Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 670 - Girl Talk: Sex and Orgasm Techniques that Will Change Your Game w/Susan Bratton

Episode Date: August 4, 2023

Susan Bratton called in to talk all about sex and orgasm techniques for better pleasure . Tune in to find out how and why learning the correct techniques are key for having better sex and intimacy, how and why learning to orgasm yourself is a great start, how and why setting up a time to have sex and communicate about sex can totally change the game, the time it takes for a woman to become fully engorged and how and why she gets the most pleasure once it’s achieved, the technique a woman can do once she has her lady boner that will increase her pleasure while having sex, the specific technique a guy can do to increase his pleasure while having sex that most guys have never tried, how and why verbal ravishment is as important as physical ravishment for a woman, the other places erectile tissue can be found on a woman’s body anyhow to stimulate it, why erotic play dates important, how to dirty talk to a woman to help her surrender to you, the technique a guy can do to create not only better pleasure for himself but also hep him connect more with his partner, the vagus nerve and how it is connected in men versus women, the technique that couples can try that takes the cowgirl position to the next level plus a whole lot more. To get all of Susan's orgasmic intercourse techniques for FREE, click here: www.SABonk.com  **To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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that, the link to schedule one of those is in the description. Like I said, it's a conversation you have for me. It's 45 minutes. It's $100. I don't air. it and it's the same thing like my regular calls though i mean you can call me from a phony number you can make up a name but you know if you want to talk to me for 45 minutes and get my unprofessional advice it's available the link is in the description now today i have on susan she's fun for a girl talk episode because this bitch knows everything about sex okay not only does she teach it she lives it she's been on my show before and i have naughty pictures of her okay over on my page on she's uh she's super hot like I said I mean she she was a woman who wasn't even having orgasms in her 40s okay and now

she's having tons of them she like I said not only lives an amazing sex life she teaches it she's a sex educator and today we are talking all about orgasms not just for men but for women too full body all over every part of your fucking body fully connected orgasms Okay, she gets into a lot of different specific. She always shows up with so many interesting facts. I can't list them all here in the intro. You're just going to have to listen to the episode, okay? But there's so many great techniques.

There's so many different tips. There's so much, like, factual information, you know? Like she talks about how long it specifically takes physically for a woman to get an erection, meaning like to be fully engorged, to feel everything, and for everything to feel good. how long it takes for that to happen compared to a guy. Like that's important information. And it's information that we don't have. Okay, I didn't know it until I talked to Susan.

I'm like, oh, I'm going to try things differently now and give myself that time. And then maybe when I try certain things, I'll feel it more. I mean, I got some homework to do after I talk to her. You're going to want to take a lot of these tips and techniques that she gives on this episode. They're not just for women. They're for men, too. She gives a lot of them here She's going to give you all the techniques

For having full body orgasms Over on a link Just for my show And it's S-A-Bonk dot com S-A-B-O-N-K Dot com You go there, you sign up for a newsletter It's all free

You're just going to get all the techniques She spoke about on here As well as so many more She had like an Instagram live She had to go to So she couldn't get all of them in on this call but they're all available on there for free. That link is going to be in the description.

She gives you, though, a lot of really great tips, though, on this episode. Okay, I promise you, you're going to be like, oh, my God, I want to try that and I want to try this. There's something called Splunking, I think she called it, that I'm going to try. And then I'm going to report back to you guys on my next Girl Talk episode, because when she was talking about splunking and what to do, I was like, oh, my God, I never knew about that. And I'm going to try it. you're going to want to try the things out that she talked about too. And then if you want more information, go to sabunk.com.

So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Susan. Hi, Susan Bratt, and welcome back to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? Kathy, we just can't get enough of each other. No, I love you because, you know, you are, I mean, you know, you're very passionate about what you teach. You don't just teach it. You live it.

Okay. I know your backstory. You went from like having no orgasms to living it up, right? And now you teach others. And that's what we're going to be talking about today, right? Orgasmic intercourse, like how we could all be coming more when we have sex, right? Exactly. Yeah.

I didn't have my first orgasm from intercourse until I was 42 years old. I'd almost given up on sex because I just didn't know. We didn't know what to do. Yeah. And then we went to some sex workshops and read some books. and figured it out and we said, oh, my God, we need to teach everybody how to do this. Sex is a learned skill. I mean, making a baby, people can kind of figure that one out.

Yeah. But having really hot sex is a learned, a set of learned skills, both techniques and communication skills. And so what I thought would be really fun, this is in advance of my next book. My next book is called Orgasmic Intercourse. And so I thought I would come on your show. show and I would share like, you know, as many, I've got dozens, but as many techniques as we can get through in the next 45 minutes and I'll just drop as many as possible. But I wanted to let you know that I made a link for your listeners because they might want to go back and be like, tell me more

about Losondo or how do I do that heart tongue technique. And so if you go to S-A, like strictly anonymous, S-A bonk, like bonking, S-A-bong.com, you'll be able to get access, you'll get all my sex tips, newsletters, you get things like that, and you'll get access to a dozen in her course techniques, including all of the ones we talk about on the show today. Yeah, that's awesome. So if you're driving, you're listening, and you're like, oh, my God, I want to remember all this. Don't worry about it. You're just going to go to essay bonk, and I'm going to put that link, that direct link in my description. So don't worry about trying to remember everything. Who's going to forget essay bonk. I know. It's easy. I know, but, you know. It's a good one, right?

Clicky, exactly. I love creating custom links for. you because I can make them as dirty as I want. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I love it. And so this is just for my listeners, S-A, strictly not this box, sabong.com. Okay, give me some of it because we got 45 minutes. I want to, I want to know how to, like, come a million times when I'm having sex. Okay, so give me some techniques. Exactly.

So basically, instead of the paradigm that I think most people are in, which is, you know, the whole she comes first thing, okay, well, I've got to give her her intercourse, Dory. I've got to give her her orgasm. intercourse and then I get to come. Yeah. And that seems to be the default mentality around intercourse. And I feel like that is really a low level of playing and pleasure once you understand a lot of things I'm going to talk about today.

So what I want to do is I want to have people basically, let's just go with, it's a male and a female, it's a penis in a vagina, we're talking about fucking. its intercourse. And we're having, and so we'll call it having sex. We'll call it intercourse. We'll call it penetration. Those are different words for it. I like to get all the vocabulary out too.

And instead of thinking about the, I'll let her come and then I'll come, I like it to be, we're both coming the entire time we're making love. he's in full body male multiple orgasms she's having lots and lots of kinds of orgasms energy orgasms clitoral orgasms cervical orgasms vaginal orgasms g-spot orgasms anal orgasms whatever all of the orgasms are actually kind of one big stew they can be individual orgasms but they can all be happening during intercourse so I think that's very important too and always also full body energy orgasms that don't come from a location. And also there are orgasms that are generated from sex toys like cock rings and things like that.

So you've got that kind of orgasm. And then you've got the dirty talk orgasms that, you know, kind of encouraging her and leading her or leading him to an orgasm or orgasm control. Like, you know, you're not allowed to come until I tell you. you now you can come kind of thing some people really like that so i wanted to i want to talk about that i wanted to talk about what a sex date looks like i have this thing called my dope flow sex date and it really changes the way i think most people are having sex so i'd like to talk about that okay and then i have a series of intercourse techniques for for the male person the let's call it the penis owner and i have a series of intercourse techniques

for the vulva owner. So if both people have technique and they have adoration, appreciation, dirty talk, encouragement, and they understand what they're going for and they know the different kinds of orgasms. So there's stroke techniques, there's orgasm techniques, there's all these things that kind of are the different facets of basically when we fuck, we come the whole time. That's what I really like to help people get to. And often, the great thing about sex, and we've done this a lot on episodes together, is that once you tell someone how to do it, they go do it and they have it.

It's just like, oh, I didn't know that's how you did it. That's what's great about sex. It's just a linked series of a lot of really easy things that stack up to way more pleasure than most people are having right now. I love that. So you're saying it's not really that difficult. It's just knowing what the actual techniques are that a lot of people, that's where they're clueless.

They just don't have those skills yet. Right? Well, I'm a sex educator, basically. I teach people how to transform having sex into making love. And so what I do is I teach sex techniques and bedroom communication skills. And really, there's nowhere most, you know, we don't get taught this in school or what have you. So this is my job. I teach you how to have hot sex and to be a better lover.

Yes, and it's never too late. Look at you. You were 42. you never even had an orgasm, and I don't think that that's uncommon. No, it's actually very, very common. Yeah. And I am now 62. I'd have my birthday last week, Kat.

Oh, happy birthday. And I'm literally having the best sex of my life. And I'm very, very orgasmic, very massively multi-orgasmic, as are my partners, because they've learned, along with me, all of the techniques for male multiple orgasm and stamina and, you know, pea spot orgasm. orgasms and all kinds of wonderful experiences that men can have, that they're really leaving on the table, too. You know, women, they're like, I want a G-Spart orgasm. I want to have orgasms for intercourse. I want to have a clitoral orgasm.

They know what's available to them. Men are actually running from behind, coming from behind in orgasm, where they're like, no, I'm good. I've got my one and I'm done. And it's like, dude, what an underachiever you are. You could be having such more, such better pleasure. And frankly, a man's pleasure is his gift that he gives to his partner. Your pleasure is the gift you give to your partner.

Because when your partner sees you in pleasure and they see that you're co-creating pleasure with them, that gives them more pleasure. So this kind of like holding back and, you know, like, how can I make her come? It's just a, it's a bad strategy. You need to learn to come yourself really well and obviously not come before you want to or what. before she wants to, but that's also learnable. Any guy who's like, I come within a minute, he can learn what I call ejaculatory choice. But that's not this show. So we'll parking lot that so we can get into some of the orgasm techniques.

I'd like to start with the dope flow sex date if you're willing. Yeah, sure. Let's go. Okay. So the dope flow sex date is basically a new way of thinking about having sex or making love with your partner. Because usually most people think about it like, okay, we're going to, we're going to take of our clothes, we're going to make out, we're going to kiss a little bit, and then I'm going to play with her boobs a little bit, and then I might go down on her for a few minutes, and then I'm going

to stick it in, and I'm going to try to get her to have an orgasm, and then I'm going to come, and then we'll be done, and I'm going to need a sandwich. That's basically the standard strategy for 90% of people. Some people do some other things. Some people are into kinky stuff. Some people might go off-piece a little bit. That's generally the kind of escalation. And that comes from the fact that people think that sex is intercourse and they think

that everything else is foreplay. So they make this distinction between foreplay and intercourse. But the thing is that foreplay and intercourse are equally organic. and equally satisfying to both partners once you learn the skills for all of them. Interesting. That being said, for a lot, you know, you can have nipplegasms, you can have kissing gasms, you can have oral gasms, giving oral, receiving oral. You can be having orgasms the entire time you're with your partner.

Lots and lots and lots of them. They can come right through you. They can be flowing through you. You've got to think about orgasms as something that's already inside you. that you're allowing to come to the surface by touching your body in a way that stimulates your brain to go, oh, that's an orgasm. I'm going to have one right now. And orgasms don't have to mean ejaculation for men.

Just like women, orgasm and ejaculation is a separate process. We've conflated them. Men have conflated them. They think, oh, okay, when I come, I ejaculate and then it's over. But the men who learn how to have lots and lots of full body orgasms, nipple gasms, mouth gasms, you know, foot gasms, whatever they want, pee spot gavoms, prostate gathoms, all kinds of things. They can have lots and lots of orgasms that are just as powerful without ejaculation. So the dope flow sex state, really, what it does is it says, okay, I know you can't wait to have intercourse. and I know you're rushing through what we call foreplay.

But every time you rush through foreplay, you don't get any better at it. You don't learn to have orgasms from it. So for lovers who are like, okay, but I can't wait until he's inside me, or I can't wait to get inside her, what I say is that you need to let the female body have about 20 minutes of warm up time. And so if you penetrate her too quickly, she's not going to have the same erection. that you do in a couple of minutes. And so she really needs that warm up time.

And that warm up time is going to help you with your stamina as well. And you can get hard, go soft, get hard, go soft when you're healthy. So you don't need to like get a hard on and stick it in. What I recommend is that you just do a lot of things for a short amount of time. It's almost like you're having like a, you know, like a, you know, like a, fun series of activities where maybe you start out kissing and then maybe you need a little back rub, and then maybe he goes down on her, and then maybe she goes down on him, and then maybe they have like a few minutes of intercourse, and then they stop,

and then they do some 69, and then they stop, and he plays with her boobs while she holds a vibrator on her clit, and she comes for a while. Then maybe they kiss while she strokes his cock and who plays with her boobs. And then they have a little more intercourse. And then she goes down on him again. You see what I mean? That whole idea of just like hopping, skipping, jumping to this thing and that thing and this thing and that thing and going back and revisiting things.

And none of it has to take forever. It can be much more fluid. Yeah, that's interesting. It's not like doing one thing and going to the finish line there. That's it. It's like you don't, that's, that's the opposite of what you want to do here. You want to try it all. There is no such thing as a finish line, especially around the mentality of intercourse anymore.

Once you start doing the dope flow sex state, you're basically teaching yourself how to be in mutual orgasmic pleasure in every little. aspect of the things you decide to do in the time that you have to make love. Yeah. And I think, though, that that's how people typically see it. I know even I do. I just think, you know, the point here is to have an orgasm, right? And if you're doing this, it feels good. Okay, I'm going to have my orgasm now, you know, but I want to extend it.

I want to do things different. I don't want to live in that sort of world because you're saying there's this whole other world you could live in with these kinds of technique. Yeah. You can really learn how to come so well in so many different ways. Did I ever tell you about the 20 kinds of orgasms? No, but I know that there's a lot more that I've never heard of. People always, like you said, cervical orgasm.

I mean, you were mentioning a lot before that I'm like, that fucking exists. Yeah, there's three different types of orgasms. There's locations to touch. There's techniques to use. And the third kind is tools that generate, like objects of desire. And I counted it up and there are 20 for the male body and 20 for the female body. And when you go to sabank.com, you're going to end up in my orgasm techniques area. You will quickly see that I also link to the 20 kinds of orgasms and some of my orgasmic cross-training techniques where I recommend various tools.

So once you come in through the essaybunk.com portal, if you will, all of that's in there. So I just wanted to kind of drop that as an open loop. I don't want to spend time on that because I want to get into the intercourse techniques. But you have to kind of set the stage like, oh, wow, I could be having a lot of different kinds of orgasms. And I'm not having them. How do I figure out what that is? It's in there. Oh, yeah.

And I'm just going to give your orgasm technique a little shout out. I had a guest who came on. She's a hot wife. And she took your course. and she figured out how to come from giving a blowjob where to take that. She described the technique. You're going to have to go to S.A. Bunk and get it. But she kind of explained it on her thing.

But you taught her how when she's blowing a guy what to do. And when she told me about it, it made sense. Okay. So go to say bong.com. Yeah. So go on. Yeah. Our throats are a real source of orgasmic pleasure for us.

And really they open up. They open up the yoni. Yoni being another word for pussy or vulva or vagina. Y-O-N-I. It's a tantric love-making word. I like it. Yoni and the lingam is the penis. When you want to open your yoni so that you can, one of the things I want to talk about is this idea of grinding. So why don't I start with a technique? Yeah. One of the first techniques that I want to teach you is something called the feline grind. And this will definitely make your kitty per. And now. And so the idea is.

is that there are two basic types of strokes. There's the sliding in and out, and there's the grinding where the penis is inside you and you're kind of grinding your pelvis on your partner's pelvis. And that really doesn't feel good until a woman is quite engorged or too messed where she's got a lot of blood flow in her yoning, in her vulva so that it's padded, it's very padded. One of the things that is really, really important is that women are fully engorged

and they've got their ladyboner, their clitoral erection. And the clitoris is just one of the erectile tissue systems of the vulva. There's three. There's the clitoral, the urethral, and the perineal. And it takes about 20 minutes for them of active pleasuring to get as erect, as our male body partners do in a couple of minutes. And what's interesting is that when she gets erect, there's way more surface area in her vulva that everything that gets touched feels so good

and sends massive amounts of pleasure signals to her brain, which is her big sex organ that actually generates the orgasms. Scientists, the neuroscientists actually call orgasms seizures. I don't know why they call them. Why, they just don't call them the orgasm. Yeah. But it takes the brain to trigger the orgasm. And so the more surface area you have and the more the more you get your lady boner.

And our erection is as big as our partners. It's just wrapped around our vagina. But the vagina itself, it's like a little balloon. It looks like a balloon with a little neck that then goes into a bulbous area. And when a woman is growing. grinding, she's learning how to take the penis all the way back past the cervix into the back of her vagina, and she can move back and forth, left and right, up and down, so that she can get the penis to touch all of the different parts of the entire cave. That's another thing I

like to talk about is that as a couple, you want to essentially be spalunkers, you want to be cave explorers because the vagina isn't an inside-out penis. It's not like a straight canal that's like an inside-out penis. It's that balloon with a little neck that opens to a cave. And what it wants is for all of the tissue inside the vagina to be explored. So when she does the feline grind, especially if she's on top, when she's all the way down on him and he's completely inside her, that feels really good and she can begin to explore the cave herself and start to awaken all of the tissue that's all inside there. Once it's activated, it starts to have neural connection to the brain so that intercourse begins to become orgasmic and feel really good. So having her on top, sliding up and down is nice, but also then making sure that the penis is going inside deeply and angling it in different areas and moving your pelvis.

So it's activating the whole inside of the vagina. That's going to contribute to getting her orgasming over and over and over and over again during intercourse. Yeah, but what's fascinating about that is I think that probably maybe some people have tried, something similar to that, but it was before that 20 minute mark because nobody has, like, I never knew that it takes 20 minutes to get everything fluffed up like you just explained. You know, that's like super important information. And I think makes all the difference between it being like, ow, where the fuck did that just touch? Or you feel nothing compared to what you're saying.

If it's after that 20 minutes and you know you're fully turned on and you fully have that boner that it's like everywhere it hits, you're going to feel a new great sensation. Yes. Women often feel nothing. Yeah. Or it hurts. Yeah, exactly. And the nothing and hurts are just, that's what happened when you didn't get touched right or you've never been touched there. Yeah. When you begin to activate all of the tissue and send those signals to your brain and you have some control over it because you're on top and you're managing. the penetration, the depth, the stroke, everything. Yeah. Then you can begin to either de-armor or activate. Sometimes you have to de-armor because you've been hurt. And sometimes you just need to activate and then the sensation starts to come.

Yeah. This notion that there are spots in the inside the vagina, like the G spot, the P spot, the A spot, the whatever. That's not, those maybe are spots that people have heard and they've spoken. started activating, but literally the entire landscape of the inside of the vagina is equally orgasmic. It just needs to be activated. So having more intercourse really, really helps with that. I'd like to move on to another one that I think is interesting for the male partner.

It's called glasando. Glacondo is a term that you would hear in the music world. and it's often what heart players do you do you know how a heart player they go that that dill lill lill lill that cascading river of sound that is glasando and what it is is a rhythmic motion that is moving you and that's why I named glasando glasando because let's just set a couple up in doggy style Yeah. She's receiving him from behind.

And normally what he would be doing is he would be entering her and stroking inside her. But what Glasando does is it actually gives him the idea to move her onto him. So because she's on her hands and even she can rock really easily and he can hold her hips, He can actually move her body on him in nice, long strokes that are deep and shallow short strokes. He can rock her. And rocking feels really good to all of us. We loved to be rocked as babies. It soothes our nervous system.

It allows us to relax and it makes us feel safe. and especially for women, because we're the prey and the masculine is the predator, even if you're with someone who you trust, anything that a man can do to make a woman feel safe and relaxed is going to help her come better. And Losando is a rocking motion where he's moving her body onto his manhood. And that is something where a lot of guys are like, oh, she's, I've been doing all the work with my hips. I haven't been doing it with her. Most guys understand, oh, I've got to do the pelvic rock. I've got to drop my hips and I've got to, you know, move in and out where my penis is sliding across the roof of her vagina when it comes back and forth. But what they often miss is the idea of actually moving her.

The other thing I like about Glissondo is that it's very masculine feminine. and it has a lot of polarity to it. When a man moves your body, he moves your emotion. And so if you want him to be very, if you want her to be very connected to you, you want to lift her, move her, move her into different positions. That's going to bond her to you in sex in a way that she's not getting bonded to other people.

So the rocking, the creating trust and security, as well as the movement of her body, her feel taken and taken care of. Right, which every girl wants, right? And it's not just for the girl because that rocking motion that I think probably a lot of guys have never tried, that's going to feel great for on his cock, right, moving in and out, maybe in a way that he never has before. Like you're saying long stroke, short strokes, like change it up. It's not just the, you know, slow and then faster and you're done.

Exactly. Yep. And now I'm at a fork in the road that you're going to have to choose. One is that I'd like to talk about a heart connection technique that's called heart tongue, but we could talk about ravishment and some safe bondage ideas. Yeah, I like a ravishment. Ravishment. Let's go there.

Ravishment it is. So all women love to be ravished if they feel safe with their partner. They want to be taken over. They want to get out of their head and taken into their body. body. If they trust you and they know you'll never hurt them, they can allow themselves the full surrender to their pleasure with you. And ravishment is often holding her, moving her body around. It's words of encouragement and adoration. Ravishment doesn't mean, oh, I'm going to do this thing, you. It doesn't have to do that. That's like, that's a role play thing. Yeah. And it's fine. But

true words of appreciation, you, you're so beautiful, lie down and spread your legs for me. Let me put pillows under you. I'm going down on you, you taste so good, you smell so good, you look so beautiful. Your yoni is gorgeous. I love being with you. You look so pretty in the light there. I love this little white sexy lingerie you wore. You know, those kinds of things are allowing her to surrender because she feels seen and safe. So verbal is as important as physical. For sure. The other thing that women really like is to be held down safely.

And I know there's a lot of talk about choking. And most 95%, 98% of people do it wrong. there's something called uh what's it called um asphyxiation erotic asphyxiation but that is dangerous territory i do not recommend it and is not part of my techniques what is good is when a woman's neck is held down but her airway is never touched and if you hold your hand in kind of a v where the thumb is on one side and your fingers are on the other side. And there's that soft part between the thumb and the first finger that's very, very soft in the crook. You can place that over a woman's windpipe and keep it such that it'll never press against her windpipe.

You can wrap the fingers onto one side of her neck and your thumb onto the other side of her neck. And then you can squeeze and touch the sides of her neck and hold her. and hold her down that way, you can slide the bottom of that soft spot up under her chin and hold her there and she will feel held, grounded, and safe without any problem breathing. Interesting. And so that's the way to hold a woman down. And there is erectile tissue on the sides of her neck that love to be stimulated. That hickie you had in high school, the reason it felt so good was because that's erectile tissue on the sides of your neck.

So we need more neck kissing. We need more kissing across the collarbone. We need more touch on our chest. We need more holding of our neck. And then another place we like to be held is up under the back of our hair. We need our hair at the nape of our neck held without pull. It feels really good when someone run, when your lover runs their hands into your hair and holds your head or grasps the back of your hair without pulling. Because if you, and you can practice this.

One of my favorite things to do is to tell people to have erotic play dates. I've mentioned that to you before. Erotic play dates are where you practice things. Okay, if you wanted to do that sex position where it's, you know, you want to have your airtight. the first time and you want to, you know, practice, who's going to be on bottom, who's going to be in the back, who's going to be in the front, who's going to be in the mouth, you know, all this kind of stuff. You got to do your blocking plan. You got to see where the bodies fit and how it all works, right? You don't just do it the first time. You try it out. Yeah. And so the more kinds of dates you have

are you like, okay, how does it feel when I grab your hair in the back like this? Okay, is this covering your airway or does it feel good? Where on your neck do you want me to grip? When you start to get those things, then you can do them in the heat of the moment when you're ravishing her, and she really loves it because she knows you know what you're doing. Right. Well, that's what you said. It's not just techniques. It's communication too. And if you have those play dates where you know you're going in to learn and you could ask questions and the lines of communication are expected to be there, that's only going to help your end game. Yeah. It makes such a difference. And I think dirty talk, a lot of the kinds of dirty talk that I

recommend are really things like worship, appreciation, adoration, and encouragement, noticing what you see, speaking about how good things feel. To me, those are all great examples of how to talk dirty without feeling weird about it. And we crave those things. Yeah, especially like what you were saying to ravish the woman with the, you know, telling her how great she looks. It's going to help her feel very comfortable. I mean, because there's a lot of times women don't feel comfortable. So I think stuff like that is always super helpful. Arousal begins in relaxation. You can't push her buttons and turn her knobs to get her turned on. She'll never

turn on to the volume that you desire until you begin with relaxation, trust, and surrender. So starting there, slowing down, taking your time, giving her the 20 minutes her female body requires. So many women think I'm broken because he's ready to go and I'm not even thinking about it. No, that's just how it works. So many guys say to me, I'm really, really pissed because my wife never initiates sex. And I'm like, it's not her job. It's not her nature. It's not her cultural programming. So unless you can overcome all of those things, which you can't because you're not a magician magician and you can't turn back time and you can't change society. It is your job. So just do your job. She'll do her job, which is to get turned on and to come really well for you. That's her job. Her job is to get

out of her head, into her body, and connect your heart to yours. Which brings me to my next technique, heart tongue. Can I tell you about that? Yeah. The heart tongue technique is, I had a little story, Just a quick little story. I was in Abifa, and I went, my daughter and my husband and I were at an afternoon rave. And my daughter had to go the bathroom. So I walked with her to the bathroom. I waited outside and I sat down. And there was a guy tripping balls right next to me, this Indian guy.

And he turns to me and he's like, what do you do? What's going on? I told him, I was, you know, an intimacy expert to millions, trusted hot sex advisor to millions. And he's like, can I ask you a question about sex? And I'm like, of course. This is what makes me good. And he said, sex is really not as good as I thought it should be. It doesn't live up to what I hoped it would be.

And I looked at him and I thought to myself, oh, I know exactly what the problem is. I said, you have not connected your heart to your cock. You're performative. You've watched porn. You're going through the motions. But you're going through the motions bringing no emotion. Yeah. And we women can tell.

Nobody wants to have sex with that guy. We want lovers. We want soulfulness. We want heart connection. And guys are not. They're vagus nerves, which is the central nervous system nerve of our body that really controls our, basically our parasympathetic nervous system, our rest and relaxed nervous system, our connection nervous system, our empathy system, it doesn't connect to the penis.

The vagus nerve connects to the womb in the female body. So men got a little short changed around the vagal situation. And so they actually have to do mindfulness. So the way I explain it to a guy is, okay, you know, when you're in the gym and you're working out with your trainer and you're training, and you're trainer says, oh, no, no, no, it's your rear delts. That's, you know, no, no, you're using your shoulders. You need to use your rear delts right here. And he touches your rear delts. And you're like, oh, right, those are my rear delts. Okay. And then you use your mind to control that you're actually using your delts to move the weights. Yeah. That's what you do with your heart and your dick. You're like, okay, I've got to get my heart to feel my dick. I got to get my dick. I got to get my

dick to feel my heart. When you begin to do that, you begin to have, you make that connection, you get that last mile that can be missing in many men. And when he gets that, he enters into a whole new level of feeling connected to himself and other, to empathy, to kindness, to sweetness, that often, for many men, they've never felt in their lives until they begin this process. And it's just a matter of, like you said, if you're at the gym

and you're just focusing on that muscle, it's the same thing. Like when he's having sex, start to think about, oh, I need to attach my heart to my penis. Exactly. I think I have time for one more quick technique if you've got the energy.

And then I've got a blast out of here. Yes, of course. Okay. So one of the techniques that I really liked is something called squatting tiger bouncing lion. And one of my favorite sex positions is cowgirl, which is essentially missionary woman on top. Man is either lying down or sitting in a chair or sitting up with his back against the headboard and she's on top of him. His penis is inside her. And one of the reasons that I love like it is that he can look at her in the eyes, he can play with her boobs, he can kiss her. And one of the things that Dr. Nan Rice, who is a sexual neuroscientist, explains is that the more

you stack the pleasure, the more that you touch lips, breasts, nipples, labia, clitoris, entrance to the vagina, inside the vagina, all of these areas, the more of them you can kind of get going at the same time. The more intensity of orgasms, she's going to have. The easier it'll be for her to come, the more she'll come, and the more intense her orgasms will be. So cowgirl gives her a lot of pleasure. It gives her connection.

It gives her mouth, breast, and yoni. You can grab her hips and you can help her slide up and down on you. You can even potentially do Blasando this way. But one of the neatest things about it is that a woman can not just be on her knees, but she can be on her feet, squatting on top of him. Sometimes she'll hold the headboard. Sometimes she can just hold his hands. And when she can squat and go up and down on top of his penis, she can really dial in a level of pleasure that she can't quite get with the angle of being. being on her needs. So for those of you listeners who are women who are strong of thigh.

Yeah, you got to have some muscles or you have to be, you know, very live to do it or it's going to be a good workout. Or it's a good workout. Start doing it to get some fucking thigh muscles. It can be a very good workout. But it can also be an incredible amount of pleasure that you may have never experienced before. So I just want to leave you. you with the fact that I've taught you a number of different ideas. I've got many more at sabonk.com and that all techniques are learned, all orgasms are learned, and that your sex life gets better your whole life long. And it's my pleasure to just keep teaching you things over time and all the stuff that I give away is free. You never have to buy any of my programs.

They're always available, but I don't mind. You're happy to just come get all the 10 free techniques that are at assaubonk.com. My pleasure. Right. And they're all there. So you got a couple here. Go get more. SABonc.com. I'll put that in the description. It's always super fun to have you on, Susan. You know your shit. I always learn something. I'm going to go try this stuff out. Okay. Super. What was your favorite one? What did you like the best? What are you going to try first? I'm going to try to get engorged and then get on top and I'm going to be in control and I'm going to move it around and find all the places inside of me that feel good that I never knew before because I was the ow or nothing girl you know that's really seriously who I was so I'm gonna I'm gonna give

myself that 20 minutes and then I'm gonna go try it out that's what I'm gonna do I'm gonna search the cave excellent yeah he's going spulunking yes yes oh is that what is called splunking I forgot yeah that's what I call it's the lunking that's what I'm gonna do and I'm gonna report back on another uh a girl talk episode to let my audience know. So I'll be, I'll be giving my details of my homework. But thanks so much, Susan. It was always, it's always great to talk to you. Thanks. Great to be on your show. It's always a pleasure. Awesome. Thanks, Susan. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lives of total strangers is now available, not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audio book. It's still. It's still,

I'm not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And, I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories. 17 of them. They're really short chapters, easy read. You could read, you know, one or two and then

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