Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 702 - Ian Has a Hotwife

Episode Date: October 11, 2023

Ian has a hotwife and he called in to talk all about it. When did he realize he was into watching his wife with other guys? How did he bring it up to her? And, how did she react? Tune in to find out plus hear all about how he started fantasizing about it for a long time before he brought it up, where they went to find their bulls, what kind of rules do they had going in, what kind of guys his wife and him look for, what exactly went down with the first guy she hooked up with and how and why it went wrong, the second bull they met and exactly what went down with him, how and why both him and his wife prefer a guy with a bigger d, why they also prefer military guys, how and why she had crygasm while with one bull and what a crygasm is, how and why they now will only hook up with bulls who have experience, the issues that have come up while hooking up with certain bulls, how he got busted writing to couples and how she reacted, how and why they are now thinking about bringing in a girl, how and why they prefer using Reddit as their dating app and how exactly you can use it too to find people hook up with plus a whole more. **To see pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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subscribe. Now today I have on Ian. Ian called in because he like a lot of my other callers realized at some point somehow that he was really into the whole hot wife fantasy. He was in the military. He started fantasizing about it. He's been with this girl since the dawn of time and eventually he brought it up to her and she was a taker. I mean not right from the beginning but it wasn't like that hard of a push brought it up. Eventually she was like okay let's try this they went online and they met some bulls. They've only been out of it for about a year, but he talks about all the situations,

the ones that didn't go so right, the ones that went really right, the differences between them. They don't really like to hook up with newbies because that's when it typically doesn't go right. That was like the first experience. They do prefer bulls who have been doing this for a long time. They have some rules and regulations.

He talks about that. He talks about what goes down, how involved he gets, what his wife likes. They started out on adult friend finders, but what he really talks about towards the end, which is super interesting, I think, is where they have the most success is on Reddit. And he really explains how to use Reddit

to find other people and use it like a dating site. And it's free, okay? A lot of people are going on all the apps nowadays or adult friend finders. That's where they started off. But they find that Reddit is like the best place and explains exactly how he found all the people and where he posts his ad for his wife.

He talks about what's in their future. but I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Ian. Hi, Ian. Welcome to the Strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? Good. How are you? I'm good.

So listen, Ian, you, I think, had a big fantasy about sharing your wife for a while. I think that's something that a lot of guys don't really share with anyone because I never knew that guys were into that shit for, until I started doing my show. But I think you eventually got her to do it. And now you guys are doing all kinds of things. Correct? Is that the correct? Yeah, we are. Yeah. So just to give you like a little background, we got married and right out of high school. I was with her my junior and senior year. So went to the military. It was in the military for, geez, almost a decade. I think when I was deployed, maybe some of that stuff kind of led into it. We were gone for a while. There was like a jealousy component. You mean you didn't trust her when you were away? Where was the jealousy coming from? When you're at, yeah, when I was away, we had some issues where I found out she was talking to some guys.

She kind of caught me talking to some girls through messages. So anyways, we got through that. No one really cheated. We're just kind of talking to other friends. But this is why you're away. This is why I'm away. But, you know, we make up. No big deal.

I come back. All's forgiven. And then got out of the military, ran my own construction company for about six or seven years with my brother. Did a good job. We flipped some realty. Made some money. But I was going to Missouri a lot for that work. doing contracting out in Missouri.

And again, while I was away, I don't know. I started seeing other things watching porn, I guess. And I saw wife sharing and it really, it was different to me. It's something I kind of liked. So over time, kind of got to watch them that while I was away. And I just kind of grabbed a hold of me, I guess. I don't know really what led to it. But yeah, it kind of became a fantasy.

I started looking around online. just kind of listen to a podcast because man, I would drive out there a lot and we just get bored listening to music and everything. So I started listening to podcasts and it started with some stuff that was geared around sexual podcasts. And then your show actually ended up popping up and I heard someone, you know, talk about wife sharing. And man, it just really, it fascinated me. So I lived with it for cheese, five or six years, man. In fact, we sold our house. We lived up in Washington and sold some property out there.

Did really well with it. So we decided to move back home. I won't say where, but we live in Georgia. So whenever we moved back home, honestly, Kathy, I had done well enough in life where I was finally able to just kind of relax and enjoy time with my kids and my wife. And me and my wife, we started dating again or going out on dates regularly again. And one night we had some drinks together. I took her out in a real nice dinner and we came back. And I told her, I said, hey, I've been listening to the show.

I kind of have these fantasies, maybe about us frying out new people. And at first she was a little taken back. She was like, what do you mean by new people? And I said, well, I said, I would like to try a threesome. I said, honestly, I said, I would be more into bringing another guy into the bedroom. And she said, I could see doing that. She goes, not anytime soon, but it sounds like something that would be fun. So, believe it or not, I think it was like two mornings later.

I get a text on my phone. We're sitting in the living room and we're watching some show with kids or something. And I get this long text on my phone. And it's my wife. And she said, yeah, I was thinking about what she said. And in the car the other night when we got home. And she goes, I think I wanted to try it. She goes, I just don't even know how.

And, dude, if you knew, like, how she was when she grew up, She grew up in a very devout Christian household. Yeah. Like her parents are like in church three times a week. So thinking about this girl doing that, man, it just blew my mind. Was she very, how was she though like with when it came to sex with you just regularly? Was she kind of freaky though? I mean, listen, regardless of how you grew up.

Yeah, we've always had an insanely great sex life. When it came to the bedroom, she wasn't that conservative. It wasn't like... No, not at all. Not at all. In fact, she kind of pushed me a little bit more in the bedroom as far as playing with toys and stuff. So that would help because I think it's a little scary to bring something like that up to your wife. I think it always helps.

A lot of times people that are doing this that are successful are the ones that are high school sweethearts. I mean, you've known each other your whole fucking life. I don't know. I think you just hit a point where, you know, no one's going anywhere. You know what I mean? You finally hit a point where you have enough between each other. house. No one's going anywhere. Yeah, I don't know that a lot of people have that, but I think that's the key to that success. So anyway, so you wind up putting it out there. She doesn't flip out really,

and then she sends that tech. So what happens next? So within like a few days, we get on AFF, I make an account. And the craziest thing, because you got through so many people on some of those sites that are just fake. I can imagine. Yeah. We'll do like the first one. We'll do like the first the one she meets. He was a military guy, and they'd get along perfectly. It was like literally the first guy that she talks to pretty much on this site. And it was his first time trying anything like this, which looking back was probably a bad idea. We kind of learned it's better to go with people that have experience as far as like the wife sharing, the MFM through some kind of thing. And so anyways, like they really kick it off. And like in a matter of few weeks, we're getting ready to

meet this guy, which is like insane to me. It's really blowing my mind. Yeah, it's blowing my mind because I'm wondering, right? I want to like jump in and cut you off like I do and ask you some questions because I'm like wondering. First I want to know like what she was looking for. Was there anything kind of specific? We just wanted someone that was going to be respectful. No, but what is her physical type? She just likes a good looking guy that talks nice, you know, that doesn't start the conversation with the dick pick and, you know, something vulgar. She likes somebody that talks to her respectful. and can hold it a normal conversation. I'm not going to lie.

She looks for somebody a little more well-endowed. Okay. At the end, I think that's what I was going for. Is she looking at their dick-picks? Yeah, definitely. She is looking at the dig-pick at one point in time. If we're going to do this, we don't get to do it too often,

so we want to make sure it's kind of fun. We've had both spectrums, and the smaller side wasn't something that she really didn't enjoy as much as the bigger sides. My other question, though, was, before you get into what happened with this guy, was, did you guys, though, before you're going to actually start meeting someone, go over any kind of rules or regulations?

Oh, yeah, man. We did go over rules. And it was funny when we first started, it's so different from where you first start just in a year where we are now. We had so many rules. Yeah. And they just really muck things up. It was stupid. And I can't even remember all the rules we have.

But it was like, don't use the word love. No kissing on the mouth. No coming in her mouth. No ain. And then, well, those rules are still kind of, some of them are still there. But it was like, oh, you can't call him baby. I want you to text me before him in the morning. And all that shit just went right out the window.

So anyways, though, to get back to the story about when we went with this first guy, right? So we talked to him for a couple weeks. And like, I'm getting like really crazy feelings. We've been together a really long time. And at first, you have this fantasy and everything seems great and you're really excited. and that we're having the best sex we ever had in her life. Just thinking about it, right? Oh my gosh, just talking about it, thinking about it.

Yeah, that's only going to happen. Yeah. Oh, my God. You just melt. I mean, it's the most unbelievable sex you can imagine. It's almost like when you talk about reclaiming sex, it's like that going into it. And then the closer you get, though, reality starts catching up with the fantasy and you're like, oh, man, do I really want to do this? Like, I'm getting really nervous. It was really scary at first. So anyway, so we come up. to the day of, we get this bag of stuff ready to take with us and meet him at the hotel. And we got there like an hour or two before he did.

And we're both like a nervous wreck, man. So we go up to the room, get ready. And he texts and he's right on time. So I go down to the parking lot and I go to meet the guy. And he's a young dude about my age, attractive guy like she wanted. And we're talking to each other. I'm kind of laying out some of the rules with them. Just ask you a quick question.

I'm just going to cut you off. What is your involvement going to be? Do you just want to watch? Did you know going in what you were going to, are you going to participate or are you going to just watch? No, I was definitely going to participate. Okay. Yep, we, we always participate.

Okay. Yeah, so I meet him. We're talking. Everything seems kind of cool. He seems really into it and he's ready to go. So we all go up to the room. He comes in. I introduce him to her.

They hugged. So nothing's awkward. I lay on the bed with her. I dress her. We start having sex in front of them. And I kind of wave him over. He starts getting involved. He's clicking on the chits, rubbing on her.

And she's starting to get into it. And everything's going good. And all of a sudden, this guy, like, hops up, runs to his phone and looks at it. And he's, oh, my gosh, my kid's hurt. And he's like, I got to go. And he puts on his clothes and hauls out. off the door. And my wife were like, yes, in the middle before like anything really seriously got

started. We were like just kind of like soft playing. And this guy just gets up and calls ass like freaks out. And I'm like, oh my God, this is our first experience. She's never going to want to do this again. That's all I could think. So like he contacts her later on that night and he apologizes. He's like, I'm going through a divorce and I thought we were going to sit and talk a little longer and it was just really odd. So that was like our first experience. It was like a train wreck. And so we go grab a bite to eat afterwards. And it seems like she's just like totally not interested at all in doing this again.

And she was like, you know, I just don't get what happened. I'm kind of thinking that to myself. And I told her, I heard a lot of other people say their first time didn't go so hot either. And I said, well, maybe we'll just put it on the back burner. Maybe if we want to try it again, we can if we don't. So it was two or three months until anything really happened again. We just kind of dirty talked a little bit in the bedroom. But things kind of grew from there. And she met another guy from the military.

He was in the Marines. And that experience went way better. I won't go through every step. But we went. No, go through every step. Okay. We have 40 minutes to fill up. What do you mean you're not going to go through every step?

I mean, this is the shit that people want to hear. Go through the steps. Oh, my God. Okay. So same thing. She talks to him, not quite as intense on the talking anymore. But the guy was a sweet talker. talked to her great so we decided to meet up same kind of situation different town though so we ran a

hotel room we go out to eat first and we kind of talked about it while we're at dinner like man you know I'm not nearly as nervous and she talked to that guy longer you know not as intensely as the first guy but talked to her over a longer period of time so we were all kind of chilled out and I talked to them some too so we were all much more calm going into this time and yeah Yeah, so guy comes in. She found him real attractive. He sat down. We actually chilled out.

I poured him a drink. I had a drink. My wife doesn't drink. But she just sat on the bed and we all kind of chatted for 45 minutes, actually. I got to know each other a little bit. And when things got calm, we discussed the rules. And you could tell this guy was experienced. And it was much nicer being with somebody that's gone through it before.

It was ebb and flow. You know what I mean? Nothing seemed unnatural. and I participated some, sat back and watched some. We tape all of our events. I have two cell phones that aren't in, like, they don't have service on them anymore. I just keep them in the drawer. So we always throw him in a corner somewhere out of the way, not too noticeable.

But this guy, he was great. She laid on the bed on her back, and she just kind of blew him a little bit, what I ate her out. And when she came the first time, we just kind of switched positions. And in fact, he ate her out for a little too long. She was like, all right, you got to get off there. and yeah then they just started to fuck and what was that like i mean that's the first time you're seeing your wife with another guy right because nothing really happened with the other guy that's right yeah

it was the first time and it was a lot of like adrenaline rush it was kind of like sensory overload you're taking it in i was more worried about pleasing her showing her a good time i was just like rubbing on her nipples and and playing with her a little bit while he was fucking her uh kissing her a little bit And then I kind of just stepped back to watch a little bit. It was great. When we finished that time, we just kept giggling. We got in the car, on the car ride home, and she was just smiling. It's different.

And we've never been with anyone except for each other. So that was just a big thing for me and her to go through. And the sex afterwards, though, man, you ride this high for three or four days afterwards where you just have the most phenomenal sex you've ever had. People talk about the reclaiming sex. Like, I'm not big on, like, we have sex that night when we get home. But the really good stuff is like the next week, you're dirty talking. We ride that high afterwards.

And it's incredible. It's great sex. Just thinking about it. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Just thinking about it. Now, that second guy, because it went so well, did you guys see him more often? Or was that a one and done?

Yeah. So actually, we talked to him today. We haven't been with him again. But it's not because we don't want to, I guess. It's just he lives a little further away. And his schedule is really weird. He's in the military, like I said. He usually can only eat, you know, in the afternoons.

On weekdays, because he has kids that he shares with him and his wife. So, you know, we haven't gotten to get back with him again yet, but she does talk to him from time to time. And we do catch up with each other. What's your involvement with the guy? I mean, are you into guys at all? Do you are you know okay not into guys at all really I do prefer to be with someone with a bigger dick because she's louder she's more into it um isn't that so interesting that's interesting

to me because I think that's very opposite of what you would think but most guys a lot of guys that are into what you're into even if they're not into guys there is this thing about they want the guy to have a bigger dick than them and you would think it's like the exact opposite yeah and you do see some of these guys They don't want anything to do with a guy that's bigger than them. No, no, I don't think so. Most of my guys that are in your position, okay? I'm not talking about a regular guy that's not into his girl fucking someone else.

I think those guys don't want, that's the guy I'm thinking of. But I think guys that are into this, most of the time, they want the guy to have a bigger dick than them. Yeah, yeah. No, it's just funner. It's a better experience. Honestly, turning you. I'm more into like the sounds of things.

I really love hearing her moan and yell and everything. So it's just the bigger dick makes her do that better. So that's what I want to hear. Yeah, that's a good point. Maybe that's what it's about. You know what I mean? Yeah, it is. And she prefers it more that way.

Like I said, we've been on both ends of it. And she prefers bigger guys. I'm not a small guy. But yeah, when she has fun, she prefers to find someone bigger than me. But it's interesting that ego goes out the window and it doesn't even matter, right? Most definitely. I could care. I mean, dude, we're doing like MFN three-sums.

man, I don't care at that point. And it is weird because I'm not into guys. I'm not, I swear. But I do enjoy watching her with other guys. I don't know what that's about, but. That's about her. Yeah, that's a good point. It really is.

I really get off. I'm seeing her get off and have a good time. And I think maybe it's just because I can just kind of sit back and enjoy watching her. Yeah. There's something about that. You can just kind of sit back and enjoy the show. Yeah, for sure. So, yeah, past that.

So we're almost at a year. We've probably been, I think, with seven or eight different people. And man, every spectrum you can imagine. I mean, what do you want to hear about? Just keep going chronological. You got a half hour to fill. Keep going down the story. So she's got a thing for the military guys.

They seem to do really well, too. I don't know what it is about them. Are you in an area where there's like a lot of military people? Because I know if I was looking where I live, I don't think I could find one. She's finding all military guys. We're in between two major bases. Oh, okay, okay, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, there's a lot of military guys around, and they don't freaking flake out a lot of them.

They show up, man. That's really a problem we see on these sites is finding people that are going to follow through and actually meet. Because a lot of these guys, I don't get it. They'll sit and talk for a week, two weeks, three weeks, and send pictures and tell you all about their lives. And, yeah, I want to meet. I'll get the hotel room. You just say when and where, and we'll go to set it up in the day of. if they just, they ghost.

And it gets really frustrating. It kind of makes it to where it's not so fun. Yeah, I can imagine. Yeah. So, but anyway, so we've seemed to stick. We got a thing with the military guy. She likes them. I like them because they show up.

So we go to meet this other guy. And me and my wife are eating dinner. In fact, we had been talking to somebody else that flaked on us. So I told her, so let's just go get something nice to eat. And we'll have a good evening. I'll take you out to me or something. and we'll go home. And while we're eating dinner, she gets a snap and it's one of these military guys and is, hey, I'm actually in town. We had been talking to him before. And same thing. Let's meet up.

So I asked her, are you still interested? Do you want to meet up? And she said, yeah, let's meet up with them. I like that guy. So we drive, go home, get our stuff, drive to the town over. We pick him up at like some freaking steakhouse. And we go get a hotel room. Same thing. We sit down. We have some drinks. We talked for a little while. She goes in the bathroom, gets ready, and comes out, and I talk to him, asked if he was cool with our rules that we discussed. And if I could throw up my phones to tape, and he was cool with it. And that experience went really well. Generally, the same thing.

We kind of start off the same way, and then it just kind of goes where it goes. What are those rules? When you're in that hotel room and you say to that guy, these are the rules, what's that conversation like? Yeah, so her rules are no anal, no coming in her mouth, no kissing. But the no coming in her mouth, no kissing can change if they want to be more than a one-night stand. But is that what you say? Or is that just in, that's just how it plays out? Yeah, well, usually that's what she says like in text. It's usually it's what she says in text.

I don't say that there, you know, right before we all fuck. But you do say that you're getting, you have a. conversation about the rules. So what fucking rules do you test talk about? What do you mean? Well, then no anal, no coming in the mouth and kissing on the lips. And then that's it. Oh, and then I don't, I see no touching between me and the guy. You know, accidental bump ends, rubs and stuff like that. Okay, I get it. We're all playing together. But I don't want to look up and he's got my dick and his hand. So nothing against the guys that want to do that. It's just not my thing. No, and I think that's important to put that out there. That has to be a part of the conversation. Yeah, because I have

have put it out there and I have had a guy. He didn't put his dick in, or my dick in his hand, but he was going, he's getting really close with his mouth to my dick and it made me kind uncomfortable, killed the mood. But that's another story. But anyways, I tell the guy the rules and he agrees. He says, yeah, we talked about it. That's cool. I respect those. So usually once we get done with that, things start up, she'll lay on the bed. We always start with her sucking his dick. That's just how she likes to start. And honestly, I like it that way. I got to where I would sit back and watch a little more and just kind of enjoy watching her. She really likes me to jerk off in front of her. So I got to do a little more of that, I guess, in that trip with that second soldier I was telling

you about, she had a really good time. It all lasted, I don't know, an hour and a half, two hours total. And that's usually generally about the time it lasts. And then we went and dropped them off with another set of friends downtown. Me and my wife, I think we went out and got a drink or two. Hey, I'm excited to introduce you to a brand new sponsor, Diet Smoke. I don't care about that. You're just, okay, I got to help you with this story. Let me just help you with a little detail that you put in your email that I'm like, what the fuck is that a crygasm?

You're like, have you ever heard of a crygasm? I was surprised I've never heard of that on your show. I've heard so many episodes on your show and never heard anybody talk about it. yeah so when me and before we even started this lifestyle me and my wife we've always you know or we've played with toys i don't know for seven eight years and i can make her have the most unbelievable orgasm sometimes and i mean we've always had a really extreme sex life and when we fuck for like an hour hour and a half sometimes it gets towards too much and she will come uncontrollably and she'll break down and cry. And it's only happened four or five times, like just me and her playing together.

And the first time it happened, it freaked me out. Like, I thought I heard her or something. And she was like, she cried for a minute or two. And then she came out of it. And she was like, no, she was like, you didn't do anything wrong. She was like, that was like the most amazing orgasm I've ever had in my life. She was like, it was like electricity all through my body. And I kept moving. And she said, I just couldn't control anything. And she goes, I don't know why crying she goes it just happens and over the years it would happen like once a year i mean this started four or five years ago maybe not even that often and so yeah we played with this guy recently like two months ago three months ago he was ex-military just got out was working for the city he

came over to our house one of the first times we got to have someone come to our home because the kids are out for summer break we sent him off to her sisters and we had the house to ourselves So we have this guy right out and come meet us, and he's pretty well endowed out. And he was really cool. He came over, he brought a bottle of tequila with him. We all sat and drank a little bit. And I mean, we talked for like almost two hours before things got started. And same thing.

She had him lay down on the bed. I started sucking his dick. And this dude had a huge dick. And she sucked his dick for a while. And then they played with each other for a little bit. She flipped around on her back. She kind of played with his cock a little bit while. rubbed her a little bit and from there he fingered her for a little while dude had huge hands he was

real tall he's like six three six four which was i always thought would be weird for me to have a guy come that was like way bigger than me that is a little intimidating to me but this dude was like really nice he was really cool really relaxed he had a lot of experience in the lifestyle with him and his wife they swang swing whatever you want to call it so the dude was like a natural i guess he was real smooth knew what he was doing and yet Yeah, so he starts fucking her. I told her I was just going to sit back and watch this whole thing. Like, I wasn't going to join it past the beginning.

Once they started fucking, I was just going to sit back and enjoy watching her. She wanted me to jerk off right in front of her while she was having sex with him. So that's what I did. And I mean, Kathy, like the noises she was making, the sounds or face was just, it was really fun to watch. It was really incredible. Had a great time anyway. So, like, he's fucking her. He turns her over, it starts fucking her from behind.

And I can tell within three or four minutes, you know, I see that look in her face like she's coming really hard and she's like stuttering. She's yelling really loud and I'm like, oh yeah, here it goes. And yeah, here comes to tears, man. She starts like breaking down. That freak the guy out. And you know, we, and that's something we talk about now with guys in the beginning that we had never talked about before. We didn't expect her him to break her like that.

And that's what we call it. I don't know what else to call it. But, dude, she just freaked out, had this monstrous orgasm. And he's like, oh, man, he thought that she was having, like, emotional issues. Obviously. Yeah, you know, like, he thought, like, maybe this was, like, our first time or something. You know, he's like, you know, don't need to leave so sorry. You know, if you all need to talk.

And I'm like, no, no, man. I think there's nothing scarier to a guy that are girl crying. They don't know what to do with it. Yeah, yeah, because guys don't really cry. Yeah, it takes you back. Like, we were married for years when it happened to me, and it was still, like, crazy to me. It scared me. Yeah, scary.

Yeah. I can only imagine how this guy felt. Yeah. So, no, but he was a champ. He's stuck in on. Like, no, dude, quite the opposite. You're fine. Give her a second.

Like, after a minute, she came around. She starts laughing. She's like, you're fine. She's like, I didn't expect that. So we all ended it then. But, and then the guy hung out for, like, it was kind of weird. He hung out for, like, two hours afterwards. And we all sat and drank that tequila he brought in.

And we had a really good time. Because we were back. from out west. We lived in Washington for a really long time. And he was from Oregon and not far from where we lived in Washington. So we just had a lot to talk about. And it was a really good time. We had a great time. Do you have any regular bulls? Or do, are these typically like one-offs? Yeah, that's something we've been looking for. They're typically one-offs. Honestly, they're like one-night stands. And that's why she doesn't, that's why we don't do the kissing on the lips and the coming in the mouth kind of thing is it's not that we don't want to it's just we haven't found anybody that's a regular

that's close by there's that one guy i told you about but he lives like two and a half hours away and we don't really want to drive that far all the time we have a really busy life three kids like a job that requires a lot of hours and so does she so it's just our lives are really busy we if we're going to have a regular it's got to be kind of close by where we can make that happen so we do have another guy we wanted to try out you know a black guy not like it's like a huge fantasy but it was something that she wanted to you know cross off the list and see if she liked

and that guy showed up it was so funny because this guy that's kind of one we learned we can't have first timers anymore this guy was a first timer and he said he was he had a really big dick though he was boiling down and a really nice polite guy was only like an hour away from us and again he got to come to our house we got to host him as well and we brought him in had a drink i think

he may drink a little bit too much too he was nervous he could tell we went over the rules we started getting into it i ate her out he turned her around he ate her out a little bit while she was sucking my dick and then he started to fuck her and within three or four minutes went soft couldn't get hard again uh and she told him she said well come around and i'll suck you dick for a little while. And I actually left the room for a minute just to go make us all drinks again, kind of give him a little privacy and see if he could get back into it and he just couldn't get back into it. And he had to leave. And that guy's actually got a hold of us like two or three times afterwards, wanting to try again. But we haven't given the chance again that we've come to the rule,

like, if they haven't done this two or three times, we probably shouldn't do it with them because every person we try with it hasn't had the experience. It's always the same thing. Like, I think they get nervous, you know, they have a fantasy. Like we talked about before, like fantasy and reality doesn't always match up. Like, it seems hot watching it, you know, but then when you try to be a part of it, it might be a little harder than you think, you know, if you haven't done it before. Stage fright. Yeah, for sure. But he was a really nice guy. And she's thinking about giving her another chance, but not right now. Now, I know that, I mean, does she do like any kind of DPs or DVPs? Does she get hardcore with it? Well, she's into DVP. I haven't, we haven't tried it.

with another guy yet. We like to play with toys. That's right. Yep. Yep. And actually, it's her guy and he was a military guy as well, I told you about. He was really good with the toys. He was really experienced. She really loved that. So yeah, she does like a guy that will play with toys and her at the same time. We had a guy that was talking about doing the DDP that she wanted me to try with, but he flaked out. So again, it's really hard finding exactly what you want sometimes and then lining it all up. It's in the little time of or the little window of time you have to set everything up in the motion. It's really hard to get what you want sometimes. Let me ask you this. Do you guys have anything like in your future?

Because now, you know, you went from being, I mean, a vanilla couple, right? A monogamous couple just with each other to now letting guys come into the picture. Has there been talk of anything else? Yeah, there has actually. You know, when we set this up, I told her, and I really did mean it. I told her, I said, look, I'm not doing this as a ploy to, like, sleep with other women. This is what I'm into. You don't fucking believe me. Look at my internet history on my phone.

That's all you need to do. And I told her, I said, this is something I want to see. I'm more into me and another guy with you than another girl. But over time, this last year, I have seen where I would like maybe an opportunity to play with another girl. And we talked about it, and she's a little more hesitant on that. But here in the last three weeks, she's kind of opened up to the idea some. She talked about where she had a dream where she was playing with another girl, and it was really hot to her.

So maybe she'd be down to try. And I have seen her talk to another couple of couples online. It's kind of asking around, but I'm not trying to push her too much. I'm just trying to give her a time, and I don't want to make it seem that has to happen. Because it doesn't for you? Not yet. No, not yet. We haven't played with another couple or with just another woman.

And I think she's going to be more into just having just a single female come play with us as male female kind of thing. Then another, then a couple. Then another couple. Yeah. Yeah, about two nights ago, I saw her talking this another couple. I don't know what she's thinking. I'm just trying not to push her too much. And it's really not that big of a deal to me.

We kind of have like a small argument about it, but it's really nothing. What was the arguments? I don't get it. Well, okay. So when we all first started this, I did, I reached out to a couple couples. And I think maybe it was just, I wanted to see if they would talk back to me. I saw her talking to a lot of guys when I just got a little jealous, I guess is the best way to describe it. I just wanted to see if some of the girls on some of those sites would talk to me.

So I wrote to a few girls, couples, to see if they write back. And honestly, the next day, Kathy, I deleted all the messages because I felt bad about it. I was like, man, I'm doing this behind my wife's back. I feel like this could lead down a road to where I could get caught and shit could go south. And then all of this wouldn't happen anymore. So I just deleted it all. And I was like, if it happens and it doesn't, how about we just stay on this course for a little while? and see where it leads, maybe it'll lead to couples play.

And then one of the couples end up writing back four or five months later to the message. One of the messages I responded to, right? Yeah. And the fucking thing comes up and shows everything you talked about before. Oh, really? Yeah. Yeah, I'm on Reddit. So, yeah, you can't delete their messages.

Oh, you guys go on Reddit to find people? Yeah. All right, we'll talk about that in a second. Yeah, you have to talk about that. Yeah. God. So yeah, it's just the whole fucking message. And she sees while I'm talking to this other couple and she calls me. And I mean, like, things are going like really good in the relationship at this point. We're playing with guys often. Everybody's happy. Yeah. She's like, you know, what the fuck is this? I'm so mad at you. And I'm like, look, just let me tell you. She wouldn't talk to me for like three hours. I had to get her on the phone finally. And look, just talk to me for a second. I'm like, this was nothing more than just like a jealousy thing. I said I had a smidgen of jealousy for a little bit. I saw where you're talking all the. guys I said I think just I wanted to see if I still had it if some of them would talk to me and I said honestly you can look at the date where I wrote the message and I said you can see how

much I wrote it wasn't much and I said and I deleted it from there I said I told her the same thing I told you I said I didn't want to fuck anything up I felt raunchy about it and I said I just kind of let it turn into what it's going to turn into right so anyways she was a little pissed off but she got over it she's reasonable something to give my wife and we weren't cheating nothing was done so I think that conversation opened up the idea on her brain, though. Because here we are. Like I said, two nights ago, she was looking at other couples and offered.

She said, would you like to play with this couple? And I was like, I didn't really like the couple that much, the look of them, the feel of them. So I told her, I said, no, it would be more if we did that. It needs to be the right person because I've never been with anybody but my wife. I haven't. I've been close a couple times, misbehaving. but I've never actually had sex with anyone other than my wife. So if we did do that, I couldn't just let it be in, buddy.

But anyways, so yeah, as far as Reddit, though, we should talk about Reddit because I don't hear anybody hardly talking about it on your show, and that is where it's at. You're kidding. Really? That's like where the real people are? Well, yeah, like when you talk about Craigslist all the time, everybody's like, man, Craigslist was just where it was at. That was the best. Reddit is Craigslist 2.0. I'm telling you, it's, oh, man, totally. How do you get out there?

Tell me how it works. So, yeah, so just sign up like anywhere else, a regular account with an email, make your name. But whenever you get signed in and everything, you're on your main page, right? There's a little search bar up top. You can type in any category. What me and my wife do, I told you, we live in Georgia. So we'll put in Georgia swingers, right? Once you type that in one time, an algorithm picks up to see, there's something.

called NSFW. It's not suitable for workplace. If it has an NSFW tag on it, that means it's probably some kind of like adult channel or site, page, whatever. So you could type in swingers. And when you push enter, there's like different categories up top. Go to community. You click on community. There's like people, pages, community. I click on community. When you click on community, it'll show like everything related to that word that's a page. Right. So I mean, if you put, you know, MFM threesome, don't be like a thousand pages for MFN threesome.

It could be for each state. It could be for the cities, the local areas. Right. So it is like you can really focus in on where you're at. That's right. Exactly. If you're into panty hose, type in hosers or panty hose or whatever. If you're into cuckolding, type in cuckolding.

And with your state, without it, just type the word in and hit community. And it will take you to an unlimited amount of those communities. And you can find them in your areas too. And that's what we really dialed in on Reddit. And I mean, Kathy, I'll put out like a post and say 10 different pages. And I'll do it on usually Sunday evening or Monday morning. And by Friday, we have 250 messages to go through. Wow.

And what is your post? Do you have picks like anonymous picks of your website? wife, what are you putting in that post? So usually it would be like an R-rated picks. Sexy pick. Yeah, some really sexy picks, face pics, a couple body shots that are kind of naughty but not too revealing. And then we'll just put looking for single male well endowed this area. MFN, some contact if interested.

Right. And I'll put, please send pictures. I say, if you don't put pictures, I'm not going to respond to you. And the one word guys, too, I can't stand that where someone just writes, hello. I mean, you got 250, so it's easy to throw some people out. I mean, you know, look. Yeah. And a lot of people, they share a lot of their content on there for, and they'll attach

like an only fan's name or whatever platform they're on. So it's a really good way for girls or guys to get their content out there as well. Oh, that's interesting. But as far as a dating site, it's the best, man, and it's free. I've been on Adult Friend Finder. Yeah. And it's good. Yeah.

But you'll be there for, you'll go through everybody that you want to go through in a month. And then after that, it's all the same people and nobody's changing it up. Oh, interesting. Yeah, so it's like all the same people in your areas. And we're kind of from a small area in general. So we burn through those people pretty quick as far as what she's interested in. She's kind of picky. So we just found that with Field the same way, SLS.

It's just Reddit's where it's at. It doesn't matter what you're into. They have those categories, those communities. And it just makes it so much easier to dial into what. you're looking for. Yeah, that's interesting. I love that little tidbit that you gave as far as so help people navigating. Because a lot of times I'll tell you, I think I get like all the details in a show and a lot of people will be like, why didn't you ask what app they used or what they do? Because I think people are really curious of how to make this shit happen or maybe just even like those people that are

like talking to you and they never show up, just like fantasizing about it or whatever. They just want to be in that world. How does that, where does it go down? I wish there was this, that's the only thing I wish there was on Reddit. It's like a rating system. Because, man, you just get so tired of going through with people that don't meet up. You'll go through probably, I don't know, 30 fakes until you get it with someone that's written. They're real people. I just, I don't get it. I don't know what their deal is. I guess they just need attention. Maybe they have a shooting. No, they're just getting off on the fantasy of it. But when it comes down to the reality, they just can't cross the line. I think that's probably more common than it's not. And what's funny, Kathy, I'm part of a couple different pages. And

there's a lot of people that go on there and ask for advice. And I try to give them whatever advice I can because that was really the hardest part was like navigating, learning how to find the people that you're interested in. Because it's really difficult. It really takes a lot of the enjoyment out of it sometimes too. You mean trying to find the guys, you mean? Yeah. Some people, they say everything you want to hear and then they don't meet. It's disappointing sometimes.

Now who's looking at those emails more? you or your wife, are you just doing it together? We do it together. It's a lot. So if you don't do it together, you're going to go through probably the longer periods of time where you don't meet anybody. We've been kind of on a dry spell the last month, but we took a break for about three or four weeks.

We had the last weekend that we played. I think we had two or three guys in one weekend. So it turned into where we're like, man, we thought like it would be really hot and fun to do. But then by the time we were done with it, we were like, man, that was exhausted. Let's just take a break for a month and chill out. And I'm kind of getting to the point now, I don't get like these angsty feelings. I've calmed down a lot.

So I don't have to play all the time. We're kind of like really zoning in on exactly the kind of guy that she wants. And so we go a little further in between sessions now. But you are maybe looking to do in the future couples. I know you said she's like maybe interested in doing gang bangs. Yes. Yeah. So she was talking.

talking about it. We talked to a couple different guys that she liked. There's supposed to be this guy that's doing some kind of business conference meeting. And he was talking about driving to us when he was done, him and a couple buddies. And he says, that's kind of their thing. They do like gangbanks, him and his two friends. And they've done it with, I don't know, they say 15, 20 girls. I can't remember the message. I read it like last week. But she was interested. She liked the way one of them looks. She was, we're waiting on pictures back from the other two guys. So yeah, we both thought it would be pretty hot. at least try it out once and see if she likes it. I think she will. She thinks she will. So we're down to try that if we find the right person. Maybe this guy will be the right guy. We talked to another guy that was supposedly going to do it, but then he backed out. So we've only been in this for a year, though. So we're still kind of newbies. Okay. So last question, does your wife know that you're calling into the show? Or is this a DL? She does know. She does know? I'm calling the show. Yeah. No, she does know. She does know. In fact, she wanted to be here to listen to it, but she didn't want to be on. Yeah, why doesn't she call into my fucking show? Get her to call

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