Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 619 - Lola is a Unicorn Who is Into Hooking Up with Couples and More

Episode Date: April 10, 2023

Lola is a unicorn who is into random hook ups with couples and more and she called in to talk all about it. When did she first start hooking up with couples? Where does she find the couples she hook ups with? And, what does she do with them? Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she always knew she was into women, how she went on to craigslist looking for couples, the first couple she met and exactly what went down, how much she enjoyed being with a woman, how and why she is thinking about starting to date women and why she’s kind of scared, the threesome she set up for one of her boyfriends and how she found out he was secretly still hooking up with the other girl, the swinger resort she went to and what she liked and didn’t like about it, how and why she is very into black guys, the mfm threesome she had with two bbc and why that was the best experience for her, why she won’t hook up with newbies and prefers to hook up with couples who have experience, how a lot of the husbands of the couples she has slept with have tried to hook up with her behind the wife back and how and why she sometimes took them up on their offer, how and why she was always into quantity over quality, why she recently quit drinking and how it changed her, what type of relationships and hook ups she’s looking for now and whether she could ever have a monogamous relationship, what is left on her bucket list plus a whole lot more. PIC ON PATREON! **To see anonymous pics of LOLA plus all of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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She gets kids super young. She's like a grandma, but she's still like ready to go, okay? She talks about how she wound up becoming a unicorn at such a young age. I mean, she was literally 25. She had always known she was like very bisexual. She was very into women. So she went on to Craigslist. That's what she did.

She went on to Craigslist looking to have her first experience. And she wound up looking up with a couple. She talks all about that first experience. And then everything she did after. Like I said, she talks about her first time. She talks about a lot of her experiences with different couples. She talks about how she wound up at a swingers club. She's been to a couple swingers club.

She talks about those experiences, how they happened, what went down. She loves being watched. She loves watching. she's never really been in a hardcore relationship. She's been very open and doing her thing. You know, when she was on Craigslist, she wasn't just looking for couples. She was looking for guys.

She was looking for couples. She was looking for any kind of one and done kind of sexual experience. She was very into, and she said this, like more quantity over quality when she was younger. And she did that for a very long time. She talked about the fact that she's very into black guys and BBC. She's white. She called herself a snow bunny. She talks about a Swingers resort she went to with one of her BBC guys.

She talks about her first experience with two guys. She wound up meeting another black guy at this Swingers resort, and they all did a threesome. That was her first threesome with her two guys. They're her two BBCs, and she loved that. She talks about that too. We do go into whether she's had any kind of crazy experiences. because she was looking up with a lot of couples, like women being jealous, guys hitting on her, and all of the above has happened to her.

And she talks specifically about that as well as talks about where she's at right now. She's 39. She just quit drinking. She is still looking for couples to have, like, hot sex and she's very open. And she might now want to date a woman. We don't know where Lola's going to wind up or, you know, what kind of. kind of relationship she will be in. She doesn't think it'll ever be monogamous, okay, because she never really has been. But that will be Lola Part 2. This is Lola part one, though. You're going to hear

all of her backstory. It's super interesting. Like I said, if you want to see how hot she is, go to my Patreon, patreon.com slash Strictly Anonymous Podcast. But anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Lola. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous Podcast. How are you today? I'm good. How are you? I'm good. I'm excited to talk to you. You are, you know, what people call a unicorn in the lifestyle. You're 39 and you've been a unicorn in the lifestyle since you're 25. So I'm assuming you started out solo. I mean, what is it? How does a 25 year old female wind up solo in the lifestyle? Well, I have always known I was bisexual ever since I was a child. So I was, I am the product of the private. Catholic school system. Oh, me too. They're always the worst, the sluggiest. Yes. So, you know, I, from the first time from when I was masturbating when I was younger, I was more thinking about women, but I was also boy crazy.

Okay. So finally, at the ripe old age of 25, I had been with a couple of past boyfriends and had brought up, you know, a threesome, like me, him, and another girl. And I did not get the response I was expecting needless to say wow so none of them were takers no no um yeah I know they were like I don't my one of them was like I don't want to see you with anybody else I'm like well but it's a chick and then and then you get to be with her too yeah yeah yeah you were fine with that no he was not having that um so had you had though through all your Catholic girl days like had you had any hookups with women solo no okay So still never experience anything.

So now you're trying to get your guys and they're like not helping the situation. Yeah. Okay. And so, you know, then I've been single for a while and finally I'm just like, screw it. I have older kids now. I had my kids at 21 and 23. So dating's hard. So finding a boyfriend, much less a boyfriend that is going to partake in this with me at such a

young age in the Bible Belt where that stuff's frowned upon. and just was not happening. So I said, I'm going to do this madame. Yeah, and plus you had two kids. So it's hard to find a guy around your age range. You know, unless you were going to date a 55-year-old, like a lot of 20-year-old guys are not going to want us father to kids. Yeah, absolutely.

It was hard in those streets, man. That's why I've been single for so long. Wait, okay, so tell me. So how does the process work so many years ago? Like, how did you find the first, couple or the first club that you went to? Like, how did it start out? Craigslist.

Oh, my God, that's how my show started out. Craiglist. Yeah. Craigslist. So literally, it was like, it was literally a Saturday day. And I was actually dating this guy at the time on and off. And he was actually like a year or two younger than me. So, and he had no kids.

He had a really good job and just live in his best life. And I wasn't able to like go out to the bars with him. him and stuff. And so like that was really getting me. So I'm like, screw this. I'm going to do this. So Saturday morning, I post an ad and by Saturday night, I'm meeting with a couple. I sent my kids had went off. I had the night to myself the house and had this couple over. And yes, that's, that was the first experience. So you weren't just looking for solo woman. Like what did you put in that ad and did you include like a body shot? Like what was, what were you? What were you? down for. No, no picture. So, you know, if you go when you would go there, the males and females

looking for females, there's millions of that. Right. But that is why we're called the unicorns. But the female looking for male, female, especially 15 years ago when the internet wasn't so prevalent. So, you know, a lot of people like look down on it. They're like, oh my God, you know, you use dating apps or match.com. I'm like, yo, like, get with the times. Like, I got a responsibility. So, you know, let's just say I've been ahead of my time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I didn't put any body shots just, you know, the basic, you know, by, you know, single female, which you look like, DDF-free, you know, what you're looking for.

And that's it. Like, you drop that little piece of chum in the water and they come for it. Yeah. So how did you wind up picking the one couple out of all the people? Like, what was it about them that stood out? They just, they seemed very normal. You know, they were older than me. How old were they?

I was 25 at the time. They actually wound up small world. I live in a very big city, but it's very small. They wound up actually my good friend from high school worked for them at their company. Oh, my God. How funny. It is a small world. Like, we're still good friends to where I rode home with them at my 20-year reunion a couple

months ago. Like I was thinking about it in the car. I'm like, I banged both of your bosses and we talked about you. Oh my God. It's so funny. So we're later like in their 40s? How old were they? Probably. Probably in their 40s, maybe late 30s, early 40s, married white couple. They both great, super, super sweet people. And I don't think they, I think they were in the lifestyle. They had been to Colette's and they had done some minor stuff. But you know, unicorns are hard to come by. Yeah. So I'm pretty sure I was their first, you know, just two chicks and a dude. Yeah, yeah.

And now were they hot? I mean, were you very particular about like what they look like? They paint those. They were in really great shape. She was a little bit. I'm 5'7. I'm tall thin. So I'm kind of tall for a girl.

So she was about two inches short than me. Nice fake boobs. Trim little waist. So she looked like me a little tinier. he was a little bit taller than me, baby, 5, 10, good looking, you know, six packs. So really fit the bill physically. They were, you know, normal people. So, yeah.

Okay. So how was that first experience where you like just super horny going in? Because now you're like, you're finally going to have what you have wanted for so long. You said you were like jerking off thinking about women since you were younger, you know? First experience is a big deal. So now that I'm thinking about it, I don't. I just, I went into it. So I was super nervous and I try to tell people all the time because if I get standoffish,

like when it comes to the apps, I'm like, y'all, it's two against one. And mind you, these people are so kind when, you know, they're just the nicest people ever. It's still very intimidating. So I was like, okay, want to you all come on over. So we actually sat outside under my porch and drank wine and just got to know one another. And for about an hour and I guess just talked about their experiences and what was expected and whatnot. And then we went in my bedroom and got down to it. Wow.

And did it, was it no holds bar? Like, did they have any rules or regulations that they put up front to you because they're like a couple or was it like anything goes? It was everybody. Everybody is free to play. He was free to play with me. And then, of course, me and her. So it was no holds bar. Right.

And was it a great experience? It was amazing. Clearly, if I'm still in there, 15 years later. Well, no, a lot of times I hear, sometimes people's first experience, oh, it's not so good, but they continue on. Yeah. Absolutely. But it was amazing.

And I mean, that was your first time, not with a guy, but with a girl. Like, did you find it was like really easy to fall into? Yes. I realized, and I had always been fantasizing this, I am a boob girl. I just, I love titty's, man. I just want to suck on them. I like mind me. I just, I love them so much.

And she had fake ones. And that's like the first time I've ever, well, period, touched a woman. Yeah. But much less, you know, with fake breath and got that up close and personal. And man, after that, I was like, I had a problem. I just wanted all for three. Oh, my God. It's so funny.

You're like a guy. You have just a stare at girl's tits. all the time now, not looking at them in the face. But yeah, they were great. I hooked up with both of them and actually maybe like the next weekend, he was out of town. And I think she came over and like we just hung out and like messed around a little bit, like sent him some videos. So yeah, like all around, I was very lucky in my great, my first experience. Because like you said, had it been not so great, I may never have went back down that path.

Yeah. Now, did you go down? her that first time? And was that everything you expected it to be? Were you into that too? It was. Yeah. Totally. I'm one of those girls that like when a guy will go down on me or he'll

finger me or whatever, I want to like taste me. Like, I want to lick you off, you know, lick you off of my, lick me off of your lips and oh, I'm getting all flustered here. Oh. I'm sure a lot of people listening are too. Don't worry about you. Don't worry about that.

So yeah, I just, I was like, I love this and I always do it with guys and I'm like, y'all. I'm like, I would much rather go down on a chick any day over having a dick shoved down my throat and choke of me. Don't get me wrong. I love giving head. Yeah, yeah. But sometimes it's just so much easier to go down on a girl. That's hilarious. So the first time was all great. You even played with her solo after now. Did they become like a regular thing for you? And did they get you into the lifestyle? No, I think it eventually fizzled out. Like we may, we had stayed in touch and then they had kids that were like older than mine.

Their kids were like teenager. So harder for them to sneak around because kids start picking up, you know. Yeah, yeah. It's just it became complicated. So I think it just kind of died off. And, you know, I always wonder, I want to ask my friend when they were bringing me home from their union, how the boss was doing. But then how do I explain that? Like how?

I was going to say, though, like back in that day when you're just starting out, you know, you have a lot of girlfriends at that young age. Like, did you confess this whole thing that you were doing to any of your girlfriends, your close girlfriends, or did no one know? I absolutely did. So my, because I was so young man, y'all was a hot mess express. I've got it, I'm diagnosed bipolar. So if you know anything about that, those manic episodes, mind you now, it's all under control.

But I was young. Yeah. And so I would just, and I'm an open book. So I told my good girlfriend. So a good bit of people that are close to me, my friends that are in my life, know that I'm bisexual and in the lifestyle. Right. I don't go into detail about things unless that they ask.

Yeah. Now I don't really bring it up, but it is no. Because when I did start this 15 years ago, I was like, yeah, guess what I did. Yeah, that's what I would think when you're super young, you're more, you know, open and you're super close with your girlfriends. I mean, even though you were a young mom, I'm sure you were still living that young life, right? Yeah.

Mm-hmm. So you told your girlfriends, okay, so now what happens after those, that couple? So then I continue to post the Craigslist ads. And then I start responding to Ed. So I guess that's really how, and then I would start meeting off with couples or, you know, we go out. There's just been so many. Like long-term ones.

short-term ones, one-offs, all of the above, good ones, bad ones, crazy ones. So there was only probably one other situation where I repeatedly hooked up with these people, kind of became friends with them. You know, swingers are some of the coolest people you will meet because they are so open-minded. So it's only natural that when I'm hanging out with these couples that we gravitate towards each other outside of the bedroom, you know? I've went and done activities with one. couple where this guy played in a band.

So his wife came and picked me up. We went and watched him play and like their friends and stuff were there. But they had no idea. They just thought I was her friend. And then at the end of the night, we went back to my place and blah, blah, blah. So you make all these friendships and these people were like that. But actually, when I met them at the time, the chick was pregnant. So I have hooked up with a pregnant chick.

Oh, my goodness. Did you dig that word like you kind of into it? So I was not at the time, but now I'm in, like, I didn't embrace my pregnancies. My partners were not the best people. I hate to be impregnant. So, you know, people used to talk about the pregnancy sex. I didn't want to be touched. I'm like, wow, if I was pregnant now, then, like, it would have been a totally different ballgame, you know?

Right, right, right. Now, how do you wind up, because I'm assuming you eventually, because you're meeting all these swingers and these couples, like eventually do you wind up in the swingers clubs and parties and stuff like that? Yeah. So I've been to there used to be when I started 15 years ago, there were two clubs in the city. And I'm in the suburb. So I'm about 15 minutes via the interstate to a huge city in the south.

It is on the map. People travel here all the time. Yeah. So I've been to each of them. One of them is now closed. I happened to go to it before it was closed. Clearly, that was my first experience. And they always said that that club wasn't as nice as the other one.

But I preferred the play area better than the one that's still open. So talk me through that first time that you went. Did you also do that solo? Or did you wind up getting turned on to it by a couple that you were hooking up with? I did not do that solo. But here again comes Craigslist or SLF. It could have been either one. So at this point after Craigslist, I went, you know, and found SLS.

So I did get a profile on there. You know, the system's very antiquated. I still find it's still pretty antiquated. I don't really use it anymore. So I hook up, I meet up with this guy. He's like, let's go to this club. We'll go have dinner first, blah, blah, blah. So my friend watches my kids.

I meet him. He comes, or I go meet him there. We go to dinner. And I'm just. one-on-one with him, I wasn't viving. So, like, I'm literally texting my friend who's got my kids, and I'm like, listen, he's about to go to the bathroom because this restaurant we were at is in a casino. So I'm like, either I'm going to have you call me and say, there's an emergency.

Yeah, yeah. Or when he walks to the bathroom, I'm just going to run out of here and run into the casino. So, well, we're sitting there and he had talked about it. So he finds this other couple. He shows me these pictures. I guess he found him on Craigslist as well. And he's like, okay, we're going to meet up with them at their hotel and we're going to go to the swingers club. So at that point, I was like, all right, Lola, it's this or nothing.

Like, this is your chance. So we go and meet up with this couple. And they, I don't really know their backstory if they were swingers, but actually I came across them afterwards and they wound up, he was trying to get with me. So, you know, that's one of those situations. where they probably weren't on shaky ground to begin with. But anyway. Yeah. So we meet them.

We go to the club and like downstairs there's like a stripper pole and, you know, it's BYOB. So so we're all just having, you know, some cocktails. And then there was this other couple that happened to be there. But they, so we were, sounds like closer to 30. This couple was probably like 23, 24, very young looking, you know. They came over and talked to us. So we go upstairs and start playing in the play area. And then more people start walking in.

And we're like, okay, let's go see. There was a private room somewhere in the back. So we just so happened to get the private room that has two beds. So we all go in there. And I wound up just really hooking up with that guy. The rest of them kind of like swapped. and just me and that guy like hooked up.

I don't, it was weird. Not the guy you went with that. You weren't into, correct? I didn't even touch him. I didn't want to have to touch with him. You were not into him at all. No, wait, you know, you, I want to ask you before, were you also on Craigslist besides looking for couples?

Were you also looking for single guys, single girls? I mean, were you looking for all kinds of things on there? All of the above. Okay. I was like a kid in a candy store. and just ready. I'm one of these people, like, if I decide, like, during COVID, I was like, I'm going to take up running.

When I tell you, I went and spent $500 on running stuff. Yeah, yeah, you commit. Because I'm that person. Like, I just, when I discover something, I'm all in. Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. So you were like, the minute you decided to start having this open, like, sex life, it was everything. Yeah.

Picking up random guys, picking up couples. Did you do solo women as well? I have never, no, that other than that first experience with that couple when she came over after, like when he was out of town, I've never solo been with a woman. When I first started this, I was like, oh, like I can't physically just be with a woman because I need a man. Yeah. Well, you know, now as I'm older and I'm getting more into myself and realizing, coming to realizations, I'm like, okay, well, because like I'm starting to maybe like try and actually date a woman. woman now like in my vanilla light. So that's something that has always kind of scared me.

So that's touching go with me. You mean actually falling in love with the woman, having a relationship? Yeah. And I don't quite, like I told the one that I'm messaging right now, I'm like, I don't know how this works with females. Like I've been dating men my entire life. Yeah. The whole new ball game for me at almost 40.

Now, why does it scare you? Why has it always scared you, do you think? maybe because like I'll really either want to be with a female as opposed to just messing around with them. And then that brings a whole other dynamic. Because I know that like I do want a male. Like I don't think I would ever. I'm a lesbian.

But so if I'm trying to date my vanilla life, so it's one thing where, you know, I got to tell this guy, okay, well, this is what I like to do. And then also I have a girlfriend. Like men think it's like the dream come true. But this,

this is not something all men want, I guess. 100%. No, I know a lot of guys. I wouldn't even want to share their girl with a girl. You know, it's not like across the board. Every guy's into that. You think every guy is, but that's not the case.

And then there's this whole other subset of guys that really like to see you with another guy, right? But, you know, and they don't care about the woman, woman thing. But there's plenty of guys. I know I have plenty of guy friends that wouldn't want to share their partner with anyone. Yeah. Mm-hmm.

And I don't hate on that. You know, I'm just like, I support everybody and is there a future for me to do? Who knows? But we'll say. Now, in this whole time, and we're going to get back to where we were at at the Swingers Club, I remember. But like in this whole time, since you've been a unicorn, you'd be doing all this,

have you had any long-term relationships? And were they always open or did you ever have a monogamous relationship? So the last 15 years, I've been single. I'm pretty much consider myself single. Within those, that time frame, I've had a good bit of situationships that I like to call them. Yeah. That have usually gone on for about a year, a year and a half.

You know, steady friend with benefits, good shit. You know, that's how I was able to stay single. Now, with those guys, would you play with them and say like, hey, I'm into this kind of stuff and they were like down or no? So this used to be one of my hottest experiences because it was the only experience where it was actually me and a guy that I was dating and another girl. So I start dating him. Yeah.

And, you know, we're having some tumultuous times because he's dating other women and I'm getting jealous. So I discovered this and I'm like, all right, this is how I'm going to, I'm going to seal the deal with him. I'm going to get us a threesome. I'm going to make his fantasy come true and that's going to be it. So, because him and I had talked about this. He knew I was in the chicks when I had the threesome. We had talked about it. I think he said he had a threesome, but it like, it wasn't a real threesome.

Yeah. So I go. And I was talking to this guy on Craigslist. And he was like, okay, well, I have this girl. And I was like, okay, well, I would like to vet her first. So he puts us in contact. I'm talking to chick. And I'm like, hey, I've got this guy that I'm dating.

Like he's super hot. You know, like decent dick. Like whatever. Are you down? She's like, yeah, I'm like, bam. It was like a Monday night. I arranged this. I get a babysitter.

She comes in my house. We go over there. So we sit down and watch some TV. it's getting late. I'm like, all right, let's do this. I kiss him, I kiss her. We all go in the bedroom. I just like completely took charge of the situation. So it was super hot right there. And so we get in there and him and I start kissing. And, you know, him and I have great sex to begin with. And we all had a great chemistry. So they start messing around. I go down on her. The whole shebang. Everybody's messing around. Well, it was going on. And even at one point, I like left because at that point in time, we all smoke cigarettes. So I was like, I'm going to take a smoke break.

I'll be back. So I leave, come back. They're still getting at it. We finish. So I was like, all right, let's go. I take her. She sleeps at my house. And, you know, whatever, she leaves on her way the next morning.

So we have this great experience. It was so freaking hot. Like, I've masturbated to that for years after that because it was just the hottest thing, you know, so far. Well, like, like a couple of months later. I somehow found out that they seemed to find one another behind my back and they were hooking up. After that? Yes. Oh, wow.

She would meet him at his hunting camp in another state over where like she's from or something and like they were hooking up and I found I found her commenting on his stuff on Facebook and I'm like, what is this? And he's like, oh, blah, blah, blah. And then like somehow it came out and I was like, you dirty. be son of a bitch. But there's a whole other story that he, him and I wound up having a long term affair and I befriended his wife after. Oh, God, it's all. Oh my God. So wait. So let's get back to you though. So, you know, you're, you go to that first swingers club. You said you was there was two in your area. Do you continue on going to swingers clubs and stuff? Or do you prefer to meet couples outside like on the D.L like in hotel rooms? So after that, I didn't.

not return to that one and it was actually a couple of years before I ever went back to another one not because I had a bad experience but once again it's very uh I get I get shy you get you know you clam up and so it's very intimidating going by myself so I don't have a partner to really do that with so for the most part I've just been doing it on my own I have been to the other swingers club I've been to a resort. My swinging is very random. Like, I haven't been on a vacation in probably 15 years. So, like, last September, one of my friends that I swing with that I've actually been to the club with, he's great.

Whenever he's passing through town, he comes and stops by and gives me all the orgasms. We were talking, so we decide to go to this swingers resort. And everybody's like, Lola, where? you go and I'm like, oh, I'm just going to meet a friend in Tampa. He's down there for business. He's flying me out. Like, everybody's trying to ask me like all these things. So finally people stopped asking.

That's so funny. But which is the one that you went to? Caliente. Okay, that's what it's called. Yes, me. Yeah, yeah. It's in that they're all in this one certain area because the law allows them to have booze and sex and nudity.

in this like one little part of Florida. Oh, it's in Florida. Yes. Oh, interesting. What part of Florida? I flew into Tampa and it's like right outside of Tampa. Yeah, I forget what it's called. But it's, so this one is more of a, I think it's geared more towards nudist,

opposed to per se swinging, but they do have a swingers club on the grounds. But there is, it's a huge community. They have houses there that you can buy. And people like walk their dogs naked and stuff. How was that for you? So the experience itself was great. The actual like resort was awful. Just very overpriced for what you got.

Oh like not good accommodation. No. It was so expensive too. Like so we got half off and I want to say it was like half off of like $12 to $1,400 for three nights. It was and this is not all inclusive. Right. Y'all, swinging is not cheap at all. Like, at all.

And so they didn't have hotel rooms, but what they have is what they call a casita, which is like $12 or $1,400. It's like a little modular home. Yeah. I have videos of this because I could not believe it. I will show it to you. It is from the 1980s. Oh, that's bad. It's all.

It was so, oh, my God. And then to boot. So their actual swingers club had been closed. They don't tell you this. They send out like, like these. They're very active on SDC. And I don't know if SDC is aware that they're like promoting this place that does not look like the pictures that we see on SDC's website. Yeah.

So, yeah, it was just now the staff. The staff was amazing. You know, the food was great. The booze was great. The price for the booze was great. But like the actual, oh, we had a full body massage. That was amazing. Naked full body massage.

I highly recommend it. Right. How about the sex? Like did you guys have a lot of sex with a lot of people? Or was there not much of that going down? I brought the biggest dick to the Swingers Resort. I listened to your episode with the gentleman where he said, you know, biggest dick in the Swingers Club is not all you think it is.

Yeah. The same goes for the resort. Really? What does that mean? I guess nobody. Well, okay, so I guess I shouldn't say this. The gentleman that I was with is black. I am a snow bunny.

Okay. You like BBC? Yeah. Okay. Well, and it doesn't even have to be big because I'm not a size queen. I just personally love black men. Okay. And you're white.

Snow bunny means you're white. Okay. Yeah. I'm this blonde hair, blue eye. You're going to give me like anonymous picks for my Patreon, right? So people can paint a little picture. Yeah. I'll definitely, I'll have to find some for you.

Yeah, yeah. Okay. So we, so we stand out because of, majority of it are like it's middle-aged white you know white couples yeah like I said their actual swingers club was closed and had been closed for weeks and they did I even called previously and I was like hey you know I've seen things on reddit what's going on they're like oh no it should be open well I get there and there's no swingers club open so I was like okay so essentially whenever you played. It was like outside in this pool area where you're normally not allowed to play. So,

you know, on the chair, I don't, I didn't want to have sex on a freaking, you know, a sunbathing chair. You know, where my butt's falling through. So, but that was the accommodation. So listen, I was there. I was going to make the best of it. Had I had a vacation in 15 years, mama was going bigger going home. So I did get to fulfill a fantasy with two gentlemen. in just me. Yeah, I had it written down. There was a question I was going to ask you. Have you ever had two guys?

So that was the first time you had been with two guys after all of this playing around? It was. It was. It was amazing. You loved it. I did. There's just something about you being the center of attention with just the masculine energy, you know, and where you feel safe.

And you know, like they're there just to make you come over and over again. Chef's Kiss, I highly recommend it to anyone who's considering it. Wait, what did you just say, Chef's Kiss? Chef's Kiss. What's that? Oh, like, oh, oh, no, no, I know what you mean. Like, you stamp of approval, like you're telling everyone. Yes, yes, this is like great.

Yeah. Wait, so was it another black guy or was it a white guy? It was, and he was from Jamaica. Okay. Jamaican accent so deep and sexy. Oh, my goodness. And did you do that? that like right in front of everybody. Are you into like people watching or?

I love being watched. I love putting on a show. I actually did not. So my part, the guy that I was there with, he was talking. He was there before me because I was exhausted from we had been at the pool drinking all day. So I was like, you go down there. I'll wake up and come down. So I go down there throw on like a bikini bottom and just some pasties. And he's talking to this couple with this cute chick and but I wasn't really into her husband he was like middle age white dude just not really physically my type and then he kind of was pushy with me and like tried to finger me and I was like no no no get away so they so I don't somehow they kind of like went and wandered off so then me and the guy that I was with I was like I spot this this black guy that's by himself talking to people

didn't seem to be there with another female. And I was like, that that's the woman. He's like, you want me to, I was like, yeah. Like my, this, this, this, we'll call him James. Yeah. James is the best freaking wingman. Ladies, if you are looking for a gentleman,

I will pass this information along to you. Oh, you're so funny. So me, James and my guy go over to the choozy where this other, that other couple was that James was talking to the chick. Uh-huh. So essentially me and the Jamaican gentlemen start doing our thing. James is with this guy's wife. I'm pretty sure he makes her squirt everywhere.

I was kind of watching out the side of my eye. I was very proud of him. Look at you go, babe. So James finishes with her. He comes over to us. We're there. I'm sucking on him. Trying to do a doggy style.

And finally I just look at James. And I'm like, we need to take this back to the house. So I was like, I just can't do this anymore. I'm here. So he's like, hey, you know, we have a place, want you to follow us. So he comes to our little home away from home. It was so funny because the bedroom light was on.

James comes in. The other guy comes in. And he goes to turn off the lights. And I was like, wait. Like, I want to see this. I've been waiting for this all my life. Yeah, I'm surprised. It's everything that you were into and looking around that it took so long for you

to have the two guys. You know, once again, I live in the Bible Belt. Right. It is so frowned upon. I recently was at, we were having a girl's night and it somehow came up about me being a swinger. And this chick that I went to high school with that I've been friends with, I love her to death. Don't get me wrong.

But she's like, oh, so you're a hoe? And I'm like, yeah. Like, she's married. She has like a two-year-old child. She thinks is going to rule the world. Like, I'm not. you can call it what you want sweetie but what I'm doing is fully

consensual with somebody's husband and nine times out of ten they know their husbands with me or they're actually there with me so yeah yeah yeah well speaking of that because I have well do are you done with the three the threesome like anything you want to speak about that was like particularly great I mean it wound up to be

amazing right for you yeah no yeah it was I wasn't able to do DP you know really like James like was more like my hype man you know like He was in there with the good videos and just let the other guy have his way with me. And yeah, man, it was, it was amazing. Like, I would, I'm definitely going to do it again when I find the right guy. Now, I have heard from other unicorns something, uh, that sometimes that unicorns do feel left out when they're playing with couples.

Like I never sort of looked at it that way because a lot of times I'm talking to couples looking for unicorns. But once I talked to this one unicorn, who was like a professional unicorn, and she's just like there's a lot of times couples really don't know the proper way to treat a unicorn because it's kind of is like two against one, right? Like they go home and they have each other and you kind of like have nothing. I mean, have you had situations where you felt like an outsider or was like you being the unicorn always just totally fine with you?

So I've never felt like an outsider. I've usually had couples that were always very accommodating. what I have had is these situations where they come into it saying, oh yeah, it's everything goes. But when in actuality, the guys are really not allowed to fool around with men. And like. Right. Because they get jealous.

Yeah. And I've had that happen twice. And so that's like I no longer like if it's newbies and they haven't had any experience. Like I'm like, no offense. you need to go with the new people and test your boundaries because you don't know. Like you think you know, but you don't know. Yeah. Mm-hmm.

For sure. So how would you know, really? Yeah. You definitely, you have to communication. If you're in this as a relationship, communication is key. You know, it's not going to fix anything in a relationship. You know, that's just my advice. I love it.

It is a very freeing experience for me. Mm-hmm. I've always been very hypersexual. And it's a turn off to a lot of more so females. Like they take it the wrong way because maybe back in the day I was kind of like an attention thing. But like that's, I'm completely opposite now. You know what I'm saying? Like I'm older.

I'm a grandmother. I'm very like reserved. Like go to the gym, stay home. Want to have hot kinky sex. Like now I like like having that double life if it makes sense. I've worked like I was a civil servant the last five years like this civil servant is out taking dicks like that like I'm like I said I'm I'm a grandmother I do this I vacate cakes like it's wild man I'm just I'm going a whole different way from where I started right but that's like a turn on to you right like there's a little bit of that the fact that you do have kind of like a double life like it's kind of like cheating sex there might it's like extra charged because it's kind of like elicit right yeah 100% and then when I do talk about it people are like wait why

I'm like well because I can I can for some reason I can talk about anything I used to sell sex toys and do like fun parties to make extra money oh yeah yeah yeah yeah and when I tell you I had a group of women that my mom worked with they're all nurses and my mom was there she like her friend hosted the party and I got up in front of my mom and all these women I made like $500 that night like I can talk about anything. Like I don't, nothing's, so it's just easy for me to, you know, talk about these things with people. Where were we going?

I'm sorry. That's okay. Let me ask you this because you have had a lot of couples and you've been a unicorn for a long time now. And I know that you said you had a couple times where the wife got jealous. Did you ever have like any times where the guy was inappropriate or tried to reach out on the DL behind his wife's back or any kind of shit like, that. Oh, man. Okay. I don't, I don't want to discourage anybody. No, tell the truth. I like the good, the bad and the ugly. I mean, we'll get more like, we'll end on some really hot stuff, but just tell me. Absolutely. You know, these, okay, so case and point, the, so the couple that we met up with

when I was going to that first swingers club. Yeah. With the first. So the guy that I had hooked up with his, him and his wife, somehow, he wound up. contacting me after that. Trying to hook up with me. I don't remember how he got my number. I think, like, we had all just exchanged numbers for whatever reason. Well, he definitely contacted me behind her back. A lot of these, the two threesomes that I specifically remember where they were coming

into it where secretly the girl told them they couldn't touch me, both of those guys found me after and were like, hey, I want to play with you. Can you believe? I mean. Listen, it's no different than your friend who you had the threesome with. And then you found out he was like hooking up with that girl behind your back. You know? Yeah.

It's like fucked up. You think like, you know, you would think that saying like don't look a gift horse in the mouth. You know, here it is you've got this woman who's kind of letting you fuck somebody else. And then you are, you know, or just being pretty way more open than most other women would be. And you still got to fuck her over. Right. And they just don't know a good thing when they say. see it. Yeah, crazy. So you have had that situation. Now, let me ask you, because nobody knows

who you really are. Like, I mean, would you shut that shit down or would you hook up with those couples? I mean, that husband. I mean, I think because you're bipolar that you're going to tell me that you did hook up with them. You called yourself a hot mess express. That was a hot mess express 10 years ago. 15 years ago when I started doing this. So those two instances, I did actually wind up hooking. Yeah. Actually, I think one of them wound up being like a tattoo artist and like pierced my nipples and stuff for me.

If I remember correctly. Yeah. Uh-huh. So you did kind of see them. But has there ever been any kind of copying of feelings for you when you were a part of these situations? No. No.

After you, I was normally a one and done after that. Like I was into quantity over quality at that point in my late 20s. I was still a wee babe. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. So back then, you just wanted to hit it and quit it and get something new. You like variety. Absolutely.

I just wanted to get my dick wet, my peripheral dick. Now, can you count how many couples you were with or were you with so many? Oh, no. I couldn't. Wow. Now, was it all ranges and sizes or was, did they always have to, look a certain way or were you like really down for everything because you kind of like been there done that so funny story uh i've actually i've only hooked up with white couples oh okay the same like

same build as me you know built the women built like me the guys your typical you know 40s in the gym it wasn't until my when i was 30 that i became that i was into black men so i have not hooked up with any like any black couples or any interracial couples which I'm definitely looking for you know that's definitely on my exploring list. Right.

So other than that, yeah, no, it's vaguely been the same cookie cutter, you know, that's because that's what you're open to. I mean, everyone's different. You know, some people roll like they could get turned on by all different kinds of things, you know. I mean, some people are very specific of, you know, what kind of physical things that they're, you know, that turns them on.

There's nothing wrong with that ever, you know. Yeah. Yeah. And so now, now that you're sober, quote unquote, right, like you are, I know I'm a sober person for like 20 something years. So, you know, sex when you're sober is very different. I think it's better because you're just like fully present, right? But sometimes the meeting or hooking up or the, you know, like I know my numbers went down

drastically when I stopped drinking because I was more, like you say, intentional, you know? I mean, are you still as horny and as open without alcohol? Like, do you feel any kind of difference there? Or are you still just good to go? I mean, like, what is the difference? So let me preface this by saying by sober. I mean, like, I do partake in smoking wheat. Yeah, yeah, but you don't drink alcohol.

Uh-huh. No. So where I live- What are they call that California sober? I don't know. California so yeah there you go honest to God where I live our culture is based around drinking okay so this has been very hard for me I mean I'm doing it but you you start to lose friends and shit yeah but so yes I'm more into I'm more physically present in the sacks you know I've found that booze makes me angry and you know the thing is it's so wild because I know and I've heard it before

you got to get that liquid courage especially in swinging yeah You know, people like, oh, I had a couple drinks. And I know you got to do it to take the edge off. But, man, just that's sober and that being present now, I'm like, I want it even more. Yeah, no, listen, a lot of my most hardcore girls are completely sober. And, you know, and I know as being somebody who had a lot of blackout sex and then stopped and, you know, was sober and all, you know, the past 20 years has only been sober sex. Like, to me, sober sex was so much more, it was better because you're. like fully present.

I mean, because I was like a little bit of a blackout drinker. Why did you quit by the? Actually, I don't even know. This year I've been just adding new good habits. And I went a couple days without drinking. I started to notice the difference in my mood. And I'm like, well, let me see. And you know now because I've been smoking weed,

I feel like the weed makes you more, I guess, in tune with yourself. Like you look deeper within if that makes sense. And listen, if you're like, I mean, I don't know. you said you're bipolar, but you have it under control now. So I would assume maybe you're on some kind of medication. I think when you are on any kind of medication like that, you're probably better off not drinking. I have so many friends that are on medication and they drink it.

I'm like, how do you think that's going to fucking work? Like you're not supposed to. I don't know. And alcohol is a depressant. Yeah. And if you're taking any depressant, it's not going to work. Yeah. And everyone I know that takes that shit drinks on top of it, you know?

And I'm like, I don't know. You're kind of like you're even. It's like a, something. something minus something. It was nothing. Like you might as well not even take the fucking pills. Because I think the drinking cock blocks are just like because of what you just said, you know?

Yeah. So you feel a difference? I absolutely do. But I kind of think so I was having like a rough patch the last year. And then that's when I started smoking weed to kind of calm me down. And then it kind of morphed into no drinking and this more present lifestyle. And it makes me want to, it makes me want to have. have with a connection.

So like where I used to be, I just want to hit it and quit it. Now I'm like, let's go to a coffee shop for our first meeting. Like I don't want it to be sexually charged. I want to like just, you know, sit down for at least 15 minutes. See if the vibe is there. Yeah. And then go from there. Yeah.

And you're still meeting with couples and everything. I mean, you're still the unicorn. Yes. It's been a minute. I've been on, you know, hitting up some couples recently because now that I am so, you know, this, I'm like, okay, I want to have a sober threesome now. So I've been working on that. I've been talking to a couple of couples, but my kids are older.

A lot of these people have, you know, still have kids that can't be left home alone. So I have way more freedom than these people do. Yeah, you're a grandma now. You got to be very understanding. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's hard. So you haven't had a threesome sober, have you? No.

Okay. So that's going to be brand new. You know, I'm doing a whole episode on my, like I'm saying. going to, I already know the title is going to be sex, sobriety, like sex, sabotage or sabotage sex and sobriety. It's going to be like my quitting drinking story and sex and all the stuff. So it's interesting. But I think that, listen, I think because you are in medication, it is great that you quit drinking. You are 39. Wait until you hit your fucking 40s. Okay. That last hurrah before you lose your eggs, okay, before menopause is like the horniest time. So the fact that you have done all this

shit before that wait until you know you turn the bend you are going to be doing all kinds of things my youngest son will be 18 and I will be 41 I am chomping at the I'm like I just want to get him graduated from high school just so

like and he's still probably going to live here but like that way I can just come and go really as I please you know what I'm saying yeah yeah yeah I cannot wait yeah I wonder where you're going to wind up so do you feel like with the because you are a little bit more intentional and you said maybe you would date a woman or a guy you're looking

to make a connection. How do you see yourself if you had like a long-term relationship? Do you feel like you would 100% have to have it be an open relationship? Would you ever buy into a monogamous relationship? I don't think monogamy is going to work for me. Now, I have been with like a recently, and probably like December, this is how I discovered that I was like ready for something more than just sex. Yeah.

I randomly met this guy when I got stood up on a date at a bar and he's not my normal physical type. And when I tell you that just that spark. And so, you know, we met and it's kind of like fizzled out when I was like, okay, so I'm dating intentionally. But during this process, when him and I were kind of hot and heavy for about two months, I had brought it up. And I was like.

I think I said something maybe about swinging and he like, or it was about a threesome and he brushed it off like with another girl. Yeah. Because I'd probably be okay like with the same dick. But I know I'm probably going to want a chick. I also love the environment. Like I don't have to be having sex. I can be at a, I've been at a house party, the one house party I went to and only had sex with a guy I was there with. Like I just like that.

watching you and seeing people have sex and all that, right? And that energy, it's so hot, man. Well, listen, as a woman out there dating, trying to find a guy that would be open to an alternative lifestyle, I personally think you're fishing out of a much larger pool than a guy looking for a girl that would be down with it. You know what I mean? Like typically a lot of guys would be open to all this stuff, but it's going to be harder for a girl to say, yeah, I'm going to do it, especially a vanilla girl.

But the fact that you're looking for a guy to come in and say, like, would you be down with me hooking up with chicks every now and then and stuff like that? You're more likely to find a guy. I know you haven't yet, but there are more guys out there that I think would be down with it. Yeah, absolutely. And we're just in the beginning stages of this. We're only a couple months in. Like I said, this was in December.

And then, like, recently in February, I was dating another guy. And he was like, something about he can only. be the dick in the room, the only dick in the room. And I was like, well, this ain't going to work either. So here we are. Back at the drawing board. Do you use the apps now? Because nowadays, like, field and I don't know, there's so many apps that people talk about on my show where they go on and find these kind of alternative relationships. And you could put on there exactly who you are and what you're looking for and find a lot of like-minded people. Are you on any kind of dating app? So I'm on, like, the vanilla apps. I'm on like like Bumble and Hinge for like my vanilla, you know, like for

real life dating. And then I'm on SDC. I vaguely remember one of your shows I was listening to where they said something about an app. Was it maybe pure or feel? Maybe it was the field one and they spell it. They spell it a different way. Yeah. And I was reading the reviews and it said like it didn't have a lot of users in smaller city. So I didn't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I guess I will have to really truly dig into it because maybe that's something more I'm looking for and might be better suited for opposed to like a hinge or something. Yeah, because you're kind of like, listen, if you're really clear on what you're looking for and you know you're not going to have some sort of vanilla monogamous relationship with someone, that anyone that's going to wind up with you

is going to at least maybe like you said be the only dick, but it's going to be, have to be open to you guys, maybe bringing in women or going to swingers parties. I feel like if you just present that up front on some of these apps nowadays where you could do that you're like wading out all the guys that are going to be like no fucking way and then you're just wasting your time you know yeah and then on the on and it's unfortunate because on the swingers websites there are a good bit of single men on there that are that are nice guys but it's like if i go to my swingers site for like strictly sacks like now i have come across one or two of them on that are that are nice guys but it's like if i have come across one or two of them on like hinge or bumble.

So then I'm like, okay, well, I know this person is down. Yeah. Like, down like for the emotional stuff. But the rest of them, I don't know. So then it's like, do I, do I reach out? Like, how do we handle this? It gets, the waters get murky, man. Yeah, but I think the clearer you get on exactly what you're looking for and what

you're open to the clearer your waters can be. You know what I mean? Yeah. You just spell it out. Like, this is what I'm fucking into. I want something a little bit alternative. You know, you're not like saying you have to have tons of different guys. I mean, do you think if you were in love with a guy that you could completely share him with

another girl? Is that totally, do you think you'd be defined with that? I see. And I don't know that that's another aspect that, you know, that threesome back in the day where I was, you know, it was me and him. Like I said, that was like one of my hottest experiences. And I was like, that's because I thoroughly, I liked him so much. thoroughly enjoyed him watching other women come like he made me come.

Yeah. So, but I don't know if I'm still in that 25 year old mindset. Yeah. And were you really in love with him? Back then and when we were having the affair recently, absolutely. In hindsight, I was accepting something that I thought was love and was definitely not at all. Right. So you really don't know who you'd be because you have really been single and playing

around. So it'll be interesting what you wind up with or in, you know, maybe you will wind up with a girl. Maybe you are so afraid of that because that's like the right thing for you. I don't know. Stay tuned, man. Stay tuned. I love it.

Lola part two. I can't wait. Thank you so much, Lola, for calling in. I love your story. I love your openness. Definitely send me some picks of yourself. Like I always say like R rated for my Patreon. Now I have a Discord connected to my Patreon where people are allowed to go over there

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Yeah, totally. Like I said, we're going to do a Lola Part 2. I'm sure you have like a million more stories. This was just like, you know, the get all the details first. You know, I mean, just like the backstory. Cool. All right. Thank you, Lola. Thanks so much for calling in. Thanks. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now. available not only in paperback and e-book but you can pre-order the audiobook it's still not going to be out till august 25th but you can pre-order it the book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show i kind of picked one story from each category that i talk about on my show like there's a hot wife story

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