Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 930 - Fun Charlie is a Unicorn into Swinging, Hooking Up with Couples, MFM Threesomes and More

Episode Date: September 30, 2024

Fun Charlie is a unicorn into swinging, hooking up with couples, MFM threesomes and more and she called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including how her vanilla marriage ended and why she went in the complete opposite direction after their divorce, the guy she met who got her into the lifestyle, the first swinger event they went to and what exactly went down, how and when she first realized she was into girls, her first threesome with two guys and exactly what went down, when she became a unicorn and the problems that came with it, when and how she at first got over being jealous watching her guy with other women, how and why her first lifestyle relationship went bust and the new guys she’s dating in the lifestyle now, her interest in bdsm and how and why she considers herself a switch but prefers being a sub, the difference between thuddy and stingy pain and which one she’s enjoys the most, how and why flogging has helped her fibromyalgia, how and why she started and Onlyfans and decided to become out and proud very early on plus a whole lot more. YOU CAN FIND VIDEOS HERE: https://onlyfans.com/fun_charlie_xxx/media **To see anonymous pics of FUN CHARLIE plus pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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in the lifestyle. She talks about all of it. She gives very specific hot stories. She talks about the things that, you know, happened while she's in the lifestyle that were great. She talks about the couples that she met. And she also talks about the things that weren't so great. She went to the lifestyle with in a relationship and that relationship didn't work out. And she talks about why it didn't. And she also talks about why being a unicorn sometimes can be lonely. I've heard that before. She explains that as well. She's in a new relationship now. And we talk about that and who she's with is super interesting. But her whole story is fascinating. Eventually she wound up doing only fans because she loves being in the lifestyle. She loves everything that she does. And she, she, she, and so that was a

natural fit for her and she's on there. She gives out a shout out to her only fans. You'll hear that in the episode and all of the information for her will be in the description. She's super hot. I have picks of her over on my Patreon, but all of her links like I said are in the description. You're going to love her story. So I'm going to get right to it to be right back on with Fun Charlie. Hi, Fun Charlie. Welcome to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm good. Thank you for having me. No, thanks for calling in. Listen, the way I met you fun, Charlie, a little backstory, which was kind of funny, is I was taping with Doc Chocolate, who was recently on my show. He's got his own podcast. He's a content creator. And we were about to tape. And then he starts talking about this chick that's like over in the bed. I mean, I'm sure you guys just fucked or I don't know if you got done doing content or whatever. But that's how I met you. You were at Doc Chocolate's house in his bed. Yes. When I spoke with him, I was like, why not come? on my show. You are in the lifestyle. You're a unicorn. You're also a content creator too,

which I think is cool. Why not? I'm assuming the lifestyle and being a unicorn and having all this kind of crazy sex we're going to talk about came before and then you just decided to do content creating because that's what started to be the thing to do, right? Absolutely. Years ago. And so you did that. So we'll work up to that. You do have an only fans, right? Is it fun, Charlie? It is fun. It is fun. underscore Charlie underscore XXXX. Okay, cool. We'll give a shout out again at the end, but anyone driving, don't worry about all the links and everything.

It's got to be in the description, right? Yes. And like I said, we'll work up to how you started that and why. But let's go all the way back. I'm just going to call you Charlie right now. You're a unicorn, which means you're a female that likes hooking up with couples, solo. How did you get in the lifestyle first? Did you become a unicorn first?

I don't know what started first or where it started and when. What comes the chicken or the egg? Yeah. So I was married for about 18 years and divorced and spent like four years on my own trying to figure things out, settling things. Were you vanilla in your marriage? Yes, we were very vanilla. But when I left, it was kind of a weird thing.

It was a toxic marriage. And so after I left, all the things that he wanted me to be into that I would have eventually gotten into myself, but it was more from. a forced aspect. I all of a sudden became very interested in and into. Oh my God. You're like me. You're a contrarian. When he wanted you to do it, you're like, fuck you. But then when you're free to do it on your own, you're like, hmm, I'm going to try that. Exactly. Exactly. I like that. So. Oh, my God. And there was like this feeling that he was asking me to do something. And then once I did that, he would try to see what else I would do. And each thing would be more degrading and more what he wanted, nothing, what I wanted.

So even me trying to figure out what I wanted, it wasn't going to get done because he wasn't into what I wanted. He was into what he wanted. And so I lived by myself during the pandemic, which gave me a lot of time on my hands. And I took a deep dive into kind of what I liked. I kind of went into the BDSM lifestyle because I already had spanking. and choking and hair pulling and stuff like that. And I was like, okay, let me see if there's anything to that. If I'm just kind of a visitor or do I like all that stuff, kind of more hardcore. So I did, I took, there's a lot of tests.

There's one really good one. BDSM test dot org. That's a very good, very thorough one. And it gave me a very good idea of what I liked, what I might try to get into and stuff like that and that kind of led me to online forums and I got into online dating a little bit. I was I was trying to avoid that. I just was not into the apps and stuff, but I did get on one and I met someone. We met on OKCupid. OkayCupid at the time. I've heard it's changed a little bit since then, but at the time you could answer all these sex questions. Yeah, I remember that. Yeah. And connect with

someone else who liked the same type of sex you did. And that's how I met my partner or my ex partner. And I was complaining about my experiences with vanilla guys. And vanilla meaning not in the lifestyle. Yeah. And he was like, well, you need to get into the lifestyle. And I'm like, well, what's that? He's like the swinging lifestyle. And I was like, you mean key parties? And he's, no, that's like 70s old stuff. And he's like, no, this is totally different. And he explained it. And I was like, okay, sign me up. You know, you've got people who understand that you want to have sex and it's fun. And there are rules and etiquette.

And, you know, for the most part, people want to be safe with sex. And that's one of one of my big things with vanilla guys, trying to get them to wear a condom is like, it's insane. That's what I always say. Because a lot of times I get people making really sort of to me to be judgmental rude comments to my people in the lifestyle. Like, do they use condoms? I'm always like newsflash. No one uses fucking condoms. And probably they use them more than the regular people.

Okay, because I fucked a lot of guys in my life. And most people, and I'm a hypochondriac, so I'm very into safe sacs. I'm always like, that's the best partner to get another hypochondriac because those are the people that put it on, right? Everybody else doesn't want to fucking use a condom and they don't. Okay? It's just the way that it is. So this guy, though, tells you like, you ask about that and he tells you it's all good, like you have control over all of that. and that was super important to you.

So it was appealing to say, get into this. So what happened after he tells you about everything? So we meet and have a date. And then we have a really great, like we were meeting as friends with benefits. Neither one of us wanted a relationship. So he came down for a weekend and we had a great like first weekend. And we played. And it was just like, okay, awesome.

This is great. And after, I would say, a few weekends of that, a few, maybe a month or two of him, because we lived a few hours apart, we accidentally met, because I forgot to change the distance. So, but he, he was like, hey, there's this lifestyle pool party. I'd love for you to go. And I'm like, okay, let's do it. I'm just going to jump in. And I'm so glad he came to pick me up because I think I would have chickened out driving up there. But he came to get me. We had a really cool. It was a very, it was a great first experience. The people were awesome. I got to do a lot of first. And before this, I did have some experience with nude nudists. So I wasn't totally afraid of being nude in front of people.

And I wasn't weirded out by people being nude in front of me. I just had not seen sex in front of me. That wasn't me. What were the first that you encountered that night then? So being naked wasn't a first in front of people. But what was your first? Well, being naked in front of that many people was definitely a first. But I, you know, I got to watch people fucking.

I got to, we fucked each other in front of people. Yeah, that's hot, right? We just didn't join in. Yeah, it was just like, okay, he's baby stepping me. We're doing this slow. But then that night, so we left a little earlier from that party than we normally would have because that was more of a play party, late night running party. But we had plans that night with another couple.

But then the woman dropped out. So it was the three of us and I'm like, well, we can still have fun. And so I had my first MFM for three hours that night and had a blast. And so it was like the first day into the lifestyle was like a huge, a huge awesome beginning. And I was like, sign me up. This is, this is amazing. And I think for a lot of people in the lifestyle, once you find it, it's like, this is filling a huge void in my life that I didn't know was there and now it's like I feel complete like I found my people yeah yeah it was definitely

an awakening it was for sure and I grew up very uh strict Catholic family and it was very kind of in pushed upon us that life doesn't start until you get married and you know there was kind of an idea like you can be a slutty but you have to be that with your husband And so I was on this, like, major quest to find my husband so I could do this. But, you know, that's not the only reason you wanted to get married. So that did not go well. But, yeah. So finally, I'm getting to be.

No, I'm sorry, but like your dumb, dumb husband didn't know how to cash in on that. He had a, like, the best, like, woman in front of him. If he only knew how to play you right, like, what not to do with a girl? Because you were, like, down and ready. And he just did everything to turn you off, right? Oh, yeah. Absolutely. Yeah, that's his fault. Anyway. So wait to that first. So when now, I'm assuming because you're a unicorn that you hook up with women too. Was that like your first time doing that that first night or just your like the two guys? No. So yeah. So that was my first time being actually, yeah, it was my first time with two guys. I hadn't. I still had not at that point. I didn't know I was fully by then. Yeah. And it took me another. I'd say almost a year in the life. style to really like, I had, I had, I think up to that point, I had played with women a little bit,

nothing more than kissing or whatever. Yeah. And, but I don't know. I think most women, it's just if you are not sure. And the goal is, okay, I'll know when I eat a pussy. Yeah, totally. Yeah. When I go down to somebody, I'll know that'll be my tell tell.

Yeah. And it's so daunting at first. And it took me forever to get the courage up to do it. And then when I did it, it was with a friend. And I was just like in the moment. And I was just like, I'm going for it. And I was like, fuck. Yeah, I'm totally by.

And I'm really good at this. And it was really fun. And so, yeah. So since then it's been like, oh, yes, this is the whole thing for me. And then that's when I started kind of pursuing couples. But let's go back to the guy experience. You did the two guys. That was the first time, right?

And now, did the guys do each? other or was it no it's mfm right so no guy on guy actually like that they didn't touch each other now the guys i was with their fluid so that that usually means that they're not opposed to dicks touching for the sake of dvp or dp and stuff like that did you do that with that not that night but i did have anal for the first time uh willing not i say willingly i wasn't ever forced into anal but it was coercive you know please do me like begging anal very low very low very low very reluctant anal, but this was the first time I had done it because I wanted to do it and I was like, fuck yes, I love anal.

Yeah. So it was like, that was probably more than half of the night and blow jobs and spit roasted and just I was, that is my jam. Like I really love, I found that I really love being the only woman with two men. That's like a some kind of a power trip situation, I think. But yeah, I really liked that dynamic. And that was, I was like, hell yeah, let's, yeah, let's do this. And he was eager to set anything up for me that I was willing, willing and wanting to do, of course, because.

Oh, yeah. He hit the jackpot on OKQ2, right. Right. So now, so what happened after that? Did you and him just continue to play in the lifestyle together? Did you continue to hook up with him? Or did you go solo? So I lived two hours away for a little bit longer. And he would hook me up occasionally with people that he knew closer to me. And it was kind of a cool dynamic. And but then I moved, closer to him and then we started dating and going to everything as couples and I still worked. I still did my own thing as a unicorn separately, but we also did things as a couple and swapped and went to parties and stuff like that. And that was a lot of fun. It was, it was nice of a little bit of both worlds because I really like being a unicorn, but it does get lonely.

And the lifestyle is set up very well, much for. couples. So yeah, I do like the couple dynamic. Yeah, that's interesting because I remember having, I had a lot of unicorns on and then I had one on who spoke to the negatives about being a unicorn and how like sometimes couples, because they're in the primary relationship, they don't really understand or take into consideration that unicorn's feelings, right? She just brought up this whole other side of things that I was like, oh, yes. I couldn't, I would never even have thought of that. And I bet you the people that do that have it's not their intention but they don't even consider it but when you hear it you're like oh why wouldn't we consider it and we should you should consider it and

people don't know how to fucking treat a unicorn yes and that's that is really the problem when people are like when when unicorns and other people are like don't say unicorn hunting that is the that is the basis for unicorn hunting you're not caring about the you're not seeing them as a person. You're seeing them as a as a sex toy. And we are people. And especially if we're single, you need to recognize that we don't have that other person to lean on. We don't have that other person to get our emotional needs met. So especially if you start trying to date a unicorn, it's that's a very uneven. It starts out uneven. So as long as that is considered and, you know, thought out, I think it can work really well.

but a lot of couples don't think about that. They only have their uses in mind. They only have their thoughts and their needs in mind. And they're not thinking, oh, we're in this and we get to fuck this couple. So everything is fine. But no, it's very emotional. And I pick my couples very carefully. And it's still, you still, you can't be totally 100% sure that negative things aren't

going to happen. But I think being picky is the first. course, first step to make sure that bad things aren't happening. But yeah, it still can happen. Yeah, of course. And I think sometimes the best way to figure out what you do want is to figure, is to sort of experience what you don't. Right. A lot of times that's just the way life happens, right? You can't foresee everything ahead of you, right? But you know from experience, I'm assuming. So now, because you do set, you did say, I mean, you're not in a relationship. You weren't in a relationship that time, but that guy was kind of like a partner for you, right? Like a booty call guy that

you were sort of seeing sometimes that whole year while you were like doing all your stuff. And when you became a unicorn, were you still seeing him? So yeah. So the first six months in the lifestyle, we were friends with benefits and he was hooking me up and kind of leading me through the lifestyle, but we were still not dating. Then we started dating, I would say six months into knowing each other and were together for about two and a half years and did a lot of stuff in the lifestyle. I learned a lot. I played on my own as a unicorn, but I also did a ton of couple stuff, which I think also gives me a good perspective as a unicorn.

Yeah. And, you know, because I can see the things that are happening between the couple, and I'm like, I've been there. I know what that feels like. So I'm a little bit more able to be considerate of those feelings. and stuff. But yeah, and honestly, the couple really has to be very honest with the unicorn. Otherwise, things can go badly fast, excuse me, fast because if you don't, if you're not giving a heads up that you are having an issue, if you got any jealousy problems, if it's been a problem

in the past, the unicorn can treat you differently and will treat you differently and check in a lot more if they know that you are apprehensive about this. Either one of you. And so it's, please be honest. I'll just be honest and everybody can have fun. You're not going to, you're not going to ruin a fun time by telling someone that you maybe take this slow, that you're really going to have a bad time if you don't. And they go, oh, balls out.

They've been in this for a while. They know what they're doing. Yeah, no, totally. These are all the things that can go wrong and do go wrong because people don't know this shit. You know what I'm saying? Yes. That's why I always think these stories are super important.

Let me ask you a quick question, though, because you are, like, you did tell me, oh, I love the MFM stuff. That's kind of like my fave for some reason. You do love the couple swapping. But you do call yourself a unicorn. Why do you label yourself a unicorn? Do you, like, is it because you just, because that's what you did when you were a content creator or is there something about that? Well, yeah, it's tricky because certain people you ask will say that because if I'm in a relationship,

which I am again now. Yeah. But we do play separately, totally separately. So he still considers himself a bull. I still consider myself a unicorn. But we also play in the lifestyle as a couple. So it depends on what we're doing. Oh, is Doc Chocolate your guy?

I could edit that out. You could tell me, I bet you. That's your guy. He told me he's dating someone, but he couldn't tell me who it was or some shit like that. That's you. Yes, it is. Oh.

Are you guys out and proud or do I have to edit this out? I'll ask. We were going to, yeah, we were trying to figure that out and we weren't making any big announcements, but people are going to figure it out. Yes. So you're with him, he's a bull, and you consider yourself a unicorn because what you do solo mostly is like hook up with couples? Mostly. Now, yeah. And that's, or I'll just go, I've gotten to the point where I will go to the clubs alone, but I know only because I know other unicorns and I know other people. But yeah, I go in and out. Sometimes. Sometimes I go through phases where I want to play with couples and I go through phases where I'm like, oh, I don't know if I want to deal with that because there is an extra level of anxiety and trying to figure them out and not step on any toes and stuff. So yeah, we've been doing a couple's thing lately. I haven't been doing many couples with by myself lately. Yeah. So I'm more in the couples mode at the moment. But that's your current partner now and we'll work up to him.

but let's go back a little bit to the beginning. So you're with that guy, you date him for two years. Now the whole time while you guys were playing together, did you have the same kind of setup that you have now that like you guys played together? You played solo, right? That's how it went with them. It started. Yeah.

So it started out as us playing together mostly. And then he, okay, so he wanted a lot more solo time. I was still. So this was also my first non-monogamous. I was very much into non-monogamy before. for him, but I had not actually had the experiences. So we were taking it slow on that course, but I did, I would say another year and a half, I would say after I figured out that I was totally by, that's when I probably started venturing out into couple, and doing couples. Not full blast,

but I would occasionally, if I found a couple that I liked or somebody hit me up that I might be interested than I would pursue them. But yeah, so it wasn't as open. I'm probably way, we're way more open than I've ever been, but it's also a different dynamic with the current person. But yeah, so it wasn't as open. I'm probably way, we're way more open than I've ever been, but it's also a different dynamic with the current person. Yeah, I get that. And now with that guy, because he played solo, you guys played together, I'm assuming, did you get off seeing? him with other women, did you realize, oh, that's like super hot to see him? Or was it kind of like it didn't matter? Because I call that being a cuck queen, right? I don't think that you have to be

tied up to be like, have a cuck thing going down. I just, yeah, girls I sort of like seeing their guy, fuck other girls. I call them cuck queens. Okay. I like it. No. So no, I did not start out that way. He was very much that way. But this was my first non-monogamy and my first situation where I'm having sex with my partner or in the same room as my partner, which is not necessarily a normal non-monogamy thing. It is definitely a swinger thing. So it did not start out that way. I was very nervous about seeing him. Of course. Yeah. It was, it was scary, but I did get used to it and I started to kind of I'm very much I can change I can lessen something and I think a lot of people can do this if they put their mind to it but you can change something in your head if you just

practice it's if I just practice wanting to see him have sex with somebody else I feel it's way more comfortable for me to watch him now we went we had a lot of ups and downs that and The communication wasn't there with us, so it was rocky and trust was broken. So it was a little, it was very different for me than him as far as me feeling comfortable watching him and watching him kind of do solo stuff and expand that. Because it was like always, with him, it was more of being, he always wanted more. than I was able to give and I could never catch up. So that was a tricky situation.

And there were so many good times and so many fun times, but as an overall dynamic, it's very difficult, especially when you meet somebody and you're trying to do lifestyle from the very beginning. I'm very jealous and knowledge and very aware of how great a team people have when they're married to their person and then they come into the lifestyle. You've known that person for so long.

You've got trust down to a tea. You've got you guys are teammates. And as long as you guys are in a good relationship and you're just wanting to add some more spice. Like it's like you guys have great sex and you just want to have great sex with other people and add this. Then you are in the right place. So with that guy, did it end because of being, would you say it ended because of like your communication problems and stuff? Absolutely. We were not seeing eye to eye on communication and that was the biggest part of everything. And so I am someone who definitely, I need to talk things out to an extreme so that I, and especially now. So I've had all my experiences with him. So I'm a little raw and trying to heal all of those. And then I got into a new relationship and it's okay. Just to, Just a heads up. I'm broken on these things. And while my brain wants these things, my emotions are a little crazy over these things. So be considerate and just have some patience with me because, but that's the thing. It's just like talking that stuff through.

It's so freaking important. Yes. It's just so, so important. And learning, also learning how to give your partner the reassurance that they need is huge. I always say a little reassurance goes so fucking far. So far. Why couples and people in like relationships sometimes are so fucking stingy with that blows my mind, right? It's because that would, it's like a game changer yet so many people don't want to. It's like a tit for tat or petty thing. I don't know why. But like that little thing goes so fucking far.

You would still be with your guy if you had gotten it, right? That's what he wasn't giving you. That's what you needed. You were probably telling him communicating. and he wasn't giving you what you needed, which is reassurance that he's still there. Everything's going to be okay. And you should be allowed. And to me, and listen, just like these other guys that you're with, like that other guy was just like not well suited to be in a relationship with someone in the lifestyle.

Maybe he's a great solo lifestyle guy. He is. Right. So solo. That is very much, yes. But I know guys, plenty of guys that are professional lifestyle people in a couple. There's so many guys that would, that are smarter enough to know to do all that. So I feel like you're just having met the right person.

And hopefully the guy you're with now is that right person. But there's plenty of them out there. You know what I mean? And I think any guy would be stupid not to be that way because when you get a girl like you or anyone, and I always say this, like, why would you look a gift horse in the mouth? It really is at the end of the day in the lifestyle. It's a woman's world. I mean, you have to go.

And she does kind of rule it, right? And when she doesn't, look, it doesn't work out. Because I think the woman is more likely to maybe have some feelings. We're wired a little bit differently. And if you don't tend to that, it's not going to be good. And it's going to be your fault. Exactly. Yes.

And to that point, I've also ran into, so I'm on all these forums for lifestyle and stuff and people write in. And I have seen it so many, it's got their, the thing. that I think a lot of women are afraid of, especially unicorns, it's like you can get into a relationship where the guy is using you just to be as a couple because it's hard for a single guy to get to function well in the lifestyle. So they latch on to women and it's, are you using me just to get other women or are you actually wanting to be with me and do this together? And that's a huge hurdle of trying to figure out sometimes when you do get with someone in the lifestyle. Oh, that's interesting. Yeah, I could see. Yeah. But yeah, there's a lot of guys that don't know what

the hell they're doing. Yeah, with dumb-dums. I call them dumbtums. So, okay, so let, so now, okay, you've done, you eventually, like you said, did DVP. I know you did spit roasting the first time. Have you ever done gangbangs? What are some of the things that you did over all those years of being in the lifestyle? In the lifestyle. Okay, so I've never done DVP. I've done DPP multiple times, which I love that. But yeah, so I did, I really liked the group stuff. I really, so what I found is I, especially as a couple, I am very bad at meeting people from online and then go in person. And I'm usually the last person to go, yes, I want to fuck these people. Yeah.

And so I really hate the pressure. So if we got to a point where it's like, okay, if we want to meet a couple, we're going to invite them to either like a club or something to where there's other people they can fuck just in case it doesn't, it doesn't. happen because I just yeah I I'm really a in person person so if I haven't met you if I haven't smelled you yeah I need I need to know what you smell and stuff so that that that that was something that I figured out so I but I also do really like the spontaneous situations I really do not like setting up play dates for some reason I like just for things to happen and some of the best group things have happened in spontaneous situations you cannot plan that shit out um And so, yeah, I would say group stuff and to where there's like, I mean, there was one night where we went to a meet and greet and everybody ended up, it was like four couples, two unicorns ended up in someone's hotel room and we all fucked for hours.

And it was like, you could not have set that up. You couldn't have. I mean, you may have, you maybe could have, but there would have been people canceling and get backing out and stuff. but when it's when it's spontaneous like that it's just it's really hard to argue that that's not a better situation but yeah so some girl on girl stuff do you two solo girls like just you at a girl or is it always typically with a couple it's you i would we would um end up with like unicorns and stuff but there's always usually like i'm by and i would say i'm on the i would say 40% by because i all there's usually a dick i need to end with a dick.

I need a dick in the mix. I haven't had girl-on-girl-only experiences, but I've been, and I don't know what you call it. It's not pegging when you get fucked with a girl dough on a woman. But yeah, I've done that a couple times. It's okay. It's not my favorite thing. But we've done FFMs, MMMFMs. I have not done many.

I've done like almost a partial MMF, which is hot too in its own aspect. Yeah. Are you into that? Because a lot of girls wind up seeing it. Because I've heard from a lot of women and some of them were like they were never in. I mean, some of them were like, yeah, I was totally into that. I think it's hot. But some of them, even the ones who were like, had never looked at it or never thought that they would.

When they actually saw it in real life, they were like, holy shit, it was like the biggest turn on. Like when you have seen it, did you get turned on? Yes, absolutely. Yeah. It's definitely a turn on. And I was like, oh, I didn't know I was going to be into that. But yeah, absolutely. Yeah, that's interesting.

Yeah. Yeah. You learn so many things that you're just. And, God, with the lifestyle and especially crossed with BDSM, on a Monday, you could be like, oh, that is, there's no way I'm going to be into that. And then by Friday, you're like, I might try that out. No way. I forgot about the whole BDSM angle. Are you a sub or a DOM? Yeah. I'm more, I'm a switch technically, but I am much more comfortable in the sub, in the sub than the DOM. When I, a DOM, I do it. And it's fun for five minutes. And then I run out of things to do. And I'm like, I don't want to think anymore. Oh my God. How far have you taken it as a sub? I have gone as far as like looking for a dom for like regular play stuff. I was not interested in the 24 hour lifestyle giving up all.

Yeah, that's not, doesn't interest me. People don't understand. There's a lot of mental stuff that goes down sometimes in those relationships that. That's what you mean, right? You didn't want to sign up for all of that. Yes. No. No, I did not.

And mainly because I have not met one person that has presented it ethically to me. Yeah, I have not met a man at least that has talked about or presented things and didn't show any red flags, basically. So I was definitely not interested in any 24 hour all day, every day. But I did dabble a few with my last partner. We did dabble with finding a couple doms and played some and learned some stuff. that I liked and didn't like and and but yeah so and there's a weird mix there I would say there's a good percentage of people that in the lifestyle that are into BDSM but then there are definitely people that are split that are absolutely don't want anything to do with it so yeah for sure I mean they typically

tend to be two different places right like even the meet and greet is for like swingers and munches or meet and greets for BDSM people right I mean it's kind of like a two separate world sometimes there's BDSM nights at a swinger party, right? But typically they're not intertwined that much. No, I would say at a club more. Places like secrets, that's where I frequented. They've got a dungeon and there is a, there's, there are more BDSM people there, I would think, or that I have noticed than other parties and stuff like that.

So I think it depends on where you're going to. And how much pain are you into? I love, so I found out during the pandemic, that being raised by an authoritarian is definitely a situation that Bill that can make a masochist. And I found that I am definitely a masochist and very confused at the beginning of how in the world I could be because I don't like all pain. But it turns out masochists don't like all pain. They like specific types of pain and not all masochists like the same kind of pain. And I'm very much a thuddy person.

I like the impact. I can take that all day long. You can go pretty freaking hard on me with thuddy stuff. But if you do stingy stuff, I am a little baby. I can see how there's a difference. And you figure that out through trying stuff? Yes. Yeah, you just start trying.

And I honestly, during the pandemic, I did it on my own. Like I did it myself. I started, you can, there's all kinds of kitchen utensils you can hit yourself with to see if you like stingy or thuddy. What's a thuddy versus a stinging? Thuddy is more like a flogger, a heavy thud spanking, like a heavy spoon or, you'll, like as soon as you get hit, it, if there is, it's like a hard impact, it's more thudy. Yeah. If it is a light, I would say like whips and tiny devices.

Yeah. Stingy. Those things are like, ooh, that hurts immediately. And I'm like, nope, I'm out. Stop. But study, I can, I like it and I do it. And there's some other medical reasons. Also, like I was in a car accident, so I've got fibromyalgia and I've got a lot of nerve issues.

And there are a lot of people that get into flogging to help reset those nerve communications to your brain. Yes, yes. And it has. and it can really kind of reset that. And it's very interesting. Yeah, that is super interesting. But it makes sense mechanically. It does.

Really, if you think about it, right? Because nerves can always rejuvenate. Sometimes they just take really long and they need help sometimes. And that helps it. Exactly. And there's a big discussion about fibro and how it is a miscommunication between those nerves and the brain. And so flogging, especially there are people that men have it down to, a specific, you, you flog me this way, this way, this way for five minutes and this way,

you do it. And they've got it down to where they puts their fiber into recession or remission for weeks on end. And it's, wow. It's insane. Yeah. It's so fascinating. I could talk to you about that for an hour. I love medical stuff. But wait, let's go on. So, okay, so you break up with that guy. I mean, we're talking about a very short time here because you even mentioned before, like I still have that trauma and everything because it's not like you're 10 years out of that relationship. You're still stuck on him. I mean, you only started in the pandemic. That met him, you were with him for two and a half years. When does the whole content creating and then meeting your new guy take place? Okay. So at the end of the last relationship, and I say trauma,

and it was traumatic, but we did have a lot of really good, actually still friends with him. We're still talking and friendly. He's like the first guy that brought me in the lifestyle. It's hard to not to end that without just like saying goodbye and not staying with at least a friendship in that regard. Of course. Of course. So yeah, I mean, I think you get to a point and you're like, I'm doing this and this is so much fun and I feel like I could do this for content. I already had an only fans, but I wasn't showing my face. I was still trying to figure out if I could do it, if I was going to be good at it or whatever. And then my partner and I were still together and we went to a lifestyle meet and greet and met a couple. And they were like, oh, my God, we're doing

this. It's working for us. We're making great money. Let's come to a dinner and we'll talk about it and whatever. And so we did. And they were like, you've got to do this. You'll, you'd be great at it. And they come to a shoot house. We've got a shoot coming this weekend. We run a shoot house. You can, you don't have to do anything or you can shoot a couple things and see how you do. And so that's what I did and they kind of showed me the ropes a little and I took to it very well and was like immediately yeah this is freaking awesome I want to get paid to do this and this memorial day shop one of avocado's biggest mattress sales of the year and fall in love with sleep again at avocado better sleep starts with better materials our certified organic mattresses are crafted without compromise

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So, I mean, that's like super loaded that you're going to show your face, right? because all your friends might know. I don't know if you have another daytime gig. What was that decision like? And had you been out and proud about the fact that you were in the lifestyle before or was like now you're revealing everything from nothing? So yeah, actually. Yeah.

So no, I didn't have. So I had a long history of illnesses and stuff. So I didn't have a ton of friends that I was like vanilla friends that I was worried about. I did have a few family members that I was like that may, not be the greatest, but at this point, because of other health issues, I was having, I was having hard time, like, working outside of my house on a regular basis and needed to work for myself. And then I was like, okay, but I can also do this and paying myself to take care of myself, which was ideal. I was like, yeah. And then they came along and I was like, okay, so I didn't have

to worry about having a big career that could have been outed. I didn't have to worry. No kids, right? I didn't have kids. Okay. No kids. No kids. So I didn't have to worry about that. I had a family member or two, but it was like, I got to do what I got to do. And I got to make money. So I'm going to just, I just did it. I was just like, screw it. I've done it for a year with no face.

It was kind of working for me, but not really. And then that happened. And it was like, okay, I'm going to do this. And I did it. And within a month after my face was on Twitter, my pussy was out on Twitter. and everything else was like, I am out there. And there's, there is definitely a freedom that comes with that. It's what is someone, no one can do anything to me now. What are they going to do? Put me out, put me up naked on, I've been knowing way more worse things than being naked on,

on the internet. So at this point, I feel very, it feels very invincible to a point and free. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, as soon as it, I started doing that and they, they kept showing me a little bit and a little bit. And I was like, oh my God, this is great. It's working. And there's so much more marketing. And I have a graphic design background. So I was using all of my schooling and stuff. That's what I find actually.

It's so there, everyone has school. Most of the people I run into have some kind of schooling that they are using. They're like, they come from a marketing background, design background, business background. It's like all over the place. But everybody's using the knowledge that they have. And it, you know, the people that are doing. well with it. Well, that's what I was going to say. That's because the content creators that are doing it consistently. I have people and what people don't understand because every buddy wants

to start an only fan and you think, oh, I'm going to make like millions of dollars. Why not? But they don't understand that it does. There is marketing, graphic design. There's so much more to it. That's just having fun. And 90% of it is. Yeah. I know. I get so mad when people are so rude when, you know, when only fans are like going to be shut down, like people were making jokes like, oh, all the people are going to have to go back and work at McDonald's. And, you know, I'm Donald's please. Like anybody that's making any kind of money doing anything. I don't give a fuck if it's only fans or podcasting or they're working in a bank.

Like they're working their fucking asses off. Like nothing. Like you don't build an only fans account and then and then you don't ever tend to it and just makes you thousands of dollars every month. Like you're tending to it constantly 24 seven all the fucking time. And that's why half the time when I like repeat episodes of people with only fans accounts, people will be like, where's the only fans? I'm like I clicked on it.

They're fucking gone. Oh, what happened to them? Like, what happened to them? They realized, like, it's a lot of fucking work and they didn't have the time for it. That's what probably happened. Yes. Yes, exactly. It's an insane amount of work.

And, yeah, you really, yeah. And I still wasn't doing. And it's overwhelming, too, because there's so much information online and stuff. And that's actually, so I was with them for about a month or so. And then there was this telegram group that I was trying to get into because there's lot of creators swapping tips and stuff. And I got into that and I hit up the guy that runs it. And we got to talking and he's got a podcast. And so he's being my podcast here in the lifestyle. This is perfect. I was like, great. And then we did the podcast and hit it off really well. And he was like,

let's do a Zoom date. And I was like, I didn't know people did that still. Okay. So we both had our glasses of alcohol and we just chatted for four hours and the first night and a couple we did a couple more times and he was very just very open and we had a lot of similar experiences with the lifestyle and what went wrong in our last relationships with the lifestyle and we had a very clear picture of what we wanted in the future and that was very similar and I still was like adamant and because I had just gotten out of a relationship not too long before. And I was like, I am not falling for this person and I am not getting a relationship. Yeah.

But yeah, he was awesome and won me over. So now we're dating. But we have done a couple lifestyle things already. And it has been a completely different experience. But do you like him yet? That's what I was going to say. So you already have feelings for him. And.

Oh, yeah. So, because I don't know really the timeline how long you've been with him. But like with this guy, it's different in that even though. you have serious feelings for him, you're seeing him doing stuff and you're cool with it. It's all good. I am so much. It's a totally different thing when you've got open communication from the very beginning and he's been very clear about me. He is with me and I come first and he backs it up. And it's not just talk. It's, that's what has happened. And if I have an issue or if he has an issue, were able to bring it up and resolve it within a few minutes instead of blowing up and fights and all

this stuff. Listen, I think the difference between your guy now and your other guy is he was a guy, like you said, he had been in the lifestyle in a relationship, right? And you had too. The other guy was always a solo guy, right? And that's why this guy is more considerate. You know what I mean? I think he's that's the kind of guy you want to be with. Like he's already navigated, right? The lifestyle as in a relationship. He's not like a single guy in there. Well, the other guy was also in a relationship. Oh, he was. But, you know, it didn't, yeah. And I, I'm, I guarantee you it probably ended the same, for the same reasons because the communication issue. And unfortunately, it's probably going to be that way for most of his relationships. But yes, it is definitely. And the thing about, and I just,

oh, we're recording, right? Yeah. Yeah. But I could edit out if you want to say for it. Oh, Doc's cool with leaving in the part. We didn't want anyone to know until we knew we were good as far as if we were going to be in the relationship for good or if we announced it. And then a week later, we're like, oh, we're not going to be together. And it was embarrassing. It's okay to leave it in. All right. But let me just add like, all right, because we're going to wrap it up anyway in five or ten minutes.

But let me just say something that brings that back since now that I know. So, okay, I think it's different because, listen, I know who you're with, right? We were going to edit it out of the podcast. but you were told you could leave it in. So we left in the part where we added it is doc chocolate. And I know because I just interviewed him that he was in the lifestyle before with a partner. That's how he started. So he's like a professional.

Probably more knows the lifestyle with a partner than not because so I think you're in good hands now. Yeah. No. And actually he was with his partner, but they didn't play together. And so he had a different dynamic, but he did have other. partners that he played with at parties that he'd go to parties with. Yes. And I think he's also seen a lot of other situations that didn't work and why they didn't work and stuff. And yes, very considerate and very communicative. And that was the biggest thing, the communication.

And being able to talk about your feelings and stuff. That's huge. You got to be aware of how you're feeling about stuff so we can work it out. And because listen, it sounds like you navigate it for some time solo. Do you prefer being in a relationship? relationship in the lifestyle? I do. I get lonely as a unicorn, but also I have also realized that if I have a night of really intense sex, the next day I really need to have a person to be touching and to get that. I'm very much a touchy person. And if I don't have somebody the next day, I drop badly. and I've found some things to mitigate that, but I definitely,

I really like the teamwork and the going in as a team and having like a social, a person that is my social buffer. Yeah, yeah. I'm not a big social person. So going to a party and having somebody who's very extroverted and able to do a lot of the talking for me is huge. Yeah, no, I love that.

I didn't know when he's like, oh, I got this girl here. I just thought it was like, maybe you guys just filmed a scene, but, you know. Yeah. It started that way. Yeah, I feel like I could talk to you for another hour and get so much information. I'll probably have you back on. We talk just like about unicorns and navigating the life. So I'll do Girl Talk episodes. But why don't you do me a favor and give like a shout out to all your stuff again so people could find you and just to tell people what they see and get on your only fans? Thank you. Yes. So my only fans is fun underscore Charlie underscore XXX. And at this point,

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