Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 943 - GIRL TALK: Picking up Unicorns and Being One w/Fun Charlie

Episode Date: October 16, 2024

Fun Charlie called in to discuss picking up unicorns and being one. Tune in to hear all the details including how and why she decided to become a unicorn, the first couple she hooked up with and what went down with them, the best places to meet unicorns, how to reach out to them, and what to do and not do during the initial conversations, why she, as a unicorn prefers meeting couples at a clubs, meet and greets and why they’re a great place to go, how unicorns feel about newbie couples, the couple she was with and the woman freaked out and why, how and why it's important for the female in the couple to be honest about their experience (or lack of) both before, during and afterward the hookup, why women should also be honest about whether she’s being bi or not, why Facebook is a great place to learn about the lifestyle and meet people in the lifestyle, how and why good aftercare of the unicorn after sex is key, why texting with a unicorn as a couple together is preferable plus a whole lot more. FunCharlie.com takes you to all of her links @TheHotGilfTour on X.com **To see pics of FUN CHARLIE plus pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confesss while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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there. Now listen, today I have on Fun Charlie. She came back to talk about being a unicorn. We talked about being a unicorn on her first episode and she had a lot to say on it. I'm like, oh, let's do a whole episode on it because I feel like there's so many couples that are looking for unicorns. I get questions from people all the time. Like, how do we find one? Where do we go? What should we do? What should we do? What, should we do? And she came on to give you all of those answers and more. She talks about all things unicorns. You know, what couples should do, what they shouldn't do. You know, how you should communicate ahead of time, how to treat a unicorn, how to score one online, where to go to meet. But this episode is full of information. She's been there, done that.

she's professional in the lifestyle for a very long time. You know, she's not only been a unicorn, she's done swapping. She's, you know, dating Doc Chocolate, who's a bull who's been on my show. She's got an only fan. But like I said, she's been in the lifestyle for a very long time. She's been, she's done it all. But she, you know, definitely had a lot of experiences as unicorn. We talk mostly about that.

It's super interesting, like I said, and informative. I have picks of Charlie, fun Charlie on my, on my Patreon. She'll also be on my Discord. I also will put a link to all her stuff in the description. She has an only fan. She has a tour coming up. All the info is on her website. It is in the description.

So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Fun Charlie. Hi, Fun Charlie. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? Good. Hi. Thank you for having me again. Well, listen, my audience loved you.

You don't see my comments on Patreon, but all my Patreon members. That's where I get all my comments now that I don't have YouTube anymore. We're like, oh, she's so well-spoken. She was so, you know, everyone said that you were well-spoken was said on more, more than one occasion. Oh, nice. People want to get your whole backstory. You've kind of been there, done that.

Started as a unicorn, was in the lifestyle. I've had a very open relationship. You're dating a famous bull who's been on my shirt. You're still dating him, right? Yes, we're still. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

And you've kind of been there, done that. You've done a lot. But you did start out as a unicorn. And when we did talk the first time. And like I said, I have your whole backstory in another episode. I will put that number of that episode in the description. So if people want to hear your backstory, they could hear it. But we did start out as unicorn.

And we talked about sort of the downfalls of sometimes being a unicorn. I have. And I was like, you know, we should have a whole episode on unicorns, not just like how to, like, you know, from your angle of like what it's like to be a unicorn. More so about the other person's angle, that couple that's looking for a unicorn. Like I do monthly Q&A's on my Patreon and someone just asked me today. they're looking for a threesome with a girl and they don't know, you know, where to find one. Like where do you find the unicorn? How do you treat the unicorn? What do you do with the unicorn? Because I've heard from unicorns that, you know, there's a downside to being a unicorn. We'll discuss that, right?

Like, that's what I'm most interested about. You started out as a unicorn, right? Yes, yes. And what was the appeal for you, though, by the way? The biggest thing was open-minded people who wanted to have sex for fun and explore things. I had been divorced after 18 years of marriage. So there was quite a bit that I hadn't figured out for myself. And I had dated or dated. I had hooked up a few times with vanilla guys and was a little on the disappointment. that's a lie.

A lot disappointed with the... With the selection. With the ability, like they, in general, guys just don't put a priority on learning how to please women and how to please women in a sexual situation. So I,

a couple of times I'd hooked up and it was, you know, again, like high school and college, all about them. what they could get out of the situation. And I was so tired of that. And I was just like, I was done. And then I met, you know, my partner that I, that brought me into the lifestyle.

And he's like, well, you know, you really need to get in the lifestyle. I'm like, well, what is that? Yeah. And so he explained it to me. And I loved the idea of just the unwritten rules and the written rules. You know, everybody's discussing what their noes are, their yeses are. everybody, you know, will you wear a condom? If you won't, we're not going to do this, you know, trying to get a vanilla guy. I mean, it still happens in the lifestyle trying to, you know, men not wanting to wear condoms, but you just don't play with those guys. But in the vanilla lifestyle, trying to get a guy to wear a condom is insane. And it's like, come on, man, you can have sex. We can have as much sex as we want. You just have to freaking put a condom on. So. Yeah. That's what people don't understand. In the lifestyle, there's so much more communication. going down on when it comes to that.

And like, so what you were saying is super interesting. And I think some people wouldn't even consider that. But like what you liked was the freedom that it allowed, right? But also the boundaries that were set up that aren't set up in the vanilla worlds. Exactly. Exactly. They're just not, you don't talk about that kind of stuff in vanilla sex. And it's just like, why not?

We should be talking this much in everything. You know, it's just, yeah. For sure. Yeah. So your guy gives you free rein, he brings you into the lifestyle. And what did you find that couples were more attentive? Because you did start out when I said like, hey, why did you sort of like what was the appeal about being a unicorn?

And your first thing that you led with was like, you know, I wasn't being satisfied by men. Did you feel like couples you thought would satisfy you more? I didn't actually start with couples. My partner or the friends with benefits that brought me in, we played. as friends for the first six months. So I still consider myself a unicorn, even though I'm dating someone, because I do play solo, you know, and that a lot of people think that once you're dating, you can't be a unicorn. It's like, yes, yes, you can. You're playing by yourself. You can.

You're a unicorn. Yeah. I mean, it's like, you just be. Yeah. And so, yeah, so we did a lot of group stuff, MFMs. I really like, I found that I really like that. And then not until like a year and a half. So I play, we were friends with benefits for about six months and then we started dating. And about a year and a half into dating is when I kind of figured out that I was by. And then that brought me into the couple realm. And I was, you know, started looking into couples and stuff. But until then, I honestly didn't have the confidence. It takes some time. It takes some practice. But looking where I started and where I am now is like night and day. So definitely takes just practice. What kind of practice do you need with a couple? You know, just just the fact of being

with, like the first time is horribly scary and nerve-wracking and I was super anxious and I didn't know what to expect, but the first couple I was with was pretty great and they just kind of took charge in a sense of, you know, we've been here, done that, let's all have fun. And we did. And I was like, oh, my God, that is the most fun because it was like three of us. It wasn't as intimate as a one-on-one, which is fun, but, you know, I'm, I have gravitated towards like MFMs and group and couples and stuff. So that got my feet wet, and then I started kind of looking. I'm still, I was and still am picky with couples because I don't want to get into somebody's drama. I want to make sure both are on the same page and both are wanting it.

You know, you run into one person wants it more and they're just dragging the other. person along and I'm trying you know I try to be very aware of how they act together sometimes I'll even see them at a club and kind of watch them for a little bit and make sure you know they're not like constantly fighting or you know that they're pretty cool with each other and you know and then how they treat you too because a lot of people saying the unicorn hunting is a very big thing and it's a very crappy thing. And basically that is you are looking for a sex toy for your relationship, basically. And when a couple approaches you and they are technically hunting, you can feel it. You can feel that they don't see you as a person. You can feel that they're, you know,

just trying to get you to join their relationship in a short period of time just for you to be the sex toy and this is all about them. And, I really hate that dynamic. I really look for the situations where it's like the three of us are friends and we're playing and we're having fun. But every single couple I've had is a totally different dynamic. So it's a rainbow of different types. Yeah, no, listen, you just said so much there and I'd like to break it all down because I feel like each one of those topics we could discuss because they're all separate parts of it. And you're, you know, you're coming at it from different angles because I do like I started out. saying there's a lot of couples out there who are unicorn hunting, you know, from the other side of things, you know, if you were giving couples, like advice, like first of all, where is the best place to meet a unicorn? Is, you know, because somebody said, hey, we're on apps, but we're thinking that maybe a hotel takeover or a club or a party is a better place to meet a unicorn. Like, I mean, do you suggest apps over that or vice versa or it doesn't really matter?

Honestly, it's a toss-up. And I think it depends on where you are, where you live. Because different, I've definitely noticed different areas of the country treat swinging very differently. Florida, for example, is very lifestyle centered. And I would definitely recommend going to a club. And like a place like secrets, there are a lot of single women coming there on a regular basis. But there are other clubs where you rarely find, you know, single women. So it definitely depends.

Yeah, it definitely depends on where you live. And the Swinger apps are great. I've also heard like, oh, what is that? Feld is one. No, but I recommend SDC because yes. I love SDC. Yeah, SDC is great, right? And I have a free trial.

I always have to give my shameless plug because I do offer my people who lessen a free trial, which is great, right? So you could check it out. What I love about SDC and you're going to explain it is like, you can't go. on there and look for unicorns, right? And they're going to profiles and all that. But you could also look for the local meet and greets and the local stuff going on and the meet and greets, all that kind of stuff in your area, right? It's got everything. Exactly. Exactly. And you can find so

many, like, I mean, if you're a unicorn, people, you're going to get flooded with, you know, and so keep that in mind. If you are a couple looking for a unicorn, keep in mind that she is getting flooded with so many messages from couples, single guys, single women. all kinds of people. So be respectful of that, be patient. You know, I think a lot of unicorns get the label of being flaky or whatever, but this is, this is not like, you know, a job. This is our hot, this is for fun and this, you know, we also have full lives. So we can't always keep up with all of that stuff. So just be patient. Put, you know, I, I usually will, favor couples who actually give me a little bit about themselves ahead of, you know, if,

if you have a profile that does, has no face pictures and you're approaching me in SDC, there better be some face pictures. Because if I have to ask you for, that's extra work that you're asking me to do that maybe other couples may not be doing. So definitely put yourself out there in the first, when you're first contacting us so that we can see exactly what you're wrong. wanting what you know what you look like then we can look at your profile you know give passwords to any hidden you know folders and stuff so that we can totally see you um up front because it it there are so many messages to go through right so you're saying like less is is not more you're saying give it all in that first email because that's your only shot you're not going to open up you don't

want to go back and forth 10 times with somebody right like give as much as you can in that first time because maybe you have 20 other people to go through. That's your one time to get in. Give all the information right that. It makes sense. Exactly. Exactly. You would not believe.

And a lot of the times the couples, it's the guy that's reaching out. And it's like, hey, you look pretty. And it's like, okay, that's it. That's all they sent. And it's like, so I'm supposed to start this company. You know, no, just, you know, hey, my wife and I have really liked your profile. You know, this is her. This is me.

This is what we do. this is what we were looking for. What, you know, does that meet your needs? Are you looking for the same thing? We'd love to meet up and just, you know, we vibe. That's awesome. And do you care who you're talking to, whether it's the guy or the girl? Do you eventually want to actually talk to her before you meet up just to make sure?

Like, or does it not matter? Do you know? I honestly have not met anyone straight from online. I have learned that I don't like the pressure because I'm usually, especially, when it's like a swap and I'm meeting with my partner, I am horrible at, because I'm always the last person. I'm always the last person to get on board. So I prefer, and a lot of unicorns, especially that I've met at Secrets, like to do this. So they like to meet at a club, at a swingers club. So for one, their safety. Two, if it doesn't work out, you still have options. You know, she has

options and the couple has options they can go and you know play and and meet other people it i feel like it takes the pressure down and it's also a little safer and you're not having this conversation about swinging in a public place if you're not exactly wanting you know other people to hear you so some people are more down down on the down low and you know some people don't care so it just depends but meeting in a club is really nice because then you don't have to worry about a lot of things. But if you, and vibe is really important to me, there are some women who can pick online

and they are just like they know immediately. So I'm not that way. I need to meet somebody in person before I can even think about choosing. So, and honestly, I have picked my last two or three couples myself instead of people who have come to me. So how did you pick them? I have one couple specifically.

I had seen them at Secrets a few times, and I watched them kind of watched how they party, watched if they fought a lot, you know, whatever. Not like stalking, just like observed from afar every once in a while when I saw them. And then I found the opportunity to approach them. And I was like, hey, I really liked your profile. I've seen you guys around. If you guys would like to hang out, I would love that. And I gave them my information. and I walk away, and if they contact me, then great.

If they don't, then that's not what they're looking for. But yeah, and I suggest doing the same too. Don't, if you're a couple and you see a unicorn and you're like really interested, you can always approach. You can always say, hey, you know, we really like your look. We really think we might have fun. We like your vibe, whatever. But don't sit there and then hounder, you know, just give her the option.

If she wants, maybe she's not there to look for couples that night. So, you know, just give her your information and see if she wants to hang out. If not, maybe buy her a drink if she wants to drink. Otherwise, you know, don't hound her, give her some time. There's a lot of people that, especially places like secrets. Secrets is very much open to walking up to you and starting that conversation. Other clubs I've been to, people are a little less likely to just walk. up to you and hit on you. So it depends on where you are too. Of each place. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. And listen, for the people that, like, as you were

saying before, like, you prefer meeting in person, but some places there might not be a club nearby or something. But, you know, I remember having Missy Bender on. She throws parties. And she said, you know, listen, you have to be realistic. You might have to drive an hour to go to a club. But, you know, it's worth it maybe if you're looking for a fucking unicorn. You can't find one on the apps and whatever. Like get in your car. Go on SDC. look, you know, outside your, you know, 15-minute driving range, you know. Most likely within an hour around you, you're going to find a club. And I do believe personally that it makes sense that that would be an easier way to meet someone in person, especially, you know.

But like you said, you just don't know that some clubs are going to have a lot of unicorns there or some are not going to. You just don't know. Exactly, exactly. And also, like, SDC is really popular in Florida, but if you go to like the northeast, that they are more on, what is that one? I'll think of it. It's not Cassidy. It's the. LS. Yes. Yes. I'm not a fan of that, but it is the one that's big up there. So, you know, you have to choose the one that's works, that's more popular in your area. But yeah, and there are meet and greets. I love those. Yeah, I think that's important. I think those are great. And explain what those are. Okay, so meet and greet usually is either, it's either in a vanilla setting or they've rented out a vanilla setting for just the swingers. So, but you're not, you're not going to play necessarily. Now you can, you can, you can, you know, some, there's an occasional blow job in the corner. But for the most part, people are keeping their clothes on. But it's a great way to, we, I have met single people. I have met. I have met.

met couples, and it's so great to check the vibe of the other person. Is there even any chemistry? And you can meet so many people. My last partner, we would go to them, and we'd leave with at least two or three couples that we were like, yeah, I mean, you know, I really like this couple, I really vibe with this people. There's chemistry here. So that is a really, really good place. And, you know, you can try to find meet and greets where more unicorns might be. You can contact the people who run them and see, you know, how often single women come. If they're like almost never, then maybe that's not the one, you know, for you if you're looking for a unicorn. But yeah, definitely.

I love those. Yeah, but let me ask you this. As somebody, like, I'm the type of person that I want to know the whole fucking lay of the land and exactly what's going to go down before I go anywhere, you know? So, like, I don't even know how a meet and greet runs. Like, you walk in. Is everyone like sitting down and someone talks and then everyone, or is it just like a mingling, like you're walking into a bar and everyone's just walking around talking to each other? Is it like formal? Is it informal? Like how is it set up? Honestly, it's both. We have been to both. And that's how you find. So once we found the the meet and greet that we liked, because the same people run it every month, that's the one we go to consistently.

So that one is one where they rent out a bar and you walk in and everybody's already mingling. It's like you're walking into a bar, but you know everybody's a swinger. Yeah, yeah, I love that. Yeah, that's like a relaxed vibe. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Yeah.

Not everybody's sitting at a table, you know, flipping at each other. It's not super. Oh, my God. We went to one of those and it was not ideal. I was not, it was not comfortable. You know, it was really, it felt like a vanilla meeting. business meeting somewhere at Chili's or something, you know, I did not like it. So we never went back to another one of those, but we did, you know, you find the people who run the ones that you like,

and that those are the ones you try and make it to on a regular basis. Yeah, listen, we both sort of agree that we would like the one where it just relaxed, but maybe there are people that want the one that is more, you know, low key, more like professional and regulated. You know, who knows? It's, there's something for everybody, which I think is really great. And what, what you're saying, which I think is interesting, is that, you know, they, they're all run by different people. You have to find the one you like. Same with like swinger clubs. You could, you know, I, well, every now and then I'll hear somebody say that they went to a swinger club and it was like a really bad one and you rarely hear that, but, you know, you never know, you. And they're all run

by different people. They all are in different places. So they're going to have different kinds of people there, you know, so it's kind of like hit or miss. And the point, the reason why I'm saying that is because I think that people, just if you go to like one and it's not ideal, don't sort of think that that's the way it is across the board. They're all very different. You have to find what you like, right? Exactly. Exactly. And you can even talk to most of the people who run those are very friendly and welcoming to people messaging them and reaching out to say, hey, you know, what is the vibe of your meet and greet? You know, is it a party vibe? Is it a sit down and everybody's eating chips and salsa? What kind of, you know, what do you do? What are the roles? Exactly.

So it's, you know, I think that's a good idea. Yeah. What about with newbie couples? Because I know, like, and I've heard both sides of things. Typically, I'm hearing from a lot of people once they're like sort of professional lifestylers or they're, you know, their professional unicorns. Like a lot of times are like not interested in newbies anymore, you know, kind of been there, done that. There's a lot of red flags. God knows what's going to happen, you know? And then I've heard the opposite. Like I love newbies because I love to be the one that takes charge. You know, who knows. But I mean, like, you know, if there's a like are you as a unicorn who's, been there, done that with couples.

And now your experience, like, you loved being, when you were a newbie, you loved the couple that came in and took charge of you, right? Because you were, like, really nervous. But now that you're not nervous and you know what the fuck's going on, like, do you like newbies? Do you stay away from them? Like, I don't know, do they have a shot? Or is it harder for them to hook up with, Corns?

Not necessarily. It depends on, honestly, it depends on my mood. It depends on a couple. If, you know, if they are new and it feels like. Both of them are really wanting to make this work, to make the lifestyle work for them. And it feels very much like it's a group, a couple thing. It's not just like one person pulling. I would be open to that as long as I felt like they were being honest.

I have been in situations where even the seasoned lifestylers were not honest and it blew up. Really? And it makes, yeah, it definitely, and it has made me. me. Honestly, I don't think I've been with a couple since because of that situation. What happened? Can you just tell me just interesting? Like, how did it blow up? This Memorial Day, shop one of Avocados' biggest mattress sales of the year and fall in love with sleep again. At Avocado, better sleep starts with better materials. Our certified organic mattresses are crafted without compromise, using high-quality organic materials that bring comfort and support into perfect balance.

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Wait, I'm just stopping you right there because I just have to tell you, like, literally my question that I was like prompting this call from that came from my Q&A on my Patreon. Like this couple is literally like the couple you're talking about. Like this is a woman with her husband asking like her and her guy are looking for a girl, but she's really nervous because she wants it to happen. But she doesn't know how she's going to feel, you know? So I think like first thing that I'm hearing and what you're saying is like if you do like listen, that's normal to feel that way and everything. But be fucking honest about that, right?

Like say I don't know how I'm going to feel about that. This is my first time. Like be straight up so you could navigate it properly. Right. Like this woman came in and maybe was feeling that way but didn't let you know that. Exactly. And so I and you know she came off as a very seasoned, very confident and gung ho. about it. So, you know, everything else was equal. I thought she was fine and ready to go. And yes,

absolutely, be honest. Wait, but tell me what happened. So you're like, I'm going to fuck the shit out of her husband and have a good time. And I did. But what happens in the middle is there's some angst that happens. It's called cuck angst. And basically she, you know, she thought she wanted it, but in the middle of it, she didn't. And it turned out to be a horrible situation. And, um, and, um, and, you know, I've looked on this in the past, I've, I've, I've, man, I've been over it and over it and over in my head, but I've also met other people who have had similar dealings with this couple. And turns out that this is kind of her thing. She, this, this happens often. So it wasn't something that I did, thankfully.

But you felt bad. What did she do? Like what happened? I felt horrible. Yeah, but like what happened? Did she start like crying? Like what actually happened? Oh, yeah.

I, I, it totally shook me because I'm very empathic. I take this very seriously. I, you know, being married for 18 years and have had been cheated on, I do not want to split any couples up. So if that's why I'm very specific and I pick my couples because I want to know that they're both on board and I want to know that they're being honest so that I can gauge their comfort level. Right, because the last thing you want to do is make that girl feel the way you have felt in the past when you were cheated on and everything like you're very sensitive to that, right?

And that's the opposite of what the experience you want to have. And that's what you had with this couple. Exactly. But on the other side, like I've been on both sides. I've been the unicorn. I've also been in a couple and man it's i don't care how long you've been a unicorn or a bull as soon as you get into a relationship and those feelings start you have to go back to square one you you start like just because and on top of that you don't have the years of marriage of trust building that married people do so it's a very very volatile uh relationship to to jump into so i've been there I've been the jealous, I've been nervous, you know, I've had all those feelings. So I feel very confident that when someone's like, you know, I'm nervous, I don't actually, I have a couple that I'm going

to be with that we, we missed out on being with each other. But she was like, oh my God, I'm, you know, hearing that story, she was just like, what if I, what, you know, I'm like, you do not have to worry. I know that you don't have not done this before. I know that you're nervous. I will handle things completely different and I would have with them if I would have known she was at all nervous. But because there's a lot more handholding and checking in to, you know, that I would be doing if I knew you were nervous. And you would not believe how many times a five-minute conversation and some reassurance can change the night completely. And it doesn't have to, it doesn't have to spoil the night, but you definitely want to communicate that you may not.

be 100% you're very unsure if you're going to like it so we take it slow you know you take slips i don't want to just jump in and fuck your husband right in front of you if you you know if you're apprehensive if you haven't been there before it's very much the communication communication communication yeah and communication with the unicorn too it's not just about sort of you know it's telling me or your husband right like oh we're kind of nervous and then pretending and fronting when you meet the unicorn because you're trying to act like you're all good, right? And you're fine. Yes.

Please do not do that. Because look, you're here to say. And what's interesting about your stories, like, you just had that horrible experience with that girl, but you met another couple. And she's honest and telling you she might have a bad reaction. And you're not like saying fuck off. Like, I'm not even dealing with that. Like, you could navigate that because you're cool.

You're a woman. You understand. You're not going to like, you know, but you could work with that. It's not like you're going to. Yes. If someone's honest with you, you're going to. turn down the couple just because the woman has those reservations, but I think you're going to respect them more. And that and they and they should do that. I mean, not just for the unicorns sake,

but for their relationship's sake. Absolutely. I mean, yes. Yes. Oh my gosh. That is the biggest thing. Yes. And especially, I mean, and that's not just with unicorns. If you are new and you're nervous and you're trying to swap with someone, you need to, you know, be honest with them. If they're seasoned and they are cool with newbies, then great. Then they are going to take their time. They're going to, you know, a lot of people love doing that. Some people who might have wanted to do that, maybe they're not in the mood to do that right now, you know, and then that's okay to, you know, bring in a new person. It's not always, it's a lot of work and reassurance. And you have to be in the right headspace to play with.

newbie if you were seasoned, you know. So definitely be honest, but it can be the best experience. And even if you have gotten close before and you've had all these feelings, the right person and the right communication can change everything. It just can change everything. Yeah, just like you said, a little reassurance goes a long way. Sometimes if the woman just knows that the other woman, like, has her back just in case, she's maybe more likely to be totally fine with it than if she's, like, hiding it and holding it in. She's more likely because they say like what you resist persist. If all you're thinking of is like, I don't want to be jealous, I don't want to be jealous,

but you're not saying it out loud, you're going to probably be fucking jealous. You know what I mean? But if you put it out there and you talk it out and you tell the other woman and she's like, don't worry, I got your back. Like maybe you won't even care, you know, because you feel comfortable. And that's what it's all about. And the other thing that I've heard though, too, from unicorns and this could, I'm sure, and I've heard this in swapping too is that, you know, a lot of times there's this problem

where this couple signs up and they're like, yeah, we want to. to hook up with a woman and the woman is like pretending to be by but she you could tell like she's not into it right is that the worst yes yes the worst please please please if you do not know that you're by tell them yeah you know say by curious tell them you've never been with a woman tell them if you are have and you're just like you don't eat pussy okay that's fine but you need to give the other person whether you're swapping or it's a unicorn you need to give that woman the choice of whether she wants to be with someone who may not know that they're by. You know, because there's a headspace you have to go in with.

And if you go in with the headspace that this person's by and they're totally into you, then you get there and they're not. It kind of feels like rejection in a way. So your headspace, it throws you off. So absolutely be honest about that. And yeah. And don't do it for your guy. Don't twist yourself into a pretzel.

I mean, women tend to do that. I've done it in my life. You know, we twist ourselves for somebody, you know, and just because that's what they want. It's like the worst thing you could do, you know. And because, listen, that's stuff like you could smell it from a mile away. Like you say, here you are a girl. You're into girls.

You know, this girl's fronting that she's into it, but she's maybe just doing it for her guy. And then you could just like tell she's not into you. And that doesn't make you feel good, you know? And it's not going to make her feel good. And it just like ruins the whole thing. It really does. It does.

And yeah. And you can do a lot of things. You don't have to be by to bring a woman in. You don't have to even touch each other. It could be more about the guy. But just talk about it. Yeah, for sure. Definitely tell.

Definitely tell. Yeah, be honest, right? Yes, absolutely. That's what I definitely think. And then so what about like, you know, let's just talk about like with couples swapping because you've done that too as far as like, you know, is that it's kind of like the same rules and stuff like you could find on, um, on, on. online and stuff or, you know, because what I find a lot when I'm talking to people who are like couple swapping and they're looking for other people to play is just like a lot of wasted time on apps and stuff and people not showing up and people flaking and you get the hotel, you know, and stuff.

And, you know, how do you navigate that shit? It is exhausting. Well, and I also, something came to mind. Another good place to be if you can create like a lifestyle Facebook page. There are a lot of Facebook groups that some of them are for people wanting to swap. Some of them are just forums with questions, which is very helpful. Go through all the questions, you know, go through all of the scenarios that might happen. You're never going to be able to think of all the things that might happen.

You also may not realize that you may have bad feelings in a situation that you thought you'd be fine. And, but I found that 99% of my worry goes out the door when I'm in the situation. Like, all of the worry that I had, what if this, what if that? What if I can't handle this? What if, blah, blah. But then I get there and I'm like, everything's cool, you know, so. Totally. Excuse me.

Yeah, so make sure you do your homework and look at all the possibilities and talk about that all with your partner. but, and I apologize, I got off the subject. What was the question? Can you go back, though, to the Facebook? Because I've heard this before about Facebook. I've recovered, like, Facebook Swinger Places. And I'm like, who knew they existed?

How do you find those? Like, what do you type in? I know. So you just type in. There are so many Swinger, swinger groups. There are now, like, every single club that I know of, like in Florida, has a Facebook page. And then there are groups that you can find with. that Facebook page that, you know, can lead you.

And there are, you know, couples looking for unicorn groups. There are unicorns looking for couple groups. And a lot of them you'll find in your area, too. Like if you're in Las Vegas, Las Vegas Swingers, you know, type that in and you'll get all kinds of groups that come up. And you can message the owners of the group and see, you know, if that's something that is something that you're interested in. Maybe it's, maybe the group is too crazy for you or too public, you know, it depends on.

And you don't, you know, you don't have to put your face picture on a, on a Facebook profile. You can just, you know, have whatever. There are tons of things that people do to keep their anonymity. So, yeah, definitely. There are so many groups there, yeah. You know what I forgot to talk about with unicorns? And that was the last thing I wanted to discuss is that, because I have heard it before, that, you know, a lot of times, because the couple is together, they have that primary relationship, right?

And then they're looking for this unicorn to bring in. And sometimes, and I was surprised when I heard this, because I didn't even think of it. And I'm like, I think probably a lot of the couples that are rude to the unicorn in the way that people have said that couples can be rude, they probably don't even realize it, right? Because they're not thinking about the unicorn, like you said, as a person so much, right? They're like, oh, we want to have fun. We want to bring in a girl. We want to fuck her. But sometimes I've heard unicorns complainant about how they're treated, you know, they're not treated like a human being. Like, what are those little things that couples can do that as like a big turnoff and things that they could do to not do that, to not make that unicorn feel like so left

out? Because they're naturally left out, right? Like, this is a primary partnership and this person is coming in. It's a real, it's uncomfortable for the unicorn, right? It is. It's, um, and honestly, So the couple that I had the big blow up with, they got, they discarded me like trash, you know, and it feels like crap, you know, as soon as, and that's the tricky thing with being a third person in any relationship. It's like, you have to think this person, they have feelings, they have, they have interest in you. But we also are very aware that you guys are. a couple first. Yes, that's true, but you still need to be respectful, considerate of her feelings, and that she is a person who might not, it's not about getting attached to you in a romantic way, but it's a fondness like your friends, you know? So it's like, don't dangle something in front of her that you're not willing to back up.

So if you want to do this for fun, make sure that they understand that. Make sure that they understand that as soon as things don't go right, we may not be able to hang out anymore. Have those conversations so that everybody's on the same page. There are so many couples that are trying to find a third to have a relationship with. And it's like, that is the most difficult thing to do, especially when you're already established. Like three people coming together who have never been together, any of them, that's more reasonable than a couple bringing a third in because one, especially if that third person doesn't have their own partner. So now you guys have each other. You need to make sure that after sex that she is getting her after care too.

It's not, it just doesn't end. I've had women go, okay, you can. can go now. Oh my God. Like I'm some kind of hooker. Yeah. Oh my God. You know, it's like, excuse me, sex worker.

Yeah. And it's like, okay, thanks, you know. And I've, you know, left in the middle of the night. And yeah. And so they're left to give each other aftercare, but I'm left out in the cold. So it's like this person is a person. She has feelings. She has needs.

She's a human being. You can't just have a night of crazy intense. sex and then just kick her out the door. Right, because you don't have somebody to give you that after care. And that's what I think they're not considering. I certainly don't believe that these couples that do that are just like the most selfish people and they don't care. I don't even think they consider it.

If they heard you say this, and this is why I think it's important to tell people these kinds of things because they're not even thinking it through like that, right? They're just thinking, oh, you wanted to fuck me. Like we'd had it. Like, bye-bye. You know, but where are you going home to? A lot of times the unicorn is by themselves, right? and that person has that other person.

So like you're getting in your car and you're driving home feeling like you said, like a prostitute, you know, which isn't a good feeling. No, no. It just, it feels like, okay, well, you use me and now I'm going home. You know, it's like, yeah, it's a weird feeling.

And it's a, yeah. And I've heard of couples like trying to dictate who that person can see now because they're having sex with them on a regular basis, even if they're not in a relationship. And it's like, no, no, no, you don't get to tell me who I can be with outside of you. You know, I'll be honest about it. So for safety.

Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's like territorial jealousy. You know, there's all kinds of stuff. And it's like, no, no, no, this is for fun. You know, I'm my own person. We are not dating. You know, I get to do anything I want after I leave here.

So, you know, I'm honest about it if they want to know for, you know, STD reason. but other than that, it's none of your business. But, yeah, I've had couples get like all possessive. And it's like you don't own them. You know, they're not in a relationship with you. If you are sticking to the lifestyle and it's not like more of a relationship polyamory thing. Yeah. So definitely.

And I don't think, I think a majority of the couples, I agree with you that they haven't even thought of that. Like they think that the unicorn is like, yeah, I want to please couples. and that's my job. But no, it's not. And actually, I would like to say this because I ran into this one time. I was at a party, and because I'm a unicorn, I got the very clear feeling that the wife expected me to take care of husbands.

Like, that's why I was there. And, you know, I, it was like, no, no, no, no. I get to sleep with who I want to. And I can actually not sleep with anybody. If, you know, I'm not a party or I'm not a hired party favor. Yeah, you're not the monkey working for them. Right. Yeah.

Exactly. And I've heard of all kinds of situations where, and I think a lot of wives get a little, I don't know if it's jealousy or they get a little territorial or whatever, but they're very, a lot of the wives can be like, well, you'll have to wait until everybody else has had sex. But I think the majority of couples aren't bad. They're just, they're just uneducated on the protocols. call. This, you know, definitely consider that she is not totally into fucking you and then leaving.

You know, a lot of us would like part of that aftercare too. And it makes for a better friendship. And it absolutely will dictate whether she wants to come back or not. Yeah. And they're called a unicorn for a reason. They're hard to find. So if you find one and you had a good time, you want to keep them. So heed her warnings.

You know what I mean? do what she says. And the other thing, the last thing I want to say is like, and I wonder if you've had this experience I'm thinking you are. Like, do you have any kind of like rules about who you're texting with in the couple? Because I'm assuming sometimes like, I mean, because how do you know, like if the couple starts, if the husband starts texting you and the wife isn't there? You know, I mean, I've heard of some people who have a hard rule like, oh, I always make sure if I'm hooking up with a couple or whatever that, you know, I'm talking to the both of them. Yeah. Right? Because you don't know if the guy is now texting you afterwards behind his girls back

or something. Do you know what I say? Like that shit could happen. Yes, absolutely. Yes. Then that happens. It happens a lot. I, most of the time there's a conversation up top when it's like we, you know, and usually it's the wife who's very open and up front. We only message together. As she should, right? Exactly. The couple should have those rules, right? I know. I hate, I really, really hate that women have to police that and it's, it makes me so mad. But it's life. So, yeah. So let's make sure with both partners in front of each other who, you know, what they're texting rules are because as soon as that's broken, that's, that's it. You're done with that couple.

They're not, they have things to work on before they should have another person. So if the husband, you know, if the wife is like, yeah, we only text in group and then the husband's reaching out to you that it's over you know whether you want to be up front with the wife about it or not that's up to you but for me it's like no no no absolutely not but and yeah and you try to get on the same page as soon as possible so that stuff doesn't happen but any you usually you know i have heard about that happening more than it has happened to me but i also am Super, super picky. So you just, I think you just really have to be a, get used to reading couples. If you're a unicorn, if you're a couple, get used to, you know, and there aren't, you know, not all unicorns are good and moral either. So do your homework. Talk to people that you may know in the lifestyle community in your area. A lot of people know unicorns and they're not, most unicorns that I know aren't actually looking for a relationship. They're looking to have fun with couples.

So they've had fun with multiple couples in their area that might be able to go, hey, we love this girl. She's freaking awesome. You should call her. You guys might vibe. That also can happen too. Yeah. No, I think that that's, listen, I personally think, you know, maybe it doesn't, maybe that other stuff with the guys texting you and stuff. It doesn't happen as much for you because you're very heavily involved in the lifestyle.

So you're probably playing with people who are less likely to be like, newbies. I think it happens probably a lot though in the wild, right? With the people in the vanilla world picking up unicorns and then there's like blows up and it's all kinds of crazy. I suggest a couple. Like if you're just going into this situation and you haven't done it before, like make sure you're just on a group chat because it's one thing what the guy's going to do, but you don't know on the other end like if Fun Charlie's not going to be texting your guy back, right? Because you're cool and it's happened to you and you're not going to do that. But some girls might be like, oh, take it up and start banging the guy behind the girls back. Oh yes. I have heard.

stories on that side too. Yes. There are a lot of not, you know, on the level ethical unicorns. So you have, couples also have to be careful. You're bringing a third person into your marriage. You want to make sure that they take this seriously. And then they have, you know, a moral compass that aligns with what you guys are looking for. So yes, definitely. Because that can be just as if not more problematic. Yeah, for sure. What's the longest couple? Like, like, have you ever had long term? you know, hookups or like relationships, quote unquote, you know, with couples, like, or is it typically like a one-off thing with you? No, most of the time, I, there are, like one couple lived a few hours away, so they would let me know any time they were going to go to a secrets event and we, I would meet them up there. So that went on, I think, like a year. And, I mean, I've since moved from there, so I don't do that as often anymore.

but and then there was another couple that I would hook up with them or him solo but it was already you know talked about between the three of us and she was absolutely totally cool with that right and that happens too a lot of uh you know the husbands don't always get first choice especially if there's a lot of single males in your area that are in the lifestyle so some couples will and please please be honest don't do the tricking thing um that's a huge thing if you are looking for a unicorn specifically if you are looking for a woman for your husband to play with

on the side on a regular basis be upfront about that don't trick the unicorn into a threesome and then go hey you're going to play with my husband and we're not playing anymore you know it's like that happened has happened multiple times too yes absolutely yeah why not just be up front

you're going to find exactly what you're more likely like weed out the trash by being specific That's what I think, right? Yes, absolutely, absolutely. Just be up front. Don't, because if you trick her and it doesn't go well, you're never going to see her again. And we talk between ourselves. We exchange, hey, stay the hell away from this couple.

They are toxic as hell. Like one couple you were with. You heard about them from other people then too, right? Like everyone knows. Exactly. Yeah. Everybody knows they've got quite the reputation. Yeah.

And if you live in a small area or even Florida, I mean, the lifestyle is very big in Florida, but it's a small community. You know, so everybody, you'll, yeah, yeah, it gets around. Florida really is the mecca of swinging. Like, that's what I've heard. It's crazy. And you move, though, you're not there anymore? I, no, I moved to be with Doc. Yeah, now I'm in Las Vegas.

Oh, how do you like Vegas? You know, I just talked to, I'm a couple who moved there. They're from porch swingers. They have a podcast too. And they were saying there is a whole underground swinger community there. He was explaining, and I'm sure you know this that, like, you know, they don't really, like, people who live in Vegas don't really fuck with the tourist thing. Like, there's this whole other community that if you live there, like, they keep it very separate and hidden, right? And that's for the people that live there.

and he was talking about how great it is. It is. There is a great lifestyle community. It's different than, you know, Florida, but it is good. It's just different, a different experience. But, yeah, I'm liking it. The dry heat's really growing on me. Oh, my God, that's so funny.

I love it. Well, listen, Fun, Charlie, thanks so much for calling in and just going off on Unicorns, because so many couples have these questions. I think that, you know, all your stories and all your information is so useful. and helpful for people, whether they're the couple that's looking, whether it's the unicorn that wants to be a unicorn, you know, whatever. I think that everything that you talked about here was like super informative, you know, and that's really what I wanted.

It's a great girl talk episode. So thanks for coming back on to discuss all this with me. I think it's super interesting. I'd love to come on any time. I love talking about sex and I love talking to you. You're great. Yeah. So listen, you know, I do Girl Talk episodes.

I like people who are cool and are easy to talk to. So if you ever have any other topics that you think are super interesting, just email me or text me and let me know. And then we'll plan it around it. I do five episodes a week, so I'm always looking for content. Oh, wow. Yeah, so send me another pick for this episode.

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because you do have an only fan and all that stuff. Sorry, can you give that shout out and I'll put the links to it. I do. I love that. So you can find most of my stuff

on funcharley.com. My Twitter and Instagram is Fun Charlie 420. I'm also on the GILF tour this year. We are going to Exotica and our first big tour date is November in Las Vegas, the 14th through the 17th.

I believe. Oh, great. So there's that too. Yeah, that's a new, new thing. This will be the first one? Yeah, that's awesome.

So now, will you send me a link so people can get all your information in one place or like where should they go? Absolutely. So is that your website or your only fans or?

Funcharley.com will get you to most of those places. Yeah. Okay, awesome. So send me that and I'll give you access to my Discord. You could go in there and post more naughty stuff

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