Strictly Anonymous Confessions - 987 - Ryan and his Wife are Swingers But She Doesn't Know they Are?!

Episode Date: December 12, 2024

Ryan and his wife are swingers but she doesn’t know that they are and he called in to ask all about it. When did they start swinging? What exactly do they like to do? And, how can she not know about it? Tune in for all the details which include the first time they went to a swingers club and what exactly went down, what they will and will not do when hooking up with others, how his wife doesn’t enjoy watching him with other women, where and when they swing with others, how they prefer bisexual men even though he’s not bi himself, the exact bi guy scenario they like to mock up, how and why he sets up MFM threesomes without her knowing about it, how and why she falls for it every time, how he goes about vetting the guys and what he exactly looks for, what his wife enjoys most obout the mfm threesomes, their one time hook up he set up with another couple and why he wasn’t down for it and a whole lot more. REPEAT originally aired 07/22 **To see hot, anonymous pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! MY BOOK IS NOW OUT FOR PRE-ORDER!!!! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY NOW: https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd To Join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712 or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at [e-mail] or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show" Have something quick you want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. You can call 24/7. All voices are changed. Sponsors: https://beducate.me/anonymous40 Get BEDucated! For 40% off PLUS a FREE 24-hour trial, click the link and use code: anonymous https://bluechew.com Get your first month FREE! https://butterwellness.com/ Try the Butter Wellness perineum massager and use code STRICTLY for 20% off your entire order Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/ Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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like comes my way with a little twist that I'm like, what the fuck? I don't know, and it's interesting. This episode is definitely a conversation starter. Because I do think you're going to want to comment or you're going to have your own opinions about this one because of the little twist that is a part of this story. Now, Ryan and his wife are the couple that, you know, a couple times a year. They've gone to swingers parties.

And then another couple times a year, they, when they are out and about on vacation and far away from home, They have a total threesome. She's down for it. He loves it. They have a very specific thing that they enjoy, which we talk about, which is interesting. It's like that he's really into the guy being by, even though he's not by at all. And he doesn't fool around with the guy.

They get very specific about what they do and don't do on, you know, during their threesomes. They've tried threesomes with women, but she's not really down for that. He explains that whole scenario. What they really prefer is that guy. they prefer for him to be by. He thinks it's kind of like a reverse cuckled situation. You'll have to listen to get the specifics on the actual threesomes they enjoy. But the bigger twist of this episode is that she doesn't know that he has them as a couple up on a website as swingers. okay he is setting up a guy to be at the bar every time they have a threesome he has set it up with a guy

that is in the bar that they wind up hooking up that's his deal he set that up am i making sense you're gonna have to listen now this is where it's like such a conversation starter it's like the perfect dear abbey question and if you know who dear abbey if you don't know who dear abbey is you're young, too young, but it's kind of like, you know, is he wrong for doing it? Is he really wrong for doing it? Like she thinks this is a random hookup with a guy, but behind her back, he has set this whole thing up. Okay. So he talks about that. How does the whole process go with him vetting the guys, hooking them up, telling them about it, do all the guys, are they all the guys down for it? Or do some guys like, no fucking way, I don't want to be a part of that shit.

don't know. And you have to wait until the middle of the podcast before you totally judge him because a little part of the situation comes out like midway that I was like, oh, okay, that makes me feel a little bit different about the situation. So you got to, I'm not going to tell you what that is. You're going to have to listen. I don't want to give it all away on the intro. But, you know, you will feel one way about it. At least I did. This was my experience with the story. I was very judgy about what he was doing in the beginning. We talk a lot about it and suss it out. And then he brought up something that's a part of the situation that I was like, oh, okay, that's a little less worse. But you're going to have to listen. And I'm so dying to hear what everybody else

thinks about this situation. So comment if you want, or DM me on Instagram or comment on Instagram, because I really promote my episodes there as well. And I love talking about my episodes with my listeners. So it's a very interesting story. What they do is like super fond and hot and just this little twist just adds to it. Like I said, just when I think I've heard it all. This is a new one. And it's very interesting. My favorite word. That's my favorite word. Interesting. So anyway, I'm going to be right back on with Ryan. Hi, Ryan. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm doing well. Thanks. How are you? I'm good. So Ryan, your email was is interesting to me because of one specific aspect to it.

Okay, you know, the fact that you guys are swingers, you and your wife, and you do hook out or you have, I don't know if she wouldn't call herself a swinger because the interesting part of it is that you and your wife have been like hooking up with couples and guys when you're out and about or on vacations, but she has no idea that you have had your, you know, you're, you guys up as a couple and you've been, you know, pimping your couple out, her out and you out to these guys. So whenever that situation sort of happens, she thinks it happens naturally, but really it's something that you have set up. Absolutely. It's, it's weird to say. I don't even know how to describe it. Probably my email. I hope, I'm glad it made sense a little bit, but

when I found your, when I found your podcast, I was like, one, I love it. And, I try to listen to it as much as I can. And, you know, I hear different stories. And I was like, oh, man, maybe there are other people like me. But, yes, my wife definitely, we play probably three times a year, been doing it for, I'm guessing, about seven or eight years. So 20, 20 sometimes we've done this probably a little bit more. But the way that it started, we actually, we've actually been to some swing clubs too. That's really was our first dabble into play where I had went through some I lost my mother and I was just feeling kind of really down and she's like, you know, what could we do really fun?

I was like, let's swing. And she was like, I don't want to do it, but I'll do it if it makes you happy. And we're like, we tried it. So we found a club not in our hometown. We traveled about two hours away to a nearby city, big city, and went. And she was okay with it. We played with another couple. We were awful nervous.

We went to like a Halloween event so we could dress up in case we recognized anybody or anything. Oh, that's played. And it was always swap and, or excuse me, soft swap. She, I watched her give a blowjob. She watched me get one. We ended up having sex with each other and in the same room as the other couple. And it was just, I mean, I was really turned off. I loved it.

She was, it was okay for her, but it wasn't something like she was really going to look forward to, you know, doing once a month or anything. So that's pretty much where we started. And then maybe went a few months. And the couple that we played with the first time, I ended up like kind of corresponding with them, a guy gave me his phone number or whatever. And he told me that there's a Swinger site called SLS. So I made a profile and a couple's profiles that we were looking for couples or singles, whatever. I mean, it was pretty general.

And just, yeah, through that, when we go out of town, I'll put the location wherever we're going and say what we're looking for. And at first, it was couples. And then she really doesn't like to see me with a woman as near as much as I like to see her with a guy or plane. So we really have not done couples, even when we've gone back to swing clubs. We go once a year probably. We just really get a single guy. And that's how we play. So it's pretty interesting.

But I guess another thing I wanted to tell you is when we do play. So there's two aspects to why I wrote in. So one was that she's a swinger and really doesn't know it or doesn't promote it or anything like that. And also, we also kind of when I set these up are when, since I told you that she would rather have just another guy and the three of us, we always look for a bye guy, even though I am not by at all. This message is brought to you by avocado mattress. And if healthy, comfortable sleep matters to you, this is one organic brand worth knowing. That's because what you sleep on actually matters. Most mattresses rely on synthetic foams and chemical materials

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com for more details and important safety information. and I thank Blue Chew for sponsoring the podcast. Also, we also kind of when I set these up are when, since I told you that she would rather have just another guy and the three of us, we always look for a by guy even though I am not by at all. And I may sound strange and this is where I can't find this like when you look on it, like if you look on porn hub or look at this scenario, obviously cuck hole. comes to mind, but I am definitely not that. I just, we actually both like to see a guy kind of clean me up off of my wife. That turns us both on big time. And, you know, we just, it's just a huge, huge turn on for us both. So kind of, kind of crazy. I don't know where you want to go with that. The first thing I want to ask you before we get into all the details is, so here you have this

wife that was totally cool with you during your time of need. You know, you're mourning the loss of your mom. You're like, I need to do something to distract myself. Let's go to a swingers club. She's down to do that. Why don't you tell her that you're going to go on the swinger's site and move forward into the lifestyle considering she was down for it? Okay. Well, that's pretty, that's a fair question. And I think that, most honest way I can answer it is to say like she she tolerated it but it's it's she says it's not her thing that you know I worked really hard on getting her in Tibet we can talk about that later but you know I it's not she doesn't sexually like give it up to

anybody we've we've never I've she's had sex with myself and two other men in her entire life and it's not something that you know she she felt comfortable necessarily with, I guess, and she still says that's, that's not me or anything that she does it. And it's not like I'm forcing it at all. It's just when my birthday comes around, we go out of town. It's always like one night on vacation, we'll run into a, you know, quotation, bump into a single guy at a war. Yeah. And if you want to come back to the room, we're having some fun. Maybe, maybe we'll start. She'll think that he's coming back to maybe just videotape it for us. You know, like, hey, you want to just hold my iPhone and tape this and then, you know, you can pull your dick out and, you know,

she'll suck on it a little bit or whatever. And then obviously the screening process I do that they're always by or, you know, at least friendly enough to, you know, clean me up off of her and, and typically themselves too. She likes that part. So. But you said that she doesn't like sleep with anybody else. So what's going on with her with these hookups? What is she doing with the guy? she's giving oral, getting oral. Okay, so it's all oral, yeah. It's all oral, yeah. She is never one time.

And out of all these, you know, people that we've played with, never once, and I haven't either. Yeah, yeah. I haven't had sex with any of the women. It's, that's just enough for us. It's crazy enough, and it gets me, you know, really excited. And we talk about it in bed, like throughout the year, you know, we actually have met one gentleman two different times. So we live on the East Coast.

We like to go out to the West Coast in the winter. time on vacation. And we've played with one guy two different times. And, you know, we talk about him when we're in bed maybe once a week. And we've actually even had some, not Skype, but FaceTime with him, watching him, watch, you know, get off while he's watching us. And yeah, it's, it's a lot of fun. Oh, so she'll do that. She's a little bit of like an exhibitionist or she likes people watching and she'll have sex with you when these, like, other guys are there. But she'll blow them and she'll, and they could go down on her? Yes, because they're going to go down and they're going to, that whole cream pie thing is going

down, right? Well, really, no, no, not, not, it's never, not really cream pie. It's, it's, she likes to see it like on her chest and, and, you know, normally the guy will go, I'll just be on top, maybe missionary, and she'll be giving him a blow job. And then when he's ready to go, he'll, you know, come on. her tits and then I'll come out and maybe do it on the other one. And then she loves when the guy will then go right into eating it all up.

Oh, interesting. So how do those conversations where you've tried to get her into, you know, doing this with her saying, yeah, let's do it. Like why won't she let you go out and look for it or post about it? Oh, God. She would be irate if she knew that. that I had created a profile on a Swinger site and was screened guy. She would have no interest in doing that together.

She would have no interest. It's just something that, you know, she grew up very religious. She still thinks of herself as, you know, a respectable woman and, you know, so do I. Just I have this little freaky side. And I just think I'm very lucky to have her to, you know, just appease it two, three times a year, really. I guess the conversation is just, I know they won't go well.

No, but have you ever had it, though? Have you said to her after, you know, the swinging thing, like, hey, let's, like, get into the lifestyle. I would like, I mean, when you're, when you're on this S-L-L-S website, do you don't have face picks of your wife, do you? I do. Yep. And, yeah, yeah. Well, well, listen. Well, okay, so it's not on, like, the public ones.

It's when you start interacting, you have private ones. So then I will let them see what we actually look like. On the generic ones that are just your profile picture, her and I, maybe she's actually like topless and I don't have my shirt on and she's topless and I just have my arm around her. So that's our profile picture. And then they can go on to like open that up

and then still with those profile pictures, there's no face and then there's personal. And then when you say, okay, you know, you're developing a relationship or you're having dialogue with whether it's usually just a single guy having a dialogue you can go back and forth and then open up to your personals and then they can see what we look like but it is not out there for like anybody i work with anyone she works with would have no idea it's us it it says our hometown on it um but when we go out of town like when most of the times we do it and i'm doing it still while we're in town is i'll just change our location to you okay we're going to san diego so san diego is gonna i'm just going to put it as that's our location, say, hey, we're coming on vacation in three weeks. I'll start kind of screen guys. Because it's not always the easiest thing when, you know, you're honest with another gentleman who you're saying, hey, I'm willing to share my wife and to say, like, hey,

we're going to have some fun. And, you know, you pretty much in their description, it says if they're by or straight or, you know, buy friendly or whatever. So those are the types that I go for and to say, hey, you know, and it's not everybody's cup of heat. Not a lot of people want to go ahead and make the effort to go out and meet somebody knowing that it's not guaranteed or the other person doesn't know about it. A lot of people are leery of it. And I get that. I totally understand that. And I say, hey, I understand. I'm just telling you we're for real. There's a certification portion of our profile that all these people that

we've, I don't know, probably of all the ones that we've hooked up with, I think we have five or six of them on there where guys have said, yeah, we've met blank and blank and they're real, they're cool. We had a great time and hope to see them again, you know, just pretty generic stuff, but it at least shows, you know, when somebody says, hey, are you for real? Are you really going to come out and be at this bar when you say you're going to be there? And I say, hey, you have to tell my wife, she's gorgeous. And we'll sit in. I mean, we talk to everybody no matter where we go, whether we're in town, out of town. We go out on a Friday or Saturday night. We don't have children. We like to have

fun. We work very hard. And on the weekends, we go out and have some fun and we'll talk to whoever. And one of our things is that, you know, even in our hometown, if we see a guy sitting in a bar, we'll say, hey, let's not so much like in the sense of fuck with them, but let's let's talk to him and get him turned on. Or she'll, or I'll say, hey, let's, let's make sure he goes home and jacks off thinking of you tonight. Right. And she'll flirt and stuff. And, and And it's just fun for us. And we'll come home and have great sex and talk about it. And we'll like, hey, that guy's home right now and he's, he's thinking about you.

And it's just kind of fun for both of us. And getting back to when we just go meet somebody, like I said, it's not everybody's cup of tea. And after you put a thing out there and say, okay, we're going to be in San Diego, our thing gets blown up. I'll get 100 responses. Yeah. It's okay. And then you just kind of pick the ones you like. and just tell them what the scenario,

totally up front with them. Like, my wife has no idea that we're going to, you're going to be at the bar or hook up. You're going to have to work on it. I worked on it really hard. It took me a long time to get her in bed and, you know, or at least even get a blowjob. And all you have to do is be a gentleman

and be very respectful for a couple hours. And the next thing, you know, you're going to have a great time. And so are we. How good are these guys at acting out that scenario? I mean, have you had ones that are so bad and it's so obvious you're like what the heck? Never, never once.

Never had a bad one. Really? They've all, everyone who we've, or I've arranged to say that we're going to be at this place at this time and we've been there. And so is the guy. I make it very easy. I make sure that we're sitting at the bar. I'll maybe have the guy's phone number and I'll text and say, okay, this is what we're wearing or we're dressed. usually, you know, we're dressed up and going out for drinks and then maybe whatever we're doing

when we're on vacation. And I'll take a pitcher and she loves taking pictures and things like that. And I'll just say, here, this is exactly what we're wearing. We'll be at the bar and just come up and say hi. Or you be there first and I'll make sure you send me what you're wearing and we'll sit down next to you and start having a conversation. And if you're a gentleman, tell her she's gorgeous and like I said, all the things that I can coach them through. You know, and next thing you know we're inviting them back to our hotel. And how do you narrow it down from those hundreds of guys? Do you also have a type or, you know, when you...

Yeah, well, I look at, I know what she likes. I'm not going to pick someone who I know that she would be like, no way. He's got to have, you know, nice looking teeth. He's got to have a, you know, a professional appearance. Yeah. We're not looking for, you know, I don't want to say we're like, they're upscale guys, but I'm not looking for... A scragily dude.

dude. Yeah. I'm not looking for work. Yeah. And she wouldn't be down with that. Right, right. You know her type. Yeah. And I can, I can do a pretty good job of it. And no matter where we've gone, I've gone out of town for work on conferences I've had to go to for work and she's gone with me. And, you know, it's through that site. Just, hey, I'm going to be at this place and, oh, we're here for this. And, you know, hey, let's meet out and we'll have some fun. And I tell them all. Like, if you, and it never has, never one time have we met. met a guy and had it all set up and her had said no. Yeah, that was going to be my question. That's exactly like what my question in my head was to ask you next. Interesting. So you know you're a good picker. You know your wife. Well, I do.

And, you know, I've been thinking about, obviously, since I wrote you, I've been thinking about this conversation and saying, like, man, when I go back and I hear this someday, if you ever posted or anything and I go back and listen to it. and to say, boy, I hope that, you know, I love my wife more than anything in this world. Like, she's everything to me. And, like, I do this as, as I have a feeling that if she hated it, she wouldn't do it. But I know that maybe she doesn't, like, ever say, oh, she's never the one to say, let's do it. Or let's go out.

I always initiate it. And I just think it works that way. And I just want to make sure that, you know, my respect level for her is, I know what I'm doing is not right and is a little bit shady. And I definitely don't, I'm not proud of that at all. But I also know that it brings me a lot of excitement. It brings our sex life for, you know, every time we do this for for weeks afterwards, we talk about it. And it makes us both like it gets her super turned on.

It gets me very, very turned on. And it just makes our sex like, which is never, ever been bad. and never once has been even rocky at all. It's been great. I mean, we've been 15 years and, you know, it'll be my life partner forever. This season, why not give the gift of pleasure? Stuff is temporary, but sexual happiness is forever. So why not treat yourself or a loved one to the gift of sexual happiness with a subscription to

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It's been great. I mean, we've been 15 years and it'll be my life partner forever. Yeah, and now listen, I don't want to harp on this too much, but I still am not past it yet. the whole, you know, her not knowing. I want to know why, is it because you know that she would say no, have you ever broached the topic? I don't feel like I've gotten that straight answer.

No, no, I've never, I've never said. You won't even go there. No, won't even, won't even ever say that, do you want to go on this website, make a profile? Anonymous, we'll be totally anonymous. Why not? No. No, I think, I know the answer would be no.

the answer would simply be I'm not that girl I'm not I would not do that and she thinks it's random and I'll like her and keep thinking that way right so you're too afraid but I'm just saying like what's unspoken in that whole

scenario I think is your fear of her saying no fucking way and then she this is a woman this is where what I don't get this is a woman who does

hook up with other guys a couple times a year. What do you think is the difference in randomly hooking up or going on a site completely anonymous and saying let's set it up once or twice a year? What's the fear of even just bringing that up

and say she shoots it down? Is it that if she shot it down, you wouldn't feel right about doing it anymore? Like, why not just try? That is one part. And then the other part is, I'm just afraid that she would... I know what you mean. Yeah, I know what you're going to say.

Totally just say... Be onto it. No, and the pressure. I think more of it would be if she would know, like, the pressure of, oh, my God, we're going to meet this guy. What if I don't like him? What if I'm miserable? And with really, I mean, all these guys that we go into, they all know.

Like if it doesn't, if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. And they're not going to be mad. And they know up front, you're not going to have sex with her. You're going to be able to go down on it. You're going to be able to, you know, she's going to blow you. And, you know, things are, you're going to have a fun night. And if you're not willing to take that chance, and luckily all the guys who have ever taken that chance, it's worked out for them.

But the pressure is probably 75% of it. And the other 25% would be like she would be hell no. And I don't want to risk never doing it. You know, I don't, there's nothing else in our relationship that I would hide from her. Like we're open with everything. I mean, how we're feeling, how, you know, how work was today or how, you know, how we think of our, maybe our parents did something stupid or whatever. Yeah.

We're very open. And the communication level is really big now. and it's always been important to her and a connection is important to her and I mean this is really the one thing that I feel like this is the direction that we have to go or I have to go to if we're going to have these encounters and these these fun nights this is the direction it has to go because of the pressure and and her saying no that's because she all the time will say well that's that's not me and I think that the swing club that we'll do once a year yeah is is normally definitely a theme, definitely something where you dress up, mostly Halloween. It just seems to be a time when, you know, we'll go on vacation in, or late December, early January, and then again, and maybe like April, and then you have that big galile and say, hey, let's, let's go to the club for, for the Halloween party or go for, we've also done, Marty Gras, you know, where you can kind of have your mask up, your eyes mask up, right? And, you know, those are things. And then that's, there's, there's,

There's plenty of times where we go into those, and it's like, you know, maybe a couple will talk to us. And I know that because of our first couple times going to the swing club, like that, she really didn't care for that part with watching me with another girl. And I'm totally fine with that. And no problem, but it's like, you know, you go and there's guy after guy comes up to you and she just has a tough time. Like, no, I'm not interested or whatever. It's, you know, she has me do that. And it's, it's never been, like, uncomfortable, but it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, It's just not her thing.

And it's not necessarily mine either. I'd much rather do it out of town and the way we do it with SLS. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that works. Then for me to go to the club. But it is fun. And I do look forward to going. You know, she'll get into it. She'll dress up and we'll go.

We'll get a hotel room because it is a couple hours away from our home. And we'll just, we'll make a fun night out of it. So last question about this. Then we're going to get to some of the details of your, you know, your hookups and stuff. Sure. Last question. Like, do you think, okay, if your wife found out, would she, like, throw you out of

the house and divorce you? Would she just be mad for a day? Like, what do you think would happen? Let's probably not divorce. I would hope not that. Right. But probably bad for more than a day or a week or two. But I think that eventually it will be, we could definitely get past it, survive it.

Right. And it's not something that, I don't know, God forbid, you ever came across. Because she listened to it. Oh, my God. Yeah. I don't, I, I, I can't imagine divorce would ever be an option. Right. I really, she'd be, you know, and I try so hard.

Like, I, wine and diner still, like, we're dating. And we've been married for so long. And, like I told you earlier, she's my best friend. She's everything. Yeah. We, we, I mean, most of my friends, like, they like to play golf with their, you know, us and our friends. but, you know, my favorites play golf of my wife.

Yeah. And it's just something that I like to do and spend as much time as possible whether we both do. And I think we could get through it. But I still don't have the nuts yet to go ahead and say, hey, let's make a profile together and search some guys out. That day will never happen. Yeah, because listen, you figure, listen, I understand your mentality.

And, you know, you figured out something that really. works, probably better than if she was involved. She does enjoy herself. At the end of the day, your wife has, it's her decision whether she takes on that threesome or not. And she just always does by the vetting that you do works. A hundred percent. Yep. She's never said no. And there's been, there's been something that she's really like more than others. You know, but it's still, it's still at the end, they've all been, they've all been happy. And they're all happy to, you know, write something about us and post it on our wall on that damn website. And we don't really, I don't ask them. I don't, I don't do that for, I don't do that for other people that we've looked up with. It's just, it's just

simply, it works. Like you said, I mean, there's no other way to explain it. Then it's, it's, it's perfect the way it is. And I know that it might not be the honorable thing to do. And it would be, I don't know how other people would would know about this maybe my best friend knows other than that that's it there's there's no one else what does he think oh he loves it he's like high-fiving you oh yeah it's it's it's crazy i mean the four of us we we have a good time together four of us yesterday played in a in a four-person golf scramble and i mean we were we were we were all having fun in the cards side by not with each other's you know partner or whatever yeah i mean we were we were it was a very slow round and you know i was getting a blow job and he was getting on and you know we were

just having fun and it's just something that you know the girls aren't a phrase to do and you know they show their their boobs around and it's just fun i mean they're a little bit you know since i guess we're i mean we're not that young first of all like i don't know if you asked our age or not but i'm 46 and she's 48 so we're not spring chickens or anything but but i also think we probably look young, definitely act younger than our age. Probably have no kids helps that. Totally. So it's just, you know, we have that crazy side. She has it too. It's just she doesn't, she's more ladylike, I guess. And she has that little freak in her and in the bedroom is crazy and it's a lot of fun. We love it. No, and I would think that for some guys,

it might actually also add to the experience that challenge. That challenge. of like will she go for it or not? You know, I mean, maybe some people like you said are leery about that, but probably for a large percentage of the guy that goes for it, that might be actually a hot part of the scenario for them. Yeah, I really, I would think because I haven't ever, so when I said, okay, if we say we're going to be in this town for these six days or whatever, I mean, it's not an exaggeration to get a hundred people just, whether to instant message you or email you or whatever.

And of those, right, so say maybe I reach out to like four or five. Yeah. And of those, probably three are like, you know, that's not for me. And of the two that are left, you know, I kind of just have to say, okay, well, you know, this is exactly the rules. And as long as you're okay, and this is it, you know, pick them from there. But it's really, that's pretty much how it works. So talk me through that. Like, what are the rules that you give the guy?

And give me some scenarios that actually went down. Okay. Well, they all are really, really close to the same. Like, we are definitely going to be at a bar. Like, no doubt, that's where we're going to be. And again, we, you know, whether I know what they're wearing, they know what we're wearing. I mean, it's real, it's not real time. But, I mean, it's a pitcher.

And, okay, we're going out now. Yeah. And they get it. So, so really, yeah, it's so at the bar. No, but what do you tell them in the email first? Like in that email, what are the rules? The email is you're definitely not going to have sex with her. Yeah. All right. It's going to be a little blow, blow back and forth, you know, blow each other. And, you know, I'm going to have sex with her. And normally, I prefer and she's really been turned on to it is the by guy. Right. And I'm like, hey, this is the deal. Like, she really gets turned on when. When I, she loves to see come being tasted, eaten, whatever, cleaned up.

Yeah. Never, it's never a cream pie. It's always pull out and, and, you know, it's going to go on her, on her stomach or on her, on her chest normally. Definitely not on her face. And then she's going to, she really gets turned on when, when the guy, when the guy cleans. And normally it's more than one round. normally maybe we'll take a break and it's just so because I usually I would say most of the time I finish first so then it's kind of exciting to watch that you know I'm not by or gay at all but it is kind of hard to see like another guy get turned on off of my wife you know I'm proud that I think she's sexy my friends think she's good looking and you know that's a big turn on for me and to see what she does to see what she does to. to other guys.

And then, you know, it really goes into the cleanup part. And we'll break or whatever and then go right back to it. And she's cleaned up. And, you know, it's not like she's come covered and I'm having sex with her game. But it's usually round two and sometimes even round three. Lately, I'd say in the last two years, maybe I've learned how to orgasm multiple times in a very short period of time. Like, I'm able to go and come a lot. just when we're together at home.

Yeah. And then, so I kind of am replaying that, that kind of, like, sexual thing that I love. And I'll have, you know, I'll pull out and put some all over, like, each tid. And then I'll just keep, I'll go right back immediately, go right back in and we'll go for, you know, I don't want to sound like a stutter or anything, but, like, we'll go for another half hour. And, you know, she'll ride on top of me. And I'll just play with all the come on her boobs. And she loves it.

And it really turns us both on. It keeps me for being. 46 it keeps my pickup really hard and it gets me really turn on. I really, I love it, actually. Right. That's how it's totally adding to your sex life. What'd you say? I just said, I just, I love it. It just gets me really going. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now, when you're, so how do you go from your, so you're at the bar, right? The guy comes over. Like, how is it set up? Talk me through one of your scenarios. Okay. So, so maybe back up just a little bit. Yeah.

We'll say my wife and I'll have a conversation like, hey, like tonight would be a nice night to, you know, like if we find a right guy, bring him home. Oh, okay. Not home, but back to the hotel. You throw that out there or she does. Yeah, it's not like we're going out and she thinks, and these aren't the night on vacation where we're doing, you know, a huge fancy dinner or anything. Okay. This is usually after maybe playing golf or in a day and, you know, we had an early dinner. and now we're going to go off for some drinks.

It's that night on vacation. And it's not every, you know, it's just one night when we go. Yeah. It's pretty much she, so she knows before we get to the bar, like, if the right guy is there and, you know, we hit it off, like, we're going to invite him back. And she'll do the invite. She'll go up and, and I'll say, hey, this is, I think he's down or whatever. Or she might tell me, I think he's down. Yeah.

And I'll excuse myself, maybe go to the bathroom, and, and, and, and, you'll excuse myself, maybe go to the bathroom. And she will say, hey, my husband and I are going back and would you want to come back and watch us full around? Or, you know, she's pretty, I don't know, say, it's hard to sound classy in that situation. Yeah. But somehow she does it. Yeah, and she makes herself, like, feel not trashy about it. And going back to, like, why I would never say that, you know, ask her to get on a site together is to say that, you know, that's not her. Right.

That would go against that part of her. That part of her that's able to, you know, turn that situation into a classy one, like you said. She knows how to do that. Yeah. And we're not meeting these guys at any kind of dive bar or anything. Right. Somewhere decent, somewhere on a beach or whatever. And we're talking to.

So it's not out of the normal at all for us to talk to anybody. And I think it's important that you said, because I was under the impression that, oh, it's just like a random night you're having dinner and then somehow you're able to work at that. You throw, you know, two hours later, you're back in a room with another guy. But so it is, you know, you guys have discussed that this is your night that you're going to go out that once or twice or three times a year and have a little fun. Yep, yep, absolutely. Oh, okay.

So that's a little less fucked up on your part. Okay, okay, good. Thank you for saying it. Well, at least for me. Kind of some people are going to go out. I probably should have prefaced it at that first. maybe. I don't know. But no, she definitely goes, like we're going out and she knows that this is a night where if we're going to, if we're going to full around, like she would say, that's going to be it. And then we just happen to run into some guy. And luckily, and all times, they've not been juicebags. And they've all been respectful. And I tell her compliments, you know, I'll give the guys everything she likes. I'll give them the full how to put it on. You know her love language, right?

She's into compliments, yeah. Rubber, rubber leg, tell her she's gorgeous, tell her, like, you know, boy, you know, love your boobs or something, you know, because she's always, even, even just anywhere, she's always showing them off. I mean, she loves her cleavis, she loves her boobs, and so it's all the guys. So it really turns me on, you know, especially those scenarios when we're not going to do anything. And we just have the girls out. And, you know, we talk about, boy, I bet that guy we just talked to you, an hour is jerking off thinking about you tonight and I'm having sex with you. So, yeah. How many times has she ever, like, you know, because you have your marked guy in the room,

like you know who he is. I mean, has she ever sort of pointed out somebody else other than him? No, no, never. Never once. Nope. Wow. Interesting. Okay. So, yeah. No, I'll tell you, one, one time was actually pretty funny. Yeah. And we were in Long Beach. And we were in Long Beach. And, We, oh my gosh. So I, and I told you earlier, like, the same guy that we've, we've, the only guy that we've ever played with twice. And a guy who we've, we've done some FaceTime with and some phone sex type stuff. We, we, I had actually set it all up with him. He met us.

He was out the bar and everything was cool. And this girl was in the bar, in a way, like a college girl. And she came up and it was like, oh, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, so pretty and she's talking to my wife. Yeah. Oh, this is all. And this guy, we had already started talking to him and she just kind of, she was, she was a little drunk up and having fun.

And she's like, oh, you're beautiful and all this. And they started making out at the bar. And so my wife, knowing that, you know, this is our night out. Wait, who was making out? Or the guy and the girl? Yeah, my wife's making out of this college girl at the bar. This is like maybe three years ago for you. Like, yeah, 2019.

Yeah. And they're making out, and I'm like, oh, no. I'm totally telling us, but this guy is, like, doing really good on my wife. Oh, my God, hilarious. And he fits everything we want. Like, he's by. He definitely, like, loves calm. Like, I mean, he fit everything.

And I don't know if it would have worked out with this girl because she was pretty, pretty trumped up. And, you know, I don't know if we would have done anything with that in the state she was in, but she was definitely loving my wife. But, you know, we came out, hooked up with the guy. And, like, the next day, my wife had said something to me, like, you know, we could have had her. And I said, no, you know, we had it fallen. And so that was kind of a, that was the only time where there were somebody else, I guess, that she was interested in.

But he still went back with us, had a great time. He ended up being super cool. He is super cool. We just, I really, and I think, like, if, and I don't think it would ever go to, I really never, don't foresee her having, having sex with anybody else, but I can see this guy because now, after the, since the second time, we played with him and we have these phone calls and we have these FaceTimes and she's like, oh, I can't, you know, I want to be DP by you and, you know, my husband. And it's like, oh, man, I don't know if we can ever play with this guy again because now he's

going to think like, she's, you know, she's told him all this is tough. And the second time we went out with him. So the first time we met him in L.A. in Long Beach. And then we went out to San Diego this past winter. And I had texted him and said, hey, we're going to be in San Diego. Would you want to, you know, meet up with us? And he's like, absolutely love to. And I'll be the two-hour drive or whatever.

And he was excited to do it. Now, I never told my wife until we were on the airplane going out. Okay. And it was going to be the following day. I said, hey, you know, I said his name. And I said, he's going to come down tomorrow. And she's like, well, I wish you would have told me. And it didn't start a fight or anything.

But it was something like, you know, I would have been fine with it. And I am fine with him coming because, you know, that probably saves her a night from, you know, having to meet a random guy where somebody she knows and is comfortable with and, you know, didn't do anything stupid and followed all the rules. It was a gentleman, perfect, perfect guy for us. Yeah. And, you know, so she wasn't, she wasn't upset, but she just wished that she was disappointed that I didn't tell her prior. And she said, hey, we could have had, you know, the phone conversations and stuff leading up to it. And I kind of kicked myself in the butt for not telling her. And then since we've been back home and this was like just this past February, you know, we've had the five or six phone calls with them, four or five, maybe, something like that.

Yeah, you might. Listen, I think some people might even say you might be missing out on her ever going any further because you keep it the way, you know, you're good at, which is the randomness and the randomness. and the random people. Whereas maybe with this guy, all the DP talk, and, you know, she might cross some lines. Yeah, no. Well, I don't think I'd want to see that either, though. Oh, okay.

It's not going to be a sex thing. I mean, she's, so this guy, like, it is so hot when she will, he will do anything, like, liquor anywhere and do everything. And, you know, she really, she just enjoys that. And that's as far as he knows. he's going to get and we're all comfortable with it and I love it. You know, the things that he's done, the, the, almost the, I don't want to say it's cuckold because I'm definitely not that and I'm, but it's almost like, is there such thing as a reverse

like, where you're, that's what you think you said. Yeah, that's interesting. You mean because you're, well, no, the cuckold is the guy that's watching. I mean, you like to watch. well but I'm always I'm never just there I'm never just watching right and I'm never ever just sitting there and it's almost if there was any kind of humiliation is the right word because it's really not like humiliating somebody but it's like because he wants to do it or whatever but when he cleans up everything it's like normally like the like a couple a married couple like my wife and I and we play with a single guy it's normally right the husband that does all that. And that's, that couldn't be further from what happens. It's the, it's the single guy does all of that. So I don't know if that's

necessarily called a category or called anything. I don't, I don't, yeah, maybe just a threesome. I don't know. I'm as clueless as you are sometimes with some of these things. You know, I know, professional people to explain. But it's weird. Even just, okay, so, so say, you know, not that I look at porn a whole lot, but when I, when I do and, you know, say I'm bored at home and I put it up on my, my phone, Cuckold is definitely what I go to because it is the two guys and a girl and one guy's clean up, but it's always the husband.

Right. It's never, it's never like our scenario where it's, we're looking for that by guy to come in and clean me up. Right. He's not, he's not. He's not. He's the one. Yeah. I wonder if that's more like just Dom sub kind of role playing, kink scenario.

I don't know. Yeah. Well, it's something that, that was one of the reasons, you know, for, for me to, you You know, half of it was to say that my, you know, my wife and I swing and she doesn't know. But then the other part was kind of this. Like, you know, I wonder how many people like the scenario that we do or how many guys are like me. Yeah. Like that kind of action in bed where I'm definitely never going to touch his dick.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But you want him to be by. And you're not even by. It's interesting. It is an interesting dynamic. Yeah. Yeah, he's got to be by like we won't do it with a with a straight guy. Yeah.

No way. They have to. They like she really likes when maybe we're laying on her side, her and I, and then the guy's going down on her looking at her same time. She loves that. She thinks that that's the hottest. And, you know, the guy, I mean, I'm pretty sure he's probably touching my dick down there, but it's like I'm not looking at it.

I'm not, you know, I know he's lagging in. And obviously, his focus is her, you know, maybe her quit. Yeah. But, you know, my, my dick is all close to his mouth, and I would never, ever sit there and, like, let him give me a blow job in front or whatever. But there's been scenarios where I think it's really hot when the guy and I both have our dicks in her mouth. I think that is super hot. Right.

I love watching that. And, you know, not that I'm getting off at all touching his dick. I've never touched one with my hand, but my dick has touched another dick. Cross swords. Swords, right? But I think that's hot and she likes doing it and she gets turned on. So it's pretty interesting. So it's never couples though.

Have you ever set up a couple or is it always the buyback? Yeah, I did a couple before. Went to, went out of town, went to play a top golf one night. And, you know, we were just out. and there was a bar restaurant, wing place kind of thing, right next to our hotel. So I had reached out to the couple, told them straight up, like, hey, this is, you know, I actually, I think I'd put up like, hey, we're going, like I normally would do, we're going out of town or whatever, and we're going to be here.

And a couple responded, and she knew she was okay with it being that scenario. But, but again, it kind of, and I believe that was probably the last couple we ever played with, Because even though we didn't have sex, my wife just really didn't find me kissing or going down or getting a blowjob from another girl to be that exciting for her. And I'm fine doing, I think this scratches my itch to get loose two, three times a year. And I'm fine with it. Yeah. I mean, she doesn't know about you setting things up. But as far as what goes down and, you know, your boundaries and everything, it's really exactly what you both want.

and you're really well suited because you like it. Nobody's looking to go any further. It's fine the way it is. And you don't even mind that she doesn't set it up because it's probably easier for you to do it. Because like I said, I think it's like a sure thing when you do it. It is. It is. The screening process and being honest and being up front with the guy.

Like, hey, you're going to have to make an effort. And it's not, you know, I did. I courted her for a long time. And, you know, you're getting a blowjob after two hours. It took me two months. Right, right, right. I'm going to fast track you. You fast track them, yeah.

I'm going to fast track you. And you're going to have some fun. And I promise you're going to have a good time. And it's not guaranteed. But regardless, you're going to have fun at the bar with us. And we're going to entertain you, whether we're laughing, telling jokes or stories and things like that, you're not going to go home pissed off. And luckily, it's never been, we've never sent a guy home who hasn't come back to our hotel.

Right. Now, what about your best friend? You talked about how your best friend and you guys, sometimes you play golf and you're each getting blowjubs. I mean, do you guys like, like, do, have you ever done soft swapping with your? No, never. No, never. We talk about it all the time. Oh, really?

And have never done it. And I don't think we would. I mean, he walked my wife down the aisle. He, you know, we just eloped to Vegas. It was a pretty, pretty low-key wedding. Second one for both of us. We have no children and been together a long time. And when we eloped, like, they came with us and she was my wife's maid of honor.

And he was my best man who also walked my wife down the aisle. It was just the four of us. And, you know, came back into town and had a big party and stuff after that. But just the marriage thing. And so why I say that is like, you know, we're just really close. And I mean, I've seen his dad. I mean, he had his dick on my leg yesterday. Just like joking around.

Like when I was getting a blowjob, he came over and said, hey, can I go next? Just jokingly. And my wife's never, you know, giving him one. And I've never gotten one from his wife. But you've been in the same room where you guys are fooling around. Oh, yeah. That kind of stuff goes down. Absolutely.

Right. Yesterday we were outside with a ton of people around us. And we were both golf carts parked next to each other. And we were both getting blow jobs while we were waiting to. deal. Oh my God. That's what's going down at the golf courses. That's what we do. That's it. Oh, my God. I have, and my wife will let me take, you know, as many pictures as I want. I've got, like, all the time, every time we play golf, like, even if I don't finish or anything, like, I'm just like, you got to suck it. I need a pitcher. And, and do that. And, yeah, it's cool.

So I got a lot of material on my phone to use if I ever miss her. So. Yeah, that's crazy. But now he knows, though. Your friend knows. that you set up these threesomes, like what you're telling me, he knows that too, right? He's in the know. He's the only one. He is the only one. He is the only one he knows. And he thinks it is awesome.

And he wishes he could do that. But he has yet to do it. And, you know, they pretty much probably the same level we are. Just, you know, I have no desire to watch anybody have sex in life and damn sure I'm not going to watch it. But I will watch her do anything else. Now, has she ever been with a woman? Anytime you've been at just that girl she made out with, but any of, like, anything like that that she wants to do? She's mentioned that she would.

She would not go down, but she would have it done to her. Right. Is what she says. I mean, making out, I've seen her kiss tons of girls. Right. You know, we're in a couple's bowling league together, and I think she's kissed every woman that we both with. And, and, but, but never any, anything more. you know, and like I said, she's, she's pretty proud of her natural boobs, and she shows them off all the time.

And, yeah, she's happy to do that. And she knows it turns me on. She knows that, like, you know, she'll have her eyes on me while she's making out of the girl not even focusing on her, just making sure I'm enjoying the show. Right, right, right, because she knows. And then you bring all this kind of stuff back, and like you said, that's what adds to your guy's sex life. I mean, it does. Oh, it makes it so hot. And, I mean, for people our age to have sex, like, literally, I don't know, seven, it's really seven times a week.

It might be two in a day and take a day off. But it is constant. It is like, I actually went to my family physician and I was like, listen, I don't wish, and this was like two years ago, maybe I was like, I don't wish a 46-year-old woman on anybody. Like, I need some help keeping up with her. So, like, you gave me a doctor, you know. And he's like, enough, enough, enough. I don't need here anymore. I'm like, well, I'm just telling you.

Like, I mean, this broad wants this girl all the time. I'm having a time. And it hasn't stopped. I don't know when it will or is. I hope it never does. How old is she again? No? She's right now she's 48.

Yeah. No, you have a couple years now. Listen, like, I mean, I would say like, oh, send me a pick for my Patreon, but I can't do. I do not do. I have to tell you this straight up. I do not do pictures of anybody's partners because it's not consensual. Do you know what I mean? I get it.

I sent one to you and I thought of that in the back of my mind. Like, hey, you know, it's probably not right. But maybe at least for you to see us and see that we were really good. I mean, I saw it. I'm in the know. She's beautiful and she's got this big boobs. And I wish I could post it because, you know, like that's why people go to sign up for my Patreon.

But I can't because she doesn't know that's important to me. Sure. Listen, I think it's like, you know, your story is really interesting. I wonder what the general. public will think will they glom on to like what i did like you know the fact that she doesn't know is like it's kind of not cool or will people a lot of people be like your bf that's like it's fucking high-fiving you and it's like wishes he could do it think you're going to get a mix of both i i'll be interested to see absolutely and and when i um you know i signed up for your

patreon and that's you know looking at uh it's nice to put where you know you're you're talking to these girls or guys even or whatever and just to know what they look like and yeah and i'll tell you some of yours are so funny and you know some of them like you know when you know that it's so awesome how you will call someone out and you're just like the most real and easy to talk to and obviously we've we've probably emailed you maybe a couple weeks ago yeah and knowing this day was coming and and you've made it so easy and it's very comfortable to talk to and and as nervous as i was i hope I didn't come across as being too bad, but I was, I was sweating a little bit, and you've made the conversation also.

No, you made it great, but I think everyone creates their own, you know, sort of rules and regulations, their morals and values. I don't think you feel bad about what you do, right? No, I don't feel bad. And having that conversation, like saying she knows that tonight is our night to go out. And if we meet the right guy, like, yes, we'll bring a. back to the room and we'll have them fine. So, like, knowing that going in, and then, so it could be a tip for a listener to say,

you know, have that conversation with your wife. It's not like, it's never been a time where, where, oh, like, oh, we got to go in, this guy's mean us, and, hey, this guy's really cool and we'll bring it back. I wouldn't do that to the guy number one, or definitely my wife, number one, but I wouldn't do that to anybody else. Yes. I'm being, you know, these guys know well in advance, like, she does not know this is happening and you know if just being up front I maybe this could be a tool to help like if you've

suggested this it might not be all that bad hopefully and say like here's some advice like this is what this idiot did is he tells his wife like hey we're gonna I don't know no no I think I feel different now after hearing it laid out but I do think and in the beginning of your intro I am going to put this that like I do think the fact that it you know when you go out at night with your wife is already discussed that you guys are trolling for a guy to hook up with is very different than you setting it up just randomly on a vacation without her having any idea. There is something to that aspect that does change things a little bit and I will make that disclaimer in the beginning so people wait to get to that point before they totally judge you, you know, because I do

think that little that part of it changes it a little bit, you know, but you know, we'll see what people think. Well, great. I really enjoy your podcast. I mean, out of the 500 and some, I actually found it on I heart. Yeah, that's great. And, you know, then like I told you, I don't subscribe to the Patreon, but I still listen to it on IHard. It's just easy for me. For sure. And it's just, just listening. And God, I've, I'll bet you, I've definitely over 100, maybe close to 200 or so that I've listened to. And, you know, Some of them, actually not some of them. Most of them are awesome. Yeah, I love that. I really, really enjoyed it. I'm glad I came across it and I'm glad I had the nuts to write you and say, hey, man, I think that this could be, I really love to talk.

And you made it, again, you made it so easy. I can't think you know. Yeah, no problem. Well, thank you, Ryan, right? That's what we called you. Thanks again for calling in because this was a fascinating story. All right. Awesome. Thanks, Ryan. Okay. Bye. Okay, I just want to tell you before you go that my book, it's called Strictly Anonymous Confession, Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, is now available not only in paperback and e-book, but you can pre-order the audiobook. It's still not going to be out until August 25th, but you can pre-order it. The book is basically 17 different stories taken from my show. I kind of picked one story

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