Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 464 - Layla is Living out All Of her Sexual Fantasies on her Bucketlist

Episode Date: March 21, 2022

Layla London lived out all of her sexual fantasies on her bucket list and she calls in to talk all about it. What exactly was on her bucket list? How did she go about finding guys to check things off with? And what was he rsex life like before she decided to live out her fantasies? Tune in for all the details which include how she created a podcast called The Curious Girl Diaries where she discussed what she was doing sexually, the kind of guys she recruited to help her, how she learned to squirt right from the get go, how she was super vanilla before and how opening up to her kinks really helped her, the Dom she met and why she prefers being the sub, how she went to sex parties and what went down there, how those sex parties made her realize she loved being watched, how and why she preferred swingers clubs to swingers parties, how much she learned about herself from the stuff she tried and liked as well the stuff she tried and didn’t like, her experience with her first black guy, how every year she masturbates every day in March and why thats a tradition, the one thing she hasn’t conquered and why she is on a mission to conquer it as well as a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of Jessie and most of my other guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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She is a curious girl. This is a girl. Okay, Leila went from having zero sex to having tons of sex. Okay, she took off. She's like one of those alpha females like overachievers. So when she does something, she fucking commits, okay? So when she didn't have sex, she committed to not having sex. And she did that for a couple of years.

And then when she decided to recommit and go out there and start doing it again, she decided to do it fully, like to focus only solely on her sex life and do everything she could to make it better. And that was why she started a bucket list. I call it a fucket list. There was all these things on her list that she wanted to go out and do. And she went out and did them. And she created the show where in the beginning she's been doing it for like six years. So she probably has a million episodes you could go listen to. In the beginning she would bring on the guys that she was living out her sexual fantasies with. And they would come on and like talk about it. So you got to go check out her show. But on this episode, we get the whole backstory. Like, what was on that bucket list?

What were the things that she did? How hardcore did she go? She went hardcore. She did everything. She went to Swingers Club. She got really into BDSM. She like wore dog collar. She was like a collar person. I forget what she. She's got all the lingo for it there. She figured out how to squirt. She had a lot of guys. She was in open relationships with everybody and she was really just exploring her sexuality. She's here to say that not only did, she's, she's here to say that not only did, She check off like mostly everything on her bucket list. She did even more things. She learned so much about herself.

Her sex life became like amazing. She was like a vanilla girl before all of this. And you know, and here she is someone totally different because all she did was really just focus on, you know, pushing herself out of her comfort zone and try everything she ever thought of. And like I said, she's here to say that it was amazing. And she, it was more than what she expected. Okay.

She did create some sort of e-book or something that she's launching like now, like right now, like it's new. She teaches you how to go through the process of what she did so you could do it yourself. She gives out all the information to her website, the curious girl diaries.com. All her links to everything will be in the description to find her. You just got to go to her website. Oh, and I almost forgot.

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So if you want to see those picks, go to my Patreon. slash strictly anonymous podcast. That's patreon.com slash strictly anonymous podcast. Hi, Layla, London. I don't know why I want to call you Layla London instead of just I like that name. Layla London, welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I am doing great. Thank you so much for having me. I cannot wait to see what comes of it and share all the juicy details with your listeners. Yeah, well, listen, I think we have some crossover listeners. because I have to say I started a new confessional line recently and a guy called in and left a message and he was like, but first I got to tell you that like you need to get this girl that has this podcast out, swear to God, the curious girls diary, that's your podcast.

Okay, we'll definitely promote it and talk about what you do on that show. But it was literally a guy that was saying like, you have to get this girl on and then I heard from you either shortly after or I had already heard from you, but I was just like, oh, that's so funny because I know Layla London and I'm going to have her on my show. But I think that we have probably some of the same listeners, right? You have a podcast called The Curious Girl Diaries. I have to say, too, really quick. When I was Googling you this morning just to like get the skinny again right before we spoke, there's a there's a famous porn star actress named Lela Lundon.

I know. You are not that Lela London, but I bet you my podcast is going to get some hits by your name when they're Googling her or you. I don't know. That is not me. You know, funny little quick story. when I started out, one of the guys I was seeing said, you need to protect your, you know, anonymity. He was really good with cyber security and things like that. And he said, you need, you have to come up with a fake name because I was just going by the curious girl very, very beginning stages.

And so we were playing around with names and I like the name Layla. Yeah. And then we were kicking around last names. And then I said London, but maybe somewhere in my brain I knew there was a porn star other. but actually I really didn't know. And then, you know, so it's like, be careful the name you pick. Be careful the stage name you pick. Exactly.

Put it in quotes and Google it first. Yeah, I do. But I want to, again, make, you know, make very clear it's I am not that. I'm not, I'm not a porn star. Otherwise, I wouldn't, you'd be seeing my face all over the place. Yeah, you wouldn't be anonymous. But I have to say, if I was your friend and you were like, it came to me one day when you found out there was like a porn star and you made that name for your podcast, your anonymous podcast. I'd be like, but you know what,

in a weird way, it will work in your favor because sometimes I bet you people will find your show because they're Googling for her, but they find you. And it's not like, listen, you're not, you know, you don't have a podcast about like how to bake cookies. Your podcast is about your journey into kings and your sexuality, right? I mean, you were a girl. This is like the short story and then we'll get into the whole story. You'll tell me the story. but like what I get, you could just go in and read your bio. I mean, you are a woman that didn't have sex for a couple of years, if not more, right? Like three and a half years or something like that.

And then when you came out of that fong and open yourself back up, you decided to go like the extreme opposite way in that you decided to, like I said, just check things off your bucket list, you know, start looking into your kinks and your fantasies, right? Is that like the story? Just of it. Yeah. I was, yeah, celibate for three and a half years by my choice. Yeah, by my choice. It wasn't like an active choice. Like I said, I'm specifically doing this.

But it was just through the choices I was making of what I was prioritizing in my life. That's the result that came about. And then I woke up one day and just said, what the fuck am I doing? This is ridiculous. I am wasting the pretty. Right. Yeah, you're not getting, yeah. I'm not going to do that anymore.

Exactly. And I just did a complete 180. I realized I got a problem. I've run this off into the ditch. And I sort of attacked it like I would sort of any business goal. And I, you know, laid a plan and what I was going to do. And then I also said, you know what? And I'm going to go even farther than that.

I'm going to give myself a year to devote to making my sex life a priority since I've deprioritized it so much. Now it's going to be kind of at the top of the list. Yeah. And to make it fun, I'm going to make a really fun you know, bucket list, sex bucket list. I'm going to explore, you know, any and all things

that interest me and do it for a year and just and actually and then do a podcast to document it and see where it takes me. Oh my God. I love it. It's like a bucket list. That's what I call it. Instead of your bucket list. It's the fucket list. And what was on that bucket

list of yours. Oh my gosh, all kinds of stuff. I wanted to learn how to squirt. I wanted to go to sex. Me too. Can we just start that real quick? My listeners, no. My biggest goal in life is to figure out how to squirt and I've never been able to

it. I'm totally jealous. Also, the other one would be like multiple orgasms. Like you hear of those women that have like, you know, 40 orgasms in one time. Like, I'm like, what the fuck is that? I can never do it? But, you know, the squirting thing, can I just ask you real quick? And then I want the long story.

But like, did you ever figure that out? Yeah, have you figured that out? Yeah, I figured that out in year one. I'm in year six now. You're kidding. Okay, take it, okay, tell me the whole story. So you put together this bucket list, you put it down, you thought you were just going to do it for a year and document it.

And now you're six years in. Right. Wow. Yeah. Okay. Okay. So the squirting. When I made the bucket list, that allowed me to, it was a really good.

conversation piece, icebreaker, if you want to call it that, when I was sourcing, you know, for lack of a better term, partners. Sourcing, yeah. Sourcing partners to go on this adventure, this year-long thing. And I just, everybody, every guy I met, I was like, listen, this is what I'm doing. Do you want to be a part of it? I'm going to, you know, I'm going to podcast. I'd love to come on the podcast. I'm, you know, you can be anonymous, but I want to have these adventures and having someone that, you know, where I can, you maybe have a certain specialty or this is your thing, you know, and you can really help me through this, or it's something on your bucket list that you've always wanted to

experience. Like, let's do this. So, uh, wow. That was, that was great for meeting people that had similar interests or also had expertise in the area that I was looking to conquer. Right. And as it turns out the squirting, I met a guy who was into BDSM, which I also wanted to explore. And then he also knew, you know, he said when I said, yeah, you know, he's like, what are the other things? And I said, I want to learn how to squirt. He goes, oh, yeah, I can do that. And he was just very, just like, oh, oh, yeah, yeah, don't worry. I can, I'll, I can do that for you.

And I was like, what? Excuse me? He was so confident. And I thought, all right, buddy. well let's see what you got well I'll tell you what the first time we were together there was not a dry spot on that bed you're kidding I once the first time the first try

yes hmm yeah and it wasn't through sex was it through like he was like fingering you was he used his hand to get you to squirt uh huh yep he uses hands to get me to squirt now he and I ended up uh being in a relationship for three and a half years.

Oh, wow. Okay. And so over the course of time, he could get me to do it on his dick, which was lovely, too. It all felt good. And, yeah, it was, I mean, my mind was blown. I mean, that first night, I literally had to, the kind of sex we had that night the first time, I had to get out of there. Like, I was pulling up my pants. My legs were still shaking.

And I just had it, like, I know. needed to leave, you know, he's like, oh, you can stay. And I'm like, no, no, no, I got to go. I really had to, like, get out of there and process, like, what the fuck did this guy just do to me and my body? Like, he took it over and it, it bent to his command. It was, it was amazing. But wait, how many guys into your search was this guy? I mean, because, like, this was in your first year, right? And, oh, yeah. Yeah. So, so what I did was, I was very open with everybody. And I said, I'm not looking to be one on one with anyone. So you have to know that.

And there'll be other guys. And, you know, because not everybody wants to do all the things that are on my list. And that year was just really about me, you know. So, so he, he did, he crossed a lot of stuff off. But then, you know, there was other guys that I did other stuff with, too. Right. So now we're, were you straight up with everyone? Like, listen, like, this is what I'm doing and I'm not going to be just with one person.

I mean, because it sounds like you were an open relationship with all these people, correct? I mean, were there overlaps? Oh, yeah. No, I was in an open relationship. There were overlap. Like, I'd see one guy one night and then another guy another night. Yes. But I was very, plus I had the podcast.

And so the guys were on there and I'm talking about it. So, you know, I was full disclosure, you know, and I'm just that way by nature. You know, I just feel like arm somebody with the proper information and let them make a decision about what's best for them. I'm not trying to coerce anybody or, you know, be deceptive in any way. So, again, it was, but it was fun because that attracted the right people, the kind of guys that I needed, you know, to make this happen. And it was so much fun. I mean, and it's still, it's still an ongoing practice. So, you know, it's just, it's fun to be able to have that kind of freedom, you know, and be that,

be that open and honest. And when you're doing this kind of stuff, and it also, oddly enough, because you have such great, demand such great communication between you and, you know, your partners, it really builds these very strong, deep connections. So it wasn't, yeah. Yeah, I mean, now, you know how it is when you're, you don't, those connections can be different, but, you know, I can look back on, I can look back on all these relationships and say, I mean, these are just really good guys. we've had a lot of fun and I am friends with them to this day and I don't like there's no hard feelings or anything like that it's just like I shared this really cool moment in time with them with a lot of sex but that's because you were straight up honest with them I mean I used to

juggle a lot of guys when I was younger because I didn't have like just typical normal relationships and sometimes I would be seeing a guy but it wasn't someone I'd you know hang my hat with and have a relationship, but I would be sleeping with him. I meet other people. I'd tell him. I was always honest to everyone and people would always, it would always blow people's mind. Like, how do you keep all these, all these guys into you and you're like doing all? And it's like, because I'm just straight up honest. Like I think, you know, and a lot of people just don't believe that that would work, right? How many times does a girl say like, oh, I tell the guy, like, just tell me if you're seeing other people, but like, the guy will never, you know, because

you just can't believe that there's a way that that could work. When I think personally that, you know, being completely straight up or honest with anyone, whether it's a man or a woman, is the key to everything, you know, and I think a lot of people just think it's too good to be true. No, you're right. It's the key to everything. I mean, like, I drive that home all the time, and I don't understand. This is why, like, I have zero tolerance for kind of people who aren't honest with their partners and who do shady shit. because it's really, I can, that's just, I consider it A, a character flaw and B, it's choice. It's a conscious choice. The effort that you're going to, that you have to take to pull off all of that. I know, it is exhausting. It's exhausting. And I would just rather be, you know, be able to look, look myself in the mirror, sleep well at night and, and not worry that, you know, I'm doing anything that is going to,

cause anybody any harm or distress and hurt their feelings. Now, along the way, of course, you know, relationships evolve and change and feelings come, you know, serious feelings come up and come into play. Yeah. And even jealousy and stuff like that. But you know what, that those things are okay and they're normal. Yeah. It's not about having those feelings. It's about what you do when those come up. Right. And as long as you're saying you can't have them. It's about, Like you said, just about discussing them and putting them on the table and being honest about it and then working through it. Yeah. How do we manage this?

Yeah. You know, what's the, what, and is there a way that everybody can still feel comfortable and, you know, and so it, the fun far outweighs all of this. This might sound tedious, but it's really not, you know, from time to time, you get, you know, you have, you check in and things maybe have shifted a little bit. But for the most part, you know, it's just really fun. It's a lot of fun and a lot of good orgasms. And by the way, I do have multiple. So I've always been able to do that. You bet you bitch.

Yeah, you got all the things on my list that I don't have. And but you know, and what was slightly devastating to me is recently I had on a couple women on who do squirt and were like, you know, it's not really all that. And I was like, seriously? Like, don't tell me that. But did you like squirting?

You said it was like amazing. I mean, there you are like pulling your jeans up as you're leaving and you said your legs were shaking. So it was incredible to squirt like you. loved it? Yeah, I mean, I think everybody's, you know, we're all wired differently, right? And so I don't want to, I don't want to say it's going to be amazing for everybody. I think a lot of it, I mean, for me, it always was. It was always, it still, I mean, it always is. It's hot. I mean, when you, hot, hot when the guy is doing it to you, when, you know, when he's eliciting this

response from your body. Yeah. You know, and you're, and just even that like the eyeball exchange when someone's like looking at you and you know like he's got control of your body, that shit just turns me the fuck on. Right. And I know where it's going and I know it's coming and oh, it's, I just, I love that. I'm totally into that. And then, and also just when, when I, if I scored on a cock, that just what we're doing is so,

feels so good and he's hitting the right spot and it's so exciting you know and then of course as it's happening you know it's like it's dripping down his balls down his shaft you know i mean it's hot you know and or going on the floor whatever you know whatever position it but it's not like you know everybody notices it you know you notice what's going on and it just adds to that sheer kind of animalistic passion that's happening in the moment and Oh, like I said, I just love everything about it. You know what I love everything about? My crescendo vibrator by mystery vibe.

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Or were you always curious, trying to squirt and doing all those things before you had that dry spell? I was very vanilla. I mean, I always have been, I've always been open-minded. You know, like I'm a yes girl. Like, you know, when your friends send out like a group text and it's like, hey, do you want it? And before anybody even finishes a sentence, I'm like, yes.

Like, I'm always up for adventure, you know. If it's trying something new, I love that stuff. But I don't know. You know, it was weird because what I, one of the things, that I was focused on when I started was, okay, who am I going to be at the end of this? Because really my assumption was that I'm going to do this for a year. Yeah. And then it'll be like my secret little time to be wild and adventurous.

And then that'll be that. I'll shut it down. I'll have stayed anonymous. And then I'll just completely melt back into my vanilla world like it never happened. And that was, now that I look back on, I think that seems very naive. and obviously that's not what happened. Yeah. But it did really change me in a lot, yes, in a lot of ways, you know, to answer your question,

it has transformed a lot of things about me just by, you know, making my sex life a priority and committing to it and having it be fun and playful and adventurous and always putting new things on there that I want to try and explore. Yeah, sexually that's fun, but again, it's also kind of strange and interesting the way you evolve as a person through your sexuality, you know, the more you're open and the more you're better communicator and all that stuff. I mean, that plays into your regular life. So, no, I'm not vanilla anymore, I guess.

But you were, that's what's interesting. I mean, you were that person. And then, I mean, are you that way within everything in your life, like, you know, black or white, like very extreme? because it seems like you went from one extreme to the other. I know I am that way. So I like I get that. Maybe that's your personality type, right?

Yes, I'm very type A. I'm very, uh-huh. And so it's like, you know, I can go literally like when I turned on a dime and did that complete 180, it was, it was from that moment of realization like, what the fuck are you doing to yourself? It was 10, it took me 10 days to source. I can't always use the words source. I love it.

That's hilarious. Yeah, I need to know how you were sourcing, guys. I got to get into that shit, too. It's hilarious. Yeah. Yes. And just, and then kick it off and get it going and then stay, you know, stay committed to it and see it through. Just, I mean, I'm so glad.

I look back and think that I could still be sitting here to this day. with a dried up, shriveled up vagina. Yeah, totally. If I wouldn't have, you know, I mean, who knows? Or the other thing I realized, too, was I couldn't figure out why, like, I'd be with these great guys. I mean, on paper, amazing, you know, and I just, like, something was missing. And I never could put my finger on it.

Why? Why, like, what was wrong with me? know, like, am I just, am I just not going to be happy with anybody? Am I too picky? You know, all this stuff. And what I realized was that I just kept attracting the same vanilla guy that fit the same mold. And that wasn't right. And what I needed was, you know, I really am into, I like a dominant man, you know, and I don't mean abusive. I mean, a man that just knows how to be a man. And I kept getting, I kept getting, you know, the nice guys. and, you know, quote unquote, classic, you know, like, I don't know, what do you want to do? Always catering to me, which is nice.

And I'm not saying I don't want, you know, women don't want that. It's just that we also want to feel or I want to feel safe, protected, cared for, you know, like if we're in an alley somewhere, someone jumps out. Yeah. It's not going to be both of us trying to fend this guy off. It's, you know, he's going to be kicking some ass and protecting me. Yeah, of course. It makes you feel more like a woman, the more. And I think some women, like for me, I'm a very alpha female.

So sometimes for me, like I, what's really hot is a guy that makes me feel more like a woman, you know. And I think that that's a harder thing to do sometimes. It takes a certain kind of guy to do that, right? Because. Yes, I'm the same. That's, I'm exactly the same. Like I've been my whole life, this alpha female, da, that, but you know what? In a relationship, I.

You don't want. You want to be the alpha. You want to be the woman. You want to feel like a woman. Yes. I want to be able to like really luxuriate in all my feminine attributes. And it takes the right guy for me to do that. Because because that takes a lot of trust because I have to know like I, this guy has my back. You know, I absolutely don't have to be on guard. I don't have to be making the decisions. I don't have to be thinking 10 steps ahead. Like I can. really just enjoy being in my feminine because he's the man. Yeah, he's got every, he's got it, right? Because typically you're, you've got it in every other area of your life. You're, you're in control. Yeah. So now, so now are you a sub?

Do you consider yourself a sub? Now, you started to get into like those couple things in that first year. You did the, you said you got into BDSM and you did the squirting. So this Dom guy that you were with for three years, did, was that the first guy? that got you into the BDSM? And are you a submissive in that world? Yes. So I was his submissive.

It just started with him introducing me to it. And as he and I got, you know, more bonded to each other, then that's the way it evolved. It evolved into that. I mean, I want to caution people because when I was trying to find. somebody to kind of lead me through this and help me explore safely and someone that had a lot of education in this area, you have to find somebody that really knows what the dominant submissive dynamics are about and more importantly, what they're absolutely not about. And what you'll find is, you know, nine times out of ten, there's nine guys that are just complete idiots and don't know,

really don't know what this is about. They, it's your typical porno, you know, who's your daddy and, you know, Neil. And that is complete and utter bullshit. So I wanted to, there's a lot of misinformation about what this dynamic is all about. It's not about that. So you need to find, and I bumped into a zillion ding-dongs. And, you know, like if they automatically want you to call them sir and shit like that, that they haven't earned that.

That's not, you know, no. I remember one guy, you know, we were having sex and he starts in with, and he didn't even discuss this with me. And he just starts in with the, you know, the who's your daddy and who owns this pussy and da-da-da-da-da-da, you know, and I was like, it kills the mood. I'm like, shut the fuck up. I'm about ready to have an orgasm. Now you fucked it up.

You know, you're asking who my daddy is. I'm looking over my shoulder like, what? Is he here in the roof? Like, what? It's not you, jackass. So what are we talking about here? Right. And, you know, like, oh my gosh.

You're going to, yeah, you'll, you have, there's a lot of ding-dongs out there when it comes to the BDSM because guys just think it's, you know, they think it's what they see in porn and that all women want this. and it's just it's not representational of what it's really all about. So I try to put that out there. But that was on your list.

Like that was something that you were curious about when you started when you start to think about what are the things that I wanted to do? What else was on your list? Squirting BDSA. Yep. I wanted to go to sex parties. Okay.

Start exploring. Yeah. And start exploring that. And I did. I also wanted to be with a black guy because I've never been with a black guy. And, and namely, I mean, I'll be real specific about that. A black guy with a really big dick.

That was where I was drawn to that porno, you know, like, you know, branding. You know, sorry, I got sucked in, you know. Yeah. Oh, what does that feel like, you know, something that big in you? So I did all that. Yeah, you know, the sex parties were interesting. How did you wait, let's start, because I, I want. I want to get into all of this.

But really quick, where were you sourcing these guys from? Were you going on to Craigslist? Were you on regular apps? Like, how were you finding these people? No, I was not going on to Craigslist, and I do not recommend that. Although maybe, you know, maybe that's, I was probably just to step up from that. I, you know, it's just hook up apps. I mean, you know, just hook up apps.

and things like that. Now, and it sounds, well, it sounds a little tawdry and seedy, you know, it really is about the type of profile you put up and how you, and the pictures you put up, you know,

I didn't put up any, hey, you know, pussy pics or hey, look up my chacha and take a look at my ovaries. You know, like there's a lot of, there's a huge swing here on what you're going to find.

And so I made sure that, you know, it was obvious kind of the type of, the type of person I was and what I was looking for, and I was very specific about it. And I said, I got a sex bucket list and, you know, I really want to find some friends with benefits that, you know, emphasis on the friends part. Because if I don't like you and wouldn't hang out with you and don't want to do stuff with you outside of the bedroom, it's not just about a hookup. Yeah. Because I want it to be ongoing and have fun.

And anyway, so, yeah, so I just, you know, I use these apps. And then, you know, you have to, for women, you know, I kind of, I felt like I devised, again, going back to putting my business head on, I had a system. I ran it like a system. You know, it was like, there's like an intake system, a qualification system. And then, and then you decide whether or not they, you know, you're going to move forward with them. And I just kept doing that, you know, like a wheel over and over. And, you know, you can, this is how I quote unquote, source fun good guys to do stuff with.

Right. And now that black guy, did you have your black guy experience with the really big dick? And how was it? Yes, I did. And he's a really, oh my gosh. Yes, he had a really big dick. He really, really did. And I mean, like, slow jobs were difficult.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, I mean, you're not. Your mouth doesn't stretch that wide, but without him getting teeth. I mean, I don't know. I don't know. You see it in the porn. I don't know how those women do it. You just do your best, I guess.

But anyway, but yeah, no, I mean, there's a different type of sensation that you feel when you're completely filled. You know, circumference-wise. Yeah. And lengthwise. A lot of guys are proud because they have a big long dick. I don't really, the length for me, you know, women are only so deep. So, you know, I mean, as long as, right? I mean, there's a misconception there. Women are only so deep. But the girth part is where it's at because that just that stretching and that feeling and that sensation, those are different kinds of orgasms that I'm having and I'm squirre. more with a bigger dick. Right. That's not to say, you know, I can't,

that I won't squirt with a, with a dick that's not as girthy, but it's just, I don't know, oh, it's, it's really good, yeah. It's really good. Now, I'm not a size queen. I want to say this. I'm not a size queen, never have been.

Yeah. But I do, I can appreciate different sizes. And because really it is about how you use it. I mean, that's, in my opinion, the truth for me, you know, I don't, I don't go, oh, you're too smaller. That won't work or whatever. But, you know, it's like, show me what you got. What can you do with it? But, but that, but that, that, that, that, that stretched, stretched and just really tight, snug fit, you can only get from,

you know, that, the circumference aspect. And I mean, I love it when I'm like, oh, my God, like, will that fit, you know, and I feel like I have to do some deep breathing. I feel like have to do some deep breathing to really like brace myself. Oh my God. Did you have more than that guy? Like after that guy that one, because it was on your list, right? I want to have black guy with a really big dick. I mean, did you go back for more considering you really enjoyed it? Yeah, I did. I mean, I, I, yes, I did. I want to say the thing, though, that really made that work was it's not just, I mean, it wasn't just because he was black. Yeah. He, he, I liked him.

You know what I mean? Like, I have to like somebody. It's not, I love men. I'm attracted to men of all different ethnicities. Yeah. And so, but obviously for that, that was, you know, it was a little bit more of like, I guess, fetishizing it, you know, in the beginning, for lack of a better word. And then after, you know, we, we saw each other for quite a while. I, you know, I, it was more about, is this, do I?

I like this guy is he, somebody I'm attracted to. And so moving forward, yes, I have, I have dated other black guys or, you know, slept with other black guys, I guess I should say. And then, you know, and dated them, right? Yeah. But it's about, it's about the person. I mean, I had one guy that, you know, was really turned me off. And, you know, I only saw him about three times.

And I was just like, he's just got a dushy element to him, you know, like, I don't want to, you know. So it didn't matter that his dick was big. You know, he wasn't somebody that I felt it was interesting enough to keep hanging out with. Because I wouldn't even want to go like, it was like, I'd show up and I'd be like, okay, let's do this. And, you know, and he wasn't really paying attention and listening. And I'd have to end up taking control in the bedroom because he was trying to do his dominant male thing, which he hadn't earned that right.

Yeah. And he was overstepping. and so then I had to tell him, you know what? Shut the fuck up. Get that dick hard. I'm going to show you how I want to be fucked. Yeah, you became the dom. And I'm like, which was kind of a little fun and playful at the time.

Yeah. But you know what? That's fun. You know, I don't want to have to be in that mode. Right. And then, you know, but then from there, I realized, you know, he wasn't, he just, he took that as fun and we had a good time. But he wasn't, it wasn't sinking in. So after that, I was just like.

You know, and he wouldn't, he wasn't respectful, like, trying to, you know, pull my butt plug out and then stick his dick in my ass. No, you don't just pull a woman's butt plug out mid-stroke and try to start fucking her in the ass. You, these are things you talk about up front. Oh, my gosh. Oh, hilarious. No, you know, so anyway, and that's just a personality trait. It doesn't have anything to do with the color of his skin. Of course.

He just wasn't, you know, wasn't the right guy. So, you weren't showing up to these meetings with these guys when you were vetting them and saying, listen, let's just have sex. I mean, you wanted, like you said, to make sure that you like these people as people too. And most of these people became like an ongoing person in your life. They're still friends to this day. What about the sex parties? What happened there? And how did you, like, did you enjoy your experiences?

Do you still go to them? Yeah. So that was a huge eye opener. When I went to my first sex party, I was thinking it was going to be like, you know, this, you know, like you see in the movies, this eyes wide shut, you know, because it was like this masquerade thing. So we had to wear masquerade masks. And, you know, I was picking out my outfit. I'm like, oh, my God, this is just going to be so hot and sexy with all these beautiful people everywhere. We're going to be in this beautiful location.

And, you know, I had filled it up in my head. And then when we get there, we're like, we're in the stuff. suburbs. Right. Literally rolling out to someone's home. And, you know, you walk in, there's pictures of their children on the wall. They've covered their kids bunk beds and plastic. Like, it's a whole takeover of their house.

Oh, my God. People are on every room. Some of them are naked. I mean, it was just, I don't. And then there was a potluck, which for some reason really turned me off because it was like all this bubbly, greasy food like chili. And I'm like, really? Would you eat?

I mean, you know, as a woman. Would you just down a bunch of easily and then have sex? No. I don't even think guys would want to do that. You know what I mean? I don't know. I mean, maybe they wanted to read. I have no idea.

I don't know. Anyway, the people were really nice. So I'll be honest. At first, I got a little uptight. Yeah. I was like, this is not my crowd. This isn't my scene. And then the guy I was with was another guy who I ended up seeing for quite a while.

He was amazing. I called him his nickname. Every guy that I would, you know, see got a nickname. And his was B.E. It was for the boyfriend experience. He was the total boyfriend experience. And so he was like, okay, well, let's just, you know, let's just check it out. You know, so we were looking.

We just started talking to people and people would come up and talk to us. And we didn't see any couples there that we wanted to engage in. That was my original idea, you know, that I would want to engage. engage with people. Because again, like I said, you know, you roll up to, it's the suburbs. And it's just, again, like I was expecting, I had, I had the wrong idea. I was expecting, you know, movie stars. And it was regular average people, regular average people, right? Yeah, yeah. And which was, you know what? I'm so glad I had that experience. And I'm outing myself when I say this stuff, because I don't approach it that way anymore. But, you know, I, we finally ended up.

walking around and I just what I realized was okay first of all kind of as I got into watching people and just seeing it was like this is kind of hot okay I'm liking this and I got more and more you know loosened up and then we went into this one there's rooms where there's like themes in different rooms so different things going on well we went into this one room where people were just having sex with their partners all over the place nobody was touching other partners but while you know but people were free to walk through and just watch or you could you could engage with someone, you know, in that room. It wasn't the orgy room where, you know,

you got a million bodies on bodies touching each. It wasn't that. And so I realized, well, I don't think I want to have sex, you know, with BE, but I'm going to give him like the best blowjob of his life. Yeah. And I do want, and I want people to watch. I want people to watch me sucking his cock, making him feel good. and, you know, and hopefully maybe think like, oh, I wish that was her second my dick.

So I did that. And what I started to realize was how much I, I was when I got my first taste of the fact that I enjoyed being watched in that type of scenario. Now, I never knew that or thought about that before I went there. So the fun thing, I guess in the point of the story is a lot of these things that were on my bucket list, Some of them turned out to be things that what I initially thought was going to be hot, wasn't, but I discovered something new that was. And then the doors would fly open from there. Oh, that's interesting.

And there in lies like the sort of maybe would be like your point of why other people should do this, because it's really a way to really learn about yourself, right? Because sometimes you think you know, but maybe you don't. Yes, exactly. So that's the whole, yes, that is the whole moral of the story is that, and that's how I've been able to keep this going is because through this exploration, you know, you cross one thing off, but through that experience, you know, it could be one or, you know, 10 more things that come out of that where you go, whoa, this, I never knew how much this I like this. Never thought I would. Always said, ooh, no, I don't think that that would turn me off. If you go back and listen to the first year of my first few years, actually, my podcast, if I had a dollar for every time I said, no, I will never.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, interesting. Okay. Even in that first year, you were saying there were just certain things you went into. Correct. And, you know, I had very set ideas about all this. And one of the things I've really loved about documenting this is I can see my own evolution. and you can hear it, you know.

And the way I talk about things, that just how much more open and just interested and I've moved in other directions, it's just been fascinating for me to, you know, put myself through this social experiment and share it with other people. You know, I hope they get out of it. What I get out of it, I hope it inspires them.

Yeah. And they see how somebody who's very, because I, you know, when I started, I was very opinionated. And, you know, now I pretty much try to never say never. Because you just don't know. Yeah, that's smart. I mean, that's interesting.

Yeah. I think that's something that a lot of people learn at different points in their life. Eventually, we come to that place where you just really realize that. You don't know everything, especially about yourself and you just remain open and never say never. Because before you know it, there you were, given a guy a blowjob at a sex party and you, like, loved the fact that people were watching you. And you would have never known that about yourself. Exactly. And when it comes to people's sex lives, what I notice the most is it's probably the one area of our lives that we stay the most funded.

If you think about it every year, you know, as we move along in life, you know, we're always trying to set new goals, better ourselves, you know, be skinnier, richer, prettier, whatever it is, you know, like, whatever it is you're working towards. Nobody ever says like, hey, I'm going to make my sex life a priority. No, I love that. Yeah, yeah. I'm going to focus on that. Yeah. And so much, you know, it doesn't really matter how you're learning and evolving because you're going to take away more than just the sex stuff. But on the same note that you're not the same person work-wise or relationship-wise that you were, you know, 10 years ago as you are now, your sex life should be evolving too.

And I think this is the reason that a lot of people just get bored with it and falsely believe like, oh, no, that's just not for, sex really isn't that important to me anymore. they've convinced themselves of that because they haven't put any effort into it and you'll get out of it what you put into it. Yeah. And you just give it, you know, you don't have to do a year. Maybe it's three months or a month, you know, and you just try a few things and you stay open with your partner. Right. Or if you find partners, you know, you will start to see how, you know, holy shit, this is, this really is important. And I actually really do like this.

you know, I'm, I'm in the middle of my March masturbation madness month. Every year I masturbate every day. In March. In March. Oh, my God, I love it. Yeah. Even just this first week. Yeah.

It sounds so odd, but, you know, it's the second year I've done it. Just make, given that little bit of time to yourself every day, I mean, I'm, it will drive your desire up a lot. And my desire is already high, you know, because I'm always. keeping sex on the forefront. But it just, like, I, you know, I can't wait to masturbate today. I mean, like, I can't wait to have some orgasms. You know, it's like, and then I'm always thinking about it, you know, and it gets you

creative too. Like I'm thinking, you know, as I'm fantasizing while I'm doing this stuff, I'm like, oh, I'm going to put that on the list. Yeah, oh, that was good. Yeah, I want that. I want a partner to do that to me or whatever. It just stimulates all this kind of sexual creativity and goodwill. Yeah.

And I mean, even if for people, like, I don't know, how many things did you have on your bucket list? Because I'm going to say, like, even if someone just starts off with the top three things, you know, it's like, but I feel like it's probably like a domino effect. You know, you do one. And then the second, maybe you think you're just going to tackle three, but then it's going to lead to 10, right? That's what you're here to say. How many things did you have on that first bucket list that you were going to do in that year? And then how many did you do? Do you have the count?

Is there a number? Yeah, I think so I'm trying to remember. I think I had about, there might have been about eight or nine things. And there's one thing, it is kind of now, it's like my curse. Yeah. You know, it's like the one thing I have yet to conquer. What is it? And it'll surprise, it'll surprise a lot of people because it seems kind of elementary.

Uh-huh. With all the crazy stuff I've done and I have done, and I've gotten super kinky and super out there. The one thing. Yeah, I want more of those stories, but let's, what's the one thing? the one thing I have not been able to conquer yet is threesome. Really? Yes, I know. What do you mean?

You haven't been able to set one up. You haven't been able to have a good one. What do you mean you haven't been able to? Like, you just haven't been able to do it. You haven't wanted to. I have been. Okay. It's been on my list.

Yeah. And because I've always thought, you know, it's one of the things it'll be like, you know, like it's kind of a go-to or a stuff. staple of sometimes I want, you know, to watch porn when I'm masturbating or watch porn with partner or whatever. And sometimes, obviously, threesomes are kind of a go-to, right? Yeah. You know, good category. And it seems erotic and exciting and fun and hot and all that stuff. And but when it comes down to actually doing it, I've had several near misses where I just I start nitpicking the situation and the people.

And I'm like, and, you know, and I'm like, I'll get critical about them. You know, I'll pick on somebody. It's like, well, she's hot, but he's not, you know, or, or, you know, and I don't just want to take one for the team, you know what I mean? Just because my partner thinks it's a good idea or whatever. And, and then, you know, so like, then that would be, you know, where there's another woman involved. And I don't want to go down on a woman, but I want her to go down on me initially, because I do know that. You know, I know what my boundaries are. Over time, maybe if I got more comfortable, I could see maybe

wanting to do that. But I don't consider myself bisexual. I just want, you know, I just want to have the experience. Yeah. Now, when it comes to male, female male, then I get, again, you know, I want, I want these two hot guys with big dicks who just are, you know, just, you know, just. And it's all about me and I'm the focus center of attention, of course, you know, because you're the one. And, and, you know, and we're going to have a lot of fun. Well, I don't know. I just, I always seem to like, guys will reach out like, hey, you want to do that. Okay, I got a buddy that, you know, and I'm like, no, I don't know what's holding me back. I don't know. But you haven't gone there. Now with these sex parties, because you said you went to that one and you just did a, you know, you blew that guy in front. And. You know, you know, you blew that guy in front. of people. Did you ever go to more or any kind of sex clubs and did you ever have, you know, more of a swapping situation or do anything more hardcore in that area? No. So I have gone to more sex clubs and that's been fun. And again, really gotten into the where I've really escalated the voyeurism aspect. And it's like I've had some super, super

hot experiences like where I'm just so wet I'm just dripping down my leg you know and then I'll be in a room with someone you know the guy that I'm there with and you know where other people we leave the door open so other people can watch what we're doing and um that's really hot when you have when you are super connected to your partner and what I love it's like I just love that people are watching it and they can see it they can see how hot we are to and how into each other we are and how reactive we are, you know, our bodies are and just what he can do to me and letting other people see that. Like, you know, it's like, it's kind of like a tease for them.

I love it. Yeah. I just totally get off on that. But I haven't engaged, like, in that specific instance, there were people just, before we went into the room when he, he, my partner had me just up against the wall. there were people like literally I could feel them breathing on me they were so close they were hoping that I would you know one of us I think would reach out and say hey tap in or whatever you know and we didn't and even though it was weird because even though they were that close he and I were so locked in

on each other like that's all we were focusing on I knew people were there I knew people were there but that was a whole part of what made it so hot right you know they were so close they wanted in on it and and you know but we were just we're just so about each other and so connected so anyway yeah no one because I would think that the sex parties the sex clubs would maybe have led to those threesomes you know because there's more than one person there already you know so I I know and you know I had the same thought I mean I honestly thought because I couldn't figure out okay so maybe we just grabbed some like with a guy I'm like, okay, maybe we, that guy that I went to that one I just mentioned, he was not into, you know, another guy watching another guy touch me.

He was not going to go for that. Yeah. So it would have to be a woman. And in that circumstance, you know, it might be, that would be, you know, when I think about it, ideally, it would be like, oh, yeah, to have a one off that way. That would be fun because I'd never have to see her again. And she, you know, it would be very random and just fun and in the moment. And that would be that. And so, but, you know, again, it was like finding a woman that I want, I guess, because I've been with men, I want to have, I want to look at her and be like, she's hot. I'm excited, you know, and, and it's hard for, I guess it's just harder for me to get, get revved up about a woman the same way I would, a man, you know, you know,

And I think it's probably at this point, I think I just have to jump in and try it. Because I haven't really, in all fairness, I haven't given a woman the chance to turn me on. Yeah, I was going to ask if that was on your bucket list. Like, did you ever say, hey, I'm going to try that out? Yeah, I would love to. Yes, yes. No, even just you and the woman, like just solo. Yes.

Yeah. Was that on your list? and did you ever do it or not yet? It has been on a list and I haven't done it. Yeah. Yeah. Just to like do some solo. Yeah, just to see, you know,

what that's all about. And I don't, I don't know what my mental block is on that one. I don't know. Maybe you're just not into it. Maybe it's not a mental block. Maybe it's just not a turn on. Like maybe, like you said, maybe you're just not turned on by women at all.

I mean, I feel like there is a spectrum, right? That Kinsey scale. Yeah. You know, maybe you just fall way more over to that, you know, the heterosexual side of things. I know, but I want to be. You want to be less that way. I love that. You're overachiever.

I know. I want to, I want to, I just want to experience it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And, you know, and maybe it's more like, and probably it's more just like so I can say cross it off the list. Totally. You know, because it's, now it's daunting, you know. I'm like, there it is. It's still there.

And all my listeners know it's still there. And it's like, it's my, it's my threesome, you know, wall of shame. Like, I can't, I need to put my threesome dunce cap on. Like, I can't get it done. But I, I know I'm really kind of like determined. Like, I just need to conquer this mountain. Right. What are the other, you said, like, this is, there's one thing that, you know, I haven't conquered,

but I, and it's weird because I've done so many crazy things. Like, what are the, like, give me that list of all these other things that you, have done. Well, so, you know, a lot of BDSM stuff. Yeah. I mean, you know, I, so I was a collared sub for, you know, a long time. Mm-hmm. And really engaging in that.

And, you know, and all of the, you know, this guy was very into all the, you know, the shabari and the rope tying and letting him, you know, go through all that with me. letting him, you know, edge me and be totally in control of me and tell me when I could come and when I couldn't come. And he literally, like, I have no idea where this guy got his creativity. But I'll tell you, in that three and a half years, it's like every time we had sex, it was different. Like, I don't know where he got his playbook. It was, it just never got boring or. monotonous. Like I was just as hot for him, you know, at the end as I was in the beginning. I mean,

it never, that passion and chemistry never died down. And it was always something different. And he was always pushing a different boundary. And he was really, again, respectful about it. Like, this guy really took me on a journey. And just with new stuff and new things and all the time. And I hope that I was as good a partner to him, you know, as he was to me in that sense. And I hope that I can be, I hope I continue to be a good partner to other people, you know, other people. Yeah. And in keeping it fun and fresh. And I mean, just, you know, the spanking, the slapping, the, oh, choking.

I don't know. All of the above. You're into it. I love that shit. Like I, who knew? Right. Who knew? Does anyone in your life know?

Like, like, that's just a quick question I had. I was wondering because I know, listen, you're anonymous on your show. Are you open to your girlfriends or your, like, you know, people in your life, would they, do they know about this whole side of you? Considering it now, it seems like it's not just your sex life. It's also your work life, right? Because this is what you do now. You have this show. You have a blog.

do other people know like in your inner circle a few do yeah a few do but not many you know not many yeah I try to keep it I still try to keep it

you know low key I guess on the download because again it's just it's I mean I don't want to be I don't want to run into any problems I think what I'm most concerned about

is that there's certain organizations and things that I belong to that are private. Yeah. And if they catch wind of this, it's perfectly within their right to disallow me to be a member anymore. Because when you're private, a lot of people don't realize that, you know, like whatever organizations you belong to that aren't public, you know, if they're private, that you, they don't like what you put on your Facebook wall. And, you know, if it, that you can, they can ask you no longer to be there. So I just, there's just things I'm, I'm worried about.

And I guess I also maybe don't want all of my, my family member, like my grandma to know and things like that. Well, listen, the way I look at it is like most people don't tell their friends or their family about their sex lives. And like, no one's, like, wearing that on their sleeve anyway. I mean, most people's sex life is their own. private business, right? So, you know, I was more wondering, like, oh, with your girlfriends, like your real close friends that you talk. Yeah.

Yeah, because you have this whole thing going on or would they be totally surprised of what you are doing, like on the deal? I think that it was surprising for them in the beginning, but nobody, you know, the close friends, just because, again, you know, I just never shown that side of me. myself. Now it's, you know, now I've been doing it for six years, so it's not surprising. But nobody, you know, the close friends, you know, they, they don't, it doesn't, you know, nobody, it doesn't bother them. I mean, they don't, they're not certainly out there having as wild of crazy sex as I am. But, yeah, it's not a big deal. I mean, it's fun, you know, it's actually fun. It's fun for us to

talk about. It's, they, some of them listen to the podcast, you know, so. And what do you do on your show. I mean, because I assume you started out that first year really talking about your journey and what you were doing. You said you even had the guys that you were having experiences with. They would come on as your guests, correct? And you were talking now, what do you do now? Six years later. Are you still doing that coupled with other things? Yeah, same format. But then I, but then I also have, you know, you can only hear yourself so much. Yeah. And then, and that was originally. one of the reasons why I thought I won't, this show won't continue on because since, you know, just solely being me having to be out there and go basically

having sex and coming back and talking about it all the time is really unsustainable, you know, because and I mean, look, even when we had COVID, that sort of slowed things down a little bit. Thank goodness I had regular partner. So I was still able to, you know, very carefully navigate that.

but it, you know, I just, I just didn't think that that was a sustainable model. So I switched it up to where it's me. And then it's also I have guests on now. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And it's fun because now I get to like, you know, I get so, you know, as I'm sure as you do, people ask you questions. They want references or what, you know, what should I do about this? And so I will go and source a guest.

I'm like, well, I don't know that I'm the expert in that, but let me, that's an interesting. subject, well, let me go find somebody and get them on the show. Right. They can really speak to that. And so, you know, so kind of, I'm sure as you've experienced, it's really fun. Now I can have these great conversations with people that I otherwise wouldn't, wouldn't have met. Right.

I mean, you're the curious. I mean, it's called The Curious Girl Diaries. People could find it on any podcast up. They could go find you. And but because you're curious, right? So, of course, you were curious with yourself. You're also going to be curious about other people because I think, you know, for me, I always feel like I learn.

A lot of people, when. when I get to, when I'm talking to someone and I get that they're like not listening to other people, I'm like, you're really like missing out in life because like some of like my, like my biggest light bulb moments that have happened to me have occurred while I'm talking to somebody else and they said something that just like, you know, rang true to me or whatever, you know. And so I really think that you do learn, um, so much about yourself by talking to other people, right? Yeah. And so you're curious. So it would be such a natural progression for you. to start out talking about yourself,

but then to also bring in other people and talk to them. And you're probably still learning about yourself by doing that. Oh, absolutely. I mean, everybody that interviews me and, you know, pull something different out than somebody else did. And vice versa, I hope when I, you know,

my goal when I have a guest on is to hopefully, you know, I pull something, I pull some things out of them that their listeners have never heard before. Right. And, you know, that didn't know about them, you know, because a lot of times, you know, the listeners, they just, they're hungry for more and more information about you. And it's hard for me to be creative enough to just know what to volunteer all the time. But when somebody asked me a question, I'm like, huh, nobody's ever asked me that. Great.

That's okay, here we go. Let me tell that story, you know. Yeah. Yeah, no, it's interesting. I love how you have it set. You have it a little bit set up. Like I do worry, you're anonymous, you know. I know for me, my audience is always like begging me to like out myself.

I'm always like, that's just like a card that I have. I don't ever, I don't know that I'd ever play it. You know, it really works this way. You know, do you ever plan on coming out or does it really work for you as well, like the way that you have it set up? Well, I think I will come out, but only I'm probably going to do it more like in a membership or Patreon format. Yeah. Yeah. And I have, you know, the original, my actually original inspiration for the beginning of this whole thing.

What I, the way formulated it or came up with the format was actually through a girl called Girl on the Net. And she's an amazing blogger. She writes, she's been doing, writing these sex stories for years, amazing writer. And she's over in the UK. And she stayed anonymous. So that's where, you know, I got that idea in the beginning. And she's still anonymous, but she does, you know, like with her blog and everything, but she also has a, you know, a Patreon group.

And so they get to interact with her. You know, I'm okay with that. Yeah. If it's behind a, you know, I guess it sounds strange if it's behind a wall. Because that's a community. And I, you know, and I feel like I would trust, you know, I would trust that, hey, look, I mean, if you want this to keep going, you know, somebody else. me or whatever, then I can't. Then I'll have to set it down. But, you know, this is,

this is kind of our little secret and we get to hang out together. And, you know, and I, I'm always looking for new ways. Plus, I really, I love engaging with my listeners. I let them leave me voicemails. I let them leave, they get to leave me voicemails, you know, or up to five minutes. You go to the website, Curriscollarys.com. There's a pink tab on the right hand side. And people just leave, you know, and we can talk about whatever they want, you know, and we just exchange voice smells. I like it because you know, after doing it this long, I like to know who's out there listening and what are their lives like and what are they about?

Yeah, I love it. Yeah, so it's really fun. And, you know, just to jump back to what you said in the beginning, I don't want to forget when you said, do you think we have some same listeners. I think we do. I don't know if it was, I don't know if it was your show or not. I forget somebody recently left me a voicemail,

one of my regular listeners. And he said, I was kind of pissed. Not pissed, but I was like, what? He said, I read a listener's comment. on the show and he said, I was listening to another show and she read the same email verbatim that you've got and I'm like, somebody's two-timing me. What do you mean? What do you mean the same email?

Somebody, you know, somebody sent in an email and I read like, I'll read emails on the show. Right, right, right. Right. A comment or whatever it was. It was about his sex life or maybe he had a question or what. whatever. So a lot of times I'll read those aloud and then answer it. Yeah. And he apparently is sending it to every, every podcaster in the same genre that he listens to. And so I was like, you mean I'm not the only one?

I don't think that was me, though, because I don't typically read people's emails on my show. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Then it wasn't you. That it was somebody. That's so funny, though, because I'm like, I wonder if it was that guy that left that voicemail for me. I love that you have like a send a voicemail thing. Give out, give your shout out to every, for all your stuff. Do you have a Patreon now? Do you just have like give it your website again and I'll give links to everything. Your website again is the curious girl diaries.com, correct?

Yes. So yeah, the curious girl. So this way, I just tell everyone go to the website because, you know, all your, all my social media is, unfortunately it's not the same handle. So I don't want to, you know, screw everybody up with that. but just go if you go to the website the curious girl diaries.com if you want to leave me a voicemail on every page you just there's a pink tab on the right hand side you can click on that if you want to link to my socials just scroll down they're all at

the bottom of every page and also you can listen to the podcast of course that's on the website it's also on every major syndicator of podcast just just type in the curious girl diaries yeah and that'll pretty much get you everything you want now I am working on and I anticipate it should be done in about a week. I'm just setting up, because the one thing I get asked the most is how to create a sex bucket list. Yeah. So I'm creating just a quick little like 30 minute course and, you know, you just, you can download it and it'll show you exactly what I did and how I do it and hopefully help inspire people. You don't even have to make a sex bucket list with it if you want.

It can just maybe like, I want to get creative, you know, for a few more sexual encounters with my significant. or just by myself next time I want to be inspired and ready. You know, you can use it to sort of prime the pump and get your imagination going. So I do have that and I don't know when you're going to air this, but that should be ready to. When will that be out? That should be up in about a week and I'll have that on my website. So they can just go to the website. Look at the tabs on the top.

You'll see it. You know, it'll be make your sex bucket list. Thank you so much for coming on. This was like super fun. I'm going to put all the links, like I said, to your thing. people should definitely check out your podcast as well as your, what is it called, an e-book or your course or what is it? I haven't officially named it yet. You know, it's just going to be the, yeah, it'll be just a little tutorial, I guess, on how to make a sex bucket list and also creative ideas on how to spice up your sex life.

Yeah, which I think a lot of people would benefit. And I love that March Madness thing that you're doing. I mean, you know, I wish. March masturbation. Madness fun. Anybody can join in. It's not too late. It's really simple.

Just, you know, you just, basically you just commit to masturbating every day. You can't skip a day and double up. You just have just every day. And it's amazing. You'll be surprised at the things that come from it. Yeah, I love it. No pun intended. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I love it. I think that's great. Thanks so much for calling in, Leila. This was great. I'm going to have you back on for sure. Oh, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. It was great.

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