Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 687 - Ginger Opened Up her Marriage and is Now Sleeping with Other Guys

Episode Date: September 11, 2023

Ginger opened up her marriage and she’s now sleeping with other guys and she called in to talk all about it. When did her and her husband open up their marriage? Why did they open it up? And, what does she do when she hooks up with other guys? Tune in to hear all the details including how she was always bisexual and the mff threesomes her and her husband had from the get go, how and why he would never hook up with the girls, their mff threesome they had on their honeymoon and how it led to them going on to Craigslist looking for couples, the first threesome she had when she was pregnant and how and why her husband hooked up withy he other woman and how she felt about it, how her husband asked her to be with other guys and how she felt about it at first, the first guy she hooked up with and exactly what went down with him, how and why her husband always films her with other guys, their first reclaiming sex experience and how it was, why it’s hard for them to find couples where it works out, what she enjoys most about being with a new guy, what she looks for specifically in the guys she chooses including the size requirment that needs to be met, the bbc bull she hooked up with who loved foot jobs and what went down with him, how she’s an exhibitonist and how that led her to not only starting and Onlyfans but also being open about it, how she feels about her her friends being members of her onlyfans, how opening up the communication about sex is the reason they opened up their relationship and how opening it up had only helped their marriage plus a whole lot more. Here’s the 20% discount link for OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/ginja_queen ManyVids 20% Discount Code: Gin15185 Her links to everything else: https://linktr.ee/Ginja_Queen **To see anonymous pics of GINGER plus see anonymous pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I have pictures of her, okay. Ginger's hot. She's also bisexual. She talks about how in the beginning, when she first met her guy, she used to hook up with women. They were open that way in the beginning of their relationship. They had threesomes, the typical ones where a girl comes in. Her guy was never with the women. She was always just with the women. And we talk about that in the beginning. And then eventually at some point in their marriage, they've been together for a while. She did bring in another woman to be with her guy. And she watched that. She was super. into it. She talks about that experience. And then eventually they got around to doing the bull thing. And she's been with a couple bulls. She talks about those experiences too. She's very specific in what she wants in a bowl. And one of those things is a big fucking dick. Okay. She's a size queen. Her husband too likes it. I mean, this is a very common thing with a lot of guys that like to watch their girls with another guy. They like the guy to be bigger. than them because it's not like a she's got like a specific size that she likes and she said her husband isn't that size but her husband gets into the guys being bigger than her husband and she gets into

the bigger guys as well both of her bulls have been big dudes okay she talks about exactly what went down on them one of them was really into foot jobs and she gave him a foot job her husband is always around videotaping she talks about the reclaiming sex watching the videos how much he loves that one time he got involved. He's not into guys, but he is into taping it. Like I said, and watching it and seeing her as their porn stars, as her, as his porn star. She talks about why and when she started an only fans and a many vids, I guess it's called many vids, many vids account. It was over COVID. She just decided to open that up. And in the beginning, she was very open about it. She talks about how some of her friends found her. And I was like, how. And it was because she promoted it to the people that

she knew. And she talked about how that feels having her stuff out there and some of her friends following her. But you could go follow her there. She is giving out a discount and a coupon code for my listeners. It's going to be 20 or 25% off. She didn't really know yet the information, the exact information will be in the description as well as the link for you to sign up. It's all hot like picks of her. There's one video on there of her like doing solo stuff. She enjoys watching too. She's definitely an exhibitionist. She loves being an only fan and guys seeing her content. she really gets into doing custom videos for guys with fetishes. She talks about some of the custom videos she's done and all that kind of good stuff.

And Ginger, like I said, did send me in hot picks of her with her face. You could see her at all her glory over on my Patreon. It's patreon.com slash strictly non-mous podcast. But now you're going to hear her story. So I'm going to be right back on with Ginger. Hi, Ginger. Welcome to the strictly notamous podcast. How are you today?

Hi, Kathy. I'm wonderful. How are you? I'm good. I like the name Ginger. That's like a hot name. Do you mean? Like a stripper name, Ginger. I don't know. I mean, I was, you know, I like the alias. It's better than like Mercedes or Lexus. Oh my God, like a car name. That's so funny. But wait a second. So your deal is this. You've been married, I think, 12 years or something. I don't know. We'll get into that. But you were always like hooking up with girls, I think, in the beginning of your marriage. And then you guys turned into your. You. you and your husband like a stag vixen kind of situation, right? And then sometime through COVID or when the pandemic, like you started an OnlyFans, you have that going on.

We'll work our way up to that, right? Yeah. We'll give your shoutouts and I'll put the links to your OnlyFans in the description. But, you know, talk to me about how you guys decided to open up your relationship of where that started. It was way back in the beginning, right, from the beginning? Well, yeah, really, from the very beginning of our relationship. Even when we were just dating, my husband knew that I was bisexual.

I never hid that from him. But I always told him that he was lucky because I never felt like I could have a relationship with another woman. So there were, we actually worked in a nightclub together for about four years. And if that wasn't a true test of our relationship at that time, I don't know what was. But it also really gave us both an outlet to start. exploring our more adventurous side, I guess you could say. We would go out and party after work, and a lot of times the only places that were open after our nightclub would close would be the strip clubs. So what do you do?

And when you work with a bunch of other hot women and you go have a few drinks, sometimes things happen. And that was a lot of fun back in the day. And nobody made it weird. we could all go back and show up at work the next day and have a good time and do our job and do it all again the next weekend. Right. Now, during those hookups, was it just you with the girls or were you into your guy being with the girls too? It was always just me with the other girl and he always enjoyed watching and sometimes taking pictures and filming. And every now and again, there would be another guy there if she was dating somebody else. but it was never in like a group kind of setting.

And it was never you, guys either. If that guy was there, they were just watching the girls, right? No, yeah. No, I always said that I didn't want that. And he,

I think at the time, both of us were a little too jealous still to allow each other to explore being with a member of the opposite sex. So that was kind of where our boundary remained for a lot of years. really until after we got married. And then how did it change? Like how many years into your relationship did you change that dynamic and become the stag and vixen?

Well, the first time was really, I would say a few days after our wedding. I'd be honest on our honeymoon, we took a girl back to a hotel room with us. And that was, that was fun. I woke up the next morning and she was gone. And I was like, well, damn. I was kind of hoping I get another morning quickie. But you had been with girls before. I mean, was it different on that honeymoon?

Whereas that, like, she was with your husband, too? Or was it the same kind of threesome that you had before with him? No, it just felt like it was natural kind of progression type of deal. And then not long after we got married, we were living in an apartment on top of a nightclub, actually. And we were thought, oh, well, maybe we'll go out and find another couple. and that proved to be way more difficult than we expected. And that was back in the days of Craigslist. So what do you do?

You put an add-up on Craigslist and you know you've got to be super careful and super picky and who you talk to. We found a couple that we clicked with and they seemed to be looking for the same things we were. We start talking to them. And when it came time to exchange face pictures, we realize, holy shit, we know them. Oh my God. Well, listen, we're not going to say what you do, but you are kind of public figures a little bit, right? People can, would maybe recognize you if they knew the field that you were in. And there are some people that know you, like on your only fans. And there's a little crossover there, right? So were these people that knew you from that world? No, actually. They were from a vanilla job. Oh, even worse. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And he asked me, he says, is that weird. for you and I was like not really she's really hot so let's see what happened now what going into that threesome though and going into you know putting ads up on Craigslist or looking for couples what were you guys

looking for where you're like okay I've always been with women now I want you to be with women and I want to fuck other guys I mean what kind of scenario were you just going to do swaps we were still kind of exploring that like we were open to potential soft swap and things like that but that's when we still weren't really completely where we are now. So in that situation, it was just me and her still. So you were just looking for couples, but it was still,

it was just you were going to hook up with a girl. I mean, there was no discussion that you were going to let him fuck other girls or you were going to fuck the husbands, nothing like that. Right. Right. Yeah. We still weren't there yet.

And we had, they were the only couple that we knew that had been in the lifestyle at all before. And we were like, well, how do you meet people? And I said, well, we went to a party one time. And we started looking into parties and things like that. And then I got pregnant with our daughter. And I was not feeling it at all. But I knew that my husband was still really in need.

So I called in a little reinforcements and had a girl come over and help me take care of him. So this is the first time you're letting your husband. hook up with another girl? Yeah, completely. And how did that go for you? I thought it was really hot, and I was a little nervous about it, especially when you're pregnant, you never really know how you're going to react to certain situations. But afterwards, I was like, yeah, that was fucking hot.

So you weren't horny as a pregnant woman, and you wanted this girl to, like, do your job for you? Like, when you say you both did it, like, what did you need help with? Like you didn't want to fuck him. So she did? Like what actually took place? I did. I just didn't have the energy.

And I kind of wanted him to be able to just let it all out and not have to be reserved or only be able to go for five, ten minutes. And then I'm, I'm tired and I don't feel like it anymore. I wanted someone to come in and be able to do whatever he wanted in that moment. And he loved it and I loved it. For a while, I just sat there and watched. And then they were like, come on, come join us. So you can't say no to that. So everybody got off.

And I wasn't sure how it would go or how it would make me feel to see another woman suck his dick or fuck him or get him off, let alone how it would make me feel to watch him get another woman off. but I actually loved all of it. Did you continue to see that woman throughout your whole pregnancy so that did she service your husband more than once? That was a one and done. It was right there at the end. And then after our daughter was a couple years old, he came to me in one time and he's like, I really, really want to see you like another guy. And I did not know how to feel about that.

I was like, why? And I guess I hadn't really allowed myself to feel like that was something that I could want to up until that point. And I've heard a lot of women say that that they didn't know if they could allow themselves to do this or that, let alone if their partner would be comfortable with it. So I guess I figured if that was something that he was into. I could see if that was something I could be into, too. and I didn't really know how to go about that. So we got on some of the apps because this was after the Craigslist days. I think there was adult friend finder.

That's when people first started using KIC, I think. So he found a few that he thought would meet my criteria and showed them all to me and had me pick one. What was your criteria? I like them to be fit, athletic. They don't have to be huge and muscular, but I do like a guy who's got some meat on them. They don't have to be super tall, but I'm not really into a really short guy, especially if they're shorter than me, because I'm only five, six. And they definitely, it's important for them to be well hung over eight inches, I'd say, is the criteria that we look for. Okay, so you're definite size queen.

Is your husband big? Not like that. Okay. More than average, but not like that. Which is why he, that's something for him too. That's a big kink for him too. He really wants to see me with something bigger than him. Yeah, a lot of guys that are into that kink, right?

The stag or the cuck want a guy with a bigger dick for some reason where you would think. Intuitively it would be the opposite, right? because the guys are always so petrified than another guy's bigger than them. But I always make jokes. Like a couple times guys in my life have asked me about other guys, were they bigger than me? And your natural instinct would be like, oh, no, even if they were. You know what I mean?

You would never tell the guy that somebody else was bigger than them. But I'm like, maybe some of those guys were wanting me to tell them that they were bigger than them. Do you know what I mean? Like you just, you would never think that as a woman, but, you know, there are guys that have that kink for some reason. I think to them it's because it is so different. different, that it's a huge turn on, especially he said that, especially once he realized that

I can take it, then he wanted to see it even more. Interesting. Is your guy by at all? Did you ever wonder if he was or asking that question? Oh, no, not at all. I mean, he's comfortable around people who are, but he's not at all. He's completely straight. Right.

So anyway, so you go looking for it. He knew that you were looking for it. for a bigger guy, like going in in the beginning, this first guy? Okay. Yeah. He was quite a bit younger than me at the time. I think he was about six years younger than me. And we met up with him at a bar and hung out and had a couple of drinks and went back to his apartment. And my husband said, I hope you don't mind if I film this because I got, I got to get this for my purposes, for the home vault. And the guy's like, oh, yeah, no problem. I don't mind. So then that became kind of a king for both of us, too, because we had been filming ourselves for years.

But this was kind of on a whole different level for both of us. Going into this first time, were there any rules or regulations? How involved was your husband going to be? Was he just filming? Did he cross swords? Did he fuck you two? What went down that first time? Well, I always told him that that could be optional.

if he wanted to jump in and felt he wanted to partake in that, that I was okay with that. Right. But he said that the first time he thought he just wanted to watch, so he did. He more so just wanted to be like the camera guy, so to speak. Now, were there any rules or regulations? Were you allowed to kiss, not kiss? Did you guys have a conversation about it? No, there's no kissing the first time.

I was super nervous, I'll be honest. It was very strictly down to business, and I definitely enjoyed it. But I afterwards, I kind of was yelling at myself, like, you should have done this better. You should have done this more. You should have at least given him a lap dance, something. hilarious. Where do you guys do this? Like at a hotel or at your house?

No, we went back to the guy's apartment, which wasn't far from the bar that we had gone to. We were able to walk there. So, I mean, there was a little bit of chit-chat back and forth, but he was fairly quiet. I didn't really seem to have a whole lot to say. But you guys fucked like crazy and your husband filmed the whole thing. That's what went down. Oh, yeah. No, once they got started, it was pretty crazy.

And I'm not really sure how many times the other kid had done that before. He was like, I don't want to say very robotic, but kind of robotic. Like he was just thinking to himself, don't fuck up, don't fuck up, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, he's performing. I mean, it's like a little, I think it's a little different when you're one-on-one, but he's got some guy filming it. That might be a little, a little, making nervous.

And that's why we always make sure that they're okay with it. Yeah. You have to make sure they're okay with it ahead of time. You don't want to spring something like that on somebody. Yeah, but think about that young guy, right? No guy is going to give up fucking the wife just because it's going to be videotaped. So he might have been like, oh, fuck, I'm not going to give up this opportunity, but that might have still freaked him out.

You don't know. Right. Yeah, for sure. If he wasn't a professional bull. We had tried to, oh yeah, he was definitely not a professional. I have yet to find a good one of those, but we'll get there. We had tried to, the time before that we had tried to find somebody to hook up with, we had set it up, and I was super excited because this guy was really hot.

And we had got in a hotel room with a jacuzzi. Like, I had my lingerie picked out, all this stuff. And the guy no show it on us. You don't think about stuff like that, but I've heard that from people who've been doing it for a long time. You get all ready and then people don't show and you're paying for the hotel. I mean, you wind up creating certain rules and regulations because of that shit. Because that could happen a lot. You don't know.

People don't think of that. Yeah, for sure. So you really got to kind of learn your lesson with that and make sure that that doesn't happen again. So after that first guy, it really took us a while to get out there. again, not because either of us really had any negative feelings about it, but because there was a lot of chaos in our life at the moment. And once things settled down again, we were like, okay, we can kind of get back into the groove of things. Let me ask you this, though, because you did, was there like reclaiming sex afterwards and was it amazing? Did it add to your

sex life afterwards that hook up? Yeah. And how, I didn't even really think about that aspect of it ahead of time. I honestly didn't know that there was a term for that or that was a thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And actually, if I remember correctly, after that first time, we went home and we did. And after he finished, he looked down at me and he goes, and that's what you call reclaiming. So he knew the term. Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah. And did you have that video? Did you like to watch that video? I mean, because he did videotape it, correct? Yeah, so it's actually really funny that you bring that up because every once in a while he will pull it up on his phone, like if we're going to go watch porn together or something. And it makes me blush every time. I'm like, oh, my God. Yeah.

He told me that he likes to listen to it and watch it sometimes just because he's like, I have seen that video so many times. I know exactly what you're doing at every minute of it just by the sound. Yeah, for sure. Listen, I think that that's the whole thing with guys. Is that a thing with a lot of guys? Yeah, because they're very visual and they're into porn. And if it's you in there, that's their girl. It's like porn, but take it to the next level because their girl is the porn star. So it's like they have that girl.

They're watching that girl. They know that girl. And she's in that video doing this hot shit. And he gets the fuck her afterwards. So I think it's, you know, that's what guys say. It's like my own porn star watching. my girl with somebody else. It's typically you're watching that hot girl or guys watching porn and that girl's unattainable. And so a lot of guys say like after they have those kind of videos, like they prefer that to regular porn because they have their own, that's their favorite porn stores or girl at home.

Right. Yeah. I search for redheads all the time, but it's just, it's not the same. So I normally just revert back to our collection, my videos of you. Exactly. Exactly. And I'm like, oh, I mean, that's how I know that I have a keeper because that tells me that he, he not just enjoys our sex life together, but he likes seeing me pleasure. And that's what he says. That's the biggest thing for him is that he really enjoys seeing me experience pleasure. Yeah, totally. But you also enjoyed seeing him have pleasure with that other woman. So now I know we're going to get to like your next bulls and stuff.

But during this time, were you also thinking of setting up a situation where he would be with another woman again? I really, really want to. That is proving to be a bit more difficult. I don't know if it's the apps that we're on or the fact that we haven't had a chance to really get out to the parties. But that is something that is at the very top of my checklist. So once you start doing the bull thing, you've been doing the bull thing, But you haven't had a time, though, since that girl when you were pregnant. You have never had another time where you hooked up, like with a couple or anything,

and your husband was with the girl. Right. Well, the last time that we tried, we thought we were, we had it set up with this couple and had been talking to them for a while. We thought everything was good and that they were down. We didn't realize that the whole time when we thought we were communicating with both of them that we were only communicating with him. Right.

And the night that we had set up to go over there because they were going to host, this was like towards the end of COVID. He's, hey, we're not going to be able to meet up. The babysitter is sick or something like that. Yeah. They were like, oh, that really sucks. Okay, well, we'll just, we're out having a drink. So we'll maybe plan on hucking up another night.

No big deal. And they message us about 40 minutes later. her hey never mind you guys can come over after all grandma's going to take the kids or whatever it was and we're like oh okay cool this is actually going to happen and we're both really excited well we get there we find out that she has no idea what's going on before we get there that's so fucked up i know i don't get that and they both insisted that that's the way that she preferred it but when he said that, looking at the look on her face, I wasn't too sure that that was really the case. Right, right, right.

I really got the sense that this was something that he wanted in their relationship and she was just along for the right to make him happy. And that makes me super uncomfortable. And I didn't really understand that that was completely the situation until afterwards. Because from start to finish, she was total cold fish. Oh, really? Yeah, that's not hot and that's fucked up. Completely. It was terrible.

And it started with me and her and she really just kind of like laid there and didn't really react much or do much and didn't want to play back. And she played with my hair and that was it. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So as I'm going down on her, he comes around behind me and he says something to her and she's like, looks at him and shakes her head. So he goes and he grabs a toy and I'm like, all right, fine, whatever.

Well, I realized later that what that was was him asking her if he could fuck me and she told him no. Oh. Okay, cool. To me, that's something you should talk about before the situation. So like that. Well, she didn't even know what was happening. Obviously, they don't communicate.

I mean, he didn't even tell her you're fucking coming over, let alone. Oh, my God. That guy's such an asshole. So it's hard to find couples is what you're saying. That was your only other experience with another woman. I mean, all of the other experience we're going to be talking about are with bulls, correct? Yeah, that's the only couple that we've connected with and tried to set anything up with. Because after that happened, we were both like, okay, well, maybe we need to be extra cautious when it comes to couples and maybe have a little more of a vetting process because she's literally laid there and watched UFC.

and then gave my husband a half-ass blowjob and left us both, like, hanging. We're like, okay, well, we're going to cut this short. Thanks for the lovely evening. See ya. Yeah, that's terrible. So let's get back to the hot story. So you get that first bull. It's super hot.

You wind up stuff happens. Life happens. But eventually you start looking for more guys. What happened after that first guy? Well, it kind of became like a memory for us to use in the bedroom, obviously with the video and stuff like that. And he asked me what I like the most about it. And aside from looking up and seeing him watching me, I really enjoyed like the newness of somebody different that doesn't really know you but is willing to toss you around a little bit. and maybe, you know, give us you a little bit harder because it's new.

That was part of the excitement for me. And I always thought that once we did that, that I would never repeat that situation again with the same person, that it was a one and done. Okay. And then I found my next bowl. Mm-hmm. And I liked him even better. He knew what he was doing. He had more experience.

he even had some new kinks that I had never experienced before and he asked me if I would be maybe into giving him a foot job Oh I remember this from the email yeah the footjob guy Yeah He's a BBC correct He is Now was that your first

That was not my first big But he has been the largest so far Right okay But he's a black guy you're white Is it your first interracial experience or was the other bull a black guy's out like your thing that you look for? The other bull was a little more mixed. But I mean, I guess you could consider him at BBC as well, technically. But yes, I'm very, very little Irish girl white.

And my husband is part Mexican and Native American. So when he has a good tan, there's a good contrast going on. But in the winter, he's as pale as I am. That's interesting, but he could get dark as shit without, you can't get dark like that, not if you're a redhead. Oh, no, no, I get a ginger tan on my freckles just moves closer together. Yeah, yeah. Right, but you like that contrast, right?

I mean, a lot of times because some people will be like, oh, is that, I don't know, someone brought up like, it's racist, somebody just likes black guys. I'm like, no, I think it's no different than a black guy or a black woman interested in the white. I think it's a contrast that some people, it's just like a visual thing, right? It's just like no different that if some guy likes a girl that. that's full figured or a girl that's skinny or a girl that wants a guy with muscles or a belly. I mean, which is just preference. It's physical and what turns you on. So you,

so that's what, when you were looking, like when you said your guy knows what you like and he would go looking for you. So the contrast is definitely a thing, but I am not exclusive. Right. To that. I mean, honestly, as long as they're over eight inches and can hang and actually, go more than four or five minutes. Good to go. Yeah, because there's BB, there's the BWC, right? The big white cock, big black cock. I mean, you just like big cock. And so whatever that comes with, you're down. You're open. Basically. Yeah. So this guy was into foot jobs. Like that was that something he brought up. Oh yeah. That's his thing. That is really his thing. And I had never done that before. I was like,

I'll give it a shot. To me, it's a challenge because I'm thinking, how the hell am I going to be able to hold myself upright while doing this with my feet? Logistics just were not mathing in my head. But I decided to give it a shot and made it work and he loved it. And I didn't have any negative feelings about it. So I was like, all right, well, if he likes it, cool, really turned him on. the first time we got together, I didn't do that. The first time we got together, he had gotten a hotel room and we met up, and it was kind of a, just the first time meeting up with somebody and going back to the room and fucking three or four times before you're like, thanks for all the orgasms.

Have a great night. It was the second time that we got together that he asked me if I would give him a footchew. job. Now, was your husband there the same thing just watching? He's never participating at this point? Well, the first time with this guy, he actually asked me if I would give him

a blow job while he was while my bowl was fucking me from behind. And I was like, yeah, let's give it a shot. Right. And I do like that. I'll be honest, though. It is kind of hard to hold on. You know, when you got another one behind you, but I I'm a good girl and I hold on the best that I can and try to make it work for everybody.

Okay. So your husband does get involved sometimes and he did with that guy. Yeah. And I realize that I do enjoy that. So I told him again, I said, if you want to jump in, if you want to put the camera down, if you want to hand him the camera, like, you want to jump in, let me know we'll make it work. I'm totally down with that. And we always tell them I had a time that that might.

happen. Because he's never sure until the moment comes whether or not he wants to jump in or if he just wants to watch. So I always leave that open for him to decide. Right. But he's always filming. Yes. Right. I mean, you don't meet up with bulls that aren't filmed. I mean, it's always like that you make sure that guy's cool with you guys filming. Is that one of your rules too? I mean, preferably, we tell them that part of the purpose for us is to have that. for our vault. So we always tell them that we prefer to be able to film and take pictures and things like that. I have a few things that I like to do.

I guess you could call them fantasies, like photo shoots and stuff like that, that I am waiting until I find the right bowl to make those happen with. So it's the second time he tells you he wants a foot job? Yes. So this guy, I mean, you said early on. Like I typically don't see bulls. I want a one and done. So this guy, why did you decide to see him the second time?

Because I really enjoyed myself the first time. And he actually knew what he was doing. And he was really chill. He was very respectful of our boundaries and our rules and asked. And I hadn't really had people straight up ask us what our boundaries were before. So I really liked that. And then he was completely about making sure that I was comfortable and that I was the one directing what was going on. So I guess I had never really had somebody also be able to not just make me come multiple times, but make me squirt multiple times without having to take more than a five minute break.

Right. You're a squirt or the other guy that, this guy made you squirt. Yeah, he was the first one who really took advantage of that. My husband knows how to make that happen. But this one, like, didn't even, he already knew. It was like he didn't ask me if that was something I could do. He just made it happen again and then again. Right.

So you were horny for him. That's why you saw him the second time. Oh, yeah. No, he found the button. That's for sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the second time he says he wants a foot job. Right.

Yeah. So that's how we started was with that. And that turned him on so much that it actually intensified our experience. How does that work? Do you have to lube it up or because it's your feet right on his cock and you're like going up and down. It's kind of like with your two feet, you're giving him like a hand job, but a foot job, right? And then does he come from that? Yeah.

Yeah, so he had told me that he had a foot fetish. So I had gotten a pedicure and made them look cute, made sure they were soft and stuff like that. But then he asked me if I would do that, and he had some coconut oil. So we just lubed it up with that. And if I remember correctly, he was sitting, leaning with his back up against the wall. And I sat in front of him in kind of like a frog position, I guess you could say, and used my feet. to brace myself, hold myself up with my hands. And for a minute there, I decided to use my feet and my hands at the same time.

And that was a true test score string. Yeah, a good workout. That was a really good workout. Yeah. But he loved it. So that was a big turn on. And that was really the first time that I had explored any real kinks with anyone except my husband. Does your husband have any kinks besides the fact they like to see you fuck other guys with bigger dicks?

Oh, yes. He loves talking dirty. He really wants to hear me tell him how much I crave him and how much I love his cock and how much I crave big cack. And he always asked me, oh, you can, you just can't wait to get it again, can you? Well, of course, the answer is no. Right. But that's why I'd say that's probably one of his his biggest things. Right. But that guy had a full fetish. I mean, that was a foot fetish that guy had. Now, do you still, now that guy, does he become like your regular ball? Well, he moved to Tulsa.

And so we're quite a ways away now. And he said that he would come back and let me know when he was coming back. And about two weeks ago, I got a message from him. say, hey, I'm coming back for a week. Let's hook up. So we're planning on hooking up in a few weeks when he comes back. Now, have you met other bulls besides him as well? And did you guys ever, I mean, you did, I think you put in the word swinger in your email.

Like, I mean, do you guys ever go into any clubs or any parties or anything like that? No, because right after him, unfortunately, I got pregnant with our second kid and kind of fizzled out all of our activity in the lifestyle again. And it seemed like every time we got involved and really got going with everything, something in our life would happen and we had to step out again, which goes back to that in the lifestyle and out and back in again for many years. And then after our son was born, I found out that I had to have major surgery and mostly through my recovery now. So that's why we're like, all right, let's get back into doing all the things that we love again. And it's time to be more adventurous. And I think this time we've had even more time to talk about it and to consider and rework our boundaries and our rules, I'd say.

In what sense? It sounds like you tried a little bit of everything. And it seems like there was never any issues. So what kind of boundaries did you guys set up now after you've done it all? We don't ever play separately. Everything that we do is always together. Like we don't go out and date other people. Neither of us really, that's not our thing. I can understand that other people really get off on that, but that's not our dynamic. To us, we are in the lifestyle together as a couple. So we want to experience our adventures and misadventures, of course, together as a couple. And I feel like that is really strange. strengthened us in a lot of ways. As far as boundaries, I think we've gotten a little more relaxed as far as hard-nove things like kissing and stuff like that. My only other hard know is that I don't do anal and that's kind of across the board no matter what situation we're in. But I don't think that

we're not like, oh, you can only do this and you can only do that. Like we always use protection. That's really our only hard and fast rule. That's not negotiable in our lifestyle. Right. Now, are you still just looking to get back out there? Are you still just looking for the stag vixen setup where you're going to go out and screw other guys and your guys going to video and watch?

Are you ever looking to get more into swapping, hooking up with couples, you being with girls again? Oh, yeah. No, we're really open to any of that. It's not a just this or that kind of situation. And I think that there's, so there's a local group that have host parties on a regular basis. And I think they have a few coming up towards the end of the year that we may try to get out for. Because I see their posts all the time. They look like so much fun.

Who wouldn't want to get all dressed up and looking cute and go have fun with other couples that are like-minded? And hopefully you find people that you can really have a good time with. Right. I mean, especially because, I don't know, I mean, you're very bisexual, right? You haven't been with a woman for many, many years? Yeah, it's been quite a while. I would say the last one was that couple that was a total. flop.

Yeah. Yeah, that doesn't really count. Unfortunately. Now, I know that sometime over the pandemic, you said you did start an only fan. Like, what is on there? Did you decide to put all these hookups and these videos on there? Or is it just you solo? I mean, what's going down there?

Well, when I started it, I kind of went into it with the, I don't want to do what everybody else is doing. Like, all these other girls are in everybody's message inbox with pretty much, porn all day every day. And that's fine. That's what they do. And it works for them. I really, I wanted to do something different. And I had been modeling for a few years. My husband used to really like taking like some sexier photos of me and lingerie and various things like that. But we never did anything with them. So it's like, well, let's find the best of the best and dump them all on there and give us some excuses to create new ones. And let's just have

fun with this and create art. And then after I had our son, I started slowly getting back into it again once I started feeling like a normal human again. And that kind of transitioned. We started talking about it as well, if we're going to be doing this, how do you feel about adding that into the content that you create. I'm not opposed to it. Right now, it's a matter of being able to get consent form signed and stuff like that. So we're working on all of that to be able to include that content. And from now on, anybody that we do create with will have them sign the consent form

in order to use the content. But right now, until we're able to make that happen, it's just me having fun, being silly, being sexy showing off new lingerie that I get from some of my subscribers and I love that. Do you do custom videos and stuff? I mean, do people put in requests since you're like on there doing picks and stuff? Yeah. So that can also happen through my only fans. I also have a account on many vits where custom content can be requested and things like that. I actually made a exclusive discount code for both my many vids and my only fans specifically for your subscribers. Okay, what is that?

I will have to send them to you. One is a code and the other one is a link. Okay, so I'll put that in the description then. Okay, cool. Yeah. And then, oh, so when I started the only fans, my husband was really into meekin video. of me and posting them up there. And we kind of had a difficult time doing that with the kids around.

So we would rent a hotel room for an evening on the weekend, get a babysitter for the kids, and we'd go have fun. And one of those nights, I decided that I was going to do a little more than just a photo shoot and made my first solo video. So I put that up there and got such a great response. to it, that that was, that's the first thing that I posted when I made my, my many vids account. So that's you, pleasuring yourself, correct? You alone.

It's a solo video of me with a toy, my new toy at the time. And that was the first time I'd ever taken a video of me making myself squirt. Mm-hmm. So people could see that. And on the many, I mean, if you're on many vids, I would assume that there's many more videos, right, besides that one. That was the first one. Is that what you decided then to post on there?

or do they see you and your husband, or is it just solely you, solo videos of you? Well, I just started that account. We're working on repackaging and editing some of the others that we have in our portfolio to be able to add that on there. Right. Okay. So, but that's to come. Because I know that a lot of times with only fans, people have their fans in there.

And then they sell them custom stuff and everything. And people come with all kinds of different requests, right? And you make a video for that person. Like, what kind, you do that? I'm assuming? Definitely. Yeah, I've done custom like foot videos before massaging and lotioning up my feet and stuff like that. I had a few people really like those. I had somebody requests one time just a video of me pulling stockings at my legs. Yeah, that's like a guy that has a Panios fetish. And I think that if you're into that kind of stuff, I mean, does it turn you on? Are you an exhibitionist? Is that why you're putting yourself out there? Why decide to do an only fan? Oh, absolutely. Yeah, I feel like there's always been a bit of that in me from being in performing arts when I was a kid to even as an adult. I think there is a lot of that that turns me on. And that's why there's a few of my only fan subscribers that know us personally in real life. And I don't really, I don't find that weird. I know some people do. They're like, I don't want to know. about it. I don't want to know that you follow me. I don't want to know anything like that. It doesn't really bother me. I had one of them, I had somebody asked me one time if it weirded

me out that some of our friends followed me. And I said, no, because when we're together as friends, you guys are friends, you're like family. I see you as somebody that I like to hang out with and I like to talk to and that's it. But behind that paywall, it is strictly business. And I don't judge you for anything that you might say or any of the content that you like. I appreciate that you're supportive of me in my adventures, but I don't find it weird. But how did they find you to begin with? I mean, did you advertise it to them? Because typically only fans, people only find you if they have your link. I mean, you have to kind of go out and find your audience. So how did your friends, find you? Well, in the very beginning, I wasn't exactly shy about starting it up because during COVID

work was a little hard to come by. Sometimes everybody was trying to make a little extra money as much as they could. So I said, you know what? Fuck it. I'm just going to put myself out there. This is what I'm doing. People don't have to like it. If they don't want to be friends with me afterwards, that's on them. All right. So that's cool. So you were open about it from the beginning in the beginning. It wasn't like a private thing. Yeah, I was, and I have kind of toned, I don't want to say necessarily tone that down a little bit, but I have streamlined and directed more of that kind of activity towards my pages that are specifically made for that, more so out of respect for my professional career, my children, things like that. So it's not that we were super secretive in the beginning. I just don't talk about it in certain forums anymore. But you did in the beginning just to get people there is what you're saying.

I mean, it was like you were starting it out. Yeah. I started my Instagram page that was for that kind of persona, so to speak, to attach that to my only fans. And then I did the same thing with the Twitter and all that. Right, right. that's cool so if people go there they're going to see like hot sexy photos of you right in lingerie out of lingerie that kind of stuff there's one video now but you're planning on putting up more correct yes absolutely and you will be giving my listener some sort of discount you know what that is

but even if you don't know the coat so i do believe it is either a 20 or 25 percent discount um on both platforms i think there's i think there's only three 10 days for them to capitalize on the only fans discount, though. Okay, so the only fans is for 10 days. Mm-hmm. And then the many. So they better get them while they can. Yeah.

And now you send me some hot picks for my Patreon. I could use those. Should I take your face out of them? I mean, you send me your face. I'm going to keep you anonymous, correct? Or are you not anonymous on your Instagram and stuff? Oh, no. My photos aren't anonymous on Instagram.

So these picks that you sent me, I could send the, I could put on my Patreon, correct? As is. Yeah, you can use either the ones that I sent you. I can send you a few more if you like, but you can use my face on there. Okay, cool. So you'll send me those picks for my Patreon.

I will get, you're going to email me the links ASAP right in those picks so that I can include in the description. Your episode will be up soon. I will, like I said, I will put the links to your only fans and the discount code as well in the description. So get that over to me. And why don't you give a shout out to all your stuff?

again. I'm sorry. You don't even think I gave you those names. Yeah. Yeah, on Instagram, it is at Jinja G-I-N-J-A-U-N-G-E-A-U-E-N. And that's J-N-G-E-N-A-L-E-N. And that's Ginger like ninja, but the red-headed kind. I like that. Ginja. Yeah, I like that. Okay, that's Instagram and then give out your many viz and your only family. And then OnlyFans is the same thing. It's OnlyFans.com backslash G-I-N. J-A-U-E-E-N. Awesome. Thanks, Jinja, Jinja Queen, Jinja. I like that.

I really can't wait to update you on some of our new adventures now that we're finally getting back into the lifestyle again. Yeah, for sure. Get more stories. Although I'm always down to do a part two. My listeners always love hearing from women, especially women who enjoy this kind of lifestyle. Yeah. And so.

Well, it's really your show that gave me a huge boost in confidence and not just be who I am without questioning myself now that I see that there's so many other women out there like me. I love that. That's the whole point. I mean, listen, the point is also to let the general public who doesn't do this to also know that there are people out there doing this. And it could be your neighbors or your sister or your friend or your partner or you, maybe

down the line. but it's also to help people like you, like who are listening, whether it's the foot fetish guy or the woman in the hot wife scenario, that to know that they're not alone. And I think that that's super important. Yeah. Oh, definitely. It has really sparked an amazing conversation between us and talking about every aspect of the lifestyle and not just things that we want to experience, but the stories that we hear from other people. and it has brought us a lot closer being able to do that to communicate with your partner in that fully open, free way. I really don't think there is anything more beautiful than to be able to do that and completely be yourself.

So I am so glad that there is more people out there that are finding that in themselves. Yeah, and trying it out. And that's why it's always important. For sure. And it's great that you're sharing your story because that'll help other people that are listening. That's the whole point as being able to share your experiences and what makes you successful. I really feel like communication and consistently communicating. And if anything changes, being willing to revisit whatever is changing.

Even in the moment, last week I may have been all about one thing. And this week, I'm lukewarm on it. And my husband's going to know it either way. Exactly. And I think that's one of the biggest places. where people misstep in being able to make the lifestyle successful for themselves. I'm sorry, even vanilla sex is not going to be that hot if you can't open your mouth. And that's the problem with a lot of people, even just girls don't even know how to speak up about

what they want in the bedroom or men. And that's like the key to good sex. And that's where it all starts. It's not even down the line of that lifestyle. I mean, you're so much further than most people. I think a lot of people can't even tell people what they want in their own bedroom, between the two of them. And these are people that have been together since the dawn of time. And I think, though, that shows like this and the younger generation coming up and talking about things

and being more open is helping people, right, feel more okay with letting their freak flag fly. Because it's always interesting to me that people, some people are like living these secret lives and they're able to express those things to people outside of their relationship easier than the person that's sitting next to them for the past 30 years, which doesn't make any sense, but it does. That's the person you need to be open with. Yeah. If you're not comfortable in expressing those things with your partner, then that's where,

like a reevaluation of where you are as a couple comes together. Because if your foundation of your relationship in the bedroom, outside of the bedroom, isn't completely based in not just trust, but communication. and really understanding each other's needs, then maybe they're not really the right person for you. Right. And I just think a lot of times people keep their, like, kinky fantasies to themselves and fear of someone else looking at them, like, what the fuck are you into?

But there's ways to, like, gently get into those conversations. And if you could do that, it could really help your relationship and then lead to so many other things. I've had a lot of couples on my show who talked about, being very vanilla in a very vanilla relationship marriage and just starting to talk about their fantasies wound up trickling down to them opening up their relationship three years later. So it just starts there. Right. Right.

You're further along the line. There's always a trigger somewhere. Yeah. But I think also other people who are too afraid to really explore that for themselves, they, I don't want to say, live vicariously through people like us. We don't really, there's maybe three or four of our friends, like our close friends, that know that we do any of this, right? Right.

But there are people that are subscribers of mine that know us in real life that also confide in me because they see what I'm doing and they feel safe in talking to me about the things that they're afraid to talk to their partner about. Exactly. Or they have a secret Instagram account that they don't want their partner to know about, but they add me to it and they'll ask me for advice. I have a guy who asks me for makeup and wardrobe advice and what I think of his new heels. and I love that. Right. I love being able to be that for somebody

because if they don't have anybody else, that's, they need somebody. Yeah, of course. And I'm sure you get a lot of that because there's a whole generation of people that weren't able. They grew up in just a time where you weren't, it wasn't so open and people,

so people kept most of their kinks and their fetishes on the DL. I don't think the younger generation is like that, but people my age are. And I have a whole catalog filled of people living those kind of lives. And only fans and custom videos and all these kinds of the new things that have come out are a place where people can go get help, as well as podcasts, listening to shows like this and being like, oh, I get those emails too. Thank you so much. I know I'm not alone.

But they're still living with that secret and they can't tell their partners. So I always like to show different stories to show people how to get to where people. like you are right i mean you guys were kind of open from the beginning and playing around so it seems like it was more natural for you guys but you know we realize that now yeah but it's still but that's okay but because life takes you in a different direction doesn't mean you could always get back but it's always i think great for people to hear different people's stories so thanks oh for sure so much for calling it and sharing yours and i'll put all your links on thank you this was so much fun i had such a great time. That's awesome, Ginger. Send me more picks, right? You're going to send me more picks and I'll post

them. Oh, I will for sure. Okay, thank you, Ginger. Thanks so much for calling in. Thank you so much, Kathy. Bye. Bye-bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lives of total strangers is now available, not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of

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