Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 513 - Kitty and her Bisexual Boyfriend Blake (episode #510) are Anal, Threesomes, Swinging, Latex and More

Episode Date: August 3, 2022

Kitty and her Bisexual BF Blake (episode #510) are into anal, threesomes, swinging, latex and more she called in to talk all about it. When did she start swinging? When did she start her open relationship? How open are they? Tune in for all the details which include her sexual past and how open and curious she was from the get go, how she used Tinder to experiment and do all the things she had fantasied about including girl on girl experiences, a threesome with a couple, a tag team experience with a backpacker, her first experience being dominated and more, her solo experimenting with anal including using butt plugs, toys, huge insertions, her BBC experience while traveling and what exactly went down, her interest in pegging and how she brought that into her relationship, how she’s a true switch who enjoys both being a dom and sub, how she prefers the mistress/slave dynamic, her boyfriends interest in latex and strap on play, their swinger club experiences and what they’ve don while there, why she lives the vibe at the swingers clubs so much, what’s on her sex bucket list and a whole lot more. Her instagram: https://www.instagram.com/switchbicouple/  To see an anonymous pics of Kitty + most of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You're going to see today's guest, Kitty, as well as her hot boyfriend, Blake. You can see anonymous picks of them. That's who I have on today. Remember Blake, episode 511. I just posted his episode. This is his girlfriend, Kitty, calling in to talk all about their relationship, as well as her past, which is super. Interesting. Kitty was very open and curious from the get-go, and she went out and lived her best life and experimented. It did everything she wanted to do sexually. Way before she ever met Blake. She used Tinder as a way to, for most of her hookups and experimenting early on. She met up with women. She met up with guys. She got into all kinds of things.

One of her hookups with a woman was with the couple. She also started to experience being dominated and being a dom herself. She's definitely a switch. And she loves the whole mistress slave dynamic. She talks about that. She's a size queen. She likes somebody with a little more girth than the average guy. So she's very into BBC.

She had a whole BBC experience that she talks about. that she had while she was hooking up with Blake. She talks all about how they got into all the things that they did, including pegging, how she loves that and how it makes her feel, as well as how they got into swinging and latex and strap-ons and all that kind of good stuff. She does go into their swinging experience, what she's into and why she likes going to the swingers clubs, as well as like she talks about the stuff that is on her bucket list, including a gang bang. Trust me, she will be back on talking about that gang bang. But in the meantime, she talks about so much in this episode. So you have to listen to it because you're going to love it. And if you want to

see picks of her, she's like a 12, okay? Anonymous picks of her. She loves lingerie, expensive lingerie. And that's what you see her in on my Patreon. She sent in those picks. You could see her there. Anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Kitty. She gives a shout out for her Instagram at the end of the episode, too. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Kitty. Hi, Kitty. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you all the way in Australia?

What time is it there now? Hi, Kathy. Yeah, it's 11 p.m. So getting close to midnight. Yeah, and I'm 9 a.m. Yeah, I'm excited to talk to you, Kitty, because I do know some stuff about you. It's like, it's interesting to do a couple this way, because typically I have a couple on together.

But what I chose to do with you and your boyfriend, Blake, is like, tape you both one after the other. We got your boyfriend's information side of the story, you know, and he talked about you. He talked about himself and his backstory. His episode, Blake, aired, I think it's 5-11, right? That was the episode number. No, 5-10, actually.

People should go listen to that if they want to hear more about Blake. But what I promised my listeners and what a lot of people wrote in after, listening to Blake's episode is like we want to hear from Kitty Blake's girlfriend. Okay. So now what I know about you is you're very into anal. These are like just the bullets and then you're going to get into the specifics. You're a switch.

You could be very dumb. You like pegging and you know, so you're not only just into anal for yourself. You're into anal for your guy. You're into, you're a size queen. We'll talk about that. And you have a gang bang, which I've had like you have a gang bang fantasy that I have had a one episode on. okay you are like your your fantasy is like five bbc's right i mean i have i have a girl named christine

who did that fantasy that you're you want to live out but you're listening yes it's you're super open-minded you're bisexual we'll talk about that i mean you you have full drama girls and you go to swingers clubs with blake so let's get into the backstory of you and then we'll get into your open relationship with blake as well well i don't know where we should start with you You tell me. So much to cover. I know. Well, maybe starting with kiddie, the name came from essentially part of the mistress story.

I had an outfit that had a couple of like kitty cat ears. It's a bit of like a mask. And just to sort of start out that fantasy, that's where the name kitty came from. Oh, really? Yeah, I think that was a bit of a joke around whether or not he was a bit of a cat. He liked a cat in the last episode with Blake. But, you know, it came from that mystery. of story so we can get into that a little bit later.

So I love Blake's episode. You defended me a little bit and said that I was already corrupted and he didn't necessarily correct to me. And I think that's, yeah, I liked that you stood up for me even though you hadn't spoken to me yet. And that's definitely true. I think I started sexually out quite young and probably didn't really explore that until I was 18.

And in Australia, the drinking age is 18 here. So you can go out and drink at sort of. when you finish high school. I think it's 21 over in the States from memory. So here, you know, you finish high school, you go out and I really let loose and enjoyed myself. I had a couple serious boyfriends through high school, but nothing serious sort of going into university.

And I wanted to experience some, you know, sexual desires that I've always had. I think I'm that sort of stereotype, maybe that unicorn that watched porn really young and was into a bit of like lesbians and stuff, watched a bit too much and got a bit desensitized. So by the time I was out and drinking and partying and dating, I wanted to experience more than just the vanilla men and female. Yeah. Yeah.

And so I really took to sleeping with people, I would say, rather than dating, not necessarily sleeping around. I would have sexual partners and there would be a little longer term, but not necessarily serious relationships. And I quite like that. A big part of that is I'm a little bit younger than Blake. So when it comes to that age was probably when tender was coming out in the market. And so it was a little bit easier to find those sexual connections and sort of say,

hey, I like the look of you. Do you want to go for a drink? And there was sort of a nonchalantness about it, which was quite good in this day and age. And through that, I had some experiences connecting with some women. So through my early sort of 19, 20, 21, connect. with some women, having some one-on-one experiences there, and always just sexual, never emotional, I would say. And then with men, it was mostly one-to-one men.

I don't necessarily have a type except for just older than me. So far as 18, 19, 20, they would be late 20s, 30, 35, sometimes closer to 40. And I think that's probably where I've experienced a lot of different sexual desires and that other men had and I could experience what I was into or what I wasn't. I remember there was one date that I went on where someone was really into feet and I experienced that night that I'm not into people sucking my toes. Oh, interesting, yeah. Yeah, and it was really quick in terms of, I understand that you like it, but I don't.

Can we please move on? And since then, I learned that early on and I've tested it since and I still don't like it. So that was a cool experience. But let's get back to like so you're on Tinder, you know, and you're using it to experiment because you're this young girl who has watched, like you said, a lot of porn and you wanted to do more, do the stuff that you saw that you had probably been, you know, fantasizing about. So what happened during that first? Like how many girls did you see like how did those first experience go? Was it something that you really enjoyed? Was it, oh, this isn't as great as I thought it was?

Yeah, so I think I would go out on a night out and more often than not find a girl to make out with than a guy. Yeah. And so that came up and never go home with them. But I think I'm that sort of party girl, I guess, that would enjoy that and find a pretty girl and make out with them. When it came to some experiences that I had, there was one where I think it was one of my first experiences where I found someone online that I wanted to potentially. go and have a one on sort of almost like a one-night stand because they were quite a while away. Yeah. And that was earlier on.

So it was, I think when you're out and you're drinking and you're having a kiss, there's an error of confidence and like, you're just going with the flow of the night. Whereas if you're going out of your way, driving an hour and a half to potentially meet someone for the potential of, you know, having a sexual connection, it's a bit different. And I went to this girl's dormitory, I guess, would be the best way to. explain it. It's like on-campus housing in university for essentially just a late-night drink and see whether or not we would click and watch a movie and potentially play. But that didn't really go to plan because there was a fire alarm. Oh no.

And so I was evacuated out and was sort of stuck with girls that I'd never met before and was, you know, counted in. Yeah, and it was just such a jarring experience. Yeah, and as soon as the lights were off, I was out of there, and I essentially ghosted her and never sort of connected back, because I was just sort of mortified, and that was really early days, and it took me probably like six more months to try and bridge another connection, just because it was like, oh, I got out of my comfort zone.

I was trying to even potentially see whether or not there was something more to my bisexualness than just a sexual one, because I was going out of my way to potentially. meet someone, right? The next one was connecting with a lady that was part of a couple. So that was more sort of safer territory. And that was just essentially joining in on a bit of couple safe play and really sort of safe boundaries where she didn't want me to touch him, but just focus on her and she would focus on me and he wouldn't touch me and it was very much about servicing her. And I was very comfortable with that. And what I liked about that was that we built up, you know, our boundaries over, you know, two to three weeks over text messages and called and

face-timed. I was sort of prepared from that previous experience of not going in blind and sort of not knowing what to expect, but really sort of setting the scene and the boundaries so that everyone was more comfortable walking in. But then also saying, if it's not right, then you can bow out and it's all good. Yeah. And that experience was perfectly fine and it only happened once and I have fun memories of it. So it was a good experience. And I still dabble in the bisexualness now.

I think Blake spoke about a forcum that we had where we played more recently. And I've sort of settled on the bi stuff as for me, sexual, I love a female's body. I will kiss another female more than I'll kiss another man when we're playing sexually. I just prefer that, just how I am when we play. But it's not emotional for me, and I do quite like it. But for now it's very much in that sort of swingers sort of play area. But I've probably only had maybe four or five women sexual experiences prior to over the time of my sexual career, I guess you could call it.

Just a bit of different flavour, right? So because I was not dating long term, it was really interesting. to be able to see different personalities and what people were into. I think it's always really interesting when you meet someone and you think you understand what turns them on and then you're like, I don't, didn't flag you for that as all. There was one guy that was super polite and, you know, wouldn't hurt a fly. I was really, really nervous, but really liked to not necessarily choke, but pin someone down and show some dominance.

And I really didn't expect it. It was like the furthest thing that I thought that he would be more of that DOM type. And I think that was one of my first experiences dominated. And I think that sort of switch between, you know, your one thing to another is really interesting. And that was awesome. I think when I was dating around, it was more around just making sure that honestly I was self-served and pleasured. I wanted to experience different things. And I was also very horny and I got bored really easily because I wasn't looking to settle down.

right and so and and and and to be fair neither were the guys like this I think like thinking back to that time and kinder was sort of lively here it was very much I maybe I was just sort of taking advantage of the situation but I was able to have these really great relationships with men that didn't expect much sexually but also like respected me as well like we would go into these situations and be like look where we're here for a good time like no we'll go out and we'll you know have it wasn't just I would come over and just give them a suck and, you know, we would play. We would have, you know, a dinner or something like that. I'd have great experiences, but I wasn't looking to commit.

And I think that speaks to, if you want to get to the psychology of, I wasn't looking for a relationship because all the relationships around me, around my family, I've broken down. And I really wanted to focus on myself and my studies and my career. And I thought that was quite healthy at the time. And I think for me it was really much about just seeing what I liked and exploring that a little bit more. And through that, I had some experiences where I had my first almost tag team experience, I guess. It was very short and surprising. But I went on a date with an English backpacker and we had gone back to his place.

And we had started playing and his friend had walked in on the. the room and I don't know if it was, you know, planned or not and it probably was in hindsight. Right. And I sort of was in the moment going, why not? And came and sort of coaxed him over and sat while his friend was behind me. And then they swapped and we didn't go past that. But that was a really nice experience. Let me tell you, I give you credit because I, no, it's okay.

It's okay. But I'll give you credit because I had one guy. I spoke of this on my 500th episode where he that I was sleeping with who every time I was with him one of his friends would like walk in on us and I would always be like get the fuck out of here

because I just wasn't down with that but I was like you know looking back on it I think those kinds of scenarios are set up I don't know because like it was like every time this guy his friends would walk in no other guy I was with that happened you know so but I give you credit that you were like yeah sure

why not you know you were like It was the only time it ever happened. So I was like, why not? Yeah, that's great. But in hindsight, yeah, 100% set up, I would say.

And I mean, I had fun. Everyone was there for, I guess, that reason. And I think when you're open-minded, and I'm quite strong-willed and strong-minded, I can speak for my own safety

in a lot of these scenarios. And I try and bet people quite a lot as well. Like, I will build quite a bit of a connection and make sure that I feel safe with someone. Yeah, that's important. that they respect my boundaries, right?

I'm also quite careful when it comes to sexual health and make sure that I'm protected, and I generally will always use protection in the form of a condom. And if someone's squeamish to that, then they don't want to, then that's an extreme, like, red flag for me, and I just move on. So it's really easy to find people to connect with.

So I'm just sort of reliving my early days. It's really interesting. So I'd obviously, through university, dating around the beer and then from some way of life found myself in a relationship which the for my own boundaries I won't sort of go into too much yeah but that relationship was a little bit more open um and through that I had a couple partners that I would have relationships with maybe you know once every six months or so it wasn't an active time in my life where I was more sexual so I had this previous younger life where I was playing around a bunch and then life sort of hit sort of, you know, early 20s.

I was sort of seeing someone and responsibilities were happening, but I obviously still deep down this sort of sexual person. And so was my partner at the time and we had a bit of an open relationship that my partner at the time was seeing someone more than I was. And so that's, I think Blake mentioned that that relationship ended maybe a month after Blake and I started to connect and that's right. And that's perfectly fine. I think everyone has their own reasons of separate.

But through that sort of period, which was a couple years, I turned that sexual energy to playing with myself and experimenting with toys and butt plugs and, you know, dildos and all of that stuff. Because when you're in a relationship and you play with other people maybe once every six months, I still needed to get that energy out some way. And I wasn't necessarily sharing it with anyone. And so I take photos of myself and I'm a bit of an exhibitionist. So if I was starting to talk to someone, it would be nice to have those sort of, you know,

photos handy to tease them a little bit. But so I always wanted to try anal, but I'd never necessarily gone down that sort of rabbit hole too much. So I experimented with toys. I wanted to make sure that I would be comfortable with it and fell down the rabbit hole of anal porn and, you know, taught myself what I needed to do and bought those little cute butt plugs that have the little diamonds on the end that are a bit shiny and loved it and started to play with dildos and worked myself up to quite a large, I think it was like a seven or inch dildo. I think it was pink, which is what Blake remembers so fondly.

Right, it was a big dildo, big pink one. Yeah, and I think the photo, so obviously I was in that sort of open relationship, Blake and I were co-workers at the time, and we was texting one night, and he mentioned something about no one ever being able to entertain the idea of taking his clock annually. Yeah. And I was like, how so? I was sort of aiming to, you know, for a tick pick of sort of, to see what he was sort of talking about.

And so teasingly, I sent him a photo going, is it like this with sort of like a seven or eight inch doodoo? Oh my goodness. The vanilla girl, like he said. And I sent it on WhatsApp so you can see when someone opens the text message and it goes red and he didn't respond for like 20 minutes. And so that was quite funny and he came back and he did send back a photo of his cock, which floored me as well to be fair. It was quite a nice photo.

And from there it sort of was like fireworks and it was very, sexual very straight on. That was definitely the mindset. I went into quite a lot of my engagements, not engagements, but, you know, relationships with men in that way, sort of putting my, you know, heart on my sleeve going, this is what I want, this is, you know, not what I'm looking for at the moment, you know, take it or leave it. And I build a lot of respect and sort of, you know, understanding what my boundaries are through

that process. And through that, honestly, found an incredible love with Blake. And Blake sort of covered that a lot of our sort of current relationship in his podcast with you. There was two to three years from the initial photo to when we sort of locked down where there were a couple interesting things that we got up to while we were sort of playing around with each other and not committed. One thing, and I think you might like this story actually, I went overseas to the US for work and we had not gotten serious at the time and Tinder was still a thing and you could sort of set up a feature on

Tinder where you could set off your location prior to going to the city. Oh really? That's cool. Yeah. You can tee up dates prior to going to the city that you're going. And so I set it to the city that I was going and sort of found some dates and like playfully with Blake was sort of saying, you know, who should I meet up with? and he was sort of egging me on to meet a black man because I'd never been on a date with one

and it sort of was a fantasy of mine. And so I'd been messaging a couple people back and forth and I really hit it off with one individual that was going to take me out on a date on my second night when I got there. And so I went on a date and we didn't sleep together that first night because I was really nervous being in a city, obviously first night wasn't with sort of anyone I was familiar with. I wanted to make sure I felt safe and comfortable, came back to the hotel message, Blake, and I was like, oh, my God, like, you know, he was amazing, like, should I go out on another date with him tomorrow night?

He sort of begged me on, he said, yes, absolutely, like, that would be amazing for you. I know this was the fantasy of yours, and so the next night we went on another date, and he came back to my hotel room, and I had slept with my first blackmail. And I think he remembers, see, I don't remember too much of the night because it was quite a long time ago. And Blake has this incredible memory that I don't have. And so if I tell him something and it turns him on, he'll remember it forever. Yeah. Whereas this is, you know, four or five years ago for me now and I don't remember every single detail.

But I do remember sort of going to the bathroom and sort of getting comfortable and sort of saying like, you know, get yourself comfortable with the beds there, all of that stuff. sort of freaking out in the bathroom going, oh my God, what am I doing? What am I doing? And then coming out. And he was like already undressed, stroking, sort of ready for me. And I just sort of fell to my knees and got to work. And it was a bit of a blur for a while. And it lasted, God, like two hours or so, which Blake was sort of holding on for an update. And with the time difference, it was really interesting. I think he was probably quite tired or it was in the middle of the day at work.

I wasn't sure. And that was a really interesting dynamic because, like, thinking now to how, you know, how open we are and how we can really accept each other, it really came down to, you know, we really embraced each other's sexual desires, day dot from early, from early days, that we could see each other happy in those scenarios and support each other. And so, yeah, that was an experience that I had. And you were on the same page. I mean, at this point, when you were.

you're there, you know, meeting with that guy and Blake's like waiting on the edge of a seat for the details. You already know that he's into guys and this is a part of it because, I mean, you guys are very well matched in that. I think you not only respect each other's sexual, you're very on the same page. You really like the same things. Yeah, I think when you open up a relationship or the start of something with a photo, the dildo on your arm. Yeah. really sort of opens things up. After, I sort of came over and I think the first podcast with Blake may have alluded

until I came over and let him fuck me in the ass straight away. It was a couple times of us meeting before that happened, I would say. But over sort of six months of regular sort of playing, you begin to open up. And I would say for women, it's a lot. lot easier to open up about your fantasies, but for men, you sort of keep it closed to your chest. Well, if it's being into the same sex, is that what you mean? Because I think, right?

Whether you're that, because he was into guys, that's what you're talking about. It's harder for a guy to admit that. Yeah, but I think also his other kinks are not very vanilla as well. Right. So Blake's into, obviously, sexually by. He's not emotionally into men and don't like kissing. but sexually likes to explore that. And I've watched gay porn and got enough to it.

So that wasn't any sort of shock to me at all. But then also the latex, the mistress, the power play, the switching, like all of that stuff is very, it's not your vanilla kinks, like foot fetishes or fishnet stockings or things that would usually show up on the front of a porn page, for example, that I would experience. And so I wasn't closed off to it. but I think he knew that to share that you sort of had to build a little bit of relationships so over six months of us playing and he sort of saw that I was you know open to

most things and we we communicated you know as as colleagues and as friends really well he was able to share that and I was able to share things like you know I've watched gay porn that's fine to me and I have no issue with that and I've had boyfriends when I I was in high school tell me that, you know, they've wanted to experience someone, put a finger in their thumb, for example. And so it's not something that has been completely off my radar, being always open-minded to things like that. And I think when you're a sexual person yourself and I'm, you know, exploring butt plugs

and all of that stuff, in all your searches you come across, all the weird and wonderful things on the internet. And I wasn't closed off to anything. And so that was awesome for me to be like, hey, I'm, this wildly sexual person who's always getting bored of things. Here's this other wildly sexual person that's always getting bored of things. Why don't we try and get bored of things together? Yeah.

And so that led to a few years of us playing around and doing all of that. And COVID hit and we fell in love and we've moved in. And we get to still explore all the crazy, wonderful fantasies that we have. And I think that was always really important to me. I think long term was, I didn't go into like a lot of the early relationships like wanting a longer term relationship. But I also always found like I wanted to find someone that I would be able to have a long stability. But also be able to explore all the weird and wonderful things that that life has to explore.

So yeah. But wait, back to that BBC guy. Was that, you know, because my listeners get mad at me with like, why didn't you ask how big as dick was? Like blah, blah, blah. You know, like they wanted to paint that picture. that guy, I'm assuming, did you trade? Because, you know, Blake did talk about you being a size queen? Like, did you talk about that when you were hooking this scenario up? Like, was that a part of that fantasy? Like, I want this guy. You got to have a big dick. I want, you know, and did you know ahead of time?

Did you see it? Was it a shock to you? Was it gigantic? Like, what was the deal? I did get a photo from memory ahead of time. I think. Photos can be just seething though, depending on the angle. Totally. And not to say like it wasn't, it wasn't big. It was definitely long but not thick. And if I think back to the experience, I definitely like a bit more girth. Yeah, me too.

Yeah. Right? I really enjoy sucking. It's something that I do. Oh yeah. Blake mentioned that. That was one of the bullets about you. He mentioned you're very oral and you're very good at it.

Yeah. Yeah, and he lets me practice a lot. So that's nice. But I like girth. And so when there's not enough for me to, from a girth-wise perspective, I'm a little bit of disappointed in that. In saying that, though, it was an experience in the fact that it was very athletic and it was two hours of non-stop athletic.

Yeah. Just like pumping and just almost like a jackhammer, I would explain. Like sort of action. and it was just nothing that I experienced before. But it was, yeah, it wasn't what I expected from a, from a size queen perspective. Yeah. Blake likes to call me a size queen. I would just, I think I'm a girth queen a little bit more than length.

And it's just purely for that, that sucking. Yeah, I think a lot of girls, when they say they're size queens, they mean girth. I don't know. I don't know many girls that, like, want a 12-inch dick inside them. Like, we have a cervix and they're just, like, so far. you could go. I don't know. That's just me. But wait, so with this guy, you know, did you, was it the type of thing? Did he know that you had a boyfriend and you were going to be reporting back? They weren't boyfriends at that, like boyfriend girlfriend at the time. We were just playing around.

Right. And it was more just, hey, I'm going over. You know I'm going over. I'm thinking about this. What do you think of this? He was supporting my fantasy. It was also really nice to have someone know. where you were, that I was on the date as well. Like, we were that type of relationship where, you know, I felt safe and comfortable

to say like, this is what's going on. But also, here's my location on my phone, even though you're in a different country. So you know what's happening. And I think that was also, I wouldn't have done that without,

you know, that support anyway. That backup, of course. But no, but did he know? I mean, I know that you weren't boyfriend and girlfriend, but you guys were already at the point in your situation.

I guess maybe that's what you want to call it, but in your relationship with each other that you're going to, you have this set up, he knows about it and you know that you're going to go back and tell him and he's going to get turned on by that. I mean, you're using those kinds of hookups for your hooking up as well at this point or no? It was only a couple times that that happened, but the person in the U.S. didn't know that I was reporting back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it was also the type of situation where, you know, I was there for a couple days and a city. Didn't matter, of course.

Yeah, right. And I very much set it up in terms of in that way. And I definitely didn't share photos and we didn't take any videos. It was just more anecdotal storytelling. There's no issues there. There were sort of early days. If there was someone that I was, you know, going to meet, then Blake would know. But to be fair, we were more playing with each other and the swinging sort of

happened and started when we got together more officially after like like before COVID and after COVID as well. Right. Whereas before it was just, you know, me playing and I would share stories of what I would do and Blake would get interested in terms of what would turn me on and what wouldn't so that he could potentially do a better job or things like that next time around that he played. So you get, it's COVID hits and you wind up getting locked down together and that's how

you guys fell in love, quote unquote, correct? How many years before that, though, were going on that you guys had this open relationship kind of thing? I know it wasn't a relationship, but that you guys were like hooking up with each other before you, you know, just realized you felt more for him. Yeah, so two years playing. Prior to that, we had known each other through work and through life. During COVID is when we really started into the mistress stuff. Oh, really? Because we couldn't really go anywhere. And so I really leaned into exploring mistress, pegging, all of that stuff a little bit more. Oh, yeah, yeah. Now, was that something you had ever done before with guys, you know, the pegging thing where you're pegging the guy? Like, did you ever do that before, Blake? Or was this going to be something new?

So no, I'd never done it. No. Okay. When sort of COVID hit and obviously Blake had shared with me in terms of his desires around mistresses before and we'd sort of played around with it in terms of watching some some porn together for him to show me what he enjoys and when you're locked down and you can't really do much playwise i went and bought a bunch of latex gear and and strap-ons and sort of stripper type heels and embrace that a little bit to to see what that was all about it was obviously a different side of the kink world that's like I said not really so vanilla that I'd not really experienced before. I'd obviously seen more of the dom slave dynamic through my antics, but had never really seen the mistress slave dynamic.

And so when we're all locked down, I decided to surprise Blake with Mistress Kitty for the first time, which is where Mistress Kitty came. I bought this sort of shiny red cat, masquerade type mask and to build up my confidence, called myself Mistress Kitty and walked out to where Blake was sitting and told him to close his eyes until I told him to open it. And when he did, he saw me in, you know, all of this sort of black and red latex and his mouth just dropped. And that first mistress experience was essentially just having him worship and touch all the latex and suck the strap on that I had on and it wasn't pegging at all.

Yeah. But it was sort of just me getting comfortable with what he had shown me was what he enjoyed from a, you know, porn perspective and mistress perspective. And I was like, that looks empowering for a woman. Like, let's try that. I wanted to see how it would make me feel and also how it would make me feel seeing him suck another cock, even if it was a strap on, for example. And so that experience is awesome.

And so Alara was stuck through a couple of lockdowns and we, I experimented and brought out Mistress Kitty a few more times and I was able to to peg him with a few different sizes of dildos. And those experiences are sort of once in a blue moon, I think Blake mentioned, but they're always really delightful because they bring us closer. And what's really interesting is some of the times where I'll bring out Mistress Kitty and we'll start playing and I'll be all mistrassy and his desire sort of takes over and then the switch sort of clicks in his brain and then all of a sudden he just has to be a dom and he overpowers me and then the power dynamic completely shifts and we're sort of playing with each other as to who needs to take control.

That's interesting. And often times he wins because when he sees me in latex it's sort of like a flip of the switch whether or not he goes into submissive or he needs to take me now. Yeah. And so that's always really funny from the power dynamics perspective that we have to play with. And I would say to the mistress stuff, it was really empowering to me. I still love it to this day in terms of how it, you know, it makes him feel and it, you know, satisfies quite a deep desire for him.

But also how it makes me feel. Like I feel powerful. I feel strong. I feel like it's taught me a lot from. You know, just my life in terms of how to, you know, hold myself with confidence and, you know, there's something about when you're holding a big cock in your hands as like in a mistress outfit, like how powerful you can feel. Yeah, I've heard that before from other girls that have done it.

You know, it's always interesting to me to hear that angle. Yeah, and so that's awesome. And something that's on my bucket list is actually to have another mistress with me so that Blake has to service two mistresses. but also to learn from a professional mistress as well to see how they do it. And I think that would be an awesome experience for myself and Blake. But that was quite a lot of our sort of COVID experience. And before COVID, we went to the swingers club, you know, once or twice. And then at lockdown because of all the stuff that happened with everyone getting sick.

And obviously Swingers Club is probably not the most conducive environment to not get COVID. And so we've gone back a few times. now since things sort of has eased up and we're sort of now talking about what is our sexual bucket list that we've got now that we have yet to explore. Gang bang. Okay, I know that's your on your bucket list. Gang bang thing is always so interesting to me. Because it's interesting to my listeners.

Let me tell you that Christine Gangbang one and Betty Gangbang, I mean, those are like, gangbangs are very highly downloaded episodes. Let me tell you. So when you have your gang bang. Katie, you're going to call back in, okay. Yeah, I will. We've been thinking about going to one of the events that specializes in that, where the men are heavily vetted, and there's a couple of private parties that do that in Australia here.

So we're thinking about doing one soon, so I'll definitely call you. That's definitely on the bucket list. I'm a little bit scared, though, because those parties can have like 80 men, and I don't know if I'm ready for 80. the 80 options, I would say. Yeah. What would be the number for you, like five? Yeah, I'm leaning five would be maximum, I would say.

I would say like three or four would be enough of a party for your first time. But I would say max five. I wouldn't want to get overwhelmed. You also want to make sure that it's not a crowd. And yeah, I think logistically, it's just a bit of a nightmare with too many people. Yeah, but it's so interesting that they have these events where, it's all set up for you. It always blows my mind when people tell me these stories of what's actually going down

some nights when you're like maybe at home watching TV. There's like some gang bang being organized and taking place that has been an event. And there's an, you know, a gang bang organizer that has vetted the guys like you said. I mean, it's just crazy that these things actually happen or taking place. You know, that it's like real. The more and more we get into this lifestyle, it's actually crazy. that I found recently that there's places that book out entire resorts for like a week on end. And there's like 30 to 50 couples that go to an island and completely book it out and just go crazy for a week.

Imagine being the workers there? Where are those workers? I went on my episode like what goes down. You know, because it's a regular resort, right? They're renting it out. So it's the same workers that work there when, you know, the families are there. And then, oh, my God, one week, it's just like everybody's there fucking like, I just wonder. Have you, you got to go to one of those things, too, and tell me, report back what's happening there.

I mean, I've heard from other swingers before that a lot of times on these, you know, when a swingers cruise or a swinger resort, it's not always just everybody, like a free-for-all, you know? I can't, yeah, I can't imagine it's more, more worse than a spring break type scenario. You're right, exactly, right? It's just older people that are a little bit older. But, Wade, so go back to your swingers experience that you've had. How has that been for you? Because I know that you did say in the beginning, oh, I'm a little bit of an exhibitionist.

And, you know, you're down for all. You're super open. I would think, I'm surprised that it took you that long to go to your first swingers club. You know, I mean, considering how curious you always were and all the things that you wanted to do was that's something always on your list of, you know, I want to do. And how has it been for you? I honestly think it was maybe we were busy with work. We didn't even know that they existed. Yeah.

We just did a couple Google searches. And when you connect on places like vet life and different applications that are on there, like the different, you know, sexual dating apps, they often post events and you can see sort of where they're hosted. We sort of found our way when we were ready to sort of explore that. I think it was just the easier option when you're thinking about, oh, let's find a third or let's find another. to, if there is a place where like-minded people already exist, then it eliminates the, let's go meet someone, take a whole night out of our week to potentially meet someone and it doesn't work out.

And then the night's wasted and you've got all your, you know, right? So like if you go somewhere and everyone's there for the same thing and you're not going there with the intention to play and just to meet up, then that's a net positive if things go well, right? And so we just sort of were searching around and we found this place. And we went for the pure voyeurism of it all. We weren't going to play the first night. I think we did end up playing the first night just together.

And then a couple people may have joined in just very innocently from sucking and just sort of kissing and touching. But what I've found in what I love about the sex club and the lifestyle is just how confident everyone is because of the fact that they're all. there for the same place. I found in myself that I love walking around in lingerie and just feeling sexy and confident. And Blake walks around and sort of taps my bum and are just like very liberating. And if I can go there and just, you know, just do that and strut around all night, then I've had a fabulous night. Yeah. And get compliments and, you know, you talk to wonderful people and you meet connections and we've made some wonderful friends in the lifestyle as well. And so that's good to be able to chat about things that you don't generally get to chat about.

But I think also like there's themed nights as well. So we've been able to go to the bi-themed nights where we've been able to share a cock together. And those types of things are a little bit harder to find where, you know, you're chit-chatting with someone back and forth for two, three months and it doesn't work out. Whereas you go to these events and you can potentially find someone in a couple hours and you can connect with them or never speak to them again, either or. Sorry.

And so that's been pretty good. And it's also been healthy for us as well from, for us to be able to, you know, stay connected and explore the different things. We went to an event recently that was a little bit more darker themed. And I wanted to, I've never seen rope play before and I wanted to see someone tied up

because I've always seen photos of it, but I've never seen someone actually like yet physically tied up. And, you know, I watched it. I didn't feel the urge that I wanted to jump in and be tied up, but he was there to support me and to watch that experience. And that's been an exciting, safe place to be able to, you know, work out all the different things that, you know, get you turned on.

I think most cities have events like this. You just have to get connected and, you know, put in a little bit of work, right? Yeah. To find where they're hosted and all of that stuff. But if you're nice and you're respectful, then when you chat to the right people, you should be able to find your like-minded sexual friends. Yeah, well, I know because I got picks of you guys. You're also on Instagram. We're going to give it your shout out.

But I also got picks of you guys up for my Patreon and you'll send me some more for your episode. And like you guys are like at 10.5. Okay, both of you as a couple. I don't see your face, okay? Because I do it anonymous about your bodies. You're both. I mean, because typically I just get the girl, you know, but I love that. Blake said it in. Oh my God, Blake's

ass, everyone's going nuts for it. And he's just got a really hot body. Same with you. Somebody commented. It was really funny on my Patreon. I don't know if you remember, but somebody commented on his ass. The girls said like, oh, that fucking ass. I'm like, yeah, can you believe how great hers looks? And she's like, no, I'm talking about the guys. I was like, oh,

sorry. I was like, you know. But I mean, you're both like really effing hot as far, you know, so I mean, I'm sure you got a lot of friends at the Swingers Club. That's very nice of you to say. I think everyone is beautiful in their own right. But we do get a little bit of attention.

I also have expensive taste in lingerie, and I quite like the way that it looks and showing off my body a little bit. We both work hard for our body as well. We're a bit athletic and working out. And so if anyone wants to check out the Instagram there, they're more than willing. And there's been times where we've just been sort of sitting by and someone just sort of come up going,

oh, when are you guys going to play? Because we just love to watch you. I'm like, come, nice. Thank you. We'll let you know. And I think it's very sort of nice. We try and show some pride in how we look and put our best foot forward. And so I think quite nice.

Thank you for saying so. But let me ask you a question. And people can see those pictures and you could send me more, right, for my page and for your episode. But let me ask you this. Does anybody, because you're younger and I feel like the younger generation is more open about what they're into. So I wonder, do your friends? Does anyone besides Blake and my whole audience now know about your lifestyle and what you do with Blake and before Blake? Or is this a very secret life of yours?

Yeah. So family wouldn't know, for example. But there's a couple girlfriends that I've told that I'm very open with. And it's one of those things where we're not going to tell people that we're swingers right off the bat. But if someone came into the club and we knew them, it's sort of like a safe space. you're like, oh, you're here for this too? Cool. Yeah, no, I just think like with your girlfriends. I mean, listen, no family member, like, unless you're going to be polyamorous and you're having

real relationships with other people or something. But when it comes to sex life, I mean, who discusses their, even vanilla people don't discuss their sex life with their family, you know? So it's never like, oh, who would tell their family about that? I get it if you're, you know, bisexual and you're going to be dating women and maybe you're going to have a relationship or, you know, that kind of stuff. then maybe your family needs to know about it. But when it comes to just,

if this is just what you're doing, you know, in your sex life with your partner, you know, it's more so do you tell your girlfriends? Because that's where we talk about that kind of stuff, you know, I just wonder if you're very much like,

this is who I am and everybody kind of knows that I'm super open and I'm down and I, you know, now I go to Swingers Club, or is it just that you keep that very to yourself? Well, I can tell you so two girlfriends, know that I go to swingers clubs and, you know, my relationship with Blake. Yeah.

Because they also, I was very open with them in terms of the start of the relationship. Yeah. You know, there's this man that I'm sort of, you know, seeing that we play. And they were sort of quite skeptical because when you're sort of, when you're playing with someone for two-ish years and you keep telling your girlfriends that it's not serious. And they're like, oh, right, like it's kind of serious. So now that we're on the other end of it, we've been together for so long, right, I can say like, oh, you know, we're open.

We like to play. Like, you know, we go to swingers clubs if you'd like to know more. Like, you know, I'm an open book, right? Yeah, yeah. But they also don't probe. There's also elements that, you know, I don't share, like, you know, Blake's bisexual nature and the mistress stuff is quite closed off. And it's for us to selectively share with those who can appreciate and partake in such. experiences, but that's also like a need to know kind of thing and nice to know.

Yeah. But yeah, so there's a couple girlfriends that I'm like, hey, there's a swingers club because there's also girls only night. There's also nights that are a little bit more fun and sex ed classes to teach about consent. And so it's a really holistic place that I would be able to invite my girlfriends to for a night out if they wanted to. Yeah.

I also have extremely wonderful accepting girlfriends that do not judge me. and I'm very lucky for that. Yeah, yeah. And Blake, not so much. He doesn't go around sharing all of that, but also if someone was like, hey, you follow the strictly anonymous podcast on Instagram. What's that about?

We'd be like, yeah, it's about this. Like, we're not going to hide any of that stuff, but it's not as if it's, you know, open. Our Instagram doesn't include our faces. It doesn't need to either. We just sometimes take some sexy photos and we want to share it. And that's totally fine too.

So give out your Instagram so people could, go and see you there. Is it something that you're going to eventually maybe do an only fan or something like that? Or do you just do it because you enjoy, you know, just taking your picks and you're like, why not put it someplace? Yeah, it was the latter. So we have a couple of picks. Why not? It's also another avenue to potentially connect with the different events and the different communities out there. So it's just another avenue there. It is private. Since Blake episode has gone live, we've had a lot of follow requests. Oh, you have.

And we've just started thinking about is an only fan's a thing if people want other content. But to be honest, we're busy people. And, you know, every now and again, if I buy a new lingerie said, I take a photo and I put it up there. And that's the intention of the Instagram. The Instagram is Switch Buy Couple, S-W-I-T-C-H-B-C-H-B-C-Pou. And, yeah, it's private if you follow, we'll more likely than accept you. But it's, yeah, not an only fan. We're not, you know, doing content requests or anything like that.

And it's just been a nice way to connect with some people and be able to not clog up the personal Instagram with all the dirty photos. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And why not? And I mean, for you, if you're a little bit of an exhibitionist and you, like you said, it helps your confidence walking around with your lingerie and doing, I mean, I'm sure it just is just an extension of that part of yourself. And there's also, Blake is on there too.

And if people want to listen to Blake's episode because they've missed it, you know, they could listen to that. It was episode 510. I'm going to put the link to Blake's episode in the description of this one. You guys will have to call me back. Like I said, when you have your gang bang. We'll have a few more experiences and we'll call you back, I'm sure. Yeah, for sure, because that one will go over great. Thank you so much for calling in and doing it this way and, you know, separately because I

think that it was super interesting and great to hear about, you know, just to get your backstory because so many people wanted it after listening to Blakes. And also hear your take on your guy's relationship as well. You know, it's, I like that we did it this way. I feel like we got an even bigger picture of your relationship that I typically get when I talk to a couple together. It was good to do it this way. So thanks so much for calling in, Kitty. And don't forget to send me some picks. And I'm going to tell people to go over to this. switch by couple. I don't know if you want more people, but they're going to be coming. Thank you, Kathy. I know it was awesome talking to you and we'll be in the comments on your

Instagram and YouTube. Awesome. I think Blake's already been in some of the comments. So looking forward to chatting with your listeners. And thank you so much for having us both. It's been awesome to talk to you. Yeah, no, that's awesome. Thanks so much. Bye, Kitty. Bye, Kathy. Everyone, thanks so much for tuning in to this week's episode. If you want to follow the show, follow me at Strict Anonymous on Instagram or Twitter. That's at Strict Anonymous. If you are on YouTube, make sure to subscribe. I love YouTube as a platform for my show because people comment there. And I try to reply back to every single person who post a comment. Okay, I just want to tell you before

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