Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 957 - Lady Em Still has a Husband, a Boyfriend, a Well Hung Booty Call and More

Episode Date: November 5, 2024

Lady Em (ep. #634) still has a husband, a boyfriend, a well-hung booty call and more and she called in tot all all about it. Tune into hear all the details including how and why her husband allows her to have poly relationships, how and why he isn’t into sex at all and allows her to do whatever she wants, how she met her well-hung black booty-call guy as well as the other guy she calls her boyfriend, the Memorial Day weekend swingers party she went to with her boyfriend and what went down while they were there, the trip to Vegas with her boyfriend and what went down , how she shares her stories with all her guys about what she does but doesn’t share stories with her husband, how her boyfriend wants to fist her, how he’s prepping her and how far he’s been able to go, how she sleeps at her boyfriend's house and what are the rules if any about it, the swingers party she went to recently and exactly what went down, why she likes swinger parties more than swinger clubs, what’s on her bucket list moving forward plus a whole lot more. **To see pics anonymous pics of most of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd Sponsors: https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Okay, today I have on Lady M. Lady M is super interesting. She called in before and gave a full backstory to her Polly, Kinky life that she leads. Okay. She's got a husband, she's got a boyfriend, and then she's got another partner who's got a big cock. And she talks about all of it. Now, we got the whole backstory of how she was able to become Polly with her husband, keep him, and, you know, get all these other partners.

We do touch a little bit on that, though, here too. So you will get an overall briefing on her backstory, which is super interesting. She's successful Polly woman. She explains how all the relationships are set up in her life. And then she talks about all the crazy sex she's happening. having with all of them and how it all works out. And sometimes it gets confusing, but it's not for her. She really is living her best life. She gives zero fucks. She doesn't, she's doing everything that she's doing that you're going to hear, which is like super crazy. And she's doing it without any guilt.

She actually feels lucky and can't believe the life that she has because she's got a lot of freedom to do whatever she wants. You'll be amazed by their arrangement. It's pretty hardcore. And you'll be amazed by all the sex she has because it's equally. as hardcore. So you're going to have to listen to the story. It's super interesting. You're going to get all the details. So I'm going to get right to it. It'll be right back on with Lady M. Hi, Lady M. Welcome back to the strictly anonymous podcast. How are you today? Good, Kathy. Thanks for having me back on. For all of you guys and Kathy to refresh your memory, I'm Lady M. I was episode 634. She labeled my episode, The Husband, the Boyfriend, and the BBC. Yeah, you had a husband. I told you, listen, the reason why she's just taking over

control of this conversation right now without me even going into anything is because I was like, oh, remind me who you are. You're the one with the husband. She's like, no. Yes, you do have a, you had a husband. Maybe you don't have one anymore. I don't know. But you had a husband, but you also had lovers. But it was kind of like a thing, right? Just explain it. It's okay. So, Pollyamory, I'm living it. I have my husband, who's my nesting partner. Okay. So you have a husband. I have my boyfriend who is my primary partner in the lifestyle who I've been with for the past four years. And then there's the BBC that you call them. I call him my comment relationship.

When we see each other, it's amazing. We keep in touch, you know, every day, every couple days just by text or phone or, you know, video chat. He's only like 15, 20 minutes away, but he lives in the city. I live in the suburbs. It's, you know, he doesn't drive. So it's not like, hey, I can go see him. It's fun. So with him, that's been three years now.

I think that's where we're at. Yeah, four years. No one cares about how long it's been. Just to get to that day. Like, I mean, this is, though, been going on this whole time, like for four years. Like you have had a husband, a boyfriend, a black lover. And your husband knows. Absolutely.

He knows what he wants to know. I keep him in the loop for certain things. And he's happy with what we have. It may be a non-traditional marriage, but he's happy with me taking care of, you know, him and our family life. And if he tells me he's happy, I'm just going to have to go with it. And you're happy too. I remember that. There's no reason for you to leave him because you kind of have your cake and eat it too.

But it's not like you're having your cake and eating it too without him knowing and you're fucking him over. I mean, it is with him. Okay. And I do remember like trying to figure out why this guy doesn't want to bang. Like, what is he doing? You know, what's his reason for like sort of not being interested and not going? Yeah. Absolutely.

Everyone asks me those questions. And the only thing that I can honestly say is that. He's a man who's willing to accept a non-traditional marriage with a woman. It's not about what he accepts for you. It's about what he wants for himself. I get that he's okay with non-traditional. Plenty of people are. But he's obviously not getting any action.

That's what I remember. Well, we have discussed it, he and I, because we are best friends. He's my person. Yeah. And what we think is that maybe he's some type of asexual, somewhere on that spectrum that, you know, he's content with what he has. Maybe he doesn't need the physical interaction. I am not going to venture to guess for it.

Yeah, well, let's explain to people what kind of physical interaction he has. Is it once a month? Is it never? What is, like, explain the intimate life you have with your husband. To say that there is no physical contact between my husband and me, that would be incorrect. We don't sleep in the same bed. because he snores. He snores.

That's okay. I'm talking about fucking, okay? When do you fuck him? And if ever. So obviously, if he's not in my bed, he's not readily available to roll over and fuck. It's just not there. Lady M. Don't you, aren't you?

Are you a sub or a dumb? Because I'm going to dom you right now. Okay, listen to me, Lady M. I want to roll past the stuff so we could get to your update, right? So I'm not looking to dig deep. You're kind of avoiding the question. It's really a one-word answer or like a, you know, do you have sex with your husband? And if so, like in a year or in a month, like what is the number of times you do?

Maybe once a year. Okay. So that's the answer. Not, oh, he doesn't sleep. I don't want to get into it. But then you're going on and on. Like, I just kidding. But as far as what he does for himself, I couldn't, I couldn't care less.

I know, but I do. And I know you're trying to avoid that by telling me once a year because you're like, I don't want to go down that path where Kathy's wondering and pondering why my husband just could get fucked once a year and not care. But that does still mesmerize me and you still haven't gotten the answers. So, right? So he thinks he might be asexual. No, I have not gotten any answers out of this man other than the fact that he firmly believes that he is on the asexual spectrum.

Can he define it? No. Does he want to define it? No. He doesn't care. Yeah. He's like a menopausal woman. Like if you're in menopause, a woman completely loses her drive.

And it's not like she gives a shit. It's just not there, you know. And he might have like, you know, listen, he doesn't care. And sometimes that happens with women, too. Like you lose it and you don't really give a shit. But maybe if he did test his hormones, like maybe he has very low testosterone. Who knows? But you don't care and he doesn't care.

Correct? Correct. So that's why I have the boyfriend. I'm going to call him Major G. He goes by a screen name on VetLife, and that's part of it. But so he and I, over the past year, started swinging as a couple. We started having tiny little meetups with some swinger people that we know.

I've gone to some community events. We're going to our first kink club in a few weeks, and I'm excited for it. I hadn't been to a public play space. Those scare me. but what's the difference between a public place space and a swingers party you've been to both or no i have been in and out of one of our local adult places uh it was not my scene i still feel very green yeah yeah when it comes to that type of thing the anonymity of it all of just a random guy walking up to you and just shoving a scot in your face uh

And you don't even say hi. He doesn't look at you. All of a sudden, it's just like, no, I'm sorry. I need to look at you. I need to see you as a person, not a cock in the face. So you're meeting people like with your boyfriend separately or solo with them? We have, I guess more of like a stag vixen hot wife thing. It's dynamic in our relationship.

where he says to me, hey, what do you think about this? Hey, go find yourself a guy who's very well hung. Maybe a dark-skinned man. Why not? You can take it. And I said, okay, so I just put an ad out and my comment responded. And I just figured, okay, let me get to know this guy and see if he's something that would work within the dynamic that I have

with my boyfriend and if it's something that I want to play with or if it's something that I want to keep. And I ended up keeping him. It was not intentional, but it happened and I'm happy for it. You know, Black Friday's coming up and instead of buying like more shit you don't really need, why not invest in good sex instead? Okay. You know, are you going to do that by getting bedicated? Bejicated is like the Netflix of sex. They have classes on everything. you could think about. They have courses on dirty talk, anal sex pegging, and they have an oral sex course. It's not going to teach you how to go down on a girl. It's going to show you, okay? They have video tutorials showing you the action live with real people. And let me tell you, you want to wow your

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black, you never go back. Was it his big cock that you were like obsessed with? You're like, I can't stop seeing this guy. I really think that. Come on. It's his personality. I enjoy him. I enjoy spending time with him. We talk about everything. Right. Under the sun, he's intelligent. He's hardworking. He's everything that I would think of in a partner. But he's not the type of person that I want to have as like a constant in my life. Okay. But the boyfriend, you do like him as a constant, right? Yes.

Yes. He and I have a long history together, not just these last four years, but we knew each other back in the days of my early Polly life back when I had a girlfriend. he has history with me and he went off and did a whole bunch of other crazy stuff in like the 20 years. And he went and found me on FetLife. And we've been together, like I said, doing this now. And he's like, I think that we should explore all these things that I want to do and that you want to do. And I think that we could do it together.

And I was like, all right, let's go for it. Because I had already built that trust with him. So it's been fun. So let's, okay. Let's start with like all the updates. We kind of have the back story. You got two guys. You actually can care about them.

You're allowed to. Polly is very different than just having an open relationship. I mean, you have emotional connections with them as well, but you're never going to leave your husband for anybody. Correct. Right? Your husband's not jealous. That kind of shit doesn't come up for you guys. I remember that at all.

No, it does not. Right. You can love more than one person. Who do you love both of those other guys or just like the boyfriend guy? I love my husband. I love him in ways that a wife would love her husband. A person would love their best friends. And my, and my boyfriend, yes, I absolutely love him. He was my first love. He's the guy that I lost my virginity to at 16. I mean, he and I have that kind of history. And I have no regrets about having him in my life now. Am I glad that he popped back in? Shit, why not? I think that somewhere along the lines, I must have picked up a lucky coin and kept it or something, or I've got karma points. I really don't have a clue. I know that I should feel lucky, and I do.

But how it happened, oh, F if I know, seriously. How I have a great relationship with my husband. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend. And here I am living the lifestyle with my boyfriend and my constant. and my comet partner, we go to Swingers parties together. We have, you know, nights where we get together, and it's my comet and his partner, who's a woman, and my boyfriend and me, and, you know, it's a swap a play of, you know, playtime, basically, between all of us. Or, you know, we call up, you know, these people that we've met through the Swinger community,

through the swinger parties. And they're like, oh, we're going to get a hotel room next week. Do you want to come? And so that's where the shenanigans have been happening. But what I do want to make clear to everybody, because, like, sometimes Polly stuff is very hard for other people to understand. I almost get a headache trying to follow, like, what you're talking about. But what I remember about you and what I could hear even in you retelling this story,

there's no, like, this is very clear in your life. Like there's no complication here. This all works for everybody and has been working for a long time. And that's, I think, important because I think some people can't imagine it. But you've been rolling like this for years and everybody's fucking happy. Everybody's fucking happy. Yeah. I mean, it took three years to integrate my boyfriend into my family life.

And it is not something that I would introduce my comment into. He doesn't need to be a part of that. So when there's something going on, say, with my health or my boyfriend's health or my husband's health or something's going on with the children or whatever, all of us make sure that we know who's doing what with who and how we can all help each other. It's been that way for the last year and a half now, and I can't be happier. Right. The fact that you could roll like that, it does, it's like you have what everybody has, but you have it kind of like threefold or twofold and a half. You know, you have more love, more support, more help, more companionship, more sex, more variety. And, you know, and so with the boyfriend, the shenanigans we get up to, I have to tell you about. Okay. So we're going to start with Memorial Day weekend of this year. This year, yes. I got invited to a very, I guess, old school, old head, I don't know, OG Swinger guy's birthday party. Yeah.

And now, this guy's been in the scene long enough that he knew my boyfriend when my boyfriend was in the Cougar Cub phase. Okay. So we're talking 15, 20 years, this guy's been in the lifestyle. And we get to the Airbnb and there is people walking around in lingerie and they go, oh, put your stuff in a room. You know, it was pretty badass. But in the living room, the way that the furniture was arranged, there was enough space to make a giant play area.

And on Sunday, it was, yeah, it was. was Sunday, I managed to somehow spend about six hours in the living room and lost my glasses. And I had to drive home, I had to drive home blind. And I kept saying through the entire thing, guys, I can't see exactly who you guys are. Can you come a little closer? I can't find my glasses. So I felt like Velma the entire time. But in that pile, there were, couples, there were people masturbating, there were bankings going on, all in this one area. And to say, you know, I was getting fucked. My boyfriend was fucking another lovely BBW. And, you know, when I was done playing with this person, I went over and I played with my boyfriend and this BBW.

And that was the first time that he and I had actually played with a woman together, just he and I. So that's something we're like hoping to explore sometime soon. But the stag vixen thing that we've got going on, I'll tell you about Vegas. So he, my boyfriend, had a conference in Vegas. And he said to me, hey, M, do you want to go? and I was like, when? And he's like July. I'm like, Vegas in fucking July, the desert in July.

And he's like, yeah, why not? So I said, all right, let me look up flights. I booked a flight for myself and his. And he got reimbursed by his company. They put us up in a great hotel. And I said to him, when in Rome, right? And he goes, absolutely. I was like, so we're sitting in Sin City, right?

and he goes, you're damn right. And I said, okay, so I put an ad on Fet and just saying, hey, went in Rome looking to Rome. And I got contacted by a local swinger couple. And we met up with them, and we hung out for a little bit. We're 420 friendly people. So we were just chit-chatting for a good couple hours, getting to know each other. And the next thing I know, the following night, we're at their swinger party at the Rio. And I'm like looking out onto like the Vegas strips, staring out the window and butt naked.

And like, really? This is what happens in Vegas? The following day, I spent the entire day with a 24-year-old. Well, how do you meet him? You're going through your stories fast. How do you meet him? I met the 24-year-old through the FetLife ad. We were talking on Snapchat like probably five days before my trip.

So I was, you know, getting to know, getting to feel it out to see if it was something I wanted to, you know, go for. Because 24 to me is kind of young. I'm 44. So, I mean. Your sex drives are matched perfectly. Oh, 100%. Yeah. 100%. Yeah.

But yeah, I met him for breakfast. And he came up and we spent the entire day in bed together. And I left him around dinner time to go meet up with the boyfriend. Now does the boyfriend, the boyfriend's got that, you know, stack thing. So he enjoys for you to go back and tell him the stories? Not just tell him the stories. Right. I have to.

Okay, so I'm kind of have a switch dynamic as well. So he kind of sends me off and says, okay, I need a picture of you with a cock inside you. Okay. It has to be your pussy. No, no, it should be your mouth. You know, whatever he decides. Yeah. And so I have to send that to him while I'm playing.

And if he sends me another task or another task, obviously that has to be sent as well. So he's involved from the beginning to the end. He says, go find it, go play with it, and come back and let me know. And it is such a fun, fun thing. And what about the other guy? Does he sometimes enjoy those? Does he get the same stories or is it just this guy that enjoys them? My comment, he is pretty much the same way.

Right. He enjoys to hear, you know, all of my stories. He wants to know what the boyfriend and I are up to if we've tried anything new lately. So with the comet being very well endowed, obviously I can handle a fair amount of cock. And like we're talking 12 inches, I do not lie, y'all can check. You're going to set a picture? It's out there. It's out there.

If you can find me online, you can find him. You can see it. How do you take that 12 inches? How long is your insights? I have no idea. You also need to know I'm 5-2 and 215. Right. So, yeah, how I do it, I don't know.

But his thing, the comment, he is determined to have anal sex with me. I am not for it or against it. I have had it in the past, didn't like it. Started again with the boyfriend and, you know, I enjoyed it. I did. but my boyfriend is above average, but not ridiculously above average. And to think that I could take a 12-inch cock in my, no, thank you, sir. Yeah, too much.

And is it thick, too? It is thick, too. Yes, it is. So quick question, though, about your husband, because we know that you take these stories back to, you know, both of your guys, the boyfriend and the comic guy. But what about your husband? He doesn't really get off on here.

hearing the stories, correct? No, no, he doesn't want to hear any details at all. The only thing that he wants to hear from me is that I had fun, that I'm safe, that I'm okay, that the boyfriend's going to take care of me if we go away, that, you know, he's leaving me incapable hands type of thing. Yeah, totally. You know, that thing. I come home from a weekend, like I said, you know, Memorial Day weekend.

I came home. And he goes, so, did you have fun this weekend? And I go, how am I walking? And he just laughs. And that was as far as it went. I mean, I will allude to certain things with my husband and he'll just kind of crack up or he'll just shake his head. And I, I giggle because I know that either I've given him a mental image or I've gone a step too far. because I know that either I've given him a mental image or I've gone a step too far.

Yeah, but it's cool that he laughs. It doesn't get to him or anything. You know what I mean? I don't want to get stuck on your husband, but I'm always slightly obsessed with him for some reason. So keep going with your hot stories. Let's go back because I could start questioning about your husband again 10 minutes. I don't want to get down on that. Yeah, so I share varying levels of information with the comet.

it. But for the most part, he gets the full naughty scoop about everything that I do when I go out and do what I do. When it's with, you know, a random person that I've met through the community or if it's, you know, a hot night with two women, two men, and my boyfriend, you know, that's happened. But those things, the details on those. I really understand that a lot of people get turned on by hearing these stories. I mean, there's erotica, there's literatica, there's all those things. And I'm living all of this. In my brain, I'm like, okay, last night, I just took five Cox. Or on New Year's, hey, woman, did you realize you took 13 on New Year's at the Swingers' Party?

I mean, I went from being monogamous to non-monogamous to sleeping with multiple men a night. And it's fun. It is the most fun I think I've ever had exploring my sexual being. And that's what's so incredible, right? Like, here you are. And, you know, listen, you didn't just come from a vanilla marriage. It sounds like you came from a vanilla not very kind of like sexless marriage. And now you're like on the opposite end of the spectrum.

Let me ask you a quick question about details. You know, I know you've been with women. You got this guy, your comic guy, your boy, other guy. He's got a girl. You know, these guys, other guys that you're with obviously fuck other women too. Are you interested in those details? Do you have a little bit of a cuck in you as well, or do you not care about that? I enjoy hearing that they've pleased people.

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I would want to know the details. That would turn me on, but you don't have that in you. But they have that. Your guys, though, have it in that they want, like, the details for you. So why don't you tell more of your update stories? You could go back.

I'm done with my question. You could go back to your hot stories. Okay. All right. So I started with the BDSM background. That's where I learned as much as I did about the lifestyle and the community. I learned it online.

It was my COVID project. And, you know, I realized that I was always kinky, that I was always into these things. Like, I used to play with ice and knives. Oh, my God. What do you do with ice and knives? Okay, so the ice, it's sensory play. Sensory play is a very guilty pleasure of mine. If someone were to walk up to me and just kind of lightly drag their fingernails across my back.

Yeah. or like touch my neck, I would get goosebumps and I'd be like, ooh, do it again. Yeah, yeah. It's it's definitely a kink thing. So I started exploring all of this in real life because now that I've thrown myself into the community, whether it's the swing community or the kink community, like in person, I'm meeting people who are impact cops, who, you know, are rope bottoms. All of these things that I'm like, I aspire to learn what you know.

Yeah. And lately, the only thing that I've been exploring has been like orgasm control and impact play. And impact play has been fun. The bruises from just a session, it's like the day after you're like, man, I did that. That's hot. And you're aching for more attention. It's a vicious cycle. Right.

And I don't know if that's masochism. I don't know. But, you know, it's like when my boyfriend says to me, we're going to pull out the boys tonight. Those are the dildos. Yeah. They all have names. Yeah.

And so he, you know, occasionally you'll say to me, okay, we're going to do this because he's got a goal in mind. He wants to fist me. Uh-huh. And I keep thinking to myself, all right, I'm going to let him try because, you know, why the hell not? If he does it, then woo-hoo. I can say I've been there, done that, not sure if I want to do it again, but at least

I could say I did it. And so, you know, we've got the regular size dildos, but most recent I sent him a text message. I said, hey, I've got like an extra 60 bucks this week. I think I'm going to buy a dildo. So I sent him links, and he went and said, well, maybe you should get a dark-skinned one, and maybe it should be bigger than Richard. Now, Richard's like an eight-inch dildo.

So I pick out the zildo that I think that, you know, I know he's going to go for, and I'm thinking to myself, I could probably take it. Why the hell not? Let me just send it to him. and it's an 11.5 inch dildo with a two and a half inch circumference. And I decided it was called Big Ricky. Fucking gigantic Ricky. Yes. So I brought him to my boyfriend's place.

And he was like, you know, we're using this tonight. And I said, yeah, I know, that's why I washed it. And he started with Richard and then he started with Big Ricky and it was, it really was like not much bigger than my comet. I mean, a little thicker, but not much bigger. Yeah. So it was, it was definitely interesting. And he's now to the point where he can get almost his entire hand. He stuck with his thumb knuckle.

And he's just like, we're just going to keep trying. And I'm like, hell, you ever going to keep trying. I just want to know if I can do this. I don't know if it's something like I'll stick with. But I want to say that I did it. So the other morning, I'll have to tell you this because I think it's funny, the other morning I woke up and I rolled over and I gave the boyfriend a blowjob in the morning. And I said, well, where do you want to come?

And he goes in your mouth. And I said, okay, that's fine. and so I get him off and I'm laying there and I look over and he's asleep again and I was like you just woke up and I put you to sleep all right that's how this is going later on I made sure to pounce upon him and tell him that he needed to be between my thighs and he devoured me in ways to get on your your knees, fucked me hard, and said, damn girl, you're creamy. And went and got in the shower and went to work. Okay. It was a way to leave me hanging for something. Oh, he didn't get you off.

I don't understand the story. Oh, no, he did. He didn't get me off. We had some amazing sex. But then when he was done, he just went and got in the shower and went to work. Well, what did you want him to do? I have no idea, but I feel like after care might have been necessary. I know, something.

Not after all these years. Come on. I know, right. He could just get up and the shower. But wait, it's kind of interesting that you're like, you know, what I hear when you're telling that story, you know, I'm not listening to the stuff that everyone with the Woody is listening to. I'm listening to the point where you're waking up in bed with your guy.

And I'm wondering to myself like, is she, are these guys sleeping over her house or does she sleepovers have sleepovers at their houses. Okay. So my boyfriend, I sleep at his house. Okay. I split my time between my home with my nesting partner and my boyfriend's house. Oh, interesting. How much like if you had to split the week and half, like is it, like you say it was like a custody, you know, arrangement. Like what would be the percentage? The rule is be home between three and seven. for the kids, make sure that you're home on the weekends to get the grocery shopping done and organize the schedule for the week and make sure that, you know, we've got some meal plans in place. So I would say probably three to four nights I am at my partner's place.

And, you know, I sprinkle in my own home, you know, throughout the day as well as, you know, weekends. I work part-time. My job is very flexible. I am very fortunate to have the ability to float back and forth between both houses. Yeah. And it works. I wish that I could have a compound, but, you know, that doesn't exactly happen in life. You can't get that. Your boyfriend has no partner, like no other partners like long term or that live in that house. No. He does not have any other partners. We are non-monogamous. But he does not have any desire to be polyamorous. Right. But Comet does.

He's got a partner or a woman. Correct. Yeah. Correct. Comet is polyamorous. He has a partner. They've been together for like eight years. She's very submissive.

She is very cute and bubbly and has an ass that I leave bruises on because it is so goddamn biteable. Ha, ha, ha. You hook up with her, too, because you hook up with women, right? I do. I enjoy women. I enjoy men. I enjoy trans.

I'm pan. I don't care what you got in your pants. If I enjoy you and you stimulate my brain and I find you attractive, whether it's physically or I'm mentally attracted to you or I'm feeling a connection, then obviously I'm going to get in your pants and I'm not going to care what's there. If you've got a cock and, you know, I know what to do with that. piece of equipment. If you've got a pussy, I know what to do with that too. I may not, you know, have skills with strap-ons yet. That's a, that's a goal too. But I will do my damn this to work with whatever equipment they got in their pants. Right. If I'm attracted to them. But you don't sleep over his house, right? Just the boyfriend's house. Just the boyfriend's house.

Yeah, the comet and his partner, they just moved into an apartment in the city together a couple months ago. They would have been living separate as well. Right. So they're together. And now all this swinging, do you have more stories? I know we have 20 minutes. You could go back to your stories. Okay. No problem. So

I've got a memorial. Okay. So my first swingers party, like how I got into swinging was the boyfriend had said to me I think I know this guy. He's hosting a party in, you know a town like two towns over maybe you should reach out and see if we can get vetted for this and i said

all right okay so it was like three weeks before the event so i reached out to the host and i was talking to him and getting to know him and you know we exchanged information you know regarding you know like you know my experience in the lifestyle this that and the other thing and who my partner was and just all that happy crap that vetting happens to join this group. Yeah. And so we get to our first party and I was there for probably maybe an hour or so. And I was just like, I'm just not sure I'm ready for this.

And my boyfriend just looked at me and he goes, just pick a cock. They are here. We are all here for the same thing. We paint the picture, though, of like, what was there when you walked in? Like, what was the demographic, what were the demographics of the people and stuff? I would say it was a fair mix between men and women in their mid-20s to their mid-60s. Awesome. And how many people about?

Oh, my goodness. The first party we went to probably had, like, seven. people and it was a it was a it was a two-bedroom suite and so you know there's just men walking around with like their dicks hard because obviously some remember taking Viagra and you're and it's it is overwhelming to say the least I remember being at the nude beach and you didn't see many hard on the nude beach but when you did it looked kind of funny you know for a guy to be walking with his dick like sticking up, right? There's something funny about it.

I don't know. I just had my first nude beach experience this weekend. Yeah. This weekend, it was the annual beach trip. Right. Something or other, whatever. And yeah, no, I don't think I saw a single hard on cock. It's not the same.

It is not the same. Like walking around naked at a swingers party with your dick hard, there's a little bit of more swagger to it than naked at the beach for sure. Totally, totally. Like I said, I only saw one. It's very like not, like, it's not, you know, I think it's frowned upon, really. That's not what people are there for. But, and I, but I just thought it looked funny. But so here you are, you're looking at all these cocks. Your guys, like, just pick one. What do you wind up doing? Okay. So what I wind up doing is picking a very well-cut, athletically built, dark-skinned man with, I would say he was probably about nine, ten. 10 inches. Oh my goodness. You're crazy. And well, yeah. Yeah, I'm crazy, I suppose. No, it's what you're used to. I got it. I mean, it's what you're used to. Yeah. So I, you know, he's like, just go up to him. And I'm like, I can't. Can you just say I'd like to talk to him? Like, be like, yo, my girl wants to

ask you a question, you know, whatever. She wants to play, but she wants to talk to you for a second. And so this guy walks up to me and he's probably a couple inches taller than me. I'm like I said, I'm 5'2. He was probably like, I want to say he was like 5, 5, 5, 5, 6. He wasn't a tall guy, but he was very well, well shaped. He's a public, not a public, personal trainer. Yeah. And so I find all this out, you know, while he's fucking me.

He's like, I'm going to train you. And I'm thinking to myself, okay, all right. The next thing I know I'm in subspace, this guy's fucking the shit out of me. I'm coming all over the place. And there's a whole bunch of people standing around because I'm screaming. I don't realize I'm screaming, obviously. and there's puddles on the floor and they're saying to me, we've heard you from across the suite.

We can hear. Are you standing in a puddle right now? They're asking this guy who's fucking me. And it was, you damn right. I am. And I was like, oh, oh, my goodness, did I just do that? I just did that. And I had zero regrets about it.

I popped my swinger cherry with someone absolutely amazing. And come to find out, this guy is 60 something, and he's been in the lifestyle for like 40 years, and he's known the host just as long. And I'm just like, so what you're telling me is I picked an old pro to take my swing or cherry. And then I had four other cocks that night. And the host said to me, you realize you're five foot two. and you just jumped into the five-foot section with zero fucks-given. I said, yeah, yeah.

And I think I did pretty damn well, staying afloat. So from there on out, I was like, I can do this. And my boyfriend's like, you had it in you. Right, but let me ask you the question because we did start this conversation off talking about how, like, you're not really into like the swinger club vibe where you just meet someone and you like, fuck them. And at this party, you know, it's a little bit different.

But it's also kind of the same. These are people you never met. You're walking in a room. It might not be a club. But it is a gathering of a lot of people. Everyone's there to fuck. You know, everything's going to go down quickly. Like, what was the difference in this situation that made you feel more comfortable than the club?

Okay. The difference in this situation versus a club is you can watch them interact with other people. You can be a lawyer. You can watch a guy whose dick you saw from a mile away fuck another woman to see how he fucks. Yeah. You can watch a woman. But you can't do that in a swingers club? You can.

But you also can't go and have a conversation with the woman afterward and say, is that something I should try? Right. It's too loud and there's too much other stuff going down. Is that the difference? that and I need more than just a look. I need someone to say, hey, can I touch you? Or, hey, you know, I'd like to play with you. Yeah, you need mental poor play.

But to my face, not just stand in front of me and expect it. And there's some play spaces where that I assume. happens and that's something I don't want to be a part of. Yeah, no, no, no, we already established that. I was just wondering because it sounded like, you know, listen, here you are in a place. It's kind of like a, you know, it's a very large gathering with a lot of people. It's very impersonal. You know, it's not like you're at a dinner party with three other couples and you're going to swap.

It seems very similar to a swinger club to me, except it's like maybe the lights are on and there isn't music blasting, but it is kind of the same thing. Lots of people in one place. Everyone's going to fuck. You know, what's, what is that difference? because you did feel comfortable to just find a guy and fuck him, you know, and so I was just curious. I think the difference is, you know, it's a smaller atmosphere and you can feel the vibe in the room a little better. Yeah, that's interesting.

And I need a connection with somebody. I can't just have them as a piece of meat. Yeah. Unless, of course, you know, I see a woman who has amazing thighs or an ass that I just need to spank. you know, then I might be like, damn, I need that. And I'll be looking at her like a piece of meat. But I realize she's a person. So I'm going to ask her before I, you know, across this woman.

You have to. Yeah. Because consent is, you know, consent is key. Yeah. And so I need to see them as people. Yeah. First and foremost. And I want someone to treat me that way.

So why wouldn't I treat someone? with the same respect. Yeah, but so, but you say that you got like this one guy, then you had four other cocks in you. So every single one of them sort of just like gave you the line that you needed, right? Like, I mean,

because sometimes you are, like you are saying, you're doing like 10 guys at night and 12 guys on New Year's, you know, and so like you have connected with all of them. Yes. And I,

I keep a body count or a list or whatever you want to call it. Oh, I like that. I want the numbers. Yeah. So. Right now, since I started swinging, I have added 38 cocks to my pre-existing 36. Wow.

So I think we're somewhere in the 60s for lifetime, starting with like age 16. So, you know, I remember who I'm fucking. I'm not just, you know, being like, oh, there was, you know, this dark-skinned man. there was this guy. No, there was something about them that I remembered. Like, for instance, there's a gentleman that I played with who I called the sharp-dressed man. Yeah. Because he walked in the room.

He had a swagger. He had dress slacks on, a button-down shirt, a nice, you know, fit. Yeah. And I was like, damn, that's a sharp-dressed man. And that's kind of something that sticks in my head. So that's what I put on my list. didn't get his name. I didn't really need his name, but I know who sharp dress man is. I'm going to remember that cock because it was memorable. Yeah. There was something about him to remember.

Just like the guy who made me almost die of laughter while he was coming because all I heard in my head when he was saying, I'm going to come. I'm going to come was the food attendant. my goodness, not poo detentant, the guy at the quickie mart on the Simpsons. Yeah. Oh. A poo. Okay. He, it was like, he was an Asian man and he had an accent.

And he was the type of guy who liked to announce when he was going to come. I didn't know this. I come to find out afterwards that this is normal occurrence that his, you know, when he plays. But he goes, I am going to come. I'm going to come. I'm going to. I'm coming. I was a poo from the quickie mark.

Thank you. Come again. Oh, my God. And I was trying so hard to not laugh. Yeah. I mean, there are things that are just memorable about partners at a swing party or partners that you meet, I guess, at clubs. I don't know if I'm the only person who feels that way. but they all have a story.

There are some that aren't really all that memorable. Like, yeah, the guy that I probably shouldn't have fucked because he fucked like my ex-husband, you know, type of thing. So there's a lot of that on my list. Right. But there's a lot of men who come back, who, you know, reach out to me through, you know,

people in the community or on FetLeg. or they find me on some type of social media chat type of thing. And they're like, hey, can we hang out? And I'm like, I have to clear that with sir because I don't do one-on-one solo play without including my boyfriend in planning. Now, that means he's involved with saying yes or no, that I can go and have this playtime. He doesn't care as long as I've done the research on this person. Right. Or I've had experiences with this person before. He's like, just go, go, have fun, do your thing. And so for my birthday, I'll tell you the story, Mr. Six-foot-Nine. Okay. Mr. Six-foot-9 was a very, very well-endowed man, thicker than a Coke can type guy. And I had met him online before a swingers party. He didn't end up going to the Swingers party, but he kept it. in touch with me.

And we chatted on Snap and we hooked up. And I was like, oh, this guy, he's going on the list as the climb because I had to climb on top of him. Right. He was a well-built correctional officer. Six foot nine, five foot two woman. Yeah, the climb. Mm-hmm.

Hilarious. Okay. So. Yeah, keep going. That'll wrap up. point where, like I said, I've had repeat people, you know, people I've met from swingers parties, people I've met, you know, through the community who've had solo one-on-one play with me, who've gotten permission from my boyfriend, you know, and they come back once.

So I've slept with them a total of like two times. And the second time they sleep with me, they're like, damn, I need to keep you on my, you know, play. card basically. Yeah. And then they just up and disappeared. They ghost and I can't figure it out for the life of me. If it was good enough to fuck me once at a party and then come and find me again after this party and fuck me again, then why would you give up a good thing if you know that you've already been vetted and you've gotten permission from the boyfriend of this person? Right. Mm-hmm. It's like if it's good pussy, you keep it. If it's good dick, you keep it in the list. You go, hey, maybe I should,

maybe I should reach out to sharp dressed man and see what he's doing next week. Because, you know, I can real music, I could use a, you know, a nine inch cock. Yeah. Why would you ghost somebody after two romps and tell them they've got good pussy and still follow them, like on social media and still comment on their picks, but you can't say, hey, you want to play sometime? Right. I'll never understand it. Well, listen, I, you know, we're coming up to like an hour and like, I don't want to go back to my questions about like your guy or anything like that.

Okay. What I want to know, because you're just trying all these new things. I don't, is there anything left for you to try? Like, what is on your bucket list moving forward that will, you know, that you'll be back on next you're telling me about. Like, what is the bucket list for Lady M who has kind of like been doing it all? My bucket list. I can't say I have a full on bucket list. I have things I want to check off experiences I want to have. Like, I wanted to have an MFM. I got that. I wanted to have, you know, a full swap. I wanted to see what that was. I got that. I'm experiencing these things. One

thing at a time and like I said you know the boyfriend wants to do fisting and I'm saying okay you're on what does he want to try yeah uh what what does he want to add to the list that we can do together or what does he want to see how far I can go because I sure is hell want to know how far I can go right do I want to have a gang bang absolutely do I want to celebrate when I get to a hundred pox yeah I was talking to my bestie and I said hey, when I get to 100 cocks, will you bake me a cock cake? And she said, you bet your ass I'll bake you a cock cake. We're going to celebrate that 100th cock.

Oh, my God, a cock cake. So, you know, I am down for anything. I will try anything once as long as it's, you know, within something that I've negotiated. I don't rarely, I don't really, I don't usually say no to a lot of things. I say, okay, we'll try it once. And if I don't like it, then I'm not going to do that again. No, listen, and I got to say, you know, like in the beginning when you were saying, like, I don't even understand how this happened that I wound up in this position.

I think, you know, we on some level create our own lives, whatever is in front of us, for better or for worse, this, whatever we draft. it up. I'm not talking about it. The person that has cancer. Okay. That kind of stuff is like, you know, curveballs. Like that's regular life. But I'm just saying basically like whatever you got right now is somehow what you wanted on some level or what you were ready for. I think your openness to try anything and you're being down for that. That's like the part of you that attracted this kind of life to you. Do you know what I mean? You're just a super open person and you are down to try. anything and you are trying anything. You know what I mean? It's like all about intention. That's

how I feel. So I just feel like it's it. That's the part of you that has made it possible for you to live your dream. And people who are listening that are jealous, that's what you need to do. You need to be open to the possibilities. You need to be down to go for it and just fucking do it. Because like a lot of the stuff that you've done takes balls. I mean, it sounds really easy because we're talking four years later, but to take a marriage, a long-term marriage, you know, and sort of very much change the whole dynamic and go out and be Polly and do that is not an easy thing. And it's a scary thing. And you were able to do it and you went for it and you've been successful. And that's like something that says something about you, you know, because it's not easy. And I've lived openly

Polly and in the lifestyle for the past four years and I don't regret it. It took me forever to, you know be completely open with you know family but that's not their business now they know what's going on and that's as far as it goes yeah it's been a year and i give zero fucks it's i am who i am take me or leave me if you want me in your life show me and if you want to build a connection with me you need to put forth the same amount of effort that i'm putting forth and if you can't then you can just be out of my life. Right, but you have it, like, you don't lead to kick anyone out of your life. You sound like you're more open and you have so many people in your life.

Let me ask you this real quick because I got to wrap it up. Do you want to like give a shout out to your Fet Life or anything like that or are you anonymous there? Like, do you want to do that? You know, it's up to you. I'll just allude to this. So my Fet Life, if you know how to do a search and you can look for your lady, you should be able to find me.

Oh, okay. And she's very much on my Discord, right? you're a Patreon member. I am. I'm not a Patreon member, but I am on your Discord and I do post naughty picks. Okay, cool. And you're on the guest channel. I gave you guest role access, right?

Sometimes I don't go there as much, but, you know, because I love that everybody else gets to interact. So you could see her on my Discord. Definitely go listen to her first episode if you're interested in this kind of lifestyle, a poly lifestyle, because I think it's like super interesting. We get a lot more of that background on that episode, a little bit more on this one, too, because I can't help but ask those questions. But thank you so much for calling in.

giving me an update and rehashing everything with me. It was super interesting and your episode will be up very shortly. That is awesome. You know what? I love the fact that you give this platform to people to share their stories. And I want everyone who's listening to know that if what I'm doing inspires you to live your life the way you want to, then I'm glad. I've done something good.

Yeah, I love that. And if you hate on me, well, then, hey, you know how I feel. Who cares? We don't care about those people. So the people that are here are people that, you know, aren't hating. I think there are people that want to learn. They're people that are open. And I think those are the people that find my show.

So thank you so much for calling it and sharing your story. Because I do believe it helps people, you know, for sure. Absolutely. Thank you, Kathy, for having me back. Thanks. And talk to you again soon. Yeah, it was fun, for sure. Before you know it, you'll have your next update.

And make sure, you know, I'll email you when your episode's going to be up so you can make sure to be on Discord to post picks and stuff, okay? Absolutely. Thank you. Bye, Lena. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available, not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show I kind of picked one story from each category that I talk about on my show. Like there's a hot wife story. There's a cuck queen story. There's a cuck story. There's a gang being girl story. Like I said, 17 stories. And they're all told in the third person. And they're all true. I took the interview and rewrote it in the third person. And I wouldn't really call it like a total erotica book. Think like penthouse letters. It's more direct. It's not so over the top like erotica. I don't really like that kind of vibe, right? But these are true stories. 17 of them. They're really

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