Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 976 - Riley Coyote on Being Poly, Group Sex, Squirting Workshops, Sex Work and More

Episode Date: November 27, 2024

Riley Coyote called in to ask all about being poly, group sex, his squirting workshops, his sex work and more. Tune in to hear all the details including how and why all of his early sex hook-ups involved group sex and how that set him up for his future, how he lost his virginity at a gangbang, how and why he’s always been polyamorous and able to have multiple relationships at one time, his Craigslist hookups and how one led to a lot more, all the gangbnags it led to as well. How and why he loves reverse gangbangs, the 75 guy bukkake gangbang he set up recently for a friend and what went down, how he met his wife and how he started dating her while he was dating someone else, the specific rules that came up in their open marriage over time and why, his wife’s boyfriends and how long she’s been with all of them, his girlfriends and the people he’s been seeing and for how long, how and why they’re don’t really have group sex together anymore, when how and why he started teaching squirting workshops and his take on women squirting, when how and why he got into sex work and how he sees himself as helping women, the types of women who hire him, the experience he likes to provide them plus a whole lot more His website: rileythecoyote.com **To see pics of RILEY COYOTE plus anonymous pics of my other female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://butterwellness.com/ Get 30% off your order from The Perineum Massager by Butter Wellness. Go to butterwellness.com and use the code “STRICTLY” at checkout for 30% off your entire order. https://bluechew.com Get the first month FREE  https://beducate.me/anonymous60 Get BEDucated! For 60% off PLUS a FREE 24-hour trial, click the link and use code: anonymous60 https://www.magicmind.com/sac  You have a limited offer you can use now, that gets you up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one-time purchases with code SAC20 at checkout Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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He's a straight guy. That does a lot of stuff. He was always, you know, into group sex and gangbings and all kinds of things right from the get-go. Wait until you hear his losing his virginity story. And then he was just always out and proud with the fact that he was never going to be monogamous. He's very poly. He's very open when it comes to having relationships. He has long-term relationships.

He's more poly. It's not just like he's fucking people. He likes to connect. He does. He has a wife. He eventually became a sex worker. He talks about that. He also does squirting workshops. He talks about that. I can't wait to have a call in again and talk about squirting because he has a much deeper angle on it. But we get like his whole story, which is super interesting. Like I said, his backstory and all the crazy sex he had when he was younger, you know, when he decided to start his squirting workshops, when he became a sex worker and how it works for guys and who he sees and all that kind of good stuff. Like I said, he's super interesting. I do have pictures of him over on my Patreon.

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You're kind of like a slut, right? I mean, that's what you said. I mean, I'm a wholesome slut, but I'm a... You're also a sex worker, right? I am, and I wear my badge proudly, and I consider myself a member of the oldest sorority there is. Right. Now, I do need to ask you this. The sex work you do is legal, or do you live in a place where it is?

It's decriminalized. It's decriminalized. where you live. Okay. You are a sex worker too. I know like wherever we're not going to out where you live because you're anonymous, but you do live in a place where it is decriminalized. So what we're talking about is okay. I don't know how old you are now. How does a guy wind up where you are? Like, were you just like a super horny, curious, really into sex kid? Like can we go all the way back to that part of you? Yeah, we can go. We can go back to that. I mean, I definitely, I wouldn't say that I experienced the same relationship with sex that most other teenage boys did from the standpoint of just being like unfathomably horny

all the time. Right. However, and I had an early puberty, so I matured pretty quick, but then I didn't have a growth spurt and didn't have like all that whole follow on that like is kind of like you're like caricature of like a teenage horny boy. Yeah. However, sexuality has always come natural to me. And in particular, my earliest fantasies were oftentimes group sex fantasies and my early sexual experiences also happened to be that.

So kind of I've been spending a lot of time lately actually looking at it and kind of studying myself and realizing that so much of my sluttiness comes from just a general sense of rebellion. Yeah, yeah. So wait, so you were like thinking about group group sex, you said, but then you also did throw in there that like some of your first is, you know, you know, hookups were group sex. Like, how did that happen when you were young? I remember I'd been dating this girl and it was pretty obvious that she was cheating on me. And I thought I was going to lose my virginity to her. But I like, was like hanging on because I really liked her.

And I was like basically ignoring the obvious signs. And one day my buddy came to me and he said, when are you going to be done with this? And I was like, you know what? Today's the day. Right. It had been like three weeks past when things went weird. And I was like, today's the day. And that night, he actually ended up inviting this girl over.

And me, him, and another buddy of ours ended up having, I guess, a gang bang, if you want to call it that. But a little three on one session, and that was my virginity. Wow. And I was 16 and a half to the minute. I watched the clock. I was like, okay. It's exactly. 12, 51 a.m. Let's go do this. Yeah. And I lasted exactly one 11 minutes. You timed it. I like how

specific. Oh, I mean, you know, you're a kid and you're like, oh, you always hear that people like, oh, you know, last in 30 seconds. And you're like, okay. And me being an analytical nut, I was like, well, this is data. Exactly. And you could use it. But like, so it was, I mean, listen, I think like our first experience is definitely wire us certain ways. But it sounds like you were, it's interesting. that this experience came to you because you kind of always were curious about it before, correct? Like, I mean, it's not like, yeah, my first, my first sexual, I remember my first, like, sex stream was a group sex stream that involved me and, like, like, pretty much all the girls I was crushing on in school. Gang bang, you're being gang bang by them? Yeah, and I, and to this day, I do a fair number of reverse gangbangs. and I get, unfortunately, the person who gets invited, I'm the one guy who gets invited to the all-girls slumber party.

Interesting. Yeah, I have so many questions for you when we get to that part of your life. Okay, but so let's stay here. So you had these dreams, you had that experience. And then, you know, after that, like, does it kind of ruin you as far as like, oh, monogamous relationships? Because you're still super young and I would say most girls aren't going to be gang-banging with you. You know, like, what was your, like, younger life like then?

Were you still able to seek out those kinds of experiences? Yeah, I, I, not too long after that, you know, I started hooking up with a couple different people. And that was always actually within the context of not really being attached and them being aware or them even, or it being something where, you know, people, it was like very open. and nobody was trying to claim any sense of propriety over other people's sexuality or anything like that. But then I did, you know, end up dating somebody monogamously for four years there. The person who I call my high school sweetheart, and she's still a very important part of my life. But I have not been monogamous since, and I certainly never would be again.

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to, well, it's not that I've always been gifted, it's that I'm just a polyamorous person, and I hadn't realized it at the time. And so the continuum between platonic love and romantic love had always been very, very flexible for me. And always, and like my high school sweetheart, who's my first, like, true long-term relationship, she was a friend first. She was my best friend first. My next girlfriend of nine years, she was also my best friend first.

my wife, she was also my best friend first. Right. And so I've always had the luxury that I think a lot of at least cisgendered straight men have kind of not known how to navigate well, which is to be able to have relationships that are both healthy and casual and not built on misleading, or hiding information or hiding your relationship style. I have men coming to me all the time. I'm the guy. Yeah.

Right. Like every friend group has a guy. Every community has like a guy or a couple people, not necessarily male, but like everyone's got their sex friend. Yeah. I'm like for all of my communities, I'm the sex friend. And I'm a sex educator. So like obviously it's not like I hide it.

I forgot that you were a sex educator and that you have squirting work. shops, you're a sex worker, you're like really done crazy things. Like, let's get to that part. Like, you're, you know, you're obviously out of the box when you're younger. You're being truthful to exactly who you are, right? Uh, no secret life going on here, correct? And, well, there is a secret life only because my family being fairly conservative, and I want to say conservative in like the traditional American way, but conservative, uh, I'm, uh, of, uh, of, uh, of, uh, of, uh, of, Indian origin. And so I had old Indian parents with all of their norms and all of their priorities, some of which, or none of which included me explaining my sexuality and all of

which included me, you know, earning straight A's. Oh, yeah, of course, right. Yeah. Education. And I did that too. And as long as I did that, I had a lot more, more, a lot less scrutiny. need to go do the other things. When did you get, like, did you eventually, like, you know, to start having all these experience that you had, like you're talking about, you know, gangbangs and all those different things? Like, did you eventually, like, get into the lifestyle? Like, how did you get into that world? So I don't, I personally avoid the term lifestyle. Okay. What term do you like? I don't have a term that I like. I was just like this, it's just like my orientation towards sexuality. And the reason why I say that and why I push back on the word lifestyle,

and maybe I should find a word like, is because it's used so commonly in swinger communities and it isn't like a choice necessarily, I mean, it's a choice to be slutty for sure, but it's not a choice to have the relationship with love that I do. It's an orientation. I was born this way. Okay, but like when you started, though,

to get into whatever place you want to call it, you don't live in the regular vanilla world, right? you know, did you start going as like swinger clubs or play? Like how did you start having gangbangs, group sex, like that stuff? Like did you go to like? I basically created the opportunities to have the conversations necessary to have those situations. Hey, my friend and I are both interested in you coming and playing with us.

Oh, okay. Cool. Right. Like when you, when you have that honesty, you could have that honesty. It should happen if the girl is interested. Right. So you never like went to like a sex part. or did anything like that.

You just created all this stuff through in the vanilla world by meeting the right women. That would be down for what you wanted. You know, I think that it's not just like, yes, and I did eventually go to my first swingers party. And then I was like, that's not really my vibe.

And then, like, later, you know, became the host of many different play parties. I've also attended countless play parties. I told my wife I wanted to spend my life with her out of, a play party, but still the majority of people who came into my life, came into my life just

literally through friends of friends and through, you know, over time getting a reputation as a safe but fun person to explore with. Right. Now, did you ever explore with men or are we just talking about women on this call? Well, we could talk about men, but unfortunately, I'm tragically straight. And the reason I know is because I've tried. Because I've tried. Yeah, there you go. That's Cool. I'd give you credit for that, right? How else do you know? Yeah, it's tragic, but it's true. So, okay, let's get to the point where you do start going to sex parties and maybe meet your wife, you know, all the kinds of crazy stories and turn into like the kinky slut that you are. And I, you know, I don't know where your squirting workshops come in, but we'll eventually get to there.

So I certainly, I found some hookups on Craigslist, not, not too, too many, I'd say, but. definitely met some pretty adventurous people that way. And the cool thing about meeting adventurous people is adventurous people. When you put them together, they tend to coagulate and find other adventurous people. Yeah, of course. And in fact, it's like a pyramid scheme you had going on on Craigslist. Oh, I feel like I'm a pyramid scheme all the time. I could, I could be horrible, but people still hang out with me because I hang out with great people. Because of your pyramid. But, you know, I mean, for example, there is one person who I met her off Craigslist. We hooked up for a while.

We had a number of fun group situations involving my friends, involving her friends. We, and in fact, later on, at one point I took her on a ski trip with me and a bunch of buddies. And she, I told her, I said, listen, like the whole vibe here, like based on like just who these people, who they, that everyone is, especially if you and I are going to be hooking up a bunch, like, it'll probably, like, end up at a gang bang. And they were like, that sounds awesome. And it would be like every morning, every night we'd end up, like, you know, having a gang bang. Wow.

And then at night, and then in the morning, she actually ended up hooking up with a friend of mine more consistently in the morning. And, you know, fast forward 10 years, they're married. Wow. They met at the gang bang. Yeah, well, they met at the ski trip of gangbangs. Well, you know, I think it's more interesting to say that they met at the gangbang. Yeah, they certainly a better tagline.

Yeah, I'm all about the taglines. Oh my God, that's awesome. So you were very into gangbings, right? Obviously, you like the group sex. You also like to have multiple women at the same time, like reverse gangbings is what you said? Yeah, I very much more consistently would end up in what I call a reverse gangbanks. or multiple women and myself. However, I certainly have enjoyed quite a number of gangbanks set up, quite a number of gangbangs.

I just set up a 75 person Bukaki for a friend of mine. No way. 75 people she wanted? Yep. Wow. Well, I mean, there was like 75 people on the invite list. Now, how many people actually came up already? Yeah, probably 42.

Yeah, that's probably the right answer. Yeah. I was the first because somebody has to get it going. Yeah. Where'd you boo cocky on her? Like, was she just like just put it all over? I mean, I can't imagine how much jizz she had at the end. Well, it was squirt and jiz, but definitely.

I mean, it just didn't seem like anyone was ready to go. So I had to step up quickly. Yeah. And I came like maybe 30 minutes before. So I had to, I was like, okay, it's time to put on my performer hat. Oh, my. God. And how do you get everyone going?

You did your, you just stepped up. You create the bubble. You create the permission. You create the ability for people to, to say, you know what? I want to do this thing. And I am not going to feel shame about it. Right. And so, yeah.

But so, you know, they all started, you know, largely in my vanilla life, but also people I've met at Craigslist and exploring with that. and being super open about it as far as, hey, like, here's, hey, my friends also interested. Maybe we should do a thing. Hey, tonight we're doing a thing. And me and my roommate, we'd always host weird, my college roommate, we'd always host weird events. Like, it would be like one day, it might be a frat party. But the next day, it'd be like a bunch of wine drunk lesbians reading their poetry. And so we always had something weird going around.

Yeah. And always had a lot of open-minded people around us. Like I remember one day one of my fraternity brothers in college was like, yeah, dude, I was like, we had like a fire drill or something. And like I was looked over and there's like a balcony and there's like a bunch of naked women and some dude playing the playing the drums and like these naked women dancing on it. And it's like, um, okay. Yeah, that was me. Oh my God. That's hilarious.

I get your vibe. I know your type. I know that those people, right? That's your tribe. So how do you wind up meeting your wife? And how old were you when you met her? Like, were you young? Like, you know, why settled down with one person being the type of person that you are?

I was 27. I had been in a nine-year-long relationship at the time with somebody who was not monogamous. And really, and I also was seeing somebody else at the time. And when I first met my wife, I actually spent most of our first date just debriefing about this other person I'd started seeing them. like trying to figure out what the hell I was doing. Oh my God, red flag number one. And so, you know, we went home and we went to a bar, neither of a drink, ironically. And we come home and we hook up and her and I like to joke that it's not a first date if you don't eat ass.

So we need ass. And then we started hooking up for a while and she became actually really close to my ex. And so, you know, we became each other's Friday. afternoon fox we'd see each other we would never give each other the weekend's but we realized that we shared a lot of community because she is a she and I both same shared the community within the sex positive and polyamorous world and we had a lot of friends in common we had a lot of hookups that you know were in common and went to a lot of the same play parties that we realized after the fact. I mean, we'd met on Tinder, actually.

Okay. We met on Tinder. We started talking October, but I'm one, I follow up pretty well. So we ended up finally meeting up at the end of January. So she became fast word. She became close friends with my ex. My ex and I, my ex met somebody else. And, you know, we had this very, very horrendous breakup that unfortunately involved entirely too many people, including my wife. wife who uh because you're all poly this is like because this is like a poly situation yeah this is a policy so only you're talking as if like you haven't even hooked up your wife but like you're having multiple relationships at the same time you have your ex and your wife you're in a relationship with both

of them at this point you're all poly this is like because this is like a poly situation yeah this is a polys it only you're talking as if like you haven't even hooked up your wife but like you're having multiple relationships at the same time you have your ex and your wife you're in a relationship with both of them at this point yeah my ex and my wife and my wife and I was seeing that other person from our first state, although that had already gone stale at that point. And I, my wife would spend two hours in the phone with me every day and then two hours in the phone with my ex of every day, every day, just supporting both of us because she's the most generous person I've ever met. And shortly thereafter, we actually, so I had actually gone away for Burning Man. I came back.

My ex had met somebody. it seemed like for some reason that she could not we couldn't have like sort of a shared life all of us and you know things started falling apart and my wife supported us

and in fact somebody who I met at Burning Man that year actually her and I started developing and like not too many months later me my wife my current wife my wife, and her and our, and this woman who I met at Burning Man, we all moved in together and got an apartment together. Unfortunately, things didn't work out with the person. The Burning Man girl, yeah, okay, but you obviously, it worked out with your wife because you're still with her all these years later.

All these years later. Now, it's, it doesn't sound like, I mean, because it just, you know, you guys both met each other. You were both in the same community. You both obviously were on the same page. you know like did you guys i mean i don't know i feel like when it's very when people are polly and when people are also open sexually like there's not many rules there right because sometimes if you're just open sexually the rule is like no solo dates no copping feelings you know and vice versa but like i mean because you're polly and you're having gangbanks and doing all this and you guys are like sucking whoever you want with each other were there any kind of rules or anything or was it basically

had to fully open to anything goes relationship from the get-go. Well, no, we had rules that came up. I mean, first off, there's always rules, right, around consent and just being a good person and not being a shit, being kind and owning your feelings while, you know, still trying to allow for someone else's freedom. But, you know, the rules sort of, you know, like most relationships where you are like in most polyamorous relationships where you step away from the pre-conceived rulebook and you have decided to write your own,

you know, we kind of came to each different part of that in our own time through our own experience. And so sometimes, you know, like before we started fluid bonding, my wife and I, like we didn't really have conversations. around protection, you know, and then that became a thing. My wife is very, very sensitive to sleepovers. And so at a certain point, you know, we started talking a lot about that and like how, how much that's actually more intimate to her than sex and that, you know, that that's something that we conversed about before it takes place. other things in that same regard.

I'm trying to think. I mean, one thing is we don't. At some point, I remember having some difficult feelings in us talking about it because she'd host a gang bang at the house. From there,

I was out of town, at a festival, and she told me about it. She's being gang banged? No, she was helping a gang bang. She was like fluffer? Or just said it out?

Yeah, she was like a fluffer. You know, She's the best teammate you could ever have. Right. She's a good team player. So she was being a team player. Okay. And now I'm getting horny thinking about it.

But, God damn it. But I, she, you know, this gangbang happened in her bed. And her and I kept separate bedrooms at first because we didn't share the same bed until after moving in together. for quite some time. Me and the other girl had kept one room and my wife had kept the other. Okay. Yeah. And so when we started sleeping together and then this gangway happened and I was like,

you know, I kind of like, you know, there's a feeling of wanting some sort of propriety and can we discuss that? And we did and, you know, where we landed was just that she and I, We keep our bed for us. Okay. And so when, for example, today, when my girlfriend comes over, you know, I have a different room that we stay. Okay. How long have these other relationships been going on for you to?

Are they both also long term? So she's been seeing one guy, maybe it's four months now. And the other one coming on a year. Okay. And like the next month. One of them I went to college with, actually. We're floormates. Wow.

The newer one. Yeah. That's a great guy. I mean, they're both great guys. They're both fantastic. Like I wish I just had more of them in my life, honestly. Uh-huh. And my girlfriend, I've been seeing for about a year now as well.

And there's some other people who have been seeing in that time. one person I've been kind of seeing since for about nine months at this point, but we started pretty slow. And same thing with my girlfriend, because I'm a big believer in building a good foundation of friendship. Right, right. All your people were friends before. Now, when it comes down to the actual sex and, you know, it sounds like you guys can do

your own thing with other people, but like, are there a lot of group things going down, like you and her guy and you and your girlfriend like swap and stuff like that? Like, how involved does it get with mixing the people? So that's an interesting question. We, my wife and I used to do a lot more group sex things together. And we've really kind of over time, like, decided to kind of keep each other, like, keeping our own sex lives as well. separate. I also, you know, I, as mentioned before, I do various kinds of sex work, including making content and including doing full service work. And that, and like, there was one time I had a content shoot and her boyfriend, he also shoots content. And she's like, oh, you should invite him over. And I was like, I was thinking about it. I just didn't know if it would be weird for you. Right.

And, you know, she came up with the idea. So it's not like that we have like a boundary of like, oh, this is weird. This isn't okay. But it's more of a like everybody's entitled to their own little secret life, their own little private life that's theirs. And you still, but you also have what you have together and you keep that just there. Yeah, I like that. I could see how that could, how you would morph into that. When did the whole, I don't know which came first and whichever one came

first, let's talk about that first. But there's two other things that I really can't wait to hear about from you, which is your squirting workshops and you being a sex worker, right? You're, and you're for, you know, because you're not into guys, right? I typically think when a guy is a sex worker, he's servicing men, right? But you're servicing women. And I'm, I have like a million questions about that life, but I want to know which one came first. The squirting workshops, like what are you a master, get every girl to squirt guy or the sex work? Like, how did those come into play in your life? Well, squirting workshops came first, and I don't get anyone to squirt. I hope them squirt. They are the ones who squirt with my assistance, and I hate to be pedantic and

annoying about that, but I am, I unfortunately have to combat that language quite a bit. That's cool. I like that. You corrected me. Okay, go on. Yeah, because I'm the one, I'll be the one to teach you which muscles to use and how to think about it and how to feel. feel about it and how it might feel as far as inward versus outward expansion. Interesting. And oh my God, we have to do a whole episode just about this. Yeah, which muscles to use. And then I might provide the stimulation.

Uh-huh. But like I really prefer, I really hate the term, oh, he made me squirt. I, you know, made her squirt. Like, I don't like to take away. Guys love that. Oh, guys love that shit. know they do and that's why I just just one more little thing to take away from them all myself included but I certainly have a reputation and I've had hundreds of people come up

you know on my workshop which I share with my wife I've also taught it alone but like primarily I share it with my wife and but I have yeah I certainly do have a reputation for being good at assisting but that came first before doing full service sex work. Now let me ask you a quick question though about the squirting and then we'll go off, but I would love to have you back on and do a whole like how a woman could get herself to squirt episode with you because it's such a popular topic, right? What I love your angle on it. I just think it's stealing from the patriarchy. Like that. To me, well, to me it's like, you know, the patriarchy in Western medicine has denied women's pleasure for so long as a concept

until, you know, 100 years ago. Yeah. Like, the concept didn't exist. Like, oh, those moans are moans of pain, you know? Yeah. Like, and so why is that? And it's like, well, the obvious answers that there's only obvious, there's only an obvious, like, evidence of pleasure from the mail because of the ejaculation.

So fucking steal that shit back. And, you know, taking that back and saying, no, no, no, no, no. Not only can I ejaculate, I can ejaculate more than you can. Oh, I got amazing. It's one hell of a way to tell the patriarchy, you know, that you experience pleasure and you're not going to feel shame for it. Yeah, I love that. Yeah, no, I can't wait to get to that whole topic. I have a lot to say on it. But let me ask you a quick question about it, though, because, you know, how does the, like, like, I get that you don't make the girl's word or anything, but like, how did this become a thing for you.

You know, how and how and why? I think it. Well, I think squirting's beautiful. Okay. So you were just like really into squirters. I just think it's beautiful. I think it's like a tangible way. I really think more so than that, the fact that you really are coming, you're very close to a lot of

emotional trigger points within the pelvic floor. Yeah. And as a result, like, can create like deep, deep, deeply, you know, impact. impactful emotional releases with pleasure. Yeah. I think that that's beautiful. And my squirt and workshop actually is a lot more complicated than being a workshop on how to squirt. So that's a whole different episode that's much longer.

It's much more about body empowerment, about owning, owning your body regardless of shape, size, color, body hair configuration, gender, menstrual status, et cetera, et cetera. But yeah, so I mean, it's just something I enjoyed. And one day I told my wife, I was like, what if we did this thing? And she said, let's see if anyone would want to do it. And what happened? And she made a, you know, I was like, well, I can't be the one to make like an online post about that. Because nobody's going to respond to my cis male ass. And so she did.

And before I knew it, we ended up having our first event. And it was three hours long. And it started as one thing. and it evolved and involved and evolved into this beautiful co-creation, not just of my own and my wife's, but of many people who then became involved in creating this safe place for people to step up and say, I'm a woman who experienced sexual assault,

and this is my first step to reclaiming my body by doing something so ridiculously over the top with so many people viewing and cheering me, on holding hands and crying. It's like watching someone give birth. And it really evolved into something much more beautiful and much, much bigger than either of us by such a wide margin to the extent that, I mean, I just look up to all the people who've ever done our workshop.

I think they're the real heroes there. So it started with that. And then we did a little bit more of that. And then, you know, more people are reaching out. And I've already, for a number of years, been hosting play parties and hosting different sexy events and little small gatherings and workshops. Let's get to your sex work. And I'm going to have you back on for all your other stuff.

Let's get. So how and when did that come into play? So my sex work came into play. I mean, the origin of it was actually about 10 years ago. And what had happened was, well I'd been for many years a person who former hookups of mine would call

and say hey my boyfriend really struggles of being dominant I really don't know what to do can you help me help him or hey I you know I am really you know I need help with one or another thing

and so I'd been that person for a long time and I had been hooking up with this a woman who is a sex therapist She does talk therapy. And she would always be like, I wish you would work with my clients. And I had heard in college for my human sexuality classes about sex surrogacy. And she would say, oh, I wish you would work with my clients. You know, they like, and I'd say, well, I'm not trained to work with people who have trauma.

And at the time, I was working actually in the hedge fund private equity space. And I was living in New York City and I was working in the hedge fund world. I had told myself that this is the career I needed to have because that's what my parents expected of me and, you know, all that kind of hoo-ha. And she just, she was like, oh, I wish she would work with my clients. And I just did not feel like I could be a safe person for that because I wasn't trained to deal with people in their trouble. And so I said, no.

And I also had to, I had to delude myself for, as, as long as humanly possible as people tend to do, that, you know, I was going to have this other career in finance. And I eventually, when I eventually quit that. And when I did, it was around not too long after before, I started leading more and more larger workshops around the country and, you know, with a bigger scope and bigger notoriety. And, you know, fast forward a number of years later.

Later, I had been seeing somebody who also was a sex therapist. And I was like, you know, I have been doing work basically like this underground for so long. And most people who come to sex surrogate work, they come to it. Or most people who come to this kind of sex work, they come to it, not realizing it at first. and so I decided to go get trained in doing that. And over time, you know, a good number of my friends are sex workers of various shorts and learning more about everybody's different sexual experiences, especially since I actually focus on working with sex workers,

although I work with women of all types, the clarity came through that all kinds of sex work is therapy, regardless of what kind. Interesting, right. My friends who are dancers, they're therapists. my friends who are cam girls, they're therapists. My friends who are, you know, of every kind, my friends who do full service, they're therapists.

My friends who are cuddlest, they're therapists. My friends who, every kind of my friends who sugar, they're a therapist. Like, they, every kind is therapy. And so the more and more I did that, I realized that, hey, this is one side of me. This is the wholesome side of me. that's doing wholesome sex work, but I'm also a filthy whore.

Yeah. And I can't forget her. Right. And so I, you know, Riley Coyote was born. I like that name. Thank you. And so Riley Coyote was born as a embodiment of the more wily, the, more wily, the the part of me that creates environments where anything is possible and permission is fully granted

and you just, all you have to do is think it and do existence. And you will have the ultimate enabler right in front of you ready to go. And that's you. That's me. Wow. And what kind of people, I just have questions, not about like the women that are coming to you with trauma. Like when you like Riley Coyote. Like what kind of women do you feel like? You feel like. You feel like. You feel like. Like if you, like, I don't know, it's probably across the board. But like, what kind of women do you see to pick you up? Yeah. For, not for content, but for full service work.

Yeah, for all service work. Yeah. So what kind of women across the board, across, across, across the board? One thing I'll say, which is consistent, and it's almost a completely and utterly redundant statement to make because this is probably true of every person with a vagina. But almost always the case is has to do. they've never been prioritized. Right. And it's whether it's a therapy client or a traditional full-service client, that's one thing.

But they could be younger, they could be older, they could be middle-aged. One thing that, again, is always the three-line is when I say, so what are you into? What are you interested in? What kind of touched you like? What kind of experience? I have a very quick way of pulling apart what kind of touch someone may or may not like. And they go, well, it's never really been very focused on me, so I'm not really sure. And that is the one thing I hear.

And that includes the fact that I have a lot. And this is actually probably the most surprising group of people that it was for me when I started that reached out to me, which is people who are also sex workers. Oh, interesting. Who they want to try being on the client side. That's kind of smart to get that angle, don't you think? Yeah, I think it's smart. I think it's also the thing is to be a good lover.

My best advice is to be with good lovers. Right. And so as a person who's a professional lover, you know, I've learned many of my tips and tricks from other people who are professional lovers. You know, my, my wife's ex, she's one of the top dominatrixes in the world. She's extraordinarily talented. And the headmistress of one of the largest tensions in the world. Oh, maybe I need her on my show.

Okay. And so, an absolute, stunning person as far as creating a time and a place and a space. And so, you know, I end up having people who are curious, oftentimes. about seeing what it's like to be a client instead of a provider, but I also see people who just, they just want somebody to focus on them and not, not focus on them through focusing on themselves through focusing on them, right? Like, they'll have clients who'll be like, I want to like finger you or I want to, you know, use this toy on you and you're going to come all these times. And it's like, it's still about them.

Yeah. It's still about the dude, the client. Right, right, right. I mean, not actually the dude, but like the client. Yeah. And so, you know, the ability to give people that experience is important. And it's something that I think a lot of providers also recognize, especially providers who are deep in their craft,

recognize as an important way that they can build their craft. Yeah, I would assume, I mean, you were doing it for, 10 years and because you figured out this is the way that you roll. You probably have a lot of like repeat customers. I'm some. I would say. I'm wondering. I would say the hard part with being a male provider is there's a bunch of hard parts about

being a male provider. Just like there's a bunch of hard parts about being a female provider. So the, yeah, I tend to have less repeat clients than I would like on the, on the, on the full service side. And I think that's for a number of reasons. One is there's just not as many female clients. Two is, I cost a lot. And unfortunately, as a society, we've always paid women less. Right. And whereas, you know, other friends of mine, other people who other partners, my girlfriend included, their client list is full of regulars. But, because I tend to cost almost as much as

most as like a higher-end female provider you know and I just don't tend to have as many repeats in that area whereas I have extreme consistency with people who are looking for more their treatment based right the trauma based well stuff right yeah that makes sense but yeah I always wondered you know because listen I'm a female I've had you know many booty calls like I always need someone to beg me out, right? But sometimes they're just so

irritating, you know, people are just annoying to have it. I'm always like, oh yeah, it'd be great to just like fucking put in a request, have somebody come do it. You know, and you just pay for not to have any of the nonsense that goes on, even when you have a no strings attached booty coll, you know, but like never did it. But I just always wonder like, who are the women that have that thought

like I have had and actually pull the trigger? You know what I'm saying? You know, that's the, That conversion is something I'm currently noodling on a lot because I've been rewriting some parts of my own online profiles. Yeah. But one thing is, you know, like people are uncomfortable and they have to be made comfortable. People are unsure of if they're safe and they have to be made to feel safe. People are also, you know, like, again, I cost significantly more than the next provider than the second most expensive provider in my region. and I just, I'm not, and I'm affordable, actually, I'm quite affordable to people who are teachers,

who are sex workers, are single mothers, because I will not let them go without, out of principle. And I, you know, almost, I will discount almost a free if it's the person who I just really have, where their story is like, okay, they really, they really need it. You're like helping them. You do charity work. Yeah, that sliding skills important. Yeah, I get it. I have guys that reach out to me for advice and they end up getting charged more to help compensate.

For the women that you hook up, that you lower your fee for it. So what are you noodling around with your profile? You're trying to get more women to call? Like, you're trying to get like the woman like that is thinking like I was to just like seal the deal and make it happen? I want the person who's unsure and who views this as a large financial commitment and who's like saying, hey, should I treat myself to an unknown experience with an unknown person that's going to cost me? Yeah, but see, that word right there that you just use, I think is the biggest block for a lot of women. Now, listen, you roll in a very different crowd.

It doesn't sound like you know the majority of women. You know the minority of women. I think it's changing now. I think that younger people are much more open. but a lot of women are wired in that they're just they just can't have a guy come in and they're going to get wet because he has a big dick and they're just going to fuck him you know

they have to they have to get a vibe and it's not listen they don't need to know him for three months you know but it's got to be some sort of connection so many women will say that to you it's just like you know and so saying unknown like you know I want the the woman that's like they're like that's where they stop like once they see like oh this is going to be an unknown person just going to

to come to my house and fuck no, but maybe if there's like, oh, you know, there's some sort of way of getting connecting ahead of time so that it's someone that you actually know and feel comfortable then comes over and bangs you out. That would make a woman feel much more comfortable. That's just my suggestion to you. Well, I appreciate that. And that is, I mean, building that intimacy is where I'm talented. That's where, that's where I wouldn't even say I'm talented. I'm gifted. Yeah, but like, if you just like incorporate some sort of ahead of the time like ahead of the time interaction with you and it doesn't have to be over the like even if it's just texting something so that that woman could get comfortable to the point where she digs you and she feels a little

chemistry and she's a little exciting and then you come over like that can make all the difference you know well that is that is part of my job yeah there you go that is that's certainly part of my job I do a number of things to help create that environment. Spell that out on your website. I will. I've actually, I've been meaning to update my website copy to match that of my, my profiles for providing full service. So I absolutely will.

But yeah, that is, that's my job, is to get somebody comfortable, to get them to know that we align on the most important values. and also to get them to know that I am creating an experience for them, whether it be laying the rugs out in front of the fireplace, lighting a hundred candles, putting on the perfect music, and then occasionally throwing in like a bad country song to say, and make them too,

just to bring the playfulness and silliness and really, like, do a frame break. Yeah. And, like, get them just, like, fully present. That's my job and that's my art. Yeah, I love it. I can't wait to have you back on to talk all about your squirting things. I feel like you have so much to offer, so much more to say. You are going to come back on.

We're going to do a Guy Talk episode. Now, do you have like, I mean, because I feel like people listening, you know, might want to go find you, you know, for various reasons. Do you have like a link you could give me? Do you have like a, you know, or do whatever you want to send me? Absolutely. Why don't I do this? Why don't I send you a set of my links?

Okay, cool. And you could post them with this episode. I will for sure. I'll include links where they can get my email, well, my work email, my work fund number, and all of the ways to contact me and, you know, to hire me, whether it be for full service work or, you know, I also do bachelor at parties. Oh, okay, great. I do. I do birthdays, divorces.

my friends having a bad days. Yeah, yeah, I got it. Yeah, that's fun. You know, I'm like edible arrangements for cock. Yeah, that's great. I like that. That's a good thing. So, yeah, I'm going to put all your stuff there.

You're open for all that, but you're going to come back on and we're going to talk about picture stuff because you're the guy I want to talk to about squirting. It's a very different angle. I've had how to squirt people on before, but not in the context of what you were discussing before. And I believe that is key. what you're saying is major and important and probably what needs to be talking, but what needs to be discussed when talking about, you know, how to squirt.

That's going to draw people in, but they're going to get so much more information that they probably never heard before because you sort of teased it here. And I was like immediately, like had a million questions. I'm like, oh, this sounds right. This sounds like the layer that I've never fucking heard that needs to be talked about for all the girls out there that have a block to it. Yeah, absolutely. There's a, there's, there's, there's ways that you could spend 45 minutes explaining it to somebody. But historically, I've had crowds of hundreds to over a thousand people there cheering me on and waiting for something.

So I had the luxury of that. So when I have somebody in front of me and I have to teach them how to squirt and I've got 30 seconds, I've got 30 seconds. Wow. Well, you're going to have an hour. You're going to have an hour with me on the call. and we'll talk about stuff and then we'll promote your squirting workshops because I think it's amazing that you have that because I'm sure people will want to take it after. But send me all your links. You're pretty fascinating. I tried to keep you on track. I felt like you could have went off on so many different interesting tangents.

It wasn't like your tangents weren't interesting. I'm like, oh, this person's like fascinating to talk big picture with. But I really wanted to get your whole backstory on this call so that now when you do come back on and we do bigger picture squirting stuff, you know, people, if they need to know, you're history, we'll refer them to this episode. So listen, Riley, Coyote. Thank you so much for calling into my show. Definitely send me some picks for my Patreon. Okay. And definitely make yourself another appointment. Use the same link you use to sign in or I'll just text it to you again to a book to do the squirting episode. Okay. Okay. Can you can you send me um, I'm writing down to send links and picks? Um, but I was

going to say, can you send me which episode numbers or whatever of yours to look at for squirting? And the reason I say that is because I've got a meeting for a business and an opening that I've got to drive to and I figure I might as well listen so I don't end up being riddened.

Oh, yeah, sure, for sure. I'll text it to you the minute we get off. Okay, perfect. Okay, awesome. Thanks, Riley. Thanks for calling in. I'm going to post all your links. You're super interesting and I can't wait to talk to you again. Okay, thank you so much. Keep on the lookout for that later tonight. I will. Awesome. So, bye, Riley.

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