Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 515 - Mark and his Wife's Open Marriage has Taken Many Different Turns Over the Years

Episode Date: August 10, 2022

Mark and his wife's open marriage has taken many different turns over the years and he called in to talk all about it. How did they meet? How did they decide to keep their relationship open? How has that worked out for them? Tune in for all the detials which include the threeseoms they have had with co-workers, the daddy dom dynamic between them, how his wife enjoys women and what she likes to do with them, her relationship she had with a lesbian and how that got strained when he started hooking up with her too, how and why he cheated on her, how she found out, how they totally grew apart after the cheating, the major life events that changed him for the better and led to them finding their way back together, how they started playing together again at swingers clubs and what they enjoy doing while there, how his wife is into bdsm and enjoys the dungeon rooms, all the mmf relationships they had, where they would meet the guys, what exactly goes down, their DP and DVP experiences and how that led to him occasionally hooking up with guys, how and why he believes him and his wife were able to make it through such difficult times, why their relationship is so great now and a whole lot more. **To see an anonymous pic of Mark's wife + anonymous pics of most of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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but also email me if you can. Strictly not on this podcast at gmail.com. The links to all the stuff I just told you will be in the description. And so today I have on Mark. Now I FN love this story. This is one of those stories that has like a beginning and a middle. and an end. There's so much scandal that happened in this relationship. But what's great about the story and why I love it so much is because it does have an end. You do find out how they work through their problems. And that's why I love watching biographies. And they typically do biographies like towards the end of someone's life, not in the middle, because sometimes it's frustrating to hear about a problem and not know how is it effing resolved you know especially if

you're relating to that person in their problem but when you see like a biography or the whole picture you could really learn from other people who have been through what you've been through but are on the other side and that is mark mark is a guy who has a wife and they were really super open and doing everything that they wanted to do and living like the best life and then she had kids and things changed and he got angry he wasn't getting the tension that he was getting just like a lot of you other guys out there okay um and he cheated so he cheated and he started seeing other people and he was sloppy and she caught him and then she revenge fucked people and she told him and They had a long time in between the time that he cheated and where they are now, where they were

really on a different page and were a really bad couple. But they found their way back to each other. And that's what's so super interesting. The other thing I forgot to mention in the beginning is there was a little scandal of how they met. I mean, this was a girl that worked, that he worked with. She was way younger than him. He was married to his wife.

wife, his first wife, and he saw her walk by and he was like, boom, they started a really hot, steamy affair. It was all about SCX and that's how they established their open relationship. It was there from the get-go. And then wait until you hear what happened, how the wife found out what went down, how he wound up with this young co-worker, who is, you know, his wife for the next 30 years. But anyway, they had like this long time where they weren't doing anything and the sex was bad because he cheated, blah, blah, blah. But they wound up finding their way back. And when they found their way back, they started swinging again. It's like full circle. And they're like living their best life. His wife loves girls. She hooks up with women. They really love the male theme,

the male male female threesomes. They've had DPs. They've had DVPs. I had to get him to tell me again what that was. You'll find out. They go to Swingers Club. She goes to the dungeon. She's into BDSM. He talks about all that kind of stuff, the stuff that they're really into, the times that he has crossed swords and hooked up with guys and how his girl loves that. They're daddy dumb dynamic they have now. And again, like I said, we focus on the dramatic change. had that really changed their relationship. And that's what's really fascinating and powerful. Because he is here to say that you could totally lose your way.

You and your partner, if you've gone in two totally separate directions, but you were once good and you both want to get back to that place, you can because they did and they are doing great. So anyway, did I just tell you the whole story? I didn't. You have to hear all the details. Okay, it's just really a great episode. I love stories like this.

They're kind of like my faves because, you know, it's like a biography. It's Mark's biography. So I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Mark. Oh, I always forget about this. He sent in his wife knows. They listen to my podcast together. His wife knows that he was calling in. She allowed him to send in some picks of her.

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Thank you for having me. No, thank you for calling in. Now, you know, I love a swingers gone wrong story, and I don't know necessarily that that's it because there is like a happy ending to you and your wife, right? It's your wife's relationship. But there was a time that you did open it up and you guys were seeing people outside of the marriage as well as together. And that didn't work out, right?

We'll discuss that. But you still are swingers and you go to swing clubs and that has helped your relationship. Those are the two things that are going to be. be going on in this story, right? Right. It started out when we got married. Actually, we decided before we got married that we would not be monogamous because we just weren't that kind of people. And we kept it on the down low and we had friends that would come over. We would go over to friends' houses. We had a neighbor that lived across the hall in an apartment building. We would either go and visit her together

or take turns. But wait, are these friends in quotes, like friends like quotes and like the go over visit in quotes? Like are these people you're banging? Well, people that we were acquainted with, the lady across

the hall worked with my wife. So it was just kind of a happy coincidence but not a close friendship where, you know, they watch my kids. No, but I mean, I Are you telling me that these are people that you were hooking up with?

Yes. Okay, yeah, yeah, that's what I meant. Like friends, like you're like, we had some friends. You know, most people when they say we have friends, it doesn't mean they're sleeping with them. That's what I meant quotes. Like friends. Yeah, yeah, that's true.

Yeah, yeah, okay. Back then, most of our friends, we were sleeping with those friends. Right, so that's the kind of friends they were. Yeah, that's the kind of friend they were. And a neighbor, and a coworker neighbor. How did you start hooking up with her? well they kind of flirted with each other her co-worker and then she moved across the hall from us and things escalated we had we'd hooked up with her one time before at her apartment she lived nearby but did not live across the hall once she lived across the hall it was on we were over there quite frequently and together and taking turns because someone had to watch the kids but uh you know How old were you guys like in your horny 20s at that time?

She was in her 20s. I was probably 30. And I'm a little bit older than her. But she was down for everything and pretty much still is. There's only a few things that I have tried to get her to do that she will not do. I mean, let me back up. She agreed to do it just because I have. asked her to. It's kind of that daddy, dumb, dynamic there where she wants to please me.

And she has finally, after our rough patch, which we'll talk about if you want to, yeah. Yeah. We've come to a good place, but there was a time where I was doing a little swinging on my own, if you know what I mean. I was gone. Cheating. I was fourth. I was not being honest and letting her know, hey, this is what I want to do. And really, she would not have mine. So when, you know, that all came out, that's what really pissed her off was I wouldn't have cared. It's the distrust. It's the deception. Of course. That's what's so crazy when you hear. And I need you to.

to try to figure out and explain, because I think the hardest thing for anyone, especially your partner, but even for people listening to the story, like to understand is why would somebody who's got a free effing pass to do whatever they want, 100% it would be totally okay to be down to do. And they got the coolest partner on the planet.

People would salivate to have her as their girl open and cool and okay with all of this. why does that person then go and quote unquote cheat? I've heard it before. You're not the first one, but I like, you know, I would like an ex. People want to know why. Greed, selfishness. I want my way and I want to control what you do, but I want to do whatever I want to do.

So there's something about, but let me ask you this. Is it because there's something about her not knowing? Because listen, you could still, you could do. you wanted to do. You could be selfish. She was allowing you to. So it still doesn't make sense in that. Was it that her not knowing got you off?

Her not knowing and the fact that I was going to have to talk to her about it beforehand. Oh. The arrangement. She wasn't comfortable with it. You know, we had the mutual veto power. If I'm not comfortable, I can cut you off if you're not comfortable. cool you can cut me off well okay there's it's a binary

decision you say yes but you might say no yeah yeah and you're like wow yeah it is kind of it is kind of selfish because you're like what a fucking asshole you know here this guy like what a fucking ass yeah that's what you would that's the best description

for a very for a long time we all are when we're young I think we're just you know what I mean it's we we work that stuff out but yeah like and how did she find out oh I was the worst she I mean I was the worst I it's almost like I subconsciously told on myself sabotage you know I believe that straight you know when you don't you have unaccounted for time yeah but you know you tell a lie and then later you tell a different why it's not the same as the first lie she sharp. She is very

meticulous with details as are most women. We know it. We know it when it's happening. She nailed me. And it pissed me off that I couldn't get away with it. And then

years went by where we were just existing together because there was so much of distrust. And at times it looked like we probably were just going to split up. But I'm very glad that we didn't because we came back around older in life, a little wiser, a little more giving.

And I can be honest now, I was a fucking asshole back then. Yeah, I love that. You could own it. And I feel so much better. I don't know if this is a male thing. You're just kind of angry. You have all this aggression. it's pin up and you know and that's why you want to go hook up and take it out on someone that means

nothing to you yeah and then leave no responsibility nothing it's completely juvenile yeah and now i was ready to be the man that she wanted to be with in the beginning and i tell her i regret not being this way the whole time but thank you for staying until I finally got on board, as she says. But we, we, we, uh, we, uh, we, we got the sex clubs. We have some sex clubs we won't go to. Uh, they're always out of town. That's the only real rule we have now is away from town.

Our, our kids are grown. Yeah. Uh, we got family on both sides and nearby. We, we don't want to show up and see anybody we know. You know, you know, it's like, You're here, I'm here, but someone will talk. And, you know, even though I ran into you at the sex club. So we just, she's very private.

She wants to keep everything, all of her information to herself. And so we go out of town. We go, it's about a four-hour drive, either direction. And we have a ball. We started going last year. And we went to the Halloween. they always have the Halloween costume parties. New Year's Eve and the people New Year's Eve that we were standing on behind waiting to get in.

They were a bit younger than us. We ended up hooking up with them later in an open area right in front of everybody. And that's something that I don't think even I anticipated that we would do. And, you know, I said, go for it. I told her and I felt zero jealousy or insecurity. Even before, I did have some jealousy, some insecurity, that twist in the gut kind of feeling. But I was like, no, I love watching you do what you do so well, even if it's not with me. Right.

So even that part of you changed as well. Yes. Yes. Interesting. Uh-huh. If sexual pleasure is a priority in your life, which I'm assuming it is, that's why you're here, right? then your sexual health should also be top priority. Knowing your STD status protects not only you, but also all of your partners.

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I'm not mad about stuff. I don't get mad about anything. Right. So I want to give and I want to go and do and travel and do stuff with her. I try to get as much time with her as I possibly can, you know. When the kids come over and go, geez. I'm going to have to share her with them. Yeah. She is their mom.

But, yeah, maybe a little bit of that, you know, maybe you were a little angry about that when the kids were little. And she would, you know, because that happens a lot. Very, very true. You know, I want you to give me that kind of attention. Totally. That sort of affection. And it was, it was not going to happen because moms are moms. Yeah.

Sorry, as a mom, you're like, it's your babe. It's about your baby, not your other babe. Yeah. Yeah, now we have more time for each other. I love this story. Let's go back to the beginning because it's such a, you know, I love that you're telling this story from like the bigger picture because you've been through it and you resolved it. I think those stories are always the best ones to hear.

Sometimes you're talking about somebody, you know, to somebody who's in the middle of it. And we don't know how does that person resolve it or that could be like frustrating to listen to because you want to know like. No ending. Yeah, there's no ending. But this story we had, that's like the middle of the story. So let's go back a little bit again. Now when I mean, because I know that you said that you guys started out from the get go. Like we are just not monogamous people.

You sound older now. So, you know, back in those days, it was very rare that people were like hooking up and saying to each other like, let's not be monogamous. Like how did you guys meet and how did you know that you were not monogamous people, including her? Because as a woman back in those days to be like, yeah, I want to fuck other people. You know, she might be. worried that you're going to think she's a quote unquote slut. You know, there's a lot of stigma

attached to that kind of thing. Well, I was married to someone else when I met her. So, yeah, we worked together and she walked past me, going to her department one day, and I just had to talk to her. And I'm not normally that kind of a person that just walks up to women that I don't know. Yeah. You know, and starts talking there. I was just infatuated with her from the first time I saw her. And she's, she has a sex drive like a man. So, you know, that did appeal to me because I had that sex drop as well. Someone that wanted to do it as much as I did.

And we did it everywhere in cars and the parking lot, everywhere we could. Yeah, cheating sex. It was cheating sex at that point, right? which could be very hot. Oh, yeah. Yes. And then she got pregnant. Oh, I love this.

This story gets more interesting as it goes. I didn't know there was all this scandal. I love it. Oh, yeah. There's a great deal. Okay, go on. So I got divorced. She said, I'll have the baby or we won't have the baby.

what do you want to do? I said, I want to be with you. Wow. How long, though, into that, you know, hot affair, did she get pregnant? Seven months. So seven months into it. And one last question before you go on with your story. Were you and your wife that you were with having issues or was like everything

great in that relationship, but in came this girl that you couldn't take your eyes off of the sex was so good? Or was your relationship at home not so great? And maybe that's why. you looked over there. Not so great. She had checked out. I had checked out.

Right. And this was just the last straw. Right, right. This was what you needed to get out of that already. Yes. Bad relationship. Okay, cool. So seven months into it, she gets effing pregnant.

You make the decision to stay with her. Now, you have to go home and tell your wife, like, oh, by the way, I got my young hot co-worker pregnant. Did you tell her or did you not? More scandal. She walked in on us walking and what we were, we were not doing it then. But yeah, we were together holding hands. Where?

Exactly. We were out in a public place. Oh, my God. You're not being very careful. You're right. You're fucking sloppy. I was crazy about her and I didn't care. He knew it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You were sabotaging maybe because you want. wanted that ending. But she was pregnant already at that time or she? Later. Okay. Before the divorce was final, she got pregnant. Okay. So your wife walks into this public place and there you are like just blatantly in front of everybody in her hometown. So everyone could see. You're with another effing girl.

She must have flipped. She did. She did. Yeah. So that was ugly and traumatic for a little while, especially for my now current wife because she was 19 at the time. And how old were you? I'm seven years. I'm seven years older. Okay, so you're 26. Right.

Okay. Cool. Yeah. And so I was afraid that she would say, I'm not down for this. This is too much. Right. But she stuck in there. And then once she was pregnant, she really felt like she was obligated to go forward.

I guess. We're together and it's been 30 years, so it's not just because of the kids. Of course. Or anything like that. But it was ugly. And we, but her, her sex drive and my sex drive, we were just doing it all the time. So there's, there's been other children after that too. And we finally put a stop to that and no more kids.

but and then you know I think you're right that's about the time that my dissatisfaction you know I'm just here to make a paycheck nobody talks to me nobody you know I'm passing through here on my way to work pretty much

and you know being a big baby yeah but listen a man child yeah but a lot of guys I think that is a valid thing like listen just like women shouldn't feel bad about having feelings even if it's there's whatever

You shouldn't feel bad about that. I think that that's a very natural thing that happens. And it does happen to a lot of guys. Like, here you are the man of the house, right? You're her guy. You know, and then in comes babies. And you don't get that attention. And it could be, I think that that could be really hard for somebody.

I'm not a man, but I can imagine. Yeah. You pretty much get the stiff arm out of the way, kid, you know, that's all that matters. And I admire that. Of course. And you want your, and you want your wife to be that. Right? Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. If she imagines the possibility of anything hurting one of her kids, I'll have to stop her from doing what she's going to do next. But that's just how she is. That's how moms are.

But I was, even though I was older, I was not as mature. You weren't that old. I mean, looking back now when you think, oh, my God, you know, you feel old at the time. but how old are you? 26, 27, 28. I still think that that's super young. You're not fully formed yet. That's all I'm saying. You know, to like totally judge yourself by your actions.

That's very true. I was not finished growing up. No. And living a more responsible life. But she had the sex drive. Back to what you were saying. She had the sex drive like a guy. And we, even before.

the the big reveal that I was having an affair with someone that I worked with. Yeah. We had decided that monogamy was not for us because she likes girls. Mm-hmm. And I like girls too. So, you know, like most guys, I think, they go into it in the beginning, or at least I did in the beginning. This is how I'm going to get some extra on the side. Yeah.

But with her. She actually had a straight-up girlfriend, girlfriend that never had been with a guy. And I took that as a challenge, and I eventually got her girlfriend. And later she admitted, I wanted to have her just for myself. I didn't want you to get with her too. But I convinced this person to be in a relationship with all three of us. And as soon as she consummated that relationship with me, my wife did not want her anymore. She wanted her just for herself.

Oh, interesting. Yeah. The relationship to women, apparently, I will never know, is very different than a male-female. And so we've had lots of people come in and out of her lives. There was a guy that I worked with. I called him up and said, hey, why don't you come over and help me fuck my wife? And he's like, you're shipping me. I said, no.

Imagine that call. Yeah. And he came over in record time, of course. And my wife said, I can't believe you did that. I can't believe you did that. I said, you told me yes. So she goes and lays in the bed and pretend she's asleep. I was like, oh, yeah.

Well, that's not going to stop him. and they he spread her legs and he went at it and this guy you know I didn't know until he took his pants off he was huge so that led to a long

not career but a span of hookups with my friend coming over and the two of us doing the guy guy girl DP everything one time all three of us came at the same time It was great.

And there was no jealousy. I was not worried about him saying or doing anything stupid because he was married. And I even hooked him up one time and took the kid somewhere and let them be together alone. Let them be together alone. Oh, okay. And it's kind of a mixture of jealousy and I want to watch. and I'm a little jealous, but he eventually had, he got caught and, because he was looking up with other people. He got caught with someone else by his wife. Oh, okay, but did you ever find out that

he was hooking up with you guys too? Did she find out? I don't think she did. I don't think she ever did, but I'm glad, you know, another friend from work, you know, everybody knew that I worked with at that company that we were open. Oh, they did? Well, some of them, well, if you tell one guy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. How long does it take before? Everybody knows.

Yeah, yeah, of course. Especially if it's that kind of a situation. You know what? Oh, yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And there was a couple of guys that I worked with that she hooked up with.

And, you know, the first one would do a great big, huge dick. Yeah. She liked him. And as far as the sex, it was good for that, and that was it. And there's some other people that we hooked up with online. We found them, you know, those don't always work out. You don't know who you're dealing with. I think that's the advantage of hooking up with friends.

You kind of know them, you can feel them out and see, hey, every town with it. Are they okay with this? Are they going to talk? Do they run their mouth? And you get more time to see if this is somebody that you would like to do this with. We've always, she got with a couple of people, you know, she paid me back a few times. And of course, I didn't catch her. She told me, you know, when we were about to break up one time. Oh, so after you cheated and she caught you in that time with you guys being kind of distant and relationship not so great. She fucked other people and then she told you. Yeah.

Yeah. I get that. I mean, you know, it's not hard. She's a very attractive woman and she's very sexual. You can look at her and tell. At least that's my opinion. Oh, yeah. That kind of stuff you could smell from a mile away for sure.

Oh, yeah. She like sex. I always say that. Like I think sex. Sexiness is like how much, it's not your, I mean, sometimes it's strictly your body and your makeup and maybe your clothes, but I think like sexiness is a lot of times like just how much you like sex. Like I just think that's what's sexy. So it's not just so much what you look like. It's how you feel about it. That's, that's very true. It's not just the surface. There's a feeling. They give off a pheromone or whatever. And you feel like, yeah, they're a match. They would do. And that's what. my wife says, I don't have a particular type. I just know it when I see it. When I encounter, that's why we go to the clubs, because it's not reading post and sending

emails and sending pictures back and forth. Endlessly, you're there. You don't know their name. They don't know your name. Hey, would you like the, or they're in the middle of an act with someone else and they look at you and they're not, you know, the long look. Come on in. And the sex club's great.

It's awesome. I wish we had started going there years ago. Yeah, I'm surprised you didn't. I'm surprised I didn't either. Maybe in an uptight asshole, sorry. You know. Oh, so you were the one that didn't want to. I got to a point where it was, you know, during the angry years, I'll call it, resentful.

I couldn't do what I wanted. All right, I'll be good, but I'll be kind of a dick at the same time. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, off topic. But when people in your life, your family start dying, you start realizing, this is going to be over one day. Yeah, I'm pissing it away. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It made you change your perspective.

It does. In a good way. Right, for the better. In a very good way. That's when the anger went away. and the openness began. And, hey, let's do this. That's great.

And all the things that I never wanted to do before, not just the sex club, but travel, things like that. Right. Being thoughtful, being thoughtful. Thinking of her as well every night. I put the lotion on the feet every night, even if we're not going to have sex. I do it every night because she loves it so much.

And it feels good to give to someone else, not just take. Right. And so we're, and when we go to the club, a lot more often than not, nothing happens. We people watch. We see what so-and-so is wearing and, oh, my God, we're not going to be those people that are that old coming to the club. And I'm like, we're getting there. You know, it's kind of a human zoo. She's more into the BDSM.

So this club has a dungeon and she assigned her up to get, they had a sign up sheet for Shibari, the Japanese. She loved it. It was great. I put her name on it. We are both living life and not holding anything back anymore from each other or just ourselves being open. I, oddly enough, just want to do the, the, guy, guy, girl thing. I really don't have that much interest in hooking up with another female.

If it happens, it happens. But I'm not seeking it like I did when I was younger. Isn't that interesting? It's odd, you know. My friend with a big dick, I would sometimes guide it into her. That's all I ever did. But it's like... You like it?

Yeah. When it's sex, the green light is all. and when I'm watching her, I could just watch. I tried to get her to do a few things in public that she didn't want to be restrained because she was probably afraid of what I would do if she worked. But the whipping things like that, there's a technique to it where you don't leave marks. And she probably would like me to, but I haven't worked. up to that, the leading marks or anything.

But we have toys at home restraints, some things I had to make myself. But it's, we've had more sex in the last two years, probably in a span of five years before that. Wow. Now, let me ask you this. Do you now not, because you're going to the Swingers Club and because, you know, Hoking up with people that you knew and friends and coworkers I don't know it led to things going bad Do you do that anymore? Is it just strictly the swingers club now?

That's the only place you play. Strictly the swingers club, strictly out of town Right. A four hour drive away So that we don't run into anyone No names, no phone numbers, nothing's exchanged while we're there You either get it while you're here or maybe next time.

Right. So we have hooked up with people at the club, but there have been times where we didn't see anything we liked. There was no one there that we were interested in, and no one approached us. But we still had a good time. Right. Yeah, just walking around.

It's an event because they have several different sections. So you'll see a little bit of everything. So, but not at home, not nearby. What are the sections of the Swingers Club? Like, I know that you said there's a BDSM section. There is, there's a dance, well, there's a dance floor. And then there's the BDSM dungeon. And then there's two hallways with rooms on each side, and there are themed rooms,

either with bolts so that you can use bondage equipment or just a big bed. Some of them are kind of cheesy, the decorating of the room. But people leave the doors open or they will leave the blinds open on a window. So you can watch them have sex. We can walk through and just kind of constantly walking through. watching other people have sex. Right. And I've tried to get her to go in sometimes,

but she, you know, just get into that pile of bodies and just do whatever. But she's not there yet on that. I would probably have to arrange that ahead of time, and that's nearly impossible. Well, since you like the, you know, the guy on guy and, you know, the MMF threesome, do you do that at the club? Was that what you guys do? Yeah. Well, we have that, you know, because there's so many people there, the last time that we were there,

she got with the guy that was in front of us in line. And I got with the girl heaps with. Right. And we don't know each other's things. And we don't want to know their names. But it was, you know, I licked her front to back, you know, before I got her clothes off. You know, it was just do it. Right.

And, and I looked over and there's my wife with the guy on top of her. And I'm like, this is great. Yeah. And your girl still likes girls. I mean, your wife still, does she hook up with women at the club as well? Oh, yeah. Yeah, she hooked up with the same girl that I had hooked up with. Yeah.

Yeah. It was an exchange there, but I didn't touch anybody's dick while I was at the club. because you know you don't know how they're going to react i knew this guy i knew he wasn't going to say anything because he wanted to keep fucking my wife probably but uh right so the crossing of the swords do you ever do any more than just guiding it in have you ever because i know that you said oh you know when sex starts like the green light goes on so i mean have you done have you done anything further with guys in the heat of passion and we've been I think DVP.

What's DVP again? Oh, double vaginal. Double vaginal. So we were in her like that. And that's the time that he and I both came at the same time and she came because we were coming. Wow. So we were, you know, so yeah, we were rubbing our dicks together inside her. And I never did any more than that.

Mm-hmm. But I kind of regret not going further. I think I could have gone further. You know, sucked it or whatever. But just to see what it was like. Yeah. And she seemed to enjoy it. And it's like it looked like fun.

But I didn't go any further than that. But that's like something that you would be down for in the future if the right situation presented itself or like in the heat of the moment, like that kind of a moment. Yes. You would. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yes. Yes. Absolutely. That might be as far as it goes, but I'm jogging my memory. I did actually do that once. There's been a lot of times we hooked up with people. There was a guy that we hooked up with, and I did suck him for a little while because I knew she would be thrilled. She seems to really like the guy on guy stuff.

Oh, she does. That's interesting. Oh, yes. Oh, oh, oh, yes. She liked the guy and guy stuff. And so I went for it. It's, it's, there's been some of the occasions. Some of them aren't at the forefront of my memory. Yeah, yeah. Look at how you just like was like, oh yeah, no, I actually did suck a dick once. You didn't remember, which I totally get because that's how many times you've been with other people.

Yeah, it's, it's. mostly been the same thing over and over me and me her and another man me her and another woman but it there hasn't been another woman and well there was a sex club uh that wasn't that long ago but we plan on going back we plan on maybe going down to Atlanta and trying some of the different clubs down there and certainly far enough from home and see what happens. Of course, she always loves to prepare for a trip to the club because that means new clothes. New this, new that, new everything. So she gets to go out and buy, you mean like buy a bunch of things, right?

What does she like to wear? What does she dress up at? Oh, it's the body stocking with a dress that wraps so that you can easy access, no underwear. the she calls them her hooker shoes, the big platform shoes, and she'll wear the collar. I have a really nice leather collar, and I'll have her on a chain. And I keep telling her, I said, one day I'm going to, I'm going to see someone, but they look like the right person to me. I'm going to hand this chain to them, and they're going to take you. And she said, okay. And is that the whole Daddy Dom thing that you guys have going on?

Oh, yes. I take care of her, which is something that I did not do properly. Her needs consideration is that and then the sexual component as well. The Daddy Don, you don't displease me, do what makes me happy. She does, and I make sure to go out of my way to do everything that makes her happy to but I can with any reason. So we have come to a

parallel. We're not on different paths anymore. We're on the same path going the same direction. That whole phase of you guys, not really trusting each other and almost leaving each other. Did that just end like two or three years ago? Yes. And how long did it last? The

troubles. Yeah. The trouble. Oh, 17 years. Oh, you're kidding. We were raising kids and it probably looked like as soon as these kids leave, what are we going to do with each other? Yeah, we'll get the fun. Well, bye-bye. We didn't have anything to do.

I mean, we still had sex occasionally. And it was, you know, the, hey, how you're doing? That's it. Wow. That's a long time. It was a long time that it was not good. And that was on me. It could have been good the whole time.

But how interesting that, you know, somebody listening. It could give somebody hope. I mean, you know, you guys really turned that around, you know, a 17-year long-term dissatisfaction. You know, most people would think, you know, if I had to bet money, right? You're going to be like, I'm not betting that this is going to last. You know, I'm going to throw it down on this ends, you know. There are people that talk to my wife and say, are you two still married?

And they're surprised because it was clear from the outside. We were not happy. Right. It was very forced in any kind of public gathering. Yeah, we all know those couples. Oh, yeah. Yeah, we know those couples. They were happy.

And now that things have changed. when things started changing and whatever my anger was about went away, she said, now that you're, I've got you fixed just right, you probably have a brain tumor or something wrong with you. That's why you changed. She said,

there's probably something wrong with you because it's been a very dramatic change. Yeah. But it has. But the sex came back. The passion, the lust, all of that. return.

Mm-hmm. And new things. Like you just treat her better. Like you said. Yeah. You know, right? Absolutely. So I'm sure now it must be so crazy for those people that used to see you at, you know, parties and stuff.

Just not connected. They could really probably see the change. They can see the change because also we go travel places, go do things, things we never did before. Right. You would have to take me, you know, kicking and screaming to go on a family vacation. Oh, interesting. Now, and so to your point, there's no kids.

That might be the difference. Yeah. You really couldn't get past that no attention to you. Yes, everything, you know, when you have a couple of little girls, everything's about them. And for a long time? It was for a long time. Yeah.

very long time. And and I just want to be clear, they, they did get my attention. I was not angry at them. Of course, right. I just loved happy with our situation. I did all, when she was at work, I did the babysitting and people were shot. Yeah, yeah, who's watching your kids?

My husband. Yeah. Their father. They're his kids too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I was with a friend last night and she was saying something because, you know, when you get older and you're dating people, everyone has baggage with kids. and she's like, oh, my guy, he's seeing his girl, and she's, like, already 16, and he has to see her for three.

I'm like, and she's already an adult. She's 16. I'm like, she's not an adult at 16. No. You know, kids are not out until, like, 18 out of the house. I mean, it's a long time you're a parent, and that is your first priority. Sorry, this is the way that it is.

It's very, very true. Although we all know those people that really treat their kids as, you know, a piece of furniture. They don't care. Right, but right, exactly. I'd have to say I'm not glad that that was an asshole for that 17 year period but I'm glad that she was a good mother

and you were a good father you don't have to forgive yourself for that because that would be a lot harder to wrap your head around if you did change and come out of and think like oh my God like I treated how did I treat my kids you know but you did it and you were a good dad which is great you didn't take it out on them no I did not and at the same time I'm probably better to them now because they play me I bought more tires this week than I ever had in my life but I don't want them to be on bad tires

yeah yeah yeah cute but let's go to that so that dramatic change like I know that you brought up oh there was like some deaths like and stuff like that is that what you think attributed to that big change in you? The passing of parents, family members, and the kids are now on their own. Yeah. They have their own jobs.

They have their own lives. It was just the two of us. And one of my parents died last year. And that was it. My parents are gone. And it was a taking effect over the last couple of years. years. And then when my mother died, that was very hard, harder than I thought it was going to be. Interesting. Yeah.

Like an asshole thing to say. Of course, it's hard. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't want to live my life angry. And I live my life less alone, isolated. I'd rather be with this person that stuck with me when she should have run away. probably on more than one occasion. Yeah. And that's a gift. It's like my eyes were open.

I could see things clearly. I told her one time it's like going from black and white to color. Yeah, I totally understand. See and feel and empathize with people more. More so. Yeah, that's a big change because I know that. I quit drinking, you know, like 17 years ago. And I always explain like quitting drinking and how much it changed me to be like it was like,

It's like going from being in a pitch black room to turning the fucking lights on. Like that's like the difference. So for you to extrate, like I could only imagine then that that must have been. That's how deep the change was. It's like similar to the change I went through through doing that. I mean, that is, that's major. That's like you went through a major transformation. It took her a long time to really, like, is this real?

Yeah. Because she, she's no sucker. She wanted to make sure that this is real. And it took a long time. And my God, the way she looks at me and smiles at me now, it's worth it. I mean, at one time, if a woman approached me and propositioned me, I would have done it. I know I would have done it. But now I'm absolutely confident.

I'm not going to do anything that's going to cause problems with my wife. now we make who fuck some people together. Yeah. But I'm not going to fuck up by myself. And for what? I can get this with her. Right. It doesn't make sense when you're looking back.

No, it doesn't. Like I said in the beginning, like why does that person? Because I've heard it before. You're not the first one that has done that. You know, why does that person that has the total okay go out and then cheat? And, you know, I was glad that you could kind of put into words and be self-aware enough to, You know, let people know where that comes from. And you were very honest.

Pure selfishness. Yeah. Yes, it's a selfish. The feeling of, ooh, I got away with something. And really, I didn't have to get away with anything. And all I did was set myself up for trouble. But I think it also was, and maybe you're not putting this in the story. And it needs to be that there was a little dissatisfaction of what was going between them.

because you were feeling, you know, hurt by the fact that you weren't getting the attention anymore because of the kids, you know? So that was a part of it too. Not that it's right, you know, but that also comes into play. It definitely was a factor because she was that kind of mom. Everything at school, clothes, hair, perfect. If the other kids had it, they were going to have it too. So she put that's the whole generation All those parents

Every kid had got everything they fucking wanted Yeah Yeah Well The tough thing about that is As a man And I think you pointed this out before It's like a double edge toward because

On one sense like would you respect her as a mother If she didn't fucking care about her children She was tending to you all the time And you were still like the end all You don't know you want her to be a great mom But then you're like, fuck, what about me? So it is a tough place. Yeah, don't forget about me.

Yeah. You know, you want that balance as a man, but it's hard for the woman to have a balance. Because as a woman who had a child and I can't, and I didn't, I was a single mom. I can't tell you how many times in the first couple of years. Like, I would go to my bedroom and I was like, thank fucking God. I do not have to blow someone or talk to somebody at this point. I felt so happy because you are, you're bringing. is effing fried at the end of the day when you have kids as a woman.

So you get, you know, you understand everybody in this situation. You understand the woman who can't tend to her guy. I understand that most women don't and it falls a way. But you also have to understand that how is that guy feeling? He doesn't feel fucking good. And, you know, he's upset and it's not working for him. You understand that person in that situation too. Everyone has needs.

And no one's needs are going to be met at all times. Yes. It's going to be some give and take. But as a mother, as you just described, you don't need another kid that weighs 200 pounds. Yeah. Humping on your leg, you know. And the kids needs, like you just said, not everyone's needs to be met. Your needs don't need to be met, but the kids needs do.

You know, that's what it's, it is life and death when you have children. And like you have to, those kids have needs that have to be met. And as a mother, like your instinct is to feed them, clothe them, bathe them, you know, all that kind of stuff. And so of course you're going to be like, oh, he could fucking do it for himself. But therein lies a big problem, I think. I think it's very common that that situation happens. There are so many guys listening to this episode like, oh, yeah, that's me right now.

I think what's so interesting about your story is that you're here to say, and I love your story. Because it's real life, you know, I think sometimes it's not a fucking movie. This is real life. It didn't happen overnight. You didn't click like out of being that selfish asshole over it. It took 17 years, but you're a different person. Your relationship changed and you're here to say that it, you can be that couple

that has lost everything and lost their whole connection to each other could find their way back. As long as both parties are willing, it's possible. because she's been waiting for me to stop being a jerk for a very long time. And, of course, she gave up on it a long time ago. That's never going to happen. So that's why she was a little bit wary of, is this for real? And how about you for trusting her?

Because she did throw in your face that she had cheated on you at a certain point, too. like how were did you feel like it took you some time to trust her as well? Absolutely absolutely that's that's true you know guys want to have their way they want to have their cake and eat it too oh yeah so it you just have to suck it up you have to humble yourself and be realistic this is a person this is not my property and they have feelings too And the more you give to them, the more you get back. It was always the case. But something about being sneaky is seductive.

And a lot of guys do it. And they lose really good women. Because they didn't have to be that way. And that was my story. It didn't have to be that way. I'm glad that I'm able to bring this story that shows full circle. From good to bad, back to good.

Yeah. But sometimes people don't end that way, though. Just good to bad to end. Bye-bye. Yeah. And I wouldn't blame her if she had left. Yeah. And I partially expected that she would at some point,

even up to the point where the girls were out of the house, that she would leave. Yeah. And go out on her. She can do she could be miserable alone. She doesn't have to be miserable with me. Yeah. So make yourself attractive, make yourself desirable by being a good person, a kind person, and considerate person.

And I get to go to sex clubs with her. Right. What else is there? Yeah. What's so great is that it's not like you had to give up who you were. Like you said, you did just come full circle that you guys were always these open people. people that wanted to live your life and be hedonistic and, you know, do whatever. And you're doing it now, but you're maybe it's like you're doing it a little smarter because

you're older, you're wiser, you've been there, done that. Yes. You see that you're past the halfway point of your life. Yeah. Well, it's coming. Like it or not, it's coming. So what are you going to do? keep doing the same stupid shit you've been doing,

you're going to keep getting the same stupid shit you got. And so I've tried to, as best I can, to straighten myself up and be a better person, a better partner. She loves that word, partner. Yeah. My husband-wife, but partner. But, you know, we've been together almost 30 years,

and a lot of her has rubbed off on me. finally and some of some things about me erupt up on her you you're either growing together or you're growing apart and we're finally growing together yeah but it's it's all out there it's possible it's absolutely possible if you make your mind up yeah I love it I really believe and I say this all the time like I don't care how old you are as long as you're alive I mean to me life is about sort of we're like we're born and then we're given a lot of fucking issues and We need to like resolve them. Like that's what life is.

It's work, you know? Get to work on yourself. Work on your fucking self and become a better person. And as long as you're alive, that's what you're here to do. So, you know, and listen, you changed at whatever age you did. But that's like amazing. That's what life is about. And like I said, I don't care if you're 80 or 18.

You know, it's possible to completely change and grow as a person. and I love that. That's what I love about life. I've seen it happen to me a million times. Like I said, I had that life changing moments in my life. I love to see them in other people's lives. I love watching biographies

because I think if you typically watch someone throughout their whole life, you're going to see different places and different parts and you're going to see people totally change. And that's real life. You know, sometimes people are only looking at someone in like the chapter where they're at right now. And if they're like doing really great, people get jealous and they're like,

oh, that person has it all. or why is it my life that way? It's like life is never going to be one way and it shouldn't be and there's no top of the mountain that you stay at. And I do believe that you could always grow and change and that's what you always need to take out of like really horrific situations. And I love that you came out of like a really hard time really taking the lesson out of it. Life is fucking short.

You're just going to die. Like it's really going to happen. I don't think people get that. I've always got that. So I've always like live fucking life. I love being alive and have fucking fun. But a lot of people do not get that. You are just going to die one day.

And it could be tomorrow and it could be whenever. It's going to happen. Yeah. It could be today. And then what? Right. Live life. Go on those vacations.

You better. We are doing everything that mostly she wanted to do that I did not want to do. And now I enjoy it tremendously. Wow. I have more options. Yeah. I see things that didn't interest me are fascinating. Yeah.

Art museums, things like that. Love it. So it is possible. Right. You're like you opened yourself up enough to actually see things like you just said that like you wouldn't even know you're interested in. That's like super important for people to hear because you just maybe there are these things that you can enrich your life with that you never knew that you're, like saying no to. But if you do open yourself up and change, like these things could happen and you never know

what the next chapter is going to be. But that's absolutely true because look at me. Yes, I love it. I'm obsessed with your story, Mark. I love it. It has so much to it. There's the SEX that my callers love, but there's just so, I just think people are going to love this because I think. everything that you and your wife went through besides the fact that people are going to be

a lot very jealous of like all the openness in your relationship that I don't think that's common but what's super common is that whole other thing that you were going through with the kids and the cheating and the dissatisfaction and the growing apart and I love that you are you were self-aware enough to know where that all came from talk about how you got through it how it changed your life as well as your relationship and now you're still living your best sex life too as well as regular life. So it's just such a great effing story. I'm getting a do-over. Yeah.

And it's not even a do-over. You're still alive. Like that's what people don't get. Like you don't, it's not it. This is it. You know, you're doing it. This is the only do-over. Yeah.

The only do-over you will get is the one you make for yourself. Yeah, exactly. It's not doing it. It's over. It's the next chapter. It's like where you're at. You can change your whole life. And that's what life's about, I just think.

And like I said, I love your story because it's got so many layers to it. And this is the kind of stuff I live for on my show. And I think it's actually going to help people. Yeah, I really do. I think so many guys are going to be listening and are going to really be able to relate to that 17-year place you were in. Yeah. It's not the end. Yeah.

It doesn't have to be. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Love it. so much for calling in. Let me ask you a quick question because I was wondering this the whole time. Does your wife know that you listen to my show? Does she know that you're coming on. We listen to it together on our way to the sex club. Oh, no way. Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. I told her, I said, hey, do you want to be on a podcast? And

she's a very private person. I mean, to be as open and live the life, she would not want to do that. Of course. Uh-huh. To do that. But yeah, I told her, was doing it. Oh, I love it. So she's going to hear this. Yeah, I don't keep anything from her. All right. Awesome. I love that. I love that you're listening. I love your story. I love your story with your husband's story. I'm talking to your wife right now. It's totally cool that you want to come on. But your guy's story is so inspiring. If you want to send me picks for my Patreon, you know, anonymous picks and she's nose and she's down. That would be effing great. If you do, that's cool. I'll put it in the intro. If not, it's totally cool.

Okay. All right. Awesome. I'll see you about some pictures. All right. Cool. Thank you. Bye.

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