Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 712 - Mr. and Ms. M are Bisexual Swingers into Threesomes, Hotwifing and More

Episode Date: November 1, 2023

Mr. and Mrs. M are bisexual swingers into hotwiifng, threesomes and more and they called in tot talk all about it. When did they both cop to being bisexual? When did they have their first threesome?And, what is it about hotwifing that they love so much? Tune in for all the details including how and why they first posted naughty pics on Reddit, how Mr. M eventually copped to wanting to see Mrs. M with another guy, how Mrs M was always bisexual and had threesomes and when Mr. M realized he was bisexual, how they went about finding the first guy they hooked up with and what exactly went down the first and second time they hooked up with him, how Mrs. M felt seeing Mr. M with another guy and how he felt seeing her with another guy as well, what Mr. M looks for in a guy and how and why he’s super picky, how and when he realized he enjoyed the hotwife experience the most, how he enjoys videotaping their experiences and posting them online for others to see, their vetting process they use to find legit hookups and why they use it, their tips on how to vet yourself, how they eventually started going to local swingers club and what they like about swingers clubs and what they don’t like as well as what they like to do when they’re there, the New Orleans hotel takeover they attended and what went down there, Mrs. M’s girlfriend that they both hooked up with and what went down, their unicorn they hook up with and what Mrs. M and her enjoy doing together plus a whole lot more. YOU CAN FIND THEM HERE: Reddit https://reddit.com/u/Threatlevelmiddnite/s/3nlIoy1F1j Onlyfans https://onlyfans.com/threatlevelmiddnite/c1  **To see anonymous pics of Mr. & Mrs. M plus see anonymous pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Now, I'm going to get right to the episode. Today I have on Mr. and Mrs. M. Mr. and Mrs. M. Some may know them from Reddit. They're kind of big over on Reddit. And they started on Reddit. There are a couple who are very into the lifestyle now, and they definitely play with others, but they didn't always.

They started out for a very long time, just going on to Reddit and like posting picks and doing naughty things like that. They were very into taking pictures, Mr. M. It's one of his favorite things is to take pictures of Mrs. M, and they would post it on Reddit, and they loved all the attention they got there. And they got kind of big on Reddit. They're going to give out their name on Reddit. The link to their Reddit profile will be in the description.

But after many years of doing that kind of thing on Reddit and living out, their fantasy in that way, sort of teetering between fantasy and reality, they eventually took the plunge and crossed the line and went out and had their first threesome. Now, they're both bisexual. She was always into girls. He eventually came to realize that he was into guys and open to it. And their first threesome was with another guy who was also by. And they talk about that first experience as well as their second experience with that guy. And then after that, they started trying all different things out in the lifestyle. They went to swingers parties.

They went to hotel takeovers. They talk about what goes down at those kinds of places, what they liked about those kinds of places, what they didn't like about those kinds of places. They talk a lot about vetting people and meeting people. They've sort of been there done that now because they've been at this for a couple of years so they know how to make sure they're not going to be scammed when meeting couples and stuff. They've had good dates, bad dates. They have a unicorn that they talk about, a female unicorn who they meet up with,

who's one of their regulars. They have threesomes with her. What they really enjoy, Mr. M, what he really enjoys and she loves to, is the hot wife experience. He really loves seeing his girl with another guy. Most of the time he does participate. He talks about that. They eventually, recently started an only fans because they've always been down and interested in taping all their experiences and taking photographs.

of all their experiences, the very visual, they like that kind of stuff. So they decided, why not put it someplace? They didn't start out that way. They talked about how at first they were like pride, they prided themselves on not having an only fans. But recently they started one. And a lot of the hot stories that you hear on here

are over on their only fans. So you could hear the stories here and then go actually see it in real life. This isn't a couple that started in her only fans to make some money. This is a couple that was living in the lifestyle and playing with others and being super open and trying out all different types of things

way before they started an only fan. They just decided to start it because they had all this content. They're still down to videotape everything and take pictures because that's the way they've always rolled. And now you could go see that stuff over on their only fans, on their Reddit. I will put links to their stuff over there. They sent me picks of themselves. They're super hot.

They're a young couple. They're only in their 30s. They sent me hot picks. I have those are rated picks over on my Patreon. You could also talk to them. They'll be over on my Discord on my Patreon. It's patreon.com slash strictly anonymous podcast. So I'm going to be right back on with Mr. and Mrs. M.

Hi, Mr. and Mrs. M. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you guys today? We're doing good. Thanks, Kathy. Thanks, Kathy. So happy to be here. Yeah, I'm excited that you guys are here.

You guys are swingers. I'm going to tell the short story and then you guys are going to give me the long story but what you told me or what I know is that you guys dabbled online a lot before you made the plunge and became swingers. I guess you were like maybe just, I don't know, doing online hookups

or showing yourself online for a long time before you made the plunge but eventually you did now you guys are in the lifestyle and you have a very big following on Reddit and other places and now you have an only fan and we'll get to all that for sure and I'll put links to all of your stuff. But is that like the short story?

Yeah, a quick take on it, for sure. When we first were honest with each other about wanting to be a little more adventurous. We just started posting picks on Reddit. And we ended up doing that for six years. So what kind of picks were you posting? Yeah, a little bit of everything. A lot of things of me. and us together.

And then I think... Well, photographing Mrs. M. is definitely a passion point of mine. But, you know, we had really young kids at the time. So we talked about getting out there and we certainly fantasized and dirty talked about. People would write us stories or do tributes, which I think really pushed our envelope

in that direction more and more at our... Yeah, it's like our... We were scratching an inch, but we were just not at a place in time where we really felt like, okay, we can get a sitter for long periods. I'm sure anybody with young kids can understand. Especially when you've got two of them running around in close age, you can just be not that sexy. So we were just trying to get it in where we could. Yeah, listen, I could see how that could go the distance for a while.

Like fantasizing like that, I think it's a great first step. Maybe some people never get out of that. You guys eventually did. But I think that's kind of like a fun way to try different things out. And people, the commentary, we used to read the comments in bed together. Yeah. Mrs. M used to get, not used to. Still read the comments in bed.

Yeah. She gets a lot of fanfare. And that's always very enjoyable, very sexy for us. So it kind of, I guess that's kind of where the hot life thing, when we did move into reality with this, I think it was, it was 20-20 and we were stuck at home. And so we really kind of started talking about it more. And I think I had really finally, it takes everybody a little while to grapple with the fact that they want to see their wife or their significant other with somebody else. So I think we started approaching that conversation. And I kind of just said, hey, I would love for it to be you and me and another guy leading up with the online stuff.

Mrs. M was always, I guess you've always been into women, right? Yes, yeah. I had had quite a few threesome, even like mild threesome relationship and dated a girl as a solo relationship all when I was before me and Mr. M got together. Oh, okay. So you knew you were down for that. And were you also down to see him with another woman? Yeah, I had enjoyed that in the past. I had never experienced that with him. So still a little bit of reluctancy. wasn't going to change our relationship because honestly I think I didn't there wasn't too much of a relationship with some of these other people

Right that you had the threesomes with previously Yeah so you're always going to have that fear like that little chance of Oh maybe because I'm married to this guy and in love with him I might feel different you don't know until you do it right You exactly I did not know I was excited At the idea for sure But a little just a light in the back of my head like is this going to be okay. Are we still going to be asked afterwards? Yeah, yeah. So how did you pull the trigger

that first time and what was that first experience? What went down? Yeah, well, I'll kind of tee it up, I guess. We're huge Reddit fans. We had a profile going and a bio and we were looking for guys. Also, because Mrs. M is very comfortable with the ladies. I had also shared with her over time that I probably would not ever date a guy, but I'm definitely. into the physicality of guys, admittedly picky, but it was, we were looking for at least a mildly by guy who I'm above average in my size, so we were looking for somebody around my size or bigger. So we kind of went through the Reddit process, which as anybody can know, there can be some, some bullshit on there where you're having to really vet out people and verifying is critical.

And we had a guy that really checked all the boxes who messaged. He was close by. And I don't know, how long did it take us to meet him? It didn't even take that long. I don't think. No, our schedules were completely free. Yeah, because it is pandemic. Which was weird. Like, we're not even, we're barely seeing friends, but let's go meet the stranger. Yeah, I've heard a couple stories. A lot of things changed during COVID for a lot of people in many different ways. And I think for some people, they entered into the lifestyle. You're not the first couple I've heard that decided to do this. We're all twiddling our thumbs at home. What the

fuck should we do? You guys decided to have some fun. So tell me about that first guy. Did you decide that, oh, that night you were going to do something or were you just going to feel out the situation? And also, were there any rules besides that? There were rules and we were feeling out the situation. I feel like I almost always have to feel out the situation on the feeling. Like, I can't, even if I talk to seeing your pictures, I need to feel your energy and then I'll know for sure. So, and our rules that night, I don't know how much we talked about ahead of time.

We have rules now, but I don't know if we had. Well, not a lot, not a lot of rules, but I don't know what we had going. I don't know that we were going to wear condoms or whatever, but it didn't get that far. That's the interesting part of that. But we'd all, we'd all tested and shared that. Yes, we had tested and shared that. That's a whole other can of worms in the lifestyle. But at any rate, go ahead.

Yeah, so we, what happened? We ended up back at his place. he, dinner, he invites us to his place. Very smooth, very experienced guy. He was so gentle guiding us as first timers, and we took it really slow. We just did. It was like a soft swapper, or basically. There was kind of some oral and handplay between all of us. I remember him really rubbing your clip well all the way to orgasm. Yeah. It was like, we were all three involved in each other's orgasms, really. But you popped out of the bathroom with no clothes on or something like that. That was what really shocked me. Kathy, my wife is like way more adventurous in the moment than I am. But I think I'm,

I think I'm sitting there oblivious at this point like, oh, this is cool. This guy's house is cool. And we're having a nice time. And my wife goes to the bathroom. And next thing you know, you're out there. And no, you had your body suit on. You were looking super sexy and your little body suit. Right. And then it went from there. But this guy was like our swinger Shurpa. Yes. He was such a gentle guide. Yeah. And wait, that time it was just oral. Did you have sex with the both of them or just oral sex between all of you guys? Just oral sex between all of us. Okay. And how was it for you, Mrs. M, seeing your guy with another guy. Did you realize, oh, that's kind of a turn on? How did you feel about that? Because I would assume that's something new that is

going down. And then also Mr. Em, like, how was it for you to see her being pleasureed by another guy? Yeah, it was definitely new. I had never, I had just recently, he had just recently shared that with me, I don't know, a couple of months, but that was definitely the first

time seeing it in action or being any action. And I was very turned on. I was very turned on just at him being so free and seeing him be pleasured. Yeah, interesting. And how about you, Mr. M, seeing your girl with another guy for the first time? I know you guys fantasize about it for a long time, but I think the real deal is always going to be something different.

Oh, it was a long way to joy. It was awesome. Mrs. M is very sexual. She was very comfortable in the whole situation. Like it even, as things were kind of progressing, I'm sure you can, everybody's aware that nerves are on high, especially for first timers or whatnot. So of course, my nerves are running high. And I feel like I was even having a moment of like, okay, is everything going to be working? But the moment I saw her, you know, handling him, and he had a really great size cock, and she looked absolutely fabulous, you know, sucking all over it, licking it. And then, boom, I was instantly, you know, hard as a rock. And what I really enjoyed about the whole thing, and what I still really enjoy is, is the team atmosphere of everybody, even if she's sucking her. his cock, her hand is on my ass or on my cock or maybe his hand is on me as well. And just kind of the team energy of everybody trying to get where we're going. And it was just awesome. I don't even think we waited a whole week before we saw him again. We lined it up the next weekend to have our

kids over at her mothers so we could host at our house. So he comes over. We're doing dinner, right? The appetizers were set out. Wait, can you paint the picture real quick? Because I've seen pictures of you guys. I know that you're a hop, but you're a couple in your 30s, right? And how old was this guy, that this professional bull that's coming over to your house? He was in his mid-30s,

and we don't even identify with the bull term or whatever, Kathy, and we're not offended or anything by getting thrown around or whatever. Oh, I can't keep track of all the fucking terms. Then I use them, and then they're wrong, and then I don't, and then I'm like, totally did. Yeah, so that's fine. You guys, no bull, no bull term with you guys.

That's cool. Yeah, so he was around the same age, I think. And this guy was very open in both directions. He was very into women, very into men. He was very free. Lifestyle was a big part of his personality. I think it was his life, very much so. The life has, like, wherever, I know we're obviously here on a, on your podcast,

but we try to remain separate or keep our lives separate at this point. He was very free. Next thing, we're eating appetizers, and I remember him coming out in just an apron from our... Yes. Yeah. From our pantry. Entry, yeah. Yeah.

Funny. It was one of my wife's aprons. We're having fun. And the next thing, you know, Mrs. M is making out with him. She's got his cock out from under the apron. Yeah. And yeah, right. I refer back to that photo sometimes.

Right. Oh, you're snapping pictures, too. Well, yeah, we should reference that. I guess we had showed off on Reddit for so long. It was kind of a natural. progression or a natural want for us to now show this part off if that makes sense.

Right, that's been a part of it for you since the get-go. So that's still a part of it for you guys, putting yourselves out there and capturing the moments. The photos are the first step of foreplay. I can see that. I'm very

visual, so I could get into the photos. I totally understand. And that's really what kept you guys going all those years before. So now that you're doing real deal you also want I could see why you'd want the photos on top of it. It's like it's like our sex diary. Yeah. But yeah, so whatever.

What happened? We went upstairs or not. We were some fooling around like in our kitchen, but like we quit. Not a lot was going on. But go ahead and immediately. Yeah. Then we definitely took it upstairs. I think that.

No, there was penetration down here. Like there was. I think not maybe not on the counter. And that's when we took it upstairs. but there was penetration in the kitchen. And then we went upstairs for the real thing. And he had a great cock, great size, great girths. And really it seemed to have taken some classes, I would say.

That helps. Mrs. M is very multi-organismic. Even in our normal sex lives, she could possibly come three to five times. Oh, my goodness. I'm so jealous. So when, well, there might have been penetration down here, but up there was like the first moment of the kid. Yeah. Because I remember you were on your back and you had me in your mouth and he's lining it up and rubbing it all over your pussy.

And then it's, I just, I'll never forget that. It was just like that snapshot of then. And there it is. And your moans. I remember you just started coming and coming. The like rolling orgasms. That's what I like to call it when it kind of, one bleeds into the next. Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, that's great. And you're like, and you're the both guys, you're doing the both of them together. You're, is it called spit roasting? Is that what it's called? I believe so. Yeah. But yeah, I, I love to have his cock in my mouth as I'm orgasming on another man's cock. Right.

And now this was the first male female or just MMF for you, right? You had, all your other threesomes were always with women, correct? That is correct. Yeah, yeah. So here you are two guys and you were totally into it. Yeah, yeah. I think it helped for me that everybody was into everybody. So it wasn't like too much pressure all on me.

That makes sense. The complete freedom of it really worked for me. Yeah. And I also think when everybody is down for everybody, I think that is the total freedom. And a lot of couples don't have that, right? Because a lot of times the guys aren't by or the way. women are, but when everybody's down for everybody and everyone's totally into it and there isn't any kind of you can't do this or I won't go there, I think that's like the top of the

mountain. Yeah. Fender Green one. Yeah, when it's all going right, it is. Yeah. Yeah. So now, did you have any kind of penetration with this guy yourself, Mr. M? Good question.

No, just oral and handplay. I would top somebody. I have not. I don't know that I'm ready to be topped. I think in my personal exploration with Mrs. M., I'm just going to have to work up to that. It's not to say that I don't find the idea hot or that we certainly have, we've certainly talked about scenarios that we would enjoy. But, hey, it's just we're not necessarily porn stars, and that's going to, it just takes

some getting used to it. Like, I'm 37, and most of my life was definitely comprised about not thinking I was bisexual and definitely not taking anything in my ass. So I hope that the idea is hot. I hope to have it happen. We have had some guys that I thought I was going to top. Also, just from my experience, it's really got to be the right guy. I really am picky about guys.

Yeah, you did say that. Yeah, what is your type? When you say you're picky, what is it that you are into or not into? Good question. I'm definitely looking for very well kept. Ideally, you can. call me a size can't. Definitely look somebody bigger than me, I think.

But what else? Not too much facial hair. Neither of us are, like, I carry a short beard, but neither of us are into a ton of facial hair, but, you know, I'm not looking for long hair either. I'm definitely looking for in shape. In shape, decently hung. I'm not going to say that I like your stereotypical gay guy, but, you know, maybe. Are you familiar with Cody Brigsby?

No, who's that? Just a Peloton instructor. Oh, that's your type? I want to Google him. He's got a little bit more sass than I think I'm ready for. But yeah, for sure. He's a good-looking guy. Oh, I see him.

Yeah, all-American, in-shaped, fit, great body. Okay, I got it. Yeah. Yeah, but also one of our favorite guy is somebody who is just a little bit more earthy and artsy. But either way, it's just got to be well kept and in shape for sure. Okay. So take it from where you love.

So you have that experience where it's like a full-on threesome with that guy. And it was like amazing, right? It was amazing. And I also like, because I think we really expressed that we, hey, we wanted to be in this anyone for anyone, threesome dynamic. And for a good portion of the evening, that's what we were doing, right? So, but we did break for what snacks or whatever? Yeah, I think I had made.

Or 20 orgasms happened. Yeah. You needed a break. But we went back upstairs afterwards, I recall, and we're kind of like a same room couple. Or we have been. We've likely been talking about pushing that boundary a little bit. But they went upstairs first, not for any other reason other than I was just doing something quick. I don't know.

But I go up there and, you know, you guys are just kind of barely messing around. And I took that first time. That was the first time I really just sat and not sad. but, you know, probably took some film or whatever and just watched and really kind of took in a hot wife moment of Mrs. M. I think I recall you getting on top of him and riding him and she's just fantastic on top. And you're welcome. But, yeah, and then that was like, I remember just, that was like truly the first hot wife moment. And I was like, I love this.

And I was just, was derby talking, encouraging. I think I did end up kind of standing up on the bed next to you and putting my cock in your mouth. hard to stay out of the mix for too long. So we did the whole Anyone for Anyone thing. We just had a hot threesome, had a hot wife moment in there, got most of it on video, shared it on Reddit like the next day. And it was fucking amazing. Like we had a ton and we had a lot of interest in Mrs. M. And I post as well on Reddit by myself, like on that

same account. But obviously Mrs. M gets a lot of attention. But it was just like another stratosphere after that. because this was the first video of you guys bringing somebody else in, right? They had seen you guys together and separate and all that stuff, but never with somebody else. Right. Yeah, exactly. So, yeah, it was just, it was awesome. And we rode that high for a while, as many of your guests.

Reclaiming sex people talk about, right? I mean, the reclaiming sex is great. It's kind of weird, actually. Sometimes we don't even reclaim anymore. Not like we don't reclaim. We don't reclaim that night. We're not on it that night. I guess because sometimes we push.

the envelope as far as how much I can take. Yeah, if you're having all those rolling orgasms, like how much do you have left? I agree. Nothing. Yeah. At the end of the night. So we needed it to reclaim the next day.

Right. Why don't you give out real quick, though, in case somebody's like, oh, my God, or is that the couple from Reddit that I know? Like, give out your name because you are kind of popular on Reddit. So maybe some people even fucking know you, and I'll put the link in, you know, the description. But just give your email quick.

Yeah, we are on Reddit. We are at threat level midnight. Midnight is M-I-D-D-N-I-T-E. And that is our same name on OnlyFams and on Twitter. Right, I mean we started that, right. But quick question, do you show your faces on there or is everything very anonymous? Everything is blurred. And on our OnlyFans, in comparison to our Reddit,

your Mrs. M is really, that's where she's her most active in communication. We're posting more explicit stuff there. All of our longer form stuff is over there. We're posting there way more regularly as well. I think we've been getting a little more free with the blur where we'll take it just to the eyes. Yeah, it's just the eyes really is what it is. And we try to be tasteful about it. I toy with wanting to stop blurring and being a little more open about it.

And then I'll think of someone from my kids elementary school knowing and, I don't want to. Yeah, definitely. So after that guy, do you wind up continuing to see him or do you start bringing other guys in and do you stick to the whole hot wife experience or do you start going to like swingers clubs? Like, where do you go from there? We've done it all. Where did we get from there? We saw him for a few experiences, which were good. Yeah. They were all great. I don't know. He just kind of like, the lifestyle was so just his life. I think we were just kind of worn out on him. Yeah, we just. somebody who we could maybe, we already, we just wanted more diversity, I guess.

And somebody that we really felt like we could spend vanilla time with. Not that we're not poly in any way, shape, or form, but. Just like more casual hangout before or after. And that's when we met, well, we had met quite a few people. We had had some very humorous dates. So many bad dates. I was like, oh my gosh. I do not drink alcohol anymore.

I used to, I think if a date was going that poorly, I was probably getting hammered. And so now I'm actually experiencing it and it's rough. And then just being honest at the end of it is tough and just being like, well, I don't think it's that. What's our favorite? What? I mean, it's not a all the way connection. It's not a four way connection. Or a three way.

Or a three way connection. We've gone, we had, so we really, I don't know, meeting people is like being good at it is hard. It really took some learning about really. what people you should actually take the time to go meet and whatever. So that was just a learning curve in itself. Definitely got catfish by quite a few people where their photos were very misrepresentative of what they actually looked like. A lot of things like that.

Now there's more of a vetting process. And I would like to see it now photo, hold up three fingers or whatever. Oh, so is that what you do? Yeah, because you said it was a learning curve and a learning process for other couples that maybe want to get into this. What did you learn and what what is your tried and true vetting process now so you don't have to go through all the nonsense that you did in the past? Do you have any tips? Oh yeah, for sure and happy to talk about that. It's it's the question we get asked the most. We are we get we're kind of a lifestyle resource for singles and couples and we try to

answer shit like this as much as we can. But it's on Reddit or anywhere else, even Twitter when people message us. It really is a matter of, hey, if you don't include a picture. So we have a bio, for example. We have a bio that is attached to our Reddit handle. It is attached to our Twitter handle. And it just says who we are, how to contact us, what we're into. We're trying to cut out as much bullshit as we can. We're not revealing too much about ourselves. We say we're in the Midwest. And we have pictures, obviously, on our on our page that are anonymous, but you can pretty clearly get an idea of if you're into us or not. And we really, Ask people if you're not going to hear a response from us.

If you do not send a picture, we plaster that everywhere. I highly recommend. And the issue is, is people are out there desperate, too. They're just like. So they just want to get you to chat and take your time. And they never are so often. If they're not giving you a picture promptly, you're never going to get one because whatever they're saying is somehow misrepresentation.

Total bullshit. Now, when you say picture, do you mean body shot or do you want to see their face? It's something where I know you're a real human. We asked them to do something weird. Three fingers or put your pinky app. Put a finger on your nose. I just took a picture with three fingers on my nose. Right.

Just to prove to someone that you're real and you did this right now. This is current. I did this for you today. Happening right now. Yeah, yeah. 30 pounds later or whatever. And I think people need to understand. You just have to be firm and it's hard for people to get.

I'm talking to couples now. Couples are whoever is betting people. It's just you just have to be firm. If these people aren't showing you that they're real, just move on. Even if you want to go get late tonight and your wife is not going to happen. Right. They're not real. If they're not giving you what you ask for it, they are just not real.

Which is a tough pill to swallow for people. It took us a while before we really got it. I remember so many. There was people who were sending me tons of photos. Like this girl and she was so cute and whatever. but like she couldn't verify oh i just got done working out oh well i don't care if you're sweaty please take the photo because otherwise it's just it's not real you're not meeting also another another tip i feel is some newer couples and i don't fault these couples because this is like very

weird space to get into everybody's feeling strange or whatever but people want to waste your time text messaging people want to like build up relationships sometimes over on on four-way group text so they can feel comfortable to meet you. I mean, Kathy, it really might just happen that you guys all might have four-way chemistry if that's a thing over text. And you might get there and just not like these people. So you've wasted weeks and months maybe even of texting

and you go to meet them and it's just totally not happening. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like regular dating. It's no different than regular dating. I think you find out these things with regular dating too. Like just fucking me in person as quickly as possible if everything else is in play because that's when you're really going to know.

And yeah, I think everyone learns that lesson the hard way when you just talk. Some people can have a lot of game on tax and then you meet them and it's a totally different story. Right. Yeah. I think that was really new to us because we did not experience online dating. We stopped right before that started being super big. Yeah. We were like, what is happening?

Kind of in exploring who we were and getting a foothold on things, we ended up at our local. Swinger Club. Yeah. And that was, it's hard. Swinger clubs are just so different from one to the other. And the first night, we actually didn't go in, remember? Oh, my God. That's what we drove.

Okay, admittedly, we drove to the Swinger Club, saw the outside, and we left. There were two cars, two cars, and one of them was filled to the brim with stuff. Oh, like a hoarder. It was awful. So, but then, but then we went, I don't know. know why we went back. Somebody told us not to go on. It was, we went on a Friday and we probably went at like eight o'clock. But we decided to try it again. We went on a Saturday after somebody coached us. Like midnight. Yeah. And you know what? It was busy, I guess. It was busy-ish. And it was, it wasn't the most amazing inside, but it was clean. They could have probably

remodeled. It would have been cool. But there was people around and. We talked to a few couples. Right, and it was sexy-ish and clothing was starting to come off. But really what we like the Swinger Club for, where we are at in our journey is it's hard to sometimes meet people and hook up all in one night. But we just like to fuck in front of the other people at the Swinger Club. So like that is often where you will find us at the end of the night if we happen to be at a Swinger Club. Yeah, well, talk to people a little bit and dance and look for real connections. but once we decide we're probably not going to have sex with anybody there that night. Like one night I remember we met a great couple, but we knew it wasn't going to happen that night

because they were real social butterflies. And we were coming to an end of our night. So we just went to the open bed area, had sex in front of everybody. And it was awesome. They loved it. It was definitely a show. I remember we did it on Halloween night. I don't know if you're familiar with this, Kathy, but Halloween night is like the,

swingers like Super Bowl. I mean, just so you know, I've never been to a swingers club of my whole life. Why not? You should totally go. I know. Everyone knows my story. That was on my bucket list when it was like 19. I'm always like, oh, you know, one of my 60s I'm going to go. And people are like, why would you wait till you're old and busted? Go now before you only got a couple years left.

Anyway, go on. Whenever you go, it'll end up being fun. Yeah. And you're in the New York area, right? So I'm sure they've got some good clubs. Yeah. So wait, so it's Halloween night you went? Yeah, well, I'm just saying one of the,

of the nights we have gone has been Halloween. And it is like the Swinger Super Bowl. And it is like even our local club, which is on any other Saturday night, might not be, it could get busy, but it's not going to be crazy. It is wall to wall on Halloween night. So if anybody's ever thinking about, hey, I want to see a great swinger party and I don't want to be disappointed. Go on Halloween night, maybe New Year's, but definitely Halloween. That is a must do.

Yeah, that's interesting. Okay. You know, Mrs. M was sucking my cock out in this public area. And the general club rules are, hey, you have to ask if you want to touch or get close or whatever. And this one lady got about as close as she could to see Mrs. M sucking my cock without her actually sucking it as well. I remember you even asked her. I like paused and awkward. And she declined, which was fine.

But she just wanted to watch. She was enjoying herself. Yeah, yeah, interesting. Okay. Yeah, and it was like, that was a very helpful. I'll probably never forget that night until we do something hotter than that. There was a lot of people around. There was a lot. I don't know how many, but to me it felt like maybe 15 or 20.

Yeah, they're proud a couple people deep. Yeah, the one thing we don't like about swingers clubs, Kathy, and it's totally cool, but it's not our preference. You can't take any pictures in there. So we have any hot scenes that happened for us in the Swingers Club? No record. All right. For you guys, that could be a deal breaker because that's like. like your thing.

Well, we go there less, I think. Right. Yeah. I also think ours has been the fast. And not all Swinger clubs, but I think some and our experience at like events, some of them

have more of the... What events? You're talking like hotel takeovers? Like hotel takeovers or yeah, Nottie in New Orleans. Yeah, so we've done some hotel takeovers as well. Tell me about those. We went to Nottie in New Orleans, which is, I think maybe the biggest hotel takeover in the country. You know, it was good. We were, I guess,

I don't know, expectations versus reality, right? It's always, before you do something, you've always got these preconceived notions. Like, people think about swingers parties. They think everybody just shows up naked and fucks. Well, that's not what happens. Find people you like. Right. And people are still awkward. I think everybody thinks swingers are like porn stars, but they're not. And so we go to this and there's just a huge variety of eight years. and people, which is totally cool. They had two or three different dance areas at night for kind of like the club atmosphere. Right, different, maybe a live band or a DJ, and much better music than you find

at some clubs. But I think we found that there was a lot of what the, what I would call the traditional swinger set up, which is the girl is maybe by the guy. definitely not. They're just looking to straight up swap. And that's just not our preferred dynamic. It's not to say we never go for it. Yeah, so that's kind of something I also would be happy to comment on. When you go to these takeovers or swinger clubs, it is your more traditional swingers. I'm not telling you, you're definitely never, you won't see any variability in there. but you're going to find that just like Mrs. M said, it's going to be she's probably by, he's not, and they just want couples. We're happy to meet, like we have a regular girlfriend as well now or whatnot.

We're happy to meet a lady. We're happy to meet a guy if a couple works. We ended up in a five-person, I guess you want to call it an orgy. We were at a five-person orgy at that. New Orleans event? But. Yeah, one of them was not a. participant of the takeover, we had just met him on Reddit.

Oh, that's so funny. So we also met the, we met a couple who was part of the takeover beforehand on Reddit. So, yeah. Well, we can say we met these people while we were in New Orleans, that is true, but we had prearranged this kind of on Reddit and it just kind of came together there. It's, I think if you were a traditional swinger, like your, your couple was set up that way, I think that those takeovers and clubs are awesome. I think a lot of traditional couples don't even message us because I'm not shy and I put that I'm open to buy play in my profile.

Some dudes that'll just turn them off right then and there. Yeah, it surprised me that there's such a stigma for that in the lifestyle. I think a lot. I think there'd be a lot more of that if that stigma was taken away. Like I had a girl on Missy Bender. She runs a swingers party or owns a swingers club or anything. She's, listen, I'm in the. that lifestyle and I run the place. I fucking know how many by guys there are, but none of them are

copping to it. No one's doing it in public. I think that there's still a thing where a lot of people don't want to put it out there. You're just bold enough to do it and you're like, you're smart. You're weeding out the trash. Like you just get it, you want what you want. You're putting it out there. But I think there's a lot of people at that, those hotel takeovers at those swingers parties that would definitely want it to be a little bit more than what you're saying is a typical thing. But there's still a stigma, even in that world for guy on guy. action and it's so stupid. Yeah, it's, it's really frustrating. And we have people who message all the time with straight on their profile and he's, well, I'm by. Exactly. And I'm, and honestly,

to those people, I'm kind of like, well, fuck off. That's how you operate. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm not saying that's a, that's a rule that I have. That rule. Right. If the Biggsby guy or whoever that Peloton guy was, was hiding it, you'd be like down. You wouldn't care. Right. That's right. That's right. Cody can come over. Oh, Cody. Yeah. So, yeah, I don't know. And that's kind of also with Reddit and we could talk about field and other things. But why people are so bold on Reddit or genuine, rather, is because it's anonymous. You're not Kathy Kay.

You're like K-sizzle-95-06. Right. And under that handle, you feel a little bit more comfortable to message people about what you really want. Yeah. So, I don't know. So we've tried like all kinds of different. shit. Have you been on any like a swing or vacations? Adult

I don't know what they call. I don't know what they call. I don't know. We haven't done really. We have talked a lot about it. I don't know why we haven't. We just have we have very busy lives. We're very normal people. We travel for with our family and professionally a lot. And it's just whatever. So yeah, these lifestyle and vacations, it's just a pain in the ass to take more time. Quick question. Does anybody in your lives know about this side of you guys? well my friend i used to work with her oh is this going to be your guy's girlfriend oh okay okay because you did say you had a side girl we have joked about it but no it's not

we did hook up with a friend of mine only one time she doesn't live here and i we were her bucket list Yeah. How did that come to be, though? She's just your friend. Like, who brought it up? She came. Okay, so she came into town and it was a group of us who all used to work together and we were hanging out. And I was, I think the last, when she lived, before she moved, we had been talking about, you know, starting to bring somebody into her.

Oh, you and her or you and I were talking. And you and I had, and I had like maybe told her something then or something. I don't know. She had asked about it. And I was like, actually, we have a date tonight. And then we finished up lunch, whatever, went on about her. We had a date with a guy lined up that night. And she called me later.

I remember I was getting ready. And maybe she texts first, but was like, I feel like I need to say this. I would like to participate or join your date. Like it's something I've always thought about. She herself identifies as open. I think she tends to date more women than men, but had dated both. And so we invited her to come along. Yeah, well, the guy flaked out.

So I'm glad she invited herself because the guy. And again, before we were better about vetting, we used to get flaked out on more. But yeah, the guy flakes. The next thing you know, it's the three of us. Right. Which was super fun, but that was just a one-off deal. But, you know, I don't, we'll tell people who are, who seem, I don't know, if there's no relation to work and people seem pretty open, we might share it. We would love to share it, right?

I think we would love to be open about it, but the work kid situation makes it hard. Yeah, I'm in the same boat. And I think that as open as you want to be for yourself, you have to think of your children, especially when they're in the same boat. school because it doesn't matter how open you are. It's the problem is with the other people. And if they find out, it could cause problems for your children. And that's the last thing you want to do. So I, I totally understand that. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So I guess we have aspirations of maybe being more open down the road when our kids are at a more mature age. Yeah, of course. But wait, quick question. Let's get back to your stories. So do you typically, since you don't really

love the swingers clubs or the hotel takeovers that much, what is it that you guys? You guys, do the most? Is it the hot wife situation? Is it a couple swaps? Like what is what is the type of situations you find yourself doing most of the time? Yeah, that's a good question and we can kind of bring you up to speed with where we have been we're kind of where we're at is we have again, we're busy so we have to kind of like schedule this stuff with each other in the sense of we try to have one night a week, Friday or Saturday where we're going to do something lifestyle oriented. or attempt it. Yeah.

It's attempting it is sometimes what it is more than doing it. But anyways, yeah, what, hot wife stuff is really kind of what we fall to because a couple reasons. Number one, we love the dynamic. I'm not shy about saying it all that sharing my wife with another man is definitely top of my list. I love women all the same, but the thrill of my wife between another great guy and I, That's just awesome. So, and that's more readily available than anything else out there. Again, couple.

We do have our one blonde girlfriend who we love and we love the girl threesome dynamic of her. But it's not that easy. I think that's stood up by a lot of women. And I understand that. Like, it's a nerve, nerve-wracking dynamic to walk into as the single woman. Yeah, yeah. But you have one though that is kind of like a regular that you play with, the one girl. Oh, yeah.

Yeah, she's in a lot of our stuff on OnlyFans or otherwise. But yeah, she's awesome. She's sometimes we'll see her once every couple weeks. Sometimes it'll be once every month or two. And what's cool about her is she's generally fine to go do whatever we're doing. So if we wanted to go to a Swingers Club or we want to, she came to a hotel takeover with us. So that was kind of a little thruple fun we had.

Or before meeting another guy, she's totally, we actually went with to Vegas. with her and a friend. It wasn't our most favorite trip for other reasons. But yeah, she's like kind of our girlfriend. Your unicorn. They call them a unicorn, no? Couldn't we use that label? Yeah.

And we don't, you know, we're always encouraging her to go do and fulfill whatever. I think she, I'm just, I'm not speaking for her. I'm just taking, you know, my opinion is that we're kind of carving out these things to do and she just likes to hop on and join. Were we her first couple? Yeah, we were her first couple. And she was also through Reddit. And I think personally you should say the first time you saw her and I together

versus the most recent time you saw her and I together. I think you probably felt differently from one. Sure. Yeah. Well, there were moments. I think I remember this coming up in a different podcast we were listening to. But I think one time he said that her skin was the softest. I know how a girl hears that

Here's mind is not as soft That's another one of those memories That we're not going to forget of our We talked it out about Those little moments are important To say that even a couple As open as you guys that are pretty free And trying all different things

That doesn't mean that every now and then there might be a little jealousy or feelings heard for whatever. It could come up. You could be, you have a PMS and you just take something the wrong way. This is the reality of the situation. It's not like it doesn't happen, even for you guys. It really. It really does.

And so, yeah, there was like a faux poll that I made like that. And then, but like our last experience, Mrs. M is taking my cock and guiding it into her for me. While she's coaching her to enjoy it. Definitely. as we get more comfortable with people and ourselves in the lifestyle. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. We get just more and more confident. Yeah.

And in that situation, you're with the girl too, correct, Mrs. M? Like you get down with feeling around with girls and he. Absolutely. Right. It seems like girl play always takes the front running show or whatnot. So, you know, Mrs. M and our blonde friend, we're just going to call her A. Yeah. Mrs.

M and A. They're always getting up to whatever. You guys like to use the strap-on on each other. We have actually. The double-sided. The double-sided dildos. It's always fun. You guys seem to like the strap-on.

Yeah. I think it's easier. Yeah, our last one. Oh, and we got the vibrating one. The what? The strap-on vibrates. So it's pleasuring me as I'm pleasuring her. Oh, I got it.

Uh-huh. Which would be against my clitoris. Yeah, that's cool. Yeah, so the last, our last experience, I mean, it was a lot of you fucking heard with that strap on in the beginning. Like, I mean, she, like, our friend was. Which was really checking a box for me because I feel like I'd always wanted to fuck someone. Yeah, it was really, it was really great seeing Mrs. M in that experience. I mean, she was really getting into it, like gritting her teeth.

It was almost like she really had the cock on it. But, and then our friend is, she's doing her doggy style. our friend is sucking my cock and slapping it against her face. It was just a total scene when we watched it back on the video. But I loved it. That was amazing that you were able to kind of get into that mode. But that and all that content, though, like what you're talking about, that scene right there is on your only fans?

Oh, yeah, for sure. Okay, so that's what people get when they go on there on your only fans, like these full videos? Yeah, there's anything from Mrs. M. and I, with a guy, to strap on stuff with our blonde friend, to doing all kinds of stuff with our blonde friend. There's multiple guys on there. You know what's funny is we are starting to message with other OnlyFans creators just because

they're not going to flake out, but it is amazing the number of guys who don't give a shit about OnlyFans requires a consent form. If anybody is going to show up on there, they're going to have to, you know, give explicit consent with their ID and whatever. And it's a lot of, a lot of people you see on our page are not only fans creators. They are just people who are comfortable with us and comfortable with the only fans' privacy.

And authentic stuff is what I'm trying to say. We're not, we're not really professionals. We don't even shoot or edit our stuff like some other people who really do this nonstop. But, you know, it's pretty authentic shit. And we do put it on film and we throw it out there for people to kind of check out. We want it to look normal because it is normal. Like we're normal people.

Yeah, yeah. I want experiences. I can't have too much of an agenda. I really need it to just be an organic sexual experience. Right. You're not a fucking actress. You're the real deal. You like this.

Obviously, you listen to your backstory. You were doing this for many, many years. You know, especially the photographing it and videotaping it aspect. That's something that's always been a thing for you guys. So why not put it on OnlyFam? It's a part of what you do normally anyway. That's the kind of content creators I like to have on my show. Sometimes I get slack from people like, oh, they have an only fans.

Everyone nowadays can have a fucking only fans and big deal. But what I think is important, what I love about my guess is that they typically are people who this is, this is what they do for fun regularly. And then why not do the only fans? Because it happens to be available nowadays. There's nothing wrong with that. But it's not like you're doing it for that reason. You're not doing it for the money.

You're obviously a couple who was interested in exploring. You've been doing it for so long. You finally made the plunge. And why not take that extra step? Because you guys, since the dawn of time, have always been interested in having people see you. You said, like at the Swingers Club, you wind up at the end, fucking in front of people. Because that's like a big part of your guys thing. So I'm sure Onlyfans adds to that, right?

And then the cherry on the top is that it gives you that extra cash to maybe, like you said, go on a Swingers' vacation and do more of what you love. but then you get more content, but you're certainly not doing it for that reason. No, and I think we took some pride in not having an only fan for this extended period. I could imagine, yeah. And so we were joking around and we're like,

well, what if we could do? Could fund our lifestyle with it. Yeah, there's nothing wrong with that. Right. But I thought of the end in 2020. That was when OMEFANS was really blowing up. Oh, yeah. And we were adamantly like, oh, no, we do it for the passion.

Yeah, and here you are three years later, like with your only fans. Give a shout out to all your links to everything. And I will put everything in the description. So if people want to go see your stuff or sign up for your only fans. Okay. We, again, on Reddit, are at threat level midnight. M-I-E and I-T-E. The same thing on OnlyFans, Threat Level Midnight.

and on Twitter we are at threat level 6969. Okay, so you send me links to all of that. I think I have them. I also have a ton of like super great picks of you guys that I'm going to put on my only fans. I'm not on my only fans on my Patreon. I'll also give you guys access to my private discord. I think that there's over 1,500 people on there now.

I don't get involved in there, but it's a place where you guys could go up and put like some teaser videos or that's where you could put your X-rated stuff. and also promote your only fans and talk to people about your episode. You guys will get free access to that. I'll send you a link when your episode goes up. But I already have your picks. Okay, I've already seen you guys. You guys are totally hot.

I'm going to put those and I'll make them anonymous because I saw your faces. You sent me not anonymous text, but I'm going to make you anonymous on my Patreon. I'll have those picks on there. But if people want to see more, they heard the stories. They could actually go see them now over on your only fans. I'll put the link to that there. And I have that.

But thanks so much for calling in and sharing your story. I loved it. It was great. Thank you. Thanks, Jeff. Bye you guys. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly

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