Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 913 - Upgrade Your D*** and P**** w/Penis Pumps, Prostate Milking, Orgasm Peaking and More w/Susan Bratton

Episode Date: September 6, 2024

Expert Susan Bratton called in to talk all about how to upgrade your d** and p*** with penis pumps, prostate milking, orgasm peaking and more. Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she’s into sexual biohacking and what that means, how and why having good sex is key to staying healthy, how atrophy affects both men and women as they age and how to fix it, how to use a penis pump and the benefits of using one, the best pump to use to get the best results, penis pump horror stories and how to avoid them from happening to you, how and why using a pump can increase girth and length, toys you can use for prostate massage and milking and how and why they help, orgasm peaking and how and why it can lengthen a woman’s orgasm, how using the peaking technique can get your female partner to cum more, the right way to fuck women to give her best orgasm ever, toys women can use to activate their orgasms plus a whole lot more. The penis pump and the FREE ebooks she discusses, can be found here: https://sabedroom.com To see anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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talking about because we did do a video. That video is also on my Patreon. on. But if you're just listening in a podcast app, don't worry about it. You're going to hear everything that she talks about. We are talking about upgrading your dick and pussy. She's here to talk about penis pups, pumps, prostate massage and prostate milking, orgasm peaking, how to fuck your girl the right way so that she just comes over and over and over again, plus a whole lot more. Susan Bratton is a sexpert and she knows what the fuck she's talking about, okay? I promise you. I always learn something when Susan's on the call with me.

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You've been on my show many times. I love when you're on because Hi, Susan Broughton. Welcome back to this strictly anonymous podcast. You've been on my show many times. I love when you're on because you're super educated when it comes to sex. You are an intimacy expert to millions.

It's your website is betterlover.com. And today you're here to teach my audience and me because I always learn from YouTube, how to upgrade your dim. and your pussy. You're going to talk about all the contraptions out there that'll help that, right? Yeah, you know, it's so interesting. Most people kind of think that whatever the parts are that they got are the parts that, you know,

they have and that they're going to just like stop working at one point and they're going to be done with sex. And it's so interesting because I've been a sex expert for 20 years. And I've published hundreds and hundreds of passionate lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills. And what I realized a long time ago was that there's really a third part to having a great sex life, and that is that your parts have to work, your intimate parts, your genitals. And I think that what we've realized more and more is that there are so many things that you can do to keep everything in good working order. And I have had so much success lately speaking from the same.

stage on a term called sexual biohacking. And some people have heard of biohacking. Some people are like, I don't even know what the fuck that is. And essentially, biohacking came out of the anti-aging and longevity world. It was this notion that you could kind of biohack your planned obsolescence and length and not just your longevity, but your health span. You could live a longer, healthier life. And so a lot of people are like, that's a good idea, what do I need to do?

And that begat this whole biohacking world. And I exist within that world, and not just there, I exist within many worlds, I exist in the bodybuilding world, I exist within the only fans world, I exist within a lot of worlds, because there are certain clusters of people who are sex positive, realize that when they learn things, they get better. know, so these are my cluster communities of people that I serve. And the biohackers love me to talk about how to have not just a health span, but a sex span. And the idea is that, and there's lots of studies out there that say, you know, if you have sex three times a week, you live longer.

If you have sex once a week, you live longer and healthier, you know, all this kind of stuff. And it's like, well, duh, if you're having great sex and you're having, you know, hormone cascades, and oxytocin generation, you know, oxygenation of your brain from orgasmic responses and all of these things that you're just going to be happier. And that when you keep having sex, you kind of have to stay in good shape. And, you know, sex, good sex is not really something that you do if you're ill or unhealthy or any of those kinds of things. Your libido is directly connected to your health.

And so people who have and continue to have regular sex and kind of fight for their sex life and are like, I'm going to fuck till the day or die. That's me. I'm like, I want to die orgasming. You got to fight for everything as you get older. You do. And so there are people who are oriented toward fighting for their sex life. And what happens is this is a really good analogy. It's like imagine if you're lucky enough to still have your grandmother or your grandfather.

think about them are they small smaller than you are they kind of like tinier than they used to be they are so tiny compared to us we and and what happens is called atrophy atrophy is when the tissues stop when you stopped having mTOR and the tissues stop growing and they actually contract and shrink it's shrinkage basically and what's interesting is that you know your penis shrink and your vagina gets laxity loose and your clitoral structures which are all the erectile tissue in your guy's dick is you take it out and put it on your hand it covers your hand take all the erectile issue out of our vulvas put it in our hand it covers our hand so our pussies have as much erectile tissue as our

male body partners dicks do but everybody's always worried about the guy's dicks and they're not thinking about our pussies but I'm thinking about our pussies too. And what I like to do is help people basically either keep atrophy at bay so they can be a little tiny old man with a big fucking dick or at least if you can't keep it at bay you can reverse things. Like, oh shit, yeah, my dick is definitely smaller. Yeah, it's definitely I'm pushing a wet noodle.

You know, I'm having a hard time achieving orgasms. I have, you know, sensitivity issues. Women are like, yeah, man, it's like my cave is giant now. I can't get a good grip. I'm peeing my pants. My orgasms aren't like they used to be. It's like, I get so close and I'm trying so hard to come and it's harder and art. You know, like that's what happens over time.

Too many people. And so what I like to do is I like to teach people essentially how to upgrade their dick and pussy so that they have just incredibly hardworking, satisfying, highly functioning genital systems. Right. And I can say that at 63, which I am right now, I am having the best sex of my life, the most orgasmic sex of my life. My pussy is luscious, juicy, voluptuous.

I can come 20 different ways. I do orgasmic activation, orgasmic cross-training. My husband uses a vacuum erection device. He pumps his penis. It's bigger than it's ever been, and I married him because he had a big dick. And he's 60, and his dick is better than it's ever been. It's vainy. It's hard.

It's bigger. It's thicker. It's longer. And he is also using a prostate massage tool because for a lot of guys that, Some guys start with erectile dysfunction. Other guys start with prostate issues. And then it ends up to be prostititis. And then they're up all night peeing or they can't go on a road trip

because they are afraid they'll piss their pants or they're wearing male diapers or, you know, whatever. And then they end up with prostate care. And so I just really thought that, you know, you and I have talked about everything from the 20 sex parties I've been to, to, you know, female ejaculation and how it really was. works too. I don't even know what we've talked about. We've talked about so many things together, Cass, but I thought, you know, the intimate wellness, the like, if you are a person who loves

sexuality, let's tell you the simple things you can do so that you have really highly functioning, highly pleasurable genitals that operate efficiently and effectively and keep getting better. And anyone that's young and hasn't gotten to the point where these things have happened already, like trust me, they will. So it's like start now so it doesn't happen. And for all the people that it has happened, this kind of information is so important. Because unless you are like Susan said, fighting for these things not to happen, autopilot is atrophy. That's just going to happen. That's where you're going.

unless you actually make a decision not to. Because unless you are like Susan said, fighting for these things not to happen, autopilot is atrophy. That's just going to happen. That's where you're going. Unless you actually make a decision not to. Because the truth is most people aren't fucking a lot

by the time they're 60, right? You got the phrase like you got to use it so you don't lose it is very true. So how do you get it back? You're going to tell us. Yeah. So one of the things that I like to think about is something that's called a stack. And a stack is a couple of things you can do that all work synergistically together to give you all of this incredible function. And another thing that I'd say is that for most men, they're starting long before they have atrophy. They're starting to use their penis pumps. And they're doing that for actual enlargement. And there are a lot of penis pumps on the market. There's shitty old water pumps.

There's novelty items in the adult store made in China. There's all kinds of things. There's only one pump I recommend. It's called the Whopper. And I have the links to, I want to say, I have the links. Kathy asks me always to put the links to everything that I talk about on her website, SABDroom.com. So rest assured that if you're listening or watching and you're like,

what was that thing again, the whopper what? Where do we get it? If you just go to sabedroom.com, you'll be able to see, you know, my specific recommendations because I kick the tires, try so many things I do not recommend. Most products are shit. They're shit.

They're knockoff. They don't know what they're doing. They're made out of shitty materials. They break. They don't work. They don't give you the effect you want. You know, there's like a million reasons why there's only a few things I recommend. I wish I had more products I could recommend to people.

honestly. I just don't have. I have what I have. I have because it works. People love it. And I put my reputation on the line every time I talk about things and recommend them. And I am not going to piss you off. I'm going to get your results. Yeah, I love that. And a result-driven sexual biohacker. So penis pumping is really the very, very first thing that every guy can do. And a good penis pump like the Wopper system can give you both lengths. and girth, you will pump about three times a week, two or three times a week.

Let me show you what a pump looks like. Here, I've got Susie's. Always have Susie's sexy show and cow. And listen, anybody that's listening, just so you know, this video, I can post videos on Spotify now. So if you want to see this pump that she's talking about,

go to the Spotify app. There will be this, you know, podcast episode as a video there, full video. So you can see Susan too. I didn't wear my laundry for you today. Normally, I got my bathing suit on. You look hot.

I'm going swimming right after this. It's summertime, and I live at the ocean, and my family is in town. And so, like, I'm going to do a sexy podcast with Kathy Gay, and then I'm going to go for a swim. Listen, you're a good poster child for what you're pitching, okay? So people should go check you out to see. So this is what a penis pump looks like. It's a pretty straightforward thing in the bob, and it's basically a vacuum, erection device. So you put your penis in here and there's all different size of cylinders. I'm going to show you those in a minute. You put your penis in here. You get a good seal around the base of your shaft. You do this and it pulls the air out of the cylinder and pulls your blood into your penis. And what I like about this system is that it grows with you. So if you are pumping for enlargement, not just to reverse atrophy, there are all different sizes of pumps that can be a common.

and these are the ones that are for enlargement and as you grow the pump cylinders can be you can just swap out and graduate to the next cylinder you can also pump for both length and girth and the girth pump you actually put your testicles and your penis in and it tugs on the suspensory ligament a little bit and gives you more drop will you see more volume flogers or erects? more erect. You may see some volume flaccid, but you'll really see it erect because what you're doing essentially is you are increasing the blood carrying capacity of the capillaries in your penis. And when you get more blood flow in, it opens everything up and that allows more capillaries to grow into more tissue and more nerves to grow into that. over time, the penis actually gets 20 to 25% increase in overall volume of your entire penis within 10 months to a year of consistent pumping.

It's just like building a bicep. When you work that bicep and you break that tissue down, you get recovery day, and then it grows more tissue. That's literally what you're doing. You're doing your arm day, you're doing your dick day, and you're doing your pump, your leg day, you're moving through them. So that's what a penis pump does, vacuum erection device, penis pump, the whopper. Then the other thing that you want to do is, and I'm going to do women as well, because women are also having atrophy because we have the same amount of erectile tissue as our male body partners. So we have to keep the blood flowing into our genital system.

And one of the other things that's really helpful is to take a nitric oxide supplement. This is my supplement. It's called Flow. And this is my most popular product of all the products I make. Everything I've ever done, this is my number one selling product, because it's made from organic fruit and vegetables. Because I'm an organic girl. I like to eat things that don't have a lot of chemicals in them.

I try to keep the chemicals low. keep the, you know, keep the products high. And nitric oxide, by the time you're 40 or 50, you have half the nitric oxide production you used to have, both male and female bodies, people across the gender spectrum. And what happens is you can't get the blood, you don't have blood everywhere in your body all the time. So your heart and your vascular system squeeze the blood where you need it. Your heart when you're working out, your brain when you're working at work, your, you know,

your glutes when you're working out, but your pelvic bowl when you're aroused. And if you can't get the blood down there, you can't get the blood into that tissue to expand the tissue to give you the surface area that sends the signals to the brain of pleasure. So as men age, as women age, they feel less and less orgasmic sensation. This is a way to reverse it. boost your nitric oxide. You can eat greens, beets, cabbage, dill, arugula, romaine, swishard, you know, all those things. That's what gives you the nitrates that your body converts to nitrites, which turn into nitric oxide. The problem is that our vegetables are depleted from the nitrogen.

The soil is depleted, and so they're not working as well as they used to, and we're aging. And so taking a nitric oxide supplement can be a very good thing for everybody. You need the blood to get your brain when you're trying to be at work too. So it actually helps with your heart. It helps with your exercise. It helps with everything when you take a metric oxide supplement. So that's a very, very kind of like unhung hero of the sexual function world because everybody's just like, let's just pop a Viagra.

And, you know, why do you want to have to take a pharmaceutical? Just get your dick working. And not only working, but why not have it be bigger? You know, all women are like, you can never be too rich or too thin. And all men are like, you can never have a bigger, too big a dick. So that's one thing. And then this talk about today that not a lot of people are talking about yet, but because I'm such a sex nerd, I wanted to talk about prostate massage

and prostate milking, if you will. That's another word for it. And I have three tools. Again, this will be on SABDroom.com, so you don't have to worry about it now. But this one is a product by Mystery Vibe called the MOLTO, like MOLTO BENNET. And it is the smallest of the three prostate massage tools. And what I like about this is this is kind of the starter tool. It has this very easy to read buttons.

You turn it on. It's a massager that you insert up inside your butt. and your prostate is just inside your butt and this vibration, you can use a remote control Bluetooth app so you can change it right there and it's tiny but what it does is it stimulates your prostate and your prostate is a muscle and a gland and it's what makes your semen.

But the problem is that the pea chute from your bladder out your dick is that's called your urethral canal and it runs right through the prostate. So if the prostate gets, the fluid kind of gets stuck in there, maybe you're not exercising, you're sitting too much, your diet is not good, those things can cause prostate enlargement, which then you get urination issues. You get something called benign, prostate hyperplasia, and most of that can be avoided, averted,

or remediated by using a massage tool that, also gives you P-spot orgasms. P-spot orgasms, and then you can have blended orgasms where you can masturbate your penis while you're stimulating your prostate and you can edge and edge and edge and just ride the waves of pleasure. They're also very good for men who want to have male

multiple full-body energy orgasms because you can put this in and you can start to edge your prostate, and that's kind of pulling the focus and attention off of your penis, especially the glands, the tip of your penis, and up into your body, which is where you're trying to bring your arousal anyway. You're trying to bring that turn on up and in instead of out your dick through an ejaculation.

You're trying to hold that in. Now, I don't think semen retention generally is good for men. That's always the question I get, Kath, is, well, so are you saying I need to do semen retention? and become, you know, an energy orgasm guy. I'm like, no, you should ejaculate as much as you love to. It's good for you. And it keeps prop-dating issues at bay because you're moving the fluid through.

But if it makes you sad or depressed or it lowers your energy because you're ejaculating too much, don't ejaculate so much. But you can also learn how to have full body male multiple orgasms and learn ejaculatory choice so you can ejaculate when you want to. So this is the Molto. It's your trainer. The second one is this one. It's called the Plex. And I like the Plex. It's a little bit bigger, as you can see. It's, you know, so like the Molto was like the size of my pointer finger, pretty small. The Plex is probably twice as big as my pointer finger. So two fingers, kind of a two finger amount up there stimulating that

P spot. And it has an ice slared base as well. which is great. And this one is also very nice. It actually has a remote control. So you have a little remote control here, so you don't have to be trying to like reach, doing like a reach around to try to work on the buttons. And so this one has this one. But I would say that for me personally, my favorite is this one, the vice two from Aneros. And the reason I like the vice two is because this is how we use it. So this one has a, it's bigger. So this one's like one of your small poos. Like will these things fit? Of course they will fit because the rectum is a stretching muscle. And so you make giant poos out of that thing. These things are a lot smaller

than those giant poos that you take. So, you know, that gives you some perspective. It's got perennial stimulation and it's got this wonderful P-spot stimulation that goes up inside. But what I love about it the most, and this is the biggest one, but honestly, three times and you're like, okay, now it's no problem. I'm relaxed and I friggin love it. But what I love about it is it has a remote control. And what I like to do, because I have to encourage my husband to do a prostate massage. I stay on top of him and I'm like, make sure you're pumping and you're doing your prostate massage and give him space and time to do that on his own as well. But a lot of times when we start having a lovemaking date together, I really like a pussy massage to start.

We've had an expanded orgasm practice for 20 years together. I've been married to him for 33. And basically he gives me pussy rubs to kind of get me in my body, get me calmed down, you know, get me turned on, get the blood flow into my pussy, get me relaxed and that kind of thing. Well, I love it when he puts the prostate tool inside him and then, he's sitting there giving me a pussy massage and I've got the remote control. And then when he's stroking my clit or fingering me or rubbing my mons in that spot that I always love and he's doing a good job, there's 18 different functions on this remote control. And all I have to do is press one button and it gives him like a little, oh, oh, she likes that.

yeah that's all right I'll keep doing that she likes it I don't even have to tell him it feels good I can just give them a little and then it has this turbo button on the top and when you push that it gives you like a juz like it goes like that and so that is just so much fun we have so much fun like pleasuring each other and laughing about it and that kind of thing and so I really like men to take care of their prostate discover it have P spot orgasms, move that fluid through. We live in the 21st century. You know, we're using electric toothbrushes.

We have lots of tools, electric tools. We might as well have one for our sexual function. So that's what I wanted to talk to you today about with regard to penis pumping and prostate stories. And I promised you some penis pumping horror stories. Usually what happens, and this is not guys that you. use the cylinders that I recommend, the products that I recommend. This is mostly guys who buy something that doesn't have a gauge or like water pumps. You can't, they don't come with a gauge, you don't know what the pressure is, you can't see right through them because

there's water in the cylinder. It's difficult to feel the sensation, and so you're not really sure what's happening. And the number one thing that guys do is they over pump. They pump at too high of pressure. Because, I mean, Kathy, you know how guys are. They're all like, put it on level 11, I can take it. You know, I want results right. What happens is that they'll typically like stretch the skin of their dick and bruise it or they'll desensitize themselves from over pumping too much pressure what have you or sometimes this is another thing that can happen is after you do your pump you you can take a a lasso of restriction ring or a leather strap put it around the base of your penis because expanded the amount of blood that your penis can hold

so it's going to be real hard and full and heavy and full of blood it makes it look so nice like as a matter of fact one of the things that i love is when my husband pumps and he sends me a picture right after he's pumped of his dick and it's like slushus it's like oh no I've got to get over there. Where are you? It's so nice. And so guys will strap it and they'll leave it on too long. You'll just leave it on up to 30 minutes.

Or they'll strap it so tight that they crush the tissue at the face of their cock. Or they'll buy a pump that isn't sized right for their length and girth. And it'll either be too small and they'll pump a pump and they'll be like, this is shit, this isn't do anything. It's like, well, there wasn't enough vacuum in there to blood in to make a difference and you just waste it all your time. Or it'll be too big and then take up the extra slack. And then they're basically choking off what they're trying to get blood into. So that is a very common thing. Or they'll every single day, like, well, if every other day is good, every day must be better.

And then they'll be like, I'm not getting any results, you know, and I'll be, well, how often are you funny? We'll live up every day. And I'm like, okay, so like the very first thing that we told you was every other day at least, you know, like you have to recover. That's how progressive overload works. It's just which is why bodybuilders are a big, you know, cluster group of fans of mine because those big guys want dicks that match their must, the rest of their muscles. Like they don't want to be giant jacked fucking dudes with a little pencil dick. They want a big fucking chubby, right? So they're a big cohort of mine, which is great because they're also the kind of guys that are jacked because they want to get fucked.

They want to learn about really great sex skills because they're like, well, if I'm doing all this work, I want to give them free rides to as many ladies that want to jump all as possible, you know. that I see from the guys that struggle is basically they didn't RTFM. Do you know what that means? That's kind of a Silicon Valley term. Read the fucking manual. Oh, I like that. RTFM. RTFM.

I like that. I'm going to use that one. Yeah, now it should be GTFM. Google the fucking manual. Yeah, yeah. That's more like it for me. Exactly. Yeah.

So that's kind of the, you know, like the male. of things. Wait, Susan, let me ask you about orgasm peaking. That was something that I was like very curious about. Okay, yeah. So orgasmic peaking is interesting because it is definitely part of what I would call sexual biohacking in that. It's a way to think about how to come harder, better, longer, more easily, more often,

and in different ways. And it's one of the tricks that I love. learned with our expanded orgasm practice, that pussy massage that my husband has been giving me for 20 years on demand, unlimited, as many as I want, is actually something we call our expanded orgasm practice. And it's a five-stroke clit technique. And it's really this one particular stroke that's like, it's called the bread and butter stroke. If you've ever heard of deliberate massive orgasm or orgasmic meditation or anything like that, it is basically the kind of, the kind of of orgasm where instead of it just being one and done or being one and done and then waiting and having another one and waiting and having another one and waiting,

you actually begin to take the moment of orgasm and extend the moment of orgasm out even longer. When a guy thinks about edging, he's not the edge of an orgasm and then he's holding back a little bit so he can feel the beginning of the orgasm but not ejaculate. Well, for a woman, most women haven't tied ejaculation to orgasm like men have, even though they don't need to ejaculate to have an orgasm. That's what energy orgasms are. That's generally what women do is they have energy orgasms. Some women ejaculate when they have orgasms every time, but most don't. And when you stroke the clit in this expanded orgasm clit stroke, It allows you to get into the climax, but then take that peak moment, not the moments before the peak that you go over, but the peak moment and stretch it out like your stretching time, like you're pulling taffy, like you go into a time warp where you just come for a really long time.

And then you come down a little. But with this stroking technique, what it's doing is one of the things that you're doing is you're using a practice called peaking. And I'm going to put the link to the books that I give you what is expanded orgasm, touching for rapture, and peak, the power of peaking. And peaking essentially what it does is it allows you to toggle your nervous system, sympathetic and peaked. parasympathetic nervous system where you stroke, stroke, stroke, stroke, pause, stroke, stroke, stroke, pause, stroke, stroke, pause. But it's not even that specific. It's more like you're connected limbically to your partner's clit.

And when you're stroking her clit, you're delivering the energy and taking her on the orgasmic ride. And when she's in that moment, you feel whether she needs to take an up or a rest. And what happens generally with women is that they drive themselves straight up hard to an orgasm, have it, and then they're done. That's when women say, oh, doesn't a vibrator desensitize you? And you're like, fuck, no, it makes you have way better cums and lots of them and more of them and, you know, all those things. No, you just are putting it up to high too fast and too hard, you know, and then you have to have a refractory period. You don't need to do that.

As a matter of fact, orgasmic activation is how you use a lot of different tools and toys, which I'll show you that too, to activate all of the tissue in your vulva and vagina, clitoral structure, urethral structure, perineal structure, vaginal canal, cervix, g-spot, interior fornics, outer labia, interlavia, mons, hood, All this stuff is orgasmic. Just because the clit itself has 10,000 nerve endings at the tip doesn't mean that there isn't all kinds of orgasmic potential in all the rest of that tissue. But the peaking is what allows you to take that moment of climax and then take the left and then go back up even higher and come even harder and you get a little down. It's called intentional peeking. You can do that with a finger on a clip toy.

You can do it yourself. You can do, I mean, it's just literally all these things are learned skills. So orgasmic peaking gets around that thing where especially men, so when you have sex with men, men are very goal-oriented and they want to make you come. And the thing is that if they actually understood peaking, they'd make you come way more, more easily, more often, more intensely, and you'd have the kind of comes you'd never have if they didn't understand peaking. And hardly anybody knows anything about it because it's a mastery level skill.

And so I just thought I would drop the peaking concept here. It's well explained in the free e-book that I'll put at essay bedroom. There's a short e-book that has pictures and explains exactly what to do. but just that one simple technique will take will upgrade your dicks and pussies to a whole new level. Yeah, no, I love that. Listen, if some guy came and, you know, he was the guy that got me peeking because I never have before. I mean, he'd be the keeper. You know, and every guy wants to be that the one guy that could do something that nobody else could, you know.

So learn how to be a peeker because your girl will be like, holy shit, you do because like you said most guys they got skills but they don't have that skill. No, no. And that's not their fault. I mean we're just not taught sex. That's my job. Here I am. Teaching you. Yeah. So thank Kathy K for it. Exactly.

That's why it's a better lover. You teach people how to be better lovers. I love it. That's what I do. I know. It's really, it's been such a nice career for me. It's my second career. I started at 42. And, you know, I'll tell you even now I'm still just expanding my knowledge.

It's actually one of those things that's so healthy for you. It's so good for you. It's so calming. It's so connected. Even when you're just making love to yourself, and it makes you live a longer, healthier, happier life. And it never, it never ends. There's always more to learn and more to experience.

It's a lovely, you know, hobby. Listen, I always say there's not. not many pleasures in life, right? Life is difficult. There's a lot of different things you got to go through. What do we got? We got food. We got sex.

You know, there's a couple things that are just fucking fun, you know, and sex is one of them. And you let go of that, you know, what do you got left? You got a lot of the bad stuff, right? And so you lose that balance. Like, sex is one of those great things, you know? So I never, I'm a fighter. And I want my people to be fighters, too, you know? And keep going.

And so they could be like you when they're in. in their 60s and more, you know. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Having the best sex of your life. Yeah, why not? And it keeps getting better. Yeah, amazing. Yeah.

So I had a couple of other quick things to talk to you about. One was that I had some things about the vagina. And it's really, really interesting. So I don't know if you ever saw that piece of art by Jamie McCartney called the vagina wall. He did plaster cast. This is like this white, sculptural, flat, almost like a picture of a bunch of vaginas cast. And really what it was about was, look how beautiful all these vaginas are and how different every one of them is. And I thought that was just a really beautiful piece of art.

But the thing is that what he actually cast was the vulva. The vagina is the canal inside. And so he later renamed it the Great Wall of Vulva instead of the Great Wall of Vigna. I love it. And then, like any good artist who iterates their craft, he went on to cast vaginas. And he cast what vaginas are actually like inside when you pour casting material in there. And how every one of them is so different, just like every penis is so different. I mean, and one of the things that, you know, when you teach lovemaking skills, I teach heart-connected, passionate love-wobing.

making skills. I kind of feel in some ways that I'm actually the antidote to porn because porn is very male gaze focused and oriented toward the cum shot and fairly degrading to women. And so my stuff is much more female-centric and long and luscious and sensual and, you know, very, like, erotic and connected, less performative and more intimately-connected. That's just what I like to teach because that's what I like to do. And when you see intercourse depicted in the movies, the media, in pornography, most of what you're seeing is in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out. And that feels great to a dick because a dick likes to be stroked like a piston.

But the vagina, that's only one small thing that the vagina likes. And one of the things that I appreciated about Jamie McCartney's work was that we could finally see that the vagina actually... Do I have a balloon here? Yep, here's one. This is what a vagina actually looks like inside. It has this little Sincter muscle at the entrance. That's called the Entroital Sincter. I like to pronounce it like this, entreatal sphincter.

finkter because it sounds so fucking nerdy, which I am. I'm a vagina nerd. I don't hate me. And so it has this little fincter, and that fintr loves to be tickled and touched because it's erectile tissue. And then it has this long little neck that then opens to this bigger back part. And the cervix actually comes down and dimples into the top of it. So when When you're thinking about fucking a pussy, what you really want to be thinking about is I'm not just going in and out and out because the vagina is not an inside out penis. I'm actually going to be using things like pivots to hit different parts of the cave and the skin of the vagina, which is called the vaginal mucosal lining.

It doesn't really like friction that much. Friction is not actually its friend, especially for older women. where we have thinning tissue due to estrogen loss and atrophy. And so when I talk to guys and I teach them my orgasmic intercourse techniques, like basically how to fuck really well, how to fuck a pussy so a woman comes constantly the whole time you're fucking her. That's what I teach. For free, I gave that away for free, it's on my website.

That is what I like to show guys how to do, and that is all the different things you can do with your dick and movement and your pelvic bowl and all of those your pelvic muscles and all those things so that you're actually stimulating not just the skin inside the vagina but what feels good to us ladyfolk thinking about just rub my arm and and and that would be like massage but when massage feels good you're not rubbing the skin you're rubbing the skin you're rubbing the meat below the skin. The French call that efflerage. And efflurege is I'm touching the meat below the skin. And that's, if you think about

using your dick in efflrage and you think about it not as an er-a-e-h-h-h-h-h-h and you're like flooring 360 degrees of that cave, then you start getting the urethral

sponge, which they call a G-spot it's a long tube. Yeah. You get the cervix. You get the interior fornic. You get that back things that happens as you age. If you're open to it and you allow it, is that you like deeper and deeper penetration. And you like the feeling of that penis stroking the meat on the other side of the vagina.

And my partner and I joke about it. Like he's like done remodeling up in my pussy where he's like new, new additions. onto the house back in there. Oh, I think we just put in an indoor swimming pool tonight. You know, like there's all these rooms back in there now that he's like built with his dick in my pussy. That's so funny. It's important to understand that a pussy's not an inside out dick and that it wants different things. And those are some of the bigger, I think, very helpful for guys to understand maybe some things that they can do to give their woman more pleasure while they're fucking them.

Right. And a lot of my techniques also include things that are not necessarily just him fucking her, but him like moving her on him instead of him moving in her. That's also very hot, very sexy when you rock your woman on your cock, because we like the rocking sensation. We like a rhythmic rocking sensation. So, you know, you know the difference between a slide and a grind. With a grind, you can rock the grind,

and you can also move a woman on and off you instead of moving in and out of her. So I think those are some other dimensions to think about. And there are many, many more. But those are some good, you know, like basics for people who are like, okay, I'm a 1.0 fucker and I need to be a 2.0 fucker. Those are some good tips. There you go. Right.

And where do they get all those tips, like in that same place on essay bedroom? Like there's links to those techniques? Yeah, I can put that on there. Yeah, perfect. What I'll do is I'll put orgasmic intercourse, a link to orgasmic intercourse on there. So you can, I have a little page on my website that has every single technique on it. And you can just click and go to each one. And remind me to do that cast because I will.

I will. my original thing. And then the last thing that I wanted to talk about, this little, for those of you listening to the podcast, you can't see this, so I'll describe it for you. This is the alt-text version. But they can go to Spotify or Patreon and see it on video. Yeah, there you go. So go to Spotify or Patreon so you can see a little bowl of sex toys. I love it. I find it particularly poignant to have all these different toys that I recommend in my mother's crystal candy bowl. That's just the kind of girl I am.

I will cook you a meal and I will fuck you. I will give you candy out of a candy bowl, but it will be barrenuers. So what I like, and I'll just show you some examples of them. Let me just show you different examples of what I'm talking about here. So I mentioned earlier this notion of orgasmic activation that in your pussy in your dick, in your testicles, in your prostate, in your, you know, whatever, in your clit, in your urethral spuns, your D-spot, in your vagina, you know, all the, on your labia, all of our genital structures are erectile tissue. They, they blossom, they bloom when

they're full of blood, and when they're full of blood, they have more surface area, and then when they have more surface area and they're stimulated, they can send more signals to your, your biggest sex organ which is your brain your brain is the master control center of the pleasure and if I Kathy if I laid you down in the bed and I put legs up on pillows and I got some beautiful foria oil and I put it all over your yoni and I said here's what I'm touching I'm touching your mons how does that feel and these are your outer labia how does that feel these are your inner labia this is the hood this is the clitoral tip this is the shaft

of your clit. This is your vestibule inside your inner labia. This is your number, this is like your U spot, which is your G spot, but the external face of it. This is your that little introyal sphincter, the entrance to your vagina. Now I'm in your vagina. I'm on the floor. I'm on the roof. I'm in the back. There's your cervix. Here's your perineum. You know, like if I touched every single part of that on you and I said, tell me what you feel. Yeah. You'd say a lot of different things. And what you'd say to me would basically fall into four

categories. I feel pleasure. I feel pain. That doesn't feel good. I feel nothing. Numb. I can't even really tell where you're touching. Or I feel shame. Interesting. I was told

I'm not supposed to be touched there. And what's interesting is that if you lay me down and you put the oil on my pussy, And you touched me in all this places, it'd be like, that feels good. That feels good, Kath. That feels good, Cass. Oh, yeah.

Do that some more, Cap. Do that one. Oh, yeah, I like that. Oh, yeah, that feels good. Oh, yeah, that was good. And that's what I would do. But I didn't used to be. And I'm not saying that you don't have a pleasure.

I was just using you as an example. No, no, I am like the regular girl. I haven't done my thorough assessment of your pussy yet. But I used to be the shame pain numb girl. Yeah. And now I am the pleasure girl because I've orgasmically activated all of the tissue. And I did it through the expanded orgasm practice with my husband giving me these beautiful yoni massages, but I also did it through orgasmic cross training.

And I will put this on a safe bedroom if it's not there. I think you said it's already there. Orgasmic cross training, what's nice about that is that I've used a lot of different types of sex. They're not toys because I'm not playing around. They are my tools for pleasure. Yeah, I like that. And I have sex tools for the vulva vagina, that, you know, the Yoni, the female genital system.

And there are four. And there, I won't go into all of the details, but I'll just give you some examples, okay? Yeah. And you can go to orgasmic cross training and it's like air stimulators. There are liquor. Rabbit Star. There are new ones that are kind of like a thruster combined with a G spot. there are lots and lots of G-spot ones.

I love that one. I have that wand. I love it. Oh, me too, Mama. That's the one I could ride for so long. There are little, you know, tiny kind of clitoral vibrators. A lot of different tools that fall into eight categories. And I've selected what I consider to be.

And I have tried every vibrator in the universe. I have bimms of things. And I only like the ones that are super premium quality motors, super premium quality materials, no salates, no bullshit, nothing that's going to leach into my system and, you know, give me toxins, nothing that's going to break the third time I use it. I mean, I have, you know, a pet cemetery of shitty sex toys. And I throw them out ultimately. They end up in a landfill, which is bullshit, too.

I mean, that's the last thing we need is more landfill. So, anyway, I really want to encourage everyone listening to try to expand your pleasure chest and try different types of tools. Don't just be reliant on the one pathway that gets you off. Stop thinking that that's the one way you get off and start thinking, oh, I could get off a whole bunch of ways. I could have 20 kinds of orgasms. I could use eight kinds of sex tools.

And what's great about that is I can now activate my entire pussy or my dick and balls and profit. And that's fantastic because I want to be Susan Bratton and be 63 and having the best sex of my life and have the juiciest genitals in the universe and be so excited that there's even more. Not the, there's only one way I can come. It has to be this very specific set of things. Like, no, that's just the way you learned so far.

That's why it's called hergademic cross training. You learn one way. Now spin up a new way. Get yourself going this way. And then transfer the turn on and get the new neural pathway. You're literally training your brain to feel pleasure. That's what you have to do. All sex is learned skills.

All orgasms are learnable. You are not. you know when women are like I just I'm not the kind of woman who can have an orgasm from intercourse and I'm like yeah you are right you just need to learn how to do you got practice mama yeah oh gee I'm so sorry you have to fuck to learn how to have an orgasm from intercourse okay well all right that's my homework you know so there you go that's orgasmic activation orgasmic craft rate that's how it works you have many many more comes within you that want to come out and I want you to let them

I want you to usher them into the universe because the more orgasms that we're all co-creating, the better off this planet will be. Amen. And here's my mic drop. Boom. And now, listen, people could find all the things that you talked about on SABroom.com, right? There will be links there for all of the products. Yeah, I'll make sure we get everything on there.

All right. Awesome. And they could find you at betterlover.com. You know, you'll be back on my show. I highly recommend all your other episodes you've been on talking about all different things. This one was super educational as usual. You're the real deal. You have taught some of my listeners how to come from giving a blow job, like different things.

I'm telling you. You Matt, some girl told me she learned from one of your courses that come from giving head. Good. Yeah. Yeah. I love to do that. Yeah. That's a good orgasm.

The throat gathoms. Yeah. So your stuff is no joke. And, you know, I love when you come on. Like I said, I just, I love. learn something every single time. So thanks so much for coming on again. Yeah. Hey, I'm going to go swimming in the ocean and jump some waves now. Yeah, I'm a little jealous, Susan. That's not nice. That's okay. But thanks so much for calling it again and giving me another great episode and teaching my audience some

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