Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 887 - FACT OR FICTION: Nick and his Wife Hook up with Other People

Episode Date: August 3, 2024

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Okay. Now, if you love my show, give me a five-star review. Now, today I have a Nick called in to talk about the fact that him and his wife are swingers and have done a lot of stuff together. But it turned into a little bit more of a, like a guy going to glory holes in the beginning of his story. And we talk about that.

And then he wound up getting married and him and his wife had some solo play with a guy. And then they had a threesome. And then they went to parties. And then they went to swingers clubs. And then they've had some solo play. And he talks about all those stories. But I'm going to get right to it. and get right back on with Nick.

Hey, Nick, Nick, right? That's what I'm calling you. Welcome to this strictly anonymous podcast. How are you doing today? Nick. I'm fantastic. Kathy, how are you? Good.

I had a boyfriend named Nick, and we called him Big Dick Nick because he had the biggest dick I'd ever seen and he was like perfect. Big Dick Nick. He's in my book. Awesome. Listen, Nick, you, I don't know if you have a big dick,

but what I do know about you is that you are a swinger. You and your wife are swingers. And that's all I know. That's all I need to know. My curiosity is going to run. rest of the call. My first question would be like, how long have you guys been together? How long have you been married? And when did you, those are my three questions, my top three questions. And when did you start swinging? Been together for 13, probably years, married for 11 and been in a lifestyle for two

and a half years now. Oh, okay, great. So walk me through what was going on before. Give me a brief overview of your life before. Were you guys totally vanilla or were you always super kinky? Well, I can speak for myself. For me, it probably started honestly, I don't know, in my childhood, in the sense that nothing, nothing of a bad sexual nature, but just kids being kids, playing curiosity, playing doctor, stuff like that. I think maybe that kind of spurred a little bit of my sexual curiosity and interest. So probably in my 20s, 25, 30, somewhere in there, kind of had my first experience gone to an adult bookstore, walked in, not knowing at all what I would encounter found the sort of porn shop in the front with all the toys and this and that

the other and then saw the sign for arcade in the back i thought arcade that seems strange what are people playing video games back there oh no went back to the arcade you know found my i kind of figured it out you know go into a little booth okay there's a tv here i can throw a dollar in and watch some porn and and jerk off and that sounded like fun so i did that a time or two and post nut clarity you leave a place like that and you feel kind of yucky but it just it is what it is. And then a couple of trips later on, I went to a different one and there was a hole cut in the side of the wall and I thought, what is this? And next thing I know, there's a finger sticking through that hole. And I was just like, all right, well, I kind of figure out what I'm

supposed to do here, stuck my dick in the hole and got my dick sucked and it was just really hot. And yeah, it was a great, it was a great experience. Now, again, post-nut clarity, I walked out of there and I went, I think I just had my dick sucked by a man. Yeah, you definitely did. Exactly. And conflicted about that briefly. I was like, does that make me gay? Is that a weird thing?

But frankly, it felt so good. And it was such a rush that I just sort of discounted that after a while. And I thought, oh, no, it's just sexual enjoyment for what that's worth. So a handful of experiences like that. Then fast forward, we meet my wife. We met online. dated for a short time, got married. Pretty much immediately, we were both in our 30s when we got together.

And then about three years ago, I just sort of felt like I needed to talk to my wife about some of my experiences going to the adult bookstore. And I had actually discovered your podcast along with a few other ones. I was communicating on kick. It's an app that a lot of people talk about on your podcast. Communicating with a guy on there, we were, in theory, we were passing pictures back and forth. of our wives and talking about how awesome it would be to get together and da-da-da-da-da. And he introduced me to your podcast.

So I started listening to your podcasts. Yeah, yeah. I will be totally honest with you, Kathy. That was so open my eyes. Prior to that, I just thought I'm some kind of weirdo. I have these proclivities that I think are probably wrong or something. And then I started listening to your podcast and realized, my goodness, there's so many people out there with some very version of the same stuff going on in their lives.

It totally normalized so much of what I was feeling and experiencing. And so I'm so grateful for that. I love that. That's good. That's what it's all about, really, for sure. Can I ask you a question, though, when you're in that room and you're doing kick and stuff, are you doing all this with your wife's knowledge that you're doing this? Early on, no.

Okay. Before, yeah, when I was first chatting with the gentleman who put me on to your podcast, she didn't know that I was having those, I was having that back and forward. We didn't have a ton of pictures or anything like that, but I had a few kind of racy pictures of my life, so sending a few of those without her knowledge, which again, now that we're fully involved in the lifestyle and the communication is wide open, I realize like that's not, that's not particularly healthy. But there I was doing that. And then that progress and that person that I was communicating with ended up being our very first experience in the lifestyle. Okay, but let's hold off right there and we're going to go right back there. I remember where it is.

I just had a quick question. I just have a couple of questions about even. even before you got married. You went to that adult bookstore. You had your first blue job from a guy post-knit clarity. You're like, what the fuck. But you kept going back and went back a bunch of times, he said, right? Did you ever outside of the adult bookstore ever wind up hooking up with guys?

Or was it always like gloryhole experiences? It was always glory whole experiences or adult bookstores. Okay, cool. And now you told your wife, right? That's what you said. You told her? I did. So, you know, it was, I had gone a handful of times over the course of,

Your marriage? Of our marriage. Yeah, I had gone a handful of times. Again, during those like early childhood years where there wasn't a lot of sex necessarily going on. And I just, yeah, I was driven to satisfy that particular need. So again, in hindsight, those are not the health-vious behaviors. But that's why I did ultimately feel like I needed to talk to her about it. Because one way or the other, I just needed to get that stuff off of my chest.

and I, of course, just had my fingers crossed that she would be understanding. Oh, my God. How did that conversation go? Because basically, you were copying two kind of big things, if you asked me as a woman. Like, A, I cheated on you. And B, I cheated on you with a dude in a glory hole. Oh, my God. It's kind of heavy.

Like, what did she say? I know. I know, right? Well, I guess the way I framed it, the way I started, the way I frame was I'm talking to this guy on kick. And, hey, he's really interested in potentially. playing with us. Maybe his wife would be involved. Maybe it would be a swap kind of situation. So that's, you know, the initial conversation with my wife was, hey, I'm, I'm really interested in

exploring the lifestyle, which I had learned all of these terms from your podcast. And I explained her what that was. And like so many women, I'm sure her initial reaction was, you just want to, you know, have an excuse to go out and have sex with other women. And I said, absolutely not. I actually realized that I'm turned on by the thought of you having relations with somebody else, and I'm totally open to that as our first experience. We can go find another guy, and that can be our first experience. So I tried to put her mind at ease in the sense that it was as much about her pleasure as... I don't think you got my question. My question was, you told your wife that you went and cheated on her with guys in an adult bookstore. How did that conversation go? And you're

telling me about the conversation about having a threesome with a guy. What I want to know is when you told her, you told me that you told her, right? And you copped to it. You needed to get that off your back. How did she react? Because that was way before you started kicking with that guy, right? It was in the same time frame. The specifics of that, I guess, I think she reacted fairly positively.

She has several good friends who are gay. We don't either one of us come from. You were cheating on her. You literally copped to the fact that you went behind her back and somebody else's mouth was on your cock in a thing and it was a guy she obviously probably never didn't know you had hooked up with dudes before that's like kind of double whammy you don't remember your conversation she wasn't upset like you cheated on me when i was taking care of the babies i have to be honest i don't believe so now when she listens to this podcast and she reflects back on it she might she has a different

you're either lying or your wife's going to be like spitting her coffee out right now and be like are you like living in denial right now because there's no way as a woman she didn't have any feelings about it. Come on. I assure you she knows. I assure you she knows what's going on. I think, yeah, I do recall vaguely a couple of the details of our, of that first conversation included, well, hey, let's not do that anymore. If you're going to do that, let's, let's at least talk about it first. But there was nothing about, like, cheating. Like, it's cheating. Like, the word cheating

never came up. It wasn't like. I guess she didn't, I guess she didn't either, either was not the same thing because it was with guys in an adult bookstore or something. There there was no emotional involvement or attachment. It was just these really sort of... Were there any questions about your sexuality? Yeah, I think so. What do you mean you think so? She either would have asked you or not.

How long ago did this happen? You're either really dumb or you're lying. No, it happened three years ago. I would definitely think you're lying, but I think sometimes guys are just clueless and they don't remember and they have things so compartmentalized that you can't even remember a fucking conversation. Girls like girls, us, me, like a girl, like your wife, like we would remember every detail of these kinds of scenarios, okay?

The fact that you don't, like I said, is either you're lying or I'm sorry, I know men, there's a good chance. It's just clueless. Like, you don't even remember. Well, to be fair, like I said, it was not about, I think she was probably much more concerned with the idea of emotional attachment with other women. we did talk about the fact that I had that curiosity and I'm sure I don't exactly know where she's at as far as processing that or thinking through that It was three years ago.

I know and we've continued to talk about it as part of our lifestyle journey We've never, we haven't really explored it together. What a Gloria? We did. Huh? Okay. I know I'm never going to get it. Is your wife going to listen to this episode?

Have her call my Confessions Hotline and tell me how this is what I want to know, wifey, okay? Please tell me. how you felt when your husband came to you and said, hey, babe, by the way, when you were tending to our babies and you were in over your head, I was getting my dick sucked by a bunch of guys in an adult bookstore. Tell me how you felt when he told you that. Because that's the way, I'm sorry, that's the way I would hear it as a girl.

I'm sorry. Fair enough. I'll happily ask her. Have her call the Confessions Hall and it'll add it to a confession episode. Let's move on. Or if she wanted to have her own phone call. She said, no, yeah, yeah, let's move on. Yeah, yeah.

And listen, you know what? Listen, if she tells me, like, I would love to talk to a woman that kind of got that information and was like, you know what, Kathy? I didn't really think it was that big of a deal. Or if she saw it the way you're saying she saw it and that's true, like that's super interesting. I'm always down to hear something that I don't think is true because, but from her mouth would be super interesting. That's why I'm curious because as a woman, this is what I assume. But I don't fucking know. And you don't know, obviously.

And you were there. I would love to hear my life. about some of this stuff and and I think I'm more so the one who's willing to to talk about it more openly and and she I know what you don't remember important information but let's move on okay so let's get to the hot story so you want to what it's worth yeah for what if I may I'm sorry to interrupt you but if I may the first guy that we played with this guy that I was talking to on kick is bisexual or was claimed to be bisexual and so our first few interactions I've never been in the lifestyle before never done any of this stuff

I was like, maybe I'm going to go meet up with an ice murderer. What do I know? I actually met him in the parking lot of an adult theater. And we went in, we brought each of us a pair of our wife's panties. And we exchanged those. And we went into an adult theater and jerked off in each other's wife's panties, which is awesome. Oh, my God. I had a story.

I remember the first time I heard of guys doing that. And I was like, oh, my God, PSA to women. Because this were two guys that did it when their women's went off to a work business trip. I was like PSA to women that pack up their bags and go away for work. is what your guys are doing. He would never fucking believe sniffing each other's wife's panties. It's not the first time I've heard it, but it's so crazy.

No woman would ever think. But let me ask you this. And I'm going to get back to that specific story. Did your wife know you were going to meet him at this point? This is all now in the open, right? No cheating? Yes. Yes. So it's just a weird, it's just weird how this worked out. So

I didn't know anymore. I didn't really, I hadn't delved into Polly, Amory, or boyfriend experience or any of that. stuff up to this point. I just said, okay, this guy's real cool. I think my wife would like him. I'm going to put the two of them and, you know, contact with one another on kick. So then they started kick messaging each other back and forth. And it was a little bit of a boyfriend, girlfriend experience. Like he was texting her about, oh, how much I can't wait to see you and da da da da da, da, and back and forth. And so it just built up that kind of sexual tension and

energy and then we agreed that before we met before she met him i was going to meet him in person to make sure he was a reasonable human being so that's how that worked out okay but did she know you you were also going to bring her panties and like jerk off with this guy or did she think you were going to have a beer with him she gave them oh okay so she's down for you to be by with a guy and stuff yeah so when we had our first experience with this guy he played with me a little bit And we had talked about it before the whole thing happened, how maybe he and she would suck me together or vice versa. That specific thing didn't end up happening. But he played with me in front of her.

And again, I can't sit here and say that I know it just turns her on to the end of degree. I think we're kind of discovering that she's less, as I think most women are less visual and more, you know, it's more in her head. So recently when I've told her about some experiences, it's turned her on a great deal. Whereas I'm not sure, like, seeing me in person in the same way. room is necessarily as enticing to her as it is to me. But that day, she's like, you go meet and play outside of our marriage solo the first time and do whatever you want with this guy. And you got, and she's like, here's some panties to take.

Yeah. Okay. Yes. Correct. Okay. So you meet this guy. And where do you take the panties into the adult theater or you're like in the car? Yeah.

No, we took them into the adult theater. And it was kind of an odd, like, we didn't want to go to the arcade section because you can't really chit-chat or whatever. So in this particular arcade, you could rent a small room and watch your own movie in there with whoever you chose to go in there with. So he and I went into this room, had a couch. We just sat next to each other on the couch, turned on a porn, and kind of started to jerk off and just talked about hot, sexy stuff. And that was the extent of that very first meeting. Now, do you know if that guy's wife knew? Was she in the know too? Or was she? I'm almost positive she did not. So in hindsight, in hindsight, it was probably this guy just out trying to have some fun,

whether his marriage was in shambles or whatever the case. No, he could have been perfectly fine. He's just doing that on the side. Trust me. Most guys aren't bringing it to the table that they're hooking up with other guys behind their wives' backs. But a lot of guys are doing it. Just look at my episodes full of by guys. And sometimes they're not by, whatever.

But, you know, guys sucking dicks, smelling panties, jerking off with each other. most of them are not telling their wife. Like I said, I still need to hear your wife's version of why it seems to be so fine with her. So she was like down. The fact that you got a free pass to go and sniff another wife's panties and her panties at the same time with the guy jerking off. Like most women probably would be like, fuck no. So that guy, I'm sure, a gun to my head, I would say no. His wife didn't know too for sure.

Yeah, 100%. I tend to agree with you. And hindsight's 2020. If we had known all of that, given what we know now, we would have been a lot more. or, hey, I don't care if she doesn't want to play. Whatever's the case, we just need to know that she's aware. So she needs to communicate or whatever. But we were so new to everything and it was exciting and fun.

And she and he were having this connection. And so our very first, to recent experience was probably even to date, hottest one we had. So walk us through that. So wait, can I ask you a quick question when you come home from that night with that guy? Does your wife, like, want to know details or is she, like, not into it? I think she wanted to know some details. She wasn't like, she wasn't like fawning over wanting to know every last little detail. She's not, I think she has to be in a particularly, in a particular mood to get really, really excited about that stuff.

But I think she wanted to know what happened. And I basically told her, told her the basics. And it was definitely exciting. And then it was just maybe a day or two later that she met up with him. solo. So her very first experience in the quote-unquote lifestyle was a solo meeting with this guy. Well, he was on at the lunch break. They met in the park and got in his truck and had some fun. So the very first time I'm ever getting any sort of pictures or otherwise communication was like, yeah, it was like during a lunch break. I think I was working out at the local gym and I started getting a couple of pictures and text.

And it was like that was like the instant that I knew that this was for me because I was just so turned on. I was just like, this is awesome. Yeah, well, let me ask you this. Were there ever any conversations about any kinds of rules or anything that you guys had going in? Yes and no. I think by the point in time where we were actually playing, where we actually met this guy for our threesome,

we had talked about all the rules that you hear about on your podcast, no kissing, and all those other kinds of things. And frankly, we moved past that very quickly. We recognized that that was just part of like, making a connection with another person.

But she wanted to go play solo. She was fine with you playing solo. Because a lot of times solo plays it on the table. That was like right from the get-go, we're both playing solo with this guy. Bye-bye. I know. Interestingly enough, that was our first experiences were separate from one another. I think just basically because of convenience sake and they were, they wanted to,

she wanted to have that experience and meet this person. I think we both agree that in many situations, separate room plays. is honestly kind of preferable. Like when we're together, oftentimes me watching her become such a distraction that it's sort of a detriment to the person that I should be paying attention to. I don't know if the vice versa is necessarily true,

but I found that to be true for myself, like in house party situations or puppy pile situations or whatever, I have to kind of get over the voyeurism. I want to watch my life. Like that, that is kind of a driver, probably for me. So sometimes when we have the opportunity for separate room play, it's just kind of nice because that is off the table. Yeah, but the first time your wife is like going out

to hook up with another guy without you, did you have any kind of worry that you'd be jealous or, I don't know, that you would feel a certain way, or were you just totally excited and knew you'd be fine with it? At that point, no, I didn't have any, I didn't really have any reservations or concerns because at that point they'd been sexting with each other for days and weeks and so sending pictures back and forth and we kind of had like live video chat sex a couple of times and i didn't of course it was it was different obviously the actual physical act between the two of them i got pictures basically of her jerking him off and giving him head and then she described that he it was like in the back of his truck so it was pretty awkward but

he gave her oral and fingered her and the way she described it she was like it was my first time, super nervous in this guy's truck, like, I didn't come or anything. He did. And basically, when we got back together, it was just hot. Like, I just saw her walking in the kitchen, and I knew what she had just been up to, and I just gave her the biggest kiss. And it was just like that you just turn on. And then so many people who've kind of had their first experience, we just had days and weeks of fucking, like, rabbits just basically just based on all that energy around that experience. And then it was like maybe a couple of, I think it was a couple of weeks later that we ended up getting an Airbnb and inviting this guy over and having our first three-sum. Now, were there any rules at that threesome or was it kind of like a free-for-all?

She was down to see you with another guy. You couldn't wait to see her fuck the guy finally this time? Yeah, there were no rules aside from the fact that my wife just does not enjoy anal of any kind. So that was never discussed, really, or that wasn't part of the equation. But otherwise, yeah, there were no particular rules going into that experience. Okay, so what happened then? It was awesome. Of course, we're both super nervous.

We get this Airbnb, and we don't know until the minute he pulls up that he might just flake out. We had both met him at that point, so it seemed pretty likely. But we kind of, I think, we're starting to get the impression that he was probably doing this on the down low. So who knows if he was going to flake out. So we see him pull up. Oh, my gosh. He's actually coming. Got the music, got the snacks, all the stuff. He comes upstairs.

And it just really flowed very naturally. Like he came in to the apartment. We're all kind of sitting around this high bar top table, having a snack, chit-chatting for a moment. And then she's kind of sitting between the two of us. And immediately we just both kind of start pawing at her. Like she's wearing, I think, a little short kind of Vegas cocktail black dress or something like that. And so we both kind of kind of.

to have one hand on either of her knees and kind of working our hands up upper leg. And I think then there was just like some light making out that kind of ensued. And then we moved to the couch. And she was between us, had both her cocks out playing with us, giving us both head. And it just progressed from there. I think there's sex between. I have not. To this point, I haven't had sights with a man.

Like the most I've done is receive oral, frankly. So, but yeah, there's sex going on. She had brought a couple of different outfits, so she had a couple of little outfit changes, which was super hot. I went as long as I could, and then I came and I take a while to, like, get back into the swing of things. So I sort of had my, had my fun. And this other guy, he was able to come and then minutes later kind of get back into it.

And so they had a couple more little play sessions, I think, in the shower and a few other places. And then after probably two hours or so, he left and we went out to dinner. With him or alone? No, no. The two of us went out to dinner alone and just kind of looked at each other like, oh, my gosh, we just did that. How awesome was that? And we both just, we were, I think both of us were just pretty ecstatic. That was super exciting.

It was super fun. We'd just been 10 years married and I think our sex life was perfectly reasonable and healthy. and fine, but it's just such a thrill. And so how long ago was that experience? That was three years ago, and I was offered an opportunity to go to a fitness class for a week. And as it happened, my wife had to fly home to do a family for a period of time. So while she was gone and I was there by myself, I had an opportunity to hook up with a single mom, which was fun. Nothing crazy.

But with your wife's okay. How does it get to be like, you guys now had a threesome with a guy? When do you discuss that you're going to have solo plays with women? I wasn't really discussed. I didn't have any intention or for knowledge of this happening. I got the opportunity to do this teaching stint. And there I was by myself talking to my wife every day, as most married couples would do. And I said, hey, today I was at my class.

And I met this person. And then I saw her later that day. And she's clearly pretty into me. And don't know where this might lead or whatever. But just so you know, that's a possible. And honestly, over the phone, she was like, yeah, you should do that. That sounds like fun. That sounds awesome. So I think she kind of without verbalizing it, realized like she gets really turned on by thought of what I might be doing. Okay. So yeah, we were flirting back and forth. And at one point, she just invited me to come back to her room for something. So I went back to her room with her. And then she just said, hey, why don't she sit on this chair? And then she sat across from me. And she started. It was pretty clear that she was pretty horny. And then next thing I know, she propped her feet up in my lap and started basically massaging my dick through my swim trunks with her feet.

And one thing led to another, and she started giving me head. And I don't think we finished at that point. We said, oh, we're going to, we're going to pause this, go back down to the pool and meet up later. And we did. We ended up meeting later. And we had, but we did have sex. And it was, it was fine. It wasn't.

I wouldn't say it was like anything. just amazing, but it was an enjoyable, fun, exciting experience. I got to tell my wife about it, and she was clearly turned on. And then a couple of months later, we just met another guy, and then there was some chemistry there I could kind of tell. And so at one point, I sort of would like, you go have fun and see what you can, see what kind of fun you can get into with this guy. So she did. They had their fun. A couple of days, a couple of days, maybe a week later, we had an opportunity to meet him, the three of us. And so we had a chance to play the three of us together and that was also really fun.

And that was, yeah, that was kind of the extent of our experiences in the foreign country. We really only had a few opportunities to play. And it's really only been since we moved to the Southwest about two years ago that we really got into the quote unquote lifestyle because there's such a, such a lot of it here. Oh, really? That's just my impression. I don't know. There seems to be quite a healthy, quite a healthy community here between Cassidy and all the

variety of different groups that have popped up around here. aware of it. Okay, so what have you done there? So here we've had a lot of first. We've had our first, we've done our first hotel takeover. We've done our first several, well now several house parties. I guess that would be the extent of it. A few, a few couples dates, frankly, we have a harder time with couples dates just because maybe there's a bit more pressure there or it's a bit harder to like really get to know what people are like when you just communicate online until you meet them in person and as a family with a couple of young kids for us to get a babysitter and do all the things to even go out is enough of a challenge that to go out and then meet a

couple and just immediately go out this was a mistake can be pretty frustrating well tell me about the house parties how do you hear about them and then what was the first one like and what exactly went down yeah so we actually learned about a club that we live pretty nearby so there's actually a club here didn't know what to expect going to that but we went one evening It was 100 bucks to get in, go inside. And it's kind of like a friendly dive bar atmosphere with a bunch of rooms sort of on the perimeter of this of this bar, dance floor area where people can clearly go and play.

So our very first time going to that, we met a handful of people. And with a handful of people that we met while we were there, that very first night, a couple of them were good enough to say, hey, give us your phone number so we can keep in touch. And we did so. And then a few weeks later, we were invited to a New Year's Eve party that was lifestyle friendly.

It wasn't maybe explicitly meant just to be lifestyle, but it was lifestyle friendly. We went to this New Year's Eve party, had a great time, met a bunch more people. And again, just through meeting a variety of people at that New Year's Eve party, kind of got more, became more aware of a few of the house party circuits, if you will, or house party groups. Okay, but what happened at that first club? At the club? At the club? Yeah. So we walked in. You get a tour. The proprietor takes you around on a quick tour.

It was the first time we'd seen St. Andrew's Cross and some of these other things that were all set up there as part of the playroom activities. And then I think we did just sort of like he sort of said, okay, well, here you go. So we got. So we got through our, we got through with our tour, we got a drink, we sat down. And we were kind of looking around and just waiting for a couple to come up to us or how is this supposed to work? Am I supposed to just walk over to some woman who's part of a couple and start hitting on her? We just didn't know really what the etiquette was. So I believe a couple who was more experienced did just kind of come over to us and started talking to us. And it was very clear that we were brand new there, never been there before. These people just sort of took us under their wing and chatted.

And after a period of time, sort of like 9, 10 o'clock is when people all roll into this place. And 10.30.11 is when it's sort of like a light. switch flips and all of a sudden there's a lot of play going on. So I think it was this couple that just sort of said, hey, do you want to come into one of the rooms and play? And it ended up being us and maybe two other couples in a room together. It was fun. Everyone got naked.

I think the wives all started blowing the husbands and there was no guy and guy action. That does not seem to be very prevalent in at least sort of these public venues or these more public forums, the house parties, the clubs. I haven't seen clear evidence of that. Maybe I haven't met or become part of the right group yet. Okay. Was there a couple swapping? I mean, your wife, though, like, did a girl go down on your wife?

She allows girls to go down on her? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So one couple in particular that we had chatted with a bit, the wife, the woman, asked if she could go down on my wife, and she said yes. So I know that the two of them, I know that the woman played with my wife to an extent, and she enjoyed it and I think her husband kind of jumped in and the two of them, my wife and this other, the husband of the other started playing and then the wife came over to me and we started playing. There was a couple of other men in the room, I believe, so there's a couple of extra dicks

to go around. So the people that we played with there invited us to a New Year's Eve party, which was, I don't know, a month and a half later or something like that. We went to the New Year's Eve party with all these lifestyle friendly people. We didn't play at that party because there was more, so we say recreational drugs and things like that, that we weren't really partaking in and a lot of the other people were. And so it ended up being like 233 in the morning and we're looking at each other going,

I don't think anyone's going to play here. We've got to be functional tomorrow. So we left. But that was just our first experience with a house party like that. A lot of people were half naked and there was definitely a lot of sort of petting and other things going on. just nobody progressed at full sex at that party that we saw. And then, yeah, we just through Cassidy, I think we learned about a couple of other groups that

the gal was alluding to in that episode that I referred back to. I can't remember the number of it now. So she was describing a group where you sort of have, you get interviewed and so forth. And we did the same thing. We went through the same interview process. It was good. And at the time, we thought this is a really good idea to be vetted this way, but anybody else that any of these parties is going to have been bedded the same way.

But ultimately, it's like a subscription model. You pay so much a month. Then you're paying to go to these parties. And it was just more than that that particular group was not one that we continue to follow particularly. Okay. So, but did you go to any parties that you actually hooked up with people? Yeah.

Yeah. So another, again, just a couple that kind of likes to throw parties. It's not really a, they haven't made a business out of its. per se, but they had parties at their house. We went, a lot of people playing in the, or hanging out in the pool, tiny little swimsuits and various different outfits and whatnot. And we're like just married couple showing up, more or less average, I hate to say average Joe,

but it's just sort of like the average married couple showing up and we're like, man, these people look like they do this for a living. And we were there at this particular party with a couple that we had, We're familiar with just from other experiences prior. And although my wife is pretty reserved and definitely not the person to be real outspoken, she will be the person who gets the party started sometimes. So at this first pool party we were invited to, a friend of mine looked at me and she was like, why don't you just had your wife start sucking my dick?

And I was like, that seems like a pretty good idea. That will probably get things going. Sure enough, it did. Next thing I knew we were back in the back room at this house. And people on the bed, people on a St. Andrews Cross, there was like a contraption there where you get like a forced orgasm machine. What's that? What's that? It's like a Hitachi want kind of on a mic stand.

And then you, you strap arms and legs into a thing. And so my wife got set up on that and had a leg shaking, squirting orgasm on that and then played beyond that. So, I don't know. It's pretty awesome. Let me ask you this. Okay, because you did start off this whole episode talking about all that guy and guy action, and then you had that solo, you know, play with that guy. And then your wife and you went into the club scene where there's not a lot of buy stuff going on.

What has gone down with guys with you since you guys have been in the lifestyle? Really, really nothing, which is, I don't know if I should say it's frustrating. Frankly, it's not like what I go out and look for. I'm not sexually excited by men. The idea of playing with men doesn't in and of itself get me excited. have to have porn in the background. I have to have feminine energy in the room or whatever the case. If I knew, basically I'm a pleaser, I feel.

And if I know it's exciting to somebody else, it gets me excited. But no, so there's been no more guy on guy action, so to speak, since really that very first guy that we played with several years ago. So no trips to the adult bookstore or anything like that? No, since we've lived here, yeah, a few times. A few times I have gone and I've told my wife about those. Okay, so that would be considered guy on guy action. Isn't a guy stuck in your dick?

Yes, I'm sorry. You're right. You're right. In the two years we've lived here, I've probably gone three times. But did you tell her? After the fact, yeah. So you come home and say, oh, by the way, I head up a glory hole on my way home and she's cool. She's okay, like wash and cooking a bacon.

Yes. What? Probably not quite that nonchalantly, but yes. But I don't know. I think that those are like things that you would remember. This is where I'm like, I don't understand. You guys are in the lifestyle. A lot of times these kind of shared experiences or even solo experiences or super hot for the other person.

Or there's a don't ask, don't tell thing. Or with like with your wife, it sounds like it's like you could do whatever you want as long as you tell her after. I don't understand. Like you wind up going in and then you say, oh, by the way, when you're like, is it pillow talk at the end of the night? Like when do you tell her? Does she ask questions or she's, that's cool? Does she want details? Does she get turned on by it?

My, my, by curiosity is not like a, is not probably like a focus of our discussions, really. I guess I don't think she gets turned on by that. I think she's probably more turned off. Is it like she never really questions you about it so she doesn't really care? Like, you kind of made it as you kind of made it seem like she's not, she could take it or leave it. She's not very into guy and guy action. Some women are. Yeah, I know.

And I'm really actually curious to know more about how she feels about this stuff. But she's just very reserved in that way. She doesn't really talk about her fantasies. If she has any, she hasn't really brought them to my attention. And meanwhile, we're doing all this really exciting, fun stuff. I can tell she really very much gets off on and enjoys the attention she gets from new male partners. How many male partners has she had besides that one guy? It sounds like you guys have played a lot together.

you went through some house parties and stuff. Has she had any other solo play with a guy? Yes, she has. One of the first friends that we met, I said, hey, if you want to invite him over to our place, well, I'm out working, that's fine. And she did once. So we've sort of done a variety of things one time or two times.

We're definitely not vets in the lifestyle, if you will. But yeah, she's had a couple of solo play experiences. I've had a couple of solo play. Well, what happened with that guy? Did you get picked? Did she come home? Did you reclaim her? How far did she go?

Because the first guy, she just blew him. Do you know what happened for that time? Yeah. So he's a black gentleman and we've been to his house. We've played with him at the club and then he came over to our place while I was at work. And I did say expressly, I'd like to have a couple of pictures. I didn't get a ton, but I got a great picture of her stuck in his dick. And I got a great picture of him talking her doggy style.

have a mirror at the end of our bed. So it kind of took a picture in the mirror of that going on, which is awesome. But don't you question her when she comes home or did you have like great, what is that called? Reclaiming sex after that experience. Do you remember? Ah, so she was actually at home. She was taking, she had him come over to our apartment while I was working. Oh, when you, oh, okay. So later that night, though, when you come home, like when you do wind up having reclaiming sex, like how is it? It was hot. It was, it was great. It was, it was hot. I will say we are not a couple that has reclaiming sex every single time. Honestly, there's times where we get done with a party or something like that and we're both just just tired.

But there is something to it. Definitely if she goes out in that case because she was off on her own and I wasn't around, the reclaiming sex was pretty important to me, I would say. So what out of all the things that you do is like your top of the mountaining? Is it the hot wiping thing when she's playing solo? Do you enjoy that? Is that like a thing for you? I'm starting to kind of

well we've only just done the hot wifing thing where she's gone off on her own a couple of times and really hot for me each time frankly I she's my she's my porn star right she's like the hottest porn star that I know of and so I love the story I love hearing her tell me about her experience and everything when we're together at a party it's great as well but I'm not as inclined to play honestly. Solo, you mean? Yeah, I mean, I will. And I'm looking forward to this weekend. She's actually

leaving town and I'm going to take a friend of ours to a pool party tomorrow. So I'm pretty excited for that opportunity. Just a little different scenario where I'm not with my wife and I'm with somebody else. And it'll just be very interesting to see how that goes. But anything could go down. Yeah. Yeah. We've had some pretty hot experiences recently, went to a house party. I heard on one of your recent podcast episodes, somebody talking about fuck-licking and I did that a little bit. And that was, that was freaking hot for me. I loved it. Did you know it was called fuck-licking? I did. Yeah. Yeah. I got real deep into this situation basically around the time I learned about your podcast and started listening to your

podcast and people were normalizing a lot of the things that I felt. I got real into it and learned all kinds of stuff that I didn't know existed. Yeah, well, that was the first time I heard about Fuck licking. So you and your wife did that. Remind everybody what that is. Well, so in this particular instance, she was on her back and our friend was and I was kind of like leaned over her. And so I was just kind of going down and licking her while this guy was fucking her. And it was frankly just the hottest thing. It was awesome. That's interesting because I feel like when the girl was talking about it was her with the girl and her husband. But for you, it was you and another guy and your wife. So that was like a little twist on the fuck looking.

Your fuck looking is different. A little different. Yeah, exactly, exactly. Yep. Yeah, my wife's not particularly. She professes at times some interest in maybe exploring that. But you hear a lot of people who kind of say over the course of time, they become more accepting or more interested in bisexuality from a female perspective. I feel like you know what you know you like.

If she decides she wants to do that because she feels more comfortable, that's cool. but she may never change your mind i mean listen if she's tried all these other things and she's been with women you know what i mean like in same rooms like whatever she's not interested she's not interested and she might never that's right that is what it is i talk to a lot of women and some women will be like oh i like the the brass and i like to make out with girls but i would never go down on a girl you don't know i mean they're like it's horrified by that so yeah i think if that's not something that you're into you most likely will never be into it because it's not no big deal you know what i mean kind of in there. Yeah. No, I know. You got to like what you like. And if you don't like it,

there's no, if you fake it, it's obvious and it's not, it's not particularly sexy. No, let me ask you this. How has like opening up your marriage and doing all these things like change things for you guys or like how has it affected your relationship? I would say entirely in a positive way. I would say before we started down this road, I was kind of somewhat living a separate, not a separate life, but I just had, I had a lot of things going on in my head that manifested themselves every once in a while, and I didn't feel good about it because I don't want to feel like I'm hiding something for my partner. So to be able to be honest with her about that experience and then to start to share these experiences together has been awesome for us.

I love everything about it. There's definitely some moments of jealous. jealousy and angst and envy and frustration, but altogether it's just like the communication is through the roof, 10 years of marriage, and it's not like we're newlyweds again, but there's just a lot more going on with us than there was before. That's very exciting. And what's like on your guys' bucket lists, or do you just like business as usual or something that your wife wants to do that she hasn't or something that you're like thinking, oh my God, I can't wait for this to happen?

to do this. Well, let me think. We have not been to a resort yet. We've been to lots of local parties and clubs and whatnot, but I've never been to one of those desire or any of those types of resorts. That would be great. You should definitely go there. You'll have a good time. I only hear positive things about those resorts. I do too. I do too. Yeah. It's just a matter of time and money. Yeah. And gosh, I want her to have more opportunities to go out and try the, the hot wiping thing, I think. And what about you with guys? Are you looking for more of those experiences? Or now that you're doing all this other stuff, is that like on the back burner?

Yes and no. I would say we want to, I'm as comfortable, if not more comfortable, with MFF scenarios than I am with couple swaps or with multiple females for the obvious reason. So she's not into girls. So FFM is never going to be a thing. FMF is a possibility that I'd like to,

I'd like to try that once with. with her if she becomes open-minded and willing to do that. And otherwise, more, more threesomes with guys, bisexual guys would be cool just because I'm kind of exploring that side of myself. It's not strictly speaking for me, but if we brought a man into the picture who had some interest in also playing with me, that would just be an extra little layer of excitement for me. Is that harder to find couples where the guy is by? Yeah, I would say so. We haven't found, I haven't found anybody personally yet. I've talked to some people online who've professed in interest and that hasn't really worked out yet. But let me ask me this. Are you guys pitching

yourself as a couple with a by guy or no? Because I feel like that could go either way. It could either if you put it in, it could turn some people off because there is still this weird stigma attached to that. So do you put that in? Are you guys like on apps and stuff? Yeah, I agree with you. on the apps, we started out where we were both open-minded or bi-situational. Like, I'm not, I have no romantic feelings for men. You don't get hit up by a lot of couples with by guys. They're not just out there. I haven't to a great extent yet.

I wouldn't say we're like on all the apps or spending a ton of time on that. But, no. SDC is my new website where I could give people free trial. The reason why I promote SEC, because what I think is great about it is, is because I do believe that it is sometimes very annoying. talking to other people. You get a lot of fakes. You get flakes.

You get so much nonsense. It could be a big, fat waste of time just to find that right couple. But what's great about SDC, when I like about SDC, is you could find swingers clubs and hotel takeovers and meet and greets in your area. So that's a great way to not have to go on apps and just meet people in person right away to get to know the vibe, right? Which I think is actually cool, because I've heard it a million. times and I think it's no different than regular dating. Absor, there's a lot of garbage out there

before you find the right one. So it could be like a time suck for sure. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Some people just talk you to death and back and forth and back and forth and hey, do you want to meet? It's always, I can't. For one reason, another, we can't. This isn't going to work out. And other folks, you get it, you get them chatting just for a brief few minutes and it's, can you meet on Friday? And I'm sorry, this Friday doesn't work for us. And it's like, oh my God, you're wasting my time. Why would you even bother reaching out. Everyone's frustrated. I think everyone's just annoyed about the...

Because they've just been through so much. But I think that that's why it's good to do clubs or meet and greets or stuff like that. And people should use my SDC link. You get free trial so you could find stuff. But anyway, listen, Nick, you already sent me in picks of your wife and you. I have them. Your wife's super hot. I've already seen her over there.

I have those on my Patreon. So thanks so much for calling in and sharing your story. I know I harped a little bit on that whole thing. thing in the beginning when you told you told your wife about the glory holes and she didn't really fucking care. Can you do me a favor when you get off the phone with me? Can you go and ask her? You could not figure out whether she cared or not on something and I like harped on it. I think she cared more than you think she did and you just don't remember. Or don't even say anything to her. Let her listen to the episode and when it comes to that part. Let me text me and let me know if she's like, oh yeah,

I was pissed. I don't know. Anyway, Nick, thanks so much for calling in and telling me all your stories. Get her to listen to this episode. And thanks for sending me in your pictures already. And make sure to go up on Discord when your episode airs and talk to people. We'll do. All right. Awesome. Thanks so much for calling in. Thanks, Kathy. Bye, Mike. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly anonymous confession, secret sex lives of total strangers is now available, not only in paperback and ebook, but you can pre-order the audio book. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show.

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