, exactly. It's very important that you seek a sexual medicine specialist before you start anything. Because remember that it started out as ED drugs, they were heart drugs. Yeah.

And so they kind of back basic issues. Right. Yeah, no. And I mean, I think a lot of these things come with age for, like, for a lot of people. Yes. You know, and I'm always like, stuff comes at you really fast. Like a lot of things start declining really fast. You got to really stay on top of it. You know, it's like a car. Your body is like a car. If you do not take care of it, you don't do your oil change it every step of the way. If you don't do the maintenance, all of a sudden one day it breaks down completely.

Yeah, hardcore. And that's, yeah, I think when you're young, you know, you could not do maintenance and you don't see it. But there's a certain point, I think, after 50, that if you don't do that, you know. I'm 64. If I don't do it monthly, I see it. Trust me. Right. I literally monitor every, you know, I have standing blood work that I do months.

Yeah. Even if I don't go see a doctor, they order me getting some blood drawn just in case some levels are changing. They could be a precursor to something happening. Because I tell people, if everything in your body tends to be working, then say, because a lot of sexual issues. like if you start to go, well, I'm going to take something, so extend your I, but even more importantly. Yeah, and I think, you know, the right urologist knows that all those other things need to be looked at as well.

Correct. What about the guy who's getting older and he can't stay hard during sex? Yeah, there can be underlying medical issues. It can also see that, but that's our women. Yeah, I take it. I like it. I love it. I take it myself.

I had to lower the dose because it was so hardcore in me. Like, I felt it immediately. Well, the dose to men, we changed that because it was originally designed for men. Yeah. And it's three tablets twice a day. If you're a woman and you're not 200 pounds like the average adult male is, you should be taking two in the morning, two at the evening, not three and three. Or if you're really tiny, like 100 pounds, maybe two in the morning, one in the evening, you know, because obviously, you know, the same dosage doesn't work. Of course.

But let me explain the science behind. So it's a nitric oxide, centrally. El-Arginine, zinc, and magnesium. What it does is it increases blood flow. Now, I'll give you the non-low you decrease blood pressure. Yeah. It also helps you recover from workouts and stress and that type of stuff because the way you recover is getting oxygenated rigourgely.

That's how you regain your... Obviously, the more blood flow you have, that stuff out. So when you're young and it's hurting with some people in the early to mid-30s, also stops keeping some of the good stuff out. The good stuff being lean muscle tissue and they lose the ability and they have totally deep, but they just don't have the same level of arousal. And they're orgasms. And same for women, right?

It's exactly the same thing with one additional. She begins to lose to use tons of lubrication. But a woman feels like I'm less than because I'm not lubricating for my man. The man feels like I must not be that. Even though on an intellectual level, you know, making out and. And all of a sudden your woman is dry and you have hormones, you know, vaginally. Totally. So it's epithelial layer and lose sex when they're a whole product without side effects because.

And it's also going to help the females who, I mean, I had a woman who wrote in and said she's in her 40s and she's still orgasms, but her orgasms don't feel as intense, right? You were talking about how that happens. Yeah. You know, and she called them phantom orgasms. Exactly. Exactly. Some people are just blessed genetically and they don't age. but I can tell you this, the majority of people, after 40, after 50, the intensity of your orgasms

begin to wane. And for men, there's a hormone. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. So those two things are very prevalent. And the one thing we need is stress, there's a lot of people experiencing the same thing. You're not some kind of circus freak. You're not alone.

This isn't psychological. Doing anything wrong. We freak out about it. Yeah, and I think it's important, though, to be on top of it, too. You know, I think that a lot of, you know, because if you don't, you lose your yourself and you can never get it back. You know, I have guys calling in as well as females, you know, that have been in the same marriage for a long time. And, you know, sex went out the window at a certain point, most of the time at menopause. And it never came back. And the woman, you know, the hormones

go away. You don't have the desire. And if you've been living without it for so long and your husband's there and you're just, you know. You just accept it and assume that's the way it is for everybody. And they never find their way back. So I think it's so important when it first starts to rear its ugly head to get on it's like balding. You think. The minute you start to lose a little bit of hair, get on it, all right? Like, start. Exactly. Don't wait until your ball.

Exactly. But a lot of people get on it right away and say, this is too big of a part of my life to do without. Yeah, absolutely. It's very important. And I would say as a woman, if you don't use it, you lose it as a big thing. I was talking to my friend the other day. And I'm just like, you know, just even if you don't have a guy, like, shove shit

inside of yourself. Like, you need to get fucked. Like, you can't not. You can't stop because, like, you get vaginal atrophy. Like there's a lot of things that also happen that don't have to happen. I think some women go through menopause still super horny. They don't even, they're not even on HRT. And I think the difference with those women are a lot of the time that they just remain sexually active.

And they were getting, they were still having a lot of sex, you know, whereas I think what happens is women put it on the way, you know, it falls behind and then they stop having sex. And then they haven't had sex in so long. And then you try to put a dick in there and it kills. Then the next thing you know, there's a decade. They haven't done anything. And they just assume that's the way they're supposed to live. the rest of their lives. Yeah.

And they don't have a desire to change it. Say, this is too big of a part of my life to lose it. Yeah. I had a great episode on about a woman who started HRT and she was just like it changed her whole life. Now I know that that's not for everyone, right? But there's different things. Someone could take vitiflux, right?

There's natural supplements out there that could help your... Here's what I tell people. Yeah. And work your way up. If you're going to eventually, why not try, you know, first? You know what I mean? And then work your way up. It's not going anywhere.

It's still going to be there. And if you can address it, then do it. Right. But it's still going to be there if you need to do it. Just make sure it's like if you need to, start with the same time. Then you got water damage. You've got to do clean up for two days.

You know what I mean? And bring in the renovation company knowing that if I have to, I have. Right. Okay. What about the guy? Because you've mentioned porn before as far as like ejaculating. But there's somebody wrote in and said, I'm very sexually frustrated because my husband doesn't satisfy me anymore.

he never once have sex and four play. And at first she thought he was cheating, but then she found out that he was like heavily into porn. And she was like, how can I get him back into sex with me? A lot of women in life that their husbands, what do they do, making love to their woman? Right. And I think it's because as a man begins to lose maybe some of his virility,

20, 25, 30, it's generally guys late 40. And I think whenever a guy leave, I used to bench press a lot more. That's blah, blah, blah, blah. but people don't rationally, number one, if a guy isn't as virulptable just taking care of his urges on his own without, so if it's a long-term relationship, no matter how creot when a guy ejaculates during, there's obviously morphy, okay? We talked about in that case, you have watching porn that you have to try different things with your partner.

You try. Yeah, and I think communication is always key to that. And it always blows my mind how many people out there have been married to somebody for like 30 years. You know, you think that they'd be really comfortable talking about anything with them, but I know that there's so many people out there that, you know, have been married for that long, but they can't really cop to the things that they're really into with their partner that they've been intimate with. I've run into people that we talk to through our website. Sometimes the wife will come on. In the two years, they've got three kids. The man has had premature and they've never had sex or

more than two. Right. And I find that absolutely beyond shocking because maybe I'm just a good communicator or there's nothing often. Right. I mean, especially if you can talk about something to make your sex life better. Right. Yeah.

But I mean, I don't, I think that that's a common problem. And it's probably a, something that you deal with a lot with people with, you know, buying permissent products. Like maybe it's the, I know,

I had a girl on and it was funny because she called on, it was the one, it was Jennifer, uh, dates guys with, I don't know, she's a size cream, but always these guys with small dicks.

Well, she told me while we were talking on the episode, you know my guy has this problem he comes too fast he never satisfies me i'm like oh i'm i'm gonna be starting to work with promescent they have this delay spray i haven't got the products yet but like you should look into it this is when we spoke and what happened was she went out and got it right and by the time i aired it we did an update because she emailed me right after she went and bought the promescent product she didn't have my discount code yet because i hadn't started it yet but she got it anyway and she said it completely changed her life but what she was nervous about at first was how does she bring that home to him?

Because she got it, right? And say to him, listen, babe, you're not, it's not working, you know, can you use this spray? But she, he took it totally fine, she said. Like, she was very nervous, but she just got it along with the toy, brought it into the bedroom. These were things that she wanted to do. And he was down and it completely changed their sex life. I did, I added that update to the end of that episode because. Fantastic.

Well, you'll laugh when I tell you this, because whatever I, I, do like a serious radio show whenever I do a podcast as live questions or whatever yeah about 50% of the people are calling are women and whatever it's a woman 90% of time it's the exact same question right we need this in our relationship how do I bring it up without offending my partner and what I tell them is no like hey we're going to have a fan he may just go well it's part of our right if he goes well and I tell people if you get your man promessing right because there's one thing that guys love and if it's one thing that guys crazy you will never have to tell him to use that again ever okay i'm the man i'm the you know whatever and i tell this to people and i know

this is a crude analogy but think about this have you ever really i okay if you see a couple going to dinner 95 to myself if it's the woman driving that guy has a deal it's just who they are he will make sure less it gives him the a bit climax and give his woman anxiety over that's what they crave, that's what they live for. What about the guy, though? And I'm sure you get this then on the other side of that, is the guy that knows that he wants that control, right? Because he's a guy and that's what they're into. And he knows about your product. He's going to buy the delay spray, but he's like, do, you know, is he going to go into the bathroom and spray it, you know, and then come out

and pretend like nothing's going down, but be like if she goes to... Believe it or not, I wish the answer was no. Yeah. But I can tell you there are a lot of guys that do exactly that. Yeah. Because you have no idea how many people will ask me when I'm working that chat feed. and even, you know, people that I know that I get my product to, they go, I want to make sure my using it. And my response is always you should never do that. Would you want your partner using something with you and did not telling you about it? Well, no, I go, well, then give them the same benefit.

And maybe I'm old-fashioned, but you'd be comfortable if she was hiding of an area of disease and just hoping you didn't get it. Make it part of for all with that. You know, the seven to ten minutes you're waiting. That's what I was going to say. also absorbs. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, lying to me is, oh, I just can't do it because there's just so much involved in it and it's exhausting and then you get busted. It's just too confusing. Like, because that guy's hiding in the bathroom. Now he's got to wait a certain amount. God forbid she goes to blow him and she came into the bathroom. Yeah, exactly. It leads to 10 more lies and then you look like an asshole and then she doesn't trust you. She doesn't know what the fuck's going on.

Her mind's going to think crazy things, you know. It's just so much easier to just be honest. as a woman, listen, I would never, that would never turn me off. If I liked a guy and all these other things were there, and he's like, oh, I'm just going to spray this on so that I could, you know, come at the same time. I'm afraid of it's like, fine.

You're like, fine. Right. Yeah, what do you say to the guy? How does he say it? Like, what is your tip to that guy? I always say this that the guys, and they will not penalize before. And by literally,

I really want to do this. for you. You know what I mean? I'm doing this so that you will have a more thing. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. The answer is it isn't a bad thing. It's a good thing. And that's extremely important. So I tell people that one of the most crucial things you can do. Yeah, for sure. And I think that, you know, a woman's not going to be like, see you later one little thing, you know. They're much more forgiving about those kind of things. Women are much more forgiving. Yeah. Without a doubt. Yeah. And not only that, in my experience, you know, for sure. And yeah, they're more open.

They're more honest, yeah, to begin with. Yeah, because like I said, if there was a guy that came over my house and, you know, we're dating and then he goes in the bathroom and he's in there like a little too long. And then he comes out and I'm trying to like blow him. And he's like, no, wait. And like, and there's all this weirdness going on. I'm going to know that something's up. But because I'm not a mind reader, I'm not going to know. And you're this guy hiding from me.

Yeah. Exactly. And then my mind could think of 10 times worse things. Oh, he has herpes. maybe he's, you know, it's going to be a lot worse than you're just, you know, you want to come at the same time as me. Okay. So I think the truth is always a lot better.

It's a lot easier. Your girl is not going to care, okay, at all. Yeah, for sure. I think a lot of times a lot of guys keep a lot of things hidden and, you know, what's worse than anything to me, it's a lot worse to be a liar than to be a guy that needs a little spray, right? And most of the guys that are using your product, they don't need it. Need is the wrong word, right?

It's just, it's not just for guys that have ED, though it works for those men, right? But like you said, because there is that orgasm gap. It's for, you know, all guys can use it and it should have it. Well, it's a couple's thing. Yeah. If a guy rapidly or premature ejaculates, he's still ejaculating an orgasamy. The woman's on the other side of the room going, excuse me, I'm over here. You're forgetting something.

I have needs as well. Yeah. So it's like, do it for your partner as much as yourself. Mm-hmm. Yeah, for sure. I think that to me, I always say this on my promiscence as, but it's because it's true, at least to me, and I think if it's like true to me, it's true to other women, is that calming at the same time as your partner is like Top of the Mountain. That's that hot sex. And it doesn't happen a lot, right? It's the best. It does. It's not going to happen every single night. It's, and that's what makes it so great. Yeah, not frequently, but when you do, it's memorable. Right. So that's, that's why you get it. So you have that, you reach that top of the mountain more often than not because it's not something that happens all the time. So I think it's it's great for anybody to use your delay spray. You also have women's lines.

I use your buzzing gel and your warming gel. One of my questions were like, can you mix them together? I didn't wait for the answer. I have mixed them together just to be like, oh, let me see. And I felt like the warming gel one out. Over which one, the buzzing gel? Yeah, when I mix them together. I was like, oh, I'm going to put the warming gel.

Let me try the buzzing gel at the same time. Here's the thing I will tell you from experience, okay? that not experiencing on me, but, you know, a partner that I have. The buzzing gel was a little bit too intense. Right. And the warming gel was just a nice, delicious kind of get the juices flowing. You know what I mean? Let me, you know, kind of a thing.

And to be honest with you, it outsells the other one. Yeah, I felt like the warming aspect wins out for me. Who doesn't like that feeling? A lot of women love. the answer sensation as opposed to a jolt of buzzing, you know? Yeah. And believe me, the other one is a jolt of buzz. Some people, just like a lot of women love, you know, and this is why I tell guys all the time, women that are like, tort, you know, like very, how can that be the same gender? You know what I mean? But it is. Yeah. And I find that men in general are ever heard of anyone.

Then I try to peel back the lower why and they'll go, well, I'm not sure what it smells like. I go, why don't you leave that up to me? You know what I mean? Trust me, if it's that very quickly, you know? Yeah. And to learn your... Right. So with you and your partner, I mean, what's on your bedside table?

It's that delay spray and the warming gel. Those are your top... And the vitiflux? Warming gel, vitiflux. You know, we're testing out some Newmanhoo this, might like this one. So we actively see how we stack up against the competition. How can I...

Right. Mm-hmm. So you test them all out. I test them all out. And, you know, I literally refer to... But it's, you know... Yeah. Well, are you dating someone?

You're not married, right? I know that last... No, I've never been married. I am dating someone currently. And so, like, for her, is it like, oh, go in the closet and take whatever you want? You just got, like, a whole huge supply. You must be fun. Take whatever you want.

Well, it's funny because when I first started evaluating all these vibrators, it was like in... Yeah. And at first, she was like, oh, my God. thought all these. I go, yeah, I need to know what's here. And it was like, at first, I kind of had this feeling like she was like, really? And then like after two weeks, I'd get out of bed. Yeah. And I hear, er. I'm like, what? And I go, hey, I'm like, do I even need to be here anymore? And I will be missing and then you won't be around for a week or two, you know? Yeah, hilarious. No, but she loves the vibrators and loves experimenting with them, you know.

And I think it's very difficult to be, but not two sexual, you know, because if you're two sexual, it's like, where'd you learn that, you know? But if you're not sexual enough, they go, well, I'm not dating you anymore. It's like, I would not want to be fortunate. Yeah, well, duh. I mean, yeah. It's women have the worst of every, you know, that you know, you constantly have to make yourself.

I mean, it's like. And you better not talk because, you know, guys don't like that. Yeah, exactly. So. My life would have been a lot easier if I was a dude. I always said, I always thought. Yeah, I'm pretty much rolling with this dude thing all the way. You know what I mean?

I'm like, it's working pretty good. Yeah. I'm not. trading this for anything. You know, it's like, I think this is working well. We'll just kind of roll with it. Yeah, yeah, totally. So listen, Jeff, thank you so much for coming on and answer these questions.

Maybe next time I will try to do a bunch of people calling in with live questions. I love Promeson as my sponsor. If people want to get 15% off, I'm going to plug it right now, okay? To, you know, your products go to delayspray.com. You make it easy for people to go there, right? Delayspray.com. Use my code strictly. and on 15.

Thanks so much for coming back on and being a sponsor of my show. I love permissom products. I can't pitch things or talk about things the way I do permissant if I didn't believe in it because I'm not phony. And I'm like the worst actress. You know, it's funny you say that because we have a policy where we've had people become familiar with us. They'll call up and go, hey, we want you.

And I go, oh, let me send you some product. No, that's not necessarily. We want to do this. Someone doesn't really want to try it. and they want to promote it to their clientele. I don't want to be on something where someone is an actress or literally playing a role. Yeah. I want what we do.

And that's why this is a great. And you are very concerned about making sure something has a high degree of efficacy before you promote it. Yeah, I did a deep dive. That's how we've grown. I did a deep dive. I don't know where I found it, but I saw all the people that sit on your board. And they were like names that I knew that the regular person would know, you know,

as far as the doctors that sit on your board and everything. I was like, this is like legit. You're going to laugh. On our advisory board, we have Wayne Helstrom. He's the president of the International Society of Sexual Medicine. Right. The chief urologist of the world in sexual medicine. We have Dr. Bohit Kira.

In society in North America, where I just, people look at our board, they're like, what? And this was a big issue. Yeah. Ian Kerner, if you want to last longer, our main problem, we will not introduce a problem. Yeah. And what I love is when you go to your website that you have a little video on the orgasm gap that teaches you about things. There's a lot of other kinds of information on.

there, right, for people to learn about this stuff. Everything. People criticize me early on. They go, are you a university trying to educate people or sell them something? I said, I believe that the best way to educate your service it, okay? So you have the best results so that it'll be a win-win situation. Yeah, for sure. You'll be impressed by this. We were in LA a month ago, remember on E.C.N. MSNBC, CNBC. We watched in a thousand Walmart stores with our delay spray July. We're now in almost all 7,000 new miles to feed with all these brand next level.

We need people to become exposed to promescent because we have all these retail. It's been great for both sides. And I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. Like we just said, half, you know. Yeah, for sure. That's the way I like to do it. You're very comfortable to talk to. And, you know, thank you so much for coming back on.

And six months from now, we'll rendezvous again. Sounds good. My pleasure. Have a great week. Thanks, Jeff. Okay. Bye. Bye-bye.

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