Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 762 - Missy and her BF have Kinky Sex but he Never Cums?!

Episode Date: February 7, 2024

Missy and her boyfriend love kinky sex but he rarely cums and she doesn’t know know why and she called in to talk all about it. What kind of kinky things do they enjoy doing together? When did his ejaculation issue start? And, on the rare occasion that he does cum, what does he cum from? Tune in to hear all the details including including how and why him not cumming really bothers her, how even when he masturbates it takes him a long time to cum, how he was the first guy that ever made her cum and why, the issues she had when she was younger and why that turned her into a chronic pleaser in bedd, how and why she went to sexologist and how it changed her for the better, how her boyfriend got her to squirt and how and why that has changed their sex life for the better, all the kinky things they’re into including public sex and why he can only cum through anal, how getting hard and staying hard has also always been a problem but but how the summing problem started after his last break up, why he’s not interested in going to doctor or therapist to fix his issues, what she is doing wrong and the things she can do to help “fix” his not being able to cum issue, his daily drinking habits and how they might be adding to his issues (you have to listen to decide) and how and why he prob needs to quit drinking, how her dad also had drinking issues and how that might correlate to why she’s with her current boyfriend plus a whole lot more. **To see anonymous pics of MISSY and pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So, you know, you don't just get what I posted this week. You get all of the back content. So there's so much stuff over there. that you could get access to. So today I have a Missy. I fucking love this conversation. I feel it might be a little controversial. People might really go against me or not believe what I said or the conclusions I came to.

And some people will. And it's definitely interesting. Missy DM'd me on Instagram and was like, oh, my boyfriend can never really ejaculate. He says it feels good, but he can't really orgasm. He used to have a getting it up problem. But now he can get it up. but it's just never coming. And for her, it really bothers her.

So she wanted to call in and talk about that. But through talking about that, we did find out that he's a real fucking drinker. She doesn't think it's an issue, his drinking. I do. You're going to have to listen to the details of that. It turns out to be a lot of talk about that towards the end. In the beginning, we talk all about their sex life. She's, like, very into sex.

She recently came into her own. She's into all kinds of different kinks and role-playing stuff. She learned how to squirt. She talks about all that kind of good stuff in the beginning, as well as the issue she has with her guy. But it's not like she doesn't have good sex with him. She enjoys a sex. It's just that she is upset that she never gets the come from him.

And she talks about that. He can, though, come when they have anal sex. And she talks about that too. So we talk all about the sex and all that kind of good stuff in the beginning and his issues. And then I'm trying to analyze this guy and figure out where in lies this problem, right? why can't he ejaculate? He used to have a getting in a problem, but that went away, which is good.

So we go back a little bit in his history, and then it comes out this whole drinking thing. And oh, my God, after that, it becomes to me a very entertaining episode about something totally different, but interesting. And I wonder what everyone's going to say when they hear the facts about that part of his life. I wonder if people are going to think what I thought or they're going to think what she thought. I wonder if anyone has any kind of advice for his issue with not being able to ejaculate his delayed orgasms that have been plaguing him forever. I love to get feedback on that. I'm hoping people talk about that.

I think people are going to be talking a lot about this podcast episode in all different kinds of ways. I do hope, though, like I said, that there is some advice for her. But let me know your thoughts. You could do that over on YouTube. She did send me in Hot Picks. They're over on my Patreon. You could see her over there anonymously. She's great. I'm so glad she called in with this kind of issue because it's super interesting.

And it turned into a super interesting episode. You're going to enjoy it, I promise. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Missy. Hi, Missy. Hi, Missy. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm so good. How are you, Kathy? Good. So listen, Missy. You were in a little bit of a dilemma. I think you DMed me on Instagram. I'm just looking for advice. But I don't really like to give advice. I like to talk to people. I don't like to write shit out. But your issue that you're having does have to do with sex. And you were like before I started taping. You were like, but listen, I know what we're talking about isn't that hardcore,

but I'm like a really nasty bitch and blah, blah, blah. I was like, okay, don't worry. You can talk all about how nasty you are. I'm sure that will eventually come up in the conversation. But let's discuss the issue you have. I'm going to tell the short story, the one sentence, title of what your issue is. And then you're going to go into detail. I mean, you got this boyfriend.

You fuck him all the time. And for some reason, he has a real problem coming. He says it feels good. So maybe he's having orgasms, but he's not ejaculating. But he does ejaculate when you have anal sex with him. So you're a little bit confused. Is that the whole story? Yeah.

Pretty much. In a nutshell, yeah. Okay, first of all, how long you've been dating your guy? And how old are you guys? So we've been dating just over three years. And we're in our early, I'm in my early 40s. He's in his late 40s. Okay.

So you've been dating for a long time. And this has been since the get-go or has it changed over time? No. So it's gotten better. When we first started dating, he was very open because I told him that I was more sexually experienced. I've had a lot of partners where he's only had two. And he was really clear in the get-go that he has performance issues.

Now, when we first tried to have sex, he couldn't get it up. And for sure, listening to your show and just talking to my girlfriends, obviously it's normal. There's performance, anxiety, and trying to be all you can be. And I kind of, after a few tries, it did work and we had no problem. And the sex is like off the hook. It's fucking amazing. But the coming doesn't happen.

And granted he has come, but it's been like we have to have sex, I don't know, 10 times in a day and then it does. But it's very, I can count how many times he's come in the three years that we've dated. It's crazy. It's he masturbates constantly. It takes him 30 minutes to an hour to masturbate. For me, I figure I'm like, that's a long time to masturbate to get yourself up. But he says it's normal. So I think listening to your show.

and listening to the people and the experiences, I was like, I have to talk to Kathy. I hate to get her advice on this. This can't just be me. Like, I know, I get that it's normal, that sometimes it doesn't always happen. I know with us girls, we can have sex and we can enjoy it, and sometimes we don't orgasm.

But for guys, it's like, it's like you expect it. You want to see the come. You want to see it. It's an accomplishment. So when you don't see it, you're like, well, what the fuck? what am I doing wrong? And I think a lot of it is bad because I do put a lot or especially in the beginning of our relationship, I put a lot of pressure like what the fuck? Why aren't you coming? Like blowjobs. I've never given head and not got and not had him come before. Like this to me is.

Yeah. When do you know how to stop? When do you know how to stop? When do you know it's over? Exactly. He always pushes my my head up and when he's done. It's like he does it. He lets me go down on him for, I don't know, like five minutes. And then when he's, I guess he's done. And then we start fucking, but he never comes with a blowjob, which it's crazy to me. It's for me, I feel like I'm a failure because it's the first guy I've blown would not come. Same thing with sex. I'm like, okay, but the sex is fucking good. And like me, I can go over and over and over again. I'm like a little energized bunny. But, and I, I applaud him that he can keep on going. We have sex, we stop, we shower, we'd start again. But there's no count. Me, I've had my first orgasm with

with him. Oh, really? So wait, so you weren't always the energizer bunny. I mean, you had performance issues up until you're 40? Yeah, I've always, because the thing with me, like, going back in my history, like, I've always been more of the giver than the receiver. I always was under the not the impression, but I guess I was misled in my like twisted mind that I have to please a man

and like me comes last. So I would always be the girl that was like do, do, do. I never, I'm not supposed to feel anything. Forget or take. Yeah. Exactly. When I was a teenager, I had an abnormal,

I don't know how to say it, but in English, but it's like I had a vagina obstruction. So I couldn't have sex. Oh, interesting. So, yeah. So, like, my, my mom wanted me to have the surgery when I was 16, because as a woman, she just, you got to have the surgery. My father looked at it as like a chest dog. No, she's not having surgery. This is going to protect her from having sex. So in essence, I was like kind of forbidden to have sex, sort of speak, naturally, until I was 18. So what did I do?

I retaliated and I started giving head. I became like the queen of, blow jobs. Nobody in my in my in my high school gave blow jobs. So I always had that like mentality of okay, well, I can't get so I'm just going to give give give. So I just became the giver. So I didn't know that girls are supposed to enjoy it and girls are supposed to take control and feel amazing and feel all tingling in their body and have this sense of like ecstasy. I didn't feel that and I honestly only started feeling it with my current boyfriend. How long in? Honestly, no joke.

I would say like maybe the third time we had sex. I was just like there's something different. It's... What was different? He wasn't taking from you. He couldn't take from you. You couldn't be the giver anymore. He was like, I'm not interested. So you had to become the fucking taker.

What a gift he was to you. He changed your life. He flipped the switch. Now you got to help him. Pay it forward. And it's crazy. Because my boyfriend before him, he was a big sex playboy guy, like really high, have a lot of experience. And him, he would, obviously I can't orgasm.

So he was like, this is ridiculous. I'm sending you to a sexologist. So I went to see a sexologist. She changed my life in the sense where she taught me how to, I don't want to say believe in myself, but accept the woman that I am and to like just let go. So with him, my ex, for the first time, I remember, I never orgasm, like a vaguely like a normal orgasm, I squirted, which when I first squirted, I was like, what the fuck? I'm peeing on the bed. Any woman that's squirted for the first time and they don't know, they're like, what the fuck?

You know what I mean? But it was the most crazy feeling that I've ever experienced. And like when you learn to like enjoy it and to accept it. And then it's like you're feeding off of it. It's like you can't stop. And it like just intunes you and everything, all your your senses become in light. And like everything is sensitive. And it's just it was intense.

You know what I mean? So all these things rolled into one made me just have a drive for sex even more. And like I just, it's crazy. Like I meet this guy who I'm like, I felt really hard on love with. And I'm like, he can't come. Like it's the only thing. So, but when I told him that I was able to squirt, again, this shy guy who's not very sexually experienced was like thrown and was very curious. I would send him videos, porn and show like how to make a girl squirt because I don't know.

I can't, I don't know how to teach somebody to make me squirt. It's just where you don't know, you know what I mean? I never was able to do. I can't do it. With penetration, it's only with the fingers. But I just didn't know how to explain it to him. But one day we were in his kitchen doing the dishes. He started making out.

He pulled my pants down. I was in like a squat position. And right there on his kitchen floor, he made me squirt. And it was intense. And ever since then, like our sex went from, let's say, five to five. That's like intense. Like we, once we get into it, we're like, like dogs. We just, we're dirty, we're raw. We're just like, I have a lot of kinks that I love. So I try and get him

to not to do it, but to kind of let loose. He says that I'm his like little porn star because he's not used to being like choking me or being a little bit more rough. I don't like socks. Come on. Fuck me hard. That's, and it's funny because I hear, I thought I was like crazy. But when I listen to your show and I hear some of the women, And I'm like, yes, this is okay. I'm not the only one. We're all crazy and we know what we want. But yeah, so I think I want to say maybe a month ago, maybe a little bit more. I said, okay, fuck this.

We got to change something. And I've been listening to your show. And I'm like, okay, what am I going to do? Like, I wanted to work. We're starting to talk about role playing. We're going to do that to try and maybe spice it up. But that's when we introduced, you know, like, I had an anal once and it was a bad experience.

And I said to myself, I'll never have an anal again. It's done. But done with him, I'm like, no, let's, maybe I got to try it. I have love for him. He said that that's sex that I've had. Let's try it. And no joke, Kathy, he put it in and within two minutes he came. So we're both like, what the fuck?

So, but see, now he's addicted to my ass. So like, I like the feeling, but I'm not in love with it. Again, a lot of your listeners that call in, they love it. I get it. I get the fun of it. I get the enjoyment. But for me, it's not something I want to do all the time. And now it's like something that's always in our mix.

Oh, my God, your poor ass. I know. Seriously, my poor. I have a nice ass, but come on. But yeah, so that's the chips of it. You know what I mean? Like, it's hard to find a medium and to accept and not to make him feel like he's not, he's doing something wrong

or because he's not I know it's natural what in sex what do you mean what's wrong not wrong no like the whole not coming well okay let me ask you some questions real quick for him does he have any kids yeah he has two kids

he has two kids okay have you had conversations with him like what what's his history with this issue that he has or maybe it's not an issue I don't know so he told me that he's always had like like performing anxiety in the sense where like to be like all he can be kind of thing but he says it really started

when him and his the baby mama separated he started drinking he started smoking more and that's when he started to develop more of the performance issues he says the getting hard and staying hard issue has always been an issue with him yeah that's the performance issue i don't know that the comment like the ejaculation is the performance issue i don't know that the comment like the ejaculation is the performance this year. I don't know. So when did he say it started? So when they broke up after they separated, that he says that's really when he started to see the, that he was having issues like ejaculating, like coming and stuff like that. And plus the thing for me is when he comes, when he masturbates on his own, it takes a long time. Like it's even with himself. Yeah, that's

interesting. Even when himself, it takes him an hour almost sometimes, which I think, I mean, I'm not a doctor or an expert here, but it seems a little long. But well, that's my second question. question. Has he ever seen a doctor about it? I have a lot of questions in my head. Has he ever? It's funny. No, because I've asked him, I go, you should see a doctor or even see a sexologist. My sexologist is amazing, but he's, no, it's not a problem. He goes, I do. It just sometimes takes a long time. No, you said most of the time he doesn't. He never does. It sounds like, except when he fucks you in the ass. When he fucked me and he asked The first time he came was actually

Again, one of my kinks is being blindfolded And so we blindfolded each other And then he came in that At that moment So that's when I thought I'm like Oh okay this is because maybe it's all in his head And like visual So now that he's

So we tried again but it didn't work You know what I mean? We had public sex I thought okay this the The thought of getting caught sometimes really spices it up and makes people really oh shit we're going to get caught yeah where were you guys we were driving on a highway and we like like country road kind of a busy highway we in his truck and then we were really horny and then he's let's do something and then

I'm like what are you where are you thinking and then we pulled off the side of the highway like in the ditch he pulled me outside in the back of his truck pulled down like the the flap of his truck I sat me on his truck and fucked me there. Okay. Really hot. Yeah. But I thought, okay, if this is going to come, nope. But he got hard and he said, now he does get hard and stays hard, right?

That's not an issue. Yeah. He stays hard as long as we don't talk or joke around. I know it sounds bad. No, no, no. I talk sometimes in the middle. Yeah. And then you just say, I don't know, especially when you're more comfortable with somebody.

Yeah. Well, that's it. But no, but Kathy, okay, you can say, I like, you talk yeah you fucking i like me like you fucking slut call me that but then sometimes he'll be like oh what are we going to eat for supper oh he says that he does that not you yeah he says something like random like nothing to do about sex or something sexy and then boom he loses his hard on so but the thing is is i give him credit with his age and knowing his history he still gets hard quite quickly i shirk him off a little bit give him a little bit of head

and then it gets hard again. But it's like, how many times can you do it when not come? This is the thing. But let me ask you, I have another question. Let me just get all this information. Then you could just keep going. I love how much you talk. Does he, because listen, I didn't realize this, okay, but this is true, that men could

have orgasms without ejaculating. The two typically happen at the same time, but they don't have to happen at the same time. There can be an actual orgasm without ejaculation. They are two different things. I found that out, heard that it blew my mind, but it's a true fucking story. What I want to know is does he tell you I'm having an orgasm and he's just not coming? Or is he not getting, is he not even having an orgasm either? He's not even having an orgasm at all.

Like he's not, he says like he enjoys it. Like he always tells me it's fucking amazing. He's like, wow, oh my God. But he never is like, when he comes, he's, oh, my God, I'm coming. I'm coming, whatever. But he doesn't actually do that when not ejaculate. No. So he only says he only comes when he does ejaculate.

That's the only time you know he's actually coming. And 95% of the time he is not coming through your sex, even though you guys are having great sex and you're squirting and all that stuff. And he's hard. Oh, yeah. It's never completing for him. It's never a complete. And that for me as a woman, and I'm sure like you, you can relate with even yourself and with your listeners that call in.

As a woman, I feel like I'm not, like, as I said before, we can fake it. I faked it a lot in the past. Oh, you obviously did. You didn't have an orgasm until this guy. You faked it your whole life. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly.

So us, we can fake it. There's no, they can't really tell. But we can tell that they didn't come. So me, I'm like, hey, what the fuck? What am I doing wrong? Like it's and it shouldn't be about me. It shouldn't be. It's not about me and I have to get it.

Like I've come to the terms to accept it. But it's still hard and it's still something that hangs over our relationship when it talks about sex because it's like I just don't understand. Like it's just hard. Like when I, you know, when I had when I broke up with my ex and I was going in the depression, all my friends are like, you need to do the opposite of what you normally do. and have long-term relationships. You need to just go and fuck, like, bang the shit out of men. So for a year, this is what I did. Yeah.

The Missy and me, the tiger in me became alive. And it's true what they say. When you reach, like, after your mid-30s, I find women, like, get into this, like, sex charge. Oh, yeah, it's hormones. No, it's all hormones. It's like your last hurrah. It's a real physical thing that happens. That's why a lot of 40-year-olds are banging 20-year-olds.

It's a perfect match, 40-year-old. women with a 20. When I was 40, I was banging a 25 year old from the gym. It was like perfect because like your sex drive goes like off the charts like as a woman. Like it, for sure. But see, the thing that and this is what, and maybe it's my fault that I brought it up to him so many times, but like these random people that I would have sex with at least three guys in a week I would fuck. These guys would, I would never met ever. And they, they come in in five minutes. So it's, I can make these guys, them, but you who were both madly in love with each other. So I know it's a play on it.

I know it hurts him too mentally because he constantly is hearing it from me as well. But I know him too as a guy, I know he wants to be able to give that to me as well too. Like when he does come, it's like I take that shit in my mouth and I enjoy it. But it's it is what it is. I try to be as nasty as I can because I find the more nasty I am, it turns him on more. So I do whatever it takes, but nothing seems to work. Something that works really well that he really loves and I love doing and he's never had it before is all be, let's say we're having sex. Then I'll just grab his dick and then start giving the head and then put it back in my pussy and then go out.

And this to him and boggles his brain. Like he's, what are you doing? This is like, only porn stars do this. But like for me, I find it so hot and nasty and I love it. You know what I mean? But I see that he's getting aroused. I see how he's enjoying it. You know what I mean?

So it's just not that finisher, you know, the reward. Yeah, well, let me ask you this. How many times a week or a month or a year do you actually talk about these issues with him? Is it a weekly thing? Is it a daily thing? Is it a yearly thing? Every other day, I would say. No, yeah.

That's not good. First of all, okay, I'm going to tell you a little story. And, you know, anyone that's going to tell me to stop talking on my own show, they could fuck off. Because this is a conversation. I'm going to tell you a story. Okay. that, and it's a little bit like yours, but it, you know, it was just the getting it up problem. I had a guy who had a getting it up problem.

He had all these cock rings this whole life. He couldn't never get it fucking up when it came to sex. And I don't know. This guy was, I was so horny for him. It was such a dysfunctional relationship. Those really dysfunctional pulls you have. They're always like the best fucking sex ever. So I was like, put it in soft.

I don't fucking care. Like seriously, he would put in a limp dick and I would come in two seconds because I was like wet from from him because he was just like narcissists. douchebag. Whatever it was, it was just a bad thing, but I was so horny for it, right? And so because I had that dysfunctional pull to him and I was so horny for him, I never gave a fuck. I never said one thing about his limp dick. I was never like, why doesn't it get hard? What's going on? I was like, put it in soft and I would come. And the more I fucked him like that, the more that problem went away. And let me tell you, I realized why he had that problem,

because later on, after he was so into fucking me and his dick had no problem, he was horrified. He hated the control his dick had over him. Do you understand? There is something with sex. It can be mental. This guy was a real smart guy. There was something about that control that he hated. And that's why he had that getting it up problem. Because once he was really into me and he wanted to fuck me all the time and his dick was working, he was horrified by it. He couldn't control his sort of desires. And that's why he had his problem to begin with. But the whole point is that I never talked about it. And I think sometimes talking about an issue and bringing it up, whether it's like looking at a limp dick and saying, why is it not getting hurt? You don't like me.

But like, it's a worst thing you could do because if it is a mental thing, it's only going to make that person go more in their head. Because I never brought it up to that guy and never said one thing about it, it just went away. Like you got to stop fucking talking about this problem. But there still are other things that maybe you could talk about. And this is where I'm a little confused because I'm like, have you have. had the conversation of, are you depressed? That would be like there's, it could be physical. It could be mental, right? You said it happened after he left his wife. When he had kids and growing up, he was always able to come and get hard and everything was fine, correct?

Sort of speak, yeah. Like for sure, getting hard and staying hard was always an issue. The coming, he says, was always like delayed. So he says he's always been like, this has always been in it. It's always it's just it's gone in worse over time you know he blames it and in into your question about asking if he's depressed i have asked them because he's had two major relationships that failed right so for sure that takes a toll and his last girlfriend she they were together for a long time to grow like he was madly in luck and she actually turned into becoming a lesbian so that takes an ego like for me and we talked about in the first year of our relationship. I'm like, it kind of makes a man feel almost not manly when a woman leaves you for another woman, right?

Like it makes, it can make, it could make you feel like, what am I not good enough that she leaves me for a woman? But I said I go, when a woman leaves a man for a woman, it's not because you're not doing your job or you're not performing. I go, she always had the desire to probably be with a woman. It's just she probably was like, you know, high. it or how did she has her own kids, she has her own family and maybe it's religions. I know, but you have to understand that. Sometimes your brain can understand those kind of factual things, but it still doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you're saying to him. You're not going to change the way he feels about that. Just like no matter what it, even though your brain knows

that, oh, he's not getting hard for me and he's not coming and has nothing to do with me. It still bothers you, right? It doesn't matter those kind of facts. We all know that that's true, but it doesn't take away from the fact that that could have like psychological. logically fucked him up. I call them dickless divorcees. Okay. Like I've always talked about like these poor guys. I don't know. I know a lot of guys after a divorce, they come out like they have no dick, no game, no nothing. And a lot of times there could be like that kind of a depression. Like I said, they lose their game. I don't know how bad his divorce was because he was married, right, with the first woman before this girlfriend. No, they weren't married, but they were together for 19 years. And they had kids together and everything. And then they ended. I mean, you don't know what happened in that relationship or maybe you do. But, you know, those kinds of things are traumatizing, especially for a guy like him. I mean, he sounds like he's not a player.

He sounds like he's a real relationship guy. It sounds like he probably hangs his hat wherever he is and he's really super loyal and he wants it to work. And so for that person, it's devastating when things don't, especially if you had kids and stuff. He's with someone for 19 years. And then he gets another girl and she leaves him. So he would, he doesn't, he would just. do well with a regular therapist, okay? Just talking some shit out. He would also do really well, maybe going to a real doctor, someone to talk about his ejaculation. Maybe there are issues.

Maybe it's not, I don't know. I feel like there's people listening to this episode right now that are like screaming at us like, no, you don't understand this or that. And maybe somebody knows the answer to these problems, right? I don't. I always say they give unprofessional advice. But I'm hoping that I put this out and other people will come forward and say, hey, I'm dealing with the same thing. hey, I was and this is how I fix it or hey, I'm a doctor and this is the fucking deal. We don't know. But this is a great conversation because I think that there will be other people relating, whether it's the woman that is in the situation with you or the man that has the issues

that he does. But it could be, like I said, mental, but you might have to stop talking about it so much. I mean, why is he not open to any kind of therapy? Well, because he's a man's man, right? he's very much like he's a macho guy he I know but does the macho guy feel great that he can't come? I mean know thyself is like my favorite is my favorite you know saying and it's like for the macho guy you would think if he's a real macho guy and wants to really be a real macho guy he would should want to fix his problems because that's not like that might be like a problem if you're a

macho man that can't come it's like where's the macho and that he's not like being honest with himself, I feel like. Well, that's the problem, right? He doesn't, he doesn't, it has to come from him. Like, I can say it as much as I want, but it's not me that has to, to do it. Like, I'll go to, I wouldn't see a sexologist because I want to want it to fix my problem. You know what I mean? And now it changed my life.

Yeah, you're perfect for him because you're like been there, done that. You were like the female version of him. I mean, I just feel like you're so relatable and the fact that you guys met up is so perfect on some level, five years from now, you'll realize that maybe you're going to change his life because you're going to teach him what changed your life, which was letting go of some part of you and opening up sexually and really getting in touch with whatever that was that you weren't in touch with. For him, maybe it's the old him, maybe it's another part of him. Who knows? But he's got to figure that out because it is a thing. And if he knows and you're bringing it up all the time,

Doesn't he want to do it for you, if not himself? Yeah. And I think it's the thing is, is I know he knows that it's a validation for me. Like for sure, it's, it's something that I want. And for him, his thing that he always tells me when he doesn't come and we've had sex over and over again, he's, babe, I'm, I'm enjoying it. Like every, every time we do it, I'm, it's better and better each time. So he says the right things. He's constantly like complimenting me and making me feel like so sexy and beautiful.

But I get it and I appreciate it. But I'm like, I still want to fucking come. You know what I mean? Give me the comes. Yeah, yeah. But maybe you have to do like you're going to have to try a bunch of different things. I say the first thing you try is to shut the fuck up about it for three or four months. Like seriously, just fuck the shit out of them.

I agree. Do all your nasty, dirty stuff. getting in get into the role playing that you want to get into squirt all over him all the fucking time let him fuck you in the ass like at least once a month and don't say one thing about him not coming do it four to six months like really commit to it you know what i mean you have to really go against your natural instinct you're doing this for him but you're also doing it for you in the long term there was once this great book it was called the road less traveled the first line of it was like life is difficult And that's like the truth.

When so many people give up future gratification for instant gratification, we all want what we want now, right? We don't want to suffer and hold out to get the future gratification. But the future gratification is the real deal. Go through four to six months of not saying anything and not catering to that part of you that needs his validation or whatever it is that you need that quick fix to just let your insecurities out and talk to him. Put that aside to torture yourself, whatever you have.

do don't do it because the future gratification is maybe that fixes this issue you said it has been getting better he did get over his getting it up issues with you hopefully the ejaculation stuff will change like i said he does he has come but it's like far in between you know what i mean like it's give me the give me the like the stats of how much he comes we can't talk about the anal because the animal's like exception right so now he's come all of a sudden three times in the last since we've done this day, which let's say three weeks, right? So this is waiting. This is not normal. This is like first for us. So before that, I would say maybe two months. Honestly. So it gives or take like two months and maybe four months. Like I think the longest,

it was maybe like six months that he didn't come. And but like I said, you're kind of right in what you said about not talking about it because I do find that like when we don't speak about it or make comments, then it's kind of a little bit more easy, breezy kind of thing. And there's no, I don't want to like stress on trying to perform and to have a release. So it does work. But I know at the same time, he, it's not always me too. He's also thinking about it too. Like I can tell that he's thinking and he's processing it when he's fucking, like, I can see him like overthinking. Let me ask you this. Does he take

any kind of medication? No, he just drinks a lot and smokes a lot. A weed? Weed, cigarettes, yeah. He drinks. A daily? All the time. All the time. Oh, God. This is, he's fucking

numbed out. He's got issues. That's what I see. Yeah, he's numbed out. Yeah, I think he's, I think he's, I think, I think he, I think, and listen, nobody needs to drink and smoke weed every single day, okay? Unless they're not happy in reality. Sorry, Kathy, not smoking weed is like on the weekend, sorry. The drinking is every day. How much drinking every day?

I would say, because he drinks hard alcohol. So maybe he doesn't like, let's put in like a Coke bottles. So we'll gauge it. Maybe two to three a day. Of what? Two to three of what? Coke bottles full of what? Beer or whiskey?

No, like heart alcohol. Every day? Every day? Every day? Oh my God. Oh, my God. Okay. Sorry, do you know something?

Do you know the term whiskey dick? Oh my God. You wasted my time. Why don't you say this fact since the beginning? You're wasting my time going to all these other cures. Okay? He's like, got whiskey dick. Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God. You tell him I'm going to, no, no, no. This is the deal you make with whiskey dick here. You tell him, listen. you stop drinking for three months and I'll stop talking about the fact that you can't come. Okay. And let's see if this cures the problem. He needs to do something here too.

I mean, do you know that there's like a thing called whiskey dick and that means like when guys get too drunk they can't fuck? It's a common problem. No, but this is the thing, Kathy. Like he's not a drunk. Like he's not a drunk. Like he's a controlled. I swear to God, Kathy. Like he's not an alcoholic.

He's drinking three. Coke bottles full of whiskey a day, a small ones? Yeah, like the 500 milliliters. How many glasses? Okay, stop with the Coke bottle. How many glasses of whiskey does he drink every day? Well, it's not whiskey. It's rum or vodka.

Okay, whatever. vodka, rum. There's no mixers in there. It's just straight up? Is it straight up? No, with Coke. Okay, with Coke or seven up or something. Okay, how many of those a day?

Stop. How many of those a day or is he fucking drinking? Well, if you want for glasses, I would say, let's say six glasses if we're looking at glasses. Oh my God. People are laughing hysterically at you right now. And if anyone isn't on my side, you're a moron, you're as dumb as Missy. You're not a drunk. Yeah, he might not seem drunk to you. Okay, it doesn't matter. Who needs to drink six glasses of hard alcohol every day on the daily? Well, the people that are listening have to know that it's the bottles. You don't want it know in the bottle standard. So whatever the bottle's standards are of 500 milliliters, that's the glasses.

I'm assuming it's two glasses, 500 milliliters, right? I'm assuming. I don't know. I mean, what is he drinking? He puts it in a Coke bottle? I mean, why can't you just let's what does he drink? Yeah. He drinks it out of a Coke bottle.

So he takes, let's say a Coca-Cola bottle that you get at the corner store. Yeah. He takes a sip of the Coke, takes a sip, and then he puts some vodka or rum or something in it, shakes it, and then he drinks it. He'll have two or three of those. Coke bottles in a day. Oh, my God. He's not alcohol.

Oh, my God. Yes, he is. 100%. That guy is like numbing himself a little bit. What do you think? Alcoholic is someone that's slurring on the side of the street and drooling in a puddle and bumping into walls? Yes, some alcoholics are that way.

But some alcoholics are just having to drink five things of hard alcohol every day on the daily. And then on the weekends, on top of it, he's smoking weed. Oh, my God. Well, that's it. I call them a controlled alcoholic. No, it's called functioning. You're calling you.

That's the correct word. Functioning, like functioning, not functioning. Doesn't matter. Okay. He's not, he should stop drinking. I don't care.

I don't care. I used to go to work and puke in between clients, okay? I haven't drank since I'm 34. Doesn't matter. I never was late for work. I never took off of work. I never, no one thought.

And I didn't even drink every day. And I was able to recognize. I mean, this guy is drinking. Every day he's putting shit in his bottle. That is a prompt. That's a, there's a reason for that. What's so bad if he took away all that alcohol, right?

Because think about what alcohol does. I mean, it's very powerful. I'm sorry. Sometimes, like, I have a friend who dates like a weed head, and he does smoke weed every single day. And sometimes she calls me up and she's just like, oh, my God, this guy said this and that and that. I'm like, you know what, do yourself a favor.

Smoke a big, fatty joint right now. get totally high and then realize that this is where he's at when you're talking to him. When you're talking to him at 4 o'clock in the daytime and you're like just got off of work and you're feeling normal and you're in reality, you are talking to someone who's completely stoned and maybe you forget what that's like. So smoke up, get high and realize that you are trying to talk Chinese to someone that doesn't talk Chinese. This guy is on another planet. Go drink the amount of, do half of what he drinks a day.

drink that every day for a whole month and you tell me if you could squirt okay you're not going to be able to you're going to be numbed out alcohol numbs you seriously it does that's why you can't come stop drinking well for sure i think over the years by doing it let's say he's been doing it for 15 years now the amount because he's only started drinking like that since his separation right so for sure Since his separation. Since his separation. Yeah. So what does that tell you?

He got depressed. Okay, he's a macho guy. This is very common. Okay, this is what it's about. People like being an alcoholic, a sexaholic, a Jesus holic, I mean, you could get addicted to anything. It's anything that takes you away from feeling anything bad, right? Some people just cannot feel something bad because it's so intense, especially a guy

like him who thinks a lot. I'm that personality type. So for me, any kind of bad feeling was an emergency. Get rid of it. Do something. Anything you can to get away. for the hills because no one wants to feel vulnerable. It's a weak, terrible thing, especially a macho man.

He gets divorced, separated, 19 years. He's devastated. But he doesn't want to be devastated. So what happens? You know what takes away devastation? Six glasses of vodka a day. And he's never had to deal with it. He's never had to.

It just shoved it under the rug. And you know what that is? Under that rug is all of his come. Okay? It's all underneath the rug. And it's never coming out unless you let him fuck you in the ass every day. He has, he is drinking too much. much. He has, he's depressed. He got depressed. He solved the problem of being depressed by drinking. Then he got

used to it. And now it's a habit. And now he can't stop. And it's causing all these problems. And it's causing problems in his relationship. I mean, you wouldn't be calling into my show if this wasn't an issue. And it's bullshit because it is affecting you. Right. So for himself, he's got to do it. And also for his relationship. You have to have a serious talk with him about his alcohol. And you need to read up about issues with alcohol. Maybe you don't want to call him an alcoholic. People are so afraid. to use that word. Who cares? He's got a problem. He doesn't need to be drinking that much every day. That's the reason why he can't come. Yeah. And he knows. I tell him, drinking between two and three bottles of your vodka Coke mix every day. It's crazy. But for him, he's able to function.

It doesn't matter. But there was this really great woman, Elizabeth Vargas. She was like a ABC news correspondent. And she was so amazing. She came on and really told her story about being an alcoholic. And most of the time, people can function. And tons of people do. Alcoholics, the people that have issues are hardcore maniacs. They could do anything they want to do. Okay.

It's not a weak person goes and does that, okay? Alcoholics are fucking cool people. But let me just tell you, it doesn't matter that you're functioning. A lot of people are that way. That doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean anything that he goes to work every day and he walks around. I mean, he's half cocked out of his mind. How does he drive like that?

If he got stopped by a cop, I mean, does he stink like alcohol all day long? There's no way he doesn't smell. No, because like I said, it's not, it's not like he's drinking like straight up vodka or rum. He's mixing it with a Coke or seven-up. The fact that he's put, yeah, he's mixing it because he needs to drink all day long. And he doesn't want anyone to know. It's an undercover drink. I see that at work.

People think he's drinking a Coke, but he's drinking alcohol. That's fucked up. That's not functioning, that living alive. Sorry, does he work for somebody else? Yes, he does. This Memorial Day, shop one of Avocato's biggest mattress sales of the year and fall in love with sleep again. At Avocado, better sleep starts with better materials. Our certified organic mattresses are crafted without compromise, using high-quality organic materials that bring comfort and support into perfect balance.

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That's a fucking problem. And he knows that any grown adult knows that you can't go to work drinking. That's why he's putting in a Coke bottle. I mean, if he thought it was fine, he'd just be bringing the vodka out. It'd be on his desk at work and pour it up. This is fine. He knows it's not fine. That's why he puts it in the cocaine.

So why are you doing something that you know is not right? Something's wrong there. Therein lies your problem. I mean, come on. It's so obvious. No, I get it. No, for sure. I don't think you get it.

For sure. Because, listen, you're so lucky you're not an addict, so you don't understand the addict brain. I am. Go listen to my episode where I quit drinking, okay? I quit drinking when I was 34 and haven't drank since. But it's not a coincidence that this started after he got out of his relationship.

Like I said, it started a way of dealing with his issues so he didn't have to deal with him. It was probably very overwhelming how terrible he felt. And like I said, a little vodka goes a long way. So does weed. For sure. It's why some people smoke weed every day of their whole life because it takes it away. Takes it a fucking way. But there's not no consequences. Look at the consequences that he has. He

really needs therapy. I don't care what kind of a macho man he is. The truth about his alcohol use, like over time, he might eventually start becoming unfunction, unfunctional. I mean, that's what happened to me. Like, eventually it catches up to you. I'm sorry. It's not. Oh, really? Yes. How long has he been divorced or broken up? I would say like maybe 10 years. Yeah. Well, call me in five years from now. I'm just saying this is like a real problem. Like he should try to quit. I don't know. Do you get really drunk when you're fucking him ever?

Do you guys drink? I've never. I hate drinking. I'm like I'll drink like one drink and I'm like, but I mean, but drink like I said half of what he did drink and see if you, how long it takes you to orgasm. It's going to take longer.

It's definitely going to take longer because it kind of numbs you out. It takes you someplace else. He's doing it for a reason. Like why else would he be drinking alcohol every day? Why? Why? Seriously, if it's not to avoid something and if it's not for some sort of reason that I'm saying, why would he be putting it in his drink and you don't? Like, why? Can you tell me that?

Well, the only, I've asked a question because I've grown up with a father that does the exact same thing. Oh, my God. Seriously, I swear to God, I'm not even okay. What do you mean? I'm laughing because that just makes sense. I'm not laughing because that's so absurd. No, no. This is your dad. You're dating your dad. No, don't see that. It's okay. Remember that guy I told you that couldn't get it up? He was my father.

Okay, that's why I was so horny for him. No, I'm really serious. We all date our parents. That's how we get over our issues with them. So tell me about your dad. Go ahead. No, no. We're not talking about my dad,

but my dad did the same thing, right? But with him, with my boyfriend, I asked him, like, really, why his life so bad. Yeah. It's so bad that you have to drink. And his thing is he's like, no, he's like, I work a hard day. Because he works a very physical job. So he's like, I just like to come home and have a drink.

So some days he'll have one, some days he'll have two, some days he'll have three. But he's not drinking at work. Yeah, he is. Okay. So listen, you can't believe him. He's not in, he's no, no addict, like when they're in their functioning behavior, sees the forest from the trees. He's in it.

You can't believe what he says to you. And listen, he's not lying to you. It's not like he knows the truth and he's manipulating you and lying to you just to get you to not think he's an alcoholic. He doesn't get it yet. He hasn't hit his bottom. He doesn't realize and doesn't want to realize because if you realize it, then you have to do something about it.

And that point in anyone's life is horrifying because that means giving it all up and going through the pain of like reality and all that other stuff. I went through it. I went through that whole journey. I get why people hold on to their six drinks a day. okay because going through quitting that and getting back to reality and becoming your full self and dealing with your issues and sweeping everything out from under the rug and cleaning up your house takes time but it changes your life for the better this guy is he's got a problem he's got

an alcohol problem no alcoholic says I do it because I can't handle my emotions and I feel so terrible and drinking makes me happy nobody says that just they all say exactly what he tells you for this or that or I just like it nobody But they're not going to tell you the truth because they don't know the truth. Yeah. If they knew the truth, they would to be doing it. Yeah. If you're happy with themselves.

But I don't know. It's honestly, like I said, it's a flip because I see that he's super happy. But then, you know, he always is going. Yeah. Okay. Well, yeah, he's super happy. I'd be super happy too if I was drinking vodka every day, times a day. He's, I think alcohol does sort of create a little bit of a buzz.

change a scenario and does add a sort of feeling to your day or your night or your date or your whatever, that feels fucking good. It's a high. It gives you a fucking high. He's fucking high. And on the weekends, he adds weed and he gets even higher. So of course he's quote unquote happy. Is he really happy? I personally don't think so. Maybe other people are screaming at the podcast. Like, you're wrong, Kathy, blah, blah, blah. But the people that are saying that are probably weed heads, alcoholics. Okay, I'm sorry. So many people are escaping reality on a daily basis because nobody wants to feel anything

but good or happy. People think it's like a terrible thing. I'm going to tell you, feeling every emotion is happiness. That's where you feel the best. Living in reality, reality is great. If you're not used to dealing with it, it's a scary thing. And this is a guy that has issues. And your dad had the same issues.

And it's not a coincidence that you wind up. here with this guy dealing with the same thing. So I say go there. Go to the drinking. Shut the fuck up about him not coming. Just fuck him. Get him a thing. But I don't know. Maybe look into seeing if he's open to maybe not drinking. If he doesn't have a problem, just don't drink for a week. Could he do that? Could he try not to drink for one month? I mean, I tried all those kinds of things. It's a test. You could do it. I used to do it. Like, oh, I won't drink this and I won't drink that. And you try a lot of different things, but you always wind up back. But I would, I mean, that's your guy's real issue. And you're, to me, you're dating somebody that has issues and is checking out a lot of

the time. So you're going to have to deal with that the way that you deal with it. Going back to the sex thing, I would try not to talk about it or have him go to a doctor. It just sounds, and this is very typical to me of someone who's just using alcohol to solve their problems. Like, he doesn't want to do anything to solve his problems. He already solved it, right? He just pours a little in, Coke bottle shakes it up, drinks it. You tell him therapy, go to a doctor. Like, he doesn't want to do any of that stuff. That stuff is like the work. But eventually, maybe he has to know that like, this is what you want in a relationship. Can you see yourself 10 years from now with this guy and never see come again in your life? Well, that's the thing.

What is the thing? What is the answer to that? Honestly, at this point, like, the sex is really good and I do love them. Uh-huh. But at the same time, I do need the come. I do. I do. need the validation but at the same time am I willing to give up like the best sex of my life just for liquid I mean it's a good question I don't I can't answer that right now because I honestly I'm like I'm in my cloud nine I'm in like the best time of my life right now and I do see the the good in what he has but yeah I mean well listen just because we wind up with our parents doesn't we have to leave our parents. There's something really magical about winding up with someone who is kind of like your parents and rewriting that history. In 10 years from now, if you could get that guy to

quit drinking, it's that little girl that helped their father. And there's nothing, there's something beautiful about that. So I don't necessarily believe that you have to leave this person. But if you can't change him, you have to change yourself. And so maybe for right now, because the sex is great, and because you know that he has this issue and he's not interested in doing anything to fix it, then you have to decide that maybe you need to reframe sex with him and know that sex is, because sex is great with you guys, like you said. It feels good. It's great.

And who cares if he comes? You got to let go of it. Yeah. For now. Just let go. Yeah. And it is what it is just to enjoy the moment. And you are enjoying it.

You said it's like the best sex you ever had in your whole life. It is 100%. Yeah. I think that that's great. I'm having normal orgasm and my squirting. So the combined is crazy, which is out of this world. So I mean, at least I'm getting off. So at least one of us is getting off.

And that's what's important. Yeah. And work on the people pleaser and you, the giver and you. This is a guy that's really showing you. Just take. Just be take. You didn't take your whole life. You just sat there and gave blowjaws.

You swallowed jizz your whole life. Just be like kind of reframe it and be like, oh thank God I don't have to do any of that shit anymore you don't have to worry about getting pregnant you don't have to swallow jizz you try to reframe it in a way that works for you because you are having fun if you take away your sort of need to have him come to make some part of you feel okay let go of it just let go of it that you have the power to do that in you it's not like you you can orgasm you could orgasm for the first time in your life yeah so enjoy every moment yeah and forget about the and stop talking him about it and stop because you're you're you're talking about it you're bringing it up

let go of it yourself you know what I mean with him and for you yeah no you're right I love this conversation I don't know you don't agree with me you don't even think your guy has an alcohol problem but I do but I love this conversation and I love to hear what the people have to say yes me too listen a lot of times on you like YouTube or even on my Patreon when people comment and I go after them I don't agree while people will be like, oh, you can't get, you can't handle it. I'm like, no, I love a good debate. I love an episode like this that is going to have people seeing both sides of things. People saying, you're fucking wrong, Kathy, or blah, blah, blah.

But I love a debate. So I debate back. Some people have a problem with that. But what's the problem with that? I love a good debate. I love that I think some people are going to agree with me. Some people aren't. But the drinking is still an issue.

I don't care if he was coming all the time. I'd still say, you still say you are with an alcoholic and he needs to stop drinking. for sure. And the fact that your dad was the same way is like you're kind of rewriting history. So you should deal with that. So I just think that we're going to hear a lot of different things, which I love. Okay. I love that. I love that. And I love this conversation. I'm so glad that you seriously. And keep me posted. I want to know six months from now. And what happens to you? Listen, I think what would be really interesting is just for you, forget about him, right? Just for you. If you stop talking about it and you reframe it and you let go of the need for him to come and just enjoy that pleasure

without having to worry about that. Who are you six months from now? Like maybe you're even more empowered and more horny and more everything. And what does that do for you? Like I said, you could only change yourself. You can't change him. And that's something you have control over and you could do it. So let go of that.

And six months from now, tell me, email me and say, I haven't talked about it. I don't care anymore. and this is how I feel. Or tell me something else. I don't know, but keep me posted, okay, please. I will 200% keep me posted. I love it. I'm so glad you wrote in. I love stuff like this.

Thank you so much for calling in, Missy. And sharing your story. Thank you. It was such a pleasure. Yeah. Now, do you want to? I don't know if you want to. I have a Patreon.

I forgot. I have a Patreon where mostly the female sent me an anonymous hot picks of themselves, nothing like X-rated or anything. And just so you know, also, because you called in, I'll give you free access to my Discord, and you could go in there and talk to people. and there's like over 1,900 people there. By the time you get on, they'll be like over 2,000.

And people might help you. You know what I mean? You're going to find people there that might have a lot of solutions for you. I will give you free access to my Discord and you could go in and say, hey, this is Missy and talk to people and stuff. But do you want to send in like an anonymous picks? For sure. 100% I'll do it.

All right. Awesome. Send me some anonymous picks for my paycheck. Send me those sooner than later. This will definitely be up soon. So send them, like I said, ASAP. And thanks so much for calling in. This was fascinating.

And good luck with everything. for copy. Awesome. Thank you. Take care. Bye, missy. Bye. Okay. I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available, not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories, 17 of them.

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