Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 663 - Diana has a Husband and a Very Interesting Play Partner

Episode Date: July 19, 2023

Diana has a husband and a play partner and she called in to talk all about it. How and why did and her husband open up their marriage? Where and how did she meet her play partner? And, how does her husband feel about him? Tune in to hear all the details including how her open marriage is set up and why they both enjoy and require having a connections with the other people how and why why she cheated on her husband in the past and how she found out about his affair too and how they got past it, the play partners her husband has and what he is doing with them, why she enjoys having a play partner and why she needs one even though she has her husband, how and why her and her husband are so comfortable with their open relationship, how she met her new guy, his whole backstory and how and why he enjoys being with married couples, how her husband felt when she first started hooking up with her new guy, how she enjoys fantasizing wand why he loves fingering her in public, why they haven’t gone all the way that many times and how the tease and denial of it all as well as ruined orgasms are all a big turn on for her, the mystery of why he never really tries to seal the deal and wha he might be hiding, how and why she’s into their arrangement and why it’s enough for her, the new play partner she has her eye on, how she’s into girls but why she can’t hook up with one plus a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of DIANA plus see anonymous pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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She called recently and talked about a new play partner that she had. And I was like, why don't you come on the show? She was like, yeah, I have tons of stories about this guy. I was like, cool. Her name is Diana. She called in. She was episode 504. It was named Diana cheated on her husband.

And now they're in an open relationship. But what we talk about on this episode is all about her new play partner. In the beginning, we talk about how her and her, husband to open up the relationship. There was cheating involved. We go over that a little bit. He cheated on her. She cheated on him. They were honest about it. They worked through it. They have a very open marriage. And it's not like the typical open marriage where a lot of times there's like some rules and regulations. There's really are no rules and regulations. They are both open to looking for other people that they have real connections with. I mean, that's how they roll. So she met a guy,

a new guy. She met him on Tinder. He's super interesting. Okay. She got in their whole thing. He's got an ex-wife. He's not fully divorced. So that's like a complicated situation. He's really into fingering her out in public and teasing her. Okay. It took me a while to like to understand the situation that they have. Eventually I do understand it. I think that she's like very into BDSM and I think that there's definitely like a dom and something going on here. And that's what she's into. The fact that she also has husband at home and she gets her needs met and she can meet anybody else, I think also plays a part in why she is down and interested and okay with this guy because it's like he's an interesting guy. Wait until you hear his details and the whole story.

There's one point of the story where I was like, oh my God, everyone just spit their coffee out. You'll hear it. Okay. You got to listen to the whole story. You got to listen to how it's all set up. I get the hotness of it all, but there's also like the side thing that it's like super interesting to me. I want to overanalyze it. For her, she doesn't overanalyze it because she's a married woman and she's, you know, she's the needs that she needs from this guy she's getting. It's a hot tease and denial situation for her. She also talks at the end about a guy friend of hers who actually was the one who got her into BDSM when she was younger,

how he moved into town. He's also in an open relationship. And she's hoping to connect with him as well on the side. that might be her new side guy but her current side guy is super interesting their whole situation is super interesting and hot okay you're gonna get into it but you're gonna be I don't know if you're gonna be like me you know I was more interested in the dynamics and his life and how he rolls because it's interesting there's that word again oh and by the way Diana sent me hot picks of herself over on Patreon and she is very down to

go into Discord and share more hotter pictures of herself, like x-rated stuff over there. So if you want to chat with Diana after you hear this message, see her in all her glory. Join my Patreon. Patreon.com slash strictly anonymous podcast. Links to everything is in the description. I'm going to be right back on with Diana. Hi, Diana. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm doing great, Kathy. How are you? I'm good. So listen, Diana. Anna, you called in previously, maybe like last year sometime. And you wound up having two episodes because your husband has a whole side thing. But really what your story was that was so fascinating is you wound up cheating on your husband.

But what happened was he didn't leave you. You guys wind up working through it. And then you wound up in an open marriage, correct? Yep. Yes, that's where we're at now. So how long have you? Because when we spoke at that time, You didn't have a full-time side guy, right, at all?

Correct, correct. I didn't have anyone. Actually, it was shortly after my episodes aired that I met my friend. I didn't meet him through because of the show. I met him as most modern day people do on Tinder. I met him in the fall. We started chatting. I didn't actually meet him in person for about a month,

just trying to get comfortable, trying to figure out if he was something that I, someone that I was interested in like pursuing a play partnership or whatever with. And the very first time we went out, we had gone to a Halloween thing with some coworkers of mine because my fear was like, oh, God, if I go into a public setting with him and I don't know him, then what do I do? I'm going to have some friends as backup. He ended up fingering me on a hayride with everyone around me. So. Oh, is that the message? you left on me where he's like fingering you. He just likes to finger you in public.

He just likes to finger me in public. That's apparently his thing. And I am here for it because it was exciting. Right. Other people don't know what he was going on and you're just like sitting there. Oh my gosh. It's not like a swingers hayride, right? This is like a normal hayride.

It was a normal hay ride. It was like one of those like haunted hayride things where he did all the haunted attractions. It was dark. And you know, he had his hands around my waist. and, you know, just kind of, who went, we're dead. But, like, where's your husband with all of this? So you're talking him for a month. Now, are you telling your husband at the same time?

Does he know that you're, you know, hitting this guy up to have a side guy? Yeah, my husband's fully aware. Like, I gave it, like, a week or two of talking to him first before, hey, can I actually have a decent conversation with him? Is he worth actually bringing up to my husband? My husband's fully aware. Actually, they've met. We've all had breakfast together relatively recently, and there's, like, plans of us, like,

doing stuff socially the three of us, plus the possibility of us all playing together in the future. Right. Now, what about your husband? I know that you did have to cut queen fantasies. Last week spoke, you were trying to hook him up with one of his coworkers. I, that did not kind of happen. She's got some medical stuff going on, and he just really wasn't interested in having that dynamic in his work world, which I totally get because dating in the work world is always weird. I guess. I mean, it happens though. But what has he, you know, but so if not that girl, has there been anybody else for him? He has another friend that he's chatting with. They haven't done anything physical with each other. Like they go to movies together. They've gone to breakfast

with each other. I'm fully aware of her existence. I ask about her at times, but at the same time, it's how it's just a friend of my husband. I don't really pay attention to it. And that doesn't bother you at all. You and your husband, it's interesting because you guys don't have rules like a lot of other people do. I mean, here's your guy going out with this girl and doing like very, you know, friendly stuff. But some people might find that more scary because what if there's an emotional bond being created in those kinds of scenarios. For us, it's like, we kind of want that emotional bond. We don't want, we don't want to have just mindless play fun with people.

We want to have that connection because I want to build a partnership with someone that, like, I can have a thing with for several years, possibly, or we're working on close to a year almost now with my play partner. I want that familiarity. I want that. excuse me, that deeper connection with whoever my person happens to be. And you're, and you guys are totally okay with both of you having those outside connections. Yeah.

Yeah, that's interesting. Yeah, we, we've both kind of realized that we need more out of our selves than just being completely wrapped up in each other. We've known each other since we were kids, right, essentially. So we've always kind of relied on each other, but we also don't want to be, what's the term co-dependent on each other? So we, I don't know, it just kind of works for us. Yeah, no, it's interesting because it's a very interesting setup.

It's very much, you know, on one end of the spectrum compared to a lot of others, even other open relationships, because I think the biggest fear would be, like I said, to get a connection with somebody else and then maybe not want that primary connection anymore. Your primary connection, I mean, there was a time where you cheated on your husband, right? I don't remember. Were there, like, cracks in your marriage? Is that why it happened? There were, I did cheat, but it was, it was more so I was coming out of my, I just had babies.

I've lost weight. I'm feeling really attractive now. I found someone in the fat community that I wanted to play with, and I didn't ask for permission before just going ahead and doing it. Mm-hmm. But you told your husband Oh yeah, yeah I told my husband That's where he told me

That he had had the affair When I was pregnant Right And so that's what I'm just wondering Because are you a couple I mean you've been together From the dawn of time Like you said you've known each other

I'm just trying to get a feel For your stability And your primary relationship Between you guys Because a lot of people I don't think would feel secure enough To allow their partner to play the way you guys do.

So I'm just trying to get in your head about that. We've been through a lot of other stuff in our relationship outside of the place things. That's really bonded us together. We may play. We may have connections with someone else. But like at the end of the day, he's my person that I want to snuggle with in bed. He's my person that I'm going to go to if I have an issue. Like, he's just my guy.

He's my heart and my whole, my soul. Right. So it's not like you're going. outside of the relationship to get those kind of needs met, even though you want a connection, right? It's not a love connection. Absolutely. Absolutely. It's with my play partner, he's just someone like he loves going to the gym. I love going to the gym. He's incredibly open-minded. So when I'm having a crappy day and it should happen to include crappiness with my husband, then I can just vent to my friend. And it's fine. I can also go days without talking to him. And, and

And it's not going to be, oh my gosh, where have you been? I've missed you. I can't go days without talking to you like this. Like we have a healthy level of like this sense of what our boundaries are for each other. Yeah. And now what about your play partner? Does he play with other people? Is he in a relationship?

He's divorced. He has told me that he's had other play partners, but I don't believe he has any others currently. he prefers to play with married couples, which is kind of how he found me. Maybe he doesn't want that extra step commitment, right? It's like there's a little barrier there that you know it won't get serious, right? With a play partner, you know if they're married? I don't know. Yeah, exactly, exactly.

It's honestly, the dynamic works perfectly between not only like my partner and I, but my husband and my partner and I, it was a little embarrassing as I was telling my husband about him and the commonalities that exist between the two of them. Really? They have the same type of car in the same color. I mean, do you? Yeah.

I can't. I can't. One likes to fly airplanes. One likes to go skydiving. They both love going to ranges and like shooting guns. Like they're literally. the same person, but just in different bodies. Of course, they like to pick on me because

I have a type, but I'm like, none of these are sexual. None of this is my fault. Well, kind of, though. We do, we do unconsciously are attracted to the same type, like, even though we don't know it. You know what I mean? If you're a commitment phobe, you're going to find the guy across the room that kid isn't

available. And like, people will say, oh, it's just a coincidence. No, it's not. Like, we smell that shit. We're animals first. I do believe you probably do have a type, and they're very similar. that's why this guy stood out to you. And it did last. I mean, here it is. Like a year later, you're with him. Obviously, because it's been a year, it hasn't gotten complicated, right? Like, you've been able to establish a relationship with him and it hasn't fucked with

your relationship at home at all, right? Like status quo, everything's the same. Your guys, your guy forever. Your husband, did he ever get any kind of, like, jealous in the beginning of this new play partner relationship at all? I think he may have had. some questioning, like, how far have you guys gone? Or is there someone that you really, like, feel comfortable with? I think more so anything else, he was really concerned with my safety. And just, like, the type of guy I like is muscular is a little bit dominant. Like, sometimes those guys can be a little bit much.

And he's just, you know, really protective of me. But, yeah, I mean, I feel like there probably were. few times where he had felt stressed, especially me going out to a club, I went to a club a few weeks ago with him. Like late into the evening, my husband was essentially like, hey, you're going to have your fun that you're going to have. Just be safe. Keep me posted on your timing. I think his biggest concern during that was just a lateness of it because it was a Friday night after work. But I mean, we talk through when there is some level of stress, like we talk through, or we just give each other space to kind of feel it out within ourselves before we talk.

Yeah. Now, is he one of those guys? I forget exactly what we talked about, the first conversation. Is he one of those guys that gets turned on by, you know, what you did before, with the other guy before you came home? Not really. That's not, at least at this point, because we haven't gotten to explore reclaiming sex a ton.

Because when I come back home, I'm usually dead tired. I just want to shower. I don't want to, I don't want to be touched. Yeah, that's interesting. I've heard that before and thought that that's like red flags

because I always think it's like super important for those people to come back and connect. Yeah, I want the cuddles and everything. Yeah. because I don't necessarily get that from my partner. I want the cuddles, but it's, I also just kind of need to like de-stress from the, well, not really de-stress, but just kind of like energetically come back down from that before. I'm able to reaclimate, reaclimate into my daily life.

Yeah, no, I mean, it's, listen, I love asking these same questions I ask everybody else because, just because most people love the reclaiming sex and that's the thing, doesn't mean it's always there. And I've, I've definitely talked to other people who, don't have that afterwards and it's always interesting because a lot of times that's the big turn on but that I guess is maybe a big you know sort of way to realize that your guy really isn't into it because if not he'd be like the minute you came home he'd be super horny why and fuck you whether you're yeah we're tired or not you know what I mean we've definitely done it in the past like years ago we had a four-way with friends of ours and I really remember that being super

hot was the reclaiming sex because because the guy couldn't make me come. Right. So you needed it. Yeah, I needed it. I was all hot and bothered and my husband knows what he's doing. So. Now, does it though help your relationship with your husband? Like intimately, I mean, because you have, I don't know, thoughts of another guy too. Does it add to your sex? It adds to me. Like, we have had talks about the three of us playing together and my husband will add that into conversations while it's just him and I.

Yeah, yeah. And that turns me on. He'll use toys on me and himself. So like in my head, in the moment, I can think, hey, there's another person in here. This is really erotic when it's really just the two of us. I'm very turned on by that. And there is the potential for it to happen in the future. I'm actually hoping for this later this summer.

He's got some family from out of country that's visiting right. now and I've told I'm like after she's gone, we're getting a hotel room. Right, the three of us, you and your husband. Exactly. Right. And now has your husband had sex with any other women? I know he's got that girl that he kind of hangs out with, but has there been any kind of sex? Because you do like hearing about him with other women.

That's a fantasy of yours, right? Yes. He has not, with the partner that he has, they've kind of made an established thing that they don't want to have anything physical just because of medical stuff with her. but I'm sure there's flirting that goes on between the two of them. I just don't want to ask because I feel like that's weird to ask. What do you mean? I don't know.

Like my husband asks if there's flirting and stuff that goes on. Obviously there is and I share it. But honestly, I like giving him the space of being able to flirt with his other person and not have his wife over his shoulder reading his messages. Oh, would you see to her today? What did you see to her? That's just overbearing, in my opinion. Yeah, and I think you could get really lost in that if you're so hyper-focused on it.

I think that's kind of cool of you. And probably not just for him, but also for you, that you just don't even deal. Like, what do you need to know every little step of the way of what's going on? I mean, that takes a lot of trust. I mean, it obviously means you'd have total trust with him because you're not even involved in that. You know, I think it would be, I think it has a lot to do. with the fact that you guys been together for so long and know each other for so long. Because I don't think a lot of couples would have that kind of trust.

Absolutely not. This has definitely taken years upon years to build to this level. Honestly, like, looking back at when my husband and I first started opening things up, I never thought it could get to this level of being so comfortable with it all, with our other people. Like literally having breakfast with my husband and my husband. partner and we're just chatting friendly out in the open and no one's having an awkward moment at all. That was pure heaven for me.

Right. And it's kind of crazy because here you are a couple who did have, you know, affairs cheated on each other, you know, and look at where you are now completely open. It is very, it is like a crazy transformation. But like a happy ending because it is, considering where you came from. It is. And it literally took. just through honesty all the time and realizing that your words are going to hurt, but you have to work through the hurt to get to where you're understanding why you did the

things you did and just not being that person anymore. Right. And you guys are both completely over the affairs that you had. Oh, yeah. Yeah. So now, all right, let's get to your guy. So you beat him on Tinder. You're talking to him for a month.

And then what goes down your first? Like, what are all the naughty things you've? done with him? The first time I went over to his house. Now, he lives in like, kind of like a gated community. It's very ritzy, so he was very careful about me coming to his house because he's got old nosy neighbors. Is he an older guy? No, he's on, I don't know, 36 or so. So not really that old, but he's okay, get to my house and park here and don't go to the garage. And I'm like, oh my gosh, like this is this is giving me all the red flags right now but once i got to like his house i'm like oh okay i didn't mind we played and on his couch and i was really really hoping because two days

after we played he was going out of country for a month to visit his mother and i really wanted it to leave a hickie on his neck really really wanted to yeah that's interesting Probably a little twisted just to be like, hey, this is on your son. You don't know me, but hi. Yeah, yeah, totally. It's like marking your territory like a dog peeing on the other eye. He ended up leaving a giant bruise on my ass instead. Oh, so he did the same thing to you.

Yeah, I didn't even get a chance to leave a hickie or anything, but he left a giant bruise on my ass. Made it sore to sit for days. but I loved it in a really weird twisted way. Right. Yeah, we played that day. That was close to Thanksgiving. It's really challenging because he lives like an hour and a half away. Mm-hmm.

So our timings to get together are very slim. Our most recent get together, I went to a drag show with him. Mm-hmm. And while we were there, we were in, like, the back area he was smoking. We were having a conversation with some random guy. I don't remember what. his name is but my friend was telling the guy about all the crazy things he's seen back here and how he's seen a guy go down on another guy back there and while he's telling this story he starts

fingering me in front of this other guy right who has no idea he has no idea what's going on and oh my god love it we've only hooked up once but i don't like most of the time when i'm with him outside of the breakfast get together because that would have been awkward is all out at breakfast. He's just fingering in public and I love it. You've never, you've only had sex with him once? Yeah. In this whole year? Yeah. Not really a year since Thanksgiving is like a six months or whatever. Yeah, yeah. The first time was right around, but was right before Thanksgiving, but I started talking to him at the end of August. Oh, okay. So you're just doing this thing, like your guy's thing, okay, some reason you don't go back to his house a lot you just go out and probably look any fingers

down at this point he's dealing with issues with his ex-wife what do you mean um so they are still technically married but because they got married out of this country the divorce has to take place outside of the country so he she has the ability to come to the house when she wants but she doesn't live there. So he's very careful about having people over at the house. Right, but why don't you, why isn't he getting hotel rooms? I mean,

you said he lives in a nice community. You know, he obviously has some cash. Honestly, it's just a matter of like timing and having life line up. But I mean, those,

okay, but what about sex in the car? I mean, because this is what I don't understand. This is a guy. You guys are out. you go to these clubs or wherever you go and he's fingering you and he's getting you all wet and that to me sounds like hot foreplay right but like it's incredible how does it not wind up to full on sex in the car

i think he's just skittish i don't know guys aren't skittish i you know that doesn't make sense i don't know i i've been hoping for that when he he sent me home the night that we went to the club he's okay you've drank you've sobered up i'm gonna stay here for a while you go drive home you have a long drive i'll talk to you later and i was honestly just what i get a tease and nothing else that's what i mean what are you kidding i think that's part of his thing though see now i'm more interested because you don't really have that many naughty hookups with him now i'm more interested in him okay because this is like a weird dude not weird weird weird i put in quotes because you know what's fucking weird we're all weird in some way but like this is like an

interest let's use word interesting i get a little obsessed with these guys that are like have these kind of things because this is like a little bit odd you know most guys listening to this are like okay here he's got this girl you know he's into like married couples so he's got one he's got this girl he does this thing he's figuring her and then he's okay bye i don't get it either which is why my i'm just so drawn to him because he's so not like anyone I've ever met before. Because he won't fuck you? Is that what's different? No, no.

What's different about it then? It's the buildup to it. I just love his mind and how he's just different. Because like normally it would be just, you know, we go fucking the car or something like that. And I think I think he was trying to be like a good guy. and make sure I got home safely and wasn't too out of it to drive home. I honestly don't know. No, but so I get why.

So for you, I mean, listen, you have a guy banging you at home, right? It's not like you definitely need this. So there's something about the way he has this whole scenario set up, which is a very unique scenario. Most people do go all the way. It doesn't wind up ending like that. But for some reason it works because it's kind of hot. So this is why I don't understand. understand. Okay. So I'm sorry, Dana, but this doesn't make sense because you're like, oh, when I get home, there's no reclaiming because I'm so physically exhausted for you. What do you have to exhaust it for you? You have two fingers in you? That's a big deal. So you want more when you got home?

That doesn't make sense. At night I got home up 2 a.m. Okay. So that's where I was just exhausted from the day. And we've only gotten to do our fingering from two or three times in person. Most of our, most of our engagement is via text. And the occasional lunch at this point, just because our schedules are so messed up. Do I want to have the reclaiming fun? Yes, but I like, I want to, I want to fuck him first before I have to feel like I'm being reclaimed. No, no, no, I know, but I don't understand because this guy gives you like that hot and bothered forplay tease and denial thing that I would think works you up, you know. It really does. doesn't sound like he's giving you many

orgasms so I would think oh you come home and let your guy finish you off but it's because now I know why there's no reclaiming sex because there's no sex before really I don't understand your fucking set up yeah honestly I want there to be more sex

I want it it's it's just a matter of timing listen I have got into some weird kind of scenarios myself I found out through my show from talking other people like I am into tease in denial. Sometimes there is like something hot about a scenario where you could just dry hump. I have had like guys where I just like dry hump them and my friends would always be like

perplexed. What the fuck? You're 40 years old. You're dry humping somebody. You know what I mean? It doesn't lead to me. There is there can be something hot about those kind of scenarios for sure. I get it. Yeah. I definitely am very much into like denial play. So right. So you have that in you. yeah it's it's naturally just there and i also just like to feel like i have a ruined orgasm at times yeah like that that's just like a sense of feeling of being controlled in a way so it works for me he may not

always be fucking fucking me as much as i want he's only fucked he once i know exactly it's not a nowhere near as much as i want but is it okay but because now i'm just like fascinated by his whole situation. Does he, do you know a lot about him? Does he have other play partners? Is this this thing? Have you ever said? What's your deal? Like, why is this the way it's set up? He had other play partners. I don't know if he's still talking to them anymore. They were kind of

fizzling out, I think, as him and I started talking. Maybe because he just fingers them and eventually they're like, I need something. I need something more. Oh, Lord. I don't know. I know. I know. He's just a very explorative person. He likes to try a lot of adventurous things. I don't know. Well, what have you? Okay, he doesn't sound that adventurous to me. I mean, it sounds like every time you see him,

you just go to lunch and he fingers you and then you're done. I mean, what kind of exploring things has he tried, you know? He loves traveling the world. He's into skydiving. He rides motorcycles. Oh, right. You mean outside of that. Right, right.

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. Okay, this is what I want to know. Do you know where he's getting laid? You know, we know he's fingering you. He supposedly doesn't have a wife, you know. So like, where is he put, where's his dick going? He's not. He's not. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's getting snapchatted to me. So did, did, did you ever ask him who are you actually having sex with? He, he's, nobody? Yeah, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, it's, it's, it's, it's just him and his dog. He doesn't, he doesn't, he doesn't, he literally has. He, he. He, he. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He. He no one. But you've asked him, like, have you ever asked him, though? Like, I mean, if I had a guy, I'd be like, don't you want to have, like, real sex? I mean, he's a 36-year-old guy, right? Yeah, he is. Okay. He just felt his, like, bulge. I mean, you, like, because he's interesting. He, like, fingers you, right? And then you leave. Like, you don't do anything to him, right?

I mean, we make out, I kind of grab Adam a bit. Do you feel his hard on? Yeah. Okay. But I'm just saying, I mean, you're at, you're, you're saying to me, like, as a. if I'm like asking weird questions. I mean, you're in a weird scenario. This is a weird guy. Okay, be like you're,

you get, he's getting you, he's doing something to you. Then he sends you off and he's like doing nothing. I mean, and that's it? I mean, I assume so.

I don't think he, he hooked up with anyone after that words. I know he just went home. No, not even implying that he does that. I'm just wondering what, what, what's his thing?

Like, is that his king? Like he doesn't like to get off? I think he just really likes getting off, like, other people's women. And then he goes home and jerks off about it. But he doesn't need to have you fully, though. Yeah, I think that's part of it. There is definite interest for us to be with each other fully.

But I think he's happy with just that. And sometimes it's just lunch, no hookup at all. Yeah. And you talk to him, like, you don't think, is he a good, looking guy. Oh, he's very good looking. So he's good looking. He's got some cash. He's muscular. You said you like those kind of fucking guys. He's got a motorcycle. I mean, this is a hot dude, right? Like a lot of girls would want to fucking. Very much. Very much so. And that's part of the reason why he goes to the gay club because he doesn't like women hitting on him. Oh, my God.

Everyone just spit their coffee out laughing. Oh my God. That's what. Oh my God. Oh, my God. Diana, are you, you're either the dumbest person that's ever existed. I mean, listen to what the words that just came out of your mouth. Everyone just like, someone might have just crashed their car when they heard that. I didn't even get away with it. And that's why he goes to the gamer. I mean, I know. You don't think it's because maybe he's into fucking guys.

I know. I know there's a little something going on there. I am aware of that. but I also know that when he goes out dancing, he doesn't want to have to deal with people. Oh my God, you're so fucking funny. This is so much more.

This is why these eight calls are so interesting to me because I think I'm going to talk about one thing and then something else comes on and it's 10,000. This is 10,000 times more interesting to me than if you guys were having just a normal hot wife situation. Because here, this guy isn't to guys, okay? like this and this is and the fact that you just said that sentence came out of your mouth is like fucking hilarious i i'm totally aware of where i think he's at i'm just i'm not saying it because he hasn't said it

right and he tells you like he says oh like he literally has said hey listen i go to these gay bars because this is what he's told you the line you just told me this is this is what he's told me i am much wiser than that yes i you don't sound that because you just said it to me as if. I honestly don't care if he is gay or if he is getting hit on by guys. Like that's, that's his thing. No,

no, I know. I'm just saying that's what's so interesting. Does, okay, so like when, because I don't know how you are, okay,

but if I was with that guy and he was teasing, deniling me and all that and I was like into it. And then he's like, oh, I like to go to gay bars because I, you know, and he's pitching me these lines. I would ask questions,

you know, and try and say to him if I was like you and I don't care. I would have those conversations and, get him to open up to me because I would be, it's like obvious this guy has this life going on and I'd want to be a part of it. Have you had that kind of conversation with him? He's open to having those conversations. I've actually asked him, but because of there's a language barrier between the two of us, it's easier for him to have those conversations in person versus text. Right. So when you have had those conversations, how have they gone down?

I really haven't had them a ton because we haven't gotten to like honestly that's the last thing I want to The communication problem is not the language It's you guys both of you I can't even communicate with you All right listen I get that this Whole relationship like works for the both of you

Like you think it's super hot I hope you don't mind me though Going into this whole other thing That's going on between you because it's fucking fascinating Okay it's like I And I know that there's some people are like God they leave her alone You know, she gets off on just being fingered every now and then and talking and, you know.

But I love this whole other thing that's kind of like it's like the elephant in the room. You say that he prefers to have those conversations in person, but like how do you know that? Have you ever said to him, hey, are you into guys? And if so, what did he say back? He has said that he's not. And he's just like more comfortable being around guys, I guess. I don't, I don't know. Like, I have asked him if he's into men and he says no, but he's open to playing with men.

If there's another female in the room, like my husband say. But that's not like his main focus. But he's okay with other guys, like, hitting on him or trying to flirt with him. He's told me he likes it when guys try and buy him drinks. like he knows it's not going to go anywhere but he just likes a free drink anyway right he likes a free drink he's got a lot of cash

it's not about the free it's just about he likes a guy he likes getting guys to like him yeah this is a weird dude could you give him my number I don't know while we were out he had a couple of guys like trying to flirt with him obviously with me but he just kind of blew it off

yeah whatever yeah but yeah I mean you're not there a lot of the time who knows what's going on when you're not there. How many times have you been to this guy's house? I've been to his house twice. Once to pick him up to go to the club and wants to for our fun at his house. Yeah, I'm going to just say what a lot of other people are thinking. And I'm sure you've thought this, that, you know, he might still have a wife at his house, okay?

And she's just not there when you go. I mean, because, I mean, come on. Now that whole beginning story of why he was so afraid of his nosy neighbors makes sense. I mean, come on. He probably still has a wife. I know. I suspect that there's a wife that he's got issues with that could cause drama. Or maybe a wife that he's happy with that has no fucking idea what he's doing.

You know what I mean? Come on. You know, listen, a guy that cheats. Someone told me this one, and it's so true. I mean, a guy that cheats is never going to tell you, oh, yeah. My wife is like so fucking great and everything's like really. great, but I like to fuck other people and I'm totally lying to her right now. They don't tell their mistress or their guma, that story.

They tell her like, oh, she's the worst. We're getting a divorce. You know, they make up stories. Like, I'm sorry, but this guy can have a full-fledged, happy relationship at home where his wife has no clue what's going on. I don't know that he's definitely getting divorced. I bet his house and there's no sign of a woman in that house whatsoever. Okay, that's important.

Okay. I'm like detective mine right now. Okay. So nothing, no girl stuff anywhere. Nothing. Like when I went there, I was, I went through the garage. I was looking for like women's shoes, women's anything, nothing. You went in the closet?

Well, no, I didn't go in the closet. There was a closet that was open, but I didn't go through it because I wasn't going to be nosy. Yeah. But there's, there was nothing that I could see that would be signs of a woman living in the house. It very much looks like a man gave. Right. Now, does it look lived in? Yeah, yeah. Does it look they lived in? Yes. Right. Okay. And so what's his story about his wife? Like what, what's their deal? Do they have kids? Like, where does his wife live? No, they, no kids. They separated a few years ago. I think that it was after them buying their house that they separated. So, like, her name's still on it, but she doesn't live there. honestly I don't even know where she lives at this point she's she I don't know what she does for a living well she obviously lives close to him because he's paranoid about you coming over because she might come

over at any time right so she's obviously in the area I would assume so which would make it why it's much more challenging for them to get their divorce because Neither of them are overseas to get the paperwork filed, which his sister actually is in country right now. And they're working on him giving her, like, power of attorney over there so that she can file the paperwork on his behalf. Right. Now, when you found him on Tinder, what was his deal? Like, what was he saying he was looking for? Like, how did he pitch himself? Like, no strings attached. He more or less just talked about a lot of his hobbies. And, you know, the typical, no string to touch, just looking to see where energies flow or what have you.

Just a very typical guy profile on there. It was his physique and his, honestly, his eyes that drew me in into him. Right. But it's just so interesting that he just doesn't give you the D that off the, like, where's this, you know, like that the dick just doesn't come into play and no full on sex. It's not like I said There's all kinds of crazy scenarios that work for people And like you're obviously like super hot for him Because it's like the

It's kind of like foreplay that's just dragged out for a long time And every now and then you get to fuck it How many times have you fucked him just once? Once. I think what I'm assuming, you know You've got a husband at home. You're not trying to date this guy like the rest of his life That I'm trying to figure out you probably don't even fucking care right

Because like somehow this scenario is kind of fun for you And the thought of getting him in bed again must be like the thing that you keep going back for. Because maybe this time I'm going to get that again. Is that what it's about? You get it. You get it, Kathy. Absolutely. Yes.

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yeah. I don't have to have sex with him to feel fulfilled. Sometimes it's just a tease.

Sometimes it's just the acknowledgement of. Him thinking I'm sexy or something. Yeah. Like I just, yeah. Yeah. Well, listen, I mean, like you said in the beginning and I get it more now, what you really said is really true that you and him and your husband. And this whole setup works really well because, you know, listen, he's dishing out

some weird shit, okay? What he is into, most girls would not sign up for, okay? I'd be like, fucking out of there. But for you, and that's because I'm. I'm a single girl, right? Like you have a husband at home. You have all your needs met and then some. You could go find somebody else even if you wanted to, right?

I mean, there's nothing keeping you there. I'm kind of doing that right now, too. Right. So there's nothing keeping you there. So what he's offering you is like perfect and could work. Most girls, I think, would be fucking out of there eventually when they realize the way this is never getting anywhere. You know what I mean?

Exactly. It's not enough attention to, I feel, to sustain a full. relationship, but it's enough for me to feel appreciated, to feel a connection to someone without the clingy attachment. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like it really, like, it does really work for you for now. Why not? Only because you have all of that someplace else, really. What he's giving, he's giving you crumbs. Listen, a lot of guys just offer crumbs and a lot of girls get addicted to crumbs. I've been there, done that, okay? And that's like a torture situation for a girl that's actually really looking for more, but for you, it's fine. You could have fun with it, right? Is there

any torture involved in it for you? Like, is there any kind of like, oh, God, it's like annoying or is it just all like fun, fun? It's all fun. It's all fun. The only thing I might get like bitchy with is if plans are like starting to get made and then they get canceled because then I've just hived myself up mentally. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That even just seeing him could be like, that release and not getting to, it's just like, bullshit. This isn't enough. Why am I bothering? Right.

But how many times does that happen? Once. Right, right, right. So typically, and then the times when you go to lunch, are you like going to lunch and like thinking, oh, maybe I'll get fingered or maybe I won't? You just don't know? Yeah, it's honestly the hope in my head that I can like follow him to his car and we can have some fun in the car.

But he keeps it very professional. So when you go, are you a little bit? of a sub, I forget. Do you have that? Oh, yeah. I'm very much a sub. Oh, okay. So this sounds like a BDSM fantasy for some people because there is not a lot of sex sometimes in BDSM community. It's all this mental mind fuck. So wait a second. So he calls you to lunch. You don't really know. You're hoping. You're wet with the thoughts of I might get to go into the car with him. And even when you get turned on, I mean, when you don't, it doesn't happen. Maybe that denial, like you said in that not not allowing you to as a turn on two.

Like the little sub in you feels, oh, I didn't get what I want, but there's something hot in that to you, right? Absolutely. That's the way you're wired. Absolutely. And so, and you as a sub, like, see, I'm so not a sub because like me,

I'd be like, can't we just please go into your car? I would, like, break the whole scene, right? I would be like, let's fucking go. The surprise I definitely comes out. Oh, it does. So are you allowed to say, can we please go do something real quick before you go back to work?

Yeah, I definitely do say it. And I'm usually denied. Right. So you, okay, so how's that conversation go? I'm usually just denied and given like a deeper kiss and said, nope, not right now. Be a good girl sort of thing. Yeah. So he really is into this whole fucking game he's playing.

Yep. Yes. And it's like the longest four play you've ever had. It really is. And it's annoying and I love it. Right. But it's not like annoying in a bad way. For another girl, probably any of his other hookups, probably most,

the majority of women out there, this would be like one of those torturous relationships where you're talking to your friends, what the fuck is going on? All your girlfriends are trying to analyze it. But for you, because you're a married woman and you could do whatever the fuck you want, you could go there, the sub and you. This is like the hottest scenario. Kind of. Exactly.

Exactly. For me, it is. I mean, I know it wouldn't be for everyone else and it's probably a little lacklustrous or something. But for me, it's great. No, not when you paint. Listen, I'm trying to paint the hot scenario that you're into because some people will be like, what the fuck is she getting out of this?

This is not like a mental mind fuck for you, really. You're getting off on the denial of it. Oh, for sure. The not knowing and wanting to have it back. It becomes like a challenge, right? But I think that all that time, you're turned on. So it's very, there's something there for it. Absolutely.

For sure. Yeah, and that's what I think some people wouldn't understand. you know yeah you're definitely right but that one did it's not for everyone and it's i love it though right but and i mean does this guy give a fuck about you looking for anyone else or anything like that no not at all you're now you are looking though because you do want a little bit more maybe or another side guy yeah i have another friend who have actually kind of been friends with for 10 years and because life has always been the way it is. As of right now, is the first time we've ever lived in the same state as each other.

And there's always been like a flirty energy. So I think he's only been living back in the area for a month now. So I'm hopeful in time that something can get established with him. Oh, that's interesting. Now, does that friend know that you're in an open marriage now? Oh, yeah. Yeah, this other friend is also in an open marriage. Oh, no way.

Yeah. That's kind of a coincidence because it's not like most people are in open marriages, right? I mean. Oh, no, no, very much not. He's actually the person who introduced me to BDSM when I was like, I don't know, 22. Now, did you guys sleep together back then? No. He was just always been just your friend.

Just a friend. We actually met through a mutual friend through church. Uh-huh. And she kind of dated him for a little bit. They were in the BDSM. I was really close to her. So I kind of learned from the two of them. Interesting.

Yeah. Their situation ship, they weren't dating, dating, but like they had met because of church. And I don't know, weird conversations happening in church, I suppose.

I suppose. But at the time when I first met him, we were living in, Rhode Island, but he was living in Indiana. And then we lived in Michigan when he lived in Virginia. And now we all live in the same state together. I'm really hopeful something can get established. But at the same time, like, he's got a wife and a girlfriend. So I'm not, I know, he's got his plate full. And I'm not really looking to overcomplicate either one of our lives. Right, right, right. But you do get down with women, too. Have you ever looked for female play

partners? I have and it's like impossible. I feel like my my gator is broke when it comes to women. I like I don't know don't know how to flirt with women. Most of my female friends are lesbian, but I just don't know how to flirt with women. Do they know that you're into women? Would they ever, you know, hook you up? No. Are they not into by girls? I don't know. I don't know. I feel like I'm kind of the weird friend that they're like, oh, we have a friend that's Polly. but we don't know how to handle her. Well, do they know that you're into girls? Yeah.

Okay. I don't hide my sexuality, really. And I could be having a friend that, like, kind of flirts with me, and I'm just oblivious to it. I can tell when a guy's flirting with me, but when a woman's flirting with me, are we just best friends now? Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's so funny. So you're surrounded by lesbians, but no one's made the move. No one.

That's so weird. And they all know, I mean, you're very out. with your lifestyle, correct, with everybody? Yeah, yeah. I never want to be in a situation where I'm in public with a partner and see a friend or see someone and then be like, oh my gosh, we got drama because I don't. Yeah, you're cheating on your husband and what am I going to do? Everybody knows that you guys have an open relationship.

Exactly. Now, does your guy ever analyze this guy with you or anything or he doesn't fucking care about the details? He picks on me all the time. What is he said? Just because of the commonalities that exist between the two of them. And when I, I'll share a picture of something that my partner is doing or something. And my husband would be like, aha, yeah, I did that, blah, blah, blah.

Or I have the same, you know, firearm or something like that. Yeah. But no, but does he ever, though, because, listen, you just told me the whole story. And it's kind of interesting. It's not the norm. Does he ever ask you the questions that I have? I mean, he must know what's not going on and what is going on. Has he ever tried to figure this guy out?

I don't, not that he's openly said, but I'm, I don't know. I don't think he's ever really tried to overanalyze his, his quirky nature at all. Those people don't analyze this, but I overanalyze everything. And I know that most guys don't analyze, but he knows that you're going to, to see him all these times, but most of the time nothing really happens. He's never said to you like, hey, like, it's, you know, why hasn't, why won't this guy fuck you? But I guess maybe, maybe that's why he's fine with it. I don't know. Would he be fine with it if you were like seeing this guy all the time and it was like hot and heavy? I think there would have to be some like conversations between the two of us is like how much time I'm investing in him versus my home life. Yeah. Because like even for me like my home life comes first. And if I have extra. time, then that's when I'm willing to give it to him. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, listen, I could see though why, now that I know the whole story, I could see why

how your husband in this scenario feels fine because this guy, this guy is never going to take you away from your guy. You know what I mean? This guy is not available for anybody, really. No, he's not. He's already told me he's, I'm not interested in getting married ever again. I'm just interested in living my life and having people like. connected to me, but

loan both essentially. And I totally get that. And I appreciate that. Yeah. For you, it is perfect. For real. Yeah. But I could see though why you are,

you know, side eye and your friend who just live with you because, you know, that is like a hot thing, but it's one thing that you have with that guy, right? But you could get more variety elsewhere, right? I could see why every once a month or whatever you get to do this little thing with him. I could see why you're signing up to it for however long you want to sign up for why not it works for everybody it's super interesting

does your husband know that you come on the show I forget no okay and this guy doesn't know right this no he doesn't this this is my own little hidden thing for myself yeah yeah yeah and now what about your Instagram because you get kind of naughty on there like your Instagram I have gotten naughty on that I kind of took a step back from it just because I I was dedicating way too much time into it, and then I was, I was having fun, but I really have to give it to the Cam Girls and the professional Instagram girls because it's a full-time job. Yeah. Yeah, it takes, it's a full-time job, and I just don't have the time and energy for it. So, like, I am on there at times.

Yeah. But for the most part, is I'm not really on there. Yeah, I totally get it. Sometimes I think about my friends who do Instagram just for themselves. and they don't make any money because they're just like obsessed with getting likes and stuff. And I think to myself like, wow, like I know how much work goes into all of that. And the fact that you're doing it for nothing just for like likes and shits a giggle, like is a crazy big fat waste of your time because it is like a full time job. And if you're not making money out of it, like fucking stop it.

It's a waste. It's so stupid. I don't get it, you know. I completely agree. Yeah, right. So you're going to send me picks though for my Patreon, right? Some anonymous picks. Oh, of course. I'll send you some.

Okay. And wait. And now what I have, Diana, I don't know if you saw, I think I said an email to everybody, but I have a private Discord channel that's like kind of fun. I think you would like it because you like the attention and stuff. And it's a place where people could get like super naughty with each other. I don't get involved in the discord, but it's you're allowed, you get free access to it. Like my Patreon members, people have to sign up to get access to it. But for you because you're a caller, I'll send you a link. So you'll have free access to it. And you could go in there and do whatever you want. Talk to people. say hey I'm Diana you could post naughty picks like you did over on your YouTube like on your Instagram over there if you want you know what I mean talk to if you don't want to you don't have to but it's fun you could get involved like a lot of fun yeah yeah yeah and it's private but you have the option to do whatever you want on there right get as naughty as you want people do X-rated stuff people promote themselves whatever you know and you could get your attention and stuff there it's private I will give you free access to it thank you so much for calling it and sharing your It's super interesting.

Sorry if I had over-analyzed your guy, but you're fine. You're fine. You got me questioning things now, too, in a good way. It doesn't matter. You're having fun, you know. Do me a favor because I love that you leave me some confessions. You know, the next time you have sex with them or any little updates, give me them on my confessions line.

It'll be fun. I will do so. I will do so, Kathy. All right. Kimmy posted. Good luck with everything. Thanks so much for calling in and sharing your interesting life story because it's, I think it's super fascinating. It's even more interesting than if you guys were hooking up all the time,

sorry to say. Oh, thank you. Thank you for letting me talk with you. Yeah, cool. And then I'll send you the link for the Discord. Thanks, Diana. Perfect. Bye. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lies of total strangers is now available not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-ex. You can pre-ex. You can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories.

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