Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 658 - GIRL TALK: How to Give a Good BJ, Open Relationships, Sending/Taking Naked Pics, P*** Tricks and More w/ Layla

Episode Date: July 7, 2023

Layla, from The Curious Girl Diaries podcast called in to talk all about blowjobs, open relationships, sending/taking naked pics , p**** tricks and more. Tune in to hear the results on our recent Jizz quiz ad find out how much men really masturbate, how and why looking a guy on the face while blowing him is hot, how dirty talk in between is also hot, deep throating and why Layla loves it, her recent snowballing experience and how the guy felt about the taste of his own jizz, period sex and why the denial of it can be a deal breaker, Layla’s current dating issues and what her future relationship looks like, how and why she wants to be a hotwife, cuckqueaning fantasies and how and why seeing guys with other women can be hot, what to do and what not to do when sending nudie pics to your guys and why, efficient blowjobs and why Kathy enjoys them, Layla’s new found p*** tricks nd why she started learning them plus a whole lot more. You can find Layla's private podcast here: https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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or doing something that you can't remember all this shit is in the description. So if you need any of those links or the phone number, all that stuff, in the description. Now today I have back on a lot of people's favorite guests for me to do a girl talk episode, which is Leila Lundj. And now Layla came back on because last time she called episode 642, we went over or we had a debate on how many times guys masturbate. She didn't think they masturbated that much. I was like every fucking day on this call when I came back to her with all of the emails that I got from guys telling me how many times they masturbate. She kind of was like, I didn't say that, but I edited in her exact words.

from the first podcast where she said that she doesn't think guys masturbate that much. It's in there. Of course, I won the bat. Guys do masturbate every day. I got emails from everybody. We talk about that. That's what we started off talking about. We go over that jizz quiz.

And then we get like hardcore into blow jobs. We talk about all things blow jobs. What to do to make them fucking good. Why looking in the face is hot and why guys love it. why I don't like to do it, but Layla does. We also talk about period sex. We give Layla a little dating advice. We talk about hot wiping because she wants to do that.

She's into like going out and fucking other guys. It's the kind of relationship she wants to set up. We talk about cuck queening. We go over that. We also talk about the kinds of picks. You should send your guy when sending dirty picks. I have some funny stories about that. And we talk about pussy tricks.

Lela has this whole new thing that she's doing where she's training her pussy to do tricks. It's kind of like giving a blowjob to a guy to a guy with your pussy. I don't know. You got to listen to her, explain it. I won't so we end on that. But it's an interesting, fun convo. You're going to learn a lot, I think, on this conversation. Super interesting.

You're going to love it. Most people love when I have Lela on. You could find her over at her podcast, The Curious Girl Diaries. That's her podcast. She gives a shout out in the beginning. She gives a shout out to all her stuff. stuff at the end. Link to her podcast will be in the description. So I'm going to be right back on with Layla. Hi, Layla, London. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you?

Hi, Kathy. I am great. I can't wait to talk about all this stuff today. It's going to be fun. Yeah, it's going to be funny is what it's going to be because I screenshotted the hundreds of emails I got from fucking people. I was feeling I'm going to get roasted. You are. You are. You definitely going to get roasted it's going to end though on a good note i decided to save the one guy that doesn't fucking fap for you okay the one guy that stuck up for later but wait let's just give everyone a little backstory first of all everybody loves when you're on my show okay you're like they're their favorite girl talk episode guest okay i don't know if you go on to youtube and stuff that's where people leave messages but people always like oh i love you guys on so you got some fans over there

you should check it out um but but what i like about you is you do have a good sense of humor and you're gonna need it here because not one fucking person was on your side and a lot of people were like Layla's stupid. I mean like the funniest subject lines. Okay. Layla's nuts. Okay. What we did in our last episode if people didn't hear it is we had like a debate on how many times guys jerk off. I was like of course they jerk off every day and you were like no they don't and there's like a whole big no fat movement. I'm like what the fuck is no fap and no fat means like guys are not masturbating. And I was like that's not happening. But of course you know we got one guy that said he did in fat because they wrote a

an article you read it you believed it there's got to be 20 people out there that don't fap but guys in their 20s to guys in their 70s wrote into me okay and I'm just going to read you some more money and not one guy doesn't fap and most guys fap even more than once a day

like I believe that oh you do no I totally do I was just I think I don't remember what I said but I what I think I said was recently I've been running across a couple guys that are all about the snow fact they're the ones that told me about it i didn't even know

and i i was very surprised because most of the guys i'm with definitely jacked off all the time and they're more than happy to tell me about it and they want me to come over and help them out so okay well what i'm going to do is i'm going to edit in here the part of the episode when you called in and doubled down on the fact that you do not believe that most guys masturbate daily let's talk about guys masturbating. I think that most guys masturbate at least once a day. No. I don't agree with that.

I think most guys maybe a couple times a week. That was really what it was. But it's okay if you don't remember it. And I think you're being a little bit more realistic in this conversation. Can I say, did I say most guys? Yes. I'm going to, yes.

You must have not fapped or something. Like you must have been in a no fapping phase yourself or something. I must have been any I know that you are. Wait, I know that you are in a dry spell or in a burnt out dating phase and we're going to give you some dating advice, which I love to give and I really can't wait to get to that.

So maybe that has something to do with it. You're just like so fucked with guys right now. That could be, that very well could be. Right. I'm getting a little jaded. All right. So maybe then I don't have to go through, but I do love the subject lines.

Layla is nuts. Some guy called you Lola. Listen to the show with Lola. She's not. correct um i did i right so listen i mean every single person was like leila's nuts leila doesn't know what she's talking about like i said from young guys to old guys to super fit healthy guys everyone jerks off guys jerk off at least once a day um if not more there was finally one guy who rode in and he was 37 super fit healthy i used to be a serial masturbator but have found a ton of

great and positive health benefits to not getting off every day benefits that i found increased to An increased mental clarity, more self-control, more enjoyment through delete gratification, more presence in the moment, increased desire and deeper love for my partner. Bigger loads. Now, let me just tell you something about the bigger loads. We did, and this is where I got to give it to you, okay, besides giving it to you with this one guy. We did also have a debate because you were like, I love when, you know, I'm giving a guy a blowjob and he comes a lot because I feel like he was waiting for me and, you know, that means he hasn't been with anyone else. So I'm like, I don't think that that means anything, you know, but no, most guys wrote in and said 100% you're right with that. Like if they don't jerk off or they haven't had sex, their loads are definitely bigger holding off.

Just like this guy said, you know, the no fapper, the benefits. And I, listen, I do believe there's probably benefits if you're not sort of giving out that energy every single day. But I don't know. I think guys do and they have to and they have to really. It's like poison in them. They have to get it out. Well, no, my sub, though, he doesn't. He, you know, that's why.

Those people are extreme. That's a guy. Those people want to be in a cock cage for like a month and not ever common. That's like, but they're getting turned on by being denied and stuff. That's like a kink, you know, but that's not the regular guy. But don't you ever do that yourself? Like, if I am going to be seeing someone, I will do that too. I won't masturbate because I want, I want that or like that orgasmic energy.

that sexuality and just that craving and desire building up. You're weird. Guys are so different. They could jerk off on their cab right over to you. The other day I had a funny, I had a booty call coming over, and I don't know. You know, I'm doing injections. I'm going to do a whole episode on hormones because I've tried them all, and I'm going to get the new place with the new injections on to talk all about every kind of hormone replacement

therapy for women. And I have to tell you, it has me super horny and the new stuff I'm on. and I was like super horny before he came like I and I was like he can't get here faster enough like I did not want to get myself off because I wanted to be at that heightened place but I just don't think that's I don't think that guys hold off or need to like that but I have heard that a lot of guys they get that advice when they're younger like you know do yourself a favor and jerk off before you go out with the girl that you like so you're not like really sweating her so maybe there's something is something to it right so that you're not so horny

to get down her pants, right? I've heard that, yes, I've heard that as well. I believe a lot of guys follow that philosophy. Yeah. They bring up blow jobs, okay? Because I just had a guy on recently, and we're talking about like this one girl who gives like the best blow jobs

and what he had to teach her that he loves the most about blow jobs is when she looks at him in the face. Now I was like, wow, that's interesting because I got to say, I have been told by every guy that I give like the best blow job. 10 years later, they'll come back and be like, no one gives a blowjob like you, Kathy.

And I'll give tips out of why I think I give a good blowjob. And I do kind of believe them. But I never look at the guy's face. I think I'm like too shy. I don't know. Like, I don't ever do that. But he was like, no, that's what you need to do. Like, do you look at guys faces?

I love looking at their faces. I knew you would for some reason. You know why? Because a lot of times, you know, a blowjob can be perceived as the woman in sort of a submissive state. And that's true. Sometimes I'm giving a more of a submissive blowjob, but a lot of times when I'm giving a dominant of domineering, you know, blowjob, I want to look in his eyes and him know, I fucking own you. Oh, so you're doming him at that point, kind of. It's like that part of you. Well, it's part. It's part of it. And so that kind of feeds into my,

you know, more aggressive side where I'm just giving him more of an aggressive blowjob. Plus, I, for me, I, like to read the guy's body cues. I want to see his facial expressions. I want to see his little muscles twitching. I want to know exactly the cause and effect, you know, that I'm creating. And that turns me on. That just, that's why blowjubs get me super, super wet, especially if I'm, well, it doesn't matter. I love both. Like, if someone's, you know, Facebooking me, I'm, it's more submissive. I, the, the sloppier, the juicier, the more tears, you know, What do you mean tears? You mean, painful?

If you're gagging, if they're, no, if they're gagging you on their cough, you're going to, you're going to, you're going to tear up. You could deep throat? Deep throat, yes. Oh, my gosh. I'm like super impressed with people that could deep throw it. You like to gag? I can never. I love it.

I just, I love that. But then I also love the, the blowjob where I'm like, sit back, buddy. and I'm going to fucking rock your world. And I own this cock right now and you're about ready to know it. Speak. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's why I had a feeling that you would like give him that laser eye luck and,

you know, because you do have that dom side. And I do think it like kind of the way you explained it. It makes sense like you, that is a part of you being a little bit more aggressive and not so submissive like your cock is in my mouth. I used to think it was really funny when I had these young girls when I was like a little bit older in the younger girls generation. For some reason, they thought like oh you know I wouldn't I didn't fuck him but I'm like yeah but you were like sitting on

your knees with his cock in your mouth like that is somehow more submissive than taking it in your pussy I think personally for sure oh for sure right yeah absolutely like I totally agree yeah you're gonna do something uh that is not just for the guy and you want to stick up for yourself don't put his dick in your mouth before you fucking let's not if you're just if all you're doing is second dick you're not in the power position right right you're saying it correctly Yeah, exactly, right. There is something, like you said, a little submissive about that. But if you turn it around and you look up at them and then you like to see their face, supposedly like the guys really like that. I like it. I mean, I do. I like it. And they know, boy, when they catch you looking at it and they're like, oh, and it turns them on. Yeah, I can see it. Yeah. Yeah. It makes sense. They can also, they can read your facial expression how much you, you know, when you look at them with that sort of just hungry, kind of commanding.

straight in the eyes look while you're while they're dicks in your mouth i mean come on guys they they lose it they love it right and do you dirty talk while you're doing it because i think that that's always really hot um well my mouth's a little full no no no but you know every guy i mean having you had the mass and oh are you going to swallow my come like do you want to taste my jiz like you know i think that they want you to say those kinds of things you know what i mean talk about that's what i mean like in between oh yeah to edge um i think that they love that kind of thing. But, you know, because I think that they tend to ask those questions.

And I assume that's because that's what they want you to be telling them, right? Oh, yeah. They want to know, you know, that she can't wait to taste them and how good it is and how much you want it, crave it. Love it. You swallow, right? Of course. Okay. Yeah.

I wouldn't think you didn't swallow. I don't understand women who don't swallow. I really, that's one thing. I'm like, why? I did my favorite rant about it on my Valentine's Day PSA. And I was kind of like, there's a lot of other disgusting things you could swallow besides cum, like oysters. I was like, if you eat oysters but you don't swallow cums, like you're, or you eat ass and

you won't swallow cum. I don't think a lot of women eat ass either, though. I think the same women that I'll eat an ass, I'll do anything when it comes to sex, but there is something I'm not into and that's degradation. But I don't, I think the girl that won't swallow definitely at one. I don't eat ass. I don't think that the girl's like, yeah, I'll eat your ass, but I won't swallow your cum. I don't think so. Or maybe. I don't know. I think there are, I think there are women that, like, that's their thing. Like, they just, they feel, they feel swallowing the cum is the degrading

part of it. Or disgust. I just think that they don't like, you know, the consistency, the taste, having it in their mouth. It's gross. I had a call her the other day. This guy, Antonio, he was so funny. He was like, he said that some girl was like trying to get her guy into it, so that he would like try it out and she was trying to tell him that it tastes like tapioca pudding or it's like the same consistency as tapioca pudding i was like what a fucking cunt that guy's gonna try jizz because he thinks he's going to be eating pudding he's going to be like what the fuck i mean there's nothing pudding about it i think i don't think i've i don't know that i've actually eaten tapioca pudding but i did i don't know if i i don't know if i told you this but

recently I was with this guy and he'd never tasted his own jizz, you know, and I said, well, do you want me to snowball it to you? And most guys are very mild. It's just very mild tasting. Like it doesn't really taste like much. But this guy had a very strong taste. And it kind of, I was surprised, but it didn't, it didn't deter me one bit. But when I snowballed it to him, the look on his face, I mean, he looked like he just been in. something rancid and I was kind of laughing to myself. I'm like, well, there you go, buddy. Now you know. So you should be thanking me. I swallowed it. Now you do too. I think clean jizz kind of tastes like a little bit of like a sweaty kind of taste, but not so much

sweat, but slightly sweaty taste. And like jizz that has, I always, because I always feel like you could taste like medication and drugs. Yes, this was bitter. His was bitter. Yeah, that's medication. And it doesn't have to be, or drugs, you know, drugs, medication. It doesn't have to necessarily be like hardcore drugs. It could also be medication. The more a guy takes you taste that. That's what that is. And you could taste the difference for sure.

You just should not have that bitter taste to it. That's clean. Like I used to make jokes. Like I could work in the police station and do drug tests by just tasting the cum. No, you can. You taste it in there. If a guy's clean, it doesn't taste like anything. thing. If he's taking to fucking drugs or a lot of medication, you taste it.

Well, hold on now. Kathy, this guy was the no fapper. Maybe he's backed up. Maybe this is, I wonder if there's a correlation. Who knows what he's fucking into, okay? I think the same guy that no faps takes ayahuasca and all that shit. I think it's the same personality type. He's probably high on shrooms all the time. I don't know. You know, kind of the same. This guy was kosher too. And you know what? And I showed up and I was on my period. And I didn't realize that he was kosher.

He wouldn't have sex with me on his period, but he wanted me to suck his dick. Let me tell you. I think it's 50-50. I think, you know, 50% of the guys out there don't give a fuck about period. I think that there's a small percentage that actually get turned on by it. And I think that there's a lot of guys that just won't even go there when you have your period. But the sad thing is, is that when a girl has her period, she's like the fucking hornyest. I know. I will not be with someone. I will not be with someone that won't fuck me on my period because I am a fiend and I need it and I want it. And if you can't give it to me, get the fuck out so I can finish the job. Yeah. I had a girlfriend who once told me this story. And this was before I had ever experienced it where she was like with her guy and it was like the beginning of the relationship. And he was like ravishing her. And he went down and she like had a tampon it and he like took it with his mouth, took it through it. You know, with his mouth, took it out. And like went to.

down on her like bloody everything and I was like holy fuck and I was like that's kind of gross but I had a guy do that to me too so I got to tell you fast forward to one time where someone's going down to me and I think I'm getting my period and he was like I don't really fucking care and then somehow and this is where your mind comes into play I don't know I can like think anything's a turn on like you could just make yourself turned on by anything if you really are in the mood you know so I was using that like oh my god like going down to me on my period and it was like the hottest thing ever just thinking and then when it was all said and done there was nothing going on i hadn't even had it and i was like oh but the thought of it it was like hot to me like did you like it when the guy did it or were you

self-conscious no i really liked it and i was super yeah no i really liked it and i was super excited because he also had a really big dick and i couldn't wait until you were gagging oh because you wanted to fuck you after yes and the only problem with that guy was he had a merse and I just couldn't I couldn't do the what the fuck is a merse a man purse he showed up with a man purse and I was like I can't you know I can't see you anymore because you have a merce well what did he have in that man

mur what did he have in his merce I don't understand I guess his his ID his you know money and and he was just a little too this might be your dating problems this might be we're going to get into your dating problems. But like if you're

if you're not 17 and you're still judging a guy, I mean these are things you could change. Who cares about a fucking merce? I mean, he's got a big cock. He's going down on you because he and you got your period and his merce is the turn off. Well, this was seven years ago, but Oh, okay. So you were a little.

This was when I very, very, very first started and there was just other things that were kind of a little, you know, I like really masculine manly dudes. And there was just other things about him that were kind of very, that were feminine, you know, that just sort of, and some people really like that a softer guy and there's nothing wrong with that but i i need that masculine i need masculine energy like super masculine energy so yeah big dick trumps everything for me though

i you know i know we did a whole episode on whether we're size queens or not i think i do have a size queen in me in that i do i definitely wound up like banging guys that i did not like at all i mean merce anything ugly face that i would never kiss but i'd let them fuck me because that that Big dick, sorry. Like, I wouldn't care about the MERS. I wouldn't deter me. I mean, yeah, there was, I know, there was the MERS and then he was, he drove this little Cooper Mini and he also was my height.

So it just, it just wasn't coming together. But I think, you know what? Recently I have been coming across smaller penises. I told you, I came across the micro penis, which was the first time ever. And then I came across another guy recently. And I really like him. But he is on the smaller side. But we had great sex.

He's on the small side. But it really is sort of kind of letting me know. I do like big. I mean, I always thought, no, I'm not a size queen. But I agree. I think I have a little bit of a size queen in there. Right. So do you, is that like a deal breaker if you were going to date a guy?

Well, see, that's what I'm thinking. Because this guy is kind of. more like more long-term datable friends with benefits type material, but his stick is smaller. And I'm like, do I want to take up a spot on the roster for that? I don't know. But maybe we should just get to your dating advice now. We'll get back to some more sex talk. I know you were like, oh, I'm kind of burnt out.

And I'm like, save it for the call because I love giving advice and analyzing things. I mean, what is your issue now? But let me just ask you first. What are you, are we going to be talking about like the roster of? booty call guys or are you looking for an actual relationship with a guy? Well, I don't know because guys the guys that want, there's a couple guys that want relationships that are sort of pushing for that right now. And I, part of it sounds appealing.

I won't lie. But the other thing is I think it might, I might be more drawn to that right now because I'm a little burnt out on all the dating. You know, I got on this app. It's been great. I mean, I've just been flooded with guys. And it's almost like a job. I just felt burnt out on it.

Yeah, yeah. But what are you burnt out? Because this is the thing. I think when you're really looking for something, regardless of what it is in any area of your life, you have to be like super clear about what you fucking want. And then you have to just, you know, continue to go out and try to get what you want until you get it.

And then you can move on with your life. Now, what I always think is very important. and if someone's having like dating issues or they're burnt out they can't find what they want I always like to the first thing I always want to know is like what are you looking for it when I hear someone confused about what they're looking or they're like you know I really want a boyfriend but you know if I found a guy that was like ha that I could just love a booty call like I take that too and if I had this I take that and then I'm like well that's your problem right there because if you're putting the energy out in three different directions you're going to get back that same confusing energy but if you're very clear like I want a fucking relationship I'm done with dating. I'm done with fucking around. I don't just want a booty call. I want companionship. I want to fall in love. It's been a while. Like that's what I fucking want. Then that's what you will get.

And you can't stop until you get it. But you sound a little confused. I don't know that it's, I think I'm right on that tipping point where it's just occurring to me like I'm feeling the burnout. And I'm going, okay, why am I burnt out? And then simultaneously a guy that, you know, has been in my life, important person in my life for 30 years, you know, is coming back on strong and like I never should have, you know, I fucked up years ago. I've always loved you and, you know, and I've always loved him. He's a great guy. And we've stayed friends. And now he's just like coming on strong. And so I'm kind of going, holy shit, what, what's going on here? You know, because he's like, I want to get married. I want to do, you know, I want to be with you. I'm not, he's not unclear. And

he also knows i have the podcast and he knows what i do but but he said he first he said he wants monogamy about a month ago and then i said i just you we've never been monogamous we were never monogamous when we were together and he wants that and i said i don't know if i can do that now he's kind of saying okay well let's yeah i thought about that and maybe you know let's talk about what what that would entail and so that's kind of that's just where i'm out and i'm like holy shit I mean, I don't know what to do. It sounds like two separate things. You're burnt out on dating.

You do have a guy. It doesn't sound like you're sold on him. If you could meet the perfect guy that you want everything from tomorrow, would you even consider this guy or are you just considering him because you're burnt out on dating? I know. I'm not considering him because I'm burnt down on dating. I've always, we've always, like, I've loved three, really loved three men in my life. He's one of them.

And yeah. So we have, you know, and since we have this long history and everything's always been super hot between us. Now I'm, but I guess I'm probably just scared. You know, I'm like, holy shit, you know, like, I've never been married. I don't know. You know, I'm like, oh my God, can I do it? You know, am I? Could I be any good at it?

But that's where being clear about what you really want is important. You can't make that decision now and you're confused because it doesn't sound like you really. have committed yet to yourself. And sometimes it's just a matter of admitting it to yourself and saying this is what I fucking want. You have to make that decision that you really want a fucking boyfriend, a companion. Maybe you want to get married. Like maybe that's what you need to say to yourself. And maybe that's what you're afraid of admitting. Like maybe you're at the point in your life where you're like you're fucking sick of being alone. And there's nothing wrong with that, you know, but maybe you're afraid to admit that to yourself because what does that mean? It means something totally

different for you because you've been single for so long. But, you know, that's all in your time. And like I said, I'd be leery about a guy who changed his mind of what he could deal with because you said so because that guy might not be able to roll that way. And if you want a guy who 100% is going to be non-monogamous and that's the only kind of relationship. I want to be a hot wife. If I'm transitioning to something, it's hot wife.

Oh, okay. That's interesting. Put that out there. You're going to get a lot of emails. So you want to be the girl. Okay, I like that. So you want to be with a guy. that you could go out and he likes it likes you, you know, to know that you're out with other guys,

correct? Yes. Yeah, that's hot. A lot of guys, let me just tell you something, Lila. Like a lot of guys won't put that out there in a minute. I have so many guy friends. They always told me everything. We're very open.

They know that I don't judge anyone for anything when it comes to sex. Even before my show, you know, but never one ever cop to that. Yet I get so many guys on my show that are talking about it. So I feel like that's something that you have to put out to a guy first just to see because some guys might not lead with that. They might be afraid to tell you that. But I think if you put that out there and that's what you want, I think you could find a lot of guys that role like that. And it's not easy to find a girl that rolls like that. So I think, you know, that's something you pull out when you really decide you want a partner.

If you put that out, you could meet the perfect guy for you. Yeah. Yeah. For real. Like that taught you. I'll change my profile. Make me a hot wife. No, that you're into that kind of situation.

You're into non-monogamy. I mean, are you on like a one of those like, you know, those, you should be a one of those progressive kind of apps where people are more open to stuff like that, you know? I am. Yeah. I'm on field. Field is a great app for that. I love it.

Why not have a relationship where you have that companion and all that stuff at home and then you could go have all your roster too? Now, would you be into that guy being with women or? would you want that guy to stay home with you? Because, you know, I've heard all different kinds of setups. I would be, I would love to watch him with another woman and or be part of it. Yeah. And we talked about that. See, he's good with that. He's, he thinks that'd be hot. And I'm like, of course, you know, so I was just saying like, absolutely. I mean, there's, I, I, I love the whole compersion. It turns me on, you know, think about my partner with someone else. And,

um, it took me a while to get there. Originally, when I first started doing all this, I was like, oh, hell no. But now, you know, my sexuality is really broadened my horizons. And it's a turn on when you're watching him, you know, if he's good at fucking and watching him give that pleasure to someone else and be there and you're part of it too because you're there watching, it's a, you know, it's, it takes that whole dynamic to make that whole scene hot. God, I love it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then, but I love that you also would, you know, you have that. sort of drive to want to go out and be with the guy too because there are a lot of guys that dig that as well you know that's a whole separate thing i know i had you recommended jay and when and

who was a great guest oh is he the best i love him yeah very art the way he articulated it and what's so erotic and exciting about it was i loved it yeah i loved every minute of it did you wear his episode yet? Yes. It just came out today. Oh, awesome. Okay. Yeah, he's been on my show more than once and I had his girl on too and he's very into the hot wave thing. But what's so interesting about him is he's been on both sides. He was a bull first and he was the guy taking the other girls wives because a lot of guys like that. You know, but now he likes to sit back and watch his girl do it. So he likes it from all angles. Kind of like you. Like you want to be that hot wife, but you also have the cut queen and you want to see him with other girls. So you're like all, you know, fully, like, rounded.

Yes, totally. I mean, you know, like when I'm with someone, if they send me a video of them fucking someone else or like your girlfriend in the past or whatever, I'm just like, oh my God, that's so hot. It's just fucking hot. That's what it's so, you know, a lot of times people, when I do Q&As on my Patreon, people will always ask me like, have you gotten into anything because of your show? And it's like, absolutely. And the more I do it, the more it opens my, my mind to different things and the more I learn and the more I'm like, oh, I should try that. And then I think about it or like I realized that turns me on and it was actually a video that someone sent me once, a guy that I was with and he sent me a video of him with someone else. But it was only because

she was like from behind and he thought she looked like me and he was like pretending it was me. But like, I just got turned on by the thought of seeing him with someone else. And that's when I realized, oh my God, I have that thing that everyone talks about on my show. And then when I ran with it, I'm like, oh my God. I would totally. totally do that with my next guy. After that, I was like, can you send me tons of picks? Like, give me anything you got. Like, I was like so horny for it. You know, I'm like one of those people with a fetish. Like, once I want something, I want more. I was like, how many more videos do you have? Can you send me anything else? Because it was so, it was like the hottest thing I had ever seen.

And I had never realized I was into that. I know. Yeah. Same. Same. Do you get a lot of guys sending you their videos? No, these are just with people that I'm with. And like, I don't want to randomly. I don't need to see somebody. I don't know. That doesn't do anything for me. Right. So, but yeah, the guys that I'm saying the guys that you're, of course. I'm just saying, have you had when you tell those guys do they have? Because listen, I always tell girls. And I said this on a recent show. Like, you're going to send a guy when you're sexting, naked picks and stuff. Like if you have a tattoo or anything about yourself that's like, uh, recognizable, don't send it because guys show other people your picks. Okay. Like my guy friends show me my guy friends show me,

their girl picks all the time. Just like that guy sent me the video with the girl. They send it. They do. It's like you have to know that their friends are seeing it. I got to tell you the funniest story real quick

and then remember what you're about to say. I was with this guy and I sent some picks and I liked sending picks. I don't mind. You know what I mean? Of course I never put my face in a pick. You know, maybe some hair or my back. But I have a tattoo I'll never put that in

because it's recognizable. But I had in these picks and they were like fucking great picks. I didn't mind that he showed people. And like I said, you make your picks good, okay? I don't send out anything unless it's fucking perfect because I know they could be being broadcast to five guys, not just one. You know what I mean?

You want to look fucking good, right? And so you want to make your guy proud because he's going to show his friends. And so I had in this pick, okay, in these picks, I had bright turquoise nail polish. And at that time, no one was wearing it. Everyone wears turquoise and nail polish right now. But like I was like, did it before. I have it on my toes right now. I love it. Yeah, it's so hot. It looks so good, right? And it was like the summer. So everything was tan, and I, like, had a couple picks and my hands were in it. And it was turquoise nail polish. And so, and it was, like, very obvious in this picture. It was like tan body, my privates, and then turquoise nail polish, like three things in that. So you'd remember it, right? So I'm out to dinner with the guy that I sent them to and his best friend and his wife. And we're sitting at this place and I'm drinking something.

his friend's talking to me right and as his friend is talking to me and I lift my cup up to drink he stops like dead in his track because he sees my nails with the polish like and I know what the fuck's going on right there my brain is smart enough to know and now he can't even think and he's trying to stay on track but he sees my nail polish and now his brain is like going and I'm like my fucking guy showed him those pictures and he's seen those nail polish in those pictures and I told my guy he's like I didn't show him like yes he fucking did he gave it a way because he couldn't even talk the minute he saw my nail polish because I was like how every guy shows their guy friends you know what I'm saying I mean it was just I don't know it was so funny because

I was like that guy seen those picks you sent them and I'm just fine because they were great picks but like come on and I don't even think it's a deal breaker I mean yeah you could get pissed at your guy but it's not a deal breaker we shows it because that's what guys do sorry so like I said make sure you send good fucking hot picks and you know because they're going to show it to people what were you going to say sorry cut you off no I tell it no I I I I I I am a thousand percent on board with the picks. Make sure you cut your face off. Make sure there's nothing identifiable.

Like you said, tattoos, things like that. Make sure that these pictures are smoking hot because they are going to be shared and passed around. But you need. I'm a thousand percent with you on this. Let's just reinforce this for all the women out there. You know, know that this will be shared and take and present it accordingly because you've got to look hot. and also make sure you can stay anonymous. Yeah, yeah.

And I didn't realize that, you know, my nail polish was a tell. Like that that had me not. And I could tell that I was like, okay, obviously he showed these picks, but he didn't say it was me because he couldn't even talk when he saw the polish. And his brain was putting it together like, oh, those were pictures of her. That's what was going on. So I'm like, okay, he showed the pics. He didn't say it was me, obviously.

Like I'm like a little detective. Well, he's probably speechless because he. She's probably fucking jacked off to it so many times. He's like, oh my God, this is my jack off girl. There she is. Yeah, yeah. I was like, oh, my God, it's so funny. But I always knew that because that guy had showed me picks of another girl.

And I got to tell you, like, to this day, I make fun of the picks because this girl, and this is where it's important to send good picks because he, like, send me all these picks that his girl was sending him. And it was literally her with these weird panties on and her legs spread. And in the middle of her panties were a bouquet of deli flowers. And I was like, I mean, they weren't even like nice flowers. They're like deli flowers. You know, and I don't know. People in New York City don't understand what deli flowers are.

They're like cheap fucking flowers. You could buy it any deli. There was a package of deli flowers in between her crotch. And I'm like, how is that hot? I don't know. To this day, I still send them those pecks laughing because I'm like, what the fuck is that? Like flowers in her pussy, like a whole bouquet. I was like, I don't understand who would ever send that.

If you're going to send pics, make sure they're fucking hot. And if you don't know what's hot, look at pics. look at picks online yeah that's what picks online yeah exactly you know the angles what guys want to see this is your public service message thank you kathy k do not put there's no flowers in your pussy shots not even good flowers it doesn't matter that they were daily flowers i don't understand what they think like a guy likes to look at flowers and a pussy at the same time like i was so confused and he's sending to me as if they're like hot i'm like you think this is hot like this is like this is like the biggest turn off.

I don't know. But I'm like the type of girl that would be true. I've said this before but like I'm the type of girl that if you brought me to a hotel and there was like you know flower petals on the ground leading to the bed, I would be

like this is so fucking stupid. That would not turn me on. It would like turn me off actually. I was like Oh really? Oh my God. Yeah. I don't have like romantic bones in my body really. It's sad but true. sorry. I just think it's so dumb.

Yeah, it's a very big girl thing. It's just not my thing. I don't know. You would like that? Well, so I just recently, you know, because I was that guy, you know, that I was mentioning earlier, he left. He didn't do rose petals. He didn't do rose petals. But when I came home, we used to write each other, we used to send each other letters, you know, handwritten letter.

And so he left me a handwritten letter. and he also put a little message on my mirror when he left, which I thought was very sweet. No, that's cute. No, no, listen, my love language is gifts and compliments and stuff like that. So words of affirmation are like, I love that stuff. No, I think that that's super hot. I'm talking about the full-blown shit that you see on TV.

And then the girls are like crying. I saw like, you know, an engagement video recently where, you know, they're filming this and there's like pedals on the floor and she's following the pedals. And then it leads to the guy on the floor. I would just be, that would just be like laugh out loud funny to me. I think that kind of stuff is a little over the top and it's not hot or romantic to me. But it's not like I'm not romantic, but that kind of stuff is like too much or something. I don't know.

I think it's stupid. Well, I love, I got a plug for the flowers. They're like, I mean, on the floor, the petals. No, no, no, flowers, like someone, when you get a delivery. Oh, for sure. No, I like that. Oh, I love it. Just not in your pussy.

Just don't take pictures of them in your pussy and don't take the pedals off and put them to the bathtub. But you could send them to me for sure. Yes, that's nice. There's a difference. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, no, no.

I like that. I don't know what it is about the flower petals and that stuff, that overblown stuff. But I have a really good funny blowjob story. And this will give you an idea of like kind of how I am. Like sometimes I'm just like very not romantic and just more realistic. and I love a quickie. I don't mind shit like that. You know, I'm kind of like very efficient.

And it translates into the bedroom and into my romantic life. But like, I'll always give a guy a blowjob, okay, just if I don't want to have sex. I'll just do that because if I don't want to have sex for whatever reason, but I'll blow you. I'm fair like that. And I think, why not? So easy, right? Give him blow job. And I had this one booty call guy and we were going out to dinner and I didn't want to fuck him for some reason that day.

I think we were going out to dinner. I didn't want to get my hair messed up. I'm like, I'll just give you a blow. job. So I'm like blowing him. And, uh, and he's like taking a while to come and like I stop blowing him. I look up at him. And I'm just like, listen, can you like think about somebody else so you could come and we could go to dinner? Because I'm really hungry. And he's like, do you actually think I'm thinking about you? I was like, no, that's so funny. I was like, fucking high five. Of course. This is so perfect real life. Here I am. Like, can you fucking think about Pamela Anderson or someone else so you

could just get off? And he's like, do you actually think I'm thinking about you? We're both just like, let's get on with it. And it's so real life. Of course, is that thinking about me. And of course, I'm like, can you fucking come? I was like, that was the best comeback ever. I don't know. I thought it was fucking funny.

I didn't think of it. Because it's fucking true. That's where I like to live in reality. That to me, I was like high five to a woman. That was the best fucking answer I've ever. I love it. I fucking love it. But I think that just shows that like another girl I think maybe would have thought that

that's really horrifying. But I thought it was kind of funny. You know, that's where I'm like, it's not unromantic to me to say that. That's reality. I like it. Yeah, first of all, I love a good blow job. I pride myself on my blowjobs. I'm into it.

But there's something new that I'm learning about that I really want a master. I kind of feel like blow jobs are, you know, the old school. And there's a new thing out there, a new trick where you can basically train your pussy how to milk a cock. like a mouth. Give a blowjob with your pussy. What is that called? It's called, yeah, pompoir. And it originates from,

they don't know if it originates from India or China, but it's been translated from way, way, way back. And there's people to teach it. And it's so interesting. And I had this guest on, and her name is what is, Belle D. Lorenzo. And amazing.

I cannot. I got her course and I'm training my pussy to it's kind of like Kegels, but it's way more. It's not Kegels. That's only one maneuver. She's talking, I was saying, what's the difference between this and Kegels? Yeah. That's only, that's only one part of it. Like there's 27 specific things that you do.

And so I'm, I'm all about it. I'm just jumping in and starting to train. So you're doing, so when they're inside you, you do different things. she has like different moves that you could make so you're like kind of getting him off with the different like squeezing techniques and stuff what more can you do besides the fucking kegel down there well so you're squeezing but it's you're squeezing with with a sequence so like if you want to do kind of like you can squeeze from the very bottom opening you can squeeze from the middle and then you can squeeze from the top and then you can also like push his cock over it again but with this we think

with this muscle control, you know, your pelvic floor, you can push his clock over, like if you like pressure in a certain area, it can get very, very intricate and detailed. And I started practicing it the other day. And literally, I'm not kidding, because it sends all this blood flow, you know, as you're doing that, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I, within less than a minute, I was like, I need to come right now. You mean just from doing it yourself, like moving it around?

Yeah, it's good for the woman and it's good for the guy. too, obviously. But, but I need to get, I really need to get stronger at it. Like I, you know, I mean, I want, it's weird when you sit and try to focus on it and do it. It's, it is like working it out. You know, it's a muscle down there. And I'm like, okay, well, let me, let's build it up. So anyway, I'm, I might take my 30 days hiatus and, uh, master that and then come back strong. So is it something that you, so it's something that you sort of do on your own, correct? And then you do it with the guy. Like you learn the moves yourself. There's 27, moves and then you go do it. She literally has a training schedule. There's a training schedule

and you follow it and you do it for like 15, 20 minutes a day for 30 days. And, and then you'll have, I think like the first three, three or four techniques mastered and then you build on it from there. So she says about it'll take you about six months to really get super, you know, proficient at it. But within 30 days, you know, you'll you'll have some pretty good techniques. So it's kind of like You're blowing him while you're, like, it's like doing different things with your pussy that you normally can't do. That's interesting. What's your, that's that episode. Let's give shoutouts and everything.

We're going to wrap it up now. But why don't you give a shout out to that episode? So if guys want to hear it, you haven't aired it yet? It hasn't aired yet. It's only, it's probably not going to be out for another month. But I want to send you her, her information. She was a great interview. I don't know if you'd want to have it wrong, but it was really interesting.

Really? Well, listen, people in a month from now when this airs in August, She might be on. She might be on my show. But Layla, why don't you give a shout out to all your stuff? They want to hear more stories. You get super, you're always great for details. I think you're really good at, like, dirty talking details and, like, saying things.

I think people get turned on by the way you talk. I've heard that before from my guests. So they always love you. They want more of you and more of that because you do a lot of solo episodes. You also have, like, experts on. You also sometimes interview guests on your show, Curious Girl Diaries. Why don't you give a shout out to, like, where everyone can find all your stuff? because you also have like a private podcast too for them to join.

Yes, I do. So you guys, the easiest place to find me, just go to my website, curiousfield diaries.com. And from there, you can scroll down the bottom, link to all my socials. I have my podcast. My podcast is there. Of course, my podcast is wherever you're going to be listening to your podcast, Curseville Diaries. And then you can join my private podcast if you want.

And that's where I get extra, extra spicy. I try for as spicy as you think I am on my public podcast, podcast. The private podcast is even more spicy. I will take, with permission, I will take little audio outtakes of, you know, sexual encounters with guys and include little audio clips of what I sound like. While you're doing it. While I'm doing it. So if you want to, you know, if you want to check that out and just put it like on a boomerang on a repeat loop, you'll be pretty you'll be pretty turn you on. So just go there.

It's, again, it's all at the Curstful Diaries.com. And you can also leave me a voicemail there too, which I love getting voicemails. And I do get back to everybody personally. Oh, so if they leave you a voicemail, how do you get back to them, like via email or you call, like, how do you get back to them? Do you answer those voicemails on your episodes? Sometimes I, sometimes I will err a question on my episode, but I always change, change the voices. so I keep everybody anonymous, don't say their names. But as far as just getting, most people, I just get back to personally.

And there's a, it's a, it's a program. It's going to send you back a voicemail. You're going to hear me. I'm going to sit down. I take notes. I pay attention to what people are asking because they have five minutes. You know, they can go for five minutes. And then I respond.

And we have a lot of, a lot of us have ongoing conversations back and forth. It's really fun. Oh, that's super fun. All right. So they could find that. It's not a phone call. They go to Curiousgirlderies. com and they could click on the link that's on there, correct?

to make that call. There's a pink tab on the right. Yep, there's a pink tab on the right hand side of every page of my website and it says, you know, click here to leave me a voice message. All right. Awesome. Thanks again for calling in. It's always fun to talk to you. Thanks, Kathy. You'll be back on. Bye. Bye. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lives of total strangers is now available not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order. the audio book. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and re-roar wrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like Penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like

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